The full story of my divorce

[@gidneybeans]

As a married man, I have to say, you absolutely did the right thing. People nowadays all too often throw away their marriage for frivolous and selfish reasons, however this is not one of them. Nobody deserves to be emotionally alienated, used, lied to, cheated on and physically intimidated. You seem like a genuinely nice lady and I wish you the best.

[@scriptorium-in-candelight]

Are we really at the place where we need someone to say "you sound like a nice lady". And no one should be alienated and disliked as if it refers people as being better then emotional roller coasters maybe water slides

[@pamelaf2519]

@@scriptorium-in-candelight The problem with people that are emotional rollercoasters is that they often make (emotional) decisions that often shoot themselves in the foot and they don't even realize how they are the source of their own problems all the while blaming the world for it. It's not a question of being better, it's that an emotionally stable provides more reliable insight than someone who doesn't even have the emotional maturity to realize where they are at fault (typically emotional rollercoaster-type people are like this, hence why they are like that in the first place). Not a question of superiority. They're just not reliable sources.

[@Rachel-qn8hy]

When you know it's time to go, you just go and don't look back x

[@zizouzus]

Ya she will find a good husband. It's easy to spot a good woman, especially nowadays

[@ritacasaverde]

It's been a year since this video was uploaded. I just watched it. In case you haven't realized yet let me say that: When he didn't care for you while you were sick, he made the call. When he wasn't with you when you got COVID, he made the call When he chose his friends and going out with that girl, he made the call When he engaged more with another girl than his wife, he made the call When he threw that hammer at you, he made the call When he said "I don't see the point" during therapy, he made the call. You have nothing to feel shame for. You stood up for yourself and that's the bravest thing you could have done, especially at your age, and especially when being religious and believing in marriage.

[@lonewulfmo9128]

Sheeeeesh! Must have been a really handsome guy to not care about about a pretty girl like that. The world is how it is and here we are.

[@dymphnacallaghan7420]

This is the best comment ❤

[@catcat9582]

I agree

[@jackandlill]

Right ON!!!

[@deanna0710]

Michel, I to, have to applaud you for being a young Christian woman, and you took your marriage vows, most sincerely and sacred life. However, congratulations for being wise enough at your young age to make the move to get out. I related to your story, I married at 19, a young Christian woman, and was determined to not give up on my marriage, but my ex-husband did every single thing you mentioned, and I still would not let go. I’m not only hurt myself by doing what I thought was “right” but I eventually hurt the three children I had because I’ve never had a father that was “present” in their lives. I finally divorced after 26 years of marriage and even then was manipulated by him and tried to help him. I’m now 69 years old and I look back on my life and I wish I would’ve had the courage to do what you did. I’m so proud of you, God has a wonderful plan in store for you and Jordy- of course, you know that! I wish you the very very best in life. ❤

[@donnacoxx8232]

If he cheated on you with her. He will eventually cheat on her with someone else.. it is a cycle .. You are stronger than you were over a year ago.. you have so much to look forward to . Thanks for sharing your story

[@lpetmcd]

100%.

[@helenalexanderbristow1187]

So true.

[@sherrriethelyn]

Preach!! Or could be vice versa. The girl MAY** have known about Michel, but decide to move forward with cheating too so who knows? But I'm just very happy Michel is out of it and moving on to greener pastures!

[@firefly9838]

This is a nice thing to tell hurting people but this isn't always true actually.

[@8bitNL]

She said they were basicly co-existing all the time. So that probably means not a lot or even no intimacy in all those time. Not saying cheating is ok under any circumstances but it kind a obvious people drift a part when they just live together as roommates.

[@sch728]

I can tell you from experience, it is so wonderful to be free from a bad marriage. I was verbally and emotionally abused for 26 years. Here I am 7 years later and 6 years into a relationship with a wonderful, caring and loving man. Enjoy your freedom and then someone will come along who is going to treat you right.

[@sch728]

Oh! I just realized you have lupus (I think that’s what you said). My mom had lupus and went into remission two years in and stayed in remission for the last 30 years of her life.

[@The_Food_Police]

Thank you for sharing this. I'm leaving my very short one year marriage due to verbal abuse. Im already having a hard time with it, because i desperately want everything to get better and avoid divorce but your comment makes me feel hopefull for a bright future

[@sheenahess105]

Michel- it’s not your fault. Please stop blaming yourself. There’s no excuse for cheating on your marriage or showing violence. He should have ended the relationship properly before moving on. Your marriage was over as soon as he cheated on you and did not even have the consideration to come clean and tell you to your face. You deserve all the love and respect. I’m glad you are learning to vocalize what you want. Love yourself first and the rest will follow. ❤️

[@TaraSL8r]

All of This!!

[@loriplate4241]

Absolutely!

[@katsue0]

Couldn’t agree more, well said.

[@kseke25]

The marriage was over before he cheated and I think she knew it too but couldn’t bring herself to accept it.

[@ChristineCline-y8z]

It's her fault for enduring abuse & adultery, but Christian women are notorious for staying. I know because I did it.

[@hannahmuellenmeister]

Infidelity and feeling physically unsafe in any situation is no excuse. The truth of the matter is that you are a kind human being who deserves the world and someone who treats you like it.

[@matios6013]

Good you left a man that not respect you.. .and also agressive....this kind of men better stay far away from them😳

[@StraightFireVR]

7

[@carrieannkouri2151]

Him even just throwing the hammer in your direction is abuse. Good for you for getting out! ❤

[@paulaa.1445]

Abuse? More like attempted murder

[@BrooklynJade1]

Agreed, this classifies as an aggressive intimidation tactic. From what I’ve learned reading Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft, it only gets worse.

[@zach-hu2mo]

He’s crazy

[@alisonkrein4139]

I’m so impressed that you took the first sign of violence so seriously. That is especially difficult for women raised in faith beliefs. There’s nothing in single life as lonely as a bad marriage. You’ll have a wonderful future.

[@lcm433]

Like my dad said to me all the time “once domestic violence starts… it will only stop when you are dead” (me being females and weaker by nature) First sign of violence…. RUN!

[@luciagonzalez4899]

It's the same trauma for ALL women, not just woman of a particular faith...really?

[@bened22]

@@luciagonzalez4899 You misunderstood what she wrote. She was refering to the ability to take signs of physical violence serious right away, not about the trauma itself.

[@joelharris363]

@@luciagonzalez4899 I believe what Alison is intending to say here is that people coming from a faith perspective often have pressure to stay in an abusive relationship due to the stigma within their faith community and the challenges it poses to beliefs held about marriage and divorce. It isn't meant to suggest that those who do not come from a faith perspective find it easy to leave abusive situations.

[@dinavienna]

@@lcm433 you have an amazing dad !

[@AngelaLeigh1]

This man lost an incredible woman. You are strong, compassionate, and loyal. Until the very end you gave all you could. As hard as it was, I know it was a major blessing that you got out when you did. You have your whole life ahead of you still. A life a safety and security that he would have never provided. You should be proud of yourself!

[@Desert_Dreamin024]

@@LouieTzepher watch some of their former videos. He looks totally unenthusiastic like he’s completely miserable to be interacting in the video with her. Even as a outsider looking in you can tell somethings not right. There are definitely 2 sides to a story but why would she lie about this stuff and why would he be okay giving his blessing on her releasing this info if it were untrue? He also has socials and can defend himself if he felt the need.

[@ItsLindaMichelle]

@@LouieTzepher he gave her permission to put this video out…. So he’s validated what happened.

[@AngelaLeigh1]

@@Desert_Dreamin024 Exactly what I would have said! Thank you!

[@dustinsalgadopavon7852]

@@Desert_Dreamin024 so if he wasn't happy he didn't really lose anything.

[@RedShnow]

No oh my goodness. Pride is bad even if you do good things you should be humbled. But if you do bad things like an unsuccessful marriage. I'm not saying every thing she did was wrong. But can you do worse than being proud of yourself for making big life mistakes. Consider yourself more responsible than him. Become a better person by learning from your mistakes and taking responsibility. NO GIRL YOU DIDN'T MAKE MISTAKES HE LOST A GREAT WMAN U STRNG BE PROUD DON'T STRIVE TO MAKE BETTER CHOICES!

[@annasloan2472]

You're not a failure for being afraid of tough conversations- that's so natural and so many of us do that. It takes strength to rebuild like you have & as someone that's watched your videos as you go through this transition I'm blown away by how much happier and yourself you seem now. Proud of you!

[@RachelsMemos]

Ditto ✔️

[@rainbowoverlondon]

Yes!!!

[@valeriecaban2844]

Absolutely!

[@sherrriethelyn]

Very true!

[@shakirghazali2890]

Strong and independand women lol have problem divorce simple

[@Manda8908]

This was me/exes in every relationship until I met my fiancé. Long term serious relationships with men who refuse to discuss thier feelings, refuse to work on themselves, emotionally or physically abusive, and infidelity. Breaking that cycle is huge. I'm glad you left. Happy to see you are engaged and happier now.

[@freenor7953]

how did you break the cycle?

[@ritaamor283]

@@freenor7953usually it has to do with being open to different people than the ones you are attracted to, because a lot of times that attraction is trauma based, is like our unconscious thinks “oh, look here is a Shiite person that will wrong me in similar ways as I wronged in my childhood in my adult life, maybe I can change them and rewrite the past”. But that never happens. Better go with a good person. And yes, good people can hurt each as well, we are all human, but is different.

[@pipernigrum]

Why do so many women choose the jerk? ...one of the great mysteries of the universe LOL.

[@diicks]

Please do not blame yourself for someone else’s actions . Just because u didn’t confront the situation doesn’t mean you are responsible for someone else’s actions ❤️

[@literallysydd5964]

This!!!! It doesn’t matter if she would’ve asked the hard questions or not. He cheated - point blank period. Nothing she did could’ve changed that, it just would’ve moved the divorce along faster.

[@imhereforfitnessvideos7213]

The fact that you continued to check ON HIM and make sure he was doing ok?! He didn’t deserve you. Someone is going to thank god to have a person like you come in their lives one day, you’re an innately good person. Can’t wait to see what’s in store for you!

[@이하나-m2h]

And he still went and did that shit. Just fucking disgusting

[@katnikkerkayla]

I did this with my abusive ex too- we share children but i NEVER needed to make sure he was okay again (he never has with me). I think it’s just what good people do. You still care about people especially ones you spent so much of life with, to the extent that you hope they are doing okay, I guess. It’s unfortunate but I’m glad I’m that person and he continues to prove to me he isn’t.

[@OffGridDreamLife]

I really think when your ex becomes more mature, he’s going to I realize that you’re the “one who got away.” Your inner strength is so apparent in this video. Wishing you so much peace and happiness going forward. 🙏🏻

[@blueseptember2174]

Oh yeah 100%. It might take him many years to heal and get healthy tho to see it. Some men can't face themselves and never heal but I hope for his sake he will.

[@tracymeserve5627]

This is unhealthy thinking. This man was bad for her and it doesn't matter what he thinks now or in the future.

[@Jordan-nw4sj]

This isn’t helpful when abuse is a factor. I

[@edithtierce8209]

@@tracymeserve5627 Most relationships end for some sort of incredibly unhealthy, immature reason on at least one party’s part… I rarely see anyone who ends a relationship amicably anymore, simply due to difference of life goals that they are both accepting of. From my perspective as a victim of this myself… It was not unhealthy to he able to acknowledge this since it was not my fault and he would most likely realize later. So who’s right and who’s wrong here? You’re right and we aren’t? NOPE!

[@imi_xo]

As someone who has survived a narcissistically abusive relationship, I am so, so proud of you. Well done, well done, well done girl - for sharing your story, for finding the words, for learning the vocab, for giving yourself grace and compassion and soft love, for walking away, for holding compassion for his trauma, for still holding him accountable for his behaviour (that doesn't nullify your compassion), for being brave, for choosing you, for prioritising your wellness, for staying strong, for letting the tears flow, for being authentic, for choosing to trust. I am so proud of you. May you always find the new-found words to express your needs and boundaries and advocate for yourself going forward. Sending the biggest, warmest, hug from the UK. There is no shame in your story, there is no fear in love. God bless you. You go girl. God's got him, and God's got you.

[@saharvarona]

❤ um.. do you mind telling me how you realized you were in a narcissistic relationship? 🥺

[@pistoreroloco]

A narcissist never Owens up to there doing . So no he wasn’t narcissistic. Did he emotionally detached ? Yes he’s guilty of that

[@brittonporter5063]

Her husband was not a narcissist. Never would a narcissist say "yeah, I respect you and think you should be able to share your side of the story." Rather, it sounds like the husband has CPTSD and simply worked with the tools he was given.

[@nicktan4530]

The fact that a men who narcissistically abusive relationship means he gives a shit about you. Similar with families.

[@HogaryVidaconLady]

​@@saharvaronaa narcissist is extremely selfish and will always do whatever is best for him without considering your opinion or feelings. And you will always feel guilty of everything

[@morgan_williams]

The hardest part of this for me is how unjust it all feels. I found myself getting angry on your behalf and wanting to correct you for calling yourself out… but I also want to give you the respect you asked for. Dishonesty is one of the worst human traits. It is ugly, hurtful, and just plain wrong. It also makes no sense to me why someone would agree to get married when they’re going turn around and spit on their vows. If this is too much, I’m sorry. I appreciate you sharing your story with virtual strangers, and I truly wish you all the very best. You are a well spoken, beautiful person deserving of love and happiness. I hope that is what lies ahead ❤️❤️

[@kristinacollins8380]

I also felt angry on her behalf. I got angry that she trusted him and did not question his horrendous actions. But then I thought, is it bad to be whole-heartedly trusting toward your partner? I don't think so, it's unfortunate that he chose to abuse that trait of hers though.

[@helenwaugh2940]

This, so much. The unfairness of him napalming our relationship and then leaving me to sort out the mess still smarts all these years later. The feelings of not being enough really hurt. He was of a similar personality and behaved accordingly, never took responsibility and kept saying 'i didn't mean to' like that was a sufficient reason for a grown man in his 30s. He swanned off to his new life whilst I struggled to make sense of my new reality. It's hard, but a better life can be built x

[@bunneywolf]

Seeing this person and this story for the 1st time, 1 year after its posting. And fully share the feelings you had when you watched it. I am livid in her behalf. E b en knowing that at this point, she's probably moved much further past this than she had when this was shared. It's amazing how we connect as women over space and time.

[@hannahjustice372]

He took the cowardly route. He strung you along until he made you miserable enough to to leave. No one deserves that. Hope you’re doing okay

[@tooxtalivai0690]

And most stay in those relationships especially when children are concerned.

[@vanessamelaniev5989]

Went through this in my long distance relationship, thank God for discern spirit.

[@enjoyingmyvodka1013]

Agree

[@shakirghazali2890]

And you heard sad story from women and belive her even amber heard keep doing it lol

[@SarahWallraven]

@@shakirghazali2890 judging by your name you live in the middle east and are ok with femicide your opinion is absolutely misogynistic. You will receive your karma...

[@caitcarpenter4642]

You are not at fault for: - Choosing a partner who threatened your physical safety. - "Allowing" his infidelity. - Avoiding discussing his abuse (because infidelity and threatening your physical safety is abuse 100%). None of these are your fault. I know you're trying so hard to be fair and accept your own part, but you don't have to accept fault for his parts.

[@hospitalfood6621]

Agree

[@PamelaMars]

THIS 100% !!

[@TheAshSlinger]

Wewwww

[@Krislynner]

Well said and I completely agree

[@adeliabarker7082]

Agreed.

[@368chen]

As a previous divorcee myself, once a partner has decided to be out of the relationship, it is almost impossible to salvage the relationship. His changing opinions are possibly excuses for the demise of your marriage, but maybe he was also hoping for you to end things after failed attempts at couples therapy. In any case, I am happy for you to be in the place you are now. Hopefully, you are on the road to healing and a brighter future either alone or sharing it with another who truly loves you.

[@RebeccaCoup86]

You are enough! Him cheating on you is on him, not you. He went outside of the marriage, because HE has insecurities NOT you! I am so happy you are out of this!!!! I can’t wait to hear your dating stories ♥️. You truly deserve the best!

[@thomasjust2663]

No she wasn't, otherwise he would have not been looking for someone else, truth hurts

[@Aleks_Azarapin]

I wonder how can you guys be sure about this aspect? There are plenty of people in the world for whom would never be enough or whose 'enough' merely doesn't last long enough.

[@User-yu8er]

​@nomasporfavor you're really out here with zero proof or claims from the guy himself

[@User-yu8er]

@@thomasjust2663 Wow you're a cruel person. You're really trying to find a way to justify cheating. Do you not realize that instead of cheating, the guy could of broken up with her and moved on if they felt unfulfilled?

[@LM53180]

@@thomasjust2663 another idiot bot with nothing else to do but troll.

[@mwalton504]

One person cannot make a marriage successful on their own. It takes two working together. Your prince charming is out there waiting. God bless you!! Listening to your story brought me to tears. You sound so similar to me in my first marriage

[@christiana2381]

As someone who went through a similar thing as a young married lady and got divorced as a result, I 100% validate all of your feelings. To feel like a failure, embarrassed that you couldn’t ask the hard questions, scared for your safety, it is so so so brave of you to share this story. But know that yes, you can take responsibility for your part in it, but you also weren’t given the opportunity to feel comfortable enough to ask hard questions because you felt physically unsafe. I praise God that you are able to be a shining light on the other side of this to show other girls that it is possible to have a happier life. Now that I have remarried a wonderful man, I often just thank God that in my own story that things ended the way that they did because I was able to grow and overcome at a young age and find someone better to share the rest of my life with. I pray over your life, and that you will find a better life partner who gives you all the things you didn’t even know you wanted/needed and who brings you closer to God.

[@magrielaaa]

I'm going through a divorce and find it healing and comforting to hear others stories. I'm so sorry about what you went through. I'm glad you got out and can heal.

[@coriemmett1363]

Praying for you girl. I’m so sorry for your divorce. 🙏🏻❤️

[@justpeachy4393]

Me too

[@strong9161]

I start thinking about divorce, and we have baby. Its so hard though.but he push me for it. I want my daughter and him continue communicate cos its their rights. But i know that its will be so hard for me.and i cant imagine how all this can be hard for my baby. I dont want see her in pain. But accept all what is going now i also cant.

[@nicktan4530]

@@coriemmett1363 She will benefit from the divorce so nothing healing about it. Men will be fked

[@ccc4102]

Too Vanilla. Too long- suffering. Too much talking and not enough walking out of the front door. Sooner. You'll have to toughen up. Check on yourself; are you attracted to "bad boys". ? Be careful. Don't just give your trust away. They must earn it! There are awful people out there. Women like the one you are describing are bad news but they are highly seductive. Much more than a "good girl" . Take care.

[@huntermerck]

MICHEL this is such a vulnerable story and I cannot even imagine trying to tell a story like this with so many people! I'm not going through this and I pray I never have to but I have spent months praying for your heart and for your healing and I am so so happy to see you healing and the Lord answering that prayer. Thank you so much for sharing! Much love to you and the future!

[@christinalarson54]

Oh honey, you have to let go of that guilt. Infidelity is never your fault, rather you felt it or not. Yes, the best thing to do is always talk to our spouse. But it's honestly not your fault. You are so incredibly brave to do this. I'm sending you love and hope for the future!!

[@daveredman2255]

I’m

[@danilaroche1156]

Don't you know that Satan is the author of shame & self reproach. You need to learn to see your God's beloved daughter.

[@TodayisTHEday.]

If the time felt right for you to share your story now, then it means you’re ready to truly move on to your next chapter 💯

[@moonjumpsoverthecow]

It takes courage to be this honest and vulnerable. Thank you for showing me what inner strength looks like.

[@becca7378]

Girl you shouldn't be ashamed that those things happened, you should be PROUD of how you handled it. You loved the person he was before all of those things happened and you fought to get that back. You sought help to figure out your own internal struggles and took valuable lessons with you. Most importantly you loved yourself enough to leave and you've continued to heal since then.

[@carriem6232]

I wasn't married, but my nearly 5 year relationship ended in September and hearing you tell your story made me feel like you were telling mine... your feelings of not being enough and realizing your partner was "too busy" but could make time for everyone else felt like you stole the words from my brain. Thank you for telling your story.

[@darlaemberton9349]

It's my story as well, my relationship also ended last September. He cited being emotionally unavailable after a 2.5 year relationship of making me feel inadequate. I hope you've healed and wish you the best!

[@godstar1610]

This was also like listening to my story being told by someone else. My 2 year relationship ended as well in September by someone so controlling and I never knew how bad till I was out. I remember one evening sitting on the couch next to him and asking if I make him happy, I wasn't yelling, it was a question I thought I would hear a sweet answer. Instead he threw his baseball cap across the coffee table and shook his arms while yelling and screaming at me. He was a pretty big guy so I was afraid. He told me to get out, I started getting all my things and as I got to the door he says, "if you leave, don't ever come back" so stupid me stayed. It finally ended a few months later. It still hurts but I'm learning and healing. I hope everyone finds their true happiness!!!

[@qw72897]

As someone who works with domestic violence victims, thank you for being open and honest while also not diminishing the fear you had for your physical safety at one point in the relationship. This is a fear no one should have within their relationships and bringing it to light can help other people so I am very grateful. Domestic violence whether physical or verbal is not okay. Please reach out for help if you need it. ❤

[@judymillydrawdy5803]

I am so blessed to have met with this wonderful great man called Dr Hamuzah that helped me in getting my ex lover back, I never believed there was any chance of me getting my ex lover back but it all happened within that shortest timeframe I ever imagined, All thanks to Dr Hamuzah and the wonderful spellwork. you can also contact him on WhatsApp [phone] or Email: [e-mail].

[@brooklin_bernek]

The fact that you went through all of this , and you still protect and stick up for your ex it shows how amazing you are and how genuine of a person is. Your so much stronger then you think ❤

[@quantumfineartsandfossils2152]

100% The abused protect abusers for so long that they all move in to commit crime to get you murdered anyways but still the abused try to just simply get away alive & only a democracy like ours with the amazing genius law enforcement we have on this whole entire planet understands science in the way it was intended to be understood I think it is time for defenders & victims to be shown respect & support for all they accomplish in the face of absurd terrorist adversity

[@ChristineCline-y8z]

She's not strong, she was being abused and ignored. I'm glad she's in therapy.

[@BreakconValen]

You're such a strong person, Michel 🧡 I wish I could hug you right now. I am glad to see that you're doing so much better and you are building an amazing life 🙌🏼

[@asage5801]

Survivor. Non strong. Why? She could not call out the cheating-the most important. But she can learn.

[@ambertorres5358]

It’s his loss. And woe to that girl who is putting herself in a compromising situation with a married man. When you win a cheater you lose.

[@vickimerritt2832]

with an immature, abusive, cowardly, self centered and unfaithful man

[@ep6582]

Crazy how this truth came to light.

[@Mackgracee]

“The reason for your divorce isn’t the reason for your divorce but it is” I am watching this As I drive away from my 12 year relationship. And this sentence really hits me hard. My situation is so so so similar to yours. Thank you for posting this today to know I’m not the only one going through this. Day one.

[@blueseptember2174]

Hugs to you MacKenzie!

[@Orozco3721]

Sending you love and strength dear Mackenzie choosing what is best for you is hard but important and so very brave 💖 you're going to be okay. We're here for you.

[@ednahenrich3627]

Mackenzie, you deserve to be happy as well! Hugs!

[@Mackgracee]

Thank you all ♥️♥️

[@angelaggarrido7816]

Sending prayers ❤️

[@nicolepeaslee5017]

My partner has Crohn’s disease. If, and when, he has a severe flair, I wouldn’t tell him he needs to go be with his family. I’ll be right by his side. I couldn’t imagine being anywhere else. I’m glad you’re doing better these days ❤

[@RulersxRocksx3]

He took advantage of your sweet and kind nature. Keep being you because you’re just amazing ❤️❤️

[@krhardesty]

You are not the one who made mistakes and destroyed your marriage, so do not take on the guilt for this. It is 100% on Brooks. He acted like a spoiled little boy who wanted what he wanted - not a man. You are so much better away from him. God has someone planned for you - someone who loves you and is trustworthy.

[@Williamb612]

Respectfully…both sides are always responsible for behaviors and outcomes in a marriage…some partners more than others…but always, there are two sides, and if there is an irresponsible childish aggressor, there is the partner who may not have dealt with that in the most responsible way. ALWAYS

[@bittersweet3925]

YOU WERE AND ARE ENOUGH. you’re such an amazing person. god has people in our life for a reason, and a timeline with them for a reason too. My dad was unfaithful to my mom throughout their marriage. My mom is Christian and decided to continue the relationship, and your story sounds so similar to hers. She was pregnant though with my older sister, and he wouldn’t come home some nights. And over 10 years after that my dad was still cheating. I grew up seeing my dad check out women in front of my family without shame. Even flirting. My mom doesn’t trust my dad, and at times I was scared of my dad. My sister and I both agree they should have divorced, my mom talks about leaving one day, but I don’t think she ever will. It’s been over 30 years now. I say all this, because I’m glad you’re not in her shoes. You are strong. I’m proud of you. I want you to be happy, and you deserve to be treated well bare minimum, you deserve a lot more than even that.

[@outoftheklosset]

I'm so sorry you and your family went through that and that your mom is still going through it. It must be really upsetting. **hugs and support**💐

[@bittersweet3925]

@@outoftheklosset thank you ♥️

[@kind2423]

Had a father who was similar. His mistresses would call the home phone, leave text messages. I was and I’m still disgusted with him. My mom took so much nonsense from him I pray she has the strength to walk away one day

[@Jdinrbfidndifofkdndjoflfndjdk]

Story starts @ Jump to 6:00 if you don't need disclaimers and/or trigger warnings

[@ceejayhaughton7360]

Thanks

[@codingiscreativity]

I wasted 3 minutes

[@alisalaska1786]

I will never forget my two year old niece randomly telling me, at Walmart, how daddy hit mommy over and over again while motioning pounding fists and how she told daddy no and to stop hurting mommy. I don’t think she remembers it, but I always will. I will always respect my sister for leaving. Thank you for sharing your story! It isn’t talked about enough.

[@sherrriethelyn]

That's terrible. Glad she left alrdy 💖

[@outoftheklosset]

What an awful situation for everyone involved including yourself. I hope your niece and sister never go through violence ever again. ***hugs***💐

[@jenaya_laila2442]

How awful..💔

[@CoolKidsSJJE]

Shell likely have ptsd, I did and it affected my whole life for 30 years until someone finally recognized ptsd which allowed me to learn about it and find healthy coping skills. You dont forget something that traumatic and it scars kids, so please get her therapy early if possible

[@rachelgunlock3941]

I'm so scared watching this video realizing I have so many parallels in my marriage. Words cannot tell you how much I appreciate this video and how much bravery is giving me right now.

[@sara61696]

Wishing you strength and the best of luck ❤️❤️

[@deborahwilliams5809]

🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻Praying for strength for you.

[@Kayscastle]

Don’t worry, life is much better when you do whatever you have to do to take care of yourself. You’re worth it, and doing the brave thing is worth it ❤️ I got myself out of a couple relationships that were bad. The last guy told me he didn’t love me after telling me he loved me for about 5/6 months. I broke up with him, got back together with him & broke up with him again. The whole thing was about 2 years in total. But I’m finally happy & have no regrets :’) I still miss him though, since he has a lot of good traits despite how he could only love me by half.

[@rknrlgrl6146]

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[@familyvideosmakingmemories3590]

Yeah right.

[@rknrlgrl6146]

@@familyvideosmakingmemories3590 yeah right...zero tolerance for violence.

[@outoftheklosset]

@@rknrlgrl6146 same.❤️

[@nfbconnect]

Thank you for saying that from the perspective of someone that has been in a marriage for a long time. You are 💯 right. I’m a DV advocate and if abuse if present even just once you need to leave. You can try to work things out with therapy and help but something needs to be addressed or it will build and blow up.

[@rknrlgrl6146]

@@nfbconnect I truly believe if someone crosses that line once it will happen again. Thank you for your work in being an advocate for victims of DV.

[@JDCUSA]

I’ve been through 2 divorces. My takeaways from the experiences are the following: - There are no guarantees - One cannot control what someone else does. - It’s a miracle that any marriages last and remain happy. - Great communication and mutual attraction and mutual respect are vital in a loving and lasting marriage. I’ve remarried for a third time and so far in 10 years my wife and I have been happy together. I never forget that tomorrow is not guaranteed for any of us so living one day at a time and appreciating each day together is a blessing. I felt extremely pressured into my first marriage and this created a lot of resentment inside of me that surfaced a few years later.

[@l.knight6786]

I understand that he was was angry but it’s so sad how one can throw a hammer in the direction of someone they once loved. I’m glad u got away from the situation. I hope u find nothing but peace and happiness in your future ❤️❤️

[@carla82287]

The other girl was Ari Tata on Twitter. I'm grossed out by her actions as well. She even knew he was married. I'm grossed out. I'm happy she chose to leave the Chaos.

[@jeneinstein]

@@carla82287 how do you know who it is?

[@l.knight6786]

@@carla82287 it’s a shame how a woman can know a man is married and still choose to have a relationship with him. If he cheated on his wife with you then don’t u think he can do the same with you??? She will get her karma

[@annasloan2472]

Also, you mention in your intro that if sharing your story helps just one girl it's worth it- I was struck with the thought that you are that girl that it's helping & you're worth the healing that comes with being open!

[@jesaann93]

Wow! That’s such a great thing to point out! I’m gonna take your words for my own life as well. Thank you for sharing!

[@Amanda-gt6wb]

What a powerful and beautiful way of looking at the situation! I would have never thought of it that way. Just, wow. 💜

[@Nicolelynnn]

You are so brave for this Michel. May this chapter be officially closed

[@lauraroche1401]

Please don’t beat yourself up for not asking the hard questions. He wouldn’t have been honest anyway. You protected yourself from another level of deceit by not asking. I can’t see that you did anything wrong or made any mistakes in the way you dealt with things. You just picked a bad guy and we’ve all done that! You are a truly amazing person with such a pure heart and wonderful soul. You didn’t deserve this. But if it’s helped you to realise your own power then it was worth it.

[@ehubbabubba]

I am one girl that you have helped (are helping)! There are so many parts of your story that I understand and resonate with, and your conviction and commitment to standing up for yourself is empowering me to do the same and also just confirms the kind of situation I was in. Thank you for sharing and continuing to share, you have helped me more than you know!

[@JoyMSZ]

Girl, you made the RIGHT decision to get out of that situation. It's hard to be brave, but you are. You can now live your best life.

[@blueseptember2174]

Girl, here's an alternate for you that you did nothing wrong. I confronted (lovingly) and had the conversations right away. And it didn't make a difference 😅(I laugh because I'll cry otherwise) The ONLY difference is we made it 15 years BUT its harder bc the longer together the more difficult the untangling. It was something wrong with him. Hurt people hurt people and will continue to hurt people long after you unless he heals. And we hope for that because we care. But know you did nothing wrong. When your in the middle of being manipulation it's hard to see it. Hugs to you!

[@ednahenrich3627]

Hugs!

[@misseselise3864]

i just want to say one thing about the hammer thing: up until that physical confrontation, you didn’t know he would be a threat until he threw a hammer at you. had you known he would eventually throw a hammer at you, you wouldn’t have entered the relationship or stayed in it. you’re stuck in a cycle of gas lighting yourself. his behavior is inexcusable. absolutely nothing you did caused his behavior & tbh there’s never a good reason to throw a hammer at someone

[@oliviakilpatrick]

To be fair, I doubt he thought he was capable. Remember, two sides to the story. She’s honoring him despite his obvious failure.

[@lovespellandtarotcardreadi2980]

@@oliviakilpatrick powerful spells that work instantly have been a power house for the successful relationships for ages. Because these love spells are cast with the immense love magic powers specifically to make two people fall deeply in love together. There is no way that the love spells of this kind can ever fail to work most especially if the love magic energies are well balanced to reach out to its targets. Therefore, if you have lost your loved one and then you want -you’re ex lover to get back to you, love spells mostly cast by Professor Puma will give you the perfect results to that. The most effective love spells are far more useful because of their effectiveness in balancing the feelings of the couples and the resurrection of the dead love bond to repair your relationship and make it to be fun and enjoyable to everyone. Here are some of the spells that are cast by Professor Puma -Lost love -Love Readings -Marriage problems -protection spells -Prophecy spells -psychic healing -Get children Message me here on WhatsApp [phone])

[@aubreydeangelo]

Him getting a hotel while you had Covid isn't okay. Him leaving you afterwards isn't okay. I know this was a year ago, but you deserved so much more! Wanting care and nurturing and RESPECT is not asking too much.

[@kellysuter8241]

And I bet he wasn’t alone in that hotel

[@TerryAnnOnline]

I think these days people don’t discuss what led to the divorce and it’s unhelpful. There are reasons why people get divorced and discussing it might help others not make those mistakes.

[@AnthonyManzio]

All married couples end up having 3 some and do swinging too. Never ever get married.

[@Lisa44837]

My son very recently left an abusive partner. He has a psych degree and didn’t even realize what was happening until he was away from his partner for a few weeks. When he was telling me some of the details, I pointed out the abuse and he was defending the other person. It took going back and having a physical altercation for him to realize it was actual abuse. It can happen to anyone. There’s no guarantee that confrontation with your at the time would have done anything but make things worse. You deserve your closure and the opportunity to move forward and a better chance of happiness.

[@DreamingTeen]

Denial can sometimes be such a comfortable purgatory, and you can’t leave until you’re ready. So don’t have any shame or regret in your brain not processing something you weren’t ready for yet. 💕

[@ednahenrich3627]

I love that first sentence! It is so true!

[@sherrriethelyn]

Quote worthy!

[@ChristianTherapist333]

I fully commend you, Michel, for being so transparent in your experience. Gaslighting is almost impossible to explain! Even as a therapist, many need to hear this.❤

[@janm9610]

Our 7 my month marriage was easily broken. We had a major issue and he met someone immediately or perhaps before . I'll never know. His values didn't line up with mine. Everything was about his personal pleasure.

[@janm9610]

My ex husband ( this was his 2nd marriage) had a restraining order placed against him by his 1st wife. I found it online after our divorce ( he was verbally abusive, physically restraining to me). In my mind I STILL tried to give him the benefit of the doubt. Not normal!!

[@Ninkopi]

Respectfully - that guy is such a coward and I'm so glad you left. You fought tooth and nail and you deserve someone who gives as much as you do.

[@jannasantos5440]

You got out of an unhappy marriage at a young age and you have your whole life ahead of you to find someone to love you as you need. Break ups get you closer to the person you're supposed to be with and this heart break has made you a stronger person for your next relationship. Most important thing in life is to have self love and everything else will fall into place...love yourself first!

[@mdnaeem9286]

O h

[@Ivy285]

Completely agree.

[@sandynaranjo2731]

Michel, I don’t know if you know this but your video and honesty are going to help give someone the courage to speak up. Your testimony is going to help someone heal and it’s going to be the biggest blessing to them. Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your life with us. We love you!

[@kclo]

I’ve been sexually assaulted a few times in my life. Every time, it doesn’t matter how old I was, I think I could have done something better or different. That’s how we are wired. You can’t let yourself think that way. You did the best you could in the moment and you shouldn’t be ashamed of it.

[@pipernigrum]

Wow, "a few times," what are the odds?

[@dianaitken7999]

This video made me cry because I can relate so much. The anger, the lack of wanting to communicate. The lack of intimacy, physical and emotional. All of it. Unfortunately my partner and I have a child together which makes it so much more complicated, but watching your journey gives me hope that maybe one day I can start a healthier and happier new chapter too ❤️

[@GS-vi9qc]

Itll happen. Ive been a stable relationship now for over 9 years. And we have a child together on top of the 3 i had with my ex. My oldest is graduating in 8 days and im semi nervous as my ex an i will be in the same building.

[@deborahwilliams5809]

🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@barbarasidlo6957]

You are a precious child of God. It's definitely his loss. Don't you feel guilty for one second ! You will go on to have a full wonderful life and whoever you find as your person is the winner. I'm amazed at your maturity and literally look for your videos every few days

[@jaelynrae8836]

Michel - I love you. You are an incredible woman and I feel throughout this video that you aren’t giving yourself enough credit for the ways you protected yourself through this. I’m a therapist and I just want to acknowledge a few things. 1) You avoided it because it felt threatening to address. This was your brain’s way of protecting you and although hindsight is 20/20, you *couldn’t* overcome that at the time because your body and brain felt unsafe to address it. 2) You did not “allow” this to happen or get yourself into any situation that occurred. You were manipulated, gaslit, and abused by the person you loved. This sort of thing happens in small doses and you almost don’t even notice it until you compare it to the past, like you mentioned. Saying that you allowed this to happen is not the reality as it implies you made choices at that time with all of the information you have now to intentionally hurt yourself and allow yourself to endure pain. You didn’t. You were protecting yourself on a subconscious level. You were doing what you knew how to do. You were gaining strength each day, even if it felt like you were losing it. And here you are, on the other side, knowing that you deserved better. That doesn’t change the hurt but I want you to give yourself permission to say that this situation is not your fault and that you were not permissive to the failing of your marriage. You tried your best and did what you could and there is no wrong way to do that.

[@angelaggarrido7816]

Wow amazing comment ❤️❤️❤️ about your first point, I had never thought about it that way, the fact that sometimes we avoid to address some things because they feel threatening.

[@angelaggarrido7816]

About your second point, I think that's the reason why it's best to leave after the first red flag, other wise those small things become normal and next thing you know you have been manipulated etc and you are in too deep. (Not an specific comment about Michel just a general thing) the more time has passed in this situations the harder is to leave..

[@deborahwilliams5809]

Jaelyn, thank you for this. My husband cheated early on in our marriage resulting in a child that he told me about 4 years later. I thought it was me, that I wasn’t enough for him and he made me believe it for years. He left me and our 2 adult daughters (autism) at the end of 2020. He told me I stole from the family because I had a separate savings account that he didn’t know about. My brother told me that was just an excuse for him to justify leaving. My girls and I are so much more relaxed now that he is gone. I am finally regaining my joy and realizing that I AM enough. It’s hard to see while in the middle of it all. I admire Michel SOOO much for sharing her story, it’s a testament to her strength and character.

[@Liz19955]

This is as if I was telling my story. You’re not alone ❤ getting a divorce is the best thing that ever happened to me.

[@sara61696]

I have so much respect for you. You’re coming out of this heartbreak stronger and better than ever.

[@jc4428]

I've never seen your videos before, probably because I'm so old. As a mom, and grandmother, I'm extraordinarily impressed by how you handled this incredibly difficult situation, and turned it into a learning experience for not only yourself but others. Thank you for sharing this in such a courageous and caring way. I experienced something like this much later in life, and could never express it like you. You are a gift!

[@ntandosekay]

That's exactly what I thought 😂😂😂about myself too. I have 2 nieces and 3 daughters. I am always finding new ways to teach them about relationships and marriage. I found this video to be one of the best lessons.

[@emilycunningham8653]

I went through a very similar situation getting divorced in my late 20’s. I know how hard that is, but you did the right thing 100%. I’m Christian as well and it did take me some time to forgive myself and let it all go. You have an amazing life ahead of you! I now have a wonderful marriage and two incredible daughters. One door closes and 10 more will open up for you. I wish you all the best, you are very brave to put your story out there, I hope it helps some other young women.

[@morningdove8397]

I did too ... in my 20's. I felt so alone. Wish I'd had this video to watch back then. I've now been married 37 years to a wonderful man and rarely even think of the brief time I was married to my ex. The experience Michel describes could be "me" back then. This video she has made will help MANY women. Bless her heart.

[@jenaya_laila2442]

Hi.I hope you don't mind me replying to your comment, but it is very encouraging to me. I'm a Christian as well and just got out of a 21-year abusive relationship and marriage. So you really had a good experience after divorcing? Many great doors opened for you after you left? It's hard for me to imagine that right now. I'm 39 now and kind of feel my life is over.

[@lovespellandtarotcardreadi2980]

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[@garfieldlaut1348]

"like i don't know what to do here and so i finally had to tell him i am going to start listening to what you're actually saying which is not yes you're not saying yes you're not saying no but you're not saying yes and if you need me to be the one to call out the fact that that's not a yes" , thanks for this, brings a lot clarity

[@outoftheklosset]

I feel like your decision to confront your ex's "not yes answers" and essentially ending the marriage via text was very smart in protecting yourself physically. It wasn't a failure, shameful, or anything negative whatsoever. You needed to protect yourself from him and you did so & I hope one day you can see & know that and be proud of yourself. And btw with regards to big feelings and relationship trials... there are no perfect ways to handle them. Unless you're not sharing things that you did (which is perfectly fine) I don't really see how any of your reactions were a fault. Sending you support right now and hope that you never know that fear of being physically hurt again. ***hugs and support***💐

[@taniap2628]

"I had such a fear of being wrong.. but honestly I had a fear of being right." Honestly, I can totally relate to your situation and I think I say this on behalf of all the women and men who have been in a similar position - thank you for sharing your story and for making us feel less alone. You are extremely brave and strong and I pray that you will one day find genuine selfless love. 💕

[@chocoflipify]

Oh my gosh. Michel, look at you. You've come out of this so much stronger. The way how you talk about with such consideration and reflection is truly remarkable. I'm so happy I stumbled across your channel a while ago and having watched you grow into the woman you are today. I hope you feel loved and happy and confident in who you're becoming ❤️❤️❤️

[@BestOffer-ii9ny]

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

[@AfkAliaga]

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

[@fakiriayoub8087]

I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

[@AfkAliaga]

Is he on instagram?

[@MohamedZaitoun-mh9ht]

Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episode, enough to start working on my mental health.

[@designchik]

Whenever I hear about a woman who left because she was scared of her spouse, I think of Shanann Watts and Lacey Peterson. I’m not saying your husband would have killed you, and it doesn’t sound as though that was in his wheelhouse. However, we never think our spouse is capable of doing something so heinous - until they do it. I’m glad you listened to your gut instinct and left before the situation escalated. You have your whole life ahead of you, and that’s a wonderful place to be.

[@Bloquita5]

I recall hearing Dr. Phil McGraw say one day “The worst thing than being alone is being with someone who doesn’t want to be with you.” It stayed with me and it has helped me steer away from what doesn’t bring value to my life or doesn’t serve me well. Wishing you the very best. Not being silent is liberating as the more you word your thoughts, the more you find your essence.

[@desiree8070]

WOW.. Luv this quote!❤

[@blueseptember2174]

You are not alone in the "hammer moment". It was a eye opener for me that even though I can be a wonderful wife, this man could have the potential to kill me as he is so physically strong. And something I'll keep in mind in the future with other relationships.

[@chinita1pr]

When you are a newlywed, we may have a tendency to not say things we see because of fear. Relationships are not as easily broken as we may think. After 18 years of marriage, I can say that finding my voice is the reason we are still together.

[@chrisharris2367]

Cool It sounds like you had a different experience and a relationship that occurred during a different generational time

[@wildolive3630]

Some are easily broken. Those are the ones that need to be broken early on before you waste too much time. It's best to speak up early on so you can find out what kind of person you are married to. It's hard to accept that you may be in a marriage that was doomed from the start. Just because you marry someone from church doesn't mean they have the same values. There are people who come to church strictly to find prey. Good people don't see them coming because they don't think that way.

[@kitty1256x]

Because men don't want to hear a woman, that's why women keep quiet.

[@CarrieLemieux]

So proud of you. Putting yourself out there is a scary thing. Sending you love. Now the healing can really begin.

[@elizabethrivers7623]

Honestly, I’d never heard of your channel before this video randomly appeared on my home page, but I’m so glad the algorithm did put this in my way. Your story hit close to home in an unexpected way and I know the feelings of shame and embarrassment you speak of well. I just wanted to say that you sharing your story is brave and NEEDED. This very broken world needs more vulnerability and more insight on marriage than ever before, and you are a powerful force doing just that! If you ever doubt posting this, don’t; it’s a gift. Second, two thoughts that helped me when I was in a similar situation were “you’re not above toxic people” and “their ability (or lack thereof) to love does not determine your loveability.” I let myself feel so much shame and embarrassment for being cheated on because I felt I allowed myself to become a walking poster that screamed “I’m not enough!! I let myself be cheated on!!” when the truth is, I’m not above falling for toxic, unfaithful, hurtful, (fill in w your adjective of choice) people. I’m human and I had a major lapse in judgement but that doesn’t mean I deserve it and that definitely does not affect my loveability. They could not love me because of their own issues, not because I failed to bring it out of them. Not really sure if these words do much for you, but know I’m inspired by you and this video and that I’m praying for complete healing from this situation and abundant blessings in your relationships to come. God bless you🤍

[@logo9470]

@Elizabth Rivers. Their ability to love does not determine my loveability. Wow how profound! We all need to remember tha. Thank you for sharing.

[@mariedurand406]

1 I am so incredibly sorry you had to go through that. 2. you are not a failure in anyway, and your vulnerability is a strength 3. thank you so very very much for sharing your story

[@musicuty]

This whole video is me. It’s like my story from someone else’s mouth, and I’m so thankful you made this video.

[@EpicFandomVogue]

I pray better for you both ❤

[@lostinspace699]

@@EpicFandomVogue No ...

[@restyledbyash]

Obviously didn't watch the video yet since you just posted it, but THANK YOU for your vulnerability and for trusting us all with this part of your story. 💜💜

[@Krislynner]

This was a brave and vulnerably honest video, Michel. 💗 First and foremost: You are not responsible for what happened in your marriage. Sadly, and through no fault of your own, your marriage was not one of equal love and respect. What you experienced in your marriage instead was emotional, mental and physical abuse 💔 The hammer does not need to hit you for it to be considered abuse. What you experienced was attempted assault and is actually criminal. By cheating on you, withdrawing physical and emotional affection, gaslighting you, and lying to you (just to name a few), your ex committed mental and emotional abuse in addition to physical abuse. I suspect you did not bring up your fears of infidelity because you were afraid, deep down, of your ex. He engineered things that way. You don’t owe him anything. I hope that with time and therapy you continue along this beautiful path of healing that you are gifting yourself.💗💗Be blessed ~Krislynner

[@emiliadonoghue6770]

well said, that is exactly what I see as well.

[@justlaura7177]

Michel, I’m tearing up as I write this when I think of the pain and fear you went through. Your grace and strength in sharing this is unmatched and I am thanking God that He protected you and has brought you out of it. I fully believe that you have God’s blessing to have divorced, especially since biblically we are allowed to walk away when the partner has broken the marriage contract through cheating. I’m going to be adding you to my prayers and will continue watching your amazing channel. Love you girl.

[@KelseyGibson]

Perfectly said ❤️

[@stephaniefythm]

I went through a lot of financial crisis during my divorce, I had to raise my two kids alone, Currently I'm living smart and frugal with my money. Bought my second house already. Saving and investing lifestyle made it possible for me; even till now I earn monthly through passive income. I'm planning on retiring when my kids finish college.

[@eadad4371]

I'm a single dad. Not quite long I started investing. I'm very curious and need help on how to enhance and increase my returns. Any good investment tips would be appreciated

[@stephaniefythm]

@@eadad4371 Generally, investing requires higher knowledge. For this reason, It's important to have a solid support structure (financial consultant) to guide you through especially in asset picking. I operate with (Regina Louise Collaro) an investment advisor who partners with a licensed wealth management firm. For the record, the experience has been the best for my finance.She is quite popular for her services so you might have heard of her. She made me financially stable investing through her help, now I earn on a monthly basis through her passive income strategy... So I’ll advise you do get a good Investment advisor for yourself.

[@eadad4371]

@@stephaniefythm That’s great , your investment advisor must be really good,I have seen testimonies of people using the help of investment advisors in making them more financial stable. Do you mind sharing more info on this person?

[@stephaniefythm]

@@eadad4371 look her up on the internet and leave her a message she's quite popular for her services as she was recently featured on cnn. She can work with anyone irrespective of where their located

[@emeldcentor1474]

@@stephaniefythm After I ended my marriage last year, I have had the intentions of starting investing. But I always thought it was late and I think I need to stop procrastinating. I will definitely 🔍 Regina Louise Collaro and see what she can advise .Thanks a lot . This was of so much help to me .

[@helenstratigos4862]

You deserve genuine love, respect, loyalty and true connection. None of what your ex did is your fault. It is all on him. You experienced abuse and neglect. I wish you happiness going forward! ❤️❤️❤️

[@sara61696]

Totally agree. And just a PSA for anyone reading- if you ever find yourself begging for just an hour of your partners time, RUN.

[@helenstratigos4862]

@@sara61696 Yes, that's a disheartening but clear sign!

[@mds6602]

I don’t think you should ever feel embarrassed for his actions. We can never predict how our partner will react in a situation. Someone May seem non violent but if put in a situation they may flip a switch. Thank you for sharing. I hope you find true love and are happy.

[@roserodrigues8530]

Michel, here I am, also getting divorced in my mid-20s, also due to infidelity not on my part that wasn't confirmed until after things ended. I see you, I hear you, and I'm proud of us both for having learnt and moved on.

[@loytoco]

Hugs.

[@veganrue354]

So sorry

[@reneecatrine]

Wishing you healing and peace.

[@user-ve4zw6jp9i]

29 and yes same . Been 1 month

[@Jillianreissig]

Currently going through a divorce. I still pray for him daily, that his heart would soften. Very similar things happened in my marriage and I learned that I allowed him to blame me for so many wrong things.. for boundaries being crossed with other women. For reacting when I went through dark times mentally and bad physical health issues but having no support. I still tend to take the blame for the whole marriage. I don’t want to be a victim either. It’s so hard

[@arnoldwalker627]

That’s so sad for such a young girl went through all of that. I’m sorry about your situation I hope and pray the lord God should touch his heart. So sad

[@Jillianreissig]

@@arnoldwalker627 thank you so much!

[@helenalexanderbristow1187]

I’m sorry what did you do wrong? Went through all this video and nothing that you said was your fault. I am sorry but you went through the vows through a Christian wedding. He committed adultery. The only person who did something wrong was him, please do not blame anything of this on you. Also throwing something at you like a hammer is domestic violence. Thank goodness you are out of this situation and looking forward. You need time out to process and look forward and when you are ready (please do not rush into anything) I hope you find someone who is committed to you and treats you with respect and kindness. And the one lesson to take out of this is to remember to listen to that gut of yours, seems extremely wise.xxxxx

[@brittneyvetten1957]

She's acknowledging that she saw the signs of the toxic behavior and didn't confront him about it when she felt it. I'm 100% not saying anything negative about that, I have been in a marriage mental, emotional and almost physical abuse. She's holding herself accountable to not bring it up when she saw the early signs. She's hoping that bringing this to light now and acknowledging it can save someone in the future in a similar situation.

[@kristinacollins8380]

I think she's saying she should have questioned him more (asked to see his phone, brought up the other girl during counseling, etc.) I don't see that as "wrong" though but a hindsight is 20/20 type of "trust your gut" situation.

[@helenalexanderbristow1187]

@@brittneyvetten1957 She should never feel that it is her fault though. People in toxic relationships can be made to feel this way, like it is their behaviour that is the problem. It seems she wanted the relationship to work so much, I really feel for her. I hope that she gives herself time to heal. As a Christian and someone who has been in her shoes it can be so difficult to confront and ask the difficult questions (living in denial) but it is the only way to gain truth and move forward. I hope that she gives herself time to heal.

[@brittneyvetten1957]

@@helenalexanderbristow1187 it's more so her acknowledging she should have spoken up about those red flags and not so much her saying his actions were her fault. I've been in her situation, very much the same scenario as her from the details she has revealed. I get whay she's saying. Like it maybe wouldn't have continued as long or spiraled into even more toxicity had she voiced something but that's something that will always be an unknown.

[@helenalexanderbristow1187]

@@brittneyvetten1957 I have been in a similar situation to. It is so easy to not speak up when something is of concern and live in denial. I had suspicions of a past partner cheating on me (Found out he was), it was the fear of losing him if I knew the truth. But what I did not understand ( I was much younger then) it would eventually come out and end our relationship, I was prolonging the inevitable. After reflection I realised that the situation was toxic to my own well-being and did I really want to be with a guy that treated me this way, obviously not. I am so glad she is out of this situation and can move on and find a life worthy of her rather than under somebody’s toxic shadow. She needs her time in the sun. Shine bright lady!

[@nursecynthiamusiel]

I dealt with my spouse’s infidelity a few times within our 21 year marriage. I kept trying but he was no longer in. It was harder on me than our teenaged kids. You are lucky you got out early while young. 💞

[@CallHerCassie]

Thinking of you girl. There’s some deep rooted issues on his side that you never could have known and he’ll continue to experience relationships like this until he figures himself out

[@b.k.701]

I can relate all too well to being gaslit to the point that you start gaslighting yourself, especially when you want to be precise and avoid prematurely blaming others and take full responsibility for your actions. You come across as so articulate and self-aware that I have faith you'll find your way through whatever comes your way. ♥️

[@lin-zchang4774]

Thank you for having the courage to share your story Michel. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship in college and to this day feel scared to discuss it, so I am in awe of your courage to speak out and I know that God can use your story to help others. I think you did an amazing job communicating what happened in a respectful and mature way. One thing that I noticed in your story that I think exemplifies the very nature of being gaslit was how you described the day that you left CA. You mentioned that your ex told you that he was scared to wake up alone the next day, and your love and concern for him prompted you to check in with him periodically throughout that evening. When you mentioned later on that you saw the charges on your account and knew he was lying to you about where he was and who he was spending time with, it just stood out to me that he consciously chose to lie in such a way that it triggered you to be concerned on his behalf and manipulated you into checking in on him out of love and concern. He could have told a different kind of lie that day, but chose to say something that encouraged you to continue to reach out to him and made you feel anguish on his behalf. That is a snapshot of abuse. I hope and pray for him to have healing and growth, and that he can learn from his mistakes in his future relationships, and I pray that you will continue to find healing and peace in abundance. I hope you can see someday that absolutely none of this was your fault. It is mature and wise to think about what you could have done differently, to learn from that and avoid the same mistakes in the future, but please do not feel like you are a failure.

[@christy406]

When you said that (paraphrasing here) 'i didnt want to admit that i chose a partner who would behave in that manner' That statement is extremely powerful and resonated with me. There are times, im sure many wives have felt this whether they admit it or not, that their spouse behaves or speaks in such a horrid way... and then our instinct is to somehow feel shame! Shame in OURSELVES for choosing someone capable of being that way. Why we keep blaming ourselves even when its another person doing the damage. Why do we do this?

[@rogelioh3683]

You don't know who is capable of this. It doesn't matter if it is a man or a woman. You make your best choice at the time. Saying otherwise is just ignorant.

[@christy406]

@@rogelioh3683 Thanks for your reply. I think you missed my point entirely, but im glad something i wrote moved you to interact.

[@juansebastiantorressanchez6726]

I just think that there are not a perfect victim.

[@dinavienna]

True !

[@Isabelle.B]

I think they blame themselves because in most cases, there are red lights at the beginning of the relationship but they put it aside and carry on out of curiosity and beliefs that it is gonna get better. Later on in the relationship, the true picture is merging and of course, things don’t get better and so they think they failed. But that’s not the case. It is only that they wanted so much holding on to happiness and love, and they’ve been deceived, cheated. Our education doesn’t prepare us to be good spouses and parents, there is so much work to be done on that field. Maybe the future generations will do better…

[@imvanessa3596]

I'm usually a silent viewer, but today I really want to send you a comment. Michel, I'm sitting here on the couch right now with tears streaming down my face because I can so empathize. Even with my past relationship, something bad had to happen for me to realize that this was not the man I once loved. I made it out of the relationship, I'm glad you did too. We deserve the best. Thank you so much for this video and your great courage. You helped me and I'm sure you helped other girls too. Now the time has come to be happy and I am very much looking forward to the future. Big hugs to you ♡ (sorry if i made mistakes, english is not my native language)

[@Orozco3721]

Sending love to you Vanessa and glad to hear that you are in a better place. Ps your comment was worded perfectly fine, and you are welcome to add your thoughts anytime, we don't mind if there's a language error. ❤️

[@banished4eva]

Hey beautiful girl, you explained everything eloquently. I could picture the whole thing in my head. And thank God you're out of it, even though im sure there'd be things you miss. But girl oh girl, you deserve so much more than you can possibly imagine

[@melody_shmelody]

We’ve been following this story and praying for your healing throughout. Reading these comments shows me what power your story has to motivate others to get out of toxic relationships and situations. Thank you.

[@courtneywilliams9530]

Agreed.

[@Kudos2Ewe]

The way you spoke and handled this with grace is so incredibly inspiring. I got divorced at 24 almost 3 years ago and I am still so incredibly bitter. Thank you for sharing this.

[@EMichaelBall]

Ayahuasca might manage the bitterness. A self-respecting man won’t want to stay with such psychological scars that might be subconsciously projected onto him.

[@donbrabo]

@@EMichaelBall To be very honest, if I were to be single and I would find a broken lady I would want nothing more but to help show her there is still so much to love and learn about life and yourself. And I have a lot of self respect, as do many other men. Boys play around, men make a plan and fix stuff.

[@lorigail2400]

Andrea I know it’s so difficult to forgive someone who you totally trusted and then betrayed that trust. But please, do it for you, you won’t regret it. It doesn’t mean you accept what they did, it just means you’ve your being obedient to Christ whom tells us to forgive. If we don’t then neither can we be forgiven. It totally healed my heart. Otherwise I’d be so bitter. I just couldn’t live with the bitterness. I spent several years in my marriage so bitter. God had me stay til I forgave him.

[@legalfictionnaturalfact3969]

@@lorigail2400 you're off track. firstly, there's no magic man in the sky. we are the ones who are real, and there is one life, so make it count. don't kick back and say "magic man has plan"... instead, determine and follow your CALLING. you and only you are responsible for that. secondly, bitterness has its place. coffee is bitter, cacao is bitter, medicinal herbs are often bitter. no one is obligated to forgive, and it's not whether one forgives or not that makes her bitter. it's knowing that the world has been supporting sick behavior and letting it happen while blaming the victim. especially when the victim is female. let's stop focusing on how the victims is supposed to feel and start focusing on bringing full JUSTICE to the perps. that is the best therapy, not "forgiveness" or talking to a stranger with some degree in an office.

[@BlueEyes3121]

It’s so hard to say the word abuse - but once you say it it can’t be taken back … and there is freedom in the truth. ❤️ wishing you all the best as you move forward in your life.

[@pametenorio9811]

A christian "counselor" is NOT a therapist! At least he was honest and said he was biased about his marriage position but yep, a therapist who's biased? What the heck is that?

[@anastasiab4391]

Having been in an abusive relationship I could tell as you were talking how much he must have blamed you and made you feel at fault. Even down to the “he did it bc of his own trauma”. It’s his voice in his head defending himself, not yours. One day you’ll have clarity and realize he was in the wrong and you did not deserve any of it. He seems incredibly toxic and I’m so glad you got out of that. People like that will always cheat and lie, it has nothing to do with you not being enough. When you said you were thankful for the “gift” he gave you of telling you he cheated it broke my heart. You’re so respectful and kind to him and still give him the benefit of the doubt, and the sad situation is that people pleasing and nonconfrontational people are the biggest targets for manipulative people like him :( they get you to turn against yourself and that’s why it’s so hard to confront them, because they will always find a way to turn it on you. I know you’re not ready to say this but I will: he sucks lol