Men Marry Only The Women In Front Of Them When They Are Ready/Let’s Discus PART ONE

[@MariaDavids]

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[@christopherbrown5409]

How was the photographer referenced by OP able to tell that about the men she worked for? How did she validly ascertain a nuanced insight into the private lives of strangers hiring her?

[@l0111]

Not necessarily. Men look at women as a resource. They marry the women who they can use in the most of ways. Look at the marriages around you. It is the reason why they don’t file for divorce as frequently. Or keep a mistress for decades without leaving the wife. It’s also the reason they’ll leave you when you get severely ill. If you’re providing a service, they’ll marry you and ride you to the ground. And it doesn’t matter if they love you or like you. Your utility is their first priority.

[@nicolem2877]

WHY DOESNT YOUR POST HAVE MORE LIKES???? It’s so true and ridiculous at the same time. Women really don’t want to acknowledge this is how men are but once they do realize, it’s 🤯

[@eumeliacorona9824]

🎯 💯

[@gjinkalla23]

Bingo

[@iris_b]

🎯🎯🎯

[@FleurRebelle]

whenI 1st realized this ... i was mind blown. Now I. feel totally awakened

[@TheSomethingnew1]

You be in a relationship with a man for 10 years and as soon as y’all break up, he marries the love his of life lmao and they will be together and happy for years. I don’t have a logical explanation as to why that is because I’m not a man but what I can see is to not waste time on long term relationships that aren’t growing or going anywhere. Don’t waste your own time. Go.

[@ruthmchuwen]

Exactly, that girl is just a placeholder. 10years was just a time for him to level up so he can get his dream girl …

[@motorcyclesandmakeup1297]

Yea it’s crazy

[@gjinkalla23]

Don't lift the heavy weight for man, most of the times they will break their neck to "have" a woman just for pleasure, beauty admiration and not move a finger for a woman who built him up and stood by in difficult times!

[@TheBlaxkWolf]

My rule is after two years, if he hasn’t proposed I’m leaving. And I personally, wouldn’t give him my body during that time.

[@bunneywolf]

Yep. Because he spent that 10 years sucking up all of her energy and creativity to level up. And now that he has developed some self worth on her back and drained her, he realizes she had no self worth to begin with if she "allowed" him to use her. He now wants a woman who is new and full of fresh energy he can suck more covertly.

[@juliebella1221]

Wife aks Husband, "why do you love me?" Husband says, "because of how much you love me." It's NEVER about you girls. NEVER.

[@KayleneRomero-oz7yz]

Your comment perfectly sums up how I feel about this song: kzbin.info/www/bejne/mJzJnpqdYphrb9Esi=q8dbezp9GwNl7hKk

[@fayepatrice1672]

Yep. I asked a bf that and that’s what he said. This is someone who had chased me for a year plus and proposed to me, yet what he liked about me is how I loved him? I turned down his proposal, and he proceeded to stalk me for another year. Yet I’m the one who loves him????? Ok. I think he meant that I had a soft,sweet, agreeable personality.

[@masumi1990x]

Because "love" is not just a feeling but the ability.

[@nadanalia3000]

Or it’s “because you DO x, y, and z for me” instead of listing her personal qualities 🥴🙃

[@lovelykiyah7415]

meverrrrr lol

[@embluvya]

To a lot of men, any woman can fill the role of wife. He has no particular love for women as individuals, because he doesn't see them as potential friends and companions. They want a woman to fill the role. Not to be his one true love

[@gabbsdy8741]

thats how arrange marriges are, right? They have existed for 1000 of years. man and woman are there to fullfil a duty. Love may come later. Sad reality. Humans have relations for satisfing needs. and not love

[@sarahrobertson634]

@@gabbsdy8741 Males have been awful for thousands of years. We women are fed up with it.

[@embluvya]

The worst part of it is they'll pop up in your dms after five years married with another woman, like you were the one who got away. They're like kids. They want what they can't have. Once they have it, they don't want it.

[@ommiohmy]

I had that happen to me so many times. It was sickening. My most recent ex didn't tell me he was married. I had to tell him I knew after he was saying he wanted to meet up again!! Smh...

[@gravityclarity]

Exactly!👏🏽

[@gravityclarity]

​@@ommiohmymen disgust me. They have no shame.

[@Palomitapalomita]

THIS. This is the saddest part. I am single and all I can say is married men are the worst and they are out there trying to get after any women so long as it’s not his wife. Even if you get that ring you think you want- you’re the last 🐱 on his mind.

[@ShaneCM]

I wouldn’t even respond to them and block them.

[@decoraqueena6413]

Once a man gets used to a lifestyle- having a woman taking care of his needs, it's really hard for them to stop. That's why male divorcees and widowers get remarried asap. That's why they have no problem using women as placeholders. They only see women as shiny things that can be replaced with a bigger, shinier thing.

[@munix9351]

Because women act obsessed over them. It our fault. We make them think they are better than they really are.

[@embluvya]

Part of the reason is because men can't admit they were wrong. It's why he'll treat you bad for years, then when you finally break up, he acts better for the next girl. He couldn't admit to you that he was wrong, and moves on to a girl who he never has to admit his past to.

[@AmberColeman-gq1wn]

Even if he comes back to you- the facts are that he mistreated you for years and you allowed it. Non stop And he’s not going to suddenly treat you right either

[@RaqueLauren]

Oh yea it's so true. They totally do this. I'm watching both of my brothers do the same thing. It's a symptom of how men don't really see women as worthy of being uniquely important individuals. They see themselves this way (superior) and women as beings who exist to fill the role of serving them. When that role opens they, fill it. What makes this so insidious is that men will spend decades in serious relationships with various women all the while knowing he has no intention of marrying any of them. They feel entitled to waste womens time. Meanwhile, the woman feels obligated to invest her time because of the myth that time and closeness will lead to marriage. Nope noooope. Thank god women are learning to cut and run. 🏃‍♀️

[@eumeliacorona9824]

Wow 🎯 🎯 🎯

[@dian277]

even in serious relationships that are not marriage, men won't be in it if they can't get relationship benefits. they only make a woman a spot holder because she gives them benefits they can't pass. don't give relationship benefits to men period.

[@Marie-mq3kb]

This was my exact explanation for the phenomena! They feel that women are "simple" so they view us as all the same. It doesn't matter which one they marry 😒 My brother once told me that men don't view women as people. People have unique personalities, feelings, passions, experiences, etc. Men see women as shells that exist only to fulfill their wants and needs. If that's the case, then they can marry literally any woman. It's such a disgusting and simple minded way of thinking.

[@gravityclarity]

Exactly!👏🏽

[@returnoftheromans6726]

I see this, too. If he does not see me as an individual, then I'm out!

[@juliebella1221]

It's 100% true. Men will tell you this. They say, "nothing better came along," when asking why they married their wives.

[@Safire-ji1vl]

What that’s crazy they are so stupid I swear. I’m done with them anyway

[@briana14333]

Right! Or “she puts up with me” or “I was the only single guy left in my friends group/family” 🙃

[@AMonteiro4]

Omg you've heard multiple men say this ?

[@TalesandtomeswithAmy]

It’s totally fair to not marry someone if you’re not ready. The bigger takeaway for me is that some men know full well they don’t want to marry the woman they’re currently and will simply coast along, sapping that woman of her time, energy and resources with no intention of returning the investment. Man or woman, don’t exploit other people’s compassion and patience just to make your life cushier in the short-term.

[@no.6377]

I've lurked on enough non red-pill, male centered spaces to know they don't care. The general consensus is that, you waste your own time, so it's your choice. It's a very unsympathetic but practical view of things.

[@TalesandtomeswithAmy]

@@no.6377 Sadly I’m not surprised. To me, that is the same as saying a burglar has a right to steal from someone’s house just because the door was left unlocked. We all should work on enforcing boundaries, but that doesn’t absolve exploiters.

[@nadanalia3000]

@@no.6377 Well why can’t we think more practically as well? Only do what will serve us and our future kids as much as possible? I’m sure men will respect us more and trust their future kids will be in safe hands should they die. Men are the main characters of their own stories and we need to be the main characters of ours

[@BambiLena666]

@@TalesandtomeswithAmy Nah, the example doesnt track for me, it would be like saying the burglar has a right to steal from someone because their locks werent good enough if they were able to break in. Lets be realistic here, most women have some expectations and standards that men like these will put in effort to meet and pursue to "keep the illusion" going until they are done. Men targeted content has since forever been filled with tips and tricks on how to manipulate women into wanting to be with them. Its not like all these men are doing nothing to achieve or maintain a relationship and women just cant help themselves. They are basically saying your security system wasnt good enough so thats a you problem.

[@livelife5947]

I’ve seen this many times & I’ve also had many men tell me they married the woman who was there at the time. Maybe a minority of men don’t do that but I think the majority do. I think they hold out for their “dream girl” but eventually realise she’s not coming, realise they’re aging out of the dating game & just marry whoever happens to be around. This is one of the reasons the divorce rate is so high because men don’t marry for love, they marry for convenience.

[@gravityclarity]

EXACTLY!

[@omphilemoerane2569]

Yeah there was a viral video of some below average looking obese guy telling his wife during his vows that if it wasn't her it would be Margot Robbie that he would be marrying 😂 The back story was that they had been dating for 10 years and had two daughters 🙄

[@nadanalia3000]

@@omphilemoerane2569 well she chose him 🤷🏽‍♀️ surely she saw the red flags prior to the wedding day.

[@omphilemoerane2569]

@@nadanalia3000 yeah you could tell by the way she was trying to laugh despite her tears that she either has low self-esteem or she just feels stuck with him cause they have two kids together.

[@boobooscooboo]

Lmfao projection at its absolute FINEST. This is what 100% of women do 🤡

[@Liz-wz8dh]

I think that explains a lot. That's why so many of them feel resentful towards their wives later. Just like women, I suspect they get married when a lot of their friends are getting married or when they've hit certain other milestones in their lives and they feel they're going to look strange NOT getting married at that point. They are susceptible to the same social and familial pressures that women are.

[@dumfriesspearhead7398]

Yes they are, less on having children of course, but not looked upon very highly if they're still single after a certain age.

[@Poodle_Gun]

I would die if I had to live my entire life for my shitty parents and shitty friends. Pressure is not a reason to make dumb and vapid decisions. Even the people pressuring you could blame other people. Then let's say they're all telling the truth: free will doesn't exist and we're all automatons. Maybe it doesn't need to be the love of your life, but I think it should be your best friend. I'm not going to do all the things for someone I don't love. I will do even more for someone I _can_ love.

[@manifest2203]

We all have heard of the story of the placeholder. A man will be with that woman for 8 years, never marry her but exploit that woman with all the things a woman has to offer (endless free domestic work which they will never do for her, free s3x, her womb for free to birth his children or sometimes avoid having a child as much as possible, her time to take care of his family, share the living expenses and so much more drama and usage of her in every possible way you can think of), then dump her one fine day and all of a sudden be married to a new woman in under 6 months. It happens all the time. So ladies, don’t be placeholder gfs who offer everything to him.

[@lifeis2171]

Woman allows that cause after 2 I'm out. That's the longest ill wait

[@sbusisiweshaba1715]

Those women allow it to happen. Have standards to not carry, before marriage and to not waste time on relationships that don't have a purpose.

[@flowerpower7065]

I was that girl for 8 yrs. Except i left his azz on our 8 anniversary. Told him I hated him. A yr passed and I met my husband. We have two kids. Husband has been getting promotions and raises at work, we are stable, happy. My ex? A fat azz bumb who lives with his parents still. And 10+ other relatives. My husband? A hardworking man, emotionally intelligent that rushes home to be with his kids and wife. Key note: for his KIDS. His. KIDS. Is home every day and night.

[@trrahr5496]

it is true. my ex husband told me that "it could have been anyone, he was just ready to get married ".... so yes i filed for divorce because in the end,, this was how he treated me - not special, just the one who was there

[@kruidnootje437]

True for most men. And a lot of men get broken up with for lack of marriage after years long relationships, and then decide to marry the next girlfriend after like 5 months when they barely know the woman (often after secretly dm-ing and whining and begging for the ex to come back WHILE dating the new girl). It's bizarre. It's like they suddenly can't wait anymore and anyone will do! And then they're surprised they're divorced after 3 kids and 5 years and complain that 'all women are bad'. Buddy, you're just crap at relationship and don't seem to see women as people. Just a role to fulfil in your life. Of course it doesn't work!

[@cr9525]

Women make men’s lives easier. They might marry the next woman quickly because he likes the benefits of having a woman around. He knew the ex left because he wouldn’t commit so he’s making sure he gets the benefits long term in the next relationship.

[@likemycommentifyouwantareply]

@@cr9525my thoughts exactly. He knows the next woman might break up if he doesn’t marry soon so he proposes before she gets to that point of giving an ultimatum. Women want desperately to think they are more special than any other woman in a man’s eyes (like that married lady in the video denying the truth) but the real truth is that all women are a resource to men. It’s like a man purchasing a cow because he needs milk after his last “free” cow ran off. He’s getting older and doesn’t want to have to go without milk for long periods of time. Also, his friends are buying cows too, so why not?

[@omphilemoerane2569]

​@@likemycommentifyouwantareplyLol @ "also his friends are buying cows too so why not?" It really be that simple sometimes 😂

[@boobooscooboo]

We do it bc the next girl was better than you 🤡 cope and seethe. She got the ring bc she was superior to you in EVERY way lmao but let’s act like the mystery still isn’t solved 🤔

[@insideAdirtyMind]

if the next girl was better, why do you stay soooooooo long with your long term girlfriend and drag her along? And why do you message your ex during your wedding night begging your ex for sex? @@boobooscooboo

[@embluvya]

To the man responding at 7:00, men lie all the time about being in love with you or wanting a relationship. How are we supposed to tell the difference if yall lie because you want to have sex with us. Also, "marriage doesn't benefit men," LMAOOOOO

[@meiimacca4054]

Married me live longer, that's proven and it's at the cost of women's wellbeing. Women take care of them, make doctors appointments, married men get raises for their new family all the time. He's foolish.

[@heneverforesakesme4038]

Ikr??? LMAOOOOO...who does it benefit, partner? huh?? how does marriage benefit a woman???? and if that was the truth, why get angry, now that we don't want to marry or have children anymore??? men should be throwing a full fledge, day off, five card Marti gras and parades and out there recording more "bro" time, now that we don't want to marry or have kids anymore...

[@marlyd]

​@@meiimacca4054and married women live less long than unmarried women...

[@sweetpeaj1952]

Exactly. Situationship and relationship are different. If a guys say we're in a relationship and doing relationship things that leads to marriage, how am I supposed to know he doesn't want to marry me in the future. People change their minds.

[@Bella_Noire]

12:20 All that means is that he wasted women’s time before he met you. While he was waiting on you, he was in relationships the whole time. Those women he was dating were hoping for a future, he used them and discarded them for you. And when he’s done with you he will discard you for your replacement. Because that’s his mentality.

[@lovelylibra-mv1jv]

I think this is true for both men and women. if ppl were marrying who they truly wanted to be with divorce wouldn’t be so high.

[@Hyear2030]

🎯 💯

[@gjinkalla23]

💯

[@Liz-wz8dh]

So true. I think a lot of people just end up settling after dating for years and not finding what they want and not even being super sure what it is they want anyway. In a lot of ways, men and women are so misaligned that it almost doesn't even matter. The average length of a marriage in the US is only 8 years anyway so clearly it isn't working out for the majority of people.

[@dian277]

many men will marry you if 1 he's ready, 2 you're his dream girl, 3 you're the best deal. How to avoid being a spot holder: 1. don't give men relationship benefits, reciprocating what he gives you should be the most you would do for him. 2. ask him what he's looking for and if he's ready for marriage, if his answer is no or idk or we'll see, anything from a negative to an ambiguous answer, anything that's not a firm YES I'm ready to marry and have a family, leave him. 3. if he's not doing anything for you, aka actively pursuing you. 4. if after a few months of consistent dating your relationship hasn't progressed at all or progressed very very slowly. 5. ask him what he loves about you, if he only lists the things that benefit him, he's with you for the relationship benefit, not because he loves you.

[@heneverforesakesme4038]

this is very good advice...pay attention, especially to the young ladies. Because I don't want to see another generation stepped on and discarded.

[@truthseeker3967]

relationship benefits means sex without marriage- when a woman gives her body, she gives her soul. God has boundaries for a reason.

[@returnoftheromans6726]

Very good points to keep in mind!

[@manifest2203]

Also, remember that a lot of men are very good liars and manipulators.

[@fayepatrice1672]

I will add that he will marry you if he needs to marry you to keep you and there’s something about you he values. Like if you have good finances, good contacts, you’re more beautiful than most women he can access, he wants a mother for his children, etc. a man will marry you to “possess” you and your resources even if he doesn’t love you.

[@rufl8222]

That is very true. I dated someone that was not nice to me so I left. He contacted me 2 years ago and told me his was looking for me to marry me. I said but you got married already. He said yes, because she was there. They were best friends and he asked her to marry him and she took months before she said yes. I told him that he married the perfect person. He said no, I still love you and want to know how you feel about me. I said that is not important any more and he could not understand why I said its not important. I felt him hanging. I don't care to answer his question.

[@LarennPBel]

The last 2 lines 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@briana14333]

This is perfect. You left him with NO hope😃👏🏾 Some think there will always be a woman to hold his hand, but that time runs out for A LOT of them.

[@tinylittle1]

This was the perfect way to handle him. ❤ 🎉

[@LoveAndSnapple]

21:58 She’s ABSOLUTELY right. When you don’t perform your “function” anymore, especially as you get older, they’re mad that their toy is broken.

[@cp_honey]

What many descend to the moment the wife gets sick, how they let them die.. it's atrocious. Busy asking for sympathy for _himself_ instead of getting _any_ help for the wife - not even meds. The stuff I just observed.. Mad that their toy is broken, indeed. 😑

[@caramelcocoa234]

Going through this now. Sick for two weeks can’t keep my duties. I’m being stonewalled. At my lowest. Starting my strategy😂

[@kerrygold4719]

Yep especially when women get sick.look how men act's.hes toy is broken hell start searching for a new one or If He already has one all the time in the side..youll get replaced immediatly

[@sarahrobertson634]

We're appliances to them.

[@coconutwater4531]

This is sickening but true. They strong women along and torture them for decades until they internally make that decision. They rarely actually tell women they aren’t ready because the women wouldn’t waste their time.

[@dday3322]

🎯🎯🎯🎯

[@coconutwater4531]

*string women along

[@ruthmchuwen]

Women know, but have low self worth and 0 boundaries 😢

[@coconutwater4531]

@@ruthmchuwen they may know after a year with no proposal, but nobody is a mind reader to see a man’s intentions for the future if he’s lying about them from the beginning.

[@roshellegouldbourne787]

​@@coconutwater4531Get The Game: 41 shades of Men: The pursuit to subdue and use you by Princella Clark. You'll be able to tell what they want and move accordingly.

[@coconutwater4531]

I’ve seen this with black men except they are only ready after they’ve had a baby with the wrong woman and are looking to marry a free nanny to avoid child support and contribute to their household.

[@dday3322]

🎯🎯🎯

[@dumfriesspearhead7398]

Or more like several babies👶👶👶👶👶👶👶👶🚼🚼🚼🚼🚼

[@loveyourselffirst549]

Soooooo, true. Also, if their over 50, they are looking for a free nurse.

[@Hyear2030]

Jaime Foxx 😂

[@Ourown311]

Yep, and that's why I don't date babby daddys. He needs to fix the mistakes he made, by himself

[@soundsaboutright---]

7:18 dude is delusional. Marriage ABSOLUTELY benefits men more than women. He just needs to look up some data. But notice how he underscored the reality that men will drag a woman along in a "situationship" and presumably subpar relationships until the woman finally decides to break it off. I think this is also why women are more likely to file for divorce .

[@Hyear2030]

Some of these men are liars and want to gaslight women about reality. Men WILL STRING YOU ALONG, until they think they can get a better woman to trap and pull resources from.

[@DaintyAbby]

Im glad you caught that

[@LuckyMe-Zee]

Yes, think about this: if marriage only benefits to women when they divorce, than marriage doesn’t benefit us at all!

[@soundsaboutright---]

@@LuckyMe-Zee and it rarely befits women then either

[@elegantempress1395]

His entire spiel was so delusional. Black males are completely anti-manhood and have no idea how real men operate in this world. They are the only group of men who collectively avoid marriage and have done so for decades. They are literally a joke. They think they are some kind of prize when MOST of them are LIABILITIES 🥴

[@sangomoon5456]

Theres an episode from Sex in the City where Miranda says basically this, It called *the Cab light Theory*: Miranda Hobbes declared that men are like cabs: “When they're available, their light goes on. They wake up one day and decide they're ready to settle down, have babies, whatever, and they turn their light on. The next woman they pick up - boom! That's the woman they marry.

[@Elketjeable]

Haha that was my firstthought too!! I was wondering if anyone remembered that too!! Gladd to see someone did!!😁

[@briana14333]

Yesssssss! Cecelia Regina actually mentioned that in her stitched clip above.

[@IAMGROOT4EVA]

I talked about this several years ago. I didn't get a lot of responses because it was a foreign concept to women at the time. They argued with me about it. Now, I see that my way of thinking is just ahead of others, and they'll eventually catch up. It may be a few months later, or maybe even a few years, but they'll eventually see what it for what it is.

[@bunneywolf]

Agreed. I used to talk about "trainer" women before I knew better. Anoit how men will use a woman for his needs and desires or to come up. But she always gets replaced she was just training for when he gets what he really wants. In many cases he dogs her out to so called "get it all out of his system" before being slightly less awful to whoever hw actually marries. IF he actually marries at all. It could jist end up being another long term relationship you trained him for.

[@sarahrobertson634]

Don't be a practice marriage.

[@sonofhibbs4425]

👉🏻 And the men wonder why so many of them are getting divorced. 👈🏻

[@blondebeaker938]

I've lived this twice... was engaged in two long term relationships... one was 4 years the other was 3 years. I held these men down and did everything I was supposed to but never got the ring but the next girl got it months later.

[@sarahrobertson634]

Don't do that for males.

[@blondebeaker938]

@@sarahrobertson634 I've lived n learned

[@sarahrobertson634]

@@blondebeaker938 Good deal. It's all we can do. Good for you, sis. Don't ever give men much.

[@zvengeancezealot3540]

The whole women biological clock thing is a proven falsehood. When women and men are past a certain age it is a health risks for the baby(it also depends on the individuals health up keep). If you check the age range for men at sperm banks that would disprove that men have forever to procreate. I love your content!😁🖤

[@manifest2203]

Men don’t care about that at all. They are not risking their wombs for an unhealthy child. They don’t birth the child, don’t shed a single drop of blood or get their flesh torn. They aren’t going to raise that child- if they child has special needs the mothers job will be even more harder and soul crushing. It is upto women (young and older) to avoid older men. We need to spread more awareness to younger women on geriatric sperm. And yes, even sperm banks take sperm from men only until age 34.

[@ScissorN]

Dude said they can make healthy babies at 70years and i was like what school did you go to

[@sbusisiweshaba1715]

​​@@ScissorNand why would a responsible man want a child at 70? Who wants to be chasing after a 3 year old at that age. Are they going to be alive until the child gets to adulthood? It's kinda selfish. If they want kids, they should have them in their youth (if possible). Men have a biological clock too: sperm count and sperm health starts to decline at 40 and men have a lower life expectancy than women, physical energy and mental agility also starts to go down with age, issues like erectile dysfunction are more likely to arise too. That sounds like a biological clock to me.

[@ScissorN]

@@sbusisiweshaba1715 they dont care cause they make this babies for us , they dont help with raising em

[@23imsoawesome]

​@@sbusisiweshaba1715well that's what women are here for duuuh. Lol

[@officiallykayanna]

women should treat men like this: who can meet the role, the person dont matter, can he do the job and skip over the dude who cant and go to the dude who can. we will see how they like that

[@dumfriesspearhead7398]

Well isn't that what getting is about?

[@digitalbrandingservice7056]

booom

[@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living]

More women are taking this approach to their relationships, and you are correct - the men don’t like it. They’re choosing men for what the men can do for them, and if men can’t deliver, the women move along. Watch an episode of the Kendra G Show - 80% of these women ask for a man that is at a certain financial bracket and say that it’s a dealbreaker for them if that man isn’t at the level they’re asking for. Then go look at the comments from all the men who don’t qualify.

[@heneverforesakesme4038]

the young lady talking at 13:00, she is CORRECT. Ladies, we HAVE stop looking at potential. We have to look at the present. What is it, that is standing in front of you? Men are depending on women to build them up...we can't afford to do this anymore. Call a duck and duck, it's not a beautiful swan. We need to start deprograming this line of thinking and not being afraid or in fear of being alone and if we end up being alone, because the XY's never get it together, then pour into yourself and keep it moving, don't be in your 50's with regrets. Rather to be alone then to be stuck with a demon and to the gentleman that stated, we can procreate till 70, you are absolutely correct, you can, but let me advise that the BS that you see on T.V. is not a reality. Men that do this, have super money...AND seeds get old as well as eggs, it doesn't not stay young and fresh. If you have health problems, genetically that baby will as well, seeds are made every 64 days and every single day. Men are on a biological time clock as well.

[@likemycommentifyouwantareply]

The egg is the seed. Sperm is the fertilizer. Princella the Queenmaker reveals why his statement about biology being unfair pertains to men and not women. I hope to see any woman who reads this and decides to seek out the Queen over at the ark 🔥

[@returnoftheromans6726]

Honestly, if I have to build a man up, I do not respect him. This is not a build-a-bear workshop. He needs to be what I want to marry. He must have his own interests and hobbies outside of work; things he knows about because he learned them on his own. This I will respect. But a foolish man I can have no respect for.

[@fayepatrice1672]

So true. The children of older men are prone to genetic abnormalities like Down’s syndrome and other conditions like autism, just like with older women. They are also more likely to end in miscarriages, again just like older women. And men have fertility problems as they age too. Don’t let them pretend sperm is eternal.

[@sarahrobertson634]

Sperm banks have age limits. Women should also.

[@Hyear2030]

All the people saying "no" don't explain why it's not true and by the end of the video explain exactly what she said at the start. There are men who marry the woman in front of them, and everyone's afraid it's them! The man isn't going to make it obvious he's doing it.

[@Liz-wz8dh]

The man may not even be completely aware that he's doing it sometimes. They feel social pressure as well.

[@SW-oc2pp]

This isn't always the case, but this definitely happens. I had an ex who sent me a letter a few weeks before his wedding asking for me back. I said no; he went on to marry her and they ultimately got divorced a few years and one child later.

[@lifeis2171]

I don't get it, you mean like he was forces.

[@Stormy867]

That’s crazy! I had an old d call me the day after he got engaged trying to hook up with me. The bastard didn’t know I knew about his slick engagement

[@lifeis2171]

@Nvvvvvvvvv I feel bad for the wife....or fiancé. You know, once he gets married, it's about to be on and popping with the side chicks. Lol I'm sure he has more.

[@bodhisattva2348]

She was his karma 😂

[@tq325]

Wow! Unbelievable 😅

[@Morgan24_7]

I was friends with siblings. The sister asked her brother why he chose the woman he was with. His reply? She was there. She wasn't beautiful, she was considerably older than him, she wasn't well put together. She was there. My brother got his wife pregnant. Had she not gotten pregnant, there would be no marriage. He's miserable 20 years and 5 kids later. He's a great father, good husband and she's mean to him, but...she was there, and he got her pregnant.

[@JSOkayThen]

The man at 7:11 told the biggest lie, that marriage doesn't benefit men. In traditional and non traditional roles it 100% does. Besides often people do what benefits then.

[@digitalbrandingservice7056]

They marry who is available to be used and for the least.

[@mariahg.6811]

Maybe that is your experience. And I am sorry if that is the case. But men marry women when they are ready and they marry women whom they envision as their wife and mother of their children. Not every woman they date will meet that criteria.

[@katiepop3442]

Absoulutely, I have seen men give up wonderful successful beautiful women and then marry someone 5 years later with a drug problem cause she showed up when he was ready...True story!!!

[@monicacreator3168]

Sounds like the placeholder girlfriend theory

[@rob_cd]

Recently an ex from back in the day told me he could've made it work with any of his exes if he'd been grown enough. I thought that was very telling.

[@HighFrequencyGuru]

They marry the one with the most resources that they can use to get their needs met who is willing to drain themselves. There’s no such thing as soul mates unless you want to create that concept in your own mind.

[@l0111]

💯 they’re the real gold diggers but somehow shame women for moving like they do.

[@omphilemoerane2569]

​@@l0111one thing I've realised about men in the past couple of months is that they project A LOT They are the ones who are afraid of dying alone and they're the goal diggers😂

[@briana14333]

Absolutamente. They attach themselves to the woman that will do the most with the least resistance.

[@LoveAndSnapple]

7:07 I don’t want to hear any blaming coming from a man who admits to just using a woman for what he wants and telling her that she should have known what it was. Because men can’t take what they dish out.

[@sarahrobertson634]

They can dish it out but they can't take it.

[@rastamuff1]

This is the truth I spent 12 years casually dating an Italian man who always lived in Italy. All his friends from his peer group started to marry, buy land and have families. He was the last on left to work it out. When the pandemic was over, he was in my face trying to strong arm me into moving to Italy, and having a family. I said no. If it was going to happen for us it would have happened long ago. His friends and family pressuring HIM was what made him want to take the jump. I was just a vehicle to the destination. It was a NO from me and he’s now blocked so I can move on with my life peacefully without any guilt tripping.

[@BuffaloJenny79]

In the region of the world where I currently live, many guys announce that they’re going to ‘find’ a wife. So, this is totally true most often because of familial and societal pressures. Also, I think because these men want to have their ‘landing place’ while continuing to live their lives and have fun like they were still single. The women don’t seem to care as much, so long as the guy pays the bills and buys them what they want. They can’t live their lives like when they were single, because now they are wives and mothers. To each their own, but I’d much rather work on getting my own 💰and y’all keep that stress!

[@user-dq9rr9mv3f]

At the end of the day, I don’t give any shits about who my ex dates/married after our relationship is over.. I dont keep contact with, nor do I check up on, or follow any of my exes on social media.. They are literally dead to my brain..Wish them the best and move on with life.. Also, they wouldn’t be in any position have access to me to even say, o let a good one go..

[@shylapollard5165]

For the guy talking about how marriage doesnt benefit the man. It actually does. You now have a care taker, and on top of that, men who are married get promotions much quicker than unmarried men. Bc unmarried men play too much at work. Sleeping with HR or supervisors, or their employees. Then they get a harassment case.

[@marydabiri2713]

Is surprises me so much with red pillars that if they bothered to do any type of research they would know that marriage benefits men more than it does women.

[@gjinkalla23]

💯 seen it in all companies I've worked. Everyone knows they just pretend they don't! HR has to be relevant and justify it's existence 😂 Poor ladies they have to make a career move in hard times. But most of them are married or already on long relationships...poor single laddies they are played by both sides as a punching bag or captain save a hoe😂

[@manifest2203]

It’s far more than this. They get free domestic servant (cook, maid, laundry worker, errand woman), free surrogate and free nanny, free exclusive s3x and free caregiver for life which usually ends with end of life care for that man but the wife never gets it from the husband. There are many other social capital factors too like the one you mentioned and many more.

[@gjinkalla23]

@@manifest2203 slavery served as acceptable social status

[@gensai93]

Married men play around just as much. I think they only get paid more because they come across as needing it more due to "supporting a family".

[@pink1237480]

I never really thought of it like that actually. I thought my ex married his wife because he really loved and wanted to. However nothing in life is ever that simple and that includes men. The black man in this video I can see where he's coming from but again it's not that simple it never is.

[@Madelena714]

Love this video! Thank you for sharing! What she said about men leaving women when they get cancer hit home for me. Over the last 15years I had 3 BF’s leave me when I needed them the most. My daughters father abandoned me curbside at the hospital. One boyfriend left me two days after I had surgery. Another boyfriend left me emotionally immediately after I had surgery he went back to the clubs, but he actually broke up with me two weeks after my surgery. He said he was waiting until I was more fully recovered but that he had already planned it before I went into surgery. I definitely believe men are looking at women at face value and weather she fits into his life and what that looks like in that very moment, and that’s why the guys I have dated only wanted to have fun and keep it casual. but I’ll tell you I have the last laugh as I have seen how many of my ex’s lives have unfolded. and I’m happy and single with full custody of my daughter. And they have shit marriages they rushed into that they’re unhappy in. Multiple baby mamas and a girlfriend, none of which he is currently married to. One who got himself unalived. and my last one I’m pretty sure is a DL man. still waiting to laugh at his life choices, because I seem to be at my healthiest when I’m single and they keep making their situations worse and worse. I’m no longer centering men, because they have proven to me they really truly do only center themselves, and what’s convenient, and easy for them. any sign of something difficult or to much responsibility they bail. any guy that I meet who has had long-term relationships and can’t say he’s been in love before is a red flag for me. What’s not to say I am the next girl, he’s gonna waste 3-5yrs on and won’t want to commit. no thanks. also can not stand watching all the men I date commit to the next woman they date after me. not gonna lie still laughing though. when I look at the list I feel pretty damn glad to be single and glad I did not end up in any of those situations with them.

[@msmarcia8972]

Men & women marry the person who says “yes” at the time they were asked. Sometimes it’s not their first choice.

[@truthseeker3967]

I asked my uncle once " when will a man get married" and he answered -"men get married when they are ready". Just like the initial stitch.

[@ruthmchuwen]

Men stay in long term relationship, and not commit because they still believe they can level up. Once he levels up he will settle with the girl he thought he couldn’t afford before (his dream girl), but can now.. get it? You just a placeholder..

[@tq325]

Sad truth!

[@republicofjupiter]

My first partner did that to me. Left me hanging for 8 years waiting for marriage and when I realised he used me all that time I left him all of a sudden and started going out with my current partner. As soon as I left him he started crying and was harrasing my friends for two years to find me! Once you upset me you're out 😂

[@angelicaangel2624]

Men know within days to weeks if a woman is the one. If you're dating him for over a year or living together for over a year or two max, you're not the one. He may very well propose and marry you. He might even smile and gush over you on the wedding day. Make no mistake, you are STILL not the one. Even after kids and decades of anniversaries you are STILL not the one. He couldn't get who he wanted so he settled for you. He cashed out in case you were the best he could do. I know men who said they knew within seconds he was going to marry his now wife. Seconds!

[@sbusisiweshaba1715]

Alot of women also settle for men they didn't initially want, I think it's just a human thing. Some people find their dream partner, others settle and some live happily, while others still end up broken up, even if it was their dream partner.

[@angelicaangel2624]

@@sbusisiweshaba1715 of course we settle too. I truly believe the divorce rate is so high because most of us are not with the person we really wanted. At the end of the day women only deal with the men who ask them out...propose etc and men can only deal with the women who say yes to being asked out or yes to a proposal. We are all settling in a way.

[@sbusisiweshaba1715]

@@angelicaangel2624 That's true, but even if we ended up with the person we really wanted, would it really lower the divorce rate? I'm asking this because of the complexities of human beings. The dream partner might still end up doing annoying things or end up being incompatible in some areas or they might still hurt us in some way, cause they still wouldn't be perfect. I'm saying this because, some people are very aware of core elements they require in a partner that are essential to make a long term relationship work, with regard to their personality traits and their needs, other people are vague and shallow when it comes to looking for qualities in their dream partners. So in certain aspects some people are actually better off with people they think they settled for, cause they might end up building a successful happy relationship, compared to people they thought they wanted (dream partner), whom they wouldn't have worked out with in the long term in some situations, not all.

[@angelicaangel2624]

@@sbusisiweshaba1715 I see your point. Maybe the dissatisfaction is in thinking you have settled and what might have been even if the "dream person" wouldn't have been compatible with them long term. Maybe we just want who we can't have, the unobtainable. I've seen men pine after women who are less objectively attractive than their now wife merely because that woman rejected them. We ladies do that too.

[@insideAdirtyMind]

marrying and not knowing the partner for a certain time sets a woman up for abuse. A lot of abusive marriages are set after just some monthes of being together. It is to string the woman along as soon as possible.

[@reginayfavors]

I'm tired. I will remain in my healing season. I choose peace.

[@snwngl2261]

I realized that I don't even want to get married and have children 😅

[@Nitra813]

There’s nothing wrong with that. It’s quite common. I knew I wasn’t the long term girlfriend type but I also recognized that I wasn’t ready for marriage either.

[@xxwoman]

Welcome to freedom! 🥹

[@snwngl2261]

@@xxwoman thank youuu 🥹

[@gravityclarity]

This is so true! Men just marry whoever happens to be with them at the time they feel like getting married. I don't think men are really capable of love.

[@sarahrobertson634]

They're really not.

[@Raddiebaddie]

@7:13 sirrrrrr got it backwards. Marriage almost exclusively benefits men

[@SylisDaGoldenPeach]

I’m not looking to marry at all , if I ever decide I want kids I’ll get a surrogate or go to the sperm bank , I am done looking for male validation because in the end all males seem to prefer mainly women who are non black , they seem to settle with black women if they couldn’t get there first preferences or when there broke and know that us black women have more sympathy then women of other races , I can’t go to men of the dominate society for acceptance because they created the beauty standard that oppresses me to this day , I just think it’s best to love yourself and move on with life cuz nothing you say will guilt a man into putting a ring on your finger if he even just slightly feels like he can do much better than you

[@teresam5199]

All males don't prefer non-Black women, plenty of men prefer Black women. Date out and up ❤

[@khrisi9410]

You said a word regarding validation from the dominate society that doesn't include us. Got me over here about to give you a standing ovation 😂

[@valerietheawkwardartist]

There's hope I see men of all races dating and marrying black women. It also depends on where you live. On the west coast everybody is mixed these days.

[@salsipuedes8425]

I am mexican and i am on a toxic relationship i am trying to leave my boyfriend has made clear him liking white women blonde hair and blue eyes and im none of that i have fair skin but dark hair and dark eyes he made me feel insecure i never felt like this before i really think men have a fetish for white women

[@khrisi9410]

@@salsipuedes8425 this is typical behavior from men who are codependent and insecure. One of the biggest ways they try to control a woman is by making her feel unwanted undesirable and less than so she'll beg for his validation and approval thus creating an emotional trauma bond with her. If he can convince you he's the prize then you'll desperately cling to him and thus you give him the validation that he's special, that he's needed, desired, wanted. He also receives reassurance you won't abandon him. Please remember to leave quietly, safety is very important. Do not tell him you're leaving him and once you're gone don't go back. Men are becoming more and more violent towards women that leave them.

[@haute03]

The woman in red who spoke at 2:47 was 100% correct. Everything she said was on point.

[@insomnia9999]

Men marry when they’re ready to marry.

[@digitalbrandingservice7056]

yes, and thats why 80% of married women were girl sucking friends for 3 to 5 years. They will drag you out for aslong as possible, then just accept their fate.

[@Sociedadematriarcal]

Yeah these heartless animals don’t have feelings

[@MissKashira]

Ya'll are underestimating men. Men aim to marry the best woman they believe they can get. They don't magically "feel ready." What women don't seem to understand is that a man will live with you, make babies with you and in the back of his mind think, "I can do better." And if he thinks that way, he won't marry you most of the time. Sometimes he loses hope and throws a shut up ring at you. Convincing women that a man will marry them if they just wait, will have women in the same holding pattern for 20 years waiting for him to be ready and then after they break up he'll marry the next girl within six months.

[@Hyear2030]

My friends parents were together for 20 years! 20 years! He never married her. Once my friend turned 18, his dad left his mother, moved in with a woman of his choice within 4 months and was trying to strong arm the new woman into marriage. He complained about his mom for years, he always spoke about her as if he was settling and dropped hints. Women don't understand that a man can sleep with you, have kids with you, live with you, date you, all of this for years, and still think hes too good for you and ditch. We have to start sharing stories.

[@bunneywolf]

That 1 of many types of men. Because let's be honest. What is the "best" type of woman? Not the ones they claim are the best or all the mammies would be married. So what is the definition of "best woman"? Is it looks, loyalty, intelligence, career, servitude, seggs? What is it. And as a woman who can answer that? There is no such thing as the best woman he can get. Men have to respect women before that can be a thing and most of them do not.

[@khrisi9410]

Believe women are woke at least on this channel they are. Men will only do what a woman will allow. Yes a man will waste yrs with a woman but he can only do that with her permission. I encourage women to start taking full accountability for her choices ie fault for what's happening to her and then internalize what's happening to her by asking herself why she's showing up for a man that dog walks her. If she's being her best self and his response to her being a wonderful girlfriend is to dog walk her, ignore her, not give to her, treat her poorly, treat her like an option then she has to make the decision to choose herself. Side note, give him a yr and exit if he's not prioritizing you.

[@truthseeker3967]

@@khrisi9410 this can be avoided by no sex before or outside of marriage. And by marriage, I mean actual signing of a contract - not a private ceremony or promise to marriage or "engagement" - A young woman at a bank I go to is pregnant wit her second child, has a 2 year old already, and referred to her fiance as her future husband. Blood -boiling.

[@khrisi9410]

@@truthseeker3967 there are no guarantees but certainly no sex has its advantages.

[@gothichippielovechild3198]

Homie saying marriage doesn’t benefit men doesn’t know wtf he’s talking about 🙄 he’s clearly never read any of the studies or stats about men’s life & longevity increasing, how women do the majority of housework and childcare and still contribute to the bills or are often the breadwinner herself. He’s literally just stating his own opinion.

[@courtneyharris1006]

He's 100% right

[@iamoverit4905]

Even the bible says blessed is he who finds a WIFE but I have yet to come across a bible verse that says a woman is blessed to have a husband...I wonder why 😂 🤔

[@shanitamorenita]

Its true. I went out with a guy who used to buy me gifts, groceries and even take care of me when I was sick. I thought we were getting serious but he said he’s not ready for a relationship at that time. Few months later he was travelling a lot to Brazil. He met a young lady and got married 💔 I wish him well but it still bothers me even though I wasn’t heavily invested in him. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@adarateranroldan]

My Mom used to say this growing up

[@Daug555]

“..now his focus is on getting a maid, mattress and mule.”There, fixed it for you.

[@officiallykayanna]

they need to bring the Korean 4B movement to the states cause the conceitedness in the men is just 😷 💩

[@LukeRev480]

Bee saying that Korean Women are ahead of all of us

[@brooklynbabe718]

Please explain.

[@ivoriandoll8532]

@@brooklynbabe718 coming back to this comment when I get an explanation😁

[@manifest2203]

Korean women’s 4B movement stands for women shunning all forms of catering to men. It stands for no to dating, no to s3x, no to marriage, no to child bearing and rearing. These women even avoid platonic relationships with men. They also shun all beauty standards and most of them have short hair and wear comfortable clothing which is not feminine at all.

[@nbucwa6621]

@@LukeRev480 korean women are not at all ahead of anyone. Women can't even decide their own hairstyle in that country without the approval of men or they risk being assaulted.

[@Acehigh-Jenkins]

Just a point on make fertility it also declines with age and the quality of sperm and chance of birth defects from that sperm increases with age. Esp after 40! Men r on a clock too but of course this doesn’t get widely circulated!

[@gabrielleabraham5773]

Exactly and facts

[@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living]

Yes, this is a myth that a man can procreate until the day that he dies. Men go through andropause, where the quality and strength of their sperm deteriorates as they age. The stories about people like Al Pacino, Robert Deniro, Mick Jagger and the late Tony Randall becoming fathers over 65 are very rare. Holly Madison said in her memoir that she and Hef tried to have a baby, but they couldn’t because Hef’s sperm was no longer potent.

[@briana14333]

Exactly. I learned about this in college having a deaf roommate whose sister was diabetic. Their docs said it was because of their daddy’s old age.

[@nicolebrown5987]

That sucks!!! No one wants to be a placeholder. That's a horrible feeling

[@ToriHarris-lb6zg]

What kills me is that these dudes will get into a convenient marriage and then will have the nerve to complain about the messy divorce that almost inevitably follows.

[@gravityclarity]

8:12 is correct. In general, women should ask a man why he likes her. You'll see that most of them don't even like you. If all he can say is "I like you because you're pretty and nice," I'm sorry, but that's not a good reason. There are myriad pretty and nice women. That is not unique.

[@divaliciousliving7543]

Truth ..my brother showed how much he placehold women for year's!!! .. some young chippy recently shut that down.. hes in his 50s .. i applauded her she gave just under 2yrs .. deuces

[@keptbygrace6221]

I think the point women are missing is that for men marriage is not about love nor is it about finding "the one". Marriage is about creating a legacy/family. Period. We might not like it because we think differently, but it is what it is 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@cha8791]

I dated a man, who wanted to marry me so soon, even though he was in a previous long term relationship. Yeah, because he is already ready, has resources, but most importantly, he marry based on how useful I am to him. The ex gf has the same nationality as him, also wrecked her uterus in a car accident making her infertile. And here I am, s smart, young, intelligent and successful woman, can give him a permanent resident visa after marriage and capable of having a child. Did he want to marry me because he loves me? Hell no. He still loves his ex. But why not marry his ex instead? Well, she's technically useless for him. Good thing I didn't buy to his tricks.

[@Random.sachen1]

He would've gotten you, the visa and the kids, then break up to bring the ex lol

[@cha8791]

@@Random.sachen1 this is the worst ugghh.

[@leedlbagginshield8492]

To be fair, most women wouldn’t marry a man who has no use for her either

[@kantik2118]

Marriages and relationships/ Situationships are literally the same. Both are made for women they wanna use. Men just marry the woman who serves them and they don't want her to escape. Many women confuse marriage and love. Marriage isn't about love, marriage isn't about being the one either. I😢t's just a labor contract to be used

[@BlackMaven528]

I think there is truth to it especially because I've had a couple of guy friends tell me that is essentially what they did

[@LisaSoulLevelHealing]

Men can be pretty straight forward.

[@ypanso]

that last dude he is righton point we need to free ourselves from social programming ASAP. and I think in general it's totally true, i refused marriage 3 times and they married the first girl that looked their way withing a short time. most men do not have deep thoughts or complex emotions (compred to most women) they are just about finding the path of least resistance and put as less effort as possible, and they never grow up =) whenever u see midlife couples, the woman looks much older than the man... i think thats preety cool and im like that too so i dont want to marry bc than ill be depandent on a 40 year old child also NO KIDS thank u

[@heneverforesakesme4038]

no, I disagree. He is a master manipulator. Men reproduce till they are 70. yes, they can, but the chances of the child having health issues greatly multiplies! old seeds are the same as old eggs. Listen to what he is saying...if what he is saying is true, then why aren't men that are 33 to 35 dating and marrying women the same age? No, they go and get a 21 to 25 year old and steal from the men in that generation. So basically, what he was saying with a grin on his face: we will screw ya when you are young and string you along, but we have our heart set on the woman ten years younger when we are ready to settle down. I know a man that did this, he used woman after woman after woman and married a younger woman, about nine years younger than him at 37. The wife died and now he is 50 with a 12 year old...HOW STUPID....he doesn't have the energy and when he lost his job, he is now having the financial difficulties to make it. He stressed out his wife which caused her to get sick. He made his bed, now he can lie in it.

[@celebritytarotreading3545]

I have seen the kindest and the healthiest men wouldn’t dare to settle down ( only if he is masculine enough and understand the society is still hard for women and they will be the provider majority of time) if they are not ready no matter how wonderful loving and caring you are. If you arr lucky you will meet the love of your life when he is ready. The timing is different for everyone. Some are ready at 22 some are ready at 32 some are ready at 42. But for him to give you commitment he needs to be ready. Simple and done deal. So just pray to God to bring you the love of your life work on yourself instead of complaining about men. Its not their fault. Its their default programming.

[@isthisreallystillathing5060]

Why is it ALWAYS a black man talking about “marriage doesn’t benefit men, especially if we make more money than you”; while also knowing most black women financially date DOWN.

[@gravityclarity]

That guy was so full of shit! Lol. Marriage as an institution was created to benefit men. And it still does.

[@Tijggie82]

I hate the 'real men' stuff. The other men are also real men. Who have learned to dehumanize women. To look at women as a goal, or a means to an end.

[@mandybutler8880]

Hey. I'm 54. I've seen a lot. Yes I say it is true.

[@Balgees24]

I have to agree with the first lady. He dumped me after years and message me from nowhere that he getting married. I move on and after years he reached out to me and telling me I'm the one got away. And he said he settled in. I told him he has to live by decision he made. The break up was harsh and I'm happy I didn't ran into someone else and worked on myself.

[@lexa_power]

I think it’s 100% true. Check out the scene from Sex and the city about taxi cabs and men. Women are born with their lights on (we always search for marriage) versus men can drive around for their entire lives with their lights off (emotionally unavailable/ commitment phobe) and then one day turn their light on and marries whoever is available. So true. It’s sad but that’s just how it is.

[@fisf.2148]

I went on holiday for ten days to celebrate my birthday in Africa and i was hosted by an elderly lady who had a one year old grand daughter. The child's father and I spoke very openly about marriage and his life as a married man of 18 months. With his wife and mother in law right there, he said that he was never in love when he got married and he hated being married. We spoke for over three hours and he couldn't answer at all why he got married to his completely miserable wife; he just said "i got the urge to get married and we got engaged the first week we met".

[@taurusDIVA1979]

This is exactly how men go about marriage... I've heard this before in a different saying years ago...... "Women are looking for the one... For men "the one" is whomever is there when he's ready to settle down" ........ I know so many men who are still in love with the one that got away or someone else while married to another person. For a man , a woman just needs to be what he deems as basically marriageable (ie. He can make a stable life with her) when he's ready yo do it.

[@gravityclarity]

Second woman was spot on!

[@EnzoIsabella]

Its true. They do....even if they dont love them.....they marry them.

[@RickRorose]

When he thinks he’s at a good place, achieved his goals, and thinks he’s able financially and situationally to have a wife, and realizes he ain’t getting any younger, then whoever is in front of him gets the ring. Saw it with my brother. And it doesn’t matter what she can do for him neither so ladies don’t worry about putting yourself on the chopping block of a table to prove your worth, he won’t marry you if he isn’t at that place. But once he is, he’ll grab whoever is around that’s not worth half of what you had shown him. Trust

[@DWPersianExcursion]

Love and support from Texas ❤

[@lovelykiyah7415]

THE CONTRADICTORY‼️‼️‼️ of the third video ‼️‼️

[@ginachucheong7053]

Best to not have any expectations just enjoy the relationship and they will wonder why u are not desperate and want u to be with them because u act like u don’t care about the future with them. Let them do the thinking, and if u find the fun is leaving, move on. 😊from a woman on her second marriage😘

[@briana14333]

Sound advice. This is exactly how my last situation ended. He was mentioning marriage and buying land for us on the 2nd date. I was not impressed but enjoyed his company. He was confused.

[@RickRorose]

If men aren’t ready they shouldn’t pretend that they are. And they are pretending that they are because of the benefits. I don’t know how you can use another human being like that.

[@SatipatthanaSakuraDragona]

That therapist completely missed the point (surprise, surprise). The original creator wasn't saying that men have to go through many relationships before they are ready for commitment. She was saying that when men are ready to commit to marriage, practically any woman will do. She's upset because we're socialized to believe that if someone wants to marry you, it is because of who you are as a human being and that you are not easily exchangeable with practically any other woman off the street.

[@rosary-os5yw]

She was so fake & full of bs

[@gjinkalla23]

Yes they do, both genders! The most shocking case I've witnessed is a co-worker of mine who broke up with her fiance and a month latter got married with a man who had just broken up with a woman he lived 5 years and had recently aborted their child! He got bored because she was depressed and got married for just one month people, had a baby within the same year, it might be love?

[@lacheregriffin-denton9946]

It's not a matter of them growing though because it's not a matter of them changing their character per se is a matter of them. Just deciding. I'm ready to get married now and then jumping up and marrying the first woman that they have some type of connection with and usually that connection is purely sexual and once that connection is going, usually that relationship will end up in divorce. That is what she's talking about, so I'm confused on where some of these comments are coming from, like the comment of the marriage counselor that was a female. We're not talking about somebody developing by dating and then getting to the point of marriage and then marrying the woman that they're currently involved with. We're talking about men who just jump up and decide, I'm at a certain age and it's time for me to settle down and get married. So the first girl that I meet that I feel like meets a certain criteria that I have. I'm going to marry her And usually those marriages don't work. Why because he got married for the wrong reason or had the wrong expectation of marriage.

[@sadejones6657]

These are my thoughts... Men think women are interchangeable it he is with u and it's good he like I don't need to commit cause if she leaves then I'll find someone else. If he finds someone better he doesn't commit cause he's thinking the same thing. If he finds someone worse he's like let me commit because next time I might get some one even worse. So the get married

[@dumfriesspearhead7398]

Mmmm............. I think women underestimate how hard it is for men out in the dating market. It's harder for a man to get any attention from a woman, let alone be with someone who fulfils his needs. That's why men don't get off a bus, unless they can see another one coming along.🚎🚎🚎🚎

[@yukisuperstylish]

We are not the same so do men. If he married someone else doesn’t mean anything in specific. He might regret it later you never know. If he didn’t choose to marry you maybe you didn’t give him what he wanted so don’t overthink about something you can’t change just don’t give anyone else more than what they deserve

[@marlyd]

Glad I don't want to live with a partner, marry or have kids. My partnerships are just about connection, compatibility, love, support, intimicy and shared experiences. Nothing else.

[@SassyS2442]

This is true!!! It has NOTHING TO DO WITH THE OTHER WOMAN BEING BETTER!

[@Babycreamedcat]

God 2:51 is so true. I’m fully convinced my ex saw me as marriage material (contextually I could tell he was truly about me and I don’t think he’s dated anyone since things ende) but purely because he’s not ready (which he also flat out told me) he left. I hope he regrets it for the rest of his life.