My Boyfriend Said I Need To Get Cosmetic Surgery For Him To Propose To Me r/Relationships

[@ineedhoez]

Story 1: If divorce is not possible in your community, then you should be EXTREMELY selective about who you marry.

[@tartlynerdy]

For real.

[@lynnw7155]

But she doesn't want to embarrass him by ending the engagement. So she should just shut up and marry him? She's 26 years old, but it sounds more like an insecure teenager.

[@chaudx]

Or just you know, change communities...if you live in a shitty backwards country/community just go somewhere else, "Ow but family...", most cases on those communities marrying a bad partner isn't the worst thing in your life when you take into account your family and neighbors talking shit and criticizing you, saying you have to endure for the sake of [insert BS cultural nonsense here]

[@ElleD308]

​​@@lynnw7155yeah, it's crazy she's contemplating knowingly picking the wrong man for her, and jumping onto a marriage full of psychological abuse just to save "embarrassing" people. She does sound like a teen talking about her first boyfriend rather than a woman who's almost 30

[@S730SD]

@@lynnw7155 Someone that immature has zero business getting married to anyone.

[@jackchop1576]

"This would be his 2nd broken engagement" Shocker. Seems like such a prize.

[@juliearmfield2634]

If he treats his own fiance this way who he's supposed to love can you imagine how he treats his patience

[@whitewitch32]

​@@juliearmfield2634If I by chance become his patient, he will lose more than teeth and bolls, he will lose his license I will make sure of that.

[@Taz-fv1zp]

Wonder why it would be his 2nd broken engagement! 😂

[@juliearmfield2634]

@@Taz-fv1zp i know i just can't imagine why. 🤔 😂

[@thePhoenixQueen]

I will never understand why people choose long-term misery over short-term embarrassment.

[@ElleD308]

Lack of character.

[@destinedtogame]

Money

[@J0knows]

Women are being gaslighted that they become worthless as they age and take horrific treatment in order to not die alone. In reality, they are already alone the men in their lives hate them and enjoy seeing their wives suffer. In turn, the wives after years of abuse so much stress, and anguish they don't realize they are already alone their husbands don't give a crap about them they enjoy torturing their spouse for entertainment purposes like playing with a fish before you spear it, and eat it 🙄

[@truthseeker9249]

Because they're weak.

[@katphish30]

Oh look, the baby incel trolls are here. 🙄 If divorce is nearly impossible to get in OP's culture, there are probably also major social consequences for a woman who backs out of an engagement.

[@clydethehobo2687]

The instant someone told me I needed cosmetic surgery before they'd propose, I'd be single. Imagine actually getting the surgery thinking it would change anything.

[@KyrieChii]

It is incredibly sad, & unfortunately probably more common than we would think (especially these days with social media & all the attention put on appearance there).

[@sonialinsey8083]

Can you imagine getting lipo JUST ON YOUR LEGS? Like what if she’s curvy and now she has these little stick legs? Plastic surgery doesn’t automatically look great, and OP said that it doesn’t suit her so my guess is that is the case with her… geez.

[@letsgettipsy85]

First she put an ultimatum on him for marriage and he put one on her too and paid for it. Now she doesn’t want to get married lol she took advantage of him

[@Abby_Normal_1969]

11 year age gap and she is just 26. Yeah, nah. Not surprised at all.

[@Russman67]

Story 2: If your spouse expects you to make your new life without your existing kids, then it's time to rethink this relationship. A 15 year old is not disturbing a wedding. The fiance showed her hand. Fold and leave the table.

[@cjljl]

This one 👏🏻

[@invisible123-l9d]

HE would not allow a teenager to attend if it were HER child, and expect her to accept it. Yet HE demands that his son be allowed to attend. HE wants to control the wedding, and disrespected, and patronised, her, saying she could decide the trivial aspects, such as dresses, or food. It is HER wedding as well as his, and SHE should have EQUAL say in the important matters. If he gives ultimatums now, what else will he give ultimatums for? Will he allow her to have a job?, or medical treatment when needed? Will he demand that she never leave the house, never see friends, or family? Will he abandon her for his son, if she needed to go to hospital, or had suffered a bereavement or other crisis, or was in pain, or bleeding, or struggling to breathe, or unconscious, and his son had a 'game', or needed help with homework? The wedding is ONE DAY. He can see his son any time. he cannot even compromise for ONE DAY. She will have had a lucky escape if he does leave her. None of you have the balls to reply respectfully, or even in a civil manner, as I am female, and not American.

[@thienvan2345]

@@invisible123-l9d are you high rn?

[@terramarini6880]

@@invisible123-l9d Wow you just pulled that straight out yerarse didn't you? Quit trying to blow smoke up ours, we can read and he did not say any of that.

[@TheSergio1021]

She showed her hand is exactly what I thought when she said "I dont want anyone under 16" and the kid is 15.

[@avencree]

The second story reminds me of the one where OP's fiancé didn't want his daughter at the wedding because reasons. OP got angry and told her on no uncertain terms his daughter will be there and that she better get right with that. They talked and she said that she was hoping that over time, he would become a "holidays only dad" and that he would eventually stop seeing his daughter so he could focus on "their" new family. He promptly and calmly took the ring back and told her the weeding is off and that he would never pick ANYONE over his daughter. The OP in this story needs to follow that example. This woman is stupid enough to compare having a child from a previous marriage at your wedding to a new partner to inviting your ex to the wedding. If OP marries this awful woman, it's going to be a messy divorce down the road and even more time, energy, and money wasted on a selfish cow.

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

OMG, I remember that story. Especially the holiday dad thing.

[@jaymevosburgh3660]

Plus it could damage his relationship with his son! Especially with the son being 15. I would be asking my kid if the gf had ever said or done anything before that made him uncomfortable or hurt his feelings. I bet she has.

[@pippo17173]

Oh my I'm reminded of that. These stories really gives you a taste of a predator hiding in plain site.

[@angelgoggins1505]

Which one was that, if Mark did a video on it?

[@avencree]

@@angelgoggins1505 I think Mark did a video on it a few months ago. If not him, the other Mark did a video on it. I want to say it was the title story but I’m not sure.

[@kateemma22]

People, listen to me: being single is better than being in a relationship that makes you feel worthless. Ignore everyone that implies your worth is reliant on being in a relationship - it's not. Your worth is built by being your true self and being happy. If your relationship doesn't compliment your true self or make you happy then IT is worthless, not you.

[@hi_stranger9156]

Story 1: I don't know why, but I feel like she was an emotional punching bag for him, every little grievance he has in life is handled by taking it out on his partner, probably end up being physical, he was setting her up to be his abuse victim. The constant negging is a dead give away. As advice to anyone else, please never get any unnecessary procedures done on your body for the aesthetics of someone that isn't you, you will have to live with that permanent change for the rest of your life *"when that person you did it for can discard you like paper in a bin at any moment."*

[@Broeckchen]

I was very relieved to hear it was just a liposuction at least. That's something a body can compensate for well. Imagine if that poor girl had gotten bariatric surgery and couldn't eat full meals for the rest of her life or something. *shudders* Absolutely agree though. Never get any kind of surgery for anyone other than yourself.

[@janicevango5791]

I agree that OP was a punching bag for him. To me, he’s an arrogant, cruel bully and by breaking up with him OP has prevented him from teaching this behaviour to any kids they might have had.

[@ginihall1234]

This

[@Zurround]

"emotional" punching bag BEFORE they are married but it will become much more LITERAL after the marriage. I totally think he is the type of person who would brutally physically abuse his wife.

[@ACAB.forcutie]

It's unfortunately very common 😞

[@fallingawayfromthenorm]

Story 2 - What is it with people who get involved with single parents making these massive leaps in assumptions that marrying them means anything from their life before the marriage should be cut off? It’s so common for them to also be so nice to the kids until they get engaged and then all of the sudden they pull a Meredith Blake from The Parent Trap and are ready to remove the kids from the “new” family unit.

[@victoriamiranda-stotelmyre4382]

Some women can be devious and pretend affection for an end goal so unmarried men with children need to be more discriminating when dating. However time and time again through generations a lot of men have proven that their desire to please their new bed warmer is more important than keeping a genuine hold on to a tether to their children or other familial ties. Sad and pathetic. But this OP posting and seeking advice seems to be getting on a good footing to take the right step

[@Bkgksan625]

⁠The original comment was gender neutral because being an AH is not about one gender alone. You just had to say some women are evil. But men are never like that????

[@Nevertoleave]

Yeah it’s crazy. Men and women abusing the fuck out of kids because they’re not biologically theirs is insane. They’re people who should never have kids because they could never actually love their bio kids either.

[@jaymevosburgh3660]

People suck. Simple as that. I actually knew a guy that did this exact same thing to his girlfriend at the time, she had a kid and was widowed. And then she called it off (which was the smartest thing to do) and we all had to listen to him whine & bitch about how he had "been right all along, and the kid never wanted him around his mom", which was a huge lie. That kid adored him because he pretended to care about them both. Sadly he turned out to be a massive PoS, and the entire friend group cut him out after that. I have three kids, my eldest technically being a step kid, but they are MY child! People like Geoffrey (my old friend) and this lady absolutely disgust me. They're pathetic wastes of humanity.

[@gabinathan5499]

OF ALL M.R GOD'S INVENTIONS HUMANS R THE STUPIDEST+THE WORST NO DOUBT BOUT IT. HUMANS DO BOTHER TO THINK WHAT THE RESULT OF WHAT THEY DO WILL B IN THE NOT TO NEAR BUT NOT TO DISTANT FUTURE.

[@jesswagner7391]

I read the second story yesterday. That guy needs to run away. The fact that she said she doesn't want his "old family" there is not a good sign for after the marriage. That says it all on how she sees his son. What an awful woman!

[@LadyCeag840]

Does the second story have an update?

[@Zurround]

Call her "awful" all you want but if he still chooses to marry her at this point then I will hate HIM even more than I hate HER.

[@AstronomicRocky]

@@LadyCeag840 no its a 1day old post, if he called the wedding off he's probably dealing with a bitchy skank who's complaining she's not getting her way because of a child, but he's also been deemed the asshole for some reason (no idea why when he's obviously not) and the thread is locked

[@mbyerly9680]

He said he wanted his parents, his sibling, and his son. She told him that none of these people mattered to her, not just the son. If he does marry her, he'll be forced to give up his own family as well as his son because they are part of his old life.

[@jesswagner7391]

@@Zurround I 💯 agree with that! My 12 year old son walked me down the aisle. Granted, he later asked my husband to adopt him and my husband did, but if my husband wasn't okay with my son being part of such a big moment in my life, he wouldn't be in any moments in my life.

[@krissylb2199]

Story two: you need to remind her that she’s joining YOUR family which Includes your son. She’s not prepared to be a stepmother then you shouldn’t be getting married.

[@xelectrix]

As soon as she refereed to OP's son as his "old family" the wedding should have been off.

[@victoriamiranda-stotelmyre4382]

Story 1: he doesn’t travel doing medical aid because he’s nice. He isn’t nice at all. One he does it because it boosts his image for professional clout and two because he suffers from having a savior complex.

[@Vashti-g7i]

So many ass holes do big acts of charity. More people need to understand this.

[@mindyschocolate]

Assuming it’s even to do that. He’s probably seeing another woman.

[@HeiwaTori]

also a majority of missionary work has religious indoctrination elements

[@NotAFanOfHandles]

@@mindyschocolate I'm assuming it's so he can hook up with _men._ He's from a Middle Eastern country that "doesn't do divorce." What would they do with someone who is less that straight?

[@thethirdtime9168]

Might also be the Muslim aspect. A tenant of the religion is to offer charity to those less fortunate than you, so that's an easy and very noticeable way to get spiritual clout. Wanting to save your own ass from heavenly judgment doesn't equate to a savior.

[@SappyDuder]

Story 1: Only ever get plastic surgery if it's for you, never for someone else. "It will be his second broken engagement" I can only assume he's the reason his relationships never work out, and he just blames it on his ex's. So glad OP dumped his ass Story 2: "child free" usually makes an exception for the kid of people getting married. This is when you leave the bridezilla. If you're a parent getting married, put your child first. I wouldn't be surprised if she is a "I want you to only be a holiday dad" type person

[@KyrieChii]

_"I wouldn't be surprised if she is a "I want you to only be a holiday dad" type person."_ Yep, didn't we hear a story like that on one of these Reddit channels recently? They said basically that exactly. It's insane.

[@ACAB.forcutie]

Story 1: making him have two failed engagements will also (hopefully) make the third girl wary.

[@akl2k7]

He should be radioactive after that. The only way he can get a girl now is if he lies, which I wouldn't put past him.

[@LordBison98]

Story 1: "I don't know if I'm making a huge mistake" Darling, you made a huge mistake STAYING with this pos after he made you go through a plastic surgery.

[@fyoutube9410]

S2: the fiance is straight up crazy. Who the hell thinks a sane parent would exclude their child from the wedding.

[@notovny]

Story 1: It seems like OP's fiance _wanted_ the engagement to end, couldn't bring himself to do it for whatever reason, and had hoped the "cosmetic surgery or no ring" demand would be the bridge too far., instead of just telling her "I don't want to marry you."

[@MarkNarrations]

EDIT - For anyone having sound issues, try refreshing a couple of times. Some people reporting they have it and others not. Apologies all, YT being a.......yeah

[@fabiololstein1307]

I have no audio on mobile. No issues on any of your older content though.

[@rosesofholocene]

Yeah, it's the whole vid too

[@fabiololstein1307]

I closed app a second time and now have full audio so not an issue on your side but on youtube.

[@kokaykay]

I'm on mobile, too, and I had to close and reopen a few times, but it did work eventually.

[@D-M-K-1-2]

YT being a cheeky so-and-so

[@iononcantomascrivo]

Story number two: I swear this could be about when my dad married my stepmom. My dad wasn't exactly a model father, but as soon as the ring went on my stepmom's finger, the mask came off. She excelled at passive aggressiveness to the point that she would have made Dolores Umbridge look like a nun. At worst, she was like Faye Dunaway's portrayal of Joan Crawford in “Mommie Dearest.” The woman was an absolute nightmare. She always favored her daughters over myself and my brother. My dad had absolutely no problem chucking my brother and me aside to cater to his new wife as well as his stepdaughters’ every whim. When I knew I was being bullied and ignored by everyone, I would get gaslighted. They devalued my feelings, projected their insecurities on me and told me I just needed to learn how to take a joke and not be so immature. For goodness sake. I was 11. They split right before I turned 15. Even my dad couldn't take how freaking off her rocker she was. He wasn't going to allow anyone abuse “his kids.” That's all we ever were to him: possessions. As far as my stepmonster goes, it went far beyond her just being a major control freak. I think I can safely surmise, without fear of successful contradiction, she was a narcissist. I think I can also deduce, without any doubt in my mind, that the only time she wasn't a nasty frigid ice queen, was when she was cremated. At least she finally got the smoking hot body she wanted.

[@taylorslade961]

Story 1: I relate to this OP specifically. Mt ex-husband pressured me into cosmetic surgery and I regretted it from day 1. I was able to have it reversed but I still lived 16 years in the most uncomfortable state. This OP deserves so much better.

[@Russman67]

Story 1: At a certain point, you need to figure out if the other person is worth the investment of time and interest. This boyfriend proved time and again that he wasn't worth that investment. Hell he's not even happy AFTER she had liposuction for him. The hope that your partner will magically "change" rarely happens and it didn't here.

[@downburst3236]

He wasn't devastated either. He also knew he had invested enough, and she wasn't what he wanted.

[@jennifertaylor2013]

Story 2: I saw this on AITA this morning... I commented "NTA. Let me ask you something... What would you say to a friend if they came to you with something like this? Best of luck OP" I still stand by that. By commenting this, I was hoping to get the OP to step back and see the situation for what it is. I really hope he doesn't go through with this wedding!

[@NotWorthBeans16]

Story 2: People like the fiance are narcissist and too full of themselves to think anyone would ever leave them. They truly think they are the best thing in everyone's lives and worth ANY sacrifice. Its absolutely disgusting.

[@ComaLies225]

Girl, you got surgery after he told you that????!?!? WHY!?!?!

[@onepieceisking5493]

Story 1, leave him. NOW. I'm betting that he's lying about his previous relationship or at least telling it from how he views it. And I bet the ex fiance would tell a different story and it would tell of horrible plus disgusting he is.

[@juliearmfield2634]

Story 1. Nta. If he is this cruel and manipulating to the woman he proclaims to love and want to spend the rest of his life with my God I don't even want to imagine how he treats his patients

[@heatherdickau5335]

Story 1 Glad the OP saw the light. He didn't like her looks now and after she has a child it would get even worse. She dodged a cannon ball.

[@Ryugane_Blades]

Story 2: wow…each excuse for not getting the soon-to-be husband's kid in the weding gets worse and worse, she hates the kid and wants to start from zero.

[@D-M-K-1-2]

Story 1: I think that- unless it's reconstructive surgery- cosmetic surgery is completely unnecessary, since people should love others for how they were made. In NO WAY would i ever make someone get a surgery for my own wants. OP should leave his ass. Edit: Good on you for recognizing your self worth!

[@emasters8619]

Personally, I would have accepted his paying for the plastic surgery then left him with a hearty thank you. There is no reason to remain with this guy.

[@ettinakitten5047]

IMO even reconstructive surgery should be solely by the choice of the person getting the surgery. Eg I know of women who lost a breast from breast cancer and don't mind looking lopsided, and that's totally fine. If someone got with a breast cancer survivor and made getting a breast implant a condition for engagement, they'd be TA.

[@Uneclipsed]

Story 1: I’m convinced he didn’t want to marry her but would have gone through with it for stupid social reasons. I don’t understand people who date or marry people they don’t like. He sounds like he’s dissatisfied with his life and taking it out on OP. So glad they broke up, but his response tells me he’s probably just as relieved as she is to split.

[@NotAFanOfHandles]

I think he's gay and was trying to make her leave him. I do not think he expected her to go through with the surgery.

[@gcarr1089]

Story 1 - Glad OP dumped the guy. Now she needs to keep an eye out on other potential partners for any of ex's traits. Story 2 - OP needs to really look at his relationship, time to put the brakes on the wedding. Bet she has made son feel he is a problem for OP.

[@errantwinds-up8uu]

Story 2: I really hope we get an update on that, because that girlfriend ticked allll kinds of scary boxes!

[@Weirdandwonderfull19]

Just want to take a minute to applaud OP in story 1, well done for eventually realising your worth and saving yourself from a life time of misery. You DO deserve better 🖤💜.

[@scousemouse9566]

The last story, OP needs to speak to his son and see if his GF has said anything to him, he might be too scared to say anything because his dad loves her

[@raptoress6131]

Story 1: leave it where you found it

[@itsneverduck.8691]

Story 2: oh my god. I hope he runs like the wind. She just showed all her cards and it was all an act. Run, run, run, run.

[@katphish30]

Story one: 26? Twenty. Six. Years. Old. And putting up with all of that? I've only listened to the first part of the story, but I feel like I know a lot about OP's upbringing.

[@RoseKoneko]

His family wants children, he wants someone he can control. I know the worry about struggling in life is intimidating so his money might be letting his abuse pass but there’s no living in comfort there. It’ll be misery and she wouldn’t be able to escape.

[@eh8551]

As someone who knows the middle eastern traditions and cultures I am assuming she is a christian because they usually only have 2 religions that make up like 90% if not more of it and she said "not muslim". My suggest is to use Christianity if she is able to. She already said it is because of pressure so my only solution is to talk to your family first! They can protect you if he goes crazy. Many of those men are abusive so if they get embarrassed they might even go as far as killing you. So talk to the family and then run for your family's house and they will protect you from him. He will be scared of your brothers and father so that should keep you safe for a while and police report if possible.

[@GalliaUchiha]

Story 2, what OP doesn't see is that his fiancé is a POS who doesn't want his previous child in their life. Dump that witch. Who wants to marry someone who is so pathetic that they can't accept a whole person in their life that's non-negotiable.

[@cheryljackson7908]

OP, please go to see a doctor about the fluid retention in your lower body. Make sure you tell them about the surgery you already had and how it didn't work. Good luck!

[@MarkNarrations]

Happy Sunday my cheeky so and so's hope you have a wonderful day!!

[@rayneingdown]

You as well, Mark! Hope you enjoy all the waffles!

[@juanhaines7295]

You to mark.

[@lafan999]

You too, Mark. One thing, I think the audio in the video is off.

[@kitkakitteh]

Happy Sunday. 🎉❤

[@JoJoGranum]

You too Mark ! Thank you!

[@mechanical_chaos]

Story 1: Nothing like a partner that will ask you to literally shave off parts of yourself in order to fit into their box of love.

[@clarabp2613]

Story 1: Every new thing she says is like" But wait! It gets worse!!"

[@VesnaVK]

Story 2: rule would be 17+ if the son were 16. Rule would be 12+ if the son were 11. RUN!

[@jojocandy2025]

1st story. I am SO proud of op for leaving him. I hope it stays that way 2nd story. Wait. She dosnt want his SON at the wedding. Wtf.

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

Story 1: Glad OP is no longer having to deal with that man-baby.

[@Zminator1986]

Story 1: "Our relationship is difficult", "He broke up with me for five months in the two years", "I gave an ultimatum for him to propose to me" Why are you two in this relationship? Story 2: Dump the fiance. She hates the boy and wants to get rid of him. "Our new family" = "I don't want your previous mistake in my new life"

[@angienorton5577]

Story1: That's terrifying! Thank the Gods that OP came to her senses before she married that piece of crap. She woke up enough to know that he wasn't genuine when he was acting sad too. That dear is called gaslighting! Things would have been so much worse if she'd married him! So glad she sought the help of reddit and let that man child behind! Story 2: OP get rid of that woman before you make a mistake and marry her. She's exposed her real feelings. Believe what she's showing you.

[@lorrainemontagnon1537]

Good morning, guys! It's going to be an awesome day , 7am here, and I am on my 2nd big mug of coffee ☕️ so rock on Mark and hugs and kusses to Poppy!

[@user-ei4tl7qd2s]

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

[@user-ei4tl7qd2s]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counsellor, and how do i reach her?

[@user-ei4tl7qd2s]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.

[@nothereyetlost]

Why did she leave???

[@nothereyetlost]

@josephreglandyou men are really problematic. This woman didn’t want you and you bright her back against her will. Disgusting. You deserve hell!! M

[@brandi5126]

S1: Honey, he ain't the one for you. He doesn't love you. Idk if he even likes you for real.

[@juliearmfield2634]

Im so loving her shiny spin.

[@NoOne-fo1di]

S2- I saw this post on Reddit this morning and said to myself. I really hope Mark covers this story soon❤ ETA- You damn well better BOLO for the update for this one Mark

[@squidward6187]

I have started to notice this pattern. Child-free weddings being used as an excuse to exclude the child of the soon to be husband.

[@angietyndall7337]

Story 1: Then he doesn't know what love is and he does NOT love you.

[@CatLoverX74]

I looked up the second story and he was voted asshole??! 😳 How in the world is he the asshole wanting his kid at his wedding?! 🤨 Maybe voted that for not breaking up with her?? Idk but he needs to run!! She’s been waiting for the moment she can’t force his kid out of their lives. Run OP run!

[@shadamyandsonamylover]

Dude Reddit never votes for the questions in these and always for some other random reason lol

[@user-blob]

He sounds like an AH to me. Anyone who needs advice in his situation is being a crap parent.

[@shadamyandsonamylover]

@@user-blob perfect example. AITA is not meant to judge the individual in their whole life. It’s meant to judge the question the poster is asking.

[@Vipre-]

Two suspicions, with over 10k comments it's hard to confirm, either the fiancée was called an ah so much in the replies that it messed up the vote tracker which is what some commenters suspect, or the OP was called an ah for even thinking of going through with the wedding and doubting the idea he was right at all.

[@natashaisaacs8874]

Story #2 I'm so sick of hearing people using the "child free" wedding to exclude certain people. That rule is for like babies and toddlers, children that could disrupt the ceremony. It's bullshit to not invite a teenager, he'll even a 10 year old knows how to behave.

[@faeangel7649]

Fiance calling the son "old family" said everything. She sounds the type who's going to try and slowly push Op's son out of the picture once they're married. Funny that she picked the cut off age to be just one year before the son's age.

[@Amber417]

Story 1: “how do you lose a woman?” “You forget to cherish her.”

[@sammieg8641]

S2 this rule is only for her to alienate your son…. Time to go separate ways… she has clearly been putting on a show just till she got the ring… making a commitment to her and her family only?! What?!

[@UzumakiDonnoHinata]

Oh hi, Mark! I'm getting ready for weekly lunch with my Gramps. Title of the first story alone makes me so sad... nothing will ever be enough. A second broken engagement with him as the common denominator... hm.

[@alicewilloughby4318]

Story 1 - He can't accept her the way she is, he tells her that she "doesn't contribute" and therefore has no right to make her needs and wants known... screw that guy! OP is already contemplating being miserable for life with him. RUN, GIRL!

[@FlyingPurplePplEatr]

Story 2: if he doesn’t call off that engagement and end that relationship he will lose his son.

[@carlrood4457]

What happens is they relax when engaged or married. They think they've hit some point of no return and feel secure in the relationship. That's when they let their guard down and drop the facade

[@Lyleedkwksabal]

Thanks for the high-quality videos that help me understand various topics better.

[@heenagidwani3696]

Story 2: ops fiance has made this wedding child free because she doesn't want his son at her wedding. Even if they get married later, she might make a condition which excludes ops son. Better talk with son and reconsider relationship. Marriage adds people in family, tbh they don't necessarily create a brand new exclusive family

[@sapphireraven5015]

Hey, Mark. The thought process of "What is my partner going to think when I start doing this" never crosses their mind. Instead, the thought process is more like "once I am married to him/her I become number one in their life and I'm the only one who matters." It is pure selfishness, entitlement, main character syndrome, and quite possibly some narcissism sprinkled in if not the whole bottle. It's hard for you to wrap your mind around it, Mark because you're not like that and you have a good heart. That is why it's hard for you to imagine being this way. And that is a beautiful thing.

[@tartlynerdy]

Story 2 - her: "why would you care about your OLD family when you're moving on with me??" Op: "you can literally have whatever you want at our wedding but I just want my son and family there" Her: "WHAT. YOU'RE SO CONTROLLING." - goes on with a silent treatment to get her way - omg. Leave. Leave right now. It's so obvious she was only putting on mask and that mask is crumbling now that she was so sure op was going to marry her. I hate people like this. They want people with child raising experience but without the child attached from the previous relationship. I hate this story ends on a cliffhanger.

[@Zaddy-Lu]

By far the #1 reason I've broken up with people is because of how they treated or spoke about my kids.

[@JudyHart1]

I’m cheering over the ending of story 1, she saved herself.

[@marvahinspace]

second story, i was welcomed to my fathers new gf family life, she had two daughters herself. i felt happy, now i have two families...and then i found out they got married and i wasn't even notified until after the fact. wasn't welcome in their new family, her daughters obviously were. never actually met my half brother either. its been 26 years of exclusion.

[@Jasonfallen71]

Changing behaviors so dramatically always seemed to me like the person saw their trap spring closed and now they get to do what they want with the prey item.

[@gtc9966]

How can anyone in Grad school be SO fucking oblivious…?!

[@DragonbornMike-ym2er]

Story 2: Her refusal to invite OPs own kid to their wedding, along with the "old family" comment should tell OP everything he needs to know.

[@hannahdavis5725]

If he's had a broken engagement and this is how he behaves make another break and make it so he has a pattern.

[@chelleyroberts]

Story 1: good on you for running Story 2: RUN!

[@katwitanruna]

Story 2: first I‘d make the son part of the wedding party on dad’s side so no can say boo about the age exception. Second, children ARE part of the family. When you marry someone with kids then those kids become your kids. It doesn’t make you automatically a parent to them but you must respect and love and care for them like your own. The „new family“ includes children. SMDH

[@juliearmfield2634]

We already see her game plan

[@heatherdickau5335]

Story 2 we really need to hear an update.

[@Vipre-]

I'd be happy with a couple replies from OP saying he's hearing what people are saying. The post itself is only a day old.

[@l.g.2888]

The woman in Story 2 baffles me. Step families already have enough hurdles blending their prior lives together in one whole and navigating any issues that crop up. My stepmom and I don't always see eye to eye and that's hard enough. I cannot imagine how much harder it'd be if she didn't consider me truly part of her family. But she's been counting me among her kids since they got engaged. I was in their wedding. At the worst of times we are still family, and OP's hopefully ex fiancée has no idea how much harder her life would be if he married her and she didn't ensure that family bond at the outset.

[@victoriafernandez8183]

I had a child free wedding. But that was to avoid stressing out my niece and husband's little cousin who were 2 and 4 at the time. Good kiddos but I'd rather not stress them out.

[@MizTameRumors]

OP needs to contact the first fiancee because I'll eat my slippers if he's telling the truth about him breaking it off.

[@juanhaines7295]

Happy Sunday to everyone.

[@252stardust]

S2: I just went to see if there was an update on the last story and op was voted TA????? Eh? All the comments i saw were warning him not to marry her, but he's asking if he's TA for refusing to exclude his son and he was voted that he is?? There is no update though. I feel for the son if op went through with the wedding.

[@kimkrol1121]

Imo. Child free doesn't include bride or grooms children.

[@louellacharlton4425]

Tyvm Mark stay safe please, peace.

[@LovesGaming37]

Story one: where are her friends and family to help protect her from this narcissistic abuser?

[@Weirdandwonderfull19]

Story 2- OP is right, he is missing something... The red flags. Yikes.

[@katphish30]

Hi Mark! I just finished mixing up a batch of ✨️impulse waffles✨️ The best kind of waffles and the only kind I ever make. My husband Mark will think Christmas came early this year.

[@Ars-Nova258]

Story 2: Same Song and Dance… “You put a ring on my finger so now I’m entitled to pushing your old family away!”

[@cattyanamontes5724]

Story 2: what a piece of work that woman is.

[@LindaMeade]

The Ever Moving Goal Post is at work here. OP will never be enough because he doesn't love her.

[@francit4856]

Mark , would really like an update on story #2 if it comes out.

[@champslim]

Story 2: RED FLAGS... She called your son " old family" SIR you better run

[@wmdkitty]

Two things for today's video. Girl, RUN, he's toxic. And Boy, RUN, she's toxic.

[@apersonnamedkai817]

There was another story of a bride that didn’t want her fiancé’s daughter in their wedding. Turns out her whole plan was to basically ship the daughter off to her biological mom after they get married. Purposely keeping her out of the wedding and wedding photos. The OP in that situation ended the wedding and relationship. OP in this story needs to follow suit

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

Oh, it gets better. There was one more slight update: “Small Update! Hello everyone! Thank you for all the kind comments and suggestions for Hawaii we a few days ago and P is already having a ton of fun. If you have any cool suggestions please drop them in the comments. As for my ex-fiancée she has tried to reach out to me wanting to work everything out saying she only did it because her mom wanted “pure” grandchildren. I still do not care, if she really loved my daughter and I she wouldn’t have acted on her mothers wishes. S has called my workplace to try and get in touch with me, she has even shown up a few times to try and talk to me and I’ve told my supervisor to just ask her to leave. She has gone as far as messaging my ex wife a few times wanting to know why her calls won’t go through to me. When she caught wind that we were in Hawaii she was pissed. I’m still close with her brother,and he told me that her and her mom were going to try and get plane tickets. If that’s the case I will likely file a restraining order. P has asked what happened to S and I told her that we come as a package deal and S only wanted me and I couldn’t leave her. P understood but I think she was a little heartbroken. I know this update is small but it’s all I have for those asking.”

[@RokoFireFox]

I read the title and thought "and you left him right?"

[@brie1162]

20:48 For the last story; Mark, please keep an eye out for updates on this one! I’d love to hear how this either works out, or doesn’t. Thanks and keep it up, we love you! 🖤

[@coreymartin6486]

Story 2 ....ruuuuun! She would totally would be supportive to ship his son off across the world to a boarding school.

[@mztweety1374]

I know that Reddit can be pretty extreme most times but I have to agree...run Both of y'all... run.