Money Expert Anthony O'Neal Talks Finances in a Relationship | Dear Future Wifey S4, E410

Have you ever heard of the phrase “struggle love?” Today's guest is financial expert Anthony O’Neal, and he refuses to acquiesce to that mindset. Instead, he shares his view on finances in a relationship, dating with intention, and how we can maximize our single season.
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[@whitney7063]

I liked the part where he mentioned people thinking somethings wrong with someone bc they’re single. Just bc ur married doesn’t mean you’re “ right” & just bc you’re single doesn’t mean something is wrong with you.

[@desireeford5573]

This is why, I can’t settle because there are great men out here who knows what is most important!!

[@natashawilliams7762]

Right this what gives me hope! It’s also amazing to see black men with their thoughts together and their heart on God!!

[@daunelleduncan1663]

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[@chrysanthemums4963]

"I want a man that can bring more peace than I currently have" I literally live by this! I don't have the energy nor time to argue, worry about what you're doing behind my back, constantly overlooking your untrustworthy and irresponsible leadership.....none of that and anything else that takes me out of the peace God gave me. ✌️

[@tabbylathan]

Hallelujah 👏👏👏 If this isn’t a word right here #I touch and agree with you 🙌🏽

[@fah232]

I want a man to bring me peace by living in his own home and me in mine...

[@thedailyshare622]

Last October I turned 40. I celebrated by doing a 40 day juice fast to be delivered from generational curses. Since then, God has been directing me to certain you tube teachers I definitely could not stand before my 40 day fast. In the last 3 days I've come across both your channels at the same time. You're both discussing issues I definitely did not even want to delve into in the near future , marriage and finances. Having been through generational curses, marriage and finances have been major failures in my life. Your channels are helping me face some truths about my own weaknesses I didn't want to face. I believe this is the next stage of my healing/re-aligning process. This is my longwinded way of saying thank you both in advance. Your channels are definitely LIT!

[@greaterishe7197]

Juice fast 💣 ❤️ 💪

[@AnaEdelinda]

A few prayers are going up to the lord tonight. 1. In what ways should I be MAXIMIZING my singleness. 2. Reveal to me things that still need healing within me. 3. Who would I need to become to be aligned with a husband who possesses the mindset beautifully expressed by these two gentlemen? FIRE interview I got some homework to do. Gracias!

[@DearFutureWifey]

Thank you for your kind words, queen. You got this. The fact you're self aware to even come up with those 3 points is half the battle. At least that's what G.I. Joe said. Lol. (favorite childhood cartoon)

[@jacqueline8566]

Knowing yourself and knowing Jesus Christ so key

[@heaven9378]

@@DearFutureWifey someone else loves G.I Joe...and knowing is half the battle. One of my favourite cartoons too (I am screaming right now lol), great podcast

[@nadinedomany3987]

Two years ago, my cousin paid $800 for his wedding; he had a combined ceremony/ reception at a beautiful park under a pavilion____ It was catered. The bride wore a gorgeous dress she already owned; their goal was to get a house, in which they live in

[@rrnn6472]

Great idea - Blessings to them! I'm taking notes.

[@melissas_heart]

“I have a budget of $50- $100 for the first date.” That means that his focus will be on making the experience of getting to know me even more important than vetting the possibilities of what this date might result in. Men might think it strange that having a budget is actually sexy. For more mature women, a man who can handle his finances, can lead and teach me how to be a good steward over them, and then turn around and we both teach others…is priceless!! It means that together, we will safeguard our legacy and future. Another great episode!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@SuccesswithLatoya]

INDEED 🔥🔥🔥

[@monicasoyombo3360]

AGREED

[@TraciAnnMoore]

10K is possible for a wedding. don't invite others to come because they just want to see what you're doing. small and intimate.

[@tommyd1059]

That's it!

[@KW-nl8mo]

Say that!!! That’s what I am talking about. Do not invite people that just want to see. Invite Close people that will pray your Marriage through. Love the both of you

[@marcdownes5175]

Hey I 2nd that thought

[@lionelluva]

Hello! That’s my plan 🙏🏽

[@lilone11586]

My wedding was a little over $10k and it was more than enough. I didn’t want my parents in debt and I didn’t want my husband’s taking on debt for three hours of one day. Three hours!

[@missnurseeri]

Financial instability is a big red flag for me. I have ended communication with many men over that. I take marriage seriously, and I understand the fact that a man being a head of household I am beholden to his financial decisions. And I refuse to be led by a man who doesn't understand how to handle money. I made that mistake with the father of my children. Long story short, and trying to abide by his headship, we ended up homeless. I also miscarried one of our twins. In the stress of the situation, he became very abusive. At one point during my pregnancy I tried to take my own life. I had to leave the relationship with police escort. My family bought me a one-way ticket and sent me across the country to safety with my 2-year-old toddler and my two week old newborn. He ended up at a Christian shelter for battered women and children. I underwent a year and a half of therapy and counselling, which the shelter helped to coordinate. I signed up for the live richer academy in 2018. My children and I have budget meetings once a week, once a month, once a quarter, and once a year. My parents and I never had conversations about finances. So I am making sure that things are different with my children. If a man does not understand the concept of a budget, he has no business trying to court me!

[@theresalor]

I always say that I'd probably have about 2 people at the wedding: the Pastor and the witness lol! I'm such a private low-key person. My mom thought it was crazy when I told her I DO NOT and repeat DO NOT want an ostentatious engagement. Propose at home, over dinner, just me and you. The marriage is important, not the wedding.

[@princizzraven2000]

100% agreed.

[@cassandramartin5455]

Amen!! I so agree with you!!🤓 all I need in attendance is GOD ,the reverend, me, my husband, and a witness !💗💗💗

[@fah232]

I had me sister as my witness, my daughter stood up there with me and 20 guest.

[@dongelamatory8483]

Omg! This is so me..just enjoy the moment with each other!!

[@afuayeboah9149]

@ Theresa, you are my Girl. I’m a firm believer in what you’ve just said. Marriage relationship with each other is more important than a lavish show off wedding.

[@cshell75]

PS While you all are learning about Romance and Finance, let’s continue to sow into Kingdom Royale. I just made my second donation. Subscribers, let’s unite and help Laterras bring his vision to fruition for these foster boys.

[@DearFutureWifey]

Wow! Thank you so much! We're so blessed by your generousity.

[@playitbyearny]

Amen - i just learned about Kingdom Royale and planning my next donations

[@lynn2thecore]

This whole talk is music to my ears!!!!!!I didn't know things in my heart could be spoken so confidently. Financially Infidelity -Power!!!

[@Leah__Ro]

Amen

[@christellemichel7331]

2 mins in and he’s talking about stewardship. So wise 👏🏾🙌🏾Glory to God

[@josannebritto6898]

This podcast was so good. He dropped so many gems. I love this dude. I wish a lot of our black brothers could learn from him. Even us ladies. Maximize our singleness. All the best to u brother O Neal 👏🏿

[@fatimataylor4011]

I was blessed way beyond expectation with this interview! There was so much accountability and courage to speak the truth. You are a skilled interviewer. You were a mirror to AO and he did not shy away. We need more of this healthy dialogue

[@positivity37]

He’s an intelligent man! I hope he does a follow up interview after the show. I would like to see if his mindset changes as a result of marriage.

[@desireemoore1429]

RIGHT

[@kejuanlynette8531]

Ohhhh Brother O'Neal "success will make you overlook your flaws." 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 This is a great interview. He is so self aware. Laterras! Salute to you for starting and continuing this podcast! I'm super excited for both of y'all's wives!

[@ladeanridley5782]

Agree!

[@caramelgirl8932]

I get soo annoyed when people ask me if I'm not married yet, what I'm waiting for or imply that my 'biological clock' is ticking 😒. Here I am trying to do all these wonderful things like cultivate a more intimate relationship with Jesus, heal, grow, maximize my potential..... Things that I know will create good soil from which a marriage, a household and a generation that honours God can spring forth. Instead of supporting my process I find that I'm being pushed to skip that crucial step and potentially create another broken marriage, household and or generation. "When are we really gonna start pushing people to maximize their single season....???!!!!" 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@musicbyarnica]

Same thing for me 😭 Just keep doing what you’re doing unless you plan on being married more than once! Rather be single for 6 years than married for 6 & divorced!!!!

[@sylvietapos807]

Hello Laterras 👋 Thank you for having Anthony on your podcast, I had been waiting for this episode. I know I am repeating myself, however I really appreciate your podcast, because I feel that God is confirming (almost every time I listen and watch the episodes) the choices I am making, and the stances I have (on many issues). A lot of gems were dropped, and I agree with Anthony on many of the things you both discussed. This conversation was great food for thought. I'm really glad you are focusing on the singles, during this season. I also love that you are able to bring on your podcast a variety of single folks. We are getting great pieces of advice, for free. We are also exposed to different ways of looking at life, or a situation. Many thanks again to you, and to your team for your hard work. Have a great rest of the day! ☀️

[@iamniketajewel]

So refreshing to hear a man with this type of mindset regarding finances.

[@mskesha4735]

HOPE!!! That’s what I got from this podcast. There are men who are emotionally and financially stable and can lead a woman in a flourishing direction. I love it!!! I pray he finds his “good thang”❤️

[@mskesha4735]

@ij_ Amen to that Sus!!! We will keep waiting in faith

[@SheelahA74]

This young man is definitely wise when it comes to finance. He’s so real and transparent and do not let others now pressure him into being broke. He’s learned from mistakes which shows wisdom at a young age. It’s good to see a young black man teaching on finance and he gets it. Living from paycheck to paycheck is not cool. Period!!!

[@elizabethhendally]

Proverbs 31:16 - Amplified Version She considers a field before she buys or accepts it [expanding her business prudently]; With her profits she plants fruitful vines in her vineyard. According to this text and many commentaries this Proverbs 31 woman did have finances independent from her husband.

[@chrismiller7210]

Proverbs 31 is my blueprint

[@HelloHoneybee]

There were so many gems & so much from this episode my goodness! "Your comfort zone is the very same thing that's killing all your dreams, goals, visions" 🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯 wow thank you so much Anthony & Laterras for another great episode

[@latiffany8682]

Love the way He Biblically thinks and plans! Oh, if so many of us had this thinking. Excellent episode.. knew it would be L.I.T when I saw it on Dear Future Wifey IG!

[@chrisparker6249]

These are great topics to discuss before covenant is "set in stone." Without vision, the people parish. Great episode brothers.

[@kabricelewis2349]

I really appreciate the way he thinks and his mindset is a mindset that I would trust and submit to because he operates in wisdom and truth. Awesome!

[@tabbylathan]

Agreed🙌🏽 If I trust you and believe your leadership is lead by God then I’ll have no problem submitting to you

[@mr.valentino2824]

The thing I am hearing in a lot of this conversation is. The conversation you want everyone to have, is not being had, between two Mature Adults! Maturity will set the stage for an intellectual and peaceful conversation, where both parties get what they desire🙏🏾

[@sonyadriver7359]

I want a man with discipline and intentional as Anthony speaks of. Seek God about everything. I believe as Anthony has shared. I wrote a book about marriage after my divorce understanding the importance of the marriage over the wedding day. My book is Before you say yes and I Do.

[@tierramonique]

I have been watching AO for awhile now and it makes me so happy to see him on Dear Future Wifey. He has helped so many with becoming financially fit that it makes sense to have him continue the conversation about romance and finance. He is absolutely right when it comes to spending alot of money on dates. I rather meet up for a smoothie than dinner. Why waste your money and my time if the phone connection doesn't transfer to face to face meeting? And I personally don't want a wedding more than $5-7k including a nice honeymoon. We can deposit the rest of that money into a home, investments, our family legacy and giving it to charity/community. You definitely don't want wedding expense remorse. Plus... A man that can say he really doesn't have time to be in a relationship is a man who values the time of others and that's DOPE!!! 💪🏽

[@rrnn6472]

👏👏👏

[@lelem2509]

"Looking for a man who can give me more peace than I already have." The problem with us is that we overlook the negging things that steal our peace in relationships because we want to get married. Then we live a life with less peace than you had before meeting that person. So help me God!

[@kechiau78]

“Love and Legacy” I love it!!! Why would you want to be with someone you don’t love or they don’t really love you? I would never want to be with someone because of what they can give me or because of who they are. At the end of the day I want to love and be loved, and yes grow and build an empire, a legacy for our children and our children’s children

[@BabeRuthuk]

I love every episode Laterras, but this one right here was music to my ears. Praying that AO has continued growth and God grants him his good thing. Proverbs 19:14 Houses and wealth are inherited from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the LORD.

[@mashantuckacrawley4993]

I've taken Anthony O'neal Financial class last year in Connecticut at Black Rock Church. He was Amazing and very Informative. Yes, I am using the tools I have learned from him.

[@mfs1351]

Oh wow I wish I had known

[@moshadimashangoane9308]

Love this before I even watch it❤ I can't wait for you to bring his sister and her husband. I pray God leads you to engage with them:)

[@AndreaSylve]

This was an eye opening experience. I can't wait to complete this course.

[@DearFutureWifey]

Hope you enjoy it!

[@valenciacarter4512]

I said bump that wedding; we got married by the fireplace at the church. It was us, the pastor and one witness apiece. The bookstore employees took the pictures. We did a staycation and that was that

[@SBentley313]

Thank you for being great black men that are willing to publicly be L.I.T. Real, relevant and relatable! Love both of your platforms. Thanks for letting me grow with you!

[@caramelgirl8932]

I've been meaning to say this and I probably should have said it from last week when Judge Givens was on but let me go ahead and say it now. One of my most favorite things about this podcast is how it inspires me to do more, to push myself beyond my confort zone and reach for those dreams and visions that I've always had and to dare to believe that I can achieve even greater than those dreams and visions. Love the inspiring people you've had on the episodes. Thank you taking up this mantle that has started to and will continue to create transformation for generations to come. 👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 God bless you and your household Brother!🙏🏽🙏🏽 LIT family forever!!

[@DearFutureWifey]

That's awesome! Dream big!

[@yolandalofton9967]

I'm so blessed to see African American men taking their rightful place as God has appointed them to take

[@cynthiatougbay3874]

Yes 👍🏿 you can say that again.

[@cynthiatougbay3874]

And also am very happy that we black women are waking up to our calling as women of God.

[@chantellebrinson6823]

Excellent conversation!!! This is the shift in our current cultural mindset that we need to make.

[@dynamiss12]

Love the way you challenge thought when it comes to dating & relationships. We tend to focus so much on "finding" others, instead of the most important person in the equation... ourselves.

[@tanoawilliams3712]

I'm sharing this with my family because the life concepts that this brother is applying are critical to a successful marriage. Love this!

[@shanialeann1248]

Anthony is definitely an acquired taste but I love his vision for what he wants. He kept it real which I could appreciate. I could see him and Teri getting along so well. I think they speak the same lingo and have a lot of the same views.

[@mfs1351]

How old is Anthony? I hope they both get someone good and they need to invite us to the wedding shoot I will pay for my own meal if I have to.

[@naomicompton7601]

I recently wrote a vision for my health to keep me on the right path with exercise and nutrition. I know God is calling me to a have a stronger impact on the health of my community. That’s why he lead me to create a plan for myself. I can no longer be mediocre about my own fitness, not with the plan God has for me! This episode encouraged me to start writing a vision for my while life! That statement about comfort zones being a kill zone for your dreams, goals, and visions really resonated with me. God has been pulling me out of my comfort zone. I just realized I’ve been resistant and reluctant to leave it. No more! I’m ready! Comfort Zone- where dreams go to die!! Ooh Wee!! 🔥

[@ChicStrands]

I RESPECT AO!!!!! this is beautiful, and his mind is beautiful. Men need to take notes from AO, being intentional. We (Women) aren't impressed by what you drive or how much money you're spending on date nights🙄, we are impressed by your discipline and actions towards the future!!

[@mostdefmodest]

🙌🏽

[@briansplace1978]

Wow this is soo good, At first I was trying to clean my house and listen.at the same time, but I kept having to stop and take notes of these nuggets. Then I realized I can't just half hazard listen. I gotta be intentional about listening. Allowing intentionality to flow in every area of my life!!!💯💯💯

[@DearFutureWifey]

Facts

[@damaligoings]

Great episode! Thank you for allowing us to see vulnerable accountable men. Thank you for calling us women out to so that we can better. Peace is truly what women desire.

[@DeidraAnn]

@AnthonyOneal...every marriage isn't like that in reference to what you said about having money to the side. Sometimes you don't find out how someone really handles things until you get into the thick of it. 🤷🏾‍♀️Cover yourselves ladies.

[@lisarae7212]

I honestly wish I could meet someone like AO. For a man who has a plan and knows what he needs and wants is so rare to find. When I am ready and done being selfish I am sure the man has me designed for will approach me.

[@kiesha82]

I love AO's cheapness 🤣 The best comedy is in truth. I'm here for it! Stick to the budget Man of God and may the vision concerning your life, marriage, family, ministry, businesses, & finances prosper. Amen 🙏🏾☺

[@user-fe3vt4xw5p]

I can appreciate what you're doing, especially for the simple fact that many of us weren't taught the self-discipline and thought process that goes into accepting appropriate mates into our lives and intimate spaces💯

[@edenise07]

AO is the real deal! A real woman will see the fruit and potential of a man. That part!

[@KreativPlaysGames]

thank y'all both for continuing to show there are dope men out here who are doing the work to better themselves, heal and continuously grow! not just so us ladies could see it, but inspiring other men as well! keep going both of y'all!

[@DearFutureWifey]

No doubt!

[@MsProverbs31Woman]

Deuteronomy 24: 5 referring to the beginning of this video to what Anthony stated. The first year of marriage should be devoted to your spouse and their enjoyment and happiness together.

[@preciousmike34]

I share the same sentiment with Anthony, I want a small wedding. Not all my friends and family will be present, I want those who's voice I trust in my life, the ones I know 100% that they love, who've been there through out my life. Because I will request each to bless or pray fro us, and in the album next to their picture, will print what they've spoken and everytime we open that album, we'll remember. But with that being said I will not deny my partner their dream wedding. In fact, he's the one that will plan the wedding & I'll show up on the day. I'll help in the cake & food choice, the dress and his ring will be a surprise. I love these finance episodes!! Please bring more. I've been dumped in the past or someone lost interest, because I didn't have money, and I've let go of men who had all the money and material things, cause money is not what I was looking for. Life is a strange and beautiful mystery.

[@trishamgreen]

I love simulating conversations like this!! Kingdom mindset!

[@yoloallday5975]

The honesty ❤ you are giving me tools to help raise my children💯 Much Gratitude💯💕

[@lechelle51]

Lead with character which produces currency. Love that. Also love Laterris saying "You getting me crunk" lol

[@JamaicaLove876]

Yes, without a vision you can never align with your purpose. So many truths in this video. Yes, agree first dates should not break the bank, the purpose should be to establish is their connection & chemistry which can be found out rather quickly. Agree, weddings should not break the bank either as my focus is on the life after the wedding and those mini honeymoons to keep the spark going. As a community we forget about leaving a legacy because we just want to have that"look of luxury" yet the real wealth lives in ownership & becoming independent. The purpose partner is exactly that one who can align with your vision and enhance your purpose as you both do with each other. Money is a tool and when you used wisely can positively impact for generations. Beautiful letter to the future wife..Will have to look into those 8 pillars. Great video.

[@lovefelix1566]

Preach AO! Preach AO! When are we going to start pusing single people to MAXIMIZING AND STEWARDING THEIR SINGLE SEASON instead of why aren't you married, don't you want kids, what's wrong with you? Shouting Hallelujah!!!! PREACH SIR! PREACH!!!!

[@audreybuchman1972]

Thank you HEAVENLY FATHER for Laterras having THIS MAN on the podcast!!! It's SO NECESSARY for couple's TO TRULY MANAGE beliefs, finances, parenting skills, boundaries, friends & future plans "TOGETHER"!!!🥰🥰🥰

[@KPAM07]

Another great episode. Each episode I watch I'm amazed at the mentality of your guests. The men I have come across in my past never thought like this and still don't. No one things about the legacy or future, they only think about the present moment of what can they have now. LaTerras please continue have these conversations.

[@DearFutureWifey]

Thanks. That's the goal.

[@PREACHYPREI]

Hes on a good path. The last time I watched him I said he wasn't ready for a relationship. His attitude was off and he was a little full of himself. The growth im seeing here is cool. He makes a ton of sense on many aspects of life. I hope more black men build this mindset of legacy. Its biblical. We are supposed to be blessed down to our children's children.

[@lovebug6388]

He's still not ready.

[@Faithandlove113]

@@lovebug6388 agreed. If you are admittedly selfish how does he think he will make space in his life for the "future wife" he keeps speaking of? I wouldnt consider someone who is not ready for a relationship as "eligible". Great insight and advice given but seems he's focused on growing his career not finding a wife.

[@lovebug6388]

@@Faithandlove113 Amen Amen. I read between the lines and hear what folks don't say. Essentially he wants a readymade wife that fits into his mode and that's unrealistic. Plus he's short. He's got some Napoleon issues going on that come out in his need to control his environment especially money.

[@MahaliaA]

Great conversation! I've learned to never place boundaries around a boundless God. For us to clearly discern who to be with or where to go, we have to be connected to Him continuously. Otherwise the only voice we will be hearing in our heads is well...ourselves lol.

[@briansplace1978]

Thats so true, people out here paying for a million dollar wedding but they dont have a million dollar marriage....Sow into your tomarrow by saving in your today... Gotta keep the main thing the main thing...1 day verse the rest of your lives

[@KINGDOMDAUGHTER]

The pick of the litter is the wrong choice of word. Yet we understand your question to what is being conveyed.

[@donnagranderson514]

Budget your budget before your budget budgets YOU... cause when your budget budgets you you THROUGH!!! 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@MissAlomo]

Thaaaaaaaank You Uncle Laterras, you gave him EVERY possible response on the wedding arrangement & planning, I couldn't stop laughing! So many favorite parts...We need a Part II

[@true878]

This was really a great episode, so many take aways. You seriously are changing lives, I know this podcast has given me so many gems that I apply to my life daily.

[@vickyjohnson9765]

So happy for this,just the other day I thought AO should be on the Dear Future wifey Podcast💃💃💃💃👌👌

[@ChyTooFly]

Knowing money problems are the number one reason for divorce, I love the foresight and the level of and intentionality. This is powerful🔥🔥🔥

[@kishma4527]

Yes.... Another great podcast, Laterras. Lots of things to take away from this podcast. I love it.

[@DearFutureWifey]

Thanks for listening

[@natashaj4078]

AO!!!!! Listening while at work. Looking forward to hearing and learning from this discussion. Happy DFW Wednesday!

[@getliftedpodcast3921]

This was one of the dopest podcasts ever!! No lie, it spoke to all the things I’m working on as a single (unmarried) man and let’s me know the path I’m choosing is one that is full of promise, expectation, and enlightenment!! Thanks to you brothas!!!

[@FireWomb]

"Maximize your single season". Great message and convo!

[@CharCharJars]

I must say I’ve been following you for some time AO, and I love you and pray GOD blesses you with the woman HE has for you and blesses your union, that it may last for a lifetime and build for generations to come in the MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS, Amen

[@ticiayocum7121]

This episode made me excited about my singleness. It gave me chills on several occasions. A lot of the things AO spoke on made me giddy! I want all that! I had to press rewind on several occasions! Looking forward to taking the course!

[@edithjames3717]

I'm definitely going to share this with a few I know! Very needed in our community!

[@susanakaan810]

Sound conversation: Growing up I used to admire big weddings, but at this stage I have come to discover that marriage is really spiritual (you can't successfully get in or out of it without God's backing). However if one person desires a big wedding and the money is available they can go ahead and have a big party. Biblically the wedding at cana was a big party too. Keeping secrets in marriage is laying a foundation for mistrust.

[@slimfbaby20081]

I’m so proud of you Laterras… Keep up these great interviews!!

[@CharCharJars]

Just finished watching the rest. Thank you for continuing to share your life mission at the end of Dear Future Wifey, it reminds me to walk towards & in my purpose, the fact that someone is waiting for me to be obedient, be used for the answer to someone’s prayers. Plus the touching letter one top. It’s just a blessing in full circle. Thank you for being bold & vulnerable, which is strength & courage as well. GOD continue to bless your life as HE prepares you for your wife that your letters will touch in truth. GOD Bless You

[@chilove9955]

I watch AO and love his podcast. Glad you're having him!!! You are truly doing it and giving us soooo much content and insight. I found your channel a few weeks ago and started from Season 1 Episode 1. Yyyyaaazzzzzz, King, yyyaaazzzz!! 😀

[@jasminebailey6810]

Thank you for interviewing this King. This is a wonderful model of hope for women and men to see. Although there won’t be a lot of people at their wedding, I pray that their marriage be richly blessed and that their family legacy changes lives for the Kingdom and for their good.

[@Eudora916]

Mr. Whitfield you are blessing me with these podcasts....thank you for letting God use you in a mighty way.

[@SHARDAEHARDING]

I feel like I get the crazy look when I say that my next marriage IF there is to be a wedding I will MAX spend $10,000 cause you still have to live after the wedding and focus on your MARRIAGE!

[@eb5351]

That Tiffany's analogy 🤯🤯 "Everybody is not your customer" #Sheesh 🔥🔥

[@keishaharrison587]

Agreed!

[@c.j.promiseland6456]

This was excellent. The single season is super important, don't let anyone push you to marry let along date just to be occupied, instead better yourself with your steps being ordered by God. This is why I couldn't accept things from men who didn't have my heart. True dating is demonstrated way past dating, every day in marriage as a team we strive to help one another. The time for yourself is to gain powerful tools that help you discover yourself and then you can discover together with whom you select and receive.

[@kathyjones1408]

This was such a good episode! I’m late to the party but enjoyed this very much! ❤ I may have to sign up for the course myself! 😊 Thanks MOG!

[@nynightnurse]

My two favs in one podcast 🎉🥳🎉 AO is the trufff! Latteras, my bday twin, Thanks for always bringing difficult but important topics to the table

[@ashleyjones4323]

Was literally wondering the other day when you'd have him on the show 😊

[@ZedGirl]

@AO, yes, you were exaggerating a bit.😁 If you're getting married in California, the budget for the building rental itself will eat a BIG bite of that 10K. (Sounds like you will adjust 😉 when you ACTUALLY do the research for the budget. )

[@missmitchell1201]

Two of my favorite God fearing men on today's show .... Much love to you both ...watch you both ... Pray for you both .... 🙏🙏🙏

[@kechiau78]

I totally agree with what AO said about the wedding and marriage. Truth of the matter is, the wedding is only one day, the marriage is a lifetime. I want a wedding but it doesn’t have to be a whole lot of money. Why spend all that money on a wedding, when we can travel, make memories and/ or invest it for our future. I’m not in to purses or expensive gifts, quality time and traveling is what would do it for me.

[@melissas_heart]

Having a $10,000 budget for a wedding is good. Downsizing that budget and investing into our vision for legacy building is even better. I will certainly be happy with the exchange of the 1 month honeymoon. It’s the quality time we will spend together for me!

[@AlexiusS]

$10,000 is a court house/ backyard wedding

[@melissas_heart]

@@AlexiusS 😂 That is the most expensive courthouse backyard wedding I have ever seen. Living in Las Vegas, the capital of weddings, $10,000 will give you a pretty extravagant wedding. I am telling you it is absolutely possible.

[@AlexiusS]

@@melissas_heart trust me AO is not the type to go to Vegas. I’m in the wedding world. Photographer around $3500 Videography around $4500 Planner $3000 Hair $300 Dress $3000 Shoes $100-$200 Etc. So yeah even a courthouse wedding can add up. And he said out of his own mouth that he definitely wants a wedding. And I was even being generous with that because I charge upwards of $8000+ to film and photograph a wedding

[@melissas_heart]

@@AlexiusS Thank you for breaking it down. I guess for me, I want the marriage not the wedding. This pandemic put life in perspective in so many ways. $100,000 or $1,000, dressing up that altar still makes it an altar. My marriage will involve me and my husband to die at that altar nonetheless. The wedding is for everyone else.

[@AlexiusS]

@@melissas_heart both can live in the same space. You can want a nice wedding and focus on the marriage simultaneously. Not often do you get both families in one place at the same time to celebrate love. Families only get together like that for one of two times . Weddings or funerals.

[@ladeanridley5782]

"Success will make you Overlook Your Flaws"....Transparency for Sure! ...Confront and be willing to Heal and Improve....then, READY for LOVE ❤️.. Loved This Episode!..Will be signing up for the 8 step Finance Program!

[@carrisa5056]

I had all of these dreams just like him and expectations of what I wanted my marriage to be and look like even did the premarital counseling thing my advice to anyone heading down that path is go in with no expectations because people change due to life events and both ppl should have there mind made before going in that they will thug it out do whatever it takes to make it work and know that love alone does not keep a marriage

[@veroniquethomas3936]

Loved the episode, great gems dropped. I was speaking to a guy yesterday who said to me, " I've learned from a young age that men should chase women". I told him I respectfully disagree. I loved this episode because where AO was speaking having a vision for your life and knowing if someone is for you by way of lining up with that vision. 🙏

[@carlajones2325]

This was such a a blessing.🙌🏾 This gives me hope. Not saying he has to be on this level (which would be great), but at least in the mental space and have a vision. #LegacyPurposeLove

[@Carter989]

I hear him on the wedding talk. When I was younger, I imagined my wedding to be big but the older I get the smaller my wedding size has gotten… IJS🤷🏽‍♀️