Part 3 - She Used My Child As A Weapon ( No One Wins)

In this gripping finale, the masked man talks about the realities and effects this kind of abuse has on families, ties and wider society.
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[@MedinaPrivilége]

I’ve become such a HUGE fan of this show!! This story was my favorite because it really resonated with me. This platform is a such a blessing to those who have been deeply wounded by life by allowing them a safe place to release their story. I pray it blesses others the same way it has me. Specific to this story, parts 1,2 &3 I appreciate the courage this young man has to come forward to talk about his painful experience. All too often we forget that men also go through horrendous and atrocious situations with relationships but they aren’t given the space to talk. Bravo to the host for his time and dedication as well as the beautiful empathy he shows to each guest he interviews. 👏

[@moussifer]

Very well summarised. The children need both parents in their lives. Cutting ties of kinship in Islam is a major sin. Just because relationship has broken down, the children should never be used as pawns to seek revenge. The punishment for such opression awaits those parents who commit such crimes in the hereafter.

[@Truthseeker-le3hm]

There are a lot of women who will accuse men of domestic violence, rape ect and play the victim if they are unable to wrap their husbands around their finger. They may have jealousy towards his family members, so they will cause arguments for no reason and because they are just sadistic. Some of these women will take advice from their own mother, and sisters will be wrecking their marriage using her to get her husband to provide for their household. I can resonate with this man and feel his pain, i do believe he's speaking to the truth because i have seen this in my own family. When a man has a woman whose evil with evil inlaws just ask Allah for guidance. Some men go through domestic viloane for 20+ years, and when he calls for a divorce, he gets the police arresting him for rape but there were no alegations before. It takes one woman to make a family or break a family. And i am a woman saying this

[@hussainsharmin661]

@@Truthseeker-le3hm this are narcissistic who will do that

[@smb9404]

@@Truthseeker-le3hm my son was in the same boat but Alhamdulillah divorced her after 6 months trying. He was praying she would change. As soon as she was done making up lies against the old parents he was next. How does a man function with no sleep. She wanted all her rights but none of his were fulfilled as a caring partner. He made his disabled mom wash his clothes when he couldn't because of work etc just so he didn't have to ask her. He had to majority time eat at work or go bed hungry but she made sure to make him buy her takeaway most times although he was happy to do this. She had a made up lie or argument ready every day after he came back from doing a 12 hr shift at work. He Only wished for her to pipe down and give him peace at home and work, becauseshewouldstillbe in contact afterhe left for work. She continued her behaviour. And he broke down. Alhamdulillah he's getting past it. Her loss. Such evil women in this world. No fear of Allah

[@Jumboslice-h1o]

I like this brudda similar mindset to mine, man refuse to be a victim his going strong Allahumma barik best advice to men, move on get a upgrade anything that’s not her is a upgrade, also keep making dua to Allah to guide our children, and reunite with fathers like him Ameen

[@jdkhan5620]

Both families sounds like gangsters 😅

[@hodanabdulkadir9019]

This brother already figured it out and the only thing to add is avoid all noises the main focus has to be how you’ll have a good relationship with your daughter that’s all it matters right now good luck and may allaah make it easy your situation ameen

[@ruqaiyahkhan8145]

I think she was still in love with him or like he said, she probably feels ‘used’ or ‘taken advantage of’ and has taken this route, which isn’t right unfortunately.

[@naziyat]

The brother is brave for coming on & I feel sorry for what happened to this father. But his point about “what triggers insanity or attacks on the street” is exactly my question : what did he do to trigger his ex wife so bad? I know he says he didn’t do anything but this just makes no sense. Nonetheless, he makes a valid point on education & how all of this really does arise from a lack of proper knowledge on the Deen.

[@smb9404]

MAN UP . CRACK ON. MY SON DIVORCED HIS NARCISSISTIC WIFE AFTER 6 MONTHS. SHE WOULDN'T LET HIM EAT SLEEP WORK BUT WANTED ALL HER RIGHTS WHICH HE GAVE. THANK ALLAH SWT HE TOOK HIS STEP. HER OWN FAMILY WRRE SAD FOR MY SON. LET HER FIND HER NEXT VICTIM. I PRAY SHE GETS HIDAYAH BEFORE THAT

[@fathiyabarkadle5053]

Masha Allah I really intrigued by how this channel delivers such much needed content for our Muslim ummah...this touches every corner of the world. Your Somali sister in States 🙂

[@Silentmajority-podcast]

Alhamdullilah, appreciate the kind words. SM Admin team

[@thecultarchives3440]

Too much effeminate pandering to these feminist, indoctrinated females by host, it's utterly pathetic, dare not mention the legislation (Shari'ah) of Islam & you're blatantly justifying secularised unislamic laws, you're a big part of the problem by these feminist propaganda narratives, pathetic, blatantly enabling feminist propaganda. "Take them to the cleaners" is a statement of disbelief & against Islam, need to repent for such blatant anti-Islamic kufr which completely undermines the whole point of these episodes...💯

[@pamk380]

When I heard that there were 15 men outside your parent’s house, that triggered me, how the hell are they doing that to your family? I hope all their parents never get a scare like this wallahi they would not be able to handle it! I don’t even have the words to express how I feel, pure anger and rage!

[@kamranhussain3234]

A great episode and one that definitely is a good end to this trilogy! Lot of valuable lessons and gems to be taken from this - may Allaah grant us all the capability to increase in the good that we do and help us all to remain patient during testing times!

[@Mace23q]

This brother is an absolute legend. May Allah bless you. Everything I wanted to say you have said. For the interviewer. Great episode. But please don’t pander to getting both sides. Woman have their own platform.

[@Finggy]

Great guest.

[@ryhanuddin1098]

Man said boris bike that’s my new one 😂😂😂

[@abdulsamadissa4177]

44:01 totally agree , these Dawah guys have a large female following due to the men bashing .

[@hussainsharmin661]

If she's narcissistic she doesn't love her child either if shes narcissistic she marrys a empath and the empath divorcees her because of what she did this narcissistic will never find another empath she will end up marrying a narcissistic. When a narcissistic marrys a good person who's an empath she will never be able to find empath again she will always attract narcissistic.

[@MedinaPrivilége]

This! ☝️

[@ariaz16]

Also narcissistic people usually have a tendency to ‘take revenge’ when things don’t go their way, usually the minute they lose control of the empath, i.e. when the empath has had enough

[@hussainsharmin661]

@@ariaz16 thats true I guess this happened to the brother she took revenge on him by not letting him have contact with the kids and giving false allegations on the court. That's what they do when they can't get stuff done in their ways. they will never find empath again the next person they go to marry he will be narcissistic and he will be faking to be empath 😆😆😆😆

[@abumaalik9272]

This woman's family is making east London man's look wet 😂😂😂 brother from north got more character and honour

[@yougotlemz770]

3 episodes in, how is brother finding oxygen under that balaclava? Really informative episodes 👍

[@chrbx13]

Loooolll😂

[@thecultarchives3440]

Too much effeminate pandering to these feminist, indoctrinated females by host, it's utterly pathetic, dare not mention the legislation (Shari'ah) of Islam & you're blatantly justifying secularised unislamic laws, you're a big part of the problem by these feminist propaganda narratives, pathetic, blatantly enabling feminist propaganda. "Take them to the cleaners" is a statement of disbelief & against Islam, need to repent for such blatant anti-Islamic kufr which completely undermines the whole point of these episodes...💯

[@unknownasmrqueen2138]

This is not an excuse however We cant always blame peoples parents for the children behavour . Bcz if their daughter lies about u to her family and only Allah knows what She Said then its not really strange they believe her and plot against u . On the other hand i really hate when people protect blood in the Times they know they are wrong . Haqq is haqq and u have to tell the truth even if it goes against your blood or yourself but sadly most muslims today dont fear Allah and have No iman. They follow culture and nafs and thats why our muslim ummah is suffering worldwide. They want to pick and choose when to follow islam and not but thats not How it works.

[@AfiiR8]

I completely agreed with the brother but his reference to women kind is very degrading. An upgrade? Come on. And no I am not a feminist.

[@SunShine-iy4ik]

After listening to all 3 episodes I can’t seem to deduce what the reason was for the demise of this guys marriage. Does anyone know?

[@chrbx13]

Yeahh same I was wondering that too, they never got into that... It might've given us the full picture perhaps, not saying he's chatting shit or anything

[@muhammad5272]

Considering what his ex did to him she was a spiteful nasty scum of the earth. He could have done wrong but he wouldn't have deserved that. Couples just don't get on and marriages break down

[@jdkhan5620]

I wonder why court didn't side with him despite her being on the wrong. My brother in law had similar situation but the court ordered his ex to drop off the kids to his house bi-weekly. So this man's story sounds fishy.

[@thecultarchives3440]

​@@jdkhan5620absolute jahil slanderous, mat Allaah bring you fully to account swiftly for such blatant evil comment, Aameen... misandrist, unislamic devil...💯

[@thecultarchives3440]

Too much effeminate pandering to these feminist, indoctrinated females by host, it's utterly pathetic, dare not mention the legislation (Shari'ah) of Islam & you're blatantly justifying secularised unislamic laws, you're a big part of the problem by these feminist propaganda narratives, pathetic, blatantly enabling feminist propaganda. "Take them to the cleaners" is a statement of disbelief & against Islam, need to repent for such blatant anti-Islamic kufr which completely undermines the whole point of these episodes...💯

[@MP-fy6nk]

Appreciate the host for calling out the use of that bicycle term that was derogatory AF to divorced women. Many of the sahabat were divorced and/or remarried multiple times. Let's be responsible in our language.

[@RubinaBegum-v4b]

Lol I think everyone was waiting for the 1st pretentious woman to get triggered, congratulations you take the award for that. Don't compare the society of today and the women of today to sahabiaat. The brother is right, it is not cool to be divorced and remarried 100 times over and trashing kids lives along the way. The sahabiaat did not do what the women of today are doing. Those women took marriage seriously. They spoke to their husbands as we speak to our kings as the famous saying goes. There are always exceptions, but exceptions don't define the rule. The brother clearly made dua for the sister who are divorced and don't play nasty. Rather than making it about you and making it personal, you should maybe see what the brother is saying in the right context. Look at the over riding message rather than isolating a single comment. Why did it trigger are, are you 5 times divorced and pissed? Why the hate about the Boris bike comment? Would you have preferred he said Lime Bikes?

[@MP-fy6nk]

@@RubinaBegum-v4b pick meeeeee

[@TheFatMan]

Divorced is keyword, majority women today get khula and then cry about being a single mother

[@AmarNawaz-zq4mi]

I went something similar with my ex

[@neela3698]

lol..why does the interviewer always interrupt his guest's mid sentence to shout out his sponsors. Maybe wait until the guest has finished his immediate point or do it at the outset. Also I understand your interview approach is very fluid and spontaneous but maybe have some kind of interview questions prepared so that it flows and the audience can follow the guests content easily. The points above are meant with respect as you have some fantastic guests.

[@Silentmajority-podcast]

Thank you for your feedback. With the greatest respect, if you’ve watched part 1 and 2, it’s quite hard not to catch on. Also, our team, host and guests meticulously plan to deliver in the unique way we do. The host just makes it look seamless alhamdullilah. With the greatest respect, we invite all feedback, especially constructive, but this comment has no substance at all 🙏 We will continue to strive in serving our communities Insha’Allah. SM Admin team

[@chrbx13]

I don't understand this, it does flow?! Are we watching the same thing here 😂😭 His questions are on point as they facilitate understanding and provide clarity whilst keeping it entertaining!! He knows when to intervene and ask questions and when to let the guest tell their story. Makes it a breeze to follow along and I'm saying this as someone with ADHD. Top Tip..maybe watch part 1&2 first and then it'd make more sense to ya? Hating isn't good for sleeping 😘

[@neela3698]

@Silentmajority-podcast Firstly the issues you raise in your shows are excellent and I applaud you for addressing these. Secondly the host comes across as very sincere to the issues which is also very positive. I have watched all 3 episodes before I commented and gave feedback. The intention was to give feedback which I felt would make it easier to follow as their are usually more than just two parties involved I.e. extended families etc. I do wish you all the best with the channel and the good work you do with raising the issues and challenging adverse behaviour. As you feel there is no substance to the points I raise, please disregard my feedback, my intention was never to just be negative, it was meant to be constructive as I believe your channels content is very important to be raised and discussed. Inshallah your channel will continue to grow and continue its positive impact on addressing these issues. Peace ✌️

[@MP-fy6nk]

I agree with you the episodes are great to watch but the host is so abrupt and needs to learn about a smoother segue haha

[@Silentmajority-podcast]

⁠@@neela3698 Insha’Allah, you sound very genuine and we appreciate that. What we don’t want is people with malign intentions to leave negative comments for the sake of being negative, it harms the message that will benefit so many people. (From your response, it is evident, you are not one of these people 🙏. We will always strive to make a real impact Insha’Allah. Thank you for your kind words and please share this channel with your friends, families and communities. SM Admin team

[@sanikarim171]

The interviewer doesnt let any of his guests speak lol

[@madcrypto1235]

Cant trust none of them.

[@AmarNawaz-zq4mi]

First comment part 3

[@muslimincel]

lol shup up

[@mohammedrahman895]

@neela3698 so from the entire trilogy, this is all you’ve taken and felt the need to say?? I think you need to start using subtitles, clearly you weren’t listening . If you’re mentally challenged, apologies. Straight hating comment though. It’s bad!

[@janineibzVV]

28.57 in: so stabbing a wife 50 odd times has to have been something what has pushed him to do such an evil?! I.e the fault of the woman? The same with throwing acid onto a wife's face! Basically you are blaming a woman for an unhinged unbalanced psycho who has pushed him to commit a heinous evil crime, that's twisted.

[@Helalbhai]

Yes.

[@jay-ck6rt]

Actions have consequences’ sharp tounge and hurtful words need to have consequences or else she’ll walk all over you. If he can do the crime he’ll do the time too. You women poke men for years then play victim.

[@nazme89]

Brother, again great to have a contrasting guest to your current themes and look at issues where men are the victims of injustice. However again you were looking at issues plighting men but again reframing some of the conversations about men doing wrong. This wasnt the case when you were looking at female led issues and bashing our sisters. I think its important to remain balanced in spite of the issues. Like if sisters are facing injustice lets call it out rightly so, but lets also have that balance when looking at issues impacting brothers and not blame them at the same time. This guests was able to articulate his points very well i must add. As you did it would be good to bring on professional guests as you did with other topics where you dissect the root cause of this so we learn.

[@Silentmajority-podcast]

Point taken, thank you 🙏. The reason why I stifled the all out bashing of sisters is to maintain integrity (it takes two hands to clap), Also, I/we are men from a society/religion we’re all out war on the womenfolk will never sit right. I reiterate, we are men. Appreciate the feedback though 🙏 Host

[@nazme89]

@@Silentmajority-podcast I think it's right that you did if there is bashing of women and let's call it out. However I'm also for not bashing men unjustly either which unfortunately we see in the mainstream and has seeped to the community with stereotypes but showing how we can combat this gender war Muslims are facing with accountability and constructive solutions for all. I appreciate your platform as well, great work as always just wanted to highlight some constructive feedback. Allahu alam, insha'Allah you continue to cover hard hitting topics with solutions for all the ummah to benefit from insha'Allah.

[@Silentmajority-podcast]

@@nazme89 thank you. I appreciate your analysis and kind words 🙏. If I can kindly ask everyone including yourself, to share with family, friends, everyone. Only through awareness will we make a change. Host

[@nazme89]

@@Silentmajority-podcast insha'Allah. I look forward to seeing your future content. Given this current intense topic if we also have good news stories of positive examples of the ummah, so we don't just focus on the social hysteria but show shining examples in the community insha'Allah. I know unfortunately misery sells, but would be good to mix up the content now and again brother. Amazing work and keep it going.

[@thecultarchives3440]

Too much effeminate pandering to these feminist, indoctrinated females by host, it's utterly pathetic, dare not mention the legislation (Shari'ah) of Islam & you're blatantly justifying secularised unislamic laws, you're a big part of the problem by these feminist propaganda narratives, pathetic, blatantly enabling feminist propaganda. "Take them to the cleaners" is a statement of disbelief & against Islam, need to repent for such blatant anti-Islamic kufr which completely undermines the whole point of these episodes...💯

[@madcrypto1235]

This guy acting like a gangster.

[@MP-fy6nk]

Dno which dawah scene this guy is seeing coz all the dawah influencers in the UK do is bash women and only refer to them as "fitna". Women are so commonly oppressed in marriages, society, Islamic circles etc that it has become an issue that needs to be constantly addressed because culture and certain people have convinced men it's their right to be cruel and abusive to women and we all see that in our societies. That's why it's a common issue on social media, people are trying to introduce equity for women and debunk the practice of mistreating women which happens too often for comfort