Mel Robbins: “This is the ULTIMATE Boundary!” Using the Let Them Theory to Unlock Freedom & Peace

[@lewishowes]

Thanks to Mel for sharing her wisdom with us! Leave a “YES” if you enjoyed this and share the biggest moment for you. And make sure to subscribe to never miss out on inspiring content like this again KZbin.com/lewishowes

[@Eve144M]

Yes❤

[@l.a.p.159]

YES!

[@dove-qs5or]

Yes 🎀

[@Guddilove801]

It's great Mel is sharing her story. But if she could only allow Lewis to finish what's he is saying. Please slow down your speech a little Mel. Will be more enjoyable 🙏

[@danigrigorescu8157]

Yes!! Absolutely!

[@jamee_maree]

I love that Lewis takes notes during his shows!!! It’s such a beautiful reflection of his passion to grow and learn, but also teach and influence. It’s admirable!!

[@lewishowes]

Always looking to learn

[@olesenna8547]

So true. Not changing the situation means you are affirming it being a part of your experience.

[@XQRobertz]

Focus on what you can control fellas !!!! Edit:- thanks for the likes 🙏🏾 1. Focusing on what we can't control like the News instead of "You" 2. Focusing on things you don't have like that Bugatti instead of on things you do have...Gratitude, loved ones etc 3. Focusing on the Past(it's already history) & the Future(a mystery) instead of the Now, the Present moment(a joyful gift😇). All creations happens Now...

[@carol0055]

❤

[@MbH-ej4bq]

Yes

[@zhiloblnd3805]

This woman is a gift. “let people have negative thoughts about you “. So powerful

[@marilynoverton8142]

Thank you both so much! My biggest takeaway is the power and gift of allowing people to be who they are while deciding how we want to proceed, given our values. This is gold!

[@paulasweeney7713]

Great. !!!! Mel is. “Downtown earth”. YES. Lewis. Bring her back. .. Thank. You. Her book. Is a “wake-up call” !!! Thank you. 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@DominionAnako-bb7ry]

For sure! Unlocking freedom and peace often starts with self-discovery. It could be about finding activities that make you happy, surrounding yourself with positive people, or even practicing mindfulness.

[@csjbackups]

This is my 3rd time listening to The 5 second Rule. I Love Mel and her ways of getting through! 🙏🏼🍃

[@lewishowes]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@Dawn-lu6wv]

Same here and I think I discovered Mel through Lewis many years ago.

[@elizabethb988]

Thank you Mel for sharing your wisdom👏❤. My take away ... don't force or try to change others- Let them! Let Me- Choose what I deserve from each relationship, focus on what I can control and act on it with good intentions 👍🤔

[@kenbrown9316]

Got married at 26 and been married 20 years and with her for 22 years. We’ve had such an amazing marriage and life 😊 - wasn’t always easy but gets stronger every year we are together.

[@shannongillespie9790]

This is also a reflection of the serenity prayer… God grant me the wisdom to accept the things. I cannot change the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. Thank you, Mel for putting this message out into the world in a way that more peoplecan benefit from it in learning to respect and love themselves and others better!

[@ESORE706]

focusing on what you can control put you in control of things that matters.

[@melissasadler2094]

❤

[@donnacusano6933]

Thank you Lewis and Mel. I watch Mel's podcast often and this is the third iteration of interviews I have watched about the "Let Them Theory" book. I also watched Oprah's interview. I very much appreciate not only the basic premise of the theory (let go of control of others) but also the "Let Me" portion, which offers us all the opportunity to take back our power and agency, once we realize that we always have choices in our lives. I had forgotten this lately, especially concerning a particular work relationship. I was acting out in resentment and anger and did not understand why. Through research and prayer, I now understand how I had abandoned myself by believing the story in my head that I had no power within the relationship, other than to act out in anger to get my needs met. My acting out has caused many problems and, of course, that behavior did not get my needs met. I will now "let them" be who they are, knowing that I also have agency. Such a powerful shift and message!

[@lewishowes]

Glad it supported and you got to this conclusion for yourself in your work!

[@Algoritual]

Thanks!

[@PaulineA2205]

Book ordered. I do an annual 5 day fast in January. Im now also planning to switch off my phone for the 7 days to regroup and take back my power. I’m so much better at prioritising myself and “letting them” but Xmas time is harder. More wins than losses so I accept “let me” for a short time too. ❤

[@lewishowes]

Love that!

[@GO2GURUGIRL]

Great ideas and thoughts! I do think that it is important to "let them" but communicate what you need and ask how you can help them. That does not mean do for them, but help them to start on the path towards full personal development. Ask what others need rather than assume that others need your input! Great interview. Peace and Blessings to all present.

[@karinbasart9132]

I love it, my greatest Takeaway is the “love and let live” framing. I think the timing is perfect for this concept - on a worldwide level. Thank you, Mel & so much love Lewis! Please do more of these together!

[@lewishowes]

Appreciate your feedback, thank you so much for watching!

[@anoushah]

Every time something upsetting happens to me, I just tell myself: let them/it!!! Makes it easier accepting what is!

[@patrickbinford590]

My biggest takeaway on this wonderful interview was the idea that: "letting them" (for me) gives ME the freedom to do my OWN thing. Peace ❤

[@jamiesaari]

This episode spoke to me powerfully and I am eternally grateful for her message. Thank you 🙏

[@thenewworldlead]

My biggest take away from this conversation and “the let them theory” = Let them = I believe in you (I love you just the way you are. I might love you from a distance. And everything is just as it should be, because it IS). Thank you ❤

[@dhavalmehta3396]

Thank you Lewis for this episode and thank you Mel for this The Let them theory

[@bbslifestylefitness5966]

And yes please bring her back ! I follow her as well and learn so much

[@ramyasekar8804]

Really inspiring 🎉 making me feel light from inside.

[@nodira_precious]

Thank you all for this episode ❤

[@Joe_likesthepump]

She speaks the truth 🙌 👏 💯

[@l.a.p.159]

I have a great deal of admiration for both of you. This came at the perfect moment for me. You both are so inspiring to me and so many others. Thank you for simply being you & doing what you do!! Namaste, Lewis. Namaste, Mel. ✨🤍✌️🖤✨

[@lewishowes]

I'm so glad this resonated with you!🙏

[@gabrielacprado]

Two big titans of self-development chatting is amazing to see! Amazing work developed by Mel in this book, will get a copy for sure! Merry Xmas all!

[@lewishowes]

Thanks!

[@Epunch]

what a brilliant woman. and thanks for your great podcast and this opportunity !

[@lewishowes]

Thanks for checking out the interview! It's much appreciated.

[@danadangelo7896]

Love this! I’m taking my power back and putting myself first without guilt💯Thank you Mel and Lewis❤

[@lewishowes]

I'm so glad it resonated with you! Keep taking that power back. 🙏

[@christybenson9319]

Excellent interview! Looking forward to getting Mel’s book. Lewis your interview view’s have been so inspiring and helpful. Thank you !

[@lewishowes]

I'm so glad to hear that! I hope you find the book as insightful as we did!

[@dhirandhakal4623]

The biggest takeaway I get from this podcast is about let them do in their own way and let me take responsibility about my values and decisions.

[@gmacksupreme8564]

Just arrived hope you have a good day I try to catch you live videos, but still listen to grow better for my children peace and Blessings

[@lewishowes]

Thanks for tuning in! Hope you find this helpful.

[@marilynoverton8142]

Yes, please have Mel back!

[@olesenna8547]

Had this conversation with my little brother for 3hours on call. He turning 25yrs old next year & m glad we ddnt hit a ceiling based on generational differences.

[@lewishowes]

So glad to hear you're having those conversations!

[@jenniferkwok1622]

Just love this! Thank you Mel and Lewis!

[@BorderBo1]

A resounding YES please! Thank you for such a great podcast. So many gold nugget take aways! ❤

[@phemery1182]

YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Great book, ordered mine on Amazon, cannot wait.

[@elizabethmeulenbelt2850]

This was a very timely release going into the holidays. Great conversation!

[@lewishowes]

So glad you found it helpful!

[@nemesisbianchie5181]

I'd like to see Mel another time speaking about her new book, pleas Lewis 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️

[@magdakidybinska6109]

thank you, great talk! a lot of takeaways, one of them : keep modelling the behaviour that is in line with your values. thanks a lot! 🥰

[@randahakim2579]

Thank you Lewis for a great episode. I love Mel and you so much. "Let Them" is a game changer.

[@lewishowes]

So glad to hear that it resonated with you!

[@ewakozak5523]

Love from Poland🤗 Thank you both for this conversation

[@stephaniehoahu]

So simple but brilliant. Definitely implementing. Mahalo!

[@nirmalajetty6426]

✅Both books! Ty Lewis & Mel!!!!!!

[@joannrector6762]

My greatest take from this is that I cannot change someone and except them as they are or leave a bad situation and just Let Them!

[@missblackman88]

2 great people know this will be good 🙌🏽

[@cathywasserman4571]

Let them is a profound intervention. Some people can be taught even repeatedly how to process their emotions but their personality structure, such as a narcissistic style makes it almost impossible for them to learn and they don't have the will too. So the issue can be more than just not learning, it can be deeper on a psychological and biological level. The Let Them theory with some as Mel alluded to is to disengage with them in a bigger way. But this can be challenging given trauma bonds.

[@melb4785]

Loved this! What great reminders. Just ordered it ❤️.

[@lewishowes]

So glad you got a copy!

[@DavidsonHangOfficial]

SOOOO GOOD!

[@lewishowes]

I hear you, thanks for the feedback!

[@tamaramarlar-morton338]

I found & have been listening to your podcast, Lewis, for several years now. Sometime later I found Mel & I’m a Launch alumni. I spend my time with you all & the other Greats. It’s been so rewarding. I’ve been learning to regulate my nervous system & I’m feeling grounded & ready to LAUNCH. Thank you for investing in me❤Merry Christmas!!!!🎄🌟

[@lewishowes]

Thank you so much for sharing your journey! I'm so glad you're finding peace and growth.

[@melissasadler2094]

More Mel please❤️🥰🔥

[@Dahshon-f5p]

Y'all spittin for real. This is A1. You are absolutely amazing. Big fan. I influence someone who is not living up to their full potential, I live and lead by example. I apologize for pressuring, judging, and assuming.

[@celiaverdinho54]

"Yes" ❤

[@galina6707]

Thanks a lot guys! Gorgeous "Let them" theory 👏👏 Thank you so much Lewis for all wonderful podcasts and people here in The School of Greatness ❤ I really appreciate all your lessons and tips🙏🙏 My best wishes for a Merry Christmas and a healthy, peaceful and prosperous New Year 2025! ✨

[@lewishowes]

Thank you for being here!

[@yahi3595]

Wow 🤯 awesome interview and info

[@lewishowes]

I'm so glad you found it helpful!

[@catherinevaughan7522]

Thank you, Mel, for Let Them, and thank you, Lewis, for hosting this interview. “Let them” will help IKANITAN happen. IKANITAN = developing an internal kind attention neural network to manage our internal threat alert neural network. Love trumps fear and kindness counts. Help create a culture of kindness, mindful kindness. Be the blessing, be the light. Commit to kindness, mindful kindness. Pause, breathe, choose. Choose kindness, mindful kindness.

[@olesenna8547]

My biggest takeaway is also the letting go of the control and authority to variables I have no power over. Let it go, let them learn from life without domesticating them.

[@angelinepaubin]

Life Changing! Thank you!❤

[@lewishowes]

You're welcome, thank you for watching! 🧡

[@barbarasaunders2160]

I happened to catch Mel on Hoda and Jenna, where she talked about her new book. When I tell you I continually say let them, let them, let them. I can not control them or what they do. Just let them. I keep myself out of it if it doesn't include or concern me.

[@lewishowes]

Love this

[@estherringthegack7671]

I am so Triggered Mel- I almost had a nervous breakdown after my son’s prom because “I” forgot my son’s corsage- not that he even knew it was a thing! I felt SO Humiliated for him when the girl handed him the corsage and he had nothing for her! Still haunts me!😂

[@CAROS_FITNESS]

That LET THEM theory works wonders 🎉

[@martinag6607]

I have most of my life been really able to 'let them' more for the reason as i dont get attached to people too much, can it become an issue as sometimes i thought if i 'let them' i dont love them, when i learned that its loving them from a distance that i feel when i let them (go) :) hope this is healthy as it feels good to me )

[@ThiagoCarvalho-e2v]

In my marriage I always received disapproving looks and I let myself be carried away by these feelings. Divorced and living in a studio apartment, alone, I still talk to my ex-wife, but with a very different feeling.

[@GeniManningRealEstate]

Take away: Just let them be, it’s not my responsibility to change people!!

[@ninawu910]

YES!

[@jerrytoby7992]

it's all about Mindfulness.

[@stephaniejenson1211]

Let them…. Let me❤

[@Limitlesscreator88999]

I have a daughter high functioning autism. The direct mean dogmatic stubborn anger sometimes all day, and she demands my attention or all hell breaks loose. She is like her father and we are not together because of verbal abuse and mental illness. I’m just sooooo tired and exhausted and sometimes I just don’t know what to do

[@sunstrengthtarot3666]

people will show us who they are. its not my job to change them. i can "let me" by making different choices for myself instead of trying to change them so that i feel better

[@reli-happen900]

Thank you. Will it be in German too?

[@davidlgomes7120]

The content is good, I wish they would brake it down piece by piece, topic for topic

[@oonaghcleary3645]

I think Mel has a great principle and in a perfect world it would be great if we could all be less controlling of others but in my experience it is very hard to change habitual ways of acting we all know what we should be doing but it is easier said than done also professor Robert Sapolsky author of determined a life without free will says we have less control over our decisions than we think we do, due to our individual neurobiology and so I am concerned that a lot of the self help advice given fails to back up the science of our individual brain chemistry

[@serendipity0775]

Biggest takeaways Let them Let Me ABC Thank u ❤

[@Shanieceflordi]

Recently, I had a challenging split. The breakup of my five-year relationship a few months ago has been quite difficult. I still harbor a deep affection for my ex-boyfriend, and I can't seem to stop thinking about him. My attempts to win him back have been unsuccessful, and at this point, it seems impossible to be with anybody else. It may seem strange to admit this, but I miss him terribly and can't stop thinking about him.

[@Mia1827]

I completely understand the pain of letting go of someone you love. I went through a similar experience when my 10 year relationship ended. I couldn't imagine my life without him, so I tried everything to rekindle our love. I eventually found guidance from a spiritual counselor, and their support helped me bring him back into my life if you're open to it, seeking help from a spiritual counselor might make a difference.

[@Artyfartymetal-xf3ku]

thanks my take away when I cant control you I feel unsafe.

[@mandorasbox]

Eventually you have to stand up for yourself

[@gori_inthe_kitchen]

This has so many Aha's💡 Amazing podcast, beautiful topics, I will most likely listen to this 50 more times ❤ Thanks Lewis and Mel 👏

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching!

[@dhirandhakal4623]

Your every podcast is amazing and knowledgeable but try to put few ads. When I watch this podcast I got one ad every 5 to 6 min.

[@northern7254]

💯

[@talduman2918]

Let them

[@frankgallo2946]

let them

[@Limitlesscreator88999]

If going through prom is all you doing good

[@marlynnek6449]

The problem with this is that it doesn't make the hurt go away. This is super easy to say, but when you let them and you're met with apathy, it's pretty painful. She doesn't tell you how you deal with that.

[@letyvillicana7848]

Take aways * A-B-C need to not react breathe and meet them where they are

[@lewishowes]

Amen

[@Rebica3177]

When it is your Children , how do you do it Mel/ Lewis you cant leave them???

[@maansteen1973]

Let them😅 keep that in mind😂

[@katrinabanister907]

Let them….2025❤

[@Gotamaluko]

46:20

[@Bernadette-n2r]

🙌🙌🙌💜👍👍👍

[@Tipsandcoffee]

I got married at 15 and was married 32 short years till he passed away, I think so times you are just ment to be.

[@namitaraghav2303]

Biggest takeaway: let them...!

[@pauladircks5225]

51:28 So black or white is the principle on this theory of " let them and let me"? How about the changes that people are experiencing, be and do are to things different. What is more important ? Let people evolve( become) ot let people do? See a human as a finish product or see them as you see yourself ( progress human being)

[@carolgeorge6409]

Why cant Chris just do the boxes for you Mel , for his hard working wife

[@penniesmathers3573]

Way too much drama

[@Ismina15]

I love learning from you both. Thank you for all your legacies! 🤎

[@lewishowes]

So glad you are finding value, thank you for watching!