My Friend Wants To Use Me As Her Backup ATM For Our Holiday r/Relationships

[@MisterNightfish]

Story 1: Imagine being so entitled that you think you can announce to a "friend" that you are using them for money and then go "you are too harsh" when they say no. It boggles the mind.

[@iononcantomascrivo]

I don't have to imagine. I had a friend like that. I cut contact nearly a decade ago. She was a parasite. She opened her hair done, her nails done, booze in the fridge and a full pack of cigarettes. Yet her children ended up wearing clothes that didn't fit, shoes that were too small, no school supplies and lived in a house that looked like it belonged on Hoarders, but at least mom had fresh highlights. It's the important things that matter, right?

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

And cheapskates and leeches wonder why the rest of us try to avoid them like the plague. 😒

[@PriestApostate]

Is anyone surprised that a certain demographic has that mindset in story 1?

[@ZoeAlleyne]

Story 2: OPs mum is ALREADY helping pay for their son's treatment. By not having him pay child support she is helping. That was generous of her.

[@afsanachowdhury4979]

Very generous. She also gave back what he put in. And he was ungrateful

[@pascalabessolo5350]

@@afsanachowdhury4979 Doubled that, because she matched his contributions

[@ElleD308]

She still gave him the money, plus added more and the little shit had the entitlement to feel angry that it wasn't enough. I would've taken my part and blocked him forever.

[@MarionHogan-m5i]

OP’s Mom was more than generous

[@LadyJoolree]

Story 3: And he's STILL married - the divorce hasn't gone through yet, but sister wants to parade him around, like he's a prize?! I wouldn't want my wedding jinxed by such a low character male - literally making a mockery of the vows I'd be about to take. Sister better not bring that morally bankrupt shyster anywhere near my wedding. Probably best to tell the whole family what time it is before the wedding, if he goes he'd probably be crass enough to propose.

[@thefallennero5265]

I bet the divorce hasn't gone through yet because he had no plans to divorce his wife in the first place.

[@curtisalex456]

@@thefallennero5265 Yep, the sister is just a sex toy to her boyfriend. Golden shower, yuck!

[@flamenmartialis6839]

​@@thefallennero5265All to true, also there's a phrase "Once a cheater, always a cheater" who knows if it's the first time he did it or just the latest time.

[@samiulhuda4001]

well to be fair she isnt any better. she was in a 10+ year relationship might as well have been married. if shes there whats wrong with his stupid a**

[@neilfelsbourg170]

Who invites people to a wedding with conditions? Everyone gets a +1 and unless she is planning to bring one of your exes or a stalker type thing. Do you send out morality questionnaires before choosing guests?

[@sarahmiller2431]

The mom is story 2 deserves an award wow 👏. Taking her kid to get coffee and taking into consideration what her kid wants. And then matching the amount her kid gives the dad just wow. She must be such a kind hearted individual to give that man money that he doesn't deserve. Just wow

[@Fitz1993]

I mean, she gave the money to the son, who does in fact deserve it... It's not the kids fault he has really shit parents.

[@AndyyWithAY]

I wouldn't have given him any money at all for this exact reason. They gave him everything he put in and matched it. And it's not enough. What an entitled POS.

[@Azulakayes]

Yea, that bugged me. OP and his mom were more than generous yet he has audacity to demand more. After he contributed very little to it. After he had an affair then impregnated the mistress and moved her into his matrimonial home...what a despicable idiot.

[@alexlee3261]

That's what I immediately thought. If I saw that reaction that amount of money I would have said, "well I guess you don't need the help like you said." And walked away with the money.

[@mariem8705]

Yeah, but this isn’t about the dad. It’s about op’s brother and that’s why he did it. I would’ve been pissed, but if it was for my little brother… I’d give my life up for him. But at the same my parents would never ask me.

[@Kris-wo4pj]

​@@mariem8705issue is the treatment would have been paid for by his parents they would just have to cut back even more or just stick to dialysis until he can get a transplant. If dialysis is working why do something they'll mostlikely do nothing or make it worse. Also dad needs to be grateful he gets anything the mom could have easily said no or just not matched it. He got double and all it did was cost him his daughter for a treatment that most likely wont work and probably make it worse. Had a cousin few decades ago who died from an experimental treatment less than a yr after wards. My grandfather died yrs later still angry at my aunt esp after he found out about a kid my cousin's exact age and with her exact condition that survived if she went with the normal treatment. Much more life threatening than what the brother got since it killed her before she turned 3. Only thing she knew was hospitals and pain.

[@marshawargo7238]

I wonder if dad called St. Jude where, "no one is given a bill"

[@podunk_woman]

Sister is living her Fifty Shades of Golden. He must be a real manipulator

[@joeschmo622]

The Opie should "pre-announce" The Sister's relationship with Mr Golden Showers to proverbially "take the wind out of her sails", and to let everyone know what kind of loser MGS actually is. Let *that* be the talk of the wedding, especially when people get introduced to him and *not* want to shake hands, because they "don't know where that hand's been". Make the embarrassment complete.

[@rogerrabbit80]

OP needs to tell her sister, "Yeah, I'll invite him - and his wife."

[@alexisgrunden1556]

@@rogerrabbit80 Oooh...be a good Christian and offer them some aloe vera cream for that *BURN!* 🤣

[@swearimnotarobot3746]

A backup atm. Lol. It’s one thing to have friends as a safety net. It’s another for the original plan is to use them. Not as a safety net, as the original plan.

[@oliviaspring9690]

Yeah, even when they are a safety net you should always pay them back. Even my friends don’t expect it always pay them back I’ll cover the next meal or give them money.

[@celesterodriguez7979]

What is ATM? Not my language

[@TheDorreProject]

​@@celesterodriguez7979It's a machine where you can insert your bank card and retrieve money from your bank account.

[@ahmadyusof2480]

​@@celesterodriguez7979Automated Teller Machine.

[@Bleg94]

​@@ahmadyusof2480which is why it somewhat irks me that so many people call it "ATM machine"

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Seriously?! OP's definitely NTA! That's his college fund! How dare they even suggest it? ಠ⁠︵⁠ಠ If they need money, his mistress/wife can get a job. And that's not EVEN considering the affair. I feel sorry for poor OP and those poor twins. Thank goodness for OP's mom. She's awesome! And let me tell you, she's a very gracious lady for giving her ex's portion of the money back. Not woman, LADY. ❤

[@Pinkipuppy333]

She even matched the amount so technically the father got twice as much back.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

​@@Pinkipuppy333 Exactly! That's honestly MORE than what he deserves in my opinion. I might be petty for this, but I honestly don't know if I would've given him a cent, mostly because I wouldn't be able to trust him since you know the cheating thing. (⁠٥⁠↼⁠_⁠↼⁠)

[@Russman67]

Story 2: Not the asshole. The best thing OP can do is let mom be the heavy here. That is OP's money And there is no way on the planet this money would be returned. It would be gone. And that's not what the mom was trying to accomplish when she set up the college fund. While I will be concerned about that boy and his medical condition, it's not on a 17-year-old to solve this problem.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

You're absolutely right. The parents are responsible for their children. If those two really want to help their child, then THEY need to be the ones to get the money themselves.

[@eowyn8340]

Story 1: I faced something similar on a bachelorette trip to New Orleans. Everyone was pretty good about using Venmo if one person paid a restaurant bill. However, the others conveniently forgot that I covered all 4 of us at Cafe Du Monde since I was the only one to think to carry cash. I had to remind them about that, when they started asking for more money to cover parking fees. They shut up real quick.

[@tully6648]

Story 2: Dad knew what he was doing when he went straight to OP instead of talking to OP's mom, and that's what makes him a 100/10 -sshole. Him being ungrateful for what he got despite his ex-wife-the woman he cheated on and the mother of the child he tried to guilt money out of-is a rotten cherry on top of the s-t cake. I feel sorry for the boy. He probably deserves a better family than the one he got. Story 3: What a nightmare. Whether she knows it or not, OP's sister is basically holding herself hostage in order to hijack OP's wedding for her "big reveal." Because it's a wedding, people will feel obligated to at least attempt to keep their feelings in check, and the two will probably take their silence as approval. And you know what? Since these two have absolutely no sense at all, I'm willing to bet money that a proposal will be made, too. I really hope OP sticks to her guns. I feel bad that she feels trapped in this situation. She cares way more about her sister than her sister does about her, or possibly anyone. But none of this is okay, and her sister is old enough that she can get out if she really wants to.

[@ahmadyusof2480]

Love is blind

[@lelouchthezer0]

its the fact that he wasnt happy with getting even a little bit back he should be thankful to even get a penny

[@GMAMEC]

I can’t believe that he wanted more money that didn’t belong to him. I am shocked.

[@medchan5810]

On top of that, assuming they're in the US, it's sketchy that the stepmom is a "caregiver". I'm only saying this because I have several friends who are caregivers to relatives and most states have programs that provide benefits for doing that. Why aren't they taking advantage of those kinds of benefits?

[@cassandramuthleb2486]

Op's mom gave op's dad the amount he deposited in the college fund and then doubled it. So the dad came out way above what he gave. Why does op's mom standing up for op make her a horrible person? Why does her giving money out of her own pocket for the affair child make her an ah? The dad seems to want to get every penny that he's ever had to give the mom. I get that his child is suffering but he can't go to his own family because he's such an ah.

[@tinkrtailr]

Story 2 - if OP is in the US, dad is taking her for a ride. Kidneys are the only thing in the US we have universal healthcare for, unless they're doing constant experimental treatment, dad's not in near the amount of debt he's making it out to be.

[@rebelks88]

Or it’s not actually medical debt 🤔

[@gmun2248]

I don't know specifically about kidneys, but I do know that there can be charges for experimental treatments, usually at a safe stage but not technically through FDA approval (or whatever is required for procedures) yet. I had an experimental surgery. HOWEVER, this made me a "self pay patient" & my primary dr explained exactly what I should say to get maximum discounts. Basically, hospitals don't have to pay anyone to chase up insurance companies if the patient pays. If they pay at time of treatment, they don't have to chase up the patient either & give a 25-40% discount off the official self pay price. Additionally, because the awesome system of US Healthcare doesn't actually have fixed prices to discount by 40%, it's all negotiable. I am British. I spent a few years in the US and the easiest explanation is: it was complicated. But I learned how to 'work' the Healthcare system. Legally. Most major hospitals are required to have some form of charity or foundation, and patients who cannot pay can apply for discounts through that. It is related to family income (I was living with family due to the complicated crap, in order to get that legal status, they have to sign responsibility for me - even as an adult). Most hospitals have finance departments that will reduce and reduce and reduce until you are looking at (semi) reasonable prices. For another surgery, I had a quote of $40k upwards at one hospital & $12k total at the surgery centre where I had it done. HUGE difference. There are many ways to help people who need help paying - legal and available from the hospital or the doctor. But if they are only told to go through your insurance company, you won't get that info. Insurance over there is an absolute joke. I should have had insurance for the second one, but they "reviewed" my case with their own "independent doctors" who clearly hadn't been given accurate info & it was basically screw you. It still makes me mad. Also, doesn't St Jude's promise treatment for any child who needs it? And other hospitals, in big cities especially, have similar kids' programs. In my experiences, I have always been helped by amazing doctors, or in one case a 'patient liason' person - people who know the system and have influence. If a doctor won't figure out something (like donating their own time) for a kid who is in such a critical condition, it's time to look for second, third, fourth opinions and find someone who knows how to make things happen. Aside from the shitty healthcare practices, it's a despicable position to put a kid in. Edit: I initially meant OP as the kid in the shitty position. It's also just a terrible system in a wealthy country to put a sick kid in - many sick kids are in that position because there is no universal healthcare/ cap on prices/ universal fair pricing/ system for kids etc etc. Horrible story on every level.

[@rachelcrawford1977]

@@gmun2248the thing is if there testing or trying to prove a treatment it’s usually free to be a part of the treatment. My son has autism and I have been a part of many case studies and it’s free other then getting him to the appointment, they have even come to my home for free it’s just a part of how you get people to do case studies. This whole thing sounds hinky. Unless this is some holistic stuff that you pay for snake water and it always kills the kid faster. Not all homeschool parents are into crazy crap but they tend to trust the holistic stuff more and many people have died and made bad people richer

[@robertx8020]

Or he is not in the US ..most of the world is 'not in the US' so it's not to far fetched

[@carliney]

@tinkrtailer This was my exact thought. I smell b.s. The only way the father isn’t lying is if they are not in the U.S. or a country that has universal healthcare.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Story 2 your dad torpedoed your family and is doing next to nothing to support you in anyway. He's put next to nothing in the college fund. He has zero right to demand money from you now. And it's not even yours. And this repaying business is nonsense. You're going to college soon. You need the money now. You can't wait to be repaid. And yes wife needs a job outside the home. NTA

[@robertx8020]

"And yes wife needs a job outside the home. NTA" Normally I would agree but who is going to take care of the son? Let him just be alone all day?

[@itsjustmaddisen]

@@robertx8020 we don't even know if it's actually for son's medical bills. Also, they'll have to suck it up if the son is actually sick and make it work.

[@FredRated1967]

Story 3. OP should stand her ground. Tell her cheating sister she's been replaced as maid of honor (or bridesmaid) and she is relegated as a guest ALONE. And also say her shite boyfriend will be tossed out on his ear if she brings him.

[@pvtpy1e]

Vacationing with a mooch, is like living with a thief.

[@kellypatterson8506]

2nd story that was nice of OP to give back dad's money and mom is a total boss of a kind lady for matching it to give to ex, now that's a LADY, not a woman a LADY.

[@tully6648]

Smart, too. Since she gave him back his money and then some, he can't come back later and try to sue over the situation. Not that he can afford to, and not that there's even a case there... But still.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

All the more reason why I can't believe that OP's sperm donor father threw her away for some girl toy.

[@AndyyWithAY]

If you can or want to sponsor a friend for all or part of the trip, that's totally fine. But, demanding your friend pay for you against their will? Disgusting. And yea hotels usually make you present your credit card. Not sure how or why she thought that would work. She literally said she wanted to mooch off OP, what do you mean?? 🤣🤣 Be done with her OP. She's not a real one.

[@rylashadow18]

S1) If someone can't afford a vacation away don't try to mooch off others cause that's a sure fire way to not only not get invited again but also blocked. S2) OP's dad and his wife don't get to put their responsibility to their kid on OP. I'm glad they were able to talk to their mom about what was going on. OP's dad can take what he's being offered, be grateful as well as appreciative or stuff it. S3) Dear lord no. She doesn't get to parade her AP around your wedding day as a way to say "Well OP accepts us so should you." Also she better be ready cause once he gets done using her for his kicks he'll move onto someone else. Also who wants to be with someone who takes tinkles on you as a kink? All the ew. Let her know that you support her but your wedding day isn't it. This guy isn't welcomed cause he dishonored his own vows and you aren't standing that. Then let her know you're concerned for her. That you love her, want what's best for her and her overall health as well as well being. That if she needs to reach out to talk your there. That when she needs your help your there. But your wedding day to parade this trash wasted garbage bag? Is a insta hell no. Tell mom this isn't about him nor her. It's about you feeling supported, feeling comfortable and feeling happy on your special day. This over exposed sponge of nothing would be wasteful at your wedding. The wedding day is about the couple not the clown circus and it broke af moral clowns that want to make it all about them.

[@willow8186]

So, the dying kid’s mother is just gonna ignore the fact that she needs to get a job to help save for his transplant/treatment? Got it.

[@KisameOwnsYouAll]

s2; Returning every cent he put in was a good move, imo. That way he has literally nothing to hold over OP's head.

[@SalvatoreFerrell]

Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together, it was a really bad phase but we got through it.

[@SalvatoreFerrell]

@josephregland its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.

[@SalvatoreFerrell]

@josephregland kindly look her up online and you won't regret it.

[@ToeBeanCozy]

Story 1: I used to work in a hotel, we always asked for your bank card if you didn't book directly through us. It's for damages and in case people leave the attached restaurant without paying for their food.

[@Swnsasy]

I find it so telling how a person would go on a trip without enough money and think welp, my friend is here so she will just pay for it.. The audacity of people who think like this is astounding... Nta

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

Story 3. LMAO! Mark, I don't think I have ever heard you trip up on words like you did with Golden Showers!

[@janglesthearsonist5265]

Story 1: OP should show her "friend" this post because that girl needs a wake-up call! I'm glad OP doesn't plan on traveling with her in the future.

[@barbthegreat586]

Golden shower story: i don't need to know everything and this is certainly a thing i don't need to know.

[@waltdoherty540]

Backup ATM Your "friend" wants *you* to pay for her vacation. You absolutely know that she'll never pay you back. You are right to put her in her place.

[@fluidwolf]

The wedding one is super goofy. The sister not only wanted the affair partner invited to the wedding but wanted to hijack it for the reveal of her and his affairs. Just....why? Why even consider wanting her there knowing she wants to make it all about her? And you know it would just be all out drama once everyone finds out there.

[@hollyberry0602]

No lie this really is my comfort channel. Thank you Mark for making a channel and community with such a warm atmosphere. I'm not doing good right now, but your channel is like a little sanctuary :)

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

I only had to read the title and I'm already convinced that OP needs to not only start going on vacation without her and not invite her to anymore, but she also may need to reconsider her whole friendship with her. She sounds like a leech and a cheapskate. Not cool. 😒

[@Grace_x68]

Last story If I'm OP I would simply tell everyone at the wedding that my sister got stuck in a very bad rain "shower" in a far a way town 😂 Don't let her come to the wedding. She wants to high jack it as a surprise engagement party.

[@cynicalminion]

If I can't afford some things I don't go, I don't try and hustle midway!

[@chasefrost1401]

I love that that comment was a tiny little story. Stories within stories.

[@erika_5237]

Story 1 : Mom is awesome in this story. Very generous of her. Shame on dad, I would have snatched my money back from this ungrateful person. Why would you put that pressure on a child, especially for something that’s your responsibility. OP, good luck in school, your a loving person, willing to give back your dad’s contribution when most wouldn’t, shows your MOM has raised you right. She is a wonderful person and has raised you with love and kindness.

[@maryjanedodo]

I know! Imagine complaining to your ex wife who you cheated on & kicked out of her home about not donating more money to your affair baby's healthcare 🙄 the audacity

[@angierucinski5694]

Has anyone asked The Groom how He feels about this sh*tstorm which is about to be Unleashed on His wedding day? The last time I checked, a wedding was about two people who love each other, making vows to each other, it isn't about frocks, exes or any other nonsense. Does OP honestly love her fiance because the poor guy never got a mention in all this drama.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Story 3 Holy 💩!!! He was married and she was engaged, they had an affair and now are living together and plan to get married?? Pretty much guaranteed he's abusive. Women who previously behaved a certain way becoming small is usually a tale-tell sign And how do you know about these golden shower??👀👀 that's such a weird detail to casually drop in there. This is wild for real

[@Azulakayes]

The golden showers bit killed me or should I say drowned me 😂😂😂

[@AndyyWithAY]

@@Azulakayes 🤣🤣🤣 girl, I'm laughing out loud

[@PuppyKatt]

Story 3: NTA This is as good a time as I have ever known for an elopement. Don't invite either of them, and the bridesmaid who helped the most with your preps should be promoted to MOH. Edit: EXCUSE ME??? SHE wants to use YOUR WEDDING to make such a serious announcement? YOUR WEDDING IS SUPPOSED TO BE ALL ABOUT YOU AND YOUR GROOM, NOT ALL ABOUT A PAIR OF DIRTBAGS STEALING YOUR MOMENT.

[@darkmask5933]

Story 3: You never take over someone else's event to make your announcement. I don't care if its a wedding, a birthday, a baby shower, whatever. Sure, you can ask if you think you have that type of relationship with the host, but if they say no then that is the end of the conversation. Stop trying to use OP's wedding in order to announce ... what? That you dumped your boyfriend of eight years and now are with some loser who's still married and likes for you to piss on him? I still wonder just how that came up in conversation ... its also an extra layer of ick since OP is a girl, like was he telling her because he was hoping OP would be into it too? Ugh, gross. This guy is a loser (and not kink shaming anyone, but you don't just tell your girlfriend's family that you like doing kinky stuff).

[@Bleg94]

1. Story: It is a red flag in itself when someone insists on splitting the bill evenly instead of the (imo) normal you "pay for what you ordered" Had a few friends that tried that in the past, the boldest even ordered takeout for the next day and then wanted to split evenly

[@Gamergal_Val92]

Mark, your videos have been keeping my spirits up because it's been a rough week because of something involving my maternal grandfather. You and Poppy rock!

[@RoseKoneko]

Same, these videos helped me through a very sad week. I hope you’ll have have a better week next time.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

💜💜🤗🤗

[@kristinmartin2899]

S2: I hate the American health system! It’s horrible!!!! I couldn’t imagine being in a position of having to watch and support my sick child, go and beg my 17 year old for their college fund and still be left short. My heart is broken for everyone in that story. The system has well and truly screwed over their family.

[@pugsabi]

Dialysis is covered by Medicaid/Medicare. Dad might have medical debt, but the kid won't be without treatment.

[@robertx8020]

How do you know this is the US?

[@SilverMKI]

​@robertx8020 we can make a guess after 30+ years of the Internet spreading stories of American exceptionalism.

[@robertx8020]

@@SilverMKI It may make it more likely but nmot a proven fact

[@SilverMKI]

@@robertx8020 it doesn't have to be the US system in the story, but that also doesn't make the US system good or humane :D

[@dtee9053]

I love Mark and waffles!!😊😊😊

[@Merryfrances]

And Poppy!

[@Steampunkkids]

Story 2: I’m calling BS on the whole money for a new treatment thing. Outside of dialysis and a transplant, I don’t think anything else can be done (to the best of my knowledge). I think the Dad either had bad insurance, or chose the cheapest plan. Thus, he wanted OP’s money to pay off either the medical debt and/ or credit card debt.

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

Last story: NTA! Sister can either suck it up or stay away, and her boyfriend can bug off.

[@FirstNameLastName-mg1px]

Imagine being a grown ass woman and you don't have a job but what you do have is the nuts to ask one of the children whose home you helped destroy, for their college fund to help yall's affair baby. I would have CACKLED. Girl gfys fr and as for the dad, I'd go no contact. I understand they are in a tough spot but I just don't see a world where I'd ever ask a damn child for money. Unfortunately, he created a situation where the sins of the mother and father are affecting the child and that's on them.

[@Shenn3165]

Mom is a saint to help OP’s dad like that!

[@Grace_x68]

S1 This is testament to the saying that there is two kinds of people in life... Givers and takers

[@AndyyWithAY]

I was in the parking lot at the gym today and this guy drove by and his truck trying to talk to me. I thought he was trying to hit on me. He was asking where I got my headphones 😅 It was kinda weird

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

At least he didn't

[@AndyyWithAY]

@@broken_queer_but_fighting8589 right

[@Araraki-Itto1]

Story 3: OKAY WOW. OP I'm sorry but your sister won't come around until this little romance fantasy she has crumbles at her feet and she's determined to drag you along through it. Don't let her. I get she's your sister but dude, she'll make your life Hell before she wakes up. She's an adult and she herself needs to face the repercussions of her own actions. Cut off the cancer before it spreads.

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#3 - I think the edit tells the whole story; sis wants to use OP's wedding as her big reveal and take focus off of OP - can we say scapegoat and golden child (who apparently gives golden showers)? Yea, OP needs to just tell sis no for many reasons, but mostly to not take focus off the reason for the day in the first place. And EWWW!

[@blueberrymuffin9848]

What a roller coaster the last story is 😂

[@KatyBooksetc]

I'm from the UK and story 2 is heartbreaking - why the f🤬 is it a thing? Healthcare should just be free - why the hell wouldn't it be??? Everyone has the right to breathe - the American system is nothing more or less than blackmail - you're paying a fortune to keep breathing and it's pure evil.

[@paperkay]

I was once on the wrong end of this, but an accusation. As my grandma always gave me a few extra bucks to spend on trips with my friends, I thought it would make me seem cool if I paid for a few things for everyone myself, like a round of drinks or a meal... So one of my friend's father said: "Watch out for that one, she burns through her cash in two days and then expects everyone else to pay for her." It was a 100% untrue and it made me feel absolutely awful. A shitty thing to say about a kid, really, when it is nowhere near and never has been true.

[@Greeneyedcat99]

Her mother matched the money and he still wasn’t satisfied?! What a waste that money could have gone to her daughter’s college fund.

[@meghanmckenzie5273]

Last story; op can invite the sister's "bf" to meet the other relatives two days before the actual event so that wedding would be about the bride and future hubby. 🤔

[@cb9825]

Story 2 mom's response had the same energy as the story with stepdad saying that he will give the rude girl the same amount of college money as her deadbeat bio dad.

[@joshuapierce3085]

Story 3: OP should definitely disinvite her sister from her wedding as her sister WILL cause drama just being there. Either OP let's her sister bring the boyfriend and the entire wedding becomes about the sister as it becomes about introducing the boyfriend and explaining what happened to the old boyfriend and why their father doesn't like the new boyfriend. Or if she holds her ground and lets her sister come, her sister will be bad mouthing her the entire time and doing everything in her power to sabotage the wedding. At least if OP disinvites her sister, she can ask her mother for help with damage control beforehand to make sure that her sister can't turn the family against her. What it really seems to come down to is that the sister is trying to get OP to let her introduce this man at her wedding to show the extended family that even though they are going out because of an ongoing affair, OP has already accepted him and if OP won't go along with it, well, "misery loves company". If the sister goes down, she is going to try to take OP down with her.

[@jameslyons6655]

Story one. The creature in question is not a friend, never was. If someone makes no bones about using and abusing your generosity and laughs it off that person has zero respect, affection or regard for you. This thing actually calculated how much she could take advantage of OO, prepared to do so and informed her ahead of time because she was so comfortable in her entitlement.

[@wildridegaming874]

Story 2: If you want to add a little drama I think some sleuthing maybe in order, find out who this guys wife is and secretly invite her to it (explain the circumstances) make sure she is onboard with not telling her husband, then allow sister to invite her "boyfriend". Or simply allow them to invite their +1 which will likely be the same guy and watch him squirm trying to get out of this, 100% sure he will find some excuse not to be there if both his wife and mistress are asking him to join him at the same event.

[@veronicaferris6633]

Oh man!!! That first story! I had the same thing with me and 2 friends that went to Thailand from Australia 🙄😑 We went for 3 weeks, I wanted to only send about 1g and but had plenty more for backup on my cards (did need it) But the other 2 only had about 700 each for themselves I pretty much had to feed them for the last 4 days in Bangkok and I got to do stuff while they stayed at the hotel. We haven’t talked much in the last 10 years since that trip 🤨

[@buildtherobots]

Story 1: thank goodness OP found out about the friends plan before they left. I used to have a friend who had a weird unspoken mooching plan whenever I visited her where I found myself having to buy meals for her and whoever her boyfriend was at the time in addition to my own meals. We never discussed it but it became a thing where we would brainstorm the cheapest way to make lots of good food and I often payed for stuff that food stamps wouldn't. They were both bigger in frame than I am (all 3 of us are obese so no slight on that front) and I didn't factor into my budget that they tended to eat like twice as much food as me. All I can say is thank goodness for mc donalds having the 20 chicken nuggets for $5 deal. That deal saved me and my wallet several times.

[@mikel0000001]

That sister is looking for a golden opportunity to shower everyone with her new boyfriend’s presence

[@historictruecrime5119]

That was so nice of mom to match dad’s contribution to the college fund to help the boy. Dad should be grateful.

[@rockalleanv]

Last story, i would make her tell everyone about her relationship if i even consider inviting him to the wedding. This is not her day, it is your day

[@rhanerenai2797]

I don't understand why people want to have relationship with a cheater. "But he's still his father" Yeah, a bad one.

[@jenniferhanses]

Story 3: NTA for not wanting him there. And, as he's married, if you invited him, you'd also have to invite his wife. That's the polite thing to do. Perhaps mentioning that to your sister will get her to back off?

[@tfrtrouble]

I'm so glad someone in the comments mentioned that this mysterious not-covered-by-insurance treatment might well be an alternative therapy scam. This is a real risk in cases like this, including people asking for help on gofundme etc. These vultures deliberately pray on desperate people and get them to pay their life savings for nonsense "treatments", and people should make very sure they are not giving their money into supporting these scam artists.

[@janethughes9580]

Story 2: How incredibly kind is OPs mom?! Need money for your sick kid? Don't worry about child support. Then later, ADDING her own money to double the amount dad put into OPs college fund...that she's now taken out to return to dad! And smart. Now dad has no leverage, and can make no complaint about moneys he contributed...because he has them all now. While OP can rest guilt free knowing only moms money is covering college and not the money dad needs for little brother.

[@rebeccamcmanus4718]

Imagine that conversation. "This is my sister's new boyfriend, Johnny Pisskink. He's married."

[@RealengoPrimordialDemon]

The whole Caribbean is very expensive, the cheapest island is the Dominican Republic and only if you stay in a all included resort.

[@lindahenderson3819]

Story 2: I would have withdrawn Mom's contribution so Dad can see how little he contributed.

[@DameNickum]

Life saving care is not withheld in the US because a family cannot pay. There are hospitals dedicated to caring for sick kids that are run completely by donation. It’s almost impossible to pay for the care and medications needed after a transplant, Medicare disability comes into play here. Yes, Medicare is available to young people if they are disabled. There is financial assistance available for a sick child. No matter how much OP gives his father, it will NEVER be enough. The wife needs to work, the kids need to go to school, and social services needs to be involved for the health and welfare of that child.

[@quillacranshaw9234]

Not true. Some people fall just above the poverty line and can’t get extra help for medical. With kids, there may be more options, but I have know several people who have died due to no insurance and unable to pay. Most hospitals are for profit and don’t offer expensive care for free. In the US the number one reason for bankruptcy is medical debt.

[@DameNickum]

@@quillacranshaw9234 Okay, I’m an RN in california. Anyone who walks into the ER will be treated. It is against the law here to discriminate based on employment or ability to pay. If you fall above the poverty line, but have medical debt, that moves the line. I don’t know where you live, so cannot speak to your situation. Medical debt can be cleared by bankruptcy, where as student loans and Income taxes cannot. Most hospitals will work with you and help you apply for assistance. Private insurance will deny payment for treatments out of coverage, but state and federal health care will pay a portion or all. That said, I never looked at insurance or cared about ability to pay. Though once in a while we were aware of where the cost of care fell. 30 years of working in both ICU and ER, I never saw anyone turned away. My best friend lives out of state, and had recently changed jobs. She was dx with breast cancer. She was terrified about the cost. Not that she wouldn’t get care, but that she might be in debt forever. I started a go fund me campaign for her, and was able to raise a good chunk of money for her. The whole point is that there are other ways to take care of medical cost that are not trying to squeeze it out of a minor child.

[@ambrosiathames9505]

Story 2: glad someone mentioned that dialysis in the USA is paid for. There's still outside expenses, but they're definitely not being fully honest why they need that money.

[@thefallennero5265]

Story 3: I'd say invite the boyfriend then expose both for cheating on their partners, sister for cheating on her fiancé and boyfriend for cheating on his wife.

[@rogerrabbit80]

Invite the boyfriend - and his wife!

[@n.e9831]

Story 2: the gross inappropriateness of asking your child to sacrifice their future for their sibling that came after an affair... especially when his ex wife contributed most of the funds and then to guilt trip and try and manipulate when told no.. disgusting.. but then when the OP decides to give back his dads share and the ex wife matches that amount instead of being grateful he was upset it wasn't enough.. what a POS.

[@axepagode33626]

That song Golden Hour Jvke came to mind after hearing the last story. As opposed to Golden Hour, the lyrics are Golden Shower.

[@AlyssMadigan]

Story 2 - reminds me of the one where OP's dad sold her heirloom ring and the siblings cancer just came back right away and the act itself was proved pointless because now the sibling is still sick and the ring is gone. If OP gave the college fund, that's almost guaranteed 2 futures being ruined. It's sad that Brother is so young and ill but if OP wasn't around and didn't have the college fund THEIR MOTHER PROVIDED, dad would have no other options still. He just sees them as a money bag.

[@missesLMA]

The golden shower bit was so random🤣

[@Kayenne54]

Story 1: 7:26 And then I would quietly drop this "friend"....Nice time, never again.

[@sirenblack]

Ops mum should have taken back the money. Piece of cheek saying it’s not enough he should be grateful he is getting anything at all

[@impagain]

Story 2, I can't believe how ungrateful the dad is at the end????? Excuse me???? He was given WAY more than he was owed (he was owed $0), plus double what hed contributed, and he still has the balls to be mad at you? He should be grateful for the headstart he was just given and find another way to pay more. Still feels so sus.

[@lorrainemontagnon1537]

Cookies all baked now to relax with Mark and the waffle gang 😋

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Oo yum

[@lorrainemontagnon1537]

@OriginalContent89 Peanut Butter chip, chocolate chip, and Oatmeal raisin

[@Russman67]

Story 3: While I love my brothers, there is no way on the planet I want to hear anything about their sex lives. Big nope. That said, the sister deciding to make the wedding her huge reveal of the boyfriend that she left her other relationship for, that's also not necessarily single, but she loves him is another big nope. I think OP should prepare for her sister to be a no-show at the wedding. Hold her position.

[@mbyerly9680]

People who want to introduce controversy and life events should have their news spiked if the invitation can't be removed. A few weeks before the wedding, announce in your Facebook or where ever that sister has dumped her BF of many years and will be introducing her still married lover and fellow pee fetish at the wedding. Be sure to give him a gracious hello. Also include some champagne and pee jokes for use.

[@UsiUsiUsi]

Story 2: How little did he pay over the years that is wasn’t enough money to cover the starting costs of the half siblings’s cost and his mom so easily could part with even in cash? And when they are in such desperate need of money why don’t the wife work too? Weird priorities.

[@dimsufferer9951]

I’m thinking it’s in the hundreds or lower

[@CaenaGrey]

Story 2: NTA It’s called Medicare and Social Security. Kidney disease is a reason to be eligible. You can’t afford his treatments anyway. My dialysis treatments were $11,000 3x a week for 6 years. I wouldn’t have been able to afford it without the aid.

[@andredunbar3773]

Quick heads up about Story 3: OP revealed in a relevant comment that the wife of her sister's bf doesn't know about the relationship. Perhaps the wife should be invited, too.

[@samauraipc16]

I listen to these stories while working. Its getting to 4th quarter and its getting rough physically and mentally with all the trucks. I love listening. While i listen through the day my wife hears them at night so makes me feel less homesick. Keep soing what youre doing. Oh and mark theres a waffle funko pop you should into. Its super adorable. When i saw it, made me think of this channel

[@lindtplease1693]

Story 3. Sister's boyfriend doesn't like 'lower class people' but gets off on being pissed on. So classy 😅

[@kitarrah1422]

My ex-best friend was using me throughout our entire friendship (18 years), but I didn't realize/was desperate for a friend. She only ever wanted to hang out if I had money, and if we were going to shop and/or go out to eat or something that cost money. She was always taking advantage of my kindness and generosity. If I had received a gift card for my birthday or Christmas, she would say "Let's go spend it!" When shopping, she would say something along the lines of "Oh, I just LOVE this!", then make a sad face, because she couldn't afford it, knowing that I would probably buy it for her. If we were out to eat, she would typically order either the most expensive entree or something that cost more than what I was getting. Sometimes, she would even get a strawberry daiquiri or something alcoholic, an appetizer, and the entree. Then she would always want dessert. If the restaurant didn't have a dessert she liked, she would insist that we get ice cream or frozen yogurt on the way back to my house. Oh, and she would often go to the bathroom when the check came, hoping that I would pay it. Or she'd say "I'll get the tip!" More often than not, she'd try and tip the server with a $1.00 winning scratch off ticket! I'd always be appalled by that, so I would have to pay for the tip, too. I finally had had enough after several incidents that opened my eyes to what she was really like.

[@xforeverknightx]

Perfect channel to listen to whilst space trucking on Star Citizen

[@WabbitHunter68]

My story: Many, many years ago I was supposed to go on holiday with my life-long best friend to Verona, Italy. I was living in London at the time, so sent her a cheque for my half, she cashed it and was supposed to have paid but didn't. Found out she hadn't after the travel agent rang to tell me that she'd booked it but hadn't paid a penny. Never got the money back and never spoke to her again.

[@WabbitHunter68]

@@LostSoulchild89 I was young and stupid, so it just never came to mind to do it.

[@shrodzmartz]

I live in the Caribbean and when the girls in story 1 talked about relying on buses for transportation I cackled.

[@joeschmo622]

What kind of insurance doesn't cover dialysis or other treatments, unless it's something "experimental"? Methinks they're just trying to get the bux to maybe prevent a foreclosure on their house or something, and are using a medical reason ("Gimme bux or he'll diIiIiIiIie!!!") to move things along.

[@danishaussie63]

S2: Did the father really say it wasnt enough even after the mum contributed the same amount he had when she didnt have to. I actually wouldve taken that amount back and be damned to him!!! I think I also wouldve made a few phonec calls to see if it actually was true that they had to pay for the bills or is he just scamming to get money. His attitude is mind blowing!!!

[@Mamakaymmkay]

Story 2. My kids dad and I had to use a study to pay for our sons genetic testing to find out what was wrong with him as he was dying. He was 6 months old. They found it, only 60 people in the United States have this genetic disorder and we would have never found it unless we used the study. He's 2 now and still incredibly sick but he's alive.

[@jennilynne1977]

I hope everyone is having a great day/afternoon/night! Peace ☮️, hugs 🤗 and love 😘!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

🤗🤗💜💜

[@IrisAsuras]

Story 2 - Mom was kinder than she had to be.

[@VidWatcher01]

Me: "Golden showers? What the hell is a 'Golden Shower'?" Also Me: "Ohhhhh Golden Sh- Oh Ew! Ew! EWWWWWWWW!!!!WTF?!?!?"😖