My Coming Out Story

[@hoju3599]

Her mother already knew she was gay at 4??? Girl, that's what I call gaydar

[@lavacaqueri5454]

My mom knew when I was around 6, but that was cause she found me and my best friend playing doctors 😅

[@ishipitallofit.3639]

Mine knew since I was a toddler

[@nabszains]

@@lavacaqueri5454 mine knew because i proposed a girl at 7 in front of my whole ass Indian family lmoa, unfortunately they thought it's a joke/kid thing, well mom and bro knows still because i kept telling her about my new girl crushes and shizz and when i found why i am like this and the labels, i told her about them.

[@jaessoul]

i can tell that my 6 year old cousin is gonna end up liking girls

[@jaessoul]

mine doesn’t know

[@Smudgie33]

When I came out my mum’s response was “Oh thank god, I thought you were gonna tell me you were pregnant!” My brothers comment was “thanks for ruining lesbian porn for me...” lol Brilliant reactions from both of them.

[@toolazy9853]

Lucky girl

[@maddenb884]

Omg my mom said the same exact thing

[@systemaparasitica]

Can I be your brother's friend?

[@Nehaiojvgj]

My mom accepted it but she was weird with me for like a month. My dad was the one who always knew it. He was like: Yep I noticed it when you were 12 and you never brought boyfriends so you're like 24 I know you're homossexual hahaha

[@ricasketches]

LOL best reaction was ur brothers 😂😂 but u r lucky

[@iridescent9501]

Being a femme and attracted to other femme girls is so hard because they don't directly know you're gay and you don't see it directly about them either. It's always hard to find girls like me.

[@srta.carlota696]

same fuck

[@josermtz]

ask them

[@Hello-jm3qq]

Rrrrreeeeeeeellllllllllaaaaaaaatttttttttbbbbbbbbbllllllllleeeeeeee

[@valanaaaa]

Right? I’m a femme who likes femmes and it’s like impossible.. swear to God I need to tattoo “I like girls” on my forehead

[@hyoyeonsblondehair4315]

Iridescent Same. I literally went to uni one time bringing a drink in my rainbow "Love for all" cup just to put it out there that I AM INTO WOMEN PLS TALK TO ME

[@cristinaportuesi483]

One year and a half ago my dad made this huge homophobic comment about gay people on tv and i was devastated by that. The day after i wanted to hurt myself, but not phisically cause it was summer and everybody would have seen the scars, so i decided to tell the most homophobic girl in my school that i was gay, i did it and she surprised me, she hugged me and she said that it was okay and that i shouldn't worry about what other people think... she then became closer to me, she always talked to me in class and then she became my best friend. I am so thankful for her, she helped me with everything i went through and protected me from the gossip that ran around my school about me. She gave up on her friend cause he made fun of me and i felt so special and loved. Never judge a book by it's cover, it might surprise you :) Thank you Asia

[@JesusForgivesAllSins]

Cristina Portuesi - That's amazing 💗💗 I'm really happy for you. You encouraged me and made me happy 😊 thank you

[@elysianpattier_]

You're blessed 💙 I wish I had that kind of friend. It doesn't help I live in quite conservative country

[@nataliahall236]

thats so sweet! i hope you two continued to be friends

[@ot7아미]

That’s so wholesome. I hope you are doing better now then ever. :)

[@Hello-jm3qq]

Cristina Portuesi congrates I paused the video to read this comment. :)

[@iKidrauhlsWifey]

You should talk about dealing with insecurities while being with a girl for the first time (insecurities as relationship, bed, not being experienced, etc). I'm sure it would help a lot of people as well as me.

[@silverwolf9642]

iKidrauhlsWifey I ageee 100%

[@okkmelissaa9153]

YES PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE

[@levenitt1845]

Pleasee, it would be so helpful!!

[@ejm3381]

iKidrauhlsWifey yes good suggestion

[@joanamargarida12]

Yasss please!!

[@loisannelouis4644]

"Lesbian" has such a negative feel because it's used as a joke/insult so I prefer the blanket term "gay" because its just flat out easier to say

[@spookynoodles1929]

Yes, and when you come out, you say, "I'm gay" or "I like girls" but saying that your a lesbian, it's kind of weird.

[@angelavela7414]

I would argue that this is a reason to take back the term and redefine it in the positive way it should be perceived.

[@notnotneutral15]

It also has an unwanted sexualised connotation to it due to straight men constantly fetishising us e.g male-marketed lesbian porn, unicorn hunting, threesomes etc. The term has become a fantasy for MEN, rather than an orientation for WOMEN. Sick sad world we live in.

[@alexharworth8003]

Same

[@isfngjdfoijgidjfiojg]

@@angelavela7414 it's her label, dont "argue" to make a statement. She doesn't feel comfortable. I am gay as well and am not comfortable with lesbian as a label as well.

[@valoriharris1682]

I feel like it's a trend for all Lesbians to be this naturally beautiful

[@saramanning7630]

Valori Harris it's a good trend

[@GabiBattaglia]

Yes!!

[@Ins0mniacSl0th5]

Your profile picture fits amazingly with your comment 😂

[@sugacookie_filmsxo_4515]

I wouldn’t say I’m beautiful but I wouldn’t say I’m ugly

[@phosphenevision]

It's evolution

[@kennedyjarvis271]

why are you so pretty?

[@昕馬]

Kennedy Jarvis Yes ! Why ?

[@ThePhoenixScream]

Genes

[@NSB-me8fv]

I noe rite

[@kayleyarianator3128]

Literally

[@petrathorsty3833]

My thought literally everytime I see her 😂

[@audaciouslykari8368]

being femme and approaching women! i need this to be a video.

[@franka91]

AudaciouslyKari just wait for them to approach you lol

[@rush_amanda]

franka91 omg no! lol My girlfriend always waited to be approached. (she's like 90% gay 10% straight and never had a girlfriend until she was 24 years old and I asked her to be my girlfriend) Anyways, she was stuck with boys that whole time and never even realized how gay she was cause she was waiting to be approached! That's sad, don't do it! lol

[@annamariebaca8235]

AudaciouslyKari yes I struggle with this so much !

[@lytheprettygirl]

AudaciouslyKari yessss

[@felicia1624]

Being femme approaching other femme women as well... ugh my struggle

[@marcijewell2195]

Just came across this video, thanks.....my 14 your old daughter just came out a couple of months ago. Myself and her father as well as her siblings have all been super supportive. She doesn't know how much easier it is now a days it is to be gay/lesbian. I am so happy that she gets to grow up and come out today and not when I was growing up. I'm going to have her watch this video.

[@hioiij]

This is so lovely to hear. 💖

[@anastasisb7066]

awww I wish u were my mom ;~; ♡♡♡

[@jaessoul]

thank you for caring about her

[@ntilshan1713]

I prefer gay more than lesbian too!! I thought there was something wrong with me.

[@jordanhamilton5692]

WeAreEqual I say I'm gay usually too, there's such a negative attitude toward the word lesbian I feel like

[@CammieScott]

yeah idk what it is. It's nothing about the connotation of the word I just don't like how it sounds lol

[@catwebb6676]

Do you think, that you don't like using the word lesbian to describe yourself, as saying your gay is more accepted by heterosexuals? I think ya quite brave to say this, I think its interesting made me think.Maybe you need to do a video on whole gender labelling,get some other youtubers in clips to what they use or whatever. Just a thought.

[@vibevendetta9080]

Agreed, but not sure why!

[@savb.2229]

WeAreEqual I definitely prefer being called gay too but I live in Germany and we don't really use the label gay for lesbians😮

[@Nina-gn8mz]

I also prefer the word gay over lesbian, idk it just feels better for me to say

[@brianafinian5719]

Same!

[@eyitsyaboi4527]

Same i feel you on that im attracted to girls but i hate the lesbian label um ive been around (all straight and very religious) a few people who have said some shit about lesbians so that title has been tainted for me also i dont like the stereotype for the lesbian label "the you must be butch you must hate men must dick envy and your trying to be a man" like UGH god

[@homitb]

Nina this is my case as well!!!

[@lilithurdreamdemon]

Army 💜💜💜

[@sinahmarie8647]

I'm Gay 🌈 omg this is the first time I have written this down 🤗

[@sinahmarie8647]

I'm sixteen 😅😅😂😂Fit Thrive UK

[@backyardsquidxo231]

Fit Thrive UK that's so rude to laugh. even if she was 11 that shouldn't even be a problem. grow up.

[@sinahmarie8647]

BackyardSquidxo thank you 🤗

[@rosacosta8639]

Sinah Mayer you go girl! Im happy for you :-)

[@sinahmarie8647]

Rosa Costa thank you 🤗

[@impossiblegirl1593]

Im only 13 and i know im gay. I told my mum and i messed it up big time. She accepted it but she questioned me and said i am too young to understand what it all means. I froze and i havent talked to her about it since. I have told friends and they are accepting but my mum is a bit more difficult. Its like she cant accept it. She talks about when i bring a "boy" home or about me having a "husband". I dont feel accepted by her. I know she loves me but it still hurts

[@impossiblegirl1593]

Sam Possum thank you ❤

[@masked6701]

Good luck 🧡

[@sachiec7039]

A similar thing happened to me. I’m 13 and bi but when I came out to my mom she said I might be but I shouldn’t tell people because you can’t know till you’ve had sex. I’ve told my friends anyway and they all have been great about it. But my mom and I haven’t talked about it since

[@Olivia-ny6nl]

wow you are really brave

[@charlottetipping4645]

Sachie C this literally happened to me omg and she told me “dont tell dad because i dont know what hes going to say” and that scared the absolute hell out of me

[@ellietravers4641]

"Mom, Dad, I'm a teen"

[@CammieScott]

😂OH MY GOD I'M CHANGING THE TITLE NOW!

[@CammieScott]

wait nothing sounds right now dammit

[@kassgal7213]

haha you actually did.you are amazing.love from Greece

[@ellietravers4641]

Cammie Scott omg hahaha 😂😂😂 didn't expect a reply 😂😂

[@kearabaez3017]

Ellie Travers well played 😂😂😂😂

[@sierraadams2506]

I'm not even gay but these videos are so nice to watch. Through you and other social media users I get a better understanding and broadened love for those in the LGBTQ community. You're changing the world Cammie. Keep it up (: ❤️

[@kaylenkayphenie4418]

I came out to my parents this Wednesday. Being able too see this video after me coming out didn't go the way I wished it would, I feel so comforted and okay about myself. Thank you

[@CammieScott]

I'm sorry it didn't go exactly how you hoped it would but I'm glad this video could help! Sending so much love to you!

[@atlaskat7980]

I'm straight, I don't know why I'm here. Good luck to you all though!

[@kmc7975]

Thank you !😊

[@catboymiles7224]

A Female Orange Thank you!!

[@ava_3193]

Thanks!

[@ash1118]

Everyone is a little gay

[@courtney9865]

@Hockeygirl 05 Then every gay person is also a little straight.

[@tatumnlopez8831]

She has the prettiest eyes

[@mitziemax3042]

my mom to my family: "oh she can't be gay she likes boys too much" Me: damn, I'm a better actress than I thought!

[@ruby7458]

i keep coming out to people when i am drunk and don't remember it until they ask me about it :') I guess it helps with my confidence...

[@tessafrk]

Ruby Happend also to me, but it's okay! :D

[@CammieScott]

oh my gosh I think this is the story of so many people!

[@lornerzb6411]

Cammie Scott I always thought I was just a Tomboy, I got married and had children because I thought that's what u had to do and now at 35 I feel I know for sure I'm a lesbian, but don't know how to come out 😱

[@Infi232]

i came out to my mom drunk so yeah it was no or never for me heh

[@jjmartinez105]

Ruby that's how I came out to my best friend

[@beaumartinez6899]

Yeah lesbian is a noun, not an adjective, and although I'm proud to be who I am, I don't like calling myself a lesbian either. Like I HAVE hazel eyes, I am not hazel eyes. It's a part of me, not all there is to me.

[@RLH-xv4ld]

Nice one!

[@ariel8535]

Mia Kelly basically u don’t like labels or something to define u honestly same

[@tailormadetalorraid]

i fuck with this comment

[@grapefives7762]

True

[@otakuofmine]

its a noun AND an adjective....

[@findingashlie]

question: how to flirt or even start dating girls?? im out and everything but i feel so awkward about approaching girls and stuff

[@Infi232]

story of my life

[@iKidrauhlsWifey]

Ashlie yaaas!! honestly can we all just meet up and just date each other and stop worrying and stuff?!

[@levenitt1845]

Same! It's really hard to approach girls differently when you are used to treat them as friends :(

[@alexarmstrong5235]

dating apps 😉 they are a good way to start and they work!!

[@alyssavocadoo]

a date gathering, sounds good to me!

[@madisongoodwin5539]

i love the way you talk to the camera as if it's a person. it's makes me feel like i'm there with you talking one on one.

[@SmarujDrzwi]

I will come out to my parents this month wish me luck I'm so scared :oo

[@souzanatsiftzi8822]

SmarujDrzwi good luck!

[@CammieScott]

good luck babe!!

[@lindsaydanielle0604]

SmarujDrzwi good luck! You'll do great😊

[@mclovins8]

SmarujDrzwi You will do a great job. Try not to get nervous. I know , that's impossible. Just know that there are soooo many people who love and support you. If you need anything just let us know. Best wishes, Shan M.

[@emmscott1322]

Good luck!

[@sophiamatus2962]

I came out a week ago today to my mom and best friends because of you! :) I've never been happier

[@shivani_]

Sophia Matus hey congrats! 🏳️‍🌈

[@nowthisisstalking2888]

A 19:46 MINUTES LONG VIDEO MEANS A LONG TIME TO STARE AT YOUR EYES, YOUR FACE, YOUR HAIR, YOUR EVERYTHING EVEN YOUR COUCH HAHA

[@CammieScott]

woo glad you liked it! It's definitely a bit lengthy!

[@kassgal7213]

please everytime a long video

[@nowthisisstalking2888]

I WILL LOVE ALL OF YOUR VIDEOS SHORT OR LONG AS LONG AS IT IS YOURS AND AS LONG AS YOUR HAPPY DOING IT

[@kassgal7213]

+nowthisis stalking 👍👌❤

[@catwebb6676]

Loving the sofa btw

[@wizmizz]

my mom always talks about my future with love and says "whenever you get a boyfriend or girlfriend" and i havent told her so maybe she already knows or just wants me to feel safe telling her in the future if it ever happened

[@utsahn9411]

ZuperWilmzz awwwww that’s the cutest ❤️

[@user-bb5qt3rw3e]

My mom does that too

[@realpassionlife]

That's really awesome. So lucky to have an open minded and loving understanding mother!!! 💛💛💛🙌🏼

[@TheMissMBass]

I am out to everyone but my family. And it really sucks because literally everything I've ever owned/had/ achieved is thanks to my parents but I just know they would never accept me and as soon as I come out our relationship would be gone. And this is a valid fact unfortunately, not just a fear :( However I am debating maybe losing their love and respect is better than living a constant lie because I am just so tired of it.

[@CammieScott]

it's such a hard decision when you don't feel like yourself around them but also are afraid to lose them. Keep in mind though, people will surprise you!

[@alwaysambitiousalivia8149]

Mxrgarita wait till you're able to support yourself before you come out

[@TheMissMBass]

AlwaysAmbitiousAlivia my family does not support me money wise. I live on my own and in a different country from them even. What I dont wanna lose is our relationship

[@Simplyhowiseeit]

Mxrgarita; understandable. I wouldn’t want to tell my parents either or my family. My family is very religious. I pray one day you can tell them. I see you have a desire to. Who knows they may surprise you and you may feel very good once you do.

[@WmABeetstra]

Solid gold gay girl! I love this generation of young vloggers. Simple, fresh, honest, real. I can't say enough good about them. And I'm a seventy-five year old gay male--you "kids" are forcing me to rethink all my old reflexes about everything. I'm so happy to see what I could only dream about in the mid-fifties actually come to pass. Don't lose what you've got!

[@tashaandrew2132]

My parents, family and family friends are incredibly homophobic, in their case because of their Christian beliefs, if I were to come out it would possibly ruin almost everything, but I feel suffocated by pretending this isn't me and by never being with the people I want to be with. This video made me feel validated, thank you x

[@CammieScott]

I know it's scary but sometimes it's worth potentially not having relationships with family in order to live your truth. You have to decide what is most important for making yourself happy. You also won't know what will happen until you tell them. Wishing you well!

[@kas5115]

Tasha Andrew I know it's scary to come out to those who are extremely religious, but I promise you it will be okay. I was so scared to come out to my parents too. My dad accepts me and my mom doesn't but they both still love me very much. It felt so relieving to tell them though. It doesn't feel like I'm pretending to be someone I'm not anymore. My mom doesn't talk about it but I'm glad she knows. I don't feel like I have to push them away anymore. If your family doesn't accept you, then there will be one person who does. Whether that's a friend or relative. Someone will care and love you endlessly!

[@MariaAlvarez-ck1gb]

I am going through this same thing right now. We are christians, but my parents are extremely religious and homophobic. I am terrified to come out to them. I am only a college freshmen and I feel more at home when I'm in college than when I'm in my own home. because people in school don't care and I can be myself but at home I have to hide all my gayness and pretend to like boys, even though I am bi, I like girls more than boys. but I am terrified to come out to my parents because since they are religious and homophobic people I am scared that they won't accept me and make me go to a psychologist, or even worse kick me out of the house. I already came out to one of my friends and she was very supportive because she is also bi and we campout to each other around the same time. of course I think that eventually I will come out to my family because I don't want to feel like this for my whole life. And I don't want to marry a person that I don't love just because I didn't have the courage to come out to my family.

[@martinsakmens8352]

Cammie Scott cool ❤❤❤❤❤

[@markotark]

I'm just an average Finnish guy and i was talking with a female co-worker about a another woman who was returning to the company after a short period of working abroad and said something to the effect that she might've broken up with her girlfriend who had been the main reason for her going Norway. This returning woman was openly gay but maybe that just hadn't occurred to the this co-worker. My co-worker then looked at me with a shocked impression on her face and said the following, and i quote, "How dare you insult the returning woman like that. Don't you know that it's like worst thing that you can call a person?" I politely answered her: "When i say someone is gay or lesbian, it's just a word that tells me that a friend, an acquaintance or anybody at all happens to prefer their own sex in a romantic sense. I think that it's you who is insulting people by thinking that these people are somehow the worst possible things due to their sexuality. Then i walked away...

[@georgialee4788]

markotark Ggiig.

[@CammieScott]

Where do you think I'll be traveling to for Pride? 🤔 comment on my newest IG pic and in my first live chat I'll be revealing where it is! (link to live chat in description box)

[@kristellrosado8975]

Cammie Scott London 😂😂😂

[@Marta-cr2xu]

Cammie Scott I wish you come to World Pride in Madrid this June! 😭

[@mclovins8]

Sandy Eggo 😏 since it's "America's Finest City"! Love living in the whale's vag, but totally understand if you decide to go up to our neighbors of the great white north. I hear Toronto has a pretty amazing PRIDE festival.

[@catwebb6676]

London Pride Baby ; -)

[@jordanhamilton5692]

Cammie Scott Seattle?? London?

[@lexelibar13]

since im bi everyone thinks "oh you're just saying that to be cool" and no one believes me. And I am questioning whether i'm gay bc whenever i get into a relationship with a boy, i like them but then i just have no feelings towards them and i break up with them but i have crushes on boys and its confusing.

[@AshleyandSkooter]

Lexi Lou I’m the exact same way, I’ve dated guys and every time I end up going from being really into the relationship to have absolutely no feelings for them. It’s so annoying, but I’m scared to date girls because I’m still in high school. I just want to graduate so I can freely try to find my person.

[@didi_9661]

Omg same this is so frustrating. At first I'm so invested and head over heels for them then suddenly I stop caring. This has happened with both genders so it's not about the sexuality anymore but it's still weird and kinda scary...

[@ellygreen244]

Omg same!

[@faithcartledge3899]

Lexi Louthor Literally TONIGHT i discovered myself a bit better. ive decided that i am have biromantic tendencies, but im homosexual. Ive been calling myself bisexual for the past few years but recently ive realized that the only reason i would call myself that is so that if i needed to, i could turn back and date a guy. but seriously you dont NEED to identify as anything in particular, as long as you have a general idea of what you want ❤️

[@jojodezent1]

Same. I have never dated a girl before and have only had feelings for one girl before and I really hope, that this is gonna change with time or when I will date the first girl or find the right person...

[@swimgi6123]

Loving the "conversational" videos Cam!

[@CammieScott]

😘

[@saskiakoster6039]

Cammie.. oh gosh.. when i came out my mom kicked me out the house ... i was homeless for a year

[@moltenkitty7157]

Saskia Koster i'm so sorry :(

[@elysianpattier_]

How are you now? I wish you're living a better life

[@henriw8490]

Oh my god... I’m so sorry That’s terrible

[@jaessoul]

aww i’m sorry :(( how are u now

[@zahraboufala9373]

My GOSH! Hope ur not all alone in it... honestly

[@Sina72712]

Cam: "I'm so hot"Me: "believe me I KNOW girl" lol love you

[@rileyrose1193]

Wow I'm 20 and came out for the first time at 14 and somehow still needed this ❤️

[@zahraboufala9373]

Riley Rose it´s because we’re coming out our whole life and that´s a fact. We’ll always meet new people and we need to remind ourself who we are sometimes because life is so irregular

[@meghanb3865]

Ditto, I say gay as well. Lesbian just doesn't sound right to me for some reason.

[@crystalcampbell8256]

Meghan Productions yup same here

[@Yes-ey4wq]

Meghan Productions that's like a gay boy calling himself a lesbian because he doesn't like the word gay lmao

[@meghanb3865]

Phanic! at the fall out romance . Actually it's not. Gay is an actual thing, while lesbian on the other hand is a label. As you stated in your comment " gay boy " the gay comes before the boy, used in context that the boy is gay. I too am gay, obviously. So I'd rather be called gay than a lesbian. As I tell people, if you want to label me, just call me by the name my mom gave me.

[@naia6642]

Phanic! at the fall out romance Well not exactly. Lesbian falls under the category of gay so its like, say, a Japanese person feeling more comfortable calling them self asian whereas a non japanese asian calling them self japanese wouldnt be true

[@Yes-ey4wq]

Wendaddys forehead yeah I guess that makes sense but it's still a little vague that people are basically refusing to just admit to what they actually are, like what's so bad with calling yourself or having others call you a lesbian or something similar to that case if you actually are? But your point was well made.

[@madisongowdy8389]

I nervously told my step mum that I am bi and she said "so what? Me too." I thought, because she is married to my homophobic dad (who may not know) that she was going to be homophobic and rude. She has since been amazing in that sense

[@sirius-lynatanna4595]

I am so scared to come out but you are forever inspiring me and encouraging me to be myself. ❤️

[@CammieScott]

take your time and do whatever it takes to find your happiness!

[@Tara........]

It's a very liberating experience but I've found that you never stop coming out. You do it over and over again.

[@katyrawilliams8362]

I just recently came out to a group of my closest friends and one of the girls was constantly talking about how she couldn't stand the thought of something being gay or how homophobic she was but once I came out she was more supportive than any of the other girls that I told and it really shocked me

[@karinaaguilar4950]

🌈 I also came out to a group of my friends in 7th Grade. I came out because I had a major crush on one of my friends (who was the only one I didn't tell), I was so scared that they wouldn't be supportive because the word "gay" was said very often in conversations. It made me think my friends might be homophobic. But at the end they were Super supportive. ☺🙏 People can definitely surprise you!

[@aubreyh1048]

Still at the coming to terms with myself stage, but becoming more and more accepting day by day. Videos like this helps with this process so much. Thanks for the words of encouragement, support, and love Cam!

[@annaalbritton1286]

Hearing your story coming out to your parents really made me smile. That's never ever ever going to happen to me, but it really does give me hope that non-homophobic people do exist. Never feel guilty for experiences that teach you how to love other people in ways that you've been loved.

[@LexxLifts]

"It took you a while to accept who you are so, give them a while to accept it as well". BEST COMING OUT ADVICE EVER. I only wish I'd seen this like a year ago. Thanks Cammie.

[@frafra9654]

Shows actually help SO much. For me, it was grey's anatomy, specifically Arizona Robbins. She is proud of who she is and she openly says that she is gay.. She was inspiring!

[@samanthagiraud1405]

my family found out about my girlfriend and things got pretty tough and i've been holding grudges due to some of the ways my family has decided to take it and this video has helped me more than i could ever say in words. it's crazy how these videos really help and impact some of our lives. thank you

[@bea9913]

I just really love this kinda of videos you do, like "it's okay to not always be okay", "self love"... I can see myself in a lot of the things you say. So thanks for that❤

[@ainesophia2946]

I came out/fell out to my whole family and my grandparents a few days ago and it was the scariest thing I have ever done... not to mention they also found out I've been in a secret long distance relationship with my girlfriend for 2 years. Thank you Cammie for this video, time can feel long and painful, especially when you just want to be in that "everything is fine" place with your family. This video has inspired me and gave me hope. I can't wait for the day I am in the place you are in! Hugs from Ireland xx

[@claramadeleineb.4328]

could you talk about how to come out after ending a "straight" relationship without hurting the person you broke up with, or also about how to deal with people who don't believe you're gay based on your dating history? thanks so much :)

[@frostyskeletons8950]

I unfortunately don’t have advice besides being honest with yourself. My Hetero breakup was actually initiated by the dude because I had become so closed off because I knew I wasn’t attracted to him but didn’t have the guts to end it. Our conversation went like this: Him: I want to break up Me: oh thank god Him: … Me: … Me: I think I see myself ending up with a woman… Him: uh yeah….I know :/ It probably would’ve saved us all a lot of trouble if I had just been honest. If you are scared to mention your sexuality to them, you can go a more vague route. Unfortunately breakups are rarely easy and ripping the bandaid off is often the best way to go.

[@NicoleByron]

I keep watching this because literally everyone in my life knows, except my parents. They will disown me and this alongside other life issues and stresses has caused me to develop serious anxiety and panic. I'm hoping some day soon I can let them know and be free of the pain. It's crazy what it can do to you. I've known for 10 years, and have been having these episodes for 5... It takes a toll, but watching videos like this helps me know there is an end to it all. So, thank you. Hoping I can share my journey along KZbin through my own videos and channel, you've inspired me.

[@valeriava1952]

I have never felt more identified with anything in my entire life omg, you really do read my mind Cam. Thank you so much❤️

[@hayhayfidolize]

I'm 24 and I promised myself to come out to my mom this year. But you're right, the courage to even get started is so hard! And not being able to share this to my mom is putting a dent in our relationship. I love my mom so much and I want to grow closer with her. But wearing your story about your parents made me cry and gave me hope. Thanks Cammie

[@moimoikkelis5535]

I can't wait to have a girlfriend 😁❤💛💚💙💜🌈

[@duolingoowo4855]

Same 😔

[@hey_thankstommy5269]

Ootko suomalainen😨

[@karinaaguilar4950]

🌈one day one day!☺🙏

[@kayleyarianator3128]

Sameeee

[@PipByMac]

You sound like a sad, desperate loser

[@brookemarangi2706]

I'm so jealous of your coming out story. Not to say that it was easy by any means, but you talking about how loving and accepting your parents were about it just makes me sad that my parents are never gonna be like that.

[@FueledByHufflepuff]

the word lesbian DOES have a negative connotation and have for decades thanks to many straight ppl. to them, when someone says the term "lesbian" they either think of someone who's a stereotypical masc d*ke or something explicitly sexual between women. the first is a generalization and both are dehumanizing not regarding ppl as real life individuals and so i don't think it's fair for you to say that you don't like to use the word for yourself but that it "isn't bc of the connotation." if there wasn't such a "dirty" or masculine connotation to the word i highly doubt that many lesbians would have a problem with calling themselves "lesbians." i used to be the exact same way. i hated the term and only referred to myself as gay for years bc "lesbian" didn't seem to fit and it was awkward to notice that i didn't "feel" like a "lesbian." i still casually call myself gay, bc i am but now i'm fine with identifying as a lesbian and don't feel weird when straight ppl or gay men refer to me as one. i'm not saying it's wrong to avoid identifying as a lesbian. i know first hand how the disconnect and awkwardness from the label feels. but it doesn't help our community, especially younger lesbians who are often struggling with their sexuality, their image and how others view them, at all to allow other's negative use/perceptions of the word to make us not feel comfortable with using it for ourselves and to avoid it when it isn't a derogatory word in itself. "lesbian" shouldn't be seen as a dirty word, especially not from those within the community.

[@catwebb6676]

very well put, I think Cammie now needs to do another video on this point, lots of women that identify with calling themselves Lesbian are not going to like Cammie's comment on using word gay instead. Personally I don't care what anyone wants to identify to, some ppl have real problem with someone calling them self non gender, its up the person at end of day and what makes them happy, as long as ya doing it for yourself and not to fit in or make someone else comfortable with the fact ya lesbian then its cool.

[@FueledByHufflepuff]

Cat Webb its def a personal thing and i know from my own experience that my feelings about the label didn't change over night. it takes a lot of self reflection and asking herself questions as to why she feels the way she does in order to begin to get answers. its a process.

[@camilagrgicevic2890]

Kiara Teasley I am a lesbian and I don't really have a problem with the word when I say it in English, but when I call myself lesbian in my native language(Spanish) I feel like I am saying a nasty word. It could be bc when someone wants to laugh about my sexuality they always try to make me feel embarrased by calling me that, but I have never met a english speaker who used it as negative.

[@tenzero5274]

U gave some very good point and I also feel like even within the community or with allies "gays" are more accepted and even more represented tbh But u need to remember it is still her opinion and what she's comfortable with. I think as viewers we need to remember that she's still just a person who may or may not have a different case from you, she can't represent what everyone feels.

[@emilycornfoot521]

i swear i was the only one who hates the lesbian title

[@BradColemanisHere]

I've heard many coming out stories but this is one of the most thoughtful, smart things I've heard. You're explaining both sides to people and that's just fantastic. I've only seen two videos of you and both I was struck by how well spoken and smart you are. Keep it up.

[@Rissa615]

Notification squad ❤️❤️ cammie you been glowing lately like what do you mean you're simmering I hope you meant that in a good way. And lol HEY IM BI SEXUAL 👋👋

[@CammieScott]

bc I was so sweaty 😂

[@Rissa615]

Cammie Scott bruhhhh

[@IzarraStar]

So I'm crying listening to your story right now. I have never had someone to look up to, just like you were saying but I feel like you have become that for me and I just really appreciate you being this voice and telling your story. It really is affecting lives.

[@dreamcreate31]

I almost can’t even believe you’re real 💕 you’re so beautiful and so sweet. I love your personality so much and I’m so so soooo happy I found your channel 😍

[@girlhappy6442]

Well said “It took you some time to figure out yourself so give your parents some time too” 👏 Really well put

[@nicolaclarke2581]

You're right about small comments meaning a lot to someone who is closeted. A few years ago when I was discovering my sexuality, a friend told me that she couldn't be friends with a gay person. I took this so literally and it scared me into thinking I was straight for another year or so. I thought I would lose all my friends. We were only 11, but now we're 16 and she's the biggest ally. She doesn't even know I'm gay yet.

[@MsDickerz]

I've watched this so many times from start to finish. Really hits home for me. I'm in a such a difficult situation at the moment with finding myself and who I am. I've had boyfriends my whole life and never thought I was in to girls until last summer! Still coming to terms with everything! This helped a lot though, thank you so much Cammie. 💖💖

[@anncannbann]

I will come out to my mom this week.Wish me luck.OH god I'm so scared!!!

[@louiseg-c6034]

yeah!!

[@amberisabel9474]

Bani Madan good luck girllll

[@juliannaasaro7272]

good luck i am wishing you the best!

[@lernjergi6893]

Bani Madan how did it go

[@francescajarrett4317]

Good luck. Wishing you the best! x

[@AllieandSam]

Ugh, Cammie, I relate to so much of this. I remember all of these little comments people made to me about people being gay or me being gay before I came out. They don't remember it at all and it's no big deal to them but I internalized it all so hard and it made coming out to those people soooo much harder.

[@ruby7458]

I love South of Nowhere! I wish there were more shows like that

[@CammieScott]

it was AMAZING right?!

[@ruby7458]

Cammie Scott Omg you replied!!

[@SingingInTheRain92]

@Ruby omg but that scene where Spencer shows up at Ashley's place wearing just a trenchcoat that she takes off...

[@mywillyfelloff1617]

I used to watch that show when i was a kid i fucking lived it. And lol Ashley was sexy and her voice was just yes

[@keenlearner57]

I was talking to one of my gay friends about coming out fears and just everything going on in my life and these few words have helped me incredibly even if I've only come out to 3 people so far. She said "Those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter." It's been so helpful for me and getting thru questioning my sexuality on my own so I hope this can help someone else the way it's helped me.

[@melc8309]

i started getting feelings for a girl fairly recently but have always thought i was straight and everything i've had with guys has just sort of been time fillers. I've been so confused but talking to the girl (she's bi and has struggled w it but is okay now and has good advice) and her introducing me to your videos has been so beneficial. I've had them problem about I dont relate to anyone thats gay, until I saw your vids and im so happy because you are truly someone i can relate a look up to!! im still confused and worried cause i dont think my family will be all that accepting other than my brother, and everything you said about being close with your family and it driving a wedge between you so im worried but rn im just happy that im incredibly happy with my now gf :):):)

[@melc8309]

im 15 btw

[@siobhanturner4256]

OMG FIRST LIKE

[@melc8309]

OMG BABE THATS CRAZY

[@siobhanturner4256]

Love you beautiful. The internet is a great place and if full of people who help so much, it makes me so happy this helped you Xx it definitely helped me too, glad I could share that with you

[@laurenbruges8784]

I watched this video all the way to the end, without skipping, and it seemed like no time at all. You’re just so easy to listen to! Like, I could watch your videos for hours and never get bored.

[@sadgirlhours222]

Cammie there are a lot of people out there who needed this so thank you so much for talking about this.And yeah love long videos😍

[@JuliaJarvis10]

these are my favorite types of videos, cam! chatty, conversational videos like this make me feel like we're best friends having a sleepover or like you're my older, wiser sister comforting me 💜 also, I fEEL YOU on thinking you had to fit the mold in order to be gay, or at least for people to believe you when you said you were gay (or even for you to believe yourself). I struggled with this so much, and it seems so silly now because of course you can be gay and like wearing makeup and having long hair and presenting more femme. you don't have to cut your hair or throw out all your makeup and dresses in order for your identity to be valid. I didn't know I was "allowed" to look/act this way and still identify as gay, which is so ridiculous and gave me so much unnecessary anxiety. even today though, at 20, I still feel real awkward either coming out to people for the first time or reminding people. it's like I think they will say something like, "really? you? but you don't LOOK gay" probably due to some internalized homophobia of mine. that's why I'm so glad I found youtube and started following people like you, Ally Hills, Stevie, Shannon, etc. etc. when I was still questioning my sexuality...it's so important to have all kinds of queer representation so people know there is not just one way to be a certain identity. I would be curious to know how you dealt with any internalized homophobia you felt, and if you still find it cropping up from time to time, even if you're now totally comfortable with and have accepted who you are? can't wait to talk more about this during your livestreams this month! so, so pumped. love you lots, cam!!! xoxoxo 😘😘😘

[@iostr]

That's the positivity I needed for today, thanks and love to all of you out there! ;D

[@angelinasimpson1830]

This sounds a lot like me. I’m only thirteen and I’ve already gone through most of these things. When I was 11and 12 I wondered why I didn’t find guys “attractive” I realized that I had a crush on my best friend. We were backstage at a dance recital and she turned around and said “kiss me on the lips.” I was dumbfounded, I had no idea what to say. I (by instinct) did it. That’s when it really clicked for me. I started telling myself and others that I was bi. I truly thought that’s what I was. That same friend who kissed me had at that point become my best friend/ favorite person/ crush. I came out to her as bi and she told me she was bi too. I was relieved, I felt I had someone to relate to. One day she started asking me if I had a crush on anyone from the studio. I told her yes but refused to tell her who it was (for obvious reasons). She eventually figured it out one day, I was at school and she messaged me over Snapchat. She said “I think I know who your crush is.” I immediately got nervous and just replied “ok”. She soon started describing herself and then just told me to admit that it was her. I did, she said “what the hell do you see in me?” I had no answer. I loved everything about her. She told me she didn’t feel the same way but we could date to test out how it would be dating a girl. She had also dated one of my other best friends who thought she was bi but now she’s straight I guess. Anyways, I got excited and agreed. I look back at it now and realize how stupid I was. Why would I date someone who didn’t feel anything towards me? Later that day she asked me out to a movie that was playing in a couple days. Our moms set it up and we went without our parents. We had such a good time. We held hands, cried together, just really embraced each other. We went on a few more random dates and I was convinced I was falling in love with her. And I know that sounds like a lot for a 13 year old but it felt so real. Like I was going to spend the rest of my life with this girl. After a month and a half of dating, she broke up with me. Told me she needed to work on her mental health. I knew she did she had been struggling for a while with depression. I was so supportive of her. But I was also devastated. I couldn’t go to my mom about it, when I had come out to her before she just told me I was too young to make decisions like this. I had a friend over and my parents had people over. I ran to the bathroom and immediately started crying. She broke up with me over Snapchat by the way. I washed my face and shoved it into a towel until I forced myself to stop crying. The next day we had rehearsals for dance and she ran up to me and practically jumped into my arms and started sobbing. She told me her dog died (the dog was 13). I didn’t feel sorry for her. As much as I wanted to, I didn’t. It was weird. We’ve recovered as best friends but obviously us not dating isn’t going to change how I feel about her. I’m starting to think I’m lesbian now. The thought scares me. I’m kind of confused on who I am. I now have a crush on the girl she used to date before me. I can’t handle my feelings for her. I feel like they’re taking over my life. Me and her, we scream I love you from across the room and she tells me I’m beautiful. When her other friends are around she doesn’t pay attention to me though. For some reason I don’t mind. I feel like my heart is exploding from the affection I feel for her. I don’t know what to do. It’s difficult for me since I’m so young. I feel like it’s wrong for me to be feeling these things at only 13. My ex still checks in with me and asks how I’m doing, I always say I’m ok even if I’m not. I guess this is just a cry for help. If anyone has advice, I could use it. Thanks for at least reading this. It means a lot.

[@ceyda1487]

I'm living Turkey. And.. It is very hard to be gay here..

[@mambabamba4507]

Ceyda I wish you the best of luck finding the love of your life. :)

[@ceyda1487]

MambaBamba thank you.. (:

[@mirai423]

Im also living in Turkey it sucks that gay people don't have the same rights as straight people in our country( Idek why I wrote this in english but yeah...)

[@dreamingbluee]

its hard finding lgbtq people here aswell

[@cosmicwildling]

di mi

[@shannonbennett97]

This helps alot... having recently come out and being accepted by my mum and dad. I've known from being 15 that I was gay and always tried to deny it and was terrified of it. I'm 19 now and feel like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders when I came out. Also being someone who suffers with anxiety and depression it made the coming out process even harder because that was preventing me from accepting myself which made me think friends and family won't accept me. HOWEVER all my family and my closest friends all said they love me and are proud of me for coming out..

[@aliya4173]

The point at 4:50 is so true, that is legit how I felt I was so scared

[@lintran2206]

I came out to my parents one month ago, and my mom said she pretended that I haven't told her anything, and my dad still haven't received any call I give him. So your mom's reaction is so sweet and lovely. I hope my parents could accept me in the future.

[@alyssakurek8305]

#notficationsquad. But thank you for this!! Being a gay teen myself, you are helping me feel more comfortable with being different. I appreciate that you work to help us feel accepted in this society and in our selves. THANK YOU SO MUCH!! ❤️ I love you so much. I love hearing your point of all of this. It really helps. ❤️

[@charlenelewis230]

after hiding it for 6 years (starting when i was 15) i made it a new years resolution to come out before my 21st bday (in march). and i did! at the end of january i FINALLY came out by writing a 3 page letter to my mom and leaving it on my bed. when i left that morning, i waited like an hour then texted her to rad it. long story short, there were many tears and so much stress just for her to say "i already knew that". mind u, my family isnt exactly homophobic, but DEFINITELY are against same sex anything. so it was really scary and hard, but for my 21st bday i was able to celebrate and not feel guilty, and not feel like 'if they knew who i really was, they wouldnt be celebrating with me'. and it felt great to know i was loved, and am loved, for who i am. and ive gotten closer to even my most stubborn older sister since then. I WISH U ALL THE BEST OF LUCK THIS PRIDE MONTH!!!

[@theloverofanimals1]

charlene lewis I made the same resolution to be out by my 21st birthday. Unfortunately that didn't happen but I plan on doing it when I go back to school in August. I'm pretty sure my family knows too but i'm not sure how it will go......

[@charlenelewis230]

theloverofmusic1 i really hope all goes well for u, stay positive no matter what and good luck!

[@mariajuliana4057]

YOOOO this is crazy, yesterday I was randomly thinking about how it would be cool if Cammie did a video about coming out, or anything in regards to that topic on her channel, like just a random thought. AND HERE IT IS. THANK YA LAWD.

[@tristendavis9134]

Hearing you talk about your time is college was so helpful. I'm a college freshman who is a lesbian and I'm dating a girl but my roommate is extremely homophobic. This was really helpful, thank you.

[@cupcakexlindsay]

I don't think I'd watch a video this long if it wasn't Cammie ❤️

[@baileykirshner1336]

This is literally soooo relatable, and makes me feel so much better. I also prefer the word gay as well. But your whole coming out story, and being afraid to come out because of the little comments people make, i relate to that 100%.Thanks for this video!

[@marianasborozan4828]

I think a lot of us want to know, Kara where did you get that shirt? Cam help us :D

[@catwebb6676]

Its part of FTBC chairty range in Topshop uk , more ppl buy one the more money it makes for Breast cancer chairty ...BTW don't come with the designer hole in neck lol heres a link www.topshop.com/en/tsuk/product/ftbc-charity-motif-t-shirt-6511049

[@CammieScott]

ah thank you! I wasn't sure exactly what it was for from TopShop! Kara's friend got it for her. ps Kara accidentally got a hole in it and made it bigger so it looked more purposeful lol

[@marianasborozan4828]

Thank so much! 😀

[@jusstcallmeclo]

That bit where you were talking about the small little things people say and how they stick with you that HIT ME so hard. My family make small comments all the time. I’m 21 and have been out to basically everyone for about a year and I still haven’t told my family. I feel like my sister has guessed but I’ve never actually told them.

[@jordanhamilton5692]

Can you do a video on being a femme? I don't even know how to let people know I'm gay :( or how to meet girls if you don't look gay? Where can you go as a college student to meet girls?

[@mikaylakartchner6908]

Jordan Hamilton I'm struggling with the same thing! I'll be going into college this September and I'm told constantly I don't "look" gay. It's so frustrating 😂

[@ongakuize]

Jordan Hamilton does your college have a queen department? the women's department may also be a good place :) most of the women I've met at college like women haha but I know that's not everyone's experience

[@lostinmyheadx3671]

Jordan Hamilton tiny tip! idk if you ever heard of "the lesbian nod" basically if you spot someone that seems gay to you and you nod at them as a great, idk its a sertain kind of nod haha look it up. if they nod back, 90% that they are gay its weard, but it seems to work for people

[@fernandateruel2676]

you are SO lucky! your family is amazing! The hardest thing about being gay is when your family don't accept you and say that never will. And everybody says that someday they are gonna get used to the ideia and they love you unconditionally but when it comes to religious matters things are not that easy. I truly believe that my parents are never going to be ok with it, so i have to choose between them and being with the girl i love. or any other girl. this sucks so much.

[@nandinibose9936]

thankyou for uploading this video . I newly came out to my parents 😄. So it's very helpful. BTW , you are the best 💓💓

[@CammieScott]

congrats love!!

[@nandinibose9936]

Cammie Scott 😊😊

[@aqua66]

South of Nowhere was life-changing for me! I came back here (years later) to watch for a 2nd time. I rarely comment on anything. I’ll always support your channel 💜

[@amealiaatkins9333]

Hey, I'm 13 and kinda out. It all started when I 'told' (hinted) to my best friend but she ended up telling about 4 more people, this made me fall into depression because I wasn't proud of who I was. It got to the point where i was attempting suicide every other day. And then teachers and other students started to notice the cuts that layered my arm and eventually I had a meeting with the head of my school year about why I self harmed and I couldn't even say it so they forced me to write it down on paper and that same day they told my parents without telling me until later on when they pulled me out of class and said "your parents know" I did everything I could to avoid going home and they shouted at me for it...now they don't look or speak to me the same and i'm starting to think that they don't love me anymore...

[@amealiaatkins9333]

btw I came out as gay.

[@catwebb6676]

wow@amealia atkins sorry to read ya story, but its only ya story so far,ya young still and have whole amazing life ahead of you still, i know at times that don't feel that way, but it will get better, promise **hugs**

[@ionamcbrid]

I'm a parent of kids just younger than you and I would move heaven and earth to make them feel accepted. Your parents are wrong not to support you but they were indoctrinated and they are probably struggling to resolve the conflict inside them. They love you but have been raised to reject difference. They may well adjust over time but even if they don't please know now that what happens at 13 is left far behind you in a long life. You will know happiness again and you will be loved for who you are by people you haven't met yet. I got bullied at school really badly and that pushed me into travel and adventures and living to the full. You will grow strong from this. 😚

[@albertoaguiar6293]

Amealia Atkins who cares what other people think about you if your friends do not like you for who you are it means they are not your real friends and I am so happy that you are being yourself

[@cinemamusicvideoproduction468]

Can't even explain how much this video gave me so much hope and courage for how my future will turn out. Thank you so much! ❤️

[@michellemoore2768]

I just came out to my family yesterday. I was really happy that they were happy, my Mom and Brother were happy and told me that they wanted me to be happy in life and, that they're glad that I accepted myself. But my favorite reaction was my dads reaction. When I told him that I am a lesbian? He hugged me and whispered in my ear "Boobs are great huh?"

[@moltenkitty7157]

Fu Ck awww

[@koriduryee5250]

South of nowhere! That show was such a revolution for me too!! I got a tattoo from the show a sentence that Ashley said " whatever people consider to be normal, it never is" after seeing that episode. Thank you so much Cammie for mentioning this show

[@taylerbulman6215]

Cammie I am not gay. But to the people who are cammie is so inspireing and she's trying to tell u it'll be ok so just believe in yourself it's ok to come out let the haters hate they don't matter there just jealous because there not happy like u

[@tonnier6706]

coming out to people in person is the most stressful thing. you she the facial expressions and just all the raw emotions going on once they first hear the words roll off your tongue. some may flinch and others roll there eyes because they've know all along. but thats not even the most important part about coming out; its the events leading up to it. you remember every single word they say whether it's positive or negative about anything to do with sexuality. I remember all the things my mother said to me as a kid ,whenever she had the energy to drag me to church, and sometimes it was how being gay is a sin. I am very thankful that she accepts the fact that I'm gay. I wouldn't know what to do if my mom would react negatively to my confessions. the thing is, if you end up coming out to someone who takes your words and burn them, hating love is the most ugliest thing you can do, and thats the most unforgiving action that can do. you will never need someone like that in your life, I promise. the lgbt community is everywhere and we will love you no matter how you identify. if you need a person to talk to you can reach me on Snapchat @ wonton3663 . I will accept you no matter what. - Tonnie

[@jasminrose7019]

I have seen a lot of coming out videos on KZbin. I would definitely rank this one number one.

[@petrathorsty3833]

This is a coming out story I can so relate to. All the gay women I knew were masculine and I was like 'no I can't be gay then' and then saw you and Kate Austin on your podcast and I was like 'wait, you can be queer and have a really feminine aesthetic? Well that's me!'. And it was the biggest relief of my life. Honestly it was such a freeing thought and I've just been relishing in that freedom. Thanks for being part of helping me piece who I am together 💕

[@chey4795]

omg same When Cammie said "I Just prefer the word gay" ME! When I'm talking abiut it to my friends they continue to say lesbian but at one point I'm like can't we just us the word gay. (RANT) Lgbtq+ ppl are already labeled as "diffrent" were set off into a box why is there a difference between gay and lesbian why can't it just be one word that means liking the same gender

[@BRoyer18]

I came out to my mom three months ago and she's still having a difficult time accepting it. Yet, I didn't even accept myself until my mid twenties. So thank you for that amazing point. I needed time and so will she. That was so incredibly encouraging, thank you, Cam!