Men Will Not Leave The Relationship Even If They Don't Love You Anymore - Must Watch

[@cemeciam.4019]

No, most men won’t leave. And the ones who want to leave but don’t have the courage to end the relationship; will force your hand by doing the most low-down dirtiest thing and then YOU will have no other choice but to leave. A lot of men are cowards. Smh

[@user-ol9bo2ei1r]

Yep, which is why they shouldn't be in charge

[@kellysnyclife663]

Yesss!! Men's are cowards!! I've been saying this!!

[@LuckyOuijaBoy17]

MF facts! Saying this from my experience as a gay man it’s INSANE

[@oladeebiazazi4538]

@@user-ol9bo2ei1rMen should definitely be in charge

[@daebak_hana]

🎯🎯🎯

[@eli30013]

They don’t leave because they are codependent. They are more needy than a woman.

[@brittanyb8997]

💯💯💯

[@stroNg2thaBoNe2thaMax]

Bingo!

[@ak-47intelligence75]

Exactly

[@navimarlow]

This is the one and only!! 💯💯💯💯💯

[@vanessaroper3028]

Exactly

[@tricieb.5921]

It makes sense why women initiate a divorce first, men will stay there and be unhappy instead of leaving first.

[@Laoriginal718]

Yup that’s why they don’t live as long and the suicide rate for men is so high. They make dumb decisions. Only a weak man will stay.

[@olikah4667]

Oh no, the men aren’t unhappy cuz they’re getting all they want. And will mostly like have another on the side; they’re in heaven. It’s us women that need to put a stop to the madness.

[@tricieb.5921]

@@olikah4667 That's true too, but there are a lot of men out there who really can't stand their wives, they don't love their wives at all but won't leave.

[@somebodycomelistentothispo7217]

They aren’t unhappy tho. They just like seeing women miserable 😂. They still benefit from women staying. We hardly do

[@INGEN_Dahnie-el-aha-ha]

​@@tricieb.5921 You both are correct, actually 💯 ❤ 💯 💋

[@88QueenOfHearts]

Why would a man leave? The woman provide too much free value/ labor in a relationship.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

Yup!💯

[@jezebelle57]

If you are in a dead relationship and he’s barely there, stop taking care of him. Stop cooking, cleaning, and doing laundry for him. Go out with your girls, spend the weekend doing things YOU want to do and just ignore him. If you have children, obviously there are things you have to do for them, but after a certain age, start making them take care of themselves. Do not allow them to treat you like a servant. If you don’t already have a job, get one. Move into the spare room. Do not be his bangmaid anymore. Start showing your husband and children how much you do for them by NOT doing it. He’ll either divorce you, leave you, start cheating, acting out like a baby. Do not give in. Try some tough love and get your life back and get rid of the dead weight.

[@88QueenOfHearts]

@jezebelle57 My mother went on strike and stole an important developmental period. Took me years to undo the trauma. Be careful not to damage the children if you have them in these situations. And if he tries to pawn the work off on your tween or teenagers, take them out to their friends or on the free fun with you, too! Leave him with the little ones!

[@Kattlarv]

Yes. *On average*: Women have a useless deadbeat manchild they "MUST" adopt and raise. And men have a roommate that cooks and cleans for them. And often: Pays the bills. And said men can be cheating sloots, they don't care. They're not losing any "value", according to them.

[@xkanyewestfanx2009]

Then stop

[@rn2787]

Stop accepting bad relationships. Just because they are good people doesn't mean they are right for you.

[@Mariamsadventure]

A contradiction here. It cannot be both. A good person will do the right thing, they will not intentionally hurt others regardless of

[@smlorrin]

@@Mariamsadventure I don't see a contradiction. Every good person is not the right person for you. Therefore, you can have a bad relationship with a good person.

[@rn2787]

@Mariamsadventure you don't have to have intentional harm to have a bad relationship. There's a thing called incompatibility where there's an issue that isn't necessarily someone intentionally hurting their partner. For instance, if you want kids and the other person doesn't. They could have to move for their job. There are several circumstances where it's just not going to work.

[@anonymous101-sb1bf]

​@@Mariamsadventurefacts they are NOT good ppl they are simply wearing a mask

[@eugeniababyqueenmascheroni4257]

Exactly

[@Katya-zj7ni]

My granny always said a man don’t leave without another nest to go to. This is true. If he’s left you he’d got somewhere else to go.

[@lovely7464]

Well in my case, it was his MAMA

[@toscadonna]

My ex husband said to me, “Marriage is miserable, but we’re not gonna divorce like my parents did. We’re gonna stay together, because we’re better than them.” So I filed for the divorce. I tried for 4 years to get him to treat me like I was a human being, and he would not change. He’d even say, “F you, L! I’m not doing anything just because you want me to! I’m not changing for you!”

[@hardcandy71287]

but i bet he fully expected you to change if he asked you to. men are delusional.

[@INGEN_Dahnie-el-aha-ha]

👏🏿💯👏🏿💯 GOOD FOR YOOOOUUU!!!!! I'm so happy you left that bum. You deserve better ❤️ I'm sure he almost had a heart attack when you filed. The shock of his life 😂

[@kellysnyclife663]

Omg 😮 I'm glad u got outta that

[@SweetArt360]

Pretty sure he was telling on himself and telling you your marriage with him was gonna be miserable. Because he didn't want you or was just straight up messed up no matter who he would've been with. Hence the lack of interest to treat you well and he probably blamed his mother for the divorce. So he had that animosity towards you being that you're a woman. I could be wrong though. Glad you had the strength and self respect to walk away. Better late than never.

[@jellyrolly]

Anyone who isn't willing to change their bad habits into good ones for their family don't deserve a family.

[@heneverforesakesme4038]

Ladies, don't get married, because it's now getting harder for you to initiate the divorce. Don't have kids and don't get married. If anything pops off, you'll be chained to him till the day you disperse from this earth, especially through that child.

[@MojoeHart]

ONLY BW Are THINKING Like that

[@Chiefteeth1]

I love how women are telling each other not to get married yet when me say the same thing we’re incels😂

[@foxyboop4164]

​@@Chiefteeth1I'm sorry, did you NOT listen to the video to understand it?

[@iamdacaah9578]

FACTS

[@missinterpretation4984]

It makes sense tbh because even in a bad relationship, he’s probably benefiting from your unpaid labor, your contribution to shared bills like rent, and for them having sex w someone they don’t like very much isn’t traumatizing like it is for us. So a bad relationship for them is better than being alone.

[@PowerJade]

ALL. OF. THIS.

[@Blaquebarbgamer]

This is one reason why I don’t want to get married yet.

[@Mariamsadventure]

@@Blaquebarbgamerthis is a sign to keep praying and find the right spouse. They exist. I got one. Praise Almighty. When you see the red flags🚩,don’t settle.

[@proudscorpio46]

“Having sex w someone they don’t like isn’t traumatizing for them like it is us..” wow, gosh this.

[@Blaquebarbgamer]

@@Mariamsadventure That’s cool, but being married isn’t really at the top of my list right now. I like being alone. But I appreciate the advice.

[@slothisasin8240]

I heard a man complain about his pregnant wife not cooking and cleaning in the comment section under a pick-me video. It's ridiculous, some women truly struggle during pregnancy. To be unsympathetic to their wives when they are literally carrying their child is cruel.

[@kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066]

I remember dating a guy back in my early 20's who said "a lot of women use pregnancy as an excuse to get fat, lazy and demanding, so it's important for men to lay down the law early on".... Not the last red flag, but the first one I can remember that made me throw up in my mouth a little... Like eeeeeewwwww

[@turquesa_8056]

My dad dropped my mm off at the hospital and then went to the bar when she had me and my siblings (we are triplets). He changed once the hard work was over and we grew up and was more of a father. LOL

[@nangel4u24]

My daughter’s dad left me when I was 3 months pregnant to go be with someone else. I could barely get up to cook, clean, and go to work but I still have to care for my other kids so I had no choice but to get up. Sick, hurting and all

[@lauratracey1405]

​@@nangel4u24Now Iam in total agreement with childfree women.

[@tashawilliams8093]

🤦‍♀️

[@StillWaters101]

Thats why they're looking for "nice" and naive women who prioritize being nice over being wise. Women who are emotionally needy people pleasers who have a hard time saying no and speaking up for herself. She will put up with years of dysfunction, and drag her kids along for the ride too, and will even claim to be staying for the kids, to keep from having to stand up for herself, and them.

[@JadeMobley]

You just read my life to me with this comment. I had to leave my baby daddy after years of dysfunction. I kept making excuses for myself because i was scared to leave.

[@daebak_hana]

Nice = doormat

[@8eautyInTheDark]

​@@JadeMobleywhy were you scared to leave?

[@devinesent7696]

Not this woman!!

[@JadeMobley]

@@8eautyInTheDark Because I didn’t have my own money, job, or car. I also have 3 children by him. But I did eventually leave due to him cheating and I also was very unhappy about the current space I was in.

[@pink1237480]

Most men believe in the saying "its cheaper to keep her" thats why they would rather stay.

[@Speakup117]

I think you're right..

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

they are comfortable leeching off you

[@monejohn9973]

Please desperate woman will be unhappy while Still cooking cleaning and sleeping with him in bed and then have the nerve to wonder why he won't leave your doormat punching bag as😅😅😅how embarrassing plus I've heard married Men say they stayed for the benefits of their job and the tax right off.Literally they stay because you benefit them & dont required nothing but his company duhhhhhhh😅

[@NubianGoddess007]

Absolutely! I am currently divorcing after being together for almost 19 yrs and married almost 16yrs BUT the house we live in I have owned for over 22yrs. When I purchased my home, I made sure to buy something that I could afford even during financial difficulties. That means, my soon-to-be ex husband has to find his own house AND he is someone who think HE DESERVES a better lifestyle. So it would be cheaper & easier if I did not move forward with our divorce but he has done ZERO work to save this marriage ( but I would no”ever go back on my decision to divorce)

[@Nitra813]

Exactly

[@KevonnieElaine]

I have been saying this. Men will make a relationship so uncomfortable that instead of them breaking it off, they would rather be mean, distant, or aloof because they don’t want to be the bad guy. Or they are just comfortable with that woman, that they don’t want to start over. I remember talking to one guy and he told me he was in a 7 year relationship, KNOWING that he would never marry his ex. He was comfortable with her cooking and cleaning.

[@KurosakiLuvar01]

Wasting that girl time and putting miles on her kewchie. These men are DEVILS.

[@thediscustedkitty6348]

My exBF was with his ex for 11 years. They were engaged for 7 of those. He said that he wanted to leave 3 years in but he didn't want to have to start over again. He stayed I what sounded like a toxic relationship because he didn't want to be single.

[@Mariamsadventure]

Do not listen to words, but listen to their actions. Pay attention and listen to your instincts.

[@marya3823]

And watch how they handle different situations. How are they when angry, hungry , broke, expecting money, have money when you tell them no, when they don’t get their way. I heard about a man who killed his own son because his son ate his Father’s Day cheesecake.

[@AuthorLHollingsworth]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💯💯💯💯

[@AuthorLHollingsworth]

​@@marya3823💯💯💯💯

[@StillWaters101]

They have no reason to leave. Women are putting up with them, not the other around. Why do you think they pursue women vs women pursuing them? You are the resource and supply ladies.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

all of this💯

[@danidiaz2377]

He wants all the free labour at home while seeking out side stuff he just sees you as a resource this is why it’s crucial to stay single and child free once you get to involved with a m*n you will see untrustworthy and troubling behaviour

[@somebodycomelistentothispo7217]

Exactly. They still get the benefits.

[@8eautyInTheDark]

Is "men" a bad word now?

[@steveeleigh3731]

Men don’t leave relationships they just cheat to get their needs met.

[@janebaker4912]

"Needs" ... Or "wants"

[@AmberColeman-gq1wn]

They create various types of relationships with all the women they string along. I can tell your comment and the likes have a little narcissistic vibe going on- because y’all might think him not leaving means he’s totally in love with who “ he won’t leave”. When in reality they don’t leave any woman alone. Usually the reason why the main chick finally gets a monogamous relationship out of a man- is when the other women simply decide to stop providing him access. They already know the main fool at home is going to take pride in getting most of his time, or cleaning up after him more- he usually isolates her, she usually claims not to like other women, etc. LOL

[@AmberColeman-gq1wn]

The women leave- play games- the man then cries, hurts himself to make you stay… and you start to lose your mental footing and before you know it, 25 years have gone by. Some of yall are the wife and some of yall are the forever girlfriend. Either way- I have never understood why women value being the top idiot for a man. And then wonder why they keep experiencing the same kind of karma with these dudes , always snooping through phones and finding stuff out lol

[@kayabe856]

This all boils down to men not wanting to take accountability. Have you seen how long it takes them to ask for directions when they KNOW their lost?

[@kirawong4629]

OMGG this is so annoying

[@devinesent7696]

Pathetic

[@1111ScorpQueen]

These women got the “what if he change as soon as I walk away” syndrome. Lol

[@livvy8088]

Been there before until I realized that even if they do change, it doesn't undo what came before. It feels much better to be in a relationship where you don't have to constantly work to try to forget a long trail of disrespect or keep one eye open for any signs of relapsing. If they do genuinely change and treat someone else well from the get go, it's important to realize that you can't rewrite the past so you can't have that same experience with them. But you can move forward and potentially have it with someone else.

[@1111ScorpQueen]

@@livvy8088They always makes you feel like they’re on the road to being a better person… but never get there😆

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

He NEVER get it together 😒😑

[@user-ol9bo2ei1r]

Right when they never change

[@Kattlarv]

Oh, he WILL. Because he doesn't they THEY are worth it. That's the key part they miss.

[@kylia2009]

Yeah... when a man is constantly acting a fool he's unhappy and doesn't want to be with you. But he's too 🐱 to simply communicate and break up (or he hasn't found a replacement women yet).

[@PowerJade]

Yup, they are cowards. A lot of men don't want to admit that they NEED and RELY on the woman that they are with to have their needs met and are VERY comfortable with the status quo as long as that is the case - even if they hate the woman's guts. When men are "unhappy" or just don't like/love you, instead of leaving they go out and cheat, thus seeking to see if they can find the replacement WHILE they're still reaping the benefits from the woman they got at home who's essentially playing the role as his safety net/back-up plan/placeholder.

[@turquesa_8056]

My sister married a man who never wanted to be married. This man doesn't pay any bills, doesn't buy groceries or contribute to the daily chores. She found his bank statement and was so upset that he had a bunch of money in his account while she struggled with paying the bills. Now he is cheating on her but she is so desperate and male dependent she won't get divorced. She is so afraid of growing old alone she would rather put up with this nonsense. They are both miserable but because she is a place to stay and she refuses to be alone they choose misery with each other. Then my family wonders why I am child free and single.

[@JoBunny87]

Your sister is already alone.

[@Lastdayone]

It’s a lot of BW like this. Wild enough these are the women who are quick to say I’m married as if it makes them superior 😂

[@angorachic]

@@JoBunny87Truer words have never been spoken. 👍🏽

[@JoeanettaD]

EW! Heck no! ladies; anyone that reads this; NEVER TAKE CARE OF A MAN! NEVER! A man should not be dependent on you financially. There are way too many jobs/careers that are available. No excuses!

[@IAMHERE486]

They don’t leave because they need you!

[@nangel4u24]

Right! Need us as their own personal chef, housekeeper, errand boy smh

[@KurosakiLuvar01]

EXACTLY! They hate her but they NEED her because they don’t have their own funky dog headed momma!

[@aeshimani1342]

@@nangel4u24 yup I left my ex husband. I have to come by the house and he has clean clothes piled into the laundry basket and all he says is he needs to get another bag…like really? He’s waiting to find another woman that will do it for him 💀✌🏽🤣

[@AmberColeman-gq1wn]

They need you to do things for them. They like servants. Their definition of “ good woman” lies in her ability to serve them.

[@edithk2997]

They won’t leave as long as they can still get something good out of you but once he finds a better replacement he’ll leave you all drained.

[@LifeIsGood49]

Sad ey

[@jamrockk]

My ex tried to hold onto me by saying we can “hang out from time to time” No bye blocked

[@idrawattention900]

I’ve gotten the “Can we at least be friends??”😂😂 LIKE FOR WHATTT?? No, now you bout 2 feel what it’s like to actually lose all of me 4 good!!👍🏼🥂

[@KurosakiLuvar01]

Because they still want access to your kewchie so they can avoid the dry spell while trying to find another poor girl to exploit.

[@shanicrystal8671]

@@idrawattention900men hate you having male friends until you break up then all of a sudden it’s such a great idea to have a male friend 🤔

[@idrawattention900]

@@KurosakiLuvar01GIRL THAT & also 3 other things, they know you’re different than the rest so as long as they can enjoy your company without putting in the work & being your man; they’ll do that if a woman let’s them. They wanna be able to know that they can fall back on you if they can’t find anybody else that will put up w their raggedy @sses. & they don’t wanna be lonely or have to go without that warm body in their bed. They really think they can experience the divine feminine & all that comes w her without earning it & being worthy of it. Some of these males don’t deserve women yet feel so entitled to them & their table.

[@idrawattention900]

@@shanicrystal8671 😂 Lmfaooo exactly. I can’t stand those red piller males. Everything they wanna do is only okay if they do it but if a woman does the same, it’s a problem. The one-sidedness of it all disgusts me. Their only match are the pickmesha’s.😫😫💀👍🏼😂😂

[@JessyJansen]

this is the reason women initiate divorces first but men seem to keep ignoring that part.

[@LB-bu5xf]

This is the cold ass truth. What they do is disrespect you until you get enough.

[@andreaaas]

This is so true. The father of my children made my life so unbearable and every argument I would tell him he can leave. He would tell me he's gonna go, when he's ready. I was tired of the cheating and I was tired of being compared to yte women (his preference). Eventually, I left and still he tried everything to get me to stay. It wasn't out of love. It wasn't because we had children. It wasn't because he made a mistake and was sorry. Simply, he needed me for a visa. Once I realised, I was out. If they don't leave and they are unhappy it is because you are serving a need. Whether that be a warm body to sleep next to, three meals a day, a house to call home or in my case to be a mule. It doesn't matter what it is. Just understand that they don't leave because they need you in that moment. They don't want you. But they need you. He told me everything. He hated me so much he told me every plan he had because he thought it would hurt me even more. I let him talk. Thanks for the heads up, I'm out.

[@KevonnieElaine]

This!

[@Mariamsadventure]

So sorry you had to experience this. It’s very sad and heartbreaking. I pray you are in a better situation now. Sad how someone who needs to you, will end up treating you this way. I was in similar situation and it was abusive in every way you can think of. 3 years and I ended it completely. Best decision in my life. I learned a heard lesson and realised everything happens for a reason.

[@yally5949]

Thank you for sharing ❤ here too...cheating, compared to other women, emotional abuse.. but refused to leave. I swear men thrive when abusing ppl. Its in their parasitic nature.

[@namatovuhadiijah1226]

Sorry about that

[@proudscorpio46]

You’re so pretty too, what a shame.

[@sylviabooze7122]

Men want to have bragging rights that they have multiple women. I remember when I left my husband, and I finally got my head together to talk to my friends about it. It was three months after and my friends told me that when they asked about me, my ex was pretending that we were still together, and I had literally left the state.

[@aeshimani1342]

That sounds like my ex husband. I left him and he’s still trying to wear his ring like really??

[@devinesent7696]

Ego

[@foxyboop4164]

😂

[@shalalala868]

My ex-husband did this

[@blessedcutie8983]

Women are always saying they have the right to make decisions for their lives but are always leaving the decision to the man with ultimatums and begging and pleading for change. Sis, create a plan and make the decision for yourself! Take the reigns of your life and take action! Choose peace.

[@brittanyb8997]

💯💯💯

[@ieshjust16]

You can lead a horse to the water..

[@ParticipationTrophyWife1]

I stalk a mens group on Reddit sometimes & I've seen several mem talking about how they're miserable in their marriage & just waiting for their wife to file for divorce so they can finally be free. It's like it doesn't even occur to them to go file themselves. They're just riding it out until she does the labor.

[@musiclover865]

Prideful men never leave first. The “relationship” is only about what benefits them. They don’t care whether you like them or not, as long as their image stays in tack! Covert ones are the worst!

[@caramellbaby1124]

I’d rather pay my bills on time😳😳😳👍 then be with a man😳👍👍

[@devinesent7696]

😂😂 right

[@sparklyunicorn5431]

This has happened to me several times... they are either too cowardly to use their words like big boys or they don't care about what you want as long as they have what they want.

[@1noteC]

Literally had to call the police on an ex to get him away from me just for him to marry the next chic 30 days later. I would have let his side piece come get his crap 6 months prior #timewasted

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

l suggest women call the cops when they are over it and he tries to encroach anyway🤡🤛🏾

[@gloriabaptiste9984]

Men will not leave a relationship not because he waiting for you to leave first but because he has no intention of leaving something he's use to to go find something else because if things don't work out he wants to be able to come back to your ass where he got you kidding his butt and doing everything for him why should he let some other man move in and enjoy what he had he don't want you but he don't want no one else to have you either.

[@KurosakiLuvar01]

Treating the woman like a pair of workout sneakers smh

[@Soulficial360]

I'm no longer emotional...I'm objective. I no longer get upset, I get perplexed, then I get analytical, and then I get strategic in my communication to understand and reach cohesion. But even that righteous effort is work. People , not just men... it's the takers who will work to mute your optimism, to take your carefree light, patronize and exhaust you. And that's the saddest part. A carefree open hearted person becomes less passionate and more operational to find continuity with the likes of a knot on a log 🤷🏾

[@ATLienbarbie1]

They won’t leave because they usually don’t know how to establish themselves. Especially if you are the responsible one. Which is usually the case.

[@naimamorgan6209]

Sad but true. Ex 1. They won't leave because divorce is expensive and messes up the lifestyle and if there are kids,just not convenient. Ex 2. DL lifestyle. Woman is now a "beard" Ex 3. Worse out in the streets so may as well keep what's at home. Ex 4. The woman nurtures them and pours into them and works so hard to make the man want them again that, they just are going along until something better comes. I heard a story that would make Reesa Teesa's sound like an episode of Sesame st. This dude even had HIV ,cross dressed and had the nerve to have a meth problem. Another story I heard was of a guy who strung along a woman as a friend w benefits situation and then over night ended it w her and officially made his coworker his girlfriend. They all work together, so essentially he was going between 2 woman who work together. These men are liars . I'm over it

[@shaspearman8647]

The DL guy with HIV on meth is very common. I have a gay friend (who has HIV) and apparently meth is a drug of choice for gays!

[@kylia2009]

Women have a more romanticized prospective on relationships. Thus, being "happy" in a relationship is top priority for women. Meanwhile, men's top priority is being with someone who meets their sexual needs, domestic labor support, financial support (a lot of these men are broke need a roommate to survive), or someone who boosts their image among their peer group. Being "happy" is an afterthought for men. It easier and less drama to keep the status quo.

[@hardcandy71287]

the more i learn about how men think, the less i like them in general. i don't like the way their minds work. it's unhealthy.

[@PowerJade]

Exactly.

[@Mariamsadventure]

There are plenty of men who also want a genuine real woman who loves them for them.

[@monejohn9973]

Facts 😅 tons/most women Dream about their marriage since kids. But no man has a dream about a wedding or marriage just using women.

[@the8thchurch461]

​@@monejohn9973It is time women stop having se*x with men when they haven't put a ring on it.

[@Ladyhotfire78]

So true!! We all know a man will cheat on his wife but won’t leave her…this is why I never understand why wives that get cheated on give themselves so much credit over the side chicks because “he comes home to her.” Please.

[@Whyh8]

I never understood the “at least he comes home to me” thing, until I unknowingly was a mistress. When my ex liar told me he was married, but wanted to continue the relationship. I thought about all the things he said he bought for the house, and the services. I remembered laughing to myself about how I kept him happy while she got everything taken care of. Meanwhile, I was really single taking care of my own stuff. Of course I ended things with him, but everything was clear at that moment. Who knows, she probably was cheating on him, too. That would be a big win for her.

[@Lucid-1111]

He wasn't your anything, girl.

[@Whyh8]

@@Lucid-1111umm ok I’m aware 🙄

[@KurosakiLuvar01]

@@Whyh8exactly

[@Lucid-1111]

@@Whyh8 doesn't sound like it. If she cheated on him that would've been good for her.. really? Or for you?

[@cocoace7587]

When that lady said, " Women tend to be drama filled ." 😢 Ms. Dr. Jackie came to my mind & I got pisssssed all over again. If we are drama filled , guess who's causing the trauma / drama 🤬. Some women should think before they speak . Oh , yeah , she's a BMW 😅.

[@joyceg7859]

That’s putting a lot on the woman “ go check and see if he’s happy “ why can’t he come and tell you that or ask you certain questions if he’s the one not happy ? It’s crazy

[@Speakup117]

Same last lady is not right

[@KurosakiLuvar01]

Because he’s a little baby that needs mommy to come burp him and sing him to sleep.

[@luckydonnee7185]

They wont leave they will cheat

[@edithart5753]

Yup most wont leae, instead they will cause more trauma and reinforce that trauma till you are completely broken.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

they have a demonic love and get their batteries charged by womens hurt pain and tears 👹🤛🏾

[@sixteen.candles.4644]

This was my BD. I would trll him what i needed and what to work on. He never changed he would apologize but kept on bei my disrespectful and told me to shake it off. Nah playa. I broke up with this man so many times but he kept pursuing me and when i moved on ran that dude off. I had to keep turnibg him down. He had thr persistency of Satan. Absolute madness man

[@onlysable9887]

My friends and cousins ask me all the time why aren’t you married yet when the kids coming. I tell them why they will say that’s selfish, you’re going to be old with nobody to care for you, etc. every word they say is selfish and they say this 5 min after complaining about their kids and wives, husbands and boyfriends. Even the pets caught the smoke a dang shame.

[@ieshjust16]

I pray I'm healthy enough to take care of myself.

[@faithBlondon]

Some men would rather lie and cheat than leave....its a bit strange but true

[@t.l1357]

If he cheats, he left the relationship sweetie. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news. He just doesn't want to deal with moving.

[@tialee4170]

Men do leave relationships….. if you’re the type of women that stays the same throughout the bs they will allow you to endure as much as you can. If you match his energy and it stings him as it does you, he’ll leave you. If he’s a cheater, cheat back he’ll 8 out of 10 leave you.

[@zizojaezekeom3565]

No one said men don't leave, most don't that's the point

[@DashaTheDivineDivah]

Yeah, this has been one of the biggest lessons I've learned from just talking to men openly in the last 2 years. Oftentimes they won't leave a relationship even though some of them truly aren't happy or never love the woman in the first place or don't currently love their person. It's more of the obligation of something tied to that person. Or the fact that they've already invested so much that they stay because it's easier. It's pretty mind-blowing.

[@thereasajohnson5540]

This is 💯 facts. I left my former husband 4 days before our 24th anniversary. Kids were grown. He was so comfortable just being himself (a terrible husband). He couldn’t believe it when I finally left him. I’m remarried. And so is he. Go figure.

[@The13thGoddessAries]

There’s a saying that goes something like 1 in the hand is worth more than 2 in the bush. They look at it like why leave you when I can have you AND who ever I’m cheating with?

[@indyd9322]

I spent years bending over backwards trying to save a marriage, because I thought it was the right thing to do. You're suppose to "fight for your marriage". Totally exhausted myself. Then I started thinking about his efforts and lack thereof. He put little to no effort trying to save the marriage. He was content to let the marriage fail and watch tv on the couch. I learned never to invest that much energy into someone who is not investing energy into you. Both people have to be willing and giving.

[@AramintaRossPistol]

ADOS women never caught a break and have always gone 50/50 or more. They were wet nurses, SA'd by employers, washed clothes, cooked, cleaned, were full-time nannies, and still had to come home from work and maintain their families.

[@JasmineSwann]

The one guy who disagrees has twenty ponytails, a nose ring, and arched eyebrows. Goo figure...

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

Right! Just come out the closet already😹😹😹🤡🤛🏾

[@The13thGoddessAries]

I was thinking the same thing.. the reason he leaves is because he’s feminine lol 🤡💀😂

[@Hardawayfits]

😅😅 Typical american men

[@MoonBunny69]

5:43 he just further proves that men have no problem asking for what they want and moving accordingly. They not preaching that ride or die stuff to other men. Sis, stop riding and dying. Move!

[@TM-nb9zf]

This is so cute. sex and comfort is not common to come by, so they stay a long time. My boyfriend told me he always waited for women to bump him. Even when he didnt like them anymore. And trust me....I'm not stupid. I make sure he isn't playing me like that too 😂

[@The1GeminII]

The fact that he actually told you that, means he’s already checking your temperature 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@oopsmh3908]

@@The1GeminIIfr that’s exactly what they do…. Why would he tell you that… because he planning on doing you the Same way duh

[@khrisi9410]

The fact that he exposed his trifling behavior would've sent me out the door. He's manipulative. Good luck.

[@iceprincess2134]

My ex had a very happy-go-lucky life of the party persona when in public. I suspect he was pushing me to leave him because he didn't want to ruin his image. I didn't realise this was common at the time, but I suspected that's what was going on, so I refused. I told him if he wanted a divorce he was going to file, do all the work, and pay for it.

[@betteroffbread305]

Got me thinking about that song Let It Go by Keyshia Cole 👀 so relevant and helped me walk away from my own terrible relationship!

[@janjanl1812]

Yes to all my previous relationships! I had to be the one to cut them off because I’m sick of being treated poorly. I deserve better.

[@devinesent7696]

We know this and that is the reason us women almost always end up doing the leaving.

[@zero1188]

If she still benefits he wont leave. Not complicated. Thats what people do.

[@gravityclarity]

And never, ever beg or plead. The minute he does you wrong, end it! Period!

[@PookiieDhaFam3]

Men who have self respect for themselves…. LEAVE. Know that. 😂

[@masterreflections]

I literally just experienced this.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

Me too

[@LifeIsGood49]

They stay pass knowing there is nolonger love, bcoz they want to seek the motherly love out of you as a women, of which you will never be their mother and need move on with your life.

[@idontarguewithpeasants]

They are more afraid of being lonely than being in an unsatisfactory relationship. My ex BF of 10yrs/fiancé of 2.5 yrs dragged me along for 12.5 yrs total and when I finally got tired and left after a half-assed, too little too late proposal, he said “I never would’ve left you”. I know, that’s why I cut ties. There was no love, no intimacy no companionship. It was aggravating. Im happy now. He still in my DM’s getting sent straight to trash unopened. Edit: also wanted to mention he tried to get me to have his dusty kids with absolutely no ring on my finger saying he’d propose if I got pregnant. No ma’am! 😂😂😂😂🤡🤡🤡🤡

[@ELIZABETHTORRES-em3kx]

Omg girl ❤❤❤ sending u hugs that scary

[@ceelight5232]

I love your name 😂

[@Speakup117]

What a ----

[@jayogee913]

PROPOSE IF YOU GOT PREGNANT??? Oh, man, that's a new one, lol! So very glad you didn't fall for that. He wanted you locked down to raise his kid and be his servant, and he had no intent of being a good partner to you, guaranteed. Wow, they are BOLD!!

[@niratomas579]

In the trash where he belongs! My hope for us is that we recognize EARLY that they’re playing us and move on quickly!!!

[@LadyCharity]

OP gave an excellent point towards the end of this video! She is married and 100% right -- that man is not finna leave unless he already has someone else waiting in the wings. This actually happened to me in my 20s when I did not know any better and had no relationship experience. The thing that is wild is that we were on a break but he continued to see me and even talked about us getting back together. It's a trap ladies! The man will make things insufferable for you but he won't leave you outright so you need to know when to walk away. This is what I would have told my younger self.

[@LadyCharity]

At the end of the day, men don't want to 'die alone' -- they are the ones that benefit the most in marriage, they benefit more having a partner and they feel like it's cheaper to keep her. On the flip side, psychology shows women are often more unhappy plus women acknowledge problems much more than men in general. Let's keep it a buck.

[@TippyComeHome]

Why would men divorce? They want to 'settle in' with someone (wife) providing their creature comforts.

[@the80sjukeboxbaby]

6:41 This!! You can blatantly give them an out and they won’t take it!! Annoying as hell. Just go. Stop wasting both of our time

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

you have to show him the exit

[@mysterious4125]

I partially agree because i know Men that have walked away from a toxic relationship/marriage. So this does not apply to ALL Men.

[@shaspearman8647]

Duh. But women are the ones who initiate the majority of break ups.

[@reet7060]

Some dudes are like Amber Heard, they want y’all to fight fight for the relationship 😂

[@sixteen.candles.4644]

Isss a hail naw😂 that tripped my BD up I didn't beg him. Lol

[@sylviabooze7122]

That’s some toxic ass shit right there. If someone is making you miserable and unhappy and disrespecting you who in their right mind wants to fight for that shit? I’m packing my bags and running, there is to much happiness and joy in life to be had than to put up with that nonsense.

[@SimplyBeingTT]

A lot of times, men think they're miserable and they don't realize that, 9 times out of 10, the grass ain't greener on the other side. Most of them can't bear to be single and will grab another one, but they'll be miserable with her when the honeymoon phase is over, life becomes mundane, and the relationship starts getting stale. Once that 💡🤯 turns on, they'll realize their wife wasn't so bad after all. Now it's too late to go back, so if they learned anything they'll try to make it work with the newer one they're with, or they'll continue the cycle until they figure it out. It's normal for a relationship to have its ups and downs, ebbs and flows. Both people have to be willing to do the work to get out of the slump. Unless domestic violence or something criminal is a factor, it can be worked out if both are willing. Work will always be necessary, whether you do it with the one you're with, or the next one you get.

[@downbad2874]

3:11 a headache tf men are a headache but women don’t leave them in a relationship by themselves

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

Pure and simple 💯🤡🤛🏾👹🤛🏾

[@snippetx1632]

Its because they are cowards. My ex cheated on me instead of just leaving. Why the hell am I breaking up with you?! You know whay though, it proves they dont value relationships. Women end things because they value it and it has meaning to them and they know thay chapter needs to be closed before they can start a new one. Men will stay and simply act like its over but go emotionally or physically cheat.

[@SK-le4lj]

Such a good point

[@veronicaokomi8364]

Like she said,if you serve a purpose to him,it could be money,sex,his parents,etc, they'll never leave. Once they have a replacement, they start maltreating you to the point where you'll be the one to leave

[@mayec2849]

So true most but not all when you see a man walk away it's real burdensome and they just can't do it anymore they'll definitely check out emotionally

[@brooksiedoodle5087]

They don't leave because their workload would double. They would have to clean up after themselves. Also, their homeboys wouldn't be providing the emotional support that you do.

[@user-uu3ir9tj6m]

A male friend of mine said about his girlfriend, I want to leave but dont have the spine to do it. I asked why doesnt he just leave, he said he didnt want to deal with the drama that he knows will come with it. So instead of doing whats best for them both, he's just gonna string this along, but she allows it

[@jalexiaofori4455]

As women you should not just marry because of love .as love is filleting so i believe respect understanding and commitment as well as loyalty is way more important for a sustainable marriage 6:17.he was speaking the truth

[@322Mermaid]

I love my husband and our baby....I'm fortunate the Lord has found mercy on me to be with a man who isn't unfaithful. Sometimes he is hard headed about cleaning but other than that he's a great father and provider. It's all by God's mercy because I'm not perfect either.

[@phattBunny]

This is true Im not married but been with my kids father of my 6 kids for 21 years and he won't leave so Im leaving him

[@The1GeminII]

Sis, you’re married. In some states, you would be required to legally divorce.

[@phattBunny]

​@@The1GeminII well I'm from Philadelphia and I'm not married and I'm the bread winner so I can leave when I want 😂😂

[@The1GeminII]

@@phattBunny -21 years and 6 children is a lifetime. Hopefully you’re enjoying life, and will continue to do so if you decide to leave.

[@khrisi9410]

​@@phattBunnyseek legal counsel just in case because trust if he can squeeze money out of it he will. You don't want to be blind sided with any legalities.

[@howtopaint3552]

i have watched lots of these videos and i still learn something about men everyday that leaves me speechless, it seems the bottomless pit never ends with them..wtf!

[@Mariamsadventure]

Both men and women have their qualities and flaws. Many individuals stay in marriage/relationship because they are profiting and benefiting from that situation. If a man is having free sex, free food, free house or just paying half of it like a room mate, not having to clean after himself (free maid) and all the other perks… why would they leave? 😂😂😂😂 You settled for him/her? Then they know they got you right where they want. If you are not a priority to someone and they are not willing to compromise/change… LEAVE. Stop wasting your years away.

[@FreshPrincessof011]

I agree with you 100%. There are a LOT of determinants on why women struggle to realize or accept this. I can’t go over every single one bc this isn’t a lecture, but IMO, the social conditioning of women needing to find their knight in shining armor like a Disney Princess movie has screwed a lot of woman’s psyche up. If women realize this romantic fantasy bullshit is not realistic or something a man cares about it, then they can start to understand how men operate. Men are strictly about survival & having the needs of their flesh met. Survival means hunting & gathering resources to sustain living. The man doesn’t give a f- about “falling in love”. Women need to learn this & stay vigilant for their OWN survival.

[@beverlyhouston9574]

Stop moving in together especially putting him on your lease cause if you leave braking the lease if he destroys the place you’re paralyzed responsible for paying for what has been destroyed.

[@ELIZABETHTORRES-em3kx]

N they have the audacious of complaining plz just leave grow some balls and leave

[@ATM313]

We really live in a miserable world

[@skylarngugi9894]

Most men will not walk away from the relationship first because they ARE the pain INFlCTOR and not the pain TAKER! As longs as it the women taking the pain why should he go?!

[@user-ld1jb2fy8p]

Thats why i like players/ bachelor's ( yea, i said it) we both know what we came for..

[@vonnii1013]

lady @ 10:02 if hes not happy then he needs to make a move so he can be...and if that means he leaves then as she said so be it!!! let him go!!! i get what they are saying i was dealing with a guy who felt like he could check out and nothing would change...so when i mentally checked out and started moving differently he said i know u want me to leave but im not if u want to leave then u leave...i got quiet and laughed cause in my mind we were not together so i didnt care ....but i do get what they are speaking about ....

[@alisanina]

As soon as another girl takes him, they leave… stop fooling yourselves. Most of them just need another place to live in order to leave. SMH

[@reachoperator212]

This is 💯 % true! My ex/roommate and I broke up a year ago! He kerp saying he is going to leave and is still here for the life of me. He told me to put his things out if I want him to leave. I am working on myself so me and my children can go. Pray for me cause my children seem to rescent the idea that I want to leave. 😢🙏🏽

[@beverlyhouston9574]

Say it girl and stop with the I grew up without a father so I don’t want my kids growing up without their father.

[@roreo1612]

Ex promised a new life together, backed out of his promise so he started doing these things, after a while he straight up told me he did them so I would break up with him but I didn’t. So he did.

[@AmberColeman-gq1wn]

I couldn’t imagine bragging about a man who cheats on me, and confuses me all the time- not leaving me. Like- these women know these men aren’t trustworthy, they play the little mind games, if the man doesn’t have any other more women stupid enough to cater to him or give him whatever he wants- he will do whatever theatrics to “ please your ego”. Looking good or whatever- that’s not it, these dudes don’t want you doing all that you do FOR THEM, for the next man! Plenty of women look good out here- and still get cheated on and played. Period.

[@totesmcgoats435]

That makes sense. I've been the one to end all my unhappy relationships after years of being the only one trying to make them happy.

[@chillySw33t]

I was/am (or not, I'm not considering that to be true anymore) in long term relationship (14 years) with a man who disrespected me and did not treat me right and I gave him so many chances to change his behaviour but I'm done and I've also told him that. I keep telling him since December that I consider that we're broken up and he should move out and he refuses to do that. So for the past 4 months we're living in the same apartment as roommates and he stil hasn't moved out, I don't understand what he's waiting for. I'm done and I don't want to leave this apartament but I'll probably have to be the one to do it eventually 😮‍💨

[@mardigras33]

I think a lot of women are speaking from a perspective of boyfriend /girlfriend situation, but there are a few layers that vary from situation to situation. It’s not that men don’t have the courage to leave, they’re more than courage, they are strategic. Most women get vindictive if a man try to walk away. They start a smear campaign against them, committing character assassination against the man. Trying to get him fired, trying to ruin his relationships with family and friends, and would even call the man’s employer to get him terminated . Men are strategic enough to allow the women to have the power of walking away BECAUSE she will feel empowered. If a man leaves a woman she cannot handle the rejection and will feel disempowered. Men are actually a lot more sympathetic than women believe. So he just will stress you out enough so you feel you must walk away. This works differently though when there is a marriage and children involved. The man will just be disengaged and isolated , and not giving the woman love.

[@Erlymroz]

This is very true. I think it’s because men know that they won’t really be happy anywhere else so it’s best just to stay here until someone pops up that may make them more happy.

[@luxbeauty4952]

Even if they don’t want you