You CAN build self-discipline. Here’s how.

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This video is a mini guide to everything that I think should be considered when it comes to "self-discipline".
TIMELINE
0:00 Intro
0:18 Self-discipline vs Self-management
1:35 Mental Readiness
5:33 Managing desire
9:03 Manage your time
9:28 Managing your thoughts and feelings
11:59 Manage your environment
14:02 Managing your energy
I MENTIONED THESE THINGS...
☀️ Book: The Joy Choice by Michelle Segar - amzn.to/3swkh43
☀️ Study: The impact of overconfidence on our goals - L. Uziel and R. F. Baumeister, “The Self-Control Irony: Desire for Self-Control Limits Exertion of Self-Control in Demanding Settings,” Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin 43, no. 5 (May 2017): 693-705, doi.org/10.1177/0146167217695555
☀️ Study: Wanting more self-control does more harm than good - L. Uziel and R. F. Baumeister, “The Self-Control Irony: Desire for Self-Control Limits Exertion of Self-Control in Demanding Settings,” Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin 43, no. 5 (May 2017): 693-705, doi.org/10.1177/0146167217695555.
☀️ Study - Exercise, healthy eating and enjoyment: Woolley and Fishbach, “For the Fun of It” -www.researchgate.net/publicat...
☀️ Quote: “Motivation comes after action - action produces momentum.” - James Clear
☀️Quote: “A thought generates a feeling that, in turn, motivates a behaviour. If you want to change, trying to stop the last domino (the behavior) won’t do the trick. The feeling is the first domino.” - Georgie Pransky
☀️ Book: The Happiness Advantage Shawn Achor - amzn.to/3SHRrs1
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💫 A QUICK BUT IMPORTANT NOTE...
You always know you best. Please take with you from this video what resonates and leave what doesn’t. Some of what I share won't be appropriate for your situation.

[@alexandraapatino]

Does anyone mind explaining what she meant by “have a bias towards action over preparedness”? I can’t seem to figure it out. Thank you! 😊

[@muchelleb]

Hey! It's basically saying - don't spend all your time prepping and planning for your goals and new habits. Instead, take action, try them out, dive in - then you can do more planning and prepping based on what you learn. Does that help?

[@alexandraapatino]

Oh my! Yes, it definitely does! I’ve been struggling with this so much. I try and learn so much at once that I feel overwhelmed and stuck when it comes to taking action. You might have just changed my entire perspective. I appreciate you so much 😊

[@bumblebee_mrs]

@@alexandraapatino You're so sweet.

[@gothtaino]

most ppl know it as a procrastinating loop. you're getting ready to do that thing, but not doing the thing. as an example: my toxic trait is planning how I want to organize my clothes and use my organizers but don't actually do it bc I'm unsure and I want to feel confident in the choice before doing it- and 3 weeks later my clothes are still in the unfolded clean basket.

[@lifewithbecky]

The contrast between "self-discipline" and "self-management" might just be game-changing for me. Thinking about "self-discipline" immediately makes me feel out of control and helpless. Thinking about "self-management" - at least in the last 15 minutes as I've watched this video - makes me feel empowered and in control. Thank you for that perspective shift!

[@sourgreendolly7685]

Agreed! It reminds me of when I shifted my focus from 'not letting my emotions run my life' to using emotional regulation skills. It's the same concept but regulating is managing in this context. It feels a lot less out of control and it shifts my brain into problem-solving mode rather than wallowing. Shift from self discipline to self management has the same vibe so I'm definitely going to be trying it.

[@bumblebee_mrs]

How true, once I started desiring vegetables it became a habit to eat every day to the point where I stopped eating meat. I never really put the two together before as it happened naturally, it evolved that way for me. Great point MB. I also go on low mode of things that drain me daily, instead of quitting (eg: exercise, I do 10-15mins instead of 30min-1hr/day). But then I go hard on the good days where I have heaps of energy and in a good mood.

[@reckonerwheel5336]

This is the perfect video for me right now. I've been in such a funk with my long-term goals and haven't figured out why. The "mental preparedness" seems really useful, and the bit about replacing "How can I drive this behaviour?" with "Why aren't I doing it already?" is blowing my mind a little, as a person who always asks the former question. And perfectly enough, my answer to "Why aren't I doing this already?" is "lack of mental preparedness"! All the love, girl!!

[@muchelleb]

All the love back!! I am so glad this video came at a good time for you - honestly that question is a game changer haha.

[@juliejohnson-lepine9213]

Thank you for this video! I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety recently, and I've been struggling to get back into my habits, for fear of failing but also not knowing where to start. These are sustainable and manageable changes. Love it!

[@madison1680]

I was just thinking while listening to this, "You should write a book, like self help books." But as every video is a new topic, new research, new tips I thought "Why don't you in every video make a pdf of what you talked abt and maybe a worksheet?" Idk it just popped into my head lol-

[@mariachatzimichail]

That thing about managing my thoughts when something ''bad'' happens at the begining of my day or even at the middle of it, is something I should really look up. I always, without an exception, end up being miserable for the rest of the day and just waiting for that ''horrible'' day to pass so I can have a clear start the next morning. This though has killed my motivation countless times and has literally destroyed my whole day or even week when I keep that mindset on. Sometimes I even catch myself waiting till Monday comes to put myself back in track. Working with it will literally change my life. Even by taking a look at my KZbin chanel, someone can see that the promise I gave myself about uploading at least a video per week has fallen apart so many times, and it is because of that.

[@amynoonanmusic]

This may be my favorite video of yours over the past year. I've come back to it numerous times! Each next season of mine seems to make use of one or two of these strategies and I have to say, I've gotten more done than in the previous year. Always fire, M! Keep up the great work and keep sharing your passion!

[@sammyss147]

I’m not exaggerating when I say this is exactly the video I’ve been needing right now. Thank you so much for this! The part about "Why aren't I doing it already?” blew my mind a bit haha Been taking notes on this video!

[@aakashailajan]

I want to let you know that you inspired me to finally take the leap and upload my first KZbin video. Thank you ❤😇

[@ieshadierra]

A lot of good advice in here. Eliminating distractions helps a lot with self discipline

[@rachelwellman8709]

I just found your channel within the last week & I love your videos!

[@missdoogledog]

Love ❤️the analogy of the two paths - one overgrown and one straight and clear. As always, love your content!

[@thisoneiskym]

Amazing video! 👌 Always love your content but you keep putting out better and better videos & insightful /informed content. Thank you!

[@gotyourback5790]

Wooow, Michelle! I‘m so happy YT recommended a video of you again to me some weeks ago and I subbed again … And now this!! What an amazing eye opener and then with all this truly grand advice in it! Just what I need. Today I finally thought about the path after I will have my baby. I found out that I will also go back to work, like most… And I wanted to get out of it because I have energy issues and so many topics more that you adress. Holy moly! What a gift! Thank you so much. The start of finally getting my life really in my own hands! I have tears in my eyes 🙏 Thank you, beloved soul!

[@themelissalaurie]

Such a motivating video! :) Sometimes my energy can dip so it's helpful to hear these tips

[@ethical_sarah]

Thanks for sharing! 🙏🏼

[@evah6308]

Thank you! You always explain things in a way my brain 🧠 understands 🎉

[@narutosd8178]

thanks for the amazing videos

[@mairead354]

Yayyyyyy! 😁 I was just checking to see if you'd uploaded! 💓

[@muchelleb]

Appreciate you!!!

[@rosecaruso6487]

This is an amazing video!!! Thank you!

[@areebasohail9888]

Thank you so much. This video has helped reframed my mindset to have alot less shame about not maintaining these habits and being alot more productive in the questions i am asking myself. Hopefully this will lead me to be more consistent with my healthy habits. Love this video!

[@skytealicious]

Loved this video! Also noticed you are talking slower in this video, I really appreciate that. I did not want to give a negative comment but the fast speaking was making me a bit anxious watching your videos. I like this slower pace so much better 💛💛💛

[@kaielyse9313]

Very informative!

[@red3pants]

Great video, Michelle! You are great at synthesizing methods from multiple areas.

[@XeniaLys8]

Thank you

[@Gray_bug]

Ayyye, just liked the video and I'm the 1000th like! 😀Thats never happened before!😗✌

[@abegailmanus5004]

I like your content🙂 Keep it up!

[@sarahaziz6963]

awesome content that isnt talked about!!!! ORIGINAL!

[@healriseshine]

hahaha - we are too confident how much self-discipline future us has - SO TRUE!!!

[@happeebunny0329]

i love your videos so much 💕 always looking forward to watching and learning from them

[@JennLinsi]

LOVE this! On my YT channel I have mindset coaching content to help 20-somethings learn how to LOVE THEIR LIVES no matter what kind of ups & downs they’re experiencing. I’m pretty decent on a lot of personal development topics, but building self-discipline is always a work -in-progress in certain areas of my life. I love to hear new ideas on this topic! Thanks, Muchelle!

[@katherine.n.martinez]

Hi jenn, nice to see a fellow start up KZbinr! I as well have a YT channel where I dive into personal development to help 20 somethings! Keep it up!

[@andiebaker5491]

Love this. What books did you read that helped you get into journaling? I find myself in the same cycle of wanting to, but when it comes to doing it, I’m not sure where to start.

[@HeatherG003]

Love your content ! I always feel so motivated afterwards . Have a great rest of your day :)

[@hanadodd3059]

Thanks for this video. ❤ could you please tell me which book you read on how to journal?

[@saskiahicks4712]

Awesome video! Out of curiosity what was the podcast about journaling? ❤

[@sonjacroce7871]

@6:37 Can you share which podcast episode and book (on journaling)?

[@whoisnari]

I love your content! Keep up the good work girl! 💖 Can you do more journaling videos if you have anymore tips?

[@muchelleb]

I'll keep this suggestion in mind!! I don't have much on my mind right now, but fast forward six months or so and I'm sure I will :)

[@whoisnari]

@@muchelleb thank you so much Michelle!

[@karenmatzke]

@@muchelleb Would appreciate that too! What's the journaling podcast you mention around 6:37 ?

[@hollywilson6019]

Why should something you dislike doing take two minutes to get started? Mental preparedness?

[@sheethalg]

Can you point me to the podcast on journalling that changed your way of looking at it? Journalling is something I struggle with as well

[@LindsayD228]

Same here!

[@selenealexiac]

Yes please! Would love this info

[@karolina2293]

Hey watching you for years - is something going with the microphone? Sharing as I am so grateful for your content. X

[@hafsa1513]

Noticed this too.

[@muchelleb]

I need to switch up some settings! I thought I'd changed something to make it better in this video but it must not have quite done the job. Thanks Karolina :)

[@lexigoodnight]

Hi I'm early. I love your videos so much!!

[@muchelleb]

Ah thank you!!!

[@auroraborealis6398]

Completely different subject: do you have a video about paper clutter or do you have everything on your computer?

[@anaisknit]

What was the podcast about journaling you discussed at 6:36?

[@celesteschannel7721]

Hey girl!! I play your videos a lot while multitasking and there was a video you made about a questionnaire you made for your loved ones. You had them answer them for better gift ideas and such and I cannot figure out which video it was!! Can anyone point me in the right direction?

[@myfatsushi]

Can you share what book it was that covered all different types of journaling? I want to revive my journaling habit by finding a practice/topic that resonates more with me.

[@muchelleb]

Opening Up by Writing It Down: How Expressive Writing Improves Health and Eases Emotional Pain is great - it is a little science-y but it was a big influence for me!

[@jmsl910]

best part of my day: the sister i wish i had💕

[@Frankiesscaryshorts]

please can you tell me what the book that helped you to journal was called ❤😊 x

[@rainbow616]

Hey Michelle, where can I buy the phonestand? 🤗

[@Hexecode]

Leech spray 👁️👄👁️ Fantastic video, thank you for posting this!

[@sweetspirit444]

How do I make myself want to do my homework? Because I am having an awful time. This homework has killed my curiosity

[@jessical3151]

Muchele can you recommend a book for those of us struggling with perfectionism? I think its impacting so many areas of my life. I can be very "if I cant do it perfectly why bother at all" such as only having 5 minutes to exercise when my usual routine takes 20 or never buying a yoga mat to do yoga because I dont know if its the right one (I've spent literally hours of my life trying to choose), or "well my body will never be perfect after having a baby so why try at all" (obviously there's so many reasons but they don't seem to move me out of my stuck thinking) I really think this all or nothing, black or white, perfectionist thought pattern is crippling my ability to live my best life.

[@noname-eb7zb]

So true!

[@Ida-of5ku]

Does anyone know what happened to this weeks video?

[@muchelleb]

It’s coming!! Brand review has been delayed - I’m hoping they’ll get back to me today 💛

[@mahassenmeskini2595]

Can u please speak a little bit slowly so that we can absorb what ure saying?

[@mehditate]

I moved to a cabin by a lake in the nordic woods of Sweden from Miami. All i do is workout and hit the sauna by the lake and use it to fortify my mind and work on my discipline, distraction-free. I even post on KZbin about my life and would love your feedback 🙏🏽

[@hendrikoltmanns1884]

thx

[@dignamdiaz86]

Firs

[@sourgreendolly7685]

2nd

[@hafsa1513]

Super needed this right now in my life! I always come back to michelle's video when I need a pick me up when it comes to organizing my life. You are a life saver! 🤍🤍