Backing Out As MOH At Best Friends Wedding As My Fiance Who's Best Man Is Cheating r/Relationships

[@grizbear4115]

Story 1: A real friend wouldn't allow a CHEATER to be more important than their harmed friend. Like wtf? OP wouldn't have been wrong at all for not going. If it was my wedding, I wouldn't let a single cheater in especially if they cheated on someone I loved and cared for.

[@dream6562]

A real friend wouldn't let their best friend be kicked out of a wedding after they picked the friend to be the best man

[@lily-zg6io]

@@moon-moth1 I understand why OP didn't tell everyone the details. There's something particularly nasty and potentially humiliating to get cheated on "for a dick envy", especially with prostitutes. OP might have felt like her value as a desirable person was destroyed and that's harder to verbalise than just the cheating

[@locusxe1411]

@@dream6562 yes they would.

[@pippo17173]

If your friends are buddy buddy with people who screwed you over with no fucking care, LEAVE THEM. Its better to leave on your own rather then just suck it up or the worst scenerio, they leave you ahead of time because the person they suck up ask them too and just never talk to you again. Got the worst end and it effected my mental health a whole lot and it still does.

[@Daydream_N]

@@dream6562 yeah, they would. When people do bad things, they deserve bad consequences. It would actually make the groom a really really shitty person if he tried to defend his friend who was actively cheating on his fiance.

[@MovableNu]

Story 1: Too many questions!! Did groom know that his bestie is actively cheating on OP? And if so, is Bride okay with her future husband being so comfortable with cheating? And did Groom tell Bride? If so, it looks like they didn't tell OP to keep their day intact. And if Groom knew but didn't tell Bride, would I as MOH be okay letting MY bestie marry someone so okay with having really close friends who are cheating on their partners? Friends who don't want cheating in their own relationships often stay away from known cheaters. It's just Hella messy and I'd opt out of participating in that wedding. They'll be just as married if the numbers aren't even. 🤷🏿‍♀️

[@babybookworm003]

No the groom knew op and her fiancé broke up but the cheating was between op and ex fiancé and ops best friend

[@Parasolhyena]

@@babybookworm003 No no it says that everyone knows he cheated now but they didn't know that he cheated on her with callgirls and the like.

[@gabriel.c.gardner]

So glad I am not the only one to think exactly this! I find it pretty hard to believe that the Groom didn't know his bf was cheating on OP and can't believe there isn't even talk of this as a possibility on the post, makes me wonder if the Bride was just in denile or knew about it.

[@gostavoadolfos2023]

If the groom is also in air force then for sure he does know.

[@EphemeraImaging]

@@babybookworm003 OP is assuming the groom didn't know. He's a serial cheater and the groom is a long time friend. The groom almost certainly knew.

[@benry007]

Story 1: If it was my wedding and my best man had just cheated on his fiance/girlfriend who was an important part of the wedding I would kick him out. Even if I only had an hour to find a replacement, I'd promote one of my brothers and tell the old best man to leave my wedding. I expect my friends to be better then that.

[@zoe9190]

Absolutely agree. The best man would be gone, and if i was the bride, i wouldnt want him there. Cheaters not welcome at weddings

[@KE-hr4sb]

This! OP was insisting best friend was not an AH, and I was yelling at the screen, "Yes she is!" The wedding wouldn't become about what he did, that's some "don't steal the spotlight off of MEEEE" bs.

[@dream6562]

But what if the best man was your brother

[@dream6562]

@@zoe9190 I would not cause a scene, I would let everyone enjoy the party and ignore the other person as much as possible then fill in everyone afterward, no need to cause problems at someone else's wedding

[@strangelic4234]

@@dream6562 If the best man was my brother I'd kick his ass thrice out of the party. Once for breaking up our friend's relationship, the second time for cheating on his own wonderful SO, and a third time because I'd have never thought that he was a scumbag.

[@HackiePuffs]

Story 1: that YTA commenter was on something else. What if instead of just a cheating ex it was a physically abusive ex who gave OP physical trauma. Would she still say “be the bigger person and be around some idiot for a few hours for your best friend”?? And even then OP still has mental trauma from this event it’s no less valid.

[@raayvenwolfgirl5539]

Story 2, as soon as I heard he has a house, I was pretty sure there was another woman... sucks that she found out that way. If I were her, I would be petty and message the wife. She should know how her man was cheating.

[@LadyLabyrinth1337]

I don't even think it's petty, if he's cheating with one woman then he's probably cheating with others or will cheat with others, the wife needs to know for her own safety. Also OP should get an STD check

[@susankaempfer8427]

I would show up wherever his wife is when he’s not around and show her all the texts and whatever. She should know.

[@seshasatyakrishna5016]

What if she's the sister? Then OP ends up doing the wrong thing

[@GK-ob1ni]

​@@seshasatyakrishna5016I doubt it's his sister he's living with. If it was, then was he keeping the fact that he was living with her a secret? And why all the excuses to keep OP from going to his house? And even if she is his sister, I don't see anything wrong with OP contacting her. The sister would just clear up the misunderstanding and they could all have a laugh about it and continue on as they were.

[@scousemouse9566]

Story 2, what a cheating AH. I'm glad she found out , pitty she didnt tell his wife 🧇🧇🧇

[@s.g.arimos497]

Story 1: honestly after the update I feel genuinely so bad for OP but I’m happy she stood her ground. I know how hard it can be to stick to your guns after being in such a serious relationship for so long but she’ll definitely be happier in the end for it.

[@nationalsocialism3504]

Except she didn't really "stick to her guns"... her ex is consumed with shame & guilt, so isn't trying to get her back. If he was the normal 99.999% of cheaters then she would be with him right now the second that he started lovebombing her

[@sashwing7726]

@nationalsocialism3504 Well, his issue is a little different than a normal cheater, and that's the problem for the poster and ex-boyfriend. It's cheating versus being a sex addicted. This something that is not going to go away without rewiring reality is that love and intimacy are disconnected.

[@sashwing7726]

I 5hink the poster and exs reaction, tell you everything. This is one of those if you can handle it or not. In the end, the reality will still be the same. But from what I can see from, the poster has an issue with an addicted person. The issue goes beyond a simple infidelity issue this is something that will be a struggle more than likely for the rest of their life. The second issue is that I think people don't fully understand what posting online actually means. In this while, she has support and good advice, something that was gradually happening got rushed through.

[@lilywong9672]

@@sashwing7726 He's a sex addict, he still cheated though. She can show him support and be there for him as a friend, she doesn't have to take him back.

[@sashwing7726]

@lilywong9672 I agree, but that situation as well is something that very little people are prepared for.

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 1: how dare people call OP an asshole for if she skipped the wedding. Her mental health is more important than the friend getting married and somehow couldn’t try to change the situation up so she didn’t have to walk next to her cheating ex. I’m sorry, but those who said she is an asshole is just as big as the asshole who cheated on her.

[@brigidtheirish]

Honestly, listening to this, I couldn't help think of the woman who parked her van on top of her cheating husband after running him over a couple time. On the one hand, she shouldn't have done that. One the other hand, *you go, girl!*

[@MO-cn6pm]

@@brigidtheirish now if a man ran over his cheating wife, would you be saying you go dude? Just curious.

[@TiffWaffles]

Friend or not, I would have backed down from the wedding. I wouldn't have even cared if I broke our friendship.

[@babybookworm003]

Because story 1 is really one of those things op wouldn’t have been the a hole either way in all honesty this is one of those things that op should have discussed with a therapist not Reddit.

[@magnarcreed3801]

@@MO-cn6pm I would. Cheaters deserve to get run over.

[@mariajw4803]

Story 1: The groom, I think he knew it all. I would not be suprised if he also sees call girls.

[@user-wr3vt8uq4s]

If the groom is in the service, the chances go up.

[@EphemeraImaging]

Yeah, I can't see someone being 'best buds' with that guy and not knowing what he is. Puhleeze.

[@juanhaines7295]

Story 1 I'm glad op didn't get back with him. Even if he's changed there will always be that hint of distrust. Plus just don't be a simp.

[@tomsautocadstudio6446]

Honestly I would go back to the dating phase and insist he got therapy for his sex addiction and underlying issues before becoming official again.

[@videofan1010]

​@@tomsautocadstudio6446 Nope!

[@ArcticWolfGod]

Story 1. Like I'm sorry, but yes, your friend, the bride, is being AH for trying to put you through this. They can't do any kind of rearrangements? Bullshit. The wedding will be about him? Bullshit. What kind of a person wants a cheater to be their best man at their wedding? Like WTF? Really? There was NO ONE else available? Really? OP would you want in your wedding for your husband's best man to be a cheater and force your friend to get along with their cheating boyfriend/fiance/husband? You wouldn't want that, right? I know that was only part of the story, but it just rubbed me the wrong way how OP said their friend is completely innocent and in the right.

[@normalone0884]

The thing about "once a cheater always a cheater" is that it doesn't mean they WILL cheat again. But it means that they from that point onwards, they are someone capable and easily willing to do so. It's always an idea from that point onwards. Always a worry and a risk

[@missesLMA]

With the last story, my thoughts immediately went to “he’s married surely”

[@Mewse1203]

Story 2: NTA she's right. Even taking age out of it, you can't expect to live in apartments and have no sounds from neighbors. If he doesn't like it, they can stay at his place. That's not feasible, whichbis kinda suspect, but he needs to suck it up. Edit: I'm glad for the update.

[@groofromtheup5719]

Yeah. Age doesn't come into it. Plenty of people older than 30 live in crap apartments. Plenty under 30 live in better places.

[@ciderxera4963]

I can't imagine expecting my friend to go to my wedding with her cheating ex. I'd have to hate them to expect this of them

[@aphelion4616]

Best friend or not, I can't believe the groom kept the dide as his Best man, even knowing he cheated. i woulda kicked him and poromoted someone.

[@AndyyWithAY]

The guy is in story 2 is an absolute tool! Why isn't he not inviting you to his, if he doesn't like your living arrangements. It's insane that a 35 yr old is expecting a 22 yr old to have some super quiet single family home. He's the immature one here

[@christinariter769]

I’d probably inform the wife though. Not to cause drama but who wouldn’t want to know that their spouse was cheating.

[@jonathanjerard3444]

@@christinariter769 i think you replied to the wrong comment

[@brigidtheirish]

Yeah. Honestly, the only thing OP did wrong (aside from keep having this guy over after the first time he acted like a tool) was calling him a boomer. He's 35, not 70. Then again, I get rather annoyed when people act like boomers are the only ones who act entitled like this.

[@Undomaranel]

@@brigidtheirish Agreed. Using boomer as slang for entitled doesn't fly with me, it's always meant dated. I grew up in the 90s, class of '007 (guess what our theme was), solid Millenial who helped dad build junker IBMs from work scraps and played DOS games. I'll call myself a boomer when referring to cassette tapes/ VHS/ 8 track and such (vintage for records and pre-WW2 stuff). I'm saying this to point out I don't take offense to being called boomer, so long as it context of a meme. You refer to me as a boomer just because I'll feel insulted. Same thing with being crass, you say "F you" to me just because I'll get angry. If I yell at you about buying clothes at the soup store and you reply "F you"? It's the bomb diggety, as my 6th grade teacher said lol. Karens are entitled. Boomers are old. "OK Boomer" has always referred to someone out of touch with modern reality. Don't know how to use a VPN? OK Boomer. Can't print with the Bluetooth or upload the right format? OK Boomer. You're the tech savvy person in the family but can't get it to work? OK Boomer, try rebooting. It's never been "You expect me to give you my parking space? OK Boomer", that's a Karen.

[@streamerssaymyname]

@@jonathanjerard3444 it's been updated that OP found out from his house info that he has a wife.

[@brandi5126]

S1. If my friends couldn't at least make me pair up with someone else at their wedding after that we couldn't be friends anymore. Glad op stood strong but I hope she doesn't bend over backwards for her friends anymore.

[@lily-zg6io]

Story 1: OP's story broke my heart, because it's so hard to have to accept a relationship is over, but he still cheated, still broke the trust, the relationship would probably not be healthy if it started again, OP should consider therapy because that was a lot of traumatic stuff to experience all at once, and she deserves all the support in her healing

[@dallen3000]

Normal for a 22 year old? What a joke, everyone Ive know at that age had roommates or still lived with their parents. Owning her own apartment to herself is pretty impressive. Dam you San Diego living.

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

She might have had roommates too that weren't mentioned in the story.

[@KarinaCappucci]

Story 1: I think that OP doesn't just need a new man but also new friends. I get it, it's your wedding, which is one of the biggest days of your life. But how dare you not understand where your friend is coming from and how much they are hurting. That is the real selfishness.

[@AndyyWithAY]

I don't think OP should go to the wedding. Tell her you love her and you'll be there in spirit, but I wouldn't go and wouldn't expect my friend to come. I'd make my fiance kick his ass out honestly

[@dream6562]

Nah I couldn't do that but then again I process my emotions quickly, I'd let them enjoy the wedding, and ignore the cheater as much as possible, and fill I my best friend shortly after

[@jamestown8398]

I really hate yta votes that begin with "You're in an unfair situation", only to tell the op of the story to suck it up. You can't have it both ways; saying "I know you're the victim but you don't have the right to stick up for yourself" is fucking evil. Anyway, this story really made me angry at how utterly spineless OP is. Her love is wasted on ex and on her friend, and she's being the AH to herself.

[@WobblesandBean]

OP 1: A true friend would never force you to do this. Plus, it says a lot about the groom that he'd still want to be besties with a guy who's a philandering Ahole. I'm angry at the redditors who told her to suck it up and go through with it. OP, TELL EVERYONE WHAT YOUR EX DID. Edit: good. I'm glad everyone knows what a wretched scumbag he is. He didn't deserve you, and I'm kind of annoyed you're missing this guy, but I get it. I missed my abuser, too. Emotions suck like that. It'll get better, and trust me, in hindsight, you will only remember him as the AH who cheated on you with a parade of SWs.

[@WatsonAndDaughter]

Story #1: Damn. OP needs some serious help, she's not in a good place. :(

[@AndyyWithAY]

I didn't think about it, but after the comments he's absolutely married!! And final update confirms! Reddit got it right this time

[@A_Little_Bit_Of_Everything06]

Wait who's married? I'm lost lol

[@mikehilbert9349]

Story 1: How does the bride make it up to her? Just curious, because usually when people say that, they don't mean anything by it.

[@user-wr3vt8uq4s]

Perhaps by giving OP a free case of amnesia, 'cos I can't see any other way this can be remedied. Like, is she going to give you a breath mint after the big plate of dredged up sh!t she had to eat? As the update stated, she went ahead and did it, acted nicely. I would've gone a little more petty.

[@ladyoblivious]

Story 1, Ah, yup thought so. The moment op said that whole thing with the linking arms and him feeling the spark and knowing that would be the last time he'd feel it, I knew she was the one feeling that said spark. You can lie to everyone else, but you can't lie to yourself.

[@LoveK1]

I was literally thinking, “Girl, YOU feel a spark. You don’t know that he does. You really think that’s going to torture him?”

[@flashingunicorncupcakekiss1436]

Story 1 with all the updates made me 😢 cry. I feel so bad for her and I feel so bad for him. He knows he lost the best person who ever loved him and I know he knows he will never find that kind of love again.

[@kayasmith9789]

If I was op best friend I would’ve been looking at my future husband side ways cause he DEFINITELY knew his best friend was cheating on her. And you know that saying birds of the feather flock together

[@keshaponso2034]

Hahahah 'DEFINITELY' huh? Bit of an assumption.

[@Mewse1203]

If he had come to her and explained the situation, I could believe he felt remorse for his actions. Because he didn't, it feels more like he was hoping to avoid the consequences and the only reason he is upset is because he was caught.

[@magnarcreed3801]

Nope. Never. Once a cheater always a cheater. Never take the scum back. It’s no different then if your husband hits you and goes “It was just once. I’m sorry” it has some huge explanation as to why he hit you. Don’t go back. They’re liar and adults that can’t manage and control their own actions.

[@libbythememer9107]

@@magnarcreed3801 Unless said cheater actually goes above and beyond to change.

[@magnarcreed3801]

@@libbythememer9107 No. They never will and your dumb and naive to think they will. Dump them, divorce them, take everything and start over.

[@stirlingarcher7972]

Story 1: I feel so bad for OP because she’s gonna have to be around her ex at her best friend’s major life events for the rest of her life

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#2 - could be his mom? but more than likely it is a spouse. just wow! why did OP never google his address before this?

[@platinum_noelle]

If a 22y/o is living in an apartment by herself with no roommates, she's already doing better than most. That man has some high expectations for a midlife crisis fling.

[@jeancarbonneau6966]

In story 1, OP was never the asshole here. One of the things I found odd was the fact that OPs ex-boyfriend wasn't reported to his superiors in the Air Force. I'm not sure if OP is American or Canadian or European but I'm pretty sure that if a soldier is caught cheating, he/she would have received repercussions for what was done. Not all military act the same way as Canada or USA. Most do because cheating is something frowned upon a lot. In the end, the fact that OPs ex-boyfriend "broke up" with her the way he did wasn't a bad thing. He left and basically told her to move on. Yes, OP did the initial break up but that dance she had with him solidified the seperation. In his mind, he didn't deserve her and she could find someone else who would be better for her than him. OP isn't the asshole and I grieve with her loss.

[@PiscesPrincess327]

OP wasn’t married to her ex, just engaged. Adultery is illegal in the US military and if they were married, her ex would’ve been in a world of trouble especially since he was soliciting call girls

[@sablemoreno5095]

I saw someone explain it on another post where the person was married as it being a security risk, since if anyone found out they could use it to blackmail that specific service member. Not sure if it ONLY applies to married couples, but I'd think that it extends to at least engaged as well.

[@toriibarlow]

I was wondering the same. I've heard of people getting demoted and rank just for cheating on their spouses. Especially for branches like the Air Force that makes such a big deal about conduct and integrity

[@bautistalover]

They aren’t married so….

[@tamsinmoore2111]

Story Two: I think I'm fortunate because the first share house was on a busy road with semi-trailers going up and down it 24/7. I got used to it and ever since then I've been able to tune most sounds out like 'white noise'. Neighbours being neighbours just doesn't bother me, nor wake me up.

[@You_said_what1]

Story 1 - that bride now has pictures that will last forever of her being a shitty friend

[@soulbound2]

That’s what photoshop is for!

[@leopardnosepaws]

How was the bride being shitty?

[@You_said_what1]

@@leopardnosepaws really? Yikes

[@leopardnosepaws]

@@You_said_what1 did we not hear the same story? She never forced op to do anything. Word being forced

[@Sugieb]

@@leopardnosepaws I would never keep the man that cheated on my best friend in the wedding party that’s fucked up to an extreme level

[@toriibarlow]

I have had some really irritating neighbors that were unreasonably loud and obnoxious. But my first apartment no one was really unreasonable in terms of sound. Everyone just lived their lives and because it was an apartment you could hear bits and pieces. I didn't have a lot of family growing up and was frequently alone so it became something i acturally enjoyed about apartment living. I loved how on Saturday morning i would hear the upstairs neighbor play mariachi and vacuum or how if i was in my living room late at night i could hear the faintess sound of the neighbors across the hall.(lots of family and kids as well as TV) It became a sort of comfort.

[@CircusoftheMoon]

“He hasn’t lied to me, he hasn’t yelled at me, he hasn’t blamed me for anything.” So he’s doing the bare minimum? Love really does makes some folks throw all their self respect out the window.

[@Erikafman]

Oh yeah.. perfect time. I’m stuck cleaning the kitchen

[@WritersOnTheWall]

when I got married 10 years ago there was a point 3 weeks out of no return, where we were in so deep changing anything was a huge ordeal, so I probably would have suggested walking in with different people but also in the grand scheme of the day bridesmaids and groomsmen just stood there for pictures and we could have just grabbed someone else

[@viennperidot1119]

One particular place I lived at was an old, wooden, two-story victorian villa converted into three flats that shared a wall with the identical place next door. (Victorian Duplex, lol) When I first moved in the guy in the adjoining house asked if I stayed up late and liked loud music, and I said yes but I normally wear headphones. Turns out the guy who lived in that flat before me played loud metal music until 2-3am. Within a week I found out why... My neighbour was a MASSIVE gamer. 50ish years old, custom rig and full movie theater sound system, playing FPS Survival games until the godforsaken hours of the morning. I brought it up with him next time I saw him (about a week or two later) saying I think I knew why the last person played his music so loud -there's no soundproofing and his gaming room shared a wall with the bedroom of my place. After that he turned the volume down or wore headphones past 10pm, unless he was drunk. If he didn't I'd be louder in my 6am weekend work shift prep on his side of the house to remind him how thin the walls are. He was a good bastard and we caught up whenever we ran into eachother in the years after I moved out

[@TheAlphaDingo]

Story 1 OP flying very close to being a doormat. Drink some cement and harden up broseph!

[@matthewpopow6647]

Story 1: "okay, I'll be there... we can save money by combining it with a funeral.

[@manxiefeathermoon9888]

Story one; I have a feeling they got back together months later.

[@ApricotStone]

Goshhhh story 1 made me cry- I’m on my way to see my gf rn and I just can’t imagine not having her ;;

[@Ozzy08018]

7:00 I was already pissed off with this comment, but this part drove me over the damn edge. Why the fuck does OP need to be the bigger person when they're the one who was wronged!

[@jennywhite2462]

Story one OP is a good friend. Idk if I could of done the same in her place. I know how crappy it is to be cheated on. She handled the situation with dignity and didn't cause a scene. Good for her for holding her head high. I am sure it was very difficult being in the same room.

[@bartvansliedregt5482]

Yessss wedding drama with Mark!

[@madisonl3401]

Happy Friday everyone! Thank you for being awesome Mark and Poppy! 🤗🤗🤗

[@fhuber7507]

1.... NTA. Friend should have let OP know who was going to be in the wedding party MUCH earlier.

[@casualcausalityy]

He never lied to me... He was going to counseling but I thought it was for grief. Something's not adding up here

[@gh0ulbunni817]

Story 2: NTA lmfao, "ok boomer" I fucking love that! I wish I could be OP's friend

[@user-zr9ub2fs4w]

I love that "ok boomer" too!

[@Streetwisefirst]

Story 1: makes me angry. The friend should have fought harder to support her friend. You seriously want a cheater as your best man. I should add recently exposed cheater. I get maybe they can swap him out as it may be late to find another groomsmen. But he could have been definitely demoted or not made to walk beside OP.

[@hrhowling]

Just as I’m about to make dinner, perfect!

[@caiargagnon]

Story 1: this is the best conclusion. She is obviously hurt, but him apologizing and leaving is actual growth on his part. He is probably taking the advise of his therapist and working on himself and his addictions before he goes back to his old relationship or starting a new one. She also needs to grow and heal her trauma from finding out before she could ever be in another relationship as well, be it with him or someone else Story 2: a little bit of an AH. She doesn't have to call him a boomer. Especially because that is adding 10/15 years on himself and he probably already insecure about that. Other than that good on her. He needs to understand that the generational differences aren't just attitude and politics

[@AIBot929]

Story 2 Is that neighbor you want, she knows all thier schedules but minds her business, so if any one suddenly deviates she'd know immediately or if they just drop dead or something

[@Silence-1170]

Have a good Friday all! Wishing you all a great day fellow waffles!

[@AndyyWithAY]

An hour is not that bad. He needs to drive her to his place if he doesn't like the sound at her house. Stop complaining. Buy her another place or STFU. She's exactly right here. NTA

[@FlamesofJagger]

🎵🎶Am I the buuuuuttthhhoooolllleeee 🎶🎵 Hope you and Poppy re well Mark. Stay chill 😎and waffle🧇 on always. Much love 💘❤💕💗💖💜💙💛💘 Shout out to the Waffle🧇🧇🧇 Gaaannnnggggg!!!

[@cocoplayax]

Mark, you’re a champ for always dropping vids on the clutch! Thank you, just about to eat lunch!🤗

[@Mewse1203]

Be kind, be safe and take care of yourself. Have a great day

[@TheEcoolarg]

"we wouldnt argue about how bad IPA smells" Mark:How dare you

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

Story 2: OP is NTA and she needs to start working on herself, like learning how to drive and saving up for a car. She'll have more independence AND be able to visit her boyfriend at HIS home. I'm think OP is really doing good standing up to her older BF and his entitled Karen attitude. He wants her to rile up HER neighbors because he can't handle apartment noises. He's a guest in OP's home and he should stop making demands of her. He does deserve the "Ok Boomer" retort, but I think OP needs to call him Karen every time he complains about the neighbors making noise. Tell him that NO, he doesn't get to speak to the manager because he's not paying the rent on this apartment. If he is having a problem sleeping over, then maybe he can drive himself back to his home at night.

[@Splatoon_Kirby]

Maybe, it depends on where OP lives if there is a safe place to keep the car, and if she'd really need it. She might get more millage out of renting in some situations. Learning I agree with because she could get to a point where she can own a car and have it safely parked when at home and need it for getting to work of shopping. But if where OP is rn I think just learning is enough until she goes up in pay brackets and moves somewhere where a car is needed for travel daily.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Not sure why the call girls make this so much worse in OP's eyes? Cheating is cheating.

[@pansprayers]

Because for some reason, sex workers are cornholed into some weird scarlet letter designation, despite the fact that in places the trade is legal, they have really high STD clearance requirements, and regulations to follow. Cheating is absolutely cheating, and a kick to the gut.

[@Cookie25559]

Because he’s paying for this when he has her, it’s like a slap in the face to a partner

[@pelgervampireduck]

I had simpathy for OP until she went all "boo hoo I still love him he's so wonderful and handsome!". then I switched to "it's because of people like you that cheaters and jerks get away with being garbage".

[@joimumu]

Agree cheating is a dealbreaker that no one should accept and I view (perhaps unfairly) cheating like a milder version of murder since

[@sylviajones6745]

I always hear Mark say " If the trust is gone, what is there left.".

[@xbaumann]

Op 1 needs professional help because her actions to cope with the situation could easily spiral out of hand. She did nothing to deserve her situation but she needs to scale back especially the alcohol. This is coming from a former alcoholic.

[@Dr.Octavios]

I can't stress enough how much is love your channel.

[@FallinFromGrace13]

Listening to this at 3am and hearing the apartment story scared the me too😭

[@Josku2411]

Oop early and we just ate at a restaurant with friends and i'm convinced they have black holes for stomachs bc i ate slower and less than them...but they seemed entierly fine while i felt stuffed

[@someanon1984]

OP's best friend isn't TA for not making her partner change his best man, but she is TA for not being understanding of OP's position. I would never guilt my best friend into doing something like this for me.

[@JUMALATION1]

For the last apartment story: My fiancé and I can hear a LOT from our neighbors, especially through the bathroom wall (Idk if they have the bathroom opposite or maybe their kitchen, no clue). However, despite us hearing sounds that we might not want to hear necessarily (you get what I mean), we can't shut off our parrots saying "IIIIH" repeatedly either. Luckily the parrots are silent 98% of the day, but the last 2% they sound like a fire alarm.

[@iSmileyPerson]

I hope the girl from story 2 finds a way to confirm who the woman is and contact her if she is his wife. 😬

[@AndyyWithAY]

Finally early! My work schedule changed, so I haven't been able to come early all week

[@CH-ns4gv]

Story 1: The OPs not an AH but she's probably one of the most delusional people in any of these reddit stories

[@JayeEllis]

Story 2: NTA - If my partner constantly made cracks about a living situation I had no problem with, I'd tell him where to go, too. It really has nothing to do with age. This is what your budget allows, and if he has a problem with that, he can keep it to himself or quit spending the night. I'd not be okay with my home as the subject of constant criticism either.

[@lewischase]

Good afternoon Mark Happy weekend everyone

[@shydog7276]

Okay. Story 1. Even if we can just assume the worst and the best friend and her husband didn't care about the OP, their choice to include this dude is baffling. They want a known CHEATER to have a role of honor in their ceremony of commitment? I wouldn't even want to keep this dude as a guest. Hell, I wouldn't even want him as a friend anymore. Why is the bride okay with her husband keeping this dude as a friend after he hurt her own best friend?? Why is this dude relevant at all??? Honestly, if he's okay with his best friend being a cheater, I'd wonder what his stance is on cheating himself.

[@lifegoeson6045]

If this happens to my FREIND let alone BEST FRIEND no way in hell am I making her come to my wedding and causing her even more fucking heart break! This isn't a best friend because she doesn't give two fucks about you or your situation but just wants a perfect wedding. IDK WHY I'M SO PISSED AT THAT COUPLE BRUH Edit: grammar

[@FriedaMMartin]

Good afternoon! I am ready for the weekend

[@mracula1667]

I don’t think I’ve ever been more frustrated with an OP as I was with the first one. Best case scenario, he had an addiction he was being treating for that he was willing to hide from her into a marriage. There’s no good way to spin that.

[@dream6562]

I'd have to call off the wedding if I was the husband, yeah it's wrong what he did but I'm not gonna be forced to give up my friend from birth being at my wedding as well as I wouldn't do that to the fiance

[@ineedhoez]

Exactly.

[@adollahfiddy1015]

Depending on the hobby that they share, her boyfriend may very well be a 35-year-old man living in his mothers basement. Neck beard anyone?

[@violinda.]

But they probably wouldn't co-own it. But maybe? Good point.

[@heidehho6191]

or he's married lmao

[@stephaniemiddleton3740]

He could’ve also bought a property with his sister??

[@ineedhoez]

​@@stephaniemiddleton3740because that is so common...

[@princesssunshine874]

oh dude, as the bride's maid "so, how will you pay me back? I want a vacation."

[@VeggieMama722]

Anyone who wants to remain friends and goes to extreme mental gymnastics to justify keeping the cheater in their wedding is a red flag

[@bokkanb8209]

Story 1. Sad story all around. I think she made the right decision. I couldn't trust someone after that. Although I do feel slightly bad for him. In the end, it doesn't matter. He needs to get his issue under control if he really is an addict. Being addicted to something does not excuse the people you hurt (if he even is and he's not just making up excuses). Also, he should have confronted her 18 months ago when he was getting counseling. Keeping secrets like this guarantees a relationship will never recover if it ever comes out, because it shows that you are willing to allow your your partner to live in a lie forever. Perhaps they'll try again one day, but for now, she 100% made the right decisions all the way through. good on her.

[@AKASANJEEWA]

Story 01 : NTA. Regardless of how you see your friends, they should have taken your side and drop your ex.

[@GKFF9872]

It’s always the harmed person that has to be the bigger person. Abuse tactics. Also OP is spineless.

[@JariDawnchild]

Story1: Nymphomania IS a legitimate addiction. It's not about what excitement the patient can have with newer, more interesting bedpartners or even whether or not the patient feels more desirable as a sexual creature with other partners. It's more a combination of biochemicals/hormones, chemical addiction to those (and possibly deficiencies in others) and broad-range self-worth issues ingrained from systemic sexism issues in society. It sounds like I'm making excuses for OP's ex, and while I'm trying not to because he kept a HUGE part of his medical/psychological history from her that played a significant part in their relationship, I do feel sorry for them both. Don't get me wrong, lying is shameful, and cheating is lying, but there's a medical/psychological grey area here that shouldn't be ignored. Ex lied to OP on several levels here when they both should have been able to depend on eachother for better or worse, richer or poorer, through sickness and in health. Marriage vows and promises begin long before the marriage, while the marriage is simply a way of telling everyone else (plus a business contract). It sucks that they don't seem to be able to be that for eachother, because they do seem to genuinely love eachother. While I would like to shit on OP for not having made it clear to ex that her love was unconditional, ex knew he had issues and was doing therapy for it. Ex didn't trust OP enough with the knowledge of his condition precisely because of how it looked; he thought she would react precisely the same way anyone else would, and she did. She found out several years into their relationship from one of his fixes, which is likely where the majority of her rage is coming from: he, himself, didn't tell her. She would likely have not stayed with him if he'd told her early on, but they wouldn't have hurt eachother so deeply several years later. Anyone who has seen/heard this story, please take this for the lesson it is, and communicate openly and honestly with your partners. If a partner isn't able to handle a part of you while being willing to be part of a support system you need, it's better to find out early on before you end up hurting eachother out of fear and mistrust that will likely lead to lies. There's no need to run the risk of making yourselves and eachother miserable when it can be either greatly reduced or possibly eliminated by talking to eachother like adults. Going to go finish watching the video. I might end up editing this later if I've got something to say about the other stories.

[@darylebrown3253]

Not only does it cause more damage down the line, but to find things out like this after marriage I imagine can only make you feel like you've been living a lie. I know that people who have found out decades later that their spouse cheated on them in the beginning feel like they're whole relationship was a lie and they had a massive portion of their life just stolen from them. I'm really sorry for their pain but I'm glad that she found out before they got married.

[@leopardnosepaws]

Looking for a comment like this. Some to a lot of people write off sex addition as an excuse to cheat (there's plenty of people who do indeed use it as an excuse for their behavior.) It still is addiction, like a drug addiction, your not doing it because you want to but for how it makes you feel.

[@MsUnamusedNerd]

I’m surprised there are so many people that don’t understand the “OK boomer” figure of speech as referring to an older person that is out of touch with the current times. I actually used that Termanology when pointing out how “boomers don’t seem to understand why younger people don’t want to work in the service industry” I have so many older people that did not understand the assignment or they had the nerve to come to my videos and call me the ablest R slur for “being too young to understand what a baby boomer is” Like they unintentionally proved my point that the older generation is quick to be hostile/abusive towards the younger generation for no damn reason. Like all the Karen/Kevins that will throw food at food service industry people over something stupid like their meal was five minutes late and they are in a rush to go to a meeting despite the fact they got a warning that their meal will take a little time to prepare.

[@mzgreenjeansapproves]

Agreed! Plot twist it's the bitter gen xers all along 😏

[@KE-hr4sb]

S1 Update: This right here, is why you don't lie to yourself that you're going to go, hook arms with your ex, to stick it to *him.* That spark she was talking about? How does she know he felt that way? SHE was the one feeling the spark. She wasn't over him, wanted one more "fix," and rationalized in her mind until she came up with something that sounded half plausible and not so pathetic (as "I still want a cheater"). The only ways to get over someone is a) the hard way: time and space. No calls, no accidentally running into them, no social media stalking. b) (and this one I do not recommend even if it's faster), is to have them do something so horrible that it crosses your personal boundaries, and they become someone else: someone, not the person you fell in love with. When that happens, it's like a switch flipping and you just, love them one minute, then don't the next.

[@annamcnarin]

I'd die laughing if the woman he co-owns the house with his actually his mother. xD

[@holeymcsockpuppet]

Story 1: [fictional update]: "Well, after the wedding I couldn't get him off my mind. I slept with a dozen men in two months, but nothing filled the void I felt in my heart. So I contacted him and we are back together. We are so in love. It is the happiest I've ever been. [Fiction update 2]: "I can't believe this. He cheated again...WITH MY BFF AND HER HUSBAND FROM THE WEDDING. They have been doing 3-ways for two months! I'm also 2 months pregnant. How could he do this?!!!"

[@dm9078]

Sounds like she is martyring herself so YTA for that! Be the bigger person means lay flatter door mat.

[@paolamendoza2868]

“How dare you?” @13:33 😂

[@brittanywaibel661]

The last one that right there would have made me get in contact with a friend of mine or something that had a vehicle and I would have gone over there to figure it out

[@alr3764]

unpopular opinion: news sites shouldn't post reddit posts especially without OP's consent. Sure it was already public, but it's just lazy "reporting" and just makes it easier for anyone to find if they don't use reddit.

[@damien678]

Mark we NEED more nightmare neighbour stories

[@reaganlangston5915]

Story 1 : I think after some honest reflection and growth they have the potential for reconciliation but they need some time apart to sort themselves out before possibly coming back together.

[@squeakybb]

This is why big weddings are more trouble than they're worth

[@utha5034]

Story 3: take an Uber to ‘surprise’ him! On a Friday night. Or Saturday morning. Hahaha