Mental health / Self-Care Tips that helped ME!

[@marty.l]

1. Make a list of things you do to make you feel good about yourself. 2. Let go of perfectionism. Be mindful. Be present. Let go of obsessive, compulsive. Let go of the comparisons. Accept, love, respect yourself. 3. Change your outlook, perspective, your thinking, your self talk. Choose positivity. Think what could go right, not what could go wrong. Discard the old thoughts, habits, feelings. Embrace empowering thoughts, feelings. Model the thoughts of someone whom you want to become. 4. Self parent. Control yourself self talk. Love yourself, accept yourself, believe in yourself. Discard the negative thoughts, feelings that parents, family, society, friends, coworkers put on you. They don't know you and they aren't you. Only you know you and you are you. You are unique. There's no one who has the combination of DNA that makes up who you are. 5. Journaling, writing it out helps. 6. Work out, exercise, work it out. 7. Invest in yourself, invest in your own growth, your happiness, your self love, self respect, your self acceptance.

[@Heradvantageshow]

I agree MartyL it’s very important to count the things ones thankful for. It helps keeping things in perspective and cherishing those things. I’m a new channel. Hope you subscribe I have an episode discussing that coming soon. Take care 😊

[@jacquelinem.2948]

Also be aware of your boundaries. Even if you love the person and they’re toxic and abusive, you must leave this person. Keep on with your self care.

[@xaxaxa12]

summary- let go of perfectionism changing outlook towards like self parenting 8:38 handling stress invest in yourself and give yourself time

[@pamwatkins4855]

Stephanie will leave a legacy of those she really helped and how she provides to those of neglect... who really have no one and are lied to.!😊

[@npmwislab]

"The fear lurking within everyone who tries to be perfect is the fear of not being lovable. What are you going to do about that? You are never going to be perfect. And none of the people you thought were perfect ever were. Give up being perfect. Maybe you need to love yourself, warts and all. Admitting your imperfections makes you lovable." -David Viscott. I thought you'd appreciate that quote and any time spent looking into this man's work is truly worth it. Your insight and time spent with these ideas and feelings resonates with so many. Continue transforming, growing and feeding your mind.

[@raghvijain8606]

You are literally saving our lives by teaching us how important it is to take care of our mental health and how to do it. You deserve all the happiness in the World 💟 God bless you!

[@Heradvantageshow]

Raghvi I’m glad to hear others placing value in mental health. It’s equally important to physical health. I’m a new channel and just released my first episode. Hope you’ll subscribe and stay tune to more videos to come . Take care 😊

[@jillcorsiglia5796]

So grateful for you Stephanie ❤🙏🏼😘🌹

[@irenesoriano9843]

Thanks good advice

[@purpleleaf9122]

I also discovered that I do yoga especially for my mental health. Healthier body is just a bonus.

[@chip4003]

I am discovering that for myself. 👍🏻

[@survivornomad9892]

Absolutely!

[@lisax23]

As a Christian we are taught these principles. Love yourself and forgive yourself because God loves you and forgives you. I think to wake up and look at good in your life and being thankful for things. Its becoming self aware of where your at and accept , let go of things and love yourself.

[@holly1839]

💕💕🙏🏻

[@Shashaluk]

That is amazing advice 💗

[@us_norseman]

I was always taught that, put God first and others second. Myself thrird. But then i leared to put myself second so i can take care of others.

[@pamwatkins4855]

I think this teacher is very helpful on self parenting and array of subject of compassion to those who are devastatingly left behind by anarchistic parents who only think of themself you can tell she is very well taken care of by those who watched over there needs hands on parents who knew with much experience for proper care of children some may need fostering, some parent leavegross neglect of their own and suppose of being the greatest to themselves only too hard to learn from put stumbling blocks in children's life they need a legacy really

[@jsensefi]

Thank you for that healthy reminder❤️ Have a wonderful week🕊️

[@Ellie_100]

I love going back to this video. I like to remind myself how it’s done and every time I watch it I feel the progress like on how I process my feelings and thoughts. ❤️💯

[@Heradvantageshow]

Hello Elaine it’s great seeing others valuing their mental health. I’m happy for you. I started a new channel which discusses processing thoughts. I released my first episode today. Hope you subscribe to see all the great videos on this topic coming soon. Take care😊

[@Independentlash]

I really enjoyed this video, and it was very helpful

[@krithikaramakrishnan5595]

Thank You Stephanie, I'm in a toxic relationship struggling to come out, your videos are very helpful for me to achieve it. Love you.

[@lauralei400]

It took me until recently to understand Why I allowed such relationships myself, even when I knew it was happening all over again, I think I turn into a co-dependant person when coupled, otherwise, I normally am pretty intuitive. You will be Fine once you Abort the toxicity - Big Hugs to You💘

[@survivornomad9892]

I pray you get out soon. Please be careful! kzbin.info/www/bejne/m4LaZYmaptCDgdU

[@clementinegordon9429]

I'm in the the same situation, I decide I'm leaving but he comes and reels me back in, I'm confused dont know what's real anymore. He was moving out to give me us a break but it lasted an hour. I'm so emotional and feeling depressed I dont know what to do as I still have strong feelings for him..and everyone sees hes controlling me. I feel done

[@julieb6624]

I'm in toxic relationship too. I heard someone said to me today -- be bigger than your fear. So true. I need to get over a fear of leaving and starting over.

[@krithikaramakrishnan5595]

@@survivornomad9892 thank you!!

[@IGlowIFlow]

I think the best tools for me when feeling low: EFT>Crying>music>good good good sleep afterwards 🌿 mindfulness as well , slow bath or a hot shower 🚿 slowing down until my energy and mood is restored

[@mariegracebrabandt8028]

Bam! 👌🙏🧡

[@godsgift8814]

Thank you so much for your videos Steph so needed and helpfull

[@jonstevens9205]

Thank you for these video's Stephanie, they help me every day. I've just left a toxic relationship of six years. There was physical abuse (she hit me probably about 10 times throughout the relationship, I'm not unsure if that should be classed as abuse). I was constantly accused of being unfaithful (I've never been unfaithful in my life), I stopped socialising to keep the peace. I've been called evil, cruel, a narc, manipulative, I'm constantly doubting myself but I'm slowly realising that these are all of her own traits. I am by no means perfect, I've lied at times when I shouldn't have and called her things that I shouldn't have out of temper. We have a baby together so we have to be in each others lives but I am so much happier and i feel so much more at peace now we aren't in that relationship anymore. Leaving was incredibly difficult but now life can only get better!

[@shady88881]

This is one of the best compilation of the daily habits of self love ❤️ thanks stephanie

[@us_norseman]

Yes

[@SteezyDollIsabel]

I really feel like I burned myself out and did not give my brain a break. Thank you💞 I am now going to really give my mind those breaks it needs😭💞

[@MichelleEllsworth1]

I love this! Being conscious about surviving crisis! My son passed away, had $100k in debt, 2 failed businesses, divorce, sexual assault remarriage and divorce from a narcissist I for a long time drifted trying to figure out how to cope! I love the idea of knowing your go to before you are on top of the challenge!

[@clementinegordon9429]

Feel for you so much ❤

[@survivornomad9892]

Prayer is one of the most powerful ways to cope with life's ups and downs. kzbin.info/www/bejne/m4LaZYmaptCDgdU

[@amachildofmosthighgodinjes6115]

Please pray to God and ask God to guide you through this process and may good God strengthen us all in name of Jesus Christ 🙏and you too.🙏

[@brienohazo6393]

Very nice job. I have listened to a couple of your podcasts and I find your presentations to be crisp, clear, informative and on point. I like the way you develop topics and find a lot of clarity. Brien

[@ashbabe1945]

You speak the truth on the work you need to put in! No joke.

[@pariscortez4190]

thanks for being such a great virtual mentor

[@syburd]

Mind blown!! I need to trust how I feel.

[@BCHODOSH01]

Stephanie, great topic and information. Taking time to know yourself so you can be your best friend, and not your worst enemy is important. Take time to do things that relax you, and calm that negative voice in your head. For me, music has always been my best source of relaxation, calming Rx. I also believe that enough sleep, eating a balanced diet, exercise, having spiritual faith are all important to good mental and physical health. Everyone is different so you have to find out what works best for you. Thank you for your caring and thoughtful presentations. Be safe and well.

[@jvcquieroberts4598]

Oooh shes so pretty light blue moment and the flowers

[@mariegracebrabandt8028]

Stephine this was wonderful. So timely and a great tool for me to share. Thanks so much. Blessings 👌🙏🧡😚

[@24aggv]

Thank you, Stephanie. I love your videos. They're a reminder to be kind to myself and continue healing for a healthier life. One day I'll afford your program. Thank you again. Have a good day.

[@rudinadoraci4439]

Thank you, Stephanie. You're too smart and you use a beautiful language.♥️

[@cristaldawn]

I really loved this video and it really helped me with coping with my mental heath thank you so much

[@N0N4M30]

Hey Stephanie you really helped me with your videos to get out of a narcissistic nightmare and to also work on myself and who I am and how I can work on myself thank you so much for doing your videos I wish I would have had someone like you in my earlier life because it would have saved me a lot of stress and trauma. Thank you for your videos and please never stop doing videos on how to self improve ❤️ from Albania

[@lisax23]

Very true . Excellent

[@jamesegan8184]

Thank you Stephanie Lyn for this video. This really is supportive. Mental Health Emergency Kit, that's a great idea. We are all going through stress now, this is really helpful. You are such a caring person.

[@elipotter369]

It's so true what you say about parenting yourself and taking care of yourself, doing things you love they are good for you too. I have a little hobby I find fascinating and enjoyable, goals, and exercise in a variety of ways that suit my body. And do lots of little things for fun and listen to a meditation tape when I want to feel more settled or am very tired. It is possible to be your own best friend and nurture yourself well - and to not feel guilty, but to get outside help if you need guidance to get to a more whole place so you can take good care of yourself.

[@ashbabe1945]

You have been so helpful to me over the past year when I discovered your channel. Thank you for what you do ❤️

[@ericajohnston6471]

Thank you 🙏 you don’t know how much you have helped me in the past year. I would not be as mentally and emotionally strong right now if it weren’t for your videos. I literally wanted to die because I was so confused in my relationship and with my ex. I’m not good with words but i thank you so very much ❤️

[@jackinthebox6143]

Writing out Is the best for me and 'morning pages' ( The Artist's Way) are best just to dump out everything and get some insight where journaling foe me can be 'art' and not feeling. Laurel Mellins work is really helpful to me: Nurture cycle: 1. How do I feel? 2. What do I need? 3. Do I need support? Limits cycle: 1. Are my expectations reasonable? 2. Is my thinking positive and powerful? 3. What is the essential pain involved? The reward? Are my expectations reasonable? is good for me and cure for perfectionism and overwhelm by trying to do too much usually. Good post thanks! It's good to be reminded. It's easy to lose sight of the most basic tools in life to stay above the line.

[@reneeriley2145]

Great talk! This is needed as I plug along avoiding what needs to be addressed. I like the idea of asking myself what I can do and do it that makes a difference for my own mental health. A tool to care for myself.

[@OhSusannna]

You are amazing!!!

[@lln4244]

Thank you so much for all the resources you have provided. It’s changing my life.

[@luckydab0ss]

I’m very glad I came across your channel ❤️☺️ Your videos really have helped me. 💛 Thank you & stay safe Steph :)

[@joanebel5207]

Thank you Stephanie. So many helpful tips!

[@jeewanipitakotuwage1566]

Thank you for all the free consultations Blessings to you

[@justnow4846]

I just discovered your channel and I really like your teachings and messages. Subscribing.

[@JessicaSkyy]

You Touched on the very words and subjects I needed some help on Stephanie, Thanks!

[@sabrinalopez9789]

Yes, we love you steph♥️ you changed my life for the better. I cant thank you enough!

[@arlilienkamp]

Great advice. So glad I found this channel!

[@kanetfsb]

These are great tips and action items! Thank you, Stephanie, really enjoy your channel.

[@christinasilby08]

Thank you Stephanie. This is really helpful. 🙂

[@amachildofmosthighgodinjes6115]

May good God bless you abundantly Stephanie. Many thanks for all these helpful topics always.

[@lindsey4157]

Thank you for your helpful videos!

[@gemini_man66]

I needed this. Thanks, Stephanie! Hope you're doing well 😀

[@toronto416.]

You're beautiful, thank you for your helping advice I appreciate it.

[@genevieverudman5221]

Great video I love your work Stephen

[@Cmbtvtrn05]

Very informative and encouraging. Thank you, i forgot about being present and to use grounding techniques.

[@biba350]

Perfect timing thank you 💛

[@ConsecratedToGod3383]

Needed this video. Right on time.

[@survivornomad9892]

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[@Mrs.RBarry]

Great video!! I love how many self care ideas you gave. Sometimes it’s hard to think about it when youre in the moment. So making a list is such a good idea!

[@Frances-tl1in]

Thank you Stephanie . I am going through a divorce and really lost touch with myself and fell into bad habits and not taking care of myself. Thanks for the positive video.

[@gregcrowe8885]

Thank You

[@jennifersanchez-ht5jk]

Thank you. I really enjoyed your video's

[@djrenders]

Great video again!

[@iammaximus614]

Selftalk is the Greatest or ? Talk of your Life! 💪🏽

[@chrisedwards6522]

you have been a tremendous help to me .... I love your videos!

[@SB-tc8nn]

Stephanie, my emergency kit, it’s You and food. Thanks 🙏,you’re beautiful and very professional,❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️👏👏👏👏👏

[@matheus6894]

This, and ALL of your videos are just PREMIUM content! Thank you. And thank you for the subtitles, I'm brazilian and it helps me a lot to get full comprehension, please, keep on not forgetting of your international followers hahah. God bless you and your kids.

[@getrudemwaura946]

Lovely 🎈🎈🌹. Thank You 🌹🌹🌹🙏🙏🙏💕💕

[@izawaniek2568]

Thank you Stephanie. Great tips!

[@samvvalentine]

Your videos are amazing. I’ve had the worst year and the last few weeks have been extra difficult. I was wondering if you have any suggestions for someone with borderline personality disorder to get through those difficult times? Thank you for your videos. I come away feeling so much better about myself after watching.

[@lilianzivkovic4691]

WONDERFUL ADVICES !!! So naturally presented :) Thanks a lot ! Keep up with the good work ! God bless You ! Take care ! Bye from Europe ( Serbia ), LIL

[@heathermixson1265]

Thank you, Stephanie

[@jasonwaters1675]

Thank you Stephanie, your videos have really helped me through some hard times.

[@justme-ld9xz]

Awesome video Stephanie! You know what I would absolutely love to see from you? A video on healing different attachment styles. I'm a dismissive avoidant, and whenever I encounter a potential love interest I'm basically subconsciously already doing everything to keep my distance, even though I would like to connect. Any tips on this?

[@ObservationTowers]

This channel is in my kit

[@yarazard]

Can you do a segment on being professionally broken-hearted/toxic work-place/getting passed up on promotion?

[@joserojas-marin3832]

You are beautiful Stephanie

[@marcincalus1022]

Best way to keep ur sanity right tell them lets agree to disagree means exactley that shame is their guil trip not urs

[@genevieverudman5221]

Questions ? I have been busy writing a autobiography it's called, UNFILLTERED which I feel will help alot of people dealing with abusive childhood and codependency... I ignored my past for a long time and didn't understand myself, and why I got into so many incorrect relationships, and couldn't love myself. However in the last year I have been working on myself and loving myself, meditating and realizing that I am a creator not a product of my past experience however I feel that my book can help many to realize this sooner but by continuing to write about the trials and tribulations will this stunt my growth with the new findings I'm excited about obviously I'd like to add this to the last chapter of my book how to be a creator not the Victim

[@uswabatool5602]

This is so so helpful! ❤

[@stacey7268]

My self esteem has been destroyed by him once again! I have never felt good enough for anyone and not sure to get out of this funk!💔

[@jeremyking3986]

Find someone that values you. Know you’re worth.

[@stacey7268]

@@jeremyking3986 hard to find

[@gemini_man66]

@@stacey7268 I hope you think and reflect on this: whatever holds you back from not feeling worthy, tackle that since the reality, whether you feel it or not, is that you are more than "good enough." You are Good, Great, Amazing, and Worthy. How do I know these things? Because we've been given the gift of life. We wake up every morning because we are meant to be here. Some us go through pain so we can finally take the lead and say, "I'm better than this and I won't take it anymore." We work on ourselves and realize that the person who completes you, makes you whole, makes you happy within and brings you inner peace is You. Eventually, maybe, you'll share your trials and advice with others knowing you've come out of the darkness. You're more than worthy and never allow anyone to demean, control, gaslight, or talk down to you. They are not worthy of your time, energy, nor thoughts. Separate yourself and take care of you first. Enjoy life and cut toxicity away...far away.

[@adiblay2992]

Great video! Loved it❤️

[@ItsScarllet]

Loved it!

[@mhernan92]

wow..great video.. ty....

[@filipkovideo]

Yes! If life had no obstacles what fun would that be?? It would be like a Supermario Bros. level where you just run to the finish line with nothing in the way. Boring! -- I like to say, 'nothing is precious, nothing is wrong', and try to go easy on myself.

[@bushrakhaver701]

Great content 😊 and you look so good 😍

[@candycordero996]

How do you find yourself when you just don't know what you want and feel lost.

[@ronnieleerainwater]

💪 🙌

[@methodicallymaya]

This video is great! I made a similar one just recently ❤️ so happy there are more videos out there like this one

[@thehdynasty]

So at my immediate department, there are currently 3 levels of employees that we see on a daily basis: Supervisor, Lead, Employee. The supervisor is insecure so she purposely create constant (weekly) conflict and jealousy amongst her employees, hoping we would fight with each other and not her. The lead knows her strategy but bites into her scheme, because he is even more insecure and is mentally unable to share spotlights. Obviously the entire department's culture is highly toxic with calumny and sabotage. How do you deal with this situation, if you are unable to find a position somewhere else quickly?

[@annepenny2809]

🙏💜

[@georgexarchakos685]

i love you so

[@goodmangirl07]

What if he doesn't like the idea of you keeping a journal? He thinks you should tell him "everything ".

[@Amanda-yj1gh]

What are some good self care podcasts?

[@kuldeepsinghbath1092]

💜 from INDIA

[@legorretacomics7181]

I think I’ve watched almost all your videos... thank you.! I’ve just decided to break up with my abusive partner, but I’ve been here before. Any tips on making sure that this time is THE TIME I finally move on. She keeps on contacting me and I know after two weeks I always tend to cave. Again.. thank you for all your videos as part of the LGBTQ community, these videos are really helpful and life changing.

[@adiblay2992]

Hey Elizabeth it's so great you got the courage to do that! Believe in yourself and maybe try asking for help from a loved one so that you can contact them when you feel the expected urge to call and contact again, they can support and encourage you to stay with your brave decision! Good luck!

[@legorretacomics7181]

Adi Blay Thank you for your words, they are exactly what I needed today. 🖤

[@CC-ub9cf]

Elizabeth Legorreta-carranza I’m in the same boat as you, it’s the worst thing ever, 🥺

[@Cmbtvtrn05]

Q- what if it's not a romantic relationship? My husband and i care take a woman in her late 50s, she uses meth, pills, etc. Extremely manipulative and entitled. She likes to constantly play victim and blame either me or my husband for her problems. Example im a combat veteran, byw im female and the subject of buying a firearm came up due do the current situation here in LA. She said, "you have anger outbursts and PTSD, etc, i don't feel safe with you being around one in MY HOUSE." I looked puzzled because it came out of no where, I let it get the best of me, and told her to stop belittling me and calling me an "angry, unpredictable person," also, she just wanted to "talk" =push buttons and get attention and a reaction, she said alot of other things but the point is, she started to tell my hubby that im a lying bitch and that im a pig fat and lazy etc..(she sits around all day, eats, does nothing, complains, lies to her drug counselor, parole officer etc.) 🙄. She manages to manipulate everyone around her into ferling sorry for her, i finally got back my military compensation and i have spent soooo much money on her, trying to make her happy. I realized that if she keeps myself and my husband wasting our, time, energy, and effort doing what she wants we will never be able to leave or gain stability. She constantly is very inappropriate towards my husband, it's so bad that both of us have to remove ourselves and go outside. She has no children, and constantly tries to give advice nobody asks for under the guise of concern, and how we should be parenting. When we first met her we thought, "oh this poor widow, ex drug addict, mentally ill person, who needs help, she seems so sad." Omg no, she is not any of those things! She uses her "mental illness " "drug addiction " and "her late boyfriends overdose" to gain sympathy. No more, i was doing everything for her, only thing i basically didn't do is wipe her ass. So, i get upset that she won't even close the door to do drugs, she has physically attacked me, made me bleed, kicked us out, crying she needed us so that we could take "care of her" she doesn't need a caretaker, she needs rehab, and a higher level of care. When I stopped letting her use me and stopped sharing personal information with her, she freaked out!!!! She asks very personal questions, and says that she just cares and wants to know us better, but it's so she csn use it later to hurt and exploit. It is insanity. What is really scary is that she gets really evil and starts crying and yelling and then asking my husband for my money while im sitting there! She said to my husband, "i don't know how you put up with that little bitch." My husband looked at me and basically gave me the look to stay silent because he knows im at my breaking point. I was feeling helpless, then a lightbulb went off, she is projecting everything onto mainly me, me and my hubby arent "allowed " any aline time or to spend any of our own money, because you know, we are selfish if we just want 5 mins alone to decompres, or even give eachother encouragement or to be affectionate. Sorry this was long, I pray for anyone else who is going through this. Any advice would be much appreciated, any insight, i must learn how to not get so upset. I will end up having a heart attack, im not kidding my stomach and chest constantly hurt and my health is deteriorating as well as my self esteem and my anxiety is through the roof. One more thing, I read the bible, i believe in Jesus, she claims that she does too and that im snooty and that she has read the bible 100 times and that, "faith without works is dead". It means to her that i should if im a believer prove my faith through picking up her problems and working them out for her etc...that got to me bad, no through being saved and converted true repentance comes, and from there as a result good fruit is produced (works) through God's grace and His will being done. I told her, that, I would like to maybe have a little bible study together so we can fellowship together, buttt nooooo, she doesn't need to and doesn't want to see me reading my bible. It is so painful, she remids me of my mother. Okay ill leave it here...so much confusion and pain...

[@babbypeaches289]

What if i tried journaling and the journaling did not help me and all i can do is a bunch of cognitive behavior therapy worksheets on my own

[@bcdmovement6856]

Stress music puzzles walk away

[@creatingdigitalassets]

Hi Stephanie! Have you found someone to help you with your Kajabi project?