My Brother-In-Law Called Me "The One Who Got Away" In His Speech To Family r/Relationships

[@amytamas9191]

There is an update :) OP and husband didn't do very well after the wedding but after OP ripped a new one to Chris during a family cookout, husband finally had a reaction. OP ripped him a new one as well :)) and they kissed and got on the same page. They are looking into therapy but are doing well.

[@felix0-014]

Whoot🎉

[@doggolovescheese1310]

I hope Mark updates it

[@MissJordanna1]

Was just to say that there were an update but he might have recorded the video first before the update was posted

[@Yume10605]

Also op seems to have deleted their account

[@amytamas9191]

@@MissJordanna1 for sure

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

But there is an update! At a family gathering OP put Chris on blast in front of everyone, calling him out in his BS, how he hurt her and his brother, and even thanking Chris for bringing his brother to that party years ago because that’s where he and OP met. Chris just cried and left, no apology or anything, OP and her husband got some apologies from family members, and husband apologized to OP for taking his anger and hurt feelings on her and they’re now good.

[@jakemarie828]

Thank you for the thorough summary!

[@FlamesofRebirth3836]

Thanks I love this update!

[@errantwinds-up8uu]

I'm laughing at "Chris just cried." Well good.

[@davidkristahay]

Is there a link?!

[@keshaponso2034]

OP is no angel.

[@lbdisaster20]

I wonder if the brother-in-law had a date at the wedding rehearsal dinner? Can you imagine sitting in a room full of mostly strangers as your date announces to everyone that he wishes he was with the bride? The floor couldn't swallow me fast enough.

[@owl7072]

Story 3: Her: Help with my wedding 🥺 Op: Okay Her: Anyway you're trying to steal my man so be a good cousin for once- no you spending a shit ton of money and time helping with the wedding doesn't count- and don't come to my wedding ❤ Edit: Her: Go ahead and tell them I don't care 💅🏻 Op: _tells them_ Her: How CoUlD you!!!! WAAAAAHHH

[@Yuki_-.-]

Exactly

[@nightmarefanatic1819]

Oh it gets better because there was an update. There was no wedding. Why? Turns out cousin was projecting because she fucked another guy and got pregnant. When she and her fiance had never had sex. Yeah, OP 100% NTA.

[@GIChiyo]

Story 1: I have a feeling the brother stole girls from the OP's husband, and the brother was annoyed that OP's husband got someone that was pining for him People like this need to be cut out immediately

[@keshaponso2034]

I have a feeling OP started dating her husband to make his brother jealous. OP is not a victim in any of this. There is no way you start dating the brother of a crush a few weeks after being rejected by the crush, without that fact being brought up.

[@Russman67]

Story 3: I can't go ESH because sometimes the world needs petty. And the cousin said go ahead and do it. She should have just paid her back the money when she kicked her out of the wedding.

[@tully6648]

Honestly, with that whole "you're in love with my man" crap in there, OP had every right to get a petty hit back. That's deserved.

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

I don't understand ESH either. Didn't she get a wedding invitation? I doubt OP would have spent any time and money on the cousins wedding if she knew from the start that she wasn't invited. Ofc OP is going to react when she hears 2 days before the wedding that she can't go 🤷

[@aileencastaneda3724]

I hope OP got her money back

[@nightmarefanatic1819]

​​@@aileencastaneda3724 I hope a lot of people got their money back because there was no wedding. Why? Because the cousin was pregnant and had never had sex with her fiance because he wanted to wait until the wedding night to do so. So yeah, Cousin was a massive hypocrite.

[@paulastiles5507]

Last story: So, if you're that convinced your soon-to-be-husband is going to hook up again with your cousin after you're married, why are you marrying him, again? Also, totally NTA, OP. When people spend money on your wedding and you uninvite them, you also reimburse them. That cousin is all kinds of drama llama.

[@lynnw7155]

I wonder what the groom thought of all this. He was on good terms with OP; he probably wondered why she wasn't at the wedding.

[@paulastiles5507]

@@lynnw7155 Possibly, though a lot of times, the groom doesn't get involved much in the wedding planning, whether out of choice or because Bridezilla shuts him out.

[@leomartinez8382]

But it's also a wedding no no to invite an ex to the wedding. Like wearing white some people are comfortable with it some people aren't and she sprung it up last minute.

[@paulastiles5507]

@@leomartinez8382 Regardless, if you disinvite someone who you got to spend money on your wedding preparations, you reimburse them.

[@leomartinez8382]

@@paulastiles5507 I'm not really arguing against that. But at the least everyone is the asshole. Her for not telling her sooner and also the ex. And the Bride for obvious reasons.

[@Russman67]

Story 2: Keep an eye on the brother in law. It seems like all the bad ideas like rushing to get married first and trying to shoehorn their way into OP's wedding are coming from him.

[@sashwing7726]

Surprised, no one ever considered that the poster was getting played, considering the ending. Two things stand out, which makes me think that this might be the case. First was no pushback after the sister husband was not invited to the wedding in that with the fact that he instantly knew what happened, and it became odd. The second is that the sister got what she wanted and still walked down the aisle. One would consider if she never actually wanted this, then her walking down the aisle at all would simply not happen.

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

I bet the next step from BIL after the wedding will be trying to reduce the time sister spends with her family, and throwing huge tantrums at sister before every family event until she stops going.

[@teacheschem]

Did the post say they got married quickly because her father was sick?

[@Catherine.Dorian.]

Actually I see it the other way. OP gets engaged so suddenly sister gets engaged to “get it out of the way” and quickly marries? Now suddenly she wants Ops wedding? Sounds like the little sister can’t stand not being the center of attention and she is competing with her sister and trying to take over everything

[@toothless3835]

Story about sister asking to walk down the aisle: I thought that was a cute and lovely comperise. Their father was gone, so she let her sister walk with her in a lovely golden [did they say gold or silver?] it just sounds beautiful. Last story: The cousin is an AH. She KNEW she wasn't going to invite OP and said NOTHING about her being uncomfortable that she had previously dated her fiance. and only told OP they weren't invited last minute. She just wanted her money. Yeah, OP was petty, but that doesn't matter in my opinion. The cousin USED her and I absolutely hate users. They, and cheaters, get all the fall out of their actions. 600 dollars isn't anything to sneeze at.

[@errantwinds-up8uu]

I also thought it was so sweet how the sisters talked and figured it out, and OP had her sister walk her down the aisle instead of their deceased father. What lovely communication and a memory for the sisters. Hope the sister's husband shapes up.

[@audreym3908]

It was either silver or gold

[@AndyyWithAY]

How exactly did OP do anything wrong?? She didn't steal the cousin's man. This is what happens when you go after a loved ones sloppy seconds. You can have this insecurity you wouldn't have otherwise. Definitely not ESH. Hard NTA x1000. OP sounds like a boss, not like she's hardpressed over an ex. She's supporting her cuz and warned her she'd put cuz on blast. Cuz thought she was bluffing. She learned today. You love to see it 🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@NoLimitValkalis]

It's ESH because of how long the cousin dated the ex without anyone saying anything. Now she has to process it as she's getting married. Cousin is an AH because she won't reimburse OP.

[@LemonBarProductions]

You can't STEAL a person, unless you commit an actual kidnapping.

[@Batman-lg2zj]

@@NoLimitValkalisactually disagree because op did nothing wrong .

[@errantwinds-up8uu]

I think OP could've done it differently, but as you said she did warn her cousin!!

[@charityprice754]

And it's a pretty audacious move to wait until after everything is paid up to uninvite someone. Duplicitous and tacky. And you know it'll all be water under the bridge for cuz once she wants help with the baby shower.

[@Russman67]

Chris did this to fuck up OP's relationship. He liked the fact that OP was always in the wings and she did the unthinkable. She got into a relationship and married his brother. I wouldn't be surprised if this was a "screw you" to his brother because if he can't have her no one he knows should have her. No matter what, Chris needs to be cut out.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

You're absolutely right. Chris is trash. 😡 And trash needs to be out on the streets, plain and simple.

[@dionysus_adores]

Chris was a jerk leading op on and went a date while seeing other women without telling op. If I was op husband i would be pissed at my brother and said some choice words

[@Russman67]

@@dionysus_adores I'm guessing by his reaction that the brother is more timid. He went silent after the announcement. Someone needs to give Chris some choice words. Sprinkle in some good swears too.

[@ZoeAlleyne]

​@Russman67 apparently they both did at a family BBQ, according to an update

[@johnojeda3900]

Mark story one has a update. The tldr is that OP chewing out bil in a family dinner after a week of the wedding. The guests in the dinner didn't even entertain bil that much because he was wrong of doing it, but it didn't stop there after the dinner Opie shoot out her husband for being so cold towards and she was considering an annulment, but hubby apologized profusely and said that he will make it up to her. And at the end of the update she said that they're going on a fancy dinner, and having plans for the honeymoon.

[@starbird3939]

Story 1 - There was an update. OP called out Chris for being a manipulator, and later called out her husband for his cold behavior towards her. Chris never apologized, but instead cried and ran off like a baby.

[@starbird3939]

Hopefully youtube will allow the link

[@tully6648]

Story 3: If I were OP's ex and I saw my fiancée acting a fool like that, I would have backed out of that wedding SO fast. Like, seriously? "knowing (you're) in love with my man," "just be a good cousin for once," "stop trying to steal him?" Nah. I'm not dealing with a person like that for the rest of my life.

[@chinaking918]

Yup before you know it’ll move from her cousin trying to steal him to a coworker, one of his family members , a close female friend or the cashier at the grocery store. Then before he know it he’s alienated from all his friends and family since nobody will want to deal with her backhanded bs.

[@stevebanner5609]

Story 1 was so incomplete, not only for not putting on an update but also for not making her hubs understand he was the ONLY ONE for her….

[@AndyyWithAY]

He's jealous he can't provide 🤮🤮🤮 I'm so disgusted. How can you call yourself a man and fix your mouth to say such a self-victimizing thing? If you want to provide, get a better job, go back to school, whatever. Don't whine and try to hijack other people's events

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Yeah. Stacy's husband sucks. I hope Stacy leaves her jealous, selfish husband. 😒

[@squirrel670]

He's rude af

[@teacheschem]

Not that there is any sympathy for the Ahole husband- but thinking maybe the sis would have waited much longer (before getting married) if her father hadn’t been passing away.

[@kaworunagisa4009]

One teeny-tiny problem with your comment. Just to make it clear, I'm not on the A-hole husband's side. But. It's the jealousy part that's wrong, not the providing part. It's not always possible to "pull yourself up by the bootstraps", no matter how much internet grifters try to convince you otherwise. Sometimes your best isn't cutting it in modern society, and blaming people for their lack of resources is just vile.

[@simonO712]

​@@kaworunagisa4009This!

[@Mewse1203]

The sister being so happy that her husband was invited from the wedding is a huge red flag

[@DemonAngel]

Honestly, i found out my friend "gave me" to his brother when all of us were hanging out (me, bf at the time, brother of BF, 3 other friends). I looked at the brother and was like "wtf? YOU didnt GIVE ME to anyone".

[@diamcole]

Oof, I remember this one. BIL is such an AH, I wish she would have given her husband a heads up - it was likely only a big deal to him because the first he learned of it was from his jerk of a brother.

[@ohboy-zi1yf]

i dont think OP ever thought the crush would come up again

[@diamcole]

@@ohboy-zi1yf She definitely didn't. I have shitty luck so I always ask myself if the information would hurt more or less if it came from someone other than me. Lol I just don't risk it, cause it automatically looks shadier than it is when it comes from someone else.

[@starbird3939]

Story 1 - NTA Once more, I hate people that think it is ok to confess their feelings for a person getting married. There is no point other then to cause drama and/or feel entitled. Chris strung Op along and she moved on, but Chris is mad to see it.

[@lisadgingersnaps9843]

Last story, OP is NTA and cousin needs to get over her insecurities.

[@eldinovm8077]

oh lord, this guy just loves drama, and this woman has got it hard but the brother he just likes to be loved, not her fault at all

[@AndyyWithAY]

You read my mind, Mark I was saying you needed to read this one. You had this as a title a few weeks ago. Chris is an enormous AH and the husband is wrong to make such a big deal out of this. She had a harmless crush on f boy Chris. Happens to all of us.

[@VidWatcher01]

Chris is definitely a narcissist that can't stand to see his brother happy

[@asherikamichaela8425]

Oof. First BIL is a _massive_ narc. OP's new hubby sounds like a sweetheart and I hope they get counseling to deal with the trauma his "brother" clearly enjoys causing.

[@doggolovescheese1310]

Her husband should be angry with his brother not his wife. His Wife love HIM not his Brother.

[@jamieboer3466]

tbf she did hide her history with his brother, thats not something you should hide.

[@johnsmith9784]

@@jamieboer3466Yeah exactly, anyone is gonna wonder “if this really was just a harmless crush why did you hide it?” No one wants to be second place and OP honestly kind of comes across as if she doesn’t give half a shit about her husbands feelings. She doesn’t seem able to put herself in his shoes at all. I’m not saying her husband acted in a mature manner, it’s just understandable. And her reaction is to chew him out for feeling lied to and betrayed? I have to wonder if she’s even being honest at all, I kind of wonder if she did in fact “settle” for her husband.

[@BritInvLvr]

I wish I studied to be a therapist because everyone needs one, apparently.

[@kaworunagisa4009]

Story 1: If I were in OP's shoes, I would've read the ex-crush for filth then and there. To the best of my abilities at least. I agree with the commenter who said the BIL sounded like a narc. And in my current phase of the healing process, I'm a petty SOB who takes a special kind of schadenfreude at baiting narcs and then walking away.

[@valeriejames4675]

Story 3. "Go ahead! Tell everyone, I don't care!" Don't threaten me with a good time!

[@Tammohawk1]

1. I can't believe that Chris said what he did on the night before his brother's wedding. He basically sabotaged OP's marriage. I would never want to have anything to do with him again. I might have said something like, "How could I be the one who got away when you never had me to begin with?" Because even though OP had a crush on him, they were never an item of any type. 2. I had some harsh things to say, until OP and her sister talked. Her husband is the problem. If he is that jealous, he needs to deal with it on his own and stop putting it on other people. And I would probably tell him so. He also needs to do something to improve his situation so that maybe he won't try to do something as stupid again. Or loose his wife. 3. The two aren't close, so OP didn't feel it was necessary to tell her about the past relationship. She had no feelings either way, I get that. But for the cousin to uninvite her after spending money, claiming that OP is in love with her man and blah blah blah. I'd be upset too after all of that.

[@konstellashon1364]

Story 1, that's pretty much what OP said to Chris in the update.

[@keshaponso2034]

He didn't sabbotage it. OP did. It wasn't a crush. It was way more than that. How does the two aren;t close justify anything? What are you justifying here? It's Ok to withhold relevant information. The past? You mean a couple of weeks before? OP is playing the victim. I cannot believe people like you have gien her the justification to further bully her husband. It not a past relationship. It's his brother! Great job justifying OP blaming her crush for something that is expected to be in his speech. It's an annecdote.

[@groggyowl6871]

​@keshaponso2034 He did sabotage it. He purposely waited until the wedding to reveal what he did to hurt OP without care for how it'd affect his brother. He could've told his brother at any point before marriage was on the table, but he didn't say anything until things got serious and made a scene. I agree that OP should've brought up that she had a crush on the brother earlier in the relationship. But saying that it should've been expected that the brother would bring something like that up in his speech. Is nothing short of insane. How was the OP supposed to know that, the brother would try to hurt her and his own flesh and blood on such an important day? It's normal to assume that most people mature with age and experience. Only an obsessed lunatic would choose not to grow and change tactics after they've seen that their previous ones didn't work( i.e., playing hard to get and sleeping with other people to make the Op jealous) She is a victim. Both her and her husband are victims of the brother's tantrum over OP not wanting him because of his toxic behavior. How has she bullied her husband? Nothing in her post screams bully behavior. Only naiveté.

[@konstellashon1364]

@@groggyowl6871 the husband was giving her the silent treatment and slept on the couch for a week. As Newlyweds! Wouldn't even look at the very original Reddit post. After the update where OP put Chris on blast and finally made up with her hubby, she said he had a lot of making up to her to do. Apparently, the complaining commenters don't realize she means 🍆. 😉

[@laurenevers8644]

"Lose" his wife, not loose

[@Feralcottagecore]

Yeah my most recent ex-whatever kept bringing up the “crush” I had on his older brother…. The crush I had when I was 14 yrs old 😒 it had been 16 years since that “crush”. I hope Op’s husband doesn’t take that path and hold it against her. She didn’t know him at the time and the fact that her crush disappeared after she met her hubby speaks volumes on how important that little crush was to her. (Edited because I apparently can’t do basic math)

[@tracys169]

This must have been taped before Story 1 had an update.

[@AndyyWithAY]

What goes through your mind to demand that someone allow you to do something major at their wedding. I mean just have a little party with a carpet and walk down the aisle. She could honestly do this on the cheap and not hijack OP's moment.

[@jennilynne1977]

I hope everyone is having a great day/afternoon/night! Peace ☮️, hugs 🤗 and love 😘!

[@caroleharrison8884]

Thank you! Right back at you! 💜💜💜

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

You too jenni💜💜🤗🤗

[@Midnightpigeon666]

That last one 😂 what a mess. I hope OP took her ungrateful cousin to small claims court.

[@impishrebel5969]

There is an update for Story 1 I heard a couple of days ago on another channel.

[@anu21856]

I’m guessing this was made before the update for story 1

[@psychosiszz]

[Update] My brother in law called me the one who got away in his speech and my husband is very hurt and it is my all fault. Hi again! Thank you all for the support and all the people who followed my page for an update. I have a small update, I was supposed to write it yesterday but I was exhausted. Yesterday my husband and I were invited to my in-laws for a cookout. When we arrived Chris saw us and tried to scraper (well nobody expected us to show up and my husband wanted to decline but I INSISTED we go). I caught Chris however and loudly said Oh I’m happy you are here because I want to talk to you. I said that since the people in this cookout were all in the rehearsal dinner I wanted them to listen to. Chris looked like he was about to cry but my father in law was grabbing his arm when he tried to excuse himself. I told Chris that what he did was a shitty thing that didn’t just hurt me but it hurt his brother even more and that the only reason I didn’t speak up was because I was in shock but also I didn’t want to ruin t our day by arguing back and forth with an arrogant and selfish man who always hid behind alcohol to explain his bad behaviors like he’s some tween. I told him that I never was the one that got away because he never had me. I never knew the real him and I liked his exterior like I was sure many people who didn’t know him well did. But if it ever would have evolved to something more I would have seen through his façade and since I know myself very well I would never have fallen for someone like him so I was never the one that got away. I told him that the only good thing about him in my eyes, the only redeeming quality is that he decided to bring his brother with him that night and even if I was very angry with him now I will always be thankful to him and I will always be grateful that I crossed paths with him because it led me to my husband. -And for you not to even call to apologize to your brother for embarrassing him and hurting his feelings says a lot about how much you have planned to hurt him on his day. My husband was silent the whole time. The mood was a bit awkward for a minute after my outburst but then people were normal and some apologized for what happened and we ended up having a good time. When we got home my husband who’s been sleeping in the living room almost every night hugged me and kissed me. The first time he kissed me since the I do. I felt my anger building up again and I had another outburst. I told him that we weren’t okay and that he never has the right to shut me out and give me the silent treatment for so long ever again if he wanted to stay married to me. He said “I know” and that he regretted his coldness. We made love for the first time as a married couple (and second third and fourth) and then I fell asleep in his arms in OUR bed. After two outbursts on two brothers in one day I felt content and I slept very well. This morning my husband woke me up with kisses and hugs and he apologized for hurting me and taking out his anger on me. He said the shock was too great for him and he was afraid that I didn’t love him and just settled for him because Chris is the charmer and always had it easy to be loved by people. He thought something more happened and he didn’t dare to ask me because he wasn’t mentally prepared to hear that the love of hi life maybe wasn’t his. He looked his old cheerful self that I missed so much. I just wanted to cry but I didn’t. We discussed therapy and we are planning to start looking for a therapist after our honeymoon but for now I just want to snuggle him and feel his love. He has a lot of making up to me to do! I hope this counts as an update. Good night edit: many asked about Chris’s reaction; he just cried and mumbled that he had somewhere to go and left. No apology or anything. Wasn’t expecting that either. MIL was angry with me but I was just so angry everything just came out edit2: To all who are saying I’m avoiding questions about my husband. I already addressed everything in my first post. I will always regret not telling him and I will always be sorry for hurting him. My outburst on Chris wasn’t the first time my husband heard my truth. I have been apologizing and begging since our wedding. He only talked to me after the cookout when he felt sorry for me. When I wrote about him making up to me it was mostly a joke about depriving me of all affection and sex but also because giving the silent treatment is really hurtful. He agrees what he did wasn’t the greatest way to handle it. We will work on our way to communicate. We love each other and we are fine ~~~ Note: OOP's account has since been deleted (suspended?) so unfortunately this is as much as we're gonna get. Just have to hope for the best!

[@LordGertz]

Have a vow renewal. Or wait till everyone else has left the chapel.

[@joshuaadkins9820]

story 3, Op could of really just shut down her entire opinion on how she wanted "her man" by saying "i must be doing one hell of a job taking your man. Considering I'm practically expediting the 'process of you to getting married by putting forth 600 bucks." Then just tell her she's being insecure and its fine cause you don't have an residual feelings left for her.

[@theresaschuebel5151]

The story about the mom and brother in law pushing sister to do what they wanted was crazy. But the fact that her sister is now walking her down the isle is touching. My ex husband has been thinking lately that he will be walking my oldest daughter down the isle at her wedding that will happen in 2 years. She feels that since he was emotionally abusive to me and both herself and her beloved baby sister that as fare punishment he won't be walking her happy ass her words not mine down the isle. She has told me that if she doesn't walk her own happy ass down the isle she will be walking down the isle with her beloved baby sister instead. Since her baby sister is her bestie and maid of honor. I think it is the most thoughtful thing ever. But then she has always shown that her favorite family member was her baby sister. Ex husband has always given her the vibe that she was his favorite kid, and that pissed her off since she has never been able to understand how people family or not couldn't love her sister as much as she does.

[@turquoiseheart6320]

Yea in story1 the brother in law is a p.o.s. person who loves to spread misery. He was never going to get together with op and for this she should be eternally grateful she dodged a bullet of narcissism, cheating and emotional abuse as well as never getting to know/ love/ marry the good brother. The BIL probably planned this little speech of his just to ruin his brother's wedding and yes it's probably not the first time he'd done such stealing his brother's joy in something. He should do a lot of introspection and try to find his peace- away from op and husband! I wish them the best they could actually make it.

[@rduke325]

When she starts crying, you have reached the last line of defense.

[@Anonymous-mf2go]

12:08 That is the biggest joke!! She was worried about overlap and now asking to walk down the aisle? She either 1. Wanted to get married first 2. Hoping she would be a big enough star (every couple deserves that) 3. Didnt expect you to make something she would like and when you did she shoots her shot

[@yesthatmousyiris4887]

Story 2: I lowkey agree with Mark, with the sister and bil's relationship things might be real rocky.

[@DisneyChar]

S2 she literally admitted to you that she only got engaged/married to steal your thunder and do it first. Yeah she should have been uninvited and most likely no contact before she could escalate.

[@juliebiggerbear7300]

Story 3. Oh, the messes we create when we venture forth to date!

[@hmspretender]

So this is the one we missed! Awesome!

[@TwiggyHetfield27]

Story 3: okay so let me get this straight... OP dated this guy in HIGH SCHOOL. He met the cousin in college. They date for 2 years, he proposes & they marry 4 months later. The cousin finds out they dated, let's OP help with the wedding & spends her own money on the cousins wedding only to not invite her because they dated... IN HIGH SCHOOL. Holy hell the cousin is a child & shouldn't be getting married to anyone if her maturity level is still in high school mode. It was high school! Girl, get over yourself. OP is NTA.

[@kimberlyterasaki4843]

Don't believe rom-coms, "Last minute" love confessions are asshole moves and will never have the result you hope they will. Unless the brother's goal was to drive a wedge betweeen his brother and OP, in which case, well done at being the worst brother of the year.

[@Nikephorus]

Story 1: What a crap brother.

[@LordGertz]

She didn't get away, because he never went after her.

[@shadesofjade]

19:53 wait, last op paid for a fucking bride’s maid dress?!?? Implying that she was told until right at the last minute she was allowed to be in the wedding?!?!!??! Holy shit! Nta!!

[@jeaniebee3657]

there was an update to the first story on another content reader about it

[@AndyyWithAY]

Hey Waffle Gang, hope everyone is well. I didn't get the report at the dentist I wanted, but I had a good day regardless. Wore a cute outfit, got some free pretzels and picked up my Hello Kitty T shirt I got on sale.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Sorry the dentist didn't go well but glad everything else was good m8🤗🤗💜💜🧇🧇

[@AndyyWithAY]

@broken_queer_but_fighting8589 Thanks Broken, I appreciate that 🤗🤗🧇🧇💜💜

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@AndyyWithAY 🧇🧇💜💜🤗🤗

[@carolroberts4614]

Bad luck at the dentist! It sounds like the rest of the day went better though!

[@AndyyWithAY]

@carolroberts4614 Thanks Ms. Carol. Hope all is well with you 😊

[@actuallynotsteve]

I know from the second dude acted like he was going to do a tell-all at the party and then fucker her roommate that it was a 9.62 on the fuck around, find out scale. Whoops, buddy, you done played yourself. You gotta shoot your shot. A girl that's a close friend of mine in my social circle for like 20 years hit on me for 10, then stopped for like 5 after that, and I eventually asked her on a date. She said no, and I respectfully took it on the chin, and that was that. This is how it goes. If you're got serious feelings for somebody, tell them and respect their reaction. Hopefully they want to pursue that, but if they don't, it's not your place to do anything other than accept your judgment. Straight up, that's all there is to it. Playing games or trying to manipulate somebody's feelings is disgusting, just don't do it. It never, ever works out in your favor. You'll either end up alone or an abuser if you go that route.

[@maddydavidsdottir9862]

If op gives in itll be "i want to try on wedding dresses too at your dress shopping because i never did" and "i want to come in your honeymoon too because i never got one" and "i want to cut the cake first because i never got that and im older"

[@spikeoramathon]

Not sure what OP did wrong in Story One. She dodged a bullet and chose the better man. The brother-in-law did his little speech as a deliberate attack. Shame on him! I hope her husband gets over the pain and realizes this. I'd love to hear an update to this. Story 2: "Hi, can I make your wedding all about me?" Glad OP and her sister worked that out, and even gladder that the Mom relented, as I was getting some "golden child" vibes there for a bit. The sister's husband still sucks, though. Who does that?!?

[@Kalossupremacy3356]

I think what she messed up was not telling the husband before hand.

[@spikeoramathon]

@@Kalossupremacy3356 Yeh, you're right, there was that. But I can also see why she didn't, at least at first, and then she just wanted to put it behind her. If she'd *actually* dated him, then definitely she should have said something, but as they were never an official couple but she was just someone the brother enjoyed stringing along, it was unpleasant enough that I can see why she would never want to say "hey, your brother was a total jerk and led me on etc." But yeah, she probably should have told him. But would he have even married / dated her further if she had? Tough call. I usually go for complete and total honesty (and have gotten in trouble for it more times than I can count, lol).

[@jamieboer3466]

@@spikeoramathon She 100% should have told him, if he would have broken up with her over it then that's fine, better than hiding it.

[@LordGertz]

You have the right to invite whomever you want to your wedding. But don't take their time, money and effort for that wedding that person isn't invited to. Just like peole not invited to a wedding owe you no gifts.

[@cocomarie1870]

"your in love with my man" ma'am she helped PAY FOR YOUR WEDDING. Also why did her fiance never let her know he dated the cousin for all of 2.5 seconds

[@KashyaCharsi]

Chris only ever wanted to string OP along.

[@tishellefrancois7840]

Mark fixed it from last time

[@fufufuaru]

story 2, the resolution was actually pretty sweet, with the sister walking OP down the aisle, esp since their mother is an AH

[@lorrainemontagnon1537]

Afternoon everyone!😊

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Have a good one m8

[@Kahtilyn]

Story 3: if the ex/cousins fiancé figured it out and asked at a family function, why didn't he tell the cousin ab it long before they got engaged? Honestly, I think the dude is really the asshole in the long term.

[@SkyEcho751]

Story 1: THIS is why you don't let things be buried for someone else to dig up. But looking at the comments here, it seems OP went nuclear on Chris at a family cookout and they(OP and Husband) are now looking for therapy. Story 3: I feel like the cousin was in the wrong somewhat, once she learned of the whole "Ex-BF and OP used to date" then she should have tried talking to OP. Because as it stands it seems to be a 'high school fling' more then anything else, which doesn't really justify kicking OP out of the wedding.(Edit: more specifically it doesn't excuse the last minute "You can't come" jealousy act.)

[@FlamesofRebirth3836]

S3: NTA the cousin got what she deserved. OPs wording about letting them date was a little weird but doesn’t make her an asshole considering what the cousin did. If someone like that showed up on my doorstep I would’ve called her a thief and some other colorful names.

[@ruddiko]

This one is prob recorded before the update but there's an update on Story 1

[@FlamesofJagger]

Yo Waffle Gang fam! Hey Mark and Poppy! I hope everyone is well and healthy. Stay positive and well. Waffle on and much love 🤗🤗🤗♥️💛💙💚💜🤗🤗🤗 Waaafffllleee 🧇🧇🧇Gaaannnnggggg🧇🧇🧇 forever!!!💯💯💯

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

💜💜🤗🤗

[@Flotton]

Much Love

[@josephmbimbi]

unpopular opinion from looking at the comments, but i think if anything happen between 2 persons, family and close circle should be either no-go territory, at the very least the past flirting / relation should be disclosed and discussed. I find it ming-bogling in story 1 and 3 that the future spouse went into marriage without known there was a thing in the past with brother and cousin respectively, that should not have happened at all in the first place. if the brother and future husband didn't disclose it, then OP should have done so long ago i think. That doesn't excuse the shittiness of the brother in story 1, and the cousin in story 3 but that has to be taken into consideration imho.

[@lisakaz35]

Hope OP updates about the BIL Chris and hope there's good news.

[@konstellashon1364]

There was. The dad took her side, forcing Chris to stay at a gathering so OP Bride could chew him out for his twisted speech. OP and hubby started talking again and finally consummated 😉

[@lisakaz35]

@@konstellashon1364 So they still went on the honeymoon?

[@konstellashon1364]

@@lisakaz35 looks like it. Not easy to find since op deleted her account. Search the title, I guess.

[@lisakaz35]

@@konstellashon1364 Thanks for the news.

[@konstellashon1364]

@@lisakaz35 found it again. Yup, they're on their honeymoon and will still attend counseling when they get back.

[@cpaul9269]

story 3 - Understand her not wanting someone with carnal knowledge of her fiancee to be there, but she should have returned the money. The comment about stealing her man was absurd, too....I wonder which cousin is better in bed? LOL

[@chinaking918]

She shouldn’t have taken the money to begin with knowingly knowing how she felt about OP. If I knew there wasn’t a chance that I wanted a person a my wedding I wouldn’t ask them to participate in any kind of way. She thought she was going to play OP out of her money as a way to get back at her for “trying to steal her man”. To her OP allowing her to steal her money would’ve been OP way of showing she’s a “good cousin”.

[@cpaul9269]

@@chinaking918 I didn't think it was clear exactly when she found out though - if she knew the whole time - you are 100% correct - I agree - I thought she found out partway through the planning and all....AS soon as my cousin started dating someone I had been with, i would just tell them as soon as I found out, though, to avoid all the hurt a situation like this brings up....and it's something I would want to know if I was in their shoes, so to speak.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hey can you take care of yourself? Just do one small thing that will make yourself happy. And if you feel like you can do more, please stretch, drink some water, and eat something. You matter so much. I send all the virtual love. 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@HealthyObbsession]

Thank you I actually needed this I'm waiting to hear if I got a job and have been unemployed for over a year Been really anxious about it I'm trying not to give my hopes up but I really want this job It's not a career kinda job just mall retail but it's a movie store and I love films so much I could finally have a job working with a product I actually understand and love Wish me luck Sorry for the rant

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@HealthyObbsession you're good for the rant I really hope you get it, best of luck m8💜💜🤗🤗🧇🧇

[@carolroberts4614]

Hi Broken! Hope everything's going well with you! All well here, but waiting for the birth of a new great grandson(4 days late so far!)

[@carolroberts4614]

@HealthyObsession, I hope you get the job!Rant away, it does you good sometimes!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@carolroberts4614 I hope it goes well best of the wishes to the mother, hope you're well carol much love 💜💜🤗🤗

[@erika_5237]

Ayeeeeeeee Mark ❤

[@FrederikEngelmand]

Story 1, she lusted after her brother in law. She was actively pursuing the bad Boi, and settled for her current husband

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hey you yes you, take a deep breath let it out slowly, and lower your shoulders. Know that you are important to someone even if you feel like no one loves you, guess what I do. I'm so proud of you being here. Thank you. Now make sure you take care of yourself and drink some water, eat something and take a stretch break.💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@bangeryun94]

Sister just wanted a free wedding in a pretty wedding dress

[@cpaul9269]

story 2 - "no." Not OP's problem. R U kidding me with this sister and mother?! the fact that OP is even second-guessing herself is very very sad. EDIT - what Mark said about worrying about her sister making a spectacle.......that does, indeed, say it all. That ending just didn't feel right at all.........I'm thinking this one was fake

[@nightmarefanatic1819]

Update to story 3: Update: They canceled the wedding because they “needed sometime to figure it out” well it came out a few weeks ago that cousin was pregnant with another man’s baby and her now Ex shouted at her for a long while and left her. (How he knew was because he said he wanted to wait until marriage to have intimacy) well I no longer think I am the ass I got my closer. The comments on this were lovely and I’m very grateful.

[@browniewin4121]

1) Well that is creepy, inappropriate, and nasty on BILs part, he is an AH. It was nice OP found her partner and it's sad his brother is such a jerk. OP owes no apology, she did nothing wrong. I think since new husband is having a hard time with this there needs to be some counseling before the honeymoon, and go low to NC with his shitty brother. 2) Absolutely NTA, who would even think to ask such a thing, that is so crass, selfish, and disgusting, WTH?! OP's magic moment is not her sister's. Uninvite anyone who is trying to make this happen and take over OP's celebration in favour of the sis. Because 'family' is not sufficient reason to include someone who shows no regard for OP and her groom. I do not see them contributing anything positive to OP's wedding or life. After update: It is too bad the husband and mother were pressuring the sister to do this. I'm glad the sisters had a good conversation and sis will be included but obnoxious BIL not. Does sis have kids? If she doesn't, it sounds like she would be better off leaving her husband because she is obviously not happily married. 3) It's too bad the cousin is insecure and hateful without any good reason since there is nothing between OP and the fiance. OP need not be invited, but since she was previously included and spent a lot of money, cousin should have refunded that if she was now going to exclude her. NTA.

[@cpaul9269]

story 1 - Chris is an amazing douchecanoe - to do that to his own brother at his wedding?! It is wrong that OP never brought up Chris' pursuit of her?! I mean, you're about to marry the guy and never mentioned the awkward history with his brother?! Now, OP's husband will hopefully calm down and see the big picture, but not telling the guy you had a crush on his brother is pretty hard to take.........whaddamess

[@abelink9229]

Story 2: I feel that, if OP's sister approached OP from the start, proposed having a double wedding, and then worked alongside to earn and save money, OP would have agreed. But trying to come reap the fruit of someone else's labour without lifting a finger is entitled, and I understand why OP says no.

[@rylashadow18]

With that last one I don't see the relationship lasting. That cousin might just get left at the alter and I don't blame the guy.

[@wildridegaming]

Wow.. OP its simple, sure you had a crush on your husbands brother, until you met your husband. Then his brother became nothing, you are only in any form of wrong if you kept crushing on his brother after starting a relationship with your husband. "Sure I had a crush on your brother, but before anything happened I met and fell in love with you. I have had no interest in him since the day we met because I am head over heels for you since I first laid eyes on you."

[@annabethsmith-kingsley2079]

14:52 Story 2: here's the biggest red flag: when she makes up with her sister she says 'both of us crying and forgiving one another'. What did she do that needs to be forgiven? The sister is acting crazy and inconsiderate and when they make up she has to apologize? For what?

[@19WolfGirl74]

Story 2: he proposed to the sister after 5 months and is now pressuring her to hijack her sisters wedding so he can get a free party, yeah, that is definitely not a happy marriage

[@nightmarefanatic1819]

Update: "Hi again! Thank you all for the support and all the people who followed my page for an update. I have a small update, I was supposed to write it yesterday but I was exhausted. Yesterday my husband and I were invited to my in-laws for a cookout. When we arrived Chris saw us and tried to scraper (well nobody expected us to show up and my husband wanted to decline but I INSISTED we go). I caught Chris however and loudly said Oh I’m happy you are here because I want to talk to you. I said that since the people in this cookout were all in the rehearsal dinner I wanted them to listen to. Chris looked like he was about to cry but my father in law was grabbing his arm when he tried to excuse himself. I told Chris that what he did was a shitty thing that didn’t just hurt me but it hurt his brother even more and that the only reason I didn’t speak up was because I was in shock but also I didn’t want to ruin t our day by arguing back and forth with an arrogant and selfish man who always hid behind alcohol to explain his bad behaviors like he’s some tween. I told him that I never was the one that got away because he never had me. I never knew the real him and I liked his exterior like I was sure many people who didn’t know him well did. But if it ever would have evolved to something more I would have seen through his façade and since I know myself very well I would never have fallen for someone like him so I was never the one that got away. I told him that the only good thing about him in my eyes, the only redeeming quality is that he decided to bring his brother with him that night and even if I was very angry with him now I will always be thankful to him and I will always be grateful that I crossed paths with him because it led me to my husband. -And for you not to even call to apologize to your brother for embarrassing him and hurting his feelings says a lot about how much you have planned to hurt him on his day. My husband was silent the whole time. The mood was a bit awkward for a minute after my outburst but then people were normal and some apologized for what happened and we ended up having a good time. When we got home my husband who’s been sleeping in the living room almost every night hugged me and kissed me. The first time he kissed me since the I do. I felt my anger building up again and I had another outburst. I told him that we weren’t okay and that he never has the right to shut me out and give me the silent treatment for so long ever again if he wanted to stay married to me. He said “I know” and that he regretted his coldness. We made love for the first time as a married couple (and second third and fourth) and then I fell asleep in his arms in OUR bed. After two outbursts on two brothers in one day I felt content and I slept very well. This morning my husband woke me up with kisses and hugs and he apologized for hurting me and taking out his anger on me. He said the shock was too great for him and he was afraid that I didn’t love him and just settled for him because Chris is the charmer and always had it easy to be loved by people. He thought something more happened and he didn’t dare to ask me because he wasn’t mentally prepared to hear that the love of hi life maybe wasn’t his. He looked his old cheerful self that I missed so much. I just wanted to cry but I didn’t. We discussed therapy and we are planning to start looking for a therapist after our honeymoon but for now I just want to snuggle him and feel his love. He has a lot of making up to me to do! I hope this counts as an update. Good night edit: many asked about Chris’s reaction; he just cried and mumbled that he had somewhere to go and left. No apology or anything. Wasn’t expecting that either. MIL was angry with me but I was just so angry everything just came out edit2: To all who are saying I’m avoiding questions about my husband. I already addressed everything in my first post. I will always regret not telling him and I will always be sorry for hurting him. My outburst on Chris wasn’t the first time my husband heard my truth. I have been apologizing and begging since our wedding. He only talked to me after the cookout when he felt sorry for me. When I wrote about him making up to me it was mostly a joke about depriving me of all affection and sex but also because giving the silent treatment is really hurtful. He agrees what he did wasn’t the greatest way to handle it. We will work on our way to communicate. We love each other and we are fine"

[@datmanydocris]

Story 3: Holy hell the cousin is an AH. You damn well know she had decided the minute she learned OP previously dated her fiancé that she chose to not invite her to the wedding, the the cousin _knowingly lead OP on so that she'd pay for parts of the wedding because she knew full well that if she told her she wasn't invited she wouldn't pay for anything._ And then the cousin getting pissed when OP did _exactly_ what she told her to do, nope, dump that garbage woman like a bad habit, go NC.

[@andrediamond4374]

Story 3: No no no not ESH. Cousin fucked around and found out. Honestly, she's perfect for r/ohnoconsequences

[@selcatron]

i miss the old outro music so much :(

[@Josku2411]

Awoop i should be sleeping tis 1am i got a 10am shift with like atleast 1h 20mins preptime needed but eehhh...small problems i'll be fine the Team fortress 2 comics are better than sleep

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Sleep well soon good luck with work

[@HealthyObbsession]

Been there it's the end of the day and I am glad Mark had a vid to keep you entertained I usually need at least 2-2 1/2 hours to wake myself up even longer if I hate the job Hope you have a great night

[@Josku2411]

@@HealthyObbsession I need like 40mins for wakeup and 40mins for the drive there cuz i get dressed in work clothing at the works lockerroom instead of at home so i need the extra leeway to get dressed in peace

[@chasefrost1401]

I thought there were comment replies where the op says the sister is gonna get a divorce.

[@annabethsmith-kingsley2079]

Story 3: so, on the one hand, they're not close enough for her to tell her cousin she used to date her fiancé and on the other hand, she's close enough to her to have PAID for a significant part of her wedding?! Pick a lane, lady!

[@RomeGod177]

S2: NTA, but $19k + for a wedding? Wtf. N you are not rich or well off yet. Girl get you Priorities in order. I remember a saying. Women are scared of the number 30. Because they don't have that ring. 😅

[@madambutterfly1997]

NTA tell your sister that like the dinosaurs she also had her time in the spotlight and now it’s over

[@Gloria-ro4vn]

I see a divorce in her sister's future. Her husband sounds like a JEALOUS, Entitled jerk. I get the feeling, she only married him so her father could see her get married, any guy would have done, she just happened to be dating him.

[@karendaniel620]

Hi. Driving rideshare. Bye.

[@hdeodh]

S1: I think OP should have told her husband about her "romantic" history with his brother... You have to disclose those things especially when it relates to siblings. Most people I know wont even date someone who almost been in a relationship with one of their siblings

[@stan8479]

There was no history. Only a crush when she was a teen, and his brother treating her awfully.

[@HeidiSholl]

I think maybe it's time we stopped paying for or contributing financially towards other people's weddings, unless they're your child. The fact that she was putting £/$600 towards her cousins wedding in the first place, who asks their extended family for that kind of money? That's not normal. You have the wedding of your dreams within a budget you can afford. I would never ask or expect extended family to put a penny towards my wedding.