When Trauma Speaks - Matthew Scarborough

[@ELElie]

I have a couple of friends that have a lot of trauma and I’m willing to show love grace, patience and compassion. However, like you said, It can be very difficult and painful too. Sometimes even toxic. We can be a support and I’m happy to do that but in my case I have one of my friends you is very codependent. It’s hard to navigate that as God should be the priority and focus and it sometimes feel I’m in Gods way because of her dependency on me. What do you do when after many years this person still identifies with the same trauma? There is very little growth or change.

[@MrMatthewScarborough]

It’s hard to say. Healing for some people takes years or even decades. I have known of some situations in the decades category and it is hard to be close to someone with that going on. Boundaries with love is probably the most important thing to protect yourself while still showing support the best you can. All along, we must lean into The Holy Spirit and whatever He leads in any given situation as well.