15 THINGS I WISH I KNEW BEFORE HAVING A BABY | Advice for New & Expecting Moms

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[@aqlimiyahbrummell4026]

Hi

[@ecampbell3759]

i feel so out of place here cause im just a 15 year old girl trying understand more about this world for my little newborn sister 🥰 cheers for every mom out there!

[@kimberlyd2308]

That's so sweet! I love that you are doing your own research. Congratulations on your sister!! I have a 9yr and hope to be able to give him a sibling one day, he wants one so bad.

[@ecampbell3759]

@@kimberlyd2308 Thank you! even without a sibling i've never felt lonely, but now that she's here life is 100 times better 🥰 maybe your son is still young to completely understand the importance of a brother or of a sister, but he will understand it when he'll grow up and he will be very thankful!

[@livelongandprospermary8796]

I am 16 yrs older than my youngest step brother. He didn’t come to live with us until he was 2.5 (tragic back story truly) but he calls my mom Mom now and has for many years. He’s truly an amazing bub and it’s been an honor to watch him grow. (I also have a 1/2 brother 9 yrs younger and some step siblings in between 1/2 bro and I). You’ll have such a special bond with them. I revel in reminding my brother that I used to carry him places. Buckle him in his car seat. Watch him ride a 2 2 wheel bike for the first time (at age 3!!). I’ve seen him gut countless fish that HE caught himself. Sorry I’m bragging but this kid is friggen amazing!!

[@eloweez8798]

No fr!! You bestie are a good sister!

[@dontplaywithgod2064]

You are doing a good thing! Learning about this will increase your wisdom and maturity as a girl-to-be-woman and future mom and big sister!!

[@westernpigeon]

1) 1:20 - Don't buy newborn clothes 2) 2:26 - Buy zippers and footies 3) 3:46 - Track Naps 4) 5:28 - Breast Feed 5) 6:01 - Babies cry and it's ok 6) 8:17 - Days are short, nights are long 7) 10:01 - It takes time for the non-birthing parent to grow a bond with the baby 8) 11:35 - Everything is a phase 9) 12:28 - Being smelly after giving birth 10) 14:03 - Food and Appetite pre and post pregnancy 11) 15:48 - Sore Stomach Postpartum 12) 18:52 - 4th trimester means new symptoms 13) 20:05 - Identity Crisis 14) 21:58 - Parenting is a full time job 15) 23:23 - Pelvic Floor Changes (going to the bathroom feels different)

[@AStrawberryPie]

Thank you, was looking for this comment after the first point took over a minute to get to

[@VisualMind]

Thank you for that comment! Saved me from watching something I'm absolutely not interested in. I thought she'd be more real and share more juicy stuff and not "keep it light and positive"

[@abigailshanae7779]

@@VisualMind She says to buy a couple new born clothes just in case because her baby ended up fitting in them longer then expected. And that if you breastfeed use the milk for multiple purposes.

[@fruzsinadurr3199]

@@abigailshanae7779 I came to say this

[@liviajtcarlson6890]

She said yes to newborn clothes!!

[@BriannaSam1]

Postpartum doula here! I try and warn everyone about the smelly-ness, because so many are shocked. Smell is hormonal, and when you’ve just birthed a baby, your hormones are completely out of wack. It might go back to normal, but while you’re breastfeeding don’t expect it to. Becaaaaause your body also regulates your smell for your baby! In the early months your baby can’t see very well and they rely on your smell to know you. And your body ramping up your natural scent allows your baby to know/find you and your breasts. 😌

[@s.a.w5493]

Thats wild! I'm 28 weeks and I feel like I'm constantly learning new facts about what the body can do while breastfeeding. (Although ramped up smell is maybe not ideal)

[@BriannaSam1]

@@s.a.w5493 yeah! It’s so cool isn’t it? Also you’ll notice right around ovulation you’ll start to smell more “attractive”. It’s your body’s way of making you more desirable to mate/make babies. It’s all a hormone thing. And it’s soooooo fascinating. 😌

[@vanessaheslop9838]

This is very helpful! Thank you 🙏🏾

[@vanessaheslop9838]

@@s.a.w5493 same! I’m due July 4th and I’m still getting shocked with new info 😅😅❤️ Orayers for a great delivery mamas 👏🏾

[@theladyboss8941]

Do you think the bad odour is mostly from moms that breastfeed? I’m a mom of four and bottled fed every time and didn’t have any unpleasant odours only the first little while after birth when we are bleeding but that goes away .

[@oliviabrown7199]

Hey everyone! Nurse here, just wanted to help with understanding the sore belly phenomenon. So the soreness would come from your uterus (not actually the stomach). The placenta attaches inside the uterus and similar to when your uterus sheds blood during your period, the uterus sheds the placenta after birth. And this is why you will expect to also have bleeding after birth for a time. Hope this helps! 😊 Also wanted to say thank you for these tips! I am a nurse but haven’t been a blessed as a mom yet and there are things I’m sure you don’t learn till you’re in it, but tips are helpful for sure!

[@Madrovergaya]

thank you for saying it! I was browsing through comments hoping somebody pointed that out

[@juliapalacios6274]

I totally understand the underwhelming feeling of eating during pregnancy. It is a torture. I don't feel like eating anything, nothing tastes amazing. I have nausea when I'm hungry and I feel too full when I'm eating. So annoying!

[@inesbarros3847]

This is me. They said it would get better, but I’m 17 weeks pregnant and it remains :) I feel like I’m constantly complaining but I used to take so much pleasure from food :) I’m going crazy :)

[@jenwylie4093]

Same. I had no cravings. All of the healthy foods I ate on a regular basis no longer were appealing. I didn't have morning sickness, but there were a lot of foods I just couldn't eat. Sometimes it would take me an hour to eat dinner. I would count my calories to make sure I ate enough because I was just never hungry.

[@elizabethhalt2096]

Maybe try this time to eating the most random and absurd food combinations, and take pleasure from people's reactions instead of the food itself? 😂

[@mchan5820]

Same. It’s getting a little better. For me it’s about finding the foods that are easy to eat but also healthy and trying to eat small and slow before I get hungry nauseous because that’s worse than feeling full/bloated.

[@QueenB0419]

Omg that’s been me since week 6 & now I’m week 36 and I still feel the same 🙄🤦🏼‍♀️

[@wolf-antics]

Just found out I was pregnant 3 days ago! I’m so excited to start this journey 🤗

[@aoife5540]

Congratulations 🎉 I'm 18 weeks with my third......no idea why I'm watching this tbh lol Fyi she is extremely perfect .....don't expect to be / look like her please

[@wolf-antics]

@@aoife5540 haha truu! Thanks for that reminder 😅

[@iamwhoyousayiam6773]

Congratulations!

[@kruthikanilkund8444]

Congratulations..!!!

[@kingasandi4860]

Congratulations 🎉

[@juliacastillo2904]

Omgosh. I smelled sooooo bad after having my little girl. I would walk around my house trying to find the smell.... it was me. I was the smell 🤣🤣🤣

[@junec.rodriguez1115]

Hahaha yes

[@mexibbcakesify]

I smelled like a dead animal

[@heviutza]

hahhaa this was hilarious to read :D

[@LadyDoe13]

I was “the smell” too! 🤣

[@wintertrine]

😂

[@monsalinchen320]

Breastmilk also works for sore baby bums and cracked mummy nipples! Mix breastmilk with olive oil and put on your nipples after breastfeeding. It’s honestly amazing!!

[@mayahvalenciano9885]

How much of each tho?

[@iamjoannhoward]

❤

[@lindsey8639]

I’m one of those mamas that didn’t have an immediate bond with my baby girl. I felt so guilty and didn’t actually feel attached to her for MONTHS! My husband had an immediate attachment. It was such an emotional rollercoaster. I thought I was an awful mom because no one ever talks about that so I’m glad you brought it up.

[@belindagoertzen8071]

Exact same situation here! My husband had an immediate attachment and I didn’t. It was so hard.

[@nancybraget6006]

Same here with both my boys. It took a few weeks for me. But now love them pieces.

[@marykmotherhood]

@@belindagoertzen8071 same here!

[@jenwylie4093]

I was the same. I couldn't breast feed (not sure if that impacted how I felt). I had carpol tunnel syndrome at the end of the pregnancy and a few months after so I couldn't hold him as much as I wanted to. I didn't think it would take as long as it did to bond.

[@zemzemibrahim4620]

Its never too late as she is growing up bring her more closer give her hugs frequently take shower with her and when she is having little naps in a day hug her tightly and sleep Don't regret what have passed

[@Proteus8855]

I’m a new Dad as of 2 days ago and really appreciate your video! It’s helped me understand what my wife is going through. Thank you and cheers from Australia! 😊

[@a_l_e_k_sandra]

Congratulations, dad! It's lovely to see that you are involved and understanding. Sending you and your family lots of love from Serbia!

[@DarrinSK]

Must be nice...

[@jbirdcarter3452]

I just found out I’m pregnant 5 days ago. It still seems surreal. ❤️❤️ It’ll be my first baby. My husband and I were only trying for 2 months, and I’m 41. I read all the statistics so I thought I would have a hard time getting pregnant….But God 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@lunablossom4737]

Congratulations 🎊 👏 I'm on month 2 of trying and hoping for a positive this month

[@alexandraj3426]

Congratulations!

[@letticiad4112]

Praise & thank God!🙏🏻🌹

[@chelsmeister]

Congratulations!!! My Mom had me at 38, I think a lot of people think it's hard but some are just fine since everyone's different :) :) Have a beautiful journey!

[@MiindGames]

Congratulations 💐

[@kayleewallace4521]

Just found out im pregnant 10 days ago with an unplanned baby. Trying to learn as much as I can even if it was unexpected. Its so nerve racking but i want to be as prepared as possible for this little human ❤️

[@daniellehammer3048]

I have roughly 20yrs of baby/toddler/child experience, and let me just tell you a few tricks that you might find helpful... 1) if your baby is crying for what seems like no reason, take them to the window/outside. I cannot tell you how many times I have done this and the baby is either now distracted from their fit or just very interested in seeing something other than the the house. 2) you discussed not being able to do what you want, and that's true to some extent, but there's a mommy secret which is to find activities of mutual enjoyment. You love mornings? Take your baby on a special walk when you wake up so you can really soak it in. There are so many options (especially as your baby moves out of mushy newborn phase) that you can find that fill both of your cups.

[@4356cutiepie]

Such great advice 🙏🏻

[@sofi99]

More please. We need more of this advice!!! 🥰

[@oliviachan2041]

心90

[@Lamolongitaaa]

I love this advice!

[@jesscaitlin5787]

Omg this totally works for my baby ! When he is teething he loves looking out the window or standing outside he calms right down , same with the bath he’s immediately happy as heck in the bath

[@morgangarner4027]

I'm 8 weeks pregnant with TWINS and this is my first pregnancy... so I'm scared out of my mind and trying to learn as much as possible ahead of time 😄

[@alexislee6777]

It’s been 7 months, update❤️

[@agataskraba1492]

@@alexislee6777 congrats! How are you preparing yourself? :)

[@ChikisRozae]

Congratulations!!!!! ♥️

[@conwaytewhaiti]

Update? How's life with your newborns xx it can be difficult with just one, proud of you, hang in there mama ❤

[@theloraks]

Hope you're doing well 💖💖

[@beckyrobb2745]

To add to your point: "Baby's cry and that's okay." Baby's crying is actually a form of communication for them and this is how they communicate to their caregivers. I am actually learning about this in school; I am in the Early Childhood Education Program in college. Children are very interesting, smart, unique, and special!! By the way, I love your outfit!! It is so pretty!!

[@MadameEclipseRose]

Yes true it is a from of communication but you should never foget that it is the last resort for a baby. So if you did not recognize all the othe signs your baby gave you it starts crying... So being honest if your baby cries you are kind of late (of course I mean the regular stuff like: baby wants to sleep or feed. I am not talking about sickness or if anything hurts!)

[@lilaschmetterling3023]

@@MadameEclipseRose true. Crying is still an ask for help.

[@livelongandprospermary8796]

@@lilaschmetterling3023 my brother who was just starting to not be a toddler was crying and inconsolable. They eventually figured out he had a hair tourniquet. Babies get them on their toes commonly and it’s not noticed because of socks/feet coverings. Well my brother’s hair tourniquet was around another small appendage. They had to take him to the ER to get the hair removed. He was old enough that he should have been able to tell us (I’m 16 yrs older than him) but because of the pain and being such a young kid (2.5 or so), he couldn’t communicate. 😬 yeah so definitely something to rule out if baby/toddler/kid wont stop crying.

[@nadiasaurusrex]

I want to have kids in the near future, and I'm fully expecting my husband to have a quicker bond with the baby. He says it's his life's purpose to be a dad, whereas I'm at VERY high risk for postpartum depression. Knowing this going into it, I'm fully prepared for my brain to really struggle with emotional bonding during postpartum, and that's okay. People, it's normal, do not feel guilty!

[@zzkittykat]

This is EXACTLY what im going through with my newborn. My bf def seems to enjoy parenthood more than i do😅 although it's just the postpartum depression gettin to me

[@zzkittykat]

This is EXACTLY what im going through with my newborn. My bf def seems to enjoy parenthood more than i do😅 although it's just the postpartum depression gettin to me

[@nicholerock522]

I worry about this a little, but you (and her) talking about it reminds me I don't need to actually worry about it, just accept that's it's a possibility.

[@michaelamcdonald9699]

My babe is 3 weeks old and watching this after having an emotional few days has made me feel so sane. Thank you!

[@torib7704]

Congrats on your new babe!

[@holymotherrr93]

Same! 😌

[@msp.9780]

Hi, you can also put 3-4 spoonfuls of breast milk in the baby bath, great for dry skin. Also a drop in each nostril if the baby has a blocked nose. It works wonders! For adults, it even helps with psoriasis!

[@symonej3920]

How to drop in the nose ?

[@christianandreygel1060]

How does it help with psoriasis? Bathing with breast milk?

[@hannahjoyhaynes]

I was shoook by my BO afterbirth! I felt so gross all the time. Baby is 2 months tomorrow and I the smell is getting better hallelujah🙌🏼 Missing your old self is so true! It’s definitely hard to wrap my mind around that I am a MOM and that will never change. Life is wild!

[@erinshannon1114]

Try washing your baby socks, hats and small stuff in a lingerie bag. Saved me from losing things!

[@bijalnandha]

This is a life saver! I do this with all of my baby’s little bits even her bibs and small toys!

[@HackerActivist]

same

[@ericacaso7507]

Yes this!!

[@mrsmmiles9834]

What a fantastic idea!!! I am expecting my first, so I don’t know all these cool tips and tricks, what a great idea. Thank you!

[@ss-lb6kb]

Best comment ever!! Having my fourth now, i never thought of this

[@hoda95]

Hi there I'm a nurse and just wanted to clarify the wording regarding the wound in your stomach. The placenta attaches to the uterus and when it comes off, yes it is like an open wound. There is no wound in your stomach, it is your uterus which has open vessels from the previously attached placenta.

[@katherinescott6552]

Thank you! Lol 😅The whole time she would say stomach I would correct it in my head with uterus.

[@Quidwitchh]

Ladies, I lost my baby 2 hours after birth. I had to go through an entire pregnancy and post partum period without the child I bonded with. It is 10Mx worse than anything you’ll go through post partum. Enjoy it. Every minute of your time with bubba. Even the hard times. ♥️ EDIT: A big thank you to people extending support. I have gone through lots of healing since. For those who thought it appropriate to attack me and call my comment toxic: why? Why add more hurt? I was in the depths of grief and preparing for another that I was terrified of losing again. My comment was simply to add perspective. If you didn’t like it or agree with it, you could have chosen to ignore. Trying to put me down having poured my soul to a little corner of the internet doesn’t make you a better person, and I hope you have the wisdom not to do that again, because it’s unkind. Having said this it was not my intention to one up anyone who had experienced PPD or anything else. We all experience grief and whichever way we choose to manage it is honourable. My way of dealing with grief was to talk about it. Talking about it means my daughter keeps living. Thank you

[@briannahughes4048]

Praying for you🥺

[@nekokitty2883]

May God be with you sis

[@A_Fairy007]

I'm so soooorrrry.

[@elizabethcrawford6427]

Im so so sorry for your lost

[@Abcdefghijajajaja]

Samantha, I barley have words. I am sorry. Bless you.

[@HeartandHomeofJess]

I am currently 35 and 6 months pregnant with my first baby. These tips were so helpful and good to know in advance! I’ve been binging baby videos so thanks for sharing your experience! 🙏🏽🥰

[@serenapalmer1220]

I’m 32 and this is my first pregnancy

[@its1sasha142]

did you hqve a vaginal birth or c sec and may i know how was your birth experience ?❤

[@vesnakelsey8985]

I was blown away by the post partum hormones. The first week I was almost resentful of my baby. Just had weird emotions and like you mentioned, didn't have a bind with her right away. It was scary and unexpected but luckily I had support and fellow moms who went though the same thing.

[@serenapalmer1220]

The is the VERY thing I’m worried about

[@liisanorheim-kiik8527]

The pelvic floor changes! After 4 kids, I still can't recall anybody mentioning it! And it is important to do those kegels for the future strength of that pelvic floor ✔

[@adriannewebster]

This! My mum had a prolapse down the line after having me because no one educated her on pelvic health

[@tankgrl1980]

Tracking wake windows are great, you can definitely start sleep training early. Important to only put baby in crib when they're tired (use other things like a swing when they are up), don't let them sleep too long outside the crib (you want the crib/bassinet to be associated with sleep), keep them up for 3 hours before bed, little things like that can be really helpful.

[@Love-vc8bk]

I'm 2 months and a first time mom. I'm so happy you said eating while pregnant is not enjoyable but a have-to thing. This is me 100%. I thought this was weird but hearing you say it was your experience makes me feel normal. I do now eat small more frequent meals and I lay off on the glasses of milk because it was causing crazy gas and discomfort. Thank you for this video.

[@christinemanuelsson9580]

Everyone told me not to buy any newborn clothes.. I did anyways, and I’m so glad I did, because newborn was too big for her, and she could wear them til she was like 4-5 months..

[@aas061189]

My daughter wore newborn clothes for like 4 months! She is 19 months old now and is still in 12 month clothes.

[@SomethinAintRightHere]

I know!! I wish I did. All the 0-3 was too big for a while.

[@loopy18lau]

I’m so glad you talked about crying. So many people must go into mother hood and feel bad about why their baby is crying because a lot of social media doesn’t show that side of being a mum! Crying is an emotion, and the only way they can communicate a need or pain. You are doing an amazing job 🤩

[@desertmama98]

Yes. I feel like a bad mom if he cries at all and now he doesn't like being set down cause I just constantly held him 😔

[@SpyChiick]

Def not the ONLY way they can communicate a need or pain. There are MANY signs to watch for before they start crying- it is often a last resort as many have stated. Try watching a video on universal baby cues. Save yourself and your little one some pain

[@minxee1586]

Thank you for talking about the partner taking time to get to know the baby and develop that bond. 🙏 currently experiencing this right now and having these conversations. It’s reassuring to hear that this is normal for dads with new babies 🙂

[@ErBeary]

I think a lot of dad's can feel pushed aside when their child is born and it makes it more difficult to form a bond. All the women-folk seem to swoop in to scoop up baby as soon as it's born, and dad can become just an observer. Really important to make sure dad gets to bond. Good for you guys.

[@christinacavanaugh]

Definitely having an identity crisis! I have a 4 month old as well and am having a really hard time accepting my new life is pretty much 100% baby-related. Hoping it gets better as he gets older.

[@Heather73090]

This happened to me for sure at the same time with my daughter. But it definitely gets easier and better, mama! My daughters 3 now and life feels so much more balanced now

[@angie675]

This happened to me too. It took me 6 months to kinda get my groove back. Going back to work helped a lot. I also waited until I was 40 to have my first so I mourned my old life a bit I think.

[@christinacavanaugh]

@@Heather73090 Thank you so much for your comment. Really gives me hope :)

[@christinacavanaugh]

@@angie675 Thanks for your comment

[@joannaciulla9645]

Christina Cavanaugh it definitely gets better after no longer breastfeeding.

[@MiaJohnson-x4m]

Honestly, this book ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’ gave me the encouragement I needed to stay strong in raising my kids with Christian values, it’s comforting to know Im not alone on this journey

[@Wikoduszek]

Its just sad. Ofc u are not alone - there are a lot of Christians who are also parents. But... what about that? What does it fact change? Im an agnostic and even if every person on this planet is religious and rise his/her kid that way.... i dont care. It does not matter. Do whatever u think is good for your child and dont look at other people.

[@dg7426]

This is the best/most honest video I’ve seen about being a first time mom.

[@NextLevelMeNow]

Check out Alliy Scott too, she’s wonderful! Lots of great info for FTMs

[@wilenglish2991]

With the postpartum smell I found men’s stick deodorant helped so much and I felt so much better about myself.

[@carlapoch4177]

32 weeks with my first babe and I've been using men's deodorant for years now. It just works better!

[@atomika6499]

Let's talk about how hard breastfeeding can be! I am currently EBF at one month, but it was quite a struggle. Everyone told me that I was supposed to be able to express colostrum, that my milk would come in on day 3, and none of those things happened. The nurses at the hospital pushed for formula right away after I couldn't manually express, and I cried for days when my milk didn't come in as expected on day 3, but on day 5. By then the introduction of formula had already caused issues. I was lucky enough to speak to a lactation consultant that made me start pumping every day and pushed me away from formula. My milk supply grew substantially and at 1 month now I'm EBF, while pumping an extra 8oz for supplementing or freezing every day. A lot of new moms who want to breastfeed don't have access to the right info or support, and it's mentally and emotionally exhausting to talk about it when people are still so judgemental about breastfeeding and formula.

[@leza4453]

Yes! I struggled too in the beginning. Had to pumpfeed exclusively in the begining (which is horribly time consuming) and managed to switch to nursing within 3 weeks. In the long run it was so worth it to stick through and not resort to giving up.

[@stoutemeisie1]

The transition from old to new life is quite daunting. Thank you for your honesty

[@josephineraimondi4976]

I love how calm and chill your tone of voice is in this video! I can just see how thoughtful you are with your words and I just wanted to acknowledge how nice it is to see someone not rush everything they have to say! 💕 very well said ✨✨

[@lucykoster5718]

Exactly what I was thinking!

[@crazyleaf257]

Love this and I think this is something that everyone in life needs to learn - it's just a season. Someone asked "what do you think when you have pain?" and I say "that it won't last forever and you'll be stronger on the other side"

[@brochiek]

I just had a baby girl a few weeks ago and relate so much to what you're saying! Thanks for being open about these things and normalizing them. Great to feel mommy support and know it's all normal for the stage, and passes. Love how honest you are about it all :)

[@AFoxNamedHush]

I actually wasn't a huge fan of the "baby stage" but we had a high risk pregnancy. Our daughter had a major congenital heart defect, with open heart surgery at 2months old. I was also trying to breastfeed as well..she was also breech and I had an emergency c-section plus I had post-natal depression, too. I'm just here to say that it DOES get easier..you will and CAN get through it. Our daughter is fine now and is a thriving 4yo and you'd never know there'd been any issues at all. It DID take us 4years to try again, for our 2nd but I'm 29 weeks now and things all looking good. Every birth is different, every baby is different and the biggest advice I can give is "take it a day at a time." You've got this! ❤

[@allissacoffey626]

I'm going to be a first-time mom this August 2023. I'm so glad that u posted videos to help moms out there

[@kimberlywiddis6503]

I really appreciate the food comment. I've had three kids and I'm always soooo hungry postpartum! Especially while breastfeeding and I felt almost ashamed of it at first. I didn't realize the first time around how you continue to got through these type of things after having baby. I think I assumed I'd have baby and then just be myself so I was really surprised when I was a hungrier, thirsty, greasy, emotional version of myself.

[@madbrain-sh7sp]

I'm not gonna lie and I dont regret it lol like 90% of my daughters clothes have been given to us. she's now 8 months and we have barely bought any clothes.. its helped alot actually. Hand me downs help alot when having a baby 👶

[@meganp4790]

Hell yeah it does when they get older and start liking certain things then hand me down won’t work with older kids because of them wanting the nice brand new things or whatever their friends are into.

[@nightcorelove2626]

@@meganp4790 I am 17 and I did and do take the hand me downs..I just only take the ones I like but..

[@nataliamirochnitchenko8152]

you're so sweet and so honest. it was very kind and compassionate of you to forgive Matt for speaking his feelings. you are a gem. he is a lucky man! and Sage is a lucky girl to have you as her mom 🌹

[@kelscmae]

Please don’t ever delete this video! I saved it as a source in my document for when I have a baby. ❤

[@keanubell6238]

i’m currently 21 weeks and we agreed on the name sage! it’s so pretty

[@lucywambui8072]

8wks and same here if it's a girl God willing.

[@ashleyholbrook7201]

I love the name sage. We currently trying and I’ve locked it in boy or girl!

[@SommyLogic]

That is so pretty!

[@lizzy5437]

Sage Monroe would be so pretty. No idea why that randomly came to my mind 🥰 I am also 21 weeks! :) Her name is Tenley 🙂

[@serenitymattingly]

Omg!!!! That after dinner nap is genius! With my first baby my days were short and nights were long but I never found a time to sleep 💤

[@sabrinagonzalez8120]

You’re such a delight to listen to. My son is 14 mo. And I agree with everything you say. I would add “breastfeeding is a beast” I don’t think anyone warned me how difficult, emotional, exhausting and painful breastfeeding would be, I felt blindsided and constantly inadequate for the first few months.

[@thuyrannosaurus]

My exact sentiments on breastfeeding 😩😩🥺 my son is almost one month and I am feeling like if I make it to three months I would applaud myself. Kudos to all women who breastfeed

[@sabrinagonzalez8120]

@@thuyrannosaurus hang in there. Short goals is what helped me. I, like you said 3 months, then 6 and ended go doing a year but it felt right each step of the way. Take care of yourself, mama!

[@oliviacoxhead8350]

This has been so helpful. I have been so surprised by everything in pregnancy so far, and shocked that I feel like no one shared how horrible it is and the extent to which it takes over your body. This video has really helped me to not feel alone but also to understand a bit of what's coming down the line! Thanks.

[@JonasofPersia]

I am going to be a father for the first time in november, so I can't watch enough of these videos, this is a really good one. About baby socks, I just bought the little diaper suit/sock combo ones with buttons on them so maybe we won't lose as many😅 Also I was afraid that I bought to many clothes period but I did buy them in 3 different sizes so unless he's a literal giant he has clothes for at least 6 months, hopefully👍

[@sunson567]

Congratulations Jonas!

[@JonasofPersia]

@@sunson567 Thank you👍

[@LS-fe4ob]

❤️

[@anthoniaezeamaka7368]

❤️❤️

[@lola1033]

Involved dad! Yes!! I’m so lucky my husband is super involved with the pregnancy too, but I know it’s not the general rule, so good for you guys!

[@remaabraham8348]

The identity crisis part is so true. Mine is 2.5 yrs old now and I feel like at this point, I don’t even remember what my life was like before having my baby. It’s crazy.😂

[@acutee2]

I worked as a babysitter, nanny, daycare worker, and teacher for 15 years so I arrogantly thought I knew everything about babies and given birth, but woah I learned some stuff here! The stomach pain, body odor, fathers connecting, itchy skin, wow, just such good info here. Thank you!!!

[@eloweez8798]

Wooow thats a lot of work with children! May I ask what motivated you? If its too personnal you can absolutely tell me to go cook and egg or just ignore my question x)

[@acutee2]

@@eloweez8798 money like 85% of the motivation was income. At 11 years old I started to pay for a school trip and then like the Baby-Sitters Club books I ran it like a business. Then I did daycare work, nannying and teaching throughout my 20s. I only stopped when the pandemic hit. Over the years I got training and even became a Red Cross and hospital child care, first aid, and cpr instructor. The pay in childcare is nearly double that of other industries and the work is fun. Remember you are not tired from raising kid all week so on Friday night you go care for baby, play a board game with kids and then get paid to do whatever you want for like 6+ hours while they sleep. Yes, there were emergencies, screaming kids, and sick kids, but its just part of life. In 2018 I could make $18 to 25 an hour babysitting but my coropate manager job was just $12. Plus it was more fun. That's easy to stay motivated for! 🙂

[@tierniclendenin9414]

The crying and social media is so true! Especially with first time moms! I remember having my toddler and thinking what is wrong!? It was a constant mental battle between the social media comparisons and myself/newborn.

[@michelitasc]

The dad bond taking time is real! And I also got so upset with my husband because of that but it does actually develop and now they are inseparable. When you were saying that point I had a vivid flashback 😂

[@HealthNutNutrition]

It’s hard the understand in the beginning when you’re so emotional but now it makes total sense

[@ElizabethRodriguez-ed5rv]

It’s been 17 years since I had my daughter. I now have twin 1 month old babies. I’m so happy that I came across your video. Thank you!!! I forgot what it was like to be a new momma. Now I’m doing it all over again x2 and I am struggling a little. 😄

[@ettaprice2559]

I want twins! I wish this would be the case when we hear heartbeats at our first appointment. The hospital still hasn’t contacted us

[@kimberlyd2308]

❤

[@StandardAmericanWife]

100% on the smelliness! I went from being able to skip deodorant to needing to reapply during the day. 😂 No one warned me about this!

[@marthamitra5326]

Smell: it s pivotal for the bonding of baby and mom, for recognizing and knowing each other...love your own smell. It s natural. It s ok. It reflects how you re doing and if you re giving yourself enough self love& acceptance. You are wonderful as you are! In german there's a saying bout friendship/relationship: liking each other is "i can smell you well" so probably if your partner says you smell well, they mean it. They live you and the smell of each part of your body.

[@cassandrabreit5029]

Im glad you talked about how you didn't enjoy eating during pregnancy, I'm almost 29 weeks now and have been so frustrated by my diet! Last month my midwife told me I should be eating double the protein I had been having and I feel like I'm going crazy trying to eat enough with this tiny stomach and all the heartburn!

[@carolyntimberlake4264]

I am 5 months preggo with my 1st baby! Needed this! Thx for the tips!!!!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@islndcalypso911]

Thank you for the raw and real content! Hard to find Mama's talk about the tough issues. Really appreciate it

[@erinsheridan4593]

Those mixed feelings after baby is born is SO normal, and I'm glad you mentioned that! Both my husband and I felt differently after each of our 4 babies, but always ended up forming strong bonds. With my 1st, I instantly felt that "you are my world and I couldn't be more obsessed," then with my 2nd it took a little more time to feel that. 3rd and 3th babies were somewhere in between.

[@britney8775]

I love that you made this video & explained everything in detail. This has been extremely helpful & reassuring. I recently found out 2 weeks ago I am currently 8 weeks pregnant with my first. So this is great information. It hasn't sunken in yet except for the horrible morning sickness & heartburn. ❤️

[@keilynruiz3460]

I’m 22 and I had to raise my little brother when I was 13/14, and for the whole babies cry, I used to think it was me that was doing it wrong and my mom(it was just me and her, she would take care of him in the mornings while I went to school and I did over night while she worked) was always working over night and I thought I was doing everything wrong and it gave me some emotional trauma and every time I hear a baby cry I start tearing up 🥹, but it’s fine a year later I realized I was doing everything right and I don’t regret anything to this day! 😭

[@khayr2644]

Almost all video on KZbin are about what to buy how to get ready My first video and am so happy I clicked because you talk about lot of personal things that as pregnant women I am struggling with including not enjoying food 🥹an I thought I was different to what typical pregnant person is, identity crisis and not being able to let go my old self or not being able to work like other stronger active colleague which I was better then or similar to them before 😔. I feel relieved watching this 😊❤️❤️

[@chelsclark47]

Getting ready to give birth to my first born son at the end of April, I'm ALREADY full-term and READY to begin my motherhood journey! I save videos like these by the dozens

[@cece6490]

how did birth go i’m due tomorrow and if she doesn’t come for a week im getting induced on the 4th

[@veronikastrobl2077]

What really surprised me after having my little girl was that the wound from the placenta kept bleeding for almost 6 weeks after birth and it was not like my normal period, but pretty heavy bleeding and no-one warned me beforehand that it was going to last that long, I actually thought that would be over after a few days 😅

[@Netflixnilla]

23 weeks strong still!! Having my first and it’s a Girl I’m so excited 🌺

[@ericabrizendine9046]

Just found out I'm pregnant yesterday 🙃 so excited and I feel so 🙌🏼blessed

[@nicolebeasley1036]

Thank you so much for this video! I went through so much of that with my first daughter, Sage, and had an elongated postpartum anxiety and depression recovery as a result of just either not knowing or not having the experience yet. Every new mom should hear this!!!

[@kebaughn]

I'm 27weeks pregnant with my little boy & this video was incredibly helpful!! thank you!!

[@steelgear3876]

Very informative. My wife is 32 weeks pregnant and we are in the process of getting everything prepared for the big day. This stuff has helped so thanks for making this vid.

[@muffywille]

It took me forever to figure out the correlation between being smelly and breastfeeding!! Good news, after I was done nursing(which was years) I smelled good again :)

[@wynonnapeek609]

I am so glad you brought up the crying spells. My son is almost 7 and he’s my only child. All of my friends were having babies and they were always talking about how little their babies cried. Meanwhile I was going through it. He never seemed to stop crying. He cried like that and didn’t sleep well until he was three. So I think your absolutely right there is this whole negative string around babies who cry a lot and I don’t think that’s something that should be hidden because it is normal and it does get better. I hope if there are any women going through the crying stage right now or in the future your video helps them understand that it is ok and it will get better. ♥️ much love and thank you🙏

[@Kris-wj1qq]

I loved this! I’m pregnant with baby #3 and remember how surprising all the ‘odd’ things I went through that nobody talks about. And I’m not done yet! It’s so fun to hear other mommas stories!

[@alwaysovercomingbear4809]

I am 47, my kids are grown and I am now waiting for grandkids! I just like reminiscing…great video!

[@SamElle]

not me taking notes while watching this despite being single my entire life LOL

[@arumsbercerita4286]

Me too siss 😅😅

[@SamElle]

@@arumsbercerita4286 hahahahaha love that for us, we are extra prepared!!!

[@wolf-antics]

Soon

[@lizzy5437]

😂

[@annettarkun6345]

It’s been almost 5 years since I had a newborn. I enjoyed watching this video. I didn’t feel that instant bond with my first one either, like Matt I thought “I don’t know him yet”. Both my boys never fit in newborn clothes. And omg yes- the body odor!! I forgot about that, haha. Best point: “Everything is a phase”. That just never changes.

[@lindseymccoy675]

I am a first time mom and had post partum anxiety that something bad was gonna happen to my son or myself. It's what you were saying it's the transition and responsibility factor. I also didn't know I was pregnant. No symptoms, had gone months without periods before and had him at 7months in my bathroom. I seriously just thought I was having bad period cramps. He came out quick and safe and he is a 14 months now

[@missloretta]

Wow. Congratulations on your baby but what a crazy story!

[@lindseymccoy675]

@@misslorettaThank you! He is a miracle!💙 Apparently it's called a cryptic pregnancy and happens to about 1 in 2500 women. Definitely a shock lol!!

[@alexintheabstract]

Pregnant with my second and this is a great refresher! Would love to see a video on how you’re getting Sage to fall asleep on her own because that was always the struggle with my first.

[@KatelynDiAnn]

Just found out I’m pregnant 2 days ago! I was very scared and unsure because this is unexpected, but I’m learning more. Thank you for reassurance and things to look forward to!!

[@sailorarwen6101]

I found out I’m pregnant 5 days ago. We’re so lucky to have access to all these videos we can watch.

[@breannaatkinson]

Great video. I enjoyed watching this while I was on a walk. The sound effect sort of freaked me out while wearing my ear buds walking in a park because it sounded like i was going to vet hit with a baseball lol. Its some sort of swoosh that sounded like something was thrown 😅 in the walk in park setting. Im newly pregnant and this was informative. Shes sweet too

[@ChrissyXW]

I'm 36 weeks pregnant and the smell thing has been happening to me already for awhile! Hormones are wild, I smell like a teenager again and no amount of showering can save me 😂 But I've found that using a natural salt or magnesium deodorant rather than anything scented has saved me! This was super insightful thoogh... Looking forward to my own post partum discoveries! :)

[@Kelly-qv3wg]

Can you recommend any brands¿

[@ChrissyXW]

@@Kelly-qv3wg I use the one by brand Salt Of The Earth but there are loads available, you can find them in any health shop. 😊

[@kaylabeasley5886]

Just found out I was pregnant 3 days ago, but I'm already 9 weeks along so I feel like I'm way behind on all my research and planning. Thank you for sharing this; it was all great info.

[@DaniellePowell-z4j]

This is one the most real, informational videos I have seen. I have a 5 week old and wish I would have seen this months ago!

[@tatbuzz8953]

Thank you SO much for this. I don’t have any friends that have gone through pregnancy or are going through it and your kindness & candor is really comforting & reassuring. Appreciate you!!

[@tolleri90]

Let me just say: not all moms have that magical bond with their baby when they give birth, some of us take time to build that bond and that too is ok. ❤️

[@bbarnes766]

Thank you for saying this! I’m worried about not initially bonding. But I’m praying it’ll all work out

[@tolleri90]

@@bbarnes766 I'm sure you'll fall head over heels in love with your baby after getting to know them and taking care of them. ❤️ Some of us are careful and logical by nature and that might mean that falling in love at first sight is not an option, as much as you'd like it to be. It doesn't mean you don't care for your child, it just means that it takes a little time to form those heartshaped glasses for your eyes. 😁 Anyway, if it doesn't get better with time, talk to your doctor. That's usually one of the signs of post partum depression, which is totally treatable and nothing to be ashamed of, it's more common than you'd think. ❤️

[@surlespasdondine]

We needed newborn and then 1 month clothes for the first month, I'm VERY happy I bought newborn clothes!!

[@HealthNutNutrition]

Right? Everything else was just drowning on sage

[@HealthNutNutrition]

Right? Everything else was just drowning on sage

[@brianaor1234]

Same. My almost 5 week old is 10.5 pounds and still fits into newborn! I’d advise people to get secondhand newborn sizes and just basics. Get the cute stuff in bigger sizes.

[@lullabybabysoothingsounds]

Being a new mom can be hard, but so rewarding!! Enjoy every moment ❤

[@hopenoland6656]

You are so well-spoken. Just wanted to mention that. Thanks for the realistic tips and advice!

[@marcelitanava]

For me the first four months were brutal for nightime wakings! After I slept trained my baby everything changed 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 highly recommend doing it!!

[@alexagg7640]

Did you take some course? Or what helped you?

[@tolleri90]

@@alexagg7640 you can just Google sleeptraining and you usually get the help you need, since the instructions are usually quite simple. ☺️

[@marcelitanava]

@@alexagg7640 yes!! I hired a sleep coach, but there are numerous courses such as Taking Cara Babies that are online and helpful for sleep training 🥰

[@alexagg7640]

Thank you ladies. I will look into that. My baby is 2 months old and he wakes every 2 hours to eat all day and night.. and by the time hes done eating , burping and goes to sleep, 40 min have gone by leaving me about an hour before hes up again. It's so so exhausting..

[@marcelitanava]

@@alexagg7640 that’s normal, hang in there! I slep trained my baby when he was 5 months old. Sooner is not recommended

[@Annisa_Kacang]

This was great. So many awesome points from “everything is a phase, “a smell” and postpartum.

[@tankgrl1980]

I started smelling during my 3rd trimester and it definitely continued postpartum. Thanks for bringing up the stomach and oblique muscles thing, I definitely feel that and they hurt when I cough or laugh. The doctors kept checking my gaul bladder bc right is worse but no explanation for the pain. Hot flashes, especially at night are another thing no one talks about. Also constant constipation!

[@Bea_InChrist729]

I'm 6 weeks along and food sucks today. I feel better knowing it's not just me. Thanks for the video! Sage is now 3 years old at the time I'm typing this. Happy belated birthday, Sage!

[@natynina8979]

Yes the small portions while pregnant!!!! People keep making comments that I “don’t eat enough” and it gets on my nerves!

[@ellencrouch6]

Omg since my nausea went away around week 12 I've not stopped eating 😂 I'm hungry all the time lol

[@graywhey]

@@ellencrouch6 it’ll come back in the 3rd semester especially bc you have no extra room in your belly

[@valerianwilson7414]

Lord you actually have posted an eye opener, im 7 months pregnant and this really felt great...though there is lots more to explore, looking forward to some more amazing posts from you❤

[@lyssabyers4912]

Wow, wow, wow! This is phenomenal! Thank you for being so open. I had every single last one of these things and felt so alone

[@kathleenmaia3584]

I'm really glad you added the way some mommies and daddies need to get to know baby and that there is nothing wrong with that it is perfectly normal.

[@Pineapples8theWorld]

I only bought two newborn outfits and they didn't even fit my tiny baby (she was sooooo small, definitely not expecting that!). But I went and got more, and she fit into them for almost 4 months. I also didn't feel the immediate bond/intense love, but I didn't worry because I knew it would grow with time. It's ok!

[@jenbunni9111]

I’m pregnant for the first time and really need video’s like this! I want to know what to expect and no one tells you! Every time I learn something new I’ll say it to a friend or my mom and they’re like “oh I forgot about that” lol so thank you