My 19 Year Old Sister Is Getting MARRIED To Her HIGHSCHOOL TEACHER r/Relationships

[@KE-hr4sb]

S1: She's been groomed and he's a creep, and everyone who is "happy" with this is sick. But unfortunately, trying to dissuade someone about the person they love only serves to make them angry and cut you off. Sister is going to have to live with her mistake. Hope she grows up, wisens up, and realizes she deserves better one day. Considering he likes young girls, he may leave her before she leaves him once she "ages out."

[@leahdragon]

Hopefully she doesn't want kids right away and she realises before she has them. 😬

[@KE-hr4sb]

@@leahdragon Yeah, I'm guessing a high school teaches doesn't make much in the way of child support and alimony.

[@robertx8020]

@@leahdragon We can only hope!

[@robertx8020]

It sems the school is ok with it too?

[@leahdragon]

@@KE-hr4sb More the fact that she can then have a clean break away from this grooming asshole and not be tied to him forever with kids and she can hopefully resume her life and have all the experiences she's going to miss out on.

[@aikikaname6508]

Oh God he’s going to get her knocked up and trapped ASAP so she can’t easily leave, or easily get a job. Poor girl. Her parents should not be supporting this and warning her. This man stole her life, her future, her chance to achieve her potential

[@AF-zx3uz]

The penalty for this crime should be life, for ruining an innocent child's life. But unfortunately we're lucky if these people get community service if not any jail time.

[@starbird3939]

Story 1 This is fucked up and grooming. He was grooming her while she was in class (and underaged). The real eyebrow raiser is that NO ONE ELSE is raising their eyebrows at this bullshit. The parents?! The schoolboard?! NO ONE?! Seriously. I would be making a phone call to the Schoolboard.

[@sweaterweatherlady]

I'm certain there were more against this, but they were probably too scared to rock the boat. :(

[@pippo17173]

@@sweaterweatherlady probably because he might be a top teacher there but it doesn't explain the family being ok with it. All of the are high on crack.

[@manxiefeathermoon9888]

@@sweaterweatherlady fuck keeping the piece. I would rock that boat until it capsized

[@sweaterweatherlady]

@@manxiefeathermoon9888 I agree entirely.

[@mbyerly9680]

I imagine this is a small farming community because this behavior was very common for many generations so it's not so hard to understand.

[@RayNightshade12]

Story 1: I'm sensing a creep who groomed this poor girl

[@raz7573]

My older sister married her teacher / soccer coach. She “ran into him” a month or two after graduating high school. They got married when she was 20 and he was 36. He was a control freak. My sister divorced him three years later. When they got married, I was in junior high and was worried about high school, because he would be my soccer coach. He got fired just before the school year started.

[@littleblackpistol]

It's ALWAYS the gym / PE teacher. Always!

[@raz7573]

@@littleblackpistol Yeah. I’ve heard a few other stories about gym teachers and coaches. Although when ex BIL remarried after the divorce from my sister, he didn’t remarry a former student - just a younger girl he met in a bar.

[@eponymoususer8923]

S2: The parents had a secret sexual relationship with their child’s best friend’s parents. That sexual relationship doesn’t have anything to do with their children and this should never have been the kids’ problem.

[@shammydammy2610]

Tell your sister that you'll be there for her when she's ready to run. Until then, there's not much you can do. Don't be around them, don't go to their wedding, and it sounds like you need to work out how you can leave this lovely town behind.

[@someanon1984]

I was watching that second part of Tiger King where they talked about "Dr." Antle and how he's basically cultivated a cult of teenage girls and other vulnerable young people around him. I remember that this is literally what one of the moms did after her teenage daughter ran away with him... She knew that if she made too many problems for them, it would push her daughter further into that creep's arms, so she pretended like she supported the relationship until the daughter realized by herself that she was being taken advantage of. When that happened, she trusted her mother enough to go back to her and accept her help. It sounds backward, but I guess it was what worked...

[@saratronus]

Really pisses me off that nothing could be done like this is obviously so wrong like he talhe taught her and had long Private moments with her like my Old school doesn't allow that shit. And I'm assuming this is in the US my school was also in the US.

[@pippo17173]

Really hope for a positive update in a year from now. Really worried about what is gonna happen.

[@Laz3rCat95]

The update thing said OP said they already went to the wedding

[@mesiagamer5217]

Story 1: This is so predatory... Also what's up with the parents and everyone else in this community... I feel like this will end up becoming a mess that will get swept under the rug 10 years later. Also call an investigator OP the parents feel complicit in this entire thing. Story 2: This is just fucked up... Nothing more to say here other than the parent's need to shut the f up.

[@hajimehinata7386]

I was surprised in Story 3 no one mentioned the possibility of OP being asexual. It seemed to have gone a different way, but my first thought based on their answers to some of the comments was "oh perhaps you are asexual, but love the aspect of boosting your partner" kind of thing.

[@Npyne]

That was where my brain went too

[@MargaritaOnTheRox]

That's what I was thinking. But I'm not ace, I think, so couldn't be sure.

[@dreamsonatron5653]

I literally was thinking the same thing, OP could definitely be on the aro/ace spectrum. I have seen many people say they enjoy pleasing their partner but have no interest in the act being performed on them.

[@onnas5610]

@@dreamsonatron5653 yeah I'm ace, so that's what I was thinking.

[@Mcyxof]

As an asexual myself, their description of sex reminded me a lot of myself, so I thought it was that. I'm definitely cis so there are different explanations, but that one was right for the op

[@RockLikeAStone]

The Poly one made me laugh. We’re having an unconventional relationship therefore you cannot! If they can understand living poly why are they so close minded to your relationship. Because they don’t want to feel uncomfortable about their life styles. And there’s just no reason for it

[@selinakyle_]

S1: She has been groomed! He’s a creep and he’ll do it again once she hits 25. This creep won’t ever suffer either 😵‍💫 We all know it! Also the Op’s sister will realize how fed her situation is as she gets older too. This situation is so sad…

[@someanon1984]

As an older sibling myself, I would have a VERY HARD TIME handling the Story 1 situation as well as OP did.

[@MrMewsKitty]

The poly parents sound like the type of people to marry each other out of spite and go "You're step-siblings now, you can't be together without it being weird."

[@DrawciaGleam02]

I think there was a reddit story about that scenario!!!

[@anthonycrowley2264]

@@DrawciaGleam02 yeah there was! I literally remember a story where these two kids both had single parents, who married each other literally just to break up their kids' relationship! it was fucked lol

[@sockruhtease]

I lived the last story, and it was a hard pill the swallow after two years together. It really affected myself esteem. It took years for us to get over our relationship and figure out who we are, but now I consider her one of my best friends. And as I'm a engaged, I'm hoping her to be one of my brides maids... Life is weird, but I'm happy to say things can work out with time

[@sopadumacacoumadelicia5]

Yep, well said. Things don't always end in disaster.

[@JDKT002]

Same her minus the breakup. I was lucky...like insanely lucky. My GF accepted me without question, has supported me in ways I never would have asked for or expected. Without her I would probably still be a terrified and huddled in a dark room crying every night. But here we are two and a half years later and she unironically calls me her wife. We aren't actually married but considering having some kind of ceremony once i'm on the other side of all this.

[@maxsupernova]

Wow, those parents in story 2 are both entitled and gallingly hypocritical. OP: Go no contact. The four parents sound toxic AF.

[@robertx8020]

NC sounds like a good thing!

[@jenniferhersey4980]

I am sincerely in awe of the heart inside the OP from the first story. I am also really impressed with their ability to push their feelings to the back burner, when speaking with their sister- even if she was making a decision they didn't agree with. The ability to be sincere while telling the sister that they can always reach out- just to talk or for help- is so sadly kind and in my experience, very rare.

[@manxiefeathermoon9888]

Story three: the ex should never be shamed for leaving the OP. The ex is straight and it's not right to make the ex be in a relationship that she isn't interested in

[@ArcticFFox]

I called it on the last story, the person perfectly described what gender dysphoria feels like and I hope the best for them no matter what they will choose to identify as after their journey of self discovery.

[@JDKT002]

I did the same. Halfway through I was thinking "huh....this sound very similar to my own experiences before coming out" especially the "fine i guess" "what more could a guy want?" comments. I was like "a lot my friend....a LOT"

[@catalinacaro8183]

@@JDKT002" what else does a guy want?" What guys can't have, what girls have

[@magnarcreed3801]

@@catalinacaro8183 You can have my periods and boobs that cause back pain. I don’t want them XD

[@starbird3939]

Story 2 … They’re secret relatives. Update: Not siblings, thank god. Just the owners of selfish parents that don’t want their own fee fees hurt because they are boinking parents of the couple.

[@HackiePuffs]

Honestly I’m kinda more mad at the other family members than the guy himself. Like the sister I could understand because grooming is a long complicated process and it’s hard to see the red flags until it’s too late but the family gets no excuse. They are actively allowing this girl to be groomed by a man. I bet it’s because he’s rich or something. What a bunch of aholes.

[@ACCER]

Story 1: Many years ago a local high school history teacher married his wife. Now they CLAIM they weren't dating until she turned 18 and graduated. HOWEVER, the math doesn't hold. She turned 18 10 days before graduation. They were engaged a week after graduation. They got married a month after graduation. She had their first child 5 months after graduation. The baby weighed like 8 1/2 pounds. That teacher was so well known for dating students that it was a joke. One I didn't find funny when my 17 year old niece told me he was paying special attention to her, finding excuses to rub her back while he discussed a paper with her...etc. I went and had a little chat with him. I told him 1-My niece WILL get the grade she earns and 2-If he EVER puts his hands on HER or ANY of her friends I WILL deal with it in a manner he absolutely will not like. Then, for good measure, I had two close friends (one an attorney, one a local cop.....both sitting school board members) had a talk with him. My niece (and her friends) got the grades they earned and he never even spoke to them again. A few years later, the son of the school board president was hired to teach at the school (yes, he father hired him.) Within a few years, he was known for dating students. The year he came up for tenure (4th year here) it came out that he had gotten three students pregnant, was dating a third and SHE ended up pregnant. His wife was also pregnant. He had 5 babies with 5 different women in the span of like 3 months. He was granted tenure....it was a vote of 4-3. An anonymous tip to the state ended up with him being arrested. All of the girls were 17+ (legal age of consent here) the problem is that there is an exception clause in the law that states if the minor in question is in any way subject to a disparity of power with the major in question, then the legal age of consent is 19 or 12 months after the disparity in power has been removed. In everyday speak: If 22 year old boss at the local burger place sleeps a 17 year old, their goose is cooked. However if the 17 year old sleeps with another regular worker, not someone in a supervisor position, then they are good. In the case above, he was their teacher within that 12 month period....so he was hit with something like 500 counts of sexual battery against a child. BUT because the case was local, he got off with time served (about 10 days.) The state waited 6 months........and then pulled his teaching license and went after the school board for HIRING HIM BACK AND REINSTATING HIS TENURE.....again a 4-3 vote. The 4 that voted for him ended up losing their asses.....thankfully. Crap like this happens ALL THE TIME.......it's disgusting.

[@harborbenassa8756]

I'm a grooming survivor. I remember wishing I could have a real boyfriend and then feeling guilty for not being loyal enough to my abuser. She's probably already afraid and unable to escape. It will take a few years for her to be unable to function and try to escape

[@lifewithlee6298]

Frist story , op should make sure the husband doesn’t try to brainwash the sister that he’s all she needs and not to contact OP. If op the only one speaking out I can see him trying to cut her off.

[@ACAB.forcutie]

I'd tell the parents that THEY need to break up so we can have our relationship. Oh, that feels unreasonable? 😐 literally all the excuses the parents have ALSO apply to OP's relationship

[@banmeliodas6561]

To Make it worse the parents couldn't even own up to the relationship till the info was pried out like the kids owning it went to prom together and everything.

[@threeducks157]

Something like that happened here in my town. The girls' brother and myself raised hell with every community in the area, school board, PTA, local politicians and even just towns Facebook. We literally nuked his life he lost family, friends job and not even McDonald's would hire him. He had to move to another state.

[@eldinovm8077]

i can feel it, there’s gona be a 10 year later update and it won’t be pretty, hope you’re there for her op

[@Iflie]

When I was in highschool no one would have looked past this and the guy would have been fired, if we thought a teacher was a creeper they wouldn't even let a girl be alone with him, sometimes a friend waited outside the door, mind you without any known reason. Yet this girls friends just let it all go on.

[@babygirl_lunaa9096]

S1: When I was 18, I had a boyfriend who was 29. I did love and care for him and I do believe he did the same, but I came to see that he was incredibly emotionally immature. I often heard that significantly older people who date people in the 18-24 range are emotionally immature or creepy and didn't believe that to be the case until that relationship. I believe that this teacher is on the latter end of the spectrum, and I'm honestly shocked that people are comfortable with this relationship.

[@jqdsilva]

Story 1: monster, absolute monster and anyone who supported that marriage are also creeps. Unfortunately nothing that can be done.

[@kyriacarica5862]

That whole first story and the update were just the physical manifestation of “yikes on bikes”

[@morninggoblins]

With the first story, I feel like the most you can do in those situations is explain your concerns in detail to the sister, make it clear you love her and will be there for her if things ever go bad, and take a big step back in terms of involvement in her life. Questioning people who support the relationship is also not a bad idea. The sister is being abused, and at this stage she's so entrenched in the honeymoon phase that she probably isn't capable of seeing the red flags, but things will get bad and she will want out. Getting angry and cutting her off potentially cuts off an escape route for when she does come around, so I think it's important to establish that you support HER, but not her relationship

[@D-me-dream-smp]

Agree sadly all the OP can do is try and maintain contact with his sibling and continually remind her they will support her so that if/when she hopefully she matures she will realise this is not a healthy relationship and OP can help them leave.

[@QuayHollywood]

As a Teacher I consider my students my babies. To me they are MY KIDS. I'm with them all day, 5 days a week, for 11.5 months out of the year. I teach them, discipline them (as much as legally allowed) and give them the emotional support that a parent would. I could never imagine having a relationship with any of them when they are of age. I find it disturbing and disgusting.

[@star3catcherSEQUEL]

If I had my way: “Romeo and Juliet” laws are restricted to an age gap of 2 years. (16 and 18 fine, 17 and 19 fine. 16 and 21 fuck no.) The minimum age for marriage is 18 without exception. No parental consent, no judicial consent, no pregnancy exception, no Romeo and Juliet exception, nothing. Upon reaching 18, marriage is restricted to those within 3 years of age until the individual reaches 26 years of age, upon which they are free to marry any age of partner. Relationships with people who were formerly in a position of authority over the individual when they were underage are forbidden unless the couple can demonstrate at least 10 years of lack of contact between the two after the younger turning 18. Public school health classes would give extensive lessons on grooming, the potential dangers of excessive age gaps, the potential shortfalls of early marriage, the importance of social and financial independence from one’s partner, and domestic abuse throughout middle and high school. Yet people repeatedly tell me that this is all too radical and restrictive on personal freedom.

[@scorpiocarnage1055]

I love the way you think. You have at least one supporter.

[@sopadumacacoumadelicia5]

You got the right mindset. I'm with ya on this one.

[@arianebolt1575]

Most of these are fine, but needing to be 26 before you could marry someone four years older is a bit much.

[@OmegaII]

In Texas, teachers are forbidden from dating a former student unless they have been graduated for a year.

[@JDKT002]

I fully agree with everything but the "10 years no contact". Realistically a few years would be sufficient. But I digress because I agree that in the US there's a HUGE problem with young people rushing into marriage well before they are mentally, emotionally, and financially ready to do so. The culture of getting married the second you get out of college (or sometimes even highschool) needs to die a quick death.

[@anomie1608]

story 1: oh damn what the hell

[@GlucoseGuy]

Wow - I don't know how one finds the words to tell the sister you'll be there and support her without trying to shake some sense into her. Like how do you say that you'll be there for them, essentially telling them you think they're making a mistake without them blowing up at you and cutting you out? "I think you're making a big mistake - this is the only time I'll say this. I love you and want you to live your best life and flourish. If this is what you want to do, fine. I'll be here for you and I'm always only a phone call/text away." I mean that's the best I can come up with and wouldn't know how well even that would be received.

[@msredux]

Can't believe so many people supported that marriage, the sister will be used an abused and will be toss aside as soon as he gets a younger model.

[@SnowyWolborg]

Small town mentality. A lot of these people are stuck in the 1800s.

[@manxiefeathermoon9888]

Story one: that's disgusting. Groomer. I feel so sick that the family is allowing it

[@undeadladybug7723]

The first story reminded me of a fight I got into with some friends on Discord. They were *all* okay with a guy in his 30s getting with a 19 year old, actively defending it because she'd been in a war or something. Yes, I'm talking about Star Wars, but still, that is disgusting. What's worse is all but one of them have kids.

[@spots6450]

I thought Han was canonically in his 20's in ANH?

[@undeadladybug7723]

@@spots6450 I'm going by what they said, I'm not sure myself.

[@spots6450]

@@undeadladybug7723 I'm not sure either, lol. I guess I just assumed the characters were closer in age than the actors because if the difference is what you say it is that makes their relationship very creepy.

[@taylorlibby7642]

1st Story- Creepy and more than a little disgusting, but technically legal and completely out of your control. IMO you've said you piece and it's not working, so your choices come down to trying to agitate for some sort of official (possibly criminal) investigation and possibly alienating your sister, standing by to support her when the inevitable happens, or just washing your hands of the entire situation. Not a decision I'd want to be forced to make. I hope it all works out for the both of you.

[@beckawilk]

Sad, that where you live this is legal. In Australia this would be illegal, there is definitely a legal time gap before people in positions of power can date former students (regardless of the age of the student) and client etc. It is around 4 years not just 1. He would certainly be guilty of the crime of grooming and probably did more than groom her.

[@leahdragon]

The third story even before the comments made me think 'It sounds like you may be a lesbian/bi trans woman who isn't comfortable having sex as a male.'

[@markedwards3647]

Sadly, story #1 is common in small towns. My wife taught in a high school in which the basketball coach for both senior boys and girls was extremely seductive and complimentary to the senior girls, but only the most attractive ones. He also complimented guys, but his only compliments was calling them macho or sexy. My wife complained about the obviously inappropriate behavior, and was told SHE was inappropriate. So we moved on. KF,OR about 1989

[@digitalharmony26]

It’s definitely not fair the parents try to stop them dating, but people are confusing poly with swingers. Poly relationships aren’t just sexual. It’s like being in a relationship with more than one person. Idk if it’s judgement or just misinformation but either way 🤷🏻‍♀️ I feel bad for op and gf because now it’s weird.

[@NotAFanOfHandles]

Grooming should be a criminal offense, no matter if the relationship only becomes public when they're an adult. Other countries do it; the US should, too.

[@ashleyn.9166]

Yeeeaaah. That's suuuuper likely to happen as we have states trying to lower the legal age for marriage to 12.

[@NotAFanOfHandles]

@@ashleyn.9166 I know it's hard, but that makes it all the more important to work for it. Get it done federally, and make it harder for states to get around if necessary.

[@tonisalmons9647]

I have an acquaintance who was in her late 20s marry her 18 yr old student after he graduated. They have two kids and have been married about 6 or 7 years now.

[@ACAB.forcutie]

So I have my own crazy "incest" story.. my mom's first cousin (their moms were sisters) had a huge crush on her and wanted to marry her. That obviously didn't happen, but then he kept trying to set his son up with me.. which is less weird and incestuous not just because of the further relation, but also cuz I'm adopted and not genetically related to any of them. But still.. fucking weird Fred, keep your fantasies to yourself 😂

[@co7314]

Teacher in story 1 needs to lose their teaching license & be put on a watch list.

[@GTAGodfather420]

Yeah the sex offenders register.

[@WhtAbtBob10]

Poly Story: I truly don't understand the parent's issues. The two relationships have nothing to do with each other.

[@TheVeggiekat]

Story 1: this is not illegal in Canada. My ex was a basketball coach and hooked up with one of his players as soon as she finished high school. The girl was 15 and my ex was 23 when they met. Who knows if they hooked up before she finished high school. They announced their relationship upon her graduation. And for some reason me and our kids are the only ones pissed off and disgusted.

[@infinessia4019]

I’m going to keep it real, if a teacher did this to my baby sister, I would fight the urge to get my bat, but I would hire someone to look into the guy, because this most likely not be the only time he’s groomed someone.

[@christins2267]

Story 2: My fun guess is that the parents were swingers and the couple could be half-siblings.

[@animemagic]

Well, you kind of guessed right for the first part. They are polyamorous. Luckily, OP and his girlfriend aren't half-siblings.

[@untiedshoelaces2588]

Story 1: A teacher in my country did this same thing. The girl's brothers beat him to a frazzle when he tried to leave her for someone else. Needless to say, they are still together twenty years later. Story 2: Damn! I was thinking about the same episode of House when this was being read. Another story where the sx lives of the parents trump the happiness of their kids? How very modern of them. OP and his gf needs to make a sx tape and send it to their parents, lol! On a more serious note. OP just needs to laugh every time the parents bring things up. This is just ridiculous. Story 3: Two words - Sx Therapy! There is an underlying issue that needs to be checked. An ex of mine would get an intense case of the giggles whenever she climaxed. It turned out that she had a neurological issue that, although not life threatening, she still had to get some treatment that spanned some months.

[@tashacooper1753]

That time line is too close to not be a crime

[@melissaharris3890]

A high school mate married her dad's best friend. They waited until her 17 to h birthday to start dating so it was legal. Married when she was 25, he was 57. I don't know him, she was a nice girl in school. He also quit his job at the college she attended so she could and be wouldn't get fired. I get the creeps thinking about it

[@panicattheanimationstudio5673]

Story 2: 10 bucks says they're secretly related somehow Edit: oh thank GOD I was wrong. But the poly relationship is all well and good but yeah it's kinda fucked up a hypothetical of them to demand they break up

[@heatherduke5410]

Especially considering they were talking about how they're all "like family" as an excuse for why OP and his girlfriend shouldn't be together.

[@MargaritaOnTheRox]

Where's my $10? 😜

[@idkhithere6860]

story 2: what is wrong with those parents? why bring your poly partners and get your family mixed into your affairs. Want to keep your poly relationship a secret? dont make your families friends, dont introduce your children to each other and act as if this is normal smh. Edit: wait thats story 1? so confused

[@someoneelse4710]

the time stamp got messed up, it's a separate story

[@TheAngelChaz]

I was expecting story 3 for someone to discover they were ace :) but still congrats on finding yourself ^^

[@CodyJonesXD]

Post#1: 0:00 & Update: 3:21. Post#2: 8:47 & Update: 13:10. Post#3: 18:05 & Update: 21:34.

[@bethanyhanna9464]

Some of the wildest TV show plotlines are inspired by real life, insane events.

[@pauldavisjr.3284]

Freak 1st op's parents! How dare they try to ruin their childrens relationships when they are doing the same exact thing with each other.

[@ToxicSunrise132]

Story 2: well damn, sometimes reality IS stranger than fiction!

[@eph2vv89only1way]

Story 1: I don’t care about the ages. May-December romances are common in my family with nothing sketchy going on. What DOES bother me is the fact that he was in a position of power over her so grooming is, indeed, a likelihood. And while she may believe everything is consensual, it likely wasn’t. It was likely a result of said grooming. I also didn’t like op’s comment about his sister becoming a housewife instead of someone significant. Op’s sister IS someone significant simply because she exists. Also, who says housewives aren’t significant? That statement was very insulting to many people

[@littleblackpistol]

Housewives have no financial independence which means no independence at all. They are 100% reliant on the whims of the husband for their future. If you never work a paying job of any kind, you have absolutely nothing to offer employers later in life if at some point you do need or want to get a job and will end up doing some minimum wage, low status gig and earn peanuts and you will find it harder to get even those jobs than people with an existing job history. If you are in an abusive relationship, it means you leave with nothing except the clothes on your back and end up in a shelter, penniless. You also have zero pension contributions and so on. It's not a clever way to go on these days. Especially when your husband fetishizes teens and will doubtless dump you for another teen if he can get his mitts on one, as you age into a grown woman. This girl will have stars in her eyes and then a truly brutal awakening as she lands on her own again penniless, with nothing but a high school graduation behind her to offer, while her peers will have ten years or college, jobs and have learned to navigate the world on their own terms instead of hiding behind a daddy figure who pays the bills while she vaccums the floor. You hand a man your financial independence, he better be a truly GOOD man, and this man in the story is the opposite of a good man. Good men don't groom teens they were in a position of power over. 36 year old men have nothing in common with 18-19 year olds and simply fetishize their immaturity and naiviety as it allows them to be more easily manipulated and impresseed by a total creep-loser type.

[@eph2vv89only1way]

@@littleblackpistol I didn’t say anything contrary to this. I objected to op saying they are insignificant

[@brookez3116]

The first OP’s sister was failed by many people, but OP was not one of them

[@Queen_Of_Discord]

I'm only 45 seconds in and I'm already horrified. That teacher should be in jail, he's a groomer, and should not be anywhere near a school. What the absolute fuck

[@neen2660]

That possible trans story was beautiful. Exploring with another person with such safety and comfort is beautiful.

[@KatBee1742]

The whole “sister marries coach” story gives me big Wickham and Lydia vibes (from Pride and Prejudice). Icky icky icky. Hopefully OP can get through to her or be there if she suddenly realizes she doesn’t want to be where she is.

[@alyzu4755]

So...he started "paying extra attention" to her while she was his (underage) student? Yeah, this is grooming and he's a creep. He's going to leave her in a few years for another student, and she'll be stuck with no education and, probably, at least 1 child.

[@Krisna_K]

Had a cousin who was groomed (as far as I was concerned) and married an older guy (not a teacher but still…) when she wa 16 with her mothers’ permission! She wound up divorced with two kids when she was in her 20’s and he got custody because he had the better income! Of course he did! She was still young and relatively uneducated (except he did make her graduate high school)! The age difference wasn’t my problem (my husband is 8-1/2 years older than I am) but the fact that my cousin was a minor still when they met and married! The fact that her mother and the rest of the family thought that this was okay! My husband and I met when I was 21 and we met through mutual friends! (I have health problems and needed someone stable to support me! He had/has a great job with great benefits and takes good care of me!). Teachers who go after students are disgusting! I don’t care what their gender is either! (Women do it too!)

[@neen2660]

You’re completely correct, thank you for sharing

[@robinwhite4148]

I have 5 kids two are bi one is trans and two are straight. Love them all. I feel for this trans person. People are so cruel

[@francissobotka8725]

If I was that sisters brother ,I'd go off make people think I'm gone then come back and ...Take care of the problem.

[@redsprout9347]

Story 3 (the sex one) I'm surprised no one suggested a form of asexuality

[@littlehellkitten9682]

Aye, everyone was jumping up and down saying "Oh you must be trans!" No, it's possible he's asexual or he just doesn't enjoy sex with her. It's totally normal to not enjoy sex with one person but with another it's fine. He might enjoy dressing up as a form of fetish.

[@Nevermore-Nevermore]

As someone who was sexually harassed by a teacher in high school, that first story made me sick.

[@ComaLies225]

That second story update caught me off guard. Holy guacamole

[@yvonnefobbs6232]

Story #1: Teacher would have been the next profile story on Unsolved Mysteries.

[@C.L.Hinton]

Wow. This video was a wild ride, Markee.

[@cherylwolf7458]

Teacher-student story... WTF! Why has no one filed a complaint with her high school? At least there would be a record of it, so if he keeps creeping, other parents can be aware.

[@saratronus]

Does anyone else find it funny that That mark put these 2 stories back-to-back about 2 18 year olds hooking up together.

[@bethanyhanna9464]

The OP who doesn't like having sex with the girlfriend... Sometimes it's just not "right". I've been around a block or 2. There have been partners that just didn't click, even though there was a definite, mutual attraction. It happens.

[@lifewithlee6298]

Decided if you can support sister choices? Is it a choice? Sister thinks it’s all her idea, but with everyone but op saying it’s ok , sister is falling into a trap

[@heatherduke5410]

Right? The parents even talking about what a great guy the sister's groomer is(even though he was her teacher). All of the adults besides her sibling are all for the relationship, she's not going to know any better. At least she has the OP's number and the phone OP gave her and knows she can call them if she ever needs to. The good thing is, if the sister needed a place to stay, the OP can take her in a lives away from where this all happened.

[@elisonholace4033]

Just thought I'd point out the timestamps are incorrect.

[@sandyberger-r9j]

One of my (teacher) married colleagues tried to hit on me. He also told me some pretty creepy things about his views on his female teenage students. I reported him, but since I don’t have any proof, nothing was done except that the principal has a serious talk with him. Yes, he still teaches young girls in PE and biology..

[@OvelNick]

It's hard to realize how these relationships work. This is no different... Except I'm his age, 37... And my oldest is older than her sister (21). Fucking hell that's some sick shit. JFC. You had to buy her a phone... How the hell does that not raise flags. Everyone is congratulating them getting married yet you have to buy her a phone.... Some parents don't trust their daughter...? But they're OK with her fucking and marrying the teacher.

[@phantomflower6749]

has your family went insane?! are you the only sane person in town??? why is everyone ok with this and not seeing the radically bright red flags?!?! I would be freaking the fuck out of my mind if I were in OPs shoes. thank goodness because like op said, they at least need a foot in the door in case they need to swoop in and help. but man that sounds so HARD. I really don't trust any adult who just happens to date someone who just turned 18. even less when it's s teacher dating their students right after graduation. you can't tell me that there wasn't any grooming before the relationship became official. NONE OF THIS IS OK!!!

[@sapphicgeek24]

That OP and his gf should probably get a DNA test just to be safe. I would want to know 100%

[@WardenSpectreCommander]

Story 2 sounds like it's a strong possibility they are half sibs due to swinging or reconciled cheating.

[@nolongeramused8135]

When I was in high school (dinosaurs roamed the Earth) my AP math teacher was married to one of her former students (also a math teacher). There must have been a good 15 years age difference between the two of them. It was moderately scandalous at the time, but they didn't go public with their relationship until well after he had graduated high school, so really nobody gave a crap. She was quite popular, he wasn't very well known to the students as he was a roaming substitute, but my take was that he was a slightly nervous, well-meaning, and gangly math nerd that made sure his classes stayed on schedule (I took a lot of math, so I got to see him regularly). All in all a really nice guy. Interestingly enough, the two of them owned a home that shared a fence corner with my sister's place in the back yard. So when my sister got a puppy my math teacher announced it to the whole class a couple days later and wanted to know the puppy's name.

[@annegrey6447]

Last story: When he first talked about not feeling their sex life for the most part I was thinking maybe he’s ace, but if he is actually she I’m glad gf is supportive & they’re figuring it out before they got married, because it would have been miserable for him? possibly both of them & they might have had a nasty divorce rather than parting as friends.

[@aniko7125]

For the poly parents story: It will get weird if they stay together get married and have kids….imagine your grandparents screwing each other 🤢. It’s probably uncomfortable for them to think of what happens, if the relationship succeeds , OP and the gf have kids, and now they all share a blood relation 😬

[@echo9001]

Childhood ruination incoming... . . . . . . The grandparents in Charlie and the Chocolate Factory...

[@tieardragon4919]

Story 2: sounds like me and I’m an ace.

[@scarysara9364]

For the first story) I think that O.P.'s family all drank _stupid juice_ ; personality I would have to say to that teacher "Stay _away_ from my little sister you _craddle snatcher_ or I'll _Lorena Bobbitt_ you !!"

[@joycec8]

* sees title * Oh nooooooo

[@hothotheat3000]

You’ll have to be there when he leaves her. And he WILL leave her.

[@boneymeroney2674]

I can't believe your family is okay. This is not okay.

[@RockLikeAStone]

For the sex one: my partner and we have a very fulfilling sex life but haven’t actually has intercourse in months. I would suggest therapy but also want to emphasize that sex is not necessary to a healthy relationship. If anything this is the healthiest relationship I’ve had because my partner still feels fulfilled without needing to have sex with me. I have a hard time with sex because of a lovely combo of trauma, pain, and medication.

[@sopadumacacoumadelicia5]

That's nice to hear. As long as it works for you guys that's fine, glad you found a way to be happy

[@aoi8653]

S2: Holy cow, Marmalade Boy is real?! (or close enough)

[@missliz3043]

In the 80s in Japan, a twenty-something your old teacher at most 25 could marry or date a student after they graduate. This is not that situation and this is clearly grooming of a youth.

[@alexandermccalla5098]

Semi-final story: He said he liked it and felt terrible after... Sounds like common post-jizz tiredness.

[@sherylmassie9502]

This actually happened at The high school that I worked at. Twice

[@inkbottle6609]

S2: i loved the "I'm not against poly. But its weird if I see or interact with someone poly" uh ok... I feel the respect. They're NTA of course, and have all the right in the world to be mad at their parents for favoring their relationship over their children's one but man... was this part necessary?

[@marckye1]

Story 1: teacher should be in jail!

[@partysuvius]

I was sort of friends with this girl in middle school, we were on the same softball team at our local park because her dad and uncles coached. When she was 18, not even out of high school, she got married to a man in his late 30s. More than double her age. She could have been his daughter. I’m still disgusted because I know she got pregnant before their marriage, meaning she slept with him possibly on the night of her birthday. It’s so fucking disgusting.