Men Gain More from Love but Struggle Harder When It Ends

In this video, we explore the emotional impact of breakups on men compared to women. Discover why men often value romantic relationships more and face greater consequences when they end. We’ll delve into the psychological factors at play and share insights that highlight the hidden struggles men experience in love. Join us for a deep dive into this important topic!
#Breakup #Relationships #MentalHealth #MenVsWomen #EmotionalImpact #Love #Heartbreak #RomanticRelationships #Psychology #RelationshipAdvice

[@BurbNBougie]

Do me a favor and SMASH LIKE and comment for the algorithm. Kthanksbye 🎉🎉

[@dumfriesspearhead7398]

Have done so.

[@annejohnson5875]

@@BurbNBougie it's very encouraging to see your subscriber numbers going up and up. Your videos are something I look forward to every day.💙🩵❤️🩷

[@bluevillsplash]

You have to cover the Miami man who's wife was picked up by ICE. 😂😂 He's in Doral trying to get a face to face with his good buddy Agent orange.

[@annejohnson5875]

@bluevillsplash 🤣🤣 yeah, good luck with that!

[@msj793]

@@bluevillsplashlorddddd I saw that on the news…..😒

[@Jac527]

“A man can be married to you for YEARS and hates you the whole time”. I experienced this with my ex for 3 months of dating (never married than goodness). He was shocked that I ended the relationship even tho he hated me the WHOLE 3 months and he was cheating. I’m now 4B and Childfree, it’s the best decision ever 💃💃💃

[@GwendolynPorter-w6c]

I'm glad you saw the signs!!😂😂 You definitely dodged a bullet!!!

[@b1njjj95]

Good on you for dodgeting a bullet, girl! That huge case in France is a great example of how long a nam is willing to stay in a relationship with a woman he absolutely despises!!!

[@b1njjj95]

They're always 'shocked' whenever women open their eyes and choose peace over them. 😂

[@BlackRaven000]

​@@b1njjj95They know how they treat us, the "shock" is simply because they assumed you were enduring his BS so far (and have most likely suffered worse in the past when young and naïve) so what changed? The only explanation their tiny antpoo sized brains can think of is that there's another better dude in the picture and he's down in their hierarchy.

[@user-kp3rc4eq8x]

I can write a book on that. I wholeheartedly believe mine was poisoning me. Other things he used to do was put my makeup wipes in the cat litter box. He used to laugh and say I smell of cat piss and one day I clocked it. He hated it if anyone complimented me, and I still remember the day I overheard him telling others I was crazy. I used to wonder why neighbours would ignore me yet talk to him. I can only imagine the smear campaign he did. Yet he cried when I left. Yep he can hate you yet want you to stay. Make it make sense

[@martibee8984]

Men don't initiate breakups because they don't want to lose their emotional support bangmaid. They wait until they find a replacement, but they're incompetent, so they get caught looking for the replacement, and the emotional support bangmaid initiates the breakup instead.

[@BurbNBougie]

#monkeybranching

[@Athiest_666]

Ah so THATS why they’re always projecting that women are “monkey branching” when in actuality it’s them!!! I never broke up with a “man” because I liked someone else, usually it’s cuz he was caught stepping out on the relationship.

[@martibee8984]

@@Athiest_666 same. Love your name.

[@hassanas.benjamin3818]

Well said!

[@dearbrave4183]

💀

[@Aashka_The_Mystic]

The way most men act, they don't even want a romantic relationship with us

[@glamour89]

They don’t even like themselves how they can love another human being?

[@valenciaforshee]

It's a smokescreen

[@ursulatroxler7428]

Key word ACT

[@b1njjj95]

They don't. They don't actually want a life long companion, they just want a replacement mommy/bangmaid. That's why they wear a mask for so long before they successfully trap a woman into marriage.

[@SmartStart24]

But listen to how they talk about “the one that got away” or that one female “friend” of theirs that they constantly gush about. A lot of them can only have true romantic feelings for people they aren’t or can’t be with. They’re like children who badly want a cute puppy or a pony but when they get one, they get disillusioned and lose interest when they realize the amount of effort, energy, time and work involved.

[@annejohnson5875]

Of course romantic relationships are more beneficial to men. They have both a mommy and a lover in one package. They don't want to lose their maid.

[@continuousself-improvement1879]

Mommy+lover+maid+free therapist+social events planner. And that's in a relationship without the complication of financial entanglements or kids. Bring those two into the pic, and you'll see that they indeed bring very little to the proverbial table.

[@TheNutcracker-e2o]

Love at first sight? More like lust at first sight

[@tmajuru559]

'Loneliness', more like 'horniness'.

[@glamour89]

They believe lust is = of love!

[@BurbNBougie]

Pretty much

[@Confessions089]

Exactly, they have no respect for themselves so much so that they make themselves look like fools and then get mad at you for it.

[@LuvsTruth-fs5nd]

Their ethics and morals be damned. If they have to lie, cheat, and steal to get into a woman’s bed then so be it. Then they wonder why women are tired of them.

[@annejohnson5875]

Yes, men get more emotional support and well being in relationships, at the expense of the women.

[@CreativeCrisis-Art]

THIS!

[@DeannaBaileytheRavensFan]

🎯

[@b1njjj95]

Because they refuse to create long lasting relationships and connections with other nem. So they look to women to act as their emotional support human.

[@LCL1979]

Yep. They get support, we get trauma.

[@b1njjj95]

Exactly!

[@sylvieroche9364]

"Women are less dépendant on their romantic partner" : i agree BUT they miss a huge point. It's not only because women worked on building friendships and connexions but also because a lot of men are not reliable, sometimes completely useless in regard to emotionnal support ! So women go to other women to find that !

[@tmajuru559]

I think it's implied where the article states "Men are less likely to". I would assume that 'less likely' to runs the gamut from 'unable to' to 'can't be relied on/trusted to' form emotional support networks.

[@dumfriesspearhead7398]

I don't think that men are designed to emotionally connect to anyone generally, but especially women.

[@jasminejeanine2239]

Yeah, I don't talk to my relatives or have friends. It doesn't make me codependent. I can regulate my emotions all but myself bc I was taught to be self sacrificing and my emotions don't matter. Men get away with emotional displays more than girls in every way. They're simply never taught to regulate their emotions, everyone was too quick to pander. I've cured more than one bf of this problem. No, sometimes the best thing to do is just be stubborn and recklessly fearless in all things.

[@TK_Danes]

The least reliable option is an unnecessary risk to take

[@PotsandPansWhatsPotsandPans]

Men will also hide their true selves until they think you're locked down. My ex waited until our HONEYMOON NIGHT to tell me he didn't want to have children with me. After a THREE YEAR engagement which he pretended to want to build a family. I'm so glad there is nothing to tie me to him anymore and I'm happily child free now and will never get into another relationship with a man no matter how "nice" he presents himself as.

[@BurbNBougie]

Oh wow! How long did you stay married

[@MT-hk9cp]

Dont let than one asshole color your views. If you want another relationship you'll have one with a man that wants the same thing as you do.

[@cherylT321]

How long did it take for you to leave him after he told you that?

[@paperorpaper]

I’ve been in two relationships. By the end of them I was emotionally depleted, fat, and unhappy. After the breakup, I feel my body immediately goes into healing mode and I can focus again, I feel light, and it’s easier to smile and laugh. Yea I’m staying single for a good while this time.

[@cramp4221]

Yes! 🎉 I love hearing that. Hold onto that feeling! Remember it, and save it for the days that feel as if there's no way out 🕳️

[@paperorpaper]

@ 💕

[@adouloslabelh2957]

That's the cortisone living your body😊❤

[@ChocolateBabe_]

This is so true. I had a man Harass me on Fb for not responding fast enough to him! He was blowing up my phone, begging for dates it’s was insanity. Funny thing was he aggressively kept saying “I don’t have time to play games” yet he had time to blow up my phone and beg for attention. A lot of these men are deranged and emotionally unstable. I blocked and moved on🤷🏿‍♀️ like my dad says if a man seems crazy BELIEVE HIM AND MOVE ON. Do not feel like you need to nurture an unhinged man. It’s only gonna drain you!

[@b1njjj95]

Oh gosh. They really love to blow up our phone, as if we carry our phone around like a freaking oxygen tank. 😑 I have a life outside of you, dude!

[@toomuchinformation]

Might lose your life too.

[@maame4592]

Men benefit more from romantic relationships and yet they do not put in the effort required to maintain those relationships. They act as though they are doing women a favor when they are in relationships with women.

[@glamour89]

Then they wonder why women are walking away altogether from them!

[@ladybug3380]

When it’s us doing them a favor.

[@bobbarker1798]

My thoughts exactly. They're not going to treat you right, just cry when you leave. If you value someone then put in the work. If you don't want to do that, hit the road. Stop ruining my home life.

[@Christine_Findlay]

😂😂 It’s you again, as if you champion other ladies. Ladies, the OP admitted on other channels that she’s never attracted xy gaze. You were the initiator of the why are “single black mothers” in poverty gaslighting post. You never answered the question posed to you: How is single motherhood an issue among blacks but fatherlessness is not?

[@Christine_Findlay]

@maame

[@shy_donut8307]

Used to be embarrassed about being 23 and never having a boyfriend before, but not anymore. The guys I’ve tried to be friends with were terrible at keeping up, communicating, having empathy, and thinking about how their actions impact others. Which I feel are the basics of any friendship or relationship. It’s almost as if they don’t understand the consequences of their actions until you’re completely gone. The “male loneliness crisis” is self induced. I had to drop one of my guy friends when he gave me a list of excuses as to why he didn’t vote in this election despite living in a red state and having lots of female friends. To me, voting habits are a measure of how much a person cares about my human rights.

[@ZestyD5280]

Don't be embarrassed - you're the smart one. I'm 62 YO and really regret giving so much energy to men. They brought nothing but grief to the table, and I would have been better off alone

[@jcmor4856]

I am proud of you. You are valuable, partner up with someone who is deserving of you.

[@BlackRaven000]

Hi! You'll be alright, you're doing great! 27 here and never been in a relationship either, (I briefly dated tho but yeah, we're not missing much.) Saying hi to the neighbour's doggo every morning is a 100x more fulfilling than talking to a m@le.

[@tmajuru559]

Sounds like you're doing pretty well to me. Society and men in general, like to coerce intelligent young women with a sense of self-worth like you into relationships that don't serve your purposes at all for the benefit of a man🙄. They start in your 20s because you're supposedly 'more malleable' which is bollocks, of course. I am proud of you for seeing through the bullhickey. Protect your peace ✌🏾

[@SmartStart24]

I am so glad you don’t feel embarrassed anymore, literally *nothing* to be embarrassed about. Society has for so long put having a man on a pedestal. When I had my awakening I realized that in dating I was chasing after that “having a man” prize but when I stopped and asked myself did I actually like the man as a person the answer was 9/10 times ‘no’. I completely erased that “have a man” checkbox from my list entirely. I’m glad society is catching up because when I was a younger woman you were seen as weird, a “man-hater”, or secretly undatable if you weren’t in a relationship or actively seeking one (and I’m 32 so honestly it’s taken about 10-15 years to see the shift). I’m glad women of all ages are bucking the programming and opening our eyes!

[@janetcampbell5601]

There is nothing romantic about being a bang maid.

[@vonnii1013]

Or cheated on , playing n our face and being lied to....smh men dgaf

[@BKJay718]

They’re vampires! I’ve been saying that!!! I’m less stressed, lost a bit a weight and have time for me & my hobby now I’m single 😁

[@tmajuru559]

Energy vampires. But Colin Robinson stands out as the sole exception.

[@b1njjj95]

I have been living in solitude for so long, that the idea of having a nam disrupt my peace makes me sick. The peace and quiet, all the free time to myself for hobbies, and best of all...bubble baths! I finally understand how relaxing and rejuvenating bubble baths are. And now I'm obsessed! Lol I could never have moments like that to myself if I was married and had kids.

[@tylergood3773]

❤ I love that vampire show

[@user-kp3rc4eq8x]

Yaas🙌

[@SkycometAnimeVamp]

Heh. Don’t compare us to them. 😏🦇

[@kiriki4558]

People always talk about how men are not allowed to express feelings but the thing is that is not a male thing only. Women are socialized to acomodate their feelings to eveyone else, and are shamed for expresing anything, even happiness. Don't you dare scream when you are scared, laugh too hard for their liking or cry because is annoying to them.

[@toomuchinformation]

Good point.

[@DanaAgenbroad-pw4zw]

That's how I was raised. Little ladies in the making don't draw attention to themselves.

[@evil1by1]

It most certainly isn't a male only thing. Men must collectively not remember the generations of men who systematically had woman who expressed even the slightest emotion locked away in attics,, thrown into mental asylums, drugged, lobotomized and starved to death to cure their womanly hysteria or schizophrenia or whatever in vogue affliction was assigned to women who didn't know their place. The symptoms of hysteria were - anxiety, irritability, quarrelsomeness, emotional outbursts, dramatic behavior, excessive grieving, embarrassing or unusual behavior,, muscle spasms, fatigue, dizziness, increased appetite, decreased sex drive... you know reacting any way at all to a lifetime of abuse, repeated forced childbearing and child death and having no legal personhood or opinions and hard work upon hard work with an ever cheating spouse. Thats mentally ill. They don't seem to realize we are now more open with our emotions because we demanded it. They could do the same if so inclined but they like the silence- it gives them plausible deniability for the crimes they commit

[@carmendotnet6805]

The oldheads in my family used to say that men can't handle being alone like a woman can and that has always stuck with me since childhood. I have had a lot of men throughout my life who can't quite understand why I prefer being alone and try to break that in me, but they don't know me like they think they do.

[@attitudeproblem6462]

And trying to force you to be what they want instead of _who you are_ is only going to make you want to get away from them FASTER!

[@beepbopboop7727]

And thats why they want to be the main bread winners; they want to make the women as dependant as they are.

We are the main bread winners already and Women...espeically Black Women can barely keep their houses out of foreclosure.....and LOL if you are this stupid to believe this nonsense that men can't live without you. We been doing it Sis.

[@WanderlustHomebody]

They need us. And they HATE that they need us.

[@astrinymris9953]

The fact that partnered men get a more nutritious diet is probably a big factor in their improved mental and physical health.

[@haileys5371]

They not only take and take (suck your life and energy) but pretend they aren't getting anything or value what you're giving. They want to seem aloof. They don't want to give back for fear of looking weak so you're expected to survive on nothing from being with them, just that they are there. Yet when you leave it's a shock.

[@robynr3130]

@haileys5371 *"...you're expected to survive on nothing from being with them, just that they are there."* 🎯

[@continuousself-improvement1879]

They take and take? Sounds like a parasitic relationship. 🙅🏻‍♀️

[@manifest2203]

And then they do triangulation and negging, don’t do anything even for their chldrn.

[@BlackRaven000]

I'm screenshotting this 🎯

[@saharkhalili5303]

It's the same in business. Can't reveal you value or depend your supplier if you want to get the best deal out of them

[@evergreenforestwitch]

I love how many times this article cited men's dependency on women. Yes. This is the problem. They need us and yet hate us. So spot on to everything we have been discussing. Great video.

[@toomuchinformation]

They hate women BECAUSE they need them.

[@MT-hk9cp]

Some of them hate that they need us. I say if P--y could be sold in a can the grocery stores would stay sold out and women would be left alone

[@toomuchinformation]

@MT-hk9cp I read an article about s*x dolls. One man took out the 🐈🐈🐈 and carried it around with him, like a comfort blanket.

It's an article you goofball. Why women always are so quick to latch onto this absolute nonsense but the minute anyone points out the number studies that prove men produce the vast majority of IQ individuals or they are better on average at math, you don't believe it ?

[@joparkin6960]

Hey algorithm! Promote this lady, she brings wisdom!

[@BurbNBougie]

Thank ya 😊

[@Lokian_Mermaid]

Hear! Hear!

[@LadyCoyKoi]

That is why I thumbs up and comment. It helps push videos like this forward.

[@CoffeeandCrochet]

I second this! Burb changing lives out here 🙌

[@RedDeadReverie]

I wouldn’t say all men struggle after breakups considering they have the next girl lined up before things end. Basically cheating when they sense you’re getting fed up.

[@GwendolynPorter-w6c]

True but when they screw over the next woman, SHE'S GONE!😂😂😂😂😂

[@b1njjj95]

A lot of them usually circle back when their next partner isn't as forgiving or patient with them. Or they get upset when they see their ex move on and be happy without them, so they try to stir up trouble.

[@copperredd]

Monkey branching is a man thing. That's why they r less likely to leave if they dont have another woman lined up. women will leave anytime if they r unhappy enough

[@nopesiedaisy]

A lot of this definitely felt like "well, duh." My mom always taught me to have friends and a life outside of a relationship so that I had support from all sides. If something went wrong in one facet, the others would be able to take some of the emotional brunt.

[@AnusiaLA]

They get all these benefits yet still can’t stop lying and cheating.

[@rebeccabrown4277]

My dad passed six years ago, and was one of the few men I’ve ever seen be a true partner. Cooked, cleaned, built a small hobby farm and never needed to be asked. I am so so grateful my mother, who is a nurse and owns her own house and land, has shown zero interest in finding another husband. She had a coworker that was pushing her about it and mom finally told her she wasn’t going to prostitute herself for farm chores. The lady finally shut up about it.

[@FallacyBites]

Yeah. If something happens to my husband I'm not looking for another man. He's too magnificent and my standards are high. I'm not going swimming through sewage for a-one-in-a-million chance at finding someone who doesn't suck

[@iamoverit4905]

I don't know your mom but I like how she thinks 👏👏👏

[@glamour89]

They value more what’s in their terms, conditions and benefits! They’re not capable of love!

[@mjackson3109]

If men have a greater dependency on a romantic partner, why are they so quick to cheat or want to open up the relationship? Short answer as BnB said; monkey branching. Despite having a good partner, doing all the heavy lifting in the relationship, most of men think there’s always something better just around the corner and either won’t commit or will cheat instead of valuing what they currently have. Then you hear the said stories about how they had a good woman who left them but it’s always for NO REASON. I think that's also the reason men want to isolate women from friends, family or coworkers. They don't value or nurture those relationships. It's the same as if you made more money than they did. They'll find some way to tear you down and make you doubt yourself instead of working harder or develop friendships of their own.

[@kennyav25]

I experienced this firsthand with my parents. My dad passed away a week after my mom passed away and ever since I've been a little girl he's said that if my mom goes first he's not staying.

[@TheePrincessBrat]

This is obvious from how men handle break ups, including their avoidance of it. You’d think they would behave themselves better.

[@Ourown311]

Exactly! They really need to humble themselves.

[@rejectionisprotection4448]

Just read a comment from a guy on a YT site on NT/ND couples, who says that he's "attracted to women sexually, but doesn't care to get to know them as people". I think that sentiment is A LOT more common than most women want to acknowledge.

[@msbeth3342]

I think women initiate more breakups/divorces because men would rather live in misery than take the hit to their ego to admit their relationship is failing.

[@toomuchinformation]

Men get women's emotional, domestic, sexual and social labour. They don't recognise a relationship failing as long they get what they want.

[@desarc6855]

"Romantic relationships" is such an euphemism.

[@LadyCoyKoi]

While taking a gender study related course that was mandatory for special ed degree, I was curious over mens' health, especially mental health and found out that "The one who got away" is the top reason for resentment and heart break in men. Break-up remorse is a real thing, especially when the man did the break up. The whole "Oops, I shouldn't have left her." is a real pain men feel, especially if in their minds the woman has been more forgiving and sweet towards them. "The one who got away" truly hurts men the most. This is something the PPbros and manosphere overlook a lot. These systems don't care about men at all, especially not their mental health. They are dehumanizing beyond women and girls, but also dehumanize men and boys. If only boys and men realize that gender studies can be beneficial to their mental health, because the studies help make sense of what they are going through and provide ideas that helps everyone.

[@LCL1979]

Hasn’t Bill Gates been babbling lately about regretting the divorce from Melinda French Gates?

[@AguanoMuldtord]

Nahhh! Guess which mailes ridicule wmn for taking “gender “ studies, but no smoke or ridicule for two mailes who are faculty in blecc m3nz “studies?” One of them lies and uses his PhD to proliferate nasty n!g sell moistofere talking points! Actively “ridiculing” who attend college, take one gender class or get a degree in “gender studies” but have two mailes spreading RP and misogynoir in “gender studies!” It’s like m3nz don’t gaf abt gwape, but worked up about the “possibility” of a false charge or false claim of gwap3! F0H!

[@AguanoMuldtord]

@@LCL1979 Yeah. He was unattractive when younger (but still rich). Met his ex at work, married her: now he’s even more rich, but he still looks like 👀gly Bill Gates, but more 000s on his bank balance and now, old. The young “girlies” were dancing in his head like “visions of sugar” plums, bot won’t co-play attraction to him without cutting 💰. Bezos got it “figured” out: Bezos, has a “lane” and stays in it, even if he DID cheat on MacKenzie! Bill like those “open marriage regrets” busters. Melinda was never a “beauty,” but Bill met her at work, now he’s old, the young hotties wouldn’t “comply” and pretend his 💵 makes him a hot “Chad,” now he misses Melinda. Bezos knows his “ lane,” and stays in it. Bill thought a young dime was going to act like he’s “something.” His 💰 is “something.” He’s a tedious bore, at any age. Never charismatic or interesting. As an older wmn, I have seen unattractive (physically) males with “charisma.” That has never been Bill. A dull d0g with billions. Bezos knows who to “hit up” who will make a “fuss” over his 🌕 head, and pretend HE is more than his 💴.

[@toomuchinformation]

​@@AguanoMuldtordGreat comment.

[@toomuchinformation]

​@@AguanoMuldtordWhich guys are you referring to?

[@margaretanderson6924]

1. Nothing in male words or actions shows they value relationships more. Men notice the absence of that value, after she's gone, but can't recognize that value in real time. Women end relationships because they don't. feel. valued. NOT b/c women don't value relationships. Women value good relationships.

[@cha2538]

This is such a good summation of how detrimental a social/cultural landscape that was “written by men” informing our narratives has been to both men and women. We are all trapped in these boxes that aren’t good for us and limit our potential. Men lack proper emotional intelligence and the ability to connect with others, and women shoulder the extra burdens that come with being expected to make up for their deficits along with many other consequences of being oppressed in a patriarchal society :( but I love how this article relates to so much that Burb talks about!

[@amiek9226]

Yes, these “written by men” narratives limit women especially. According to these narratives, once a woman says “I do” she is no longer the main character in her own life but instead is expected to become the primary supporting player for her husband. So much for “happily ever after.”

[@lkcheat]

My long time husband r ecently told me "you dont need to be married". I replied nope i dont now and i didnt then. Truth. Although.i love him ive always had a strong sense of self and dont need male validation. Ive deventered so much that i could be fine on my own. Not so my hubby.

[@dr_ltorres8289]

My BIL started talking about needing “companionship “ 3 weeks after my sister’s death! Hoped he was just talking about getting a pet, but noooooo! Fifty years together, talks about missing her all the time ( which I believe is true) but cannot be alone

[@Maybe-cg2tn]

Most men are severely codependent. They won't want you to leave unless they have someone else. I find that so dirty and deceitful of them.

[@kirstin1000]

I have always wondered about this because every male friend I have ever had has had their entire world collapse after a break-up. I've never understood it; they ALL get suicidal after the fact.

[@rejectionisprotection4448]

It's so many things; loss of status, ego, free labour and its associated benefits.

[@ipeefreely9865]

Even adult males who we're related to, work with, or are friend with still benefit from a woman's or several women's unpaid, expected labor. Although I centered males in the past, I never abandoned my women friends or the things that I enjoy for a romantic relationship with males.

[@historyrepeating]

As someone who works in health care… I’ve seen so many men whose wives are literally keeping them alive as much as the doctor (these grown men can’t be bothered to schedule a follow up appt or deal with understanding their own diagnosis so you’ll see “contact wife so and so” in their chart) I’m happy to be single 💃🏻

[@tigerlilly9038]

I know two w/o blinking twice

[@dominique2o06]

I'm realizing it doesn't really matter how decent a man is you can still experience these issues with them. I'm a very logical person but also emotional. My emotional side notices that something is off so my brain wants to understand what going on. So I try to discover why someone thinks they don't have to reciprocate what you do for them. And of course people will write it off as oh they are just selfish. But no we will watch a man be unselfish daily. Yet within your relationship certain things he dumps on you or expects he has freedom to check out. But you aren't allowed to do the same. So in research like this trying to find the root cause of things is best. It's not so simple like we are letting them do this to us or he's just a selfish bastard. Either way I am clear on at the end of the day change has to happen or we should choose ourselves. I know I have too much self-preservation in me to stay ✌🏾

[@user-kp3rc4eq8x]

Interesting points you raised and you right something is off as they are selfless and go above and beyond in their careers especially in male dominated fields. I think they are only motivated by societal accolades and male validation as this reflects on their social status as they are hierarchy obsessed by nature. Also their earliest memory of woman is of their mothers. He would have observed how his mother treated him vs his sister and he will come to see it as normal for women to serve and pander to men like how his mom did for his dad and him

[@Tessy29k]

Well it makes sense because they put all their emotional and social needs on women. If they prioritised their friendships more then they wouldn't be so devastated at the end of a relationship.

[@BlackRaven000]

What don't they put on women? Their motional needs, social needs, their peepees, their never ending domestic labour demands, their miscellaneous secretary requirements, the list is endless.

[@BlackRaven000]

They're so needy jfc

[@Emptytopfloor]

I haven’t watched the full video yet but, how do men value relationships if they’re the primary reasons for breaking it?

[@martibee8984]

It sounded better than benefits from.

[@1108-g1q]

Good point. I think they value the idea and image of being partnered more. Kind of like a kid who wants a puppy. When men actually have the relationship, they can't easily value it because they are told that they are entitled to it.

[@BurbNBougie]

They get more from us. They certainly don't value us.

[@amberinthemist7912]

They couldn't say benefit like leaches.

[@khem127]

They want to cpursue a new relationship, while they keep their older relationship,(wife) on tap. They wannt the new, one , but they NEED the old one. They're too weak to switch. They'd rather keep both

[@stephaniemartin9253]

This comment section is lit for grammar and content A+💕

[@BurbNBougie]

Woohoo 🎉

[@TimelessErsy]

That's what i love about this community. Smart, educated and articulate bada** ladies🎉🎉🎉

[@isoeno]

And yet, they set themselves up for that fall.

[@tmajuru559]

Because they don't care what women value. To them a relationship, is built on what they value but not what women value. We're expected to become completely passive on the back of a meaningless "I love you"

[@isoeno]

@tmajuru559 Exactly! I see it all the time in straight couples! They see women as house maids and baby incubators. It's wild! They have no empathy, no care for others that aren't THEM. It's weird... makes me feel like they are predators.

[@dumfriesspearhead7398]

​It's not weird; it's their nature.

[@BlackRaven000]

​@@dumfriesspearhead7398Not a very superior, logical nature, is it? Not a nature worth loving or respecting.

[@cp_honey]

Likely feel they aren't worthy anyway, low self value and value for life and others. Or that the failure is clearly the fault of the defective product (woman).

[@DianaDeLuna]

"Men fall in love faster than women, and out of love more slowly than women." A quote from my gender studies college professor back in, like, 1990. Interesting that the "old science" still holds true today, probably more than ever, since women are even more independent than 35 years ago.

[@manifest2203]

Both of them are untrue. They fall is l8ust sooner and then move on as soon as a new woman comes along. It all depends on their “needs”. They are parasites who can’t live alone. These articles are a round about way of saying that they are “needy”.

[@iamoverit4905]

Men fall in lust fast and they quickly fall out of it... men are for the most part only capable of TRULY loving themselves and a few select male friends... women confuse their lust and need for some form of stability, aka a bangmaid, as love ..that isn't love...

[@BlackRaven000]

I suspect their "love" is simply a socially acceptable euphemism for lust. And they lust after many, many women. Nearly every one of us, I'd say.

[@DianaDeLuna]

@BlackRaven000 I was repeating my professor, but my experience with men-*all* men-is that they are predators. I'm AroAce so i manage to avoid them and their creepy gestures most of the time.

[@catretzlaff5758]

Definitely didn't need a study to show me this! I've been saying this for years. My experience dating men has always been like this.

[@amberinthemist7912]

I think we are using different definitions of the word value.

[@BurbNBougie]

That's why I changed the title for my video. 😂

[@tmajuru559]

And 'love'? I think, generally speaking when we as women say we love someone, it's never said that flippantly.

[@attitudeproblem6462]

🎵”If you think you’re lonely now…. _whooo yeah!”_ 🎶

[@continuousself-improvement1879]

They are dependent on us but are in denial about it. This dependency breeds a resentment in them, they need us but they hate themselves AND US for it. Whereas women were raised to be caregivers and nurturers and are used to relying on other women for it. We form relationships where reciprocity is a tacitly-understood expectation, therefore there is less conflict because women-women relationships (romantic or platonic) would already have a built in benefit to each other. We don't have to demand for consideration and empathy, it's a given feature. Whereas with men, we always need to be on guard unless we get used up for time, energy and resources. (Not all men blahblahblah)

[@thelightinclarity]

Thank you ❤ Now I can continue to leave anyone at anytime with absolutely no remorse. Especially now knowing that waiting for the guy to leave is scientifically proven to be a waste of time and space. Doing it myself will always be quicker and better for me in the long run. I absolutely love this channel. 🎉

[@natcl9974]

This research explains so much of what I was feeling and seeing, especially when dating and they’d claim to love me or want to marry me within a week, I personally thought they were crazy when it happened and wouldn’t bother going further, then I learned about love bombing and thought that was what was happening but now with this research paper it just explains the weird behavior I was experiencing with them. I used to tell them to be single for a little and self reflection and just spend time with family and friends and they’d reject the idea and it explains why they think women are strange for wanting to be single. Then the love stories they’d write felt disconnected or out of touch. The Notebook when I watched the movie felt cringy and then I found out it was written by a [ ] author and was trying to figure out what going on in his mind when he wrote such a ridiculous book. Mel Hamlet made a post about it and she explained it so well. I have so much to say, but I’m going to watch the video again

[@Lysistrata2025]

When was the last time you saw a tapeworm leave without a new host?

[@tmajuru559]

Bwahahaha😂😂😂😂

[@BlackRaven000]

Girl I want to like this a thousand times +🎯🔥

[@b1njjj95]

You right! You are so right! 🤣

[@BigBiteDoughnut]

This sounds like something I've been saying for years. My old boss actually pointed it out to me.... dudes write the love scenes... when there's love at first sight... a dude wrote that.. dudes come up with that. Women never fall in love at first sight. You have to know who you are talking to before you can just give up your life. Dudes on the other hand.... if you are in a relationship for more then 6mo and you're dude doesn't say he loves you and wants to marry you. Break up with him... he's wasting your time. It's easy for dudes to fall in love and if he's not in love yet. He'll never be in love. And then I remember all my grandpa's stories of falling in love at first sight. And I know. Lol let me also point out that dudes actually like women in pink and frills etc right.... so that's what THEY are attracted to. Js. They can't say they don't like pink if they prefer their gf wearing pink. He wishes he coukd wear pink and frills.

[@AeriaGl0ris]

This reminded me of something I read in Ode to a Banker: One of the characters mused that it is men who long for perfect romances and love stories, but women know better. That life is never so grand for long, and it ends up that women are always cleaning up men's messes. That's the gist - all my books are packed up else I would look up the exact quote after work. The character who made this observation? Yep, a woman.

[@AeriaGl0ris]

Aaand now that I've finally reached a box containing books, I found the exact passage I was thinking of. ' "Anyway, all these stories have a very romantic view of life..." Helena paused. She liked to tease when I was being too serious. "No, perhaps romance is more masculine. It's men who dream, and long for perfect women and ideal love affairs. Women know the opposite: that life is harsh, and mostly about clearing up the messes men create." '

[@Lokian_Mermaid]

Good morning everyone! Love ya! 😊

[@BurbNBougie]

Good morning!

[@roninboxers]

There is a lot in there that is accurate... but the reasons for it all have been sanitized. Like women having more support outside relationships... because many men just don't offer emotional support, not to each other and not to women.

[@roninboxers]

"Emotional restraint" unless is anger or rage.

[@KarenJohnson-m6n]

To summarize this phenomena men upon breaking up with significant partnership suffer the same emotional and psychological issues as women suffer WITHIN THE RELATIONSHIP. THE FUC*.

[@robynr3130]

@KarenJohnson-m6n OMG! 🎯

[@toomuchinformation]

Yikes!😶😶😶😶😶😶😶

[@BlackRaven000]

🔥

[@manifest2203]

So true. When will wmn understand that simply being in your presence benefits a ma2n even if he ha8tes you the entire time. Not having a w8ma2n or women is the biggest fa8ilure for most mn. Mn u5e wmn for these things: 1. Fr44 (exclusive) smex 2. Fr44 surr6gcy 3. Fr44 labor (maid, cook, nanny, and so on) 4. Even feminine companionship without any of the above is valuable. That’s why mn like Charles who have money to hire endless help is with Camilla. Whereas having a ma4n’s presence isn’t soothing or va6luable for most wmn. In fact, in most cases it poses a th5reat to her safety. It’s up to you to figure out what he wants. Most mn will never care about their kids the way that the mthr does because they aren’t socialised like that to care. But being with mn doesn’t offer anything for most wmn. Is he going to have your k8id, is he going to please you smexually? Is he going to cook for you when you come home and have the food ready for you? Is he going to do your laundry? Is he going to take care of you when you are sick? Is he going to clean your house? Now most mn don’t have money either. Let’s get real about mn.

[@bobbarker1798]

Very well said. Getting our opinions past the censors is a po8blem n0w.

[@manifest2203]

@@bobbarker1798 yes 😭😭

[@TimelessErsy]

It's so sad. The comment of redp*ll videos have such vitriol towards wmn but nothing is taken down. Even on FB now if you post a critique against mn, it's removed! The tech bros really want us back in the 50's

[@toomuchinformation]

Yep, a man's testosterone level rises when in the presence of an attractive woman. He also gets social status from being seen with her.

[@manifest2203]

@@TimelessErsyyes they ha8te that wmn can spread awareness among ourselves. RP videos are far more w8orse and be8little wmn but they don’t take them down. Truth is nothing sells as well as msogny. It clearly showed what mn are really like unlike what we were taught from chldhood. IMO, letting these mn talk really helps wmn. That was how I eventually found female spaces online ☺️

[@jessb4936]

Feeding the algorithm

[@BurbNBougie]

Thank ya

[@tamiekaaugusta4058]

I find these findings to be incredibly contradictory because of how much A LOT of men & how they tend to behave like "in general" THEY DO NOT LIKE US, OUR PERSONALITY, OR SEE OUR HUMANITY. You what emotional support? Get a pet.

[@toomuchinformation]

It's not contradictory at all. Men suffer because they're energy vampires who use women's emotional, domestic, social and sexual labour ie the wife appliance. They don't care about women, only what they can get from them.

[@iamoverit4905]

This right here!!! But women don't want to see that truth because they want to lie in bed next to one of these males and because they birth them (which I really wish they would STOP doing or at least slow down a lot more in birthing them 🤦‍♀️)...but these males don't like women and that includes a lot of their beloved sons 🙄

[@childfreeperson]

They are energy vampires!

[@b1njjj95]

🎯

[@msj793]

Y’all this is so legit. Lifetime I’m ready to tell my story 😔

[@AlohaChips]

I mentioned before but in the US in my experience there are a lot of women in the later Gen X and following gens of women who were urged by their mothers, grandmothers, great-grandmothers, aunts, etc etc, to be independent--but specifically in financial matters. And even then, if you weren't able to, most of the time cultural shaming for not managing to, unless you ended up a single mother, didn't exist. It's a much better cultural dynamic for women. By contrast the ""independence"" trad men are expected to cultivate is not just financial but also emotional and social. Independence in the latter two takes a certain kind of person that is NOT a majority of people. At all. In fact, such a person is unusual. In truth, traditional expectations for males are incredibly maladaptive against the far more important quality that determines how they function--and that quality is called BEING HUMAN. Trad male social expectation and socialization denies their humanity just as the trad female expectations do, just in a different way. And while expectations like these come from both men and women, much like how my female elders were the ones to go urging their younger female relatives to correct the issue they most suffered under (ie lack of financial independence), the best solutions to fixing likely would also be a multigenerational push from older men to younger men to course correct the problems men are having here. Women best batten down and protect themselves, because all I see from male leadership are pushes to force women back into having no financial independence. They would rather use violence on others than acknowledge and fix the massive culture problem their sex is plagued by. Be careful, ladies, and don't set yourself on fire to warm someone else.

[@BlackandBlessed100]

I am definitely anti social and very happy because I de center men decades ago

[@sherlogic1256]

Men expect submission & women are told to change things themselves if they want change. Of course men are going to sit and develop learned helplessness, while the women will be rejecting that helplessness & doing something about it.

[@b1njjj95]

And this is exactly why women thrive when they focus on themselves

[@annmarieknapp]

I teach this in my classes. They are energy vampires that suck us dry. Happily 4B.

[@elenabantista1920]

Thank you, Burb! ❤

[@CreativeCrisis-Art]

Thank you for sharing this!

[@BurbNBougie]

My pleasure!

[@twilightm1st_ress384]

Huh. Sounds about right.

[@Ourown311]

You'd think with this info, men wouldn't ruin their relationships on purpose

[@tmajuru559]

They only do this when they're ready to jump on to the next one. Preferably, while still with the woman they will eventually leave, because leeches be leeching.

[@TouchingTheStoveForYou]

Wise words again, ma'am!

[@Tranquilityviewpoint]

Emotionally dependent men vs emotionally self sufficient! How many boomer, gen x, millennial moms thought that by being "boy moms", creating an environment at home where her son's can express his feelings that he would become modern men/husbands in society....but it seems like it didn't extend to the greater society beyond the home and relationship with his mom and maybe his dad and siblings. How many of the sons looked for girlfriend or wives that would be an emotional safe space that was like his mom was to him without him being emotionally invested in the relationship or towards his girlfriend or wife? (The moms/women trying to fix men's lack of emotional intelligence put more emotional labor towards sons that then the sons expected that level of emotional support from women...not fixing the problem and ending up with emotionally self sufficient men but still emotionally dependent men 🤯) They are used to receiving emotional support but haven't been taught how to be aware of other's emotions/observe other's lives, give emotional support, know/understand the current social norms ....empathy to see other people's perspectives 🤷. Seeing how so many boys/men treat their sisters, moms, women classmates....they don't have empathy towards women as kids or adults and it starts and is reinforced at home and schools as kids...then it's not surprising that they didn't face consequences for treated women badly as kids or reinforced to do so by other men, society, etc ...that as adults they think it is normal and acceptable behavior 😕 yet cry that they are lonely 🤦 because....men think that other/women's words and actions CREATE his feelings instead of HIS thoughts create his feelings and behavior....🤷.

[@MizMorgue1]

"Emotionally reserved" needs to be changed to "Emotionally stunted, slow, or ignorant" "Reserved" makes it sound much too kind, and it's a lie.

[@alasharper7344]

WOW! Cynthia G did a video yesterday addressing this same topic

[@francesdobbins2964]

This is a very insightful video. Keep it up!

[@andreavantzet1962]

I read the title of this video and immediately thought "lemme go get my really tiny violin..." 😂

[@BurbNBougie]

I heard you play. AMAZING

[@alo6125]

I learn so much from you!❤

[@drranger4210]

they don't value it more, they need it more. there's a HUGE distinction! because if they valued the relationships they would treat them better.

[@RashiRaqs]

Loved this video!

[@MightyPessimist]

I knew about this from Princella the queen maker over a year ago. So all married and partnered women know the truth now.

[@jamescannella1395]

If we ever talk about our emotions we get backlash that's the sad part and that men need women and women need men

[@BurbNBougie]

Women live fine without men. Men are more codependent.

[@BlackRaven000]

Backlash from whom? Other men. Y'all decided emotions are weakness and women are weak. Idk what we need men for, that technology can't do. Go cry to those you consider your equals, sir. I personally bear no sympathy for those who deem me inferior for not having the right muscles and crotch organs.

[@arete-t1y]

Men talk about their emotions all day long and insult women while they’re at it

[@LuvsTruth-fs5nd]

So, basically that article backs up everything woman complain about and why women predominantly initiate divorce. But, how many men will read that article?

[@TititoDeBologay]

They're SUCCUBUS.

[@GwendolynPorter-w6c]

No you have it backwards! Succubus is a female sex demon. Incubus is a male sex demon 😈. Hopes this helps.

[@tmajuru559]

Thanks for this!🙏🏾 I learnt something new today!

[@collettedaniels3884]

Some behave like succubus. One coming every 15 minutes. I’m tired of seeing them crash out at my job.

[@SkycometAnimeVamp]

I have no intention of being subject to emotional parasitism.

[@rejectionisprotection4448]

I don't blame you; it then manifests itself as illness....and then the parasite disappears!

[@CharlieApples]

You’d think they’d take better care of such valuable possessions.

[@toomuchinformation]

Who said they think women are "valuable"? I think "appliances" is a better comparison.

[@sminno]

I see both sides to this. Yes, being in relationships with men can be draining because YOU are the life source of that relationship. Your care for them makes them feel good and look good and gives them status, props, and admiration from society, family, and other men and women. Because men don't have a community like women do, you are their community. So when you have ways to replenish/fill your cup, and they don't, that makes them jealous and sabotages you in every way they can think of. Get you upset enough to NOT go to the Gym or girls' night out, make you second guess yourself about going for the job promotion or back to school. leave everything about the kids to you because that makes you too busy to have time for your interests (but then they have the NERVE to be jealous of the kids; explain that logic?).

[@Fairytree163]

This !!!

[@ss-ds2dn]

Can we talk about US HB722? Almost no one is talking about it

[@BurbNBougie]

Was sent a post about it yesterday. I need to dig into it. Thanks

[@bobbarker1798]

Men want women to know that they value the unborn more than us. MAGA will defend a fetus over the life of a woman. And don't expect financial help if your stuck with a bunch of kids you can't afford. No school lunches. No schools. No child care support. I wouldn't get pregnant now it could be fatal. If you miscarry, you could end up in prison after a long interrogation. The world hates women. That's a fact.

[@bobbarker1798]

Where's the response I typed? Not a good time to get pregnant now. It could be fatal. They don't care that you can't afford to have so many children. No school lunches. No schools. MAGA don't care about children. Only care about having power over you.

[@bobbarker1798]

Again, where's the response I typed? Don't get pregnant now, it could be fatal. If you miscarry, you could end up in prison. MAGA don't care about children, only controlling women.

[@BurbNBougie]

I have a video loading. It talks about some of Trump's Lowlights and the house bills introduced

[@therealhellkitty5388]

This is just more fodder to justify limiting or eliminating divorce. You will see a lot more of this in the future.

[@toomuchinformation]

Interesting point. I've known about this for some time though. But I wouldn't be surprised if they upped the ante.

[@thirstwithoutborders995]

The funny thing about these narratives is that when men write the story, women are the chasers, the ones desperately craving them... And if women write the story, the men are the chasers, the FL is the (only) one the man will fight and be vulnerable for. It just depends on what you read... In reality people have to choose each other and never stop choosing. I think most breakups happen, because people stop choosing one another, whether it's one or both. Women just have an easier time, since they have a network that keeps choosing them even when they are single.

[@CocoQTpie4u]

I guarantee you, the ONLY people that find this information as a revolution are men and christian women. 💯 The rest of us have known this for years . Don't get me wrong I'm grateful that others are waking up, especially men. They deserve to be happy and the ability to recover, IN A HEALTHY WAY, adds to that. Being able to heal more efficiently increases their odds of finding a better suited mate in the future. 💯

[@08Davis2]

❤❤❤

[@spacebaby420OG]

Men, cant live with, cant live without em.

[@bobbarker1798]

Doing better without.

[@manifest2203]

Can do very well without them.

[@BurbNBougie]

Women can live fine without a man.

[@spacebaby420OG]

@@BurbNBougie I know, I'm sorry

[@b1njjj95]

Women thrive when they don't live with a nam

[@deborahfrederick1558]

SOOOO, now there is Scientific evidence of what you have been saying since the first video I saw from you 18 months ago. 😮😮😮

[@tylergood3773]

😮

[@srvgjohnson]

👍

[@onycagayle4485]

🎉