Tiktoker emilywking on why she doesn't dress provocatively

[@itsmephil2255]

A classy woman like Emily dosent need to dress provocatively, a lot of guys prefer modesty and style over anything

[@sjmccafferey4437]

Can’t be classy when a mother divorced her kids father. This divorced mom then hooks up with another man and gets pregnant. How is that an example of classy mom. How classy that it look to her children.

[@itsmephil2255]

@@sjmccafferey4437 if you have to ask, you will never understand Just a shame there are 'hater profiles' such like yours on KZbin

[@renenetatm8222]

a classy woman describing herself as tiktoker? 🤨

[@mrtechpat]

@@sjmccafferey4437you don’t know her background or reasons behind divorce . She said in her first video she tried . 17 years And another baby was her choice She’s in a committed relationship for over 3 years Not just a hookup

[@benshadbolt1465]

Damn straight. Emily is fine the way she is.

[@michaelgroves3919]

I think a woman that dresses conservatively in public is actually more attractive. Save the provocative for your man in private.

[@clausm2203]

Agree a 100 pct

[@redmage8719]

Some guys are so shy that they don't look even if a female dresses provocatively.

[@slushyslushslushbruh]

That's why there's a saying "... leaves little to the imagination.". I have no idea what the full quote is, but that part strikes out alot because as I grew older (Yeah, sadly, I'm one of those who were dumb when they were younger...), I realize that women who cover up more (not to the point where it's like in the middle-east where you can encounter more women who literally cannot show anything, sometimes not even their face) tend to show more of their personality, skillset, and work ethic, whether it's either on a positive or negative side, because ironically... showing more skin off can sometimes lead to it being a reverse-mask thing.

[@brianhrobsky9200]

AMEN

[@ugaladh]

Agree and when you see a truly beautiful woman, she doesn't even need to do that and it does decrease the attractiveness

[@aaronburdon221]

If you're advertising, then guys will think you're on the market. It's respect for yourself, but also respect for your man

[@Mattss90]

Honestly, before I married my wife, I only dated women who were modest in their appearance. I generally saw women, who were modest, as if they weren’t the types to be throwing themselves around, as I wasn’t the type of guy to try an sleep around. It felt like they respected themselves like I did myself.

[@boonedocksfl2012]

Yea dressing provocatively sends signals that you don’t mind being looked over by most men. Can’t take a woman seriously that dresses this way if you’re in LTR.

[@RandomGuy-j8t]

I wonder "Who is she advertising to?" - Usually it's EVERYONE

[@genelewis2481]

Yes! One of my highest priorities is modesty!! I think most of us guys feel that way!! This is why women who have been with every Tom, Dick and Harry in town don’t disclose that to their men…

[@horiboyablemgtow7842]

My covert narcissist wife always dressed conservativly but was a total whore, it is part of their mask. Some chicks a very manipulative.Feminist these days that think equality is being like a man, so they wear trousers, drink pints and swear more than you do....... you may as well meet up with a bloke. Blokes are very basic, we want women to be friendly, feminie and fit and even the fit part can be very flexible. No man wants to go out with a heifer but a shapely women can be very desireable when its in proportion.

[@kellyhiggins1691]

It's respectful to keep yourself covered. You are wanting attention to dress provocative. You are a good Woman.

[@brianhaskell8871]

Here’s the thing, it’s respect for her man also. Not only is it self respect but respect for her man. That’s the type of woman that makes good men want to stay around.

[@DTraiN5795]

Yeah women do not get this but most men are territorial for a good reason if you know the nature of men and women. We don’t want others to know or see what we have. It’s also about the mentality and what else comes with it from a women that does it. Doesn’t matter if they do it for other men bc yes they do it for certain men at the least. They also do it for other women and to compete with them. When they shouldn’t even care about other women and what they do. Despite whatever excuses people give to this and I get why men are backing off in the majority sense. It’s always beneficial to be in a healthy relationship with friends, family, and a relationship partner then nothing at all. The opposite is also true of unhealthy tho so adapting to put yourself in the best situation is always required in all areas of life.

[@Marcustheseer]

i sort of get it but i also think its misguided,respect for youre man isnt in what you wear but how you behave and what you say,i think its even abit narcisistic and controlling to expect a woman to wear thing because of whats expected,i dont think you would want youre partner to expect you to dress a certain way. let people wear what they want that way it shows you have respect for them,how others react to that is not on the one wearing it but the one seeing it. its the equivilant of saying cover youreself up because others might get sexualy arroused and get idee's,wel thats on them for not having enuf self controle not on you for dressing a certain way. and shure there is an argument to be made that to make it easier for guys let the woman dres more modest and shure its a point but is that realy the stander you wanna set? put it on the woman so the guy doesnt have to learn enuf selfcontrole.

[@stoxel]

If you ain't selling, don't advertise.

[@JimKittell6486]

@@Marcustheseer I understand about seeing it as controlling. I don't agree. First, how others react just doesn't matter. Second, dressing modestly, to me, means showing off w/o showing it. IE: flatter your figure without showing a lot of skin. The more provocatively a woman dresses, the less respect she has for herself, as she is using sexual appeal to draw attention, rather than what kind of person she is. How she dresses says a lot about what kind of person she is, and, by extension, her partner. Hence, dressing modestly shows respect for him, as well as herself.

[@Marcustheseer]

@@JimKittell6486 oke to me its not about how the woman dresses but how she carry's herself,they can wear a short skirt and boots with panty's and a top but if there not flonting it or doing it for the attension but because she likes to wear it then i have no issu with it. thing is woman mostly do wear it for attension and then its just slutty,but showing skin shouldnt be a reason to disapprove or are we gonna disaprove of people on the beach because they only wear a bikini or a swim pants?

[@kellykellogg9451]

The fact that you understand the male psyche and that you are so in tune to what men want and feel and how to care for them psychologically above all, makes you the most beautiful person on the internet, in my mind. Thank you for what you do and what you share.

[@doma3554]

Yes, I’m thankful for this considerate and thoughtful lady as well.

[@DamienThorne-w4l]

Thank you for showing your husband the respect he deserves. You're one of the women who kept it in my mind that there are still good women in the world.

[@mattkusiak2675]

My ex would dress up if we were going out but never in a provocative way. Buuut, she would (and still does from what I’ve heard) post incredibly provocative pics on her socials. This in my mind is attention seeking behavior (and a red flag) and she seeks validation from it. In the end it worked and she had guys from socials after her and well….she cheated. So it worked 🤷🏻‍♂️ Huge red flag I agree. One reason I follow you is because you don’t flaunt your body and clearly respect yourself and your relationship. This is rare nowadays.

[@jlord40]

Thank you for being you, dressing appropriately, and not selling your body, you are a good roll model.

[@DjigitDaniel]

As a happily married man who's heart bleeds for the youth of today, I am thankful when someone provides great insight via social media (especially a kind and caring woman) and does it in such a way that my wife and I both can watch without either of us feeling uncomfortable. You know... like a normal society or community should and has communicated in the past. God bless and thank you.

[@Andres64B]

I've been watching your short videos and I have always liked them, but I never realized until now that you actually have a doctorate. Congratulations! You should be very proud of that.

[@leosthrivwithautism]

I actually respect you more for not being extreme in any way. Well at least in my opinion. I believe it is your knowledge that is more appealing than looks. Don't get me wrong you are a very beautiful woman. But what attracts me is the message you bring and just your personality. You always speak with a smile on your face and it's inviting, you have that fun cool vibe to you. And that's what attracts me more than anything else. And when it comes to the relationship part, if there is no insecurities between too people and there is understanding and like you mentioned they aren't taking on a different personality online then the are with that significant other there should be nothing to worry about. It's actually a great topic you brought up on this video. Keep up the awesome work! I love your videos for the value they offer.

[@FloridaGuy549]

Another win for personality! Like 80 to 95 percent of what makes a woman attractive.

[@davidadams421]

I found the number of reasons why a women might dress provocatively very interesting because my actual thoughts on this are so very binary: provocative dressing = attention seeking, and I have always found such behaviour unattractive, therefore, and somewhat ironically, the woman unattractive with it. You offer interesting perspectives, Emily. New subscriber!

[@davidchambers44]

Totally respect this! It's really about whatever you're comfortable with, and the boundaries you establish with your significant other. I'm sure most people here are here for your opinions and insights on relationships and the fact that you stick up for guys, and for the importance of commitment and mature approaches to dating and marriage. Personally, I think that modesty is more attractive and feminine than it's given credit for. There are plenty of ways someone can dress without showing everything off and still look amazing.

[@bradblair8922]

Now, a days, girls in middle school are dressing provocatively with crop tops and booty shorts. I blame social media for this happening.

[@josephesposito3499]

Blame the teachers as well

[@TheRealFreshOJ]

Unfortunately, it's not new. It's been happening for several decades in middle school.

[@Hbaqer4545]

Blame the parents too they are the root of this my sister was never allowed to dress like that and neither does she want to cause of how we was raised

[@randymartin5521]

And the parents for letting them do it. Too many parents these days don't want to be bothered with parenting and let their kids do what they want just to keep them quiet and out of their hair.

[@claytonniederberger5933]

@@randymartin5521true and started long before social media

[@taymac7208]

That is one reason why I subscribed. You respect yourself, your body, and know that dressing provocatively is not what gets your point across. Respect to you.

[@unklekurlu]

I appreciate your honesty, modesty and commitment to this work. It's refreshing to see a calmer perspective on all this hyped up nonsense. I've Faced marriage and divorce, plenty of broken relationships and now I'm very selective on who gets my time. I'm not even 40 so I hold faith there's someone with common sense out there that can pair bond still and not tout the "i don't need no man" mantra.

[@raydenn6027]

When you are attractive because of who you are on the inside you don't have to flaunt your body. You will attract a man who values you as a person, companion and partner.

[@whattheflimflam]

Not if you are overweight.

[@roman_kofyno]

But still, men are heavily "carnal creatures" and also appearance is VERY important for us (as much as what´s inside). But would say face is the most important.

[@roadie3124]

@@whattheflimflam There's someone for everyone. Some guys are attracted to overweight women. I've always been attracted to tall, slim, athletic, fit women. I'm wired that way. But I can also recognise that some overweight women are very attractive. A nice smile helps. So does intelligence and kindness and empathy.

[@christineshah7330]

If a woman doesn't look like a mud fence she can get plenty of male attention in relatively modest clothing. I also developed early and have that curvy, hourglass shape (actually curvy...not "curvy but actually fat" That's different and men respond accordingly. ) and that, combined with a personality = lots of attention. I learned almost right away to dress simply, fitted, but no plunging necklines or miniskirts or booty shorts. Don't advertise what you aren't selling... My husband came to my life after I was already this way. There is zero chance my modesty combined with how cute I am is not a major factor in my husband's interest way back then. He felt that my standards for my self-presentation had meaning. It said something about my self-respect and my respect for my relationship. He wasn't wrong. We were only 15. This isn't rocket science and it had nothing to do with religion or my parents demanding anything. They raised me to value myself. Period.

[@1twistedcpl6575]

My husband likes when I "dress" sexy. As I do as well. But it's always for him, myself and us. And always only where it's "adult" environment, no families, children etc. I will often wear a blazer/wrap in restaurants etc but then remove it later at a bar or club etc. Sure we get "looks," rarely any harrassment or negative comments tho. It's a right time and place awareness thing for us.

[@christineshah7330]

@@1twistedcpl6575 Definitely all about time and place. I never really thought I was dressing differently until I was older and noticed that I was the only not in a tiny bikini or a short skirt. I think being gifted with curves and height also contributed. I have a lot to contain and otherwise modest skirts can easily look trashy on me. 🤣🤣 Looks and comments from others are not my concern. People who are worried about how I am living can kick rocks.

[@JMigUK]

I’m sure most would agree that your decision is much more respectable and needs no justification. Thank you for having integrity 🙏🏻

[@help33etk]

This seems like a good video to simply say thank you for your content. Your real message isn't about men or women, but self respect/ love.

[@markosgraveyard]

A neighbour girl I was always very attracted to is a very curvy lady. Absolutely stunning body, a fearless smile, very real, affectious personality. Except for maybe a short time in her teenage years, she never dressed provocatively. She always seemed very special to me even though she never did that. Yes, I have been attracted from such dressing in other ladies before, but I think having the ability to not want to show off your beauty is what is more attractive in the long run.

[@Necrolord76]

I appreciate that you don't dress provocatively in your videos. It shows that you have self respect on a public platform and that you want to be taken seriously, not click bait.

[@TheHighlandGuardians]

Man here! I was raised as and still am a strong Christian, and I think that informs most of my views. I see provocative dress as a turn off. I'm not red-pill or weird about it, and I have a few friends who dress that way, but when I'm looking for a girl to get in a relationship with and am around a girl I might ask out, if she's dressing provocatively I instinctively am less attracted to her. I look for a woman who doesn't need to display in that way or seek that attention, and is so confident in themselves that they know how attractive they are without needing other men or women to tell them so. I've worked a lot on that personally and hope to find someone on the same page!

[@stacy-annmorgan6685]

As a woman I absolutely love dresses especially the 1950’s style, jeans and I are not friends I feel like a woman in dresses more than jeans. I prefer modest too. One thing I ask myself when dressing is it to please me or to please God. Wish I was stronger in my walk with Him if you can pray for me.

[@dankimbrough2411]

You are spot on with this video. Was married to a woman who always dressed in a way that would draw attention. It's not right if/ when you truly love and respect your man. She did neither, and eventually walked out on me. Neither person should indices attention from another when you are in a committed ( truly committed) to each other. Just my 2 cents.

[@dankimbrough2411]

Intice

[@josephesposito3499]

AGREED. Even moderate shorts are wrong if you're out in public

[@1twistedcpl6575]

How did she dresa before you started dating and while you were engaged? JC

[@renenetatm8222]

@@1twistedcpl6575 she always dressed the same way

[@For_What_It-s_Worth]

@@dankimbrough2411 Entice

[@mischamartinstudios]

Emily, I'm glad I found you. It's so unusual to find ANYONE with an objective opinion attempting to help us honestly understand the strain between the sexes as the power differential shifts toward more equality.

[@212caboose]

It's refreshing and wholesome that you don't. It's also respectful to yourself and your man. Bravo. Keep it up!

[@The333]

I have a huge respect for women who dress and act modestly. It is actually way more interesting and attractive and intriguing than showing it all to everyone. Also, I think it is actual true, Alpha Female strength. If you are a gal and you know you have a bangin' body, then that is sort of your "weapon" and who choose to share it with is your power and your control. Bravo.

[@stilettoheelslover]

Emily is correct - there is a massive difference between dressing provocatively *for* *her* *man* as she know he likes a particular outfit or style etc, on date nights or in the bedroom for example; vs compared to dressing provocatively just for general male attention from *any* *guy* every day. Learning what your guy likes, and dressing *to* *please* *him* _at_ _the_ _appropriate_ _time_ is part of a loving relationship. A man is proud to have that woman on his arm in public, knowing other men are envious of him having such a beautiful partner.

[@roadie3124]

What defines dressing provocatively? There are companies that specialise in provocative clothing. Some men no doubt find their clothes to be attractive. I don't, but I'm not going to demean someone who is attracted to them. Different stokes and all that. To me, a trim figure in a well-cut skirt is very attractive. I worked in professional environments, nearly everyone having STEM degrees, some with PhDs in e.g. physics or mathematics from the top universities. We all dressed professionally. A well made, modest dress can be more "provocative" than something that's obviously designed to provoke.

[@chuckbowbuck]

Another awesome, perfectly said video. Only thing I disagree with is I still dont like my woman dressing provocatively when we go out. She doesn't need to show off the goods to others. Dont want anyone disrespecting her because of her clothes

[@iahmed3271]

I have so much respect and admiration for you, you always talk on matters which many would find taboo in today's day and age, but you are right is doing so and do it so well. May the almighty bless you and allow you to continue to spread goodness and the truth. (Please don't let 'snow flakes ' type of people bring you down as you would always have respect from the majority of decent people. ❤️)

[@ryanslauderdale]

I do want a woman that saves her provocative dress for when she's with me. If we're in a relationship together, I'm putting in the effort on my end to keep the relationship healthy. I consider it a respect issue if she's always in sweat pants and a baggy shirt with me, but she's in booty shorts and a tied off plaid shirt that shows all the skin when she's with her friends(i.e., the Daisy Duke look). Plus, it also helps me keep my eyes off of other women, if my lady is giving me a good reason to admire her beauty. Men are visually stimulated, and other people don't need to know our business or take part in it to any extent.

[@thrilla72]

If she is dressing up when not with you, she is advertising for a new man. Trust me, I've had way too many women who were married hit on me.

[@1twistedcpl6575]

@@thrilla72 you must be a too tier stud then 👍

[@thrilla72]

@@1twistedcpl6575 loool

[@_Solaris]

A woman who understands the importance of publically representing herself, her man, her family & the family enterprise may be a keeper.

[@davidgibson1211]

You obviously are as intelligent as you are attractive, but you don’t feel the need to improve your followers by showing skin. I commend you for this and respect you even more so. Keep being an amazing source of inspiration and information. As a widower looking for tips on trying to understand women today… I consider you a fantastic woman absolutely worthy of respect and admiration. 💯👍🏼👏👏👍🏼💯

[@devindell427]

I like your channel very much. For a younger lady you bring very good informative facts to the table, that I think a bigger majority of the women now days need to hear. You dress appropriately to do these videos, and I really appreciate seeing your videos. You, as a younger lady do bring back hope that more younger women will follow in your footsteps with their dress code as well.

[@AnonymousViewer1000]

I love your candour on this topic. It is very refreshing. Girls much younger than 17 know what they are doing when wearing skimpy clothes. I saw this happening in late elementary school and especially in high school when I was a kid. For example, when I was in school, I would see a formerly nerdy girl start wearing skimpy outfits and then instantly become very popular with the boys. To answer one of your questions, as a man there are no words for how much I enjoy seeing good looking women in skimpy clothes. However, I struggle with this as a Christian because I am probably enjoying it too much and I am enjoying seeing women dress more skimpily than they probably should be.

[@josephesposito3499]

Cut the bullshit. wo-MEN who wear skimpy clothes are HARLOTS

[@robertgirau7339]

I drive around town all day; I listen to you more than I watch or see what you’re wearing. I find what you have to say in this video with regards to dress particularly insightful as it pertains to my teenage daughter and seeing her grow up into a young woman. I feel better equipped to understand how she dresses and how that can impact both the amount and type of attention she receives.

[@samv2023]

I don't know if any other guys feel like me, buuuut ... I would feel uncomfortable if my woman dressed provocatively whilst out with me - I would rather she still dress modest. I would feel uncomfortable mainly because I'd feel that it would be drawing attention towards us, and not necessarily positive attention. It might draw jealousy, might depress single people, might challenge other guys - they might want to test me and see just how much my woman is my woman - I don't want to have to deal with any of that crap.

[@truthinkr77]

Thank you for being honest about your appearance, Emily. Your inner beauty shines through your common clothing!

[@patriot1303]

Oh my gosh the more you talk you are just a lovely person and you give me hope in women - just keep being yourself and you never owe anyone a reason for “why you don’t dress more provocatively”

[@phaxad]

ALL women should dress modestly. I have 100% respect for you.

[@josephesposito3499]

AGREED.

[@A_W2016_love]

Agreed should be left for the bedroom or in privacy.

[@maermydionkhyngmaker]

when i first saw one of your vids, you reminded me of an actress from back in the 70s (iirc) but i continue to watch because you seem rather candid and honest, but also because you don't have to add gimmickry and provocativeness to sell your thoughts and your channel. it's so much nicer when there's no need to filter out an excess of irrelevant garbage to find what's good and honest.

[@samyip4096]

Thank you for being who you are with the world that we are in. You have value, moral, and boundaries. Not just you are teaching your value to the male audience, but add a lot of value to the female lives as well. Plus you are an excellent role model to your kids.

[@judyperri9496]

Being unmarried and pregnant is not being a role model 🤦🏻‍♀️Wearing provocative clothes is definitely less objectionable

[@Eclectic8]

Wow, Emily! Much more indepth and insightful than I expected (as usual). The only thing I'd like to add is re cultural context, i.e. to take this beyond the (too often myopic) US frame. Do I want to be with a feminist so rigid she dresses in a bikini in Cairo just because in some ideal world she "should" feel safe (thereby, incidentally, disrespecting my obligation to physically protect her) or the puritan who keeps ankles and collar bone covered on a nude beach in Scandinavia? No, neither. It's usually the same tolerance for ambiguity which seeks to understand, accept and respect (even embrace) cultural differences that does the same for complimentary gender differences. (Now, if I could just find someone able to tolerate my run-on sentences 😕😏.)

[@joepino4528]

What a delightful young woman…intelligent, mature, well spoken and very pretty. Thank you for your voice. 20:17

[@bostonvair]

What you were saying toward the end of the video is captured by the line in the great slow-dance love song by Jeff Healey called "Angel Eyes." He says something like "All you fellows can look all you like, but this girl you see is leaving here wirh me tonight." Going out with your woman and having her look sexy and desirable is a very different thing than her going out without you looking like that. What you say is, as usual, spot on!

[@kentyannayon3741]

I see it at work. Yes, I work in an environment where one wouldn't expect a lot of women, but they're there. When someone dresses a certain way, it's hard to take them professionally, but it's also hard to think they're not seeking attention. There are ways to be modest while beating the heat or activity, there are ways to draw attention. Especially when you see some women dressing appropriately, while others are clearly trying to be attractive, it gets harder not to view it for what it is. It's kinda funny, the women I feel most comfortable interacting with and am most open to developing a closer relationship with tend to wear the less attractive, but equally functional outfits. The women who wear tight and sexy, I tend to avoid until I have to deal with them. Some of them turn out to be pretty cool people, but I'm less likely to give the benefit of the doubt up front.

[@josephesposito3499]

Skimpy shorts are disrespectful even if it's hot. Knee length shorts are just as comfortable when it comes to heat

[@deibittox6653]

You hit the nail on the head on this topic. As you've said, if a woman dresses provocatively, on social media and not while going out with BF/husband, it's a complete red flag. The way I see it would be that she's looking for other options and I'm just a placeholder. If she's dressing provocatively everywhere (on social media and everyday life), then, same idea. Still a red flag because she's still looking for other options. If she's only dressing out provocatively when she's going out with me, then, it's a green flag because she's trying to make me look good. We LOVE this. The way a woman dresses and in what scenario definitely tells us guys what type of girl she is. As you've said, it's not because we men are insecure, it's just the fact that we recognize these behaviors and what they mean about the woman. A little tangent because you mentioned when a girl dresses up provocatively and goes out with her girlfriends. To us guys, this means that she is going out with the full intent to cheat on us men (it's probably to go to a bar or club...in which, there's really only ONE REASON to go to those places...and it's for a hookup/one-night-stand). It's even more insulting since women think us men don't recognize this fact and will just say ok. I mean, SIMPs will pretend to be oblivious to this fact and allow it, but underneath it all...they know. Absolutely NO ONE actually has fun at clubs; they are just places where you pay exhorbitant prices to get drunk, have music blasting in the background where you can't even have any meaningful conversation going, and use the alcohol as an excuse to make bad choices.

[@bryanmaynard9804]

I appreciate your take on this, and I find red flags when a woman is seeking attention by dressing provocatively. What you put out there is what you attract. I firmly believe that when a woman is in a relationship, there’s some things that only her partner should be the only one seeing it.

[@josephesposito3499]

BINGO! It's a form of infidelity for wo-MAN to show her body to anyone but her MAN

[@wallykramer7566]

Emily, I learned a great deal more about you in this episode than I did in watching over 25 of your other episodes previously! 1. Married. 2. Educated 3. In the sciences. 4 Pregnant. 5. Early bloomer. 6. Doesn't choose to call attention to herself.

[@Umgortie]

In my opinion it is attention seeking and I won't give that kind of woman the time of day. My ex wife dressed provocatively to go to work and i then found out how she was involved in numerous affairs, it's an absolute red flag to me.

[@josephesposito3499]

BINGO. It's a sign of infidelity when a wo-MAN wears revealing clothing, even a bathing suit on the beach is biblically wrong

[@josephesposito3499]

@@grayghostJSM Yes, well that just shows a culture in conflict, part of the culture wants wo-MEN to be modest, and the other part wants to be fEMINIZED/WESTERNIZED

[@rfwoods]

I just had this exchange with someone. I had mentioned that it was kind of a red flag if a wife/GF had bought a bunch of sexy new clothes/underwear that she didn’t ever wear for her partner. One of the people I was talking to got offended by it saying someone can buy clothes just for themselves and their partner doesn’t have to look to sexualize it. But in my opinion, this was missing the point. It’s kind of disrespectful if she doesn’t wear it normally around the house or out with her partner, but does when she’s going out with friends or to work.

[@rsgrsg1361]

You're doing the right thing, save that for the special person in your life. I don't like other men knowing what I'm blessed with.

[@jaymichael91]

Total respect for your conservative demeanor. God gave you beautiful eyes and mind that keep me focused on your message.

[@TerryProthero]

You are absolutely right. A woman who dresses more modestly will be taken more seriously by men. You want to look like a professional. Not like someone who is in the world's oldest profession. As for others on KZbin, I'm pretty conservative in this regard. And I think a woman showing cleavage but dressed conservatively otherwise isn't too bad. And in some cases, their style of clothing comes off as dressier and more professional. That part is actually a positive. A woman in a business suit is going to be taken more seriously than one wearing jeans. So, you really have these two factors influencing someone's impression of her. Your look is more frumpy and unkempt but is very modest. So, it's a little weak in one respect but strong in the other. But then there is a third dynamic that needs to be considered in this particular case. Your less formal look can make you seem more approachable and empathetic. Like someone I would feel comfortable sitting down and having a conversation with. The fact that you are a woman talking about men's issues already creates a credibility problem right out of the gate. And so dressing more formally can backfire in that it can make you seem more out of touch and less credible in this sense. I have even seen this with men who spoke on the subject wearing a suit to demonstrate they were of a high economic class. And men commenting considered the person less honest and possibly scamming people.

[@hukelburryful]

I allways like hearing your points of view. I think you always hit it on the button. Your so smart.

[@ImaginerImagines]

I am a man. I have set a policy for myself of 'notice but do not stare' no matter how people are dressed. I try not to base how I think of someone based on how they dress but at the extremes judgement enters. I can say that the way you present yourself simply allows me to focus on your content without distraction. If I was distracted though that would be my problem and not the yours. Thank you for talking it out though. I think talking things out is healthy and refreshing.

[@DTraiN5795]

The truth and judgments and generalizations are taking way wrong. People use them all the time to make the right decisions and to keep them safe. Having an open mind to change your opinion on a specific situation is at one’s best interest tho bc exceptions exist. Going off exceptions only will only create mistakes after mistakes. Also to use this to make a person feel better about themselves or to take attention off themselves is wrong and doesn’t really help that person. The first part of this is commonly done and for a good reason. There’s nothing wrong with it either.

[@1twistedcpl6575]

Good attitude.

[@NBT2024]

This is just another reason I respect you and I’m sure others would agree. Thanks for being you and setting a standard for other women to follow 👊🏻😎

[@Balgorn]

You are a refreshing change from the tacky women that plague social media.

[@andrehenkel1981]

I think you did everything right, woman who realise they're pretty and it can work for them, before they're forced to use their brain, usually stay stupid until it's too late! ...I think you've done it all in the right way, you are a really capable woman, that can be adoreable and useful in every role, friend, girlfriend, mother or someone who can give good advices on Tiktok! ...p.s. I esp. like your nerdyness! 😘

[@AmericanRoadWarrior23]

I respect a woman that dresses well without being provocative. Lingerie belongs in the bedroom, not in public.

[@Marcustheseer]

i realy like people that choose to stay true to who they are instead of doing whats expected or what comes easy.

[@growth2go]

I like your attitude. It's really a shame that many women on social media just dress tightly to increase their reach. Most of them have a good message. But selling it again through her body is always a kick into feminism. Keep doing it like before. You're doing great. i love your videos 💯💪🏻☀️

[@josephesposito3499]

AGREED. And it's NOT a MAN'S fault if he gets aroused when wo=MEN wear hALF NAKED clothing

[@Jasmin-ji7tb]

​@@josephesposito3499sorry u r on wrong platform...looks like someone's gonna be single

[@daleeckholm26]

She doesn't need too! She's beautiful just the way she is! Not to mention very intelligent and kind when you hear her speak! Would have loved to have met someone like her back in the 80's. Dating was HELL for guys like me.

[@anthonyhargis6855]

"Likewise, the women should adorn themselves in appropriate dress, with modesty and soundness of mind, not with styles of hair braiding and gold or pearls or very expensive clothing," -- 1 Timothy 2:9 Women who dress "provocatively," well, we have a name for them.

[@josephesposito3499]

Bingo! HARLOTS!

[@anthonyhargis6855]

@@josephesposito3499 Among others.

[@quentincaldwell4302]

EMILY ITS EXTREMELY COMMENDABLE YOU DONT DRESS LIKE THAT. ITS PRESENTABLE. ITS RESPECTABLE. YOU ARE SHOWING WHAT WE SHOULD BE FOCUSING ON. WE NEED TO FOCUS ON THE INFORMATION.

[@samadams6487]

One should not dress provocatively. That you don't is good. It shows you respect yourself

[@NerdlySquared]

It’s a sacrifice too, she gave up a lot of extra clicks, that kind of stuff very reliably brings on KZbin. So she did give something up in terms of numbers. Shows she has actual skin in the game to be true to her ideas…or rather non skin in the game, in this case 🤔

[@samadams6487]

@@NerdlySquared no it's not a sacrifice

[@noellesanchez4978]

@@samadams6487 yeah it’s not sacrifice it’s respecting your future husband, yourself and your creator (God)

[@stephenlong2824]

Form fitting well tailored clothes are considered "luxury" items so only the better off people are expected to own them. 15 years ago a guy I worked with owned 5 white dress shirts, each one was tailored and cost him $150 each.

[@joeirelan5813]

Yes. How she carries herself and context matters

[@rapsack7058]

I am supoer sure woman know exactly what signals they send by how they dress. I think woman that act like be single should be single, and thats also is connected to how they dress. If they dress for a club night to draw attention from men and are in a reltionship, than thy should do and go for it, but they should do it as a single.

[@ronalddonnan99]

I value your opinion and explanation you have added to my understanding of myself. Your seriousness is reflected by dress and look.

[@mozpogson3639]

I once asked a girl who wears bikinis, would you go in public in just underwear? She was horrified at the thought. Both types of clothing cover the same bits, the types of materials seems to bring out different feelings within a woman. Totally illogical.

[@speaclear6303]

Absolutely, they love to run around in their underwear..

[@vita2687]

The difference is the context.

[@josephesposito3499]

Agreed. Bikinis are trampy

[@JimKittell6486]

LOL. "Totally illogical". Isn't that the definition of a woman? Hey! Only half serious.

[@1twistedcpl6575]

Do you wear shirts while your at the beach? I mean aren't men's swim trucks basically like boxer underwear? Or speedo's like tighty whities lol

[@pmeijler7875]

Dressing the way you do draws attention to your face. A lot of communication and speech is visual. And you appear to be a beautiful person. You don't need to dress provocatively to deliver your message.

[@mjrockx100]

Love you Emily 🤗 thank you for showing the world how a desirable women should be in all areas!

[@Steve-nl9ed]

I love a woman who dresses modesty. If everyone can see it, I don't want it. If she has to dress to get attention, something is wrong. classy is wonderful.

[@robertbiron]

Emily, you definitely do garner attention, but of the best kind and I feel so proud of you. And I said all this just before you said you have a doctorate, now I am even more proud of you. And all that what you say and do, makes you a most beautiful person in my eye's.

[@highhopesdetecting7447]

Because you’re a real lady that respects herself, knows she’s doesn’t have to be provocative in order to be beautiful...I look for women like that and let me tell you THATS HARD AS F**k TO FIND in a woman in today’s society lol

[@SuperGreyfox99]

Respect and self confidence is what you got and all you need. Sure you can drop a level with short V necks but why drop yourself down, for more viewers. Well the viewers you pickup will be Perverts and you don't need that. The viewers you have are true to you and your platform. Your doing it all perfectly just the way you are. You go girl......... Respect

[@christianguthrie6614]

Thank you. Modesty as well as fidelity and monogamy are values under attack. As this channel knows misandry is more prominent in our culture in certain age groups than misogamy. Both are terrible attacks on the family and on both men and women.

[@rwooley4494]

I love that you stand your ground. Weak people dress less for attention but real women can be so beautiful clothed appropriately

[@AZrakoon]

Men want respect, you represent him. You are a reflection of him, you are his other half. If you dress like a promiscuous woman, it tells the world he has made a bad choice.

[@josephesposito3499]

YUP. And most men have

[@AZrakoon]

@@josephesposito3499 Some of these women, these guys have look terrible. I wouldnt hire them as employees either.

[@auric180]

Personally i don’t really pay much attention to what KZbinrs wear. As I’m mostly just listening while doing other things. It’s their thoughts I’m most interested in, their points of view of the topics. Reaction videos I still mostly listen but do watch to see their facial expression of the situation of the shows they’re watching. If they’re wearing revealing clothes and have nothing to say or express just screams, I’d skip it. While those who wear fully covered clothing but have a lot to express and theorised about the situation of the show. I’m catching every episode with them.

[@garystielow232]

It's much easier to listen to a woman say just about anything intellectual (or even just important) if she isn't showing me half of her skin, or all of her curves. Thank you.

[@ciaranirvine]

The odd thing here is that I find women like you who are obviously just wearing what they feel comfortable in, like just what they would wear to go to the store, and DGAF about attracting attention in that way, to be way more attractive than women who are obviously dressing for attention (especially while loudly denying it lol, huge red flag). And of course context matters like the beach or a nightclub, of course people are wearing different clothes. But at work or when you randomly run into them on the street on a Wednesday afternoon? Hmmmm. It does raise questions. And again especially if they make show of being offended at attention in that context. Anyways it is your mind and opinions that we watch you for, keep being you Emily!

[@genelewis2481]

A woman that is seeking attention and validation is a huge red flag to most high value men! Definitely NOT marriage material! Yes, we like our women to dress up nice for us!!

[@1twistedcpl6575]

So its ok if it's for YOU. But a woman who does but it isnt for you is a woman of low value? 👍

[@genelewis2481]

@@1twistedcpl6575 learn English

[@genelewis2481]

@@1twistedcpl6575no. A woman who does it just for attention and validation from men she doesn’t even know is not what men want! How do you not understand this??

[@seanbond8075]

Emily... Ignore people and keep being YOU... You provide information and it makes no difference as to what you wear. I subscribed to your channel for being informative and honest... Thank you for everything you do and continue being YOU... Period! Cheers! PS.... I think it is cool how you slide across the floor into the frame... To me that is your trademark! ;-)

[@lynneggen7978]

conservative dressing is much more attractive. let ones imagination run wild. ❤❤

[@rapsack7058]

Yea, it depends on the attention. WHat signals do you want set. Do you want get attention and maybe a ONS if the riht man react? Or do you seeking a long term relationship. OR you are in a relationship. It is allways a differnt kind of signals you want send and woman exactly know what signals they send.

[@OverlandGearGuy]

You have amazing content, and I tune in each day, I respect the way you dress and carry yourself, you are a quality woman, keep being YOU and don't cheapen your brand or yourself.

[@_SCrappy-]

I think you’re a good remodel for women

[@kristiandickinson4472]

Hey This isn't the video I wanted to leave a comment on, you showed up on my shorts about men, you nail it. Hope you have a safe trip can't wait to see more

[@bullbars1822]

Provacative is such an undefined word. Dressing with ample cleavage showing in my opinion, has nothing to do with their intelligence and is something that a whore would do to get the attention of all the wrong kind of men. If a woman is looking for a man for a relationship, stop wearing slutty clothing. It says a lot about the kind of woman she really is or how intelligent she is. I watch this channel because of the wisdom and concern shown for everyone. Thankyou for being so brave and honest. I really appreciate this.

[@josephesposito3499]

Agreed. Even Emily wears high shorts in one of her videos, I think even that's wrong but at least she has a conscious about it

[@derekboyt3383]

If sexuality is used to get a man without demonstrating proficiency in other areas then the relationship will eventually fail because there will always be a new interest at some point. If a woman tells her man (by example) that showing off skin is ok then a man is going to start looking at skin everywhere.

[@ianishraque]

The major reason why my girl left me is because I asked her not to wear dresses in a certain manner that'd make other guys look at her with lustful eyes. She agreed to me on it, yet she didn't listen to me and decided to stick to her opinion. Now as her man, I'd definitely wouldn't want other men to look at her like that cause it's disrespectful to me as well. Now if she were single I wouldn't care, but since she's with me, she needed to respect my choices too. So eventually it didn't work and we had to breakup. That's it. The end of our relationship.

[@AZrakoon]

It's that simple, if she doesnt play by the rules just leave.

[@babybear0067]

Did she ask you to also not wear certain items or clothes?

[@ianishraque]

@@babybear0067 Nope -

[@babybear0067]

@@ianishraque why?

[@ianishraque]

@@babybear0067 cause I wasn't wearing something that's provocative to other women. simple -

[@STAND-ALONE]

Love love your channel. Thank you for all the time and energy it takes to upload your videos. You are appreciated.

[@ISSO8BOITE]

Yes, wearing provocative is a red flag for me, I don't know why some girls do it, they said "I want to feel confident" but the real reason is to seek the attention from a lot of persons and then she can choose wich one is the best, it's like the flies are attracted to sugar

[@josephesposito3499]

They're HARLOTS

[@BoredTAK5000]

You shouldn’t have to justify this. You dress the way you want

[@aaronm.2718]

Wow!!! Ok, started watching yesterday. My initial impression was WAY off. My mistake. You are the real deal. Well done and awesome content!!!👍🏻✌🏻

[@johnclark2149]

In my line of work Izi see many people, I work in an apartment complex with retail below/attached. A lot of women and men bring their dogs to the dog park attached, as well as coming and going to go to the local jogging area provided by the city. And when someone dresses for comfort they are always more attractive. But when they dress a bit out of their ‘range’ I can sense their discomfort and I always see their ‘look back’. Mortal of my story is; When you are comfortable in your life everything else falls in line. I have more t hi Inca to share, but am on a journey now. I’ll share more when o can.

[@josephesposito3499]

Girls shouldn't jog in public, that in of itself is sinful. Jogging in half naked shorts is IMOP a form of streaking

[@r.8405]

Emily, I'd like to say something without expecting any sort of response. I first discovered your vids thanks to some random FB page that shared them. My first thought was that you are surprisingly likeable (probably because you seemed rather natural and not seeking attention) and that you seem to understand the male psyche and our entire emotional and mental structure. I must admit that I initially suspected that a man was actually telling you what to say and how to present yourself. I now stand corrected, because you truly are very natural in your videos. You tend to say so many things that I can identify with, and I would like to thank you for portraying what a woman should, in my personal view, be like, both on a visual and a mental level. Your boyfriend is truly lucky to have you, if what we are all seeing is who you really are. You come across as a genuine person (and woman), which is more than I could say about most female KZbinrs, etc., who typically just want male attention. I don't normally subscribe to anyone's channel, but I am now considering subscribing to yours. It's good to see that there are some understanding, gentle and intelligent women out there, though it often seems almost impossible to believe. :)

[@kennybridges1330]

I normally don't comment on these forums. But I feel I have to speak up here. Wear whatever makes you comfortable. If others can't handle it. That's their problem, not yours. You are a beautiful woman just as you are. I have no problem with the way you dress. Personally, I think it's nobody's business but yours anyway.

[@RustySax1949]

Thoughtful and insightful, Miss Emily, thank you for sharing.