Misogynistic Microaggressions | Sahana Mathiarasan | TEDxYouth@UrsulineAcademy

[@sirisirisiri740]

it IS about misogyny lmao. it's not just about her interests but how stereotypically feminine things are looked down upon in society. you can literally see it in how people shame men for using makeup or liking kpop because it is "for girls" and people always shaming women for doing typically girly things.

[@akilanmc719]

Dude everyone can like what they what to like .if I don't like bts does it make me misogynist (*I personally don't like bts) and as she said "I am tamilian" so do i, in tamil ton of song about self love, self respect why didn't she listen to it cause society in U.S says if you what to prove that your Asian girl you should listen to bts and she is the one now prejudiced to Asian men who doesn't like bts . End of day I don't care she listen to what every she likes but she has the audacity say that if you don't listen to bts your misogynist

[@akilanmc719]

And reason I hate bts only because there of fans and they're so toxic

[@areebah2528]

@@akilanmc719 you hate a group of people... because you've had bad experiences with people who like them??

[@akilanmc719]

Homie ,women wear makeup exponentially more than men.we all know cosmetics is multi-million dollar industry they want to make more money by selling to men . it doesn't mean men shouldn't wear makeup, if it make you happy ,go ahead. The problem is bts preach about self love but they ain't comfortable with there own faces so they were makeup or surgically change it (they know bitter truth is looks matter) and bts love there fandom but they don't love you as individual person,so grow up

[@andrews7681]

Men get looked down on for wearing make up and you think they're looking down on women. Why does every time a man suffers it gets turned around to be about women?

[@CuttinUpGetGapped]

Do NOT be ashamed no matter what genre of music you enjoy. Unless it’s country. Keep that to yourself.

[@alphascorpii3757]

Lmao I agree but Dolly Parton

[@CuttinUpGetGapped]

@@alphascorpii3757 ofc .. she is the only exception !

[@soaringsquid0.129]

I grew up with country-like music tho.

[@deo8709]

@Natalia Marquez This is nonsense lol, there's plenty of decent american music.

[@Owdaks]

and stay far away from Kpop and anime OST, that's just cringe

[@ImSimplyAHuman]

Her voice sounds like the psych-to-go narrator ❤️

[@titash3973]

Yes. Omg.

[@Lee-uu8tc]

Omg yes

[@XxxX-wx3er]

You spend too much time online

[@Mira-gu6we]

I love her voiiccee..... i could listen to her all day.😍

[@davidionashku2500]

That’s because she is the psych-to-go narrator

[@RaissaHeidi]

When she talked about kpo I felt huged and when she gave the surgeon's example that hit really hard cause I have to admit I was puzzled :((( I'm thankful for having found her video.

[@ErutaniaRose]

Because of misogyny, women and girls basically aren’t allowed to have wants, likes, or hobbies. I say scrap that. I’m an AFAB person, I like international music and art, I want to be an architect and study the stem classes to aid in that, and I do metalworking, working out, and traditionally “feminine” things for fun. Who cares? Just do it! (Yes, this is assuming you have the resources and support needed, I am aware of how lucky I am to be able to enjoy these things.) Edit: My career ideas have changed a bit and I am planning on going into environmental studies, rather than architecture, though I still wish to study it on the side, just not as my main career. Edit: I wrote this before I was able to express and explore my gender identity, and I now identify as Bigender using she/her and he/him pronouns--so I am tech not a woman, but still feel very comfortable in my femininity and within womanhood to some degree.

[@bushmg1061]

By being able to scrap these things, you’ve proved they’re not as pervasive as others purport. The fact that you _can_ overcome it proves it doesn’t exist as an overwhelming force

[@VoyagerD]

@@bushmg1061 That's not quite how it works.

[@bushmg1061]

@@VoyagerD then how does it work?

[@VoyagerD]

@@bushmg1061 How do you think it works?

[@bushmg1061]

@@VoyagerD I stated previously what I believed. I’m asking you to provide an alternative explanation or explain how I’m wrong.

[@alinaivanov5536]

wtf this video is literally what i was thinking in my head and searched for subconscious misogyny but i couldnt have guessed she would talk about kpop AND bts!!

[@loonabloo]

I loved those bands too! Excepted I wasn't still listening to K-Pop when BTS came out, but 2NE1 fans pull through.

[@BAsed_AFro]

Misandry is NOT the answer to combating misogyny.

[@Dino22440]

Lololol misandry 😂 women have never oppressed men. Women have never denied men education, careers, bodily autonomy, or basic human rights like men have denied women for centuries. Get out of here with that. Not comparable you man baby.

[@johncaze757]

​@@Dino22440so sexism against men doesn't exist?

[@thebluetrain6797]

True. A lot of today's feminism is just misandry in disguise which creates more misogyny, not less.

[@miyoink1144]

when she mentioned kpop everyone turned around and looked at me bc i liked all those groups

[@reallydoe2552]

If I can ask where at like class etc cause that would be dope classes are having this talk

[@miyoink1144]

@@reallydoe2552 I live in Britain so I have a thing called form time where you basically have talks with your form tutor.

[@reallydoe2552]

@@miyoink1144 thx

[@Anushka-dk4ls]

@@Solid_Snake99 it's literally the part of the kpop industry at this point. The companies have competition of fan fiction. The one who sexualizes idols with the best storyline wins yay!

[@DecepsisOvermark]

@Soldier of Allah You keep replying this to every comment. Get a life and touch grass.

[@alexaelizabethb]

i got the riddle correct right away. ive been trying to unlearn misogyny recently, and now i know im doing good

[@ribbrascal]

@barhead She colors her hair and has a septum piercing

[@kukukuki8297]

That riddle part got me. Any tips on how to get rid of these internalised misogyny which I am not conscious or self aware of?

[@berachtdorian6191]

1. Accept that misogyny is a disease that we've all inherited. 2. Fearlessly consider every last area of your life. 3. When you see your own internalized misogyny, find whatever cure that you can for it and get well. 4. Be patient with yourself.

[@bushmg1061]

@Beracht Dorian or 1. Don’t.

[@Numerosity]

@@bushmg1061 or 1. Do because it's a serious problem that you clearly don't seem to care about likely because you're lucky enough to not have experienced it.

[@bushmg1061]

@@Numerosity ???

[@flamingo690]

@SusPatrol quite on the contrary, as long as we will treat half the world population as third class citizens, and sometimes even worse, humanity will never be able to thrive

[@reshmasawant1016]

That's something I felt for following BTS, your Ted talk gave me confidence to share and feel proud about what I connect with, thank you ❤️

[@meggrace3245]

I will forever wonder how a pumpkin spiced latte tastes.

[@abhiramis3455]

Ikkkk ryttt. I just googled it😂😂

[@mdoloresp5865]

Sweet but not excessive, spicy but really mild, scented but not aggressively. It is the most sophisticated variety of coffee and milk that I have tasted. And it is tipically Starbucks. As an authentic Italian coffee lover, I have every reason to hate Sturbucks shakes and name them coffee. They do not taste like coffee and cannot be compared to any real Latte, Capuccino, Machiatto, and (not in a milliom years) Espresso. Well, I still resist the idea to call a Pumpkin Spiced Latte a cup of coffee, but it is truly the most delicate experience as a flavored white coffee. And it deserves a sip. You might love it as I do. ;) It is the perfect exemplification of why we should never feel contempt for sometging we have not tried (except for drugs and crime, obviously).

[@jonathantaylor7167]

You’ll be alright

[@Jess-kn8vl]

Ohhh I do! Just ordered my laird pumpkin spice coffee creamer muhahaha🎃

[@Rickybobby1342]

One of the world's greatest mysteries how many licks does it take to get to the center of a lollipop? 🤔

[@tulipgogoi4022]

I'm in tears , this is so relatable

[@fynn3528]

Im in tears by laughing. Bloody pathetic

[@gram.]

I liked 1D and someone said to me "you only like them because they're attractive" and that hurt me, so I went to my diversity group and said how I felt invalidated and how it took a toll on my feelings and self worth, how I felt so ashamed. I then realised it was a much larger issue and those microaggressions were because misogyny. I then realised society devalues feminity. I didn't buy pumpkin spiced lattes because misogyny, I never thought that may be my issue and instead thought no, it's everyone else's fault.

[@Dino22440]

@@fynn3528you’re an example of what she is talking about

[@CuttinUpGetGapped]

This doesn’t have enough views.

[@akilanmc719]

Ture, it will be ratioed

[@emokiller907]

Simp

[@SkankHunt42isback]

simp

[@Phantomopery5]

@@emokiller907 mysogynist

[@rlsu]

Thank god

[@amyrosica5434]

An amazing and wonderful talk! So many valid points I hope she continues to educate others on this topic!

[@vibhamital26]

what a beautiful talk! fabulous job, sahana.

[@Suchen_Wahrheit]

She hates that people are stereotyping her. Goes on to say she is stereotypical girl. And when someone points out that she is girly, instead of being proud feminine women calls it misogyny. Ahh What... How did we arrive at misogyny here?🤯

[@Dino22440]

Soooo the entire talk went over your head. Got it…

[@ldman906]

No matter what it is it's somebody else's fault it's a man's fault everything she's mental

[@swampsprite9]

@@Dino22440 Likely just another guy who wants to fight women's equality every step of the way and gets immediately defensive when the word misogyny is even mentioned.

[@kriti4621]

that riddle got me :( but can I just say her voice is so sweet! i could listen to it all dayy

[@Suchen_Wahrheit]

Don't worry your living in reality. Less than 5% surgeon were women in until 2000. Now its 14.7%. It's not misogyny to form opinions based on reality😅

[@jackjack4412]

​@@Suchen_Wahrheitwhy do you think there are less female surgeons?

[@12dd4ds9]

Speaks a clear, concise voice that's so easy to listen to !

[@altheaosborn2648]

I have been saying this about the music thing for YEARS. Anything that is perceived to be "for girls" is instantly written off as shallow or juvenile. And it hurts because for so many of us, the music we listen to is closely tied to our emotions and experiences, like an extension of ourselves. The rejection of the art that you love feels like a rejection of you as a person.

[@WithLoveK.]

my boyfriend is misogynistic and it hurts me so bad

[@sixpense]

girl i hope you’re doing better

[@WithLoveK.]

@@sixpense i'm not

[@sixpense]

@@WithLoveK. has it gotten worse

[@WithLoveK.]

@@sixpense not worse he's just not xhanging

[@sixpense]

@@WithLoveK. not my place to tell you what to do in your relationship but if you’re unhappy then you should definitely leave cause staying with someone who’s like that will only make you stressed and make you feel like you’re caged.

[@mathigk19]

So awesome Sahana! I am hopeful of the future with champs like you leading the generation next the right path! So proud of you!

[@gsg9205]

🙄

[@majakowalska1]

@Soldier of Allah get a job

[@juliaf3115]

GREAT! I resonated with this talk so much! I hope she keeps up the great work!!!

[@yvs6663]

My parents also never bought me concert tickets despite music being a big part of my identity. Men also get accused of only liking female musicians because of their looks. But ppl will claim both as examples of mysogyny since "women most effected".

[@arielro7071]

Props!!!! I love you lady!

[@sophiasumaray3492]

we stan a girl who wants to dismantle the patriarchy in every size, shape, and form

[@CARBONHAWK1]

Sophia Sumaray good luck with that

[@BradPwnsU]

How can you dismantle the patriarchy from the kitchen?

[@AA-tz2bm]

sarah left-wing empath free thinker provocateur. I am with you on your side but ‘stop being so fragile you make women look weak’ should be ‘stop being so fragile and stop thinking of women as weak’.

[@sophiavirk6724]

​@sarah left-wing empath free thinker provocateur I have no idea why you think the statement Sophia Sumaray made implies women are weak. It's literally a simple "you go girl" phrase. On your point about patriarchy, it is misogyny sorry to break that to you hun. It is male preference for leadership over women regardless of merit. It's in the definition.

[@positivevibes5778]

@@BradPwnsU by cutting your tool with the 🔪

[@satista2381]

As a guy, I really really resonated with a lot of the things she said. But I'm not sure whether we can call ALL of that misogyny. I faced a lot of backlash being Indian, growing up in the UK. Eating Indian food was frowned upon by my white friends. The same goes with listening to Indian music or my love for anime and K-pop. I was ashamed for having my own likes and things I enjoy and always hid it and acted like I did the norm thing. I don't think you can define this as misogyny. It's expectations of society that is wrong because this could be expressed by any gender why does it always have to be stereotyped to men, while we too can experience such things?

[@tyslink]

She's 17, very naive, and clearly listens to what the current narrative in much of popular culture is...that men, especially white men, are basically bad and that women, especially women of color, are oppressed. But it's pretty clear that she has lived a very sheltered life thus far and doesn't really know what she's talking about.

[@mosescola4174]

As a man I often find myself commenting or saying misogynistic rants all because of been hurt in the past. As a man of faith we must not forget who brought us into this world. Also never forget that the greatest woman whom ever lived gave birth to Jesus Christ and without her we wouldn’t find any redemption.

[@icarus9093]

Jeeesssus... Is that you Rick? Under all that man Bush? Shiiiiiat...

[@PaulHosey]

Girl power

[@lizzy5437]

Look at all the thumbs down. True woman haters! She’s perfect!!

[@gsg9205]

🙄

[@lizzy5437]

@@gsg9205 Are you jealous? If you can put down a sweet girl like her ha

[@gsg9205]

@@lizzy5437 🙄🙄

[@arturosantos1362]

@@lizzy5437 all he or she is going this 🙄 like what's the problem you seem kinda mad

[@akilanmc719]

@@lizzy5437 what ?? I south Indian more specifically tamilian same as her I personally don't like bts and there toxic ARMY (*not every fan) and it's matter of opinion and if you like bts good for you but you can't call someone does like bts as misogynist

[@paniccat502]

this is not about misogyny it's just about judgment and i like k-pop too and I'm a guy i was stopped and crushed i never did what i wanted to do coz I've been always controlled by others and that's what she highlighted it's not misogyny or sexism it's problem for every gender

[@madhurihasan3998]

bruh no this is about that typically more girly stuff is viewed as less than compared to things men like. Let's take Twilight and Fast and Furious as an example, their target demographic is very different and according to critics, both are pretty eh, however, Twilight gets dragged waaay more than Fast and furious just because it's something that's cool and manly and twilight is not. (Not rly a fan of any of these franchises btw). Doesn't mean that men don't get judged for things they like but it definitely happens to women more, and that was literally her point

[@Sneaky1ne]

@@madhurihasan3998 no it means that fast and furious has more people PAYING FOR THE TICKETS. This isnt misoginy AT ALL.

[@katiecook8195]

The point is that “feminine” things are dragged more than “masculine” things. K-Pop would be deemed feminine because the majority of its fan base is teenage girls. 50 years ago the Beatles were extremely popular among teenage girls, and men made fun of the Beatles because of it. Now the Beatles are viewed as one of the greatest bands of all time. What changed? Not the music, the fan base.

[@PricelessBinkey1337]

@@katiecook8195 most feminine things are dragged through the mud by other feminine people. Keep in mind that it was feminism that actually undermined the entire feminine nature and what their biological role to bring children into the world and brainwashing them into believing that raising the next generation is somehow a meaningless and uneconomical. Raising a child is not only one of the most thankless jobs but it is one of the most difficult jobs that I think Humanity has to offer and yet we have political parties like feminism that undermine the importance of Parenthood.

[@Mira-gu6we]

@@katiecook8195 precisely. Anything that attracts more of a female fan base too gets derided by men snd male identified women. Similar to the behavior towards twilight fans.

[@ichigossbm4636]

I think she should have started with the riddle. That was pretty impactful.

[@sofiacole9147]

that riddle really put it all into perspective :(

[@nisandi-b4v]

i notice that ur pfp is usui

[@sofiacole9147]

@@nisandi-b4v thats an astute observation

[@nisandi-b4v]

@@sofiacole9147 lolllll takumi

[@ajaniwright3731]

I thought the son in thr accident just had two dads

[@SkankHunt42isback]

apparently she isnt a BLT ally

[@reallydoe2552]

That riddle got me damn

[@joseolivares9942]

I’m not sure people judging your taste in music is entirely a female problem and a sign of misogyny. I think all American teenagers face that particularly with their parents. You ever hear of punk rock?

[@chocolizard678]

Yeah true emos (boys and girls) used to get made fun of all the time in the 2000s

[@AditiSingh-ly9dj]

Love this! It's so well thought out and relatable.

[@PricelessBinkey1337]

But not thought out enough to land it on the normal Ted talk 🙃

[@neha7690]

Makes me wonder how many misogynistic things her family said about her behind her back for saying all this “to the public” and for speaking her mind. Indians are critical about women doing bold things like this

[@icarus9093]

I'm hoping for a little freaky deaky... Jeeesssus... Is that you Rick? Under all that man Bush? Shiiiiiat...

[@LillianAdamson]

i love Kpop too ..

[@joymittra1064]

I played this video for research on misogyny. Other than the intro and the riddle at the end this has nothing to do with misogyny. A male K-POP fan would have the same experience.

[@stampandscrap7494]

Yes he would, but because Kpop is cobsidered girls music.

[@Mira-gu6we]

Yes. Because kpop is seen as a feminine interest/majority female fandom. The point is the devaluing of the feminine.

[@icarus9093]

In relation to kpop

[@lavinamital9938]

this is so great! i love it Sahana, great job!!

[@prakritineupane]

You are right. Its crucial that we declutter for our better mental health.

[@tyslink]

This young woman I think means well, but ultimately comes across as sheltered, privileged, and very, very naive. It's immediately apparent that she hasn't lived life outside of a very small bubble. I remember being 17 and thinking I knew everything too...I'm now 43 and realize that I didn't know sh*t when I was 17. But it's all part of growing up.

[@balleraap007]

Basic isn’t an insult lmao it’s just average

[@miram2291]

I'm so inspired! you are amazing.

[@Yourbody_MYCHOICE]

Femcel 101

[@swampsprite9]

Are women not allowed to complain about being disrespected? She didn't even blame it all on men; women disrespect women, too (It's mostly men, though).

[@VenusVoice]

Her voice sounds like butter

[@leyrelopezpascual3958]

I like gaming. I either use a male voice changer or just mute myself.

[@lordreptilestormblade1749]

fun fact: Father's Day was started by a woman, Sonora Dodd, in 1909, who wanted to honor her father. since Mother's Day was already a thing, it only made sense to start Father's Day. its not misogyny, its equality

[@bushmg1061]

KZbin doesn’t show it, but judging by the ranking multiple people disliked your comment. It’s absurd how brainwashed people have become

[@lordreptilestormblade1749]

@@bushmg1061 not only does KZbin not so anything but 1 like ATM, but also I'm being both 100% honest and 100% factual with my comment. Sonora Dodd, a woman, started Father's Day as a holiday to honor her father. much like how some of us men can be mother figures some women can be father figures, so I honestly see no reason people would think Father's Day is a sexist holiday yet not have the same opinion towards Mother's Day, a holiday that has existed for far longer. it doesn't matter that biological mothers are all women and biological fathers are all men, they are holidays to honor both our biological mothers/fathers, and our mother figures/father figures.

[@lordreptilestormblade1749]

@Soldier of Allah they claim they want gender equality, yet the moment they try doing something that is traditionally male-dominated, like joining their country's military, most of the time they will complain, even if said country makes it easier for them. "I did not sign up for this..." um, yeah, you did when you enlisted, and trust me, it will only get worse on the battlefield. enjoy PTSD and debilitating injuries when you could've chosen an easier job, like teacher or nurse.

[@icarus9093]

I haven't seen a comment with more sanity than this. I am SEVERELY DEPRESSED and this type of comment gives me hope... :) Now if you don't mind, I'm gonna listen to Mad World while watching supernatural.

[@buckaroobonzai2909]

Manosphere guy here. Watching this for ideas to try at my new job....

[@ethosterros9430]

Most people who arent like me dont like k pop and it makes me insecure about my taste because I need everything I do validated, this is obviously misogyny. How did you get from point a from point b exactly? Cuz this is exactly what makes people think feminism is bs.

[@briannawinter9191]

I think it's more a cluster of data points making a clear picture... Other women feeling the same, what's considered commonly humorous in our culture ("Basic", Kardashians, blonde jokes, etc). There are psyche theories that for boys to individuate they have to be "not girls" and avoid doing girl things, specifically by mocking feminine traits. If you take a lot of details in, it paints a clearer picture. Fair question, but I will point out that part of the prevalence of misogyny involves women tired of being doubted when we relate our perception of experiences that we've been gathering data on for a long period of time.

[@Mira-gu6we]

Mocking feminine interests, hobbies, behaviors is universal. She is right.

[@jackjack4412]

True. I didn't know I needed people to support my interests, I thought that's normal to be an individual.

[@ethosterros9430]

@@Mira-gu6we no men being mocked for feminine interests is universal. Women arent held to masculine standards

[@ethosterros9430]

@@jackjack4412 yea u need permission to like things sorry. It's in the rules of serfhood.

[@annjohn9546]

AMAZING!!! Your point is totally correct!!! Teenage girls are too smart!!!

[@justsomeguywhostrynagetsub9605]

Ann John as tik tok dances ensue*

[@GentlemenJack109]

😂

[@amnamuniba]

@divyanshu pandey don't even talk about it. Women are strong and so they are thriving. Men wouldn't have survived the misandry even if it was half percent of the misogyny that prevails in the world today.

[@horminmangfi5653]

@@amnamuniba , countering one extreme with another extreme isn't going to work It will just put things- "Under new management". And not in a good way

[@amnamuniba]

@@horminmangfi5653 Some people can understand only when they put themselves in other people's shoes

[@SM-xd2xv]

Looks like the incels haven't found this video yet... Oh nvm

[@icarus9093]

I'm hoping for a little freaky deaky... Jeeesssus... Is that you Rick? Under all that man Bush? Shiiiiiat...

[@scenario1741]

I still don’t understand how other women criticizing you is misogyny. If 95% of the time x = y, you can’t call someone misogynistic for presuming x = y.

[@crazyman4485]

“I did it father i have attained misogyninstinct.”

[@bluephx5410]

Just because you are not praised and don't feel good that's a you problem. Not misogyny

[@stk6997]

Most of what she's experienced is not misogyny. Trust me, i know as a 28year old woman.

[@AzlanAliMirza]

She has such a smooth sweet voice. She is perfect for kids to look after ❤

[@iloveyoufromthedepthofmyheart]

The irony. This is a misogynistic comment. Or better put, intentional microagression. Only she is going to decide if she is perfect for that role and if she wants to be a mother at all.

[@TheMrTTT]

I suppose, then, that a perceived microaggression - even as silence - can be met with actual aggression and even violence? That may not be the intent but that is clearly the consequence; intended or unintended.

[@icarus9093]

I'm hoping for a little freaky deaky... Jeeesssus... Is that you Rick? Under all that man Bush? Shiiiiiat...

[@XxxX-wx3er]

Is this about misogyny or K-pop?

[@leaches_]

this crowd is wack when she said she was into kpop i would have given her a standing o right there

[@OzyMandias13]

Geez, and I thought the higher rate of suicide, deaths of despair, and only constituting 40% of college graduates was tough for male adolescents and young men. I didn’t realize you were having to deal with being a K-pop fan. I think this is one of those examples of “if this is what you have to complain about, you’re doing pretty well”

[@tyslink]

Well, she's 17 and clearly very naive.

[@Dino22440]

This is all men doing this to themselves. God forbid we talk about problems women face without men making it about themselves.

[@kyliethompson73]

​@@tyslinkthat makes sense now. I don't get the misogyny link with kpop though.

[@UgolinoV42346]

This makes me think of the new _Helluva Boss_ episode. There's a scene where Crimson, Moxxie's dad, refers to Millie as a dame and a broad, both of which are slang words used against women. That being said, Crimson is sexist and revealed his misogynism. How do you think I'd react in the event of Crimson calling me a dame and a broad?

[@icarus9093]

Umm, do you know what dame means? It's literally a female knight but better as they are not bound to military service. Treated with respect and nobility because of a rank. People have been knighted as dames like Maggie Smith and Emma Thompson. (More as well) Now before you say 'i didn't mean it in that context' you should find it hilarious that morons have been calling you a noble the entire time. Just saying. Also, never really heard dame as a way to tease women or against woman aside from some strangers on KZbin talking about how it was used against them. I'm a bit puzzled with this one???

[@lin3378]

best decision moxxie made was leaving him and marrying her

[@abhinavshikhar7915]

Good one, but it would have been so much better if she degendered makeup, dresses and painting nails.

[@cosmicreef5858]

Being "girly" or a "tomboy" is not even a whole personality. It is NEVER just one thing. We are living beings not paper cut outs! The details are ALWAYS different for each INDIVIDUAL. Some are same interests and some are entirely different ALL in ONE person. It is a PERSONALITY. Stop generalizing living beings!

[@icarus9093]

I'm hoping for a little freaky deaky... Jeeesssus... Is that you Rick? Under all that man Bush? Shiiiiiat...

[@2time_e939]

This is not misogyny this is just judgement of interest... I’m a guy and I’ve experienced judgement because I watch anime THIS DOESNT MAKE ANY SENSE 😭

[@crabby3938]

That is what it is. Prejudice thoughts and comments towards women is misogynistic.

[@spots-]

When I was 13 my classmate asked me “why is your skin so dark and why is your gums so brown” till this day I remember this cause it made me feel like I looked extremely different from the rest and that I didn’t fit in I looked like a monster compared to the rest

[@akilanmc719]

@@crabby3938 best troll in comment section

[@TheMirrorGuy]

Umm, in her opening statement she makes assumptions of how the audience may think? Making a judgement based on how someone looks, is a natural survival instinct. Just like a fight or flight, or friend or foe response. Most of these responses are based upon each individuals lived experience. We then use conformation bias to reinforce such beliefs, just like the lady in this video does to reinforce her belief in misogyny.

[@Jess-kn8vl]

Ohh I gotta check myself!

[@mariam7735]

Armys make this famous. Her words need to be heard.

[@blvckemo_]

Hahaha even if you won't Change our minds

[@gsg9205]

🙄

[@fbmllojk5233]

@@blvckemo_ you won't be able to change the minds of feminists too

[@PricelessBinkey1337]

I think we've been hearing the message for the last two decades thank you.

[@starbucks9485]

0:25 I thought you were so pretty 🥰

[@andrewnguyen2701]

Big Bang was my calling- WOW FANTASTIC BABY :)

[@LeggoMyEggHo_]

tl;dw From a young age, speaker has been unable to look inward and understand their motivation for hobbies, feels targeted when people guess the obviously poor reasoning for their actions. Speaker requests that we don't break their little bubble in life, because they are entitled to chasing their idea of a Disney life. Speaker would like us to stop verbally expressing the intrinsic motivations of one half of the world's population, because it forces them to face intrinsic realities they aren't ready for.

[@Cammakesithappen]

ok but what does someone saying something about your taste in music have to do with if you’re male or female? i cant help but be sure that you being a man in the music situation you mentioned wouldn’t have had a different outcome just because of what the majority thinks of kpop lol i feel like that was a bad example

[@fhalldaniel8556]

I think that when it comes kpop people definitely get fun of for it regardless of gender! But the thing is, it’s more apparent for girls to get made fun for liking “boy bands” in general than it is for guys to get made fun of.

[@revolutionunderground]

"The same old cliche: It is a woman or is it a man" - Bob Seger, in "Turn the Page"

[@asdvvvvf5381]

It's a great example because misogyny is a two sides of the same coin. Men would get made fun of as well because the music isn't "masculine" or it would be considered "too feminine" for a man to like a boy band.

[@リンゴ酢-b8g]

this tropical sheboon never had any problem with misogyny

[@secondchances1232]

I hope you're trolling

[@nothing-b2n]

Yeah baby

[@grim6755]

She talked about bts...this is why I look down on woman

[@SinMore]

Duran Duran fan

[@lin3378]

me too

[@MrTSelf]

Compare how women are treated in the U.S. Canada, and the UK. to Saudi arabia, India, and Iran. Then you can see true sexism.

[@iloveyoufromthedepthofmyheart]

So we should compare only to the extremely innaceptable and not complain???

[@buckaroobonzai2909]

Wait... you are talking about sports? I didn't know. :o

[@Kitiwake]

Define feminism.

[@jonh643]

I’m not listening to all that

[@eddiewin3194]

2NE1 ✌☝

[@hubertushostihayuanta8873]

Here's an unpopular opinion: Prejudice is useful.

[@flamingo690]

no, it is immoral and is setting humanity back

[@hubertushostihayuanta8873]

@@flamingo690 We use it everyday, mostly unconsiously. That's why we don't have to verify every single information that we receive everyday. Small example: we may believe a piece of information at face value from our employee when he/she is known to be truthful in the past, or, we may recheck it twice when he/she is known to be a liar. Some level of prejudice is needed to keep the world running efficiently.

[@ribbrascal]

@@flamingo690 Woketard liberals are setting humanity back, rather /ex-liberal

[@HonestKyubey]

I cannot respect someone who cries microaggression. The world does not have to change to please you. You are owed nothing.

[@josecortez5213]

Proud Misogynist here.

[@demigodsunite185]

Ahh people even flex on lacking brain cells nowadays 😌

[@josecortez5213]

@@demigodsunite185 Hilarious.

[@luminousminoo5316]

Blame it on your mother …

[@luminousminoo5316]

@Soldier of Allah go pray

[@Misogynist467]

​@@demigodsunite185better than women brain ☕

[@veryconfused9768]

Now everyone is literally crazy about K-pop.

[@revolutionunderground]

The message is good but seems really shallow

[@mozarkozark]

This woman is so overly sensitive it sounds like the problem is with herself. It seems as though that she has self esteem problems not because of everyone else but how she responds to these situations she speaks of.

[@chocolizard678]

I do agree it can be blurry on some of the things she called misogyny, but it can be devaluing when others constantly say you are wrong for liking the things you like. Sure you can say "Well she should have just not cared about the mean people" but it's hard for children and teens when people devaluing you comes up over and over again especially when it's treated as normal.

[@Mira-gu6we]

Pretty good at gaslighting arent you? You turned this on her by personal attacks? She said that feminine interests and pursuits like kpop, romance genre are mocked and made fun of. She's right. Aint nothing wrong there.

[@mozarkozark]

@@Mira-gu6we I’m not attacking her, I’m making an observation. Those interests aren’t necessarily strictly feminine either and could be made fun of for many reasons. Anything can be roasted and made fun of really. How someone responds to that is on them. She’s trying to gaslight the audience that somehow finding humor in things is a misogynistic because she personally cannot stand people making fun of something that she likes. Not everyone responds to someone making fun of their interests like this. No one is stopping her from pursuing her interests.

[@TheRoyJames]

​@Michael Ozark everything is an attack/assult when you're stuck in survival mode like 99% of liberals

[@SpicyTower]

Your entire point is based on the fact that you were afraid to tell people what kind of music you like and a short riddle.

[@Sneaky1ne]

and don't forget that she LIED when it was convenient. what else does she LIE about?

[@feliciajames3129]

And what counterpoint do you have?

[@dripjsal7388]

Proud misogynist here I will always cheat on my girl🙏

[@mrwoman4843]

not cool

[@arianatorsmiler9946]

And your girl will never truly belong to you , she will belong to her own values and beliefs and will leave you one day !

[@drakeuniversity8468]

​​@@mrwoman4843it's cool we are not atm machine first of all

[@Misogynist467]

​@@mrwoman4843this cool women ☕☕☕☕🐷

[@suppercharge1]

You can hate women don't listen to re_tar ds

[@youfoolsjustreallydontgeti187]

Yep

[@youfoolsjustreallydontgeti187]

@Some annoying person so do i

[@KydLives]

@Some annoying person so do i!

[@alinaivanov5536]

literally my girl friends think bts are lame and trap music is so great, why? bc their MALE friends only listen to trap. i can’t with that mindset.

[@jackjack4412]

You mean people have different opinions? Oh nooo.

[@alinaivanov5536]

@@jackjack4412 that’s not what i said. the guys don’t listen to kpop bc they think it’s feminine, and listen to trap bc they think it’s manly. it’s all flawed thinking and offensive to real music.

[@sug725]

there is no such thing as microaggressions

[@icarus9093]

I have literally been copying and pasting this comment on every tweaked out person in this comment section. Lmao. "I'm hoping for a little freaky deaky... Jeeesssus... Is that you Rick? Under all that man Bush? Shiiiiiat..."

[@wrayth3951]

So, someone doesn't like K-Pop, so they're mysogynists? 🤔

[@tyslink]

She's 17, clearly very sheltered, and super naive about the world.

[@CieFood]

Love the message but the riddle was kind of obvious for me 😅

[@ci3045]

Talks about K POP . She strays from the topic. How is this a Ted Talk?

[@tanishqa6765]

She didn’t, she shared a great example of micro aggression

[@j.d.y244]

💜💜💜💜💜💜💜

[@gillian5710]

killing it!! so awesome

[@EscargoTouChaud]

She is young, so I'll forgive it, but giving so much time to kpop in a speech about misogyny is a bit ironic. The kpop industry IS misogynistic. The girls in those groups are expected to be pretty, thin, having surgery to "optimise their look", and being single. The kpop industry is a package deal, where the music counts 1/5.