Mom Wants Money Even If Grandkids Suffer

[@MisterBigBlunts]

His Mom: "I didn't ask you for a grandkid, I asked you for a grand, kid!"

[@LolaRabbit]

Bruh!!🤣🤣

[@serenityza]

GOLD HAHAHA!

[@cadavher]

Lmaooooo best comment on video

[@irishlad4843]

Just kidfing but you should sub to cinnamon toast ken If you arent

[@threeamsobbing]

youre a comedian

[@googli300]

If Asuelu's family really were so low on money, his sister wouldn't have acrylic nails

[@emilyking9768]

Mmm that part !!!!!!

[@nerdycurls6253]

Nope my aunt is always late on rent or begging my dad (her brother) for money with some new random excuse. Yet she always has her nails and hair done or new clothes for herself of course not my cousins. These kinds of people have shit priorities than complain about money.

[@jodyknight]

@@nerdycurls6253 Yep and that's why they're always after someone else's money, so they can pay for the things they should have had at the top of the list of priorities instead of placing them having fake nails and their hair done and new clothes at the top. I have a family member who does it too it's very annoying having to say "No" all the time to their requests for my pension money even though they are bringing in four times the money I get at least!!

[@orsikocs]

@@nerdycurls6253 so she actually has money then.

[@nerdycurls6253]

@@orsikocs no she doesn't have alot, lots of people aren't financially stable but still use the little they do have for the wrong things. Example being rent money gets used on nails/hair instead then complain about not having enough for rent.

[@carabella4]

I appreciate the context as someone who doesn’t watch the show

[@user-ds4sr1js9e]

@Niqole same

[@kickballfever]

@Niqole Do you watch the show?

[@ToadsIGuess]

Same!

[@Briscuso]

Agree

[@Sakkaz]

Same

[@zimrianispresent8123]

As a parent, I feel I owe my kid everything. This mother is so selfish. Your kids didn't even ask to be here, let them live

[@glitterpony8379]

For real! I do EVERYTHING for my daughter. One of my proudest moments as a mom was last week when i was able to fly her to Florida and take her to Disney world. It was sooo expensive but i worked my ass off for that moment and i just can not imagine using that money for my own enjoyment instead.

[@notsureiL]

@@glitterpony8379 She will remember the trip for the rest of her life 😃

[@MusicLoverMN]

Y’all are amazing parents I wish my parents were like that 💔

[@NDJunction]

@@MusicLoverMN sammmme but i feel like certain cultures are just bilt different

[@zero_s]

@@NDJunction can't do em like that, cause a lot of good mom is overshadowed by the bad one, cause tv likes drama

[@mango4981]

The mom: “WE DONT WANT HER MONEY WE WANT YOUR MONEY” Not even a minute later: “When we heard he was marrying a woman from America we thought oh maybe she could send us some money”

[@allylewis3761]

does his mom understand that not every American is rich or is at least financially stable???

[@my_life2397]

She was running the Samoan mafia before he went to America

[@LazGato]

Has a immigrant I assure you that alot ppl back home think America is flowing with opportunity and money. The whole American dream has advertised.

[@my_life2397]

@@LazGato The dream is applicable, just not to everyone...

[@BlazeCarlton]

It's actually the opposite lmao

[@ymi0613]

Probably not. I grew up in Mexico and my family there thinks we are have abundance of money, not rich but that we have more money than them just bc we live and work in the US. Although it's true that the US's minimum wage is much higher than Mexico's, the living cost here is double plus we pay taxes for everything we buy unlike Mexico 😪

[@Zeydarchist]

i like the backstory to these couples, it's a lot better to see WHAT'S causing them to act like weirdos, than to just assume.

[@gkarone3228]

It doesn't take a whole season to see dysfunctional people acting dysfunctionally whatever money he gives them it'll never be enough

[@creatorofallthings2801]

Thanks Dr. Phill

[@statesminds]

Same I like ken and buff following their story

[@cryinxx]

YES!!

[@averyhennessey7104]

we want the backstory, 100%

[@Everhardt94]

"Give me money!" "But our kids will die!" "You disrespect me!"

[@foxysuckslol6268]

This shows that she is a typical example of someone that is careless...

[@staceybaez1363]

😂😂😂

[@carriekayastha333]

Literal Asian culture man 😂

[@Por2ugal]

😭🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@patmisc]

It kinda sucks how Asuelu's worth can only amount to him giving his family money. I think I would definitely break down with all that pressure of earning more.

[@jekaterinamedvecka7014]

thats why you just cut them off. No point in having contact if you just gonna be a piggy bank in their eyes

[@ytnukesme1600]

noob, shoulda disowned the entire family, "jokes aside" he should've just cut his losses, moved out, changed his contacts and called it a day.

[@HetaClaude]

this is definitely a huge ongoing problem for a lot of people looking for work in other countries, esp in cultures that value filial piety over anything else. it's really sad to see.

[@DaiNoShoujoNoYami]

I've had to deal with a lot of family like this in my life until I became an adult. Its been a slow and painful process, but my life has been getting a lot less stressful and happier without them. Detox sucks, but its worth it.

[@Kiraa000]

Or... he could just cut them off😂

[@piperadams2571]

"It's none of your business" "I'm talking with my son" But he doesn't have a job so who's money you think it is??? And their finances are intertwined cuz they are MARRIED. Like bruh

[@RobertMorgan]

"their finances are intertwined cuz they are MARRIED" So, we've identified mistake #1 lol. I know people that have been married decades that still have separate bank accounts.

[@kafkaskitchen]

@@RobertMorgan okay, calm down easily offended. If they have only one income, their finances are intertwined. Separate bank accounts are for two income families.

[@pensandshakers]

@@RobertMorgan You know a lot of distrustful people with some truly miserable marriages then, bro. I hate to tell you this.

[@lilithgrave]

His family needs to understand that once you have kids, mom and sister are pushed to the bottom of the totem pole. Kids are on top and you and your partner share a spot.

[@MyriahKhan143]

That sister can and does work but dont share with mom so wtf? It's none of her business, when all this money coming from Kalani pockets anyway, like it's none of her business, I'd be pissed.

[@snippard1793]

Interesting fact with totem poles. The most important spot in the bottom and the top is the worst place to be.

[@lilithgrave]

@@snippard1793 shit. The more you know. 🌠🎶

[@peep3616]

@@MyriahKhan143 Also sad because a lot of their resources come from Kalani's family. Her dad is from the same culture, yet takes care of his kids and makes sure they're doing okay (even if he's kind of a hardass).

[@simplekerri5660]

@@snippard1793 i was just thinking that lol

[@Angel-vb7bb]

Kehlani was actually being nice to his family. Every time she talked they acted like she cussed them out.

[@perrilewis180]

I mean she should cuss them out. They're trying to take money that would go to the kids

[@Jushereforthevibes]

*Kalani

[@brandondaniels2027]

"Do you send money back home?" "That's none of your business!" So, that's obviously a no

[@silvermoons7539]

Yup and if that isn't their business, then it isn't her business to ask the brother. Ridiculous

[@NightWatch0997]

What a coward right 🤣?

[@asianskullJR]

@@NightWatch0997 coward? You say coward. Boii that's too soft

[@rae7864]

Lmfao right 😂 she's pathetic. Tbh they all are

[@anqag.7031]

The relationship between Asuelu and his family is the best example of emotional blackmail.

[@Musicandlyrics2400]

The Samoan sister is so gross. “Why don’t you just work harder so we can have more money?” Oh are you unable to work lady??? Why does Asuelu have to provide for the whole damn village??? I like how Kolini sees through their bs

[@LynnseyCTheReviewQueen]

Exactly...it's like "So, why don't you and your sister work then if your mom wants money?"

[@doritoman1724]

My Samoan friend has to deal with this… he was working minimum wage in his 20s living in a little house with his whole family including aunties uncles and cousins he wanted to go off and join the marines and try to go to college but before he was gonna they wouldn’t let him bc they wanted him to stay working minimum wage to give them the money

[@RobertMorgan]

The sister is every woman today lol. "Men owe us stuff for free" is the battle cry of modern femininity. No wonder marriage rates are cycling to zero. The value isn't there.

[@StefSubZero270]

@@doritoman1724 Tbh at this point it doesnt matter what kind of culture you are born in you and your family, if its that toxic you need to get away. Im kinda sick of seeing the whole "but its their culture" excuse. I could't care less which culture is, i only know that if its toxic and bad for someone, its a bad one period. To hell with these kind of traditions.

[@psychedelicpayroll5412]

@@RobertMorgan This isn’t about what’s going on in the west. This is about his traditions of having to give his family his money.

[@BreAnnLayne]

I would literally never utter another single syllable to my mother if she said that giving her money was more important than taking care of my kids. That's my culture.

[@SmileyAdventures]

Boom!

[@andremaximiano7170]

Yes ofc wtf is she thinking...

[@theUkrainium]

And you would be right to do so, his family are trashy af.

[@user-lk4wt4jj3e]

Yea she's making Samoans look bad, cause that's not normal. Usually it's the other way around, as it should be.

[@Psilomuscimol]

I don't think that's culture. I think that's principles

[@jslothkong8980]

She straight up said “We can’t give you what we don’t have”, and the mother took that as disrespectful. I would just flat out say NO! No money for you, ever. Get over it.

[@kinagrill]

It's that insane 'american dream, all are famouse and rich and lazy so 1000 dollars is nothing!' delusion.

[@qweeanbee]

"Not her money, YOUR money" 2 minutes later "I was worried about Azuelu marrying an american girl, and then we thought 'Oh, maybe SHE will be able to send money to Samoa to help out with our family'" DISGUSTANG

[@SmileyAdventures]

Insanity!

[@Bonnie-lo3zh]

d e l u s i o n

[@embadly]

my favorite video lol i use that reference sooo much it’s DISGUSTANG!!!!!!

[@baeshin]

Also, it's been said that money family members do send is rarely used for the family. His mom gives most of it to her church. So, the family isn't getting much help.

[@DeeDiamond2981]

It's disgusting...

[@thefadingmoonlight]

If his mom asked for $100, I'm sure they would've given it to her. She wants $1k and hasn't given a reason why she needs that much money now.

[@cocolime6496]

she gives most of it to the church 🙄

[@MintYoongi309]

@@cocolime6496 omg he actually sent her money ??? And she gives it away????

[@toomanyshows13]

He gave her $100 and she acted like it was garbage

[@shurahomura8863]

Meanwhile, I'm remembering my own grandmother who has passed. She would violently refuse money when my mom tries to give it to her; and they would go into this tug-of-war of trying to slip the money back to each other. Like ma will give grandma $1000 and grandma slip me $200 and tell me "quietly put this back in ma's purse when she's not looking". It blows my mind what I'm seeing here.

[@zoazede2098]

Sounds like an awesome and amazing family* XD surely far away from this toxic nonsense!!!

[@-desertpackrat]

"we're not talking about Kalani's money, YOUR money" "that's not your business Kalani we're talking to my son" meanwhile: "when he married an American woman we thought: oh yeah american girls are loaded, we can take HER money too. But who does she think she is? this has nothing to do with her, we just want her money"

[@Angelica-N]

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@cynthg9547]

Guess not cause this mom don't want hear the truth 🙄

[@onodatboi9041]

"Give us money" "Here, it's for a plane ticket back to Samoa."

[@franbow984]

Yep that's all they deserve.

[@shirosai615]

@@franbow984 Screw that - I'm sure they know how to swim.

[@Bonnie-lo3zh]

I was wondering why the hell they sound like that lol

[@withpeacelove366]

The mom and 2 of the sisters live in washington DC tho lol

[@amadapedro9147]

Asuelu's sister lives in the US. She has a husband and kids and they look like they're doing pretty well. She works. So why won't she answer Kalani's question?

[@yukicross989]

They want kalani’s family’s money. Like they said they thought since he married an American girl that she would give money not understanding that they have no right to anyone’s money.

[@andybrock7768]

cus its not about what her other kids are doing HE needs to send money cus HE married a American girl so they want his and more over her money and they dont wanna talk to her cus she wont give in to them cus she aint been brainwashed about its money for our love and attention the way he has been by his own family

[@voxy6556]

Probably because she was able to push him around when he lived back home in Samoa, he seems so meek and it looks like they got him to do what ever they wanted but now he's out of that toxic atmosphere a bit he seems to have grown some backbone and understands he doesn't have to do just what they want. Feels like the women rule the household and he was the one who just took it from the mother, so she probably thinks he's the easiest mark and since he's on TV he must be raking it in lol.

[@aristobrat4987]

She wants to pass the mom off to kelani

[@aimay374]

Plot for the show

[@VueiyVisarelli]

Sadly, Asuelu's family is common all over the world: everybody has those relatives who will mooch off you and take every last penny, then do a 180 and try pull your heartstrings when you get fed up.

[@NDJunction]

i feel like the grandmother would honestly look at her grandkids and ask "why are you two freeloaders not working harder to send me money?"

[@DeoxysDNA]

If the daughter has to say "It's none of your business" when asked if she gives money then the answer is definitely "no" lol

[@marissahero6085]

Hahaha exactly 😂

[@nevenaj512]

Hahah yes! Otherwise she woulda been like “yes I do actually! So where’s your money?!” 😂😂

[@Gemini-horrorchannel]

Well, in later episode, she does reveal that she does give her mom money but it doesn’t justify how they treat him and Kalani and of course the kids. I guess it’s a culture thing which in a way I get but that shouldn’t deem a whole dilemma with his mom acting like that from what I believe she has nine kids, so I’m guessing they all send her money. I don’t think him sending her money or giving her $100 is gonna Put a dent in her pocket. I mean I hate that she made it this huge thing and basically said screw her grandkids it’s disgusting I mean she should be grateful that she got $100 from them. It’s also disgusting that his sister sits there and says well. Kalani’s parents are well off. They own their own house so they could help you guys out and then you can send Mom basically all your money.

[@beckacollins45]

I think its great that he listens to his wife. Its sad that they only call when they need money, but better he knows it sooner rather than later

[@YouKnowMeDuh]

He's definitely growing up. He knows that his family, his WIFE AND KIDS, are high priority. His sisters and mother do not take precedence. If they did, then logically he would have never left Samoa to be with Kalani.

[@Afghan.Jalebi]

I remember when Kalani's dad was hell-bent that he didn't want his daughters to marry a Samoan (even though he himself is Samoan) and I thought "wow! Why's he being so brutal towards people from his own country?" As time went by, I understood why!

[@kenmasoldnitendo4236]

Huh i dont get it

[@embadly]

@@kenmasoldnitendo4236 what don’t you get… lmao

[@embadly]

@@kenmasoldnitendo4236 the whole point is that her dad didn’t want her to marry someone of the same background as him. but as it turns out, it made sense why; & it’s bc they are absolutely delusional.

[@embadly]

@@momoisawesome1371 Id like you to look around the internet a little more before saying that again. I’ve literally seen other comments of people who ARE the same or who live in that area say that it IS like that. They’re pretty high up on the comments, if you’d like to see for yourself. But. Just to be clear, I’m actually NOT one to “categorize a group of people into one” & people argue with me all the time because I tell them the same thing. Cause I don’t believe in it. But if you’d have read a little more you’d know that they are, in fact, delusional.

[@embadly]

@@momoisawesome1371 also. lmao. I said “delusional”. Not that they’re all ugly or stupid, chill. (& ofc I have to say this bc the internet will always be the internet- I’m *not* saying they’re ugly or stupid. It was an example🙄)

[@alivadehcor5]

Asuelu crying because he wants to support his kids and his mom “you must work harder to give money to me”. What about those other two free loaders? Can they just get by with cooking and doing the dishes? Is that how it works?

[@theoverunderthinker]

when he said "they will die" and started crying, his wife looked like "is this gonna work?" 😂😂

[@JinathanYT]

Azuelu saying how he doesn't want his kids to suffer from a lack of money and his mom blowing it off really shows how screwed up she is.

[@youretotallyrightbut463]

Except her and his father did that for their parents, and their parents did that for their parents. Generation after generation giving everything they can to those who raised them, knowing that one day their children will do the same for them. Look at how many Samoan athletes have bought their parents houses before even being home owners themselves. Going into debt for their parents and not themselves. It’s just the culture...The western world is focussed on giving everything to yourself and your kids. They’re focussed on giving everything to their parents, knowing that one day they will have that favour returned by their children. Imagine scraping by while giving your parents every luxury you can. And the only thing you know is that it is just the way . You know your kids will do the same for you. Because it’s the way. And suddenly your son decides not to. You gave everything to others, you struggled your entire life helping family and never had the favour retuned.

[@bridgetcooney5085]

@@youretotallyrightbut463 I can imagine, and I can sympathize. It's always frustrating when your expectations aren't met, especially such ingrained expectations. But just because something is a part of a culture, doesn't automatically make it right. Lots of negative expectations ingrained in every culture. And he's not wrong for wanting to take care of his kids. And there are just the realities that living in America IS expensive, and he has a legal obligation to financially provide for his kids as well. You can't squeeze blood from a stone, and dude just does not have the money to give her.

[@youretotallyrightbut463]

@@bridgetcooney5085 I never said he needs to give her money he doesn’t have. I was talking about people acting like she’s a bad Person. She’s not. It’s just cultural differences. If you understand her position. It’s like saying in the western world its rude to the chef to not finish your dinner...In Italy it’s considered rude to eat all of your food because it’s taken like a sign they didn’t give you enough. And it’s a cultural thing to leave a small portion on the plate. What seems rude to you greatly depends on your perspective. People seem to not understand this

[@LadyDeathstalker666]

@@youretotallyrightbut463 well as an european I'm saying it's a load of crap, maybe sixty years ago, but none of my italian friends leave food laying around, past and modern day is very different things and I know no chef who would be glad to see a plate comeback unfinished

[@youretotallyrightbut463]

@@LadyDeathstalker666 literally been to Italy and had this explained, in Italy. but okay. In America tipping is considered to be almost essential. It’s rude not to....in Australia, it’s strange to tip. Employees are just paid actual wages and nobody ever really tips. In japan it’s almost insulting/demeaning to tip. Why does the example matter lmao? The point is things you consider rude, other cultures don’t. It’s not rude in her culture to expect money from your children.

[@lizafrench8455]

Wife: "We can't give you what we don't have" Mom: "Work harder so you can give me money" I'm guessing they think Asuelu married her just for her money and they think "She's American, she's rich" It is almost like she is a stereotype. Like a gold digger, or the "marry for a green card" thing. I'm glad his wife is sticking up for herself, him, and their kids.

[@dacekundrate4391]

They are acting like as soon as foreigner steps over US border, they are given million dollars and instantly become rich. But I don't believe these shows are real. It's probably scripted.

[@mrswizzlestickz2646]

The way the mother talks to his wife is so telling about the mother. The way she always asks for money and basically talks down to his wife any time she simply asks a question. They all look at her like a winning lottery ticket that her son has won and don't see her as a person.

[@jodyknight]

BINGO my friend!! That is it in a coconut shell!

[@adelina1045]

i personally like getting the backstory that leads up to current events, it makes the new stuff that more juicy!

[@DeeDiamond2981]

It started with the money talk.. His family has been doing this for 2 seasons. Lol

[@houseofschenck6230]

Same! I want to watch them react to the whole story.

[@DeeDiamond2981]

@@mrbigbankuchiface_3352 they have dual citizenship..

[@adelina1045]

@@mrbigbankuchiface_3352 ehhhh i gurss youve seen more....i didn't want to assume being from an immagrant family myself but watching the more recent episodes it sooo apparent!!!!

[@goddessisis907]

I get a cringe every time Ken and Buff say that Asuelu is "wholesome." Has Ken seen the clip where Kalani is carrying both the babies out of the car, and Asuelu closes the door in front of her? He then proceeds to go play video games and doesn't help with the kids. (I believe is Happily Ever After Season 5: Ep.1). I have a feeling that Papa Bear would take issue with that kind of behavior. Then when the pandemic hit, Asuelu refused to stop going out and playing volleyball everyday, even though his wife asked him to respect the quarantine-- especially for the kids. I don't think he's evil; just a ridiculous man-child.

[@WolfyTheIn-between]

I think if I was Kelani I would have jumped ship some time ago lol

[@chilldragon4752]

His family is demanding him to give them money but yet they bought those expensive plane tickets to come visit him just to ask for more money

[@MyriahKhan143]

That's what bothers me, they flew there on the little money they had so the kids can see his family and this is how they treat them. No wonder why asuelo crying, his mom be pushing too much, now he know that's all his family want him to come home for. I'm sorry but if that was my mom, I'd give her $5 in my pocket and say that's all I got, the rest went to your grand kids, and the mom say she didnt want kalani money, but Asuelo ain't got shit, he give his all checks for the kids and Bill's. If it weren't for Kalani they wouldn't be there in Samoa, did the mom ever think of that?? Money grubbing bitch, my moms the same way

[@chilldragon4752]

@@MyriahKhan143 It is possible the TLC paid for it. Still however, many foreigners think they can just come to the US and make tons of money (it's not their fault, because America always advertises itself as the land of opportunity). They don't know the US is extremely expensive and lots of people struggle here too. So asking for just free money like that while he has his baby in his arms is unexcusable..

[@deepseatofucreature4204]

@@MyriahKhan143 I understand that it is his family and he loves them, but if my family acted this way, I would probably just cut them of. I hope it is just edited this way, but all I hear from them is give me money, it would be tiring even if he didn´t have wife and kids. Sure, it´s nice if you are able to give back to your parents when they are old and you can afford it, but you are not obligated to do it, parents should not have kids just bc they want to have someone to take care of them when they old.

[@chilldragon4752]

@@deepseatofucreature4204 I agree Kat. But when it comes to cutting then off (which I would do admittedly if I was in his situation) and taking care of them when they are old, we have to understand that other cultures see it differently. So I'm sure he feels a ton of pressure, because in other parts of the world children are supposed to take care of the family, and care for them when they are old. In the West we just kinda do our own thing and call our family once a month for example. I feel really bad for the guy.

[@meownaa9764]

@@deepseatofucreature4204 On that note, does someone know how dire the situation might actually be for the mom? Does she have any financial support? Is there retirement money? Or are stay at home Samoan moms just dependent on scraps?

[@Serenity-e8t]

I’m from a small island in the South Pacific called Palau, and it is absolutely, 100 percent all about money! If a family member is in the US, they are immediately considered “loaded” and money is asked for all the time. At any family gathering, money is expected. Weddings, Funerals, Baby Showers, House Parties. It’s announced over a loud speaker who gave and how much! They could care less if you’re kids have food for the next month. As long as you have what you’re expected!

[@broadcastdave]

I can't wait to go to diving in Palau.

[@kaylalaskey641]

Omg 😭

[@Serenity-e8t]

@@broadcastdave, its definitely a must!!! Plus, check out Jelly Fish Lake and swim with millions on Jellies❤

[@theUkrainium]

@@Serenity-e8t I live in Canada, Palau sounds like heaven.. "Winter is coming" for us up north and I'm not looking forward to it, lol.

[@nerdycurls6253]

@@theUkrainium what?!? What kind of Canadian are you if your not happy about winter, I'm over here melting in this heat beging for winter to come back!! My igloos not going to last much longer XD

[@bropoke6799]

I like how u guys do the history thing now. It gets just enough info that everything makes sense but it doesnt take forever

[@arirose5887]

Abusive families 101 : insult your entire existence then ask why you're such an awful person for not wanting to be around them

[@irisf.5575]

Asuelu: if we don't pay the bills we'll be homeless. Asuelu's mom: now there's an idea.

[@tsprouse1322]

Mom: “I try to respect and be nice to him and his wife …. All they have to do is work harder, make more money and then give it to me … is that so hard?!?” 🤷🏼‍♂️

[@MyriahKhan143]

Ya when they already working as hard as they can to raise 2 kids, wtf is wrong with this lazy woman. I bet u weren't asking him to give u money, till he went to USA, now u think he rich AF, NOT during a pandemic crazy woman. Sheesh. Alot of countries think that all Americans are rich, I laugh, cuz I cant work cuz of disability, and I'm skimming by with just enough to pay my Bill's and that's it. And during a pandemic, NOBODY is rich, why u think they giving us stimulus checks, DUHHHH!!!

[@deliriousmysterium8137]

@@lynnemitcheltree2432 your pimp game shall resume. Stay tippin.

[@SataniaMcDowel]

@@MyriahKhan143 hope your situation gets better :'3

[@theUkrainium]

Its like when the Russian mob tries to hit up hockey players for $$$ when they make the NHL

[@jodyknight]

@@lynnemitcheltree2432 uuummm are you aware your comment says: " I live below the poverty level with no *hoes* of improvement." Lol hence Delirious's comment about "your pimp game" lmao

[@wickedfaery]

My husband & I went through this with his parents in Trinidad when we first started dating. He was working a lot and was sending 1/2 his money home to them. it took a lot of talks to get him to understand what was going on and get him to stop. it came to a head when he called to tell them that we were engaged & I became "White Trash" & I ruined him. uh huh.. ok. he doesn't talk to them at all

[@mrpeach2023]

Same thing happened with my late grandfather and his mother. Took a lot of talking sense to from my mom to make him stop and realize that she was just using him.

[@JJsiN84]

Can’t stand parents like this personally. I unfortunately have the misfortune of having a father that feels like a “owe” him money just for raising me. “All that money I spent on baby clothes, food, and a roof over your head lol. Why even have kids? To just then guilt trip them into taking your money and are jealous when you’re successful. It’s completely fucked my head up.

[@cadavher]

Can't stand that mentality. It's the LAW that a parent MUST provide a shelter for their children, food, warmth and basic needs like schooling, clothing, and heat. Telling your kids I did this and spent that on you now you owe me! Just makes it seem like the kid was a burden. My father tried that once on me and I shot back with "I never asked to be born! That was YOUR choice" and never heard it from him again lmao

[@BTBSOUNDS]

Lol I relate to that on a whoooole other level. Right before dad left us, I told him that he wasnt a father he was just a financer and then he hit me with the "But I bought you nikes as a baby" and I jus stared at dude like what tf is wrong with you. Oddly enough, happiest memory I have with him

[@jodyknight]

I'm so sorry your Dad is so twisted. A child never owes its parents anything. I have said this to my son only recently, the child did not ask to be born, you can not expect anything from them. The only thing I want for my children is to be happy healthy people.

[@pennyinheaven]

Sucks to have parents like that. From where I am, it's natural to provide for your parents, take care of them as much as they have taken care of you whilst having your own life and family. But guilt tripping nor being jealous is way out of line.

[@DeeDiamond2981]

My father got ill And his older children thinks that he is rich cause he married my mom... lol. Nope. Mom left a will with nothing for him.. and

[@bettinascurlock5898]

Ken" "They can't actually be this, right? This-this self centered." I have one side of my family that is EXACTLY like this. Constantly asking for money, with no shame. I feel your pain Awalu.

[@joannemckann7948]

The level of entitlement being displayed is appalling. I hope he just cuts off contact with them. If they only reach out to him when they need money, they’re not family, they’re freeloaders. This reflects very poorly on Samoans.

[@RealGermanish]

I feel like this isn't fair. a) generalizations about a whole people based on one family is crap. b) in some other cultures like this there is no safety net for the elderly, they usually have a lot of kids that are expected to provide for them when they are too old to work - I believe this is the cultural difference they refer to. this 100% doesn't excuse their behaviour at all, they way I see it they are taking this cultural difference as an excuse to try to to mooch off him since in their eyes he's now "a rich American". pretty disgusting to see the way they try to manipulate him and squeeze him for money. family should always come first, whether they have money to give or not. that doesn't reflect on other Samoans.

[@Aymslee]

His family is soo emotionally manipulative.. i feel so bad for him

[@MyriahKhan143]

I wish he would just walk away and tell them you didnt want to see me or my kids u just wanted money. And never turn back, and take your wife n kids with you.

[@tumblindice5412]

I was getting so angry watching them gaslight him🤬

[@xTwilightWolvesx]

@@MyriahKhan143 When it’s your entire family manipulating you like this, you think it’s completely normal. Asuelu’s getting that realisation I got years ago about my own family. This is in part thanks to Kelani, who showed him what a non-abusive family actually is. He’ll eventually get the strength to tell them that, but he needs to get to that place himself.

[@blackcat085]

When someone has their own family, their money belongs to their kids or their partners needs. You can help your family only if you want to but you are not obligated to help them. Only if you can.

[@davebryanrn8889]

if you were born and raised in a third world country, only then you would know.

[@Asheth]

@@davebryanrn8889 I'd probably be able to live a life of luxury if I moved to a 3rd world country with the amount of money I make at current... Which also puts things into perspective when it comes to the family's shakedown. I live in poverty, bill to bill at the moment.

[@YouKnowMeDuh]

If it was an obligation, then people wouldn't get married or have kids at all. It's just too hard to have to provide for two families at once.

[@blackcat085]

@@davebryanrn8889 I was from a third world country. I got scholarship in college and started working at 18 years old. Some of my family members think my hard earned money is their money too and wont work on their own so I decided to live separate from them. Its the laziness of the people that is the problem regardless of which country you belong.

[@thesalvaged2952]

@@davebryanrn8889 being from a 3erd world country dosint give anyone the right to be greedy

[@DrNJ-km3tt]

Asuelu : My money Asuleu's family : *OUR* money * *Communist anthem intensifies* *

[@greenbanana311]

*"Communist anthem?"* That's so precious! Do you mean the anthem for the United Soviet Socialist Republics? _"Soyuz nerushimy respublik svobodnykh, Splotila naveki velikaya Rus'!"_

[@MrMaxflores11]

A lot of families are like this. My dad grew up in a very small town and move to a new city and busted his ass to make a comfortable living for us. Everytime he went back he was expected to pay for everything, dinners, maintenance, etc. they also had the nerve to talk behind his back about how he throws his money around like a "big shot"

[@mystery1965]

Family: *Insults your life, interests and very existence* Also Family: Why don't you like to spend time with us? Me: IDK Stating my opinion would be disReSpEcTfUl

[@Sly-Moose]

**Clown meme**

[@Aymslee]

Just because someone raised you or gave birth to you doesnt mean you owe them ANYTHING!! They knew what they were getting into, they knew the responsibility of raising a child. How shes treating him is not ok

[@isaacpapalii6297]

That’s just how our culture is 🤷🏽‍♂️

[@mrpeach2023]

@@isaacpapalii6297 Well that part of your “culture” is toxic and manipulative.

[@Asheth]

That's how my parents look(ed) at things too. For us growing up we would always get told "why do you think we had children?" When it came to cleaning, cooking, etc. I get showing appreciation, but up to a point, when does one stop owing another for the birth they didn't ask for?

[@LazGato]

I hate that belief of I raised you now you owe me. Like it doesn't work like that, you don't have kids to have a cheap labor and money bank. You have kids out love, not necessity.

[@Nick-kw9oz]

@@isaacpapalii6297 And a garbage culture at that.

[@alymay6849]

" don't you want stay with ussss???" Classic manipulation tactic after he realized that she was being toxic

[@CrownAthena]

His wife literally has the most consistent facial expressions 😅 she don’t say much she just listen and look like 😒

[@Emily-cs3vk]

This makes me sad. The entitlement from his family is sickening

[@GeekandGlory]

"It has to be for the camera right? No body can be that self centered right?" Me: *remembering back to my dad's family and how the refused to pay him back for my grandfather's medical bills because 'you own your own business you must be rich.'* "Yeah no they are really that self centered."

[@jakieadams2303]

I feel so bad for him! What a careless, one sided minded, merciless, won't even listen to reason, just plain oh selfish crazy B of a mom he has right there. Dear lord I've would of lost my mind and probably started shouting at her if I was his wife. Hearing all those words, insulting my family AND still ask for money, oh hell to the NO!

[@maxbracegirdle9990]

I know. This is just sad as hell. I didn't even laugh or really even enjoy watching this cause they couldn't joke about something so shitty.

[@theUkrainium]

Only trashy people in his family, bloody mobsters are more subtle, lol.

[@bigfootisreal_]

Imagine growing up and realising you're nothing but an investment for your parents.

[@theUkrainium]

Happens here in North America too, sadly.

[@jodyknight]

How disheartening to realise if you don't have heaps of spare money for Mummy and Daddy that you will not be loved and cared for, rather you will be harassed and belittled and have your partner completely disrespected.

[@rebeccahenry7679]

Thats literally been my last year and a half of my life

[@jodyknight]

@@rebeccahenry7679 oh no that's very sad that they don't see you as a person and realise the true value of you. You as loving, caring family member who is worthy of love and fair treatment at all times. I hope the year ahead is wonderful and you find great joy, success and happiness in all that you do.

[@RobertMorgan]

You're crazy...imagine growing up and realizing you're NOT an investment for your parents! That you were unwanted, a mistake. An investment requires insane levels of commitment, INVESTING, time, effort, worry. Something you haven't invested in, that's WORTHLESS to you. You'd rather be WORTHLESS than an INVESTMENT? Fuckin' zoomers, man.

[@foreverskrillex]

There's something not "all there" with Azuelo, and it's almost like they're taking advantage of that. Extortion is not culture 😒

[@kickballfever]

Yea, I watched the show and at first I thought Azuelo was just immature. But after watching him more and how he reacts to things I think there might be something wrong with him mentally, like his mental and emotional development is delayed.

[@foreverskrillex]

@@kickballfever Yeah, and the way his family talks to him too. They don't treat him like an individual, but almost like a caretaker reminding him of his tasks.

[@MyriahKhan143]

I blame it on how his mother raised him, they all treat him like a little Cinderella boy, Azuelo go do this, Azuelo u cant gave friends or go play with the other boys..Azuelo when you get to the USA and get married you need to give us ALL your money cuz we are your parents and we raised you, you owe us. I think he better off staying away from toxic mom and family, he seems more happy, less stressful more focused on his OWN kids n family like a man should. Hes doing his best working in the usa, and his family cant be proud if him for that, cuz it dont bring money to them, lazy bitches, u were fine before he come to usa, why now things changed? Plus what I dont get is she wearing a thick winter jacket and in the Pacific islands the weather never goes below 75 farenheit. To tell u the truth, my sons are 21 and 22 and I have a 2yr old grand daughter, and I've never!!!! Asked them for money, if anything I should be giving them money cuz they are starting off with their lives as a family etc, it shouldnt be the other way around. I've never asked my kids for anything other than just to come by and see me when you can.

[@VV-er3zg]

Fr it feels like we’re missing context that the show isn’t telling us

[@idontknowwhoiam3769]

I'm leaning toward the possibility that he may have some kind of CPTSD from growing up with a narcissistic and manipulative parent.

[@Tsun-sweet]

I dated a Cuban guy once and literally all of his friends and family in Cuba messaged me, a 16-year-old girl with no job, asking for money so much and so often i had to block all of them. This is so painfully similar.

[@0Onyx13]

The family bringing out all the "this is the Samoan way", Kalani should have brought her Samoan dad along so he could have intervened in case they're just making stuff up, and even if they aren't, weigh in on their side, like "you're here with two daughters, and you ask money to your one son who has a part time job and two toddlers, ask other people for money? Get a job? Get a pension? Pretend you didn't have kids and you were supposed to take care of yourself once you're old?" like, are you telling me that in Samoa everyone works till they're super old, and then get zero money, so they rely on their kids or they starve to death? And if someone doesn't have kids, once they reach the age when they can't work anymore it's just a "guess I'll die"? C'mon!!!

[@plutosdreamworld]

Asuelu: I can't give you anything! My babies will DIE!!! Asuelu's Mom: Aww...Money please :)

[@Chef.joyardee]

That geico commercial .. “I gotcha a dollar..”

[@Chef.joyardee]

AND THATS IT 😂😒

[@YouKnowMeDuh]

More like Asuelu's Mom: Aww... Money please >:|

[@wowzawolf7383]

@@Chef.joyardee I’m pretty sure it was from State Farm, but I absolutely love that commercial. “Ooooo you almost had it! Gotta be quicker than that!”😂😂😂

[@Chef.joyardee]

@@wowzawolf7383 ahhh shoot it was !!! Damn haha

[@SeraliaAerials]

I feel like the only reason they expect him to give money and not the daughter is because the way things go is usually that the man is expected to provide for the family. Based on how she dresses the daughter definitely has more money than Asuelu. But no, they’re asking her son.

[@mrswizzlestickz2646]

Well no they said that they want HIS money but behind closed doors they said yes they thought that maybe she could send money. When they ask him for money they really mean his and her money.

[@SeraliaAerials]

@@mrswizzlestickz2646 no, I mean the daughter, Asuelu’s sister, not Kalani. The one siding with mom on the money thing. She’s got money to have her nails done up all nice, but oh no, it’s wrong of him to wanna support his children who cannot care for themselves instead of his full grown momma who can goddamn get her own job.

[@mrswizzlestickz2646]

@@SeraliaAerials oh you right my b

[@theUkrainium]

Nailed it!

[@frozenfantasy2458]

@@SeraliaAerials in a later episode they said that the sister does send money but she’s tired of being the one who has to do it so she wanted someone else to take over giving money

[@NoudlePipW]

Yourwetsock asked his Samoan friends and apparently they were mortified by this family saying it's their culture. Like, yes the sons try to help financially but the kids and grandchildren come first

[@TrashbashMan]

As much as I like watching the guy, most of his ''asked a friend'' statements feel a bit like ''my dad works at Nintendo'' in my opinion. To clarify I don't know anything about Samoan culture and standards myself so I won't say he's just saying things but I'd be more inclined to believe those things if he recorded his friends giving those statements rather than him being the middle man and passing that info to us.

[@megaraphoenix]

So if anything, the grandmother should be sending money to her kid and grandkids?

[@NoudlePipW]

@@TrashbashMan That's a fair point

[@NoudlePipW]

@@megaraphoenix What? No? Family helping family is great but *demanding* money is the problem. She even said she doesn't care about her grandkids.

[@crashloaded9599]

I never seen a family collectively say "f*ck them kids"

[@Danny___Riot]

“I feel like I can’t have my wife and my mom” Is something no one should ever have to decide, but unfortunately some do have to make this choice.

[@annimu9081]

Asuelo's mother reminds me of this meme of a sidechick being all "BE A MAN! Leave your wife and kids and be with me!"

[@kookycrypt]

Oh no - it's the mom in love with the son again

[@saveyabreath680]

Unfortunately this is wayyyy too common in some countries. I’m Dominican and half of my family in Dr doesn’t speak to me because I don’t send them money regularly 😂😭

[@kickballfever]

What if you just don't have the money to send? They can't accept that? Living in the states is more expensive and they should acknowledge that. Sad they don't speak to you over money, sounds like it's their loss.

[@MyriahKhan143]

@@kickballfever especially during all this Covid bullshit, , lots of people are unemployed. Wtf?

[@VV-er3zg]

Super common in Latin America

[@VV-er3zg]

@@kickballfever some people truly just don’t believe you don’t have it. In their mind if you live in USA/Canada/Europe they immediately asume you have the money because of how cheaper everything is there compared to wages, how wages are higher, how more things are accessible etc, which is what I asume is happening here in the show, they see he could be making at least $7 an hour and immediately want a slice of that

[@kickballfever]

@@VV-er3zg Yea, I've seen this with another couple on the show. The family was in the Dominican Republic and just assumed their son was making a ton of money because he was in the states. I think a lot of people have this preconceived notion that people in the USA/Canada/Europe are all well off, when in reality a lot of people are struggling.

[@SharRawr]

Man if my inlaws were acting like his fam, I wouldn't not be as nice as Kalani is being. I'd straight up tell them no. They wouldn't be getting money from us, ever

[@kryptico2240]

GO THROUGH THE HISTORY!! The more content I get the better lmao. You’ve jumped around before tho, if there’s ever a video you guys WANT to see, please do it. I’d much rather you guys do content you’re genuinely interested in than what we want.

[@kaitlynroberts3556]

The mom sure tried hard to get him to stay. "No. Son. Please. We have made food, yeah. Stay." in the most monotone voice.

[@solivigantkaiba]

"Its none of your business. We are talking to my son, leave my daughter alone." Hell no, you are in MY house, speaking to MY husband. You get get up and get out. Yeah, no. I could be the bigger person but I am a short lady with a short temper and an even shorter tolerance for bullsh*t.

[@charlotteberry7182]

Don’t know about anyone else but I like having THE WHOLE story, feels like some weird soap that way haha

[@jodyknight]

yes me too, otherwise Ken will have to do heaps of explaining of the backstory to keep us up to date with what's gone on already so I think it's better this way.

[@Archphoenix1]

Samoans have a matriarchical society, thats why the women came over and mom wants the money like a mafiosi. That explains a lot

[@YouKnowMeDuh]

Ohhhh... That's why Asuelu is so careful with what he says to his mom and why his mom thought it was right to be so persistent. Is it common for their women to treat men like this, or is this just an extreme case?

[@gd2234_]

@@YouKnowMeDuh yes, and to have weird hierarchies amongst other individuals. My dad used to get beat up by Polynesian kids at school who would say “sorry, have to do this to ya, hope we can still be friends” as they solidified their spot in the social hierarchy by beating up my dad.

[@Tysandifer]

@@gd2234_ that's just weird...

[@aqualuvor95]

Yet then they’re so critical of Kalani having “control” over Asuelu. Like it felt like they were trying to shame him for that and get him to turn on Kalani and go behind her back to give them money.

[@Tysandifer]

Well they should at least respect The American culture then if they want to visit him IN THE USA

[@blackwolf899]

So i kinda give props to this guy. He got out of a toxic family relationship and slowly started to resist their toxicity and learn to say no. He tries to explain why and didnt give in. Its probably really hard for him they was he was raised up and being pressured and manipulated to this day. I feel bad for him but im glad he is putting his kids first.

[@mikegee1006]

Every Samoan I've known are always so generous. The first time I met my friend Hosey he saw I didn't have money to eat so he bought me a burger without telling me and refused to take no as an answer. Ive felt nothing but love from Samoan people

[@machesss]

As someone who doesnt watch the show I rather you go through their history. The longer it takes to get through a couple the longer I can laugh at it

[@liznord3521]

It's so hard to stand up to the people you love. Especially when you know it will upset them. It helps to have a strong partner to help you make that stand.

[@shanniganz5050]

Definitely keep going in chronological order with these clips. Context always makes it better! Love your work!!

[@katkick5362]

I love the whole series of each couple. Watching them grow together and their slow decent into madness is great to see 😊

[@Rangifulla]

In Samoa the pastor will read out how much each family has donated to the church at the beginning of service. It's all about money over there, enough is never enough.

[@darlingztxx4215]

He should just focus on his wife and kids and forget about his family back in Samoa

[@frogmanjr]

Ikr his family is toxic asf they don’t care abt him and his family they’re money crazy

[@BlazeCarlton]

"We put our parents first, no matter if we're married" ... the heck kinda bs is this, I don't think so, lady

[@zfjames]

You have to appreciate how awful people can be in the absence of an objective moral standard.

[@mybricksters9800]

I like how she has her nails done and she’s complaining about money. And they don’t look like they are starving in any way.

[@rachaelsnapp8654]

So the sister is saying he needs to give their parents money but refuses to answer when asked if she gives them money? Meanwhile she's got some fresh acrylics done? GIRL

[@lashawne315]

He needs to stand up to his family and stop putting his wife in the middle and allowing his family to blame and disrespect her or he’ll be alone and divorced

[@Fallenfromgrace1990]

The gaslightening is real in his family. 😂

[@kat_k]

chronological go-through is a much better way of watching these... things

[@tjputzier]

Mom is a gangster. You better pay that protection money.

[@EmaS0226]

I definitely like the whole looking through the history of the couples. I don't watch any of these shows, I just watch your videos because they're just the best commentary I swear 😂😂

[@chelmastly5802]

Id honestly rather get the whole history of the couple, but do what you wanna!

[@sarahhunter1114]

I was raised by a narcissist, and a codependent mommy's boy. My parent's are looking real amazing right now.

[@3dmaster-749]

The " entire story " makes sense especially to the people who are not watching tlc .We are watching you

[@robins.9700]

"It's none of ur business." Well it is because she's his wife, so she's the one that has to deal with his crybaby bullshit when his family stresses him out lol

[@bouncethemoonofficial]

I absolutely love going through all the history with you guys. It makes getting to the highlights so much more awesome.

[@emmajk7433]

I like having acquired background knowledge as I miss out on a lot of these clips otherwise - thanks, gents!

[@Sbeve_One]

Probably just some terrible parents

[@Thestreetcorner661]

His wife and kids are his family. He changed everything for that woman and those kids. His parents and siblings shouldn't get paid for him changing everything and being in love.

[@ArkansasPublicHunts]

I like the telling of the couples history and their backstory. I think y’all do a great job telling us about these people while throwing a bit of comedy in there too!

[@paranoiarpincess]

I've never absolutely despised an absolute stranger more in my entire life.

[@LizaPrx]

You have to watch the back stories makes it so much better! Keep doing these the way you are!!