move in silence: what i learned from an underrated life lesson

[@danis3115]

Bonus point: When you don’t share your highlights, people will sometimes assume that you don’t have anything going on or that you’ve fallen off. You have to resist the urge to post vacations, accomplishments, etc to prove people wrong.

[@EvieAswiti]

“proving people wrong” can sometimes come from an unhealthy wish of external validation

[@shawnlove4502]

​@@EvieAswitiThis is a great point. That is a need for validation.

[@EvieAswiti]

yeah bc even if you do prove people wrong… that feeling is very temporary and most times the people don’t care that much

[@SMARAGH20]

That's so true and I think it has a lot to do with being confident and secure in who you are and not caring about what others thinks

[@danis3115]

So true. I watched your videos a few weeks ago and started a social media break. I felt really good mentally. I went on vacation and felt like “I just have to post these pictures and let people know that I went.” I guess I needed people to tell me that my vacation looked nice.

[@Flootist1]

My parents always told me, “Move in silence.” Year ago, I went to a conference and a women said, “Silent moves. Loud actions.”

[@JesseWifeBot]

I just deleted my socials. Too many ppl were using it to read into my life without engaging and I hated the feeling. You gotta learn to actually connect with me to know anything about me. I love it. ❤❤❤❤

[@EvieAswiti]

Good for you 👏🏾 peace lives here!

[@justo4461]

“People want to see a level of imperfection.” This is such a powerful statement. Love you light, and wish you more success, peace and happiness.

[@EvieAswiti]

thank you so so much

[@LeeChrissy]

The garlic bread part made me laugh. 😂 Moving in silence is real. I was a newspaper delivery driver turned entrepreneur/business owner and I did that shift in silence. I pretty much disappeared for a year to keep out energies. I'm currently in silent mode as well. I like it better here. ❤

[@EvieAswiti]

Congratulations!!! 🗞️ Taking that time paid off

[@growing3glowing]

I 1000% agree with the whole moving in silence. My family is overall very private and I’ve taken this into my own life. One tip that I have is to never feel like you owe anybody an explanation no matter who they are (especially some internal and external family members).

[@EvieAswiti]

Yesssss 👏🏾

[@txspacemom765]

I took down the last of my social media last year. My "Family" got mad. Why? Because they wanted to make sure they were outdoing me. They have been talking about me since then and yes, I received a rogue text message when someone accidentally sent something to me, the whole time, my family trashing me. HA! Go be jealous, I'll go be fabulous! ;)

[@EvieAswiti]

I’m sorry you went through that. Always be true to yourself.

[@txspacemom765]

@@EvieAswiti 💜

[@Flootist1]

Yes!!!!! Putting faith in God is essential! Many are called , few are chosen. People label us as weird cause we do not move or do things as the collective does.

[@EvieAswiti]

This is the one.

[@allMinabe]

I lived in a strict and toxic home and wasn't allowed to say healthy opinions aloud. I wasn't allowed to learn basic human/adult things like filling out a form, learning to drive, and having a friend. It was not good . I din't realized that is a form of abuse that my dad did to me. Even when I used facts my dad lies and is in denial. Ive learned to move in silence not by choice but for survival. I'm learning to open up to friends but ngl its hard but they have been there for me. ❤I am thankful to God for giving me the strength 🙏 This message resonated with me and I learn from your videos♥

[@justbeingoctavia]

I’m so proud of your renewed strength and the only way is upwards now! 🎉👏🏾

[@EvieAswiti]

Hallelujah, girlie. Always remember that YOU define your identity no matter what your past is. You’re allowed to change your circumstances as an adult. Happy you resonated boo! 🫶🏾

[@Jade-rr8wh]

I resonate with your story! Christ gotchu boo❤ forever and always ✝️🥳

[@allMinabe]

@@justbeingoctavia YES!☺

[@allMinabe]

@@EvieAswiti I will remember your words♥

[@AbiAkoms]

Yes to putting your identity in Christ🙌🏾 More people need to do so! I absolutely agree with tuning out all the noise and having and listening to your own opinion. With the social media age,it's so easy to drown in the masses opinions. Another great video!

[@EvieAswiti]

Had to let them know ✝️ Perioso ☺️

[@spirituallysafe]

@@EvieAswitiAMEN! ❤✝️

[@itsvivi55]

Your inner glow is most definitely speaking volumes! By the way you favor kelly rowland in my eyes

[@EvieAswiti]

I get that a lot! Thank you for the compliment ☺️

[@itsvivi55]

You're welcome!@@EvieAswiti

[@tequilachanel7312]

Yes! That whole part about listening to your inner voice and not needing a second opinion it real! I stop allowing me ppl to live my life for me that ruined years life. I’d rather move in silence much more happier and I keep what’s mine. 🖤

[@EvieAswiti]

Emphasis on keeping what is yours. Good for you mama!

[@sunnni_]

Slipped up lately and started listening to the masses more than God, but now I am on my Ps & Qs again on shutting them out and moving in silence 🙌🏾 🙌🏾 . I know right now God is working on me being seen for my calling that he's told me to be obedient too. It's hard since all my life I have been use to being in the shadows and overlooked, but I know he's working on me to be seen but my personal life be unknown.

[@EvieAswiti]

amen

[@cjcr-28]

I love your videos on remaining silent! I've struggled with the conflict of preferring to be private/silent but wanting to create content & a personal brand. I have no interest in putting myself out there more on SM. I love seeing that you're able to create content and a brand for yourself without having to be on a million other platforms, too.

[@EvieAswiti]

Absolutely, Chelsea. YT has always been a love of mine. I’d rather focus on that and not spread myself thin. As a creator, it’s about creating value and not always about dishing all about my personal life online. Appreciate you for watching!

[@patricialohraa9520]

Here eating some Chinese food & working while catching up on your videos! I agree with you on a lot- I used to overshare/ have transparency just so I wouldn’t be labeled as stuck up or unrelatable or like “Lohra’s life is so perfect vibes.” But over the past year definitely realized people will sometimes use your lows to make themselves feel better about their own selves or as a sense of entertainment. Trust has to be earned- call me unrelatable or my life is perfect… whatever it is… but I’m not going there. We can smile and chit chat about other things until we make it there.

[@EvieAswiti]

Hey Lohra! Missed you! Thanks for sharing your perspective. I resonate with your experience. I’ve learned that the level of access ppl have to you is up to you at the end of the day. Let ppl say what they want. God orders your steps, not people!

[@theconfidentwoman3023]

Love the consistency always look forward to your videos

[@EvieAswiti]

🫶🏾 consistency is my goal for the rest of 2023 and beyond. THANK YOU for your never ending support!

[@yougetaspear7799]

Wow, what those do

[@albcrt]

GO OFFFFFFF, you really saving lives

[@mjgreenidge]

Who knew social media would become a media to compare and contrast and measure the worth of someone’s life? I fortunately never posted my personal life on social media. Now I only post about my business and it has nothing to do with my self esteem. It’s strictly information and then I get to maintain a very private life and my worth is not tied up into it. So i don’t have to wear different faces. I show up as a practitioner and nothing more.

[@EvieAswiti]

right… who knew?

[@daisiesandpandas1218]

Linked in its the worst for me, I went on there recently to realise peoole were just using it as another social media platform, personal things like birthdays have even made it on there.

[@Iguocho]

You're glowing babes! excited to watch this 🥰

[@EvieAswiti]

Thank you baby boo! Let me know what you think 😉

[@TweetsIsBoss]

discovering your channel has been such a blessing for me! that first point is so real, i start my second year in college in 2 weeks and i can't imagine the responses im gonna receive when i meet new people and they find out i don't have social media :< but im ready for it!

[@EvieAswiti]

LOL @ “craving garlic bread” 😩😂🧄🥖 You will be jussssst fine and you’ll most definitely stand out. So happy to have you over these parts of KZbin. It’s lovely here and I love that for us. 😌 Thank you for watching, sharing and supporting me!

[@TweetsIsBoss]

@@EvieAswiti 💌💌

[@nc3015]

I want to move in silence and not over share with my wife because she always has a negative reaction or she acts like she doesn’t care what I’m doing or what I want to share with her.

[@fitogabo9076]

Need a new wife

[@Kibbe_blog]

It’s such a pleasure to listen to you and to look at you 🙏🏻 Thank you so much

[@EvieAswiti]

You are so welcome

[@shannonbarbie2023]

Off topic You look like if Kelly Rowland and Jackie Aina was to have a child You gorgeous 😍

[@EvieAswiti]

Haha I get referenced to those two all the time - thank you so much 😊

[@daisiesandpandas1218]

Oh my gosh so I wasn't tripping, I was getting Jackie Aina, then someone said Kelly Rowland and I started seeing that too haha

[@sdelly19]

YES another video that I needed.. thank you I've been waiting for this part 2 of that video for so long!

[@EvieAswiti]

I was soooo overdue

[@natasha7406]

That’s so crazy how you recently posted this, and I just finished watching your first moving in silence video. I got so motivated from that video that I decided to check out your channel. Loving it here already, definitely subscribing. 💗💗💗💗

[@EvieAswiti]

Aw, yay! I was well overdue for a sequel 😅 Welcome to my channel, bae!

[@anaryn13]

So grateful for the wisdom you are sharing, it’s been so helpful in improving myself and my life

[@EvieAswiti]

this is why i make vids - to get comments like these and knowing you’re improving your life 💕

[@li.745]

From personal real experience💞🌸some old friends started doing weird stuff like ignoring my private messages but yet having time to watch my activities on social media…I dated my bf for a year and a half before letting my friends know so it was too late for them to interfere. U always hope friends wanna see u happy but u gotta screen ppl and be sure they have ur best interest and wold never take opportunities to lead u astray if they know u have a bright future💗

[@EvieAswiti]

This is the comment right here! We want to believe for the best, but that’s not always the case. It’s called being a realist! 🩷💕

[@li.745]

@@EvieAswiti this is so helpful sis🌸💗💞I’ve been getting way too many signs it’s time to leave social media🥺for these reasons

[@EvieAswiti]

Take that break and see how you feel after a week or two

[@gangstarrlizz1988]

I just watched the first video and it was awesome!!! thank you for your content I needed it right now !!

[@EvieAswiti]

You're so welcome!

[@555ayso]

Hair is so pretty!

[@EvieAswiti]

Thank you!!

[@Eman14128]

Hair is beautiful

[@EvieAswiti]

thank youuuuu

[@M.Laluna]

I love your channel ❤

[@EvieAswiti]

Thank you! Welcome 🤗

[@SMARAGH20]

I loved the first video bc it is what I do but didn't realize it was a thing. These videos confirm why I do it and love it and I'm so glad others are doing it! Great video! Also what camera do you use?

[@EvieAswiti]

Thank you for watching! My camera: amzn.to/3OqFzuq

[@SMARAGH20]

@@EvieAswiti thank you

[@EvieAswiti]

you’re welcome

[@shanilynyae]

Great video ❤

[@EvieAswiti]

Glad you liked it!!

[@eldiariochinodemeili3078]

❤ Tank you❤

[@EvieAswiti]

you’re welcome!

[@peachesandpoets]

You're stunning

[@EvieAswiti]

thank you so much 😊

[@Clark-n7x]

Hello i think you are very beautiful😢😢❤❤

[@marciagomes824]

Wow you so gorgeous woman . I love you hair .

[@EvieAswiti]

Thank you so much!

[@yougetaspear7799]

Can i 😝😛the 🐟🐟

[@inarijm]

I’ve been loving watching these videos and you have helped me with staying off instagram!! It’s truly so freeing once you let it go

[@EvieAswiti]

That makes me so happy. I felt an overwhelming sense of freedom when I did my first 2 week break from IG over a year ago. Then it turned to a longer break, to me not going back. I want everyone to experience that feeling!

[@savinthesun]

I know you are off social media and I actually did take a break from january-april of this year and I felt so good being off of it. I am now starting law school in two weeks, and mostly every group I am wanting to join only announces things on Instagram plus I am sure I will add people from school there. Do you think it is possible to move in silence when you still have social media? Any tips?

[@EvieAswiti]

This is a good question. I felt like this with FB. I used to only log on to gather the group updates and then log off. I might have to include more deets on a future video

[@savinthesun]

@@EvieAswiti thank you very much for your reply. I would absolutely love to see a video on this I’m sure others would too in similar situations. It’s so hard to have control to log on only for updates say once a week once I log on it keeps me going back to check “nothing” because nothing is ever going on every 10 minutes that I check lol. It’s a struggle.

[@EvieAswiti]

Lol! Right. I gotcha covered 😉

[@growing3glowing]

I’m with you on this. I got into pharmacy this year and there’s a lot of school related info on that platform. One thing that I do is that I don’t post anything on my story or main page. My bio is also just a scripture. So no one really knows about me. I also don’t plan on posting my white coat ceremony/orientation because I want it to genuinely be a moment for me and my family/support system.