Controlling Parents Refuse To Let 30 Year Old Son Live His Own Life

[@brookiepook624]

Julia is the only mature person in this whole town apparently.

[@justmeok2]

Have you seen her on the tell alls? She sucks lmao

[@wellhello1603]

@@KimchiYeo when I first started reading your comment, I kinda understood where you’re coming from, but then you lost me. Incel/misogyny vibes much

[@Ilikeavocados123]

@@KimchiYeo lmaoo chilll boyy chilll

[@blobbertmcblob4888]

@@KimchiYeo Brandon doesn't talk to her lol.

[@WhoTao...]

@@KimchiYeo A wild incel has appeared | attack | Run | Items |

[@bettinascurlock5898]

"Melanie ... stop talking." I'm ded ... Julia is a G!! I wish I had a friend like her. She's cool AF

[@karmAnonymous]

I choked 😂❤🎉 Love her man

[@pieterdebie4162]

Yeah, that was awesome 😂

[@heathergaitan8473]

We should start a fundraiser for Julia to get the hell away from his cowardly ass: everyone who contributes gets to taze Brandon. Thanks for the idea, Buff!

[@scoutsalem9926]

Count me in!

[@00WatName00]

Him getting tazed, will probably finally knock some sense into him 😤

[@SoullessGinger1313]

@@00WatName00 Depends on where he's tazed. I'd aim for rendering him sterile. That sort of stupid selfishness shouldn't reproduce.

[@emptycameras9960]

Ooh, what if you get to taze the amount you donate?

[@tamster6594]

@@SoullessGinger1313 lol

[@helpyourselfimbusy5747]

“Melanie... stop talking.” Julia. Is. Savage. 👏🏻

[@karmAnonymous]

I laughed so hard 😂

[@dianerose8316]

Brandon's parents just hate losing that free labor.

[@theoverunderthinker]

they could have paid him and he could have stayed working for them and provide for his family, but now they have to pay a stranger or break their own backs working. I have no sympathy for them whatsoever.

[@Angel-vb7bb]

They aren’t even subtle about it 😭

[@blackgirlonmars_]

Someone finally said it 🤧

[@AnnWahlquist]

Exactly....

[@darlashannon1202]

Every convo about them coming back to the farm goes right to how much help the parents need. I really can't stand those parents.

[@JimmyDThing]

That girl first accused her of marring for a green card and now she's upset cause she's showing she actually wants to commit to the marriage with children. These people are the worst.

[@danthemankhan]

To be fair, having an "anchor baby" would be even more effective than a green card, and wouldn't necessitate staying with him like a green card would.

[@Bananachan289]

Brandon sets the example for the people in his life to talk to Julia like she’s a stupid child, it sucks for her.

[@blazeron12]

That happens when someone doesn't speak native tongue well. Everyone assumes they are dumb

[@User-90762]

@@blazeron12 Right? Are they multilingual? probably not.

[@TheDaechan]

For me I can see it being her being Russian and his parents just being the way they are. His parents also raised him. He's He's product of that O.O so it all adds up but I still feel a little sorry for Julia for having to deal with parents like this.

[@shonrayx4912]

@@User-90762mmo momomo n mom mom kk mo

[@shonrayx4912]

@@User-90762 mom N mom in

[@thatoneperson1436]

Julia was just excited about having a baby in the fuTURE all she did was make a slight baby joke and then everyone just went and babied her about havING a baby

[@stitches318]

Thinking about having a baby when your younger than 30 is so stigmatized that half the women I know who had kids when they were younger did it through an accidental on purpose 'slip up.' Julia was being honest and got chewed out for it. Lots of women in their 20s want a baby, it's not unusual

[@ragnar97]

@@stitches318 Thinking about having a baby when you can't afford a bed for yourself is moronic. If a friend of mine barely had money to eat and started talking about having babies I'd chew his or her ass off too. To the OP "she was excited about having a baby in the future", yeah, that's why she doesn't take the pill nor they use condoms. Pulling out is the way to go when you wanna make sure right? Please. And if you're gonna say "well they don't have money for that", more to my point, if they can't afford that they can't afford a kid. It's not rocket science.

[@stitches318]

@@ragnar97 oh please. Many girls start think about becoming a mother and having a baby when they are 6 years old. Is that also moronic? Thinking isn't doing...you are obviously a male

[@gigismith8133]

@@ragnar97 I'm guessing you've taken the red pill?

[@ragnar97]

@@gigismith8133 Well, if you wanna think that go ahead. I just don't think you can fall so madly in love within a couple weeks to wanna move to another country and leave family, friends, everything behind and marry the person. At the very least it's not normal for a stable person. Maybe it's just me. If it were a dude doing the same thing I'd be saying pretty much the same stuff so I'd say it has little to do with being red pilled and more to do with having my feet on the ground.

[@ArtistMadrid]

I'm sorry but I have to disagree with the parents... That's a really nice "starter" place.

[@blobbertmcblob4888]

But it's not the faaaaarm and it's not the puppy milllllll

[@thatonebitch8810]

Right! My first apartment with my now fiancée was total shit. That place is nice.

[@boobear9944]

Right? I’m 18 trying to move out with my bf right now and I’d love to have that home. I’d be overjoyed.

[@somefunkychicken]

That starter apartment is still nicer than the house I rent.

[@CieraMychele]

Honestly it looked pretty cute

[@diy_cat9817]

"Julia is starting problems in front of my friends" By talking about wanting a baby with her husband? Okay. Man child.

[@AnnWahlquist]

He's not even a manchild... He's just a little boy... Thats the truth... Hos parents have curled him so much its not even funny

[@karmAnonymous]

So many men are like this and it's so disgusting

[@ItzDerrik]

The parents: “he’s being manipulated by Julia” Also the parents: display textbook manipulation the entire time

[@jphillips4murica]

OMG! YES!

[@lunaballuna]

Dude, my in-laws are EXACTLY like this. Anything my husband does that goes against them or their way of thinking means it's my fault and I've done something to get into his head. They think he's on a ball and chain with me and from my experience if you don't nip that crap in the butt or at least stand up for your partner, the relationship fails miserably. What's really funny to me is she's Russian with crap American in laws and I'm American with crap Russian in laws. Luckily my husband isn't a child who can't stand up to his family and will openly defend me over them every single time.

[@victoriawhitney4636]

When Julia said "I want a little baby bed here," I literally pictured Brandon doing the homer Simpson GIF when he was walking backwards into a bush lol

[@Lilmountainmama]

Julia: “I want a little baby bed here ☺️” Brandon: “so ofcourse Julia started a problem in front of my friends 🙄” I literally hate these people. Julia deserves so much better

[@tracey7774]

He is going to snuff out her light pretty damn quickly sadly. she is in a narcissistic nightmare and its gonna get a lot worse for her.

[@noahhilliar7738]

facts

[@squishy8758]

@@tracey7774 hopefully this show will help her get help.

[@royalacity]

I can't imagine finding him attractive BECAUSE of his personality. I perceive she is lost in translation and can't tell how much of a puss he is? 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@royalacity]

@@tracey7774 That is sickeningly true.

[@crystalmcdonald994]

The look on Julia's face, like: 3 years. Just put in 3 years to get that citizenship, divorce, and find a real man. Just. 3. Years.

[@FFisJEmatieMATIE]

I have to agree with Brandon on the child thing, having him as a father would be terrible!

[@nik1582]

Had me in the first half ngl

[@invisiblebutaintblind6582]

@@nik1582 Same XD

[@rachellest.hilaire2042]

Lol😂🤣

[@d00mzDai]

"I want to have baby!" "No no no, we want to hang out with our friend, and babies gross us out. Y'all can't have baby!"

[@Skycl1324]

He's honestly one of THE WORST. He won't defend or protect her in front of his parents and will even join in ganging up on her with his friends. What an absolute worm of a boy.

[@DashingPunkSamurai]

Of course he is, look at how awful his parents are!

[@Sly-Moose]

The mom's privilege is showing. The apartment looked nice. She's so ungrateful. I'm calling it now. Brandon is gonna end up cheating!

[@danthemankhan]

He's apparently in high demand among attractive women.... for reasons....

[@audreyxatomic]

It’s one thing for Brandon to not be ready for kids-but he shouldn’t have allowed his friends to overstep their boundaries ONCE AGAIN. He could have laughed off Julia’s comment and said “well we can talk about that later”. The way he responded, he acts as if Julia hadn’t been clear about wanting to start a life and have a family from the beginning. She didn’t leave her family to be free labor and a full-time bootycall, but that’s exactly how she’s being treated. She deserves better.

[@ragnar97]

"Leave her family", yeah, that amazing family she hasn't mentioned nor has helped her once? The one who didn't attend and probably doesn't even know about the wedding? Do you really think she married a guy she met online a couple weeks earlier "for love"? ok.

[@idontwantahandle001]

@@ragnar97 have you not been watching the past videos? They knew eachother for 2 years not a few weeks, and her parents couldn't come over from Russia for the wedding because it was during covid but they did watch the ceremony over video call as it happened. You trying to accuse her of using him for a green card or something? Julia has been the only decent person on this entire show and deserves so much better

[@flor9345]

Bro I relate to her so much. She has the most basic idea of an american dream: house, job, kids- As an migrant I relate to that too, sucks her partner is taking his position for granted and just isnt as ambitious as she is.

[@karmAnonymous]

It disturbs me how often people have no respect for their partner in front of others... How hard can it be? I have no choice but to believe every single last time something like that happens it's 100% deliberate, intentional & filled with malice.

[@farukmehmethanelmas8382]

Can someone make a loop out of the part where Julia says: "Melanie, stop talking" with a cracking voice signaling that she's about to blow up because of her BS

[@Emily_Easton]

The manipulation from the parents is giving me anxiety.

[@moozuli5865]

Same.

[@Lolalol1100]

​@Sahir Damani coz they raised him up like that so he doesnt even recognize it as something bad.

[@Giryagirl]

Yeah, I can't watch more than a few mins - and I'm out.

[@memymomalex]

@Sahir Damani He has no balls. I dated a guy like that once. His dad was an ass, like, I was so quiet and always polite and kind to his parents. I honestly thought they liked me, but apparently they were talking shit about me when I wasn't around. His dad would get on my case about stupid shit. One time he was flipping out on me because i like Chicago pizza more than New York. Like, it'd be one thing to make a joke, but he'd just go on and on and on as if he was really pissed that I liked Chicago pizza and just making me feel like shit about it. My boyfriend said NOTHING. And I was just sitting there with a grown man yelling at me, and I was like "Well, I don't know what to tell you. I like Chicago pizza," like, I had to speak for myself because my boyfriend just sat there and did nothing. Then his dad would get pissy and say that I was talking back to him....for defending myself...for like Chicago pizza. Omg it was so friggin stupid. And looking back, I'm like, my boyfriend if he was an actual man should have been like "dad...stfu...she likes Chicago pizza." I think overly aggressive fathers tend to shame their sons from questioning or countering them, so they end up creating sons with no backbone, sons who will never question anyone or call them out, and who are just constantly afraid of confrontation.

[@nik1582]

@@memymomalex my deepest condolences for you that you had to experience smth like tht

[@tamster6594]

I think Brandon called his friends over for the exact reason of having them "talk her out of" having kids!! The way they all seemed ready for that AMBUSH was seriously sus!

[@Irrelevantspace]

I want to be friends with Julia so badly. She’s an icon for putting up with all of this. She’ll leave him eventually and get the successful life she deserves

[@TimeMovie93150]

THIS!!!!!!

[@DubCatXero]

Minecraft chicken is out here spitting facts! 😂♥️

[@TheSecondOne123]

Me to!

[@50zezima]

I felt this comment, I hope that Julia reads these comments too and that it helps to make a sort of decision. He's simply not worth any of her energy that she could be putting into having a beautiful successful and happy life of her own. That's coming from a man that would never wish this type of relationship upon anyone.

[@NikkiC777]

She shouldn't put up with any of that. She really could do a million times better easily. She would be better off without Brandon and if she moved to a better area.

[@hollysalazar633]

It made me so happy when Julia told her to just stop talking.

[@lizafrench8455]

Brandon just seems like making Julia happy is a hassle.

[@tron-8140]

Learned it from his dad. Hes trying very hard to emulate him and its pretty sad. His dads a douche. A family of main characters.

[@davidjamesmagtibay6065]

@@tron-8140 a family who thinks they are the main characters

[@docofthedead7667]

When they had the discussion about moving out his parents kept telling him how unprepared he was and how he has never paid rent or a bill (aside from his assertion that he has paid a water bill) and won't be able to make it on their own. When we have children, we aren't 'raising kids'. We are raising adults. Adults that are productive in society and able to care for themselves which includes fiscal responsibility. If he is that unprepared at his age (29 I think) it is THEIR fault. They failed him

[@eddieperaza8948]

I really need to know how Brandon got Julia in the first place. She doesn't seem to be in it just for the green card, but the man is like a board of wood.

[@Coder-zj7lo]

Are you asking for a friend? 😂 JK

[@xsapientex6674]

Easy to control. She's playing a long play.

[@SuNing69178]

He’s fairly ok looking, he was prob nice over messages and Julia is young and fell for the romantic long distance relationship idea, you’d be surprised how many people fall for it

[@Cityweaver]

Boring guys seem really nice at first because they aren't opinionated and don't argue with everything a woman says in those first few months. (He doesn't talk over me?! He's a catch!) The trap becomes when the woman realizes the dude doesn't have any opinions about anything other than the lukewarm comfort they enjoy and just want the woman they're talking to to sink into mediocrity with them. Jus saying.

[@eddieperaza8948]

@@Cityweaver That actually makes a lot of sense, thanks

[@jazminestryder]

Why are Brandon's childless friends giving them advice on when they should have kids? lol... yikes

[@katelizabeth7264]

*"I'm not tryna have kids right now, I'm stern on that" Not stern enough to use condoms... But stern...* 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️😂😂

[@TheSkyHive]

He's all about that ABORTION....bet he thinks of it like a drive-through take-out..."I'll be here all night folks"

[@SharRawr]

Them: "WhOs GoInG tO hElP oN tHe FaRm?!" Me: don't have a farm then

[@Not-a-secret-account]

After all those Green Card chasers this guy gets a decent woman Brandon:"You want a serious relationship?" Julia : HmHm Brandon:"You're kidding right?" Brandon: "Right?"

[@Captain_Neckbeard]

It's pretty sickening.

[@tamster6594]

Just fyi (for your information): Woman = 1 woman Women = 2 or more women No disrespect meant just wanted to let ya know incase no one else has yet. Take care

[@blimlimlimm]

@@tamster6594 your pfp looks like Qui'Gon

[@laura121684]

@@NotARegularMom24 It could've been, but I've seen many of people making this same mistake all over the internet, which leads me to believe that most people don't actually know the difference. Plus, at least Tamster is being polite about it.

[@Not-a-secret-account]

@@tamster6594 But did i get the msg and meme through?Thats what matters Imao Corrected it anyway

[@yukiihoney]

Julia is a amazing woman. I’m glad she stands up for herself these other people are crazy. 🙃

[@kitt3n2010]

Julia is pretty chill, and funny. Brandon treats her like a Russian bride and an outsider. I agree the unfinished business with the side chick, and what is side chicks bf even still around for lol 😆 Like I get the whole 20 yr olds hangout but Brandon you are MARRIED not drinking buddies. Have to treat your wife as a wife. 🖤😎

[@d00mzDai]

Treat wife like wife confirmed. If friends talk shit, friends get hit. If friends keep it up, they no longer friends.

[@reasonablyserious]

@Olive it's when somewhat affluent betas show their true self because they think they have the upper hand.

[@MichaelMonka]

I followed their story. They ended up working.

[@leahcastanha8689]

@Olive I'm not sure, but maybe it is a warped take on the 'mail order bride' term, I think a Russian bride is just a Russian woman getting married😅

[@amaracrow0501]

A big problem with the show and actually the whole 90 day franchise is that they always try to make the American look like they are in the right. Like Julia is a monster for expecting Brandon to keep his word and man up.

[@mellak915]

I'm in an extremely similar situation as Julia (ironically with a guy named Brandon as well). It's weirdly comforting to have Ken and Buff talk to these situations and give "advice" that I can use for myself

[@longing_for_the_void]

I hope you're able to get yourself into a better situation soon. You deserve a happy and healthy relationship 💕

[@Sofiamamitaa]

Run gurl

[@Usedw0tm8]

I hope you're doing well these days and living the life you deserve!

[@ragingredhead9555]

Unfortunately I had a parent like this. My mum and her boyfriend kept crapping on my plans to move out. Expressing that I would be missed and whatever but when things got heated and arguments got more heavy, turns out they just wanted me living there with them because it reduced the rate of bedroom tax. 😕 I moved out over 5years ago, and haven't seen them seen lockdown 2years ago. 😂 BEST LIFE DECISION I'VE EVER MADE! My mental health has been better than ever so that's definitely saying something.

[@kookycrypt]

I'm glad you got away

[@lyonfowl2935]

Bedroom tax...? What the heck is that? (American here.)

[@taniat.5489]

I don't know you but I'm so happy for you! Glad things worked out :D

[@atraxian5881]

Sorry you have the "my children are a financial asset" kind of parents...

[@ZombiCat_]

I feel that. My mom handed me a bill to split rent when I turned 18. Everytime I thought to move out, my Mom would cry and told me she couldnt afford this place without me. That if I left she'd go live in a card board box. All lies. Never been happier living on my own!

[@Blan-Kitt]

At the beginning of this series, wasn't sure how to feel about Julia but was willing to give her a chance. Now she's my favorite person in this series and I hope she ends up ultimately happy. She deserves so much for putting up with all of this shit.

[@minzkaffee2440]

I really like Julia, she seems to actually like Brandon - which really says something - and seems to be a no nonsense kind of woman. She also constantly talks about wanting to work, she doesn't seem to be a golddigger or anything like that. Slight spoilers but in other clips you can tell she wants to stay with him, even asking whether they should move to russia together if she can't stay in the US.

[@julmdamaslefttoe3559]

aye but from what we see brandon is a child, and julia is better of with some sigma male macho steroid head in russia called vlad

[@psychedelicpayroll5412]

@@julmdamaslefttoe3559 Like Noel Deyzel. I keep getting recommended his videos.😂

[@toocutenoirb.4278]

I kind of hope she makes an OF n on there teaches dance classes. Makes money and leaves him. I hope she finds someone who understands she wants to have a real relationship.

[@WHATISUTUBE]

As someone who has kids it's funny hearing people who don't have kids ponder as to how horrible it is to have kids. Last year I was going up mountains in Iceland with my 2 year old. This year I'm thinking of doing it in central america. REAL talk: if you want a child but little responsibility just have 1. It's easy after 6 or 7 months when they sleep through the night

[@courtneygreene4794]

They own multiple properties and they can't hire an extra hand or two to help around the farm? Yeah makes sense.

[@psychedelicpayroll5412]

We all know rich people will do anything to get cheap labor. They know they don’t have any illegals around where they live so they are looking at their own son to do the work.

[@Botsy]

They own multiple properties and can't let them rent or have one? Like, jeeze, it's bad enough you didn't raise him to be independent...But their apartment was a nice 1st apartment. I've seen way worse

[@emeryltekutsu4357]

Like they said, we've seen hired help on the show before, so they must have people. That might be a thing 'for the show'. I wouldn't put it past the reality TV stuff. It also doesn't make much sense because neither of them seem like they would be very big contributors for taking care of farm work. Brandon is lazy and Julia doesn't want to do it. I would believe that the mom is probably taking it hard with him moving out, but I think that part is probably nonsense.

[@Renizzle]

I completely understand what it’s like to have parents who guilt you anytime you try to move on with your life. The guilt they are able to instill in you is astounding- some people will just say “well don’t listen to them and just do what you want to do” - I really wish I could do that. It’s so difficult in some families Also Brandon is the worst

[@popojelly1895]

For real, my parents condescend me for doing the things they RAISED me to do.

[@mizravenkustoms]

Oh man I know do I ever know. I’m married and I had to move back in with my mom because of the tremendous guilt she puts me through. I turned 46 today and I’m miserable and trapped. It sucks. I’m glad someone understands.

[@duckygibson2075]

I feel so bad for her. He’s so childish and his friends literally matter more. Julia deserves more than a man child

[@anicholson5227]

My parents were controlling ..nothing was ever good enough. Always felt like I lived in a prison. Lost everything because of them. She needs to get away from all of them as soon as possible

[@reapedspartan8172]

Have you guys heard of Carl Jung? Jung talked about this, the Mother is an Archetype, 'The All Devouring Mother', The Devouring Mother 'consumes' her children psychologically and emotionally and often instills in them feelings of guilt at leaving her or becoming independent.

[@veraaloe4208]

And in my case also poisoned my food with minute amounts of food I'm allergic to in order to weaken my body as well, to further force me to do her bidding and brainwashed me into thinking she was healing me.

[@cpolt1192]

@@veraaloe4208 wow that's very sick. I hope you're away from her now?

[@dapper3160]

@@veraaloe4208 Holy crap I hope you got out of that situation. Had an abusive mother as well, but more of the psychological type. I got away from her and that household as soon as I could. I'm so sorry you had to go through that and hope you're doing better.

[@invisiblebutaintblind6582]

Yup, heard about the guy from Professor Jordan Peterson.

[@CrystalLynn1988]

That describes my mother perfectly

[@syruppblasphemy]

Buff with the friends thing. So accurate! I lost a few friends when I had my son and was married because all of a sudden I wasn't "Sierra" anymore. All the true friends ALWAYS ask about my son. Always say hi. Always take the time for him Because hes a part of my life. Didn't stop our friendship at all.

[@danthemankhan]

It's always odd when adults talk about having "friends".

[@glynnL]

Is the dad is saying Julia is such a strong manipulator that Brandon can’t resist, or that Brandon is so weak willed that even a suggestion he do something his parents don’t approve of is considered “manipulation”? All this complaining about him as if they didn’t raise him that way. How dare Julia say exactly what she wants in her life? How can Brandon predict what she was expecting if she’s only going to say it very clearly and repeatedly? He is infuriating.

[@dixieingles2716]

First off, Melanie the “friend” is totally stoned af. 😂 Then girl said “Melanieeeeee….stfu” deceased 😂💯

[@JulieDmomof3]

And this is why Brandon's siblings are MIA. They probably realized the mind games the folks play.

[@Pandalover1982]

Brandon has siblings?

[@JulieDmomof3]

@@Pandalover1982 early on it was quickly mentioned. I think they might be Ron's kids? Not sure. Wasnt really discussed. Pretty sure he said sisters.

[@suesmith8326]

Does Brandon have siblings? His parents raised him to be exactly the "adult" he is.

[@Pandalover1982]

@@JulieDmomof3 Interesting. Thanks for the info

[@sylvivincello1556]

It was stated in the beginning of the series that he has half siblings from his dad's side.

[@alejohndrom4092]

What’s weird is that my family’s situation is very similar: once I moved out, my parents bought a farm and now they’re working on it. Only difference is that they didn’t guilt trip me into staying with them. They got to work and they’re doing great

[@lovely-bo2ri]

Brandon’s family: *farm* Asuelu’s family: *money*

[@Blueapples514]

Your family: *job*

[@YouKnowMeDuh]

Lol

[@kairens.1624]

Hotel: Trivago

[@ragnar97]

Julia's family: *gulag* I find it funny how throughout all this no one ever wonders why all the help falls upon Brandon's family's shoulders.

[@Dragonlilly12]

I can relate deeply with the parental situation. I'm 26 with a 22 year old sister and they refuse to be happy about us moving out. I have a disability and my sister is caring for my monetary needs but she is able. She is learning how to drive jsut now because my father refused to teach her. They didn't want us to get credit cards or a bank account and tried to shelter us as much as possible so we'd stay. It's disgusting and what this does to your child's mind while they are taking steps to be independant can be horrific and then actively blocking their path when they try.....

[@allylewis3761]

Mom: “it’s a little small” It’s literally bigger than my college dorm…..

[@castanzofranzman2013]

Each room in there was bigger than my dorm that I shared lmao

[@somatic47]

Michael Scott: That’s what she said

[@allylewis3761]

@@castanzofranzman2013 I didn’t even have a kitchen in mine…

[@castanzofranzman2013]

@@allylewis3761 same lol. I got lucky with a small bathroom though

[@memymomalex]

yeah, it's a little small...just like every other first apartment a person ever gets after leaving home for the first time. And actually, its way bigger than my first was lol

[@tamster6594]

Brandon = Puppet Dad : If we aren't pulling the strings then Julia must be!!

[@cwag9442]

That mom is toxic AF. So condescending ! It's obvious she's used to getting exactly what she wants via guilt trips and backhanded complements.

[@emp9413]

Ppl would kill for an apartment that size. Wtf kind of parents expect their son to live with them forever. WEIRD.

[@MattFromHawaii]

The 'friend party' was kind of tense and weird. Lol all of my "friends" are never that awkward with eachother. Even with new relationships and being in similar situations. The best home girl friend is too much. I feel sorry for Julia for being fucked over often. I feel like if Brandon ever watches episodes of this, he can realize how much love and effort she actually put into their relationship and I hope he feels awful for it. Also, why tf does he keep inviting that girl over? Lol it obviously gets tense when she's around. And her bf doesn't seem to want to be around either lol

[@NikkiC777]

I don't think he is insightful or responsible enough to feel awful about it.

[@alexafletcher8991]

Julia will hopefully go off hard enough that he'll pick his pick me girl and leave her alone. She's strong enough she can do anything.

[@tonichan89]

I've a feeling he just didn't have any friends so the show had to cast some. The conversation when they were out eating seemed like two people just making up the most generic stuff on the spot, nobody talks to each other like that. "Hi Brandon, so this is your new girlfriend. Remember when we did x?"

[@blobbertmcblob4888]

@@tonichan89 There ain't no way those people knew each other lmao. If they did then they're not really friends to begin with.

[@TheSkyHive]

Its because the show pays them to do certain things.

[@Ball_InDistress]

I watch this therapist that has reacted to these two and he calls Branden a ghost and says that perhaps due to emotional abuse from the parents has no sense of self. So since he has no idea who he is or what he wants he just goes with whatever makes others happy. He almost never talks about what he wants. It's always "my parents need help on the farm" "Julia wants to move out". It's interesting

[@brandiflath7780]

As someone who doesn't want children, they should have had this conversation a long time ago, full stop. That's not a decision either party should have to compromise on. IF she knew it was something he didn't want she shouldn't have brought it up in front of everyone knowing it was a touchy issue, if she DIDN'T know, that's a shitty way to find out the person you've married + moved across the world for doesn't have the same life goals as you. He should have just let it go, and shut his friends up. He doesn't respect her at all. This isn't going to go well...

[@toocutenoirb.4278]

Here's the thing tho. He made it seem like they do want kids just NOT yet. But they had a pregnancy scare n been together longer n now got a place she might feel ready now. They never said a timeline which is a Convo they could have but he knew she wanted kids but I think he not ready which is fine. But her saying her plans for there future isn't something to shut down he could have said yeah when the time comes. But to say no absolutely to kids it sounds like he changed his mind which is fair but that means they should chat about it. But Brandon is on n off on what he wants with Julia. He says one thing n changes his mind instantly. I hope she leaves him

[@Sp3c9000]

@Brandi Flath exactly, that conversation should have happened a long time ago, and again after the pregnancy scare, and it should have been a private conversation between the two of them regardless of being on a TV show at the time. Both of them really messed up on that particular topic.

[@mamafrazzini]

Unfortunately my mother- in- law and her boyfriend are like this. My husband and I have been married for 3 years and together 6 years we have a daughter and I'm pregnant with our second daughter currently. We have our own home and my husband has a good career at UPS. My mother- in- law and her boyfriend insisted thats its my fault they dont see there son anymore and that everything has changed because of me. Even though we moved close to them and they then moved 40 mins away without telling her son until a couple days to moving date.

[@bellaconley9121]

Bruh this whole town is gaslighting Julia I swear 😐 it’s stuff like this that pisses me off and no one should be treated the way she is. She literally says the most simple and normal things to bring up in conversation or in the beginning of a relationship to establish things. On a lighter note, it’s always refreshing to watch a new vid from y’all!

[@Jess-IssaMess]

Hopefully it's just editing and he treats her better ☮️

[@Toxic_Waste92]

Like people like this piss me off. I don’t want kids. Just ain’t for me. My a close friend of mine just announced he’s having his second kid and I couldn’t be happier for him! It’s what he wants! He’s happy and I’ll be at the baby shower again giving gifts and being there for my man’s! Just be supportive. If there’s real concerns there’s a time, place and A WAY TO DO IT!!!! This wasn’t it. Not to mention the worst time to bring up that “I’m not ready for kids” is in front of people. It’s a private conversation… it’s as easy as saying “I would love to see a baby here soon” and move past it until you aren’t in mixed company

[@isaaccardin]

Guilt is the glue that binds toxic families together

[@zahrah997]

Cardin or Carlin

[@jessicathomas73]

Yes, unfortunately it is

[@DeannaBaileytheRavensFan]

Facts.

[@wileyb2004]

Brandon has spent his whole life being controlled by his mommy and daddy and now he trying to do the same thing to Julia.. RUN GIRL! RUN! SAVE YOURSELF AND NEVER LOOK BACK!!!

[@emilyharmon1876]

Everyone treats Julia like a burden. She needs to get out of there

[@missmarysunshine2686]

Bro, Julia is so correct, his friends have no right to comment on her wanting to have a child. The minute she said “oh I want a baby bed,” brandon’s friend should’ve been like “oh that’s cool.”

[@sinaz6354]

I can relate to Julia so much when she tells that friend to Shut Up! Like, wow, can you have your nose any deeper in other peoples business?

[@tommymarco]

the "stop talking" comment was so well deserved

[@lisalynn1]

Does Brandon know that if Julia went out a few times not even on Tinder maybe a nice guy or 2 would ask her out who doesn't look down upon her. It breaks my heart. She is alone in a different country, different culture, and speaking a second language. I feel so bad for her. :(

[@leehalloway8787]

It is hard to speak a different language, you cannot express yourself fully the way that you're able to in your mother tongue (unless you learned as a child or have been practicing for years). You sound less intelligent in the second language since you have a limited vocabulary and grammar, people sometimes assume that you are simple, it is incredibly annoying.

[@Ilieo-iliei]

The parents are projecting so hard.

[@Malvm666]

I can't believe that 27 years old adults can't talk about having children without freaking out like 18 years old. And they think that having a child is that lame and only crying? 😂 (Ps: Brandon if you don't want kids get a vasectomy, problem solved)

[@MaddyBlu9724]

Okay so I guess having any regard for the preferences of your spouse, who has to share their life with you, equals "being manipulated" according to the Dad. Yikessss.

[@JasminMiettunen]

If a 27 year old man needs to be manipulated into moving out of his parents house with his wife, maybe he needs it…

[@lynbaker7780]

Dane asked, “Who is this chick?” Well Dane, she is Brandon’s second wife to be! At least, that’s the plan.

[@LolaRabbit]

Every time his parents downplay him they expose how bad a job they did in raising him. If you really think that your 30 year old son can’t survive without you, then you failed as parents. He’s long overdue on being self reliant, but you would rather cripple him then teach him how to stand on his own for your own selfish wants. Edit: Is everyone in this town so intrusive? Is the whole town crazy?

[@NotARegularMom24]

EXACTLY THIS!!!! Perfectly put!

[@TheGrimeekid]

I seen on a previous episode comment that the parents own a puppy mill and are swingers, then on a later episode when his mum was cutting his dads hair he said my mum can only cut dogs hair, so i believe that comment to be true. They also said some people in the town are against the puppy farm but theres too many people in charge friends with that family so yeah seems like a fucked up town especially who they associate with.

[@sselluoss5935]

These always provide excellent entertainment. and NGL it's nice watching a YTer around my age. More relatable that way.

[@caseymarie625]

His “friend” pisses me tf off she always has a smug smile like “I fncked/had him first 😏”

[@roflpill]

more like "he's still mine"

[@liahamilton8931]

As if that’s something to be proud of🙄

[@Daniel-wc5ru]

Dad called out mom for not working lol 😂 and leave Simba alone! He is doing more work than mom is.

[@DanielDaly157]

I don't think Brandon cares about what Julia has to say as well. The fact that he wanted to marry after seeing her pole dance, she's pretty much a trophy wife.

[@jaquelinevera5000]

Shiiiii that’s my dream apartment. Thank you for your commentary ❤️ the kids thing should’ve definitely been talked about before, that’ll be a deal breaker for me . I’m 30 and dating someone younger. Before he came along I was looking into ways to start a family on my own. So now that I’m closer to that I’d react exactly like she did with his friends

[@quatrinavr8704]

‘He didn’t let us control him so SHE must be controlling him!!’

[@maxd4691]

Buff at 8:30 going off, you're my hero man I couldn't have said it better myself. I hope anybody who watches this video aspires to be like you.

[@allylewis3761]

Ken: “what can go wrong!?” Everything Ken, everything Ken

[@Twirlingbarbie]

"can we tase Brandon??" xD Buff spitting some truth this episode

[@rebboo1832]

lmao Ken saying "this prolly angers me because I'm old and have kids." nah I just turned 20 and I was just as annoyed

[@tristenmaguire5707]

“He’s trying to keep her happy and this is the result!” Him doing the first bit of adulting he’s ever done in his life? Like Ken said first episode he’s literally being driven by his parents to meet his wife!

[@MSANTHR0P3]

I have lived through this kind of in-laws. Everything my husband does that doesn't make them happy was my fault. After my husband's father died last year, my husband ripped his mother a new one. He finally did up for me and the family he had built. After that, I've had a great relationship with them. It's strange. Once they realized he was making these choices in his one things really changed

[@itzamee6941]

My #1 competition was his mom. She even wanted to name my son after her friend's husband ???. I got my son and left. Couldn't be happier. He's still living with his mommy.

[@MSANTHR0P3]

@@itzamee6941 ick, so glad you got it if there. Wanted to name your son after her friend's husband?! Wtf

[@lizafrench8455]

@@itzamee6941 Yeah the friend's husband....where they having an affair? The mom and the friends' husband that is. I have seen the exact thing before

[@pink_toucan5646]

I know exactly how you feel. Glad things got better for you❤️

[@Turtletoots3]

@@lizafrench8455 Probably would have played mommy when left alone and pretended she had a little Friend's Husband Jr.

[@michellehall2552]

Dad : Brandon doesn't have any money, how will they pay the bills? Why aren't they paying him for working on the farm, he's doing a job.

[@Stiiinkypete]

That's so rude. We all start somewhere. We all wish we could live in a nice big house, but sometimes we have to start with an apartment. These parents are something else lmao

[@Elizabeth-xf7yu]

Part of the fun in life is having your first bad apartment. When people are first married they need privacy more than luxury (not that a farm is luxury)

[@jeremygeorge6241]

I feel so terrible for Julia, girl legit just wants to start a life, and Brandon and his friends are horrible, and his parents are so arrogant. Julia, run girl, run because this isn't gonna be a happy life.

[@Sofiamamitaa]

Facts

[@dittohead7044]

I love how Brandon calls Julia the problem. That’s an idiot move. I think she’ll eventually leave

[@pcbassoon3892]

Julia should teach pole fitness classes. It's respectable and I imagine it pays decent.

[@JasminMiettunen]

I assume she would still need the same certifications as in the last video for the regular dance teacher job, but if she can secure the job offer, like a month of studying before getting stable job is okay. Either job would work for her.

[@Kimmyfuzzygogglepage]

Depending what the town has. She can maybe introduce and make her own business with pole fitness classes or aerobics? Something similar

[@limpfinger12]

I laughed at the "Melanieeeeeeee, stop talking" part too

[@JGGR89]

Brandon's the kind of guy who gets easily guilt tripped into magazine subscriptions! 🤣

[@allylewis3761]

Or guilted into joining jevohas witness by the people at the mall

[@lolaBee9]

Or actually sends the money to the "Nigerian prince"

[@EtrnayDad]

Simba was the best part of the whole show. He just wanted some carrides

[@gothlynx803]

When Buff said, "They didn't have a son to just work on their farm, and if they did, shame on them." Yes, Buff, shame on them but unfortunately that happens quite a lot in farm-heavy small towns like the one I grew up in. They usually have a lot of kids for free labor and it's awful. Then those kids grow up to be entitled assholes like their parents and the cycle continues. I moved to a big city to get away from my small town, and that's just one of the many reasons why I left.

[@danthemankhan]

It's not "awful", it's life.

[@0-0._.15]

When Julia finally told Melanie to shut it.. finally girl! Honestly she doesn't have to keep putting up with this and Brandon needs to start acting like her husband.😑

[@mikewallace9292]

Dam im feel so bad for Julia she's an actual human being and honestly the best spouse tlc has given anyone on any of these shows and she's stuck with Brandon

[@rachelsyrup]

"So of COURSE Julia started a problem in front of my friends." That made me nauseous. Wow. Just wow.

[@JGGR89]

The return of Brandon! The medical anomaly! The man with no spine!

[@alib2374]

The spine with no man

[@digitalgloop12]

🤣

[@gameplaylick9346]

Thanks!

[@xrarelightx]

My apartment is a little larger than that and it never came with a dishwasher, microwave or even several countertops like theirs did. The mom can chill and be thankful knowing her son chose a nice place to live in. I wouldn't be surprised if their apartment has a washer/dryer hookup too, which again mine doesn't. idk just be grateful and happy for them when your family gets something nice.

[@G4RA]

I love how Buff is actually upset and standing up with the woman in the supposed situation.... there is nothing better than a man that knows what he wants and stands up by his opinion.