Money Trauma: What You Need To Know About Your Inner Child - Inner Work Library [150/500]

[@jordanthornton]

*1-1 Mentorship Information: Price & Structure (Maximum Capacity = 20 Clients Per Year)* It's an absolute pleasure to film these KZbin videos, and I feel fortunate to receive an abundance of meaningful messages every week, but I am unfortunately faced with the disappointing reality of turning away the vast majority of people who want to work together. I have significantly limited availability and can only support twenty people per year because I do not offer one-off calls or drop-in consulting sessions. Twenty individuals might not sound like maximum capacity, but the last few years of teaching have taught me the importance of maintaining tight energetic boundaries if I want to keep uploading these free videos in addition to serving my current clients to the best of my ability in 2024. 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[@JackKeen-y4f]

how far in advance do people generally need to apply?

[@PurposeYou]

This is the new way of transparency, authenticity and building your own Life and Business through your own needs and rules. Thx for being such an example! 🙏

[@jordanthornton]

@@JackKeen-y4f Sometimes I have spaces opening up on a short-term basis, but most clients tend to give me several months of notice beforehand. I can accept 20% deposits for anybody who contacts me and would want to start any further than 3 months after our initial contact! Looking forwards to hearing from you if this is something you're considering.

[@jordanthornton]

@@PurposeYou Thank you for witnessing and appreciating my intentionality here.

[@mysticgardener2704]

I grew up in poverty but my widowed mom pulled us up and out on her own. I rebelled and stayed in the eternal child rebelliousness against the system and took a vow of poverty. Then as I dedicated my life to being a stay at home mom I built my own cottage craft business to be able to stay home and garden and be creative. I did not want to scale and become a corporation so might look like a “failure” in the eyes of our society but I have freedom and connection😅 and community and I serve others in a healing way. It took a lot of self discipline and risk taking and I learned a lot and raised two highly successful children who understand and have a good relationship with money. I am successful in my own way except I have no money saved for retirement at 63 yr old. 😅 I did it my way but now its time to get serious I guess.

[@jordanthornton]

Good luck with the next steps - it sounds like you lived true to yourself!

[@beckymagnolia1]

My dad was a psychiatrist Being a doctor's daughter, I was raised as an intellectual princess. No one pushed me to become an income earner - they just encouraged me to learn. As my parents had hoped for, I married a man with money. Rather than build a career I raised the kids and wrote books on the side. The intellectual princess model worked well until I realized I was only living as a half person in the eternal puer aeternus role I had been given. Since my divorce, my work around money has been about tempering my creative spark, desire to play (and juvenile stubbornness) with a need to financially care for myself. It's been quite an emotional journey - but the rewards of growing up are immense. That book sounds excellent! I'm adding it to the list!! Thank you!!

[@jordanthornton]

It’s good to continue learning more about your story, and it’s a unique one for sure. I can imagine it’s been a very insightful - and often challenging - journey these last few years with the business and finance aspect of personal and family life.

[@MaineEmOcean]

Thank you for sharing this...I relate. My parents weren't intellectuals yet did not encourage independence, especially for females.

[@helenaartbook]

I appreciate this video. Being an artist myself, most of the negative talk around money and creative pursuits came from the surroundings and society in general. Whenever mentioning that, for example, I might want to go and study art, which I never did as I decided to learn myself, my former colleague would reply: ''Oh, you should study something else, there's no money in art!'' Or when I started making little money from my art, my other former colleague said: ''Hey, you should slow down with the money. You do it because you love it, not for the cash!'' ...ehm, really? This shows that every creative person has to face the societal stigma that being an artist is not for the money. I'm hoping this will change soon as society seems to be moving more into the entrepreneurial style of living, and making money as a creative person is getting easier. I know that I'm still working on healing some money wounds from my past, as my family lived from paycheck to paycheck, so opposite to the doctor family artist, however, being the creative one, there's lots more to deal with.

[@jordanthornton]

That pattern of other ‘artists’ actively downplaying people who make money from their creativity is a particularly crappy pattern. Potentially well meaning, but it’s so wrong and unnecessarily romanticised.

[@Yara12323]

My struggle to even write a comment on this topic says a lot. I've long been avoiding confronting my ambivalent relationship with money. Thank you for bringing that back to my awareness.

[@jordanthornton]

It’s one of those particularly tricky ones to navigate… appreciate you being here 🌲

[@jseboudoir]

Very interesting. Yes I'm going through a lot of inner work and money mindset personal development for this entire year. Part of that developmental process has been to come to understanding, awakening to my own perspectives of money, as well as reflecting upon both my mother and father's relationship with money. I have begun the process of breaking down and rebuilding my own belief systems and the patterns that I have seen in them, that I have inherited. Thanks for this video!

[@jordanthornton]

It sounds like you've made some excellent progress on your path recently, thanks for watching and sharing - stay steady.

[@Kyma33]

Jordan, thanks for the great video and for the super content you put out on this channel. I am at the stage where i have already done a good amount of inner work, but as we know, greater awareness tends to open our eyes to even more things that need to be 'solved'. All in all i have reached a point where the greatest challenge is probably not so much learning more and finding out what to do (getting lots of insight on that from Homecoming) but more about balancing this work with other areas of life like making money to support myself and also enjoying a social life with people i want to spend time with. This has been the greatest challenge by far over the past 6 months in particular. It's not a nice feeling when you actually stop and realise that another month has gone by... and you are making great progress with your mental health... but other areas of your life that, ironically support this journey, are suffering 🥴 Any help would be appreciated Kyle.

[@jordanthornton]

Ah, I know what you mean. I've got a video on work-life-healing balance coming out this month, fortunately enough. I'll see what I can do in that one, and wish you well in the meantime - keep grounded, Kyle.

[@Kyma33]

Thanks very much 🙏

[@jovimusique]

The last bit seemingly paused time for a moment "if you're an artist, or an athlete, or someone who is entrepreneurial you've got a deeper character trait which is really calling for attention". Which books dive deeper into this character trait? My family is riddled with these roles including myself!

[@jordanthornton]

Key Person Of Influence is a good practical business book, but psychology wise you’ll be best looking at Abraham Maslow and humanistic psychology with self actualisation focus.

[@stefanmckannon1634]

Thank you for this angle

[@jordanthornton]

Truly my pleasure, thanks for being here brother 🌲

[@misterfergusso]

Thanks. I look forward to you making a playlist for your money/finance videos.

[@jordanthornton]

You can go directly to my channel and see them - I’ve likewise linked them as cards throughout this video. Feel free to search ‘money’ on the page and you’ll find them. Good luck.

[@nathalieduverna6963]

My mother took my money. She didn't teach financial importance. Sometimes I have anxiety thinking about income....it can be frustrating

[@gailaltschwager7377]

Thank you, Jordan!

[@jordanthornton]

Truly welcome, always.

[@Heal-the-world369]

Thankyou

[@jordanthornton]

You are truly welcome!

[@DanielReed-b2s]

How do

[@jordanthornton]

Do you have a specific question?

[@DanielReed-b2s]

No questions Jordan other than you are on point in describing a persons value system. As someone who values time more than money it was interesting negotiating this with my employer that if I do over time I want the time back and not money it took some explaining but he eventually came to see the differences of our value system. Great content again.

[@rshicks256]

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