My 10 Regrets in Motherhood (what I would do differently with my 2nd)

[@SammiDesire]

I regret stressing over nap schedules so much when my first was an infant. I have a second one now and he has learned to sleep on the go and we can still live life. With the first we were always trapped in the house to make sure she was in a cool, dark, room for every single nap.

[@Moxi44]

How did you teach him how to sleep on the go? Really curious because I have a 2 month old now and my 1st was/is also super tight with her sleep schedule so we couldnt make that many plans

[@SammiDesire]

@@Moxi44 I carried my second one around in the baby carrier all the time when he was little little. I couldn't stay home because my 2 year old had classes and playdates to keep up with. So he has always been used to napping in the carrier or stroller. Now that he is 6 months old I can always count on him sleeping in the carrier when we are out and about,, its his safe space. But I do try to get one good quality nap in at home to avoid overtiredness. It works for now, might not when he is older but fingers crossed that as long as he can fit in the carrier he can sleep on the go. (Also he HATES the car seat, I never count on car seat naps lol).

[@mommybreakdown]

This is a good one! Constantly stressing over sleep schedules that changed all of the time anyway. Wasted time 😆

[@Shameless_muse]

I had a covid baby as well and not having mom friends is rough. It’s still rough 🥴💀

[@goldone87]

i too had a covid baby and it's so hard not really having any other moms who also had a covid baby to relate, share experiences, etc

[@TheCarinaChapters]

Relatable

[@mimilovinglife4544]

A lot of us are in that boat, I'm also in a foreign country so it's double hard. The girl who lives opposite has a daughter my son's age so it's a blessing for him but definitely miss a real mum friend.

[@goldone87]

@@mimilovinglife4544 wish you were here in the states girly :)

[@ashleyfleming1515]

I had a Covid baby too. Not having help from family and friends was so hard. I had terrible PPD, so bad I had thoughts of self harm. For the longest time I had so much anger surrounding my pregnancy and becoming a mom because Covid took so much away from me. Many things I had always looked forward to that I could no longer have. Things as simple as having my husband at my appts with me. I’ve accepted a lot of it, but the pandemic really changed what motherhood looked like for me, for so many of us. Love to all the Covid mamas out there. You’re incredibly strong and brave. ❤️❤️

[@jill9606]

This is an interesting topic because everyone is so different! I also had a pandemic baby and I never took parenting classes, never had a doula, and never had anyone other than my husband in the birthing room and I will 100% do it the same way this July when I have my 2nd!

[@ctuero]

i LOOOOOVED the covid excuse to keep my family away for a bit hahahahahhahaa

[@angelarivera461]

@@ctuero Me too 😇 I so thankful that It only was me, my husband and my baby ❤️ some relatives are far away to be helpful

[@jill9606]

@@ctuero Yes! We had hardly anyone ask to visit right after the baby was born and it was awesome!

[@christengardner1466]

Same here that's how it went only difference this time in August is I'll be completely single and won't have anyone

[@sjn141]

@@christengardner1466 you’ll do great! My mom always say better to be alone than in bad company.

[@danikateaches7026]

Haha love the cake pop story! I regret obsessing over sleep schedules, “connecting sleep cycles”, and trying to get my son to sleep independently. He was/is a high needs, sensitive baby with physical touch as his love language and low sleep needs. This is the case at 19 months and I’ve come to terms with it and we’re happily cosleeping and go my cues for naps and bedtime based on a very loose schedule and life is sooo much simpler.

[@sfiga87]

Love this! I have one like that so know what you mean. If it wasn’t for so much information being pushed on us about how they should sleep etc I wouldn’t have stressed nearly as much about the waking. Then you get mums who think there’s something wrong when their 2/3 month old isn’t sleeping through the night!

[@yashaswiupadhyay1579]

Omg thanks so much for commenting this, it’s the most relatable thing I’ve read! I thought I was the only one

[@yashaswiupadhyay1579]

Can I ask how he’s sleeping now after 7 months of you posting this?

[@Cocosurn]

I regret not doing enough for myself. The first year is so crazy - but it's so important as a mom to exercise, find something to do that's just to make you happy, and get help. Even if it's just a few hours a week.

[@premadonna]

100%. This is what I tell all first time mums. Good mental health is number one - everything else flows easily from there!

[@PAINDEPICE25]

Same. I completely abandoned myself for my son and its so unhealthy! I would not do it again

[@saraoien3373]

I regret encouraging my husband to have reconstructive foot surgery 10 weeks before my due date. He was supposed to be fully recovered before the baby arrived and my little miss arrived 4 weeks early and he was nowhere near recovered so I was on my own for most of the early newborn stuff while recovering from a c-section. So incredibly thankful for my mother but it would have been nice to have more help from my husband. Also, we failed miserably on the sleeping thing, paying the price of those sins now!

[@braria9855]

In which way with the sleep? Please share :) What do you regret doing, what do you think is a problem that resulted from that behaviour. What would you have done differently with your present knowledge and what would be the hoped outcome?

[@Sarah83243]

I regret comparing/expecting MY baby and me as a mom to be like others, mostly influencer moms online. This lead me to constantly feeling like a terrible mom or thinking “what’s wrong with my baby”. The constant battle I had in my head telling myself “why can’t I do this? Why doesn’t my baby do this?”, was absolutely EXHAUSTING. Also spending so much money on things I thought would help me because I was gullible and listened to EVERY video I watched on KZbin. When in reality they sat there unused and took up space I needed for the things that actually helped me. Now when something comes up and I realize “okay this is kind of tough what can I use to help me” only then will I go buy that thing. Trust me, 9 out of 10 times, you WONT use/need that gadget you so desperately thought you would need! With my 2nd, I didn’t have this mindset at all and everything was so much better! ❤ Good luck mommas! 😂

[@sfiga87]

This is so true! Social media sometimes is the opposite of helpful. I was shocked when a friend of mine told me her popular influencer friend here in Australia had posted about getting her very young twins to sleep through. My friend said it was totally made up and not the experience they were having behind the screen at all!

[@braria9855]

@@sfiga87 whoa that's another level. I always just assumed that some people are willing to go to lengths of child harm/crying that I am not or that they lucked out on good sleepers which is also not uncommon. Would've never guessed people would go out of their way to lie about stuff like this...

[@jessicafigueroasosa8484]

You are GLOWING! Green is your color for sure!

[@sarahivey4225]

I had a midwife and LOVED it - she held my hand while I was prepped for an emergency c section and it was really nice to have that extra support where family and friends aren’t allowed.

[@mountainfitwellness3408]

Girl yes we had a doula! I gave birth at a birth center 12/2020 so I completely understand what you went through during the pandemic!! It was crazy but my doula was aloud in the room with my husband with a mask on. She was the most amazing addition to my birthing journey. She was there for us before we gave birth, during birth and after. She actually is now our in home nanny for my 2 year old daughter. During birth she was the one digging into my back for hours and hours and telling me when transitioning was happening and how to move to get through all the contraction waves. She was my ride or die and I love her so much and consider her family. Husbands and partners may not know what to do but with the help of our doula my husband felt supported and felt like he was actually doing things to help me through the process. Your channel saves me by the way haha. I always look forward to it!

[@meganmartin5334]

Wow this whole look is so beautiful! You look absolutely stunning in this video! I especially love your hair here

[@elizabethkinlaw9851]

I regret not keeping a journal or writing things down. Especially milestones but also just when we upped oz during feeds. What we first introduced for BLW. It all seems like such a blur 😢

[@malloryross4829]

I definitely stressed over nap schedules & wake windows. Man did my days revolve around that and how I stressed if I didn’t put him down at the right time then his naps would be crap. Wow has our schedules changed! I have an almost 2 year old and he naps and sleeps just fine, hate that I stressed about it and wasted my mind power in it. Thanks for posting this video and being so honest with us! ❤

[@AndreaMagarino]

Im kinda on that boat now with a 7 week old. I don’t really stress because he falls asleep in the car if I’m driving or the stroller (assuming he’s fed, of course) but how did you handle an overtired baby (if you did)? Mine gets fussssssy.

[@user-vn6xo2tc9r]

My biggest “regret” is having my daughter always sleep in a dark room/not taking enough naps with her. Now when I want to nap with my toddler, she doesn’t know what to do when I’m in the bed and thinks it’s play time 😅

[@alexasandidge4956]

I had been pregnant twice in the last 3 years and honestly because of Covid it made my pregnancies both go quite different than what would have been ideal. Not being able to have the support, celebration, and being able to live my life how I normally would have. I would have also loved to be able to keep up a workout routine. But it was such a hard time to do so.

[@annarocha3254]

To be honest I don't have a ton of regrets. I have two under two. Both COVID babies. I did the best I could with the resources available to me and I feel like it turned out okay. I did find out in hindsight that I had pregnancy depression, and I wish I had gotten medical help for that.

[@samcobb1353]

My biggest regret when I was a first time mom (I now have 3 under 3) was stressing about every little thing and worrying about judgement for what I was or wasn’t doing with my baby. Now, as a more experienced mom, I worry and stress much less and trust myself more than ever. Mom always knows best and knows their own babies best.

[@kelseybeale3894]

I had a doula for the birth of my daughter five weeks ago and let me tell you… she was worth her weight in gold! I wanted a medication free birth and I seriously couldn’t have done it without her. She was such an awesome support to both my husband and I. She helped A LOT with coaching my husband though different things he could do help me with the pain. She was also an excellent wealth of knowledge when it came to what position changes I should do to help encourage baby to get in a good position. She was also wonderful at advocating for me when I was in too much pain to do it myself when my provider was suggesting interventions she knew I didn’t want (we had talked about this extensively beforehand.) She was also such a calming and encouraging presence to have in my birth room. I could continue on and on 😊 my doula was not covered by insurance (ended up costing about $900), but she was more than worth the cost! I’ve had friends who has “registered” for a doula and asked for money to as a baby shower gift instead of your typical baby shower gift to help offset the cost a bit if that is needed :)

[@PanthORandPonAY]

I would say my only parenting regret is not becoming a parent!! Ugh. Here I am at age almost 43 and never ever wanted to be a Mom until now!! And unfortunately, it's not in the cards. BUT, I am an Auntie to 3 beautiful children who I can't even begin to describe how much I love! Honestly, if I were in a financial position to do so, I would look into adoption. I'm literally crying as I type this and I'm also about to start my period so, there's that. Lol. Brittany, I've been subbed to your channel for years and just want to tell you that it's so beautiful watching you parent sweet lil Arrow! You are such a wonderful Mom and I have mad respect for the way you share your coparenting journey too. It really shows how much you put Arrow above all and just make it work! You're amazing, Mama! Keep on keepin' on! Much love from the Bay Area! 💗

[@mimilovinglife4544]

I really respect this comment, i never thought I'd be a parent i was a wild child and a bit of fun turned into a pregnancy and a marriage. I love my family so much but sometimes i forget how lucky I am to have them, it's easy to miss my young carefree self. I feel very sad how many people tell woman to live their best lives rather than focusing on having a family because I definitely know many in your situation. My heart is with you.

[@pualabears8412]

Please try not to feel regretful. You can be the best aunty without sacrificing any of yourself. Being a parent is hard, if I could tell my younger self this, it would not have been so high on my to do list 🤗

[@LysHeaster]

I really enjoyed this video as it showed that parents aren’t perfect and don’t do the best things always first

[@hannalevy2507]

I had a doula and it was out of pocket but it was the BEST DECISION EVER MADE! I didn't realize that I'm just on my own during labor and as supportive and loving my partner is they can't really help you at all. I found my doula to be very data driven, supportive, caring, and supporting what I wanted for birth (which was natural and no epidural). Long story short I had the best birth, no epidural, exactly how I wanted and anything I did was supported and I was made to feel empowered. I'm having my second soon and I hired my doula again.

[@md-s7221]

So agree with everything but especially the exercise. I was also a covid mum and lost all my muscles while sitting around during pregnancy...little walks didnt do it. Trying to decide if I want another so I'm starting with a trainer in a couple days. I'm going to train like it's a big sporting event I'm in and then decide if I want a second. I'm either going to be in great shape in my second pregnancy or I'm going to be back in shape for life:)

[@charlotta5660]

I regret not reading up on safe cosleeping earlier. My baby only wanted to sleep on me and I started dreading going to bed. I now have a happy 2yo who sleeps long stretches in their own bed and I'm grateful for that.

[@mimiadir7037]

I also regret not making any mom friends, and living in LA its pretty hard to find people you connect to. I also regret how much bonding experience and time ive lost to nursing school, i should have taken more time off.

[@caitlyngilmore1705]

Agreed about a doula! We almost didn't hire one and last minute my husband said "nope" to handling me alone in L&D and we are SO GLAD she was there. We were able to use one through the hospital and could pay with our HSA/FSA. She helped us navigate what became an unexpected induction that, after two days, became a c-section and got me the best possible birthing experience with my daughter by dealing with the doctors/nurses so that we could have as much private time as possible.

[@steph9561]

I got a doula because I didn’t have a maternal figure to be there for me during birth and I wanted to be sure that my wishes were front and center. TOTALLY worth the money!!!! It kept me calm, focused and not worried about things.

[@gabriellev233]

I totally agree with the doula! I gave birth in England and had two midwives in my birthing team, it was amazing having that much hands on support.

[@kathleenhochstatter822]

Doula was 100% worth it. Helpful in the weeks leading up to birth. Really helpful for my husband to have someone to process with.

[@claudiamorales6345]

🤣🤣🤣 the Starbucks/cake pop regret

[@stephanieclare7062]

I also had a baby during the pandemic and didn't get a mother's group to learn and grow with. Luckily my best friend had a baby 6ms prior to me, but our milestones are 6 months apart. One thing I really regret is not putting our name down for child care the moment I found out I was pregnant, now we are on every waitlist to get my daughter some social interaction with kiddos her own age.

[@ellechanel18]

I had my first baby during the pandemic too. My second baby is due in March. I regret exclusively pumping and obsessing over how much milk I was producing for 18 months and losing sleep just to pump in the middle of night. I will definitely try to nurse more this time. I also regret not documenting my first pregnancy more and my first baby’s milestones.

[@DianeIsLuv]

THE CAKE POPS! Omg we live at Target and ours has a Starbucks in it. The other day, they didn't have any pastries and the meltdown that happened once she realized she wasn't getting ANYTHING. I must say, I felt terrible.

[@aracelihuerta9241]

always inspiring to be better as a young mom🤍

[@tiffany3511]

Haha the cake pop regret was cracking me up….probably the only “good” thing about having a child with a wheat allergy is that we never had the opportunity to introduce her to them 😂

[@ElizabethRoseMortag]

I wish I had my mom and sisters close by- my husband went back to work two days after we got home from the hospital, that we stayed for two days after my emergency c section. And allowing myself to feel pressured to breastfeed for as long as I did (it was a terrible experience for me), as soon as I exclusively pumped I finally started to feel and enjoy the bond with my son.

[@captivated388]

A doula is a MUST have for birth for me. Best money I spent during my whole pregnancy. And my husband loved our doula too. My doula coached both of us through it and I can’t imagine having the birth of my dreams without her.

[@pualabears8412]

I am also of the thought, the more at the birth the merrier, the dad can often be overwhelmed and not actually know what to do and it's a tiring process for all so people can tag team it. I had my then husband, mum and best friend at my first, my mum and sister with my second (partner wasn't in my life at that point) but he was for my third and due to COVID it was just me and him. I really wanted his mum there to get the opportunity to watch a grand baby be born but it wasn't to be. It does take a village to birth and raise babies and to have female company (naturally more nurturing/patient/understanding or have been through it) really helped me.

[@kimberleylibby1028]

Most major regret- not having a doula!!! Having a baby during Covid was soooo hard! I live in Canada where the restrictions were pretty severe and having a baby during Covid, in the middle of winter and being mandated to not see family in nearby cities and friends within the same city even, was mentally and emotionally taxing.

[@taniadowzansky9542]

As a fellow Canadian and COVID Mama I agree with everything you said.

[@mv8744]

Loving the short hair on you!!! Brings out your beautiful features ❤

[@amykristic2980]

I had my two kids 17yrs apart and my youngest is only 2 months younger than yours. Like you, and most of the other comments, I regret keeping it quite during her naps bc she is now the lightest sleeper I have ever seen. We aren't having another one so just spreading the info forward to other moms!

[@melanielastrina643]

Thank you so much for the cake pop advice! 😂 I introduced my 2 year old to them last week, but I think it’s early enough that she hasn’t put two and two together yet 😅

[@ftmbytalita]

Omg yes! With my first, I did body weight workouts only and now, I’m lifting the entire time & feel so much better! But you definitely shouldn’t if it’s your first time lifting pregnant. And for ftm, the peanut app helped me find the best mom friends! I was on it when I was pregnant ❤

[@itslexxxx]

Reading these comments made me realize how lucky I am with my boy. He’s 3 months old and sleeps wherever we are usually sticking to his schedule. I went back to work once he was 8 weeks old and he comes to work with me in his carrier and has a set up at my office. I think leaving the house so early (although terrifying) really got him used to being around all the noises and people. I try to stick to a routine but really he kinda does his own thing as far as naps and when he’s hungry and I respect it lol I didn’t have the option of only naps at home with the sound machine and most of the new parent stuff and it’s honestly helped in the long run.

[@braria9855]

So precious that you can take him to work with you!

[@itslexxxx]

@@braria9855 thank you!! ❤️ definitely a challenge but so worth it ❤️ also my coworkers make it a lot easier by being understanding and thoughtful when it comes to having a new baby in the office too! So grateful

[@federicabrunetti3019]

I would a 100% get my baby to be used to being looked after from other people (other than mom and dad) way before the one year old mark. It just made any form of care impossible without crying like crazy and me not being able to have any time off

[@ctuero]

DOULAS ARE AMAZING they are not often covered by insurance but i feel like it is changing slowly. my first doula was also an IBCLC which i HIGHLY RECOMMEND. both doulas were amazing and calming presences who had just seen this all before and knew all the things to try. if you hospital birth with an OB they are barely there, and your nurses change shifts so your doula is YOUR CENTERING presence around birth

[@blooms87]

Bittaney, also a Covid mom and you were my mom friend through your videos ❤.

[@jessicaseier3657]

100% agree with the Starbucks regret! I don’t have kids yet but my dog whines every time we drive past a Starbucks because I got her pup cups. Omg I feel terrible when I don’t stop now!

[@meenakshibhatt7976]

My regrets as a mom - feeding her purée till she was eight month (nobody told me about BLW 🤷🏻‍♀️until I researched myself so started by 8 month), making her sleep in dark silent environment, was not able to breastfeed her much for medical issues, no mom friend, no baby friend coz of pandemic (she is just comfortable with her parents and with others she gets numb and don’t play with other kids) .. buying too many new born clothes . Some I had to giveaway with tags on coz she could not fit in anymore.

[@aleatheacornejo1941]

I’ve been watching your videos since I was pregnant and I love following you through your journey❤

[@auston-clairemerrill7995]

I regret not having a doula too! I hope I have one if I have another child! Support is so encouraging

[@incaamor4817]

My baby is now 9 months old. I completely agree with the first few. I would have liked to take the classes in person vs online mostly bc the hospital didn't want to share the PowerPoint presentations. So we had to physically go up to the hospital Fridays at 1 and request a hard copy. I will absolutely have a doula if I have a second bio baby. My experience was horrendous and traumatic. My delivery dr was straight out of a nightmare (nurses complained and the hospital conducted an investigation). Related to the above, I know my mom would have really shut down so much of what the dr did. I regret so much lying to my parents and telling them, "oh no, no one besides the dad is allowed per the covid restrictions." I wish I had a prenatal appointment with a lactation consultant. I had a negative experience and what most would consider "unsuccessful" as someone with low supply. I really regret not making my intentions and desire to breastfeed very explict to my (supposed) support system. I didn't think I had to...

[@bethanymora8890]

I got pregnant at the beginning of Covid and my immediate family lives out of state, so that impacted my pregnancy and postpartum experience. Most of my regrets are from pregnancy though rather than motherhood. I regret not getting help for my SPD (like seeing a PFPT), I regret having an induction, I regret not better informing myself about what happens during an induction and afterbirth with my baby, and I regret not getting to experience the celebration of having my first baby with a baby shower. Postpartum I regret not consulting with an IBCLC when my daughter had weight gain issues and I struggled to breastfeed her. I also regret how my daughter’s Well Baby visits went for the first year.

[@KatieGraceHealthFitness]

I’d out train the cake pop association/expectation. Go past/park nearby, Validate their feelings but stick to your boundaries. After a few ‘tantrums’ all will be well. A good life lesson that we don’t always get what we want

[@rebeccahvanhulle1385]

Our doula was allowed in the room because she was considered a “medical professional” my daughter was born 10.2021 and my mom and husband were both allowed in room. She was beneficial for laboring at home, coaching through the waves, other pain relief methods, she helped explain things that midwife was saying in a more understandable way. My husband was getting stressed because he felt the midwife wasn’t understanding our concern during my dysfunctional labor and our doula acted as a middle man. I will say at the time it was fully out of pocket for us and when I was released from the hospital I received a text from her stating due to my extensive length of labor we owed her more money. Now this was in our contract however at no point during labor did she say we were going over her “standard billing time”. So be clear on their hours and billing. Also when it came time to actually push I could’ve done without her as it was my mom, midwife, nurse, and husband coaching me and she was just in the background.

[@rebeccahvanhulle1385]

Also now in some states doulas are covered under insurance.

[@nicolekerlin6185]

I found out I was 8 weeks pregnant a week after the first shut down in March 2020. Wild time. I was actually glad only my boyfriend was allowed in the room cause pandemic or not I didn't want anyone else there and it was easier to say they couldn't be there than to say I didn't want them there. However I do regret how I handled the newborn phase. I know my daughter is my first(she is 2 now) but I basically was locked in a bedroom nursing seemingly always but I didn't even try to go anywhere with the baby unless we had to go grocery shopping or something. I made so many excuses and just really isolated myself. I know I was adjusting and trying to soak up time with a newborn but when I go out now and see women with their newborns in public it makes me sad that I really stopped my entire life and didn't try to at least go for a walk or something when I felt I could. Weird regret but if we have a second baby I'd like to get out at least a little bit and not be glued to a bed with the newborn.

[@christy406]

I wish i had more mom friends.

[@cinthiaham1517]

Oof, I was fully naked with both of my births but I would never have the grandparents in the room 😮 That’s so cool that you’d do that! You go girl! ❤🎉

[@Vero.does.better]

Great video, as always. I have to say, I am pretty proud of how I handled this last pregnancy and raising my daughter. I became a mom 16 years ago, then 6 years later I had my middle child, and now I have my toddler. I was forced to take a chill pill with her, because I developed anxiety after having her, and so I am very laid back and I very much go with the flow. I was a lot more into just doing what felt right than trying to follow someone else's advise that was just not feasible for us. Another great video, Brit. Keep up the good work. Btw... the way you are talking....yes, you are having another one, no doubt. lol

[@victorianance4093]

Had a covid baby too.. I think watching your videos helped me get through the hard times but I also have thoroughly enjoyed your videos!! Love the cake pop story… I feel like this is so real life toddlerhood. You are awesome ❤

[@MsUkedude]

Omg Brittany I need this necklace! Where is it from? Btw I love you! You look beautiful

[@linnyp5846]

Lol I knew my mom intuition was on point. I am hiding that cake pop from my 2.5 year old for as long as I can. I won’t do it! 😂

[@kennydianabrown7359]

My husband and I interviewed and hired a doula at 12 weeks pregnant and she also was certified and did birthing classes (with other couples) and hypnobirthing (personally just with us in our home). Having a doula the entire time was like having a guardian angel. She supported us, everything we knew we wanted and when I started having contractions she came and stayed the entire time! She was key in our home water birth here in the Netherlands and she didn't make me feel crazy for wanting a birth at home. Massages all night, positions, shower, walks outside, she was there for us and me and for someone who does not have women who support and encourage such birthing wishes, I felt like she was all I needed to get me through to see my baby. Really, whatever it costs, search for and find a doula you can leave on and feel supported by. The best $900 I ever spent! That includes multiple visits through pregnancy, massages to induce labor 😂, all of my labor and postpartum visits.

[@LuciPurr51]

Its pretty cool I was able to have the chance in April of 2021 my Husband and mother were with me, and my mifwife team stepped back and let my mother deliver my son :) I don't find it strange, we're very open with eachother, my mother was in the field for 15+ years. She sat on that high forever.

[@kayladominguez5017]

When I got to the 10th regret, I realized Brittany needed this video more than I did😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@brittanybalyn]

Hahahaha 😂

[@bizzyandbart]

Some of these were so relatable! The Starbucks one is my fav! I have similar but different versions of this.

[@Thelilmissbz]

I love the cake pop rant 😂 they are so messy I understand!

[@aunekambonde1393]

I agree with number 5. My next baby whenever that is, I'll be having my child sleep around noise. I regret not doing a maternity shoot, I had my son at 21 and I was broke, so next baby I'll be doing all the shoots, doing all the stuff to document my journey.

[@melanieh1615]

My regret with my first, was not paying attention to wake windows and sleep schedules. I learned my lesson the second time around.

[@AndreaMagarino]

Some say they regret paying too much attention. Why do regret not paying attention? How did it affect you? I have a 7 week old and I’d like to get your perspective.

[@tanjakorevaar1354]

@@AndreaMagarino Following along :-D

[@melanieh1615]

@@AndreaMagarino Sorry for the delayed response. I've been sick with the flu! I would just say that I should have paid more attention to wake windows and sleep times because I didn't realize that newborn babies are only awake for such a short time before they need to rest again. My daughter would be overly tired when I tried to put her to bed which would make for a cranky baby because she was awake for too long. I also started dropping naps wayyyy too soon and didn't realize that a lot of babies take 2 naps a day till they are around a year old. I should have done more research.

[@meganhasenmueller455]

😂😂😂😂 “they see the mermaid they want the cake pop” lol!! So funny

[@Thelilmissbz]

I also had a Covid baby. I actually found out I was pregnant right after lockdown started so it was really hard mentally being isolated!!! I regret not taking care of myself sooner. Now I do more and I still feel guilty like getting my nails done but I’m doing things to slowly start feeling like a person again instead of just a mom.

[@Cinderellaraye]

1. I regret not keeping up with my baby book! 2. I regret not fighting for my mom to be in the birthing room (she had an eye infection and didn't want to chance being in the room with us) 3. Not keeping all of my breast milk ( I donated a ton of milk ) 4. Putting too much milk in the bags to freeze (apparently breast milk doesn't go up in quantity like formula as the baby gets older.) 5. Stressing about what other people told us about us about co-sleeping ( She moved to her own bed a few months ago because she was ready at 1.5 years old 💔)

[@oohlalaseoul]

I gave birth at Gracefull birthing center In silverlake LA, I had a doula (she helped me before during the birth and postpartum she gave me massages, sitz bath and made food for me everyday) it wasnt covered by the insurance but I didn’t care because it was so worth it and I am lucky to be able to do it ! I have literally no regrets 😂😅

[@bethanymora8890]

Thanks for mentioning this! I really want to birth at a birth center next time I have a baby, but didn’t know of any near me. Silverlake is a bit far from me, but not bad!

[@liesethbanda7115]

The cake pop is so true !!! I have to be careful which entrance I go in into target because then I don’t hear the end of it with my toddler ! Lol

[@A.pardocreations]

Good tip for kids who don't like Headwear have their favorite person wear them my son hated hats loves pompa and hed watch him wearing hats and now he WANTS YOU to put a hat on him

[@AprilT72]

I regret nothing during pregnancy I was in complete survival mode. I regret not "teaching" my baby the difference between night and day sooner and the amount of screen time she had as young as 6 months.

[@elizabethdks]

The Starbucks moment was cracking me up

[@rawsteph4114]

Though my husband and I took some online classes, they were almost entirely focused on vaginal births. I unexpectedly had to have a C-section and had some complications and I felt so unprepared. Your birth may not go according to plan, so I highly recommend being ready for different scenarios.

[@Oak23722]

I think my only parenting regrets are 1. Not breast feeding and 2. Screen time. When I have another baby I’ll definitely breastfed and also limit screen time much much more than I did with my first!

[@Fendi106]

Why screen time?

[@Oak23722]

@@Fendi106 I think I just allowed my son to watch too much screens at a young age. Mainly because I liked the background noise but I think it’s unnecessary to watch a lot of tv until maybe after 2

[@Fendi106]

Oh ok, I am asking because I am a mum of a boy, my first. Sometimes the screen saves me since I am alone in the house with him all day while my husband works....if I need to cook or leave the living room I know when I put cocomelone that he will stay put for a bit....

[@AndreaMagarino]

Why do you regret not breastfeeding?

[@Oak23722]

@@AndreaMagarino My son has massive gas issues because many formulas didn’t agree with him, I’ve always been super curious that if I breastfed maybe that wouldn’t have happened

[@hannahpalmer8043]

I relate soooo much to the cake pop thing 😂😂😂 momma needs caffeine and now the toddler needs the cake pop lol

[@samanthaluis5434]

I regret not enjoying sleep whil pregnant and not leaving an abuse patner that ruin it for me

[@evahymel4357]

Yes to all of these! Especially the doula. Everybody said it was a waste, but I would 100% get one if I were to have another baby.

[@Dana-mb1hd]

I regret not asking for help when I needed it.

[@amyann47]

My second would nap with noise but only contact naps. So there’s always pros and cons to each. I think most of it is based on baby’s temperament. Also I didn’t use a carrier with my first and use 2 all the time with my second. 2nd baby loves it, 1st hated it. Agree about baby shoes.

[@claudiar2972]

"they should have been there and they should have seen my vagina" soooo great.. I love it

[@ashleyneufield1038]

Honestly just not being educated enough in the newborn stage. For the next child I have I feel like I would go into recovery a little bit more prepared! I would encourage myself to continue to breastfeed. I would also look into getting a doula!

[@madiArabella]

You look so beautiful!! And this color is stunning on you

[@MaryElla13]

As a mom of a 3.5 year old and about to have a baby in a month I agree with everything you’ve shared 100%

[@ag.205]

Starbucks Tip: Try swapping the cake pop for Martin's apple chips from Starbucks. They have one ingredient...apples and my two-year-old loves them. Guilt-free. Worth a try!

[@meenu609]

Literally, this list and your experience is mine too. DITTO!

[@dorkasaurous]

5:52 the Juna app is awesome for doing prenatal workouts at home!

[@claraarnaudin7236]

Hello Brittany! I absolutely love your content, thank you so much for sharing your experiences! If you are looking for an alternative to Cocomelon, I STRONGLY recommend Bluey !! My partner and I didn't want to endure cocomelon and Bluey is honestly an amazing show to watch for toddlers AND parents :)

[@teannabergeron2473]

No doula first time second time had a doula and it was so nice to have the support and eduction as my husband was able to focus more on me and less on every little detail

[@lyricash3449]

Stressing about the baby book. I had a really hard pregnancy, her dad was not and still is not a part of our lives.. and My daughter will be one in may, and I have nothing in her baby book. I cry over it LITERALLY every day..

[@motherhoodinprogress]

I totally agree with almost all the regrets you listed! Especially the part about having family there. I had my whole family in the room when I had my first daughter and it was amazing. When I gave birth to my twins, it was just me and my fiance (mostly because we don't live near family now but also Covid) which I thought I was fine with until we went through it and WOW it wasn't great. So much harder and so much more lonely.

[@ctuero]

i do not say this lightly. . . the cake pop rant was TOP TIER CONTENT. best video yet.

[@hannahwollenzin50]

My regret is also over-buying newborn items. As a first time mom I was filled with "omg look at allll these cute things, I need them for her!" but we ended up not using nearly half of the stuff we bought. Also stressing over sleep and feeding schedules when she was a newborn/young baby. When they're that young, they will dictate the schedule based on their needs, not you 😄

[@katherinesingleton2133]

We booked our duola the day before the world shut down but by July they were allowed again in NY. They weren't going to your house though and that's the part I would have liked. The hospital part was just me screaming for 2hrs until the anesthesiologist finally came and then I had to make small talk at 4am with the doula.

[@karobirdy]

I regret trying sleep training and not following my instincts. In the end, what works for us is what suits me and my child best. Being told there's only one way to improve sleeping habits is patronizing at best and harmful at worst. Realizing there's really not one fix fits all and trusting myself more has made an enormous difference in my approach to motherhood.

[@alexamcfalls4099]

Yes, and now my kids know that target has a Starbucks too😂 slowly trying to switch over to the whip cream in the cup lol