Men Are ATTRACTED To Women Who Don't Try Hard For THESE 3 Reasons

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

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[@marymurray9734]

My husband of 30 years died by suicide four years ago. About a year ago, I felt ready to date again, and went on Match. I dated dozens of men, but I clearly was not ready to be "out there". I watched several of Stephan's videos, and actually took notes. Byt the time I met my current boyfriend, I was in a much bettr place to accept his love.

[@paulbartell]

@@11940ful she was probably insufferable

[@Mossytokin]

@@11940fulthat’s really insensitive..

[@lisacatherineoblsb]

Sending HUGS... You are just where you need to be right now dear one. Blessings. Please remember to not give personal info even on posts you trust. Just because someone asks questions never feel you need to answer.❤

[@mariespi96]

Wishing you the best and healing for your heart. ❤️

[@HapillyMe]

I would never date a man who has that many women. That's gross.

[@AmandaEverett-sy4ut]

My partner said he was attracted to me because I was the most confident woman in the room even though I didn’t mean to show it. I, through choice stayed single for 10yrs, didn’t even date. I worked out what I wanted and more importantly what I expected. He came into my life and took me completely off guard. I found that diamond in the ruff without looking. He came looking for me. I never thought I was anything special but he makes me feel like I’m still walking on cloud 9 when I’m with him

[@Amazinglilflowers]

Love yourself unconditionally while working on your dysfunction coming from your traumas and conditioning. Commit to becoming your truest self every day and then go out and look for someone who is looking for you.

[@marlenelindsey7638]

This process took me 10 years and I am healed, mentally sound and emotionally ready.

[@ringrinka]

i watch many dating 'coach' and the summary i get is, men want to see the woman is interested, but don't be too invested. he should be the one make the decision to ask us being with him more than a friend. .

[@Batirtze-b6x]

Exactly.

[@TheCassibo]

I'm 41 and have never been married. I could never seem to get it right! After watching your videos, I now see what I need to work on, as well as the things I am doing right. This particular video is a good one for me. I have zero self-confidence/low self esteem=trying to hard. Or, as you've stated in a past video, I've ran into the issue of, I've devalued my worth when they've seen what I settled for. I guess I thought didn't deserve better. There's a lot of us women who are; walking in our femininity, sweet, caring, and shy. We just don't know how to attract the right man appropriately. Your advice is greatly appreciated Thanks for being such a blessing! Keep up the amazing work. 🙏💖

[@gsteward]

The distance between interest and disinterest is short for me. I do me. It either comes together organically or it doesn’t happen at all. A number of men have wavered, thinking I’d chase. Then they double back and try to put in work, by then I’m genuinely uninterested. Too many men try to test confident women and wind up losing their chance. Others try to secure commitment too fast. People don’t like to build relationships organically anymore.

[@sinceresong9907]

This is my issue..I can't stand games

[@LauraSchendel-ko1qk]

I am in the worst place of my life. Widowed three years ago. He was my soulmate. Part of me wants to date again but another part of me wants to remain faithful to him. People say that he would want me to be happy. But I’m also thinking that people tell themselves that to give themselves permission to move on. I feel so torn. We were married 40 years! I still feel like his wife and I always will. I feel like being intimate with another man would break our divine covenant. When I pass away, I want to show him that I truly am committed to him and that no one could ever replace him. But I am so lonely. Sometimes I ask God to please just take me now. The pain is unbearable.

[@autumnsky3032]

I’m so very sorry for your loss. It seems you experienced a love many pray to experience. Forty years is a long time and three years pales in comparison; it’s understandable that you still feel like his wife. I do believe he definitely wants you happy and to not spend your remaining years in loneliness. While there’s no rush, Biblically you already have permission to date, you need only give yourself permission…because of the wonderful love you shared with your soulmate, this may be a process for you that’s not overcome by time alone. Have you considered a therapist, or grief counseling? My prayer for you is that God will heal your heart and the loneliness, that’s trying to overtake you, while you navigate being alone. If during that journey you decide to remain (joyfully) single - there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that & I pray you surround yourself with things, activities and people that bring you joy and allow you to operate in your purpose. If your journey reveals you truly desire dating & partnership, then I pray your heart is fully open and ready to receive; that he be a Godsend who’s patient, able to love you through the adjustments & be another best friend to you. 🙏🏽💕

[@LauraSchendel-ko1qk]

@@autumnsky3032 Omigosh! I really needed to hear that! Thank you so much, sweet Angel!

[@autumnsky3032]

@@LauraSchendel-ko1qk 💕🙏🏼💕 Praise God! You're so very welcome 💕

[@LauraSchendel-ko1qk]

@@autumnsky3032 Hugs!

[@lorrainebazydola816]

Sweetheart You're simply not ready. Rest 💕💕

[@huangyanjean2570]

I’ve healed and learned the lessons, if a man is not interested in me, I’ll just move on, cuz I only choose the one who choose me

[@namugerwashamim1159]

I am a victim of trying hard and he bullshit me like trash....I have learnt my lesson so hard despite of the beauty all around me and within me.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

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[@jaquelinemendoza8434]

I don't think that to have an organic relationship you don't have to be playing who is more difficult or not... We are adults if you are not interested, communicate it and each one goes their own way. If there is no emotional intelligence, don't even try and that's it. So much drama is tiring... For God's sake...

[@dozzyheart]

Thanks for the knowledge king 🤴🏾 continue to school us and putting us up on what men really want, how they operate, how they think and love if they do care for us! 🫶🏽🤞🏽💕

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

You're welcome 🙏

[@michellesotelo85]

I fear I may have pushed my man away from being too eager, I was trying to be accommodating but I never realized or meant to put pressure on him... but now he has moved on and dating another woman, and it breaks my heart to have lost him 💔

[@cdosby43]

Men are creatures of habit. If he likes you, he'll be back.

[@LadyKT7232]

Yes, please do a how-to flirt video. Without over doing it.

[@LataushaTheAuthor]

Be yourself, smile, have fun. It’s simple.

[@kurtrinamckinnon4214]

When I met my now man he was talking to a few women but the more we talked he cut the other women off

[@love.mylalala]

Your videos have helped me so much. It gives me a sense of hope and ways to do something better. I’ve always been wanting to have a man in my life and even tried dating apps but it doesn’t work very well. I just hope I’d be able to find a good man someday. Anyway, God bless you and your channel Stephan ❤

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏

[@namugerwashamim1159]

Your not alone but I started working on me more...

[@laurenpierce7723]

A lot of things sound robotic.. you can do this and that.. but don’t do that too much or this too much. Honestly I’m just comfortable with being myself including having consideration for others. As far as looking desperate I wouldn’t care about looking desperate when it comes to things of God meaning if God is instructing me to bring someone closer to Him I won’t stop unless God tells me too.

[@aashuzlywalker9440]

GOD wouldn’t put you into a position to look desperate but will put you in a position to reflect that the men are the head and the women are the neck, therefore the man would still lead in all things and the ball would be in his court on most things especially related to dating

[@laurenpierce7723]

@@aashuzlywalker9440 it’s not necessarily God putting you in a position to look desperate it’s the fact that some people are ignorant and don’t have spiritual eyesight so instead of seeing that you are there to assist them they could possibly think your desperate. When I’m all reality I wouldn’t ever be here if God didn’t send me type thing

[@laurenpierce7723]

When I say ignorant I mean carnal minded person

[@marlenelindsey7638]

God is not going to have you do any guiding or bringing them closer to Him. The one God wants for you will be where you are.

[@laurenpierce7723]

@@marlenelindsey7638 not true and it’s in Gods word!

[@stayitive4343]

Trying too hard is 'people pleasing' and NOT being confident in authentic self

[@KING-Kubaba_369]

👌🙏. But I Think That's What Will Throw Off The "NATURAL" Flow Of The Dynamics Of Man/ Woman (HARMONIC) Relationship. I Feel Her INTRINSIC NATURE Is To Present Herself, Make Him Take Notice Of Her, Flaunt Her 'Pretty', Or "Flutter Her Wings", So To Speak⁰. And If He Does Take Notice, It Is His INTRINSIC NATURE To Pursue. If He Doesn't Notice I Don't Believe She Should Go Any More Further To Gain His Attention / Interest. If She Does, She Compromises Her Power/ Position To Set HER Boundaries (she started it🤷) And Diminishing His Confidence To Lead (how will he CONFIDENTLY lead what he didn't START/INITIATE 🤷?) How Does He Set Rules Of / On Something He Didn't "ORIGINATE"? (How Does He Know What Those Are? Who's Rules Are They?🤔🤔🤔) The Best She Can Do Is Present Herself AT HER BEST. So That If She Don't Catch His Eye, She KNOWS She Is Not For Him.(because she showed her BEST) Nothing Further.

[@mariacolucci6958]

Oh yes, I totally am one of those terrible flirters! 😂😂😂 Will be looking forward to that video... Thanks for sharing, much love!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

You're welcome 🙏

[@angelaevoe597]

I love these videos, digging deeper and just explaining the truth and helping find resolutions….❤❤❤

[@Celia-tm1nr]

I go to you for answers,you are too cool and love your humor.My husband recently passed and a man who has helped us

[@MsLilac88]

Hello Stephan, I always found your relationship advice useful, keep on uploading more useful videos. 😊

[@lubnan08]

Great video. Very helpful. Thanks

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad it was helpful! 🙏

[@LataushaTheAuthor]

Story of my life. I used to preach to women all the time. A dude hopped on my post and said what you do other women can’t do. I went in on him. But I get it now. All women can’t be preached the same thing. It was unhealthy on my part. Working on it.

[@jeanettebohm3569]

I don’t want a man anymore it’s totally exhausting for me.

[@stacymckinney7223]

I am terrible at flirting , but I remember netting you said once is to lock eyes with him, so that's working for me, lol😅

[@kimberlyhamilton8637]

Thank You Steven for this Very Important Message and Topic

[@staceysyvarth4452]

I have always been myself. My guy has never been married, but asked me to marry him.

[@eugeniasimeus3798]

What did you do to ?

[@chrisannlinton1764]

Congratulations🎉🎉

[@gertrudemensah2607]

Stephan 🔥💯🤝. You always on point. Ain’t forcing shit out of anyone. Just be yourself as a woman. Put yourself on a good level and the right person will come running after you 🤝

[@aprilbomar7086]

Wise advice! Thanks Stephan 🙏❤️

[@shortstuff264]

Shout out to the videographer haha great point, very true!

[@jrb4347]

Making a man chase you will attract men who like the chase … once you’re ready to settle down and commit he’s out and chasing someone else. You’re not doing yourself any favours by making him chase you. See if he interested, willing to invest but chasing is a whole other thing

[@naomiecaswell8424]

That's the key both building the relationship with reciprocity. Growing together takes time. Allow him to approach you. Men are hunters.

[@amysinger2201]

do you have tips for neurodiverse individuals? I have been accused of playing hard to get when I had NO IDEA the guy was even flirting, let alone in to me, because HE NEVER ASKED ME OUT. Your content has helped me alot, but I'm still terrified of asking a guy out because, as a neurodiverse person, I have had the very bad experience of misreading and misinterpreting and then being laughed at or worse. But if I wait for them to ask me out, it never seems to happen. Thank you

[@RoseMoke]

You correct

[@Jeannene-m7e]

Learning this exactly right now! 🙏🏻

[@AncaCriste]

Thank you for the great advices 😊

[@Chrissy2Cute]

Thanks so much for this information king 😁

[@Cindy_Love_2025]

Great video!👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼💯❤️

[@tchism7665]

❤Thanks!

[@Desiree-kg7pw]

Another thing I know is that men are supposed to be hunters so they go after what they like

[@quinndellarogers1828]

I think you are handsome🙂 and I appreciate your smile.😉 Thank you.👀

[@fatoumatakeita4531]

😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅p

[@ed000]

At this point ladies are not interested or have no desire to do these nonsense.

[@namugerwashamim1159]

Your alone don't speak on our behalf...,trust me there is a lot of things we have done and disvalued our selves I order to be seen.....or what a pity....its high time to know the shit that happens in these guys lives.

[@ed000]

@@namugerwashamim1159 who asked you? Who the shoes fit wears it. Why are you Triggered? Seek help from a therapist

[@ed000]

@@namugerwashamim1159 who ask you? Why so triggered? Seek help from a therapist

[@user-fh1tr9zp3l]

It's sure is nonsense who has time for this smh

[@SarahEg91]

Right!😂 I’m like wait…are we at our big girl grown ages still tryna recode ourselves to impress and attract a man????? Like have y’all seen the recent news????????????????

[@docwhoshops]

Thank you

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

You're welcome 🙏

[@docwhoshops]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks I added my pic today after hearing your video so you know I am a real person. 😇. I highjacked my baby girls very old channel. 🤣. Be blessed

[@PuPup2004]

I'm not psychologist neither do i have a lot of experience to give advices. I think it's all cr..p. You get anxious and desperate and so on only if you are attracted to person. If you don't have attraction to the person you will not give a sh..t, won' be desperate or chase him. I think it pretty common. We are different with different people. Just don't chase person who doesn't like you.

[@VCD512]

Stephen…What if it’s the other way around?? I have men offer me their number all the time and at this point in my life, I have little desire to date. I enjoy hanging with my friends and performing my music. Dating has become so complicated and convoluted. You feel like you’re on a job interview. I’m 54 and still look VERY good for my age. I guess because of all the weirdness around dating I just do my own thing . 😊😊😊

[@traceytoleito.6372]

Thank you.🙏♥️

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

You are so welcome 🙏

[@gomotsegangkhunou2062]

Everyday we being taught how to keep men, what men want. It's tiring 😒😏

[@PinkCrystalTea]

Please teach me how to flirt, Stephan!!

[@jennifersesley1998]

Great Video ❤❤

[@maryrosal5462]

Have been single for the last 10 years. During this time some single guys that I have known for a while have invited me to dinner and a movie as a friend, nothing else. Am already 69. Why is it that there is no guy interested in getting to know me for me. The one or two that has expressed an interest only wants sexual favors, but I am old school. Why is it that older men don't want to get married and have the stability of a godly marriage? Am very discouraged to say the least . I asked you this over a year ago but did not get a response. Please talk about relationships for over 65 people. Thanks.

[@RoseMoke]

Otherwise building up is very important

[@KING-Kubaba_369]

😅, Once More, Same Topic, Different Message / Perspective / Understanding (mine), And This Time WE I Agree💯💯💯😅😅😅. WE Hears' You. Everytime 🙏🙏🙏.

[@JuniperThings579]

17:15 I'm pretty sure I'm "number 7"

[@Desiree-kg7pw]

I personally feel that if a woman wants to give a man her # I do feel that she comes off as being desperate and she can end up being used because some men will say to themselves is that what she does I don’t know it’s just me and where I was raised

[@jaunynesparks6527]

Hi ... So what if he's a really good guy. He works . Has his own place. But doesn't drive . Due to accidents. And not having a vehicle?

[@raemaxey3401]

This is what I’m going through with the new man that I met about 40 days ago during one of my morning walks. I’ve been getting a little overwhelmed and feel pressure coming from him. He has made it very clear that he wants to be together/grow old with me. I’ve been celibate for 5 years so sex is not involved. We are both older 50-60 age range. We spend a lot of time together at his home and at mines and he’s a gentleman in every way! Is it normal for a man to say he loves a woman after a few weeks? And he has taken me to look at very nice engagement rings as well. Is that normal? I need advice. Thank you

[@GodsObedientChild-Deuteron6262]

Ask God about it✨

[@gabriellavictory3080]

You need to date for several months, at least 8 to get to know a man before considering engagement, even if you are spending allot of time together.

[@karenbates8776]

No, it’s not normal. It’s a big red flag. He hardly knows you and he’s already talking marriage? He is trying to control the relationship and you. Take time off from seeing him and it will force him to slow it down if you like him. But I would keep my eyes and ears wide open for any signs of an anger problem, using manipulative language, such as, “this is why you’re single,” or “you’ll never get a man/married if you keep this up.” Anyone that doesn’t respect your boundaries is a controlling and even possibly an abusive person.

[@_curiousTina_]

Sounds like love bombing

[@cdosby43]

Slow down! What's the rush? Take your time and get to know this man. I'm in that age range and I know that of which I speak.

[@melissawiley3688]

❤❤love the 🎉🎉

[@marciawade9101]

That "7-day rotation" story gets crazier and crazier every time you tell it, Stephan! 🤣🤣🤣

[@beverlyjohnson8251]

❤😅 no competition !

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

😂🙏

[@thobekamantshongo4458]

Please do how to flirt video without doing too much. ❤🇿🇦

[@ChristineArnot]

What if your best self doesn’t seem to ever be enough for anyone? What does that say about me? Am I unlovable? Will all my good qualities and heart ever be returned? I think not at this point.

[@womenup2024]

Wow..I tried hard n was ok with making an 💥 outta myself cuz when I liked someone I'd be way stupid n walked far n not once did he realize until I'm already going back home n that brave moment of me getting ready n actually going to him cuz some guys deserve that they work so hard that who is me to be demanding nah I'll just be like well Ill just face him n when he's not responding after I already walked half way through town ..I'm like ok cool well you cisay or understand that I'm for real doing the work here n so ..I'll just go home n I'm good knowing that I did what most won't ...I really for real appreciate a good man n no messaging I'ma just go n do it not saying anything .. so I knew it was risky but I just ok with doing it again 😂...I'ma love bug n if I'm against other women for him? Nah I fall back..I'll get out the way n make sure he knows to chose them n I won't even bother. They apologize nah ..I don't play that. N ewww ..who wants to be in line n my best isn't even the asset on the table cuz I know exactly what I bring I don't have to fake the funk. There are those guys tho that do make me wanna step it up n those r my favorite..if I don't get him cool I know I can be my own friend ..

[@Shelly-pl2vn]

How do you tell if a guy likes you or if hes Just there for you know what?!

[@user-fh1tr9zp3l]

Ask him and be open to accept his answer

[@Ifeoma999]

Lovely video❣️🔥🔥I get it! I decided a long time ago to bank every aspects in my life on GOD and that includes choosing a divine mate that's just for me. I simply do not entertain any man who isn't genuinely interested in me it's a waste of my time and his if he isn't serious. Because I like to be alone in my peace, his present has to feel better than my solitude. He's not competing with another man, he's competing with my comfort zones...

[@maemaez9749]

7 women thats poly lyfe....wonder if i know him....lol

[@betsymendez4939]

I don't believe in no one

[@pearlyachiri7024]

Im just wondering what exactly is even wrong with desperation arent we all desperate for something. And again what do i know?

[@popsxciii]

This is what boggles my mind. Love for someone is supposed to feel engineered, unintended and bland. Whatever happened to feeling passion and fire for someone in a healthy way? I’m completely disillusioned and have stopped dating altogether. Will focus on my education and become a scholar instead. F these men!

[@msdemeanour]

Because reeking of desperation is just tragic

[@coolyouthrod]

Desperation looks unattractive.

[@joanelulu8785]

No we are not all desperate for something....and you shouldnt think like that !

[@sitcoms101]

WTF, just love yourself and if anyone tries to fuck with you… LEAVE THEIR ASS

[@alicewooley7097]

Sex!? Really? No go number 7. Good. ,I thought men love] to chase a flirt style nooo may be another's hubby or make friend

[@alicewooley7097]

Like the traditional style.the Man to approach

[@betsymendez4939]

😂

[@betsymendez4939]

Bla bla bla bla

[@CandaceShanise]

Who cares 😂

[@user-fh1tr9zp3l]

If I play brave give a man my number first,and he never call someone like me will need some serious therapy 😊

[@kimberly329]

@@user-fh1tr9zp3l Why? Do you believe men are not entitled to not like you? Are you attracted to every man that likes you?

[@oliviang2815]

I think it might have more to do with how you view yourself. If you know that you're worth loving, you will not pay much attention to when a man doesn't call you. You'll move on pretty easily since you know someone out there will return your feelings. I was the one who initiated texts with my boyfriend, we are now engaged. :)))

[@TwinsMom1and2]

"#7" was prob a man. Lol Never know!

[@MarinaM-o6p]

Do you have a PHD IN THIS TOPIC ?

[@kimberly329]

Does he need to?

[@mint_soup9743]

You must be new here. He might as well.

[@noramaghanoy4941]

He doesn’t need one. He has 1.54M subscribers. 😂

[@tachacastilho]

Perfect! Lots of love from Brazil, watching NFL for the first time in my hometown: São Paulo!!! 🥹🤩🥳🤗

[@HalfSweetness]

Go best friend. 🤐🫡Hi five!✋🏼💯