15 THINGS I WISH I KNEW BEFORE HAVING A BABY | Advice for New & Expecting Moms

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Today I'm sharing things I wish I knew before having a baby! Don't worry, we're keeping things positive - but looking back as a new momma of a 4-month-old, there are definitely some things that came as I surprise that I wish I knew before. If you're a new or expecting mama, I think you're going to love this one!
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[@HealthNutNutrition]

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[@juliacastillo2904]

Omgosh. I smelled sooooo bad after having my little girl. I would walk around my house trying to find the smell.... it was me. I was the smell 🤣🤣🤣

[@junec.rodriguez1115]

Hahaha yes

[@mexibbcakesify]

I smelled like a dead animal

[@heviutza]

hahhaa this was hilarious to read :D

[@LadyDoe13]

I was “the smell” too! 🤣

[@wintertrine]

😂

[@BriannaSam1]

Postpartum doula here! I try and warn everyone about the smelly-ness, because so many are shocked. Smell is hormonal, and when you’ve just birthed a baby, your hormones are completely out of wack. It might go back to normal, but while you’re breastfeeding don’t expect it to. Becaaaaause your body also regulates your smell for your baby! In the early months your baby can’t see very well and they rely on your smell to know you. And your body ramping up your natural scent allows your baby to know/find you and your breasts. 😌

[@s.a.w5493]

Thats wild! I'm 28 weeks and I feel like I'm constantly learning new facts about what the body can do while breastfeeding. (Although ramped up smell is maybe not ideal)

[@BriannaSam1]

@@s.a.w5493 yeah! It’s so cool isn’t it? Also you’ll notice right around ovulation you’ll start to smell more “attractive”. It’s your body’s way of making you more desirable to mate/make babies. It’s all a hormone thing. And it’s soooooo fascinating. 😌

[@vanessaheslop9838]

This is very helpful! Thank you 🙏🏾

[@vanessaheslop9838]

@@s.a.w5493 same! I’m due July 4th and I’m still getting shocked with new info 😅😅❤️ Orayers for a great delivery mamas 👏🏾

[@theladyboss8941]

Do you think the bad odour is mostly from moms that breastfeed? I’m a mom of four and bottled fed every time and didn’t have any unpleasant odours only the first little while after birth when we are bleeding but that goes away .

[@ecampbell3759]

i feel so out of place here cause im just a 15 year old girl trying understand more about this world for my little newborn sister 🥰 cheers for every mom out there!

[@kimberlyd2308]

That's so sweet! I love that you are doing your own research. Congratulations on your sister!! I have a 9yr and hope to be able to give him a sibling one day, he wants one so bad.

[@ecampbell3759]

@@kimberlyd2308 Thank you! even without a sibling i've never felt lonely, but now that she's here life is 100 times better 🥰 maybe your son is still young to completely understand the importance of a brother or of a sister, but he will understand it when he'll grow up and he will be very thankful!

[@livelongandprospermary8796]

I am 16 yrs older than my youngest step brother. He didn’t come to live with us until he was 2.5 (tragic back story truly) but he calls my mom Mom now and has for many years. He’s truly an amazing bub and it’s been an honor to watch him grow. (I also have a 1/2 brother 9 yrs younger and some step siblings in between 1/2 bro and I). You’ll have such a special bond with them. I revel in reminding my brother that I used to carry him places. Buckle him in his car seat. Watch him ride a 2 2 wheel bike for the first time (at age 3!!). I’ve seen him gut countless fish that HE caught himself. Sorry I’m bragging but this kid is friggen amazing!!

[@eloweez8798]

No fr!! You bestie are a good sister!

[@dontplaywithgod2064]

You are doing a good thing! Learning about this will increase your wisdom and maturity as a girl-to-be-woman and future mom and big sister!!

[@erinshannon1114]

Try washing your baby socks, hats and small stuff in a lingerie bag. Saved me from losing things!

[@bijalnandha]

This is a life saver! I do this with all of my baby’s little bits even her bibs and small toys!

[@HackerActivist]

same

[@ericacaso7507]

Yes this!!

[@mrsmmiles9834]

What a fantastic idea!!! I am expecting my first, so I don’t know all these cool tips and tricks, what a great idea. Thank you!

[@ss-lb6kb]

Best comment ever!! Having my fourth now, i never thought of this

[@samanthafranklin9948]

Ladies, I lost my baby 2 hours after birth. I had to go through an entire pregnancy and post partum period without the child I bonded with. It is 10Mx worse than anything you’ll go through post partum. Enjoy it. Every minute of your time with bubba. Even the hard times. ♥️

[@briannahughes4048]

Praying for you🥺

[@nekokitty2883]

May God be with you sis

[@A_Fairy007]

I'm so soooorrrry.

[@elizabethcrawford6427]

Im so so sorry for your lost

[@Abcdefghijajajaja]

Samantha, I barley have words. I am sorry. Bless you.

[@wolf-antics]

Just found out I was pregnant 3 days ago! I’m so excited to start this journey 🤗

[@aoife5540]

Congratulations 🎉 I'm 18 weeks with my third......no idea why I'm watching this tbh lol Fyi she is extremely perfect .....don't expect to be / look like her please

[@wolf-antics]

@@aoife5540 haha truu! Thanks for that reminder 😅

[@iamwhoyousayiam6773]

Congratulations!

[@kruthikanilkund8444]

Congratulations..!!!

[@kingasandi4860]

Congratulations 🎉

[@juliapalacios6274]

I totally understand the underwhelming feeling of eating during pregnancy. It is a torture. I don't feel like eating anything, nothing tastes amazing. I have nausea when I'm hungry and I feel too full when I'm eating. So annoying!

[@inesbarros3847]

This is me. They said it would get better, but I’m 17 weeks pregnant and it remains :) I feel like I’m constantly complaining but I used to take so much pleasure from food :) I’m going crazy :)

[@jenwylie4093]

Same. I had no cravings. All of the healthy foods I ate on a regular basis no longer were appealing. I didn't have morning sickness, but there were a lot of foods I just couldn't eat. Sometimes it would take me an hour to eat dinner. I would count my calories to make sure I ate enough because I was just never hungry.

[@elizabethhalt2096]

Maybe try this time to eating the most random and absurd food combinations, and take pleasure from people's reactions instead of the food itself? 😂

[@mchan5820]

Same. It’s getting a little better. For me it’s about finding the foods that are easy to eat but also healthy and trying to eat small and slow before I get hungry nauseous because that’s worse than feeling full/bloated.

[@QueenB0419]

Omg that’s been me since week 6 & now I’m week 36 and I still feel the same 🙄🤦🏼‍♀️

[@oliviabrown7199]

Hey everyone! Nurse here, just wanted to help with understanding the sore belly phenomenon. So the soreness would come from your uterus (not actually the stomach). The placenta attaches inside the uterus and similar to when your uterus sheds blood during your period, the uterus sheds the placenta after birth. And this is why you will expect to also have bleeding after birth for a time. Hope this helps! 😊 Also wanted to say thank you for these tips! I am a nurse but haven’t been a blessed as a mom yet and there are things I’m sure you don’t learn till you’re in it, but tips are helpful for sure!

[@Madrovergaya]

thank you for saying it! I was browsing through comments hoping somebody pointed that out

[@westernpigeon]

1) 1:20 - Don't buy newborn clothes 2) 2:26 - Buy zippers and footies 3) 3:46 - Track Naps 4) 5:28 - Breast Feed 5) 6:01 - Babies cry and it's ok 6) 8:17 - Days are short, nights are long 7) 10:01 - It takes time for the non-birthing parent to grow a bond with the baby 8) 11:35 - Everything is a phase 9) 12:28 - Being smelly after giving birth 10) 14:03 - Food and Appetite pre and post pregnancy 11) 15:48 - Sore Stomach Postpartum 12) 18:52 - 4th trimester means new symptoms 13) 20:05 - Identity Crisis 14) 21:58 - Parenting is a full time job 15) 23:23 - Pelvic Floor Changes (going to the bathroom feels different)

[@AStrawberryPie]

Thank you, was looking for this comment after the first point took over a minute to get to

[@VisualMind]

Thank you for that comment! Saved me from watching something I'm absolutely not interested in. I thought she'd be more real and share more juicy stuff and not "keep it light and positive"

[@abigailshanae7779]

@@VisualMind She says to buy a couple new born clothes just in case because her baby ended up fitting in them longer then expected. And that if you breastfeed use the milk for multiple purposes.

[@fruzsinadurr3199]

@@abigailshanae7779 I came to say this

[@liviajtcarlson6890]

She said yes to newborn clothes!!

[@monsalinchen320]

Breastmilk also works for sore baby bums and cracked mummy nipples! Mix breastmilk with olive oil and put on your nipples after breastfeeding. It’s honestly amazing!!

[@mayahvalenciano9885]

How much of each tho?

[@sweener88]

I’m a new Dad as of 2 days ago and really appreciate your video! It’s helped me understand what my wife is going through. Thank you and cheers from Australia! 😊

[@a_l_e_k_sandra]

Congratulations, dad! It's lovely to see that you are involved and understanding. Sending you and your family lots of love from Serbia!

[@Nick94MI]

Congrats man! My little guy just turned 3 months old today. It's tough on everybody, but I feel like it gets a little easier as they get older. Best of luck!

[@DarrinSK]

Must be nice...

[@jbirdcarter3452]

I just found out I’m pregnant 5 days ago. It still seems surreal. ❤️❤️ It’ll be my first baby. My husband and I were only trying for 2 months, and I’m 41. I read all the statistics so I thought I would have a hard time getting pregnant….But God 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@lunablossom4737]

Congratulations 🎊 👏 I'm on month 2 of trying and hoping for a positive this month

[@alexandraj3426]

Congratulations!

[@letticiad4112]

Praise & thank God!🙏🏻🌹

[@chelsmeister]

Congratulations!!! My Mom had me at 38, I think a lot of people think it's hard but some are just fine since everyone's different :) :) Have a beautiful journey!

[@CarlyHollas]

Congratulations 💐

[@morgangarner4027]

I'm 8 weeks pregnant with TWINS and this is my first pregnancy... so I'm scared out of my mind and trying to learn as much as possible ahead of time 😄

[@alexislee6777]

It’s been 7 months, update❤️

[@agataskraba1492]

@@alexislee6777 congrats! How are you preparing yourself? :)

[@ChikisRozae]

Congratulations!!!!! ♥️

[@conwaytewhaiti]

Update? How's life with your newborns xx it can be difficult with just one, proud of you, hang in there mama ❤

[@theloraks]

Hope you're doing well 💖💖

[@daniellehammer3048]

I have roughly 20yrs of baby/toddler/child experience, and let me just tell you a few tricks that you might find helpful... 1) if your baby is crying for what seems like no reason, take them to the window/outside. I cannot tell you how many times I have done this and the baby is either now distracted from their fit or just very interested in seeing something other than the the house. 2) you discussed not being able to do what you want, and that's true to some extent, but there's a mommy secret which is to find activities of mutual enjoyment. You love mornings? Take your baby on a special walk when you wake up so you can really soak it in. There are so many options (especially as your baby moves out of mushy newborn phase) that you can find that fill both of your cups.

[@4356cutiepie]

Such great advice 🙏🏻

[@sofi99]

More please. We need more of this advice!!! 🥰

[@oliviachan2041]

心90

[@asileariam]

I love this advice!

[@jesscaitlin5787]

Omg this totally works for my baby ! When he is teething he loves looking out the window or standing outside he calms right down , same with the bath he’s immediately happy as heck in the bath

[@lindsey8639]

I’m one of those mamas that didn’t have an immediate bond with my baby girl. I felt so guilty and didn’t actually feel attached to her for MONTHS! My husband had an immediate attachment. It was such an emotional rollercoaster. I thought I was an awful mom because no one ever talks about that so I’m glad you brought it up.

[@belindagoertzen8071]

Exact same situation here! My husband had an immediate attachment and I didn’t. It was so hard.

[@nancybraget6006]

Same here with both my boys. It took a few weeks for me. But now love them pieces.

[@marykmotherhood]

@@belindagoertzen8071 same here!

[@jenwylie4093]

I was the same. I couldn't breast feed (not sure if that impacted how I felt). I had carpol tunnel syndrome at the end of the pregnancy and a few months after so I couldn't hold him as much as I wanted to. I didn't think it would take as long as it did to bond.

[@zemzemibrahim4620]

Its never too late as she is growing up bring her more closer give her hugs frequently take shower with her and when she is having little naps in a day hug her tightly and sleep Don't regret what have passed

[@kayleewallace4521]

Just found out im pregnant 10 days ago with an unplanned baby. Trying to learn as much as I can even if it was unexpected. Its so nerve racking but i want to be as prepared as possible for this little human ❤️

[@msp.9780]

Hi, you can also put 3-4 spoonfuls of breast milk in the baby bath, great for dry skin. Also a drop in each nostril if the baby has a blocked nose. It works wonders! For adults, it even helps with psoriasis!

[@symonej3920]

How to drop in the nose ?

[@christianandreygel1060]

How does it help with psoriasis? Bathing with breast milk?

[@beckyrobb2745]

To add to your point: "Baby's cry and that's okay." Baby's crying is actually a form of communication for them and this is how they communicate to their caregivers. I am actually learning about this in school; I am in the Early Childhood Education Program in college. Children are very interesting, smart, unique, and special!! By the way, I love your outfit!! It is so pretty!!

[@MadameEclipseRose]

Yes true it is a from of communication but you should never foget that it is the last resort for a baby. So if you did not recognize all the othe signs your baby gave you it starts crying... So being honest if your baby cries you are kind of late (of course I mean the regular stuff like: baby wants to sleep or feed. I am not talking about sickness or if anything hurts!)

[@lilaschmetterling3023]

@@MadameEclipseRose true. Crying is still an ask for help.

[@livelongandprospermary8796]

@@lilaschmetterling3023 my brother who was just starting to not be a toddler was crying and inconsolable. They eventually figured out he had a hair tourniquet. Babies get them on their toes commonly and it’s not noticed because of socks/feet coverings. Well my brother’s hair tourniquet was around another small appendage. They had to take him to the ER to get the hair removed. He was old enough that he should have been able to tell us (I’m 16 yrs older than him) but because of the pain and being such a young kid (2.5 or so), he couldn’t communicate. 😬 yeah so definitely something to rule out if baby/toddler/kid wont stop crying.

[@wilenglish2991]

With the postpartum smell I found men’s stick deodorant helped so much and I felt so much better about myself.

[@carlapoch4177]

32 weeks with my first babe and I've been using men's deodorant for years now. It just works better!

[@nadiasaurusrex]

I want to have kids in the near future, and I'm fully expecting my husband to have a quicker bond with the baby. He says it's his life's purpose to be a dad, whereas I'm at VERY high risk for postpartum depression. Knowing this going into it, I'm fully prepared for my brain to really struggle with emotional bonding during postpartum, and that's okay. People, it's normal, do not feel guilty!

[@zzkittykat]

This is EXACTLY what im going through with my newborn. My bf def seems to enjoy parenthood more than i do😅 although it's just the postpartum depression gettin to me

[@zzkittykat]

This is EXACTLY what im going through with my newborn. My bf def seems to enjoy parenthood more than i do😅 although it's just the postpartum depression gettin to me

[@nicholerock522]

I worry about this a little, but you (and her) talking about it reminds me I don't need to actually worry about it, just accept that's it's a possibility.

[@christinemanuelsson9580]

Everyone told me not to buy any newborn clothes.. I did anyways, and I’m so glad I did, because newborn was too big for her, and she could wear them til she was like 4-5 months..

[@aas061189]

My daughter wore newborn clothes for like 4 months! She is 19 months old now and is still in 12 month clothes.

[@SomethinAintRightHere]

I know!! I wish I did. All the 0-3 was too big for a while.

[@SamElle]

not me taking notes while watching this despite being single my entire life LOL

[@arumsbercerita4286]

Me too siss 😅😅

[@SamElle]

@@arumsbercerita4286 hahahahaha love that for us, we are extra prepared!!!

[@wolf-antics]

Soon

[@lizzy5437]

😂

[@tankgrl1980]

Tracking wake windows are great, you can definitely start sleep training early. Important to only put baby in crib when they're tired (use other things like a swing when they are up), don't let them sleep too long outside the crib (you want the crib/bassinet to be associated with sleep), keep them up for 3 hours before bed, little things like that can be really helpful.

[@liisanorheim-kiik8527]

The pelvic floor changes! After 4 kids, I still can't recall anybody mentioning it! And it is important to do those kegels for the future strength of that pelvic floor ✔

[@adriannewebster]

This! My mum had a prolapse down the line after having me because no one educated her on pelvic health

[@Hannahjoyhaynes]

I was shoook by my BO afterbirth! I felt so gross all the time. Baby is 2 months tomorrow and I the smell is getting better hallelujah🙌🏼 Missing your old self is so true! It’s definitely hard to wrap my mind around that I am a MOM and that will never change. Life is wild!

[@jessicacruz2974]

I am currently 35 and 6 months pregnant with my first baby. These tips were so helpful and good to know in advance! I’ve been binging baby videos so thanks for sharing your experience! 🙏🏽🥰

[@serenapalmer1220]

I’m 32 and this is my first pregnancy

[@christinacavanaugh]

Definitely having an identity crisis! I have a 4 month old as well and am having a really hard time accepting my new life is pretty much 100% baby-related. Hoping it gets better as he gets older.

[@Heather73090]

This happened to me for sure at the same time with my daughter. But it definitely gets easier and better, mama! My daughters 3 now and life feels so much more balanced now

[@angie675]

This happened to me too. It took me 6 months to kinda get my groove back. Going back to work helped a lot. I also waited until I was 40 to have my first so I mourned my old life a bit I think.

[@christinacavanaugh]

@@Heather73090 Thank you so much for your comment. Really gives me hope :)

[@christinacavanaugh]

@@angie675 Thanks for your comment

[@joannaciulla9645]

Christina Cavanaugh it definitely gets better after no longer breastfeeding.

[@JonasofPersia]

I am going to be a father for the first time in november, so I can't watch enough of these videos, this is a really good one. About baby socks, I just bought the little diaper suit/sock combo ones with buttons on them so maybe we won't lose as many😅 Also I was afraid that I bought to many clothes period but I did buy them in 3 different sizes so unless he's a literal giant he has clothes for at least 6 months, hopefully👍

[@sunson567]

Congratulations Jonas!

[@JonasofPersia]

@@sunson567 Thank you👍

[@LS-fe4ob]

❤️

[@anthoniaezeamaka7368]

❤️❤️

[@lola1033]

Involved dad! Yes!! I’m so lucky my husband is super involved with the pregnancy too, but I know it’s not the general rule, so good for you guys!

[@michaelamcdonald9699]

My babe is 3 weeks old and watching this after having an emotional few days has made me feel so sane. Thank you!

[@torib7704]

Congrats on your new babe!

[@holymotherrr93]

Same! 😌

[@remaabraham8348]

The identity crisis part is so true. Mine is 2.5 yrs old now and I feel like at this point, I don’t even remember what my life was like before having my baby. It’s crazy.😂

[@madbrain-sh7sp]

I'm not gonna lie and I dont regret it lol like 90% of my daughters clothes have been given to us. she's now 8 months and we have barely bought any clothes.. its helped alot actually. Hand me downs help alot when having a baby 👶

[@meganp4790]

Hell yeah it does when they get older and start liking certain things then hand me down won’t work with older kids because of them wanting the nice brand new things or whatever their friends are into.

[@nightcorelove2626]

@@meganp4790 I am 17 and I did and do take the hand me downs..I just only take the ones I like but..

[@louisejensen4910]

The smell is a hormonal thing, so your baby can smell you and feel you are close. It's kind of cool, but it will go away ❤

[@mexibbcakesify]

Awwww

[@mooz2001]

@@mexibbcakesify it's quite sweet isn't it!

[@Lolee56]

Eating was not enjoyable AT ALL while pregnant. Sick and nauseous all the time. Food aversions all the time.... no cravings. Thought of food made me sick. Food hurt my stomach. Felt like I was starving all the time cuz it was so hard to eat.

[@atomika6499]

Let's talk about how hard breastfeeding can be! I am currently EBF at one month, but it was quite a struggle. Everyone told me that I was supposed to be able to express colostrum, that my milk would come in on day 3, and none of those things happened. The nurses at the hospital pushed for formula right away after I couldn't manually express, and I cried for days when my milk didn't come in as expected on day 3, but on day 5. By then the introduction of formula had already caused issues. I was lucky enough to speak to a lactation consultant that made me start pumping every day and pushed me away from formula. My milk supply grew substantially and at 1 month now I'm EBF, while pumping an extra 8oz for supplementing or freezing every day. A lot of new moms who want to breastfeed don't have access to the right info or support, and it's mentally and emotionally exhausting to talk about it when people are still so judgemental about breastfeeding and formula.

[@leza4453]

Yes! I struggled too in the beginning. Had to pumpfeed exclusively in the begining (which is horribly time consuming) and managed to switch to nursing within 3 weeks. In the long run it was so worth it to stick through and not resort to giving up.

[@FateWorseThanDeath]

Girl, use a laundry bag for socks! You'll never lose one again. I even use them for mine

[@Casser3687]

I came here to say the same thing!

[@dezpeaceify]

Needed that tip☺️

[@veronikastrobl2077]

What really surprised me after having my little girl was that the wound from the placenta kept bleeding for almost 6 weeks after birth and it was not like my normal period, but pretty heavy bleeding and no-one warned me beforehand that it was going to last that long, I actually thought that would be over after a few days 😅

[@tolleri90]

Let me just say: not all moms have that magical bond with their baby when they give birth, some of us take time to build that bond and that too is ok. ❤️

[@bbarnes766]

Thank you for saying this! I’m worried about not initially bonding. But I’m praying it’ll all work out

[@tolleri90]

@@bbarnes766 I'm sure you'll fall head over heels in love with your baby after getting to know them and taking care of them. ❤️ Some of us are careful and logical by nature and that might mean that falling in love at first sight is not an option, as much as you'd like it to be. It doesn't mean you don't care for your child, it just means that it takes a little time to form those heartshaped glasses for your eyes. 😁 Anyway, if it doesn't get better with time, talk to your doctor. That's usually one of the signs of post partum depression, which is totally treatable and nothing to be ashamed of, it's more common than you'd think. ❤️

[@vesnakelsey8985]

I was blown away by the post partum hormones. The first week I was almost resentful of my baby. Just had weird emotions and like you mentioned, didn't have a bind with her right away. It was scary and unexpected but luckily I had support and fellow moms who went though the same thing.

[@serenapalmer1220]

The is the VERY thing I’m worried about

[@tiffanytarot8477]

I actually wasn't a huge fan of the "baby stage" but we had a high risk pregnancy. Our daughter had a major congenital heart defect, with open heart surgery at 2months old. I was also trying to breastfeed as well..she was also breech and I had an emergency c-section plus I had post-natal depression, too. I'm just here to say that it DOES get easier..you will and CAN get through it. Our daughter is fine now and is a thriving 4yo and you'd never know there'd been any issues at all. It DID take us 4years to try again, for our 2nd but I'm 29 weeks now and things all looking good. Every birth is different, every baby is different and the biggest advice I can give is "take it a day at a time." You've got this! ❤

[@deez4ever]

The wound is inside ur uterus actually n it takes 6 weeks to completely heal

[@StandardAmericanWife]

100% on the smelliness! I went from being able to skip deodorant to needing to reapply during the day. 😂 No one warned me about this!

[@baconettam.8122]

Im a COMPLETE foodie, but being pregnant has made me hate everything :(

[@freya1367]

Same here 😭

[@jennaom1]

Same for me too. Before I loved everything about food and cooking. Now I eat to live, quench hunger, and stave off nausea. I can barely watch food KZbin videos!

[@amanda.c.ice.]

Same!!! But right after I delivered I went back to eating and actually enjoying all the foods I loved before! Thank gosh for that!

[@katherinechitay5376]

the second trimester has kicked my butt with not wanting anything to eat and dealing with crazy nausea/heartburn/acid reflux.

[@abigailklier9344]

I used to love food, I got pregnant and all of a sudden I have to force myself to eat and drink. I hope this goes away!!

[@tierniclendenin9414]

The crying and social media is so true! Especially with first time moms! I remember having my toddler and thinking what is wrong!? It was a constant mental battle between the social media comparisons and myself/newborn.

[@keanubell6238]

i’m currently 21 weeks and we agreed on the name sage! it’s so pretty

[@lucywambui8072]

8wks and same here if it's a girl God willing.

[@ashleyholbrook7201]

I love the name sage. We currently trying and I’ve locked it in boy or girl!

[@SommyLogic]

That is so pretty!

[@lizzy5437]

Sage Monroe would be so pretty. No idea why that randomly came to my mind 🥰 I am also 21 weeks! :) Her name is Tenley 🙂

[@alexintheabstract]

Pregnant with my second and this is a great refresher! Would love to see a video on how you’re getting Sage to fall asleep on her own because that was always the struggle with my first.

[@ashacarsmith8179]

This was recommended to me and was super helpful! We are in the TWW of our first cycle now 🤞🏼 I love the nursery set up you have in the background 🤍

[@brochiek]

I just had a baby girl a few weeks ago and relate so much to what you're saying! Thanks for being open about these things and normalizing them. Great to feel mommy support and know it's all normal for the stage, and passes. Love how honest you are about it all :)

[@amandamartelli8811]

Thanks so much for this video! I’m 36 weeks and have done a bit of research into postpartum and thought I was pretty prepared but a few of these things were new to me!

[@loopy18lau]

I’m so glad you talked about crying. So many people must go into mother hood and feel bad about why their baby is crying because a lot of social media doesn’t show that side of being a mum! Crying is an emotion, and the only way they can communicate a need or pain. You are doing an amazing job 🤩

[@desertmama98]

Yes. I feel like a bad mom if he cries at all and now he doesn't like being set down cause I just constantly held him 😔

[@SpyChiick]

Def not the ONLY way they can communicate a need or pain. There are MANY signs to watch for before they start crying- it is often a last resort as many have stated. Try watching a video on universal baby cues. Save yourself and your little one some pain

[@dg7426]

This is the best/most honest video I’ve seen about being a first time mom.

[@FoodShowFan]

Check out Alliy Scott too, she’s wonderful! Lots of great info for FTMs

[@laurabazzana669]

Omg I completely agree with the newborn clothes part. My first baby used nb clothes until she was 3 months old and my second baby was born a month early so I even had to buy premature clothes for her, she's currently 8 months and she still uses some 3 to 6 months onesies. Enjoy your babies they grow up so fast!!

[@nicolebeasley1036]

Thank you so much for this video! I went through so much of that with my first daughter, Sage, and had an elongated postpartum anxiety and depression recovery as a result of just either not knowing or not having the experience yet. Every new mom should hear this!!!

[@britney8775]

I love that you made this video & explained everything in detail. This has been extremely helpful & reassuring. I recently found out 2 weeks ago I am currently 8 weeks pregnant with my first. So this is great information. It hasn't sunken in yet except for the horrible morning sickness & heartburn. ❤️

[@serenitymattingly]

Omg!!!! That after dinner nap is genius! With my first baby my days were short and nights were long but I never found a time to sleep 💤

[@KacangFamily]

This was great. So many awesome points from “everything is a phase, “a smell” and postpartum.

[@jnelson3197]

Thank you for this video! I'm 5 months pregnant and this has given me some insights into things that no one else has told me yet!!!

[@bronbarnard9537]

Thank you for sharing this. I went through a few of these points especially not having an instant bond. 2years later the bond is so strong.

[@lyssabyers4912]

Wow, wow, wow! This is phenomenal! Thank you for being so open. I had every single last one of these things and felt so alone

[@Macmedinaa]

Thanks for making this video !! Taught me things I didn’t know !!! ❤️ blessing to you and sage ☺️ can’t be prepared enough for a baby but I’m grateful for people like you making informational videos !! 😊

[@Love-vc8bk]

I'm 2 months and a first time mom. I'm so happy you said eating while pregnant is not enjoyable but a have-to thing. This is me 100%. I thought this was weird but hearing you say it was your experience makes me feel normal. I do now eat small more frequent meals and I lay off on the glasses of milk because it was causing crazy gas and discomfort. Thank you for this video.

[@ericacaso7507]

Thank you for making this! This is all sooo true and glad you’re putting it out there for ladies 🥰

[@annettarkun6345]

It’s been almost 5 years since I had a newborn. I enjoyed watching this video. I didn’t feel that instant bond with my first one either, like Matt I thought “I don’t know him yet”. Both my boys never fit in newborn clothes. And omg yes- the body odor!! I forgot about that, haha. Best point: “Everything is a phase”. That just never changes.

[@dorygoncalves6533]

35 weeks pregnant and this has been very helpful 👌🏼 Thank you so much ❤️

[@krayne4758]

Okay this video is fabulous. I’m so glad this is thorough and not sugar coated. I appreciate this so much!

[@crazyleaf257]

Love this and I think this is something that everyone in life needs to learn - it's just a season. Someone asked "what do you think when you have pain?" and I say "that it won't last forever and you'll be stronger on the other side"

[@rachelb137]

I’m almost half way through my pregnancy, found out we are having a baby boy, soo excited to meet him! but this video was soo interesting as there were so many of those things I didn’t consider 💙

[@TimiSterr]

OMG, I can relate to sooo much you're talking about! Feels so good to know I'm not alone ❤

[@PutABowOn]

This video was so helpful and reassuring. I’m 6 months pregnant and I’m going to make sure I remember all these tips

[@Kris-wj1qq]

I loved this! I’m pregnant with baby #3 and remember how surprising all the ‘odd’ things I went through that nobody talks about. And I’m not done yet! It’s so fun to hear other mommas stories!

[@kimberlywiddis6503]

I really appreciate the food comment. I've had three kids and I'm always soooo hungry postpartum! Especially while breastfeeding and I felt almost ashamed of it at first. I didn't realize the first time around how you continue to got through these type of things after having baby. I think I assumed I'd have baby and then just be myself so I was really surprised when I was a hungrier, thirsty, greasy, emotional version of myself.

[@stoutemeisie1]

The transition from old to new life is quite daunting. Thank you for your honesty

[@carolyntimberlake4264]

I am 5 months preggo with my 1st baby! Needed this! Thx for the tips!!!!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@SimsWishes]

My Bub is 4 weeks old and I feel this so hard. Thanks for making this video.

[@nikkibeastt4606]

26 weeks, FTM here! Thank you for this. Trying to brush up on my knowledge before baby boy is here. 💚

[@marthamitra5326]

Smell: it s pivotal for the bonding of baby and mom, for recognizing and knowing each other...love your own smell. It s natural. It s ok. It reflects how you re doing and if you re giving yourself enough self love& acceptance. You are wonderful as you are! In german there's a saying bout friendship/relationship: liking each other is "i can smell you well" so probably if your partner says you smell well, they mean it. They live you and the smell of each part of your body.

[@tatbuzz8953]

Thank you SO much for this. I don’t have any friends that have gone through pregnancy or are going through it and your kindness & candor is really comforting & reassuring. Appreciate you!!

[@minxee1586]

Thank you for talking about the partner taking time to get to know the baby and develop that bond. 🙏 currently experiencing this right now and having these conversations. It’s reassuring to hear that this is normal for dads with new babies 🙂

[@ErBeary]

I think a lot of dad's can feel pushed aside when their child is born and it makes it more difficult to form a bond. All the women-folk seem to swoop in to scoop up baby as soon as it's born, and dad can become just an observer. Really important to make sure dad gets to bond. Good for you guys.

[@debbiepalmer1094]

It is great that you are so open, it will help so many moms. x

[@hippofeathers5479]

I really appreciate this candid information. If someone hadn't warned me about the smell I'd lose my mind as someone hugely sensitive to smell even before pregnancy. I still might but mental preparedness always helps.

[@muffywille]

It took me forever to figure out the correlation between being smelly and breastfeeding!! Good news, after I was done nursing(which was years) I smelled good again :)

[@hopenoland6656]

You are so well-spoken. Just wanted to mention that. Thanks for the realistic tips and advice!

[@agirlisnoone5953]

I'm so happy to have a bunch of people in my circle that have given me all of this advise 🤗

[@MaryzAigredou]

Everything came back into place after 9 months PP for me... And after almost 2 years I'm feeling that my previous "state of mind" (personality if you prefer) is coming back. Pregnancy is one thing, but once you have the baby everything does change! And we're NOT told about this. Social medias are a game changer. Thank you for this video.

[@briii3868]

Watching while 19 weeks pregnant so excited to meet my son but scared at the same time 😅🎉For all my teen mommies you got this !!

[@cassandrabreit5029]

Im glad you talked about how you didn't enjoy eating during pregnancy, I'm almost 29 weeks now and have been so frustrated by my diet! Last month my midwife told me I should be eating double the protein I had been having and I feel like I'm going crazy trying to eat enough with this tiny stomach and all the heartburn!

[@irminemode3053]

I'm glad you mention the bonding , when i gave birth to my daughter i didn't feel anything for her until later. i thought something was wrong with me.

[@pharmclare]

Very relatable points. The bonding with the partner was new to me. Thank you

[@oliviacoxhead8350]

This has been so helpful. I have been so surprised by everything in pregnancy so far, and shocked that I feel like no one shared how horrible it is and the extent to which it takes over your body. This video has really helped me to not feel alone but also to understand a bit of what's coming down the line! Thanks.

[@julzram3887]

Thanks for the advice! I’m expecting a baby boy and he can come any day now. 💙I had no idea that hormones can change your smell after birth. That’s something I won’t be surprised about if it happens.

[@julisaochoa3209]

Omg when you said about the not eating comfortably when pregnant I felt that 😭😭 it’s so sad I can’t enjoy my meals cause then I get so full fast and here I thought I’d have such a huge appetite and cravings !!

[@hellzs4446]

7 weeks to go and 1 week of work left yay! And i feel like i have soooo much to DO around the house but completing those tasks omg kills your back!

[@marissabrewer1240]

I love how you talk with your hands! 💖

[@tankgrl1980]

I started smelling during my 3rd trimester and it definitely continued postpartum. Thanks for bringing up the stomach and oblique muscles thing, I definitely feel that and they hurt when I cough or laugh. The doctors kept checking my gaul bladder bc right is worse but no explanation for the pain. Hot flashes, especially at night are another thing no one talks about. Also constant constipation!

[@mistyramirez4105]

My first pregnancy In the beginning of my 2nd trimester I’m so glad I can look at advise on KZbin and tik tok I’ve learned a lot

[@kayceegronos8185]

Yay! I just found out I'm 20 weeks! We are so excited, thank you for your openness! ✌❤🙏🤗

[@allissacoffey626]

I'm going to be a first-time mom this August 2023. I'm so glad that u posted videos to help moms out there

[@Netflixnilla]

23 weeks strong still!! Having my first and it’s a Girl I’m so excited 🌺

[@naomistrange2858]

I just found out six days ago that I'm pregnant and all of this is soo nice to know. I like to be as prepared as possible for everything but I am 20 years old and wasn't expecting to have a baby so soon but I'm just gonna learn as much as possible

[@samanthagutierrez901]

I don’t think there’s any more honesty that I could ask for in a video!!! This is your true thoughts and I am happy I clicked! I’m pregnant just found out a week ago and im going to save this for the future. Xo !