My Boyfriend Ran Away From Me When We Were Being Robbed By A Homeless Man r/Relationships

[@owl7072]

Story 1: "I thought you were stabbed" So you waited an HOUR to reach out saying you "have the cops"? "They might laugh at me" boy I'M laughing at you and the nerve you have

[@pippo17173]

Like it's one thing to run, it's another to just leave her without getting help. Like damn man you could of just done that.

[@Tina99999]

@@pippo17173 No, it is not okay! She could have been killed or raped while -he ran away for help-. If he brought police in ten minutes she could have still received an injury that could lead to her death within that time. The guy might have been drugged and very aggressive. he could have hit her as revenge for not having money. Running away is only proof that you care more about yourself than the life of another person! If my bf ran and brought police within 5 minutes I would have dumped him the same day. Good people protect their loved ones when their life is at risk: better people would even protect people they don't know. This bf is no good person at all. I would risk my wellbeing for my cat, but he didn't want to risk anything for another person even! The least he could have done is grab her hand and ran away with her!

[@Non-zq3ot]

​@@Tina99999 I'm in no way defending the op's boyfriend but girl are you serious? You would dump your man who ran and came back with the police within 5 mins on the same day? Would you rather he try and be a 'BIG BRAVE MAN' and attack the person holding you hostage? That shit could result in you AND him being injured. Op boyfriend is a huge coward regardless of what anyone says but damn at least your imaginary bf went to get help. Sheesh! You really thinking it's safe for an unarmed person to attack an armed person. What kind of stupidity is this? This ain't a Hollywood film! Again, I ain't defending the bf cause I would be pissed too if my man left for the hills never to be seen again but I think you being a little extreme.

[@tomeeshahaller4226]

Glad OP dropped Aiden. It's disgusting that he blamed OP for being mugged when he *left her behind* to hide in a ducking park for hours while his ex was being mugged.

[@low-keydrama1260]

@@maxxxedout785 he could’ve left to actually get help and not hide. He could’ve checked in on OP sooner and not wait an hour to check in on her. Especially if he heard sirens and assumed OP was stabbed. Then there’s the fact he lied about what he was foing

[@parkerpenafiel9014]

@@maxxxedout785 while running bc of fight or flight is understandable, the fact that he did nothing after getting away even when he thought she’d been stabbed tells her that when things get rough he won’t be there to help. If they have kids he won’t have their best interests in mind if something like this happens again. It’s on him not bc he’s a man but bc he got away and he’s her partner.

[@wimsylogic65]

​@@maxxxedout785 If he doesn't mind to be considered a coward and less of a man he doesn't have to. Very rare for there to be any kind of woman who would be attracted to or accept a man that does not wish to protect his woman. This guy was pathetic. He just ran and left his girlfriend to be completely Victimized. The very least There was 2 against 1. It didn't try to take his girlfriend with him. And he went and hid. He didn't go to get help. That guy is a sniveling coward, Was less of a human as he didn't even show concern for his girlfriend. So it's not about whether hes expected to or not. But it says an awful lot about his character on whether he Chooses 2 or not.

[@CircusoftheMoon]

@@maxxxedout785 Make sure his ex was also running? Allegedly he has the power to kick the muggers ass so maybe do that?

[@dre1978]

​@@maxxxedout785it's not that he's a guy. It's the fact that he 1) left his partner in a dangerous situation 2) lied about why he did it 3) admitted to hearing sirens and thinking she got hurt but still DID NOTHING 4) is trying to make her the bad guy for breaking up with him

[@darkangel_1978]

In the story about the boyfriend running away, my best friend heard something similar. He was at college, and this guy attacked this woman, and the boyfriend ran away. Sadly the woman was raped, but my best friend heard her screaming and came to her aid, and tackled the rapist and held him until the cops came.

[@maddydavidsdottir9862]

Your friend is an absolute saint and an amazing person. They deserve all the love in the world and I hope they have a fantastic life. People like your friend deserve so much praise and rewards. I wish I had someone like your friend when I needed it but just knowing that one woman somewhere in the world had such a wonderful person in her corner to fight for her gives me so much relief and happiness. Give your friend a hug from me, that is an amazing human being. ❤❤

[@Callimo]

Ayo wtf🤨 I can't imagine running away and leaving my SO to be attacked. It sounds like a setup

[@darkangel_1978]

@@Callimo it wasn't. My best friend had just left class and was heading to his car to go to work, when it all went down.

[@darkangel_1978]

@@maddydavidsdottir9862 sorry that you didn't have someone to help you. And when I go back East this summer, I will hug him for you. I have to visit him and his wife and kids anyway. They're like family to me.

[@Acehigh-Jenkins]

Thank god for good people!

[@pearbear6418]

Story 1: I'm surprised Aiden didn't scream, "TAKE HER NOT ME!!" and shove OP at the mugger before taking off 💀.

[@catandrobbyflores]

He pretty much did that.

[@leorose6039]

If we’re the mugger and he yelled that to me I would go after him on purpose just for doing that lmao

[@ravenfox926]

Bill Paxton already said that😂

[@luciferandassociates9255]

Story 1: Running away because your scared, fine whatever it happens. Actively not getting help, hiding and not contacting for over an hour? Now we have a problem. Lying about the event and saying you'd do something different than what you really did? Now just shut up.

[@sophdog2564]

And THEN he wouldn't pick her up because "the cops might laugh at me :("

[@Redragingphoton1]

@@sophdog2564 Makes e wonder if he was also afraid of the police catching him for something as he was of the robber.

[@pippo17173]

Garenteed he has a past and is afraid the cops will get him.

[@karimylo4002]

Yeah I agree fully. Just toss him out with the garbage.

[@rheinhartsilvento2576]

Actually no, it's not fine. Sorry. If you're a man, you need to stand your ground and/or protect the woman you're with. Otherwise you're a c*nt.

[@eldeano9964]

Dude has a phobia of getting stabbed. Ok, that's reasonable. Then there's every single thing he said and did afterwards...

[@claraborisov01]

I have a severe bee phobia. Like to the point of running into the road to run away from bee's. Didn't stop me from grabbing a kid after they knocked over a hornets nest and bolting.

[@peteranon8455]

I, too, have a phobia of being stabbed...

[@melissar4612]

Yep, this. Not an a-hole for running away, but a complete a-hole for everything else.

[@lilywong9672]

No, he was not afraid. He was protecting the mugger from his natural rage.

[@MrJpaynebb]

5%. That's as high as I could give their relationship surviving if, if he had actually gone for and come back with help in 5 to 10 minutes. Again that's only if he came back with help in 5 to 10 minutes. As soon as OP said 1 hour later I was thinking just ghost him or tell every single person we know together about his cowardly actions that day and then block him? Really leaning towards scorched earth.

[@fleurpouvior2967]

When I was robbed at work, it messed me up. He pointed a gun at my 16 year old trainee, and I remember shaking, having trouble controling my hands, and full on tunnel vision while smiling, complying, and trying to find some way to signal my coeorkers for help, while being too scared if I do, someone I am looking out for could be killed. I still have ptsd and a lot of anger toward customers and the public that eventually resulted in my leaving customer service. But I didn't run. I stayed, I complied, and I did everything I physically could to keep my trainee from being hurt. It didn't help that my manager tried to shame me to anyone who would listen for not jumping the counter and taking the guy down. I'm a 5' nothing fat girl. At best I could have sprawled on the counter and wiggled my way across while hoping he was laughing to hard to shoot anyone.

[@gnhun101]

The way you described maneuvering over the counter made me laugh. But honestly. You did everything you could have. And I thank you for protecting your trainee. I wish you all the best and hope you recover from the trauma. We never know how we will react when tested, I think you did just fine. And your manager is a terrible person

[@fleurpouvior2967]

@@gnhun101 thank you, it took me a lot of years to internalize that. My only regret, is ringing in something I was allergic to, to open the drawer. The least I could have done was pick something I liked as a consolation lunch, and not death in a wrapper

[@seangarvey8232]

​@@fleurpouvior2967 sorry that happened to you, but that picture you painted at the end was so funny I laughed for awhile lol. Glad everyone was ok though

[@embluvya]

Story 3: "you denied me my first moments with the baby, so now I will deny myself more precious moments with our newborn by walking out on you bc I'm throwing a tantrum." Divorce.

[@gnhun101]

You don't see any problem with denying someone witnessing the birth of their first child? He can never gett that moment back. He's obviously at fault too and should seek therapy to process his emotions better, but she is t blameless

[@averycheesypotato]

@@gnhun101 Childbirth is a medical emergency that requires the full attention of medical professionals. Anyone not directly involved in the physical process who is making a scene, will be removed. OP is not to blame at all. What exactly would your ideal solution be, btw? Is she to continue to be crushed & shouted at while already in tremendous pain? Should the doctor & nurses stop what they are doing to calm him down?

[@nkoistrash]

​@no oneherre please try pushing out a child 200x bigger than the hole it comes out of. Childbirth kills so many women every single year. Excess Stress can cause death for mom and baby because of how traumatic Childbirth is. He was stressing her out and legit started yelling at her while shes actively birthing the baby... he could have killed her because that amount of stress and pain can cause shock... absolutely the nurses did the right thing. Then instead of cooling it and coming back when the baby was born, he ignored the woman who is still at risk for infection and hemorrhage due to increased stress just to teach her a lesson. He's abusive and selfish.

[@ingloriousbetch4302]

​@no oneherre Physically hurting a woman giving birth, knowingly causing her stress, and panic, yelling at her, and you think she should've just put up with it....why? Stress and panic can cause labor to be even more dangerous. F*ck that guy. Anyone who is that volatile doesn't need to be near children nor to be a parent at all. She IS blameless.

[@toadsandmarkers4347]

​@@gnhun101 you a 🤡

[@saldiven2009]

Story 1: The way Aiden is acting, he deserves to get "blown up" on social media.

[@lishagallegos9551]

YEP!! BLOW HIS SHIZZ UP!!!! Warn other women of this ABUSIVE POS COWARD PUNK!!

[@SK98765]

I understand being afraid in that kind of situation and panicking. But lying about it is really messed up.

[@MorganVsTheInternet]

3 NTA, people keep forgetting that the only reason they’re in the delivery room is to support the person giving birth! Getting to see the baby come out and cutting the umbilical cord is a privilege!

[@notoriousd.i.g.87]

Story 1: The running away is reasonable. Him walking past people who could have helped and hiding in a park for an hour is truly the cowardly move.

[@Callimo]

But running away and leaving your partner there?????

[@notoriousd.i.g.87]

@@Callimo Not the best move but honestly still a reasonable response if you assume you partner is following you. Once he realized OP didn't follow him, he didn't go for help, he just left her for dead.

[@carlrood4457]

You really don't need to go scorched earth on such a person. Remember, "A coward dies a thousand deaths. A brave man dies but once." Part of the reason he's blowing up OP's email is he can't live knowing (and others knowing) he's a coward. He'll wonder forever if other men are laughing behind his back.

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

That's what I said to myself. Op doesn't need to do anything to him. The shame that follows him for the rest of his days will be punishment enough.

[@pippo17173]

@Malacophile true but I do wonder if the ex had something to hide and didn't want law enforcement involved.

[@anonmouse15]

No need to wonder. They will laugh at him to his face.

[@leorose6039]

Lmao they won’t laugh at him behind his back. They will do it in his face because dude is just ridiculous. He couldn’t even grab her when he ran he just left totally just forgot she existed. No one and I mean no one can live this down.

[@RSARYR]

Story 1: Screenshots. Screenshots. Screenshots! She needs to save every single screenshots of the messages, emails and voicemails. Aiden gave her so much ammo and proof of how much of a freaking dick he is. If anyone asks OP what happened, she can just go on a phone and show them every single text and email.

[@tracicolvis7382]

I haven't even heard the comments or update yet but I have to say I love OP in story 1. She's not asking if she should forgive him or take him back, just how savagely she should burn his ass down. Totally justified and I love it!

[@lauraanderson8785]

A relationship could never recover from this. You need to feel like you're safe around your partner, that you're a team, and that you can count on them through anything. A partner abandoning you in a dangerous situation speaks VOLUMES - such a person doesn't truly love you and they don't care what happens to you. I'm glad that OP broke up with him. She deserves better.

[@streamerssaymyname]

Story 3: I've heard this one before and kind of sad there are no new updates, men like this can be extremely dangerous, that entitled "I deserve to be here whether the person actually birthing likes it or not because I am the *father*" is the ego-centric narrative family annihilators have. "How dare my ex divorce me and be granted primary custody, I'll take away the kids forever to punish her" "My life isn't going so well so I should end it, better take my kids and wife with me since there is no reason they should live outside of me and my control."

[@paulinadeboer3604]

This OP needs to divorce this man. If she gets pregnant again this will repeat the same way. I was in this kind of situation when i had a panicattack while in labour. I had contractions and they stopped because of the panic i had. Some people just should not be in the room when you are in labour. They can do so much harm. It almost killed me.

[@Lillireify]

Story 3, comment from nothin_incriminating almost made me cry. It describes me, a daughter of an aggressive father perfectly. He had incredibly short temper for most of my life, and it f*ked me up a lot. He also never, ever apologized for his behavior. I've spent thousands of zloty's on my therapy. I still have problems managing my own emotions, because all I know is how to bottle up stuff and explode. I've only recently began to feeling secure enough to allow myself to feel like "I belong". I've only recently started to feel good enough about myself, that I'm not afraid of being a mother. And I'm 32. Worst part? My mum killed herself when I was a kid, but it's his behavior that affected me so badly that I've spent 8 years in therapy. That's so f*ked up I can't even.

[@surrealistgirlx]

I am so sorry your loss. From my own experience you may have CPTSD. I'm not a therapist but thought it might be helpful. I am proud of you for surviving and getting therapy. I've been in pretty consistent therapy since I was 16. Try to do some things to take care of yourself - listen or play music, create art, cook or bake. Go for long walks Spend time in nature. Celebrate and be proud of even your smallest victories. Here's a big virtual hug. Namaste

[@jazminehollister3967]

Story 3: just thinking about how the stress could have had dangerous outcomes for OP is horrible. If you can't relax enough to endure the contractions, not only could it delay labor but your muscles tensing for so long could drain your energy making harder to push. There's so many complications that could come out of being stressed and panicked while trying to deliver

[@streamerssaymyname]

Not to mention how the dude was yelling, feels like the nurses should have removed him sooner. I bet he would have blamed her if she had to have an emergency C-section.

[@Thegamingg00bers]

To be fair the yelling began after she yelled at him to stop crying. Imo ESH neither can contain their emotions. She knows how he gets stressed easily so she should’ve been able to not get stressed out.

[@SvarogAristaeusAllen]

@@Thegamingg00bers She's pushing out a baby, are you stupid?

[@beccaf262]

“I just wanted this moment to be about me and not my bf crying for fifteen minutes” that’s kinda telling. It’s okay to be emotionally vulnerable as a man but the idea that you’re a grown human being that can’t regulate emotions to that extent is concerning and can be seen as manipulative. And tbh it sounds like the silent treatment is more proof of that. It leads to a life of life asking on eggshells to not set them off.

[@syrliawarrior]

Last story: When my daughter was born everything went wrong but hubby was a trooper, until they kicked in out of the OR with no explanation. He panicked while locked in a hallway. He had no idea if I or my baby was okay or not no one would tell him anything. Not once did he blame me, not for 3 days of no sleep, not for scaring the hell out of him, not for getting tossed from the room. A real partner DOESN'T blame a birthing mother for life going sideways.

[@shuinoh]

Story 2: I completely understand everyone piling on OP for dismissing his emotions but also this could be manipulation. I had a friend who would have over the top emotions about my achievements and I’d have to stop whatever I was doing to comfort her/calm her down. A good way to see if this is really just how he is is to show little reaction or little comforting. Showed her hand real quick when I didn’t do anything😐 but I also have a friend who just feels emotions intensely and when she did cry and jump all on me for hugs I knew she wasn’t trying to be malicious. She’s a sweet person who is just happy for me🌸

[@paulinadeboer3604]

I always cry when my daughters have their Milestones and although it is soft not to be noticed by others. My daughters hate it untill.. my daughter had a horsedressage competition. The horse was abused in the past was scared of everything and ofcourse she lost.. she came crying out of the rank, i asked why are you crying you knew she couldnot win this.. and my daughter said, i am just like you, i am so proud of her that she did it, that i cry.

[@susankaempfer8427]

Yeah, I was wondering this…

[@Redragingphoton1]

I think the most worrisome thing about the husband in Story 3 is how he said he was absolutely entitled to be present for the birth regardless of the feelings of *the person giving birth.* He will always put his priorities first.

[@alexanderhenby1362]

If two people get to the point in a relationship where they are considering children, but the birthing partner does not want the other partner in the delivery room. THESE TWO PEOPLE SHOULD NOT HAVE CHILDREN TOGETHER. Dont think he'll be a comfort to you, dont have children together. Dont think he'll act right. Dont have children together. Afraid he'll see you poop yourself. Dint have children together.

[@vampire9545]

If I'm not in the delivery room, it's not my child.

[@toadsandmarkers4347]

​@vamp if you're acting like a whole ass child and making the birth about instead of the mother,then you're not in the room and you still gotta pay child support

[@leorose6039]

I’m sorry but I will never understand women or man who doesn’t want their husbands in the delivery or doesn’t want to be in there with their wives. Like ok I get it if you’re husband get Squamish and faints at the sight of blood that’s different. Or is yelling and just being an aggressive ass that’s different. But I’ve heard of women solely denying their husbands of being in the delivery room because they’re afraid of them not being attracted to them or seeing them poop. Personally I feel like if you’re not able to be this vulnerable with your partner in a situation like this then you do not need to be having kids with them. Because to not want the man that you’re having a child with in there to support and comfort in your most vulnerable time is just crazy. If you cannot trust your partner in a time that you’re vulnerable then you probably shouldn’t be having kids with this person.

[@toadsandmarkers4347]

@Leo Rose if the man is acting like a baby and over dramatic to the point it's stressing the actual person giving birth because they aren't actually helping,then they get kicked out. Anyone acting like this will get kicked out because the women and babies lives are literally on the line and noone gives a shit if you're being emotional or squirmish. The woman is more important than your feelings

[@khughes9574]

S1: OP has learned a valuable lesson early about her (ex) BF that she can't count on him in a crisis and is right to break up with him. As for blowing up his life, is it worth the effort? I wouldn't lie if someone asked why you broke up with him, but sometimes it's better to take the high road. After all, HE has to live with what he did and who he is for the rest of his life.

[@khughes9574]

Song break: Brave Sir Robin ran away. ("No!") Bravely ran away away. ("I didn't!") When danger reared it's ugly head, He bravely turned his tail and fled. ("I never!") Yes, brave Sir Robin turned about And gallantly he chickened out. ("You're lying!")

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

A man like that would happily offer up his woman and kids gift-wrapped and on a silver platter if he thought for a moment that it might save his own ass.

[@Lithiel]

Story 1: I know some people don’t think anyone owes you to put your life on the line for you -- but I’d expect to be able to rely on my partner/significant other to stand by me and we’d protect one another. Leaving me behind in danger is a deal breaker. OP’s boyfriend was even Worse than that-! Not only did they leave but they didn’t BOTHER to get actual help!

[@DemonicGoddess]

Stroy 3 dude is abusive, leaving bruises, telling you he doesnt give a fly flip how he acts since he is the father. Marke ignoring them bothers me.

[@jay2thaudy]

Markee absolute mad lad. Says "I post daily" and then disappears for a week 🤣 love it!

[@Markee]

All according to plan

[@jay2thaudy]

@@Markee you had me locked in checking for the next fix. Well played!

[@sophdog2564]

​@@Markee "I post every day 60% of the days"

[@ZombieSazza]

I understand giving birth is stressful, but OPs husband was causing her extreme panic and worry as she was giving birth, you do NOT want a woman giving birth to be panicking, she should feel safe. He was holding her arm to the point of causing her extreme pain and made her arm numb, then SCREAMED in her EAR?!? It’s no wonder he was kicked out the room, he wasn’t even trying to control his behaviour, he was extremely out of control and taking it out on his pregnant wife, then just ghosted. Disappeared with no warning. HOW is his behaviour OPs fault?!? This just feels extremely controlling, like he’s trying to tell OP he should be able to demand being in the delivery room, he should be allowed to behave however he wants no matter how much of a detriment it is to her safely giving birth, gaslighting her into believing she’s “cruel”, trying to make her feel guilty for his behaviour, making her believe she’s “selfish” for putting herself, her health and having a healthy birth before his feelings… it’s all so, so controlling. I’m just worried this behaviour will continue in the future, it kinda feels like he’s gunna continue behaving in this manner, he’s pushed so many boundaries during such a vulnerable moment, he’s incredibly entitled and just absolutely insane. I hope someone can talk sense into him, because if I were her I’d be seriously considering time away from the relationship and staying somewhere else. It would hopefully give him time to consider his behaviour, because he actually needs therapy, he’s rationalised his behaviour and is blaming his wife, and I’m honestly worried he’s gunna behave like this towards his daughter who will grow up having to bottle everything up because she’s scared of her fathers cruelty. Therapy and medication would massively help, but that’s only if he’s actually open to seriously treating his mental illness, on top of apologising to his wife for his behaviour, acknowledging his behaviour and how awful and cruel it was, and making an effort to never behave like this again. But that’ll only work if he’s actually willing to work on these issues, he’s otherwise gunna destroy his marriage, kill communication and terrify his daughter, could go either way. Also I was definitely that child growing up, I got diagnosed with PTSD a long time ago because of said childhood. I still can’t cry properly because of the violent conditioning, struggle to speak up about my needs, my own birthday is a trigger date and I can’t even celebrate it without an estranged family member trying to contact me to harass me every single year, and the verbal abuse eventually became physical abuse and outright violence. It stays with you, you learn you can’t trust anyone, are on edge constantly not knowing what mood your parent will be in every day, you bottle everything up in an extremely unhealthy manner, and can end up going off the rails and getting in lots of trouble because of this. So be careful OP, because you need to ask yourself 2 important questions: Is it worth it? Can this be fixed?

[@wmdkitty]

No, it's not worth it, and no, it can't be fixed unless HE genuinely wants to do the work necessary.

[@adawongkennedy6570]

Story 1: A few years ago I had a coworker who had something similar happen, a thief approached her and her husband, her husband ran and the thief shot him in the foot. She could have died because of his reaction. But unlike Op, my colleague did not leave her husband and visited him in the hospital.

[@dodgyyoutuber9560]

Jeez. I would be heartbroken if my husband abandoned me.

[@adawongkennedy6570]

@@dodgyyoutuber9560 me too, when I talked to her I was like "did he really left you at gun point?" and she was like "but he's feeling sorry, he apologized" I end up saying "ofc he's sorry, he took the shot he thought you would". She didn't like when I said that. I remember when I was 5/6 years old and I was with my brother on the street, a guy came to rob us, my brother put himself in front of me to protect me, my brother was 11/12 years old, he was a kid, but he didn't ran.

[@SvarogAristaeusAllen]

@@adawongkennedy6570 Because children have no concept of life and death, but adults do. Remember, you feel invincible until you hit your early 20's.

[@PurpleHeartsOnFire]

Any sympathy went out the door when he decided to name call and lie instead of groveling for forgiveness (not even to save the relationship)

[@PowerStruggle555]

"Ghost him, like he did to you" Though unlike op. when he "ghosted" her....there was a chance OP wouldve been a ghost

[@notevenlistening6072]

I read the title, then paused to laugh myself to tears. I've dated some losers, but daang

[@wmdkitty]

Same. This guy makes a few of my exes look respectable.

[@Nevertoleave]

Story 3, she’s not an asshole. She’s the patient, if he can’t control himself he needs to not be there. I’ve had two kids, there’s a reason we kept people away. Someone in labour, an event that could lead to an operation and in first world countries rarely death, means you need a supportive person not someone who stresses you out more and increases the chance of needing an operation. He needs mental help and shouldn’t be around a kid unless he gets help. Zero unsupervised visits.

[@gnhun101]

So he should be 100% in control of his emotions. Then can we stop lying and saying you want a man to be emotional, or in touch with his feelings. You bring it upon yourselves

[@Ni-boo]

​@@gnhun101 women like emotionally mature men, not cry babies and especially not a cry baby screaming at them while they're giving birth. A woman crying and screaming in another woman's ear while that woman is giving birth would be kicked out too.

[@carterpitbull7366]

@@gnhun101 there is no reason for him to have been screaming and crying like he was the one experiencing labor.

[@averycheesypotato]

@@gnhun101 If he can’t control himself, he needs to leave the room. No one gets to throw their baggage on someone else when they are in trouble. You think if it had been OP’s mother who was crushing her arm & screaming at her, that she would have been allowed to stay?

[@ingloriousbetch4302]

@no oneherre ohhhhh I get it. You're an incel. You think men should be able to physically hurt women in labor, scream, and yell, cause huge scenes with emotional outbursts, and women must our up with it because men shouldn't have to control themselves. Ew.

[@sequoyasierra5671]

Childbirth is hard enough without someone stressing you out. If she was starting to panic because of him it can make an already stressful situation completely terrifying. There is a rhythm to childbirth and when it is interrupted things can become chaotic (think breathing exercises, pushing, don't push, etc)

[@shells500tutubo]

Story 1- ROTFLMAO!! OMG, I showed this to a friend who had a bf like this, and a similar episode. When friend went to help in an accident that happened in front of them (the woman died in her arms) he kept pressing the car horn so they could leave. Didn't call 9-1-1, get out to help, NOTHING! I told her that he just showed her who he really is, but it took anther year for her to leave him. I still think the bf had outstanding warrants. Op needs to give the cops his name and address and tell them he was there with her but ran away.

[@BbiBbii]

I get fight or flight, but not even calling the cops for her is crazy. Continuing to hide in the park and just assuming she got stabbed after hearing sirens is also crazy. Dude sounds like a giant baby or like he has warrants like that commenter said 😅 At the very least call the police after running, don’t just hide for hours and assume your partner is injured and/or dead 💀

[@carlrood4457]

I'm in my fifties and have led a very safe, quiet life. I have a wife and four teen children. I've never been confrontational and one of the things I worry about is how I'd react in a real emergency. I'd like to believe I'd be the last one out if the house caught fire. I'd make sure everyone, including the pets got out before me. I want to be the guy who'd take the hit while pushing someone out of the way of a car. Sadly, I really don't know that I'm that guy and I feel shame that I might be cowardly. I am thankful I've never had to experience real danger, but I think that knowing I'd put it on the line for someone else would alleviate a lot of insecurities I have. I don't know OP's BF, but he's now living one of my greatest fears.

[@MrsWheezer]

Panicking and making bad choices is one thing. Lying about it and gaslighting your partner is quite another. One is forgivable. The other destroys trust. My husband and I are also in our 50s with kids still home. We’ve both had less than stellar moments, but we’ve never blamed the other for our own bad behavior.

[@KatonNeko]

OP could have been raped and murdered?! But NOOOOO let's show concern for the mugger by sparing him from "being killed" by the Exs "Natural Rage".

[@DaniS398]

Oof! I dated a guy who lied about what he was going to do for new years and went to hang with his friends while I spent New Years alone. He gave me some BS excuse about not wanting to "inconvenience me" by taking me to the next town which was only 40 mins away for a party. I broke up with him during that conversation because it was clear he was ashamed of me for whatever reason. Still, I get not wanting to have your thunder stolen as well. Glad they worked it out though. Delivery room dad...nope. I worked in L&D and everyone needs to focus on the mom. Mom needs to focus on the laboring not on her hyperventilating father to be. Nurses will constantly tell laboring moms in stressful family situations to just say the word and they'll see it it. It is a safety issue not an issue about feelings. And he left! What if there was an emergency? What if she died and his baby needed her other parent and he was just no contact until discharge. Discharge! I'm so glad she had some support from the moms. I was so out of it emotionally and physically during postpartum I couldn't imagine my hubs being no contact. She is NTA.

[@cheekyweb8055]

Story 3- NTA what a delusional man. He owes that new momma an apology.

[@riverjbleu]

Every birthing story just solidifies exactly why I don’t want children or a relationship with a man 💀

[@angelastice5516]

Start introducing him to some big strong men. He needs a man to protect him from danger.

[@PinkMarshmallows]

Story 3: I'm for men's rights, but this was shitty what OP's husband did. OP is NTA.

[@artemishallihan8973]

The guy is allowed to be afraid.... but call it what it is and own up to it, don't pretend it was anything else, apologize and be better in the future.

[@ErdriedDeirdre]

OP's ex in the 1st story was gone for so long because he was probably trying to find new undies. 😐 Them fear blow out be serious!😏🥴

[@SurrealInfection]

Story 3: Giving birth is DANGEROUS. There's a reason that more often than not, births are done at a hospital. Sure there are the exceptions but those dont negate the risks. Extra stress to the mother endangers her AND the baby. Mom is already under a large amount of stress, barring any tearing, blood loss, perforations, and so on. Those muscles are working over time, and can be very strong. Stress can cause so many issues, along with the pain. Too much can also cause cardiac distress. Giving birth can be agonizing and terrifying. A birthing mother is a patient, NOT some baby machine. There is a reason oft we see the father in the room. It's not so he can get a front row seat, its so that the mother can have the person that she should trust the most help to keep her calm with their support, to help mitigate risks as much as possible. (When theres no father, other family members can take that spot, heck I've seen family friends be there to hold the mother's hand to give reassurance) In the delivery room, while anything medical it's the doctor's word, but for the most part Mom has all the say as she's taking on the risk to do the labor. Ops husband needs a severe dress down for his actions and some education on how badly things could have been thanks to his selfishness making the whole ordeal worse. From the first day, he failed at being a father, and partner. Hopefully he'll try to make up for that in time.

[@oliverspencer2411]

Story 1: i feel like calling this guy a p*ssy is extremely odd when OP, 22F, was clearly way braver than him, this guy is proof your parts arent what make you brave or scared. He deserved to get dumped

[@wmdkitty]

I'd call him a testicle, if anything.

[@ZombieSazza]

Story 1: you’re asking “should I let him have his dignity”… OP… WHAT dignity?! He has none. He hid in a park because he thought you might be stabbed? He wouldn’t even pick you up from the station because “i’M sCaReD oF cOpS”, oh and spent 8 hours harassing you via text by calling you names?! Just make sure his friends know the truth, keep those texts to properly shame him, because I guarantee he’ll try and make himself out to be some superhero. Definitely keep every single email and correspondence. Also as someone with PTSD, I strongly recommend trauma specific therapy, it certainly helped me learn to live with my PTSD and get properly medicated. It’s a tough journey but you can somewhat learn to live with your PTSD so it doesn’t cripple you. Trigger dates can be planned around where you stay at home where you feel safe, and avoid certain smells/sounds that could trigger you in the future.

[@starbird3939]

Story 1 I understand running. Flight or fight. But waiting for an HOUR to do anything? Bye Felicia.

[@DamianFloresRF]

When danger reared its ugly head he bravely turned his tail and fled, yes, brave Sir Robin turned about and galantly he chickened out. Bravely taking to his feet, he beat a very brave retreat. Bravest of the brave, Sir Robin!

[@SherlocksLeftNipple]

"He was afraid they would laugh at him." Aaaaand that's game, folks. Nevermind trying to blame HER for HIS actions afterwards, he proved right there that he cared more about his fragile masculinity and ego than your life, and that's not just a dealbreaker, that's worth calling him out on social media for, so women can be forewarned that he's one of Those men. Glad she dropped him like the hot garbage he turned out to be. Hope she got some therapy, started some self-defense classes, and found a better partner.

[@patheon9541]

story 1: i am so glad someone made the monty python refrence i was thinking the exact same thing when this guy ran away glad OP dumped his ass

[@kasiachm]

We have a word for coward. It's coward. There is no need to call someone behaving cowardly the same name as female genitals. Let's remove misogyny from language

[@grumpypants2066]

That word has multiple definitions. More than likely referring to the cat version

[@wmdkitty]

@@grumpypants2066 Which... still isn't cowardly. Ever tried to handle an angry cat?

[@grumpypants2066]

@Shawna Burt yes but let's not act like scaredy cat doesn't exist. Even calling someone a chicken exists, but ive seen some aggressive chicken. Stop reading into things too much.

[@colleens1107]

OP divorce this guy. He will be less than useless as a dad. This guy will not step up and will blame your daughter for getting HIM STRESSED by being (checks notes) a child

[@sapphicgeek24]

Labor is incredibly dangerous for the mother and child. It is first and foremost a medical procedure. He was making medical care difficult. He needed to be removed. Yes, a father should be able to see it, but not when he's interfering and being controlling.

[@kristinewatson3702]

I'd spam all his social media with the Monty Python run away run away gif.

[@poohbear4515]

S1: Sometimes people have different responses when fear is involved, either bravery, or just cowardly like this dumbass. Going off on him was also reasonable since you were almost mugged and basically molested so yeah, I’d throw down all the words at him, too. The guy is a coward, a really big one to not only run away, but not even call the police. I’d leave him, too.

[@juanhaines7295]

Story 1 nta I heard this one before. He nearly got them both killed because he wanted to be Batman. Then lied saying it was ops fault. Good riddance I say.

[@locusxe1411]

Different story bud. I know which one you’re talking about though

[@stevenhuachi6961]

@@locusxe1411 he’s talking about a story where the boyfriend had a hero complex and tried to fight the mugger, sounds similar to this story

[@cinnabunny4342]

​@@stevenhuachi6961 one took the fight to one extreme and the other took the flight to another and then lie

[@UchuKejiMovan]

He ran because he didn't want to turn into the Incredible Hulk. I believe him! 🙃

[@ravenfox926]

S3: SHE WAS IN LABOR! She was pushing something the size of a watermelon out an opening the size of a lemon, so he's lucky OP didn't murder him when the real pain hit. What he was doing was literally endangering both her and the baby and it was very necessary to boot him.

[@sk8ergrrl1]

Story 3: Y’know, I have read sooooo many stories of husbands/baby daddies causing so much disruption and stress when the woman is giving birth, I am kind of surprised that we’re not going back to the times where fathers were not allowed in the delivery room. If the man is not capable of holding himself together whilst his partner is in a vulnerable state, then he needs to suck it up and stay out of the delivery room and allow his partner to be helped by someone who IS capable.

[@mracula1667]

Sorry baby, I ran because I swore a vow to my sensei that I would never use my deadly martial arts to harm anyone again.

[@tamarasmith9060]

Story 3: Yes, when a woman is giving birth it's always up to her who stays in the room! No one has "the right" to stay in the room, not even the spouse. OP's husband was acting up to the point he was about to be thrown out by the nurse (@ least temporarily) without her even asking because someone acting like that can interfere with the doctor as well as upsetting his wife enough that it could mess up her blood pressure @ a critical time.

[@makaylascott99]

Thank you for reading the comments as well as giving your opinions on situations. It really does bring more perspective and is one of my favorite parts about your videos. Keep up the good work and thank you for everything you do!

[@SakuraMoonflower]

For the first story, I wanted to tell OP to drop her bf immediately. Even if you can forgive the fact that he's a coward (because frankly, running away screaming was the safest option), you still have to consider: 1. He deliberately endangered her by parking somewhere he wasn't supposed to be and that would be obscure. 2. He left her behind on purpose, meaning to use her as a human shield to protect himself- if he had shouted "Scatter!" She could have run away to protect herself too! But he did it out of the blue because he wanted her to distract the creep with the screwdriver. D-bag move. 3. He never called or even tried to notify police and even went so far as to lie about it. He ran right past two on duty cops near the scene BECAUSE HE WAS EMBARRASSED? Weak and whack. 4. He refused to notify police for OP's safety, proving he never cared about her safety, which indicates an abusive personality. Hell to the no! That's all I gathered just from the initial story! That's not even getting into the update! I hope she puts a restraining order on his as*. The voicemail thing is because he feels emboldened to be able to harass her. Absolutely not okay.

[@tinak2576]

The story with the emotional bf. Did anyone else instantly think of Cam on Modern Family? He was over the top and Mitch had to try to reign him in when it wasn’t appropriate behavior. Then he’d do these big displays of love and affection. Exhausting. It’s a problem. No way bf isn’t aware, maybe he likes the attention a little.

[@Kay-uy4xn]

Aiden is a witness so the police will have to talk to him! what a coward, poor OP

[@Metal_Mouth]

I can't fault him for running away, fight or flight is one hell of a response, but every single action he did after he ran away I can fault him for. He thought his gf was stabbed when he heard sirens and didn't call her for ANOTHER 30 minutes, there was no reason for that! There was so many things he did that only made him to be even more of a pansy who'd throw his gf under the bus! "He said if he had stayed his natural rage would've taken over and would've killed the guy" and that not preferable to your gf being stabbed or S/A'd??? Dude, bro, sir... that doesn't make it better... ETA: I wanted to add that I hope op can move on from this, because even though the ex-bf part was funny, she was mugged and violated in a violent way. That trauma can scare a person and it only makes ex-bf's response all the more disgusting. There were several parts where he could've helped op and reconcile over his mistake but he chose not to and made the process more painful. He victim blamed op and made the incident about him.

[@ErisstheGoddessofmanhwas]

If the boyfriend admitted only that he was afraid and that's why he left, I wouldn't mind , people sometimes afraid. But he tried to find 100 excuses. He was a coward but didn't want to admit it .

[@josiemorgan6567]

Story 1. Feeling very cheated to not know what she did next. What a cowardly man.

[@arieltran406]

Thank you for putting the chapters back.

[@KarmaCifer]

My mom spat every curse word to ever exist to her friends, family and my dad when she was giving birth because of the pain (only from contractions, she got epidural, but it took her hours to dilate). You can't get mad over what a person going through that kind of pain and stress says, her confortability will always be a priority and if she doesn't feel safe and get stressed over other people in the room, things can go very wrong. I thought it was common knowledge that what the woman giving birth says goes, no questions asked.

[@jadev8679]

The boyfriend from story is ridiculous going on about "his rage would have made him kill the guy". I once had a homeless man steal a cigarette out of my hand, my (at the time) boyfriend exploded into a sprint chasing the guy down, took it from him and smashed it into pieces because him taking it startled me and he didn't want to let him have the satisfaction of enjoying the cigarette afterwards. He then proceeded to scream at him for scaring me and having poor manners. I can not imagine what his reaction would would have been if that guy had threatened us. His reaction terrified me more than what had happened. Truly dangerous men don't tell you they're dangerous, you usually find out on your own.

[@tishellefrancois7840]

Stress during a labor can get dangerous so quick

[@kaykay8855]

Story 2: op is obviously TA for lying but he explained that his bf is really ‘over-the-top’ (his words) because at events like his friends baby shower he made a scene when the expecting mother was opening presents.

[@JaneDoe1812]

At least she apologized for doing so. Not everyone on that sub recognizes that they did wrong or apologizes when they are. So thank goodness OP has a good head on her shoulders. Or sorta good. XD

[@kaykay8855]

@@JaneDoe1812 true

[@JJ-gz5uq]

@@JaneDoe1812 @kayKay Just a thing to be noted but op isnt a girl, theyre both men

[@kaykay8855]

@@JJ-gz5uq thanks for telling me 😅

[@maeahem]

Last story, I can’t believe the husband first stressed and panicked OP during the delivery, it’s fine to be stressed but he wasn’t helping. He should have stayed after and seen the child immediately after delivery instead of hanging onto the idea of seeing her first breath. So much so that he abandoned her first few days of life to prove a point. He doesn’t care about OP or their new family, so I’m worried what lies ahead for her.

[@EluneAnzu]

Story 1: I feel bad for the OP for living in comedy, getting mugged isn't funny but jeebus I couldn't help but laugh really hard at the ex especially when he said "his natural rage would have killed him" look at mr. badass here who could kill a man by running away and hiding for an hour

[@Fireprincess161]

The boyfriend seems to be the type that would trip her up if they were being chased by a bear.

[@kayeteye]

Thankyou Markee for this video. Ever since my dog ran away I have been looking for comfort. I’m so glad you’re a lad.

[@EnDB]

I wouldn't want a person causing a scene at every milestone in my life, either.

[@Sly_Successor34]

Story 1.) WoW! "Mr. Big Man" leaves his girl to be held up with a screwdriver to the neck only to HIDE for an hour somewhere outta sight?? Alrrrriiight. I'd expect my man to weld his spine to mine but, apparently ol boy doesn't have one!

[@zeroflight6867]

Labor story, no she didn't deprive him, he deprived himself. He literally endangered her and the baby.

[@ravenfox926]

😂😂😂😂🎶When Danger Rears Its Ugly Head - He Bravely Turned His Tail and Fled!🎶😂😂😂😂

[@josephbrown9665]

My daughter had 19 offers when she graduated from medical school. She was hoping that she would be matched with Emergency surgery and she was in three different hospitals that had offers for her. Everyone thought that she would take the one that was offering her the most money to start with but she picked the level one trauma center that was in her box one of her friends took the second choice hospital. 5 years later my daughter was hired to run the trauma center that her friend had taken the job at. So they now have a practice together they have internal medicine surgery clinic.

[@GinHindew110]

Story 1- this girl is lucky to have a man to respects her as a strong & independent woman

[@Kittycat-mh8lz]

Third story. 0P a lot of successful women have raised children alone without the dad. After hearing the story, the husband realizes babies are a lot of work, right?

[@peteranon8455]

Story 2. Well, OP is dating an emotionally open person. It's cool if you're not into that... but then stop dating them.

[@MrJpaynebb]

Glad they talked and the boyfriend recognizes and is going to address his very emotional responses to other people's events. While I have been known to shed a few tears I really do not like over the top emotional responses in public unless it's a tragedy and you are very close to the person who was involved.

[@GraveyardMaiden]

Emotionally Open? Nah more like spot light stealer, after that comment about him crying so violently at a friend's baby shower that others have to go comfort him

[@kaykay8855]

@@GraveyardMaiden I wouldn’t go as far as to say that he intentionally steals the spotlight, going off on my own experience, my parents always told me that it’s ok for me to express my emotions even anger or sadness but neglected to teach me how to regulate/express those emotions. Took a few parents teachers conferences and they realized that I needed to change how I expressed those emotions.

[@peteranon8455]

@@GraveyardMaiden Some people are giant weepy bags of hugs and love/sadness... I don't know, I kinda agree with you, so I wouldn't date one.

[@wmdkitty]

There's emotionally open, which is fine, and then there's this guy who turns literally everything into a major SCENE. BF is a massively manipulative attention whore.

[@deballen7031]

Wow. That first story is completely insane! What an awful situation to find yourself in due to a boyfriend who's tight as a ducks arse and won't pay for parking and is a total coward to boot.

[@LisaApril]

Story one: the best way to get over her fear and trauma is to go to a self defense class and beat someone up or beat up the dummies. It will give her her power back because she will know that she will be able to do what it takes next time. It's very important for women to walk confidently and have some skill to defend themselves, even if it means carrying their own gun and knowing how to use it. In the case of self-defense for women a gun is an equalizer. The most recent story I heard about this was a woman in an apartment with her baby with a man prowling around in the hallway outside. He pushed his way into her apartment, and she was very scared for herself and for her baby. She had a gun, and she shot the man. It was a clear case of self-defense and she was not charged at all. You can look up the story because I can't remember what state it was in.

[@Tiogair]

When I was in a really awful relationship my ex and I were attacked by a drugged out lunatic in our home. I was looking for a way out of that relationship and didn’t even like my bf but when that went down I was swinging with one hand and calling the police with the other. I can’t imagine being in his shoes and not just grabbing her arm and dragging her along at the very least.

[@msredux]

Cried in a friend's babyshower so much he had to be taken out and consoled? Yud he is a drama Queen and I understand op completely, sometimes you have to put yourself first

[@PowerStruggle555]

"He said had he not run, his natural rage would have taken over and he would have killed the guy" reminds me of a sketch from Madtv. a loser at a bar thinks he is a tough guy and gets into fights. He definition of fight....flailing his squanny arms on the other person while acting like he is mike tyson punching david spade.. his gf yelling"stop you are going to kill him"

[@redonyx5428]

s1: i don't blame aiden for being afraid, it's his actions afterwards I have issue with. he couldn't at least shove the homeless man and tell OP to book it? hiding in a damn park for an hr, lieing about it and then harassing op for his own cowardly failures is an absolute low. s2: expressing your emotions is good, but overexpressing them to the point of histrionics is too much and honestly sounds like attention-seeking behaviour. i don't blame OP for not wanting the bf there because he knows how they are. I'm not a stoic person but I'm not into big over the top displays of emotion as it personally makes me feel uncomfortable so I sympathize with OP. But this is something that should had been discussed waaaay before OP's Match Day. Like when the BF had his crying breakdown at a friend's baby shower of all places. it sounds like bfs family has this thing where they have to overexpress themselves and he's been conditioned into that behaviour in order to be taken seriously. at least he knows it's wrong, especially when he does it at events so hopefully therapy can help him break out of that bad habit. like that one commentor said, this will negatively impact his relationships. people already probably think he's an attention whore sadly. s3: speaking of someone who can't regulate or express their emotions healthily, OP's husband needs therapy. he also needs a kick up the ass. it's not about him. what a selfish POS. if he keeps acting like this i dont see this marriage lasting.

[@MorganVsTheInternet]

1- THE F! He took the whole how to survive a horror movie thing to the next leave! Throw the whole man away!

[@animatorstanley]

Last story: I can't imagine having a partner that treats you so poorly. I bring my part6 (he's a man) to my gyno appointments for support. He does a great job. I imagine if we had a baby he would be right there. I'm sorry OP.

[@karimylo4002]

Story 1 I am sure the dude claims to be an alpha male too. He probably totally buys into all of that shit and then he does this, lmao.

[@JohnnyBluegrave]

Man unironically pulled a Jerry Smith.

[@PowerStruggle555]

1st story I believe has a bigger update (sounds like Markee got the repost. as one from yesterday was posted where poster said they werent the OOP I guess original original poster). I believe op to save face told everyone they knew a twisted version of the story. saying how he was the hero and she is upset over his rage or he shouldve let it be (or something. I know he told friends and family he didnt sprint but was a hero

[@averycheesypotato]

There was a similar story where the attack was entirely staged & it was OP trying to deescalate while the BF started trying to fight. The updates sound similar

[@socialmoon]

Aiden's life isn't worth ruining. Best revenge would be to move on & enjoy life.

[@cupcakecarl]

Story 1: OP, I'm so sorry your ex showed how much of a loser he is at the worst time.