How do narcissists test your love for them? | The Narcissists' Code Ep 852

[@314honeydipp]

After my ex cheated and I was ready to divorce him he wanted me to fight for him with her. He didn't expect me to end it all. He walked around for months saying he couldn't believe this happened. He thought we would last forever. But he was the one who created this disaster.

[@staceystrukel1917]

Hilarious!!!

[@rashaerichey9344]

I promise I felt your comment. My ex narc told me two times to put him on child support and I didn't but that 3rd time he told me I did. So when thanksgiving came he told his sister that he didn't expect me to put him on child support and he's very upset with me. He told me he hates me. His sister said he hates himself.

[@andreab7341]

I went through the exact same thing in February and I didn't fight to keep the us together. I was tired and so done, I was ready for the breakup. He was in shocked, then rage and now the silent treatment/blocking

[@NMTDelightfulMusic]

Delusional thinking

[@nessauk2786]

​@@andreab7341sulking like a child 😅

[@annaconcepcion1249]

It's funny how they will test YOUR love when THEY'RE the ones that's cheating endlessly.

[@meljohnsony2k]

dont forget the projection. accusing about something historic and insignificant

[@shakiraturner8132]

Endlessly 😮‍💨

[@yeehawbob4286]

Right they test your love and when they figure out it’s genuine they sort if discard you keep u on the backburner while they manipulate their next victim

[@mermaid78]

I never chased... Not because I did not love him but because #1 he kept his distance by giving me silent treatment so it was his decision #2 chasing a man is not something feminine imo...

[@DeeDe730]

I am in This Boat with U on This right now ☺️I’m waiting .

[@touchofgrace3217]

Narcissism is a special brand of wickedness.

[@susanm3103]

I agree

[@aluochirene]

It's insidious,like the literal devil walking and interacting with other sane humans on earth

[@almohvn33]

It IS satan... KNOW that!

[@mindyhalter779]

imagine them ALSO being your parents.

[@MegaMarVerde]

I agree!@@almohvn33

[@VidWatcher01]

A narc will break yp with you, screw around with other people while broken up, but get pissed if you see other people & accuse you of being unfaithful even though y'all were broken up. The hypocrisy never ceases to amaze me

[@monikathomas4985]

OMG my ex did this to me for a whole year that we were dating! On the clock! 2 weeks was the max he would last without this charade. I loved the guy, but the constant instability made me actually not want to be with him anymore! They don’t care about you, that’s for sure! You’re just a puppet in their sick game. Thank you! I needed this video to confirm that I made the correct decision to finally dip! Enough of the abuse! He destroyed me in that one year. I can’t imagine some of y’all hanging in there longer. Get yourself together and get out!

[@charlenelenatalbert8907]

Yep my story I walked away I can’t do it anymore

[@angelinh.5774]

My story too. Not taking him back a 4th time.

[@ebonyharris5412]

I couldn’t last past 7 months. The fractured eye socket and lower mandible wouldn’t let me which came from him because he always wanted to yell at me, spit on me, and fight me when I confronted him or called him out..

[@katherinebaglio]

I did

[@Angela-pt6je]

There's nothing wrong with lying to a LIAR. I'm not sorry at ALL

[@almohvn33]

Oh... GAME ON...I agree!

[@Mztrue87]

True

[@deborahmotley7224]

💯

[@wave8867]

Triangulation and Silent Treatment mainly. Also, keeping distance, then appearing once again to see your reaction to them.

[@qb9359]

@wave8867 PRECISELY .

[@Nidhi_Maheshwari]

It's so accurate. That I have to acknowledge this. ╰⁠(⁠*⁠´⁠︶⁠`⁠*⁠)⁠╯

[@FiiireLight]

They are so wack 🙄

[@averyjackson5256]

You just gotta manipulate them 2x harder and throw the questions back just more dramatic questions and they’ll shut down real quick and rage bc they know what they’re doing. Gotta be 1 step ahead !

[@Mztrue87]

Yh my Narc hates that but I notice he never leaves even when he says he will 😂😂😂😂 so when I push his buttons & manipulate him I know he's full of shit & knows exactly what he's doing.

[@BevHallenbeck-sf2cb]

He exhausted me with word salad circular nonsensical arguments that came out of left field. He was the biggest mistake of my life.

[@sayitwithatshirt]

It's funny how they supposedly have abandonment issues but yet they are the ones constantly abandoning people.

[@fainitesbarley2245]

They are trying to individuate from their primary carer. It doesn’t work. It’s a pathological drive.

[@yeehawbob4286]

Abandon before your abandoned

[@atomicgeisha]

I am not a narcissist but i was raised by one and i am married to one. Sometimes i will give my husband or my family the silent treatment because i can't get through to them and it always works. I only do this as a last resort. If a narcissist ignores me i just ignore them back. I won't waste my time arguing with anyone.

[@drleo6409]

Same here, if they ignore me GOOD. Silence is Golden.. better than yelling and screaming and arguing .

[@someoneyoudontknow7705]

Yup. They WANT you to fight and argue with them, it feeds them. All it does is drain you so you’re doing what’s right FOR YOU 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼.

[@almohvn33]

How do you stay married??? I mean that must be hell!

[@carolinelaronda4523]

Same . I had to discard my mom and sister years ago . I just have my dad and kids as family . My soon to be ex narc husband is also getting the silent treatment. Just waiting for the divorce to be finalized.

[@ssugar7292]

My love is conditional. It is not unconditional. If you want unconditional love go to your mom or grandma not me. Period. My trust is earned not given automatically. I refuse to be gaslit and walk on eggshells all over again.

[@daeclipse03]

Mine wanted me to constantly chase her and do what she wanted and read her mind i think 🙄 i refused to chase her and demanded equal effort. At the time i didnt know what a narcissist was lol. How naive of me to expect that looking back.

[@victoriamorris5017]

You are so right. They are wicked and drama filled people

[@victoriamorris5017]

They are very immature; emotionally undeveloped

[@itsacoldgamecc]

This description really is it in a nutshell. They are scoundrels!!

[@fainitesbarley2245]

They are toddlers. Hence the demands, the rage and the tantrums.

[@joahnabulanadi5382]

If he loves his partner, he won't test her. Narcissists are pathetic. 😂

[@JJ-nd6sm]

I think the people who are with them are pathetic. They beg for love, suffer everything for a little attention. Sometimes I say, it's a lesson to love yourself truly

[@Cynthia-uc8gb]

Any woman who chases a man is crazy. I've been involved with at least two serious narcissists, but I have never chased! Dude wants to start a fight and leave, go ahead and leave mister.

[@almag0410]

They want you to be narcissistic for them.

[@amazinggrace313]

Very very sick people and extremely toxic childish behavior.

[@sonyaakhanna]

I did beg and plead, mainly because i was so flabbergasted by the instensity of the reaction.. the blocking and the extreme behaviour. THEN I STOPPED. i didn't do it for years, everytime he would come back crying and making a huge scene. And yes he did go and sleep around everytime, i just found out later. Then blamed it on me, that i abandoned him 😅 My final nail was filing court cases agasint him and making sure that he cant legally contact me. His enablers that is his parents went and bribed the police. Still fighting the cases, will take him down not for revenge but to get him out of my life.

[@addamstt4941]

My ex would give me his house key then want it back after an argument. I would gladly give it back, then Im told I should fight harder for the relationship 😂 Not!!! Its lame and immature! I never begged or will I begin to start begging for him or anyone! If you found something better, cool! Leave me the hell alone because now my anxiety from him has hit an all time high and Im not sitting in jail behind a looney crazy person! Run and dont look back

[@sayitwithatshirt]

I stay in silent treatment & I long ago stopped caring. Win my hubby starts giving me the silent treatment, after a day of him not talking 2 me I will ask him wuts wrong cuz he's not talking 2 me & he usually says nuthing wrong & continue the silence & I just play it rite back. He not talking to me then it's fine I don't speak 2 him. He ghosts. I let him & I don't call or text him at all. I let him be & continue 2 do me. I just let him no Im getting use to his absence & 1day he's gonna come knocking & another dude gonna answer his door. I deserve better.

[@nessauk2786]

I got dumped on holiday really randomly he wanted drama.I just upped and booked myself else and chilled..i ignored the crazy messages then agreed to meet up last weekend of holiday he acted so odd.He was expecting me to be curious of what hed been up to i didnt care.He kept wanting to take me out then quizzing me where id been i stayed silent...its such a joke .Indifference really does their heads in.

[@nopereradicator]

They don’t like it when you play the childish games just as well as they do.

[@candace8200]

Right. So we need to forgive and beg y'all sickos back, from fill in the blank, inhuman torture, to prove our love, BUT the more we forgive and put up with alllll of that, the less y'all monsters value and respect us. Did I get that right? Yeah I think so. I have better things to occupy my mind and life with than this.

[@parklady4233]

Mine tested me until I ran out the house like it was on fire🔥

[@MsFox2u]

LOL My ex-narc would try and give me the silent treatment and did/said things to get me to prove that I loved him and that crap backfired on him!😂 I didn't care if he never talked to me again and would tell him to his face I didn't love him anymore and to stop playing games with me. He thought I was like all the women he was with before me and FAAFO!!!💯💯💯

[@AlwaysHope2019]

These people are sicker than I could’ve ever imagined. Everyday I think Ive stayed around and learned enough about narcissistic and toxic people. Only to learn something new every day. Bottom line is there just plain evil fools.

[@drleo6409]

He teaches me more than psychologist . For sure. He has answered more questions. Questions that I did not know I had.

[@beulahcaldwell8910]

Mean no harm just asking I come in peace but what in the world are you scratching at do you need lotion?

[@lalissexercisefitness585]

What happened when you let the narricist disappear and let them hope that you call, but instead, you never call or text. The last day that you both talked was the last time he called.😂

[@bonnielee316]

If he/she has borderline personality disorder they will just think to themselves, see, I knew they’d leave me!

[@lalissexercisefitness585]

@@bonnielee316 Oh, Okay, because I sure did. 😁💯😂

[@bonnielee316]

Burst out laughing! Good on you, girl, because the borderlines are a whole nother problem but I have to say some because boy they sure get mad at you if you group them in with the evil ones. Sometimes borderlines can be mixed with narcissistic personality disorder and anti-social personality disorder and those types are difficult.

[@ainahaga]

haha Im doing this to my narc. I just feel he is a narc. Im playing him back the same way. If I find out he is unfaithful I will also be it to him and take picture of me kissing another guy and then show him the pic and after break up with him. Ive heard that we should let them get some like if they text us we should reply sometimes? I dont know. I miss the intimacy but I know he might have other supply and I dont wanna be one of many😳

[@lalissexercisefitness585]

@@ainahaga Go get'em tiger. 🍷💯

[@danielleadair7394]

I enjoy the silence. It drives them nuts.

[@williamgrant3911]

I experienced every single one of these. This is the first video I have seen that mentions the 'hypotheticals'. Early in our relationship she said 'would you still love me if I was paralysed and couldn't have sex?'

[@debhervol9758]

These are just sick relationships. I'm grateful every day I got away 20+ years ago!!!!

[@PriscillaD-ie2jq]

TOXIC

[@bonnielee316]

They’re prepping you for toxic surgery. Famous phrase by Lee Hammock!

[@misssunshine8469]

can you do a video on the narcissists fake accounts/multiple accounts? I noticed all the narcissists I've encountered do this weird stuff with making fake accounts, to watching exes (even when they have a relationship) and God knows what else they are doing.. what are all the reasons that do they do this!?

[@Obsidian2104]

Yessss why is that?!

[@bonnielee316]

The fake accounts are to watch people probably because they want to Hoover them back. Real accounts are for the purpose of getting dates.

[@alexandra2536]

They do this because they get bored and they need thrill in relationships. They enjoy the emotional highs and lows . If they don't have these feelings they feel life is boring and empty.

[@fannylubin1391]

Once my ex narc got upset over a mundane thing. He immediately withdrew from me, said that he didn't want me to touch him or talk to him. He just sat there and stared at me, but also told me he expected me to sleep beside him that night without touching him. Before leaving to visit his family the next day, he told me: "while I'm away, I want you to give me space, but I also want you to make me feel like you care about me". Confusing and manipulative as hell

[@MariahSincere]

I would have told him to go to Hell

[@drleo6409]

Was this your son or husband sounds like a child.

[@cherrylynn7173]

@@drleo6409they are children in adult bodies

[@Yoshibelle615]

@@MariahSinceresame 😂😂😂

[@MariahSincere]

@@Yoshibelle615 girl! Cause TF?! Who he thought he was!

[@nicholecornes1915]

NOTHING is tolerated anymore

[@BeautifulSoul801]

I was talking to this guy online and texting for like a month. He tried me with the blame shifting, then he called me to ‘breakup’ (I didn’t consider us a couple at that point… Plus, I don’t show a lot of emotion when I’m confused. So that didn’t go the way he wanted.) I hung up on him and blocked him immediately. He found my OLD LinkedIn… Didn’t say a word. I blocked him and hibernated the account. I can’t play that game buddy. No hard feelings on my end, but that’s just something I can’t be a part of.

[@shanayscott9558]

I have been with a narcissist since I was 15. He was the only person I was with. I am 22 now, and he just recently hit me with the most brutal discard and now I’m more confused then ever. He took no accountability and left me with no closure other than “he wants me to be happy because I deserve better” and saying that he’s going to get help. 😢

[@MentalHealness]

😑😑😞

[@meljohnsony2k]

Hey even i was so confused after almost 2 years cause there was no closure or reasons. 7 years is too long to be discarded let alone brutally. so sorry for you cause I can imagine how bad it feels. they don't have guilt or conscience. Its too cold. but I can tell you one day the confusion will clear out and you'll be stronger than ever. I feel stronger now after two months of being down bad. Dont ever try to keep someone who says you deserve better that too after so long. trust me they'll hurt you down the line again. keep your head high and move on. All the best

[@bcarr424]

My narc ex once went to the length of making it look like I had a fake admirer, love note and flowers, just to test me. This was right after we bought a house together. I didn't realize it was her till after we split up, but in hindsight it was obvious she was playing one of her games with me.

[@Blessed591]

My narc ex would cause a fight over a non issue then go silent for a month at a time . . . Then one day come back home all lovey dovey and we would get back to ' normal ' . And yes there were those hypotheticals . It was an endless cycle. . . . But I am no longer on the hamster wheel. I don't miss that torment at all . . .

[@yeehawbob4286]

he came back lovey dovey because he wanted to have sex i can guarantee

[@28pimpette]

The anger sharks will be swimming in there head. Your not lying.

[@SS-in1ts]

He would never get annoyed by me chasing him, he loved it. No wonder he started more and more fights 😂 he told me I must really love him and rewarded me for it. No more!! Never again! I’m free! Thankfully he pushed me beyond return this last time. He knew it too because he called me and hoovered immediately after but then left and hasn’t came back. It’s only been 5 days but my separation anxiety is almost none- that’s how far he pushed me.

[@yeehawbob4286]

Same boat mannn… no wonder

[@bonnielee316]

I’m at 2:58, my first thought was borderline personality disorder. Then my second thought was, tactic. I’ve heard about this being done. That the narcissist deliberately starts a fight so that he can run out the door to go and be with the other person. Just saying.

[@meljohnsony2k]

Oh ya even i didnt think that was happening cause you think no one is that bad but right before the break up my ex started ghosting me and pushing me knowing ill blow up so that she can play victim, leave, and be with the next supply with the expense of being the good person. man what a game this whole thing was, no one would believe it. It all makes sense now in hindsight

[@seameology]

In my case, it was to run out and get drunk or high. Then possibly be with someone else.

[@MsNooneinparticular]

It's a self-fulfilling prophecy. What you focus on expands. Your own insecurities & low self-esteem drive hateful toxic behavior which prompts the person to do the very thing you were scared of. I'm guilty of it myself with worrying about my partner cheating. After years of being paranoid & distrustful, she finally did. 😞 Won't make that mistake again, either with the worrying/paranoia OR staying when I suspect someone doesn't value me.

[@meljohnsony2k]

same happened to me. i was insecure of her boy best friend and her sleeping with another person. she combined the both and slept w him and dumped me right before randomly it was so sus. Ghosted me and put me through hell and confusion. After a lot of self doubt and the universe showing me, I found out the truth and my gut was right. ALWAYS TRUST YOUR GUT AND INTUITION. she told everyone I'm delusional, hell yea it felt that way xD

[@RoxiePrice-rw4jm]

You will

[@ritapeters1330]

There is no self-fulfilling prophecy here,, it would have happened anyway. Not every narcisisst or toxic person cheats on you as not every normal person would do, but some also do.

[@infinityseren1]

I got silent treatments all the time. Now he gives me back handed compliments and seems he’s always says he doesn’t want to argue but will be saying things to me that will cause arguments if I give my honest opinions on it. So basically his not arguing is him being able to say what he wants to say no matter how rude and for me to be silent and keep my opinions to myself.

[@FK-cg8el]

I never begged Ever And I could see they didn't like it I heard them say I am not used to strong woman 😏

[@alexandra2536]

Me too ✊️💪

[@irenehurtig266]

And then you realise thrre is nothing more left to say.

[@MentalHealness]

💯

[@alyssachurch4464]

Thank you for another great talk! It’s really insightful on narcissistic behavior.

[@sharnelgezwint3990]

He treat me so bad but don't walk out of this marriage..he can financially. What is holding him here?? Why is he still here? I dont get it..he said he is tired of me..but he dont walk out😮 he literally asked me once in our marriage" If I cheat on you, would you take me back?" I obviously said No.Does this mean he have cheated on me..he go away alot with the work..

[@harmonyvanscott3634]

8mo later n here he go! I thought we was wayyyy passsed me being a thought to him.. BOY BYE!!

[@fainitesbarley2245]

6 months and counting. Hoping for no hoover - ever.

[@annstar2793]

I always figured he was shocked I didn’t ever contact him when disappeared. And then every couple weeks he sends a one word text and then disappears again. So weirdo

[@sherelleowens605]

How about fake suicide attempts?

[@parklady4233]

Been watching your channel for 2 years. I thought my partner was just selfish with narcissistic qualities. But, nope, he went full blown narcissist while having a midlife crisis. He destroyed our whole life together and then blamed me when he is the only one to blame. Crazy 😜

[@adaisip7592]

I did just that for 1 and 8 months! F that!!!😂 begged him to come back 🤦🏻‍♀️ he even did things that you can’t just imagine 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ He broke up with me 21 F times! My goodness🤦🏻‍♀️ Yup! Blamed me saying i was the one who cheated! He did that twice and make fake accts! 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

[@1111spiritualone]

Ahhhhhh, that’s why they blocked me and out right left me and went NC. They wanted me to chase them. I didn’t chase because I have self respect. I didn’t trust her anyway because she branched out to cheat. So if you don’t beg or chase then does that mean you don’t love them?

[@JJ-nd6sm]

I remember a friend from high school, she always seduced boys and when they were in love she left them to chase her and they did it! 😄 I don't know if she's a narcissist, but everyone was always crazy about her 😲🙉

[@fainitesbarley2245]

Yep. They make you fall for them - feed of your positive energy then withdraw/reject/abuse. You being hurt, confused, chasing them gives them more fuel.

[@stormi9951]

About that silent treatment in the house 🤡💩... Yasss just silent sleeping on the couch. Meanwhile cheating all on your azzz

[@MentalHealness]

🥺🥺

[@sweetoneloves6811]

it is too much they expect, so glad I am single and not dealing with this issue. They are really messed up. That is too much time and effort to prove your love to them. NOPE, I will let somebody else jump through Loops. I am out of the circus acts I cant put up with their mess, after dealing with all of that, you are more than ready to leave them. The NARC is a real emotional Vampire. give me the silent treatment??? I will keep it like that, we never have to talk again.

[@robynhearne4314]

I was “tested” so many times that I eventually caught on to him and just basically said and did what he wanted. Looking back I feel so bad for that girl.

[@vivoluos6541]

Thats on point. She did everything you just said. Too bad i didnt chase. She came back 1 month later with some music Video from a Festival. I told her im done fixing relationship. She got passiv aggressiv and blocked me everywhere. 😂

[@MentalHealness]

Oh my 😆

[@maninthewild-bitterpill1078]

Bruh....I lost it when you mentioned the hypotheticals 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Cause lookin back, those conversations happened & were weird than a mfka 🤦🏽‍♂️💀

[@MsPinkAndBlack]

My ex narc did a combination of this with grooming because he knew I was all about comforming to his wishes. He was really slick with it. And it would work....back THEN. Now? 😂 I'd laugh a guy out of my face with this foolishness.

[@nancybrown3816]

TRUTH TRUTH TRUTH They do ALL That!!!

[@creativeconciousness5492]

I guess I never got tested like that because my ex-narcissist knew if she ever fake left, the locks would be changed, and all her stuff would be on the curb for trash pickup.

[@cameogutierrez3466]

So true and ain’t nobody got time for that 🤣

[@talithacumiisrael8731]

It’s a constant hot and cold toxic situation 🤯🤯🤯

[@reneeboehm558]

I’m so nauseated already from all the bs I’m done been done but it’s so exhausting n nauseating

[@faithing88]

3 months we had a fight and I told him I was leaving and he said please don't leave people always abandone me He has been breaking up with me since, I would chase after and now I have stopped I just say ok 😂😂😂

[@MentalHealness]

😅😂

[@Proposal12]

"Would you love me if i hit you.." - Oh damn baby thought you never ask, lets get kinky right now... "I think we need a break.." - Yeah you right ...Walk away and block them. Stupid games get stupid prizes Nope if they playing games, play one back and walk away... If you forget to block them or something and they call, put a metal object over the phone and bang on it...

[@MentalHealness]

Oh my goodness

[@Proposal12]

@@MentalHealness What´s up Lee, why that comment? I should probably put a cautious disclaimer with it... "hitting" wasn´t specified, flip it. There´s no "breaks" in a relationship... And don´t do the last one if you´re living together...

[@smonaful]

Power control manipulations

[@JerseyNurse78]

This is so on point, its erie. 😳🥺

[@arlenesaunders2493]

That's is so true Amen going through that right now

[@MentalHealness]

I try

[@drleo6409]

VERY VERY ENLIGHTENING Fake accounts, had that happen. makes perfect sense. When my wife ran off in the middle of the night I would just go to sleep thankful she was not here yelling. “Silent treatment ? “Silence is GOLDEN”. !!!!😊

[@genesewatson648]

This is literally what he did picked a argument and broke up with me then said he only did that to see I was gonna do he really expected me to chase him. Destroyed me in a year with the constant testing, accusing me of cheating and jealous as hell

[@DeeDe730]

Yes, mines left and he expected me to continue to beg him, NOPE…. I filed for Divorce now he got me waiting for him to sign.

[@domeatown]

Most of us express our reverence for our shared love after a breakup by leaving distance, being discreet. Trying to leave silent air. Maybe one blow up here or there. Maybe an insult or two. But then two or three good attempts at friendship and otherwise discreet distance. I have never gone absolutely bananas aside from the times I was involved with narcissistic people. Most of my breakups were kind, discreet, and final. They have you doing the things they would do. And then, if you get too far down... you start to cherish the insanity. Oof. At the very least, I forgive me for being brainwashed and am more than well on the road to kind and discreet- land

[@dynamicmeg]

That's why the best way to avoid them is to not continuously let them off and stand your ground when they go overboard in awful behavior

[@jennyjenjen9180]

Mine said “would you love me if I was bisexual” then I found out he was

[@amandaforsythe3729]

Anger sharks swimming in their head 😆 that is Soooo true!

[@MentalHealness]

🤭🤭

[@lidiaarenas665]

If I had multiple chicks?!!!

[@nurulhuda_ml5297]

What's the difference from the narcissists "test love" & "breakup"?

[@dear.celeste81]

How do they test your love? This is before I watch the video just to see if I'm right. He use to ignore me, be mean to me, and I would have to work extra hard to show I love him. Do things for him, buy him things, cry to him, be extra affectionate. Yes, I was right. I would think to myself that he's on his period. I would swallow my pride all the time just to get on his good side. This was 10 years of this. He never asked me those questions, I always told him. This man has lost his abilty to have sex, he's lost his teeth, his toe. I've always told him that I will always be there for him. I'm trying to move on... I'm taking it day by day.

[@khayrihankerson6844]

Lol....they expect the sun to go around the moon huh? 😂

[@yankee52goblue78]

Until you just leave and go no contact… Well that backfired…..Lost that supply forever..Oops!

[@dianekoenig9819]

I had a guy that I was with for 2 years I was so unaware of the narcissist. This was back in 2013 when I met him. And I started seeing very unusual behaviors. I thought well. This isn't normal. So I started looking things up. And I found all kinds of different mental disorders. And I was like oh wow, so this is what he's doing. And he would give me the silent treatment. I gave into it until I started learning more things. And after I found out what he was really about. I made him move out after 2 years of my life 😮. And I know he hated me for that. Because he hadn't found a new supply to move in with. And to this day I know he's miserable. Because he's fake, he's not genuinely authentic. He doesn't really know how to love. How can you be with someone like that? Once you know, it's impossible because you already know. Self Love is so important Too many games for grown people that's ridiculous. From the bold and beautiful.❤

[@charlenelenatalbert8907]

Yep he’s been doing this for a while. He would just disappear after he said I’ll be by your house. He never expected me to walk away, I show no emotions as he do me, I call him out in his schemes all the time. He’s saying I needed you and I deserted him ok bye man 😩

[@peteraernouts5741]

Is that why she stopped talking to my (again). Posting all sad stuff and shit she ignord my last 3 message's its not up to my.

[@tanjadouglass6834]

My relationship with my ex if I could describe it, would be like seeing your dream home completely engulfed in flames, and watching your ex grab a water hose to wash the car 🚗

[@XeaRae]

What to do if when you refuse to chase them after they left they start the smeer campaign at your work and with your landlord? Pretend to chase? Move towns/switch jobs? Aoparently me not contacting them on a different massaging plantform after they left the first one was an act of betreyal worthy of destroying my reputation.

[@Carolinekatongo]

❤I WISH I HAD KNOW SUCH LESSONS R AVAILABLE ON EARTH. I COULD HAVE KNOWN THE RED FLAGS. NARCS R REALLY IMPOSSIBLE

[@cletiawilliams1436]

💯💯 I fell for ....it is nothing wrong with flirting at work. I'm like yes it is...red flag I over looked.he been cheating.

[@LarryA-w4j]

We must set boundaries before getting into any relationship if you have been in abuse don't get to another relationship until you have been healed if you are not healed you will get into another toxic relationship you must love your self don't ever be needy these toxic people are led by a evil spirit sign Cynthia Smith

[@flaco0526]

So many contradictions narcissistic have. Testing to constantly trying to contact them, yet it pushes them away more

[@KaevaliSaint]

He would tell me would I still be around and be his friend even if we broke up and everything I said no he would say I hurted his feelings and he meant nothing to me

[@gingerlshelt2363]

The What did i do wrong hit the. mark plus he got me to so many times crh and beg and have a panic attack because If i loved. him i would come running begging. I feel so. stuck i. do love him, but its not a good relationship i mean i got turned down so. many times i quit trying and its been over a. year and we habe have been together 10 years and he makes me feel like im the only one. he has and that something bad will happen to him if we split up

[@charlenelenatalbert8907]

Yep that’s why they will leave you if you’re not begging and pledging . They’re go into to someone because it’s benefitting them. Yep they’ve definitely testing you .

[@crystalclimenhage7159]

They grt mad when you don't beg

[@recoveringsoul755]

Well I played hypothetical question too. Isn't that what premarital counseling is? What is your deal breaker? What's important to them? Its part of getting to know each other What if one of you gets a job offer in another state? Or country? Would they move? These are real issues that real people deal with. It's good to think about ahead of time

[@bonnielee316]

True but they use this as a tool and a set up for later toxicity. Like using it against you later.

[@susannegoldmann6491]

How can a man expect a waman to do that. A man is suppose to be a man!! Ifxaxwoman crawly after that narc, he has no respect anymore and leave you because they are bored.

[@LilyM919]

He didnt bring up arguments but he made me so upset that its cause arguments and then he blamed me that i always argue.. then i threats to leave and he say go a head .. jusy like u said in one of the video..