Men's Mental Health Is in the Wrong Hands

[@SajiSharma]

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[@A1Snoided]

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[@brownzoomer]

bruh im not even a Hamza fan but stop misrepresenting Hamza's views lol. His is a specific type of philosophy that works for men and women who are traditional & have polarity. Your philosophy is not necessarily better or worse compared to his, it's just different

[@elieshasong9414]

@@brownzoomer I can't lie the Hamcest fans are right. Hamcest is a way of life and his way works, his drake like philosophy is inspiring. In fact, imagine. Imagine we're all yellow and like bananas, imagine we all say bello. Imagine, you look at your woman and treat her like your daughter. Imagine two yellow minions kissing, imagine they're sharing sex and then afterwards he walks away because he can't talk to the feminion so the maminion walks away and he can't burden the female minion with problems about banana interest rates so THEN they birth a babinion a baby minion, a little banana liker and then AND THEN the fatherinion looks at the daughter and the mominion and thinks that their relationships are the same. So is this not minioncest? the minion is no different to an animal who cannot articulate the difference between the power dynamic of a spouse or offspring. SO, what is the whole point of this argument, you just read about minions giving birth, how about you take this time to go outside and touch grass. And maybe speak to a woman and have a genuine conversation, maybe be the minion you never had.

[@brownzoomer]

​@@elieshasong9414 🤡 You ain't foolin anybody online, acting like you have a social life and shi 🤣YOU gotta go outside and touch grass

[@brownzoomer]

​@@elieshasong9414 Also you ain't foolin anybody with that fake account acting like you have a social life, stop it 🤡 YOU should take your own advice: Go outside and Touch grass, talk to a woman🤣

[@Ria-sd2ex]

"Treat your GF like your daughter", is Drake levels of dangerously bad advice.

[@tjenadonn6158]

He's trying to strike a chord.

[@mirimariana]

​@@tjenadonn6158 And it's probably A Minorrrrrrr

[@justinlindfors8512]

I mean if she wants to call you daddy what's wrong with calling her mommy?

[@cocovcoco]

WOP WOP WOP WOP

[@skrunklycreationz]

@@justinlindfors8512this is the opposite of calling her mommy

[@queridolovesbees9536]

One of my favorite thing about videos saying “it’s not pride month, it’s men’s mental health month” are the fact that they are completely forgetting the amount of Queer men that also have mental health struggles. Like we can celebrate/spread awareness for both 😭

[@wellersonoliveira5334]

True, like that no f@p sthick, they dont seem to focus on straight women, or bi/g@y men. Also, its just about being ashamed of their own s*xu@lity, it reeks a strong connection to abrahamic dogmas.

[@K_whatever24]

FR, a lot of people I see talking about mens mental health month have to add some little point, jab if you will about how it's pride month even though it's unnecessary

[@sushiroll3795]

I often joke that us queer men get stacking buffs during June.

[@aidanl7711]

fr like do we have to stop celebrating christmas because of national pumpkin pie day

[@youre764]

Me when I have to stop celebrating my birthday so we can do leukemia awareness month 🙄

[@funclelou]

it's crazy bc I've never met a woman that likes emotionally immature men. like most of the women I've talked to find emotional intelligence and awareness SUPER attractive. people over the age of 20 don't like guys that are emotionally constipated

[@grapestastelikecheese]

They need to start calling therapy an emotional laxative.

[@xwat9459]

oh i guess it's not a problem to guys like them, they probably don't want women over 20 😭

[@LondonMoneyCashEnterprise]

There are no women that like emotionally unintelligent men but many women end up dating emotionally unintelligent men unfortunately

[@k4tzxbeel0vedz]

REALL OMGGG its so funny to look at these guys meanwhile the most popular men i know are fully comfortable with being vulnerable and emotional lol

[@Field-of-Clovers]

I was in a relationship with a guy who never talked about how he was really doing and it tore me apart because I genuinely cared about him and something was obviously wrong but he just kept saying that everything was fine. I even started doubting myself. He eventually opened up a little bit but it was too late by that point and he had already pulled away. I'm pretty sure he cheated on me too. Communication about the most basic things, like how you're doing is imperative for any relationship because it's just going to fall apart otherwise

[@nolav9280]

Something I really hate about the conversation around men's mental health is that the solution is always *romantic relationships*. They frame women (And thereby straight relationships) as the primary culprit for men's loneliness epidemic. This completely erases how complex this issue actually is. Entirely ignoring men's need for stronger PLATONIC relationships and the growing anxiety over the state of the economy. This ultimately dehumanizes men further (by negating that they are in fact not just powered by lust and dominance) and repeats the cycle they claim to want to break. EDIT: I just saw another comment mention this and I thought it was very poignant. This conversation is almost completely centred around cis-straight men and fails to mention that a huge addition to the men's mental health crisis is actually queer/trans men.

[@sushiroll3795]

Yup. As an aroace guy, this always bothered me, too. Society really devalues platonic relationships in favor of romantic/sexual ones all the time, which not only contributes to loneliness but also leads to the all-too-common issue of men's partners being the only emotional outlets in their lives, which causes a whole host of problems.

[@komal146]

i have always advocated for male mental health even when boys were being all "emotions are gay". But something about this current movement felt always off. Like, there is this subtle blame on women(cis or otherwise) to fix it through sexual validation (exclusively for cis guys btw). same shit is happening with the Compliments and Loneliness talking points. whats worse is that now they have begun to spun this into "find a purpose instead of talking t your bros." purpose being the same old materialistic alpha bro shit. and ofc, only cis straight guys are included here.

[@sellase12]

Exactly. Human connection is beneficial for mental health but they always find a way to circle it back to women/dating. Idk why they don't give a thought to friendships or reaching out to family to improve wellbeing

[@ashelfishisttortle]

Yuppp. As a comment above mentioned. “Emotions are gay” is a terrible mindset. It forces a suppression of emotions and hinders platonic connections. It’s almost as if being pride directly addresses that. Feeling comfortable exploring and expressing yourself as you are. The same binary hyper masculine standards that are depressing to tackle, are a direct result of that misogynistic and patriarchal system. Go to therapy guys. tell your bros you love them. Take care

[@franciscodelcampo3164]

as a straight cis gendered man i 100% agree that men need better platonic relationships and not just with men but with women a lot of men need to stop looking at women as things to fuck or something to conquer but as equal someone to learn from, someone to laugh and have fun with. I personally believe that every guy should have female friends and vice versa it opens up a whole new world that you would otherwise never be exposed to. I agree with the other half of how gay/trans men are also a huge part of the men's mental health conversation but the reason you dont see it talked about more is because no one really cares which is incredibly sad

[@noelle7485]

Can confirm, I had an open honest conversation with my wife, showed her a very vulnerable side of me. Now I am a woman... Still married though.

[@De_Selby]

That's... fucking based.

[@tjenadonn6158]

Well ain't that just the sweetest thing I've read all day.

[@MossTunic]

if i'm not missing anything & this is as literal as i think it is, congrats! that's amazing, noelle! life is beautiful, love is real 🥹🥰

[@Bleplebeian]

Trans pride! i think? im not sure if that's what this comment is about but either way, congrats!

[@frowningcats]

based!!! so happy for you and ur wife 🎉🎉

[@themensoguidetowar]

If your relationship is a competition to see who is dominant and who is submissive it probably sucks

[@kfishert]

unless that's a consentual part of the power dynamic the two of you forge together, at least.

[@doingitwelldotbiz]

@@kfishert when you're both switches, this is most nights

[@haruk2312]

​@@kfishertthat sounds exhausting and dangerous

[@Iamhere829]

​@@kfishert bro please... There's a lot to a relationship outside of the bedroom.. Just saying.. No one should be 'submissive' to other person.. Not generally in relationships.. Not ever ..

[@georgecrumb8442]

Studies show that conservatives have better relationships (both men and women) and are more satisfied with their relationships. Maybe you need to change.

[@greenhowie]

You have no idea how relieved I am to see this wasn't sponsored by Betterhelp. It's like they get a free pass at being terrible because they sponsor left-leaning channels.

[@MossTunic]

in my opinion, betterhelp absolutely targets queer people with the way they advertise & have features that make it seem queer friendly, but they leak patients info & i have repeatedly seen queer people get paired with bigoted "therapists". this is terrifying what could be done with these people's personal information that is shared during therapy. doesn't matter if it's illegal, if someone's private info said during therapy or their gender/ orientation gets out, it's out & there are permanent consequences to that.

[@Pratt11]

Anthony Padilla is sold out at the point, Glad to see my brown brother not doing it 🙏🌈

[@anabelsama]

And let's never, ever forget the founder is an IDF soldier, and they are super pro genocide

[@buttpuddle7150]

@@anabelsamawhoa dude I did not know that!!!

[@isthiscereallife]

Betterhelp is a scam and so are its competitors

[@WildLmaoplane]

"Believe me, random guy in a hoodie, over what your own literal partner says"

[@wellersonoliveira5334]

Grown a$$ man in a hoddie, that uses reddit memes non ironically.

[@vitasomething]

never trust a british

[@prism_of_selves]

random misogynist in a hoodie*

[@luna10617]

"believe me, someone who knows nothing about mental health, over all therapists and mental health professionals"

[@grey_f98]

he looks like such a doofus too, only kids would think he looks cool

[@Maysacred]

It’s crazy to me because most of the time men don’t even care enough to speak about anything related to men’s health until people advocate for women or queer people

[@lowlowseesee]

great observation

[@Rin-wm7hr]

It's the veterans argument all over again. People were so up in arms about how "queer people get a whole month meanwhile veterans only get one day" yet when it was pointed out to them that veterans have a month and several days outside of said month they didn't know what to say anymore. Almost like they wanted to wanted to start a fight amongst the oppressed while they had no care in the world over who won.

[@zagiproductions1630]

This is about where I’m at. Men’s mental health is great conceptually but seems like it’s often only brought up to speak over someone else.

[@gur262]

​@@zagiproductions1630well. Then it needs to be brought up more often. I've never seen a single video that discussed the atmosphere of violence you get as man on a party. Saw a jealous guy break anothers nose for talking to "his" girl. Randomly got beat up on more than one occasion. That's the thing. There' doesn't seem to be much about that.

[@gur262]

​@crashh-coursenot caring about it is part of the issue. And? Doesn't make it unimportant. People don't care about their health then comes alcohol and liver failure. Or perhaps taking out yourself and a random family minding their business in oncoming traffic. They should care. Not caring about mental health is , if I understand, often what leads to mental health issues.

[@swdrnk]

"you make her feel like a little girl around you" is bro hearing himself 💀

[@grey_f98]

Drake and Hamza both zesty around men, and predatory around girls

[@cocomuffin4666]

no i actually gagged hearing him say that its so gross

[@crypiddawg]

@@cocomuffin4666i started laughing like a maniac, I’m in disbelief 😅

[@cryptic_shock]

That honestly doesn't sound that bad tbh. In fact, it seems endearing

[@Rachamacha]

Speaking from experience, I've been in a monogamous long term relationship for 10 years and certain acts of care that a father might also perform do in fact help my partner feel loved and vice versa. It doesn't mean either of us are consciously doing things with the intent of being a substitute parent but the point is that in a traditional relationship there is an overlap between how you treat your kids and your partner. For the record I'm pretty against Hamza's approach to most things if not all but if we're going to criticize, we should at least do it in good faith.

[@Hookko]

Ok, i know that sounds crazy but hear me out, just for a second... Imagine, just imagine if Pride Month AND Men's Mental Health Month could coexist? Imagine living in a world where you could be a man, care about your mental health AND respect the fight and struggles of the LGBTQ+ community too!

[@allmyducksinarow]

Of course not! Everyone knows you can’t be LGBTQIA AND a man!! Don’t be silly.

[@firelordoregano5632]

men who are queer ascending to godhood

[@gur262]

No they can't. For good reason. They should both exist but pick different months. They both seem like plenty huge important issues to me. This diminishes both and is a plenty problematic mix in terms of reaching the audience. I can imagine lots of stuff but it ain't helping

[@swatch9890]

​@@gur262this is a stupid argument. There are twelve months in a year. Some month long awareness campaigns clash with others. Its natural. That doesn't make either of them inferior or less important. You don't have to actively campaign infavour of both. Just acknowledge their coexistence, celebrate whatever you want and move on. You shouldnt be hurt because another community is celebrating their identity on the same month.

[@firelordoregano5632]

@@gur262 because being discriminated for being queer definitely doesn’t negatively impact the mental health of a proportion of the male population. “problematic mix in terms of reaching the audience” my brother in christ man and gay are not different species. gay men are real, and add to a chunk of that suicide statistic.

[@maybelater1464]

Treat your girlfriend like your daughter and treat your bros like your girlfriend

[@myragingwhormoans]

now how do i treat my daughter

[@tanushjaison5972]

@@myragingwhormoans this is the real question

[@ruikasaforthewin]

​@@myragingwhormoans treat your daughter as your bros ofc

[@firelordoregano5632]

@@ruikasaforthewin but if you treat your bros like your girlfriend.... if you treat your daughter like your bros, then you'd be treating your daughter like your girlfriend. i was going to sound sirens, but if your treat your girlfriend like your daughter, then at the end you're treating your daughter like your daughter.... W, i guess?????

[@Ironbanner12]

Yea no, never do that

[@Urmumlel7025]

I feel like most of these "male gurus" don't actually want men to love anything or anyone.

[@florian4012]

it feels like they're closeted aromantics

[@donbeedrill]

they want you to love that patreon whatever revenue stream they're pushing

[@Jane-oz7pp]

Patreon dollars, and less competition for themselves is a pretty decent motivator to not actually give helpful advice.

[@sourgreendolly7685]

of course they don't, they want them desperate so that they can profit from them.

[@Seiryu64]

Of course not! Their revenue stream depends on their audience remaining unhappy and unfulfilled. The other side of the grift is blaming women for the results of their shitty advice

[@opheliamunroe1110]

HE FOUGHT A BUNCH OF CHILDREN IN A PUBLIC PARK?! 😭😭😭

[@starguhl]

thank god the park was public

[@vitasomething]

ong liker the tom scrott video

[@MossTunic]

i haven't even gotten to that park of the vid,,, oh no 😭😭

[@rachrbonez1335]

haven't watched the vid yet but i'm excited for whatever this part is.

[@kaiparker1756]

Don't like Hamza much, but he was meeting with his fans and training with them. There's nothing wrong with that. Honestly what a good role model should be.

[@maggieleslie4352]

Treat your gf like your daughter, *goes on to talk about how sex is the most important part of a relationship*

[@crypiddawg]

@@shrellanhe can’t keep winning…

[@annah5507]

He cant keep fucking getting away with this!

[@Greatduck777]

@@annah5507 and he can't keep getting away with fucking.

[@vgirreland9138]

Y’all love running with stuff and can’t be mature about this but if I speak from my experience, when I would have sex with my girlfriend like 4-5x a week our relationship was at its best but when I stopped making that part of love a priority it wasn’t as good, does this mean relationships are all about sex? No but it’s a big part of it and when you hear treat your girlfriend the way you would your daughter that means give her the utmost love be patient and do childlike activities that bring out your inner kid but you guy’s sexualize it of course

[@Greatduck777]

@@vgirreland9138 we sexualize it because he says he doesn't want to talk about his feelings so he can have sex. watch it again, he talks about sex multiple times.

[@trash_bender420]

If you cuddle with your girlfriend, she will definitely leave you and tarnish your reputation. Only cuddle with the homies from now on for maximum testosterone production.

[@Pratt11]

My girlfriend doesn't like cuddling, she likes to caress my back of head while I lay on her chest, Really bad, It's only for the homies 😔☝️🌈

[@Asrajzz64]

😐🫡

[@willjackson6522]

Kissing a woman is submitting to her face. Kiss your boys

[@abdiqanihashi484]

🤐😶

[@Mira-gu6we]

Lmao.

[@spacecowboy008]

can confirm that i showed emotion and now i get pegged everyday

[@EmoNinja1155]

Goals tbh

[@MossTunic]

if we could all be so lucky 🧡

[@sourgreendolly7685]

Lucky!

[@OmarAyusoVA]

Jealous as fuck

[@maybemablemaples2144]

Why you showing off like this man? 😂

[@lenapawlek7295]

The fact that he unironically used the sigma male meme??? I am shocked at the irony

[@xbabu142x]

I was hoping it was some cool sum of all males concept but alas no dice.

[@char4177]

“Your woman shouldn’t be your therapist, but she should be your maid” soooo close babe! She should be neither🥰

[@Josh-sz8ip]

So you've just proven Hamza right. If the woman is the bread winner, the man should be the maid instead, but women won't be okay with being the bread winner for a stay at home guy

[@beeperbooper1840]

​Truly. When my husband and I agreed that he should become a SAHH as I was offered a job in another state, I hit puberty like a middle school-aged boy. All of a sudden I had turned into a man! A (wo)man who came home to a relaxed husband, new meals my husband experiments with, and more time for intimacy. Of course, I'm blessed to have had his support during Med School, Residency, and beyond. I'm thrilled that someone on the internet has helped my husband and I understand that I was a man all along. @Josh-sz8ip

[@Josh-sz8ip]

@@beeperbooper1840 So you're a statistical anomaly and trying to extrapolate your rare case to all women. Okay. Thank you for adding nothing to the discussion. Look at the impact a man making less money than his wife has on the likelihood of her divorcing him. Don't take my word for it. Look it up and see.

[@beeperbooper1840]

@Josh-sz8ip a good friend of mine is a divorce lawyer. I understand that many people prefer traditional relationships. But oftentimes, the disputes regarding employment/income stem from an uneven distribution of workload among a household. Most people are forced to be in relationships where both partners work, but, as studies prove, women are expected to spend more time on domestic tasks. Being a stay-at-home husband when your partner agrees with the dynamic is quite different from refusing to work in a relationship where a financial contribution from you both is expected.

[@meganmoney3479]

@@Josh-sz8ipthe point is that one doesn’t dictate what the other does. If both people work, both clean up after themselves. You know, like ADULTS. it’s always one extreme or the other with men like you. How about thinking logically instead of jumping to conclusions? Maybe listen to UNDERSTAND instead of listening to respond. Women have done plenty of listening to understand. It’s time for men to close that empathy gap.

[@DopaminedotSeek3rcolonthree]

"When you start to listen to everyone else" "You don't realize it but you've been brainwashed" And other things cult leaders say...

[@dcrfgthy6g5fe]

"Pls pls pls guys trust me I'm the only sane person!! I'm right, everyone else is wrong pls bro trust me, and maybe buy my course for 850 dollars while at it"

[@KitKitsuneVixen]

hamza sounds like the one doing the brainwashing i'll be honest

[@dallensteuart2725]

His discord server used to be called "cult of adonis" or something, but he changed over to a private messaging app (I forgot the name,) he claims that he is making a cult for men to "help" them. Not only that but he also isolates them, saying things like not to watch any KZbin besides him, only listen to his music station, and not to make friends if they don't have similar morals to this, or try to get them to adopt these morals. He is really just taking advantage of men's poor mental health rather than trying to work towards it.

[@YEY0806]

​@@dallensteuart2725Mohammed would be proud

[@AliahJones-c1b]

"men are k!lling themselves because they aren't in relationships." "don't share your emotions with your girlfriend! emotions are for the boys only." this is giving me a headache in real time :(

[@superspermfish]

just so you know when people use the argument that "men are sad and off themself because of feminism and all women suck", most men who commit are veterans that are 50+, i wonder what gender their recruiter and all of their higher ups in the military were.

[@deusex9731]

its so contradictory, if feelings are for the bois then you wouldnt have a lot of the issues with lonelyness. If you could actually openly tell your dudebros about your emotions, it wouldnt be so much on the girlfriends to LARP as therapists

[@YEY0806]

​@deusex9731 "b-but that's GAY THOUGH!! if I open up my feelings to my bo-I mean bros, then I might want to get intimate with them"

[@IsYouStillaFan]

To be fair. So many progressive women I dated and had platonic relationships with have shared and shamed so many personal issues and sexual desires of their previous partners despite them participating in it. It’s not a terrible Idea for men to have safe spaces that only men can understand it’s just that these spaces always filled with toxic and regressive ideas.

[@gokufanforlife]

​@@deusex9731 when men open up feelings to a girl they are mostly used against him and he is judged. This is why men don't share.

[@Jay_one]

Every time I see someone talking about this guy I’m reminded of the fact that some people think speaking with a British accent makes you sound smarter and how he completely disproves the stereotype.

[@Me-vn3gz]

like elon musk

[@firstnamelastname7708]

@@Me-vn3gz I thought his accent is South African.

[@Jane-oz7pp]

​@@Me-vn3gz that's a South African accent and derived more from Dutch than English.

[@ohnospaghettios]

What's sad even to me as a straight guy, is that this "men's mental health issue" is something we all have. It's not male specific, and I've come to learn that a lot of my female friends are more than willing to help me get through it and I would help them in return. But almost all the time, like fucking clockwork, this genuine aid from women that I've gotten in my life is seen as "opportunity for a relationship" for men everywhere. Like we can't even be friends anymore, and it sounds so baffling that the "men advocating for mental health" like Hamza and his band of merrymen, is still spearheading this idea to young men everywhere.

[@Jane-oz7pp]

Men's mental health gets special attention because men die faster... We don't all have the same problem with mental health. Women attend to our mental health. The whole point of men's mental health month is to get men to take themselves seriously.

[@seashellgarden2227]

I'm sorry, man. I may not be a guy, but as someone who really struggled with mental health, I know that how others treat you because of it is part of why it sucks so much. I hope things get better for you. The misinformation and outright harm surrounding men's mental health is awful.

[@Josh-sz8ip]

And you're still single. I've got women there for me too, but they're all married or with boyfriends. If your confidantes are single, and they don't have any deal-breakers or red flag, then what are you doing? Perfect opportunities as life partners to experience life together till old age, and you're just friends for some unknown reason. What a waste

[@Josh-sz8ip]

​@@seashellgarden2227You say that, but you'd still restrict him to inceldom.

[@seashellgarden2227]

​@@Josh-sz8ip I'm not totally sure how I can, "restrict someone to inceldom" but if you mean I'd reject any advances, I will let you know I have dated those struggling with mental illness before. If your first instinct when someone is being empathetic, is to immediately assume the worst, then that instant assumption will lead you down a bad path later in life. It Ironically could be what OP is doing, assuming his friends aren't unaccepting to that idea. How can you expect an opportunity if you automatically doubt every single one? I'm not saying any of this to be an @ss, I spent a lot of my teen years being miserable and have only really begun living as an adult due to it. It sucks,

[@Neurocash.o]

“Father/Daughter or Mother/Son” BROTHER EUGHHH

[@ay2ale606]

Hamza talks like he has never been in a relationship

[@TyannosaurusRex]

Spending over $1,000 to learn how to be an asshole is so crazy

[@johnathanthin]

that $1000 could have been better spent on a gallon of milk and maybe a cup full of gas

[@KhayJayArt]

Ikr?? Millions of people are assholes FOR FREE!!

[@itsliterallyryangosling]

Could be used for bulking instead

[@georgecrumb8442]

How much did you spend in college to become a misogynist and basement dweller?

[@Glennsenn141]

One hundred thousand pennies

[@jamesbarnes8437]

The dudes complaining about men's mental health are the same ones to call a dude fruity if he looks in the general direction of the color pink yet not see any relation between those two concepts

[@luna10617]

men should be allowed to express themselves! no, not in that way!

[@divamoosic]

Have you met every single man who complain about MMH? Are you sure that every single man who complain do that? You gotta have nuance. I've met so many men who complain about MMH but still think it's wrong to call men fruity for having interest or do something that's "feminine"

[@luna10617]

@@divamoosic it's not unnuanced to make a generalization when you're referring to a majority. like, it's a fact that the men who are complaining about pride month being on the same month as men's mental health month are homophobic - why else would they be mad about queer people being acknowledged alongside their mental health? they do know that men can be queer too, right? well, they might be ignoring that fact for the sake of silencing anyone queer on *their* mental health month. it's a fact that the men tend to be less accepting of queer people than women. there are studies that show that. now, do ALL men hold the same queerphobic views? of course not, but we're seeing a trend of men trying to separate pride from men's mental health because they think that they can't coexist together.

[@00s.v.n.s00]

Or zesty. Dear lord they loveeee usin that one.

[@Josh-sz8ip]

Not true at all. I even wear makeup and follow Hamza and agree with him on a lot. You have no idea what you're talking about. It's people on the left who are more likely to mock me for that. No right wing person ever has.

[@GKnapptime]

27:38 how much do you want to bet that his GF left him during COVID because she spent more time with him and saw how he really behaved and decided that wasn’t for her. He’s made it out in his mind to be because she didn’t like seeing his “vulnerable side” but really she just got tired of being treated like a maid / chef / sex robot / etc

[@DTHains]

I also find it hilarious that he basically took his one single experience and extrapolated that to every relationship in the world. The guy thinks he's the main character of the universe.

[@cocomuffin4666]

bros PROJECTING HARD

[@Greatduck777]

@@DTHains that makes him a degenerate, degenerates take one bad experience with a woman and apply it to every other woman, thinking women should be like this or that, which is very bad, obviously.

[@Josh-sz8ip]

​@@DTHainsHe's basing it on dozens and dozens of accounts from men AND women online saying they don't like men opening up, saying it gives them the "ick"

[@jingle1833]

​@@Josh-sz8ip dozens compared to millions of women that think otherwise AND actual psychologists that support men being more vulnerable. But whatever, go on suppressing your emotions around your life partner and then watch your fellow men blame the same life partner's whole gender for the male lonliness epidemic because women don't want 'feminine' men.

[@Swezzeret]

What a self tell, if this man thinks m/f relationships can only be like father/daughter or son/mother it means he cant properly conceptualize boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife relationships

[@Greatduck777]

that means he has an incest fetish probably.

[@PlayerTenji95]

Yeah, there’s a lot of emotional incest being baked into this stuff, it’s gross.

[@myachi_art]

DING DING DING 😜

[@Perepeteia]

CHOOSING ADONIS OF ANY NAMES IS SUCH A COMIC RELIEF THOUGH. Adonis was basically nursed, cared for, guarded, saved and consequently "shared" by two women - Aphrodite and Persephone. He had other lovers including Apollo while spending time with whom he would take on a "feminine" role...wait Hamza did say u should be A DUDDEE w a woman and ...honest w a man? Seems unintentional but perfect. For the sake of accuracy, in a much less popular version he rapes a girl Zeus had a -yet another - crush on. Ofc not without some "persuasion" from Aphrodite at Hera's behest, but he does it and runs away bc he's afraid of Zeus' rage So, depending on which version is being examined, Adonis is either an absolute babyboy(by Hamza's standards) or a cowardly criminal, but never the kind of "iDeAL" he came up with Oh, and Adonis being born from incest fits the "dynamics" presented by the ReAdeR oF fEmiNiNe miNdS rlly well too💀

[@nike7511]

That was very attractive of you

[@MossTunic]

someome being a misogynist, or any kind of bigot, means inherently they are not going to have any facts or truth of any kind. it's always going to be distorted & confused & incorrect because bigotry isn't logical. ever. to be a bigot is to be in a highly emotional state & to induce others into that state, you have to keep yourself & others in a rabid lather about it that only escalates until they have that moment where they realize the truth of it all, where they work on healing, or it becomes violent & influential to those around directly or working within our system that is made to enact bigotry on a wide scale.

[@MossTunic]

someome being a misogynist, or any kind of bigot, means inherently they are not going to have any facts or truth of any kind. it's always going to be distorted & confused & incorrect because bigotry isn't logical. ever. to be a bigot is to be in a highly emotional state & to induce others into that state, you have to keep yourself & others in a rabid lather about it that only escalates until they have that moment where they realize the truth of it all, where they work on healing, or it becomes violent & influential to those around directly or working within our system that is made to enact bigotry on a wide scale.

[@vitasomething]

what are u talking abt adonis is drakes son 😭😭

[@k4tzxbeel0vedz]

HELPPP GKABWBWVJQBW

[@benzyl350]

"Treat your girlfriend like your daughter" Ey no problem bro I don't have one of those either

[@Iamhere829]

😂😂

[@hecate2366]

a comment i saw that sums up this issue well is "men have created a system to benefit their power, not their humanity"

[@Josh-sz8ip]

That's like telling Roman slaves that the system was created by Romans. You have no brain cells.

[@IDoThings490]

I would say that it's built on this false premise that having power will help with them with their humanity, that to them the only way to be a good person is to get as much power as possible so that you can "help others". They have a very Social-Darwinist view of the world in this respect which disregards the notion of doing through say, helping your community, and instead that you can only do good by helping yourself "first" (and I put "first" in quotes because they almost never get to or act upon the second part, which is helping others)

[@xbabu142x]

Men have created a system to idolize wealth and power, with Hagelian-esque performativity and mutual joined hubris (performative masculinity) removed all checks and balances as weaknesses are feminine and not manly. Due to the same performativity now we men blame everything and anything for men's mental health as arriving at the root cause would be admittance of weakness. Do you want to understand how bad this phenomena was? Philosophy itself was at a standstill till Dr. Judith Butler was allowed to research and expound upon Hagel's school of desire. Philosophy is the study of the human will and what drives it at it's base level. For five hundred some years since Kant's critiques men said that there was no man that would take a left at this one road so anything down there is fantasy, Hagel even said this in writing. Of course man will lie to themselves about reality, it's part of the human condition, but it took letting the first woman into the field to actually get this out through as academic fact.

[@mangakhoon4517go]

Your pfp is goated

[@AAKing-d8b]

Yes, it's so Patriarchal that zero feminists are cancelled for saying their bullshit. Very designed for men.

[@cockroach8962]

Its “mens mental health month” until the man is gay

[@haileybalmer9722]

"Don't tell your girlfriend you're struggling financially and looking for a second job, keep quiet about that ish" is just a bonkers thing to say. If my partner silently came home, made small talk, and then started being gone and extra 25-40 hours a week, I'd think he was cheating on me. I mean, he said you shouldn't say that to your little girl, but the little girl in this scenario is the woman you're hypothetically dating. Jail. Straight to jail. One million years dungeon.

[@xbabu142x]

My favorite has always been begging and pleading for a way to let their wife know that they in fact do care for them. When you ask them if they've tried telling their wives that, it's like you're suggesting the improbable. Ah Booomers.

[@AAKing-d8b]

Women leave men because they are struggling financially often. Why risk that?

[@K̰ḭr̰ḭn̰5731]

@@AAKing-d8b Why also risk typing a non-sequitur?

[@opxlsky_]

Hey, crazy idea. How about you treat your girlfriend like your girlfriend?

[@Pratt11]

WOAH WOAH WHAT?? THAT'S A CRAZY IDEA DON'T YOU THINK?? (Lmfao 😭)

[@opxlsky_]

@@Pratt11 I know it’s a bit unheard of 😞

[@JuniperGal-ek2pu]

He don’t know how

[@RyuKyu.77]

Like your bestie is better

[@rudijax]

Which is?

[@RoseThorn48]

With how sex focused this guy is about relationships He would have a short circuit learning about ace people

[@kittyzara2656]

Ikr, one conversation with me (I’m asexual) and his whole world would be flipped upside down. Telling him that relationships aren’t just for the purpose of sex might just kill him. Maybe he should discover himself. Maybe he’s Aromatic 🧍‍♂️

[@RoseThorn48]

@@kittyzara2656 Honestly! I think listening to that conversation of him trying to even understand that would be simultaneously brain rotting and hilarious. I'm demisexual and it's just so annoying how much people on the ace and aromantic spectrums are forgotten.

[@kittyzara2656]

@@RoseThorn48 hey another demisexual :) (Well I don’t know if I’m that or asexual 🤷‍♀️) yeah that guy just pisses me off. The way they talk about women in such a stereotype/generalization way is awful. They always talk like you can hard wire program them to do things. Bit rude

[@plastehseen]

EXACTLY MY THOUGHTS

[@mazhiang_dishia_]

He'd just deny our existence saying we're crazy or possessed lmfao💀

[@Pratt11]

The way he says “Adonis” makes me feel violated 😭

[@roryadie9158]

My dumb brain keeps going “dear Adonis, I’m sorry that that man is your father…”

[@Jane-oz7pp]

​@@roryadie9158same lmao

[@Cotton_Candy.__]

​@roryadie9158 I just started the video and read this comment so I assumed he was going to be talking about that 💀

[@emossard]

*adonis…*

[@catgirlgrunge]

​@@roryadie9158REAL

[@itsahill6977]

I am not listening to anyone who unironically uses wojaks in their youtube videos.

[@SophiaTallVA]

​@@shrellanmam called the doctor and the doctor said, dont let chuddies fuck in the bed.

[@bingsus3144]

I find it so crazy to say "100 years ago relationships were much longer lasting" yeah because women weren't allowed to divorce💀

[@Josh-sz8ip]

They were allowed to stop cohabiting, but didn't ask much. Our generation mostly has grandmothers who we think of as really sweet, yet you don't realise that's because they follow gender roles.

[@bingsus3144]

@Josh-sz8ip what are you actually talking about? I'm not even invalidating what you're saying, this is actually just gibberish

[@Josh-sz8ip]

​​@@bingsus3144No right wing person I've argued against ever said that, because they have the intelligence necessary. Is English not your first language? Open another tab for a dictionary.

[@bingsus3144]

@@Josh-sz8ip brother, what you were saying had absolutely nothing to do with what I commented. Like, at least try to make them correlate? And English really is not my first language! Honestly, if you have to resort to calling someone stupid to make your point, idk how to help you

[@Josh-sz8ip]

@@bingsus3144 It was a serious question. I am busy in Russian circles and often talk to Russians who don't know English well, and I actually suspected English wasn't your first language. Now I know, I'll try to elucidate my first comment: The people of the past could not divorce, but they could move out to live in separate homes away from each other, and if we count that as divorce, since they're still effectively breaking up, then people of the past still didn't break up as much as people do today in modern feminist society. Furthermore, most of us have nice grandmothers, and love them dearly, yet we discourage young women from following their life path. Maybe try Google translate

[@hermit_crab992]

How is a dude unironically using rage comics and memes in their videos in 2024?

[@kfishert]

those are wojaks, my friend. slightly to the left and more modern than rage comics.

[@ShadowTheHedgehog_05]

He's catering to his audience (redditors)

[@audreytwo]

​@@kfishertI dk, a lot of nazis use wojaks. Not saying all of course but it says less about what side you are on and more about how terminally online one is.

[@xbabu142x]

Time dilation factor discussed in the documentary "Eternal Sunshine of the Smoothbrain."

[@motherlarkspur4506]

All for men's mental health, but this absolutely feels like the new "what about a month for our military??"

[@cjbird446]

"veteran supporters" when they complain that veterans "only get one day" when they miss the multiple months and extra days dedicated to military service within the US alone. So many dipshits don't care about us n just want brownie points from whining about non-issues and embarrassing themselves

[@hajarmdn4883]

Which literally exists. I seriously don’t understand these people. Not that I agree with a military month to exist cause only policing and politics make me shudder more than the military. Stop saying you’re fighting for your imperialist country’s freedom when you’re being sent to other poorer countries to fight them

[@watching7721]

Holiday months are stupid across the board

[@motherlarkspur4506]

@@watching7721 It can be nice to spread awareness, especially about things that don't get enough of it.

[@watching7721]

@@motherlarkspur4506 And they feel the need to confine themselves to a month?

[@fishfrogstew]

my least favorite things about this is the people who advocate for mental health and then label "good" and "bad" emotions... from a psychological standpoint, there are no "bad" emotions, because they're just emotions, and every human has them.

[@bebopsynthguy6629]

Happily married to my wife and we share our happiness and sadness with each other and it’s only strengthened our relationship. I know for people who haven’t had a relationship yet this advice may sound logical but this is the fastest track to being single I ever heard.

[@kerycktotebag8164]

"You won't kill yourself if you suck the life out of a woman" is basically what he's saying

[@RyuKyu.77]

Reminds me of how JoJo villain, Dio sucks the blood outta a lot of women to heal himself

[@Josh-sz8ip]

Because being used to vent doesn't suck the life out of you?

[@Mira-gu6we]

​@@Josh-sz8ip wtf does that even mean?

[@xbabu142x]

@@Mira-gu6we He wants you to join him in a hvac themed role play I guess. Bro's love language and kinks are freon and chloroflurocarbons.

[@irish_deconstruction]

​@@RyuKyu.77True chad 🗿

[@blingmoney]

He shouldn't be allowed to meet a bunch of children in a park 😭 the only thing he should be meeting is chris hansen

[@grey_f98]

rephrasing mutual sex as "if she's ALLOWING you to have sex with her" tells me this guy isn't the sexy Adonis he thinks he is

[@faygoluvr]

thank you saji for hunting bears for us

[@beti5618]

She helped him start his business??? That’s a little feminine of him isn’t it?

[@RyuKyu.77]

Femboys famously take advise and help from their female partners

[@zizojaezekeom3565]

Masculinity and feminity is literally just looks, if masculinity is bravery for example, is femininity cowardly? it just doesn't make sense

[@lainey7157]

your gf will leave her if you “little girl” her. sure she could want you in a caregiver role, but if you see her as anything less than what she is she will leave you. not because you show emotions but because you act like a creep.

[@nonodango-0]

He be like: listen everyone else is WRONG. No man listen, I am correct and everyone else is wrong. Without a questioning himself. Bless the obliviousness.

[@barbar4t178]

he literally said sth like “if there is something everybody agrees about it’s probably wrong” like what???

[@teethgrinder83]

Ok im going to open up a bit just now and say as a 41yr old man with a 36yr old partner I've been with for a while now i "complain" more than her yet she always opens up to me too because we have a CONNECTION, I've helped her through a lot of problems and she's seen me through a lot too. Its about meeting in the middle, some give and take, just be yourself with your partner and let her know she can always be the same with you. Oh and as a by-line she still wants to have sex very often 😂 Also he's trying to use EXTREMELY outdated pseudo-freudian talk with all this "father/daughter mother/son" bullshit. He has such a terrible attitude and I'd laugh if it wasn't so utterly sad that i know lots of young people are actually listening to people like him. Please listen to what Saji said, he made a lot more sense than everything "The Adonis" could ever say

[@danielsmokesmids]

i wish you and your partner the best

[@teethgrinder83]

@@danielsmokesmids thanks a lot my friend! Hope you have a great day and good life 👍

[@Josh-sz8ip]

But I don't like your wife. There are loads of women in TwoXChromosomes, a sub Reddit for left wing women, saying they don't want a man to open up to them because "we're not men's therapists!!!!"

[@jingle1833]

the fact that all the incels in this comment section have replied to almost every comment as soon as the comment was made trying to prove how they are right but when there's an actual real life experience, they get reaaal slow. Like I don't see any incel reply here till now. Otherwise under other comments they are the first to reply. Now they have nothing to say.

[@xbabu142x]

This all sounds extremely gay going off this checklist but I'll extend the welcome out to you and your partner, on behalf of the Illumifruiti. We rebranded from Gay Mafia, that sounds dumb. Bit confused on you and your wife being gay, but we do acceptance over here not judgment so if you're happy so are we! One complaint though, you don't need to apologize for opening up, I appreciate you for sharing your story, and any man who reads that and becomes helped is saying thank you to you as well even if they can't today. Wishing ya continued relationship success, and you got communication down it seems that is the only key, I believe in ya'll!

[@Sunnytyme]

“Pick a close male friend and only open up to him.” Yknow what? My dad actually did that. He had one best friend that he opened up about everything to and they’d cope with feelings together. You wanna know what happened when my dad’s friend died in a hit in run? My dad almost became part of the suicide statistic

[@Sunnytyme]

Then again, that guy would probably have a meltdown knowing that my mom’s the breadwinner being a RN and my dad isn’t by being a pastor

[@crypiddawg]

I feel for your father and I hope he is doing well now, but your story brings up a good point: if a man does open up to his close buddy instead of his wife and they’re are closer…however one passes, who will he vent to now? Hamas would probably answer “oh, soon enough he’ll find another buddy to talk to” but we all know that wouldn’t work nor be the same-rebounding like that. I don’t know about anyone else, but for me, I would struggle to find someone let alone trust them to share my recent grievances and expect them to share their own. So I point to the answer that the next close person that man has to talk to and vent and share his feelings with is his wife. Communication in a relationship is key, regardless of gender or type of relationship.

[@xbabu142x]

@@Sunnytyme I'm just happy your dad made it through. When I read You want to know what happened autocomplete did not return anything good. Truly mean it. When I teach little ones I bring loaves of bread with happy faces of them to school since some dingbats seem to find it pertinent to worry six year old's that they're parents will separate if they are unable to solve the breadwinner issue. Horrible thing to terrify a six year old with, so I tell them "all my friends here are bread, so it just means they've got their approval." Wack people venting to kids on the bus when asked "are you ok?" Like therapy is included in our socialized healthcare please go and don't burden kids. 😓😓Poor kid tried his best to take notes too.

[@lainey7157]

Sad Boyz podcast is a great example of sharing your thoughts with your homies. Very positive about mental health and funny :)

[@queenofhearts2141]

23:12 “there is 2 dynamics that you can have: the father/daughter dynamic & the mother/son dynamic…” what is this Freudian nightmare

[@xbabu142x]

Welcome to the Hotel Huntsville...

[@b-doi1211]

Mommy! (fucking dies)

[@ohshanana2397]

22:30 my grandparents were married for more than 50 years. They met and got married at the age of 18 and 19. And immigrated to this country, you don't know how many times they cried in each other’s arms. With the stress of making a future for our family. Though they were traditional they both openly voiced their opinions to one another. The key to a healthy relationship will always be communication. And if that person leaves you got that, they weren't meant for you

[@HCR4Z7]

👏 always communication

[@xbabu142x]

Yo this is literally what my parents did too, the relationship part, not that many years but at 30 years it's the same thing. Never heard no arguments followed by silence, they always planned. It's like we copy pasted comments on this thread. Hopefully someone will realize the significance of this, or communication if nothing else. The traditional part is what people get hung up on with my parents too. My mum proposed to my dad with a whole two page proposal for betrothal basically at 14, since he had gotten into college. Her reasoning was since her father picked boys terribly and she might as well do it, so it was actually someone to her liking and she didn't feel like she was participating in the interrogation of a foreign spy for intel on dates. I try to stress on the whole she wrote a 2 page contract agreement upon learning my dad was a huge business and finance nerd when she could have just demanded due to who her father was. She is very science focused, and always says "A proposal without proof showcases zero methodology knowledge, why would there be a proposal without proof." Understanding and mutual respect are the building blocks of trust which is the foundation for a relationship of any kind. There has and will never be a forced arranged marriage that is happy.

[@scarletttttt9]

why is he saying "your little girl" when talking about a partner wtf

[@xbabu142x]

He fancies himself Gimli the Dwarf he years for the mines and high fantasy not stable relationship.

[@wellersonoliveira5334]

The problem with people like Hamza, is that he is model looking. His advices won't work for majority of the guys watchin' him. (And even at that, his talking points are boderline pshycotic)

[@kyumu]

thats why I rly like the hasanabi get-better routine

[@nostalgicfears]

@@kyumu yasss :3

[@nostalgicfears]

@@kyumu soryr yes

[@lowlowseesee]

lol thats A problem with Hamza, not THE problem. the problem is he is going to create a ton of abusive men, just like tate and samuels and the fresh and fit and so on

[@Treeforest347]

literally lol i have no idea WHY incels like him other than his goofy a ss paroted points from other redpill channels. like even when i was an incel, I wasn’t stupid enough to think someone like him would have advice for someone like me lol

[@mollysockmonkey]

“feminine women always need a masculine man” what ab feminine lesbians 😭😭

[@Narasthenics]

They need a masculine woman and are usually bi anyways

[@cocomuffin4666]

REAL

[@viridian7635]

gay people don't exist in this man's little world I think

[@superspermfish]

dude one of the guys in a similar circle as this guy, some incel street interviewer asked a girl upon finding out she has a gf and not a bf, "oh so are you bi, straight, or what??" they cannot fathom women being entirely uninterested in men lmao

[@deusex9731]

so masculine women need a feminine man? sounds ok to me

[@quakeknight9680]

Wrong! Its Happy Wheels month. 4th of June 2010 global launch!!!

[@marlynn2853]

FUCK YEAH BROTHER!

[@hrnekbezucha]

Guys, let's be real for a moment. Having a girlfriend is gay. The real masculine bond is between two men sharing emotions and being vulnerable together.

[@itsliterallyryangosling]

L comment

[@anzainetdinova3724]

If my boyfriend treats me like a dad, that is the biggest red flag I can ever get from him. Like wtf?

[@MSharm8]

Definitely, other than him not caring if you don’t consent.

[@davidkonevky7372]

It's funny how the same people who say "but what about men 😢" are the ones who keep up the societal standards and pressure but are just mad that queer people are getting their flowers and not them

[@jacquelinegutierrez611]

My problem with these types of men is that they never acknowledge how they have constructed this society and how they are now suffering from THEIR SET IDEALS! And somehow it’s women fault at the end of the day. Not the fact that any sign of vulnerability towards their male friends is seen as weak and “gay”. Not the fact that women are more than willing to help their men friends but men see it an opportunity for a relationship. Men have repeatedly closed these doors for themselves and now they are suffering cuz of it. They refuse to go to the root of the problem, themselves.

[@gur262]

I was born into this society, I'm not my dad or my grandpa or my great grandpa. I didn't construct 💩 other than an IKEA shelf or 2.

[@Abhishekxsahu]

​@@gur262 but u are definitely prolonging those things and toxic ideals.

[@monochromicornthetuna4256]

THIS! And, like the first response to this comment, they’ll say they didn’t make this. That they’re not their fathers or grandfathers. But, my brother in Christ, you’re carrying their bs😭 You’re carrying it and you don’t want to let it go because ‘it’s gonna make me feminine’. It’s so foolish.

[@jacquelinegutierrez611]

@@gur262 Guess what buddy you are perpetuating those same beliefs/ideals. Seems you’re self aware but not willing to follow anything about it so you are just as bad as them

[@jingle1833]

​@@gur262 are you stupid on purpose or do you actually lack comprehension skills?

[@AmyStrikesBack]

I never undestood the "masculine feminine Energy" thing because It ignores the existance of gay people, i am a relatively femine girl, my girlfriend ia hella femine, and yet we bound Really well, wierd innit?

[@JackH_123]

These guys watch action movies and aspire to be like the main characters, which is fine but there’s a clear lack of human perspective and interpersonal experience with them. They don’t think of people as real people, they think of them as one dimensional roles played in man’s life. does that make any sense

[@JackH_123]

In short, he doesn’t want men to be human. He thinks women are looking for characters, not human beings. You need to be perfect to live up to the standard that he thinks women want, but this is far from reality.

[@Arosukir6]

These dudes watch Rambo: First Blood and then entirely forget the scene where he literally cries in front of his former general over the pain and rejection he felt after coming home from war. Or they see Rocky and forget the ways he talked to Adrian about feeling like a loser. The work that the married couple do over the course of True Lies. Mr. and Mrs. Smith literally going to therapy. Just so many scenes in action movies where the men allow themselves to be vulnerable both in front of one another *and* their partners. They wanna do the action scenes with none of the emotional work that those characters did.

[@Jane-oz7pp]

Aspiring to be a cold and violent person without any humanity because you wanted to be the caricature presented in an action movie is in fact not well and good.

[@JackH_123]

@@Jane-oz7pp you’re telling me you didn’t see James Bond or captain America or something and think damn I wanna be like him even a little bit when you were a teenager

[@ZombieWerePrechaunPire]

A lot of action movies has a tone of humanity. You have never watched an action movie in your life.

[@dreambeliever6778]

And I’m sat

[@Koifin3]

It’s really cute how magically as soon as June rolls around people spontaneously care about Men’s Mental Health, then moving into July, it’s back to the norm.

[@ohoyamatotarashihikokunios9626]

That’s how it is with pride month. No one actually cares, and that’s not a bad thing. It’s just an inconvenience when we have time wasting discussions because people are bullshitting.

[@ggrogan]

I’ve broken down in tears in front of my girlfriend 5 times in the year we’ve been together, I’ve laid in her lap crying. And for some reason, she’s more in love with me than she’s ever been today 🤯🤯

[@Josh-sz8ip]

But do you have 3 children? Does she already have another man's kids? Is she another man's leftover?

[@jingle1833]

And yet again, i see no incel comment here (yet)

[@kzg_veritas12]

You got a rare one I guess

[@ggrogan]

@@kzg_veritas12 it’s not, I just showed my cards from the start. I’ve been with women who are very receptive to emotions and others that are more on the unavailable side, but you shouldn’t shut your emotions away out of fear of your partner leaving you

[@AAKing-d8b]

​@@ggroganWhat if leaving you means divorce and losing your home and children?

[@chrxstt]

the overuse of sound effects and just like fucking wojacks? it’s like it’s a kids show for incels😭

[@zaciswierd8739]

It basically is a kids show for incels knowing his audience is teen boys

[@julieperez7505]

I have been consuming the thoughts of people who speak about the men’s mental health crisis for several years now. There’s always been a small (but significant) issue with what they say that i don’t see many people speak on- MRA/ red pill/ manosphere type people are constantly saying how the “world” doesn’t care about men’s mental health, I always thought - doesn’t that mean *MEN* don’t care about men’s mental health either? I hear them talk about the issues men face. “no one cares about men’s feelings” okay. Wh don’t you create a virtual support group, or a subreddit, or a church group, or a meetup group to discuss men’s feelings? “No one cares when men are sad” Okay. Why don’t you go to therapy to have some listen to you? Why don’t you encourage men to seek the help of therapists to have someone listen to them? Why don’t you approach your male friends and have vent/ crying sessions the way that women do? It’s like they literally don’t understand that forcing every male into a “BIG BOSS WHO IS NEVER WEAK 💪😎💰” arychtype is the *source* of their suffering. Not respite from it. All of male specific problems can be completely eradicated by OTHER MEN. I don’t hate men. I never have. I am simple frustrated with the conversations surrounding their obsession with “men’s mental health” while their actual actions accomplish NOTHING

[@missemotional8710]

When will people realize that nobody needs to be dominant in a relationship. Both people can be equal in those terms

[@gabriellabrooks3813]

"How many pities?" Almost spit my ibuprofen out.

[@Perepeteia]

Idk why these folks love to use "women will actually dislike u if u choose to share your feelings" when it's not at all accurate?? Like sure some will but they aren't someone you'd want have a relationship OR a friendship with. I would never feel comfortable talking about my struggles with someone who feels like they can't afford being vulnerable w me. Honestly, I wouldn't want to be more than acquaintances w someone like that as it's a sign of distrust and a relationship without trust fails as soon as it starts. Not allowing yourself to be honest w yourself and those close to u is exhausting and destructive, EVEN in friendship. I respect honesty probably more than anything else so hearing that dude say "it'll make her lose respect for you" is like nails on chalkboard. HOW FULL OF YOURSELF DO U HAVE TO BE TO THINK U KNOW WHAT WOMEN RLLY WANT BETTER THAN WOMEN THEMSELVES. I know some ppl who are like this - men and women, they will listen to whatever you say while thinking "yeaaa suuuree" in their heads, some ppl genuinely believe they know others better than the others know themselves - I could never have this much arrogance nor do i want to. The assumption that men will help u find a solution and women will just give emotional comfort is WILD...how about offering both- comfort AND solutions, is it not possible? Sounds like a skill issue to me. Long story short - just don't strive to conform to some dude's standards of what a "man" is, especially when his argument for his advice is basically "sensitive not hot" and the source is "some bois i know, some bois on the internet" yet women evidently have very different opinions about these internet discussions. I think it says sth when in the comment sections under videos where a man is doing anything that's not considered to be traditionally masculine below one bad comment (usually posted by a man) bashing him you can find LOTS of replies from women saying " yo, that's not cool, u couldn't be more wrong, shut it". I won't even comment on his "dynamics"👀💀💀scary creepy off-putting stuff

[@gur262]

But he wanted though. See? Plenty women wanted a relationship with the hot felon dude, the jailbird model. Cause he's hot. You can tell him all you want she wasn't good for him anyway if he didn't get far enough to be properly convinced of that it's still a negative experience. Open up feelings. Bra closes. Not gonna do that again.

[@Perepeteia]

​@gur262 it's a negative experience but if i learn that sth is bad for me I still feel fortunate to learn it before more damage has been done - the dude could've found out he had been living w a shallow person(if we are to believe his story is accurate) AFTER marrying her, maybe even after having kids, it'd be even more of a nightmare. So, I think you can recognize that losing someone can be heartbreaking, but good for your future while trying to adapt just to keep them is never beneficial. Also, it's a negative experience but it is not definitive of what women as a whole would do, just this example somehow gives Hamza the confidence to say "yeah, go on, try it and suffer" even though it evidently does not reflect the opinion of the majority. We can ignore the prevalence of women holding opinions that contradict Hamza's narrative on the internet bc "butbut they're just saying it!!"(which i think is a dumb thing to believe but okay). Even in real life, I have a lot of girl friends who would never agree w Hamza and i know it'snot just yapping bc i know their bfs, my -rather big - extended family has 18 women and none of them share the "ew, he has feelings" sentiment, it's quite the opposite. In fact, at different points in time during different get-togethers all 12 of my aunts would talk about how their husbands opening up to them brought their family closer, they'd say that they feel endlessly grateful for the trust, and these are families that have been together for anywhere from 15 to 35 years. Let's not talk about the felon admirers too bc it's not a "women" thing, it's an "everyone who's a bit nuts" thing, men also have been fanboying over some despicable women criminals. And, to be fair, although it is bizarre but most "admirers" admire those dangerous ppl exclusively from the screens, not irl, still messed up, but thankfully it's the weird minority portion of both genders(those who actually have crushes on criminals, send them letters, etc).

[@boxingelfis1499]

​@@gur262 Something to take into consideration is how he said he presented himself to her as this unshakable mountain of an alpha man when they started dating. If this image crumbled and he became way more vulnerable than he ever was, perhaps it blindsided her. Judging by how Hamza describes being vulnerable as this form of putting everything on her to make things better, him doing that probably clashed horribly with the image she had of him, and she ended up deciding that the real him was not who she signed up for. If you try to portray yourself as an infallible man, and a lady falls for it, any changes to that image will likely damage your relationship or break it. This is actually something really damaging about Hamza's advice; he's telling men to be like him and portray something they aren't, and when that image will inevitably crumble, you can imagine how their mental health will be affected.

[@superspermfish]

@@gur262 your only experience with women clearly comes from cinema lmao, sure some women will ignore that a guy is a felon if hes hot enough, you gotta realize that some women should be allowed to be dumb, there is a lot of dumb guys too but i don't see you saying thats all of them

[@JuniperGal-ek2pu]

Your pfp kinda reminds me of Nayeon from Twice 😂

[@suminsno1]

he's a scouser, i immediately do not trust him

[@portaldolphin13]

my thoughts exactly

[@Josh-sz8ip]

"bigotry is wrong!" "I don't trust a Scouser" - the left

[@Jamie16611]

He’s a woolly back

[@Top10VidsforYou]

he ain’t a scouser

[@lofi-808]

No matter what gender you are, please, take care of yourself. You are important, your life is important, your feelings are valid. If needed, seek professional help. I hope you enjoy this weird and difficult, but in it's own way beautiful journey called "life"❤

[@RyuKyu.77]

People like you is what keeps the world going

[@Josh-sz8ip]

People always mention how 50% of men who commit suicide have no history of mental illness, but ignore the fact that the other half did have a history of mental illness but still commit suicide. Why? Because a romantic relationship is paramount, and women don't want that fact to be widely accepted.

[@zizojaezekeom3565]

❤

[@nalateley6795]

saji! saji! saji!

[@cyanthrope]

I feel like by the time these dudes get to the point they're breaking down and finally opening up to their partner, the sx life is already starting to get stale because they insist on always aggro topping. They're missing the forest for the trees

[@magdabielecka8374]

If you can't be open with your feelings in front of your girlfriend then why the fuck would you be with her?

[@ilikecookies9796]

To use her as a baby-making machine, obviously.

[@RyuKyu.77]

It's all bout s*x and power for them, they have no power over their life in this capitalistic system so to feel some illusion of power, they control their partner

[@xbabu142x]

To live a life where I view myself as the victim of a great and cosmic level tragedy, where the elements themselves put me through Herculean labors that allow me to showcase how manly I am? Any girl with me knows that they need to get spiteful, paranoid, and violent with furniture and my possessions', for the cosmic tragedy validates me and my existence. COSMIC TRAGEDY. Aka I wanna be dark kawaiii real real bad, and oh boy oh boy prepare for the terror that I am. Am practicing for 30 years down the line where I can interrupt some 20 year old dude on his phone, regale him of my voyage, so that he may too become a manly man.

[@xbabu142x]

She's a nuclear physicist and I am a spy in need of launch codes? Many such cases see 007 documentary series for more.

[@magdabielecka8374]

@@xbabu142x That's valid

[@Dragondarkness79]

freud would have a field day with this dude. he'd write a book about this dude

[@bullhookjackson]

I'm not gonna lie, with my last ex it honestly felt like she was even more attracted to me after I started opening up my emotions to her

[@ForeignManinaForeignLand]

Love you broski ❤️

[@ikrobbiefox8835]

foreign ! ♥

[@mangakhoon4517go]

Real homie love 😋

[@anirregulartriangle5151]

I require his glasses and knowledge

[@bubblezxallxaroundx]

the guy that "got broken up with for being vulnerable" is giving when men say "the divorce came out of nowhere". there's always a reason that their silly little brains can't begin to grasp

[@boocryaboutit]

"and who set that system up" is all im thinking about during this

[@cocomuffin4666]

SAMEEE

[@deusex9731]

they should pull themselves up by their bootstraps or something. Pretty feminine to ask women to fix your issues if you are so so capable

[@cocomuffin4666]

@@deusex9731 what is bro on abt

[@crypiddawg]

@@shrellanno one saying it is your fault; the answer to “who set up that system?” question is patriarchy and those who enforce it (which is primarily men who refuse to listen to any answer or solution feminism may give them). Instead of finding a problem with “who set up that system?” question and taking it personally, maybe you could try thinking “alright, where do we as a society go from here and what can we do to abolish oppressive systems or ideas that oppose all of us?” As that is more productive.

[@Josh-sz8ip]

​@@crypiddawgYeah because feminism is going to help me have children, even though the more feminist a country is, the lower it's birthrate, and the more educated a woman is, the more likely she is to divorce.

[@Alex-cw3rz]

I find it hilarious that he talks about being masculine while wearing a fluffy dressing gown

[@anabelsama]

Also some men like to trauma dump on the third date to try and make a connection faster, and say "I had never told this to anyone"... Uuuuh you should have, a therapist, that was so traumatic, I don't know you enough, wait until we are a couple at least ffs

[@gur262]

I use 3 in 1 shampoo and I don't know what the third function is supposed to be. This is too complicated for me. Rules ugh. Trauma dumping is a neat word. I mean. Yeah I get what it means but it's also usable to decide when you just had enough of those feelings.

[@anabelsama]

@@gur262 I don't need to know something super traumatic from a person I just met. That's common sense.

[@Josh-sz8ip]

​@@anabelsamaHamza vindicated yet again.

[@ithoughtiwascishet1316]

@@Josh-sz8ip can you not read bro? "just met". would you want your waiter to start crying about their dog dying during dinner? no. so don't expect a girl you barely know to feel differently. and fyi: your girlfriend should not be someone you barely know.

[@AAKing-d8b]

Which is why men shouldn't share their emotions with women. They don't want some hurt dude, they want a stable guy with his shit together.

[@juliavalencaschoen2234]

If you don’t like when your girlfriend tops you maybe you don’t like women STUFF BOUNCES, how do you have a problem with that??

[@ruikasaforthewin]

I'm convinced most of these guys don't like women and are actively sabotaging other men's relationships so that they could have all the guys for themselves lmao

[@Josh-sz8ip]

I thought a relationship wasn't about sex?

[@juliavalencaschoen2234]

@@Josh-sz8ip ?

[@HCR4Z7]

​@@juliavalencaschoen2234 he is dirty minded

[@b-doi1211]

Wait , the break up after she rode him was a real story. The riding part didnt even strike me as masculine and I was spinning gears inside my head wondering how was the sex after bad incident masculine. Fair enough riding is a more "dominant woman" position but how is this breakup worthy? It's not like she is a neuroscientist going band for band with him, challanging him to a dick measuring contest then pegging him for. (somehow) losing said contest. How tf is breaking up over this not extremely "emotional".

[@anabananafofana]

this man really just claimed he’s the “face of men’s mental health” not even a min after he said some shit about how if u open up to ur gf and tell her ur feelings she’ll feel less attracted to u and not want sex😭 what a weirdo

[@IDoThings490]

I, for a long time watched Hamza almost every morning as a source of motivation for the rest of my day and I began to follow his advice and structure my day in order to fit the idealized Adonis. And so I have some pretty good grounds for reflection on this matter. I'm fairly conflicted on how it affected my mental health and frankly I still haven't decided whether it was for better or for worse. First, I didn't watch this video in it's entirety but I did skip around and I'll comment that you seem to mainly have focused on his relationship advice, which I'll admit, I never really took much action on. Rather, I'd like to comment on how the power dynamic he preaches for in relationships relates to his and his audience's larger mindset a whole. In general, I actually think Hamza offers some solid advice in many regards, except that advice falls apart when you understand that it's built upon a false premise. Hamza advocates for, above all else, being in control of ones life beyond any external circumstances, which is a very appealing premise at a glance. But let's ask two questions: What are Hamza's methods for achieving this? And secondly, why does he believe that it's important to have this level of control? Starting with the first question, Hamza's methods for achieving this control over one's life involve controlling things: controlling how you want your body to look by going to the gym, controlling how much wealth you have by running a business, controlling your relationships by never opening up, controlling your mind through practices such as meditation and by following wisdom from stoic philosophy, among other aspects of life.. Now for question two, why is this level of control important to Hamza and his audience? This one is more complicated, and while I'm not fully aware of the psychological reasons that people desire control I can instead use my own personal justifications (which were in part implanted by Hamza) in order to explain why all of this previously mentioned advice was so appealing. Essentially, I justified all these practices out of the fear of not being "enough" and since I wasn't enough, I had to make (and keep) myself being enough so that when an idealized "day" came that I imagined would test me, I would be able to "pass the test". To elaborate, one thing that Hamza said in one of his video's was essentially to imagine there was a war going on and that you were completely surrounded by chaos and destruction, so therefor you should be prepared to respond to that situation in order to protect those around you, this day that he had his audience imagine was the so-called "test" that you, out of fear of being inadequately prepared for it, what you're doing it all for. Well what's the problem? Well what I'm getting at is that this desire for control/power over everything in your life that has men jumping through all these hurdles for is typically spawned out of a fear-provoked delusion of being inadequate. Getting back to his relationship advice, you can start to see now why they would treat even something as human as a relationship as some sort of power dynamic, it's because they're worried that it could spiral out of control if they're not doing enough to control it, this is evidenced by how Hamza presents Jeffery losing control of his relationship after opening up. Ultimately, none of these worries are rational, I would argue that they're often driven by underlying anxiety, but instead of confronting this anxiety through say.. opening up with somebody close to you, they give into their anxiety and hopelessly work to control the things that give them that anxiety, even if they're far beyond their control. This would contribute to the cycle of struggle of disappointment that leads many back to their videos. These are all the things that I gathered through some introspection on his content, feel free to add anything because what the hell do I know?

[@K̰ḭr̰ḭn̰5731]

This is a fantastic psychological breakdown of the nature behind Hamza's content and similar people, really appreciate it.

[@OrgnlProductions]

I lost both my parents at 23yrs old broke down to my girlfriend at the time, people where trying to steal my inheritance and hide things from me and when I broke down, she… she left😢 LMFAO NOPE she stayed by my side, helped me get an attorney, helped me get through my depression, motivated me when no one else would, and single handedly brought me “back” even though it took 4 whole years, oh and she’s also my fiancé now, 10yr relationship

[@victorianorphanboy]

im losing my mind at the son/mother and father/daughter shit. why are those the only relationship dynamics with women he can imagine. they cant keep letting freud win like this

[@NuclearCrescent]

i used to watch hamza and after leaving that space. I thought hamza was kind of a moderate who isn't as radical as people like Fresh and Fit or Andrew Tate. But, still cozies up with them, and still shares dangerous ideas. But, now the '' Treat your wife like your daughter''' advice. My thoughts are changing. P.S Thank you for making this video on Hamza. Despite, being quite large like 2 million subscribers people don't make videos about them.

[@historyybufff]

My father consistently tells me that because I am a man I have to take all this suffering, he has no idea how much he hurts me every time he says that but he is a hispanic man who grew up with even more toxic behaviors so there isn’t much I can do

[@kzg_veritas12]

It's not toxic It's masculine and traditional, deal with it

[@stargazer137]

@@kzg_veritas12 🤓

[@maki49574]

@@kzg_veritas12 and that is toxic

[@kzg_veritas12]

@@maki49574 no Suffering in life is normal and encouraged

[@AAKing-d8b]

It hurt cause he was telling you the truth. Be a man with nothing to offer and see how little people care. Outside of family and some friends, they don't.

[@abbiescanlan7423]

3:40 was not expecting a König cosplay

[@evelyncamacho04]

i really wish the guys that watch this type of content would put the same energy on learning about good listening and communication skills, instead of weird dudes like him who insist on creepy, stupid power dynamics and keeps making women look so helpless and submissive

[@kzg_veritas12]

Women should submit to men That is in the Bible

[@K̰ḭr̰ḭn̰5731]

@@kzg_veritas12 Than you have not read it and are simply being an asshole

[@Bitt-bk6xn]

"when she gets a little bit bigger".... is she still growing??? how old is she 😨

[@ryanb5127]

I would much rather be single than be in the kind of relationship these gurus want

[@wellersonoliveira5334]

Dudes like Hamza, are the reason people think good lookin' folks are unbearable to be around

[@Narasthenics]

Nobody thinks that, also Hamza is a 6.5 tops.

[@Treeforest347]

dudes like hamza (and such others) and his dreg followers are the reason why i can’t even get the urge to pushback anymore when women say they hate men. me too b itch. me too

[@wellersonoliveira5334]

​@@Narasthenics The likes I just got disagre with ya. Also, as much as I dislike him, he is indeed very atractive, still an @$$ tough

[@Josh-sz8ip]

​@@NarasthenicsIf even Hamza isn't attractive, then you are proving incels right about women's standards for looks being way too high 😂

[@Josh-sz8ip]

​@@wellersonoliveira5334Absolutely. I'm using her comment for pro-incel propaganda.

[@circusbrained]

3:34 THE KÖNIG COSPLAY TOOK ME OUT OH MY GOD WAS NOT READY

[@realsmosher53]

He's not wrong about talking to your male friends about problems in your life. Strong support group are important for everyone in becoming the best them. But you can also talk to your girl about issues like idk and if she leaves shes a bitch cuz who tf leaves their dude when they're down? Not a real one

[@kzg_veritas12]

Women cannot be a real one They're transactional