Mental Health EXPERT: How to Work WITH Your Anxiety to HEAL Your Life with John Delony

Today, we have a very special guest who's here to share invaluable insights on overcoming anxiety, finding purpose, and building a non-anxious life. He's the author of the transformative book, 'Building a Non-Anxious Life,' a renowned mental health expert, and a passionate advocate for mental well-being. Join us as we sit down with the one and only John Delony, and embark on a journey towards a life filled with clarity, connection, and resilience.
Dr. John Delony is a bestselling author, mental health expert and host of The Dr. John Delony Show. John has two PhDs and over two decades of experience in counseling, crisis response and higher education. He is the author of the bestselling books Own Your Past, Change Your Future and Redefining Anxiety. His new book, Building a Non-Anxious Life, will release in October 2023. John has appeared on Fox News and Fox Business and been featured in Real Simple magazine, Fast Company, The Today Show, and HuffPost. He has been a guest on The Minimalist Podcast, The Jordan B. Peterson Podcast and the Mind Pump Podcast. John’s goal is to help people navigate tough decisions, improve their relationships, and believe they’re worth being well. Follow John on KZbin, Instagram, TikTok, Facebook and Twitter.
Order his book, Building a Non-Anxious Life: amzn.to/3KXAQiY
In this episode you will learn,
-The importance of believing in something bigger than oneself for a non-anxious life, and how the lack of this belief can contribute to anxiety and discover strategies to cultivate it in your own life.
-Why many people struggle to believe in their own worth.
-The positive changes in one's life after successfully choosing to build a non-anxious life.
-How daily anxiety affects our relationships.
-Strategies for shifting your focus away from material success and external validation.
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[@lewishowes]

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[@richaprakash852]

I don't think anyone can ever overcome anxiety...specially health anxiety

[@ranjitsinghsisodia1254]

Yes😊

[@marianapretti2866]

YES! I believe the biggest takeaway for me is that my body is actually trying to help me making me feel anxious. It’s telling me that something in my environment seems like a threat to me - and my work is to know why. It can be a real threat but, what I have noticed in myself, is that most of the time it is not - it’s just the emotional attachment that I still carry from my childhood from a situation that I interpreted and felt like threat - but that it might not have been in reality (and I was too little to realize that).

[@shirleyannegoguen842]

YES..my nephew has panic attacks 😢

[@nicoleee1980]

Yes! Dr JD is the best. You guys make great conversation when you’re together.

[@FlyingWithSpurts]

"You can't hate yourself into being better." - this is a lesson I am only just understanding.

[@kemiolumide-aluko9150]

This has been one of the profoundest episodes of the School of Greatness series!! There is so much value for self development, families and relationships, all laid out in clear terms. Thanks very much. Lewis. You’re a fantastic interviewer. Greetings from Nigeria 🇳🇬

[@lewishowes]

I appreciate your support! It means a lot! Thank you so much for watching! 🧡

[@shirleyvargas1117]

Honestly one of the best videos ever about relationships and self. There was no hate or blaming one sex or another. The woke culture, cancel culture, and red pill culture all promote hate. This video is refreshing and soothing to the soul. I can take this home and digest it with love and comfort.

[@JoyceElFer]

John is my favorite guy!

[@selfretired3025]

"Anxiety is a smoke alarm in your kitchen" 👊❤ Yes! Love this analogy. And those of us with Anxiety are the smoke detectors.

[@ricomcclinton2982]

Great job, acts of service are so fulfilling. Selfish people don't know what they are missing!

[@mindful-abundance]

Please bring dr Berg the nutritionist to your program! He’s amazing. He has 11M subscribers!

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

❤

[@sandramorton5510]

Just found this video, two shining examples of men helping those with anxiety.

[@emilymo13]

SO excited for this collab of two titans! Dr Delony does incredible work 💙

[@zenlifebalance7]

💜💜💜Love this talk. Biggest takeaway would be that one must be honest with self about where you’re currently at in the moment and where you’re heading, and if that’s the direction you want to be going in. Be in the moment with loved ones so that they feel safe being in your presence and feel cherished.💜💜💜

[@lewishowes]

Thanks for being here!

[@user-bi1iz9wh4n]

Well said.

[@nnylasoR]

I love this point (among SO MANY) : “[Having tons of knowledge about a subject] does not mean you’re exempt from doing the work yourself.” “No… it means I’ve got to be *first in line.* I’ve got to be a person of integrity.” **With great knowledge / power comes even *greater* responsibility. 🧡👍

[@fernanda9218]

I love this! I’m so grateful you interviewed Dr. John. It’s like two gems talking gems. Thanks Lewis!

[@OscarLopez-ts7mg]

These interviews are great, love listening to them while I work and apply what is being said. Great stuff and it’s free… priceless!

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

we are blessed ❤

[@lauri-jokotzen6690]

Always amazed with The Lewis School. “Stay Connected”=My take away. And credit to Marisa Peer and now here… “I am enough”. Many thanks. ❤

[@Krista-xy6ij]

This Video shared many life changing truths . One topic that Personally stood out was on knowing your Values . Living intentionally a life that is in alignment with them . As a couple when you share values and do your best to live them it creates a peaceful home . Very thankful for the words shared by John Delony and Lewis . I’m Grateful for all you share with the world Lewis to help people live their best lives .

[@imdee9024]

Mrs Delony YOU LUCKY DUCK!

[@serendipity7182]

So informative and validating as a school counselor serving traumatized youth and mom struggling with my own anxiety! I passed along to over 40 people! Thank you!!!!

[@lewishowes]

Thank you so much for watching!

[@liahcaravalho3876]

I loved every moment of this conversation. So many nuggets of wisdom. Thank you. ❤

[@lewishowes]

So happy to hear you are finding value! 🧡

[@dd81807]

We are definitely living in a world where we are creating more and more anxiety around us. High inflation, skyrocketed home prices, high debt, increased isolation, dependence on technology all these things are creating an anxious society.

[@geemail369]

One of my all-time favourites of your chanel! 🙏🏻 Great piece, well interviewed.

[@janesturgeon4404]

Fabulous discussion between two wise men. Biggest takeaway - all belief systems have been clipped and we are in chaos and anxiety is our internal smoke alarm. So much to learn from this whole discussion and I will come back and listen again, more than once. Thank you, Lewis, and John. ❤

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

❤

[@jcszot]

Love Dr. John! 🙏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻🥰 he’s on two other platforms. He has his own show here on KZbin and he’s also on the Dave Ramsey show. Don’t miss out!

[@PaulaDTozer]

This is a very important conversation for everyone, especially parents and grandparents.

[@lewishowes]

Thank you! 🧡

[@Sunlightsam24]

Hmmm, anxiety is about worry about the future, depression is ruminating on the past. Both are a waste of energy since the past or future are uncontrollable. Only now counts

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

truth! ❤

[@demetriuswalls45]

Deep

[@yougotnexttelevision]

You're absolutely right, the struggle is finding out the space where it doesn't matter. I think that's where most people reside.

[@l4l414]

Our minds really want to destroy us "if" we let it. Its a constant work in progress to stay present. It's bloody hard work!! 😂

[@stephaniemounts317]

I truly enjoyed this episode. Anxiety has been a huge factor in most of my life. Not realizing I spent most of my life in fight or flight without realizing it, I did fall into substance abuse but proud to say I was able to conquer with changing the belief about being good enough. I did struggle with the feeling like I was depressed but being explained that was normal just unknown to me. Great questions and my favorite was how can I love you today? I also liked when he said hug before bed with your partner bc that is an amazing feeling 💓

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching!

[@stevenkeller3047]

Hey guys, great conversation. It's so refreshing and helpful to see men having these kinds of conversations. I have a complicated question for you. I'll try not to overload you with too many details. My question is how does one deal with anxiety that's not caused or driven by avoidance or ignoring a problem or situation, but is caused by fear of the future, projection of one's incorrect ideas, or ones creativity creating a future that is not real or at the very least hasn't happened yet. I create false narratives to something that "could" happen and it fills me with anxiety and dread. I have conversations in my head with people that I'll never have in reality, or I create scenarios that may not happen. But I worry and fret over them so much that the thoughts consume my inner attention for days and cause me many sleepless nights.

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

look at how many times worst case scenario has come true. Write out the ways you would still be okay even if worst case scenario came true (how you would pivit, adjust, who could support you temporarily), lastly realize that uncomfortable situations help our growth. We shouldn't wish for a life of 24/7 ease. You are way more capable to deal with probelms then you think. There is a solution to every problem and tough times don't last forever. Lastly, question the stories you are telling yourself, because that's what they are, stories! Try and balance out worst case scenario with best case scenario as well :)

[@Universepoetry1298]

Look up mental compulsions, related to OCD. Mindfulness will help you develop a better relationship with the activity of your mind. See the book The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer.

[@sarinagold1869]

Yes! Real talks.

[@lauraconstantin3512]

I totally agree that anxiety can be our friend in this century.

[@isabelkassan5244]

I have ordered his book x2! One for me and 1 for a friend! He makes sense plus plus Plus! Aussie Lady!

[@allil87]

Thank you

[@jessicaterryschneider8068]

❤ you both are amazing! Thank you for being so authentic! Love it!

[@lewishowes]

Thank you! Appreciate you for watching. 🧡

[@BayStarBaby]

Love this

[@isabelkassan5244]

Share Share Share Dr John Delony!

[@annebooyse1112]

'You're supposed to be broken-hearted when you lose someone you loved.' Being judged for grieving. Was married for 37 years and knew him for 43 years. Have been thrust into a world I am not sure I want to be part of.

[@pammeadows1311]

Grief is the price for greatlove.a gift...let the time assuage the pain..memories will be a salve...in time ...pray.u r not alone.try not to listen to well-meaning opinions of family or friends.its your heart❤.God bless

[@sunset33533]

Anxiety, like depression or anger or any emotional experience can be a great teacher. Mindfulness meditation helps with identifying this. Books like "30 Days to Reduce Anxiety" by Harper Daniels do a good job helping me escape the thinking mind and observe thoughts and emotions objectively. I also benefit from journaling every day.

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

great suggestions ❤

[@Narcissists.1]

I,m fighting with anxiety

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

You will get through this. You are stronger than you think! Best of luck in healing ❤

[@sumansohal]

One of the greatest interviews ❤❤❤ @ the school of greatness 💜💛💖

[@lewishowes]

Thank you! Appreciate you for watching.

[@dianneevans5492]

Values vs. Beliefs!

[@lisadehner3094]

Such wisdom!!!!

[@lewishowes]

Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂

[@tingelingg1201]

YES!

[@user-ig8mo9ci1j]

Love your work

[@mariselamoreno5787]

Yes, I loved this conversation! ❤️

[@lewishowes]

🧡

[@user-li2vl4yd1x]

Thank you for existing, doc!!!!!!!!😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

[@agataf22]

Thank you . I loved what John said about his mum 🚀and more 🙏

[@karenvargas742]

I just saw a small part of this video on Facebook. And got my attention, and when it was done, I had to come on KZbin, and it was a great decision. Thank you for this.

[@AdiOrPazCoach]

Thank you ♥️🙏🏻🙌🏻 your energy is amazing, your sharing, your interaction

[@latiavaughan]

Such a powerful episode. Just shared it with my husband. Thank you! 🙏🏽❤️

[@lewishowes]

Thank you! Appreciate you for watching. 🧡

[@guidingluminescencebyshez]

Mental health is a vital aspect of our overall well-being, encompassing our emotional, psychological, and social stability. It is not a sign of weakness to face mental health challenges; rather, seeking support and understanding is a courageous step towards healing. Stigma and misconceptions surrounding mental health persist, highlighting the need for increased awareness and empathy. Taking care of our mental health is as crucial as tending to our physical health, fostering resilience, and enabling us to lead fulfilling lives.

[@helenamarhounova1120]

Love it❤❤

[@lynne5322]

Lots of truth here...!

[@nnylasoR]

Soooooooooooo, so good.

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@MonicaVILLARREAL-xe8sm]

Wow my two favorite podcast people, what a great episode!

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@ToRung]

I hope you have a fantastic day to come💝🎉😘

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

❤

[@ToRung]

Love 😍❤❤ @@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool

[@dawn6232]

"Raising secure, emotionally competent, cooperative children who have free access to their creativity and expression is desperately needed for the health of the human race and the health of the planet. Raising secure children matters." - excerpt from The Attachment Connection by Ruth Newton, Ph.D In the words of Dr. Robert Block, the former President of the American Academy of Pediatrics, "Adverse childhood experiences are the single greatest unaddressed public health threat facing our nation today." It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men. -Frederick Douglass.

[@eldudearino89]

Love the "look for the truth."

[@ericbaker3967]

Yes! Currently reading Dr. Delony's new book, his ability to reframe and then skillfully communicate it resonates with me. Biggest takeaway is that my wife and I get to have a new marriage when new or different life events occur. "It's about us, not me."

[@zorasabacka3368]

Thank you ❤

[@lewishowes]

You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

[@Chris27883]

So I absolutely believe in instinct. My question would be, at what point is it Instinct and at what point is it perception? Because it's not like we can't be wrong about things.

[@leogarcia86]

FANTASTIC INTERVIEW. THANK YOU!!!

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@carolinapargas6761]

Wow thank you with all my heart for this deep and awesome podcast... I enjoyed every second...

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@Mimicoconut]

Wow this was amazing. Love this guy!!! So many truths ❤

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@madderhouse]

Amazing episode. Thanks guys.

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@carolspencer6915]

Good evening Lewis and John Again thankyou for this. 💜

[@lewishowes]

You're welcome.

[@cesardeleonfranco8917]

Yes

[@marianapretti2866]

Great interview! So much knowledge coming from Dr John Delony - and from you Lewis. Thanks for doing this show

[@lewishowes]

You're welcome! Appreciate you and your support. 🧡

[@louiseolango]

I thought this was amazing. I have had so many questions answered and so many of my thoughts and feelings obtained syntax.

[@coralialarios3275]

I need more thumbs! I need to “like” this more! 😆 Awesome show! Thanks for leading the lives you both lead and thank you for sharing with us. 🙏🏼

[@GracefullyMe82]

such a good perspective, thank you for all of the wisdom guys 👑🙏🏼

[@lewishowes]

Thank you so much for watching!

[@UKSteveRhodes]

Cracking episode, thank you both !

[@lewishowes]

You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡

[@michellechang2538]

Spot on ! This is so so helpful to the anxiety community, truly appreciate Louise and the guest for sharing this value information !

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

love to the anxiety community! ❤

[@michellechang2538]

Love you back ❤!

[@craigosterberg5045]

Thanks

[@lewishowes]

Thank you so much for watching! :)

[@323yeshua]

PHENOMENAL!!!!

[@lewishowes]

🙌

[@323yeshua]

@@lewishowes your questions are right on! They flow!

[@Olivia0585]

It’s so easy, yet we have a hard time doing it. This is another fantastic interview Lewis!! So inspiring!!

[@Nitro91]

To many people see anxiety as your enemy or trying to hurt you when actually it's your body trying to keep you safe

[@kimaraburnside77]

Really good information. Love this and now knowing anxiety is a warning to something is wrong. Warning to saying I’m not safe about something or someone. Knowing that substance abuse is an escape and this is why others run to it. I ran to it most of my life. I have now stepped away only to now realize that I have anxiety and embrace it to change it. I’m learning how to relax now with the I am enough and I am human and value me.

[@lewishowes]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts! Appreciate you for watching. 🧡

[@No_days_off_01]

Good content ❤

[@kathleenmillington4860]

Great show thank you ❤❤❤

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@debbiewalrath7504]

Yes interesting concept

[@zriahi]

This was great 🙏🏻

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@angelaotero3172]

Wowwwww what an interview ❤

[@lewishowes]

Thanks for watching! I'm glad you liked it!

[@AzilMhaie]

Yes❤

[@lewishowes]

🙌

[@Bandsuniversity]

This collab is awesome good work boys

[@lewishowes]

Thanks for being here!

[@sylviefallu1156]

Très belle rencontre.

[@NopeVS]

Great interview!

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@PhilippePicard]

Really good video. Nice, to understand where and why this anxiety exist

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@Alexlittle9]

*Excellent*

[@lewishowes]

🙌

[@lanilani3601]

Wish we could have stayed on the topic of anxiety throughout ,as I have been sorely needing guidance on that. but it was good content anyway , as usual . Thank you gentlemen

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

Check out Dr. Russell, the Anxiety MD, he's really helpful. Best of luck in your healing❤

[@Alexa47k]

Just wanted to say dr delonys book is actually great too. I also deal with lots of anxiety

[@jacobhoward9425]

You create your own anxiety. Your not getting your fair share or someone took something from you that doesn’t belong to you. The 2 root types of where fear comes from

[@christopherperry3895]

Wow…Hallelujah!!!…wow

[@lewishowes]

🙌

[@sgiado]

There needs to be a Dr. Delony bingo card. 20 minutes and already I got: "It's both/and." "Choose reality" "5 inches apart and 20,000 miles away"

[@maryamesi78]

“Am I a safe place for my loved ones to land” 👌🏼

[@annebooyse1112]

'connection and being whole'

[@v.i.p.studios945]

So much truth…so rarely said out loud…

[@lewishowes]

🔥

[@coretaclark3104]

DON'T OWE ANYBODY ANYTHING 👍👌✌️

[@aprilholderman5098]

❤❤❤❤

[@mayleenraneses8819]

Lewis, please try to interview LOA Coach Zehra Mahoon her thoughts are amazing & so inspiring!

[@lewishowes]

I ask that all guest requests go through: lewishowes.com/contact under "press/media/interview."

[@berenicealcantara3331]

Wow I was thinking 🤔 when are you going to invite Dr Delony thank you 🙏

[@lewishowes]

You're welcome, thank you for being here! 🧡

[@Carol_a]

Wow

[@lewishowes]

Thank you for being here!

[@thefilmyuniverse56]

3:00 we need time stamps!

[@RealandOfficialDeanRaza05]

The cause of anxiety being insecure and uncomfortable.

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

dicconnection from self and others as well