Who Do Narcissists LOVE The Most?

[@kittyblue8310]

I always knew it. He loved me because I gave him the best supply not because it was about me personally, but the supply I gave him made him feel the best about himself…. Empathy is an important ingredient in exchanging love.

[@SzilviK]

That's easy . Besides themselves. Anyone that obeys don't question anything admires them and spends all their money and attention on them .

[@DarlaPerry-m8g]

Yes, I absolutely know what it's like to be discarded literally as a child. I will add to that, to be lied about and BLAMED literally for this narcissistic mothers unhappiness! It is a wild experience that can damn near destroy a child. My brother, the golden child became a very disturbed and mentally ill adult with his own very serious and abusive relationship issues. Unfortunately, children growing up in this highly stressful and chaotic environment don't have any clue about narcissism and end up internalizing this abuse and blaming themselves also causing an endless generational cycle of abuse and mental health problems.

[@LolaAileenVanslette]

Exactly. I had two narcissistic parents and a narcissistic step-father. It was hell on earth.

[@undergod8666]

It's never enough the devil don't bargain😢❤❤

[@two6hundo]

You ain't gotta be a narc to both love and hate yourself. That's just called being a human. All we can all do is try for better tomorrow.

[@Braveheart_academy]

Ha! Of course they love that person the most because they are taking the most from that person! Poor person!

[@MentalHealness]

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[@latonyajones937]

Wow, I never knew their job could be their supply. I learned something new today

[@fundragon298]

I think most people escape from their narcissist before having kids, thats why those videos don't perform as well. It's a blessing in disguise. Thank you for another great video, it was so informational and helpful. Hope you have a great end of the year!

[@lolxd9396]

Thank you Lee. I already unplugged from the toxic narcissistic player. 🙏♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹😎

[@jamiekowal1295]

Being married or in a relationship with a narcissist, especially a covert narcissist is like playing mental twister

[@kelseypavestheway]

I was going to say they love their addictions and their corn the most 🤣 and their multiple supplies because they can't live without their multiple supplies. Incredibly codependent they couldn't do without it any of those.

[@ladyllf48]

On point, have to have multiple supplies. Smh !

[@arcic6421]

The person they see in the mirror, the only person they care about… 🎉

[@MentalHealness]

😮‍💨

[@mermaids2030]

🤣🤣🤣true

[@user-ms7fg6sd4j]

This is why I think calling people who are toxic and immature narcissist is a bad term. Narcissism if you follow the Greek myth, yes it would suggest a narcissist would imply extreme self love. People that we call narcissists don't love anybody. I feel like what makes these people who they are is their incapacity to love anyone including themselves. And the reason why we have such terrible relationships with people who can't love themselves is because when you try to love someone who cannot love themselves you show them their emptiness.

[@user-ms7fg6sd4j]

So I don't believe these types of people are capable of Love even for their children in cases I've seen. They are capable of performing the acts and appearance of love to someone who is ignoring all of their faults and mirroring back the perfect person they believe they are. They are able to play the part of the person who loves you if and only if you never in any circumstance criticize criticize them or tell them how they're letting you down the moment you indicate that you aren't being fooled by their performance they will take it all away. You will go to bed Friday in a relationship on Facebook with all kinds of pictures on your page. And you will wake up Saturday single with every one of those pictures from the last 6 months off your wall with no explanation.

[@lisaz4411]

Exactly so true

[@IsabellaPiesch]

Nobody. Not even themselves.

[@Wayoutgurl]

Their scratches heal quickly too. So I’m told. 😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆 Whasup my friend? You been on a roll!! You doing that WORK!!! Thank You. 😁

[@CF-tp6sb]

Yessss my whole self worth can be defined and destroyed by how I think the narcissist sees me based on how they are treating me. 💯. They actually know that and use it like a torturous game. They love watching me spiral down when they take all their approval and love away.

[@mercedeswalker7819]

I understand 😭

[@1ki2ki]

My narc likes to give me silent treatment when I'm being loving. Then when I withdraw they will show attention and affection until I come around. Then when I'm being nice again they pull away.

[@tessa5234]

OMG!! You just described my ex to a "T"! He was in the Marines, but only got a General Discharge, and that's the first thing he tells everyone - "I'm a Marine!" It's like his entire identity is stuck in that one facet of his life!! Sadly, I played into this issue by reaffirming that having been a Marine made him somehow special and he went from the Marines being his supply to me filling that role until he finally got the job he wanted and then he dropped me with NO warning because he didn't need me to support him anymore. This roller coaster has been a REAL learning experience for me to say the least. Having someone you spent years with, all the while believing you were planning a future together, just suddenly up and walk out on you really messes with your head and destroys your heart!!

[@MentalHealness]

🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@Jewelz90]

Lee you’re really bomb for helping us through these days! You just keep bringing more and more fire & it’s so helpful! May you receive blessings, peacefully! Thanks a lot! ❤

[@cherylarshaluys6079]

Hope you get over that cold soo, Lee. We need you!

[@mmabathodorcasmakotanyane6454]

Correct. My ex narc found supply not only in people who validated them by work and school. As soon as the narc qualified for an MBA and was studying started mistreating me. The studies also boasted the ego. This person would be like I can't wait to complete to show my ex colleagues that I have my MBA and I can get the job I want. This person once said to me: "How does it feel to date someone who has an MBA?" Lord. That time my other ex was also an academic but so normal, am generally attracted to academics but this one thought it made them. Everything started revolving around the MBA. It validated them so much. I once had to say but not everyone wants an MBA, that's your path...be normal, it doesn't do anything to me but to you.

[@jaialaiwarrior]

Great explanation. Thanks, Lee!

[@mariannebauman3410]

They love control

[@CarterSams]

The love the best deal at the lowest cost 😉 Everyone who wants to be that, raise your hand.

[@AmericanDreamer]

Spot on🎯

[@srdavis206]

This is the best post!

[@dainese_1972]

Great video Lee.H very helpful for me..guess what your t shirt color same with my mobile protector 😊🧡✨️

[@robbiewooden5067]

So true. Thanks for sharing.

[@MentalHealness]

You are so welcome

[@Laura-nl8df]

Their 'best' child. The one just like themselves.

[@MentalHealness]

🫨😫

[@shawnsbookbabees922]

Thank you Lee🙏🏽please take if you

[@joychastity]

That's so true.

[@LolaAileenVanslette]

I was the discarded (scapegoated) child. It sucks. My brother was the golden child. He became a narcissist as well.

[@bsoutherly3024]

Themselves

[@MentalHealness]

😫

[@eileenescalera5473]

They love the person who falls for the OKIE DOKE. I did ,but no more. 😊

[@MentalHealness]

😶😢

[@kimsanders8262]

Me too

[@ReRe_642]

They love the child that’s most like them. Thee mirror child.

[@Divinely_Guided444]

Easy...the only 2 things they can love is money and clout. 💥💥

[@minigolfandothergames7096]

I thought they loved a glamorous version of themselves that they want to be, and think that they are, but also know that they are not at the same time.

[@okram75]

First time..I don't agree with you. Most victims (me too) loved,adored, always found time for..gave attention to the narcissist etc..but we still got discarded like trash...aut of the blue .They were getting basically super perfect the ideal supply from us.. Still discarded us bcs they just got bored of this perfect supply..

[@MentalHealness]

That’s because no one person is enough and nothing you ever do will be enough .

[@mercedeswalker7819]

@@MentalHealnessI have to keep telling myself this!

[@maira5624]

Mister Lee are you cold 🥶 i wish to be good again.😮🙏

[@spiritualpeace923]

I ask the narc I was with why does he always lie to me. You said he use to tell me the truth. I asked him why did he stop? He never answered the question.

[@jokerlovesyou1861]

He loved everyone except me...he just had no choice to come to my house...but hated me

[@JoshuaAHolmes]

Oh I get it - how one criticises one's self is how they criticise others. Using the same yardstick status ruler to measure others?

[@Tiffany-y6i]

How did you get to the point where you can talk freely about this?

[@lstien71]

Yes, my therapist said my ex will not want to leave me because I gave the most. I feel like we are still trauma bonded. Can we still be friends? He lives in a different country.

[@SherryG370]

My xnarc's Harley Davidson was a big supply for him!

[@Honeypepper.]

2:26 😂😂😂😂

[@IreneHamilton-w5i]

Exactly conditional just crazy

[@joannturi3968]

The clueless ones..so they think. Perhaps the air head.

[@Justine-Goff]

So huuuuge question. What if there was an obvious easy connection visible to others. I remember him clearly telling me he only does it to me. “Not pay attention” but will tell me things like he has been and others. I’ve seen his conversations with other people and he is who I know but never to me. It’s a complete total mindfuck. We have such a natural connection it’s stupid. You can see it on his face. He’s good until I give a slight amount of positivity. I read or watch things and he’s like a weird ass mix of normal and narcissist. He told me his diagnosis when I was telling him about the kids and there is tendencies..? Is that a thing? He’s grown up with loving people around him mostly church people than his own family. Who knows.

[@sweetlymorbidbear9845]

They like themselves most, not love. IMO

[@TRUTHSPEAKER-888]

So basically they are non committal and you have to accept that? Like how the hell are they married🤔🤔 They want you to be committal but they allowed to cheat...thats nuts

[@christophermacdonald3879]

I have researched so many years and time to realize "WHAT IS GOING ON" I will make this acception to send out light where is due. Thank you for your courage, self awareness and focus and clearly, you are trying to rebuild what was once broken. Lee, Thank you brother

[@charmaineandrews5435]

They love on condition..Unstable as hell hahaha❤

[@terrywoods4242]

Lee, if you like honey, it could help your throat😮

[@MentalHealness]

I do. Going to try it.

[@eileenescalera5473]

Themselves

[@MentalHealness]

😢