Mindset After Marriage: Part 2 (Bad Habits)

[@lionar9225]

One of the realest podcasts out there and I can see they are sincere brothers. May Allah reward them

[@junedahmed8380]

Silentmajority are hitting things that I’ve never heard in other podcasts, not just the basic typical stuff, but providing a unique perspective on things. Got to see a part 3 to this.

[@MedinaPrivilége]

Soooo good!! So much great advice here. I agree, work on becoming the best version of yourself before marriage because we attract who and what we are not who we pretend to be. 🙏

[@By_Aleeya]

MashAllah, a very mature and real conversation on the topic of marriage which i'm sure many of us will find beneficial. Jzk.

[@Jdo-sx1nr]

I remember you 😮

[@MP-fy6nk]

Amazing episode. Accountability is genuinely the biggest issue

[@AKAK-hr7ug]

8:40 should this the standard question in marriage talks along with 1. Do you smoke? 2. Do you drink Alcohol 3. Do you watch haram stuff? 4. Have you been in a relationship before? I’m thinking of doing doing a website for marriage and I intend to have pre-questions - any questions from this audience? 12:00 ✅✅✅✅Closer to Allah swt

[@Silentmajority-podcast]

Good luck 🙏, brilliant idea

[@Jay-bc7kh]

These are obvious questions - and people will lie about it to get what they want

[@authorrahimaislam8461]

He hit the nail on the head. People just don't fear Allah (SWT).

[@AK-bk8rt]

Acceptability...accountability...accountability!!!!

[@hodanabdulkadir9019]

Wow amezing podcast this podcast became my favorite because the tangible advices and honestly I love it everything the brothers said I couldn’t agree there more we need more this brother advices jazaka Allah qayr

[@_shadxn]

JazakAllahu kheiran brother, this advice is golden, May Allāh reward you with good in this dunya and akhirah🌷🌷🌷✨🤍🤍🤍🌸🌸

[@chrbx13]

Loool I'd never feel secure in a relationship if the man had a wondering eye. Glancing at someone because they're in your view is entirely different to staring as well. So if I was getting to know someone and they were behaving like that I wouldn't think they'd change for me. The first telltale sign for me would be if they were only with me because they found me physically attractive. That's lust not love, and such a lame shortsighted reason to want to marry someone. Also wanting to change and then feeling like you NEED to change a bad habit are two different things. If you feel like you need to then it means you don't want to change deep down, so it'll be harder.

[@SHABEJ999]

Some good points made my brother Lais

[@nazme89]

Brother, great work across the topics you have covered in detail. However just a kind observation I believe of recent months the podcast has a slight femcentric narrative and you are quicker to point out the flaws of Muslim men, rightly so when justified however I think your first episodes were more balanced highlighting the challenges both genders face. Even your guest mashallah corrected your statement on men just gazing/zina/promiscuity or more colourful language you used to address the men. This obvs doesn't apply to god fearing brothers. Especially thinking nowadays unfortunately this also applies to sisters because of the likes of social media and hypersexual society we live in. Great work just a naseeha in making sure we don't isolate but include both brothers and sisters in a constructive manner to grow as a ummah and stop the divide insha'Allah. We collectively need to be accountable.

[@Silentmajority-podcast]

Thank you brother I think, that’s constructive. Wait for the next episode 🙏

[@nazme89]

@@Silentmajority-podcast thank you for hearing the feedback and being on the mark with the topics discussed. I look forward to the next episode insha'Allah. Keep on carrying the good fight on this podcast.

[@ik5441]

Wow, such a stark contrast of how podcasts like these can do so much good and equally a lot of bad. Just within this podcast itself, excellent advice from the guest, work on yourself, try be the best person you can be for your spouse and he gave some examples i.e. hitting the gym because he hasn't yet got her, but to carry that on till death. Be selfless not selfish. Unfortunately and maybe unintentionally the host comes up with the topic of women dressing up and looking good for their husband. He offers the reasoning that maybe a man is not doing enough for her to want to. That completely destroys the great message the guest had made. Why are we training women or even men for that matter to think in this way that "he or she needs to make me feel a certain way before i dress up for him/her or do anything for him/her. The host has just offered a vicious circle which exists in the marriage crisis and can be applied to any topic on marital issues. I ask the host where did it begin? Did the issue begin with woman not dressing up for the man? Obviously he thinks not, he feels that the husband should have made her feel like she wanted to. Ok so lets just use a lame example, something really stupid like buying her flowers. So IF he buys her flowers ONLY then will she want to dress up for him? Perhaps the man can argue that she doesn't do anything for him wanting to buy her flowers then. Where does the issue begin and where does it end? We need to promote self accountability and improvement. Its easy to pin the blame on the other gender. We will be accountable to Allah for our actions, our inability to give the rights owed to the other. He or she will be accountable for the wrong they did, but for us to say we failed on our obligations and duties because we didn't get out rights won't wash..... we had to deliver on their rights regardless.

[@haleemahahmed904]

I don’t think that’s what the host was promoting - think he was simply trying to say that love is fostered . If you are kind caring and compassionate then it’s natural that someone (especially your spouse ) will want to reciprocate and do something to make you happy . To often on social media marriage is portrayed as a transactional relationship but if you treat it like an enhanced important friendship then it will be a lost easier (in my humble opinion )

[@owlmaths418]

Hosts belly 🤣🤣🤣

[@Silentmajority-podcast]

😮😅

[@hussainsharmin661]

😂😂😂😂 what's wrong about hrs belly