How to HEAL Anxiety And Form CONFIDENCE As A Habit w/ Mel Robbins | Rich Roll Podcast

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@juliesill8074
@juliesill8074 Жыл бұрын
46 minutes in Mel says wait I need to figure this out … before it’s all over. That hit hard and sums up my reflections the year of my 60th revolves around the sun. Dang
@kaivenfenton
@kaivenfenton Жыл бұрын
I spent most of this day listening to you and Rich and writing to you. I hear you and your growth. I spent about seventy years trying to discover why I felt so flawed and defective as a female child growing up. Now, I live in the peace and joy that can never end. I also want a deeper connection with people, and have for years. I can only find people valuing internal life on podcasts, for which I am grateful. I am a female and needing, wanting to share my deep wisdom and knowledge with others like you, Rich and others do, but cannot create a podcast all by myself. I still live close to the way I did in the fifties in a forest in Oregon. This society seems so artificial to me because it values and rewards external material things much more than internal ones. The "pandemic" didn't flip a switch in me because I am deeply rooted in my true Natural Self that I discovered years ago. Nothing can disturb that place within. If you or anyone wanted to try something peaceful, preferably in warm weather, sit quietly and alone on the ground, beside a weed, with Nature surrounding. Spend some time contemplating IT's Life deeply and see if anything happens inside of you....When I did this, tears automatically welled up in my eyes. It was much later I learned why that happened. My friend of over fifty years, lives in Brattleboro and if I ever get to visit him, I'd love to share a couple of things with you. You are in the right place, stay there, it is conducive to discovering the true and peaceful Mel already deep inside, hiding in plain sight.
@FernandoLabastida3
@FernandoLabastida3 Жыл бұрын
Mel and Rich, for some reason Mel's little "rant" at the beginning about how you felt guilty about making people go to your studio made me emotional. I literally got tears in my eyes, because I do what Rich does all the time. I downplay what I do to help people as "self-promotion", when in reality I need to embrace it. And you Rich, you definitely need to embrace it. Your podcast is my favorite by far. It has changed my life for the positive in so many ways, and you have the best interviewees, like Mel Robbins, Seth Godin, Steven Pressfield, Guru Singh, Christopher McDougall and Eric Orton, Dan Buettner, Robert McKee, Peter Attia, Sen Corey Booker, Rain Wilson, Zach Bush, Dr. Richard Schwartz (I'm just naming the most recent interviewees whose books I've bought or KZbin channels and blogs I've consumed as a result of listening to them on your podcast). Keep it up and thanks Mel for the gentle reprimand!
@IrynaSlavetska
@IrynaSlavetska 3 ай бұрын
😊😊
@jordanparanihi1947
@jordanparanihi1947 Жыл бұрын
Mel, you should do stand up. You have the right wit, punch and honesty to use your experiences and truths for content. In a way you already do. Give up key note speaking and pick up comedy. Please. It could be incredibly healing and inspiring for both us and you. Not to mention predictably immediate sellout shows if your podcast is any gauge to go by! If there's anyone who could come swinging out left field as a comedian it'd be you 👏
@andreamartins9230
@andreamartins9230 Жыл бұрын
This is like a big Not-Compliment. 😂 There she is Trying Hard to inspire people and Here you Go Tell her to make jokes. But, I agree 😂
@jordanparanihi1947
@jordanparanihi1947 Жыл бұрын
@@andreamartins9230Haha, not when you consider that comedians are possibly one of the most undervalued artists to society - at least the good ones are! They can tell hard truths in jest that can cut through psychological defenses and may then be able to plant seeds of true change or keep people tethered to a thread of reality. All the greatest people understand the leverage comedy has in transforming anything 😉 I do think she does it in her way already anyway really huh!
@andreamartins9230
@andreamartins9230 Жыл бұрын
@@jordanparanihi1947 well, i agree with you. I also appreciate and love comedians. Love Dylan Moran and Ricky Gervais, and love, love, love to laugh. 🙏
@theanxietymd
@theanxietymd Жыл бұрын
Thank you Rich and Mel. Mel, I can’t believe how much of my work you were able to absorb in your (only) 90 minute MEL ROBBINS PODCAST. I can’t tell you how happy I am that my work on ALARM has changed your perception of yourself in such a profound way, and that you are able to understand and explain my perspectives on “anxiety” and alarm so very well to do what you do so well and HELP OTHERS. I absolutely loved this interview!
@OGPurePhoenix
@OGPurePhoenix Жыл бұрын
I watched 30 seconds and knew it was bullshit already. I'm *hyper* critical of myself and still have the courage to act when I want to. I was raised by Narcisistic/psychopathic parents. I have a lot of patience and a long fuse. But when something truly matters to me, i absolutely act. I don't tolerate *anyone* taking me off-centre and trying to change me or use me. Period. Don't listen to anything this scammer says
@susancarolan153
@susancarolan153 Жыл бұрын
Good for you, the therapist and teacher. I wish you were in Paris. Can you indicate someone who you would recommend? Please! Thank you in advance xxx🫂🎶😅🤞☮🙏🏻
@ChaosReyes
@ChaosReyes Жыл бұрын
@@OGPurePhoenix One day you're going to fall apart.
@OGPurePhoenix
@OGPurePhoenix Жыл бұрын
@@ChaosReyes no, really not. I'm 40 already and growing more confident if anything
@ChaosReyes
@ChaosReyes Жыл бұрын
@@OGPurePhoenix If you were really that confident you wouldn't feel the need to criticize someone on the internet you don't even know. You will fall apart.
@gracelawrence7305
@gracelawrence7305 9 ай бұрын
Listening to Mel is the first time I have EVER heard someone describe what I experience inside, and that I recognize coming from childhood experiences.. HUGE gratitute to both you, Mel and Rich, for such a substantive truthtelling conversation.
@janetkramer689
@janetkramer689 Жыл бұрын
I love your enthusiasm. My attention span is about 10-15 minutes. I would get more meat for the day if the most important part of your message was placed in the beginning of the podcast.
@markwalton3367
@markwalton3367 Жыл бұрын
We are all flawed. I have a serious anxiety flaw. To witness 2 people discuss their flaws with honesty, insight and respect is a great learning opportunity for me. I have watched maybe 20 to 30 podcasts ever from different people. This is by far the best podcast I have ever viewed.
@kurrak.sathwik3475
@kurrak.sathwik3475 26 күн бұрын
for everyone scrolling and listening to the video, go read forbidden manifestation by zara blackthorn. then come back to thank me
@barbaraorsi6567
@barbaraorsi6567 21 күн бұрын
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@anttif.
@anttif. 16 күн бұрын
is it bot guys?
@timpeters3218
@timpeters3218 3 ай бұрын
Love these two would love to speak to them in person. If you have a story to tell you should share it, it could help someone and that is the biggest gift we can give.
@anikalee9012
@anikalee9012 Жыл бұрын
My breakthrough comes today. I feel so sick of my Anxiety. I feel anger. I allow the love from myself. I decided to be the mother who give the love I never have to myself. I will forever be there for myself and never let myself hurt anymore. Then noticed the wave of uncomfortable (that alarm) I told myself I'll never let myself go I love you. Today the whole day it's just a stress nerve tight. But because I changed that pattern in my brain can't make me feel anxious. I think it's now I officially break thought.
@sunshinedeakin5541
@sunshinedeakin5541 Жыл бұрын
I just recently discovered you Mel,& am deeply grateful for your service!!!! I currently feel almost completely crippled with 24/7 severe anxiety!!!! Much much trauma since childhood,including narcissistic abuse,rape,violence,bullying,etc.My age is 58,& I've abstained from alcohol 16 yrs.,but while I'm homeless in a chaotic motel (8 weeks now, in Ashland,Oregon),I've felt like drinking,on/ off suicidal,DEEP despair & depression!!! When I listen to you,something shifts in me,to where I feel a tiny bit of hope.Thank you so very much for being REAL!!!! You are helping many!!!! 😌🙏🥰☮️🌹🌟💛🤗
@jzen1455
@jzen1455 Жыл бұрын
Hey there. I describe my childhood as one long continuous anxiety attack. I've never experienced a sense of peace or contentedness since I was 8 years old. During the pandemic, I was drinking everyday and essentially went on a 2-year bender in which I drink 12-15 servings of alcohol nearly every single day. I quit in Jan 2021 then decided to try moderation in June 2021. I ended up binging nearly every day again and stopped drinking 71 days ago. I have had some cravings lately, but I too feel a sense of hope listening to Rich Roll's podcast. I hope the best for you my fellow Oregonian! Feel free to reach out to me if you would like to talk to a relatable confidant. If not, I hope things turn for the better soon!
@michelemarch2562
@michelemarch2562 Жыл бұрын
Not exactly the same, but a LOT A LIKE! I WANT TO " BE HAPPY" TOO, FOR THE OTHER HALF OF MY LIFE! IT FEELS SO HEAVY, SEEM TO CRY EVERY MORNING AND EVERY DAY! I HATE IT! I'M A WIDOW! FOUND MY HUSBAND DEAD, & TRIED TO CPR HIM evergreen though he vomited in my mouth, just need to move FORWARD!
@cindybarringer1664
@cindybarringer1664 17 күн бұрын
I have listened to Mel for years and love and respect her tremendously! I have to say “go Mel” this is speaking words to my being that I have looked for 63 years!! You are speaking the how too! Not just another podcast that you have hope! I am happy for you and excited for me and many other who want to evolve and heal! I have always known within we can (fight self doubt) however now you have just set this girl on a jet of inspiration and hope😇😘
@christinaocampo
@christinaocampo Жыл бұрын
This is the first podcast where I am taking your conversation into practice as a single mom of three. Thank you both so much for the work that you do. Grateful.
@delphinelisabeth
@delphinelisabeth Жыл бұрын
single mom of three! Madam all the love and care and respect to you!
@arbellaarsenous6193
@arbellaarsenous6193 23 минут бұрын
Thank you for having some intelligent person taking sense about life instead of what Hollywood has been brainwashing and promoting to people instead, and living a free life to accomplish their mission on earth, to make this world a better place for all, regardless of what kind of good they are creating here on earth. It's important to remember no one will take any material thing with them to grave, and all is available to us to use to bring happiness and hope on earth to all. Thank you again.
@martisatrujillo4574
@martisatrujillo4574 Жыл бұрын
the only thing that gives me peace is to know that we are here just for the time God allows and that he sustains each one of us no matter what, even if the world falls apart. he is with us, and has been always
@getuntangled
@getuntangled Жыл бұрын
Rich you definitely changed my life. 6 months sober 💜💜💜 I love you too Mel 💓🎁💝
@dragonflyspirit
@dragonflyspirit Жыл бұрын
Well done Theresa! Proud of you! 🌸💛👏
@Wendys_lovinglife
@Wendys_lovinglife Ай бұрын
I NEEDED this video. I went to my kinesiologist/chiropractor yesterday and he said the level of anxiety in my body is unprecedented (and he's seen me for about 20 years now). He said my body is in chronic fight or flight. It's been a ROUGH 5 months and the last 2 weeks have been particularly challenging. I'm back in cognitive therapy, do yoga, am going for walks - I'm TRYING to deal with this situational anxiety.
@suekremelberg7644
@suekremelberg7644 3 ай бұрын
I had my kids before bed to talk about anything they wanted to discuss and I would be honest about what ever they wanted to know!! I loved that time with my kids!! It was awesome!!❤
@F1FaninJapan-di1rj
@F1FaninJapan-di1rj 5 ай бұрын
Two of my favorite podcasters in the world--together. What did I do to deserve this?
@karenkelley2024
@karenkelley2024 4 ай бұрын
Right?!? 🤗🤩😎
@riekabosman7894
@riekabosman7894 Жыл бұрын
Yea, 1hr is nothing to drive! ...it may even be an important part of the transition from thier life to the studio and into presenting and participating in the encounter in a more full way. Its a journey into a truely valuable experience. Your a kind hearted guy Rich, a very sweet man
@JanAnton
@JanAnton Жыл бұрын
Listening to this with Mozart playlist in the background is like listening to God talking to me. And I'm not even a religious guy. Thank you!
@briansoares7489
@briansoares7489 Жыл бұрын
Wow, Mel, you just hit me with two whoppers in a row. 1. Many of us(me) are trying to find more happiness and we miss that feeling. “We can only miss things we know” so inside ourselves we have had that feeling and it’s just a matter of finding that feeling now. 2. The advice you gave your daughter about how to get unstuck. Drawing the line down the center of the page etc… That is so wise. Thank you. I realize I need to expand my “community” I miss being around friends who know and accept me.
@jenninemclaughlin3522
@jenninemclaughlin3522 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this wisdom about the busyness of the campaign of misery and going within and shutting off the alarm bells.
@Stu_Pedazzo
@Stu_Pedazzo Жыл бұрын
I listened to this on the podcast when it was first released and just now, the video. The comments on living in constant crisis and an inability to get out of crisis mode is SO where I’m at. I work in local govt in operations for a dept responding to homelessness and now the border migration response and all of that on top of the politics and just non-stop efforts of the politicians/whomever to destroy everything that is good and right has me unable to calm down. It’s relentless. I very nearly had a panic attack during a portion of this video while walking the dogs and had to do some controlled breathing. 😞 Ahhhhhh!
@kimkeating528
@kimkeating528 Жыл бұрын
Rich Roll is the reason I am a proud vegetarian today! I never liked eating meat but felt forced to in order to be polite & not offend anyone & believed the fallacy you couldn't succeed in a balanced healthy diet without it. Thank you for the permission to break free & feel awesome about everything I eat! Can you please make another recipe book, tailored towards young children? I love your first one but we have very picky toddler & preschooler & trying to get them all their protein!
@myaalberto2959
@myaalberto2959 3 ай бұрын
One of your TOP podcasts!!!! What a treat with Mel!!!! 🫶🤗🙌!!
@denisemcmullin7449
@denisemcmullin7449 Жыл бұрын
Rich & Mel thank you. Your are both such beautiful souls 💖 Blessings and much love ... Denise
@happynessadict
@happynessadict Жыл бұрын
i love giving her books for Christmas...she is a boss lady
@heygringo7
@heygringo7 Жыл бұрын
I so needed this podcast. I am healing from an injury, unable to do my sport, limited physically, struggling, and my mind keeps plummeting and spiralling into negative thought. Thanks Mel and Rich
@jzen1455
@jzen1455 Жыл бұрын
Sorry to hear that. As an avid powerlifter, I know the struggles of such setbacks. I hope you heal soon fully and kick ass in your sport soon!
@YairGafni
@YairGafni Жыл бұрын
I wish you a complete healing ✨️ Try looking at your negative thoughts from outside and detach from the ones that don't serve you. Wish you the best !
@heygringo7
@heygringo7 Жыл бұрын
Thnx
@jeannieortiz3604
@jeannieortiz3604 Жыл бұрын
How good that felt to have Mel say she wants to connect with normal people who are doing the best they can, and how she really wants to be somebody that makes you feel like somebody believes in you ... that YOU CAN do it ... that really hit home for me. I deal with a load of trauma myself (pretty well, if I can give myself some credit) and today am going through a divorce with two young kids. Some days are really rough and the anxiety, fear and stress feel like a hand around my mouth and nose trying to pull me underwater. I use many tools (stretch, meditation, reframing, journaling, etc.) to help myself get through. Would love to try MDMA therapy, and love that Mel and Rich, and other voices out here seem to give a crap about "stuff" like anxiety, and living a better, fuller, truer life.
@swordmaster1122
@swordmaster1122 Жыл бұрын
This is the first podcast to bring me to tears. I am running and can't let go. I know I need to be more present. People tell me they are jealous of my life but that response never hits me like I think it should. Thank you for this episode.
@KA-te7xk
@KA-te7xk Жыл бұрын
🙏 I hear you... it hit me hard.. I needed this so bad 💯
@VeganSemihCyprus33
@VeganSemihCyprus33 Жыл бұрын
Truth should be shared 👉 The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 👀
@gerossavijautosvirtuve
@gerossavijautosvirtuve Жыл бұрын
what part of the podcast touched you ?
@OGPurePhoenix
@OGPurePhoenix Жыл бұрын
I watched 30 seconds and knew it was bullshit already. I'm *hyper* critical of myself and still have the courage to act when I want to. I was raised by Narcisistic/psychopathic parents. I have a lot of patience and a long fuse. But when something truly matters to me, i absolutely act. I don't tolerate *anyone* taking me off-centre and trying to change me or use me. Period. Don't listen to anything this scammer says
@zachbudnick1641
@zachbudnick1641 Жыл бұрын
Rich is a big roll model for me he’s inspired me to eat better, treat myself better etc. big thanks this podcast
@VeganSemihCyprus33
@VeganSemihCyprus33 Жыл бұрын
Truth should be shared 👉 The Connections (2021) [short documentary] 👀
@9Nikko8
@9Nikko8 Жыл бұрын
He really is a blessing ❤️
@DebbysWitchyVlog
@DebbysWitchyVlog Күн бұрын
What a powerful experiences you have both had on your self-discovery journey. I'm about half way through I guess, 54 yo. and always working on myself to become the version I want to be. Now that hubby and I are empty nesters, I have a bit more time after raising 4 kids. I was introduced at 10 yrs. old to death and how short of time that we have here by my brother committing suicide; he jumped off the Sagamore Bridge going to Cape Cod in MA in 1980. (We grew up in Scituate) I have , from that point thought of my end, how I want to be remembered, and who can I help out of that dark place while I'm here. It was a sad way to live in some ways but for the most part it has helped me to be a bit more mindful about how I affect others along my journey. My dream is to help at least half of the people that you have helped with your team. Thank you for helping me become my best version. Much Love!🏵💛
@Saitama-pi8od
@Saitama-pi8od Жыл бұрын
right when I was gonna go to sleep this dropped. I guess I'm sleeping when the sun comes up.
@20911002223265
@20911002223265 Жыл бұрын
I know can't sleep
@rosenajia2384
@rosenajia2384 Жыл бұрын
It's so cool that you don't avoid conflict, Rich. Nice sparks between the two of you.
@daydreamer4902
@daydreamer4902 Жыл бұрын
Wow the dynamic from around 55' to 70' was surprisingly competitive. I think Rich was on point around the risk of Mel failing in her recovery...and that "business" is an addiction. Very authentic discussion. "Will you stop scaring me!" - "I am not trying to trigger you". "Airing children's laundry in public". Gosh. Powerful challenge on ethics and not sure how well Mel answered that..... The challenge around non-licensed or regulated "experts" doing "therapy" in public with their kids. How can this turn out I wonder.
@ianmills9659
@ianmills9659 Жыл бұрын
The mention of cultivating a "Non reaction" state jumped out at me. A fundamental key in acquiring empathy with yourself and others.
@kat4animals004
@kat4animals004 Жыл бұрын
Great conversation. Mel speaks of being addicted to busyness that is productive... that would be better than what I struggle with... I am the opposite unfortunately, I freeze when I have anxiety.
@jzen1455
@jzen1455 Жыл бұрын
I know right. It's almost condescending comparing her addiction to work to addictions to alcohol and other more destructive forms of addiction, but that's just my anxious brain being judgey. I do have bouts of productivity but like you, I often feel a great sense of stuckness. It sometimes feels like a physical force holds me down against my will making me immobile.
@DiLifeandStyle
@DiLifeandStyle Жыл бұрын
I've just come across Rich Roll recently and it looks like I've been missing out big. But I've been following Mel and reading her stuff, watching her videos and they've changed my life. Thank you, Mel, love you! Thank you both for putting in the incredible amount of work this all takes. THANK YOU. ❤ ✨
@sheilamoreno7180
@sheilamoreno7180 Жыл бұрын
I feel exactly the same .. her work US wonderful
@helenhelen3940
@helenhelen3940 Жыл бұрын
This podcast is right on time! Although my spiritual journey started back in 2012 with The Power of Now and numerous 'How to...' self-help books, it's only now when I have finally turned inwards to heal that wounded inner child. No wonder despite all the positive work on 'myself' I sometimes felt like I'm going nowhere...I wasn't focused on the right part of myself
@karenmarwil3905
@karenmarwil3905 Жыл бұрын
It’s all divine timing sweet soul ❤
@brendahornung1990
@brendahornung1990 Жыл бұрын
Wow! I am only 30mijutes into listening to this. I finally have new language around what I have been suffering from. Thank you.
@michellegill2359
@michellegill2359 Жыл бұрын
True, true true what Mel says in the opening! What you are giving back to the world through the people you interview and to your own wisdom and sharing is immeasurable and life-changing!
@tanyaaltman1740
@tanyaaltman1740 Жыл бұрын
Huge nugget- “Do you want advice, or do you want me to just listen?” So simple, but so hard for most people. Thank you so much! Amazing episode ❤!
@javierreyes786
@javierreyes786 Жыл бұрын
seems so obvious but is so hard for solution oriented people. I've realized when i want to interrupt, when the solution seems so easy, "all you have to do is...." that's exactly the moment to just shut up and listen
@KA-te7xk
@KA-te7xk Жыл бұрын
THIS PODCAST EPISODE IS SO POWERFUL AND LIFE CHANGING. I really needed to hear this.. 🙏
@banszkiviktoria
@banszkiviktoria Жыл бұрын
Wow, they really went places, huh? Fantastic episode
@Notsponsoredbycheezits
@Notsponsoredbycheezits 10 ай бұрын
As someone who’s also in active recovery, I’ve experienced similar mind-expansive, generational-trauma-healing experiences through meditation and prayer. I think there are many vehicles to achieve that state outside of utilizing drugs as the primary tool. I don’t want to minimize people who have success with alternative methods, but there’s great opportunity for equal or greater healing while staying sober. Thank you for this episode - it’s great information.
@plutoplatters
@plutoplatters Жыл бұрын
I love when Mel and others "occasionally" say a (bad) word .... It so adds to the reality angle ....
@user-rv7ph1jl5y
@user-rv7ph1jl5y Жыл бұрын
I'm with Rich & recovery on this one. I'm glad he spoke up about that truth and reality. Too important to miss the opportunity to clarify for so many who are either dipping their toes in these same old psychedelics or whom already realize their struggle with addiction is distracting them from living in reality. THx for stopping the rabbit hole of over emphasizing that utopian often unwise solution. No TY and yet I love Mel's deep dives.
@carolgeorge6409
@carolgeorge6409 Жыл бұрын
Rich Thank you for always putting the guess name in the title.
@omowunmmieade-ym9lw
@omowunmmieade-ym9lw Жыл бұрын
My anxiety is getting worse day by day but thanks to you I'm trying to cope😢
@polishtom
@polishtom Жыл бұрын
22 minutes in and I'm already like, "fuuuuuuuck". This is going to be a heavy one. Mel & Rich. Thank you to both of you for this.
@williemckenzie
@williemckenzie Жыл бұрын
I’ve been sober 10 years and recently tried ketamine therapy. It was scary but I had a good week after. Don’t want to do it again but did have good effects.
@mcrisantasj8242
@mcrisantasj8242 Жыл бұрын
I absolutely agree with Robin about you. Your podcast has been helpful to me. You immensely inspire...reason, I'm still here listening to you.👏💕
@loppan4534
@loppan4534 Жыл бұрын
This conversation was great. It felt authentic. Like two real friends just talking with each other. ❤
@madamplant
@madamplant Жыл бұрын
I'm so glad that I discovered Mel and now the two of you together is incredible ❤
@msdebbiecolbourn
@msdebbiecolbourn Жыл бұрын
Her "Campaign of Misery" is very similar to "Addicted to Survival" - it logically makes no sense BUT you've lived in it so long that it feels more comfortable to be uncomfortable. Self-awareness is so important. Her valley in Vermont is probably exquisitely beautiful
@dawn7220
@dawn7220 Жыл бұрын
She's right, it is bullshit!! This is one of my all-time favorite podcasts, and I have shared so much of the helpful information that has come from this incredibly good show. Bravo 👏🏾 👏🏾
@jzen1455
@jzen1455 Жыл бұрын
I needed this podcast after anxiety at work led to quiet awkwardness. I tend to feel disgusted with myself for not being more sociable and talkative. I feel like I bring others down with my awkwardness. But it's okay. I am only a human (one with tons of trauma) and trying my best to overcome the trauma.
@irinapopescu7328
@irinapopescu7328 Жыл бұрын
This podcast never ceases to amaze me! I get so much value out of each and every episode! Thank you so much for your work, Rich! This was wonderful especially with Mel! Simply wonderful, practical and beautiful 🤗
@brendapolar8506
@brendapolar8506 Жыл бұрын
Happy new year Rich! Thank you for having Mel on she is amazing! absolutely love her! 2023 is going to be an amazing year! Blessings to you and your family.✌🏼
@ShroomGill
@ShroomGill Жыл бұрын
it makes me sad and feel like my parents really never gave a shit when I hear these two talk about their kids. I legit never had anyone sit me down to talk with me about anything ever and felt judged a lot through my teens which lead me down a very drug afflicted path which I am now recovering from but it just breaks my heart to think you have a kid and being grown you have all this experience you can share with that kid to prepare it and some of us just don't ever get that guidance which leads us down such deep routes of suffering and some don't ever recover or come back. It's like the world would be a much better place with just better parents.
@jzen1455
@jzen1455 Жыл бұрын
I totally resonate with this. I feel like an alien whenever I'm around relatively well-adjusted people from decent families. I notice such people tend to exude a decent amount of confidence, esteem, assuredness, and carefreeness compared to my constant second guessing myself and having a low opinion of myself. I struggle receiving compliments and tend to be a people pleaser who cares more about others' needs than my own. I never knew about the concept of boundaries until 5 years ago, and I'm in my late 30s. I started drinking and doing drugs at 15 and moved out at 15. I was constantly home alone overnight since I was 8 years old. I was a feral child who was thrown to the wolves to fend for myself. I've never felt a sense of peace or contentedness since I was 8. There have been moments when I feel better than others, but there's always a sense of self-disgust and discomfort about being myself. I was indifferent about having kids (leaning more towards not wanting do to being too effed up myself) but after reconnecting with 4 generations of family on my dads side and seeing how happy and supportive they were of each other, I'm now leaning a tad closer to wanting kids. I feel like I could be a much better parent than the ones I had, and it feels a bit selfish living the life I life wherein I merely support myself and deny the existence of a great well-adjusted human being..
@valtracey6180
@valtracey6180 Жыл бұрын
It’s not really fair to blame the parents - they have had pain and hurt inflicted on them too - a parent is only as good as the support she or he receives in the community. Traumas are transferred from one generation to the next, the wounds getting deeper each time, until someone becomes enlightened and breaks the cycle. That is the case with Rich and Mel - they are truly enlightened human beings who had the courage to face their demons, so now they can be better, more conscious, parents. The cycle in their family is finally broken. They have learned from the wisdom of their own traumas and set their parents and grandparents free in the process. It sounds to me like you are the one to make this amazing breakthrough in your family - start by forgiving your parents for the mistakes they made then begin the process of reparenting yourself …. the freedom you will experience will be hugely rewarding, for you yourself and all the generations that follow you. Congratulations on arriving here - as you know, many people go through a lifetime and never wake up to the truth! ❤
@jzen1455
@jzen1455 Жыл бұрын
@@valtracey6180 It's fair to assess causes and effects and to adapt the best way you can from wherever you are. By you logic, no has free will and are preprogramed robots. It's true hurt people hurt others. But it's also true we have a degree of agency and aren't slaves to our traumas.
@valtracey6180
@valtracey6180 Жыл бұрын
@@jzen1455 until recent years, most people didn’t even realise they were traumatized! Epigenetics and neuroplasticity are very recent developments in the field of psychiatry and neuroscience - it is only in recent times that we have come to know that we can actually change our DNA - we are not stuck with the personalities we appeared to have been born with. We have much more control over our destiny than we ever imagined. Yes we always had, but unfortunately we just didn’t know it. You can’t hold people accountable for mistakes if they were completely unaware they were making them. But if you are enlightened now then your fate is in your own hands - no one else is responsible.
@ShroomGill
@ShroomGill Жыл бұрын
@@valtracey6180 Well I would agree about the blame. A big step for me personally was just taking responsibility and not using the blame to keep fueling my own self destruction. Which I think is just an important lesson in life in general regardless of who you think is causing you to feel mislead or suffer. I was just simply pointing out that when I see other parents talk about their kids in such ways as these two did that it brings up a certain emotion for me personally due to the drastic contrast in emotional support or consideration I received as a child or even up into my teens. Which made me go very inward, deeply. I had no self confidence, horrible social anxiety, insecurities, depression, etc. I threw away scholarship opportunities. Basically wasted my entire early 20's drinking, popping pills, smoking, whatever drug, you name it, almost died a few times, just trying to avoid a feeling or being here. I got sober before covid, and just recently after 8 years of smoking cigs quit that about 3 months ago so I'm on the other side now, but boy has it been difficult and boy do I sure wish I just had someone talk to me about how I was feeling when I was younger. I know that sounds ridiculous but seriously just a simple discussion or someone being there for me on a deep emotional level would have made a world of a difference, and saved me a lot of suffering. But we all got our own Bronc to ride, and obviously no ones gonna be a perfect parent, but that awareness and willingness to reach out to your child is what's really important in my opinion.
@Soul.Stylist.Solutions333
@Soul.Stylist.Solutions333 Жыл бұрын
I just looked up & listened to the sample of Anxiety Rx on Audible. And can tell already I’m going to love it.❣️ It’s a humble yet knowledgeable story & a Levelling from the heart ❤️ Thanks for the recommendation Mel..! ✨ (And Rich love your work..! 🙏🏻😍😉Thanks Guys 💞👌🏻☮️
@janisgross
@janisgross Жыл бұрын
I would absolutely love to see Yvon Chouinard, the founder of Patagonia on this podcast! As an extreme athlete, activist, philantropist and one of the greatest businessmen of all time he would fit so perfectly into this podcast and I think there is an abundance to learn from this man!
@YairGafni
@YairGafni Жыл бұрын
I'm looking forward to hearing that podcast
@ImportantThingsin21Century
@ImportantThingsin21Century Ай бұрын
Great Talk Mel Robin, thank you for sharing your thoughts on Anxiety.
@PinkOpal90
@PinkOpal90 Жыл бұрын
Two of my favorite people in the health space. Love love both of them and have a great deal of respect for both. Rich inspired me to go vegan 6 years ago after reading his book. Still going strong now. 🍃 💪 and Mel has supremely helped me after learning coping skills for anxiety by listening to her podcasts. Peace love and plants ❤️
@LeahZerbib-g4u
@LeahZerbib-g4u 17 күн бұрын
Thank you for your transparency. I am also in recovery. I love what you do ❤
@AyaSmith-rb2hp
@AyaSmith-rb2hp 3 ай бұрын
Thank you Mel for being so real and sharing your amazing breakthrough ❤
@Oilybro
@Oilybro Жыл бұрын
Kya baat hai , bhot kaam ki cheeze batai h sir ne , bhot kam logo ko youtube chalu krne se pehle idea hota hai ki this can go beyond juat content and all , and can develop into a real business
@beamlifeinternational1529
@beamlifeinternational1529 2 ай бұрын
I soooo agree with your comment about your reaction toward mood altering drugs. I have 33 years and have stayed away from All medications and mood altering drugs. However, I have been obsessed with the thought of trying mdma. It was so good to hear you❤❤
@briansoares7489
@briansoares7489 Жыл бұрын
I really enjoy the info about taking time off vs. keeping busy. I have definitely kept busy to avoid feeling too much, if that makes sense. I often listen to podcasts while I’m running or just working so there is someone else with me. You really have me realizing I need to bring this up with my therapist.
@YairGafni
@YairGafni Жыл бұрын
Totally connect to what you are saying. Since I do the same.. My belief is that sometimes we also need to stop with podcasts and just connect to ourselves.
@peterubalcaba6256
@peterubalcaba6256 Жыл бұрын
Mel for president ❤️
@jbeni3008
@jbeni3008 24 күн бұрын
Thank you both. Great podcast...Btw, I'm in a recovery 12 step program for more than half of my life...I appreciate Rich being concerned about MDMA as a recovering person. According to my research, Bill Wilson, the founder of A.A. had a profound LSD experience in the 1950s...which may have been the insight he needed to create A.A. ' Pass It On' ...
@GuiltyRocker
@GuiltyRocker Жыл бұрын
Mel is so real, amazing podcast. Keep it up Rich.
@carolgeorge6409
@carolgeorge6409 Жыл бұрын
One of the best podcast I have ever seen Thank you Rich and Mel❤️❤️❤️❤️
@ramanamadduri6669
@ramanamadduri6669 Жыл бұрын
You are a butiful woman in and out. Very fortunate to come across. ❤❤❤👍👍👍
@JnTmarie
@JnTmarie Жыл бұрын
Wow she gets to be perfectly imperfect her way. No blame no shame no guilt but get back in the game. My best to her daughter. I hope she gets what she needs and finds her happiness without going public 21 is a great age full of choices
@madamplant
@madamplant Жыл бұрын
Loving that navy shirt!
@catp.6182
@catp.6182 2 ай бұрын
Happy Birthday Mel...love you and your podcasts!...x
@YairGafni
@YairGafni Жыл бұрын
Great value! It is so important to take time for ourselves and stop being busy all the time . Life is waiting for us to give it attention and discover the beauty ✨️
@jrenee30
@jrenee30 Жыл бұрын
Enjoy this episode. I continue to hear about these MDMA experiences and how it's the most profound experience of anyone's life and allows you to access things you have never accessed before. It seems that you have to have specific means to participate in that experience (celebrity, wealth, legal state). Coming from someone who has been working deeply with a therapist for a few years, it would be a great tool for people to integrate into their growth and healing.
@LebenskompetenzForum
@LebenskompetenzForum Жыл бұрын
I hardly reached the half of the podcast but already I can´t help but telling you both what a pleasure it had been up until now to listen to you. And I really bow down before you, Mel, for being so completely open about the most personal processes and also kind of failures or errors in your life. I cannot tell you how important this is to me personally because like you I carry very high expectations towards myself (and very seldom reaching them) and beat myself up with them . The internet world can worsen this because such a lot of people only share their successes and not the down side of it. Already before hearing that part of your family comes form hard working farmers in Austria I decided I will pick you as one of the hard to find models I am so despartely looking for because my mothers model didn´t provide what I was hoping for. By the way Kim Kiyosaki is the other one. And finding out you have an Austrian background was like an confirmation of that decision because I am also from Austria and can relate very well to this hard working mentality of this people living in the mountains.😅 To sum up thank you for sharing all this. At times I felt like I am listening to a private conversation of good friends... Very valuable!
@p2dar2daag90
@p2dar2daag90 Жыл бұрын
This was an amazing talk. I learned so much as someone desperately trying to get over trauma.
@amandaallen9248
@amandaallen9248 Ай бұрын
Wow wow wow! Mel. This is amazing and eye opening for real! Thank you for what you do!
@ShaneHarveyMusic
@ShaneHarveyMusic Жыл бұрын
What she’s talking about has been used for many years. The late pioneer John Bradshaws work on inner child family origin trauma was a game changer. Get his Homecoming book and watch the series on youtube where he guests on Oprah.
@jeriboxx4331
@jeriboxx4331 Жыл бұрын
Rich, Mel has your number! No BS! 😅 great show!
@michaelmcnally3813
@michaelmcnally3813 Жыл бұрын
That's what I was thinking as well, unusual for Rich to be so confrontational and call her out on certain subjects
@lucretiasulimay1968
@lucretiasulimay1968 Жыл бұрын
Best conversation I have ever been fortunate to hear, both of you so honest and insightful !!! thank you so much ❤️❤️
@sheilamoreno7180
@sheilamoreno7180 Жыл бұрын
You’re an amazing beautiful woman inside n out. I listen to your words of wisdom most nights now n I feel like you’ve become a friend of mine as you speak with so much heart and love. I’m sure many who listen to you feel the same way. Keep up the great work of what you’re doing. It was obvious that you n Rich have a wonderful friendship. X You made me chuckle a lot too on this video.. 😂x Thank you for being you
@amossymindset
@amossymindset Жыл бұрын
Well, shoot. Didn’t realize I was gonna start my work day sobbing from all the relative content lol thanks, yall, always for producing such quality material for us!
@123pickles
@123pickles Жыл бұрын
Enjoyed your podcast Rich and Mel. Please don't swear Mel Robbins. It ruins your credibility. I used to use the F word all the time. When I quit 100%, it boosted my confidence. You are not alone we have all had extreme pasts. That's why we are here.
@gloriamia7633
@gloriamia7633 Жыл бұрын
Rich is GREAT and Real many thanks u make a difference in the world
@ddejager7717
@ddejager7717 Жыл бұрын
Thanks Mel & Rich. Wow, what an amazing episode! Loved it. Have no idea how you manage to connect with me (your audience) in such a powerful manner. I am humbled and thankful to have these Podcasts as my lifeline. It's like the messages come to me when I need them most. Thank you!!!
@elysium334
@elysium334 Жыл бұрын
This is exactly what I need to hear right now. Thank world for you podcast.
@becomeagoodman
@becomeagoodman Жыл бұрын
45:54 - Story of my life! 😉 I needed to hear this today. Thank you guys.
@Casper_James
@Casper_James Жыл бұрын
So glad I stumbled across this chat today. I have gained so many ideas and particularly love Mel's honesty in what she has tried of late and the points about just giving herself permission to appreciate what is already in front of her.
@sandrakunzler2373
@sandrakunzler2373 Жыл бұрын
True words, Mel Robbins! RR podcast is a true inspiration! What a great episode, wisdom taught in an entertaining way! Great stuff!
@suekremelberg7644
@suekremelberg7644 3 ай бұрын
You two have done great things for people!!❤️
@suekremelberg7644
@suekremelberg7644 3 ай бұрын
You guys have been so helpful with this podcast!! I enjoyed it very much!! Thank you so much!!❤️
@suekremelberg7644
@suekremelberg7644 3 ай бұрын
You need to listen to your kids and have them figure it out!!❤
@soultrekotc6635
@soultrekotc6635 Жыл бұрын
This was unique and amazing you two. Love you both for who you are and all you share.
@AngieMeadKing
@AngieMeadKing Жыл бұрын
This is gold ❤ I appreciate it so much. Thank you 🙏🏼
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