Therapist Reacts To: Pretty When You Cry by Lana Del Rey *drug abuse can be BOTH a choice & disease*

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[@CatnapWhisper]

She freestyled this song on vocals/lyrics and the guitarist freestyled with her on electric guitar. Nobody does it like her. This song is my anthem.

[@djscarlet169]

she said a few times that that's the way she makes songs, mostly improvised, even the recent ones she's very authentic and that's why i love her so much

[@imagiraffe2848]

​@@djscarlet169 damn! That's a natural musician

[@angell1432]

“dont say you need me when..” and i start ascending

[@LaurenLyn01]

So the song "Carmen" by Lana is so haunting. It's about a tragic woman who's a star pretending to be happy. You should add it to your long list of songs to react to.

[@llLuthor]

Uppp

[@jorma8785]

The song always makes me think of Marilyn Monroe😢

[@LaurenLyn01]

​@jorma8785 Me too! Especially with "batting her cartoon eyes." It gives a doomed America's sweetheart vibe.

[@jorma8785]

@@LaurenLyn01 yes! Almost every lyrics of that song fits her too well💔

[@selfloveclub3]

yes do carmen also

[@afkeleven]

I really need you to analyze “Old Money” from ultraviolence, it’s like my favorite Lana song

[@llLuthor]

Uppp

[@selfloveclub3]

yes do old money

[@queenofgoldenhearts]

UP

[@dariaplevako7780]

Do you know that she used another song for musical inspiration/sample for this one? If not, check “what is a youth” from 1968 “Romeo and Juliette” movie by Italian film director Franco Dzefirelli (hope I spell his name right)

[@afkeleven]

@@dariaplevako7780 omg they sound so similar, thank you for letting me know

[@r3p0sed]

i'm 5yrs clean and sober today, just wanted to let you know how much your content has helped me in recent years

[@Gyarukeir]

im proud of you

[@erickcosta8791]

Vc é incrível continue com força

[@ruinswithin]

This was improvised

[@tiffanyrose0488]

Lana is so deeply talented. I think she really deserves to be more recognized. She pull’s from her deep darkest depths of her pain and can just improvise this as if it were poetry to that she is able to help others with. She has been through so much pain and suffering and complete heartache, but it is also so relatable. I adore Mere for covering it, because I have been through things like that. It makes me feel that it’s okay to feel how I feel about it. I know I will definitely add it to my playlist and probably talk about it with my own therapist. ❤

[@saturrn2]

nah its just white tr@sh😂

[@katherineauber]

As an addict clean for almost 7 years. I agree. It’s a disease and also a choice you make.

[@MegaGustavo246]

It seems that this part of the song "pretty when you cry" was said by her boyfriend to her. He said she was prettier when she was sad

[@justamelia]

the way she sings this song always make me feel sad:( react to carmen and tropico pls 🫶🏻

[@sunnydays802]

Mere, you are just an angel. You were meant to do this…you are a healer. And some ppl are just meant to be therapists, psychologists,,psychiatrists…. Thank you! You have really made a true difference in my personal life. Thank you. I had a hysterectomy 2 yrs ago and have been struggling with various issues. Watching and listening to you makes me feel like I am really not alone. ❤

[@tiffanyrose0488]

Thank you for sharing that comment, I can completely relate. I have health issues, endometriosis and a whole list of autoimmune. I have to have a hysterectomy before the end of the year. I’m 36, and I can’t carry to full term. So, I leave it in Gods hands. 🙌🏼 Watching Mere react to Lana’s deep stuff is so healing and comforting. The fact that you posted your comment made me feel like I was not so alone..people don’t understand unless they have been through it.

[@sunnydays802]

@@tiffanyrose0488 You will get thru this. And probably come out on the other side of it feeling sooo much better. All the best. I will pray for you 💖💖💖🙏🙏

[@jessietucks]

Seeing this song live was an ethereal experience

[@ronaldmoreno3504]

You’re so lucky!! I’d love to see it myself

[@alonewithoutyoubymyside3936]

it was indeed

[@emilyb.8219]

it's interesting that this is one of the only songs from Ultraviolence that she sings on tours anymore

[@justamelia]

i just remembered that lana sings "i'm crying all the time" in some live performances, and it's even sadder :(

[@mr.b0rntolose]

you should listen to how to disappear, love this!

[@ahhhssap3708]

I really wanted to see your analysis of God knows I tried, at high by the beach, honeymoon and salvatore, however, you are incredible ♡

[@rafa-zf2ky]

OLD MONEY and CALIFORNIA, pleaseeee

[@nisaly6031]

Yesss California ❤❤

[@v_vdd]

Please, react to Cult Leader (unreleased). It's explain a lot of things from ultraviolence album. It's about cult leader with whom Lana was in relationship. And about this man ultraviolence album. It's what she said in one interview: In the title song of your second album "Ultraviolence" you sing "I love you forever". Is this a barrier song? Del Rey: No, "Ultraviolence" look back on my time in New York. I was for a while part of a sloping underground scene, which was dominated by a guru. He believed in the concept, finished close people first and then rebuild. I fell for him because that time I longed for security. And also, as i know, in New York were a lot of "gurus", and they all were so "sPiRiTuAl", but used their female followers just for...

[@oberon725]

Dragonslayer by Lana is a song that was meant for Ultraviolence but didn’t make the final cut-it’s spiritual and actually somewhat hopeful and uplifting rather than sad

[@MiraculousepisodesYT]

Please do “Cruel World” next, it’s on ultraviolence as well

[@Alexellis738]

This is my favorite song of hers ❤️

[@mimiheinke8210]

Please react to Dark But Just A Game and Cherry

[@giovanna13014]

Hi, I'm Brazilian and I love to follow your reacts of the songs, I'm a big fan of your work, whenever I can I'll marathon your videos, I wish you every success! And that in the same way that your videos bring me joy can cheer up other people too❤

[@CatOwl-zq6a]

I think it's beautiful when someone is able to connect to their emotions, be vulnerable, and cry. (not talking about making someone cry and enjoying it, that's gross) I personally don't think ugly crying exists. I wish there wasn't so much shame around it and pressure to look happy all the time. People need to appreciate crying more, it feels really good when you're actually able to. Maybe that's just me coming from a family that "hated seeing me cry" so I repressed my feelings. I don't know. Could you please react to You'd Never Know by Blü Eyes? It is an incredible song about the healing process and loneliness. It describes how I feel and what I've been through better than anything I've ever heard. You may relate to it too, in a different way. She's not a very well known artist, but her songs are absolutely beautiful. She does a great job illustrating what it's like battling a mental illness. Just for yourself, I'd recommend listening to I Am Not Nothing by Beth Crowley. It's pretty powerful, think you might like it.

[@mimiheinke8210]

Please react to more Lana songs

[@xavierxsx]

I really love Lana and I also love Mere's reactions, but sometimes it kinda hurt me the way Lana's songs seems to affect Mere, I hope she doesn't feel way too bad about it 😢

[@mimiheinke8210]

I Love your Lana reactions sm

[@llLuthor]

Every time you react to Lana, my day gets better, Mere reacts to Lana beautiful, I think you'll love the lyrics 🙏🏼♥️❤

[@gustavoaraujodesousa]

The way she sings hits me hard... Do you know when you're deeply willing to cry but you hold it and then your throat starts to hurt? That's the way I feel she sings.

[@TanyaPhilipose]

this song is way too relatablee :( ty for doing this song it means sm to me

[@Ag8844]

you should do more florence! maybe Delilah? but if you want something both empowering and dissectible i think “King” would be a great start. I’d also recommend “cassandra”, “dream girl evil”, “morning elvis”, and “the bomb” from her recent album (even if u just listen to them on your time and don’t necessarily react to them here)

[@thytuz]

About the song: you should definitely check any Lana's live performance of this one. She always sing it literraly lying on the floor. Her voice is really powerful but sad. About the reaction and meaning: always on point. I love you and I love your reactions and takes on Lana's lyrics. ps: and there's not a single video where you are not beautiful / good looking, even on that live reaction to kintsugi / fingertips

[@andrewharmony]

I prefer the framing of addiction as a choice rather than a disease because I feel like it being a choice means it's never too late to change your behavior, while framing it as a disease implies addiction is just in your nature and there's nothing you can do to change it.

[@roryp1756]

Do you think people cant recover from diseases? 🤣People win battles with Cancer, Liver disease, STIs, Malaria every day. It is no different with substance abuse. The American Medical Association considers substance abuse to be a disease. It doesn't mean you have no hope, nor that it is in your nature but rather that you are indeed suffering from a condition and that you need help. (Clinically, not by just bettering yourself)

[@dennys8798]

@andrewharmony omg, you're unbelievable! thank you @roryp1756 for showing what is right!

[@dennys8798]

you should think like this: it's a disease that can get better if one CHOSES to make a good change

[@mendwithmere]

Totally

[@viktoriiakhailova5406]

It's also interesting that the song title is 'Pretty when YOU cry' but the song is literally saying 'pretty when I cry'

[@JulieLara-dd3hn]

omg you should react to carmen by her most definitely the music video

[@efkanulusoy8489]

I never clicked so fast

[@alexh5619]

I’m here with my shield to back you up against any haters. I appreciate your unwavering commitment to seeing addiction as a choice, every time(I believe I accurately understood). I feel this way, though I have no direct exposure, myself. This is a tough song. Lana has so many tough ones. She IS tough and beautiful. She makes the songs sound so beautiful every time, yet you know something isn’t right from the way it has that haunting cadence. Love the variation of content, as you find appropriate. Thank you! 🫶

[@Antoniooo12345]

Finally more lana!

[@biancaturiziani]

You definitely should react to Carmen!! ❤ there's a lot of meaning behind that song too!

[@cassenlabou4102]

as an addict in recovery, working my program, it is definitely a choice. yes it is a life long disease but it has a life long solution as long as you chose to work it

[@mendwithmere]

❤ u

[@Moonsong_]

You’re such a positive energy + you’re very reassuring. I felt every nerve in my body undergo some quite visceral distress while listening to the song, as I was watching the video, after a long long time of not listening to Lana at all. Thank you so much for your work and your passion. 🩷

[@lorenavasques8657]

Thanks for this reaction Mere! I'd love to see Old Money, Money Power Glory and God knows I tries on your list! 😍

[@bmacd13]

Mere you you do the whole of Ultraviolence, I would love Old Money and Cruel World next xx

[@lanaxbillie614]

Ok so idk why people are mad at you about talking about drug issues when seriously, it is a choice. YOU have the choice to go to rehab to get better, YOU have the choice to change. NO ONE else does.

[@mendwithmere]

I completely agree! People get upset bc they believe it should only be looked at as a disease

[@Whitehotforever1_]

Lovee this song great reaction 🖤

[@FrenchRedHawk2011]

Great job, as always. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on addiction. I agree with you. When you can, please do “Old Money,” which is one of my all time favorite songs from her.

[@JerronGarcia]

After watching the Bascome Twins react to this, they did say that they think the title of this song is from the guy's perspective, & the song is from Lana's perspective. They also said that they think that the title is also Lana saying that he too is pretty when he cries, because when she tries to leave, he cries & begs her to stay

[@zodiacproductions]

absolutely agree with you about the statement being addiction can be both a disease and a choice. Unfortunately the reality is, the ones who haven’t lived it themselves, thus understood it or depended on a loved one with an unhealthy addiction with no urge to change it will simply not understand. Things you’re saying are very true and I respect so much sticking to your guns. Keep doing what ur doing xx!

[@sabba4952]

' I'm pretty when I cry " one of my favorite songs, especially for its live performances, but it gives an idea like "I'm pretty when I cry, but why doesn't he notice me, like a choice maybe to seek some attention,

[@LuizFelipe-kh3iw]

i wonder what she meant with "I'm preatty when i cry" after saying all those strong things, Like maybe it means that she is pretty crying thats why he hurts her so much, Or maybe because she knows she is pretty crying she allows her self to be in this situations repeatedly, or the interpretention that i love the most, that the pretty is not like beeing pretty but she does pretty things out of hurt, out of crying, like the songs she write and sing, like turning a sad thing as crying in a spectacle to heal herself and help to heal someone going to similar stuff. I love this song.

[@lily.thewitchshouse]

god bless Mere for going through the Ultraviolence songs, they’re rough btw this album holds interesting stories, for example Beautiful People, Beautiful Problems was actually a demo for Ultraviolence, originally was a very dark song about being in an abusive relationship with an addict and contemplating suicide, then years after this song was remodeled and released on Lust for Life with Stevie Nicks, in the end the line “she wants to die and she should fucking try” became “beautiful problems, god knows we’ve got them, but we’ve gotta try, every day and night”, and i find this curve so beautifully meaningful

[@mendwithmere]

Omg, I need to react to the first and second versions!

[@viktoriiakhailova5406]

To freestyle t h i s, to deliver such a powerful message literally on the spot, just like that... That's what Lana is about imho

[@rayyyyykomeada]

I really recommend for you to react to “Sweet” by her. It’s such a beautiful song and it’s a break from the more depressing ones

[@lorenavasques8657]

She already did the whole Ocean Blvd!

[@rayyyyykomeada]

@@lorenavasques8657 wait I actually didn’t know😭 can i find the sweet reaction anywhere? I can’t find it on youtube

[@rayyyyykomeada]

@@lorenavasques8657 nvm I found it. Thanks!!!!!!

[@GraycatLobos]

This song reminds me of the man I loved the most, with whom I had the longest and most significant relationship. Everything applies to him except the drug part. But in my case, "I'm pretty when I cry" reminded me of him, because while we were together and happy (he treated me so kindly and sweetly), I was going through a dark phase as well, and sometimes I'd feel depressed and cry for things unrelated to him, and he would comfort me and then say: "I'm sorry, I know you are feeling sad, but I can't help but think you look so cute when you cry", and look at me with loving, compassionate eyes. Every time he said that, he would make me smile and laugh, and I'd feel better because I felt loved. Anyways, things change; we broke up, kept a long-distance sort of relationship for a long time, and when he finally moved on and changed how he treated me, when he became cold and indifferent, this became his song, but my connotation to "I'm pretty when I cry" was different than Lana's narrator, of course. To me, it made me think of those past sweet moments when he had my back. Fun fact about Lana performances of this song: she usually changes the part following "I don't really mind, I've got much more than that" to something positive, like along the lines of "like my copy rights and playing for this crowd."

[@vinicius9284]

this video help so much as a addict, thank u mere

[@AbbieDavid-i1x]

Think it’d be interesting for you to react to beautiful people beautiful problems - both demo (2014) and released (2017). Same song but so different and so much personal growth

[@Ocean-3000]

More Lana pleaseee❤❤❤

[@dominic3137]

This whole song was freestyled btw 🙈

[@Rosellethyst]

MERE I WAS WAITING FOR THIS ONE!!! please react to sad girl

[@Uhoriah]

yayyy lana again

[@gabypbbr5528]

please react '' the other woman '' by lana, love u

[@dannyc2507]

Listen to This is What Makes us Girls it’s about girls who prioritize toxic men and love over true friendship

[@illusion6343]

Hey Mere, thank you so much for this amazing video and your insightful analysis! I always enjoy your takes, they're so deep and seem just so honest. Thank you so much for all the effort you put into this as well! Additionally, I'd like to request something I already saw someone else here comment because I think it'd be amazing to compare; "Beautiful People Beautiful Problems" and "Beautiful People Beautiful Problems (Demo)" by Lana. The demo was made way back, I think between 2013 - 2015, and then reworked into LFL in 2017 as a way brighter version. The demo is really, really sad, but not something we don't know from Lana yet lol, so it would fit in with the other Lana songs you've reacted to, especially this one. The contrast is just so beautiful, though, it's like a full circle moment because that sad song, purely sad, became a different sad song, but one full of acceptance and a brighter view of the world. I would LOVE to see you react to both and compare! I think you'd love the growth. Anyways, thank you again for this wonderful video and have a nice day

[@Dave-vb4nd]

Sad Girl should be next

[@stefanopederzolli4902]

If you wanted to look any more into phoebe bridgers, I'd suggest the song "savior complex", which I think you'd have a lot of insight for and I think semi-implicitly references some addiction problems in its lyrics

[@xelad2125]

Been waiting so long for this one!! Can you please do liability by Lorde!

[@ObservingtheMatrix]

Omg I haven’t been here in a minute and I was like - wait I wonder if she’s still doing them - and boom - a new Lana review. Love ❤

[@FishareFriendsNotFood972]

I think the diabetes example is a very apt one, people with diseases especially have choices and can make healthy ones. Thank you Mere

[@cherrydelrey1949]

Mere, with your hair up and your lipstick and that color blouse, you look so beautiful. Prayers for your dad, he sounds amazing. Sugar is a real addiction too. I'm sorry this made you angry, I hope you're feeling better from it.

[@eduardolopes7197]

totally agree with you, it is a disease, and also a choice. and its so sad, cause you are waisting your time and heathness, instead of living a better life with the people who truly loves you, and will be 100% there for you to help and give you the support that you need. love for all of you, and remember that you can choose be better everyday ❤

[@nikaiazhian]

Patiently waiting for "flipside" as requested in the previous video 🙏❤❤ and ur gorgeous whether u cry or laugh 😄💖💖

[@AbandonedOnes]

You are right.

[@diegorhl]

please react to put me in a movie!!!! that song is completely dark and touch very fragile themes

[@selfloveclub3]

yes she needs to do this one!

[@Dave-vb4nd]

Lol yess

[@dafinnyrez]

you always go for the toughest ones 😂😭

[@Freyaaamira]

REACT TO SAD GIRL

[@selfloveclub3]

oh my gosh yeah she should

[@Dave-vb4nd]

YES

[@TodayWithKyle]

First off, hello love I am also a dedicated subscriber since the beginning and I have been kindly insisting you do Sportscruiser from Lana’s poetry book, still insisting by it will heal you🤣💜💜 Secondly, I am a recovering addict almost at 5 years, you are very right addiction is both disease and choice. It’s not an easy thing to admit but it is 100% true. I could still be an addict but I CHOSE a hard choice and sought rehab and further help all on my own, that’s why I’m alive and a lot of my peers are not 🤷🏽 a sad tragic truth. Third, this song is a favorite. As others have said it is freestyled BUT I have not seen anyone else say, you are right about everything you said here. However, she has mentioned that this song is also meant to be an empowering song. If you think of it as the perspective as her telling YOU, YOU are pretty when you cry, and her say I’m pretty when I cry, shes saying it is ok to be sad though also, it is ok to cry. You are allowed to cry. A lot of people don’t want to cry and “look ugly” but screw that, you’re pretty when you cry, feel empowered to feel your feelings. Mere your correct in everything your saying but there is another view to take, and sometimes when I’m crying and like I should not be crying get it together, NO. IM PRETTY WHEN I CRYYY🤣💜 Love you. Waiting for sportscruiser. If I need to send money to bump it to the top of the cue, I will.🤣🤣💜

[@mendwithmere]

Ok, THIS!!! Firstly, congrats on 5 years. Sooo hard but you are doing it! Proud of you. I LOVE how you explained this, that it’s empowering bc who cares if you cry, you are pretty and to let the tears fall! ❤

[@LizzyDelRey24]

My heart stopped for a sec

[@Sophie-fu5pr]

Ahhh ty! More Lana please

[@maddie5222]

Hi Mere I love all of your reaction videos especially the Lana ones. My favourite album is blue bannisters and I would absolutely adore a reaction of ‘if you lie down with me’. I swear I never click faster on videos than I do with yours. 🫶

[@NotTheVibe]

I'm trying to beat my dependence (not addiction quite) to benzos but the anxiety disorder is kicking my ass without them and I've tried every medication almost. life is hard.

[@mendwithmere]

It is hard. Benzos are so tough and I understand how helpful it can be for anxiety, they are incredibly hard to get off of. I’m sending you so much love

[@ITS.LANA.REY24]

So happy to see you reacting to Lana again!❤

[@carolinelima1660]

You have to react to "God knows I tried" from Lana, in my opinion is one of the most beautiful songs from her!

[@peteford2434]

A disease is something you can't just wake one day and decide to quit it. Like Cancer or AIDS. Addiction is a choice. People quit their addictions all the time. I lived with and was in a relationship with a closet heroin addict for years. The lies, the stealing and all that comes with it was a choice. No excuses.

[@katczu]

this song is just heartbreaking 💔💔

[@cherrysugar.7]

hey mere! i have been watching ur videos so much recently, and i was wondering if you could react to carmen please 💗💗💗

[@slickvic40]

Right on, Mere. Totally agree 100%.

[@ehughesss]

if you get a chance, even though you are a swift oriented channel which i love, id love to hear you react to skinny, the greatest, and wildflower by billie eilish as well as the other songs from hit me hard and soft!!

[@alejandroromero4150]

8:53 it’s so hard tho :( I’ve been struggling with the facts that I’m hiv positive and sincre my diagnosis I got into addiction, 💉 just thinking what it’s happening inside my organism makes me crazy mad 😢

[@alejandroromero4150]

I got depressed and it’s just an endless cycle 🔁

[@Rackel.131e]

This video is amazing, i loved it. But do you think you could do ‘pretty isn’t pretty’ by olivia rodrigo if you haven’t, thank you!

[@kabanashh]

Can you please react to flipside by lana del rey.. i don't think anyone has suggested it but its an ultraviolence bonus track including with is this happiness. she has 2 bonus tracks apart from the deluxe ones and they are basically only on exclusive CDs and youtube

[@kluski3423]

Addiction is a result of terrible choices. You don't need medication for that, you just have to have the will to stop 🙁

[@Moonsong_]

Saw the thumbnail and jumped

[@Ldrlizzy.]

REACT TO OLD MONEY PLS😍

[@brysondemott1250]

love ur necklace!!!!

[@bartek3261]

Omg yessss finallly something from lanaaaa

[@karenjara5854]

Please do Two people from Gracia Abrams! I love your videos

[@blake_receptionist]

Mere you need to react to Burning Desire By Lana!!!❤❤

[@TrevonNole]

Can you do "Everybody dies" by billie eilish 😊

[@danisanchez4157]

pls do Beautiful people beutiful problems

[@grantw3678]

Hi Mere! Have you reacted to Lana’s “Yosemite”? It’s one of my favorites

[@kiemare6149]

i’d love to see the rest react to elliott smith!

[@losenti926]

Please please do Old Money! Since english is not my lenguage i really dont understand the theme