Mother-In-Law's Advice for Making Love 😳 ft. Lisa Bevere

[@Teekay_Twala]

You could be Lisa’s biological daughter, such beauties. Thank you for the wisdom.

[@PHAbudu]

Twins

[@vaneenusa1776]

Yes, that was my first thought. They look so much alike.

[@josebotelho427]

The fact that she could talk with her mother-in-law openly about "how to enjoy sex" with her son, that's Sky level of emotional intimacy most families seek

[@InceleHubby]

It is bittersweet to hear this discussion. As a husband who has had no physical intimacy for over 24 years, I so wish more women would understand how essential & validating it is for a man to have intimate interaction with his wife. it prepares him for going out into the nasty world. When the wife neglects her husband, in many ways it is worse than being cheated on as there is no biblical release to the marriage. We are stuck in a dead-end life. Affection is critical.

[@matthewlopez8521]

The Bible is on your side. The Word is very clear how both the wife and husband to not have the right to deny conjugal rights to one another. I would pray and fast for your bride that God would revela Himself as well as be as Christ like as possible to her! Praying for you brother!😊

[@tx4897]

You need to pursue church discipline. She is clearly in sin and this needs to be repented of before she stands before the Lord in judgment. 1 cor 7:3.

[@RE-yj9ts]

What about for men who are single? what do you believe prepares them for going out into the world?

[@Lodestarter]

Begin to declare the blessings of Deuteronomy 28 over your wife everyday. The blessing invites God to transform your wife and your marriage.

[@Fe.Y.Finanzas]

Hello brother was you who called the dave ramsey show recently?

[@su....]

as a 70 year old woman who married her highschool sweetheart almost 50 years ago, for myself and my husband in this season of our lives, all we want is to feel love. outside of our relationships with the lord of love, that translates for us into long sweet embraces and gentle kisses throughout the day. and lots and lots of talking and sharing!

[@WhistleLad]

Good insights from a good Christian perspective. Thank you

[@ChristianBevereAuthor]

Thank you for tuning in!!

[@SisterOliviaBrianna]

Love this! I’m engaged getting married sep 28 to a guy I met in my church! I realized it’s finally time to actually get some advice! Thank you for being so vulnerable!

[@ChristianBevereAuthor]

@@SisterOliviaBrianna congratulations! Hope this was helpful😊😊

[@307RanchLife]

Excellent insight and wisdom on an incredibly sensitive topic.

[@gsxrfem5180]

Hello, I have been standing faithfuly for 6.4 years for marriage restoration. One of the most cherished memories I have is when my husband said to me " I have never been this comfortable with anyone in my life."

[@ajesuslover]

All of what you said about porn is absolutely true. And encouragement I would offer to wives from a husband’s point of view. As wives, you are the only Holy outlet for your husband’s desire for swx. You play a huge role in him maintaining his holiness. Offering yourself and making yourself available to him on a regular basis is so crucial to both of your spiritual health. My heart breaks for those dealing with porn addiction and marriages trying to overcome that. Men are not the only ones struggling with porn addiction. As a Pastor who has counseled couples, there has been an uptick in the ladies dealing with this issue as well. Either way it is happening, get help. Seek put your pastor, your deacons, your elders, a biblical counselor. Don’t quit, your marriage is worth fighting for.

[@NetsanetHaile]

What if its the husband who almost never initiates sex...what should the wife do???

[@ajesuslover]

@@NetsanetHaile ask him why, get him to communicate. Could be he has a porn issue. Or it could be you’ve some how inadvertently made him too insecure to initiate out of fear of getting rejected. Even when it’s Not on purpose, when a husband is turned down enough times by his wife, that rejection stings. He’ll wall up And won’t even attempt to initiate to avoid that awful feeling. Counseling with a biblical counselor or your pastor is a good place to start if talking between doesn’t resolve it.

[@NetsanetHaile]

@@ajesuslover we have been married for 3 years not even once have i rejected him but he has rejected me a couple of times.Since the day we got married he has lost all interest and doesn't want to be intimate if i don't initiate it.He is a very good man but i guess he doesn't love me,i have tried gently bringing it up.He admits and wonders whats wrong and for a few days things seem to improve but we r back to square one again.Now even if he sometimes initiates i have this deep feeling of detest to my self because i feel he is forcing himself and that its all not real desire for me thats making him sleep with me

[@flusterbunny_scribbles]

But what if your husband is more interested in porn than you. Is it still my fault? What if I’m trying and get turned down half the time? Still my fault???

[@flusterbunny_scribbles]

What if your husband wants you to always initiate? He takes the feminine role and doesn’t take charge. He makes every excuse why he can’t do it now but will also drop hints that I’m never available or never initiate. (A lie) he has no drive to maintain our marriage. You put so much pressure on the wife to carry the whole load when in fact it is the man’s role to lead. Pathetic

[@ari3lz3pp]

I was introduced too young. I was abused by 10. I had BF that I messed with by 12 and when I was 14 I went all the way with a much older BF but I "couldn't wait". In Little Women the youngest character says she fears dying without a romantic kiss. As a child this resonated with how I felt. i was looking for connection in romance more desperately and impatiently because I was not getting healthy displays of appropriate love in my family. (My mom really promoted "feminism" of worshipping our own bodies and being "free" while also not talking about sex. She was also divorced because she pushed my dad away and threatened his livelihood with malicious lies. I had a girlfriend first and that was strange but enjoyable on a basic level. Looking back I see how it was unhealthy and more bad than good. Then my first boyfriend was a cheater while telling me we are soulmates and he proposed to me and kept cheating. Intorduced me to p*rn. I was addicted almost immediately. He kept cheating, even suggesting polygamy. I almost accepted but thankfully was too young to leave with him (16 and he was 21 at that time). I was pansexual for a long time and in all kinds of unhealthy relationships. The "sex is love" lie was huge for me. You display romantic love with the RIGHT person (spouse) at the right time...through sex. You can have healthy love without sex (in fact it SHOULD be that way first), but you cannot have healthy sex without love. My first husband was very abusive. He had BPD, so when he wasn't in paranoid-mode he was very sweet and romantic. I will always love him but we were intimate before we should've been. We were exploring things we had no business with and enabled one another to do worse. Before we knew it we went from feeling SO in love and connected to just barely wanting to be intimate. We had to be intoxicated to feel comfortable with one another. He already hated that I had slept with people before him and I did regret those relationships but I couldn't undo it obviously. I was upset from the abuse that was never handled because I was giving him those primal needs vs it being a display of trust and creation. From exciting to awkward and a place that actually was pretty healthy to toxic. But we started before we knew one another well. We were in our early 20s but we were both so immature still. He didn't feel secure and over time I stopped feeling secure. My second husband and I stated from a similar place of bad patterns. I also felt violated by him with p*rn. Even though I watched it also I was offended he didn't try harder to hide it, then justified it and joked about it. THEN when he IGNORED me in lingerie for video games. His addiction to video games was WORSE TBH. I didn't know he was hiding his alcoholism before that so when we had no more money for him to be drunk all the time (as he had been long before we started dating)...he moved to video games. It took YEARS to fix it. We stayed together for our kids and I almost left for my first husband who had come back. I was transparent about it too. That's around the time he accepted salvation and so did I. Since my first husband had abandoned me the divorce counted, and now that my husband and I were equally yoked literally that week...I learned that it was right to stay and hope for better in the second marriage. (Before that I legitimately thought since divorce isn't allowed in the CATHOLIC church traditionally, that I was still technically to return to my first). My second husband and I agreed to serve one another and immediately things started to get better. It took work and communication, prayer etc but year by year was improved...it's been many years since then and we are very happy with one another most times, blessed and grateful everyday. We both are still learning to be more comfortable with one another with intimacy but we have it and it's a struggle because of what we went through before marriage more than anything. EVEN though we are married 12 years. We both say we wish we hadn't had relations before marriage, it just wasn't worth it and was more damaging than anything. Praise God for the opportunities for repentance and joy in love and marriage. I look forward to the future.

[@MichelleM-pv5to]

Beautiful story of redemption. God bless and protect your family.

[@alexanderbemar2637]

Thank you for this message. I learned that some want to divorce because they are tired of doing the same thing over and over again.

[@Sambi4349]

Omg this was so insightful. Please do a part two with dad!!

[@ireayobridget]

I absolutely love this openness ! It’s a NEED ! Bravo ❤🎉Lisa Bevere 👏🏽🤗

[@ChristianBevereAuthor]

@@ireayobridget many people never heard this conversation from a parental or pastoral heart, I'm so glad she can speak life into this topic!!

[@ristdownau6627]

One thing I have seen/heard with marriage counseling... sometimes it becomes 2 on 1 feeling for guys or, when the councilor confronts the problems of the wife, the wife will say they don't like the councilor and want to go to another one. Just be careful who you choose to council, even if they are professional certified and be careful to not make it a "see I told you so" shame session.

[@bigbirdhasANut]

Important conversations. So good. Kids look to the world to learn cause we don’t have enough conversations in the church! Well done!

[@wmenofdestiny]

This is a powerful powerful message and to the point. Thank you for this.

[@thewatcher4552]

I absolutely ❤ it. This is what we men, and women need. Sound biblical truth! Thank-you ladies

[@ChristianBevereAuthor]

@@thewatcher4552 thank you for the encouragement!!

[@Chris-cd7ig]

YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE SEX AT ALL OUTSIDE MARRIAGE - that's the advice from a Christian.

[@ahmedrachael4611]

Exactly🙏🏾 I don’t feel this was emphasized enough

[@bmellis1984]

I prefer the saying "Things are much sweeter when they happen in the proper order".

[@leslie117777777]

Such good advice! Thank yall for your transparency. Praise the Lord for His truth being revealed ❤️

[@thepracticalchristianhealed]

Great educational topic for Christians. A MUST in these days 🙌

[@ChristianBevereAuthor]

@@thepracticalchristianhealed agreed!

[@catherinemockler]

Fantastic interview🥰🥰😁

[@ChristianBevereAuthor]

Thank you for watching!!

[@Seraphim7]

Thank you for this Vulnerable Transparent Conversation. Glory to God. I’m Super Blessed by it. And, Love when we Expose the devil schemes.

[@ChristianBevereAuthor]

@@Seraphim7 yes and amen!!

[@michaelkobiljak4386]

Dang I’m a dude and am blown away by her wisdom and the way she effectively communicates to a younger generation. Married 14 yrs 4 kids! Thanks for doing this

[@ChristianBevereAuthor]

@@michaelkobiljak4386 thank you for sharing! The wise sharing wisdom to younger generations and couples is needed🙌🏼

[@Selena_MiAmor]

Mother-in-Love💕 & daughter-in-Love💕

[@ChristianBevereAuthor]

@@Selena_MiAmor ❤️❤️❤️

[@nmc1859]

Wow. I am 2 min in... and this woman is incredibly smart & wise ❤ ❤

[@ChristianBevereAuthor]

@@nmc1859 she's amazing! And always keeps it transparent

[@DuffyGabi]

Many men I know long ago stopped trying to make any kind of physical connection with their wives. Communication patterns are hard to change. As husbands most have been rejected sexually so many times that they just stop trying. It is too demoralizing. This does not mean I think wives are to blame but it illustrates that if both emotional and physical connections are at an impasse, the odds of turning the ship around are pretty much zero. 😢

[@JH-mx5sm]

Lisa - could you give us some tips for cooking (learning to cook) for just husband and wife and then for a family?

[@simonehaggland1732]

Wow that is an excellent teaching🎯💯🔊 & i certainly agree 1000%. Thank you for this confirmation 🙏🙏. Sending much blessings and love❤❤❤

[@ChristianBevereAuthor]

@@simonehaggland1732 🤍🤍🤍

[@javelinblue5414]

What she Said at the beginning, describes every woman I know, Christian, non Christian. Especially being combative.

[@RoyalRiverRefinishedFurnitureb]

She said Godly and i hit like n subscribe ✅

[@ChristianBevereAuthor]

@@RoyalRiverRefinishedFurnitureb welcome!!!

[@jevy2914]

I think overall this was really healthy and am thankful to have watched it… I only have one plight, and that is that I don’t see any biblical season for remarriage after divorce. Either you join back to your husband/wife or stay single. There are many who are affected by it now and have remarried another so people are going to easily hate that statement-but this is the command of Jesus. Our world has been devastated by improper handling of covenants.

[@galenoverholt5385]

You are definitely scripturally correct. Remarriage is only unless your spouse passes away.

[@flashlitestriker4028]

Wowww! (If only I had known/heard these things 40 years ago!)

[@ChristianBevereAuthor]

@@flashlitestriker4028 I’m glad there are more helpful and transparent leader discussions like this!

[@fernben4174]

Wish I was this close to my mother in law

[@xget5860]

Thank Lisa, we need this openness in church, or the world will be open with you

[@Ariel-sv9de]

"honey please take out the garbage" "I'm really tired give me 5 minutes to see if you can get me in the mood to take out the garbage"

[@IreneDenton-b2z]

He NEVER thought I would leave in the first place

[@gambacherkalbenstein]

they are so hard hearted... 😢

[@bpryor3382]

Loved listening, have gotten john’s books.

[@genesisdeters1886]

This was so convicting and well said ❤

[@ChristianBevereAuthor]

She’s a fountain of wisdom! Thanks for watching

[@lubastefoglo4844]

Thank you!

[@KatieKatielife]

Can you share the example how to do so pls? And also when you are really dissapiinted with your man it’s hard to find this prince

[@bpryor3382]

you also need to talk about how a man should respond, it seemed more like emphasis was on men, what if the situation was reversed.

[@justinegordon5149]

❤ this video!

[@CmndrXander]

You have to be very careful who you allow to “council” your marriage, porn or not.

[@joel4960]

Did either one of you save sex for marriage?

[@EBM0424]

Women, don’t take for granted a mother in law who is a godly follower of Christ! Mine isn’t and doesn’t want anything to do with her grandchildren. But my husband and I pray for her continually.

[@1Cor13.4-7]

What counsel can be offered to wives whose husbands (or vice versa) pressures them into fantasizing and talking about fantasies of their spouse having swx with someone else during intercourse to get and stay ar-oused and be able to finish. This is not about intimacy between the couple, and creates an atmosphere of disconnection. It separates and objectifies and unfortunately has become at least one partners ideal to achieve pleasure. Attempts to convince the confused partner that it is about them simply doesn’t sit well or feel right. But rather, it feels very used, objectified, prostituted and violated. It’s so far beyond a turn off. It’s very damaging. It’s not real. It’s not about being present or connecting with the person in front of you.

[@karinmassey7806]

Excellently honest and forthright.

[@amaragrace94]

Say no and hold the boundary. That's incredibly disrespectful. I guarantee a husband requesting that is watching p*rn. Seek a Christian counselor or schedule a meeting with pastor. If he would feel embarrassed, it's because he knows it's wrong.

[@anotherfisherman5526]

I think women should discuss how neglect of a man is part of many of these problems.

[@yelenamakoyed9137]

No way she’s 60 bruh

[@ChristianBevereAuthor]

@@yelenamakoyed9137 right?! She’s gorgeous

[@sharonscott6624]

Wise council from a beautiful lady who loves her daughter-in-laws ❤

[@BunnyWatson-k1w]

Many Christian women wait until marriage for sex. They then face disappointment with the sexual dysfunction that young couples sometimes face. The church fails to make sex a positive, telling young men and women "just don't do it". That stigma of sex is expressed after marriage.

[@benjaminjohn675]

Sounds like an AI wrote this. No internal monologue

[@yanm8633]

And girls get vaginismus for the hellscare. Christian dating is so broken right now.

[@vincentmothapa2421]

Nothing wrong with telling young men and women not to do it

[@yanm8633]

Looks like someone deleted my comment?

[@vincentmothapa2421]

@@yanm8633 please repeat

[@alanisroman9782]

Hi Lisa and Christian I loved your guy's podcast its an amazing blessing over my life and I know it will be to many more people. I am with my husband, however, we are not legally married, I love him so much and as the topic that is mentioned I feel like when we make love it IS very intimate and I feel closer to him than when we made love the last time. However, I cant shake off the fact that we arent legally married but I do believe I am married to him through Christ as the first time we made love we proclaimed to eachother that we were married and were made as one with eachother. I know that what I have with him is so special and the bond that we have is special, but that conviction of, "am I truly married to him even though we are already made as one?" Lingers Tbh I have no doubt that he is the man that God sent to me, however, I dont know if I should stop having premarital love making and start to live by "marriage, then love making"? I just honestly do not know because when I do become one with him it is not lustful or anything like that, it is out of pure love and adoration for him and I feel, everytime, blessed that God has brought us together. However, I do not know if it is still a sin or not if you truly love that person and are not doing it with lustfulness or ill intent?

[@imarip9781]

Would you consider going to the courthouse? You’re not officially married. Do it for Gods sake and not your own so you don’t have that conviction.

[@TheDriveIn.]

If he cares for you as deeply as you do for him and if he values you in the way that you deserve to be valued, then be up front with him and tell him you don't want to continue in premarital sex until you're actually married. It sounds scary and there's no knowing how he'll react or what he'll decide, but your conscience needs to be clear before God above all else. All the things of this world will pass away. Every relationship you've ever had will not be eternal, except for the relationship you have with God. Make your relationship and heart right before God and whoever truly cares for you will agree with what you're doing. Because in the end, the choices you make in this life will be between you and God alone. If He is telling you something isn't right or isn't for you, then listen and trust Him to help you correct it.

[@jojojordan5557]

A person's servant heart, initiative, and receptive will carry in ALL aspects of a person's life. You can't expect a man or woman who barely drags his/her feet when doing something to actually be good in bed. It just doesn't happen.

[@ChristianBevereAuthor]

@@jojojordan5557 👆👆👆

[@andredutoit1131]

AWESOME content, beautiful daughters of the most high God, Abba my Father who is love (1 Jh 4:8, 16) 😍.

[@nwanyibuifeobiako162]

🤎🤎🤎🤎 watching from Nigeria🇳🇬

[@ChristianBevereAuthor]

@@nwanyibuifeobiako162 hello and welcome!

[@aygeeawowede1337]

Me too!! 😁

[@helen7naum]

Song of Songs 3:5🔥

[@lisabrazell8246]

My ex was addicted to porn. Hidden until later in our marriage. Devastating. Ruined everything. I asked for a divorce at yr 17….

[@ChristianBevereAuthor]

@@lisabrazell8246 I’m so sorry💔 It’s a vicious addiction

[@staceyvierra5772]

It’s really sad that people think that way 😢

[@EdgarsKitchen]

You are so right about intimacy. Flee fornication this will save your marriages and preserve our families.

[@tamikacloe1717]

Amen

[@purpleskald8130]

7:29 my answer to that is first, women aren't cars. Second, if you must compare women to cars, I prefer my wife with no milage. Brand new... Why buy a used car? People are goofy

[@comeandseejesus7369]

There's some good advice here, however the posture of going toe to toe with your husband, I don't think is going to bless your marriage. A woman who can be disciplined enough to submit in attitude as well as action by the grace of Christ, is more resembling the spirit of love and Christ, just as a man must lay down his life and be disciplined in self.control.

[@deksper]

She just went from denouncing lust, to talking about what the woman wants. Grrr.

[@GODONEARTH-rc2rr]

Beautiful women

[@karinmassey7806]

Is your daughter in law an interviewee? Who's interviewing who please? As a listener it's unsettling as to who is who. It's hard not to get distracted with that constant question. Alot of interviewers do this and they do not need a guest perhaps. Said in kind.

[@amaragrace94]

It's not an interview. It's a conversation, but the daughter in law is the host. It's her channel.

[@johnharris7860]

Awesome

[@FeminineRose]

❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@Zachariah_Benjamin]

Did you marry your brother? you look identical to his mother... identical

[@ChristianBevereAuthor]

@@Zachariah_Benjamin she’s stunning so I take that as a compliment 😂

[@Zachariah_Benjamin]

@ChristianBevereAuthor I dont disagree, but yall really fo look almost identical....

[@bellashanti2295]

❤

[@jdavidviewer87]

I’m not sure this is entirely true and good advise about porn. You cannot say in all cases, porn use by men isn’t women’s fault at all. Many men watch porn because of a nagging wife and a wife who holds sex over him. He needs during that time more love and communication but with firm disapproval.

[@GirlPilot7]

Never talk about that with your mother in law! My goodness none of her business

[@ChristianBevereAuthor]

@@GirlPilot7 mine is so full of wisdom! I love listening to how she’s strengthened her marriage

[@Meadow-qe9xd]

@@ChristianBevereAuthoryou have an exceptional Mother in law. She’s a blessing!

[@a.d.b535]

Is she lecturing the daighter in law? DIL didnt know how to gracefully opt out of this discussion.

[@ChristianBevereAuthor]

I actually asked her to speak on this! She has a beautiful testimony around it and years of perspective. Curious what parts stood out to you??

[@shellinicole7784]

@@ChristianBevereAuthorI’m really shocked at the hate on this podcast( in comments) I think yall did a great job of handling what could have been an awkward convo delicately and tastefully. Not giving tmi to each other but enough to help women! Newborn tired is a different kind of tired and I think it’s great you suggested possible compromises and encouraged women they were enough.

[@ChristianBevereAuthor]

@ thank you for your kind comment. That was our hope! Too many hard or needed conversations are passed over, hope this is a message to say keep having them with the trusted voices in your life🤍

[@Unsilentmajority-1]

5 minute rule this is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard. So if he can’t get you “in the mood” in 5 minutes he goes to sleep with blue balls?? Really good

[@danielhammond3218]

I’m sick of people playing these power games. You must have love and respect.

[@shellinicole7784]

Newborn baby tired is different kind of tired. It was her way of compromising

[@Jaco3688]

Yeah, that was … not good advice.

[@michelle6234]

I would have loved to have heard your daughter in law share. I think Lisa needs to listen more and speak less

[@IreneDenton-b2z]

The Lord told me to leave my Husband and to relax refuel and recharge. Two months later. The Lord spoke to me again and told me to go back to him.

[@dradriancicortas]

God doesn'change. He says He hates sepration in marriage. It wasn' t God who talked to you.

[@novabuchanan4260]

​@dradriancicortas not true.. 1Cor 7:11 God allows it in unbearable situations with the hope for reconciliation after both parties had some aline time with Him

[@danielhammond3218]

@@novabuchanan4260 that’s twisting scripture

[@dradriancicortas]

@ This is a misinterpretation of the text. În verse 10 The Lord commends that the wife must not leave her husband. Even while counceling except for when life is threatened,, a person must not leave her/his spouse. So The Lord would never tell a wife to leave her husband.

[@shellinicole7784]

Not true. There are several biblical outs

[@donnaboness7243]

Seems creepy for mom to talk to daughter in law about sex…

[@sharnellthiardt1657]

I talk to my mom and mom in law all the time, who the hell should a woman talk to if not her female community and family members anyway your comment is creepy

[@donnaboness7243]

@@sharnellthiardt1657 - I wasn’t condemning anyone for doing that, just expressing my opinion. The world is a big enough place for people to be able to have their own thoughts/opinions.

[@piret232]

Not creepy, mature and shows people are in control and involved in their own life with God. Free people are able to talk about sex freely without shame, quilt or lust.

[@reneshacurry8324]

I think that's bcuz of what the world had done to "sex". It's made it to be this secret, taboo, dirty thing, but when it's in context and biblical, it's a beautiful thing. And sharing wholesome sexual advice is a good place to start to counter all the perversion out there. IMO

[@donnaboness7243]

@@reneshacurry8324 - understood, but I don’t see sex as shameful or dirty or taboo to talk about in the right context. It was the thought of a daughter in law talking to her husband’s mother about it that felt creepy…. just my take on it.

[@KFish-bw1om]

Why do women think that they should be having these conversations in public, on a podcast? You fix that problem and you'll fix a whole lot of other problems with our culture.

[@staceyvierra5772]

I don’t agree with you so

[@KFish-bw1om]

@@staceyvierra5772 So... you're wrong, obviously. Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout is a beautiful woman without discretion. - Proverbs 11:22

[@littlemissdreamy]

Wtf what did I just watch😮 so many things wrong with this.

[@staceyvierra5772]

I don’t agree with you on that

[@staceyvierra5772]

Because this is good for women

[@constantineandreu9377]

Your openness on such subjects is starting to get cringe!

[@Johnrider1234]

Jesus is god almighty. The kjb is the word of god.