my boyfriend financially ruined me 😭 r/AITA

[@joanfregapane8683]

The restaurant story: no one should assume that Sarah is coming unless she had finally texted that she was in fact on her way. You just don’t order her special dishes. It seems so presumptuous to order and then want to charge her for dishes she was not there to order in person. OP is definitely the Drama.

[@sreyarthakrishna6195]

It is wild to order food for someone who already informed you an hour ago that they're probably not going to make it. You order for everyone else, then if that person ends up making it after all, you order for them then. Yes, their food is going to arrive a little late, but that's a better outcome than what ended up happening here: ordering food for someone who didn't make it in the end. Honestly, I wouldn't rule out the possibility that they expected Sarah would cave to the pressure to pay, and just saw this as an opportunity for some free food.

[@Fragmented_Mask]

Completely agree, no more infomation needed. If someone's presence isn't a given, and they have not explicitly asked you to order them a dish, just don't order for them. It's that simple. I have turned up late to dinners because of my own health stuff, depending on how late I was sometimes I just asked for a smaller dish that I knew would be out quicker, so I finished eating alongside everyone else and then we could have dessert together. It's not that big a deal..

[@alexl3041]

I saw "filthy" game and thought it was literally covered in dirt. Edit: I adore your sister. She is hilarious and adorable!

[@s.a.4358]

Same! Which makes more sense as one would assume the person who buys / accepts the item knows what it is.

[@flotenstimme4608]

I also thought it was dirty ;-)

[@rorytriscuit]

Ditto. I was picturing game chips covered in muck. 😹

[@AsziahBaston]

Even with seeing this comment before it can up my first thought was grubby hands had been playing

[@AsziahBaston]

Even with seeing this comment before it can up my first thought was grubby hands had been playing

[@ChibiRandom13]

"We all chipped in for Sarah's order ... I asked her to send me her part" Okay this person is a POS in general for expecting to be paid in full for something they didn't pay for in full. AND for ordering for someone who wasn't sure they'd even be there.

[@TinaAjala]

The doordash boyfriend sounds like the kind of guy who is gonna dump her when his "dreams" come true mean while she has been paying all the bills

[@CoMorbiditty]

That happened to a friend of mine. They had five kids. She had a job, long hours. Did up the house then sold it. He bought a sports car and didnt consult her. He was studying to get the degree for "a better life". After three years of study, he had an affair and the marriage fell apart. In the meantime, he let his family suffer and scrape through while he was spending up and having affairs. What an AH

[@M_M_ODonnell]

He sounds like someone who bought the "all you have to do to get rich is start a business" line -- and if it works he'll dismiss all of the support (financial, emotional and otherwise) he depended on as incidental to the business he earned solely by his own hard work and genius.

[@omiai]

For the 2nd one, I haven't heard the whole story yet but I had to point out that if maybe Sarah has a chronic pain condition, is fibromyalgia, ME, long COVID etc, tired could just be her way of saying 'im having a bad flare up and I'm exhausted, I'll try to see how I do, but warning, it's probably not going to happen' I often do this myself as a chronic pain sufferer, when I just haven't got the energy to do anything, especially because social

[@Fragmented_Mask]

100%, this is something I was thinking as I read it. I know Shaaba and Nadia didn't mean anything bad by it by criticising "I'm tired" as an excuse, but that tiredness could be from so many things and shouldn't be judged.

[@roselover411]

I definitely wasn't thinking about it from a chronic pain condition, but I did think of my chronic digestive syndrome because that has caused me to miss many occasions, especially of the food variety, due to the pain and gut upset it entails. Either way I think the core of the issue is that they ordered food with the expectation she would be there, which makes me feel like she doesn't often call out of these, so I don't know whether it's related

[@minohki]

More Nadia in the future please!

[@alex_blue5802]

She was so fun!

[@nebulan]

I love the sister banter!

[@tilltab]

Agreed! I loved the dynamic - too cute!

[@TheNitpickChick]

For the last one, if the boyfriend doesn’t get his act together SOON, she needs to break up with him, kick him out (since she doesn’t have the funds to move out, and he’s not paying the bills anyway) and then get a roommate to cover half the rent. That’s the only reasonable way I can see her getting out of this, financially. ☹️ (Although if the boyfriend is on the renter’s lease that could make things tricky.)

[@brattygrl81]

The one about the dinner is so off-putting. First of all, the friend sent a message before the dinner date began to let her friends know that she might not be able to make the dinner. The friends went to the dinner party, knowing full well that her presence wasn't definite. These friends took it upon themselves to order appetizers for 5 people with full knowledge that as of yet, only 4 people made it. Only 20 minutes after ordering the appetizers, friend Sarah let the other 4 know that she wouldn't end up making the dinner party. 4 people made a collective decision to order dinner for 5 people, and for some reason, specifically ordered food for Sarah. All of this while having full cognizance of her absence. Nobody at the dinner party was in the dark. If I were in this friend group, I would more likely than not have ordered Sarah's food FOR SARAH! I would have gotten her some good food and maybe a beverage from the store or something, but just to be a good person. It can be a bummer when, for whatever reason, someone has to cancel plans. But given the information that was presented, I'm not willing to give a pass to this person who's expecting compensation for a meal that they ate. I'm gonna stand firm on the fact that I would have brought Sarah food and a drink. But as a pick me up/get well soon gesture. I would have been more concerned with being a supportive friend.

[@Sapphykins]

'opening his own business' op's partner is in a pyramid scheme for *sure*, he's hitting every single warning sign

[@spectilia]

Yeah, no, absolutely. I forget what the 'company' is called, but I have definitely heard of the insurance salesman MLM before. I'm also pretty sure selling insurance isn't just something you can start from scratch on, which is the main reason I am thinking this.

[@M_M_ODonnell]

If it's not a pyramid scheme in the direct sense, it's still a pyramid scheme on the larger scale -- relying on friends and family for support, and then if the business is able to pull money from _other_ people instead then the time, effort and money that made it possible is overlooked and it's all the hard work and business acumen of the "entrepreneur." An economy that supports businesses able to make someone wealthy the way OP's BF seems to be trying for is just a pyramid scheme with more steps.

[@madalice5134]

​@spectilia Yeah, selling insurance, at least where I live, requires specific licenses from accredited courses. You can't just decide you're going to sell insurance. He's definitely gotten into some scheme.

[@spectilia]

@@madalice5134 yeah, that's what I was thinking too, but wasn't sure how to phrase it or if its a standard. Glad to know I wasn't off base.

[@Gafafsg]

@@spectiliaAmway

[@MM_MTea]

If OP had to max out her credit cards and cash out her 401k in three months it's definitely not the dog bones! Bf sounds like an absolute deadbeat to let her destroy herself financially that fast. I dated a guy who, after I moved in, stopped buying groceries. It just continued to get worse for about 6 months. I think she has to leave.

[@LifeisFoo]

If you order food and don't like it, won't take it with you and will just dispose of it and someone else offers to eat it, i think it's still the person who ordered it's duty to pay for it unless the other person offers. If you ordered it, weren't that hungry but would have taken it home, but someone else eats it instead, it's split.

[@alex_blue5802]

Yeah I agree, when you order you're taking on an obligation to pay for the meal. If it's just sitting there uneaten and someone else takes it, I don't think they should be obligated to pay. What if they can't afford it? It's going to depend on the group dynamics, but it's weird to charge someone for something you ordered.

[@rebeccajesse4604]

@@alex_blue5802I am often the poorer member of a group and also often used to finish unfinished dishes (I used to be able to eat a ton of food). I would straight up say, “I can’t pay for this, do you still want me to finish it for you” when they offered. They would then either say “yeah no problem please finish this” or, “oh that’s right, I’ll just take it home”. Because yeah, I don’t expect to pay for something I didn’t order and I probably don’t even know how much the food was to begin with since I didn’t order it. I would hate if someone offered me food that they ordered and then asked me to pay them. I would feel a bit blindsided. I would probably pay (if I could) but I would feel a bit off :-/. My friends are very generous and will sometimes treat me when we order out but I always make sure I can pay for what I ordered myself whether they are treating or not. I also never ask them to treat me. I am excited because I am finally in a place where I can start treat them more often!

[@s.a.4358]

@@alex_blue5802agreed about taking on the obligation to pay when food is ordered, even if one doesn’t like it or is not that hungry. If another friend ends up eating it so it doesn’t go to waste, it’s still the original orderer’s responsibility unless they made it clear they would like to take the food home with them. In this story it’s also not clear who made the decision to order, as Sarah did give a head’s up an hour before the dinner that she might not come. Unless the food was pre-ordered, OP knew even before arriving at the restaurant that there was a chance that Sarah wouldn’t join and the decision to order the food is therefore fully on Sarah and the group of friends.

[@Whirlbee]

All of this. Also if you do want to know if someone is willing to contribute to it, don't assume they will or be able to read your mind communicate that directly, even just saying something like 'would you mind chipping in a little' or something like that, but don't expect, or stay silent then just get mad over it

[@JokesInBase13]

The last OP needs to make sure she has an investment interest in the business he's starting, because she is essentially funding a start-up here. She needs to make sure he can't just break up with her and leave her with nothing as soon as he's successful.

[@Link-dx1lx]

Maybe I'm just being paranoid, but the last story is ringing my MLM alarm bills. MLMs are big on promises of wealth ("unlimited earning potential"), treps always say they're starting their own business even though they're just salespeople, they love to target vulnerable people (which includes people who just lost their job), they tell people they can work from anywhere any time which would be attractive to someone who wants to wfh, they are often very culty and urge you to make "the business" your top priority and if you just work hard enough you can succeed (no matter the circumstances), which would explain his somewhat delusional bahavior... I know there is one popular insurance MLM called Primerica. I could totally be wrong but it does fit quite well. Also regarding the restaurant story - at the Pub I worked at, canceling food (for no reason other than you don't want it anymore) would not have been possible or at least very difficult. Maybe it's different in high end restaurants tbf, but I don't really see why it's the restaurants problem if someone changes their mind. And the idea of ordering food for someone you're not even sure is gonna come is insane to me.

[@arualblues_zero]

OMG... before she said it was insurance, I thought something halfway scammy like crypto or whatever, because I had no idea there was an insurance MLM. I think you're on to something!

[@Link-dx1lx]

@@arualblues_zero the only reason I'm not sure about it is that he hasn't tried to recruit her yet

[@julianthesmall]

MLM alarm bells were for sure going off for me as well. I can 100% see someone who lost a WFH job looking for another one and getting sucked into an MLM. I also thought "Primerica" as soon as I heard insurance.

[@kayahigham8568]

It's funny that you mention Primerica because my ex-girlfriend's dad works for them and convinced her to work for them right out of high school. She had big dreams to become a singer and she just completely abandoned those and flipped 180 until I didn't recognize her anymore and she practically cut me out *while* we were dating. I knew I deserved better than that and I didn't want the hurt anymore so I walked away. Hearing this description and that last AITA story, I'm glad I got out before things got real hectic

[@Link-dx1lx]

@@kayahigham8568 this is what MLMs often do sadly. I'm sorry that happened to you and your ex girlfriend - her dad should have never taken advantage of her like that.

[@thulium_3169]

OMG I CAN'T WAIT TO SEE THE SIBLING DYNAMIC ON THIS VIDEOOOO

[@jennifers5560]

I can’t wait to see it too!

[@Charlotte-hv6ll]

Sameeeeeee!

[@jaufacake]

😏🔥

[@roanaway]

I'm so so bias, but that 39 woman *needs* to get away from that man. My dad pulled some shit like that with my mom when my little brother and I were both under 3 yrs old and his job gave us health insurance. (I was diagnosed with a dangerous health issue at the time too!) Do not trust people who don't consult, consider, and communicate with their family when trying to start a business. F that

[@sevilator]

I lost my job after moving in with my then bf (now husband) and decided to start my own business. But first, I talked to him about what that would look like and made it clear that if it wouldn't work out for us financially, I would go back to getting a normal job. Happily, it did work out for us, but it would not have been ok for me to just start a business without discussing finances with my partner ahead of time. Right now, I'm a SAHM, but that was another conversation we had about fincances before making the decision because we are a partnership, not a leech and a host.

[@thoughtsofanobody]

For the last story; I have so many alarm bells going off. They are either both going to end up homeless or he’s going to “make it” and leave her broke with no options.

[@nicoler1183]

What Do You Meme has a little toilet humor. With CAH, every 4th card kinda makes you go, "what the **** is wrong with the person who came up with these cards?" 😂😂😂

[@hailyjohnson407]

Correct lol. What Do You Meme is for probably ages 15+ because you need a basic understanding of memes/internet culture, and there are some innuendos, but nothing super explicit. Cards against humanity is a whole different breed of game that can't be compared to anything else

[@HighAsHeckPriestess]

​@@hailyjohnson407 you could play What Do You Meme with the grandparents and theyd probably find it fun. Not sure about CAH😂😂😂

[@stroodledoodles]

Omg that last story is horrifying, the boyfriend is a straight up leech! He's clearly fallen for those grifter videos online where it's basically crypto/business bros talking out of their butts just to scam their audience. I feel so bad for OP, I really hope she's able to leave this guy ASAP

[@alexp712]

I'm wondering if the guy leeching off his gf joined an MLM or something. ETA: After the gf said he sells insurance, I'm almost positive it's an MLM. Possibly World Financial Group.

[@Sapphykins]

I had the exact same thought - he's hitting every flag!

[@Link-dx1lx]

@@alexp712 i made a similar comment. I was thinking Primerica

[@Sarah.H5]

Yes! Most likely the old job where the company dissolved was also an MLM. Good spot!!

[@alexp712]

@@Sarah.H5 I've been obsessively watching anti-MLM content on KZbin for a couple years, I feel like I know soooooo much about them now lol

[@jessicamarino7448]

Nadia's chicken wing dilemma: the storu said they ordered appetizers including ones they knew she would exclusively like. That does not equal placing a pre-determined order for Sarah. They ordere under the assumption she would still show up. They get to eat the cost. Sarah was not involved.

[@PirateQueen1720]

16:20 - On the dinner thing...I have no idea if this would be true for the friend, but something to consider: If I cancel something because I'm "tired" it more often than not means "I'm dealing with autistic overwhelm and if I force myself to come I might start crying uncontrollably or at minimum will be acting twitchy or not be able to make eye contact...OMG please don't make me come!" So the idea of people showing up at my house with takeout...sweet intention, but AUUGGH nightmare! I love my friends and family but there are times when solitary recharge time is crucial.

[@animeartist888]

This is where communication is key. I would hope if they were going to do this, they'd ask if you'd prefer takeout and hangout at home, which you could respectfully decline easy enough.

[@Whirlbee]

​@@animeartist888pretty much this, mostly the onus on them asking though because in those situations I don't always respond, so that should be taken as an automatic no

[@stacylitwin1466]

That last one is insane, my partner lost his job last year and had unemployment pay but as soon as he was getting to the end of that, he got a new job even if it was one he hates. And he even had savings from the severance from being laid off if he needed it but he never once would have ever thought of just forcing me to take care of everything

[@alex_blue5802]

Its already a bit audacious to ask to "trade back." Is he going to eat the chocolate now? I'm okay with NTD.

[@caralynn.]

The sister cuteness is heart crushing in the best way. More of this!! Maybe I can figure out technology enough to have viewing parties with my sister who literally moved to the other side of the planet.

[@nininoona]

Secondhand market items are sold as is, most of the time. Online second-hand places, like eBay, have purchase protections for buyers. This really sounds like a facebook marketplace kind of deal and Op has no obligation to refund the chocolate to that kid. Edit to add: There are definitely boogie restaurants out there that would not cancel apart of your order. Especially if its like a Chef's Table kind of spot.

[@s.a.4358]

The games was also almost free. Okay it was exchanged for chocolates but that’s a token exchange.

[@Soilfood365]

On the boogie wings: As the human trash-can/king of the clean plate society for most friends and family, I have spent most of my life being given dishes that other people have ordered and do not like, or cannot finish them. People often order things I would not order because they are outside of my budget or my tastes, and if they then chicken out halfway through, provided it is not something I can't eat, I will eat it just to stop it being binned. Because I hate food waste. Sometimes I go to the bathroom and come back and family or close friends have put their unwanted stuff on my plate, and I don't know whether I am innately just greedy and making excuses, or was beaten too much as a kid to be able to leave food, but I finish it. If anyone did that and asked me to pay for their food that they changed their mind about, I would pay, and then never eat out with them again. If, as sometimes happens, my sister and I had ordered different meals after indecision, and she liked mine better and I liked her boogie version, so we swapped when she'd just had a bit, obviously I would pay for what she had ordered (but she'd then pay for whatever I'd ordered that she'd eaten). But if you order boogie wings, don't like them, so someone else clears them up, that person is just being a good trash can and as much as it would be super nice of them to then pay for your overpriced boogie wings, you cannot expect them to if they don't offer it directly.

[@les5503]

I feel so seen, I have literally referred to myself as a garbage disposal before because I will eat just about anything to avoid waste lol

[@TheCagedCorvid]

Loving the sibling dynamic, this was really fun. Please tell me Nadia will be back for more videos in the future... you could introduce her to bad womens anatomy, I can see that bringing out the spice lol.

[@aprildawnsunshine4326]

I married that guy too and I could tell pretty quickly this lady has been gaslit from her word choices and tone. Regardless of the specifics of the situation this is a run moment. If you heard it and thought "maybe she's the drama" you're likely either in or have been in a relationship that wasn't healthy and I highly recommend reaching out to whatever support you can be it a therapist or anyone else with the wisdom to help you untangle yourself. You are not the drama 💖

[@Dyejob01]

The 1st purchaser walked away with $50 game, having spent $4 on the chocolates. I don't know what the problem is.

[@s.a.4358]

He also should have googled the game before accepting it, it’s on the kid if he didn’t know enough about the game. OP did not hide or misrepresent the game in any way and even confirmed it is indeed an adult game, which indicates it’s not all cute and tame. Even if not sexual or filthy, things are labelled as “adult” for a reason.

[@nyxstardust331]

The last one makes me so frustrated. I have a business degree and I can tell you that guy doesn't seem to know anything about business. First, he doesn't seem to have any business plan, which is crucial to determine if your idea is even viable. Second, if you want to start a business you should calculate the amount of starting capital (before you do anything) plus your expected monthly expenses and choose which way to obtain it because, for a certain amount of time, you will not generate profit. He basically chose the 3F (family, friends and fools) and he's treating her like a fool instead of a partner. A bank loan would require a business plan with market analysis (competitors, customers, product portfolio, pricing, demand, etc.) basically showing the bank their money will get back to them because your business is most likely to succeed. So I doubt he can get one with his attitude. Even if you calculated the approximate turning point, when you start to make a profit, you can never be sure. So his "in six months ..." doesn't have value when he doesn't have numbers to back it up.

[@EriMiBoo]

3 minutes in and it's already chaotic, I simply LOVE it.

[@jcfreak2007]

Doordash BF: 🔴 My MLM alarm is going off!!! I bet it's a pyramid scheme based on the word dream, his unwillingness to get a job, etc.

[@sydneywright6545]

Hope we will see more of Nadia in the future. She is a spicy bowl of awesomeness 😎

[@jaufacake]

Hell yeah😎

[@never_eat_soggy_waffles]

Can confirm: bougie chicken wings do in fact exist. I had them at a restaurant in Texas. They were amazing, but cost way too much for what I got.

[@coasttocoast2011]

I am a single person, it’s just me and my 3 cats My dream job would be to be an author, I’ve met 3 full time Aussie authors (where I live) in the last year and all of them worked other jobs until they were making enough to support themselves with their writing (one was a midwife, another was a school principal who wrote her first book when she was on stress leave) It’s taken them at least 12 years to get to this point in their career if not more

[@thecolorjune]

If someone orders something and doesn’t like it, and gives it to me, it’s me or the trash. And the trash wouldn’t pay, so neither will I haha. If I asked to eat some of their food and I ate half, then I’d pay half (and apologize LOL). I would be offended if I was asked to pay for something that was the reject of someone else. I have eaten a lot of things just so they won’t go to waste, that doesn’t mean I wanted them enough to pay for them.

[@bunji_beans]

I'd bet that guy who fed his kids ramen was working while going to school too. Even instant ramen doesn't come from nowhere. Also, the guy was feeding his kids, not relying on his partner to take care of everything until he became a doctor (just going off the little info he gave). That's such trash to hear your partner say that they need help and you just tell them to suck it up and do better 🤬

[@rebeccajesse4604]

Totally. Also, just because someone else is willing to do that doesn’t mean everyone “should”.

[@Hairbyjadejimenez]

As an older sister, I love sibling dynamics. Y’all have to do this more !

[@aviandekeizer9208]

This is the most I've laughed at one of these videos in a while...I love this dynamic so much please do more of these together!!

[@emmafischell622]

I think it's so funny that Shaaba says "i hate it when forums tell people to break up, but this is an extreme case" fairly frequently in her AITA videos and rarely comes across an actual one where the forum overreacts like that. I get that it probably is mostly to do with which posts are selected, but it always cracks me up

[@CRF0510]

Aw love seeing the siblings together!!

[@Tecorsuh]

Story 1: It's a slightly vulgar party game, not the Kama Sutra. If there are particular cards or subjects that you don't want to come up, either take them out before playing or agree to place them in the discard pile as they come up. If it's that big of a deal, just re-sell the game. Story 2: Halfway through the story and I'm getting weird vibes from the OP, and the more it goes on, the more weird it gets. For me, if I'm in Sarah's position, I have told my friend's I'm not going to make it, they insist that I show up, I say "I'll let you know if I feel better", I don't show up to the reservation, and text back that I'm not going to make it when they ask, and then I get told they ordered for me anyways, and I'm expected to pay for it. I'm not paying for food I didn't order. I'm not paying for food I didn't eat. I wasn't even at the restaurant. I didn't even get a to-go box from the restaurant with the food I didn't order. That expectation from the OP is wild. Story 3: Social media posts about the business and the couple doing great when they are not is a major MLM red flag to me. You have to look like you're doing good to get more recruits. Also, the doctor feeding his kids ramen until he graduated also gives me that same MLM energy. They love to give those false hope inspirational stories to hook people, the sort of "Struggle until you make it big" stories to encourage their marks. Then the promises of making it big soon, another MLM red flag. Yikes, it's insurance. That's very similar to an MLM in recruitment messaging and only slightly better in that you can actually make money instead of sinking money into the endless pit that are normal MLMs. It's a lot of work to get it going and maintain it. He definitely needed to keep his job until he actually started making money. Assuming it was his job previously, It has been ~4 months of him actively perusing this, if he hasn't already started making good money from it, he probably never will. It's also telling that he has no money saved, burned through all of OP's savings, her retirement, and maxed out her credit cards, in 4 months. He doesn't seem to have much financial literacy, which is a big part of selling insurance. So, that makes me wonder if it's a new thing that he is doing. They shouldn't be struggling so much if he has experience with finding and selling to clients. The fact that he was looking for a new WFH job, failed to find one, then started doordashing before committing to starting his own business 3 months into not having a stable job also leads me to believe that this might be something new. Well, that and all of the MLM energy I mentioned earlier. MLM energy comes on strong when somebody first starts trying to sell insurance. As a side note, the whole "is good at what (s)he does" as a standalone statement is often used to say that the person is passionate about what they do, but doesn't speak to competence or experience unless there are clarifying statements. So that's not telling me if it was a job he had previously or not.

[@cassandramarin4547]

In regards to the "good at what they do" statement, I've only ever heard it in the context where the speaker was implying that the person in question was at the very least proficient at their work and usually above average at it.

[@Tecorsuh]

@@cassandramarin4547 Yeah, I've definitely heard it both ways. Usually when it's been a compliment on their proficiency, it's usually followed up with statements about how they are good with their job. On its own it speaks more to being passionate or maybe the person speaking doesn't really know what the other person does.

[@DoctoberPlague]

I'm only a few minutes in and I can already tell this is going to be a fun video! Love the giggly sibling energy!

[@koa-z]

Oh, I was in a nearly-identical situation to the girl in the final post when I was 19 and my then-partner was 25. My advice? Get rid of the partner :^) as soon as possible :^))))

[@maironelfstone896]

This is so sweet to see the sibling support!

[@TheDopekitty]

Some restaurants require you to order certain dishes the day before,(I assume it's something like that) but if I ate it, I wouldn't charge her for it.

[@jennifers5560]

2 minutes in and I am dying laughing with your back and forth! ❤

[@deloresjames4620]

Pretty sure door dashing is like deliveroo, where you can buy food or things from supermarkets and get them delivered to your door in the USA

[@rage_of_aquarius]

It's the exact same as UberEats. Obscene upcharge on takeout.

[@feliciathomas9932]

Nadia needs to become a staple of these videos. She is adorable and their chemistry is fantastic!

[@faithpearlgenied-a5517]

The last one, she should have got rid of him BEFORE cashing in her pension! Jesus christ. They're not even married and he's already ruining her financially! Imagine if they were married, she'd be on the hook for so much more money in the future. He has no respect for her whatsoever.

[@grandy_rho]

When you said "Bruuuce", I immediately thought of the shark from Shark Tales...Bruuuce!

[@Rikrobat]

Was the shark in Shark Tales named Bruce? There was definitely a Bruce shark in Finding Nemo, haha.

[@jaufacake]

YES

[@TulipVoid]

lol the shark from raft is also named bruce :D

[@Sophie_Cleverly]

That's Finding Nemo 🦈

[@Casutama]

Oh, I _love_ this episode! Your sister is amazing! Unfortunately, I'm not into gaming channels, but I'll still subscribe to her anyway.

[@maggpiprime954]

"Save up all her pennies??" She's _spent_ them all, keeping _your_ butt afloat! Building your business on someone else's income is irresponsible af. You're supposed to do that on the side when you have a steady income to fund it. As it stands, it's a pipe dream; a luxury you cannot afford, and you're nitpicking dog bones and birdseed? Which, the fanciest bones are $8, and the cheapest black oil sunflower seeds are $10. If that's breaking your bank, then my dude; trying to shoestring together a business _now_ is a guaranteed failure. You're not 20 anymore to not know this. Time to grow up.

[@ViktorErikFade]

Just remember you have to be a little trash before you are good at something . At the very least it will be entertaining along the journey

[@L3onking]

Your relationship with your sister is what I've yearned for with my brother but he perpetually looks down on me and ignores me despite us being in our 30s

[@faithpearlgenied-a5517]

That's sad. I have a great relationship with my sister, she's my best friend but wish I had a better relationship with my brother :/ he's just not interested in being close to his family especially he has a girlfriend. Then he uses us when he's single, then drops us again.

[@FriendlyGhost02]

I doubt they googled the game. They'd know if they would consider the game was filthy according to their standards, AND they would figure out that game was being sold super cheap

[@hannahnohlgren989]

I hope last OP asks their friend(s)/family for help to get out before it gets even worse and she's in so much debt they will come and take HER THINGS AND BELONINGS to make up for his negligence. 😢 Cross my fingers for you OP.. Thank you for this episode ❤️

[@emmalouise6597]

Oh god that last story! My ex was doing the EXACT same thing. He'd go on tangents about all these business ideas he had, tried to start his own insurance company and I was working retail to keep us afloat. We lived with his freaking grandma for two years before I realised I was wasting my life and money with this man and left. There were other issues in the relationship but the boyfriend in the last story just reminds me so much of my ex 😂 I feel so bad for OP, her boyfriend is a waste of space and money

[@KacielNolwen]

That last one is insane. Who the heck loses a job and immediately stops paying all bills and rent? Did he have no savings at all? I lost my job last year (woo tech industry recession) and I was still contributing to the household bills. Sure, less so cause my partner insisted to pay more since they had their job still but I payed for some things, food, bills my cat's bills. I got some help from the government due to losing my job and took some savings out, how come she's the only one using up ALL her money here... Seriously kick him out and get a roomie. PS: Love your sister she's god great vibes! Hope she comes back!

[@Rikrobat]

I’m definitely in the camp of offering to pay some or all of the money for food that I ate a significant portion of, even if I didn’t order it. However, that’s an expectation for myself. If I ordered a dish and chose not to eat it, I wouldn’t expect the person who takes it instead to pay for it. (Realistically, I would box the food up and eat it another time.) For the AITA situation, I don’t understand why Sara should be made to pay anything if OP isn’t bringing back her portion. If they ordered with the expectation that she would be arriving and eat the dishes she wanted, then they should have set her portion aside for her to cover later. If they ate her portion, it doesn’t matter if they were her food picks or not, THEY ate the food.

[@carr0760]

I agree with you, plus, they shouldn't have ordered for her in the first place because she told them she probably wasn't coming but would try if she was feeling better. Why would assume that they were coming after they said that?

[@s.a.4358]

I agree. If Sarah had cancelled last minute (after the start of the dinner) and it was understood by all that those who arrive first would order for those running late, I would maybe say small drama, however Sarah let them know one hour in advance that she might not come, so there was really no reason to order for her.

[@auntlynnie]

I’m loving the chaotic sibling energy!

[@neo-cb9lc]

lovely surprise to see nadia here as well! looking forward to this week's episode

[@AnimeLover-iy5bv]

Learned yall didn't have DoorDash and it was nice to meet your sister

[@melissacoviello2886]

I really really enjoyed this video, I always do, but it was extra fun with your sister!

[@koa-z]

When my friends and I go out, we do usually get individual dishes and share what we got. That in and of itself isn't weird, I think. But it would be SUPER weird to expect someone who didn't show up to pay for food that they never ate, lol??? I personally would be worried about the friend, bc "tired" can mean a lot of things. Trying to take money out of their wallet would absolutely not be my first priority.

[@nightjetts]

Just subbed to Nadia! I love horror games (and it is better when people are "bad" at them lol). I hope she plays Chilla Art games. They are more story than intense gameplay, so I think it would be more her lane. I loved this episode (as with all of them)!

[@SarahHalina]

Your sister is awesome and hilarious. Love your dynamic with each other. Hopefully she makes more appearances in your videos

[@sarahkuntzman3014]

I love the dynamic between you and Nadia! I'd love to see her back in the channel again.

[@faenene]

Lol this is great, I love you and your sister’s dynamic

[@kittysunlover]

Hi Nadia! I too like video games and am not good at them. But sometimes the fun is in being bad at it and playing anyway. XD You two were such a joy to watch together. It's so nice to see such close sibling bonds.

[@jaufacake]

Haha yeah that's true! aww thanks!

[@Eleanor_hi]

I think for the second story the difference is that the person who ordered the chicken didn’t want it Sarah may have wanted the food but didn’t feel well enough to go to the physical restaurant

[@blackk_rose_]

Love your energy together! Totally wouldn't mind seeing Nadia again in one of these videos! Regarding the chicken wings: If it was the case that Nadia only ate one chicken wing because she didn't like it and I tried them and did like them, I'd just offer to swap food so she wouldn't go hungry. If she ate half and then she was full and offered me her leftovers, then I'd offer to pay half if it was expensive and I honestly don't think I'd offer to pay anything if it was inexpensive. If the leftovers were more than one or two chicken wings, I'd probably have a little and then suggest she pack it up for later (in that case, I wouldn't contribute paying for it either).

[@shelleykoone2987]

Nadia's Chicken Wing Dilemma: I think it depends on each person's financial situation. For example if Nadia orders $500 wings knowing Shaaba can't afford them, and then Nadia doesn't like them so offers them to Shaaba, then I think Shaaaba shouldn't be on the hook to pay for them. If Shaaba can afford them and wants to pay for them, then it is her prerogative to do so but she is not obligated to do so. Maybe Shaaba ordered the cheapest thing on the menu because it was already more than she could afford and she can't afford to pay for Nadia's $500 chicken wings.

[@clarab325]

loved this video sm, hope to see Nadia back in the future! for the restaurant story: although sarah did give very late notice she wouldn’t be able to come, she was pretty clear about the fact they were to count her out unless she suddenly got better. she then confirmed 20 minutes later (which is an appropriate amount of time to see if you feel better or not) that she wouldn’t be coming. OP must’ve been lying on when she would’ve ordered the food because i can’t see how in that time she could’ve ordered both the appetizers and the other dishes, without even being able to cancel the order for sarah. the blame is on OP for assuming sarah would come when she had already made it clear she was too tired. also who orders for their friend who is unsure they’d come without checking with them first? (even if you know what their order would be)

[@randomnessiscool]

Today I learned there is no DoorDash in the uk

[@alexhika]

Funny definitely runs in the family, Nadia is just as hilarious as you 😂❤ Please have her again!

[@badgermacfeegal618]

I'm only two minutes in, and I can already tell that you two have a great time as sisters! It's fun to see!

[@thecraziestcrayon]

"You ate my chicken wings!" I love this sibling dynamic.

[@rorytriscuit]

“Asian standard time” lolllll Shaaba did I hear that right? It explains so much in my life. 😹

[@GraupeLie]

OMG, Shaaba, please invite your sis over again for AITA - you two together are hilarious!

[@AaronArtss]

Your sister is amazing at this

[@BunneahReads]

Ya'll are adorable together. Imma go give a follow even though i dont do horror because this dynamic is great😂

[@jaufacake]

🥺💙

[@BunneahReads]

@@jaufacake 💚

[@khatsuntrcreations3850]

"What is Doordash? Dashing trough the door?" 😂 So cute hahaha, it's food delivery

[@anniespring8986]

I don’t like video games or horror but I’m wishing you the best with your channel!

[@MyriahMayhem]

19:45 I work in a restaurant and sometimes for events you book ahead and pick the menu ahead, usually 2apps, 2 entrées, and 2 desserts and pay for how many people will be there. and then once you get there everyone chooses between the 2 options but the menu has been decided and paid for by then.

[@UserMcUsyface]

Oooh pleassseee have her back on the channel, loved your banter and she definitely matches your wittyness

[@Soilfood365]

I'm wondering if Sarah's uneaten entrées were at a restaurant where the group ordered before the day they went? There are some pricy restaurants where it's pretty normal to order food when you book because the dishes are finicky and take time to prepare.

[@s.a.4358]

Wondering that too, as OP says returning the food / cancelling to order is not possible. But even then, the food should have been packed up and taken to Sarah if she is expected to pay for it.

[@flotenstimme4608]

Also I would then ask her "do you want us to eat it or to pack it up and drop at your place". Also I wonder bout the others . do they also want money from her...?

[@soundlessbee]

I wonder about this too. Here some restaurants even charge you per chair, if you don't show up, but I don't think that was the case here. I don't think Sarah could expect anyone to go out of their way to deliver such food. If someone lives near-by, then sure, but otherwise it's not their responsibility. If I have to make a last minute cancellation and it causes some costs or can't be refunded, I won't expect anyone else to pay. I haven't been in this situation with a restaurant, but some play/concert tickets have gone unused or have been donated, because I have suddenly become ill. It's good if someone can use them on my behalf, but I wouldn't expect them to pay for it. I don't think there is enough information on the case to make any proper verdict, but because I'm so fed up trying to make plans with people, who seem to be utterly incapable of committing to any kind of a plan or say directly they are not interested, I'm just going to say Sarah is the AH, maybe someone else too 😅😅

[@annabrown3337]

Literally sorting our games while watching this!

[@wheelingalong24]

I LOVED this collab, please do this more often!

[@michellecoleman5577]

OMG! As soon as I heard "selling insurance" and connected that with what OP said about the things the boyfriend has apparently been doing instead of making a real plan and working in the meantime to support them... mlm for sure. I'd bet on it and I generally hate gambling. OP needs to demand ALL the information and either shake some sense into the boyfriend, or if they really can't or don't feel they have the capacity to take that on, run. run and thank whatever you believe in that you dodged the bullet when you did even though it still grazed you badly.

[@undeadfroggo6349]

I can't believe how much Nadia has grown up. She's such a little cutie and so funny. You must be so proud of your little sister.

[@ulla.umlaut]

KZbin has been putting this video in my top 6 all week, and I just wasn't in the mood for drama reads, but I'm glad I watched it before it disappeared because you and your sister are very cute working together!

[@lisalove8532]

The last one I related to. They are now an ex and I don’t care if they become a millionaire in the future, the disrespect of not communicating and prioritizing the household ruined the relationship.

[@christinakyleloves]

Love you Shaaba!!🩷🩷🍑🍑 Love to see Nadia!!😊😊

[@zefiro6829]

Shaaba and Nadia's interactions make me unbelievably happy. My brain right now is just "Depression? Psssssh. What's that?"

[@tohru4]

The bone situation makes me think of boomers saying stop buying avocado on toast

[@SlothDaan]

I love this sister dynamic! Am looking forward to seeing more of these collabs

[@PJAC1]

Shaaba, it was so fun "meeting" your lovely sister, Nadia!! She's super cool, just like you are!! Thanks for bringing her on!!! I loved this!! ❤❤❤

[@danbirdneo591]

Your sister did so well with this subreddit, I’d definitely love to see her back sometime