MONSTER IN LAWS That Deserve A Special Place In HELL - REACTION

[@mckenziepyatt8203]

The bride who wore a pink wedding dress and had all the bridal party wear white so that her monster in law couldn't successfully bully her was a genius. Absolute genius! Also it sounds like such a beautiful wedding.

[@thesecretlifeofbuns4336]

1k likes and no replies? Lemme fix that rn

[@ibag87]

Yes, this is absolutely genius!!! Who comes up with something like this, bravo!!

[@thesnoopydance645]

I love this so much !! Probably because I would thoroughly enjoy wearing a pink gown if I was the bride. 😜

[@saffrondougall2731]

She definitely made the right choice going for a pink dress

[@Expriexp]

if you don’t mind me asking but how would the monster in law make fun of her for wearing a white dress on her wedding? 😅

[@justhearmeout3959]

How does that husband expect his family to warm up to his wife when he talks shit about her to them? WTF

[@ti20g]

that honestly upset me so much..."doesn't she have something better to do" like wtf

[@justhearmeout3959]

@@ti20g this type of people are the worst. They will have you believing they love you until one day, finally, someone they've talked to lets it slip that they don't care about you at all

[@lisaspikes4291]

There’s no one way in hell I would have continued with that marriage! I probably would have approached the family sitting at the table, announced that I heard their conversation, I didn’t appreciate it, and I was leaving. Leaving the family get together AND the marriage. There are just some things that I cannot tolerate. This would be one of them.

[@Grouchbox]

He doesn’t want them to. He wants her to feel unwanted and stay away so he can use “visiting parents” to clear time for him to cheat. This actually is unfortunately not uncommon.

[@Grouchbox]

What he did is divorce worthy

[@baileeh2942]

If I saw a MIL wearing a white dress to her son’s wedding, I would say -with a huge smile- “Oh, you dress is beautiful! It’s so… INCESTUOUS.” And then I’d walk away.😂

[@lisamelroy2855]

That's so dirty - I love it!!!

[@StonerOfGotham]

I love this

[@snehboruah7192]

DAAAAMMN ! I love it!!!

[@fitxfour1072]

This is exactly what I thought when I saw this. Wearing a white wedding dress to your sons wedding. Seems like incest to me

[@babafo6788]

A good gallon of manure is better, red wine is too soft...

[@TwiggyHetfield27]

If I ever overheard my MIL AND husband question why I came to a FAMILY vacation, I'd walk over & say "don't want me here? Fine, I'm gone in the morning. And the divorce papers will be in shortly after" It's a FAMILY vacation, the spouses are there too!! It's clear that not only does the family not like her, but her OWN HUSBAND didn't even want her there! The Fuck!? "They'll warm up to her on their terms" WHAT TERMS!? How are you supposed to get to know your in-laws if not for family functions?

[@sarahberkner]

I'm guessing the husband was saying that for the mom's sake and she's the one that didn't want her there, which is still wrong but a silly reason to get a divorce instead of talking about it first like adults.

[@dezerayb3980]

@@sarahberkner nope. If you are throwing your spouse under the bus, it does not matter who is driving.

[@CosmicAli_TheObserver]

@@sarahberkner these people are past that point. Besides, who wants to be married to "Mommy's little ass kisser". He's not an adult if he can't stand up to his mother, and the whole family condoning her bad behavior just further proves that the whole tree is infected.

[@liltinktinky2605]

@@dezerayb3980 exactly, you lift your spouse up. I’m guessing the married life was not what he was expecting. Or mom was in his ear telling him how she is even though she doesn’t know her. My mother in law did this in the beginning to try to get us to divorce. We got pregnant about 4 months after we got married and she said I did it on purpose and that he should take me to “get it taken care of, so I don’t ruin his life”. 🙄 And still to this day she doesn’t like me, even though I try to be nice to her.

[@daydreamergirl03]

Honestly I'd leave like OP did BUT husband would come home to changed locks, drained bank account, and divorce papers

[@TheLovelyMissBeans]

Once you are married to someone, you going on the family vacation should not even be in question; the family should not only welcome you, but be upset if you DIDN'T come. AND, if they aren't welcoming, your spouse should be putting them in their place, reminding them that you are their spouse now, not talking about you behind your back. RUN!!!!!

[@cshijinx]

Agreed OP's inlaws and husband sound toxic af and she needs to cut some ties with that whole family

[@Cazoliie]

For sure, it's so weird that she had to ask if she could come ! And the spouses of the sisters and brothers are there, but she can't ?

[@marieknight9385]

Exactly I hope she files for divorce before they have any children too, that would be horrible to be tied to family like that, what husbands don’t take their wives automatically on vacation with them anyway?

[@elishamk88]

I agree. When you’re married, it’s implied that your spouse attends with you! Not even a question.

[@jenniferwentland1736]

And the fact that she didn’t immediately stand up for herself, but rather quietly took their beat down and ran away, then allowed her husband to gaslight her into taking the blame. She should have walked right up to that table, confronted them and said she was sorry she even came along since it appears to be such an inconvenience for them. THEN left. Thereby, making them take accountability for their actions right on the spot.

[@lilykep]

My MIL didn't even go to my wedding and then 6 months later when my husband called to wish her a Happy Mother's Day she berated him for THIRTY MINUETS for "letting me" get my nose pierced. After the call he came into the living room with a shocked look on his face and I asked him what happened, he told me. He doesn't have a great relationship with his mom in the best of times and he's a very non-confrontational person, so I asked him if it was ok if I handled it, he nodded and handed me the phone. I called her back and very politely and firmly informed her that my husband doesn't "let" me do anything, that I am my own person who makes my own decisions, and she just yelled at her son WHO WAS CALLING TO WISH HER A HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY for something he had no control over. I also told her that if she EVER had ANY issues with me she could COME TO ME and talk to me about them because we are both grown ass adults who don't need to go through intermediaries like children gossiping on the playground. She tried to do this guilt trip bs of "well I guess you just don't want to have anything to do with me" and I told her that she was still his mother and he was still going to try to have a relationship with her so any contact that gets cut off will come from her and will be her decision. I ended the call with "You're on speaker, now apologize to your son for yelling at him and thank him for wishing you a happy mother's day" After she did that I said have a nice day, and hung up. 18 years of marriage later and we haven't had any more MIL drama.

[@murielredondo1261]

She's like a kid who was just then learning to behave 🤦‍♀

[@emmadasilva1794]

NICE

[@BlackViolet96]

My fiancé is also a gentle soul who would rather fall on the sword than face or start any confrontation, so it is my honor to be his "detached backbone." We've been together for 2.5 years, and now all I have to do is look at him whenever we're in a rough situation, and his expression will either harden because he feels stronger with me, or he'll shoot his eyebrows up so I can deal with it. Either way, I love helping him and providing support. Ah, love.

[@maatnofret1234]

Good for you for standing up for yourself and calling out MIL on her abusive behavior toward her son. I feel for your husband. It’s hard for adult children from toxic families to set boundaries and stand up for themselves: they were never taught how. I hope that, in time, your husband can learn from your example and put his own foot down. The first time he does it, he will probably be terrified, but it gets easier with practice. Until then, excellent for him that he has your back. As long as you have a united front, you’ll both be O.K.

[@evangelinekhumalo5117]

Legendary. The man is lucky to have you

[@tephrafalls6321]

The pink wedding dress story was a thing of beauty. A wonderful way of putting dear mommy in law in place.

[@sandraperlstein79]

It reminds me of the show Smothered.

[@neliaferreira9983]

I loved it. Imagine how deflated she was when she realized she not only didn't shock anyone, she actually blended in harmoniously.

[@2sunnymomma351]

Standing ovation for pink dress bride👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖

[@peajay3557]

I really don't understand why the son does not ask his mother to behave maturely and stop having temper tantrums. It's bad enough that she treats her now daughter-in-law poorly, but to behave like that in public is really mentally screwy.

[@christineburdett5810]

@@peajay3557 It's usually because men like that have no balls to stand up against their precious mommy.

[@ajjamsen694]

I have no doubt OP's husband's family was really upset OP left because SHE was doing all the cooking, cleaning, taking care of THEIR spawn, not because of whatever they claimed. They don't care about her, they care about what she was doing and now what they have to do.

[@davidkermes376]

the "polite" thing to do would have to immediately ask if you should leave so they would be more comfortable. then leave during their awkward silence. how the heck did you end up marrying into that mob anyway?

[@jenniferlewis7508]

Husband is totally setting it up to not look like the bad guy when she leaves his ass. OR he has things he's hiding from his wife so he intentionally keeps a rift between his family/friends and wife so she won't find out. Either way, dude is shady AF and she should really find out what kind of person he truly is. This is where I would invite family members one on one to brunch, dinner, etc to let them get to know me for me and slowly sabotage his plans. All while setting aside money to leave if/when I discover who he truly is. If it's fixable, I'd have money set back for a nice girl's trip or something for myself. lol

[@awg7068]

Husband has been talking shit about his wife to his family ALL OF THIS TIME. Throw out the whole marriage, ex-in-laws, ex-husband and all. Been there, never going back again! Learn from my pain!

[@lisao7600]

That was my first thought too. Wonder how her husband would feel if she went on vacation with her family without inviting him?

[@patriciat4493]

@@awg7068 agreed! When my ex and I split, I went no-contact with the rest of his crazy, toxic family and never looked back.

[@jenniferhuggett2217]

My best friends mother-in-law was horrible. She insulted every choice my best friend made and had her in tears constantly, telling her she was selfish for not taking other people into consideration. Unfortunately for her, both sides of the wedding party, male and female, were made up of our really close friends who doted on the bride and weren't happy with her crap. When it came to the rehearsal dinner ( which typically is paid for by the grooms family) monster- in- law said she didn't trust any restaurant to get things right and she would plan it at her house. She went ALL OUT, including a huge prime rib carving station. It was like she was trying to show up the brides family about how things " should be done" Imagine the look on her face when the entire wedding party showed up, informed her that it was Good Friday and we were Catholic, and none of us could eat meat. We probably could have eaten sides but we enjoyed just nibbling on bread and stating loudly that it's too bad she didn't bother to think about anyone else.

[@ittybittyissy]

Hahahahaha u go gurl 😄

[@yuko273]

hahaha thats nice 🤣

[@ms.annthropic6341]

Love that 😂👏👏👏

[@colbymcarthur7871]

LOL- but also was a Catholic getting married on Easter weekend? That’s a bold choice

[@mjgodfrey]

Oh I absolutely love it 😂

[@downhomesunset]

That wife who’s husband told his mother that his wife was “pushy” should have filed for divorce when she got home. What does your husband say about you when he knows you are not in the area. If he actually said “ you ‘know’ how pushy she gets”, then they have discussed this before. Drop him like a hot potato!

[@carlahaiduk1878]

The thing is: she is probably from another culture. She became the wife only to serve as an unpaid maid. The only one who does not know about it is the OP..poor thing.

[@sarahberkner]

I feel like maybe he was trying to make his mom happy and didn't really mean it, and he wasn't in the right but if she had divorced him and not even talked to him about it that would be ridiculous and rash. Couples are going to have disagreements and misunderstandings. You shouldn't just get divorced because the other person isn't perfect.

[@pm1660]

@@sarahberkner I'm sorry but showing such a lack of love and respect for your wife, is a huge red flag! He was plaining on a vacation with his family without her! The family was included, as mentioned in the post, other wives were there ... but she had to ASK to go. There is not misunderstanding there ...

[@veronica5lmaa]

@@sarahberkner hum no. the fact that he will make his wife miserable to make his mommy happy shows how terrible of a husband he is. She should divorce, this will not end well.

[@LiliyaS]

Def divorce. This marriage is over and should've never happened...

[@YM-qb6gh]

Can all of us women just make a pact right here, right now, that should anyone ever show up to a wedding in a white dress (not approved by the bride), we will spill red wine on said white dress. Who’s with me?!

[@Emeraldwitch30]

Chocolate down the back is lovely too. Makes them look like they shat themselves lol. Just trick her into sitting on a brownie or cupcake lol.

[@shenacarter7987]

I can flatten a tire and the spare if we don't want them to show up at all lol

[@stischer47]

I'm a man and I volunteer to serve as backup in case you need a second glass of wine or piece of chocolate cake.

[@rachaelgibson2330]

I'm with you 110%! And I'd totally do that for my bestie if she was getting married! #Petty!

[@sonyalindee8676]

I will totally be that girl🍷 and I do not mind anybody being angry at me for it😜

[@momcat5213able]

I loved the Reddit about the bride who got a call from the bridal shop telling her that the MIL and SILS came back and bought white bridal gowns for the wedding. She ended up changing the color of her dress and asking all the guests to wear their own bridal gowns to the wedding so they could have a 2nd chance to enjoy them. Apparently the MIL and SIL didn't stand out as much as they thought they would. 😂😂😂

[@ANPaige]

Love the idea of having guests wear bridal gowns to give them a second use! And props to the bridal shop for calling her and letting her know

[@jennfoley]

Husband: I don't want my wife on this family trip. Wife: *Goes home* Also Husband: HOW DISRESPECTFUL AND JUVENILE Divorce babes, divorce

[@seppyq3672]

I knew a couple like this once. His family hated her and didn't want them to get married. (I can't even imagine why, she's a cool, chill lady) the marriage didn't last long.

[@sheila1366]

I would have done the same thing. Packed by bags and left. What I did when I got home would have been different. I would copy every financial document in the house and found a good divorce lawyer. All very quietly. No scene. Quiet is much scarier.

[@mechlowiczgirl]

I'm reading this with Adele's voice 😂

[@edelleaa]

i'm sure that whole family thinks they are never the bad guys about anything and it's always someone else in the wrong.

[@cindyspear5763]

@Edellea - Yes. That family sounds genetically narcissistic, through and through.

[@0612Crystal]

That last story was frickin poetry! That bride was a genius when she made her bridesmaid wear white too!!

[@debshortstoph84]

Also email guests and friends on the brides side to wear white also.

[@ruthgriffiths7365]

When each of my sons were getting married I arranged to go shopping with my future daughter-in-law and her mother. We had a wonderful, supportive time (times four) and made sure we were all really happy with our choices. Why on earth would any woman think she had the right to try to outshine the bride? This is the woman your son has chosen to spend his life with, the mother (perhaps) of future grandchildren and someone you should be welcoming, supporting and honouring. My daughter now has four wonderful sisters and I am surrounded by a bunch of fun, clever, crazy, supportive, amazing women. What more could any mother hope for?

[@behappy2763]

Love this outlook! ❤

[@ariwoodshany4308]

MILs like in these stories are convinced they're the only women good enough for the husband to be. It's a weird mix between possessiveness, overprotective mothers, internalized misogyny.. A lot of people have said its like incest but emotional? I know some truly awful MILs and yeah.

[@entirelybonkers8832]

Especially wearing a wedding dress to your sons wedding like why would you want to look like you’re marrying your son Emotional incest vibes

[@wisteria3032]

if they had your brain I don't think they could wish for anything more. But - correct me if I'm wrong - even more than feelings I think you're using this very rare thing called logic. I'm afraid 98% of the population cannot be convinced that it isn't illegal.

[@FirstnameLastnames]

❤ I hope I get a MIL like you! I mostly just hope I get a MIL who won’t hate me for being the woman her daughter fell in love w But mostly, I just hope to find a good wife Better start w a good girlfriend tho, eh? 😂

[@gengosselin1843]

#1: OP deserves all the crowns #2: People on AITA scream “divorce” fast, but this time it’s 100% warranted #3: Perfect checkmate, but OP is in for a wild ride for the rest of her married life.

[@lawrencelopez9839]

Op's the friend everyone needs

[@stheno4783]

Yeah for #3 I actually can’t imagine that love would be enough for me to get married to a man who has a relationship like that with his mother

[@PerfectSummer10]

I work in the wedding industry. I can confirm that mothers of the grooms are the worst clients. Especially those who only have sons.

[@user-guigui01]

Oh, my....

[@danilynn9904]

@@user-guigui01 I read that in George Takei.

[@pixymixy1980]

True story, my aunt kept repeating to her son,” it’s not too late to back out “ as he was putting the finishing touches on his tux getting ready to walk down the aisle 🤦🏽‍♀️Edit: he is an ONLY son

[@FlowerEmblem]

Can confirm. Went to a friend's wedding where the MIL was perfectly okay with her being the girlfriend to her 1 of 3 sons....until they got engaged. Because he was her baby and she didn't want him to leave the nest.

[@DeidresStuff]

I love my son, but if some women actually wants to deal with him someday, good luck to her lmao

[@MommaWolf182]

To the woman who overheard her husband saying she was pushy and invited herself to the family get together she's not an ahole. I was married for 22yrs and my now ex husband did exactly the same thing. He never spoke highly of me to his family and when he knew there was a family event he wouldn't tell me and then lie to his family saying I refused to take off work and go to the event. He especially did this around the holidays and if by some chance I was off work and went I was told by him his family really didn't like me and I shouldn't interact to much with them. I also didn't see the gaslighting he was doing. Eventually our marriage ended when he texted messaged me he wanted a divorce, I told his mother that he was staying with his girlfriend after he lied to her about staying at a work buddies house, then when he brought his girlfriend to Thanksgiving and Christmas while we were still married his family finally realized what the tea truly was and even after all that I was still labeled the bad person for divorcing him. She needs to run away from him and his family and start over. It won't be easy but at least the gaslighting will stop and it'll improve her mental health so much

[@lizzykayOT7]

Live well! I'm sorry you experienced something like this. My mother went through the same thing.

[@BreezyStreamy]

I was in a relationship where all of a sudden, his friends and his family started keeping their distance. Turns out, once he was done in the relationship but just didn't wanted to break up and be alone, he would complain about me any chance he got. He even talked to his friends about planning on breaking up with me on my 21st birthday and that's why they stopped talking to me about a float trip that was happening around the same time when both him AND I were initially invited. He planned on breaking up with me, having a 17 year old spend some weeks with him/maybe move in, AND to go on the float trip with her. He thought that him and the 17 year old were going to become a couple and when they didn't, that's when he called me up and gave me an ultimatum to move back in. I did give in and went back, but that was waaaay before I realized all that he did. A year and a half later, I finally left him, and then him and his mom (who was living next door) was then starting rumors that I was abusive since he was pretty abusive to me other than the manipulation and gaslighting. The worst decision I could have ever done was give him another chance when he gave me that ultimatum, but then the best decision was when I finally did leave him.

[@starlingswallow]

Amen! 👏🏻 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@it.comes.around]

My dad is very similar to this with me and my poor mother…but his family adores us and nobody ever believes a word he says, so it’s just irritating because he fails to be manipulative. Luckily he wasn’t like that when I was younger, it’s more of a product of him passing the mid-life stage without having much time to waste his days partying and being irresponsible the way a lot of his male relatives did, so when he started doing it, I was old enough to tell everyone the truth and have enough of a honest reputation for people to believe me, because my mom is very non-confrontational when family is involved.

[@leaness98]

I feel so sorry for everyone who had to go through this, my heart was literally aching while watching / reading these awful stories 😢🫂❤️ I can only agree, the wife was not "pushy" at all. It could have been understandable if it had been a "close family only" kind of vacation, but that clearly wasn't the case as the husbands brothers all brought their spouses with them. It was specifically about her not being wanted there, even by her own husband! Throw that man away, along with his toxic family! Why he married her in the first place when all he did was talk sh*t behind her back is beyond me. I guess I'll never understand how people can act this way 🤷‍♀️

[@timothyranck]

The story about the family vacation is heartbreaking. If other spouses weren't there as well it wouldn't be as bad but that just makes it ten times worse.

[@kristinenelson9376]

Right??? I was so confused as to why you wouldn't bring your spouse on a family vacation?!

[@JoanaTrincaoAaltonen]

@@kristinenelson9376 Exactly, thank you!!!!!!!!!!

[@sherylw4599]

Absolutely!! What the heck??

[@beast6213]

The fact that the siblings' spouses were there made me do a double take because They were included, but the family wanted to exclude OP? Seems cruel to me

[@elishamk88]

Creepy af when mothers treat their sons like a husband. Even more so when he lets her. 🤮🚩🚩🚩🚩

[@lebrilopejackalope5775]

I know what you mean, but when someone was raised up and grew up with that kind of behavior all their life it's hard for them to process how disfunctional their parent-child relationship is, they can't help to think of it as "normal" so I can't fault them too much because their mother (on this case) screwed them up, but yes, beware of men with these kinds of mothers. Thankfully all the women in my family are respectful and friendly towards all their daughters in law, I wouldn't put up with this.

[@gabbee4626]

@@lebrilopejackalope5775 Yeah definitely not a man you'd like to marry if MIL is never going to be out of the picture. I also agree with your point. In some of these cases these men have been victims of covert incest abuse since childhood. If the genders of the parent and child were reversed, many people would not be nearly as hostile to the victim. Not being accusatory to anyone, in a lot of cases it's just a manchild who's too pampered to let his convenient mother go. But it's something to keep in mind.

[@yikesman2717]

Freud would have a field day with this

[@whatsanenigma]

I admire the courage it takes to spill red wine on somebody's white dress. If you're not really careful you'll get it on your own dress too.

[@aether_feathers]

I think she didn't mind risking it at all if it meant helping her friend which is admirable. I know it would have been disappointing if she stained her own dress as well 😅 but the risk was worth it.

[@ezura4760]

Psssst, if you immediately pour white wine over the red wine stain, the colour is erased like magic eraser. It’s awesome, I’ve used this trick on many occasions when I was overactive when tipsy. Just be prepared to stand in your underwear drying your dress under the handryer in the ladies afterwards lol. Smile and roll with it!

[@BlackViolet96]

@@ezura4760 This is life saving advice, bless you.

[@ezura4760]

@@BlackViolet96 Just remember to rinse it well afterwards otherwise you'll stink of wine all night lol!

[@jiayitan1767]

i wouldnt think twice if my own dress got drenched in red wine. i would do it from a distance and chuck it at them.

[@margo-sophiehawkins978]

Omg the pink dress one was such a beautiful way to handle this situation!! It completely disarmed the MIL because she couldn’t raise a proper stink to anyone who was not the bride because then she’d be revealing herself as a total asshole, it gave the bride memorable and unique but still beautiful wedding photos, and it was a fairly non-confrontational solution that still got the point across to the MIL. Absolutely flawless *chef’s kiss* OP’s brain is galaxy sized

[@kstormgeistgem461]

and honestly? how refreshing to go such a unique route for a wedding. it's actually more traditional really. brides didn't actually wear white that often in the old days and often wore pastels instead. so the pale pink... perfectly in line with tradition.

[@letizialorusso1950]

IKR

[@MrsShocoTaco]

As the very proud mom of two grown men, yes it is extremely weird when moms get jealous of girlfriends, fiances, wives... It's FKNG CREEPY! If dads did that crap with their daughters, people would accuse them of very disgusting things

[@Margatatials]

Emotional incsest.

[@sarahberkner]

Dads will be protective and joke about being overprotective of their daughters sometimes and I think it's usually understandable.

[@draumpje]

Being a lill overprotective isn’t an issue But claiming “she or he is stealing my baby” and treating a serious partner with disdain etc and even actively bullying him or her Hell no ,

[@Princess-cz3hg]

@@Margatatials ding ding ding! It’s this 100%

[@MrsShocoTaco]

@@MsJubjubbird Nah, that's just protective

[@Teresa-ch3og]

I am 64 years old and I am still embarrassed about something I did when I was about 19. I come from a very small family and hadn't attended a wedding since I was 5. I went to a wedding with my then boyfriend, now husband. I wore a white sun dress because it was a very hot day. I didn't honestly know about the rule about not wearing white. No one said anything at the time, but after I heard about the rule, I felt really bad.

[@hopeturner3884]

I wouldn’t worry too much about it lovely, you made an innocent mistake with no intent to harm! As long as the bride was happy the whole day it shouldn’t matter❤

[@samhg3658]

People really do be expecting to everyone to just "know the rule" for anything social, don't they.

[@victrola2007]

You shouldn't worry. Let it go! 🎈‼

[@PoodleParti]

I didn't know about that rule way back then either. I only heard about it 3 years ago. So it probably didn't exist then.

[@viridia1526]

I come from a pakistani family. We wear colourful dresses on the wedding day and the bride normally wears red. I didnt realise this was a thing in the west until like… a year ago. So yeah, dont be too hard on yourself, sometimes we dont realise.

[@lw3269]

As a vegetarian, the first story makes me so mad. My MIL also ALWAYS served meat themed meals before and after our marriage. She definitely knew I was vegetarian. Plus Grandfather in law always asked me to justify why I didn't eat meat at EVERY shared meal. For f*ck's sake, what is so hard about having some sides or main dishes without meat?

[@Emeraldwitch30]

While I'm a big meating omnivore I always try to have a few meat/animal free options at my parties. I only have a couple friends who are vegetarian but in case they drop by I want them to be able to eat more than the chips and veggie platter. Plus, I love veg as much as meat and a truly well done vegetarian or vegan dish is very yummy. I dont get why peoplecfeel the need to push meat on them. But I do know a couple vegans that walk around with the old attitude issues and try to force their views on everyone around them. Thats not right either.

[@stonefox2546]

"I knew you'd ask, so I prepared a video for you to watch! Now you can watch this if you feel like you're forgetting and won't need to embarrass yourself publicly by asking about a thing I've expained 10 times already!"

[@Nem01]

Plus: Who the hell do they think they are to have the audacity to think they are allowed to make it THEIR business?! 🤬

[@jamsaidemelo1367]

@@Cynophileandavianenthusiast I don't think it's that deep. They are simply not understanding and not willing to try. Not neccesarely bending them to their will.

[@ameliecarre4783]

When they've always done things a certain way, been taught to value certain things, then someone comes and does things differently, it must feel threatening, I guess. Even if it doesn't affect them directly, it questions them. And frankly, most people don't like to question themselves. I WOULD ask my mother to explain why it took her several years to stop offering meat to me sarcastically at every meal, but I'm not sure she has the capacity for this sort of introspection. She would take the question as an attack and a reproach, instead of a genuine will to understand her thought process. I'm not sure she understood mine, even though I explained. But at least she stopped eventually.

[@LilCatandFriends]

My mother in law kept me alive last year when I was dying of cancer and took me to appointments. She can wear anything she wants in whatever color if there’s ever a renewal thing! But she’s a lovely lady and would never be disrespectful.

[@BecCaroline]

I hope that you are doing much better now, God bless you! xx

[@Ash_Carnelian]

That's so sweet! :) I wish you the best, and I hope you beat that cancer to a pulp! 👍

[@LilCatandFriends]

@@Ash_Carnelian Thank you so much, day 218 of remission!

[@kawaibakaneko]

@@LilCatandFriends congratulations!

[@daynadaily8073]

My sister's MIL adopted me as her own. I adore her tons..... but my MIL, yeah- i have stories for days

[@iamswell]

My mother in law always seemed envious of me. She lives in WV and we in NY. As we were all saying our goodbyes after the wedding, she says quietly to me, "Don't forget he's still MY SON." I said sweetly, "Yes, but he got to pick HIS WIFE."

[@jiminycricket6428]

OOOOoo nice! Burn!

[@neka7994]

OOOOOoohhh, I love this!!!!!

[@jengoodwyn2715]

Pure. Magic. 😂

[@thecamillarose9806]

Wow. What a possessive mom wth

[@charissemodeste6489]

High ✋🏽!!

[@michamocha]

Op changing the color of her dress and the bridal party dresses was such a classy move. No matter how Mil try to spin it, she will always look like the villain here because why was she trying to stand out in the first place? I'm glad Op took this opportunity to get under her skin while continuing to make the most out of her wedding.

[@vulpixfairy1985]

A pink wedding dress sounds pretty.

[@Marilyn2401]

Also shut out tho the MOH and her own mother for keeping everything a secret until the very last minute

[@cherylhuot4436]

My aunt gave me very good advice very early in my marriage “ Be careful what you say to your Mom when you’ve been fighting with your spouse. You will forgive him, but she never will!” Never talked about our arguments to my folks. Ever

[@Ghostgirl99x]

my mom said that as well - it's been decades and she still remembers why she's mad at him. Can't remember what she ate for breakfast... (neither can i) LOL

[@nancytyler8900]

Smart auntie.

[@baltazarmn9366]

True..

[@JamesThomas-zl9er]

Good call. My ex had a moan about me not vacuuming at the weekend- MIL jumped on that and used that info to drive a wedge between us… our compromise was to do naked housework 😂 house not so clean but relationship much better. Sadly MIL found other sticks (a few real, more imaginary) to heat me with and we parted company a few years later.

[@addie-eileenpaige6460]

It's not their business what you argue about. Unless he/she is literally abusing you, keep it to yourself.

[@SharonL92]

I seriously got so lucky with my in-laws! They are the best people and hearing stories like these make me so much more grateful!

[@TimeVamp]

That pink bridal dress and white wedding party was absolute GENUIS. And she's now got super unique wedding photos to look back on. As for the family vacation, the bf should have grown a spine and said that the family wanted it to just be them. I have absolutely left a partner's family plans once because I was told I was unwelcome (only after coming along and being invited). It hurts like hell.

[@ezura4760]

He was her husband not boyfriend. Apparently married not long either! Guess the magic wore off quick there!

[@behappy2763]

The other spouses were there. It was seemingly just her who wasn’t welcome.

[@thatchillingeffect]

The pink wedding dress and the wine-stained tantrum-on-the-floor lady... two completely different ways of handling crazy MILs and both so, so satisfying.

[@rory8182]

The real hero of the wine stain story is the guy who produced the bottle of red, man probably had seen the MIL and knew where the wine was going

[@kaylamiller5533]

My mom wore a white, low cut, mid thigh spaghetti string dress covered in sequins to my wedding. It looked like a homecoming dress for teenagers. I've told her for years (since we can't change time) that it was okay but the more I hear these stories it makes me question choices we both made. Oh, and FYI, my wedding was word of mouth on the roof of the courthouse. My only bridesmaid to show up, rushed there from work in jeans, a tank top and flipflops, my wedding was CASUAL. I had the word of mouth option because I had already put my foot down on some of the invitees, I refused to have people I'd rathered throw off the roof at my wedding. So I put all the reception money into a fancy honeymoon. We've been married 16 years.

[@darcy5761]

Great idea!

[@unimpartialobserver]

It sounds like you made the right choices. May you have another 16, and more.

[@Juilene1965]

OMG OMG OMG! The reverse UNO on the MIL and the white dress! I actually know someone who found out early on that her MIL was planning on wearing a fancy white gown to her wedding....so she did the same thing, but took it a step further. (Wish she would post it on reddit because it was a thing of beauty!) She picked a very soft aqua coloured gown for herself, had her bridesmaids in white, and told the female guests on her side (and the trusted ones on his side) that white was the preferred (though not mandatory) colour. The only women NOT in white were the bride, the MIL's sister, the FIL's wife, and the groom's sister. Every other woman there, including MIL, were in white. The groomsmen wore white tuxes as well. (Groom wore classic black) She was just drowned out in a sea of white.It was epic!

[@jacthing1]

How did the lovely lady react? I'm sure she the epitome of class and was completely serene

[@dodgyyoutuber9560]

@@jacthing1 ja tell!

[@autumn1734]

Epic!

[@vaporean_boylove.0w083]

That is fuxking genius!! XD

[@pregnantwench]

Bra. Va.

[@chrysa9]

The best friend with the wine is a keeper. She'll bail you out of jail and help you hide a body. We all need one of those.

[@kstormgeistgem461]

i'm actually kind of low key jealous of her to be honest.

[@ZebraWarriorPrincess]

My MIL ordered several dresses and had me choose which one she wore. She wore a cute summer dress that was white with blue flowers and a matching blue jacket. She looked beautiful, and my favorite feature was definitely the pockets 🤩 I have a gem of a MIL, and it's been so fun seeing her be grandma to our daughter. Not her first grand, but first girl. I'm so grateful for her!

[@RockTheDragon]

The second vacation story hurt my heart. How could the husband seriously believe that the wife is in the wrong? He's just mad that he couldn't openly complain about his wife to his family. I hope they are divorced because wow. Why marry someone you know you don't even like?

[@artsyvidsy5232]

He believes she's in the wrong because he's a gaslighter. He is not a nice person.

[@welcomebackyou]

I actually can’t believe that he would go to a FAMILY VACATION without his WIFE. Isn’t she family also?

[@franl155]

It's amazing how often "no woman is good enough for my son" and MiL wearing white to her son's wedding go together - doesn't need Dr Freud to work out what the message actually is.

[@SD-ik1xf]

The very first thing my MIL said to me when we met was ‘not to take it personally but no woman is going to be good enough for her son’. Yup, that just set the tone for my relationship with her, nothing was ever quite good enough, but I can’t say she didn’t warn me. The only consolation was she drove her son nuts as well.

[@donilexington4600]

@@SD-ik1xf that truly is a nightmare.

[@susanandrews2294]

Esp as he bride says that he did for his mom *all the things a husband would do*.....ewwwww...ok so prob didn't go that far but if mom's trying to sell herself as the bride.... makes you wonder. In this case, A LOT.

[@bcd2107]

@@SD-ik1xf People are only like that because they are a crap person and they think everyone else is just as toxic.

[@venomg5799]

Odiepus (sp) complex

[@madalice5134]

I love the thought of the bride giving the friend a gladiator style gesture to finish the mil. 🤣

[@jessicak7750]

That was the most amazing part besides the spill 😂😂😂

[@katieneely2640]

I wouldn’t have waited for permission. B had it coming & friend could always claim ignorance. If you want to wreck MY friends day, you’ve gotta get through me first. Lol

[@jessicak7750]

@@katieneely2640 we all need a friend like you in our life.

[@zivagoldman2001]

On wedding #3, the Aunt knew exactly what her sister did because she said they bullied her. If she wasn't aware, she would have been impressed with all the white dresses and the bride being in blush. She would not have realized that her sister wore white to muck up the wedding! Aunt is an AH, too!

[@TheBriarPatch]

This!

[@HollieAndApollo]

It took me a min to get that you said a**hole 😂 I thought you were saying she was an Amber heard lmao

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

Exactly because otherwise explain how anyone can legit look someone in the eyes and say "the entire bridal party matched all of us...look at the pictures everyone looks like every other perfect wedding picture just with the color scheme swapped orders....and me matching with everyone else in the bridal party and looking like a perfect picture is bullying me a member of the bridal party who matched the other mother in the bridal party" If the person hearing that doesn't laugh at the person saying that, they were in on it.

[@vaniilla4581]

@@HollieAndApollo the funny part is we can use those synonymously anyway 🤣

[@corrinadeluxe4141]

@@HollieAndApollo exactly & I love it because AH is the ultimate AH 🤣🤣🤣

[@snooganslestat2030]

The holiday husband. The guy thinks you're a burden, insults you to his family & then gaslights you when you react in a totally reasonable way. I feel so bad for this person & hope they get the strength to leave.

[@TheDarkXn]

Yeah, it's sad that they got to feel bad about how things went down when the husband and his sucky family are the ones who ought to be feeling like absolute shit. I would DEFINITELY have filled for divorce, immediately, if I was in her shoes.... But I say this based on the wisdom I gained from my last relationship... A younger me would've been just as dumb, probably

[@ahe79]

I’m not generally an advocate of giving up on what should be such a serious commitment as marriage, but that kind of thing takes two. He obviously didn’t take his vows seriously. Excluding her from FAMILY vacations just says he doesn’t see her as his family. She shouldn’t have to have asked to be included in the first place! These people who expect or condone it are all narcissists! She will never be considered his equal if she isn’t already on day one. Kids don’t deserve to be brought into that kind of disaster either. We ALL hope she breaks free and finds a real man who doesn’t just include her in his life, but makes her his life. She should be his main dish, while his family are the sides. Extended family is important, but families should respect and welcome those brought in by marriage. You don’t take one without the other, with gatherings. Both or neither. Package deal. Even if you don’t like them for a legitimate reason.

[@lisemartino1995]

I absolutely ADORE my son, so any person who is special to him is special to me too - his fiancée/wife doubly so. If I can help her have a magical wedding day, then that’s what I’ll do - out of love. I cannot understand women who would hurt the person their son loves. That is exactly how you push your child away. There is plenty of love to go around, so love the spouses as well!

[@yurioroku6983]

That woman spilling the wine on the MIL's dress... THE ULTIMATE SATISFACTION AND JAMES BOND-LIKE ACT.

[@catzie17]

Oh my gosh! The pink dress story was amazing! And yes, agreed that the gaslit wife should run for the hills! Thanks for the laughs Charlotte!

[@xchrysantha]

I know there's a general idea on reddit that their first instinct is to "get rid of the partner" when there's conflict (referencing the second story in this video), but I think a huge part of that is because a lot of us would not even consider dating someone with such a s*** personality and respect for your relationship. It's a case of, "You should've thrown them away a LONG time ago, and this is your sign to do it now."

[@pepsue10]

That story with the change to have a white-dressed bridal party and the blush wedding dress - that's straight up "Art of War" - "fight your enemies where they aren't"... ABSOLUTELY PRICELESS!!!

[@froopster3425]

I had an amazing MIL. she was so helpful with the wedding. She even said she raised her only son for a special woman like me. She wore a beautiful dress to the wedding and years later requested that when she dies she wants to be buried in it and we honoured her wish. My mom on the other hand…. Holy nightmare, my sisters and I had to constantly remind her it’s not her wedding aaannnndddd she wanted to wear white! I didn’t allow it. We’ve been married 28 years and she still brings this up every anniversary!!!

[@Salmon.milkshake]

10:48 When even the sales lady, who is there just to make money, is horrified, you know there’s a problem with buying that dress…

[@kathyowens8400]

Man i feel bad for the lady with the cruddy husband and family. I've not heard of being married to someone and not invited on the family events that is strange and if i loved someone enough to marry them and my family didn't want them around i would reconsider hanging with my family untill they stopped being snotty. This woman's husband obviously has zero respect for her. That story really hurt my heart... ❤ you Charlotte!!

[@ameliecarre4783]

This family has extremely weird dynamics. And I don't get that one goes as far as marrying without knowing each other better than that. She says they had not been married for long, but it feels like they had not been together for long either. Communicate, people !

[@SD-ik1xf]

Especially as the siblings’ spouses were there and obviously included. It was just her that was being excluded. Time to leave, in more ways than one.

[@kathleenlindquist4799]

@@SD-ik1xf Yes, the siblings’ spouses were there but she had to ASK if she could come along. It’s just so weird.

[@cassidysteffens4380]

Honestly! I have an aunt who’s a meth addict and always causes a bunch of drama and trauma with the family when she relapses and even sometimes when she’s sober, but as long as she’s sober she’s still always included in any of our family gatherings and we never treat her differently even tho all of us wish her and my uncle would finally just split up because their relationship has always been toxic.

[@kadynisapanda]

I had a really cute call from my very concerned younger brother the morning of our cousin's wedding in May. For one, he didn't realize I was a bridesmaid and got super excited that both of his sisters were in the bridal party. He was also double checking where he should park and when to arrive. The sweetest part though was he was concerned about wearing a white button down shirt to a wedding and couldn't find another shirt he felt was nice enough. My cousin and I reassured him that all of the groomsmen would be in white shirts and it would in no way be inappropriate, and not to worry about finding a tie unless he felt like wearing one. Love that boy and the effort he'll put in to make sure others are happy.

[@JasminMiettunen]

Oh my God he was worried about wearing a white button up, it’s killing me how dumb and sweet that is 😭

[@kadynisapanda]

@@JasminMiettunen A very considerate dunce 😂

[@ayomidedareabel5525]

Is he married? Asking for a friend😭😭

[@redstateforever]

That second story is crazy to me, once I was married, as with anyone in my family who is married, an invitation to an event ALWAYS includes both. I can’t imagine going to a family event alone because the hubby wasn’t welcome. Who are these people? When you’re married, you’re a unit, a package deal. The only things I went to alone was when he couldn’t come for some reason. Like because he was in Iraq. Other than that, we both go to all the stuff, whichever side is involved. That is bizarre.

[@jot4958]

I love the idea of a blush pink wedding dress and white bridesmaid dresses. Not only did bride outwit MIL-zilla with a brilliant idea, she/they looked fantastic doing it.

[@FirstnameLastnames]

It’s a testament to how smart, clever, and kind she truly is to find a solution that doesn’t take anything away from the MIL (who is obviously lonely and emotionally unwell and needs her son WAY too much) or the son, at the same time as finding a way to be happy and beautiful herself on her wedding day 💗 That MIL really ought to appreciate that kind hearted woman more for sidestepping her b.s. in the classiest, kindest, most gorgeous way possible!

[@afa13829]

This is why I wanna get married on Halloween. Costumes of course optional. But, if someone tried to wear a white dress to my wedding I can just say they went as a bitter ex. Lol 😂

[@HealthyObbsession]

Problem with having weddings on holidays if it doesn't oeswork out now the holiday will always make you think of your failed relationship Also the prices go up on holidays even Halloween

[@afa13829]

@@HealthyObbsession I've had failed relationships before. They suck yes. But, if I'm allowed to walk around looking like a giant bedazzled cupcake, imma do it. I told my boyfriend last night. Idk if I wanna get married or just have a giant party where I can wear a wedding dress lol.

[@annejia5382]

👀🍵

[@afa13829]

@@HealthyObbsession Also, I figured if I did have a wedding, I'd have big candy dishes full of candy as a center piece vs flowers. Most of my family has kids as well as myself. So, kids would be allowed. In my head it'll be a lot of fun. Whether or not it happens who knows?

[@madisonshirley8231]

At least get married on the 30th so people don’t have to spend their Halloween going to your wedding lol.

[@maggiematthews3517]

"Red wine friend" is a complete genius! That was very well done indeed, especially the shocked gasp of horror when she "realised" what she had done! Pure gold, my girl. Pure gold!

[@sngray11]

Kudos to the bridesmaid that “accidentally” spilled red wine on the white dress! 🙌 And the way the last bride decided to wear a blush wedding gown and have her mom and the bridesmaids where white dresses was poetic justice. 💗

[@naomielsanders]

You know it’s a good day when Charlotte uploads, especially when it’s wedding themed 😂🙌🏻

[@CharlotteDobre]

But I upload every day 😝

[@07chrismas]

@@CharlotteDobre yes you do Potato Queen!.. 💛

[@naomielsanders]

@@CharlotteDobre but my point still stands 😋

[@tephrafalls6321]

@@CharlotteDobre This might be on odd question since you do so many wedding/bridezilla vidz... but have you ever seen Monster In Law with J-Lo? I absolutely love it!

[@JustMe-ub9yo]

These comments are so over played and annoying

[@MissCaraMint]

I love how the pink bride’s husband was totally on her side in this. He knows his mother is unreasonable and that he should stick up for his wife. Good.

[@Lady_Ginnie]

The husband in the vacation story made me gasp so hard my dog came in to check on me, lol. Legit, I cannot imagine saying something like that behind my SO's back.

[@darcy5761]

I would have cleaned the bank accounts out,taken what I wanted from the house and had the divorce papers on the kitchen table for him to find when he got back

[@christinaburney5935]

I would have walked out there and "tripped" dropping the salad on hubs lap and walked out. Then had divorce papers delivered to him.

[@lisahuber9329]

The only thing I'd feel sorry about is not having enough fruit salad for the whole lot of them.

[@lotstodo]

Unfortunately, she'll probably put up with a lot more before filing for divorce.

[@readerunite]

Excellent.

[@adelucas4824]

I'd have gone home, got all my stuff together and moved out. I wouldn't even have sent the "got home safe" message. The only time he'd know I was still alive was when he got the divorce papers.

[@esmewvimes2901]

Listening to the story of that poor woman who heard the family, even her husband complain she's there is heart breaking. It makes me think of my scary movie list, I try to watch a new or old movies I haven't yet seen before. Movies like: You're Next Ready set Go! Crimson Peak Gaslight (Brilliant B&W movie that may have inspired Crimson Peak)

[@trinitybernhardt9944]

What kind of man makes his wife ask to go on a family vacation? Especially since clearly other spouses were there. That story was so disgusting, and I hope she runs fast! Once you are married the expectation is you are a pair, unless specifically planned otherwise. There was not one redeeming, or justifiable thing, on his side. I loved the way the monsters in-laws got their comeuppance in the dress stories. How can these women not understand by now that it just makes them look desperate and disgusting to behave like this?

[@allysonchen4286]

I would be filing for divorce immediately. If this what you say about me behind my back then this means you don't respect me so BYE!

[@Countryperson666]

I'm a bit conflicted on that story, I guess I've seen the other side of the equation growing up... in that case my mother was usually the one who made everyone incredibly uncomfortable not that dad ever stopped her coming for trips to his family's farm but she really didn't like anyone and made that very clear through her actions. Because she made everyone uncomfortable and angry and family members stood up to her she decided that entire branch of the family was no longer our family and we lost many opportunities growing up unable to see dads family. I'm making the effort now as an adult to build relationships with them but I still get upset at the lost opportunities growing up. I'm usually in agreement on who the asshole is but in this case I think I want to hear tur husbands version of events.

[@birdgirl2623]

If OP is so awful that she can't be around the entire rest of the family, then it's not much of a marriage is it? If it was just son and siblings going on a special trip with their parents, that would be more understandable. But other significant others were included. Either way, can't see why he even married her.

[@birdgirl2623]

I hope you can reconnect with your family. But they did not snub her, it was the other way around. Some people are just toxic, and they have no qualms about hurting everyone around them with their poison. Who knows? Maybe the story is fake. However my husband (now ex) would frequently go out to dinner with his parents, and his siblings, and the sibling's spouses Just not me, and I would find out after the fact. My ex would also accept invitations to parties and dinners at friends' houses and go by himself. I would find out because I would run into friend later who would say they missed me at the event, and hoped I was feeling better? WTF?? Tried marriage counseling. Didn't work when the counselor suggested that HE may need to change a few things.

[@TheSameYellowToy]

I guess those monster-in-laws got so consumed in their pettiness, possessiveness of their sons, and hatred for their DILs, that they lost any self-awareness about how pathetic being catty at a wedding (ex. wearing white) would make them look to all the other guests.

[@PaintedDog]

When I was in 6th grade, I was, at what I thought was, my friend's place. It was a small party of her close friends. I have always been shy and unsure of myself. I always felt almost unwelcome when they invited me to anything, but would ignore it cuz "why would they invite me if they didn't want me there?". Should've listened to my intuition. I went to the washroom and on my way back, I overheard them talking about me. Saying I'm pathetic, ugly, no one liked me, etc, and laughing. One of the guys there asked why I was there if they didn't like me. They said it was because of how clueless I was and that they can get me to help them with homework or yard work (I like helping people I care about). The guy called them all nasty bitches and told them that he is gonna tell me everything. I was about to just make up an excuse and leave, but I felt a bit better cuz a few of the people there defended me and called them rotten bitches. So I walked around the corner (doing everything to hold the tears back) and told them not to bother, I heard everything. I told the ones that were talking shit to fuck off and left. I didn't go to people's houses or anything I was invited to again until my Senior year in HS. Even now, I still worry about people secretly hating me or making fun of me. I've never had many friends after that. I still get taken advantage of by people I thought were my friends. I can't help but think it's something about me, but I dont know what. Be kind to people, if you don't like someone, don't pretend to like them. Something you think is no big deal or funny can seriously harm someone else. Also to people pleasers: you can't please everyone. If someone you care about and will go out of your way for, but they won't do the same for you, cut them from your life.

[@mitzicoleman7187]

I had a women at work that suddenly decided she didn’t like me and would watch me walk by and then say to the person beside her, “Isn’t she so weird, I think she is so weird” what she didn’t know was I had worked there way longer than she had and all the people she was saying this to were my friends and they were coming and telling me what she said. Still hurt

[@jourdanconaway718]

Idk how old you are now but I'm so sorry you went through that and honestly I feel like most people get smaller more meaningful groups of friends as they get older. I also like a silly quote I heard today "most people don't even like themselves, so why should you care if they like you". Probably true for those shitty girls! Find happiness in yourself and that will attract the right group of friends that genuinely want to be around you and appreciate your friendship!

[@Pippa87]

My favourite MIL wearing white story is the one where the bride was so confused as to why it was a problem then the MIL would wear white because whilst the grooms side were Caucasian, she and her family were Indian and they were having a traditional Indian wedding. MIL did not bother to consider that it might be different and was furious to discover that she did NOT upstage the bride in white, because in an Indian wedding brides in fact wear red. She also couldn’t say WHY she was mad because then she’d look like an idiot 😂😂😂

[@LiseWrigley]

Beautiful!

[@lady.T00K]

My mother in law wore white to my wedding. When she asked me how she looked, I told her the dress was pretty, but it was a little odd that she chose white; I asked her if she knew that it was typically not wedding etiquette to wear white to a wedding. She responds with this “Well baby doll, I’m sorry you feel that way. You’ve been divorced before, so technically you’re not supposed to be wearing white either. I would’ve chose red for you, personally. Suits you better.” I simply smiled, thanked her for coming, and prayed that she would get all the karma that was coming to her. Witch.

[@dianaselnekovicova948]

Ii is terrible how many stories about terrible mothers in law wearing white on wedding exists😤like I can not imagine their mentality it is so childish. Like in when se was buying did se said it is for her son wedding or her wedding 😂

[@entirelybonkers8832]

Why would anyone want to wear a white dress to their child’s wedding like? Why do you want to look like you’re marrying your child

[@PhoenixValkyrie]

Sounds like she should've worn red too. There's easy ways to make that happen.

[@tinamara1408]

I hope she got her karma

[@thatonewitch]

Ngl, when I hear of mil wearing white to their son's wedding, my first thought that I'd probably say is "Are you admitting you see your son as more than a child? You know what incest is, right?" *Watch as everyone starts giving her weird looks and avoids her*

[@layceeferguson1991]

Wow, that second story. The fact that op's in-laws and husband talking badly about her behind her back is awful and then he tried to twist it and say it was her fault that she decided to leave after that makes it worse. I really hope she filed for divorce, she doesn't deserve to be disrespected like that.

[@sarahberkner]

I hate these comments encouraging a stranger to get a divorce. It's really sad the family doesn't like her but personally I think the husband was saying that for his mom's sake and maybe doesn't know how to handle her, or maybe he was kidding. Not right but people make mistakes. But anyway couples are going to have disagreements and I don't think flying home without talking to him about it upfront helped.

[@dlo111]

And OP said that the her husband's brothers spouses were there! 🤯

[@lookielookie1393]

@@sarahberkner giving hope to a stranger's relationship is just as irresponsible though. You don't know them, not every relationship is great or good natured. You could tie her down to a toxic family environment for all you know. If you want to be "just" literally just don't butt in any stranger's business.

[@Zoey.the.therian198]

All of these stories were freaking outstanding!! Especially the first one. You go girl, I would absolutely do that for my friend with the wine. As for Story number two, who in their right mind doesn't just bring your wife naturally to your FAMILY weekend get away. I hope she got away from that guy and his horrible family.

[@lauriedenton139]

I actually have chills over the last story of the blush wedding dress. THAT is the cake, the icing, and the Ganache! One of those rare life moments of having the cake and eating it too.

[@sugarstaraquaria914]

Family vacation one made me angry. I mean they all really singled her out. The other spouses were there. Calling her juvenile was super hypocritical.

[@rockyclouds2]

If I'm ever in a situation like story 2 my immediate reaction to that was 'PUSHY AMI I HUN? DIVORCE PAPERS WHEN WE GET HOME B*TCH. IM TAKING MY THINGS GOODBYE YOU HORRIBLE HUSBAND.'

[@kp5496]

😂😂 the bride who switched her wedding colors is a master of war. Her MIL needs to stop messing with her or it will get worse

[@karencotlar2023]

The way that bride handled that situation was a master class in outsmarting difficult people!

[@michelec5224]

Mother in law is a huge part of the reason that we married at the county office with my family (supportive and loving) only. Just one quick example, when my husband and I started dating his mother (who I had known most of my life) smiled and said to me "I didn't know black girls could have hair" 🤷🏾‍♀️ TF? For some clarification, my husband is mixed (mother white, father black) she has like 9 kids that are all mixed. Yet she says disgusting things like "I like everything black my men my kids and even my front door" which she painted black. At the same turn she tells her daughters they are white like her and she tells her sons not to deal with black women, because "they" always hated her for having black men. I have assured her that no black woman had ever cared. Didn't matter she proceed to disown her son that married me after he wouldn't take her advice which was to only use me until he could find a good (YOU GUESSED IT) white woman. 🤦🏾‍♀️ So I fell sad that his siblings have sided with the mother but I love that my family has embraced my husband. So he's not running short on any love ❤️💜

[@lisao7600]

Oh my gosh, she is so disgusting. I'm glad your husband doesn't let her influence his life. Gosh those kind of people are so gross to me. The fact that she has mixed children and tells the girls they are white? I wonder why her husband doesn't intervene when she says those kinds of things to their children?

[@minisn3066]

Wow that is the weirdest shit I’ve read this week. What a lunatic.

[@ahe79]

That woman has major psychological issues. Which usually would garner pity, except she is mean-spirited to boot. She sounds miserable. Fortunately your husband was not tainted by her poor example growing up. He chose YOU, in spite of her influence. It’s sad and can’t be easy, but I’m glad he has you in his life.

[@kissit012]

It’s pretty common for mixed kids with white moms to deal with excessive racism, especially when the dad is black. Many of my mixed friends were constantly having complexes because of their parents (yes dad too because he allows it and often contributes to hatred towards black women) blatant racial ignorance. They really want to be us (but not really).

[@lauraelliott6909]

Wow, that is messed up! I feel so bad for your husband and his siblings.

[@sa9110]

My bridal shower was set up by my MIL, she invited a whole host of people I didn't know all to show off the house that she bought and had graciously "allowed" (forced) her baby boy and myself to rent after our wedding. I helped set up the entire thing, everything was done to her standards because I had long since surrendered planning to her and her daughter in law who had railroaded me out of being an active participant in my own wedding. The day of, I had picked out a sweet little white cotton dress, pearls and heels. She told me that I would get dirty setting up, and no one would be dressed up anyway, so I should just change into jeans and a t-shirt. Fast forward an hour, I was sweaty, stinky, my hair was a mess, makeup melting and guests started to arrive... and every damned one of them was dressed for Easter Sunday. Dresses, hair, makeup, most of them in heels and their nice jewelry, meanwhile I was the only person in jeans. My bridesmaids showed up looking adorable in their little summer dresses, even my mother in law had snuck out to change into her Sunday best. My girls snatched me away to get changed into my dress and heels and were all pretty pissed that MIL had suggested I wear jeans and a t-shirt to my own bridal shower. That was only a precursor to just how miserable the wedding would be.

[@LiseWrigley]

Geez. I am sending you a big hug. What a monstrous MIL!

[@sa9110]

@@LiseWrigley she's my ex mil now, so there is some comfort. Lol.

[@bettinawallace724]

Loved the idea with the pink wedding dress. Not only was it the perfect solution to put a crazy MIL in her place but I can only guess how stunning the photos must be with the bride as a pop of color amidst all the white dresses.

[@catherines8020]

I had a "friend" wear a white formal jumpsuit to my wedding, which was incredibly awful because my dress was antique white which looked dirty next to classic white. She also messed up the reception by "helping" she filled the punch cups by dipping them into the punch so they were covered in punch, and served my MIL an enormous piece of wedding cake. She seemed to only be there to ruin the wedding.

[@michellemartinov6267]

My ever so beautiful daughter who got married last year nearly had a blush colored dress that really is a lovely color - we found the perfect dress that ended up being white with lots of lace - and didn’t require 1 alteration at all! And although I’m her mom and let’s face it, all moms are supposed to think this - truly Natasha was one of the most beautiful brides ever!

[@novice5895]

The wife who went home from the vacation was completely justified! I would’ve done the same. I wish I was as bold as you, Charlotte, but I’m not, I don’t do confrontation. That being said, I def would’ve contacted a divorce attorney as soon as I got home. That husband is an a-hole, not her!

[@summerhall5163]

Having her future MIL go dress shopping with her was for the best. MIL was definitely going to show up in a wedding dress either way, and atleast she got a heads-up.

[@Delicate_Disaster]

I don't even have words for how much I love the fact that she did a pink and white wedding instead of a white and pink. That was an absolutely brilliant move!

[@MMAACC2014]

I have a decent sized family on my dad's side: 10 adults and 16 kids. And as each of us kids get married, we looked forward to the next big family trip when the new addition to our family can come along. It's so fun lining up the pics from all our trips and seeing our family get bigger and bigger

[@darcy5761]

That's because you have a decent family. I wonder if the family didn't want her along because they were all into something a normal person would be disgusted about.

[@LiseWrigley]

Then you have a wholesome family.❤ Congrats. That is how it should be done.

[@MMAACC2014]

@@LiseWrigley I do, and thank you!🥰I'm blessed to have them in my life

[@TheOriginalHippieChick]

I never got the whole “Big Wedding” thing, but to each their own, it’s hubby and wifey day. I got married in the park, I wore white, my daughter looked gorgeous in a beautiful black dress, my hubby wore a white renaissance shirt and his dazzling green eyes. The officiant made the 4th and final person at our wedding. Went home and had the best Halloween partay ever 🎃

[@cpolt1192]

Sounds awesome!

[@ladysusu2103]

My hubby and I eloped and got married on a mountain in Santa Fe, the ministers wife was there as our witness. It was a stunning fall day under a canopy of golden aspens. We just celebrated 33years💕

[@notchamama7571]

Sounds like the best wedding ever! Congratulations!💜

[@whatsanenigma]

Dogs wouldn't talk shit about us. They'd all try to one up each other about who has the better owner. Cats OTOH...cats would talk shit. ♥️😺🐕♥️

[@darcy5761]

Wouldn't you love to sit in on the cats session though? The dogs sound boring

[@whatsanenigma]

@@darcy5761 Excellent point there! Would certainly be ... enlightening?

[@Sarah-oj7bh]

Honestly if I ever went to a wedding where the mother of the groom wore white, I would walk up to her, strike up a friendly conversation and then casually ask her "Oh, that's a beautiful white dress you're wearing, what's the meaning? Do you want to marry your son?"

[@patriciat4493]

the MIL that wore white, that wanted the wedding to be 'her special day' has some serious bats in her belfry. The new wife is in for some serious head games and drama, but she seems up to the task. I'd luv an update in say, a year.

[@AuntLoopy123]

I'd bust out laughing, and say, "Hey, Jocasta! He's not here to marry YOU! EWWWW! Don't you know that incest is illegal?!" Loudly. Get everyone else to laugh at HER. Yes, I know it's rude. Don't care.

[@Margatatials]

Cause she sure isn't saying she is a virgin

[@mili1309]

@@AuntLoopy123 I'd join you on that 😂

[@envy6877]

My mother in law actually wore white to MY wedding. I was 20 years old and didn’t know why other people were so upset FOR ME. She was a monster too. And so was her son. I got divorced in 2011 and it’s the best thing I ever did. Now I know better.

[@SusanBaileyAmazingEstate]

If my husband’s family had planned a “family vacation,” I would have assume I was invited. So would’ve my MIL, RIP. Hearing these stories, I don’t think I appreciated her sufficiently when she was alive. She was a good woman and raised a really amazing son. Our anniversary is next month. It will be 39 years. Thank you, Fran, for my wonderful husband.

[@OnceUponATomorrow6948]

The last one - serious Emotional Incest. Parents should never rely on their children to play a role that a spouse is meant to. It is incredibly abusive. Kudos to that groom for standing up for his bride and her appropriate boundaries

[@neilprice513]

OP should have just walked up to them, then put the salad on the table between them and said "Fine, if you don't want me here, I will leave" and then gotten a ticket and left to go home. OP doesn't need them at all and it looks like her husband just wants someone to bang who also does the housework. He doesn't seem to want to have a committed relationship with a Spouse.

[@davidguidry657]

Aptly (if somewhat bluntly) stated! Facts

[@msmiseree1981]

Hopefully she realizes she is worth more and deserves better. IF I ever decided to get married (and that is highly unlikely) I wouldn't expect my in-laws to like me right away, but they will respect me and if my husband did not have my back in that situation, he would be seeing my back as I walked out and filed for divorce. The fact he is putting all the blame on her and not taking any responsibility for his own actions/words is telling.

[@peajay3557]

Agreed.

[@brodudechick9524]

In best of reddit update, she left him and lives a wonderful life without him.

[@DayoA1]

They would have still found a way to turn the tables on her just like when her husband did, accusing her for "ears dropping". What a nasty family!

[@dertom1895]

3:54 "Nod of approval" 😍

[@abigailbeardshaw4196]

If I was the woman with the awful husband I would have gone out, pretending I didn’t hear and say, “Thank you husband for inviting me.” Then turn to the rest of the family and say “I wasn’t sure I could make it but husband insisted. You know how persuasive he can be.” Act all calm, maybe make an excuse why you have to leave and then get a lawyer to sort divorce papers.

[@Racingirl911]

My mom said I didn’t “deserve” to wear a white wedding dress! So, I got married to my high school sweetheart 49 years ago. I was 17 years old. My parents were not happy to say the least. They had my life all planned out, and THAT wasn’t in their plan. So anyway, because I was pregnant when I got married, my mom MADE me wear a PINK VELVET wedding dress because she said I didn’t “deserve” a white dress. I’m hoping to renew our vows next year on our 50th, and I’m going to wear a long beautiful WHITE dress with a long train!! I plan on inviting my mom and everybody else who said “They’ll never make it!” 😂😂 AITA?? 😊

[@abc.animal5143]

No, you are the hero of this story

[@1987MartinT]

Not the asshole. If you need someone to show up and flip your mom and all the other naysayers off, then just tell me.

[@parthsavyasachi9348]

Not at all.

[@lonelyronin2428]

You really said "WITNESS MY POWER" just by living your best life. And now you're doing it again. THE POWER OF... a good, kind life.

[@S3cr3t_Qw1rtz]

Girl, I hope you got the most beautiful dress ever known to man. You're not the asshole, they are.

[@alysedraws5478]

I have never been to a wedding until June. In June I went to a wedding and almost wore a white sun dress with flowers on it, but opted not to cause I thought it was to formal for a “casual” wedding. I definitely didn’t dress as nice as a should’ve but I’m glad I didn’t accidentally wear the dress to a wedding of a couple I didn’t know to well! There was at least 150-200 ppl there! I had no idea wearing white to a wedding was forbidden; glad I know now!

[@BusArch42]

The flowers on it mean it’s not truly white.

[@Mystearicia]

I would've walked right into that husband and his mom talking and dropped the salad right in front of them and went "oops, sorry not sorry" and told the guy to expect divorce papers when he comes back, coz we ain't here for the damn gaslighting bs

[@diamondstuddedpunchingbag4718]

Man...now I want to see a wedding with a bride in a different color and the party in white...so special!!

[@Carpathianpixie]

That's exactly what I've been wanting to do!

[@myconfusedmerriment]

Yeah tbh I know it wasn’t her original plan but I’m sure she and the party looked stunning and unique!

[@Fragmented_Mask]

If I get married (nowhere even close XD) I am considering going for a dress that's more like a teal colour, and then having the bridal party in white. I just don't feel like I want something conventional in a dress. I am not someone who wears white very often at all and I know that this would make a wedding dress 'special' but it also makes it feel less 'me'. So I think inverting the tradition would look impactful.

[@srkh8966]

@@Carpathianpixie Some actress last year got married in a gorgeous blue dress and had all her bridesmaids (all were married) wear their white wedding dresses 😁

[@Coops1985]

@@Fragmented_Mask that sounds gorgeous, teal is one of my favorite colors.

[@MrDoenyon]

That friend in the first story who took a red win cup to that evil MIL, has earned the right to be called a Bro. This is the very definition of a Bro for life. Respect.

[@surewhynot6341]

The best friend in the first story is a freaking super hero 🙌. Cherish this kind of friendship ❤

[@Brianld50]

On the second story, if my spouse said something like that about me, I would divorce them on the spot. If we are married than I am part of your family 100%. No questions.

[@darcybrummett7004]

11:00 No, MIL, it’s the groom’s and bride’s special day, not yours. Are you getting married today? No. A simple white dress is one thing but she deliberately picked out a wedding dress. I think to call what she (the MIL) a faux pas would be a huge understatement.

[@HauntingPepper]

Charlotte, I have been recovering both physically and emotionally from an ectopic pregnancy for the past few days. I've been binging your videos. They have helped me so so much. Thank you for helping me through this time.

[@BusArch42]

That’s a tough one. I have had two. Just be aware once you had the first you have a high chance of another ectopic. I am glad you are okay. Very dangerous. I had three children using IVF

[@abigailhamiltonactor]

Me too1 "Cept that in my case it was a broken hip; budged surgery; then a re-do, 6 months later. Charlotte could make a stone statue smile!! LOL

[@rianlynn3854]

this first story was amazingly written. I am so invested. She could write a book and Id read it. I love the bond with these tw2o girls. Dont worry I got you, the conspiracy. Bestie! I love how they went for a spa day too. Honestly this should be the reaction to anyone showing up in white to a wedding unless told to do so. You get wine'd. Those are the rules now.

[@kstormgeistgem461]

it sounded like a buddy movie didn't it. if it was, i'd watch it!

[@Makanalani888]

You are true therapy to my mother in law trauma! Thank you for always brightening up my day!

[@Nikkimommyof4]

That first story was awesome. This is why bride's maids were originally created to protect the bride. This MOH went above and beyond. I didn't have any issue with my MIL or my own mother but still she was fantastic. More brides should have friends like this on their big day. It would help to keep things in order. In the second story, I'm with Charlotte I would have brought out the salad I'd made and looked everyone in the eye. Then I would announce. "I'm going to leave now. I heard what you said and I don't want to inconvenience you any more so I'll take the next flight I can arrange and be out of your hair." However, when my husband returned home he and I would have a very long talk about how he disrespects me behind my back and how uncertain I am about our future together since he clearly doesn't respect me.

[@BusArch42]

Same except I would skip the talk with POS husband. The fact he trashes her to his family means she will never be included. Pack your stuff and leave.