10 Things I Wouldn’t Do As A New Mom (I wish I was told these when I got pregnant)

[@HealthNutNutrition]

Just being truly open and honest on the things that are just no's for me as a new mom, even if that means missing out on "sales" when buying toddler clothes 11:32 😅

[@shopwithjen]

As a momma to 5 that are now older 16,18,20,22,23, I thing these are great tips momma!!!

[@rarah4266]

Don’t be nervous about posting controversial topics. Your fans love you and this video is really helpful! Even for new moms or future moms! If anyone has any hate comments, then they shouldn’t be here. Thank you thank you!

[@HealthNutNutrition]

thank you for the encouragement and support

[@PrincezMichelle1]

I love that you talk about these things. I've watched you since before Sage, my son is just a couple weeks younger than Sage. He didn't take a pacifier either which made naps harder

[@ChristmasSongsMerry]

That's so interesting about bathing. I'm in the UK and the advice is explicitly to avoid soap and products for at least the first month of life as their skin is so delicate. Not bathing every day is also suggested in order to avoid drying out their skin. I know when I was a baby it was common to bath ever day and that's what my parents did, but the advice here has since moved on.

[@pamelax5355]

I’m UK and due start of April, i keep seeing hospital bags with baby soap and was a little confused and didn’t know if i should pack this. Assuming UK advice is just water and cotton wool?! Think i’ll stick to this for now

[@kinseyjohnson4341]

I had so many people trying to get us to bottle and formula feed instead of breastfeeding. My son was a natural at nursing and was gaining greater than the average baby so we were doing wonderfully and it was incredibly stressful and annoying that it was all about what would be "easier" for me or oddly addressed as if it was more normal or appropriate to bottlefeed. I breastfed my son until he was 20 months old. Our bodies were created to feed our children! And other than in first world countries it's not taboo to do extended breastfeeding. I love your content about nursing and speaking up for extended breastfeeding 🙂

[@chatgpt4135]

Even in Developing countries breastfeeding after 6 months or 1 year old is a social taboo, also, as u know normal body like female torso is treated as 'Shameful view ' in society, but devoloping countries have more negative societal environment for feeding moms, mummy can't safely feed if she forget their scarf or cover (which shouldn't be compulsory ), ladies breastfeeding rooms or such special designed places in public areas like office, railway station , etc aren't clean n maintained or secure or guarded , Less sights or views of women being able to nurse her baby anywhere while she is travelling or walking (only poor women can ), if a baby suddenly feels hungry n mother needs to feed, everyone else is forced to get out of car or her house , or if she is in public everyone try to look away with disgust or panic or get confused how to hide her where to keep her and control her movements or let baby keep crying if she can't hide while feeding , All thing makes the mother feel 'BREASTFEEDING MILK TO HER BLOOD CHILD' should be something she must be ashamed of, or it's a difficult, uncomfortable n shameful quality god gifted to make a 'Womanly Life Difficult' as it causes inconvinience to people arnd her but she can't feel the convenience it causes to her baby and herself, also most hospitals force milk powders to feed just born infant saying 'New inexperienced moms can't do mommy duties and just born baby's sleepy n dumb n nobody taught him how to suck properly from nipple, so better if doctors artificially feed' LOL

[@chatgpt4135]

Only very poor nations like Phillipines, some African nations Certain South American ones like Guyana, Bolivia, are the ones where woman can breastfeed her child anywhere whenever emergency arise even without needing a long covering scarf lol and ppl really don't bother her while she is alone nursing quietly

[@ebonyqueen86]

I’m there with you on the walking thing. I see all these babies in his daycare care walking already and its hard not to compare. Thank you for sharing that Sage was a “late walker.”

[@LaMaletadeCarla]

The thing I've done with my daughter Lucía (now 21 months) is second hand clothes. You can easily find amazing clothes for a cheaper price and it's more sustainable :)

[@chatgpt4135]

Lol In our culture, It is believed that baby's first clothes must be second hand, which were used by it's longest surviving siblings It's kinda culture or tradition followed even now, maybe the reasons were maternal n infant mortality was high in olden days and now it's all developed but they still believe wearing surviving baby's used clothing for a newborn brings good luck n destiny

[@LaMaletadeCarla]

@@chatgpt4135 love love love this! in Spain is still not that common!

[@dianeolas1007]

Thank you for sharing! I'm a FTM to a 5month old and worry about SO SO much! I have implemented a lot of the same things you talk about. I'm learning to be stronger in my decisions for our baby, because like you said, we love her more than anyone else and know what she needs. Thanks for the reminder though!

[@HealthNutNutrition]

You should give yourself a lot of credit because you have a big and very tough job. You're doing amazing and yes you know your babe the most.

[@valeriejkelly]

Definitely agree especially about kissing on the face/mouth, it just always made me uncomfortable especially when thinking about the transmission of germs/viruses etc. 100% agree.

[@angelaburns2437]

This just made me cry. My son is 17 months and not walking independently yet but he is the fast crawler. Folks always comment on his delay but why walk when you can crawl super fast? Thank you for this.

[@Farxadiyoguul]

It’s also ok to help him out get him those push walkers.

[@angelaburns2437]

@@Farxadiyoguul I think this is the kind of advice this video was hoping to avoid. Please do not assume that we, as parents, have not introduced this stuff to our child. Your advice was unwarranted.

[@Farxadiyoguul]

@@angelaburns2437 we all need advice specially new parents. You may have introduced it but there may be parents who haven’t. If the advice benefits you take it if not leave it. We are here to learn from each other not get offended.

[@KarineR13]

Loved this video! Everything you spoke about was so helpful and reassuring. I’m a momma of a 5 month old and I agree with everything you say. It’s nice to see I’m not the only parent with the same thoughts 🥰♥️

[@HealthNutNutrition]

Not at all so many mama's feel the same!

[@pamelax5355]

This is really helpful. I’m due 6th April and was debating with buying dummies (UK pacifiers) 😊I don’t think i’ll bother for now. One thing I’ll definitely not do is record a meltdown and send to my friends/family… I don’t get why people do that. Also what frustrates me is when people tell a friend or family how badly behaved their child has been in front of them… surely that’s just encouraging it and giving them that negative attention?!

[@jacksontricks3682]

Hi! I just wanted to thank you for all the help in your videos❤ I have a 6 month old as a first time mom I was so worried about so many things but you have put my mind at ease. Thank you❤❤❤❤❤

[@HealthNutNutrition]

So happy I could help 🥰 You just have to do what is right for you and your little one

[@melissaholcomb48]

13:01 my son didn’t start walking until he was about 16 months and within the first few days he twisted his ankle and REFUSED to walk again until 2 weeks before he was 18 months but then he took off. It’s all at their own times. My daughter is almost 16 month and is a great crawler but isn’t walking yet.

[@karleendam79]

LOVE this video! 100% agree! What drove me nuts is the walking thing.. my son didn’t walk until 17 months and so many people had opinions/suggestions😒

[@HealthNutNutrition]

Completely understand every child is on their own journey and there is nothing wrong with that!

[@heatherlynn2845]

Love this! I have a toddler (17 months) and I totally agree with each of the points you mentioned. My daughter didn’t take a pacifier either, and it really stressed me out in the beginning! I think I was tempted to believe she needed one and I tried so many different ones 😅 I wish I hadn’t worried about that either. We survived and now I’m so glad i don’t have to wean her from it. I think it’s good to offer to babies, but we shouldn’t force it. Thanks for sharing these! Definitely good advice for parents or those who want to become parents one day 😊 Love your videos & looking forward to more! As a fellow toddler mom, I love hearing from other mamas and I’ll take all the tips and tricks I can get lol

[@natalieleach8957]

Totally agree with not over bathing. That was actually a tip from our pediatrician too. We usually do about 3 baths a week.

[@Nutritiousmama]

Yes I agree!

[@BlueMoon3l3b]

Same with my son, he would not take any bottles or pacifiers no matter what. He would gag on them. It made working full time way more complicated. I would still try bottles for the next kid. No need for the pacifiers though. I didn’t let him have any sort of bath in the hospital and only gave him a sponge bath after a week and no soap I think for 6 weeks. I also only bathe him once a week because he had really eczema from 3 months-20 months and it’s just starting to get better now.

[@Theherbalempress]

Thank you for this! My baby is 10 months and so many people have asked if she is walking yet independently. I didn’t realize that she still has an large time frame left so that made me feel better.

[@HealthNutNutrition]

10 months is soo early! Dont worry about a thing she will walk when she's ready. Its exciting when it happens but people need to stop putting pressure on parents about it.

[@sams9181]

What the???? People are crazy... Sorry. My kids both walked at 13-14 months and even that is not considered late...?

[@wondernessful]

“Enjoy the peace and quiet until they do learn to talk” lmao. That made me laugh so hard. I feel you!

[@HealthNutNutrition]

Only speaking the truth haha there is no rush!

[@lillianmartin7153]

Yes! I waited a week to bathe my baby for the first time. We wiped her off with a wash cloth, but no submersions or sink baths. We use La Posiay (I believe that’s how you spell it) eczema lotion for dry spots and it’s magic! It was recommended by a pediatric dermatologist. I use it now as well. It took a while to find it, as many “baby” products , like you said are full of fragrances and alcohol. We still don’t use body wash, just use our sprayers and a bit of safe lavender bubbles that she loves. I’ve never really struggled with comparison, because I’m so amazed by my daughter and her ever changing self. She’s on her own path, like you mentioned, and is very smart. Thanks for your honesty!

[@taylorb4014]

I love the way you share your ideas and seem so open and nonjudgmental. I’m curious about the “eat clean live dirty” thing and how that differs from letting people kiss your baby

[@HealthNutNutrition]

There are a lot of dangerous things newborns can get from kissing on the mouth and face.

[@MagdaToja]

I can’t agree more! My little one is 5 months now and I went though all those weird looks when I was doing my things. Idea for the next video: how to treat a new parents for non-partents. Lets try to persuade people that they should listen to what parents say! I.e. regarding clothes, I’m very with you with trying to not overstock, but my family is not. I literally have a whole wardrobe of clothes given by family members, up till year or 3 or 4, and I still get more even though I ask them not to buy more. I’m probably not gonna use half of it as they will not be proper for the season, I don’t have more storage to keep it, I don’t necessarily like all of them, and it takes out the pleasure of buying cute ones for my baby. But if cause I only hear that all of that will be useful and I should be thankful 🙄

[@ronjathorsen4450]

So I in Denmark its normal not to bathe babys so much. After birth we waited 14 days before giving our son his first bath. Up until 3 month he got a bath every 14 day ander after 3 month we started bathing him every week. We never used sope, but was putting bodyoil in the water. If he got dirty in the armpits or behind the ears I would just wipe it off with a cloth with oil on

[@NadineBuhl]

I watch all of your videos,sorry I never commented so far. I totally agree on all, my daughter never had a pacifier as well, she never wanted it. As my daughter has Down Syndrome especially when it comes to development there is abolsutely no comparison, friendly advices from family are accepted with a thank you and let stand like an advice. I have found out with my daughter that was These: she should be able to do this and that was putting such a pressure on me that I couldn‘t actually appreciate HER progresses. I stopped the pressure, take her progress as is and this is so much more worth it.

[@chewy000079]

Great list. As a mom of a 20 month old I would add buying brand new clothes/baby items to the list. Of course there are always a few special items that I have purchased brand new but there is so much clothes/baby stuff that is in like new condition because baby's grow so fast that they don't wear things very long. Thrifting is definitely the way to go. All this new clothes has an impact on our planet.

[@ashleys5453]

love this! thank you for this reminder ;)

[@annjames1837]

Merry Christmas Nikole, Matt and Sage! 🎄✝️

[@HealthNutNutrition]

you too!

[@andywest7934]

Hi Nicole, I am a fellow Canadian mom. I agree with you on so much of this. I also don't bath my son who is 18 months old more then twice a week unless it is necessary. The perfume/ scented products is a big no for me. I am extremely sensitive to them and so is most of my family so for his safety we do t use them. Some people believe there is or isn't a different between boys and girls. I have noticed that my son is at a different stage then a little girl that is his age, but he was 3 weeks early with colic and the little girl was a week or 2 late and was a super easy baby so there are many factors. The kissing thing 100%. I have told my whole family many times to not do this and for the first month or 2 we ask everyone to wear a mask. For the first 6 months we asked all to wash up first too. We are so much on the same page. Thank you for sharing this

[@ThePixidust333]

A lot of your points are very valid! Especially when it comes to fragrances, those are so irritating to skin for both babies and adults. We even washed clothes/sheets with natural fragrance free detergents. And less is more, 100% true.

[@joha8993]

7:03 It is very interesting for me as a German how you describe this point. In Germany, we learn from the midwife after birth in the hospital that we should not use any soap washing our babies in the first year of life. Only almond oil and a splash of cow's milk should be used in the water. We also learn that you should not bathe the baby at all for the first four weeks or so. I find it very interesting that in other countries this is done quite differently!

[@raqueldefreitas9594]

Hi, regarding the bathing I totally agree with you, but like with everything I was wondering if I was doing the best because everyone I talk to baths babies every day so it's nice to know someone else has a similar opinion

[@ninarechin2531]

Hi Nikole!! Ive been a huge fan of your page since i was pregnant with my first girl last year and i love watching your videos and journey as a mom and i can relate to you so much. I am also pregnant with our second baby right now. I definitely in regards to ear piercing, i dont want to make a big decision like that for my baby. So we are waiting for her to make that choice when she is older. Screen time is definitely a big topic also. I have never been a fan whether my kids or other peoples kids, of kids being so close to the screen. It gives me so much anxiety when i see my best friends small children an inch from the tv. I do not let my 6 month old baby girl touch my phone. We do a little bit of tv maybe in the mornings before daycare or on the weekends before bedtime. But when my kids are older, they will be getting the LeapFrom "tablets" like the ones we used to get when we were kids. In my eyes, these are so much more educational and it will be less of an eye strain for them and less of a chance that they have bad eye sight when they are older. Yes, i i learned before i was pregnant with my first, not to buy too many clothes because you never know their size. We definitely bough a few different brands of pacifiers because we didn't know which one she would like....turns out shes not a pacifier baby. She only likes the green Phillips Avent one, to chew on. Our bedtime is also between 7-8pm but lately its been more from like 6/630pm.

[@Anna-gy9wx]

I didn’t Use any soap on my little one until about 6months, just water, and we only bathed him every few days just like you did Sage. Family thought I was crazy, but totally agree with what you said

[@HealthNutNutrition]

happy to hear Im not alone

[@nicoleweston3914]

Absolutely agree with everything! It’s exactly how we do it over here. My mom couldn’t understand why I wasn’t piercing her ears. I was like that’s a choice she can make🥰 our daughters skin only responds to Burt’s bees so yes yes to doing it all in a way that feels good for mom and dad. And I wish I took the pressure off from attempting to bottle feed. She was exclusive until 18 months. ❤

[@ashtonmelton4854]

We don’t bathe our girl but twice a week as well. She is 15 months and we just use a washcloth with water on her face and teach hand washing between bath days. We also agree that our daughter can’t have our phones either but we do allow screen time with tv. Another thing we won’t do is co sleep ever! For us our daughter is sleep trained and is such an awesome independent sleeper. Also, we just want to keep our husband wife time separate.

[@HealthNutNutrition]

Love this and appreciate your response on things that are no for you as well! thank you for sharing 🥰

[@strawberrykatnz]

I'm not a parent, but I remember my Mum making a point of the 'don't kiss my baby' years after the fact and she said she offended so many older ladies lol they got so cross with her and she said she didn't want us getting cold sores, thank you Mum! She didn't care if they were offended, I wasn't their child so end of discussion lol. Hear hear! I'm glad she did that because the thought of strangers kissing me grosses me out lol. I would do the same if I become a parent. In fact, my parents came across SO MANY teachers who tried to tell my parents how to parent even though they weren't personally parents - so beware in the future with that too.

[@MentalHealthMonday]

My daughter took a bottle and pacifier right away. I had to work so we had to get her to take a bottle. She is almost 2, and we are working on getting rid of the pacifier. Also she does not have her ears pierced. I want her to decide to do it. We also didn't let her watch TV until 18months. We never let her play on our phones she has her own play phone. However my son was exposed to TV since we have a tiny home and my toddler watches it here and there. My son never took a bottle or pacifier. I stay home now so its not a big deal. But it's so nice not having to wash or worry about a pacifiers or bottles! I totally related to every single one of these! Nice video.

[@malisabenn76]

I agree with almost everything except the bathing. I have a 18 month old toddler and have been bathing her twice a day from the time she was born. I live in the Carribbean as well, and its just so hot here, we have the sun year around. It's just too hot where i live to not bath everyday

[@jessicamcclure3464]

100% agree with what you say about comparing babies to each other! Every baby learns different things at different times and it’s ok!!!

[@amandaraylinlinger2088]

Also with the ears, your ears grow so much and change so much that the piercing can easily become uneven or not in a great spot when they get older

[@marijar5805]

I really love your content, thanks for everything you are sharing ❤

[@jkflores723]

I agree with everything expect for the help part, I come from a toxic family and it caused a lot of trust issues so I don't really trust anyone but myself snd my husband to care for our child. But not against it or anything. Sometimes I wish I did have a close friend or something but it's just not available for everyone

[@carolanns_books]

Regarding the bathing- in the UK they don't bath them in hospital and encourage you not to bathe them for a few days or even a week (still do top and tail) and they encourage you not to use any soap for about 6 weeks.

[@tinnie75]

I'm not a parent (but somehow watch a lot of content related to kids) but the thing with judging parents seem to happen in two extremes. Those who judge everything and those who keep yelling "don't tell others how to parent" even when someone is trying to point out something that's possibly dangerous. Because it's not judging when it's giving important warnings. And (un)knowingly doing something dangerous/harmful is not a parenting style.

[@tracytepley2382]

I have found good research that supports early pacifier usage and countering SIDS due to keeping them from deep sleep stages while brain stem development is still occurring in the first few months. The sucking reflex kicks in and keeps them from going into the deepest sleep stage. The deep sleep stage below REM is not necessary.

[@kristaolsen7394]

I agree with the ear piercing. I won’t do it until my daughter asks to do it. I remember getting mine done and it was so exciting! I do bathe my 11 month old every night as part of her bedtime routine. I don’t dry her completely and get that lotion on asap. We’ve never had issues with her skin being too dry, and we live in a super dry, cold winter/hot summer climate. But I think some babies no matter what you do, would not tolerate a bath everyday. I love a solid routine and sleep schedule for my baby. Helped a lot with the postpartum anxiety 👍🏼

[@brittanyclark9867]

That’s why we decided not to pierce baby’s ears. It was so fun and exciting when my parents allowed me to do it and I felt so pretty and grown up! We didn’t want to take that experience away from her

[@floralaura2543]

I chose to get mine pierced when I was 12 and went with my mom and she got a second ear piercing so that was a fun memory together 😊 glad it wasn’t done when I was a baby

[@vee_grave]

I think you could get a very gentle soap product for bathing. I give my daughter a bath at least 6 times a week. She goes to daycare and more importantly she poops and pees in her diaper everyday, multiple times a day. Adults don’t sit in their urine or poop for any extended period of time, and if we did I’m sure we wouldn’t be satisfied with just wiping it off. A daily bath with a gentle soap is a better alternative to not bathing at all for days at a time.

[@kwhiteley8951]

My kids are 14 and 11 now and I totally agree with everything you’ve said! I think it’s just a very balanced, respectful and conscious way. ❤

[@HealthNutNutrition]

thank you xx

[@amandaraylinlinger2088]

I feel so heard with the bottles! My almost 8 month old will never ever take a bottle and I feel like I need her to so I can get away once in a while... but I just need to remember my job as a mom is doing whats best for her and not for me

[@FatimaEzzahraNORRI]

Oh my god, I agree with u with so many points! Especially bathing I find it so unnecessary to bath my 18 month old every night she smells just fine and is clean.

[@loconius]

Oh my god miss Rachel is amazing, such a life saver when we drove from Florida to Colorado!!

[@crbenitez]

The bath one was very interesting. My son has very dry skin so this is something I might give a try and see if that helps.

[@Pixief13]

Currently watching this whilst cuddling my 9 week old daughter ❤

[@HealthNutNutrition]

Congrats mama! I miss those early days. Soak up all those precious moments.

[@jolantagourmaud7613]

I agree with you 100%, evry parent and child have to find their own way. We didn't bath our children for 4 first days and ther evey other day, never using soap. Now we do the bath evey day but still with water only. Sometimes when they are very dirty or they want to have some foam to play we add it. They are 4 and 6 years old, they look clean and have no skin problems.

[@Nutritiousmama]

Thankyou! I love this. such a goof help.

[@vegetarianglobe5676]

Love this. Your points resonate so much with my parenting style. Thanks for sharing ❤

[@Daymickey]

Just curious, no judgement - why do you encourage “live dirty“ and occasional baths only to not over sanitize the immune system but also don’t allow kissing because of germs? What’s the difference in your mind? I’m due with my first in a few weeks and don’t know where I’ll fall yet on these things. Thanks!

[@adrianabarnard6402]

I regret so much getting my daughter’s ears pierced they get cough in stuff it’s work keeping them for the first year it’s just skip it.

[@Suebearish]

My neighbor friend also did not use soap or shampoo on her toddler son and his hair was silky clean

[@HealthNutNutrition]

love that!

[@kellyanngallagher7785]

Omg yesssss we fell into the trap of nightly baths with our routine and now my twins want It and I am OVER It lol I wish I didn’t start this routine!

[@HealthNutNutrition]

It’s so much work I cannot 😅

[@wondernessful]

Love this!!! Agree and implement all of the above actually. However, it is hard with grandparents. My daughter has my dad (her grandpa) wrapped around her tiny cute finger and she has his phone nonstop. It’s rough but we all do the best we can do

[@HealthNutNutrition]

yes so hard with grandparents

[@cakedecor8]

Yeeesss and very hard to tell (or monitor) grandparents to please not kiss baby 😮‍💨

[@courtneyp1578]

We needed help so bad and when I reached out to family no one could help us so it’s just been me and my hubby and with a colic baby it has been absolutely exhausting. I wish I had a bigger village 💔

[@erinb5461]

Yes! As a mom of 3, absolutely agree with everything. Especially the bathing, my kids sometimes only bathe once a week and they don't stink aha

[@HealthNutNutrition]

right? babies smell so good naturally haha

[@taradelbeneryan210]

Love that book number 2 is coming! Book 1 has been great for us and I cook the recipes from it multiple times a week.

[@ninarechin2531]

I LOVEEEE your turtleneck!!! Link please??

[@mmschwartz84]

Thank you for this! We are in the same boat when it comes to breastfeeding our 2nd child... she will not take a bottle and never wanted a pacifier. Along the lines of another topic you brought up, we have been judged by certain family "know it all" types for exclusively breastfeeding! Makes me irritated because these people have no recent experience raising young children (or none at all!) I think these judgements often come from a place of insecurity. As a SAHM, I am going to do things differently than a working mom and would never judge them for bottle feeding, etc.

[@skembow]

It's common in my country not to use soap for the first few months, just few drops of almond oil.

[@leydyl1009]

My 4 month old only uses the pacifier to sleep. We had to try like 4 different types for her to get use to it

[@jana8363]

Here too, no pacifier, no bottles, no walking, no skin care things (some oils from time to time)no bath every day etc. …. My son is 18 months old. He has his own character from day one. That’s it!

[@lilgal929]

Nikole, I love your videos. To add to what you said about not kissing babies on the face also it is a bad habit to blow their food when it's hot.

[@Playing_with_a_Purpose]

Do you think you would ever have a hard copy of your cookbook? Also preschool age :)

[@HealthNutNutrition]

No not this one! but you can always print it out 😉

[@HealthNutNutrition]

Im working on book 2 but it will be digital as well at this time.

[@kjanda84]

@@HealthNutNutrition will you have sales for boxing day?

[@daianeconstantino2575]

Great video. Just adding my experience about bathing. I heard that bathing every day maybe wouldn't be necessary or it could cause some dryness on skin, but it is just a "maybe", my baby and many others I know do bath every day and didn't have any issue. We can try and see, if my baby had some skin problem I certainly would try not bath every day and see if he would be better. In our case, my baby poop every day, and during hot days he sweats on the neck, so we prefer to give a full bath.

[@manehbag732]

I tried to hold off bubble baths for a long time so her privates wouldn't be in contact with too much soap. Do you use any? If so what do you recommend? I also don't bathe often and each time we bath it's not bubbles necessary. Sometimes just clean water only

[@brrberrymerry]

After I was a certain age I just hated the fact I had these holes in my ears I felt like I HAD to have earrings or else I'd look weird and I wished my mother never did that. Now I'm having my first baby girl and she's already talking about piercing her ears, I didn't say anything but IT IS NOT HAPPENING under my watch, I don't care how mad she gets.

[@VictoriaBC610]

Definitely agree on bathing and kissing! I'm not a mom, but have a nephew and niece and I tend to kiss them on the head/back of head/neck. They sometimes want to kiss me on the lips🤣😂 but I try to get out of it in such a way to not make them feel rejected, of course🥰 They are just too cute not to cuddle or kiss😁 but I'm definitely mindful of all the germs our mouths/saliva "house"..😆 Overall, really great video!😊

[@courtneypalmer2331]

I've been seeing a lot on Instagram about responsive parenting and honestly I don't have kids (yet) but I know that responsive parenting is going to be my style. Not everyone agrees and that's okay but at the end of the day, we can only do what we feel is best. Although, if I see someone slap their kid across the face (something a friend seen and ignored) I'll be calling social workers.

[@TeamHefzibah]

I pierced my ears at age ten and I’m yet to pierce her ears till she makes up her mind. I just felt not to hurt her. Her cousin, who was born 10 days after her, started walking at 10months. She took her first steps when she saw her cousin walking😅 I think she got her competitiveness from someone 😄

[@avocadobe]

I never had a rule against my parents or siblings kissing my babies. They know not to if they are feeling unwell. Kissing is a natural form of affection and the amount it is demonized is startling.

[@malinawyzykowska]

Amen to all of if - especially kissing! We are doing a few things differently but purely because it works better for a baby, so I don't mind. Very nice to hear somebody talking wisely about parenting. I agree it's not a competition 😊

[@Nutritiousmama]

Amen! I agree, such a breath of fresh air

[@mayraramirez1581]

Love your video I have a 5 month old boy and I like to know other months input and what they are doing with their kids. No judgment on anything and just to make sure I’m not a weird mom. I don’t always bath my child too.

[@karinseaman4060]

I bath my almost 4.5 month old 3 times a week (went from 1 to 2 to 3 over time) and my sister thinks it's very weird that I don't bath him more frequently... 🤷🏻‍♀️ I feel 3 times a week is more than enough.

[@jessicahatton3351]

This was SUCH a good video! I have 3 kids and still watched 😅

[@nataliefragola6795]

I think its a good idea to talk about these things among child rearing with your partner or whomever you maybe raising the baby with, before the baby arrives...One would be surprised that some couples don't discuss what aligns with them in raising a little one. Sleep is a big one for example. I agree with all that you said, especially piercing ears(I take no offense if you can't tell if my baby is a boy or a girl) and over bathing/toxic products. The market is full of "baby" products that are full of endocrine disruptors and just straight up harsh chemicals. Minimalist, simple and intuitive is the best approach to all things mentioned.

[@maylinrebollar8643]

Nicole I need help and advise seriously. I’m literally on the breaking point and I don’t want to cause that negative feeling to my 18 month baby boy. But he just dosent listen at all. And I don’t know what to do. He behaves so bad and makes a scene anywhere when it’s not his way. Breaks my heart

[@lyndsireed1793]

May not work in every single situation but try taking little boy (crying or not) out to a different situation. Calmly say we're not doing this again until you can calm down. Let him freak out for a while, do not react. Then when he's calmed down tell him you love him and explain again that he can show his emotions but he doesn't need to disrupt everyone around him to do so. Tell him if he starts feeling overwhelmed he can tell you and you guys will go sit somewhere and he can do his meltdown.

[@TheSmilingWeb]

never thought of the kissing rule. Honestly it never really bothered me... only one time when I saw one friend kissing my baby on the mouth, that was a shock to me but I wasn't able to say anything to her. I just froze. The piercing would be a big no no for me as well and my son had his first bath after 10 days and it was just water. My midwife recommended it and explained all the benefits from it and I'm so happy we listened to her. One of my rules as a new mom is the no added-sugar and no added salt before one year old. He's almost 16months old now and has never had sugar. We slowly introduced salt very moderately into his food but we are very cautious and super vigilent with people feeding our child. Also he's a crawler too and doesn't walk yet. Everyone is telling us we should enjoy it while it lasts because once they start walking it's a whole new dynamic ;)

[@kyliepaquet]

I was under the impression that bathing your baby less when they had eczema was the way to go because it would disrupt their natural oil barrier. However, the dermatologist told us we have to bathe our son every night and lotion twice daily because it’s actually beneficial for eczema 🤷‍♀️ I still don’t know if I believe this 100% though and if it were my choice I would be doing a bath 2 x a week as well! Love your videos and tips as always ❤

[@MultiDaisy1995]

Yessss to products. We’ve been using unscented castil soap on my daughter since she was born & coconut oil or almond oil for moisturizer. She’s 1 yr old now. We got so many comments about how clear her skin was as a baby. I really think it’s because we stayed away from the harsh chemicals.

[@brittney5874]

When you said some people think “gotta do it while they’re young so they don’t feel the pain” about ear piercings all I could think is they definitely do feel the pain when it’s happening and healing, they just don’t remember when they’re older… I don’t understand people who put their baby in pain for aesthetic 😵‍💫😵‍💫

[@sararetka9979]

So many of these really resonated with me! Especially the ear piercing thing, the bathing every night and the judging other parents - 100% agree!💖

[@HealthNutNutrition]

Makes me so happy to hear. I was worried about getting a lot of hate on this video because of my opinions on these subjects

[@aliyah2336]

I do agree with everything but in my culture it’s very common to pierce a baby girls ears

[@elizabeththennis9327]

the funny thing for me is that i take my daughter a bath every night as part of her bedtime routine and everyone always tells me that she has the softest skin compared to their babies 😆 i guess it just depends on the child lol.

[@DirtyLace]

I think I disagreed with the first half of what you mentioned, but I’m sharing that to say that it’s nice to hear opposing perspectives. We can all benefit from hearing each other with an open mind and hearing from others in general so you’re not so stuck up in your limited bubble of Information/perspectives. I didn’t feel particularly judged nor judging you, so i hope that encourages to feel like It’s okay to share your parenting opinions *respectfully* which you did ❤ ❤

[@HealthNutNutrition]

I appreciate the supportive comment 🤍

[@KlauB7]

Hi Nikole! Amazing video! I would love to see a video on safe baby products and what ingredients to pay attention to. 🤍

[@HealthNutNutrition]

oh fun! love that idea

[@wj8796]

Ughhh! I forgot about people kissing babies. I’m 16 weeks now, and have to strategize how to communicate that family can’t do this. 😢 it’s going to be hard to get support from my husband on this..

[@Miegocompartido]

Love this kind of videos!! 😘

[@Julie-xz5lc]

Me and my husband had a lot of the same "rules" or how we raised our kids...Grandparents hate the no kissing baby or kids faces, I don't let them kiss hands either.

[@_jandjdesigns]

My son refuses to use a binky too! Thank you for all your videos :)

[@EmmaChamp]

It’s so funny how countries differ, I’m from the UK and they advise us not to bath a baby at all for at least a week. Then they advise only to use water and no soaps for quite a while! So parents are different and countries are different!

[@mi-mog-mama]

I also went home with one ear peirced, haha!! My Mum bribed me with a kitten to get the other eventually done 😅 x x Also - We were advised to hardly bathe Jack as a newborn as, as you mentioned, it's a lot better for their skin. We just gave him a flannel wash around bum and genitals once a day/every other day with only water, and wipes everywhere when needed. A bath maybe once a week by a month old, if that. Babies aren't smelly, lol. - I spent too much on clothes, oops! x x

[@mariannalee3207]

Just be cautious using any “natural” products containing food-based ingredients on children under the age of 6m or before solids have started. Using these can increase changes of children developing food allergies.

[@hopenoland6656]

Firstly, I don't know how anyone doesn't get burnt out by bathing their kid(s) every night. I have always bathed by son 1-2x per week, depending on how "dirty" I thought he was. Any more than that felt like a lot & the 1-2x I did give him a bath, were enough for my mental sanity.

[@nessi1265]

Our daughter had Neurodermitis, so we did only bath her once a week. The intimate area we clean every time with water. She is clean and has a healthy skin 🙏