Mistakes That Will Push Your Ex Away Forever

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Coach Lee

Coach Lee

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@sreach93
@sreach93 5 жыл бұрын
Most dumpers are very good communicators, the trouble is they don't communicate with the dumpee prior to dumping them, instead they talk to family and friends who sometimes influence them.
@specieschild1
@specieschild1 5 жыл бұрын
@Knowledge_Seeker they can't love as we do. They are oppurtinist and they don't care about how you feel. Never trust to a woman they are hypergamous by nature so always seek for the better option. If she encounter with higher value mate you will be the one first who gets rejected. Never trust. They can't love you just for you. Learn female nature, learn red pill
@mountainconstructions
@mountainconstructions 5 жыл бұрын
Aka, Women talk to all thier girlfriends and/or daughters And they will tell you they don't... But its the biggest lie in the world!
@EM-ig7ib
@EM-ig7ib 5 жыл бұрын
Well yeah... Who do you think gave reinforced every ting she was thinking,,,Who do you think agreed with everything she said even when she was a couple short of a sixpack with her logic? The problem most of us have is we sthink our friends would tell us if we were wrong.,,,thatalmost never happens in cases like this...Most of the time it goes like this " oh hell no!...If my man pulled that shit he would be out on the street" or... " yeah ...I didn't want to say anything because it wasn't my place but i saw that you could do a lot better than him"
@sreach93
@sreach93 5 жыл бұрын
@@neilracine6158 I think their anger, frustration and resentment is more directed at themselves and the people that coerced them into leaving the relationship, rather than at the dumpee. Essentially, they have been backed into a corner and cannot see a way out (trying to reconcile things with the dumpee) without upsetting the people they confided in initially. They seem to suffer silently for that and the only way they can deal with it is through anger, frustration and resentment
@neilracine6158
@neilracine6158 5 жыл бұрын
@@sreach93 i can understand that... but I don't think that is particularly reticent in my situation... so long ad she is talking to this guy on the other side of the country and untill she realizes that what she is doing is wrong for her and our family then all I can do is give her what she thinks she wants... which is the break up
@mabinogidrws
@mabinogidrws 2 жыл бұрын
1. Don't beg and plead 2. Don't act in anger 3. Don't talk to their/mutual friends about the breakup 4. Don't be manipulative 5. Don't try to make them jealous 6. Don't fake cool 7. Don't ignore them when they reach out to you
@michaelornelas1099
@michaelornelas1099 Жыл бұрын
I did all of these damn
@noemimitru7493
@noemimitru7493 Жыл бұрын
@@michaelornelas1099HAHAHAHAH
@zkillerwolfz3308
@zkillerwolfz3308 Жыл бұрын
@@michaelornelas1099 innit so wat now
@LinusWatches
@LinusWatches Жыл бұрын
lol gg
@evelynpineda3688
@evelynpineda3688 Жыл бұрын
@michael yeah me too I think my chances of getting back with my ex went down to zero on #3. Lol
@mscisland
@mscisland 5 жыл бұрын
If your ex girlfriend or boyfriend had the guts or balls to leave you. Close your door of them trying to return. They could’ve decided to stay before leaving you, and breaking your heart. Your life isn’t a game. So stop allowing people that claim the “Love you” to play with you and return whenever they feel like it. You felt like it was a good thing to leave me. Okay by all means. Stay out there. Y’all stay up, and have a blessed day.
@jackassfat
@jackassfat 5 жыл бұрын
stay single!
@KingOfZamunda
@KingOfZamunda 4 жыл бұрын
Best advice ever. If they weren't willing to work through things with you, then don't let them back in when you have healed.
@415Meta
@415Meta 4 жыл бұрын
Especially if they go off and rebound or have someone else already lined up. You aren't the fall back and everything you said is true. Even if you did get them back, how can you ever trust that when things get hard later in life they wont leave you again, and at that point the situation could be so much worse than it is now. Also, you need to have respect for yourself. If you cant respect yourself they will never respect you either. Sometimes it can be hard to lose someone that you love, but at a point you need to realize that its time to move on and be better than them, not just tell yourself you are.
@jackassfat
@jackassfat 4 жыл бұрын
@@415Meta true !
@mscisland
@mscisland 4 жыл бұрын
Metanoia Facts 💯💯
@ini_mma
@ini_mma 4 жыл бұрын
God everytime I listen to you...I feel so much better but when the video is off I start crying
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee 4 жыл бұрын
Debbie, I’m sorry for your pain. I suggest watching this video all the way through: m.kzbin.info/www/bejne/o4eqiJ-cnc6BoqM
@aldinestika2820
@aldinestika2820 4 жыл бұрын
this is so true
@Ladyraedior
@Ladyraedior 4 жыл бұрын
So me
@Ladyraedior
@Ladyraedior 4 жыл бұрын
He said that i emotionally and mentally broken him and he needs to get away from cause i take him out of character......this broke my heart because i love him beyond words and there have been times when i have encouraged him to want more and supported him through a lot smh.... no contact for 2 days and it’s hurts and not i am angry but i haven’t lashed out on him i kept it to myself
@Ladyraedior
@Ladyraedior 4 жыл бұрын
Omg my Sister did this to me!!!!! She text him today after i told my friends and family NOT to!!!
@DJDanny501
@DJDanny501 4 жыл бұрын
I already ignored her . She left me for her ex I changed my phone number and I even blocked her on social media but she was still friends with me on ps4 she texted me asking how was I doing I never texted her back I just removed her from my friends list . Instead I’m running away so I can teach her a lesson of what she lost and the grass ain’t so greener for her now
@nidiaking
@nidiaking 4 жыл бұрын
Daniel Hajj so you’re being spiteful?
@JanetteSphere
@JanetteSphere 4 жыл бұрын
yeah selfworth, im on my 2nd month of NC, the other party message me with an emojies, I didn't reply and start ignoring.
@frenchkiss8789
@frenchkiss8789 4 жыл бұрын
Not the ps4 😂😂😂
@eatanotherzio6811
@eatanotherzio6811 3 жыл бұрын
@@nidiaking No Hes being mature
@cly9865
@cly9865 3 жыл бұрын
@@frenchkiss8789 but on some real if they want to get a hold of you they will pigeon mail you or write a letter and put it in a bottle. They will fight for it if they want it
@silviosarunic6709
@silviosarunic6709 4 жыл бұрын
I had a breakup ten days ago. During that argue, i told her that i would like to talk about everything she mentioned as a problems, and i said to her to call me when she would be ready to call me. I go to NC phase. Let her to calm herself etc 5 days after that she called me. I was in the job but my REACTION was positive, happy, and cheerful. I was in sad mood inside myself, BUT i knew that i must project full positive reaction on her, so i can polarise her emotions to simething positive, no need for bad feeling at all!! I told her in short that i can not talk now but we can hear after job. I did not call her after the job, to continue NC .. because of situation ... let her calm her self. 5 days later she called me and we were talking about everything in mature, calm manner.. we sold issues, i accepted my mistakes and desided to work on them, she accepted her part of situation. And i think everything will be ok. The point is, what i learned from this. Break up usual is NOT break up from you, from person, sometimes it is moving away from specific situation, ... so when you step back and give space and time to other side, it usual create everything good Coach Lee talks about. Human brain have tendencies to forget bad situations, and remember only good one. So when bad situation occur, just step back, and let time do things... Usual it does... really well...
@TheExiled222
@TheExiled222 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you, gives me hope. :) just started no contact, I messed up texting her frequently the last 2 days saying sorry etc but that stops now...
@MarawanAbbas1
@MarawanAbbas1 4 жыл бұрын
@@TheExiled222 any updates??
@TheExiled222
@TheExiled222 4 жыл бұрын
Marawan Abbas we got back in contact for a week or so but it just didn’t work out and I’ve moved on, hope it does work for you 👍
@MarawanAbbas1
@MarawanAbbas1 4 жыл бұрын
@@TheExiled222 congrats bro! i really hope i move on. it hasn't been easy and every damn thing in life keeps reminding me of her. every song, every street, every place in my apartment. we are all quarantined rn but i will be frequently reminded of her by the underground metro that we used to ride for 3 hours aday together. my college will remind me of her. It's just gonna be horrible. i wish i had never met her.
@TheExiled222
@TheExiled222 4 жыл бұрын
@@MarawanAbbas1 I feel your pain man it's not easy. At the beginning I felt the same, I wish I had never fallen in love with her but now i'm very grateful for it and you will be too, I know it's hard to think you'll move on right now but you will I can promise you that, maybe it'll take a few months but that's the way it's gotta be, just work on yourself however you can (I know it's harder during this pandemic). It will suck but people have been in the exact same position as you right now and managed to move on so you can too. Wishing you well brother
@frankovera7553
@frankovera7553 4 жыл бұрын
If they didn't wanted to be with you the first time, why would they want to be with you again, some people are just confused and they don't know what they want. You can't trust them.
@betrayedbaeuchiha175
@betrayedbaeuchiha175 4 жыл бұрын
Forget my ex! I want coach Lee ! 😍😍😍😍
@mridhulml9238
@mridhulml9238 4 жыл бұрын
lol
@mynameisjeff2567
@mynameisjeff2567 3 жыл бұрын
no
@gloriakuhn8670
@gloriakuhn8670 3 жыл бұрын
Right, he's sexy as hell. Lmao
@JKNat9004
@JKNat9004 Жыл бұрын
He's married and doesn't know you
@Kaida760
@Kaida760 Жыл бұрын
For anyone here. Anger is always 1 move away from a fatal mistake. But it doesn't have to be this way. Anger is energy. Energy is neither negative or positive. Turn that energy into a positive force.
@rayf5360
@rayf5360 4 жыл бұрын
The correct and mature attitude towards your ex is "strength in the face of difficulty". Exactly THAT, well put coach! It's the behavioral "sweet spot" and shows respect and dignity for both your ex and yourself. Very difficult when faced with all the emotions associated with a breakup, but the only way to go about it.
@dinulhaqq
@dinulhaqq 4 жыл бұрын
Well said Ray
@oswaldkerr6554
@oswaldkerr6554 2 жыл бұрын
I was in my relationship for 6 years....it's my fault in some ways why she left and it's been 8 months now that she left....and I was doing all the wrong things to get her back. All the begging, cry, getting angry with her, asking all her friends to talk to her. Now she even blocked me from her phone We have have 2 kids together. Now I feel like I loose her for good. She even start dating someone else. What can I do now to change things?
@oswaldkerr6554
@oswaldkerr6554 2 жыл бұрын
Everything that couch Lee said exactly all the wrong things I did.
@dianaf6333
@dianaf6333 5 жыл бұрын
I respect how you don't sugar coat words. It's really appreciated because that's what we need right now. Straightforward talk coupled with your empathy and professionalism. Thank you, Coach Lee.
@ChildFirst
@ChildFirst 2 жыл бұрын
Anger 5:01 6:32 6:46 If they were still attracted with you, they would be with you. If they want to be with you, they will be with you. 7:00 If they want to be with you and they're attracted to you enough, they will find a way, unless they are literary locked up and even then they might just break down the bars. 8:17 9:01 Don't be manipulative
@Powerpacker07
@Powerpacker07 4 жыл бұрын
This guy is giving us so much than we bargain for. Often times people appreciate it more when they receive something good either by gifts or any material stuffs like money. And yet little did we know how much important it is to give more credit to people who enhances our life with great perspective.
@Knuckle_Sandwhich
@Knuckle_Sandwhich 5 жыл бұрын
This is why we need you everyday. Your so right, thank you. Also, nice hair👍🏽
@margomazzeo1680
@margomazzeo1680 4 жыл бұрын
Coach Lee is our cute Young Viking Coach .💝💝😃😃🎈🎈
@soldierofgod349
@soldierofgod349 4 жыл бұрын
Having trouble sleeping and I had an anxiety attack early hours this morning & that’s the first time I’ve experienced that,I’ve followed all your videos and done what you’ve said,just pray it works,hate the thought of some other guy touching my ex😔 I get super depressed every time I see her ( when picking my daughter up ) I never talk to her when we see other unless it’s about our child,struggling but got to hold on and don’t give up
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee 4 жыл бұрын
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@ahmedal5260
@ahmedal5260 4 жыл бұрын
Six months now since we broke up , I am totally over here and it was a blessing but for it was a lesson . She texted me asking how I was doing , I told her I was fine , straightforward told here I am over you and I truly meant it . I don’t see a future with here. Now she is chasing but I truly have no feelings for here . It is amazing , how the table has turned . It is all happened because I firmly stood up for my dignity , I never begged here to stay . I Literally told here if u think our Relationship is not working , then I totally respect your decision and I wish you the best. Now she’s chasing but I don’t want her. So it is all about self respect and value . You worth someone better , just allow yourself to go through the stages of the breakup , and things will get better.
@daltontate1953
@daltontate1953 4 жыл бұрын
i will get my baby back. four years will not go down the drain.
@michaelabiola4650
@michaelabiola4650 3 жыл бұрын
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@dazza8551
@dazza8551 4 ай бұрын
Did you get your ex back?
@anoopunnikrishan2771
@anoopunnikrishan2771 20 күн бұрын
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@mhcmhco
@mhcmhco 4 жыл бұрын
wow a sensible, empathetic, compassionate approach to breakups. i was starting to think it didn't exist on the internet.
@dadsarepeopletoo3785
@dadsarepeopletoo3785 5 жыл бұрын
First of all, no one shld want someone who rejected them. Second of all, if they never come back (which you shld never accept back someone who cld throw you away) you can go on knowing your dignity is still intact. Soooo options are: 1) Being dumped and losing your dignity 2) being dumped and maintaining your dignity Always choose dignity.
@Sarai0901
@Sarai0901 4 жыл бұрын
This coach makes me laugh during my breakup he is brutally honest and i love that, that makes my pain more clear and to be able to get thru the no contact
@WeAreStrongwithJesus
@WeAreStrongwithJesus 3 жыл бұрын
When you said CONFIDE IN PRAYER 🙏🏻 I subscribed!! Praise the Lord for that advice!!! ♥️
@cristydoesrealestate
@cristydoesrealestate 2 жыл бұрын
Coach Lee, I don't know what I would have done without your videos. I was crushed when my ex left 3 months ago. He communities daily with and I match his level of interest and reciprocity. I hope we get back together. All in God's hands now.
@Kate-ub1dp
@Kate-ub1dp 2 жыл бұрын
Update?
@Ghhh-on3nl
@Ghhh-on3nl 4 жыл бұрын
Botton line. No contact is mostly for the dumpee to get over the hurt and pain . Weather they come back or not is not really something to think about. But sorting yourself out is number one priority. Work on yourself another person cant make you happy if your not happy with you.. True happiness is in you.
@flower_7890
@flower_7890 4 жыл бұрын
Great video...I only disagree with "ignoring" part, I had 2 exes I've dumped and first one was replaying to my texts and it gave me peace of mind and I never felt desired to this person any more...it's like I lost respect, interest or something. ..the second one ignored me and it fed my anxiety to the point I went crazy about her, felt the attraction towards this person and I tried many times, different ways to get to her. The thing is if you really want someone you find a way and them ignoring you will not put you off at all...that's my experience.
@kita0918
@kita0918 2 жыл бұрын
It sounds like you had/have an anxious/preoccupied attachment style. The harder people ignore you the more it hurts you and the harder you try for their approval. Emotional hunger.
@micallll100
@micallll100 5 жыл бұрын
I know I made many mistakes but if he really loved we would be togther.
@B1GK1NG
@B1GK1NG 5 жыл бұрын
Michal Sterenberg hate to say this but if he really did love you, he would’ve never broken up with you.
@masondykstra9464
@masondykstra9464 4 жыл бұрын
Rey Casiano feelings change tho my ex was obsessed with me and her lack of communication because she thought that I didn’t like certain things about her even tho I was just poking fun and I started to lose interest and got complacent because I just though she wouldn’t ever leave so they fall out of love and both people played a part in it but so did you
@dumisanimokoena1590
@dumisanimokoena1590 4 жыл бұрын
He let you GO he probable watching this video n healed
@marcobistagnino8713
@marcobistagnino8713 4 жыл бұрын
If u did mistakes and you expect him to solve the problems you made then its you who dont love him. Im sorry but he was right to dump you. Learn and act differently next time
@JKNat9004
@JKNat9004 Жыл бұрын
I know the feeling you're talking about. Hang in there the best you can.
@Christa-tl8jb
@Christa-tl8jb 2 жыл бұрын
Even if you don’t want your ex back, have self respect and start no contact don’t act like a fool and beg and get angry.
@stefanmolejo4578
@stefanmolejo4578 5 жыл бұрын
You know coach... I handled the breakup so well in the beginning (James Bond'esque) with the help of your videos I managed to go into NC.... However after just under 3months I broke NC & MUCH to my dismay I felt even worse....I wanted to simply speak with her & she wasn't having it (VERY VERY PAINFUL) However... The pain of my failure to stick with NC is BEYOND words... I know she will never be back & in truth she was doing me a favor!
@31juztine
@31juztine 4 жыл бұрын
Having depression for two weeks now after my ex broke up with just for small arguments ...i don’t trust him he said..watching coach make me feel better I cried morning and the entire day,watching coach lee make me feel better.The best coach..thank you Coach
@sergiogodinez2496
@sergiogodinez2496 4 жыл бұрын
@Rainskee. Hang in there. Two weeks of NC for me. Coach Lee’s video straight to the point.
@akrambaig2689
@akrambaig2689 4 жыл бұрын
You've been with narcissistic person
@prysong4411
@prysong4411 4 жыл бұрын
My ex and I were together for 7 happy years, we broke up because i fell into a deep depression. i shut everyone out my life and hurt her greatly. i spent a lot of time improving myself and 3 years down the line i still love her. i tried to talk to her after getting therapy a while after the break up but i was so overwhelmed with everything going on in my life i relapsed. I've written a letter taking accountability and saying sorry. she doesn't want me in her life anymore and all want to do is try and fix things. its horrible knowing i hurt the one closest to me unintentionally. now i can only prey i bump into her 1 day and she can see I've changed and I'm in a healthy place. then i can begin to right my wrongs
@paokaraforlife
@paokaraforlife 3 жыл бұрын
hope you make it
@lakea.6218
@lakea.6218 Жыл бұрын
The reality that Coach Lee and others gently, sometimes indirectly, communicate is that the dumpee MUST let go. Be the best version you can be, if your ex is again attracted and is compelled to try agai , the decision is then yours to take them back. The relationship you try to hold onto is over. Use that to your advantage.
@spicyjedi4584
@spicyjedi4584 4 жыл бұрын
Coach Lee you’re brilliant. You have helped me so much since I discovered your videos. Even if reconciliation is not in my future I’m feeling better about myself and am eager to grow from this experience.
@sarusaru7860
@sarusaru7860 5 жыл бұрын
I’ve been watching your videos and following your advice for a year. My ex still doesn’t want me back but love your advice, coach lee!
@barscelik5377
@barscelik5377 5 жыл бұрын
It's like religion, as long as there is something for you to devote to, you'll be satisfied and fulfilled thinking heaven awaits you while dying just as you'd also be as happy living devotedly by the indoctrination of religious codes.
@Idecorateeyes
@Idecorateeyes 4 жыл бұрын
Awwwww I’m sorry did u pray about it
@maricristinacastel
@maricristinacastel 9 ай бұрын
Did he ever give it a try?
@sarusaru7860
@sarusaru7860 8 ай бұрын
lol he got divorced 2 years ago and tried to get in touch with me but I ignored him. There’s no way I’m going to be any man’s last resort.
@thefnaffan2
@thefnaffan2 4 жыл бұрын
When you say value, it puts it in a different perspective of wanting them back.
@Mike-mt5yb
@Mike-mt5yb 4 жыл бұрын
I wished she never comes back. Now I know what mistakes to do to get the desired results. Thanks coach....
@SOCCERxPRO18
@SOCCERxPRO18 4 жыл бұрын
I was just broken up with by my gf of 3 years a few days ago. I made the mistake of trying to continue talking and trying to make it work and in those moments I bought her flowers that will be delivered to her. I decided today I will do no contact and I will stay the course! Thank you Lee!!
@lastname8102
@lastname8102 4 жыл бұрын
This guy is God send Angel.
@rosslainchbury3382
@rosslainchbury3382 5 жыл бұрын
My ex broke up with me by text. The second time she had done this. I’m about 3 weeks through no contact. I don’t know if I’ll want her back again though.
@yvng_chldsupport3918
@yvng_chldsupport3918 5 жыл бұрын
I've felt the same way, stay strong brother
@TheExperiment1337
@TheExperiment1337 5 жыл бұрын
Why would you want someone who can't even face you when dumping
@jimstevens1726
@jimstevens1726 5 жыл бұрын
OH YEAH! The breakup by text. That is the most insulting thing a woman can do to you. I had that happen to me with a woman friend that I was trying to help and did help a lot. I only got a message that said "I appreciate your kindness. Do not text me or try to contact me again." I knew her for five years and saw her most everyday. It was a kick in the face and the ass.
@Knight766
@Knight766 5 жыл бұрын
Low quality woman right there. Move on.
@gennam9637
@gennam9637 4 жыл бұрын
@@jimstevens1726 that's fucked up.
@rickhoward1516
@rickhoward1516 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks coach for all you do. Your videos make us dumpee’s feel strong and brightens our moods even if we never get them back. I will remember all your advice going forward.
@dirkdiggler5821
@dirkdiggler5821 3 жыл бұрын
F....k this guy's good. I can't believe how much valuable information I have learnt since being dumped from Coach Lee.
@AlexisGonzalez-hu3rx
@AlexisGonzalez-hu3rx 3 жыл бұрын
I said the same thing after listening to his advice. Not only is he good but sincere and profoundly knowledgeable.
@acemany1126
@acemany1126 3 жыл бұрын
Alexis, would you let coach Lee be your rebound?
@carmeljarrell4054
@carmeljarrell4054 4 жыл бұрын
I wish I would have found this before I had done all the wrong things 🤦‍♂️
@julietroberts1385
@julietroberts1385 4 жыл бұрын
You are a great guy and coach, Coach Lee. I love your integrity, efficiency, kindness and intelligence. Thank you very very much for your straight-up talking and manner. Juliet, a New Zealander living in London
@Goodsleepforever
@Goodsleepforever 5 жыл бұрын
My ex broke it off with me, didn't beg/plead. He jumped into another relationship and he's contacted me 3x during no contact.
@Basaif_almahri
@Basaif_almahri 5 жыл бұрын
im doing no contact 3weeks ago . i received a text from her today she asking me to find another girl to make me happy and she is requested a divorce i just replied 'Ok' only .
@ajhwb
@ajhwb 5 жыл бұрын
Nice move man, go and find 2 or more chicks
@RedPillAware
@RedPillAware 5 жыл бұрын
If you really love her then do exactly what she asked you to do. Go and find another girl.
@dreamcore
@dreamcore 5 жыл бұрын
@kiyosk nah, ok is good, talking too much cements things and removes mystery
@Basaif_almahri
@Basaif_almahri 5 жыл бұрын
she sent that text to see how is my reaction . that how she think i ll have new relation and i ll divorce because i stoped begging her and doing No contact make her feel that im haveing new relation i guess
@Basaif_almahri
@Basaif_almahri 5 жыл бұрын
@kiyosk she is stuborn, we been many breakup and im the one alawys beg her to come back.. im the one alawys request and put my self down even do the mistake happened by her.... im realy happy with No contact process , she will consider my value and respect and will stop her to do that every time.
@thomaspan6514
@thomaspan6514 Жыл бұрын
If they are dating someone you know for sure, I don't think not ignoring them when they reach out is any good.
@Travelerspath
@Travelerspath 3 жыл бұрын
There is no more mistakes, there is no more forever, there is no more Ex, I will become a whole person soon.
@williamwilson2012
@williamwilson2012 3 жыл бұрын
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@ricksadventure8177
@ricksadventure8177 4 жыл бұрын
Watching these videos make me feel like I can get my ex back Bc I’m doing everything right
@Idecorateeyes
@Idecorateeyes 4 жыл бұрын
ricks life and we prolly won’t ever get them back
@jonesfredrick94
@jonesfredrick94 4 жыл бұрын
@@Idecorateeyes you should because of your Beauty but what about the Heart
@jonesfredrick94
@jonesfredrick94 4 жыл бұрын
@@Idecorateeyes heart
@elliejohns8895
@elliejohns8895 4 жыл бұрын
getting your hopes up wasn't the purpose of this vid because that is false hope
@rajatkumarnayak4294
@rajatkumarnayak4294 4 жыл бұрын
Have you got your ex back?
@sariakhan5363
@sariakhan5363 4 жыл бұрын
Your videos have kept me alive and with hope. Thank you. I listen to your videos on repeat because I have hope my ex and I will get together again one day. Thank you so much
@LieutenantCaine9
@LieutenantCaine9 5 жыл бұрын
Wise words again and wise advice from you Coach Lee. Thank you for being a blessing! You've kept me strong bro during my NC
@dannamunozca
@dannamunozca 3 жыл бұрын
When he said "if they were still attracted to you, they would be with you" Omg
@leonalaman9772
@leonalaman9772 8 ай бұрын
Made all the mistakes you mentioned It's obvious to have no hope now.
@hayeslloyd4002
@hayeslloyd4002 5 жыл бұрын
"I was in depth of darkness without you" 😂😂
@jasonboughen9542
@jasonboughen9542 5 жыл бұрын
Hayes Lloyd been there
@blakehorton8110
@blakehorton8110 4 жыл бұрын
It's no joke lmao lame as it is
@jakejimenez7973
@jakejimenez7973 4 жыл бұрын
She blocked me when I was trying to give her stuff and I couldn’t control my emotions anymore I threw her stuff out of my car in her yard I regret it so much...
@takwamejlissi2633
@takwamejlissi2633 4 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad I stumbled upon your channel right after the breakup. I was this close to doing a combo of all these mistakes. I dodged a bullet there! Phew.
@thi_lan
@thi_lan 4 жыл бұрын
So does it mean, if I did all the mistakes you mentioned accept making my ex jealous, he won’t contact me forever? I mean, I’m doing the NC now... does is still work, even tho I did these mistakes?
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee 4 жыл бұрын
Often no contact can get you back on the right path and give you a solid chance of getting your ex back.
@princesschioma6187
@princesschioma6187 4 жыл бұрын
What if the break up in up to 3 years wat should I do to make them jealous
@tooseccformyshirt7264
@tooseccformyshirt7264 3 жыл бұрын
Any updates?
@tomorrowwillcome7923
@tomorrowwillcome7923 3 жыл бұрын
Did u get your ex back? I made all the mistakes for 6 months.
@viviannguyen9095
@viviannguyen9095 3 жыл бұрын
Hey girl, any update on your situation ... ??
@Germanybabe
@Germanybabe 5 жыл бұрын
First. I agree with the mistakes listed here. The advice from Coach Lee works for me. Coach Lee, can you please make a video on an ex who is hot and cold during no contact? Thanks a lot..
@munirazaira5465
@munirazaira5465 5 жыл бұрын
He already did it dear... * . *
@Germanybabe
@Germanybabe 5 жыл бұрын
@@munirazaira5465 link please. Thanks for pointing that out
@munirazaira5465
@munirazaira5465 5 жыл бұрын
@@Germanybabe sorry, i just remember mixed signals...dont have how to send a link... Only put COACH LEE MIXED SIGNALS FROM AN EX... * . *
@codynevers51
@codynevers51 4 жыл бұрын
There are alot of coaching videos about hot and cold behavior from an ex. Just keep searching
@joshdalton4189
@joshdalton4189 4 жыл бұрын
Agreed that's my situation currently
@theben8463
@theben8463 4 жыл бұрын
I've been watching these videos and my chances are getting slimmer and slimmer by the day. I have hurt her, we are going 9yrs now, last 20days, was a pain I am asking for forgiveness... She's now slapping all the bad things I have done to her, each time I reach out... I guess I blew it up, I beg the days after she broke up. And I gues she's certain about her decision about it. This is my day 1 for No Contact. Wish me luck.
@xKUNAIxCHICKx
@xKUNAIxCHICKx 4 жыл бұрын
Immediately after the break up he was saying maybe in the future we could get back together. Acting like the break up was so painful for him. I definitely made some of these mistakes and it feels like he's completely changed his mind and closed that door.
@xKUNAIxCHICKx
@xKUNAIxCHICKx 4 жыл бұрын
@Sha Dee we've texted a few times on my initiative. He's friendly and replies but doesn't initiate. Last week I said I missed him and got no response. So it's safe to say he's over it. And honestly screw him.
@acemany1126
@acemany1126 3 жыл бұрын
See . You wasted so many months of wishing for nothing. You fool!!
@charliemvrphy
@charliemvrphy 4 жыл бұрын
I made the mistake of making backhanded comments about the break up today after she called me. Sent a clean slate text directly after but I have this feeling that I really messed up any potential of her moving past that.. we dated for about 5 years and engaged for 2 but still, there’s a reason she left me and me saying something about her breaking up with me was a low blow on my end 😞
@charliemvrphy
@charliemvrphy 4 жыл бұрын
B H 9 months post break up, a handful of her reaching out to me with breadcrumbs and finally said screw it, now I’m dating someone better. Life is good and it will be for you as well.
@vyomps
@vyomps 4 жыл бұрын
My girlfriend of four years moved back to her home country to stay with her parents as COVID was rising and the next day broke up with me via text. No explanation, no nothing. She blocked me everywhere and even got our mutual friends to block me. It is so hard to comprehend that the person you loved the most can just flip a switch overnight and go so out of their way to emotionally abuse me.
@thanura.m
@thanura.m 4 жыл бұрын
Looks like she's been preparing in advance. ;(. Women are complicated and men can never understand. Hope everything works out well
@vyomps
@vyomps 4 жыл бұрын
@@thanura.m man :( I really don't know how to comprehend this or process anything. Last 4 years were beautiful, even now things were perfect. I was totally blind sided and did not expect any of this. Even when she was flying home things were normal and she was talking yo me normally. Next day. Text breakup and blocked litteraly everywhere. She even got her parents and our mutual friends to block so there is no means of communication
@thanura.m
@thanura.m 4 жыл бұрын
@@vyomps I've been there recently and I know it's hard. Stay strong man go look up the law of attraction and do some let go meditation. Trust me you will feel good. She'll talk to you later. btw what is her country?
@dianaathens1
@dianaathens1 4 жыл бұрын
Please move on and never look back...she is not a good person...she doesent love you.
@chadbaker2224
@chadbaker2224 4 жыл бұрын
Hey man I know how you feel and can top that. Me and my gf and mother of our child broke up after 8 years (on and of). While we split up before she was seeing a women. They broke up and we started back up again. Fast forward 2 years. We have a place together. I ended up getting covid and she and my daughter had to leave our place so they both wouldnt get it. My ex ended up faking covid, dropped our daughter off with my parents and left to go to key west. Little did I know, she was in Colorado with her ex girlfriend the whole time for 5 weeks and didnt even know until I saw an Instagram post. She came back said she was sorry but wasnt happy so that's why she did what she did. Now that she came back she wanted me out of our apartment that I pay for while she and her sister who took my living space stays. How insanely fucked up is that? No idea this was coming and I loved her so much but the way I look at it. If someone can do that to you, it's not you its them. They have no soul. Move on, keep your head up, work on yourself and the right person will respect you. I still love her but what she did was absolutely unforgivable, even if we do have a child together. Goodluck to you.
@wambuialice957
@wambuialice957 3 жыл бұрын
i am addicted to this guy
@chelseaeberhardt
@chelseaeberhardt 4 жыл бұрын
he didn’t walk away because he didn’t love me though. he does care about me and loved me enough to let me go
@michaelhakes5845
@michaelhakes5845 4 жыл бұрын
That’s a horrible thing to say... no matter what way you look like it
@shrikantborde8143
@shrikantborde8143 4 жыл бұрын
Dhoom 3 movie
@johnnybarrett5108
@johnnybarrett5108 4 жыл бұрын
The day she dumped me I made several of these mistakes. I begged and pleaded, I pushed too hard and wouldn’t back off, I messaged one of her friends, and to top it off I said something insanely hurtful. I sent one text the next day asking if there was any chance of reconciling down the road, then upon discovering these videos I immediately went into no contact mode. Two days later after zero contact... she texted me saying she’d be open to talking in a few weeks when she’s back in town. I have no idea what that talk will lead to or what she might have in mind for it, but that’s as hopeful a sign I could possibly get, and in a short amount of time. So we’ll see what happens - but I can tell you that if you and your ex meant a lot to each other, even if you made these mistakes initially, the no contact rule DOES work. Stay strong everyone... god knows I’m trying to.
@johnnybarrett5108
@johnnybarrett5108 4 жыл бұрын
Sorry but did either of you actually *read* my comment? I don’t mean to sound rude and I’m sure y’all are well intentioned but I wasn’t asking for any additional or different help - I was saying the method Coach Lee lays out here worked - it *works*. Within a couple of weeks my ex came back to me saying she didn’t want to give up and we are working things out together again. I’m shocked at how effective this was and absolutely overjoyed that I have another shot at a future with the love of my life. For anyone in a similar situation to the one I was in, for the love of god PLEASE don’t fall for these quick-fix, “get her back in 2 days”, “spells caster” things. It’s a bunch of BS. Good things take time. Employ no contact and be patient. If it’s meant to be it will work.
@Fazefazefaze25
@Fazefazefaze25 7 ай бұрын
Heya, any update?
@ViralVeediuh
@ViralVeediuh 3 жыл бұрын
It’s gonna be okay. Let her go guys. Let him go girls. Keep your shit to yourself, my biggest mistake. She loves you. Relax. I’m speaking to myself my the way but I hope someone benefits from it. If your trying to give them space. Post a comment like this here instead of reaching out. Let them miss you. Keep it positive below! Do NOT LEAN. Be strong because you are loved and you are worthy. And you can love yourself!!! Love you brothers and sisters!
@MaRiAm936
@MaRiAm936 3 жыл бұрын
👏🏼
@shahnaznaaz672
@shahnaznaaz672 3 жыл бұрын
I did not do any of the above mistakes. I was really soft and kind when he asked me a break up though it was hurtin as hell and with utmost difficulty I was holding my tears. Deep inside my heart it was yelling don't leave me. Don't. But I love him. . We dated for 10months and was extremely good to him and I hope he misses me and comes bk. . Faith. And trusting coach Lee❤️ am doing everything what coach is saying. to me coach is my male best friend. My well wisher. I love yu Lee❤️ bless yu.
@lukefrance5710
@lukefrance5710 4 жыл бұрын
The whole reason that me an my ole lady broke up is because I have problems with listening. I didn’t change when she needed me too and she warned me for 1 month but it took her really leaving me to realize that she really gone. I fought and fought for her because I truely believe she’s the love of my life and I’ll never find nobody who can relate to me or love me the way she did.. I’d do anything to have that back.
@acemany1126
@acemany1126 3 жыл бұрын
Go get rich and famous, she will come back. I guarantee it!!
@Theinsomniac826
@Theinsomniac826 5 жыл бұрын
Best dating coach ever.
@brandonmcalpin9228
@brandonmcalpin9228 4 жыл бұрын
If you have been begging, “STAHP IT” 😂😂😂 Yes sir! Lol
@randonlee
@randonlee 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you for all your work. My girl left me and I didn’t beg nor plead because of your videos. She said she’s keeping an open mind to getting back together. I’m going no contact and she’s asked if I was ok a few times but now seems to be pulling back as I haven’t heard from her in 3 days. I’m gonna follow your advice I guess even though I’m hurting so bad. When I get my check I’m gonna contact you. I’ve watched everything out there and I think you’d be the best fit. Thanks again
@MrSwib
@MrSwib 5 жыл бұрын
Leroy Jones If she doesn’t come back then just move on. It hurts right now but it gets a lot easier and you’ll soon enough stop missing her all the time! I’d get back into dating other women and go out with friends. Focus on bettering yourself man. Good luck
@Styxiegirl
@Styxiegirl 5 жыл бұрын
No contact works wonders I promise, just give it time. Watch Coach lee's vid on the stages an ex goes through during a break up and all will become clear. I promise you there is hope. It worked for me.
@cinecobafi8640
@cinecobafi8640 5 жыл бұрын
thank you man still waiting for that emergency mariage Kit
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee 5 жыл бұрын
It’s ready and going at myexbackcoach.com/emergency-marriage-kit/
@jbthajugganaut793
@jbthajugganaut793 3 жыл бұрын
I lost a mutual friend because everytime I see or talk to him he would disingenuously always ask if I had talked to her. Just recently he texted me and asked if I wished her “Happy Birthday”. I did not contacted her because as much as I still have feelings for her, I trying to move forward with my life. It hard but it necessary.
@joshuapierce3463
@joshuapierce3463 5 жыл бұрын
Define “reaching out” is it small talk, is it an offer to actually talk about it? Is it an offer to meet up? What exactly is reaching out
@puebo1472
@puebo1472 4 жыл бұрын
Reach out is contacting first. NoContact means that you will not start any conversation with that person, indefinitely. Besides, NO likes on social media, NO asking to mutual friends how are they, etc. If they reach out to you, of course you answer, just casual and politely.
@AdeleMoravcov
@AdeleMoravcov 4 жыл бұрын
@@puebo1472 what if they reach out asking "Do you want to not talk at all? at least for now? so I know where I stand" I got this message after no contact and actually being offline even therefor no social media activity and I dont know what to do cuz technically Im not ignoring them bc they dont know I saw the message. However, my ex contacted my friend asking if I was okay when I didnt answer so Im just lost in what should happen.
@puebo1472
@puebo1472 4 жыл бұрын
@@AdeleMoravcov of course, why not? Listen to what he has to say, listen carefuly. After that, tell him what u want (to make things work with you 2 together). And then go back into NoContact. If he reaches out, then you know that he wants you back. It's simple, right? Don't be his emotional support, and don't let him be yours, remember you 2 are no longer a couple, stop acting like one. Focus on personal growth, self-esteem, etc. In other words, focus on what you want, and not on what you don't want. Stay strong and move forward 💪💜 PS: he asked your friend because he is feeling separation anxiety, and that's the way he found to soothe it. I don't agree with it. This guy is attached to you, if you really want him back, BOTH need to work on the relationship in equal parts.
@suakim827
@suakim827 4 жыл бұрын
I was very heartbroken after my ex broke up with me after a 8 months relationship almost with no reason,at first I let him have the break up for 3 months then I just felt depressed and anxious again without him and chased him texted him even wrote a letter to him and I was about to give it when the video of a coach lee appeared on my KZbin home and I watched some videos and decided to finally to try to move on and know my self worth I really love you coach lee u r the best man !
@hexerda2041
@hexerda2041 4 жыл бұрын
I talked to my ex after the breakup but then he seems uninterested at all that's why I did the no contact. It's just sad because sometimes my mind would pop up thoughts about him and it hurts remembering those days that I begged him to stay and cry all night...
@Vmonster
@Vmonster 4 жыл бұрын
Hexerda19 same situation here...we can go through this. We will grow. We will be happier. We will live our lives at best. We will find new love. We got this.
@johnwick2338
@johnwick2338 4 жыл бұрын
How r u doing?
@hexerda2041
@hexerda2041 4 жыл бұрын
@@johnwick2338 I'm still in the process of healing... Sometimes it hurts like the wounds are still fresh and sometimes I'm feel numb
@hexerda2041
@hexerda2041 4 жыл бұрын
@@johnwick2338 What about you? How's your day?
@johnwick2338
@johnwick2338 4 жыл бұрын
@@hexerda2041 how long has it been since ur breakup? Yeah. It hurts like hell.. stay strong.. I'm doing good.. been single and happy.. moving on from prev toxic relationship.. we could only do so much.. in the end it takes two to work it out.. 🙂
@jeremykent3817
@jeremykent3817 2 жыл бұрын
My ex fiancé left about 2 years ago. (We were together for 4 years, best relationship ever until the lastc4 months) During this time, I've worked on myself, lost 52 lbs and we've stayed in touch off and on. I've done no contact with her multiple times, and she always reaches out. I think my mistake is always texting her back too much. It's always light, and we get carried away joking around like we used too. She uses phrases that I use, she reminisces at times, and clearly cares, but I'm struggling to get it back to the next level. I hate to use friend zone because I don't think she sees me that way, I think it's more. I think the hurdle might be that she's in another relationship. I'm not even upset if that's true, it's been long enough for me to be over that, but I do want her back. I sense whatever she's in now in at the tale end. I guess I'd like some advise on how to approach that. I think she misses me, based on how often she communicates, and several little things. I don't think she'd come out and say that until it's appropriate. Do you think I'm too available? Should I politely let casual conversations end without rejecting her, so she's forced to see what it's like without me at all? I fear I may be giving her just enough of a fix to not be in a hurry to come back.
@erosvera9945
@erosvera9945 4 жыл бұрын
My ex gave me her number by her self when its her blocking my number. I told her do you dare giving your number and her response were: you had all channels open and you had my messenger but you didnt terrorized me! ( me during no contact)
@campingforayearrenoheart5908
@campingforayearrenoheart5908 4 жыл бұрын
Yep I made the mistake of lashing out of anger , we are human it happens , I didn’t say mean things but I got stuff off my chest that was bugging me , no name calling no beginning, things were great and ended great but after 2 weeks I broke down and started texting her while she was in the anger stage , it’s great to have vids like this to help
@sacey212
@sacey212 Жыл бұрын
Update?
@campingforayearrenoheart5908
@campingforayearrenoheart5908 Жыл бұрын
I reached out and that pushed that person away ! It hurt at the time but now I’m in a really great place focused on myself! I was I to her more than me , she did reach out later a year later but I lost interest ! It feels good where I’m at right now ! Time heals all wounds !
@sacey212
@sacey212 Жыл бұрын
@@campingforayearrenoheart5908 thank you for the update and I’m glad that you are doing great. I did the exact same stuff to my ex yesterday and pushed her away. I don’t usually lash out in anger and I did apologize. I hope I will be healed like you!
@sacey212
@sacey212 Жыл бұрын
@@campingforayearrenoheart5908 thank you for the update and I’m glad that you are doing great. I did the exact same stuff to my ex yesterday and pushed her away. I don’t usually lash out in anger and I did apologize. I hope I will be healed like you!
@ImOnTeamBringIt
@ImOnTeamBringIt 4 жыл бұрын
I made all of these mistakes lol rip
@blakehorton8110
@blakehorton8110 4 жыл бұрын
Yes me too lol and I had no idea i was making a mistake , I mean it makes me feel like they have so much power and I'm so damn weak and a loser
@aaminahmujaahid3779
@aaminahmujaahid3779 4 жыл бұрын
Do u think there's anyway to fix it? Bc I'm screwed
@ImOnTeamBringIt
@ImOnTeamBringIt 4 жыл бұрын
@@JohnSmith-fo8tn I call her she says piss off, I get drunk and call her abit more aggressively she crys. Cycle continues
@ImOnTeamBringIt
@ImOnTeamBringIt 4 жыл бұрын
@@JohnSmith-fo8tn no, shes got a new boyfriend now :(
@missytaurus2258
@missytaurus2258 4 жыл бұрын
🤣 yeah rip for u then
@luzventura711
@luzventura711 2 жыл бұрын
Hello Coach Lee. This is Luz. I like your advices and explanations about relationships. It helps a lot of people understand how to handle their relationships. I'm having problem right now, my fiancée is ignoring me with out any reasons but I learned a lot from your advice how to handle it. Thank you and I will continue to watch your videos. Keep up the good work. God bless your heart. Luz
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Luz Ventura, Coach Lee has a POWERFUL Emergency Breakup Kit which will help you. It has EVERYTHING in it including strategies for every situation. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
@jendys.3746
@jendys.3746 4 жыл бұрын
This is what I need right now....bc yesterday I found out that my bf was blocked me on Facebook and then I ask him on WhatsApp why he block me he lies few words, but in the end, he said that he's not ready for a relationship... So I respond to these messages..i respect it even that I love him I don't know where things are going but I'm not going to chase him 🤷‍♀️so now no communication already
@gabrielamartinyuk9894
@gabrielamartinyuk9894 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for not using profanity and trying to act cool to stand out! Genuine personalities are very attractive !! Great content!!
@frankovera7553
@frankovera7553 4 жыл бұрын
When she told me she wanted divorce I said ok, and this time it's final. I never begged her even if I loved her so deeply. I was so hurt but I respected her wish to leave me. She was so cold and determent. She never texted me back.
@microtubulina7266
@microtubulina7266 Жыл бұрын
Im on month 3 of a hard break up, she was my first love and I thought it was the love of my life. We ended things on good terms though, and we still love each other (well, she loves me less and not like before, thats why she broke up with me... and also she didnt wanted to be in a relationship anymore). During the first stages of the BU we texted pretty frequently, I guess we were accustomed to each other. With time we stopped texting that frequently, now we only text every other day or maybe after many days (longer being a week). At the beginning (first month or so) we talked and agreed on still seeing each other and still be in each others lives. But I got confused and thought we were gonna get back together, so she set boundaries, and I went through the grief all over again, so then I set distance and said I needed to heal if we still wanted to see each other (only lasted a week and then I contacted her). Now its been 3 months, we saw each other 4 times. The last 2 I think we agreed to still see each other, we can still watch netflix in bed and cuddle, hug, kiss, but no texting everyday or being that commited I guess. She says she loves me and misses me, but nothing about getting back together, I know she doesnt want a relationship or being more commited and reciprocate with love. Last time I called her couse I missed her and cried (in my defence she has cried before in front of me couse she was guilty about making me feel sad and I acted really good and consoled her). So we decided to still maintain distance in between out hangouts. Im worried this situationship we are having is gonna give me hope and kill me on the inside. I love her with all of my life man, I miss my best friend I want her back :(
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Microtubulina, I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. It's terrific, and Coach Lee advises people to look at the kit and see how helpful it is. There are strategies for every situation. myexbackcoach.com/ebk This Kit has everything in it to make you feel better. The strategies are remarkable! Good luck to you.
@den2wo942
@den2wo942 4 жыл бұрын
I just wish that i watched this earlier, it's been a month since our break up and in that time period, i did all that mistakes :((
@IAMdeathblade
@IAMdeathblade 4 жыл бұрын
I’m almost at 3 months men it sucks
@peachblossom.phlox3403
@peachblossom.phlox3403 4 жыл бұрын
I did a lot of these too 😞
@itzelyruizzz5676
@itzelyruizzz5676 4 жыл бұрын
For how long did you did the begging?
@_M_D_M_
@_M_D_M_ 4 жыл бұрын
It will be great if the EX moves away forever. Unless its a blatant cheating everything can be worked out. More often than not the EX forget that it takes two to tango. They forget their mistakes. They forget their contribution to the mess. I wish some day my EX who has treated me in such a painful way gets to read this message. She gets to read the message as she herself is struggling after getting dumped. To all of you who think I am not noble. Thanks. I am not noble. Nobility ceases to exist when you spend over a year talking, apologizing, hoping, waiting, being restless, multiple blocks/unblocks, whatsapp uninstall/reinstalls and what not.
@Bauerofficial
@Bauerofficial 5 жыл бұрын
Somehow, despite never having been in a relationship (I'm 22), your videos are the most applicable to my situation as I am trying to not get an "ex" back, but evoke interest in a girl who rejected me. Well it's less about getting her to be in a romantic relationship with me, as I'm certain she made up her mind about me - despite knowing very little of me. It's more about showing her that I am high value and that she might be remorseful of giving up on me too early. I just want her to see the real "me" that she lost and your videos help me improve myself to the point of getting rid of all the negative thoughts I got about myself as a result of the rejection. So thank you for your videos and I hope you continue providing advice from your experiece!
@sunjay25
@sunjay25 5 жыл бұрын
Bauer stay strong. If you felt rejected do not contact her at all. If text you a simple “hello” or asks you “how you’re doing” DO NOT RESPOND. I can guarantee you that it’s only a matter of time that she will begin to think that something must be wrong with for you to ignore her. She’ll be begging you to meet her. Just stay strong.
@Bauerofficial
@Bauerofficial 5 жыл бұрын
@@sunjay25 I never contact her, I wait till she does. That's why I keep improving myself to make her want to contact me, but also because of myself striving to become a better person aswell of course. If she initiates the conversation with a "hello" or "how are you doing?" of course I'll greet her back, as ignoring her would only show her that I am still affected and weakened by her rejection. I'll never let her know that for my and her sake. she already contacted me once after 3 months of no contact and we had a good conversation about trivial stuff. I never had any negative interactions with her and continue to keep it that way. Whatever happens, happens...
@tisISspahrtuh
@tisISspahrtuh 9 ай бұрын
Any updates?@@Bauerofficial
@tisISspahrtuh
@tisISspahrtuh 9 ай бұрын
My situation is very very similar. I have never had a gf. Closest was when I was in a situationship with this girl for about a month. She was a friend of friends and she told me upfront that she didn't want a boyfriend. I think when she started to feel it becoming a relationship she ended it and told me that even if she did want one we wouldn't be a good fit. I was graceful with the break up but then my ego kind of took over and I chased her trying to get her back or settle for friends etc for like 2 months. I would just tell myself that she just doesn't know me well enough, if she knew me she would love me. I did not handle it well and just kinda persisted, ignoring signs etc. Finally I got sick of chasing and just straight up asked if she wanted to go out again and she was like, "Are you okay? Rejection must not be hardcoded into your dna". I always just played it off and said it's not that serious and then she said no and that she wanted to stay in her lane etc and that we wouldn't be a good fit because of xyz and that it would never happen. She followed up like 2 weeks later asking if I am okay because I told her in the past I still wanted friendship etc so I politely told her that I think we're great together, but I am not looking for friendship. If you have a change of heart maybe we can talk etc. @@Bauerofficial
@Bauerofficial
@Bauerofficial 9 ай бұрын
@@tisISspahrtuh I am probably the worst person to talk to when it comes to closure in matters like these as my feelings for her never faded, not even to this day. I am still pining for her even after all this time knowing well now, that nothing will ever happen between me and her. I commented 4 years ago when it was pretty recent and I had so many hopes up that in the end it'll somehow lead to her learning to see me in another light and her and me being happy together someday. Let me tell you that I found out a little later after I posted that comment 4 years ago that she had a boyfriend. Had to find out by seeing her hold hands with him when we were on some sort of excursion with a group of friends. It crushed me as I had only just come to terms with her initial rejection. So a year goes by and we were still linked through a group of friends I saw regularly back then through which I met her in the first place. Came to find out that yet again through her holding hands with her current boyfriend of now 2 years that she must have broken up with the last guy she was with, that had initially crushed me just to be with that second guy. It broke me even more. That's why I decided to stay away from her, her love life and the friend group her current boyfriend became a part of. It just took me way too long to realise that that is what I had to do. I was chasing a fairytale, but it all turned into torture that never ends for me as long as I keep her in my life as someone other than what I wanted her to be for me. Every single day I still think about her and what could have been, if only she also had feelings for me.
@lucybee3361
@lucybee3361 3 жыл бұрын
I wish i had seen these chats prior to being an idiot and embarrassing myself
@jaynefernandez483
@jaynefernandez483 5 жыл бұрын
You’re Absolutely correct. Your videos work. I ❤️ Coach Lee
@a.r.m.r4453
@a.r.m.r4453 2 жыл бұрын
20 years of experience...that must understand as a: *respect*
@signsignsign74
@signsignsign74 4 жыл бұрын
What do you do when you accidentally pocket dial an ex while in No Contact? Do you start over? Respond back if they reach out?
@strongerboilder9262
@strongerboilder9262 3 жыл бұрын
I have made all the mistakes and its just been 2 days I am in no contact tough we broke up several weeks ago but now after seeing you videos I am just ready to let him go.....thank you coach Lee instead of a dating coach you worked as the best physchologist for me much love to you and blessings
@Zi-mg6rv
@Zi-mg6rv 3 ай бұрын
Did he come back?
@brewchube2383
@brewchube2383 4 жыл бұрын
We've been broken up for 3 mos now. And I might have ruined my chances by talking to one of our mutual friends...and I've posted stuff on social media hinting that I may have a new bf...what to do now?😢
@ini_mma
@ini_mma 4 жыл бұрын
I am going through this.....he stopped communicating earlier this year....when I asked him why he had nothing to say...but then through the year friends kept saying oh you two are going to get back together...even him he gave me so much reason to belief so....so now he is back to the same state I am in for the holidays we met up once after he called and called...and it hit me so bad that he doesn’t want me again....
@ini_mma
@ini_mma 4 жыл бұрын
Kiwio ...this is the most sweetest thing...you know only today my friend explain to me how not reaching his standard and not being all that is one major reason...I have promised my self come 5 January which is going to be my birth date I am going to move on and start a new chapter of my life ..thank you so much
@miut7995
@miut7995 4 жыл бұрын
Should you write an apology letter to your ex, if you realized your mistakes? I know that it’s never just your fault but, you feel guilt knowing you should have reacted better in certain situation.
@ExplosivePowder
@ExplosivePowder 4 жыл бұрын
So, did you? I'm 3 weeks in NC, and last time I saw her she was angry at me when I went to her house to get my stuff. She thought I wanted to talk with her, but I didnt. Just went to her house to get my notebook. I dont know if I should apologise, we didnt even said goodbye that day.
@miut7995
@miut7995 4 жыл бұрын
@@ExplosivePowder personally, if you feel like you did something wrong. You should always own up to it and take accountability. So, yes I think you should apologize and leave on a good note. The ball will be on her court whether or not she wants to give you another chance. Leave it open ended after you apologize. “If one day you feel that our relationship is worth another chance, let me know.” I ended up sending my email after 4 months of nc. I didn’t expect a response back from my ex. Just wanted to apologize and expressed gratitude for all the good memories, experiences and lessons that we’ve shared. It helped me feel like I’ve done all that I could so that I can move on. I would draft the email, don’t send yet and revise it everyday until you feel like it’s concise. You don’t want to send multiple emails.
@ExplosivePowder
@ExplosivePowder 4 жыл бұрын
@@miut7995 But should I? She kinda cheated on me and that was the reason I was angry that day. Sorry about the long text, I couldn't write it any other way :/ The reason for the breakup is that the day of our breakup we had a wonderful time together, it really was a nice day together. She was at my house the whole day, then at night when she was getting ready for me to drive her home, I saw on her phone a conversation from a week before, it was from a dude which I've seen before, the conversation was quite intimate, at least from his part, he said some stuff like "Love or moon of my life" or some shit like that, and she was quite cold but still giving in you know :/ it was short but was enough for me to lash out. There was another incident a few months before, which this dude went to talk to her, I saw and asked her who it was, she said she didnt know, so she told me to block it. But then a few weeks later she admitted that she lied to me, that she did knew him, and that she talked to him that week but it was just a simple conversation, but I knew his intentions and she said she knows how to take care of her self, I got really angry and told her to remove him, and she did. But fast forward again to the day of the breakup, this conversation was on the private mode of facebook, I got really angry and I couldn't take it anymore, I showed the phone to her on the bathroom and she told me to calm down and to talk on the car, because my parents were home. We talked in the car that she wasnt feeling herself lately, that she built walls around her and didnt let me in, that she didnt always planned her future with me, that she didnt wanted to feel responsible for my feelings and happiness, that she was stressed out and the one thing she does when she is like this is to be alone with herself. That she didn't feel mature enough to be in a relationship with me. I know now that it is loss of attraction, and looking back, lately I've been needy and clingy because of the pandemic. She cried I cried, we hugged. And realizing that there was no escape, I told her I would still drive her home, she thanked me. On the way to her house, she was crying the whole time, but in silence. She sometimes would say a few things, and one of the things was that she didn't wanted to be this cold and cruel person to me. When we got to her house she just said "Thanks for driving me home, goodbye" (Note: I always leave her at her house when we meet, I always feels it was the right thing to do and she was always appreciative of that) and then I freaked out because I thought she wanted to talk, at least a bit before leaving, I just said: "We should talk about this someday during the week" and she agreed and said goodbye then left. Now the reason she was angry that day (3 days later) that I went to get my stuff, was because she reached out to me asking me how I was doing, and I didn't answer that, I just said that I was going to go to her house to get my stuff, and she insisted on us talking when I got there, or asking if she could go to our private place to deliver my stuff to me and talk, because that was what I asked the day I left her at her house, but by then I changed my mind and didn't wanted to anymore. And that was what I said to her, that I didn't want to talk, she agreed and repeatedly asked and begged me not to block her number, that she didn't want to lose my contact, which I agreed then. That is why she was angry at me that day when I got my stuff back, and it is why I feel remorse for not ending things the right way, for not saying goodbye or looking directly at her eyes. But that was 4 weeks ago already, I don't know if I still should send that apology text. But I really love her and miss her, we had been together for over 2 years.
@miut7995
@miut7995 4 жыл бұрын
@@ExplosivePowder I think if apologizing helps you to get rid of any guilt that you have so that you can at least step back and focus on yourself, you should do that. Make sure that it’s not emotional. Sounds like both of you need space to reevaluate your relationship. You shouldn’t ignore her texts, but you should also give her and yourself time to be without each other. She will most likely miss you and want to talk when she’s ready. Just my opinion though.
@ExplosivePowder
@ExplosivePowder 4 жыл бұрын
@@miut7995 Yeah I think I will do that then :) I know deep down she still loves me and she will see that. I just know I gave my everything to her, tried to be the best for her and us. Thank you deeply for the words, I feel stronger each day but ocasionally I still get really sad, but I know things will get better and she will know that she is the one losing me. I hope you too get better and stronger each day!
@onenickelmiracle
@onenickelmiracle 3 жыл бұрын
The bright side is if you can't ignore them and you do push them away, they usually deserve to be pushed away. If there is so much mystery you need to figure the mystery out, the mystery is the reason your ex should stay your ex most likely. You don't want someone who didn't love or care about you in your life in the first place, it's good pushing them away forever.
@veronicaguerra2026
@veronicaguerra2026 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you for posting these videos. I find you to be very helpful. I am going through a break up myself and find your videos to be very soothing as I am feeling very anxious and sad. Thank you again
@MKSBEMA
@MKSBEMA 3 жыл бұрын
I have taken notes so that i do ALL of these things, I NEVER want that trainwreck back
@isaacs6159
@isaacs6159 4 жыл бұрын
I feel I should share my experiences. They almost always come back, but it's often in very strange ways. I left my fiance then missed her after a year or so. 20 years later, we reconnected and she wanted something to happen. I was not interested but I thought I'd never hear from her again. Another gal and I had a year in a long distance relationship, and she left me right when she moved here. She wanted to stay friends and I refused. A couple months ago she came to my show and was making it very obvious she wanted me. This is 8 years after she left me. If I hadn't had a girlfriend at that time we would have hooked up no question. Another ex and I had a tumultuous relationship, being back and forth (no cheating or anything negative) and she ended up marrying my friend. Tore me up inside. 10 years later we talked and she admitted she still loves me (still married to him by the way). There are more, but there's my point. It should be noted, in some cases I begged and pleaded.. sometimes no contact or a combination of the two. I'm just saying it does happen but sometimes in very strange ways.
@dizzy1412
@dizzy1412 2 жыл бұрын
Underrated comment
@isaacs6159
@isaacs6159 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@riaagacia8364
@riaagacia8364 3 жыл бұрын
he's right. when I beg yes, he's back. but he treated me bad. I think he's ego boost up to the sky. I try to be patient but still he treat me like I'm a door mat. He said that we're a good friend. a good friend won't treat me like that. on valentine day I asked one more time what are we. he said can we be friend and see how it goes? duh friendzone? I'm too old for that. I said thank you for everything and take care. no contact for a week he texted me he said he missed me. a piece of him gone. he told me to smile and find happiness. wow.... I only replied thank you🙏 and back in no contact. I deserve a lot better. a man who love me and treat me well.
@chchatzipanagiotou
@chchatzipanagiotou 3 жыл бұрын
I love you coach Lee !!! Especially your sense of humor!!!! Keep on the good work!! Regards from Greece 🙂
@d.radford273
@d.radford273 4 жыл бұрын
I've done a few of these and honestly I did it on purpose to burn the bridge. Now doing no contact I'm surprised she didn't block me or even suggest it. I wanted to be in a relationship and she just wanted to be friends with benefits. After 4 months I said she just used me to make her ex jealous and that she has no empathy. I was just pissed she was leading me on with no intention of commitment. I ended it for 3 different reasons. She is a narcasisst, she wouldn't commit and I was needy. So now I need to show strength and stay away we didn't get into that many fights only that last one she said she was pissed about how I handled this. I'm the one who ended it but she has to come back because she wouldn't commit.
@d.radford273
@d.radford273 4 жыл бұрын
@@aduplechain9576 I'm not sure I want her back after 2 weeks of no contact. Just disgusted with the behavior I put up with. Just need to get her off my mind and move on.
@d.radford273
@d.radford273 4 жыл бұрын
@@aduplechain9576 she's still married and has a 3 year old so she needs to figure out all that before I let her back. I shouldn't of got involved with her at all but it's a lesson learned. Itleast it was only 4 months.
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