Mistakes You Must Not Make in No Contact

[@222vessel]

best channel on youtube hands down Thank you coach Margaret and Craig!

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

Thank you

[@violetharprashad9805]

Love Magrette, she’s a sweetheart❤️

[@francissmith8849]

Craig I am learning from you and Margret. Can you help me in this. I am a male and I and a next male are together for 4 years. I found out he is all for himself and want things go his way all the time he is stoburn and always defensive when I ask him anything. There is more but not enough time. But the main thing is I got upset one day and said to him am ending it and he replied he want to do it long time and he have his girl , one day after I tried to call but found out he doesn't use the phone number he use when we were talking. What should I do it killing me

[@deemays12]

Fellas, trust me: They're more than likely coming back when you least expect it. And when they do, after awhile, you'll wonder why you tripped on them and will sit back and laugh.

[@luisitoskywalker9320]

Yup. This is accurate . I was head over heels for this woman before and got me nowhere when I chased . I got fed up so I stopped , went no contact and LO AND BEHOLD - she came back out of nowhere ! Asked me out to a movie , told me she had feelings for me , slept with her .... *MAGICAL*

[@elliotwolf2276]

Luisito Skywalker why would you get back with a girl who didn’t want you, ur better than that

[@ioeuropaganymedkallisto7204]

@@luisitoskywalker9320 are you back into your relationship or have you just slept with her?

[@luisitoskywalker9320]

Io Europa Ganymed Kallisto she came back , slept with her yes , but in the end , turned out she wasnt the person I thought she was and I decided to leave and see other people . best decision I’ve ever made and dodged a bullet

[@elliotwolf2276]

@@luisitoskywalker9320 Nice job man, I would never get back with an Ex ever in my life. Why would you want someone who does not want you back. if they were meant to be then they never would have left. plan and simple.

[@poolman966]

I have been practicing the art of "no contact". I highly recommend it and not for anything to do with your ex. If you practice "no contact" with the hopes of manipulating your exes behavior into reaching out it may or may not work. If they do reach out, how comfortable are you going to be if you got the relationship back together? Will you be walking on egg shells? What have they been doing since you had a "break"? Will they so easily discard you again and make you re-live all this pain? That does not sound fun. If they do not reach out you will be constantly wondering if you should have, if you were just doing it to manipulate them. Practice "no contact" for yourself with no expectations of the other party, only for yourself. Get your power back because you actually always had it.

[@mrstong4608]

I strongly agree

[@marinaaing5467]

You are a strong person good advice

[@markamos5207]

I finally know that this also means that the time comes where you need to block them so they can't emotionally abuse you anymore.

[@fox_6417]

Good point

[@TakeBackYourPower44]

Love This!!!

[@chasel8650]

This was years ago when I was 18 I wrote a love letter to my ex when we broke up, she burnt it and sent me the video of it on fire lol. DONT WRITE THE LETTER LOL

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

Wow. That hurts

[@cottonballs6912]

My ex threw the letter in garbage

[@ArcticSeraph]

Wow, that sounds extreme. Hope you stayed far away from her.

[@karenzhang1020]

lmao

[@brettfire83]

Letters are a bad idea but I just gotta say, your ex is a bitch.

[@shawnaludlow8099]

OMG- Don't write the hand written letter. I wrote a hand written letter. We got back together about a year later, I moved back into the house and saw the letter laying on the closet floor "never opened". I read the letter and saw how pathedic is actually was. My new, stronger, more confident me felt so much shame and wanted to go back in time and beat the crap out of the old me. Find your pride and realize that you are worth a lot. If they dont want you, move on. Your confidence and independence will be attractive to them and they will reach back out to you. Be in a hurry to become the best you you can be. You will either find someone better or you will get then back. Either way, win win. Craig and Margaret are the best... do what they say. I've been married to the guy that I nearly allowed to destroy me. They were right about everything. I love you guys!!!

[@bettyvick5184]

Nice stuff

[@randommf3549]

😂

[@RaffaelaCCC]

I just went through a tough no contact period and i did it exactly for 4 Weeks. On the last day (Exactly 4 Weeks after no contact) i brought my car to the garage to get some stuff some and took the train. Guess who i bumped into, yup my ex. I smiled politely and went in the train. We sat a couple feet away from each other. We suddenly ran to the bathroom and i stood up to check up on him. He came out crying saying how much he missed me and wants me back. I did not expect this response because he didnt say a word to be duringno contact and kind of given up on him. But little did i know that it was making him insane. Every day felt even worse to him, when he didnt hear from me. We are starting off slow again. We broke up cause he needed space and couldnt handle it all at once. I was devestated cause he showed me the cold shoulder. No contact was the ONLY thing that made this word and make each other miss us like crazy.

[@danielbrown8602]

I will NEVER LET another another person too close to me.

[@Jakas-qt6hj]

Don’t blame you at all. Same

[@Paynetrayneoce]

These always come when I need them... unlike my ex 😂😂

[@l.k.1111]

😂😂😂

[@PeteAndersen]

😂 I never thought this would happen. My ex just texted me after 6 month. Saying thx for our time together and congrats with my new relationship IF THAT WAS THE RIGHT THING FOR ME... 😂 So it happens guys. ❤️ Unfortunately for her my new love is better in every way and I am so much stronger in myself. I’m not gonna respond. 😎

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

Too bad for her Pete! See, u guys don’t believe me!

[@PeteAndersen]

Yes Craigh. I think we’ve come full cirkel now. I’ve gained so much from the workbooks and coachings after the breakup 6 month ago and now she’d even giving me an indirect/direct approach. 😆 Did you ever see my succes email?

[@kewl800i]

@@PeteAndersen Has craig made it as an episode? Share it pls!

[@evertonhighlightstv6175]

Has been 2 months of no contact for me and have had urges to reach out but am staying as strong as I can. 💪

[@jorgeandrade783]

Everton Highlights TV Stay strong man. Whatever happens, you will come out the other side a better person. And come on Everton!!!

[@harris4357]

Any updates fella

[@evertonhighlightstv6175]

Harris. Am here now focusing on my purpose in work and haven’t unblocked her from any social media since when I blocked her in February. I saw the other day that she’s made a new Facebook account as it’s came up in my ‘suggested friends’ but I won’t be rushing to add her as a friend anytime soon. 😆

[@dwightschrute8141]

Update?

[@charlescreak4175]

Thanks for getting me through some hard times. Therapeutic videos. I’ve accepted, and smashing the gym, work & relationships with family and friends. We’re in this together brothers. Time to become the best version of yourself!!

[@Knel89]

I’m going to try to start conditioning my mind on looking forward to someone new, instead of a possible reunion with my ex. There’s a lot of feelings that need to be felt and a lot do things need to happen for us to reunite with our exes. But who knows, we could meet someone that makes being together simple and such a pleasure. Stay strong everyone 💪🏻

[@senseijen8963]

Agree... The space and time will help us heal. Knowing that they can break your heart and ignore you for weeks, months even years makes me doubt whether I should get back with someone like that.

[@DetroitLionsDynasty]

Man as much as I love these two and how great of insight they have, I feel these videos just give me false hope and setting me up to be crushed in a couple months when she never reaches out

[@djaidin]

Hey couch my girlfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago, i was going through very hard time, crying like a baby but after i found your page, you really helping me out alot, thank you so much, please put more videos i already watched and like it all of them❤

[@hazardfingaz5664]

Boom. After 30 days they got in touch. The rest is up to you... Thanks Craig n Margaret. Success so far, but personal growth is the key!

[@xpaperxcutx4588]

hazard fingaz hi happy for you. How did the break up occur ? Every breakup is different so your success may not always be so quick for others.

[@fatpugg3507]

Best Channel Around, 💯💯💯 during this C19 virus, i must say do not break no contact, because if you reach out, and you dont get the response you want during difficult times like this, will rip you emotionally and spiritually, i know it maybe difficult but dont do it, because thats what they are expecting you to do .

[@Cry3dge]

Is it possible to do a video specifically about success stories about exes coming back from a rebound relationship, and how to go about it from there? Thank you so much much Coach Craig and Coach Margaret! Love you both!

[@cashalove5031]

Cry3dge I 2nd that!!! I want to hear how many people come back together!

[@pkbeats8035]

Yeah that would be excellent

[@santinogoring8860]

Or just move on just sayin

[@sumittanwar9438]

No contact is a blessing trust me guys follow exactly what Coach Craig and Margaret says. She came back 3rd time and i dont care anymore lol.

[@ednalynelayda8587]

Omg! 😍😍 Thank you so much Craig. I followed your advice. Been watching your videos almost a month my bf broke up with me july 16th 2020 and I begged and chased him for like a a week after a break up and I did no contact at all! guess what! Today I deleted his phone number and boom He just reached out just today August 16th 2020♥️♥️♥️ I am so happy!!

[@codydavis3100]

and what happened since?

[@ednalynelayda8587]

@@codydavis3100 We are back and happy together♥️♥️

[@princeofsubliminal5312]

I swear Craig you're the best and during this tough time you inspire me & so many people to feel better I swear Craig we love you ♥️

[@mikeedwards9405]

Coach Margaret said "how old are you? 38" and am smiling because am 38 going through a break up with my wife who has decided she don't want me anymore.And am broken telling myself I will never marry again..thank you for your educative videos coach Craig am following your tips of 'No contact' as my anxiety when we started this made her more crazier to a point she said she is not in love with me anymore and the last one she said she is ready for a divorce....am hoping she will come back to me someday.

[@melissachinnici]

Wow you two are the only relationship coaches that make any sense and have been able to bring me any solace within myself and my relationship. Thanks so much for sharing your wisdom 🙏

[@2twinpop]

I need to get these workbooks. Exs do come back even after a year but don't wait for them, work on yourself.

[@mariomarban8444]

My ex told me her feelings have been fading and to leave her alone and doesn’t want to have a relationship anymore... it really broke my heart.

[@dwightschrute8141]

Update?

[@scottservo]

I only broke no contact after a month to ask how her therapy was going and if she's feeling better...ignored. Yikes. This was my best friend for 4 years. I'm so crushed.

[@Jakas-qt6hj]

She for the streets aha

[@ggshandsomeboy5103]

I was in a LDR of 13 months. He said he loved me at 8pm and then broke up with me via text at 1am. No arguements, no disagreements, no refusals to relocate on either side. I'm in full NC, he sent a seasonal greeting last Thanksgiving, but I didn't reply. I was very disappointed about the break up, very upset it was via text, but your videos helped tremendously. Thanks

[@TheAmazingShow]

GGs Handsomeboy that doesn't sound like a healthy human being. Communication is key in the relationship, and he clearly lacks it. Stay strong.

[@GemmaMariaa]

My ex changed his number almost a year ago next month. Can’t believe I have reached a year of no contact with someone who I dated for six years 😢 It’s still so hard.

[@Flexizuverpuenktlich]

I am very sorry to hear that and I would like to let you know my ex broke up with me in February of 2019 and it still hurts. He reached out after three months of no contact but that was it. I still see him every once in a while because he lives in the same Village and that makes it so hard. Since a couple of months I am seeing a therapist and i hope this helps. i cannot stand the pain in my heart anymore. I wish you all the best and I want to thank you for sharing your story. that makes me feel that I'm not all alone.

[@violetharprashad9805]

same with me my husband moved out, send divorce mail, change his number and block me on social media, i beg him to leave email open until i can heal, it so hard for me, i do not want to find love, i will live my life like this, my heart has broken into a million pieces...its 10 yrs for us... married almost 5 yrs... just for little things we can work on... ohhh it hurts really bad...

[@Flexizuverpuenktlich]

@@violetharprashad9805 so sorry to hear that. hope you will feel better soon. may God bless you to find somebody who cares for you in the right way

[@violetharprashad9805]

Dina Smiday-thank you

[@noneyabusiness9931]

Keep your head up

[@jinxlee8556]

My ex took her brother's advice. That's why she broke up with me. Listening to family members is the worst thing she could have done. After having a 5 year relationship and discussing marriage. Now she posts on line how miserable and lonely her life is. She is missing me day and night. I'll just keep improving myself and chill. And stay in "No Contact."

[@jinxlee8556]

Update: I was wondering if my ex is unemployed because of businesses shutting down from covid19. Or if she may be in quarantine. So I called her job. Not to talk to her. But to ask if they were still conducting business. And guess who answered the phone? The one and only! I heard her voice. And I hung up. I hope they didn't have caller ID. I don't want her to think I was stalking her. I will never do that again. At least I know she still has a job. But I really never expected her to answer the phone. She is a security guard. I helped her to get the job three years ago. I thought they were closed down. But her voice sounded beautiful. Although I am in no contact....$#%&! I'm wondering should I call and apologize for calling her job? NAW! I will let her reach out to me before I make an apology about an accidental dial.

[@lockecaptain398]

@@jinxlee8556 HAHHAHAHHAHAHAHHHAHAHAHA OMG! Please don't tell me she heard your voice 🤣🤣🤣🤣 boy you almost messed up big time but thanks for the laugh 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@jinxlee8556]

@@lockecaptain398 No she didn't hear my voice. That would have been super stupid. I just hung up and didn't answer back. I'm just hoping her job didn't have caller ID. Probably not. I've seen the phone in the plant where she works. It is in a warehouse. I think I'm cool. But I will never do that again. I thought a supervisor would have answered. And I would have got the info on the covid19 status for the plant. I didn't know answering the phone was in her job description.

[@jinxlee8556]

But it is funny. HAHAHA!

[@jinxlee8556]

@@katrinas8345 You got that right.

[@blAnc1k]

The problem with all these "don't write letters" advices is the following - you cannot put all type of letters in one basket. Most of folks write love letters in order to try to get their ex back which is a huge mistake. What worked for me, and by "work" I mean i got the result I wanted which was to say last goodbye and move on. I wrote an accountability letter where I thanked for all the good memories together, I acknowledged my mistakes (but never apologize in a letter) and pointed out that a break up was necessary for both of us to reflect upon ourselves, learn and go to next relationships stronger and smarter. Never got the reply, but that was the whole point of the letter - letting go in a peaceful and loving way. Remember in order to truly let them go - you actually have to love them in a non-ego way.

[@angier8335]

Can you make a video on exes that said “maybe in the future” and how to take that

[@jenjen12345653]

A rv pleaseeee Craig!

[@chriswho09]

They are giving you false hope. Don’t be their back up plan. Don’t put your life on hold for them.

[@bobbyjean1581]

I actually think it means just how it sounds. That right now they want to break up but they arent sure of their decision permenantly. Of course still just follow all of Craig and Margaret's advice exactly. But take it as a good sign :-) I think there's a lot of negativity out there but ex's arent neccessarily 'bad' people out to use and manipulate you. Sometimes they really are just confused.

[@NaomiMarie1130]

It's just what they say to lessen the blow of breaking up with you, they don't want you trying to talk them out of the breakup

[@nhuphan1240]

I got the same response from my ex, he said that maybe in the future but not now since he is not ready for a relationship

[@gabbymontoya2085]

Your videos save me at my weakest... He wont ever reach out.he never cared..I know cuz im an ER nurse..He'll reach out when its too late..😥😷😷

[@ruecru2976]

Gabby Montoya let me replace that lame.

[@gennam9637]

How long has nc gone on for?

[@gabbymontoya2085]

@@gennam9637 Hes an avoidant ..never took initiative for anything..2 months NC.

[@mazbarth]

@@katrinas8345 We nurses get some training in this area but not as much as therapists.

[@kewl800i]

@@mazbarth Have you encountered in your study as a nurse where a couple is Avoidant-Anxious and the Anxious caused the break up (and began having a new bf)? Who must reach out then, the Avoidant or the Anxious? I was thinking its the Anxious since she caused the breakup, but what about the Avoidant? Isnt reaching out when one is Avoidant a sign that the Avoidant has realized his wrongs?

[@peter1266]

My ex Fiancé dumped me about 2 months ago. Since then she gave the ring back and returned my stuff. We were long distance for the last year (2 separate continents) and she dumped me out of the blue. We were together for 7 years. It’s been 2 months of no contact and I’m losing hope she’ll ever turn around and miss me. Our anniversary and her birthday have just passed as well and as far as her friends and family have told me. She’s happy. Maybe it’s time to just move on.

[@ioeuropaganymedkallisto7204]

How is it going? Have you moved on?

[@Amirasuperdope]

This is exactly my situation right now. Really need this video to keep me motivated with the no contact! Thank you so much, the both of you ❤️

[@andret4980]

You are so beatiful ..

[@kaylacrawford9804]

Did you ever get back with your ex

[@elkanawilly9299]

The best channel so far on you tube, it is not sin to make mistake but it is sin to do nothing about it.

[@soyayi_love]

This episode was so great. It was very helpful to me. Thank you very much . You guys are truly a lifesaver

[@emilyrobson4719]

I wrote a letter to my ex, I give him it the last time I seen him. We cried together whilst he read it and he said “you must really love me if you have took the time to write this”. But this was before I came across this channel! I think he cried out of guilt though. We planned to meet again a week and a half later and then he refused on the day. From that day I’ve been in no contact for a month :( I just feel so sad

[@robertbell8016]

Just finished with the work book for the day. And then bam a new video from the best coach out there!

[@markswelt]

Same ☺️

[@sanditrevaskis8586]

I believe that writing a letter to get things out of your head but just don’t send it relieves a lot of the desire to contact them. Then Hold it or toss it.

[@mago1219]

9 months of no contact… im glad i got here . I know my worth and im sure im not perfect . I didnt made any mistake that was worth breaking up… some people are just not ready to receive real love and they leave because they are actually afraid that you leave them first someday . At least thats what i think aboute my relationship. She was scared and started to give any excuses to breakup . Nothing that she said was about me or the relationship… like “i dont like the city that you family leaves “ or “you dont like to go to the beach as much as i do “ ( by the way , i love surfing lol) some peolple are just to messed up to have someone in their life. Most of you are not the ones that should be hearing “work on your self and go to terapy “ , most of your ex should be hearing this. Of course its always good to improve your self but they probably, most of the time , do the same.

[@user-ee9xx9qn1p]

this gave me the boost i needed. i really do love & appreciate you guys. both Craig & Margaret have helped me through this more than anyone i personally know.

[@dongucch4937]

Great video, helped me keep focus on no contract. The anxiety is unreal! Everyday it goes up and down. Great video guys🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@mabXgod]

Thanks coach, everything you say is both directly and indirectly helpful. In the short time I've been following you, I've felt like I've grown up so much. I met this girl with which we were initially friendly, but then I got interested so I asked her out, we went on a few dates and everything was good up to that point. Quarantine happened and my mistake was I was texting this girl every day. Even if sometimes she was the first to reach, which was rare. I've realised my mistake now, but one day she just didn't text me and after a few days I asked if she's ok as I was genuinely worried if she was okay as she might have ended up in the hospital. She said sorry, she's tired thinking about something so i asked if i can call her, she then said she needed her own time, to which i replied I understand, i'll let her be and i'm there if she wants to share. She said thanks and that was it. Since then I initiated NC and don't know how I should move forward when and if she reaches out as I can't even ask her out on a date. I'm not even sure if she needs time because of something I did or it might even be something personal. Edit: I wasn't being clingy at all, however I did give her a lot of attention. Answering quickly 90% of the time and almost always reaching out first

[@TheAmazingShow]

mabXgod Texting is only used to set up dates (if you're not in a relationship already and even then it can ruin attraction). If you do it too much and it leads nowhere, people lose interest. Stay in no contact no matter what. If she'll be interested again, she'll reach out. When she reaches out, few replies max and invite her to your place to hangout in the evening. Women usually do most of the chasing, if they don't, they're obviously just not that interested. I hope this helps. Definitely watch more videos on the subject, don't just take my words for it. I'm not a professional...

[@mabXgod]

@@TheAmazingShow thanks AJ. That's the thing, just before quarantine got intense she came once and we had a lovely time, but things got scary here in the UK and she is afraid to go out and to even come over. I asked her to come over around 3 times to which she said no, however our conversations via text continued as always. I did stop asking her as I realised she really is scared and she won't come over until quarantine is lifted.

[@TheAmazingShow]

mabXgod damn, that's a really tough situation to be in. Idk what I would do in your situation to be honest. Texting too much obviously isn't good, but being too cold can be a similar problem. This virus made a lot of issues everywhere. I wish I could give you anything useful, but I just don't know 😅 Let's hope she reaches out when this pandemic settles.

[@mabXgod]

@@TheAmazingShow thanks. Exactly it's neither here nor there. On the bright side, I've found many things to keep me busy during this quarantine which is a plus :D

[@TheAmazingShow]

mabXgod At least that. That's good to hear, since most people are just bored 😄

[@jamesgunn9056]

I had to unfriend the ex to get that moment of clarity and emotional weight off my shoulders so I could focus on an important job interview the next day. Literally felt relieved and free 10 mins later, it was unreal. It was a hard choice to make but had to do it. Was it a mistake? Maybe, but I had to think of me and my health first and I followed through with the decision. Managed to get that job too because of it. Now the ball is in her court...

[@applekathymn2575]

This is the best advice I've heard after breakup. Thankyou. Move on but no hate to the person.

[@Elmaffo2008]

Thank you for all the help. I know we all crave validation from our loved ones. I'm almost 2 months in doing good with the occasional mood swings but I keep my chin up. I'm sure I can be better than I was yesterday even if its only by a %. I've made up my mind to get her back no matter the sacrifice I have to make to better myself and if in the case I don't, I'll be here for another lovely girl to take on the world :)

[@dwightschrute8141]

Update?

[@Elmaffo2008]

@@dwightschrute8141 life continues, but better. I'm at ease now. Foccused on a new path with goals in mind some completed some left behind or tinkerd to something I can manage. Best net worth build of my lifetime 20k up from debt to debt free. Got a car. Good good friends and on the job now full time. Moments when I wanted to quit dissapeared. Kept true to myself had the chance to revitalize the relationship but. She did not do the work... Does it hurt? At first yes but later on its just the same old. I see now that you can make yourself special to others. Do not bow down to their level let them come to yours. Don't compensate your true desire for a woman/man based of an identity you created in your head thst you love. It's never the best outcome. In other words some doors close new doors open, question is at what point do you wanna keep looking foward instead of backwards. Hope it helps you abit, finding familiarity in your own life will do that too. I wish you the best :)

[@magiemay9670]

My god you guys will never know how much your videos are helping me. And coach Margeret, I love when you smile. Makes me smile too. Everytime! Thank you for all your help. ❤❤

[@Topspeedmotorcars]

I have written a letter and it was a way to express myself from the heart and it was very personal. Expected no response, and It set me free.

[@Np-aero]

It's been NC for 37 days now. I'm staying strong but it's hard when he lives in the same neighborhood so I walk by his car every few days

[@IrishCassidy]

maybe he will move, or you can find a new route to walk? idk, whatever is best for you.

[@eliskasuchankova9689]

Stay stroong ♥

[@JelenaVecic024]

Im 36 days now in NC, did not called /text at all, even on break up day i was stable even though my heart was broken.... it is damn hard.. i have a lot of ups and downs , yeaterday was easter didnt sent msg, and i did not received at all.trying to avoid social media as much as i can.. posted only 4 posts since we broke up.. i still feel desparate, nighta are hardest and a lot of things are daily reminders of my ex... so i will stay in NC.. there is nothing else i can do... ☹

[@jwuptr]

Any updates?

[@pumaares3639]

I dont know if someone will read this or not. But i swear a break up is the thoughest thing i ever experienced. Sometimes i cant breath, get panic attacks my head is feeling like it will explode. Everybody says time will help you to get back. But the sad part is, that time is now going so slow, while you watching on your phone if the person text you or not. You kinda in hell right now. You see no Colors just the darkness of the hell on earth. The Person take the last Light with you and now you are alone. I wish to everybody that they never have to suffer with a break up.

[@livenow13]

That’s exactly how I feel. I certainly haven’t felt this type of pain in my life before

[@simranmukherji7207]

Both of you team up to be the best! Haven't seen any other KZbin channel providing such useful and to the point informations! Congratulations both of you, keep guiding us! Thanks

[@coakleykyle3]

Hi Craig, I was wondering if you could ever do a video on short term relationships and if there’s still hope for them to come back in time? I’m in that situation rn after an intense relationship that was a lil over 2 months and even became boyfriend and girlfriend at the very end of it before she broke it off. Obviously every situation is different with my ex being an avoidant, someone who hasn’t dated someone seriously or had a boyfriend in over 4 years until she met me, and is very independent, even though she was really into me and I was into her. It was generally a healthy and genuine relationship until the last weekend we hung out. Went no contact right away and it’s been a lil over a month now but if you could do a video in general over short term relationships I would really appreciate it and would like to get your perspective on it??

[@BeanieNinjay0]

Update?

[@joshs.9052]

Similar situation too, would be great to hear your update?

[@sour_dsl804]

Thank you!! When feeling horrible...you and Margaret's words make me feel better about this situation!!👍👍✌

[@fitforfreelance]

Good tips! It's a fine time to get in the best shape of your life

[@WastedPiety]

You changed my life for the better Craig and Margaret, I wish you both the best during these tough times!

[@yeeyee353]

Don’t write them letters you’ll regret it!! I still feel this embarrassment from doing it 😭😂😂

[@toyat1059]

My situation began as a result of isolation with covid 19. I was dealing with unemployment issues as well, I went off on boyfriend for not communicating much, he made me feel like I didn't matter. He was surrounded by people, I was by myself. I realize it was a moment of anxiety that caused me to go off on him. I realize he was slowly pulling away, I heard more from my friends than from him. I emailed him and apologized for my behavior and explained what went wrong, it was the lack of communication, instead, he said it's not going to work out. I respect his decision, I'm not going to beg someone who didn't see my worth. It's been two weeks, I hope the pain gets better. He chose to break up, when I saw him last, I sensed coldness and he hugged me for the last time, so there's no grudge between us.

[@markamos5207]

I'm quite sure "No Contact" without blocking would work with a more regular person. But if it's a narcissistic person that repeatedly blocks you it's a different story. At some point a line has to be drawn and a boundary has to be set to stop the cycle of emotional abuse and disrespect. The type of "No Contact" needed is based upon the type of person you are dealing with.

[@marionbauer717]

Can you please make a video that he breaks up because his kids are unhappy teenagers 18 years old.they have to help in the house and are unhappy about it .

[@outroseok]

I wish I would’ve found this channel right after my breakup, the first few days after my breakup I did the usual begging and pleading to the point my ex blocked me everywhere except instagram (which is strange bc I also messaged him on there, it’s like he wanted atleast one way to still keep tabs). but I’m on week 2 now and ever since I found this channel I completely stopped the begging, also to save some of my dignity lol. I could’ve saved so much time though if I found this channel earlier 🙃

[@Mia-qd3ki]

I'm the one who is reaching out. I kept texting but there was no response (we are not friends on fb anymore). I even asked her friends to implore her to come back, and there was no response too. Maybe I should give her some time to think about our relationship. I'll wait. It's been 2 months, though. I was depressed, upset and even suicidal. But I'm more positive now. I'll wait for her anyway, miss u

[@marystacey2216]

I love you guys ,you are such a massive comfort to me rite now ,you are giving me hope ,I have woken up in my usual panick ,listening to you is helping me , I am 28 years his senior ,mad I know but have had 3 years of sharing our lives ,he confuses me coz he told me 2 years ago he doesn't find me sexually attractive but he still wanted to sleep with me ,told me I was one of his favourite friend , but he is abusive and violent if I challenge him ,he accuses me of seeing other guys ,questions me ,had said awfull things I have not gone with any body ,I know there is massive age gap ,love you guys thank you for your advice x

[@TheEstherlevyrulez]

Would no contact work in my case : he broke up with me a month ago after arguing a lot for 2 years (4 yrs realtionship and engaged), it was after a big argument about money. I would often say " maybe we should break up" out of anger, but this time he replied with "yes we should"... we cried a lot but couldn t go no contact right away because but i had to find a place of my own so it delayed the process. I still made myself as scarce as possible meanwhile and he would attempt to comfort me through the door when he heard me cry but i wouldn t let him because it hurt and i told him i didn t want to be friends while he figured it out. He wanted an indefinite break and for me to wait until he figured out if he still loved me pretending to need some alone time he reassured me wasn t to date around... The thing is i had my doubt a woman was involved, and although i m not proud of it, i went through his phone while he was in the shower. He had been messaging an older divorced woman from his circle of friends he told me not to worry about... he informed her he was single the VERY NEXT DAY we had broken up. Confused and very hurt, i held my tongue and arranged for my current living situation. Only on the day i left (he was at work) he kept texting to know how it was going, 1. I was busy, 2. I couldn t emotionally handle this and focus on moving my stuff so i didn t reply. He messaged my best friend " take care of her she doesn t wanna talk but i care about her". I had a breakdown, i was physically and emotionally exhausted. I wrote him a long text in which i told him knowing about the other woman, wondering if he had been unfaithful but being sure he had been at least emotionally, wishing well and asking not to contact me again. Tbh i m more hurt because of the lies (months ago he would reassure me she was no threat but would call her from time to time and be shady) than the possible physical intimacy between them... so is no contact still an option for me ? I can't help but feel guilty still ( i m very jealous and insecure and wonder if i pushed him to act like that) ... but i know i never lied to him... what do i do ? I still love him, i can overlook the betrayal, not the lies... i feel destroyed

[@buchanan012]

I just did a skype coaching with Craig and I have another to add to the list! Don't post on social media how you're changing or talk about personal growth! Be authentic and live your life. Or, better yet, don't post anything at all. Work on yourself in secret. Don't play your hand. I did and I got blocked.

[@moonie9000]

Got to be honest, the handwritten letter did work for me once. That said, I also refused to reach out after that. So it could have been a bit of both that worked, but she (an avoidant) specifically mentioned that the letter broke her heart and that's why she sent me a video back.

[@carissaj3560]

My ex suddenly left after we got engaged and turned into a very angry person. He used to be super calm. At the breakup he got super angry about minor stuff from the beginning of the relationship. He came back after 11 months and sleeping with a ton of women. He kept saying he found the right girl and then would leave her after a few weeks and find another. I pursued him the whole time though. Turns out he was abused as a child and I think he has that C PTSD which is caused from childhood trauma. He came back fully and was ready to do anything to be together and started paying for our wedding to show his commitment, then 3 months later when his parents left right before his birthday he triggered into another rage and left me again. He clearly pulls away from me when his childhood trust issues are triggered. This time I'm not going to chase again. He keeps thinking he needs to find the right woman and doesn't need therapy. He's already dating someone else and once again swears she's the one.

[@Elvira_Berzina]

You are a wonderful human!! Well you both !! I split up with my ex a little over a month ago and have been absolutely heartbroken and devastated . I have been trying to seek some comfort from KZbin but so far I I found your stuff so relevant and trie ! You have genuinely given me some vital info to cope with this. Thank you so so much! (A quick question if they reach out to me how should I respond I don’t want to ge rude but I also don’t want to give them that instant gratification ) I miss him so much and I do understand it was my fault so I am tying to do everything in my power to improve and work on my self ! )

[@TheAmazingShow]

Ellie Elvira Berzina Sorry to hear you're going through a breakup. If I would be in your shoes, when he reaches out I would be polite as you said and I would let him do the repairing. Basically I would always just reciprocate the level of interest. But I'm not the professional so do watch more videos of Craig talking about after they reach out. It's kinda hard to find them sometimes, because the titles usually don't say anything in connection with that, but I've watched a few in the past ☺️

[@ulisesbernales5969]

Look dont chase a guy period.

[@Elvira_Berzina]

Ulises Bernales no I wouldn’t but it’s als very very hard when you love someone and your having to close that window it’s definitely one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do

[@dwightschrute8141]

@@Elvira_Berzina update?

[@davidwoodling4070]

Hi Craig/Margaret. Love you channel. My ex messaged me on and off for a couple of months before cancelling a meet up and then ultimately blocking me on all social media in weeks after as she was embarking on a new relationship. She unblocked me and messaged me with a generic birthday message a couple of months later but I made the 'mistake' of not replying after I decided it was more important for me to focus on my personal growth (mental or physical illnesses) than get attached to probable breadcrumbs and fall back to my weak self. That message was 6 months ago and now I feel a lot more centred I wonder what life would be like if I had replied. I imagine nothing would have changed and that she was just being 'nice' or wanting attention, but I can't be sure. I have no idea how she is, what she's doing or if she's still with this guy as I haven't looked in months. I'd be interested to hear a video on what, if anything, you can do if you made this decision for yourself and later have the 'what if' feeling and know if the message came again you'd act different due to a stable mental state. Does anyone have any thoughts on this sort of thing? I agree we should never ignore an ex you're still interested in, but I haven't seen anything about what to do if you did this for the good of yourself.

[@davidwoodling4070]

@Gab arc - thank you for your insight :) Unfortunately I don't think that was the case. At the time I knew she was still seeing another guy, and I know she still was 2 months after that. It's been 4 months since I last saw anything about her now. I of course was to message her but not sure NC counts in my situation. I'll see if anyone else has any ideas. Thank you Gab arc

[@Madonna101Anton]

I would reach out. At least that way you wont regret not reaching out. Even if its been months. You never know where she is now and what her mindset is. The important thing is to not have too much expectations when replying after so long. :)

[@doingok827]

This just made me feel so much better today. Especially the part where you say that it's not as bad as we think. Right at the beginning (3 months ago) I sent 2 messages saying that I missed him and that I'd move to live with him. He's reached out a few times (to talk about the virus and lockdown). I replied but i don't want to spend lots of time sending messages and he doesn't want to talk. So now I've been doing No Contact and he's not reaching out. Working on myself, doing the workbooks and I can't wait for my Skype call with Margaret.

[@Harpa834]

First if all thank you for sharing your personal past relationship with everyone, You rely make allot of since, one video you posted, helped me in ways I didn't know was okay to do. You said, think that person will come back, in the meantime work on yourself. I am pretty sure this is over, 7 months I haven't heard from from him, constantly think about him daily. First of all, If I broke up with him, went out , played around, I wouldn't care a bit about him. Unfortunately, I am the dumpee.. Your advise saying think they might come back, is the best advise when the dumpee gets so upset, overwhelmed wondering what he's doing , who's he seeing, etc, that's me. I used your wisdom to think he's possibly coming back.This took me out of depression, all the stuff I was dwelling about, wasting all those months. The Win/Win , it's so much better than feeling hopeless, I know he not coming back but thinking that way, saved me. I am growing from this and this will help if I get in another relationship . Thank you

[@joshichauhan040]

Wowed what a pairs..❤️ both coaches are amazing.. they knows what they are doing.

[@vibloom6520]

You two are so great and calming :)

[@Fyodordostoy22]

It's really the best channel . Sir thank u alot I understood my mistakes now . Before these I begged my ex to stay in fact after break up he started being hot and cold , flirt when he wants and then be harsh when he wants . I realized I'm allowing him to think he owns me if I stop carefully he'll come back. But I'm scared if he'll leave me thinking moved on

[@conradsmithlacsina4166]

As usual, Coach Craig Kenneth and Coach Margareth are on point.

[@MarcKlark]

Very sound advice. Beautiful chemistry between coaches makes learning and retaining a delightful breeze.

[@youtoo2233]

Just now discovered this Channel and really like it. The Coronavirus has caused tremendous stress in my girlfriend's life to the point she broke up with me. I've been freaking out about it. I'm glad I saw this video so now I know just to give her space and once all this virus stuff is over maybe she'll be able to relax and come back. I just hope it doesn't turn into a year or more

[@lydialagg5862]

lol same situation here

[@jasperkirton6848]

I wrote a letter for my ex after she had gotten back from visiting relatives in a different country (on bad terms) - we broke up whilst she was away and went pretty much no contact; I knew she would also be in quarantine when she came back because of C19. I wrote the letter to comfort her / part of an apology / to practice her language a bit, she said she appreciated it when we spoke for the first time in many weeks after she read it, and let me back into her life afterwards. I don't think it is a bad idea if you are doing it for the right reasons; but can see why it would come across as desperate during a period of no contact.

[@Jakas-qt6hj]

Are you both not together ? What happened

[@jasperkirton6848]

@@Jakas-qt6hj sadly not. she moved half way across the world for a new job :)

[@zuhaabid2514]

These two angelic figures!! ❤️❤️ Barely in my life I have even put a like on any video on KZbin and I wait for your content. Your current subjects are according the situation, shows how considerate you are 👏👏.I can feel a connection with you two. My favourite people 🇵🇰❤️

[@robertpeters3159]

This is helping me so much . Im so uninformed or Knowledgable about this . She broke up few days ago after my surgery . Was shocking to me . Pulled rug right out from under my feet . Great stuff really helping me thought i was only one thought this way .

[@chrisearle40]

I wasted no time defriending. If we aren’t together....we aren’t at all.

[@JelenaVecic024]

36 days in NC... it is hard but i follow NC rule...i miss my ex.. but i work on myself to get better.... so i didnt made any of mistakes.. and after all even on break up day i did not bag, go crazy, argue etc... but i still miss out time together since out LDR (almost 7 yrs) was good, no cheating, .. so memories are killing me inside... will keep strong and keep in nc.

[@jahanvisinghania8474]

It's been 6 months, since No contact. Although he ended things, I just asked the reason for 1-2 times after not getting any reason/closure I went into No contact. And after 5 months, it was month of may ,I saw in my IG notifications that he has liked a message in our chats, but soon as I opened it, he might have unliked it. I didn't react at all. I forgot about the message he liked. But now his bday is coming in July. Should I just say these 2 words? "Happy Birthday 🎂?"

[@Seephora]

Great vidéo thank you. What would you recommend when you have stuff at his place that you want/need to get back ? He is an avoidant...many break ups the past 4 years 🤤😪😒

[@mychemicalwasteland]

I broke nearly 3 months no contact yesterday! I needed some help switching electricity accounts from his name to mine. Did I make a massive mistake? At the same time this is a person that told me love does not exist before leaving so why am I still hoping he comes back?

[@georgepanagiotou8673]

It’s almost 3 months now and not a word.. I don’t think it’s gonna happen 💔

[@glenndiddy]

Could you do a video on what to do when you get an indirect direct approach from a long distance ex? I feel like a lot of people are in this situation and they can't casually ask them to come over, what would you do instead? I think you should just ask how they are and see where it goes. If they contact you more often you can try and build an emotional connection again with them leading the beginning phases as you can't come on too strong.

[@JelenaVecic024]

I want that video too. Was in LDR almost 7 yrs.. in nc 36 days...

[@doingok827]

Me too. My LDR ex has reached out by message but I don't want long messaging sessions.

[@JelenaVecic024]

@@doingok827 long messaging sux..i dont want that its will just extend my agony..

[@thavue3013]

Huge face palm to myself when you mentioned the Hand Written letter lol

[@l.2393]

Write the letter and tear it up !! 16:15

[@elkanawilly9299]

Thank you coach Margret and Craig, you are wonderful people. I keep listening to you every day

[@jacquelineball1569]

Excellent advice Craig and Margaret.

[@SpaceCadet4Jesus]

Coach Craig and Coach Margaret make a great team.

[@LiLgPnoy15]

I didn't do the hand written letter, but I still like writing letters to people! That's old school

[@littleman787]

I wrote a handwritten letter and posted it to my long-distance, first ever ex-girlfriend in Paris. It was more for my closure but didn't really help and we never spoke again anyway.

[@floralwood_]

Wish Craig would upload more videos each week. Monday is my favourite day now because I know Craig is uploading videos every Monday.

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

Limited due to Coronavirus. Sometimes I’ll release a few. Fortunately I have over 800 videos for you in my library. 😉

[@floralwood_]

@@CoachCraigKenneth Yess I watch them every day!!!!! Thank you so much Coach ❤️😊😍

[@samriddhigoswami8411]

@@CoachCraigKenneth My guy loves me more than anything he did everything to make me happy and he still loves me but due to some situations he got frustrated..the biggest reason was I did not give him space was always behind him asking for time and talk to me etc etc. And he was good till last week but 2 days ago he got frustrated and said please give me a break . Atleast for 15 days so that I can understand what's happening n how to fix this ..give me a break so that I can atleast miss you for once. And has asked me not to contact him for 15 days atleast and he also mentioned that I love you and I'm extremely attached to you... I know I'll miss you soon n will come back. But I'm really scared I just don't wanna loose him. Please guide me on this !!!

[@vasiasofron7254]

Dear Mr. Craig we were together for 1 year i am 26 and he is 24. Once the quarantine started, i notice a different behaviour. We have stayed together for 2 weeks and after that he went to his parents to stay and i went to mine. We talked every day, he said he missed me d wanted to come amd see me and all these things someone in love says. He did come on Wednesday, after a week a d a half apart, he told me he loves what we have a d how happy he is. I have asked him if he is missing his single life, he told me, after the quarantine yes but didn't want to break up. On Thursday morning though he told me he needed to be alone but at the same time he was crying saying he loves me. He even followed me when i was leaving from the apartment crying saying i love you but needs to be alone, " it has nothing to do with you its me" he said. "I need to be alone i do not know what comes next but we need to broke up". That's it....and now i do not know what is going on and i really want him back..

[@trev2x]

Hardest thing is being broken up during the quarantine and she has found a rebound to quarantine with her ..... terrible pain but only the strong survive 💪🏿💪🏿

[@sandrae2319]

You can do this!

[@minishaaa__]

My ex broke up with me or want to stay like as a friend but he still behave like my boyfriend but don't want relationship with me I tried for 2 month to stay as a friend zoned but I can't able to stay as a friend n it's hurt me then I decide to share my feelings to my ex then he got angry or block me from everywhere now I'm using no contact rules he doesn't want me back it's hurt I really love him 😭😭😭😭😭

[@meenalaregina7770]

Hi Craig! Hi Margaret! I missed you! Happy Easter. Hugs!

[@erinmesler]

Four months post-breakup and we're STILL arguing about the same things we broke up over. I did NC for a month and a half and he reached out. He keeps saying goodbye, but still texts me.

[@duckygonequackers7283]

how does this work when you have children involved and seeing them? i still see my son every other week ?

[@omarpimentel1047]

What If you don't know what changes to make because. My gf broke up with me a few days ago. I gave her everything. I treated her amazing. We never argued, her family and friends loved me. And we would go to raves together. Every thing was good but she called me and said it's not working out it's not me it was her. I said I did everything for you. She said i know you went above and beyond for me. She was like I never asked for all that. I went in to shock. Not eating, crying, not knowing what to do or where to go. All the symptoms you know

[@omarpimentel1047]

Coach Craig Kenneth please hope you respond

[@omarpimentel1047]

CAROLINA HOOPS WHO DO I MESSAGE?