men fall in love in your absence

men fall in love in your absence
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Men and love fall in love differently, and women usually treat men like women and do with them what they would want, which rarely works with men because men are hardwired entirely differently. Men fall in love in your absence. Men love a woman, which appears as a challenge because this activates a different part of their brain, making them feel like they’re working for something they want - women don’t want that feeling. Naturally when there’s space, as humans we want to fill it. Painful emotions and unpleasant emotions will make him move toward you - and if he’s not feeling that anxiety, he won’t do anything to close that gap. Your absence creates that pull for him to be with you more. This is the opposite for women because women fall in love in a man’s presence although our sexual desire peaks when a man is not around.
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[@missvegan1967]

A man that loves you won't risk losing you to someone else.

[@fareenashofficial]

Agreed! 🤍

[@fareenashofficial]

These aren’t mind games. It’s how humans work. I don’t play mind games.

[@Julia36D]

Agreed. And when a woman loves a man, she should have the confidence in her own value and the value of her relationship to give him the space to be a man and do what he needs to do.

[@fareenashofficial]

Yes!

[@crazymonkey60123]

@@Julia36D what are you supposed to do be a headache?

[@Lisa_M_V]

Women need to start looking after themselves cultivating love within and then it’ll be reflected. You always what you are. Women need to step back and be in feminine energy IF they want a healthy masculine man! A woman chasing needs to be the ‘man’ in the relationship making all decisions etc and masculine men get emasculated. Then women complain that the man isn’t stepping up isn’t coming towards her isn’t being romantic because she’s so masculine (coming from insecurity) that if the man is masculine he moves away.

[@jaimiejin7992]

I am so grateful and I feel so blessed to have come across your content. It’s important for me to re-wire my brain and to learn to be a high-value lady. This is the only way. So many people do it the wrong way and few people have healthy, loving, fulfilling, and godly relationships.

[@emilienaples3543]

I am in my healthy feminine but was never able to actually put a description on that until I heard you describe it and realized that that’s me. Therefore, 100% of the things you say are true to me. And even for people who think they are not true - they are. They just don’t realize it.

[@fareenashofficial]

You! Exactly 🤍 It will always resonate when you’re it 🙏

[@jaymack1985]

If she leaves without good reason, I'm not chasing. She can go, and I can keep my peace. I'm too tired and old to chase.

[@zanecliffo3685]

Emotional intelligence match energy interest etc . Lean back and give him space to pursue you . Whilat enjoying ur own life let him want to be a part of ur life rather than making ur life all about him

[@fareenashofficial]

Yes 🤍🤍

[@zanecliffo3685]

@@fareenashofficial thankyou

[@jen4yahwehsal176]

Honestly, I'm very angry at my narcissistic mother for not giving me boundaries. And letting me create my own identity. Because this is the result and I feel like it's just so unfair. Because not only was suffered under my mother. Then i'm suffering again in relationships.

[@larosenoirek2197]

Lately I am learning so much about feminine energy, and I am so grateful for it. I can see where I need improvement. I am dedicated to really invest in myself and work on my self-confidence. I went through so much in my life and I know why it negatively impacted my adulthood and thought process. It's coming full circle for me, and I feel it's my season! It's my time now.

[@fareenashofficial]

This is so great! I love this comment

[@aquaearthnfirequ_pinsnsavi1721]

Thank you for the advice I really appreciate it! I've heard this before. This is definitely who I am I I just lost touch of the true me!! Very wounded 😢 #selfreflection #hermitmode #shadowwork #higherself

[@fareenashofficial]

I’m happy it resonates 🤍

[@krystallynne007]

Your audio comes in and out like high and low, not sure if its just me or when you stop talking the volume immediately drops. Listening to it while in the gym and i keep thinking the video stopped or i have a call Coming in but its the audio. Aside from that, amazing content!

[@Mindsetolympics]

Fareen is over here saving lives take what you take from it ladies!!

[@pcb9134]

I have watched many videos like this, but this one has been the best! Great explanation y very important details to keep in mind! Thank you Fareen!

[@fareenashofficial]

Thank you 🙏🤍🤍

[@shenogood]

This might explain why they can come back all of a sudden after many years like if nothing happened in between. And we’re like “wtf man, I was pretty much fine without you, what do you want from me”.

[@fareenashofficial]

men always come back, yes!

[@Bella-Mae0422]

Girls do it too!! Lol my boyfriend's ex gf for example 😂😂 they both dated for 11 months back in HS and when me and him met they were already broken up for 3 years so it wasn't like a fresh break up but whenever she'd have boyfriend trouble she always would try and run back to her ex who is now my man. She did this twice for the first 4 years that we were together. It was annoying, like girl move on he's with me 😂 my man tried to be nice but he ended up blocking her. Haven't had any trouble from her in the last 5 years now. And we've been together for 9 years.

[@shenogood]

@@Bella-Mae0422 she was just trying to disrupt your relationship, nothing about coming back. A woman, who knows her man has really moved on and is in an active relationship won’t reach out to “be with him”

[@shenogood]

@@fareenashofficial not all of them though. If he wasn’t sure about her, he might put a fire emoji on her stories and that would mean nothing. Some of them even check that they had made the right design to move on.

[@Bella-Mae0422]

​​​​@@shenogoodyeah you're probably right. I've seen the messages though, she would tell him that she wanted him back and that she was getting those "feelings" for him again but she was apparently telling others that she didn't really want him back but wanted to ruin what we had bc she didn't want to lose her 'fall back' and didn't want to see him happy with another girl bc they had a very bad break up, she was apparently out to hurt me too bc I was taking all of his attention away from her she said at the time. Bc before he met me they were talking again, and they were still sleeping with each other, her boyfriend dumped her for another girl so she went back to her ex (my man) I guess to distract her from the heartbreak ...again it was before me, they weren't back together, just fooling around. But once he met me I guess she didn't want to see him happy with anyone else before she found another guy first lol And like I said they went for 4 years without talking and she then was already dating and living with another guy for 2 years and she randomly reached out to complain about her boyfriend not touching her or making her feel important anymore lmao I'm like girl go away don't you have gfs for that. But yeah we were young and stupid. He obviously wanted me over her since she gave him the signal two different times to come back in her life. But thanks for the response. I appreciated it actually ❤

[@yvettea6350]

Great video! And you look AMAZING! Thought you were in your twenties ❤

[@fareenashofficial]

😍😍😍 thank you!!!

[@helenan866]

Thank you for this video

[@LanaRusicTV]

Well, then I’m a man… He has given me enough time to miss him.

[@madisonkhart]

wow i wish i watched this one week ago 😪

[@fareenashofficial]

I’m happy you’ve seen it now :)

[@madisonkhart]

@@fareenashofficial yes probably too late now but we shall see. thanks!

[@mayacokie4811]

i love the disclaimer at the beginning to justify her trash opinion ' if ur not in ur correct energy, ur not gonna understand my video🥺' or, or maybe we just disagree....

[@fareenashofficial]

There’s a tasteful way to communicate you disagree.

[@irinen5217]

I love that you use personal examples thank you for that 🫶

[@fareenashofficial]

Oh I’m so happy that’s helpful !

[@aiaki807]

Sounds like the only way to keep a relationship is to not actually be present in it. It will last as long as you aren't around. Sounds so fulfilling. Doesn't sound like a waste of life at all.

[@fareenashofficial]

That’s not what the message was at all 🤍 Yikes!

[@msc8245]

Exactly what I was thinking. Men are hilarious 😂

[@fareenashofficial]

🙈🙈🙈

[@rnnekleiv9739]

In a long distance relationship. Suites him perfectly, as he has children and a family to tend to, and he’s hesitant to bring the families together. I’ve just decided to call him a part time boyfriend, because that’s what he is. I feel like I deserve more, but that’s what he’s bringing at this point, and that’s what he gets.

[@fareenashofficial]

How long have you been together?

[@helen4617]

Moral of the story, have a life of ur own outside of a relationship, like a hobby or career etc, giving each other space to miss 1 another & time to reflect, if u need someone to b around constantly to prove their love, then ur coming from a wounded mindset & need to work on & recognise ur self worth to attract the right kind of person!Thank u Fareen great message❤

[@fareenashofficial]

Yes! 🤍🤍

[@deezgutz5330]

Sounds Masculine to be the busy go getter, men do their bonding when they are with their women not when busy on their grind.

[@helen4617]

@@deezgutz5330 no one’s telling u not 2 b with ur woman, sounds wounded to not want her to have a life outside of u!

[@deezgutz5330]

​​@@helen4617 who said otherwise, I simply stated men do bonding with their girl & it's Masculine for them to be out in the world.

[@helen4617]

There’s nothing masculine about having a life which would make 4 healthier bonding eg; having something 2 do while he’s “grinding” 2 make 4 good conversations, common interests, real contributions independence etc, to live a richer fuller life together! get it?

[@denisa1276]

Men with avoidant attachment style fall in love in our absence.

[@fareenashofficial]

When we aren’t chasing, yes

[@michaelrodriguez3329]

Not me

[@thelastpityparty4425]

THIS IS IT

[@fareenashofficial]

🙏🤍🤍

[@therealconjurebae2140]

EXACTLY. So then, what happens when a man like that starts being around a woman consistently? Because something sounds off with the message in this video. Like it's allllmost right, but not quite.🤔

[@bplovelove3119]

The downfall women mostly do is they do everything for the guy and be absent and expect the dude will change once they come back from their absence. In my experience, the handsome charmers non commital guys, don't change. They just look for more options.

[@fareenashofficial]

Not my message in the video 🤍

[@dravidianalchemist]

yup until karma catches up. i know really attractive guys who downgraded bad after hurting people, the ugliness will show eventually. they don’t look young and fit forever. prana (life force energy) is what gives your face that youthful glow, that beauty you can’t quite pinpoint, cheaters are low vibrational and prana runs out quickly

[@crazymonkey60123]

I just leave the chick and find another one. Too many chicks out here and deal with games

[@pbj4142]

@@crazymonkey60123sounds like you’re the one playing mind games my love.

[@urstrulii5932]

Not true...u just have to make him step up all the way. Period! No sex, no sex. no sex...

[@kaypeden7137]

I think we can come up w/ justification for the absence of reciprocity, consistency and sincerity all day long, but in the end, love shouldn’t be a game of chess. Regardless of gender, if you’re genuine and emotionally mature, you’re going to be straightforward, considerate and conscientious about how you treat someone. It’s about evolving past biology and not using energy as an excuse to be manipulative, lacking basic manners or unclear in intentions. I know energy is a thing, absolutely. But then you get older and look directly at the issue at hand: we’re an instant gratification, throw-away society. And we see it reflected in unhealthy dynamics. Especially between the sexes.

[@fareenashofficial]

Absolutely 🤍

[@solfh]

Totally agree!! I am 32 and wasting my time with worthless man that don’t know wtf they want but play like they do for some dates and seem so into it until they use the disposable card and i am left once again traumatized and wounded. Like wtf i am sick of it. It will definitely make things harder for the men yet to meet me. But I can’t figure out how would i like someone that wants to see me only when THEY want because if i say something about meeting then I have anxiety.. ridiculous🤷🏻‍♀️

[@anna-zk2jl]

agreed 👍🏾

[@jackiek4159]

This! 🙌

[@fareenashofficial]

🤍🤍

[@Aurabay]

i dont like pursuing someone that doesnt appreciate me

[@fareenashofficial]

I’m happy to hear that!

[@pbj4142]

Honestly, just get multiple boyfriends that you like, so that’s at you won’t be able to be present at just a relationship and evoke all your time and energy to 1 person. It also helps you to not put just 1 person as your attention. Then when you finally find the right one who you know is devoted to you and you love them, then that’s when you can lose everyone else who isn’t as serious.

[@pujakataria1838]

that too when that one person proposes you. Only then you drop the rest

[@Lisa_M_V]

Yes!

[@jibarabicha4853]

It’s funny because men will complain about women never initiating but then when you just give them the smallest of effort by being the 1st to contact (not chase) they act all strange about it. Actually consistently waiting for a guy to come to me 24/7 doesn’t make me feel confident at all. Confidence for me is acting on you naturally feel in the moment without overdoing it.

[@fareenashofficial]

I agree that it should be and feel natural 🤍

[@Lisa_M_V]

Men today are too feminine they’ve been emasculated by main stream media etc and now the roles are reversed. Women are masculine men are too feminine (talking about the heterosexual ones) plus they are scared of rejection

[@ksref]

This sounds like a drinking game. Take a sip every time she says "energy"

[@fareenashofficial]

Lol I did say it quite a bit 😝

[@angelabenitez4382]

You'll definitely end up in the ER 😬

[@mzthang82]

This is the comment I was looking for. 😂😂😂😂

[@fabolous86]

Lol men's relationship advice... no contact make her chase. Women's advice, give him space and let him chase. This is why ppl are having less sex / healthy relationships

[@fareenashofficial]

Definitely not what I’m saying!

[@alunalalune8691]

Lol seriously- it’s all a psychological war game

[@metatron333ascension]

if women play this game with men they will lose. they will know its a tactic and be instantly turned off. if i know a woman is playing these games i instantly detach.

[@kaylabey]

whoever said that men should let women chase need to never give anyone advice.

[@metatron333ascension]

@@kaylabey both sides is advising to let the other one chase. all that results in is a stalemate. real men dont chase anyway. also in today's climate its not a good idea for men to chase because of false accusations. its actually pretty dangerous for guys to chase women nowadays.

[@qolayahsirafi1808]

So then it changes when he finally gets you. Once he has you, he's not interested anymore.

[@fareenashofficial]

Not healthy men, they will still be interested. However, yes they can take you for granted unintentionally

[@Ifidreamitidoit3566]

Exactly!!! When you play these stupid cat and mouse games of thrill of the chase.....then what's to stop him losing interest when he receives his catch!??

[@fareenashofficial]

Yes - but that’s not what I’m saying in this video! I’ll be doing a follow up video to this one to get into it deeper 🤍

[@nofybn7794]

@@Ifidreamitidoit3566 EXACTLY!!

[@fareenashofficial]

You got it 🤍

[@red6hot1913]

Absolutely correct. I took space and instead of coming back with a solid offer, he came back and doubled down that he wasn't for me.. but this was during my request for space. I wasn't texting, calling etc.. so I doubled down and told him he was indeed not the man for me. He needs less. I haven't heard from him since 😂❤ As soon as I humbled him, he understood..move on bro.

[@fareenashofficial]

🤍🤍

[@sy34434]

If someone is absent in a relationship, their absence should be made permanent. No time for BS.

[@kaachsports]

*avoidant* men fall in love in your absence. key call out.

[@fareenashofficial]

Watch the entire video :)

[@360du]

Took it from some insta reels?

[@ravanjanae]

I have co dependency issues so I am trying to be okay with being alone so when I do date again I’ll be fine with distance ❤

[@fareenashofficial]

That’s perfect! The stronger and happier you are alone the more secure of a person you’ll attract 🤍

[@OzmaOfOzz]

What does distance mean? Cause it sounds like someone ghosting you , don't know what you mean by that, I'm curious

[@ravanjanae]

@@OzmaOfOzz Hey, I recently ended a narcissistic relationship that was emotionally and verbally abusive. I endured it not because I loved him but rather out of a fear of being alone, but the final straw came when he threatened to physically harm me. What I meant by distance was to stop being so dependent on others and to practice self-love before dating again. This way, distance and dependence on others, even if they are toxic, won't any longer have an impact on me. If I see a red flag, it will be simple for me to go! I was trapped in that toxic situation because of my fear of loneliness and distance.

[@LittleFeather2_viviana]

❤ 🔥

[@manishashrotriya]

This is so correct 🙌🏼 And if a man likes a woman his “space” time reduces more and more.

[@fareenashofficial]

Bingo!!!

[@LydiaAlemneh]

But I thought men fell in love with what they see and spending time together......And women fell in love with what they hear (she doesn't need presence)

[@fareenashofficial]

Men don’t fall in love with what they see… they admire beauty.. but yes, they fall in love over a consistent period of time when they feel good with a woman … it’s confirmed when a woman is not always present, taking up space as that’s when a man can really tune in and feel ya I miss her.. wow I want to be with her again. Unhealthy women fall in love with words. Healthy women fall in love over time with consistent action that supports the words 🤍🤍

[@jasminealexia]

Go girl! Kudos to you for successfully recognizing and realizing your value! That is awesome! This will all be a natural occurrence when you have the right man because the right gentlemen will pursue you consistently and you’d need only to relax into your femininity whilst he leads the way! 🥰

[@fareenashofficial]

Yessssssss 😍😍😍😍🤍🤍🤍

[@tumanyopinions5883]

Sounds like you're about to get pimped out! Plz be careful

[@nofybn7794]

Men need to grow up! It can't last like that!!

[@lolelyn1]

This is so true!! It really resonates with me. I've not been in my healthy feminine energy for a long time, because of my abondonment wound i had.. I was aware of that and knew about energy dynamics, but i couldn't ever change or fake my energy, i always repelled men and was attached way too soon and felt super wothless when men rejected me 💔. I did an emergetic trauma healing recently and it changed so much, if for example a man is not ready for a relationship, i just move on, not trying to convince or anything. If i guy reaches out that disrespected me in the past, i don't answer anymore, even if i had feelings for him. I feel so much more unbothered 💁🏻‍♀️. I'm actually curious onhow things will developed since i feel i will suffer way less in the future than i did the last years being a single girl falling in love with hookups..

[@fareenashofficial]

I’m so happy to hear this and I’m so happy you shared this !!!!!! Yay!!!!

[@chimoon21]

Can you tell me how you healed your wounds?🥰🥰

[@Janet1975]

I had no idea, but this is making sense with the guy I’m with now. Thank you. I’ve had to learn to date in my late 40’s after 2 decades of marriage. Needless to say, lots of pain and disappointment. I’ve learned A LOT the hard way the past year.

[@fareenashofficial]

Experiences are the best teacher! Your very welcome 🤍🤍

[@Messiahandmaster]

40? You look 20!

[@awakeinthedream1111]

People are being quite critical in the comments, but you’re speaking the truth. Good work 💕

[@fareenashofficial]

Hah ya… it’s ok… they don’t really understand and I’m okay with that

[@fareenashofficial]

And thank you

[@MelModica]

I’m an INFJ introvert and I think a lot of men and women both need space!!! I have multiple men showing me interest and the one that messages me constantly everyday is extremely annoying and the ones that rarely message are annoying. For me I prefer a man to message me atleast once a week maybe two or three times but not often enough or everyday is going to make me lose interest!

[@fareenashofficial]

I couldn’t agree more with this! In my books I talk about healthy pacing. Healthy men will pace and I definitely agree that especially in the beginning, communication should be limited to allow a build up

[@Rivkacain]

I’m also an INFJ and if a man messages me only once a week, I move on 😂 or even forget about him so no feelings are being build with such absence.

[@fareenashofficial]

Yes!!!! Although in the beginning we do want to pace :)

[@mianreece]

once a week?? i am also an infj but how do you maintain a romantic relationship when you only speak twice a week lol

[@fareenashofficial]

The beginning stages

[@bplovelove3119]

Not every man is going to desire you on your absence. Some man are going to desire you more if they feel like you were either everything or something usable. If women play the game of absence, then they are missing the whole point of a what a relationship is. Because if you all go back and focus on yourself, notice how it takes a lot of time, effort and commitment to make your own relationship with yourself even work. So if you have a relationship with someone else, it needs to be balanced or else it will go nowhere.

[@fareenashofficial]

Watch the entire video 🤍

[@mahiaggarwal6286]

I agree

[@bigmig7877]

Masculine Men don’t fall. Women fall, Men catch.

[@fareenashofficial]

🙏🙏

[@patriciasenter7601]

😂

[@kylieking8163]

😂

[@theorama5711]

Beautifully said 😊

[@expensivenoodle]

Cringe

[@bplovelove3119]

And the reason why a relationship is destined to fail, is because we're seeking for more ego (selfish desires) rather than a genuine love connection. If we all want a real strong healthy romantic stable connection, we gotta go with the flow and not hold on when someone decides to end the connection when that person made us happy.

[@fareenashofficial]

Ego will play a role in some respects. It’s part of being a whole person. 🤍

[@josedieppa4456]

Wow! Really? If your absent yourself, you are replaced! Take care of what you want/own or someone else will.

[@Hestia134]

Perfect ! Not everyone is meant to get this concept but I appreciate your time, wisdom & confidence in explaining this. It took me having a twin flame connection to learn this concept of living in my divine healed feminine energy. My partner & I have a strong emotional connection so I don’t feel like I have to cling onto him because his love & actions always reassures me and it gives me comfort in knowing his intent with our future together, you do such an amazing job please continue posting content like this for those who are striving to continue healthy relationships or pursuing that route. Thank you 🙏🏽

[@fareenashofficial]

This comment means so much to me 🤍

[@MorganHorse]

I just get so uncomfortable with this feminine/masculine dichotomy. I don’t lead with either and I’m happiest that way. I prefer to be balanced and I am attracted to people who are balanced. I am perfectly happy with other people leading with one and wanting someone who leads with the other, but it makes me very uncomfortable to imagine someone I’m close to expecting me to lead with either.

[@fareenashofficial]

I understand. Being balanced is key, although we will tip more to one side. It’s okay if it doesn’t resonate 🤍. What matters is you’re happy.

[@shinesobrightforever4863]

@@fareenashofficialthis is a very sweet comment

[@b-men1969]

Men fall in love when you are there, women fall in love when you're not there

[@strangerdaysss]

you're basically trying to say that space attracts men with avoidant attachment style. i think it works both ways for women and men. i appreciate a guy more when he understands my need for space and provides it.

[@fareenashofficial]

I’ll do a follow up video to provide more clarity 🤍

[@Michevell]

I think people are misunderstanding you. You don’t have to “play hard to get” and be completely distant just to make a man fall in love lol. But men don’t like to be chased or have that pressure put on them, they enjoy the pursuing not us pursuing them. When we have our own thing going on, we’re going with the flow, and we are truly in our feminine energy and we aren’t up a man’s butt that’s what makes them fall in love. Thanks for sharing :)

[@fareenashofficial]

You got it! Lol I’ve noticed :) It’s all good. Those that get it, get it, those that don’t, don’t :) I’m happy you’re here 🤍🤍

[@Michevell]

I subscribed I am loving your messages, keep up the good work, and congratulations on your engagement very happy for you 💖

[@fareenashofficial]

@@Michevell thank you Michelle! I’ll post a new video next week ;) I’m happy you’re here 🤍🤍🤍

[@jfaustin1742]

ooooh so you mean I'm not being toxic?? Because I do the absence thing really REALLY well. Was starting to feel guilty

[@fareenashofficial]

It depends on the situation….. we don’t want to play games…

[@theresabigayan9875]

I find it interesting how men expect women to be bubbly and agreeable but when a man is stressed out or I'd in a grumpy mood, she expects her to be understanding. It's a double standard.

[@fareenashofficial]

I’m not sure I understand…

[@LeaVeIttoBeBer]

🗣️ I NEEDED THIS MESSAGE, MY CRAZY GIRL INSECURITIES HAVE BEEN TRYING TO CREEP OUT. MUCH APPRECIATE YOU THANK YOU ❤

[@fareenashofficial]

I’m so happy it helped!!

[@ashu0235]

Girl its happening to me rn 😩 im glad I saw this video before it consumed me

[@LeaVeIttoBeBer]

@@ashu0235 well I'm posted on my channel a little short video about emotional limbo maybe it'll find you well also

[@phillycheesecakesss3012]

I met a guy in 2020 that is like this! If I showed him too much attention he would sabotage everything. But as soon as I backed off & we went months with no communication, here he comes! It’s been 3 years & he is still the same. I’m not putting my life on hold for him though

[@flagirl0315]

Bc this advice attracts avoidants and emotionally unavailable people. It’s bad advice. Secure healthy people don’t play games and go for it.

[@fareenashofficial]

Hmmm there may be more going on here… but yes it is important to find someone that is on the same page as you 🤍

[@mariaschwab5231]

I’m totally confused. You’re waiting for this guy? Yeah no.

[@dazza8551]

Drink a shot every time she says energy 😅

[@zsszikszai5180]

I love this so much! Chasing felt as an only option when I was not in tune with how I felt. Thanks to you I can see now how and why certain things feel yuck in me and I can listen to that and not move through with an action. I can hold space for myself and not put it on the other person! Thank you ❤

[@fareenashofficial]

I love this comment! “It felt like the only option when I was not in tune with how I was feeling” - that is gold insight! So so so good!

[@zsszikszai5180]

@@fareenashofficial❤ appreciate you so much!

[@fareenashofficial]

I appreciate you and all of your love and support! Means so much to me and will never be forgotten 🤍🤍🤍🤍

[@zsszikszai5180]

@@fareenashofficial❤❤❤❤ you!

[@fareenashofficial]

😃😃

[@KoyomiMojo]

You are talking about women. Men fall in love with your presence.

[@chimoon21]

Im over 3 years absence now😂I hope its enough Space 😂😂

[@agent_exodus]

That sounds like hot cold dynamics. Thus activating attachment trauma. In my experience, that is not authentic love. That’s more like a subtle “trauma bond”, as they’re often referred to. If that’s needed… then maybe two partners are very mismatched. As someone who’s experienced both, with the right person… pulling away artificially is ill advised. Nothing will drive a securely attached person away faster than that. But… if you want insecurely attached men… sure. This will work. But they’ll lose themselves over time and you’ll probably inevitably resent them for turning into an unstable-ish version of his former self. Generally speaking, of course. Exceptions to every generality and whatnot 🙃

[@agent_exodus]

Btw men are given the same advice about women. To create artificial distance. And I’ve made the same statements on those.

[@meganmariesnyder5305]

I dislike when dating coaches are like when you meet the ONE, it's all smooth sailing. Nope...

[@fareenashofficial]

Def not smooth sailing

[@jen4yahwehsal176]

This is a harsh reality check for me. Totally agree with everything you said. I had a narcissistic mother who created anxiety attachment. And it's been a long journey. I'm a widow over 27 year marriage and when he passed away. And I went to the dating world. It totally was triggered up again. I definitely need to take a step back

[@sarahsawrie]

So interesting!!! Loved your video. Nothing means more that that special time TOGETHER ❤❤❤

[@fareenashofficial]

😃😃😃

[@juliaskagfjord6207]

Thank you for your courageousness and confidence in your message. Keep standing in your power. You bring a strong message.

[@fareenashofficial]

Thank you for saying this 🙏

[@jadebanks8708]

I started off like that until he got me attached and then started playinh games which lead me to anxiety....

[@solfh]

What does chase a man even mean? If a man likes you he will chase you so you don’t have to. And he certainly won’t run away if you show interest back. If you have to chase a man then obviously he doesn’t want you. The thing is telling the person you are dating that you want to see them shouldn’t make them anxious or avoidant. We want to date a man at this point, not a phobic

[@hermes5796]

Nope if I don't see you or hear from you then I don't want you

[@iamtracycouture]

This was great I came across this video at the right time. ❤

[@fareenashofficial]

I loveeee hearing this!!!

[@Joelthedreamer]

This will only attract a certain type of man and leave you wondering with others. When a woman is "absent" I'll get a new girl. The girl I like the most EVER that I will always love is this girl that accepts me for me. I can attract alot of women but this one is so well dressed, so genuine, & doesn't play games. I have never told a girl "I love you" so fast and truly meant it. She has sex appeal and we treat each other with kindness, humor, and teasing. She also assures me that she is in this foreal. I've never been so emotionally available. She loves my looks, values, personality, and ability to make her feel safe.

[@fareenashofficial]

You’re misunderstanding the message 🤍

[@paulkerrylegerme5205]

If a women ever ask me for space my first thought would be, another man and I loose interest and never come back

[@Dragona456]

I feel this, I'm 26 right now, I'm more of a chill person, and have many hobbies. I love going deep into my things. In my live I've noticed often man acting anxious while texting when I don't answer back emedietly, acting clingy, texting me often/everyday. I get it, they fancy me or find it fun talking with me. But please have also a live outside of this 😅😬 I'll always answer eventually, but I also want to do my own thing, so I need 1-2 days just for me. Broke up with my ex a couple months ago, we've been togheter for 4years, he needed 24/7 attention, I couldn't practice any hobby of mine because he needed all the quality time for couple stuff. he turned more demanding and controlling with the time. he has some unresolved traumas. it was exhausting. I just need some chill, down to earth man who isn't that clingy 😕 we can be in the same room and talk a little while doing our own things. But I won't circulate around someone like he is the sun 😬 I'm my own person

[@fareenashofficial]

Masculine men will never feel overwhelming so these men are most likely in their wounded energies :)

[@williamroberts1819]

If you play these games then it's not a serious relationship.

[@fareenashofficial]

I completely agree 🤍 This isn’t games :)

[@jaimiemainberger5039]

I have been listening to advice for a million years and YOU just made this make so much sense and in such an easy way! Thank you!

[@fareenashofficial]

I love hearing this!!!

[@nunyafawkingbiz]

My man gives me more attention when my attention is on other stuff ! If I bug him he is turned off lol it’s so funny so just live your life and keep yourself busy with fun things and activities ❤

[@fareenashofficial]

Yesssss!!!! 🤍🤍

[@CarlaSampson-y5e]

I was with my husband for 25 yrs till he passed. We never experienced this. We loved being together in all stages.

[@sonyavincent7450]

I'm a widow too. This all sounds very hard.

[@JSath]

He seemed so interested, thisv texts dwindled to good morning and gn8! Then he said he s going to be busy and that he will text me when he is free. But he is everywhere on the social media. I would like to know what he s upto

[@nicolemurray159]

Totally agree .. and when space is given by the woman .. and he doesn’t actively feel drawn during this absence, then he’s just not that into her.

[@fareenashofficial]

Bingo!!

[@AlexanderPews]

I have this crush on this girl recently, and I know she likes me too cuz shes come up to me several times and shes so happy and smiles and gives me compliments.. but boy I miss her the days I havent seen her and dunno when I will.. I just know nobody.. actually no female has ever given me this kind of attention before.. I must ask her out one day.. Next time I see her.. Usually im the one trying to make the girls laugh.. but with her she actually makes ME laugh and she makes me smile, its unreal.. but the absence is killing me:(

[@fareenashofficial]

I love this! She must be the type of woman I speak about :) How long have you been dating? It’s early?

[@AlexanderPews]

@@fareenashofficial we havent even been on a first date yet, like I said I must ask her out one day.. but we've crossed paths multiple times before, we both trained martial arts at the same place and ive been at her workplace and shes been on mine xD and one time she just recognized me on the street, pulled over her car and we had a funny chat.. each time I met her it just feels so great.. I just wanna ask her out and hug her really:)

[@mrsallexx]

My experience is the opposite I think men are more like 'out of sight-out of mind'.

[@MargaretBuj_InterviewCoach]

Such great advice, all of it!

[@fareenashofficial]

😃😃😃

[@fareenashofficial]

I always await the @margaret stamp of approval 😍✨ Last class on Friday p.s But doesn’t matter really because you’ll be in the best class ever the dating one 🥰🥰

[@michaelrodriguez3329]

I thought modern women were independent and did not need men Or want them.?.

[@fareenashofficial]

You can be independent and still desire love 🤍

[@privatename5899]

You think any man would want to be with you ??? (you said it) seriously?? LOL

[@lelavic6578]

Oh man I really messed up.. I was chasing this guy for 9 months and I know when ever I pulled back, he started chasing me, but when ever I started feeling insecure again, I could chase him again and feel like I had to prove myself 😢 He kept telling me that he doesn’t like when I become pushy like that and that he needs space but because I’m anxiously attached and insecure, I kept chasing him.. We’re still not together officially and I’m so over it at this point. But I feel like this is my fault

[@fareenashofficial]

I’m sorry my love :( taking responsibility is very important and I’m happy you’re doing that because nothing can change if we don’t see our role. However, beating yourself up is just going to hurt your self-esteem 🤍. This is totally fixable by the way! Have you read my books? I would read those and if you want me to help you with your specific situation schedule a call or book an email session with me and I’ll help you navigate this. I’ve worked with so many women and this exact situation has turned around! In fact even in my big group on fb (the modern feminine woman) a client of mine just shared her story of how her ex came back. Don’t lose hope!

[@lelavic6578]

@@fareenashofficial hey thanks for the response! No I have not yet. I have just discovered you now with this video. It just showed up on my feed and it is amazing. I'll have to check our your books and perhaps schedule something in about how to become secure in my feminine x

[@fareenashofficial]

I’m happy you’re here 😃😃😃

[@MelModica]

I was in the same situation for about 9 months! I officially gave up! He didn’t contact me for a month, finally I sent a message to see if he was alive and asked him how work was going, that was about two weeks ago and he still hasn’t responded so I officially give up and don’t even care anymore! Beyond tired of men and their worthless games. Don’t message that guy at all. The majority of men are a waste of times and just want sex!!!

[@bplovelove3119]

sorry to break this to you, but if you feel attached and insecure, and feel the need to chase him, you are doing that, because everytime he is around he fills your ego (selfish desires, temporary happiness) instead of wholesome things you call "love." Why do you need him to make yourself feel secure in life when you need yourself to be secure in life.

[@Hllopumpkin]

Thank you for your channel you're so sweet you're beautiful ❤️

[@salsipuedes8425]

Okay then im ghosting my parnert i get it

[@sohaahmed9729]

Girl i thought you were 20 !! Max 25 !! You look so young 💟

[@fareenashofficial]

😃😃😃😃 thank you!

[@oindrilabhar]

Same, please spill your beauty secrets

[@fareenashofficial]

Lol! Great video idea

[@metatron333ascension]

you've got it all backwards. women fall for men in absense because that's feminine energy because its based on uncertainty. if a man falls in love that way he is in his feminine energy not masculine. if you do that to a man in his masculine he will detach because masculine energy is certain in his frame. if a woman starts pulling a way from me i either think 1 of 4 things "she didnt like me to start with" another words little to no interest. " "she found someone else" shes playing games" "she trying to test me" in which case it just makes me mad. once they pull away i pull my energy back and detach. if i think shes playing games or found someone there is no need me putting energy in. then i no longer become interested because of those things. especially if i feel its a mind games or a test. i dont fall for manipulative behaviors. no need to persue or chase someone that acts disinterested. the best course of action is to not play. So what if both parties are doing that? then you got a stalemate.

[@fareenashofficial]

Not what my message was 🤍

[@metatron333ascension]

@@fareenashofficial your message was men fall in love when there is absence. that's what the title of this video is. its women who usually want space to think about things. thats how women fall in love not men. Men get detached the more time passes not more attached. Men get attached by being near the person not away. Feminine energy is uncertainty and masculine energy is certainty. if a man is certain with himself he will not overthinking things. also masculine energy is control over his emotions. If he is in that type of energy of overthinking things and all in his emotions that's feminine energy.

[@fareenashofficial]

Yes, but if you watch the video everything you are saying I’m saying is not what I said. It’s your perception. 🤍

[@metatron333ascension]

@@fareenashofficial you said if a man misses you because of your absense that's how he falls in love? right or wrong? and that it is masculine energy. it will get him thinking about the woman etc. some people might fall in love that way because of uncertainty and fear of loss. After all alot of marketing in selling a product is based on uncertainty or fear of loss. but that is not masculine energy at all. that is feminine energy. that's how women typically fall in love by missing the person creating uncertainty and fear of loss. masculine energy is certain not uncertain. and if a man is in his masculine energy of controlling his emotions it will not work.

[@metatron333ascension]

@@fareenashofficial ill just say it like this. men are taught to not bring up relationships or marriage at all to women. why? because if the woman is not emotionally ready for it they run away. so by letting the woman bring it up its HER idea. So in reality it probably wasnt the absense. it was the fact you brought up the idea of a relationship first. that way its YOUR idea not HIS. so he stays in the masculine frame of being the one chased or persued. which is how attraction works anyway.

[@Lidia.Bella.Italiana]

They fall so hard that they dissappear... That's nice.

[@anunehasinha7072]

Thank you Fareen, your content is awesome ❤

[@fareenashofficial]

aww thank you for saying that :)

[@ruthmchuwen]

This came in my feed. Oh, I needed this. I have been reading more, and practicing being feminine and it’s everything I’ve been practicing. The more absent I am and not chasing up, the more he pursues me.

[@fareenashofficial]

Yes! 🤍🤍

[@flaviabeqiri]

Learnt so much from this! Thank you!

[@fareenashofficial]

I love hearing this 😃😃😃

[@lovelykitty_]

this makes so much sense when you explain it like this!

[@fareenashofficial]

I’m glad! 🤍🤍

[@guadalupetenorio2933]

Ever since i have been to therapy and done lots of self work I find this type of content to really resonate and plan to use it to keep on empowering myself and making sure i protect my energy! Thanks for the video!

[@fareenashofficial]

Thank you for sharing this and I’m very happy you’re here 🤍

[@HalfMooN458]

Wow, that is painfully truthful. Thank you for that. Some really good advice. Much appreciated.

[@fareenashofficial]

Your very welcome 🙏

[@love-cs8iw]

My husband strated an affair when we were distanced 😅.

[@sept2866]

Very accurate info. Fareen!

[@jacoesterhuizen9302]

No we get over it in your absence😂