♥️ Menopause, Perimenopause, Remedies & My Experiences...

Embracing the natural changes and noticing the condescending attitudes, stigma and perhaps taboo (?) surrounding getting older, hormones, menopause, peri-menopause and aging as a woman in general. In amongst painting fairies in my art studio too, of course! Thanks as always for watching and please remember to like & subscribe if you haven't already, I really appreciate it! Biggest loves & softest hugs, Wendy. Xxx
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[@Cronezonetarot]

I'm 68. I am loving this phase of my life. My 60s have been without a shadow of a doubt, the happiest decade of my life. I was lucky with menopause. I suffered 3 years chronic insomnia but no other symptoms. You reach a far more tranquil harbour when the hormonal tides die down. You become more of who you are and care much less what other people think of you. I suppose I am saying to all of you going through menopause, it isn't only and ending, it's also a wonderful beginning and part of the wonderful cycle of being a woman. Love to all xxx

[@adrienne41]

I’m 47 and have been feeling pretty blue about “future life” lately. I found your comment so encouraging. Thank you for posting it!

[@fittoseejane]

Thank you for the encouragement. I felt so together in my 40's like I finally figured life out, and then the 50's hit and it was so bad. Menopausal symptoms are fewer and far between now so I'm looking forward to those more peaceful years.

[@christinarogers5933]

Thanks Wendy, I’m 75 and I love my life. I’ve out lived my husbands and now I enjoy the solo life. I can do my artwork anytime I feel creative, and I can give my dog and cats all of my love. I like that the pressures to preform are gone. I’m old so no one tells me how to live. It’s a wonderful time of live if you are healthy and still have hobbies like gardening, reading, taking walks with my pets and watching KZbin videos. Online classes are a great way to stay sharp. Don’t worry, like you said, look forward to your second Spring!❤️☮️👵🏻

[@angbat3655]

I'm peri at the moment. I burst into tears in meditation yesterday! Oh the dreaded hormones. You feel all alone but we're not. And it's fab when some talks about this subject!

[@suev4143]

Thank you for sharing about "the changes". It is a big transition to the "third age", sometimes feeling more overwhelming because it is so little talked about. Rarely does the fatigue get mentioned, except with snickering references to "Nana naps". And the emotional rollercoaster is all too real for most of us experiencing this stage of our lives. And feeling suddenly invisible doesn't seem to help. BUT - this stage can be looked upon as a renewal, with a sense of freedom and wisdom. Finding the balance that works for each isn't easy, and we must tweak any suggestions to suit our needs. When battling fatigue, I do NOT have a Nana nap, but will sometimes indulge in an afternoon siesta, waking refreshed to have a more relaxed and productive evening. For the emotional rollercoaster ride, I go for a walk (and sometimes a stomp, if no one's around), a drive away from traffic (if possible - the movement makes me feel like I've escaped or run away) or a retreat to a quiet space (good music, a good book, journalling, a cup of tea, a small treat). Eating as healthily as possible seems to help with it all, and I feel the difference when I've overindulged in unhealthy food or drink (although a midnight scoop of ice cream can be magical for ones mood!). The most important magic to adjust has to be laughter - it truly is the best medicine, and helps to reset the body's chemistry. Dance and find joy, exercise, laugh! Celebrate the change by being a little kid again (it doesn't have to be in public). Finger paint, hug a plush toy, play dress up. Remember, the caterpillar morphs into a butterfly - what magical change is happening with menopause? Huge gentle virtual hugs to all, and best wishes for finding ways to fill all our cups to overflowing. (And I adore the fairy - those colours are perfect for one from the fairy forest!)

[@jackym61]

Oh yes, the tiredness! that's what I'm constantly battling with. Half an hours guided meditation is better than sleep for me.

[@beanbaghagwag]

Peri menopause was one of the most difficult periods (no pun intended) that I ever went through. I had issues so it was very painful. I chose not to have a hysterectomy. I knew it was almost over. I never felt closer to goddess than during that time. Divine feminine. I am 58. I've been postmenopausal for 8 years. Let me just say life begins after menopause. This old witch loves Cronedom. Freedom, empowerment, strength, and wisdom, that comes with it. My remedies for all the crap that goes with my peri menopause...Epsom salt baths, ibuprofen, Marijuana, flexeril, a supportive husband, and tons of self love. Sending you so much love Wendy. So happy to have found you.

[@annterrywilliams2304]

So good to read your response as I am in perimenopausal hell with long periods and a total lack of creative motivation. I will try the epsom salt baths...too poor for the marijuana LOL!

[@friedpotatoes4321]

love your username :)

[@RunninUpThatHillh]

I use red clover infusions and milky oats tincture. Nettle is amazing too! Motherwort has my heart, though.

[@beanbaghagwag]

@@friedpotatoes4321 💜I love yours! 😆

[@beanbaghagwag]

@@annterrywilliams2304 💜

[@kaitlinmeadows6273]

Thank you for your candor…menopause was a revolutionary time for me, lots of intense moods, sleeplessness, hot flashes, energy lapses…but it did make me realize that I needed to make significant changes in my life, stop giving my life away, stop feeling I always needed to achieve, work, deny myself…it meant a new life for me and I emerged a new, happier, calmer, deeper person. Now at 76, I believe I am happier and more content I have ever been.

[@deboradavidson9123]

I did something I thought I’d never ever do. I had to turn to HRT 🙀. My symptoms were classed as extreme and I put up with them for 2 years before waving the white flag. I had a constant migraine with 12 hours off from it now and again. I had hot flushes every 45 minutes preceded by a terrible 30 second anxiety rush that I had to deep breath through. Night after night I would try to fall asleep with exhaustion only to be woken up 15 minutes later with this rush followed by a hot flush. For 2 years I barely slept and so I gave in. Was it giving in? The HRT gave me my sanity back, it gave me my quality of life again. Yes I’m still a bit uncomfortable about it but what else could I do. I had to weigh it all up and I chose to have my life back…

[@merrimcarthur7198]

I am right there with you. Good for you for figuring it out after only 2 years!! I was stupidly stubborn and lived through 5 dreadful years of trying to be "crunchy granola natural". I finally realised that I had absolutely no quality of life and went to my doctor. It took a couple days for the HRT to totally kick in, but that first night when I was able to sleep straight through was absolute heaven! I can imagine you felt the same way, too. I'm also dealing with vaginal atrophy, which sucks...except I'm joyfully single, so there's that. I'm proud of you for taking your life back. Have fun with it.

[@gbear768]

what exactly does HRT nean?

[@merrimcarthur7198]

@@gbear768 Hormone Replacement Therapy.

[@Sharon_L]

I’ve put up with hot flashes every half hour to an hour every day for five years. I considered HRT but couldn’t afford it. Do you take it for the rest of you life? I’m in menopause now and nothing has changed.

[@rhudson31]

I am well past menopause now. When I was going through it, I got to a point where I could no longer deal with the anxiety & depression. After a couple of years I decided to try Bio HRT creams & they allowed me to keep my mind. ☺️ I would have liked to do it without but it worked for me. I am happy I allowed myself what I needed. Each of us is different. ❤️

[@np8173]

The other day I went out for a walk and found a redwood fairy circle and just stood in the middle for awhile. With so much chaos in the world, those beautiful trees embraced me with peace and love. It’s so healing. I’m towards the end of my menopause journey and completely understand where you’re coming from. Just be patient with yourself. It’s a long process and you’ll find yourself a different person on the other side of it.

[@lcarolc03]

My first time seeing you. Thank you so much. I’ll be 65 soon , started painting about 6 years ago. It’s so great to see artists blooming regardless of age.

[@theunexpectedgypsy]

aww, thank you Carol, welcome indeed and yes I agree it's never too late to start anything! Nor be showing it on KZbin!! Hahah! xxxx

[@berto196]

If you look it many women artists are more prolific and produce their best work in their older years while men tend to produce their best work when young, so its all still ahead of you!

[@janillingsworth7478]

I was surprised to find I couldnt easily remember menopause. I guess menopause began for me at 28 when I had to have a hysterectomy. I had one remaining ovary so that helped I think. I no longer bled which, frankly ,was a blessing and the pain of endometriosis ended. At around 45 menopause returned and this time I became one long mood. It was heavy like a pot of porridge plopping and bubbling, bloating and burbling away. I think I hid it well. I was at my peak professionally, running therapy groups, teaching and planning, supervising and working with clients. Fortunately I loved this work. Then my world crashed around me when my partner left and grief, depression and anxiety set in for a few years. I never lost my sense of Self and the importance of transformation and expansion. I began painting in earnest and gradually I began to feel confident and happy for no reason. So 26 years on I am reaping the benefits of having gone through the hard times, the chaos and dark night as consciously as I could. I tried everything to remedy myself ; therapy, medication, meditation, homeopathy, re birthing, vision quests, journaling, painting, printing, drumming, chanting and building my modest but uniquely beautiful cottage. I am bonkers too Wendy and I like it. One of the best things about aging is that I am more authentically me and I just walk, dance and sometimes crawl on my own pathway forward. Lots of love.xxx. 💋💋💋💗

[@ForrestAnna]

🤣Menopause? I felt , when I went through it, it happened so fast, and then, peace. I felt as if I was given myself back to myself, and all the hormone storms were gone. What a relief I felt. I finally relaxed into my own body again, my own thoughts again, and my own life again.

[@txspacemom765]

I was called a hag last week, from another female. A HAG! WOW! My attitude is every female will go through it, at some point and age is either going to drag you kicking and screaming or you can try to find the meaning and joy. Here in the US, I feel youth, and I mean under the age of 30, is worshipped and we mature women get thrown away as soon as we start to get interesting. I am glad I am confident and ok with myself. I call it my awakening.

[@ljshaw8516]

Absolutely and I am sad another woman had to treat you with disrespect! So karma will be coming her way soon!

[@txspacemom765]

@@ljshaw8516 Thank you! I do believe in karma but I hope, most of all, she heals whatever is bothering her.

[@nelliebrannan2953]

I’ve decided to embrace the word hag. Look for Sharon Blackie’s book Hagitude.

[@txspacemom765]

@@nelliebrannan2953 Love it! I am actually "witchy" in my life but I was just caught off guard and then laughed, because oh girl, she don't know! LOL

[@beanbaghagwag]

This old witch embraced her inner hag years ago! LOL

[@daniellejowitt4342]

I'm not going through menopause (yet!) But i am currently going through a lot of hormone changes atm, i'm currently in talks with my doctor over getting an assessment for pmdd which is only something i found out about this year and it was a lightbulb moment and is something else which isn't talked about either. We shouldn't have to feel like these topics are taboo but they are in a way. Sending love and light

[@gillinacook1477]

I’m at the very start of my menopause. I was advised my a nurse to take vitamin D. This so far, has calmed me down from the anxiety I was experiencing.

[@christinesheppard5759]

I love your “bonkers” moments Wendy! I think it’s very important to talk about life’s different stages, especially for younger women, because there has been so much negative talk abut menopause and not enough about the positive. My girls are in their late 40s now and I have always shared with them the emotional ups and downs of the cycle of life so they can not only mentally prepare for what’s coming, but also learn to embrace all the positive things that come with each stage. Thank you from my whole heart for being so vulnerable with us ❤️

[@sorrelgossert6976]

The hot flashes really got to me! Always happened when I was in meetings...so intense. You want to strip off and run outside and roll around in the snow...if it is snowing that is!!! I cried alot...just was kind to myself and went with the rollercoaster hormonal flow. 💖

[@librarian1701-D]

Thank you for talking about this.. if only we didn't have to walk in the dark during this time. So much less suffering, confusion if we had elder women teaching us. Hot flashes/flushes are one of the most difficult parts..and have been going on for 6 years for me.. but they have taught me so much. How to calm myself..in that moment of a flash when i feel agitated frustrated, i have learned to slooow down & respect what my body is saying. I have & am learning what penomause 😍 teaches me, i am more boldly, genuinely who i am & speak my mind with love and confidence. It is a rite of passage but there's no one to help us through the ceremony (so to speak). That being said we can be there for ourselves, make this a portal to an even better version of ourselves.. we can let go of so much during this time. It is important to experience it (imo) and transform, like birth, like a butterfly coming out of the cocoon...thanks again for speaking about a natural thing women go through. I bought a $2 paper hand-held fan & it helps me slow down and cool off, it's quite nice! ACV helps, maca, black cohosh, yoga, walking in nature, ditching sugar/junk food, doing art and respecting my needs and boundaries.. all helpful for me.. life is painful and life is beautiful so i try to focus on the beauty and love but also feel it all, it's okay, it's natural.

[@deborahbouziden3779]

Oh Wendy, love your videos. They are so grounding. I don’t write much, but know I take something wonderful and useable from every video you make. You are a bright light to me.

[@enamary1]

I think that because so much value is given to youth in women, naturally therefore, talking about our own menopause heralds a final signal that we've 'passed it', no longer desirable, old - which completely devalues women in our society. But, what you said about thresholds, portals, and rights of passage, puts menopause in quite a different light; something we've achieved, something to value and respect. Like, if you're lucky, you too will reach menopause... Always thanks to you for your lovely videos and art xx

[@stevieray7203]

AMEN my dear…just as I am coming into my own, society says I’m done and there are few maps through this. It’s like you have to be in the menopause club before you are talked to about it.

[@stevieray7203]

I went on bioidentical hormones recently and it has been a game changer! Took me awhile to finally choose to try it 💜

[@staceem]

I’m 56, so just on the other side of menopause. What I’ve found to be a tremendous help in feeling more energized, balanced, etc. is Donna Eden’s energy medicine practices. Unbelievable! She has a couple of books, many online programs, and a lot of free content here on KZbin. Just doing her ‘daily energy routine’ which you can find here on YT is a huge help and only takes about 15 minutes a day. Also, meditation of course has been a big help. Hope this helps you.🥰✨

[@paulaweed9737]

Hi, I just looked her up and tried one of her routines, wow. I loved it. Thank you for mentioning Donna Eden. Much love 💕

[@staceem]

@@paulaweed9737 Oh that makes me so happy Paula! You're super welcome :) I'm thrilled that you found Donna's work helpful, it's been a game-changer for me.❤✨

[@lauriehessler8639]

Everyone's journey through menopause is different. I think it's important to talk about it and share what we learn with others. I'm 57 now and I just want everyone to know it gets better 😌 I love being off the emotional roller-coaster that monthly hormones put me through. So hang in there ladies (and gentlemen should know about menopause too) you are going to get through this!

[@jeannemason6416]

Beloved Wendy! I am post menopause, I have enjoyed your openness. Sure helps to know we r not alone in this! I always depend on Aswwaganda. Very soothing to my nerves. That and a good cup of tea. Love, light and as always, blessings!!

[@marilynmcpheron3231]

Menopause was crazy for me! I went through it early and went through a number of tests before they decided it was menopause. I was recommended to a specialist and she was wonderful. Sher recommended a book to read "The Pause--Positive Approaches to Menopause" by Lonnie Barbach -- it did help understand many things. I have given it as a gift many times!I

[@marilynp2]

Tincture of Motherwort saved me when I was going through, "the change". It helps with hot flashes, mood swings, lifts the spirits, and it's also good for the heart. A few drops under the tongue as needed, really made a difference for me. I still take it occasionally when I need to mellow out, which seems to be most of the time these days. I'm lucky to have Motherwort growing in my garden, so I make my own tincture, but it's readily available online, or at shops that sell natural remedies.

[@armandefrance701]

What a joy to see you today and the comfort of listening. Yes, it’s definitely all feeling overwhelming, chaotic, daunting…’out there’ i listen to Pam Gregory too, also Ablas, who have been talking about the same powerful, often difficult energy surrounding us all. The menopause was like being in a storm of continuing tornados for me and I couldn’t catch up or take a deep breath it seemed, I’m in my 60’s now, still having hot flushes, ..I changed my words to ‘power surges’ jumpers make me feel quite queasy, even on other people!!! I agree, no-one really talks about it, and yet it can be, for some, and in many cultures, a transition to be honoured, cared for, supported, as we move fully into our wisdom. The western world has very different attitudes towards these transitions, apart from the ones that are so commercialised of course. I found I couldn’t have a glass of wine or chocolate. I still don’t, my tolerance for both changed alongside the hormones. This is a huge subject, I’m sending love and huge gratitude for you and your conversation, art, presence in this world. Hope you’re week is nourishing for you. I’m going to pick up a needle and thread now and breathe. X x x x

[@michelepastele5347]

I love using yellow and pink yarrow at times when I've been in crowded places or hectic places. Just got some camomille tea for a late in the day treat! Health food stores in the US sell creams of wild yam and some of my women friends really love the cream and feel it helps with the flashes. Black cohosh extract completely stopped hot flashes and night sweats - what a wonderful resource that was! There are so many wonderful resources from nature out there for us - and its easy to forget about those. I think most of these things are so much better than big pharma... they are gentle, not like a 'hammer' getting rid of symptoms!! x

[@Acehigh-Jenkins]

Just a heads up on Black cohosh don’t use if if you have any history of stomach issues. Our GP recommended it to my mum but after it opened up her ulcer then we realised it shouldn’t b taken by anyone with stomach issues :)

[@darcyiltzsch6220]

I’m beyond thrilled that you’ve talked about this as your Wright not nearly enough talk about it. I’ll be 51 in a couple weeks and been in peri menopause for at least 5-7yrs now but in last three years it’s been really crazy. Exercise is important and just light is better than none, good healthy eating habits as well. I also stopped alcohol 4yrs ago. I’m trying to find good herbal combo that works. Black Cohosh and vitex berry capsules is helping. I also know red clover tea is good for hot flashes and night sweats. A routine is also important if your able to as much as possible. And depression isn’t always the normal depression but caused by the hormone fluctuation. Any sort of mint tea is also good for headaches. Nature walks yes are also so good too Wendy💚🤗✨🌲🌻🌞

[@RunninUpThatHillh]

A whole quart infusion of red clover is really good. I do that once a week. Motherwort tincture absolutely keeps me sane, though..and removes all sweats. My daughter started her period this year so we made a big jug of it.

[@anneonimouse]

Yes, please do keep talking about it Wendy! I’m 54 and am now into my 3rd menopausal year. The hot flushes (which always start with an uncomfortable electric shock feeling) and lack of energy are the worst symptoms so far but it does seem to be easing up a little now 🤞I’ve gone off alcohol too, increased my exercise and yoga routine, reduced coffee to one a day, and have been plant based for 4 years. Haven’t felt the need for HRT so far. Love Pam Gregory too. You may find The Peculiar Daughter here on YT interesting too. I’ve recently just finished a book that really helped me a lot with so many personal issues called ‘The Untethered Soul’ by Michael A Singer, can’t recommend it highly enough. Stay well beautiful soul 🌟

[@laureygreider7617]

The untethered soul is on KZbin as an audio book as well:-)!🌸🦋🌿🌈🌊🐋🌅💛💕

[@robinsutton4952]

I went through the change in my mid 40’s, I’m now 66. My husband then boyfriend, read every book he could about the subject. He was my rock of knowledge. He started calling me his “hot lump” and would have me get in bed before him so I could warm it up. Take care, you have a village all around that cares.

[@anima6035]

😭 how sweet, bless you both x

[@Lady_Ra]

How lucky are you!

[@hArtyTruffle]

I can’t speak from experience because I was lucky with periods and menopause. No PMT with my regular periods throughout my life and although I did have the hot flushes common with menopause, that’s the only symptom I actually felt. The only strange thing is that towards the end of every year, my boobs feel achey and heavy and I bleed a little. Every year my doc sent me to get checked out but after the last probing, I’m done. I’ll take my chances with nature. What I have been recommended is Omega 7… so ima try that and other lovely ladies here might want to look into it. I have no problem talking about those seemingly taboo subjects. No problem at all ✨ So bless you Wendy and Thankyou ✨

[@belindahugheslifestyle]

Awesome discussion, Wendy! Sorry you're missing James, but I'm sure your reunion energy will be spectacular. Chocolate, St. John's Wort, massage, yoga, meditation, journaling, 12-step work, going vegetarian, and dressing in cotton layers were helpful. Melatonin and guarana were problematic for me, which ruled out most OTC menopause remedy herbal blends, which was everyone's first suggestion. Also, I attended a friend's workshop on menopause, held at her beach house, where she handed out folders of helpful articles and balloons to help us release things. We mainly had a roundtable of our intentions on being there, our personal and loved ones' experiences with menopause to that point, then she presented some menopause management strategies and we tried them on for size. It was a day-long thing, and I forget if it was potluck or she provided a buffet, but all in all it was wonderful! At the time, I was the youngest group member, in my 20s, and curious about coming attractions. One lady had found that w menopause, her mother became an avid fan of parades, attending as many as she possibly could. So it does have its quirks and perks. I hope everyone finds sets of solutions that work well for them. Your new fairy looks lovely! See you next time. Bright blessings, all.

[@MagicallyUnexpectedwithClare]

As always, a lovely podcast ❤ We should talk about Menopause as much as we need to because you never know you might help someone. I take saffron, magnesium & B6, to help with Menopause, saffron helps my stress levels & anxiety, calms me down. Magnesium helps to relax my muscles as I'm on high alert all the time & then the B6, when your body is under a lot of stress your body is depleted of B6 which you need to combat stressful moments so I find replacing that helps me. Lemon Balm, I love a few (3/4) leaves in my herbal tea, chill's me out a little. I'm on HRT as well but life is stressful ❤🤷‍♀️❤ sending lots of love to you Wendy xx

[@thriftytowers7160]

Wise vid!! I keep a 'thank-you' jar: I write on a scrap of paper one thing that I'm grateful for; fold up the paper and put in jar. Then at different times esp if i'm struggling, I pick out a couple of those notes, unfold and read. Always boosts my spirits to remind me of my blessings when i'm feeling low. I love what you said about 'moving streams'! Gillian

[@angelanicholson951]

I found red clover and 5htp (griffonia seed) really helpful. At times, rhodiola rosea was good, too, being calming, but can be too invigorating for some sensitive people. B3 (niacinamide non flushing form) at night with unfortified yeast flakes. B1 is incredible and calming. And magnesium glycinate or malate forms...amazing. As most people are deficient in niacin, b1 and magnesium, at stressful, hormonal times, it's needed. I know of someone who's taking saffron, and she and many people she knows, said it's a game-changer.

[@nancynaves1831]

Coffee is another one to watch. When I was teaching a yoga class during menopause, I mentioned my temperature was rising at that moment, to a woman who was in her early 80's, her words to me resonated and still remember them on the other side of menopause now and they were short but so useful for me, " whatever you are feeling, just what a minute, it will change". And yes, yoga and breath exercises helped me as well. "Turn to face the light and all the shadows will be behind you" just read this and thought it was something to share. : )

[@krismaki757]

I am 60 y/o now, my menopause started 7 years ago. My boyfriend at that time would blame any "negative" emotions I showed on being menopause, I didn't agree. He's no longer a part of my life. I don't think I had many symptoms at all, except some minor hot flashes, and now I don't feel as cold all the time like I used to. My son and I were chatting and I said, "I don't feel old, but I am a crone now." He thought that was a negative term to use for myself. That surprised me that he didn't know about the maiden/mother/crone stages for women. I guess he didn't listen to me when I talked about things like that, lol. I do so enjoy being a crone, not worrying about so many things, and giving myself permission finally to do all those things I've wanted to do, but couldn't because of children, jobs, helping everyone else. I do hope those who don't know much about this phase do pay attention. I also hope that everyone does take time each day for at least a little self love, it really is very important. I hope this phase doesn't take too much of a toll on you. Thank you for talking about this.

[@amytucker7419]

Yes! Thank you for speaking about menopause and peri. I know it's an art channel but it's blog style and about your life and I think it's fine. And helpful. Would love to know what works for you. Am entering the perimenopause myself and trying and struggling to do my art etc. Thanks for all you do!

[@ClayDisarray]

Thanks for talking about this, Wendy, as it's so interesting hearing other perspectives. I've had a hellish time with peri-m and I'm now intolerant to most food as a result (and no alcohol either - urgh!) Thankfully I'm now on some HRT I can actually tolerate and although it's not perfect, it's helping a lot. I'm never coming off it! 😆

[@carmengiles456]

Thanks Wendy. I recall telling a doctor (male), that I thought I maybe peri-menopausal a few years ago. He told me that I couldn't be as there was no such thing! Menopause has been such a shock for me. I'd heard of hot flushes & sleepless nights, but the anxiety....wow that has been a real issue. Having been a strong, busy & independant woman, to finding a pile of laundry overwhelming was, well overwhelming. Like you said, at time I thought I was going crazy. I just didn't know myself anymore. Also noticed that people kind of looked padt me, its difficult to explain, kind of started feeling invisable. (Think I may learn to enjoy that though). After many natural remedies & little change I have gone onto HRT. I felt like a failure as medication is something I steer clear of, if possible. The hot flushes have gone. I'm learning to live along side the anxiety, making changes to my routine, being a little kinder to myself (as twee as that sounds). And discovering new passions. Art, gardening & sitting still in nature. Thanks Wendy 😁

[@ThisLittleWonderfulLife]

This was so interesting, I’m 46 and in the very early stages of peri menopause - although a GP told me this isn’t possible as “menopause doesn’t begin until 52” 😅 Luckily because you, and others I watch on KZbin, have spoken openly about the subject I know I can laugh at that comment! So true about things being SO exhausting, busy and overwhelming right now, I feel like I can’t catch a breath between big things happening! So glad to hear I’m not alone in this! Anyway thank you for sharing and you’ve, as you say, totes got this 🙃☺️x

[@IdaMaySmith]

I sooooo needed this today. Lord have mercy!!! I’ve been struggling for a couple of years now.. little by little I’m moving through this.. thank you.😊

[@A_Texkat]

Sending much love to all those here. I'm in the midst of this menopause season and taking it day by day. What has helped me is making sure I get enough sunshine, water, hugs, and herbal medicine such as Black Cohosh and Evening Primrose Oil. I'm come to see this season as a natural time that women have gone through before and to count it as a blessing. Yes, our bodies are changing but I feel that this will make us stronger. And we should have compassion for each other. My cycles have always been in tune with the full moon. I find that even now, when those cycles are ending, my emotions are still fluctuating right before the full moon. I mentally "try" to prepare for this and jokingly warn my husband. ;) But just really listening to your body can help with those roller coaster days. (and dark chocolate helps :) ) When I start to feel anxious or overwhelmed I first just stop what I'm doing and pause....take a deep breath....and say a little prayer. Then really listen....to my body, to the thoughts coming in, and to what God is saying to me. Taking breaks outside and getting some sunshine does wonders. Just listen to the sounds of nature, if even for a few minutes. Think about what you are grateful for.

[@travelinggrammy]

I absolutely love your videos…..no matter which topic you are discussing. Your sweet spirit always uplifts me. Thank you.

[@pyenygren2299]

Besides vaginal dryness (spelling?), life is wonderfull. And with vaginal tabletts, it is possible to cope with my mucous membranes. I love being in this period of my life. When I don't menstruate every month, I feel much better mentally and physically. And the menstruation is not as heavy as it has been. To those of you that struggle with menopause: please talk to your GP about it. Even if it is a naturall period we're going through, we can get help when needed.

[@mountainsno]

I do apologise if this offends. But I feel all humans should be told about the physical changes that happen at this time. I feel if our partners knew that we didnt dislike them, but we had different chemistry, different bodies.... that needed time to settle into the next phase... we might be able to relax and hang onto each other... get through sad, grumpy, confusing times.... together. I talk to my boys about caring for a woman. And how to care for themselves. I dont know if its just me.... but I see some people leaving, taking up with someone younger.... because the "love" (closeness) has gone.... but they are not always happy.... because they really do love their first spouse. Not fair on anyone involved. I feel there is conflict and confusion when our bodies get older. I think it would be great if we could trust and talk to each other. Find some ways to keep close and intimate and safe with each other... even if body to body is not involved for a time. Im very sad that I was rejected because I was inside this body that I had no idea how to control... having "its the change" label slapped on my struggles. I also had more than one doctor say to me "you would be going through menopause by now"... but NOT ONE doctor threw me a book or some information. I feel really strongly we need to do much better. And it starts with us.

[@janetcarrier313]

I really like what you said about the things that keep coming back emotionally. They are still healing just at a deeper level. I also liked what you said about not allowing the same topic to go round and round but you let it go (something to that effect). It's a mindful practice to be in the emotions that come up and to let them process.

[@cynthiapate9138]

Raspberry tea and Epsom salts baths helped me through menopause. Thank you for bringing this subject up…

[@daisiesandsunflowers5587]

Thank you for talking about this challenging change that all women will go thru eventually, and all in different ways too! I just felt like my brain was going crazy, and I couldn't fully understand why my family was looking at me strangely at times...but I was acting oddly and saying things that were very blunt, which isn't normally my way!🥴 And tiredness beyond anything, but no new baby as an excuse for it, haha! A crazy time, and I'm still dealing with aspects even 7 years after the "pause"... But I am loving that feeling of not being seen by men as much! I am very intraverted and have never had a lot of confidence in my womanhood so to speak. Being invisible sort of suits me. I dont worry about how i look or dress so much anymore. Im wearing all the flowy dresses and loving it! Thank you for sharing💕

[@naomimakin1908]

Hello Wendy I'm in my mid 50s and the women in my family start menopause early and go long to say the least. It's 10 years since I was diagnosed as menopausal and with breast cancer in the family HRT was not an option. It's been exhausting and emotional but it does get better eventually, I had a major Life ... Career... Family wobbles but other than getting to know the new me it's part of life's rich tapestry and something we women should talk about more, even in the face of blank or horrified faces 😁

[@SpookyRooster135]

It's torture, they should make a law to ban it. Funny that you mentioned the strimmer because don't be surprised if you need one for your chin. The worst part. You end up with more Whiskers than the cat 🤦‍♀️

[@maryalgar8779]

I've been through it; menopausal for some time. In fact, I can hardly remember what it was like getting there. I don't think I've ever felt more free and comfortable with myself. You do have to come to terms with the changes, but in some ways it feels like the pressure is off and I can just be my authentic self now. So hang in there and know that you will eventually exit into a better place.

[@godilovetheinternet]

Thank you for sharing your journey in this life, particularly when it is challenging. It is always nice to know we are not alone. I think we have had an onslaught of global events that have just exhausted us all, sort of a post traumatic feeling, waiting for the next shoe to drop. YET, as you say let's try to keep our light shining bright! Menopause effects us on so many levels, which can heighten it all. Also I have had generalized anxiety for years and with the world seeming like it has gone nuts...NATURE and all the gifts she has to offer give me solace. Being in nature and having bits of nature with me soothe and ground me. I am partial to trees and plants, crystals and essential oils. lavender essential oil is pretty easy to obtain, for menopause I was partial to clary sage and geranium essential oils. Amethyst and rose quartz are crystals that I find soothing and are easy to obtain. Love and Blessings. Chris

[@karlaneese9379]

I’m in the same place. I’m just so tired and so done with the whole world. I’ve started HRT a couple of months ago and that’s helped the depression and the night sweats. But I’ll be so happy when I’m on the other side.

[@cmolona7547]

Many of your viewers used yam cream I also recommend..worked for me but my best medicine …..I was able to work three days a week out of town and be by myself …the best remedy to be able to take walks be out in nature in my off time and to get to know my inner self my symptoms and to be able to deal with them without the noise of the world ….you sound very happy this week being by yourself and I think that’s the key ….find some alone time and walk through nature so you can feel your own feelings and find that inner remedy for yourself…. By the way I love the light snd energy that comes into your studio

[@shannonwilhelm5031]

I rarely hear the noises you’re concerned about, so I hope this gives you a bit of peace of mind about that. 🐶 I went through menopause at 45, it was rough lol. But now I’m 52 and I fell like I’m finally on the other side. 💪💪💪 I agree, we should normalize talking about this topic, it’s nothing to be ashamed of. Hang tough 🌺😁🌺😁

[@CMoore8539]

Wendy, I think if men had to go through menopause, they’d have already found a solution to avoid it. Women are amazing!💞

[@sherelynwhite4130]

Wendy Luv, you pretty much covered all the best "remedies" for moving through the rough times. Reishi and St.Johns Wort tinctures are definitely on my list, plus abstinence from alcohol, which to my surprise (because I love my glass of wine) came naturally, as my body 100% rejected it when I was going through the 1st and roughest stage of menopause. Also the connection with nature...an absolute must along with some kind of body movement. Whatever works best for you...pilates, yoga, walking. Swimming is mine. Also a huge thumbs up to going with the flow...don't suppress all those feelings and as well don't keep hashing them over and over. Journal them, talk them out or just better... set with them, then like the water, as you mentioned, let them flow through and past you. No regurgitation!!😅 So as usual Wendy Wonder Woman you said it all with great wisdom and brilliancy!💫💖 and oh definitely do keep your lights shining bright...don't give up, just hide once in awhile, then find the things you love and engage with them, albeit your art, a child, some volunteer work is always good to brighten up ones spirit! So many activities we can find to stave off the blues!💖💫 I'm turning 71 this year so all of what you speak of is in the past for me, however my daughter is now going through this and she highly recommends reading the books - The Period Repair Manuel (for younger woman) and a very important book called Estrogen Matters for those going through any of the stages of menopause. Sending out much love and support to you and all of your followers. And one last thing...I feel we do not talk about these matters because we live in a patriarchal society which at its core is misogynist by nature. We have been told everything negative under the sun about being female, and in the not so distant past woman were burned for sharing remedies or knowing things that could help others heal. Throughout time woman have been kept down, suppressed and told to stay "in their place" through the institute of religion. In my grandmother's age a "good" woman never fully undressed with the lights on in front of her husband!😮Woman are strong and powerful by nature and this from time immemorial has posed a threat to men. We have seen the light again only recently in the larger scale of human history and are now working hard to put the brakes on a patriarchal system and rise back up to the goddess state all woman should reside at. I think I'll stop here as there is so much more to this and I'm sure most of us understand the hurdles and obstacles woman have had to jump over and through to get this far, (and we still have so much more to do to make it better for woman) my gawd, the USA just took a giant step back into the dark ages with the Supreme courts decision regarding abortion!... and if you are young and do not know of these things...the information is out there if you want to know. Now I'm waffling!😁 Thank you as always Wendy dear for providing this platform for all of us to speak up and out. And if you made it this far into my lengthy comment...bless your shiny heart!💖💫😅

[@carolkothmann6074]

All very well said

[@ABirdWoman]

Yes, the US is under attack by privileged old white men whofear women and at 79 I try not to despair at what I see after fighting in the 60’s for women’s rights… sigh. Frustrating but perhaps the world at large is birthing some new structures for equality… hopefully.

[@SamStone1964]

The US Supreme Court handed over the decision making process to the individual state. Not everything is the fault of the patriarchy.

[@ginamcdonald7854]

I do not think the Supreme Court decision was a step backward! Don’t want a baby, don’t get pregnant! There are numerous methods of birth control that health departments provide for free. Abortion is not birth control!

[@sherelynwhite4130]

@@SamStone1964 Sam, I understand you must feel this way as you are a man. Our society as a whole has been operating under the control of white men in power for millenniums and at this time extremist religious white men (and a few token woman) are calling the shots.These are the minority that make the decisions for a majority who do not necessarily agree with their policies. The definition of a patriarchal system of society or government is one in which men hold the power and woman are largely excluded from it. There is no denying that this is the world we currently live in.

[@sandyallen1610]

Im so glad your talking about the menopause as I'm struggling with it and have for two years. I've found people don't understand it and have no patience.i feel I'm trying to make a safe place to hide in too.so glad you said that as it helps a lot

[@melodyluvsherhobbies9454]

I love your artist space! Open and well lit! The universe is welcomed into your space. 💫🌟💫

[@SousLesEtoiles]

Hello Wendy, it is a very nice video like always. Thank you very much 🙂

[@bonniebishop6635]

I came through it it was hell but it’s a process and I am happy and healthy and I feel child like now

[@justmonicarae6933]

It’s been almost 19 months since my love died of Covid. It’s been hard to get back into my art room and create. I completely understand how you feel missing James. Troy was my rock and everything. I am also in menopause so this new chapter has been challenging.

[@francineh.7825]

I'm sorry for your loss 💖

[@madelynsmith8281]

Sorry for your loss. 🙏🙏🙏

[@magdastar2249]

So sorry for your loss.

[@amyt6254]

I’m so sorry. Hugs!

[@kymcrowart7876]

I’m very sorry for your loss…I lost my 20 yr old daughter in 2012…took me 7 years to pick up a paint brush. Grief…is always knocking……I’m so happy I’ve been back in my creative state…some days are good and some are not..

[@bonniebishop6635]

I love your hair I love the color I’m growing mine out and gray hair is beautiful

[@candysbroomcloset]

An especially challenging transition for those of us who desperately wanted but didn’t have children. You are lucky in that dear Fae Lady🦋 *this must be why this topic is so taboo...not for the reasons you’ve mentioned. The emotional loss of that window being closed is too much to bear when I think about it...I can’t bear to think about it, you see?

[@kathygraziani229]

I totally feel you Candy because I've gone through that too! I try to tell myself that maybe I'm supposed to create (give birth) to other things besides children. But, it's not easy. Many people just don't understand what we've been through not being able to have children. And now, at 51 with my ovaries removed, it is so definate. The realisation that I won't be able to pass on my thoughts, traditions, culture to a little version of me or of my hubby.

[@candysbroomcloset]

@@kathygraziani229 Yes, there are other creative births, but alas… Thank you Kathy...*for reaching out! We are never alone 💜

[@Joraelfa]

My heart breaks for you. All my love ❤️❤️❤️

[@bonniebishop6635]

Much wiser much wiser and I do not get upset as much because it doesn’t matter the only thing that matters of the simple things when we were children what mattered was simple thinks

[@magsadams20]

I’m so pleased that people are talking more about the menopause. I believe I may be peri menopausal, things have changed in my moods, a severe dip into depression, thinking I was going mad, awful self doubt, along with physical changes that signify a change is coming. I’m glad it’s being spoken about more especially in the media, it’s helpful to see other women expressing how they felt and coped with it and how they have moved into this next phase of their life. Xx

[@mariejohnson5428]

Oh yes let's talk about it, its so much less scary when you've an idea what may, or may not, be coming your way and that it's not just you. I'm 51, I have the night sweats, the hormones, the fuzzy memory loss (which got alot worse after covid) and have the most regular debilatingly heavy periods I've had in my life! (Thank you I needed to get that off my chest) Looking forward to it all being over. :-(

[@martin7878]

I tried medication for 3 months and it didn’t work. What has helped me is: daily exercise, out door activity, eating very healthy, journaling, and a supportive husband.

[@kjosephine70]

Thanks for this video, Wendy! It’s completely reasonable you discuss this because your channel is about self-care within the artistic / creative community ❤️ I am in menopause, as in I’m past the 12 month span where I last had a moon cycle. It’s been very horrible. Major hot flashes, restless sleepless nights, overly tired even when I do sleep decent. They say that wine consumed in moderate amounts is good for you, specifically red wine, but I do find alcohol causes hot flashes for me at least. Yoga has helped a lot! I do gentle yoga, or Yin yoga which helps with flexibility. For any older women reading, make sure you work on your stability and flexibility… to avoid falls later in life. I studied herbalism (not a professional herbalist, I just have taken courses online and in-person) and a lot of people claim black cohosh helps. Some say red clover does, too, but I’d get a hormone panel done first by your doctor as red clover mimics estrogen, which can be bad for those who are prone to breast cancer. Mushrooms are my go to. I make a mushroom concoction that I tincture. I also love motherwort. I also take maca in powder form that I add to raw cacao drinks. Blessings from Kelli on Patreon 🥰

[@fifidubois5514]

I've been going through the menopause for over 10 years. Still get hot flushes. I'm.in my 60's and its just so annoying!! I do take starflower oil. It becomes part of your life putting on, taking off, putting on, taking off cardigans. 🤣 ( a mad laugh by the way) the thought of a wooly jumper would tip me over the edge. I can't even look at anyone else wearing one.! I can't go out without water with me I'm like a camel. If you look at the list of menopause symptoms there are so many. So I think we do rather well!!!! 👍 💕💕💕💕

[@tinyfemaleshooter8756]

If you deal with the hot flashes that last more than a min or two or 10…lol….and it makes you wake up out of a sound sleep….buy lots of ice packs…freeze them and sleep with them at night….helps so very much👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻❤️❤️❤️

[@lindahazel5075]

You aren't bonkers, Wendy. You are authentic and it's beautiful! I've tried lemon balm to help with my moods and menopause and un-calmness. I know that's not a word but that's how it feels. The Sun helps tremendously. I love stepping outside. I have noticed diet plays a huge affect as does movement. Cleaning and decluttering movement really helps me. Walking too of course.

[@alexandraalmeida3661]

Hi, Wendy! Not everything can go wrong, can it? I’m in my menopause and I feel completely fine! No mood changes, no physical problems, nothing. Menopause has come and it’s as if nothing had happened, even because when I had my period, I felt absolutely fine too. My period never affected me and menopause is, well, only the absence of it. My mother always talked to me about that. In my family, everyone was very open and there were never taboo conversations. And so my childhood and adolescence went smoothly with all information and talk I needed. So I feel very sad when I see that some parents and families don’t talk to children and adolescents openly. My stepmother’s family is so close, so reluctant in talking about things that her grandchildren have some prejudiced behaviors and for them everything is taboo. Even my grandmother was a free speaking lady! It’s so nice to talk about things freely and openly. My remedies for menopause problems or otherwise are making art, any kind of art, even gluing pieces of paper into a page to make an abstract composition, or crochet the most simple squares. I also drink lots of herbal tea with ginger and I pay a lot of attention to what I eat: lots of vegetables, fruit, soup, white meat, fish and, well, no sugar, no sodas, no alcohol, cakes only made by me, etc. Thanks for keeping me company. See you next week ♥️💚💙💜❤️🖤🧡💛💗😘😘😘😘🤗🤗🤗🤗

[@sarahjohnston4465]

Thank you Wendy for talking about peri and menopause, I'm going through this at the moment and have been feeling worried x ❤️

[@debbiedrawsfunny]

Thank you for openly talking about this♥️I’ve always called it puberty in reverse, so I laughed hearing you say that! I’m not sure where I’m at on the perimenopause. I’m 46 and definitely dealing with changes, however I’m so regular on my cycle I could set a clock to my reproductive organs😆 but anxiety has been a struggle and gaining weight has made me so uncomfortable in my skin. I’m trying so hard to love and accept and encourage myself that I’m ok and I am going through this natural change. But it’s not easy. As for remedies, since it’s summer here in the U.S. I spend as much time outdoors with the birds and squirrels and chipmunks on my deck while sketching and painting in my sketchbooks. It’s my favorite thing to do when weather permits. Hemp oil has been wonderful for my anxiety and cramps (raspberry leaf tea also great for cramping) this was the first month I didn’t take any Tylenol because hemp oil worked so well! I’m amazed. I also take turmeric, morinda, Estroven for hot flashes and night sweats (haven’t sweated in my sleep since taking it) and a regular multi vitamin. Ashwaghanda is also wonderful for mood swings. I also cut back a lot on caffeine. I drink mostly half-caf coffee in the morning or 1 cup of homemade cold brew regular coffee. This was insanely long🤪but I hope some of those suggestions might help someone out there🌼✨✌️

[@SpecialgiftsLA]

Hi Debbie, thanks for sharing...What do you do with the hemp oil? I hold off coffee til midday 11 or 12..and been eating grapefruit or sometimes a protein rich breakfast. All symptoms gone just get anxiety and the odd palpitation and generally energy is more consistent. I do stretching and walks.

[@debbiedrawsfunny]

@@SpecialgiftsLA Hi! I was taking a hemp oil for anxiety…but as of a few months ago I had to stop. I began having a reaction to it out of nowhere. And it started to make me anxious (it’s a delta 8 hemp oil and I would only use a couple drops- other people around here use it to get intoxicated, that was never my goal just to help with sleep and pain management during my period) My peri menopause is in absolute full swing now and I seem to be so sensitive to all sorts of things. So basically, I’m about 95% off caffeine and I’m still using Ashwaghanda along with a slew of other supplements to help with symptoms. No more Estroven, that started giving me issues too. It’s all trial and error. But I am taking iron, iodine, and lots of B vitamins and D. It seems to be helping a LOT✌️ Best of luck 🤞

[@kaytiej8311]

I only found your channel today and I want to say thank you. I needed to hear this and be taken into a safe, feminine space and held gently, amidst what's been happening in my world at the moment. Bumpy, bonkers, intense. It was such a relief to hear someone be honest and genuine and say these words in relation to life and the world. My menopausal journey through the portal (beautiful word to challenge all the negative paradigms attached to menopause!) has been traumatic. But the world situation has been pressing continuously on my heart and mind and eclipsing the peace l know is there. Thank you for being a vessel of affirmation and encouragement that has helped me to begin to refocus.

[@sylvieauguste280]

I’m French ,62, and I can say that life becomes after menopause. I was in peri -menopause and menopause during 7 or 8 years. Very hard without hormones, only plants and a lot of patience. I read books about the subject and I learned a lot. Be careful about what you eat. No carences for the bones and the blood. And creams for your skin. Love from France.

[@shirleyadamson9326]

So much gratitude for the glimpses of you that you share. Keeping our lights shining bright but “relaxing” with a glass of substance that dulls that shine seems counterintuitive to me so I too chose to remove alcohol from my life. It was, and continues to be, a wonderful gift I wish I’d given myself earlier. Keep well and know that I appreciate these “conversations”. 🔆

[@lisabradley7292]

Enjoy your videos Wendy! Beautiful Echo Fairy! I'm also artist, self employed, we are similar age. Thankful I can set my schedule. Journaling & Sunshine are very good for me. I also gave up wine. Feel better for it. I drink Chaga mushroom (dry powder) as a hot drink (add teaspoon maple syrup) before bed. Get outside in the garden, barefoot, even a patio of potted plants! Oh I LOVE Pam Gregory too!! Love your positive focus of self care creativity, clearing and blessing your space💗☕💐✨

[@feliciathomasart]

I'm 53 and really starting to notice the changes in my system. I go from thinking, I'm a Goddess, this is part of the privilege of being a woman, to being a total mess who can't remember where she left her keys......I am so glad you are talking about this. x

[@caleywytch1]

It's not talked about enough. Started on the patches last week... Still suffering from flushes so hot I was doing the bins in t shirt and shorts while it was frosty outside lol. Very good book is called why has nobody told me this before by Dr Julie Smith. Well worth a read. Black cohosh red clover are good herbal options. Wishing everyone going through it best wishes. Xx

[@LisaWfromTexas]

Hi, Wendy! I feel ya, girl. 🙏 Menopause. Mine wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be and I did go to my doctor to see what might be needed. Black Cohosh supplements REALLY help with my menopausal moodiness. I also love not having a monthly visit from Mother Nature. And my mantra each morning…”Gorgeous Day, Come What May, See the Beauty All Around, Breathe In, Breathe Out”. Hugs! ~lisa from texas

[@loricrawford8426]

I'm going to be 65 on the 7th and I have to admit I totally missed my menopause. I know I'm very lucky but had no problems at all. Now the wrinkles are a little upsetting...lol but it's definitely a life well lived attitude for me. So far every new phase of life I've found exciting in a way as you can either embrace it or embrace the alternative which is not aging at all and I know that's something I'm ready for just yet. Embrace the changes if you can!

[@anima6035]

Happy birthday, it's today (if you're reading this on the 7th lol)!! I hope you have a wonderful day!! I pray I'm blessed like you in the "pause" department 😍 I'm trying to aim for a similar embracing of change but like you said wrinkles can be hard to accept lol.. but for sure life is just a series of phases/cjanges, we go through so many but each one must come to an end eventually - got to make the most of each phase while it's here and throw all regret to the wind 🌬️🌞🌿

[@tracygillard7388]

This was very interesting. Menopause is not talked about nearly enough, though it is getting better, thanks to women like you and others shining a light on it. I'm sixty now so that's all behind me more or less but when it was my turn, and because I knew so little about it, I genuinely thought that I was losing my mind and/or that there was something seriously wrong with me because I was so emotional and had so little energy. I wish I knew then that the many symptoms were normal and that things would settle down a bit and improve then I would have been better able to accept what was happening to me and not fight against it so much. So, keep talking about it and celebrate it.

[@Tinaleann_]

I’m gonna be 35 this year. Im embracing that my body is gonna start changing soon, and I’m ok with it. It used to bother me to get mature but I’m like hey, that doesn’t mean I’m not still free spirited !

[@Happinosis]

I'm 52 and it's a year since my periods stopped, huzzah! And I'm feeling better than I have in years. I'm ill with early onset Parkinson's which I've had since 48 and that has made the menopause a piece of cake for me, but it is a whole new phase of life that I'm happy with, and it's liberating. Grab it with both hands Wendy. I grab it with one, and shakily aim for it with the other :) I think I've been lucky that I've had my angst and pain throughout my life instead of confined to this time, because I was diagnosed autistic at 46, and that explained everything, my whole life was discombobulated, and menopause won't beat me up if autism hasn't done it. xxx

[@janejohnson2397]

Peri-menopause for me was horrific! My doctor put me on Prempro, which is a blanket drug. It messed with even my ability to think clearly. Within about a year, I came up with breast cancer that was hormone positive. My best advice to anyone is "don't let them put you on any hormones without doing a hormone test first to find if you even need that drug." They don't like to do that, because it's expensive, but what's more valuable than your life? The breast cancer I had would've killed me. That was in 2009 and I had a double mastectomy without reconstruction. It wasn't a difficult decision for me, but it really messes with your female ego. I'm glad menopause is over and the breast cancer. I caught it early and with a double mastectomy did not have to do chemo and radiation. I did take Aromasin for 5 years. They wanted me to take it for 10 years, but I refused, because I requested a hormone test to see if it actually works. They said, "We 'assume' that it works." I said, "Well, you've PROVEN that it destroys your bones, so ASSUME & PROVEN doesnt' work for me in the same sentence when you're talking about my health. Good luck with all this! Now let's paint.... I'm more interested in herbal remedies now, after the fact, but I will tell you it's true, LAUGHTER is the best medicine. Keep your zest for life and a sense of humor. Be able to laugh at the little things. Be able to laugh at yourself.

[@rebeltherapy1892]

I love that you are sharing your experience with peri-menopause/menopause on here. I'm about to turn 60 and went through menopause at 45. I'm also a psychotherapist in the States and about to co-facilitate a mid-life support group for women experiencing any phase of menopause. In my research I found that most women don't tend to talk with anyone about their experiences and instead 'suffer in silence'. I think partly because menopause is treated and talked about like a pathology, a disease that must be tackled instead of a normal portal that every woman walks through at some point. Brava for your willingness to be vulnerable! Other supports - any movement practices such as yoga, pilates, ecstatic dance. Herbal support yes mushrooms!! Reishi and you said and Cordyceps, also CBD is helpful for sleep and joint pain or stiffness. Reiki or other energy work can be really supportive and wonderful and breath work, wonderful, life changing breath work. Supportive in every way. No symptom is permanent and post menopause is really a time for such freedom and growth, meaning and purpose. Thank you for this.

[@hartlinerealm2015]

You really inspired me today thank you. I lived with severe PMDD and it destroyed everything for so many years. I am 56 and just finally finished the end of those monthly hells. I think there is a lot of ageism about the second spring and the actual renewal that accompanies this special portal time. Social engineering is to say the least misogynistic! If not down right encouraging people to be repulsed by full grown women and their sexuality! YOU ARE A GODDESS! You have helped me want to find ways to be grounded, and keep going. I have had a rotten life! But even through it all, I knew and know that I am. And so are you. I have related to you so much, I have found a way to see the joy the safety of earth, to trust implicitly. And the brain changes and knows that its time to just sort of let the edges blur a bit and see the true beauty of how energy flows. Energy has a signature, follow your heart. And offer the shadows a spot on the shelf or a chat on the divan. This is a huge time in cosmic history. Your feelings are proper in every way. I am doing a water fast on the new moon and the full moon for 24hrs maybe more...I really like the results. I love all your wisdom and that you were a school teacher, such blessed children to have spent time with you. Till next video. I'd like to get better at making a videos! My penomaze! lasted 2.5 years+ with the super irritation at first and all the weird body changes that are still happening, irregular bleeding, the hot flashes sucked, magnesium helped - lots. Yeah. Now I just really enjoy wisdom, strength and beauty. It's been a long road for me. I hope this helps. Lots of baths and crying for me personally. I am wonderful and awful and all that I need to be! So are you.

[@saltandlight44777]

My menopause I avoided the hot flashes but instead had several years of horrible heart palpitations and anxiety. I feel the medical community is not prepared to diagnose menopause when patients present in this way. So I endured over 7 years of medicine I should never have been put on.

[@catherinehalliwell4844]

I went through menopause very early, around 40 I did have sort of melt downs, but after my body adjusted, things did get better. Rembering back having some quiet time have a tea party. I am 65 now and still have a tea party light candles while I draw or paint. Makes me feel so special that does help some.

[@Alltheworldneedsajolt]

I love the honesty. When your friends like to pretend they’re not old enough to be going through this, and just keep on dyeing their hair the same colour as when they were 20, and having their faces filled with fillers, it can be a very lonely place when you don’t want to do the same. I’m embracing my crone phase and feel more confident and uninhibited than I’ve ever felt. This time of life is incredible when we find peace with ourselves and work with nature, instead of wrestling with it. Keep well, Wendy.

[@theunexpectedgypsy]

yes, I completely hear you and totally understand! Love your concept of working WITH nature... that's it, precisely! xx

[@deirdreclark2128]

I had the menopause at 45, hot flushes, sweats etc, just got on with it. Some days felt quite unhinged!! We all go through with it. Hair became thinner as well. What a pretty picture I am painting!!

[@MonikaBehr]

Through it. Had minimal impacts at the time. Though night sweats weren't fun. About the noise. Noise bothers me less than your apologies for it, or drawing attention to it. I like that the noises inform me of the everydayness your life. I watch one artist who lives next to a farm, and the crow of the rooster and bleat of the goats tells me about his day

[@alicecilepin9370]

Aw even when your talking about more serious things you are still so positive and light hearted and fun really nice chat only 1/2 the way through tho so I’ll get back to watching now lol

[@AmoPerrosMás]

You are such a beautiful soul Wendy. And a beautiful lady! Bless you for speaking about this. One thing women don't talk about enough is vaginal atrophy and the painful sex that comes with it! I read that 50% of women suffer from this during and after menopause. And I'm guessing it's higher than that because we are too embarrassed to talk to our doctors about it. I started using vitamin e suppositories from Amazon and they are helping. I rarely have hot flashes during the day anymore, but still at night. A fan right next to my side of the bed has been a lifesaver. Thanks for mentioning black cohosh. I have some but forget to take it.

[@theraspberryrabbits7390]

I started the change at 46. I'm through it now, but can't have wine, eat certain things anymore and still feel fatigue. I have learned to embrace where I am now. My best friend, since childhood and I, have decided to give ourselves a "Crone Party" next year. We want to celebrate together this next adventure/season. Much love to you Wendy and thank you for talking about it. Women need to help each other. Especially now as things are so out of control and scary here in the US.

[@carolannmacarthur759]

Hi Wendy, it’s been 22 years since my menopause so somethings are rather vague all these years later. I do remember the anxiety though, waking up in a terror in the night and feeling so lost sometimes. The best thing for me then was a hug, some physical contact seemed to take everything down several notches. My brain would get really foggy sometimes too and then I would plant myself on the couch and stare out the window until I became myself again. The hardest part was my family understanding that this was just something they needed to adjust to and at some point things would settle again. Which they did. For some women it goes on for years, for other it is just a few months. I was lucky that it was a few months. I also didn’t have the on again off again periods. I had a final normal period and then nothing again. That was it. Now at 69 I am settled in myself, but facing the aches and pains that come with age. We are such a complex species and so many things can and will go wrong. I have pretty much always been a glass half full person and feel for the glass half empty souls who struggle along. We all feel the struggle of our ever changing lives and especially these past few years. I think it is best to have one part of the day when you can be. Just be. When that is in each person’s life is going to be different but I believe life is easier if you can take even just 15 minutes every day and just be. Much love to you and all the other women who are here in this space. Life is our gift.

[@cherylcarlson3315]

Am late to the party.From the medical view in US , menopause is a problem and even as I am RN, interacting with MDs they are of the opinion female lives are soley for reproduction. Idiots. They also think all complaints are from menopause..fatigue, shortness of breath, difficulty swallowing, falling, muscle weakness, weight gain, irregular heart rate...had to yell at neurologists to see that this is not normal post menopausal. Finally got med that helps though because I demanded it and it works, my diagnosis can't possibly be right. grrr. I was honestly too busy to pay attention beyond noting perimeno had gone full on meno beyond muscle weakness becoming very severe at times. In the US the focus is very weirdly focused on beauty and looking young so natural white hair is frowned on but the young kids are dying their hair pewter gray and think it is cool. Don't understand. I have had problems adapting to disability more than accepting aging , also getting people to see these processes are not the same. Have always been outspoken but now more pointed and accompanied by over the glasses killer looks

[@CMoore8539]

Cheryl, Thank you for all of your work in the medical world! I personally believe that men would have already found a solution if they had to go through menopause. They’d probably throw every dine at it until they found a way out of it.🤣 Women are strong people. Take good care!💞

[@cherylcarlson3315]

@@CMoore8539 thanks for making my rant validated