Mothers & ChildFree women Came Really Hard On This Woman For Saying This

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[@astroHOBBES]

He’s causing her so much stress and is trying to embarrass her. He’s terrible.

[@haute03]

He's trying to embarass her but ended up embarrassing himself. Doesn't provide for the kid, doesn't maintain any basic parental responsibilities (i.e., putting her to bed, picking her up from school, etc.), wasn't even in the delivery room when she was born, but begged on his knees for this woman to have the baby. I hope this young woman signs over her parental rights. I'm sure the guy will dump that poor baby on his mom though and I don't wish that on her unless she wants that responsibility.

[@hannahriss1349]

She is communicating how she feels and she didn’t create the child alone. God bless everyone and do better then yesterday. And when people show you there true colors the first time, BELIEVE them!

[@cocoace7587]

They always beg for a baby . That's how they trick women into baby traps . Don't fall for it, ladies . Give them the babies they wanted & dip , run 🏃‍♀️, skip , fly . 😅

[@maenad1231]

To be fair there’s a big problem with her being a parent & partnered and not realizing she was supposed to drop this desire to be spending her life partying till 2am, clubbing, and flying out till Miami. No one here is innocent

[@TEWMUCH]

she caused herself stress by agreeing to and doing things she doesn't want. she looks to be a lady that expresses herself very well, when he begged her for a baby, NO was the appropriate response.

[@iiceeglam]

I hate that ppl think having a vagina means maternal instincts are included. She’s didn’t want to be a mother. Wtf.

[@PeriwinkleB]

Thank youuuu

[@justathought-hj3lz]

She didn't want to be mother but nobody held a gun to her head and forced her wheres the accountability at? And that man not helping her disgraceful

[@Sky-yh3ml]

YEAH SO SHE DONT HAVE TO

[@Sky-yh3ml]

@@justathought-hj3lzhe should have helped abort kid he ain’t shit if he on section8 sounds gay AF!

[@SkycometAnimeVamp]

Thank you!

[@notyourfrind9415]

I just love how when it comes to paying the bills, it's a team effort, but when it comes to taking care of the baby - it's her essential duty to carry out alone. The mendacity.

[@paintitblack9712]

💯

[@CoachDeeFree]

And they on section 8. He still can't pay the bills 😂

[@kingphillieman]

Lovely. Just lovely. You can't be mad at her. She is being honest. She needs a break. Honestly. Raising kids without proper support is tough.

[@AlexusVictoria]

Men beg women to have these kids …… then don’t help

[@tamikahayes6459]

It sounds like she is asking for help.

[@amphoteric]

i hope she signs her parental rights away and gives the child up to the dad since he wants it so damn bad! may she find peace and live her best life!

[@LollyMadikiza-xw4ok]

@ampha...i suspect de dad wanted a light skin baby hence he was so desperate 2 ve a child wid her(south africa)

[@jaqoncee6670]

Exactly

[@janemathaba7706]

@@LollyMadikiza-xw4ok , Hi Lolly , maybe

[@attitudeproblem6462]

But if the baby was really all he wanted, he should’ve just said “ok, I’ll take my child,” and that should’ve been the end of it. But _somehow_ he wasn’t satisfied w/ that… Sounds like he set a baby trap and it backfired. Don’t think it’s ok just b/c you were able to talk her into it back then. The issue was always there and 2 years later it blew up in his face. Hope that little Girl thrives and prospers❤

[@farrahforever0210]

🎯 I’m not even mad at her. Just give the baby up and live your life sis. Men will never understand. Smh

[@willow6049]

When a man throws out we are a team it means he is not involved.

[@amarachiogbonnaya9917]

So true;that word gives me PTSD😂

[@food4thought692]

He’s putting the ME in Team! 😂🤣

[@cruiseny26]

For reals!

[@gathoniwamaina3830]

@@willow6049 sounds like the ballerina farm

[@CordeliaWagner]

He didn't want to be a father. He wanted to babytrap her. And get a free housekeeper and cook out of it.

[@copiouscat]

And free housing!! 👀👀 cause they on section 8….

[@amandafey]

And sex slave

[@get_aclue4218]

Exactly

[@teresam5199]

💯

[@Brandy205]

❤😂❤😂❤

[@eg4417]

She never wanted the kid to begin with. She wanted to abort, but he begged her to have it. He trapped her. She should relinquish her parental rights and give him the kid that he wanted.

[@Childfree334]

He did not trap her. She trapped herself. Ever hear of the word NO? So many women want to act like telling men NO is not an option in life.

[@joeshmoe0136]

​@@Childfree334 With some of these dudes telling them no is a quick route to the morgue.

[@Dangerous_Peace]

​@Childfree334 girl bffr men trap women. Look at the girl, you don't believe that man didn't trap her?

[@Eowynd]

@@joeshmoe0136 amen to that!!

[@Eowynd]

@@Childfree334 you forget the amiont of both, men & women who make holes in the condoms, or put the pills in the microwave to spoil them etc. Its called forced reproduction or baby trapping

[@beepbopboop7727]

Ladies, never EVER EVER have a kid based on what your man wants. *Momma’s Baby, Daddy’s Maybe.*

[@DynamicUnoTea]

Momma's baby, Daddy's maybe.

[@beepbopboop7727]

@@DynamicUnoTea haha thank you for the correction lol

[@sheenalee7602]

Single mother of a beautiful baby boy

[@mndegrassi8]

Damn she had a whole list of what she has to do for her child and his response is "that's what you're supposed to do as a mother". But when she asked him what he does he said 1 thing: go to work. Sir, being a father is more than just providing money. If that's the case just pay child support like she said.

[@MISSMADISONMEDIA]

I will say it again, I would love to be a father😂 Must be niceeeee

[@sha-tiahsampson3074]

He’s not even really providing for her because they are living in her HUD apartment. He was pathetic

[@Sky-yh3ml]

@@sha-tiahsampson3074he blk what can u except

[@SkycometAnimeVamp]

Going to work isn’t being a father. lol. He literally does nothing

[@tc-tm1my]

Men deserve to spend the rest of their lives alone if they agree with him on this.

[@TrueCrimeTalkWithTaves]

I don’t judge this girl at all, I don’t think she’s a bad person . A lot of women feel this way . At least she’s honest

[@oshynblair7907]

I’m one of them. These men are horrible at coparenting

[@dinkyboss]

I do judge her on some level as she still chose to bring life into this world knowing damn well she didn’t want to be a mother. Regardless of what he said she had a responsibility to make the smart choice. These men aren’t exactly hiding that they’re trash. When will women listen? Now this child has to exist with this shit in an already messed up world. Everyone involved is selfish and slow imo

[@dakotahearst908]

But why have her at all then. I feel like maybe my mom wasn’t ready for me but I’m 21 now and we don’t talk. I didn’t do anything but be born

[@corimoon3360]

The people judging her are ignorant and stupid. They'll find out sooner or later. Like that woman said, Men don't want to be fathers, they want YOU to be a mother. They want to slow YOU down! Keep YOU under control. That's why he trapped her and instantly threatened to take her to court. It's a pattern with them and until more people start calling these men out instead of judging single moms who are fed up then maybe we'll get somewhere.

[@queencazza4979]

I worked with a man who really wanted a second child, his wife didn't want to do the exhausting night-time baby-care - they agreed that he would be the primary parent for 2 years, and had the baby. That man came into work looking like death every day from lack of sleep, yes he complained about the silly arrangement he got himself into, but he was dedicated to caring for that baby, he never blamed his wife, and worked like a dog to support them all while getting up to do every night feed and every diaper change. He was an idiot, but respect to him for actually doing what he promised.

[@AlexusVictoria]

Exactly why I’m not having kids. My mom was a single married mother. And before y’all start saying women need to choose better, let’s not act like these men aren’t good at hiding themselves

[@kerri.janelle]

Say it again for the folks in the back!!!! My ex acted like a totally different person for two years! And when he revealed his true character and that mask slipped…….everyone who knew us as a couple, including his own sister, and one of his closest childhood friends was shocked!

[@ettyhill1280]

Heavy on the hiding themselves. As soon as you lock in they change.

[@AlexusVictoria]

@@ettyhill1280 seriously !!! I literally was in a relationship with a successful man who had a pregnant fiancé and I pretty much lived with him ! These men live double lives

[@bee-qc3cd]

Majority of men are like that lol. Naturally engraved in them gender roles. Even the ones that don’t earn enough to feed their family. Terrible

[@redleeks6253]

​@@AlexusVictoriaNot having a child with a man you're not married with is not a guarantee but it's a start. Sometimes theres an obvious reason why a man doesn't want go get married...because he already...with someone else.

[@Think-see]

I heard something from another video that was so profound. Males find a beautiful being and want to clip its wings and keep it in a cage. The desire to rule or tarnish what was once radiant.

[@MariaDavids]

Well said!

[@amandafey]

💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@ailadacia9309]

ABSOLUTELY 💯

[@ruffandrelax290]

Not JUST tarnish it Want to possess it in all ways and since they can’t and know they can’t. They destroy it

[@ruffandrelax290]

Just look at all the women that are offed trying to leave That possessiveness If men could devour women and absorb their essence their ability to Birth They would

[@attitudeproblem6462]

This is going to start happening a lot more. Women ain’t for these half-assed/broken promises anymore.

[@farrahforever0210]

And I’m here for it! Ladies get your power back 🙌🏾

[@ermasing]

Im 35 years old and have always imagined myself providing a 2 parent/2 income household where everyone in it has the same lastname. Because FATHERHOOD has become optional and MOTHERHOOD is mandatory, i cant walk around oblivious to the thought that I could be a babymama at any given moment. THAT SHIT LOOKS STRESSFUL! So when my family members start asking when im gonna have a baby, all I do is point at all 5 of my cousins and my 4 aunties who did it alone and respond with, "When this is not an option." Fuck That!!!!

[@queenlj12jax97]

You're singing my song! 🎶🎼🎹🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@christins.1481]

Funny how she mentioned she bathes his child and he says that what she's supposed to do. That's the problem. She has to do everything while the only thing he has to do is say he's the father. This is why women today are opting out of being mothers. We're done of raising the kids and the man-child while trying to care for ourselves.

[@deirdremorris9234]

Ermasing, it IS STRESSFUL! Im married to a great man. We have 5 kids (all grown now). I homeschooled them. Did all the mom and house stuff, plus volunteering and doing little odd jobs for extra cash. Even in a lovely environment, it was a LOT OF WORK!! My husband did and does 'domestic things'. He is a dang unicorn! But thats not true for many. My own daughters got with guys that .....just arent worth the time. They have kids. One daughter got herself together after me encouraging her for Years that she could do it on her own. She is crushing it!! Her guy couldnt do anything. A real No Show. The otger daughter still dumpster diving. I dont know why and it kills me! Parenting Never ends and you forever worry about your kids. Im glad I got an understanding man who supports me no matter what. No competition. No jealousy. Loves his kids. Shows up ALL the time. Please be careful out there ladies and center yourselves!!

[@queenlj12jax97]

@@deirdremorris9234 I'm so glad your story with your husband is different than most. And thank you for sharing it. With all of this discussion about men who don't measure up, it's good to know that there are unicorns out there, wanting to do right and be right by their wives and families. It's important for young women to know that good, solid men actually exist. Peace and blessings to you and your wonderful unicorn. 😁

[@deirdremorris9234]

@@queenlj12jax97 Thank you! If more men would live/show their sons HOW its done, there would be more compassionate strong men out there. And its Very important for dads to show there daughters How to treat women and to commend them when they do well.

[@MiamiPush2theLimit]

Just take the kid to the fire station. These dudes lie and say they want these kids. Do not let them trap you in misery and poverty.

[@idontarguewithpeasants]

yup. put it up for adoption and sign away your rights!

[@eg4417]

Yep

[@Gumbier_Than]

After a certain age you cannot take that action without it being child abandonment.

[@MiamiPush2theLimit]

@@Gumbier_Than ok then put the child up for adoption. My point is- get rid of the kid you didn’t want in the first place.

[@ELP1125]

Wow yall are some toxic women. The fire station? Talking about traumatizing your adolescent child. 🤡. Yall really need help.

[@anikasmith8361]

Men really count on women who don't want kids to just change their mind and kick in being that traditional mommy. No means no. He was wrong for insisting and SHE was wrong for giving in. That baby is gonna suffer because both parents overestimated the other.

[@angelaholmes8888]

Yep exactly this is why I made the choice to never have children

[@janemathaba7706]

Exactly & the Child is the one going to feel the impact

[@ineedhoez]

No doesn't mean no because women don't enforce their boundaries

[@alexussk]

HE is wrong and caused this

[@tripleleotarot2416]

“Traditional” means slave. Women had no human rights when things were traditional, always baffles me that this isn’t always brought up. Slavery is not a tradition it’s an abomination.

[@greenytaddict]

I don't understand how bw can look at the community and still want to have kids with a group of men who are known to not take of care their kids and abandon them. And let yourself get married, the situation becomes worse. Ladies think and protect yourself, it's 2023 we don't need to live this struggle life/ love anymore.

[@kay-tee335]

💯💯💯 Women need to stop giving these men kids. They like the idea of having a child but not actually wanting to raise them.

[@CordeliaWagner]

They want a mom.2 , someone who does the household while they are at work. To come home to a warm meal and than relaxing in front of the TV and having sex whenever they feel like it.

[@queenrenagoddessoflovegood7757]

​@@kay-tee335exactly, they want you to do all the work

[@queenrenagoddessoflovegood7757]

💯

[@kammyr4082]

I dont understand it at all

[@greenytaddict]

So glad I don't have this life. #childfreeforlife

[@naturallykiera5063]

Ladies, I will be 33 this year and childless; until I AM READY to have a kid. Don't let a man make you feel like you need to have a kid or think a kid will "fix" the relationship.....

[@CordeliaWagner]

I am 21 and had my Sterilisation this february after my birthday. I don't want all this stress. I choose myself.

[@cocoace7587]

​@@CordeliaWagner Happy for you . That's one way of never having an " oops " baby . 😊

[@marissa._]

@@CordeliaWagner Any good, affordable recommendation doctors for sterilizations? Doctors tend to judge and challenge women when they want to get sterilizations and sometimes turn women away all together and won't do the procedure! And yet, when women gets pregnant and wants an abortion they're pressured into keeping it and they're judged if they have access to abortion and go through with getting said abortion and then name-called afterwards! So if you have any recommendations, please share them. I don't know if you're in the USA or another country. Either way, please share if you know. It could help a lot of women!

[@LollyMadikiza-xw4ok]

@naturally...having a child when u are older is no walk in de park either,whether u are ready for a child or not(south africa)

[@naturallykiera5063]

@@LollyMadikiza-xw4ok No-one said it was, yet it can be done. Honestly at this point i doubt I'm having kids; so that issue really doesn't matter to me.

[@astroHOBBES]

Why do these guys put a camera in the face of these women?? These men are so weird. He can be a single dad and keep it moving instead of trying to embarrass her. He’s immature and can’t have a conversation.

[@evaphillips2102]

I woulda broken his phone for real. That’s so disrespectful. This had have been a skit.

[@kayquad2372]

@@evaphillips2102do you know the name of the channel. Idk if it’s a skit

[@attitudeproblem6462]

Just like that dusty dude who came up in the house demanding his wife take care of _his_ grandma…😒😒😒🙄

[@SailorSlay]

Same. I do not understand. I remember years ago this one woman was literally breaking at the seams begging the dad to take the baby. He was putting the camera in her face talking about hair and nails. Eventually she became so distraught she left the baby in the car seat on the curb and drove off. The dad kept recording instead of picking the child up

[@imjustherok]

@@evaphillips2102 this ricegum alt acc 😂

[@QueenLaCheefa]

Drop them kids off. Let them be “the worlds most involved fathers” that they claim to be 🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️

[@CordeliaWagner]

At this point I think every sexual active woman MUST have he followng at home: - pregnancy tsts for at least 6 months - the pill after (condom rips apart, rape) - abortion medicine for the case of a positive pregnancy test. - STD tests for you and a partner because condoms aren't as safe as a negative test Nobody needs to know. Just make sure you keep autonomy over your body.

[@iiceeglam]

Loook! I have pregnancy test, condoms and all the things. Idk how some women just be so slack as if we can really trust men or even ppl at that 100%.

[@janemathaba7706]

I'm 52 years currently. I used three methods of BIRTH CONTROL in my late teens & early 20's when I was in College! Pill, Shot & Condom. Stopped the shot in my late 20's, stayed on 2 methods. Got Married @ 28 years , had my sons in my 30's. So MY DEFENSE against PREGNANCY was Extreme my friends used to laugh but understood. So yeah I DIDN'T TAKE any CHANCE @ All. 🙏

[@TheAwesomes2104]

I'm big on keeping early abortion pills, especially due to the bans going on in the US. If you are ever in a bad situation, you might not be able to confide in a partner or even a doctor (I don't even tell me doctors the date of my last period because I know they can use that evidence against me should I discover I'm pregnant and need to abort (I got some serious medical issues, so it's not even a matter of choice for me.) So many people think that birth control will make getting pregnant impossible, but it does fail. When birth control says it is 99% effective, they mean that only 1 of 100 women using it for a year got pregnant. If you're on birth control for 40 years, you're rolling that dice 40 times. That number really tells us very little too because female people who are, for lack of a better term, getting ejaculated in frequently are more likely to get pregnant. So are these average 100 women taking a load everyday or are they in a sexless marriage. How effective is it really for women who have a lot of that kind of sex? Hard to know. I know several people who got pregnant on birth control that they couldn't have taken incorrectly. 1 on an IUD, 2 on the depo shot, and one woman who got pregnant TWICE despite having her tubes tied. And these are just the ones I know of. Lord knows, there's probably a crazy number of women in my life who have had birth control fail that just didn't tell me or maybe anyone about it. That's another big issue with the whole "If you didn't want to be a single mom, you should have made him wear a condom." First off, if a man doesn't want to be a single dad, he should wear a condom. 2nd, condoms are not an effective way at preventing pregnancy (by my standards due to the 13% yearly failure rate) and even if you use condoms and an IUD on top of the pill, it can still happen. It's like the "keep your legs closed" argument that ignores that rape not only happens but is shockingly common, this argument ignores the reality that no level of birth control, short of a hysterectomy, can 100% prevent you from pregnancy. Every female person should have easy access to abortion.

[@tulip811]

Track your cycle, when you are not on BC, you can check everytime you use the bathroom if you are ovulating or not. Your body shows you through your discharge

[@ineedhoez]

Don't forget the iud! That way you can't mess it up

[@tamaranicholson627]

There was a reddit story about a man who got a woman pregnant and she didn't want to keep it. This man begged her and she finally agreed to have the child, but she wanted to have nothing to do with it. He admitted he thought she'd grow a bond with it while pregnant and was shocked when after giving birth, she signed away her rights and moved on with her life. Of course he stalked her on social media and was so mad that she got surgery so her body had no signs of ever being pregnant and she kept her high paying job- even traveling around Europe and going out with friends and new potential partners! He said that she even paid child support of her own accord, though she didn't have to because she signed her rights away, and more than the courts would have ordered her if they would have gotten involved! He was on reddit trying to get sympathy for being stuck at home with an infant while she got to forget they even existed, and was asking if there was a way to force her to come back and be the child's mother! I think of this man often, whenever I see him in others just like this man here. He wants to trap a woman and thinks a baby is the way to do that- this woman did not want that child. She can leave her with him if she so chooses and he can see that it's not so easy being a working person and a caregiver- if she has an obligation as a mother, he has the same one as a father. Even more so if he was the one advocating for the pregnancy. Raise that child and provide for them, that's the path YOU chose. Or is it not too late for him to change his mind, like it apparently is for her?

[@aimee6120]

I love this ! He got everything he deserved ! Feel for her she shouldn’t have to pay ! Basically she was an incubator for a child he wanted

[@BB-gd7ez]

That's my favorite Reddit story, and I laughed a lot because he really thought he could trap her. Reverse uno card.

[@Sky-yh3ml]

We need artificial wombs to save our 🐱

[@SkycometAnimeVamp]

That’s an awesome story. I love that so much. And it’s so telling that he still wasn’t satisfied when she gave him what he asked for and more.

[@tc-tm1my]

Do you have the link to that post? I could use a good laugh

[@kay-tee335]

These men are useless. This is why it’s so important that women stick to their boundaries. She said she didn’t want to have kids but let the man convince her to do so. Ladies, you must put yourself first and stop ,letting these men dictate to you want THEY want. These men like the idea of having kids, but don’t want to raise them, esp in the BC. These men have no foresight on how physically, mentally, and emotionally draining it is to take care of kids.

[@queenrenagoddessoflovegood7757]

They don't want to raise them or pay for them, they want you to do all the work

[@amandafey]

​​@@queenrenagoddessoflovegood7757My mom once told me that the male just wants someone on the same mental/emotional level to play with. Many of these "adult" males are still children themselves, and always will be ✌️

[@queenrenagoddessoflovegood7757]

@amandafey That makes sense. & That is very true, some men will always remain big kids.

[@justthatdude1119]

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[@Mrs.Redd1]

He should have listened to her when she said she didn't want kids 😢

[@bailey7792]

She should have listened to herself when she knew she didn't want them

[@beepbopboop7727]

He wanted to trap her.

[@destamcghie632]

But, of course, they never listen to women when we tell them no. They see it as a challenge and will try to manipulate the situation. As always.

[@justthatdude1119]

Women have no accountability or at least no dictionaries … word of the day the ladies Trapped…

[@amandafey]

They don't listen. They only hear what they want to hear.

[@MzNoir_Rain444]

One of the worst things is a child being raised by a parent who doesn’t want them.

[@VirginiaDowdy777821]

When she said their daughter cries over her daddy not being there, it broke my heart... How can this man not see his daughter needs him? :(

[@pastelmoon9118]

to him the baby is just a tool for manipulation he doesnt care

[@rebexxa]

Cause it was never about the baby girl in the first place. If he was so concerned about where his daughter is, why is THIS what he’s doing? Filming his girl in an actual fight and blasting her on social media?? He was with her in the first place for the sole purpose of possessing her. He baby trapped her to keep control over her. He made this video to manipulate her. He don’t give a fuck about that baby girl.

[@SkycometAnimeVamp]

Because he doesn’t care about anyone but herself

[@SageIceDragonX]

Because he doesn't care. The girl is an object or checkmark. He doesn't see this child as a human being. He sees her as an extension of his pride and so her getting rid of his daughter is attacking his pride.

[@TheAwesomes2104]

"What's the father supposed to do?" "Go to work." By the power invested in me by the dumbass opinions of this dead-beat dad, I now declare myself, a 24yo childfree woman, to be a father. Please, everyone start referring to me as Daddy. As someone who has a job and pays my bills, I have the right to be recognized as a father... Actually no, a GOOD father, I might add.

[@UniqueGeekFreak]

Hahaha😂 best comment "daddy"👏 U are dad material for sure "putting food on his family" 😂

[@t.twashington4001]

😂😂😂

[@mandeanraje2300]

Exactly. Like you’d still have to go to work without a kid… so what should change when you do have a kid??

[@shawnlove4502]

Lol petty

[@lightningskye9874]

😂😂👏🏽

[@mizzmolly7649]

Women like me tell young women all the time, DO NOT HAVE A BABY FOR A BOYFRIEND. But they don't listen. THEY DON'T LISTEN!!!

[@paigenicholespeaks6172]

If the father wants his daughter so bad, he can take her. We all know he won't do that though. He got her pregnant on purpose, I'm sure, and told her lies for her to keep it but he's not doing his fair share. She should give the baby up if she can't handle it.

[@Gumbier_Than]

I get sick to death of this attitude that bringing home a check makes one a father. Sure, parenting is putting a pile of cash near a kid, for them to grow up healthy+ well-rounded, and absolutely nothing else. 😒

[@se7v]

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[@sheaNERD]

The last lady spoke so much truth. I rather be unmarried and childless than be with a man that’s not 100% big provider 😢I’m 30 and want to marry but these guys require their wives to work and care for their children too!

[@amandafey]

Guys want someone to take care of THEM, too. Screw that. It's no wonder women have all these health problems and decreasing longevity.

[@sheaNERD]

@@amandafey yes! They always asking me for my profession and they get so excited when I say I’m a travel nurse. I tell them that I’m looking for a man that can fully provide 100% and will retire me from bedside nursing after marriage. Then they get angry that my standard is above them and try to insult me and make me feel bad

[@pastelmoon9118]

yeah they basically want mommy to care for them babys is just the tool to make women trapped

[@tyraaiken7159]

I know I might get some hate, but i applaud the mother for being honest. I don't necessarily think she was a deadbeat mother due to her saying how she bathed, took her daughter to the doctor when she was sick and to daycare. Also, it's better for the mother to surrender her daughter rather than the mother do to her daughter what Andrea Yates did to her kids, or how Susan (the woman who drowned her two kids in a pond) did her kids, or how Casey Anthony did her daughter. I honestly feel like the mother just went towards having a child just to please and keep her baby father out of loneliness. After she found out who he was, she leveled up.

[@nicoleayala4153]

Agree. I couldn’t speak about a child like that HOWEVER she said it from beginning to end, he isn’t there. Period. She gave him the child HE wanted she didn’t want the baby to begin with. She pays for daycare, he working “all these hours” why isn’t he paying for day care? She DIDNT even put him on child support. And HE even said it himself, “it’s a team effort” it’s always a “team effort” when the man is falling short that’s always the excuse. Not everyone is meant to be a mother and she SAID THAT. Her mistake was believing this deadbeat mf when he said he’ll be there for the baby.

[@cocoace7587]

Team effort is laughable. I guess he's the coach , sitting on the side lines , hollering out plays . # bye dusty dan # girl run 🏃‍♂️ # give him HIS BABY

[@tyraaiken7159]

@@nicoleayala4153 hit nail on the hammer. You brought up a good point about the father "working all those hours". Plus, with the father not being on child support, he should be able to afford the basic child's needs!!!

[@LollyMadikiza-xw4ok]

@tyra...i agree wid u,@least she is honest(south africa)

[@attitudeproblem6462]

Naa, she said she wanted an abortion from jump street. He talked her out of it b/c he promised he would be present and help her.

[@shaypope4732]

This is why I refuse to even entertain having sex with them or even bringing any kids in this world cause men don't stop their life for 9months or even help with the raising them they literally think it's babysitting when it comes to their kids smh I just can't risk it sorry not sorry

[@CordeliaWagner]

I enjoy sex but I am sterilized so I am safe. And in a committed relationship after we both did STD tests.

[@shaypope4732]

@@CordeliaWagner nice but I don't want to do unnecessary medical anything to my body when I can just avoid the activity that create kids all together but good for you and your man Hun to each it's own

[@adrianagauci4894]

My rule is the body is only for the husband, not just your average boyfriend.

[@bribri0786]

5:52 Postpartum depression is complex so he really shouldn’t be so dismissive. And while I agree she shouldn’t have had the baby if she didn’t want it, let’s not ignore all the circumstances that might have come into play. She could have been pressured by him or her family to keep it or she could have run out of time to get an abortion. Hell, she might not even have had proper access to all that stuff depending on where she lives. I rather her give up her baby than be shamed and forced into sticking around and messing up the child. Ladies, don’t have babies with randoms who aren’t committed to you or your happiness.

[@marissa._]

So why listen to him or her family? In the event she was ‘pressured’, why give into it? Granted, Roe vs. Wade did get overturned in some states. I'll give you that. PPD isn't as "complex" as people make it out to be. A lot people use that (*and other mental problems*) to absolve themselves from blame and accountability! If there isn't enough "protection", i.e. condoms and other forms of birth control...why have sex then? If someone knows they don't have access to birth control, common sense says NOT to have consensual sex with someone, as it can lead to creating another little parasite that never asked, nor chose to be here in the first place, as well as never being wanted in the first place! There needs to be personal accountability! Now, I can see if there was rape involved! She most definitely WOULDN'T be at fault for that! To be clear, I'm speaking about consensual sex only. He's clearly a worthless, useless p.o.s. and it shows! I hope she gives up her parental rights so she can go live her life! Men abandon their families on a daily basis! Let a woman do it and she's the "monster" when she NEVER wanted to be a parent in the first place! Men like him need to die! Honestly! She's wrong too because she could've dumped him if he kept pressuring her to have kids that he's never involved with nor taking care of! And then had the AUDACITY to get his mother involved instead of picking up his OWN child from daycare, calling it a "team effort!" It's not his mother's job to pick her grandchild up from daycare when the mom is at work! It doesn't take a so-called "village" to "raise a child!" He's NOT at work 24/7 like the mom said! He's a deadbeat p.o.s.! But the mom ain't all roses and daisy's either! I feel bad for the kid!

[@SailorSlay]

Post partum is very real. That man doesn’t understand at all

[@Gumbier_Than]

The mother of my godson is the most vile harridan that ever graced the milky way. However, she said the only reason she had her son was to "get her family off her back". My friend, the child's father, raised him as a single dad. It's important to hear women when they say "I don't want this kid". It just leads to bad things happening. 😞

[@marissa._]

@@Gumbier_Than Why is she, "the most vile harridan that ever grace milky way", when she made it clear she never wanted kids? It sounds like her family is the vile ones for pressuring her like that! Good on her for having the father raise the kid, instead of something bad happening. So what's the family saying now that she had the kid? Is her family happy that she had the kid or are they mad at her for having the kid's father raise him?

[@Gumbier_Than]

@@marissa._ she was vile before she had her child and would mistreat everyone, that's why. It was fun times when she was trying to fist fight me because she thought I was into her boyfriend and child's father. After she had him she would yell at him for needing to eat, I was there and his father was the one feeding him. I didn't know her family. I was friends with her child's father. I was puzzled how they even got her to have the baby. She's a lousy, suck ass person period, nothing to do with her lack of desire to have her kid. I did have compassion for her when she stated outright she didn't want her kid, but I was not okay with her spewing hatred to that boy. She left right before he turned two, which is fine because her child was still being cared for. I saw my friend struggle and scrape by to raise his boy until he moved close to family. At least some men out there would actually take care of their kids full time.

[@beepbopboop7727]

He fraudulently coerced her to have that child.

[@copiouscat]

Emotional coercion FR

[@Dontbuglee]

That’s not how it works. Make sure he doesn’t nut in you. He “convinced” her to keep it she was DUMB and NAIVE now she wants to just “drop it off”

[@briannadickson2884]

She seems like a very capable adult. She was also just dumb.

[@aselyne5631]

She's a grown woman though

[@kendraandawurabena4012]

That is like saying r*pe isn’t r*pe if the victim cause their an adult the odds of resisting are higher put still not likely due to conditioning plus it’s technically peer pressure and as much as we all think we can resist it is really hard

[@jmunroe]

He's just concerned about her wanting to go out because didn't even know where his own daughter was. He didn't want that child, he wanted her to be tied down to him for the rest of her life. I bet she can't stand the sight of him and bc he can't have her, he rather torture her and have her break apart at his expense. These men are sick. Sometimes I want a relationship but God knows me too well not to give what I think I want. #childfreebychoice

[@CordeliaWagner]

I am in a beautiful relationship. But I am picky as f and my boyfriend also has VERY high standarts. And we both don't want kids. He paid for my sterilusation for my 21st birthday and he had his vasectomy in may. We are safe. And all is happy and fun till whatever takes us apart. Which we both don't want. A child would destroy this intimacy and the lazy weekends in bed and the hanging out in the tub. You can have a great relationship when you know what you want and communicate that. Reddit/ childfree has a list of doctors worldwide who are pro-autonomy so you might find someone nearby who performs a sterilisation. Good Luck!

[@selb2153]

Exactly this

[@aselyne5631]

I am sure she knew he wasn't shit to begin with

[@SharonA_14]

I agree. God knows what prayers to filter out. I thank God that he didn’t answer my prayers about having a relationship with certain men. A blessing in disguise

[@unlisted333]

He’s mad because he couldn’t baby trap her. 💁🏽‍♀️ She was willing to have a child with proper support, he didn’t hold up his end of the agreement.

[@madelinealicea2044]

I have 3 kids and felt like my ex husband was the 4th kid. After our divorce, I started dating this one guy and after 3years, he was constantly asking me to get pregnant. NO THANKS! We are no longer together. It's been 3 years that relationship ended and I'm good with me, myself and I. My children are all adults now.

[@Cancam1997]

My mom said the same thing about my dad, my mom has 3 kids with my dad and I’m 26 and the youngest of my siblings.

[@isthisreallystillathing5060]

People don’t understand that both parents have the right to walk away. Never date or deal with men who quote that “provider/protector” stuff, those men have no idea what those two things mean.

[@voneyeva]

I agree. They think protect means like, from lions, which is easy, because there's no lions. They think provide means provide the bare minimum for survival because everything women and children want is frivolous. That, or "God will provide" anyway so he doesn't need to do anything.

[@14elvira14]

Yesss men that talk about it are the problem. I have a man that just does. His actions say it all for me, no need to convince me he's good with his words🥴 that kind of talk is a cheap red flag!

[@burmessafox3939]

The woman mentioned paying for daycare. So that means she's working. If she's paying daycare and majority bills, what's his purpose? He mentions the man is the provider, but if your woman works and paying for everything and he only see the child 2 hours a week, you shouldn't have a say about the home or about the mom

[@tripleleotarot2416]

He’s obviously out cheating. How do you work most of 24hrs a day everyday then be on section 8 and can’t pay bills. He’s out being single, living exactly like he did before he met her but can claim to be a “father”. Meanwhile she’s a single mother with a grown man succubi. He’s a burden, sounds like his money pays for him, his activities and side chicks. Bet he still expects her to cook, clean and dispense sex too. Men being surprised that slavery days over really are something else.

[@lindam156]

She also says the grandmother takes the baby during the day when she goes to work so she definitely does work.

[@colleens.279]

Right?! He's failing at his so-called "role" in this situation!!

[@Egh0127]

Exactly he said "work. provide." 😂😂😂😂💀💀💀💀SHE works, SHE provides daycare and food and clothes 😂

[@fluffysox6072]

And their on section 8 smh. He really is useless.

[@creolenola]

Having worked in education for over 20 years, I see the outcome of unwanted kids all the time. I am very proud of the young women who assessed the situation and made a safe plan for the child, her father or foster care. Trust me, not all parents make those sorts of plans and things can turn sinister quickly. So the father needs to grow up and be the father he wanted to be and raise his little girl, or let the child go to foster care and wish her the best of luck. But this young women is done and that is okay. Hopefully she will not be bullied, coerced, or talked into something so life changing as this again.

[@CordeliaWagner]

This! 🥂

[@michellemcmichael4680]

I was thinking the same thing I was like wow she know she can take her child so fire station?... because other people kill acting like they can't just drop them off at the safe Haven some damn where

[@Las645]

No it’s not ok, not having kids isn’t selfish, but having kids and then dumping them is extremely selfish, when there are other option before pregnancy.

[@Las645]

@@michellemcmichael4680the problem is a majority of the time those kids end up in foster care abused, starved, beaten, raped, and murdered. Don’t have kids if you won’t keep them, end of story. Stop coddling people just because they say they’re childfree.

[@amandafey]

Hospitals are another place that unwanted kids can be dropped off.

[@parklady4233]

Moral of story, don’t let a man beg you to keep a child! If you don’t want the baby don’t have it. I feel for these women and their unwanted kids. I thought that unwanted children was a thing of the bad old days. Sad to see it in the 21st century.

[@TEWMUCH]

of the old days?? absolutely not! but yes u are right. the mistake is she did something she didnt want to do. she never wanted the kid therefore, she never should have had it.

[@embluvya]

Men leave all the time, the trope of the absent father is so normalized that no one is surprised by it. But if a mother leaves, she's a monster. Women need to start leaving and letting the men take care of the kid they 'wanted so bad.' Make HIS ass be the single mom.

[@kissit012]

Or just stop having kids. No need to put your health at risk to prove a point to useless people. Let their numbers and power dwindle. Reduce human overpopulation, straining of resources, entitlement of idiot men.

[@queeniequeen949]

@@kissit012all of this. 🥰🙌🏾💯

[@levtieart3409]

men legit force a woman to be with them ,force them to have a kid , then do nothing and expect service and call the woman crazy and bad while doing nothing ''why do women not get married anymore'' we see that 99 precent of relationships are like this

[@lipglosslover83]

And refuse to work to avoid paying child support. I promise if men could have babies the laws would be so different.

[@Padel78]

I would love my kid to much to do that 🙏🏿

[@wrappedaroundmyfinger]

The girl at 22:15 is irritating. Dropping an unwanted child at a fire station, police station or hospital is actually the right thing to do. It’s recommended to do that. It’s better than leaving them at a random persons house or on the street. People really need to get educated. Also, it’s not that she wants to go out and party. She wants to live her life the way she wants to. She said go out and have fun because that’s what young people do. Lol what do you expect for a young 20 something to say? 😂

[@atmo85]

Right, that's what I was thinking. Fire stations are Safe Havens, so children and babies can be dropped off there and they will make sure they are taken care of (adoption, foster home, etc). And parents won't be charged with child neglect or abandonment after dropping them off. People may judge the parents who do that, but honestly if a parent feels they don't want a kid, raising that child with that mindset is going to be harmful for that child.

[@CordeliaWagner]

People who judge this are the least willi g to help these people. They are the usual suspects who need somebody to look down upon to feel better about themselves. Not worth considering what they think.

[@heartsocto9440]

@wrap, so is the chick at 14:48. Yuck...

[@burmessafox3939]

I actually found out Quicktrips are also a safe space to drop your kids off

[@MsMookalate]

Dropping a child over the age of 3-6 months will get you charged with neglect. Same thing if you drop them off with children services and you have to pay child support. Remember I think the child is 3

[@itzTeTe]

Ladies if you want an abortion for any reason and your man says no then take that as the red flag that it is, it’s your body and your choice, men can run and not be held accountable for the life they created while women don’t really have a choice. Abortion is valid, me personally when an abortion happens I feel that the baby is going to a woman who is truly struggling to have kids and finally gets their rainbow baby. That is just my opinion. Souls are not just discarded, they are (for a lack of a better term) recycled, that is how reincarnation works. People are reborn. Not everyone may believe in that but the studies in regards to past lives and reincarnation are very interesting and shows our loved ones are never truly gone.

[@amandafey]

I love this take!!!

[@KC-qr3wk]

I’d say don’t even tell anyone. Make that decision for yourself by yourself

[@JoannaGraceYoga]

Completely agree!! The soul Will reincarnate to a different family or come at a different time

[@thatsrealroughbud...2394]

Men can't claim to be "providers" if they've forced their women to take on ALL of the TradWife labor AND TradHusband work. That's all this is. She's working, paying the lion's share of the bills AND doing pretty much all of the childcare and housework. She's basically a single mother already, but without the benefit of child support.

[@CF.]

This is perfectly stated.

[@deirdremorris9234]

The best thing women can do is 1.educate yourselves about biology, finances, history, patriachy, religion. 2. Keep yourselves free from relatio ships with men. 3. If you are buring, get a toy..lots on the market. 4. Have plans!

[@fatimahrahman6158]

🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆

[@anonymousanonymous870]

Majority of women don't even experience pleasure during sec.

[@beepbopboop7727]

And don’t leave these children up to the absent parent. Men will sell these children into slavery. Don’t have them, and when you do only choose to do it when you are prepared to be a single parent.

[@CordeliaWagner]

#SoundOfFreedom Child trafficking is a horrible reality

[@anonymousanonymous870]

Most of these absentee fathers sleep with their own children.

[@charlalee3859]

This why the birth rate is down because because the new generation of women are noping out of motherhood.

[@CordeliaWagner]

A shrinking population is the best thing that can happen. Less cheap workers = less power for oligarch wealth hoarders and corrupt politicians.

[@LoveK1]

@@CordeliaWagneryep, that’s why Elon and them are harping on it. They need workers and consumers. Their empires literally don’t work without them.

[@ThixenVixen]

I just got married.. and I’m 40 & childless. This is the very reason why. I would have the same sentiments as this woman. Im glad my husband understands how I feel & we have already agreed not to have any kids 😅

[@bottomofastairwell]

There's a saying: Momma's baby, daddy's maybe. And that's EXACTLY why I'm never having kids

[@nicoleayala4153]

He said a father supposed to provide and protect? What he providing and protecting?? Lmfaoo not them cause he never there, and what money? Cause he ain’t supporting the baby or paying for daycare

[@winter_s_44]

If I knew I did not want the kid, I wouldn’t even tell him. I would just go have an abortion. His life would be no different. There is no need for discussion or you begging me to have a kid I will be primarily responsible for. No, thank you.

[@CordeliaWagner]

That's why you do a pregnancy test regularly AND have the pill after and abortion medicine already at home. Nobody needs to know.

[@j.r7721]

@winter_s_44….. Exactly. That’s the best way to handle the situation.

[@itzTeTe]

It’s a shame that we as woman have to resort to doing things like abortion in secret when we need emotional support. Ever since they overturned Roe V wade men act like they own the bodies of women and want to use us as incubators…

[@Las645]

That’s also kinder to the child. Kids don’t deserve to be in these situations.

[@copiouscat]

"oops I had a miscarriage” byeee ✌🏽🏃🏽‍♀️💨

[@TheeWriter4hire]

I'm 36 and I have never wanted to have kids.. people keep telling me I'll change my mind but I know deep down I don't want to be a full time parent to anyone. I think we are also forgetting that raising a child now is forever.. I look at my mom and how she is still parenting my little brother at 27 years old and even still helping me if I need anything. It's forever and it's not glamorous and my Dad bowed out when I was 6.. props to any mothers out there.. you are truly amazing.. but I'll pass .. respectfully

[@imjustherok]

I agree 100% she should have followed her instincts and not let him convince her to have her daughter. BUT DAMN, that little girl is now a person too and this resentment must be so painful to feel let alone to eventually see.

[@MissEbo1985]

Most men do this shit all the time especially if the women is beautiful hardworking & successful. They do this to tie women down leave their "mark" on to the world. My heart goes out to the single mothers & single married mothers thats going through this. Is is exactly why I dont want kids, its takes two parents to take care of them. Men switch up all the time, its really sad smh.

[@queeniequeen949]

This.

[@ginat3592]

She shouldn’t be forced to keep a child she never wanted. She knows someone can do it better. How dare he make her look like the villain. He’s a loser and she’s not a woman ready to be a mother.

[@twilight6779]

True but she also has to take some accountability for her poor decision to get pregnant too

[@UniqueGeekFreak]

I agree with twilight now that the child is here, u can't just do whatever you want The mother is not innocent, unless he forced her to have unprotected 6. You can't just quit when the child is here. But maybe someone else can do a better job at it

[@Rose0004]

My ex did the same. He begged for children and claimed he wanted fatherhood so badly, yet he quit work and slept all day while his mom paid his part of the bills, and I would come home to a disaster of a house after my own job. I left him and am THANKFULLY still childfree at age 38. A wise woman once said, "Only ever have a child if YOU want the child, because odds are, you'll be the one taking care of them."

[@MusicLoverJenny]

Why is it that every time I hear about a man begging for a child they are the ones that do not do one thing for the damn child gone all day swearing they’re working come back empty-handed. This is exactly why I stay single every guy I go on a date with wants to talk about children, but don’t want to talk about providing or being involved. I can’t even be upset about the first woman she clearly said she did not want a child because she put her trust on this man to actually keep his word and be the main person taking care of the child because he was crying about it swearing he love this child and wanted to keep the child. Now he’s surprised when two years later she sees that he’s not coming through with his promises she’s upset because That’s not what she wanted from the beginning. I’m tired of people trying to force women to have children when they clearly said they do not want a child

[@chailatecookies7341]

He needs to take his baby and leave her alone, she doesn’t have to keep child since she didn’t want it and it was him who wanted it , he wanted her trapped and it backfired on him . Wish more women chose to do this

[@CordeliaWagner]

I wish more women k ew that giving a child to fostercare is in the best interest of the child in some situations.

[@cvzdez]

The worst part is after the mom decides to give up the kid. The father's probably going to adultify her and have more kids, and she's gonna have to take care of his other kids because they do that.

[@jewelthompson4210]

"That you gon stay right there" when she tries to get up irked my soul. I hate men like that. They never have the same engery for other men. Hope she's safe because men like that are dangerous & do not respect your bodily autonomy.

[@eys1996]

I am a dedicated Mom & I’m still not mad at this girl. Sounds like she didn’t want the kids, but went along with what he wanted, in order to please him. Then he slapped her in the face, by not only making her take FULL responsibility for the child, but he’s also telling her, that it’s HER JOB! Which is probably what she was afraid of. The best solution would be for him to take accountability for his child too. That would probably make her continue to be a mother to her child, because then she wouldn’t be doing it all by herself. 😢. He doesn’t sound like he’s going to though. Therefore, this girl is giving him, his child, he begged for. Period.✅

[@mercycunningham2813]

If its her JOB he has to pay her a wage.

[@eys1996]

@@mercycunningham2813 Which she said & he didn’t deny. That’s he wasn’t doing that either😂. He said it himself. That he’s not paying for childcare or bills, specifically in this video.

[@ieattofu68]

More and more men are going to take custody of their children and more and more women are going to sign away their rights and free themselves. I raised one child alone and frankly, that's all I could handle. So glad I didn't end up marrying his father, wherever he is. I am so glad and thankful to God my son is college educated, doesn't drink or smoke and was never for the streets...if the first child turns out good, don't risk having a second one because it's a toss up.

[@beatles925]

This woman is taking back control of her life and im here for it!!

[@destamcghie632]

This is why you never have children simply because the MAN wants one. Have a child when/if YOU want one. And if you don't want any, that's fine, too!

[@Fatima-zs3mo]

She is sensible enough to send her kid to somone safe when she needs a mental break, like his mothers place. I’m so scared to be a single parent one of the maaany reasons i couldn’t be a parent

[@TheAlexaLee]

And just because ya'll don't regret yall child doesn't mean other people do and your personal experience and feelings doesn't invalidate someone elses experience and feelings

[@dearbrave4183]

I understand her, this is why you don't let men convince you into having a kid😢💔 she pays for the kid and parents alone, meanwhile she can't even have a break to party and travel. he has the audacity to talk about being a team when he is nowhere to be found 🥴 I hope she finds a way to get help or pay for it so she can relax every now and then , as for that deadbeat he needs to be cut off completely. And honestly I hope the behaviour of the father won't affect her relationship with her daughter negatively. God knows how much daughters need their mothers 😢

[@LoveK1]

They do it to try to ruin the women.They know the women are done so they try to sic the public on her for shaming because he doesn’t have the power to do that anymore.

[@cocoace7587]

Naw . She wants out . She should leave the child with him & dip . 😊

[@halsi2020]

@@cocoace7587 Naw, that would be cruel to the child. He won't take care of the child (he deadass gave that child to his MOTHER wtf). The child has no sin so the child should not be punished.

[@burmessafox3939]

@halsi2020 is it really a punishment if the child is given to the grandma? Having the mom keep her would be a terrible idea. Seems like she would lowkey drop her child off at a fire station (best option) or a case she kills the child (worst option) either way, she seems desperate for a way out.

[@halsi2020]

@@burmessafox3939 Uh, no. I agree that the mother should not keep the child (she already said she's gonna send the kid to the orphanage if he didn't come and get the child). But I feel like dropping the child to the sperm donor is not the right thing to do either. Right now, the grandmother co-parents with the mother to take care of the child. I doubt he gave his mother any money for that when he didn't even give it to his wife and child. Once, the mother is gone, the grandmother will be the sole parent. The grandmother can do the work but that may be limited if she's very old. Also, who would be paying the bill for the child? Most probably the grandmother IF she can afford it. Not to mention, if he manages to scam a new victim and have kids with the victim, he probably going to further forget about the child. So while it's not a punishment to give to the grandmother, I just feel like the child's basic necessity and education would be better taken care of at the orphanage especially if the mother visit and donate there often.

[@DirtyLoveIsContagiou]

This is why I don’t want kids. My ex-husband wanted me to keep ours.........and I said ain’t no way when he couldn’t take of himself. I knew I would’ve been doing it by myself.

[@childfreechick2980]

Never have a baby you don't want just bc a man asks or begs. Let that man cry and beg all the way to the clinic. Then go and live your life.

[@janemathaba7706]

She SHOULD 1)LAWYER UP 2) Give him FULL CUSTODY 3)Parental Rights??? 4) Pay Significant amount of Child Support.

[@karmakelly]

We should do a gofundme for this queen. At the very minimum give her a spa membership because one day isn’t going to cut it. We hear her, we applaud her and we lift her up! Also, laughing so hard at the “fathers” lame attempt at embarrassing her - my dude, put the phone down and listen to what she has to say instead of exploiting her 🖕🏻

[@Heykay34]

Coming up on 32 still don’t want them 😂 I’m okay with that, there are options, break the biological clock until the men do right by you. If it never happens you avoided this situation!

[@757Princess]

I’m 31 and child free. If it happens I’ll be happy but if not I don’t want a situation like this.

[@briannadickson2884]

The worst regrets in my life are made when I do something I know I don't want to do.

[@VICADICREATIONS]

Her approach might not be the best way but her points are valid. PTSD is real.

[@ashtherebel2346]

I’m all about women dropping off their kids at the fire station. It’s better to be in the foster system then to grow up in an abusive household

[@evaphillips2102]

It’s not. But it’s about the same. At least if you grow up in foster care people sympathize with your childhood trauma.

[@MsMookalate]

The child is older than 3-6 months so she’ll be charged with neglect and still have to pay for child support

[@Las645]

It’s obvious you guys haven’t gone through the foster system 😂

[@e113jelly6]

@@Las645right that can be the worst outcome

[@vianjelos]

​@@e113jelly6they must not know about the foster care to human trafficing pipeline.

[@SailorSlay]

It’s not that she doesn’t want the baby it’s that she wants to have balance. She wants to be a full human. Instead of listening to the woman screaming for help the Dad to busy posting videos for clout. HE IS THE PROBLEM!!!!

[@alliahfrancis152]

No, she also doesn't want the baby. Like she said she never did.

[@MISSMADISONMEDIA]

I honestly did hear this as a “I didn’t want this but I’m willing to do it if we split the work”

[@lavinder11]

​@alliahfrancis152 She said she never did but she's taking responsibility. She's not sending that child to the fire station, she's exasperated.

[@Aniexo_]

First it was the man provides and protects.. then it’s we’re a team when she mentioned she pays for daycare 😂😂 what a joke I hope it’s a skit.

[@TyroneBackyardiagains]

Same because I feel bad for that child

[@showme2540]

Nah that ain’t no skit.

[@TheCarnivoreSoprano]

Men do not provide or protect. That's the biggest myth out here.

[@aselyne5631]

Why y'all acting like this behaviour ain't a thing

[@jaddek.astrie3071]

He doesn’t help with the bills??

[@TheAlexaLee]

I was on her side from beginning to end of her rant. He doesn't help with anything and he's out living his life and she never wanted the kid he did. I agree if she does not want the kid she should give her to someone who would want her and will love her and take care of her how she needs. If she's saying all this why would you continue trying to force the child on her just take the kid and move around. It sounds like HE doesn't want the kid either and is making every excuse as to why the mother should be home taking care of a kid she never wanted while he's not contributing anything to either of them. He's making every excuse so he doesn't seem like a bad person abandoning his child when in reality he doesn't want the kid either. He would have stepped up and would've taken the child from her the FIRST time she said that she didn't want the kid. Instead he recording and playing the blame game as to who's fault it is that the woman has no help. And it isn't like she's asking for a lot she wanted help and a present father like he agreed to. She wanted to have a life outside of the child and he refuses to make that sacrifice for both of them. That lady is stressed and ain't no way he's working that damn much and is on section 8 ts is ridiculous

[@marquetrose3420]

I wouldn't say all that about my child. But I understand her frustration

[@kazania7653]

A lot of parents say this, just not on camera for the kid to see, that's the wrong part

[@yoursnatchedwig2856]

3:32 so we all gonna ignore that he wasn't even there when she was giving a birth 🤔😃

[@DynamicUnoTea]

He begged to have this baby and isn't there. She never wanted the kid. He doesn't think he needs to be there for the kid he begged for. She never wanted the kid.

[@larynbroussard6020]

The honest truth is there is no way you can know if a person is going to stick around. Not through marriage, long term relationships, or any other form of male and female connection. If you have a baby it is yours and he can disappear at any moment. It’s is just a fact. I feel for her, and I strongly recommend she get her tubes tied.

[@e113jelly6]

Right

[@cicithatzme132]

Better wise up. Protect your womb! Don't let any man trick you into being in a relationship where he intends to be absent then turn you into a single mother. Aint no way! I do think this was a skit though!

[@tweet43y]

I hope to god it is because this is just sad that man does not give a shit about her or that child

[@kammyr4082]

Young girls need to stop having these bums babies. They use babies as a method to sit a woman down. Protect yourself against these predators. As a childfree woman, the buggest threat i hear is "you need to have some kids"....

[@parklady4233]

He baby trapped her! He wanted to stop her from living. He wants her at home with his kid and he ain’t got no real responsibility to the kids.

[@kenyasth34]

I say this..... If you wanted to live your life and have fun or you need a break dont have kids...PERIOD

[@angelaholmes8888]

Preach

[@showme2540]

If he’s working so many hours why can’t he contribute to the household. She said she’s on section 8, paying for daycare, and isn’t contributing.

[@lordfreerealestate8302]

The same men will refer to looking after their own children as "babysitting" and doing chores as "helping."

[@Takashii85]

He really tried to shame her and she ended up shaming and exposing him

[@noonereally4798]

If he wants her than let him have her 100% and leave, he can’t keep you there, and so long as that kid is with at least one legal parent, it’s not abandonment, it’s just legal.

[@CordeliaWagner]

Give that child to fostercare. They have offices in most towns and cities. There is nothing wrong about giving up a child she never really wanted and only had it because he made promises he never planned to keep. Another case of "He wanted to be a father sooo badly".

[@MsMookalate]

You can be charged with negligent and still have to pay child support.

[@Las645]

Yes there is something wrong. Do you guys know how fucked it foster care is?

[@Gumbier_Than]

​@@MsMookalatefinally somebody understands. For the most part, safe Haven only lasts for the first 30 days. There seems to be no recourse if your kid is 9 and on the higher end of Oppositional Defiant Disorder, beating the shit out of all the other kids in the house no matter what you do. Usually they aim to vilify parents before offering help to parents, and slapping them with child abandonment charges.

[@boparks3204]

Give him custody, pay the little bit of custody like them and be a mom when you feel like it. Men will begin getting the picture.... if and when their moms and sisters stop doing the work for them.

[@cocoace7587]

She's on government assistance, and HE'S not doing anything to help his family . He can't pay child care . Soooo tired of Black men trying to shame their child 's Mom . Black men either do nothing or the bare minimum, then get on line , acting like HE'S a big shot . All alone , his baby is on government assistance. More women should give the kids to THEIR dads & dip , like many of them do . Then , maybe men won't try to put a baby in everyone they meet . 😌 # run 🏃‍♀️ girl , run # leave her with HER DAD 😊

[@AlexusVictoria]

Men think providing 50/50 is enough

[@indigoGoddess7]

She’s on section 8 lol he’s not even doing that. So many men complain that women enjoy social assistance. If he was making enough money to support her and the baby that he begged for - She wouldn’t need it! He’s waste. He can’t even provide for the child that he begged for.

[@rse432]

Both individuals are wrong. That man trapped her with the baby. She is wrong for agreeing to have his baby without thinking ahead of the circumstances that may arise. Both individuals was not ready to bring a child into this world.

[@beepbopboop7727]

She is less wrong than him though. Why convince a person to have kids and then abandon them.

[@rse432]

@@beepbopboop7727 Why did she allow him to be a serpent and persuade her to take the bait? She made the decision to have his baby through her emotions. I’m pretty sure he demonstrated the type of individual he is before the pregnancy. When we make emotional decisions out of our flesh, this is usually the results. Regret, guilt, anger, discomfort, anxiety, etc.

[@kammyr4082]

​@@rse432because she's young dumb and "in love"... this is her first experience. She didn't know he was going to be the typical in-house deadbeat.

[@kissit012]

She believed his promises and begging. His violation of trust she had in him to keep his end of the bargain is the bigger issue

[@amandafey]

Same thing happened to me, except I stuck to my guns and dumped the POS. I'm still childfree to this day. Back then, abortion was still legal, and I would've done that if I had to.

[@kelleemerson9510]

Your naive if you think children haven't been dumped forever and men are just as guilty if not more so. I admire her for trying and being honest she can't handle it alone. If he was doing everything he promised and she bailed out, then she should have some shame. The automatic adoration of a birthed child is another fantasy.

[@MsYooToob]

Let him have the baby he wanted so fuckin bad. I doubt she REALLY feels like that. This is to get his ass to step up. It may not be the right approach but these men are pushing women to an ugly place and they are ASKING FOR IT.

[@LoveK1]

No, I think she really means it. She doesn’t need to make threats, she wants out.

[@MsYooToob]

@@LoveK1 then if she wants out, let her go. Men abandon their families all the time and society allows it without consequence. People are only up in arms because she’s a woman and society places that maternal expectation on her when that is not an inherit trait of women. Patriarchy placed that on us. She was pressured into this when it isn’t even what she wanted. For all we know he could have got her pregnant intentionally.

[@kissit012]

Don’t invalidate her clearly expressed feelings. She knows what she thinks and feels. Many women feel exactly the same

[@sentb5744]

“You the only one not on the team”. I felt that.