"My Entire Childhood Was Medicalized" with Scarlet | Episode 154

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[@irenalovesart4064]

I suggest that we should take back the language. Trans identified males TIMs and trans identified females TIFs. Btw category, new terms. TIMS,TIFS and TERFS.

[@LifeLiberty-rn6bq]

Yes. The parents and medical exoerts must affirm the child. Otherwise, the child will commit suicide. The minor child knows what is best for them.

[@loganjames3789]

His story makes me terribly sad and very angry simultaneously. A range of adults, professionals, abused this poor child in the worst ways possible. There has to be legal reprocussions against these abusive adults, or we're all lost as a society. Utterly lost.

[@BernieWhelan-l6r]

I understand your absolute frustration, these people are evil, they have always been around, it's up to people like you and me to fight back against these lunatics.🙏

[@disillusioneddisappointed]

It’s important now to remain Non-judgemental to enable all these children affected to get their voices heard and receive the proper help and therapy that they need.

[@roryteal5940]

Therapy was what convinced them to muitalte themselves

[@Engrave.Danger]

​@@roryteal5940I'm sure they're referring to actual therapy rather than the ideologically captured gender affirming care model.

[@Gingerblaze]

@@Engrave.Danger very difficult to find such a thing. Especially with non affirming psychologists who still affirm, with their use of language. It does not imbue trust for many of us going thru this.

[@happynjoyousnfree]

@@roryteal5940 yes they need therapists who are not captured by gender ideology

[@LifeLiberty-rn6bq]

Yes. The parents and medical exoerts must affirm the child. Otherwise, the child will commit suicide. The minor child knows what is best for them.

[@FleurPapillon]

Thank you for sharing your story, Scarlet. You aren't alone. ❤

[@patricknoble3090]

My heart breaks for him. As a dad of young kids, i can't help but wish his dad just gave him a hug, spend some quality time with him, tell him you love him, tell him we all have a weird relationship with our bodies and we grow into them over time, tell him he'll fancy whoever he fancies and that's OK. Just relax and whatever happens will happen. Get out and go for a walk, or swim, or go dancing. Poor kid. Geez these therapists wreck everything. I hope everything turns out now EDIT: i wrote this a bit before some family details were discussed

[@cestmoi4532]

4 years ago I had never heard of de-transitionners. I assumed Trans was like gay, it just happens. Then I learned about the potential secondary impacts of social to medical transition procedures and was in shock. Then I noted the susceptibility of young gays and children/adults with ASD. Then I reflected on my own passage through pre and actual puberty as well as my own children. I found Stella and Sasha and listened to them quietly, fearful of being labelled terrible things... twice I listened to the GWL podcast seasons... and now, I am so grateful to be aware and thoughtfully approaching this issue. Thank you all for your sacrifices and service. ❤

[@Gingerblaze]

The gains in both public acceptance and extreme misunderstanding of how "trans" is in direct conflict with same sex attraction, made by the forced teaming of these groups can not be overstated.

[@oliverhug3]

@@Gingerblaze This! And the fact that CBT for ‚gender dysphoria’ has been compared to gay conversation therapy is also one of the driving reasons we are stuck where we are. Nobody wants to be that person who tries to "convert" someone, even if the real treatment is simply making them comfortable in the body they were born with instead of medicalizing them. And it is sickening and unethical…conflating the cruel gay conversion practises with talk therapy for gender nonconforming youth who might just turn out gay later in life.

[@tinahochstetler2189]

There are many people that are ex-gay too. As much as it feels like we must have been born with the things about ourselves that we don't choose - sexuality and how we interact and relate to others and to society in general is developmental. I'm glad you found the detransitioners and seem to be doing well. ❤

[@kittycat5501]

"Surrender to mother nurture" , that's a lovely thought, especially given your circumstances 🌷 You seem so lovely Sacarlet, I wish you good health and that life is kind to you 🌸

[@Gingerblaze]

Scarlets strength of character will bring him through whatever challenges he faces in his current and future life. His willingness to embrace his reality and trust nature demonstrates great strength.

[@BernieWhelan-l6r]

Give your life to Jesus. Jesus saves.

[@janmariolle]

Scarlet is such an intriguing person. I saw an interview with him a couple of years ago and have carried his story in my heart and mind ever since. I feel so much happiness to see the hard earned personal growth which has developed since that interview. I can update my memory of him with delight at the thoughtful and deep thinking adult he has become. His story of medical abuse needs to be shared far and wide. I still have friends, and even a past therapist, who believe that a child can consent to these treatments, when clearly, they cannot. Thank you Scarlet for speaking out. You are lovely.❤

[@Gingerblaze]

Are they even "treatments"? There is no good quality evidence that they result in better outcomes for people sufferring due often, to cultural, familial or personal homophobia or narrow gender role expectations.

[@oliverhug3]

@@GingerblazeCalling what they do to so called "trans" people "gender-affirming care" is like calling bilateral enucleation "vision-affirming care."

[@kathartzell4856]

@@oliverhug3 That's unfortunately very good comparison

[@DorianPaige00]

And if Scarlet stayed on the medical path and was happy, he would be of no use like I am of use to you politically.

[@reginazwilling5276]

What a gentle, wise and compassionate soul. Thanks for interviewing Scarlet.

[@tyllrt]

this was such an essential watch for me as a desisted female, i can draw so many comparisons between my experience with GAC even though my path started later at age 16. its so clear how homophobia and misogyny impacted our nascent identities. i felt so ostracized for being a weird GNC girl at my school, and doctors immediately reinforced that subhuman view of myself by presenting transition as a journey to wholeness. i wish the negative feelings we had towards our bodies could’ve been deconstructed in a compassionate way, but instead we were immediately pathologized. and as a desisted female i dont know what thats like on the other side, and it would be easy for me to see all trans identified males as autogynophilic if this information wasnt being shared. thank you Scarlet! and happy detrans awareness day 💚🦎🏁

[@Gingerblaze]

Even for many trans identified males, the autogynaphilia developed as a result of the very same things. Narrow definitions of what personality traits are considered acceptable for males and females and homophobia but also the assumption that being a gnc or effeminate male = gay.

[@DorianPaige00]

They push "autogynophillia" to sully transgenders. It's the equivalent of pushing the "P" onto the gay community.

[@barbaraconnolly9000]

Real question. What is a desisted female please?

[@youtube_username_]

​​@@barbaraconnolly9000 I think desisting means stopping pursuing transition, where the person hadn't transitioned yet. Of course "transition" is a weighted term. So my GUESS is that a desisted female is a girl/woman who is no longer trying to become a boy/man.

[@happynjoyousnfree]

47:00 when Scarlet says that he was told that his brain developed as a female in utero and then his body developed as a male. THAT EXACT THING was in a parent education manual I was using when I worked with babies and their mothers from 2009-2013. This is a common belief and I believed it until 2020 when I started looking more deeply into these issues.

[@Knuck_Knucks]

Whoa. 🐿

[@insidiousmischka]

That must be criminal ... that is such an outrageous and dangerous LIE!

[@souxcasa]

It's amazing that they are allowed to print that sort of thing there is no evidence whatsoever that that's the case. In fact any neuroimaging evidence we do have says that the brains of transitioned adults are the same as their biological sex as not the sex they wish to be. There is some difference with gay adults but once you account for sexual orientation all the hetero transitioners have the brains of their own sex.

[@BernieWhelan-l6r]

The lies are unbelievable.

[@Banana04218]

I'm sitting here absolutely stunned. Stunned by how much Scarlet has been through, yet how much composure, wisdom & dignity was maintained while sharing their story. At certain points of this conversation tho, processing everything Scarlet said, & watching the hosts' reactions, I wanted to weep. Thank you all for this incredibly emotional and powerful podcast

[@matthewatwood8641]

These interviews are important. These peoples stories need to be heard. How is a two year old experiencing sexual attraction gay or straight? A two year old is just getting used to walking and speaking in sentences.

[@chase-brown]

Children cannot be gay or straight. There are gender non-conforming kids, though. Most gender non-conforming boys grow up to be same-sex attracted.

[@shannonsayshi]

I remember feeling very "squirmy" embarrassed maybe? during a time growth up if ppl would even kiss on TV. Kind of grossed out, attracted, and repused all at the same time... at exposure to a even a hint of sexuality that was so mild, not graphic at all. I also started being aware of innuendo IRL too. It was so uncomfortable especially if i felt someone was seeing me in that way. Maybe i was 10 or 11?? A long time ago :) I can't imagine how deeply affective the things kids are exposed to now are at these particularly vulnerable and formative periods in their development. We really need to stop allowing our children to be exposed to so much pervasive sexuality, especially in unrestricted environments like the internet 😔

[@joane24]

When I was a teenager I was always *sooooo embarrassed* when I was watching a movie or series together with my parents and the kissing scene came in... I just wanted to hide or to run away.😆 I think it's quite universal experience for most children and teens 😆.

[@Gingerblaze]

Exposure to kissing between parents or healthy displays of affection between people in trusting committed relationships has an immensely positive impact. This is NOT what children are exposed to now. It is often graphic detachaed sexuality, often combined with violence or aggression, humiliation, and conducted between strangers or worse, amongst people with zero respect for healthy personal or societal boundaries like age, and family relations.

[@TheVigilantEye77]

@@joane24no one wants to watch extended sex scenes unless you are into porn. Blame stupid movie makers

[@LifeLiberty-rn6bq]

Yes. The parents and medical exoerts must affirm the child. Otherwise, the child will commit suicide. The minor child knows what is best for them.

[@Gingerblaze]

Thanks GWL and guest and especially to Sasha for her great listening and thoughtful questions.

[@balalaika852]

Wow. Sending a child to a fetish sex shop? For therapeutic reasons?! I keep thinking I've heard it all, but here we are. Just unreal.

[@stellaomalleypsychotherapist]

It’s extraordinary stuff

[@DorianPaige00]

It was to by faux breasts to see if Scarlet wanted estrogen. Sort of like a girl wearing a beard to see if she wanted to take testosterone.

[@weouryourthem]

Scarlett I am so sorry for all you went to through, and really proud of you and your mother for getting through all that... You sound like a really nice person thank you again for sharing so we can learn what in the heck is going on ❤️❤️❤️

[@martam2071]

I wish only the best for Scarlet! ❤

[@normanshadow1]

Scarlet, you sound like an incredibly mature, wise person and you're definitely lovely! Keep gardening and listening to mother nature!❤❤❤

[@llkoolbean4935]

Society failed Scarlet and it's very sad and infuriating at the same time.

[@MindmusicArt]

Scarlet is just sooo sweet! My heart keep breaking when listening to him 💔 Hope things will turn for the better soon

[@johart9994]

I am in a shocked state listening to this . The so called medical and therapeutic professionals should be struck off. What an amazing, brave, insightful person Scarlett is . My heart goes out to his mother. Absolutely dreadful. I hope Scarlett gets that lump treated very soon.

[@stellaomalleypsychotherapist]

I agree xx

[@tubester4567]

Many of The medical professionals were forced into affirm only care by the LGBT/Trans/Feminist activists. One of the world's best experts on trans gender care was fired and had his career destroyed just for saying affirm only care is dangerous and many kids will regret it.. The Trans activists even had the power to change the DSM, and scientific literature . Really I think the government regulators and hospital administration have more responsibility but they all capitulated to the woke mob

[@helendancelot]

Sexualising children whilst killing their sexuality sets them up for what?

[@DorianPaige00]

Natal puberty "sexualizes a child" as well. If it's the wrong puberty, then as an adult you have issues. I know I was one of them but didn't bear the brunt of it because I restricted protein and calories and hence didn't really grow beyond 12.

[@carrieb.5896]

Dependence and helplessness.

[@AnneAndersonFoxiepaws]

What a lovely person Scarlett is, he seems to be so understanding of the shortcomings of others, especially his family and appears to hold no bitterness. I hope, with all my heart that your life is happy and healthy from now on and that you can put all this in the past. Of course that sounds easier than it is but I wish you happiness and blessings because you deserve to have a wonderful and fulfilled life❤

[@Nina_Olivia]

What an interesting interview. Stella and Sasha are so lovely and gentle - it was like watching poetry in motion. Having said that, you could certainly see the horror on their faces on several occasions, which was of course, understandable in the context of the evident medical negligence. Sasha appeared close to tears at times (as was I, as a viewer - and a therapist myself). Thank you for sharing your story Scarlet - you’re a very brave and admirable young person. I’m so incredibly sorry the system failed you as it did. I can only hope you now have access to the proper level of care and support you truly need. And I must say, you have a beautiful interpersonal style, which will serve you well in life. Would absolutely love to hear more from Scarlet in the future … if a follow-up interview is on the cards.

[@WalterBishop-t4b]

Spironolactone is often prescribed as a dual mild blood pressure med / hair loss treatment for women. It needs to be ramped up gradually, especially for people who don't have high BP to start with... because it can cause syncope. Adult women are typically given 50 to 100mg to start with, ramped up to 200mg if needed. Giving 250mg to a small child straight out is freaking WILD, and an endrocrinologist did this ? WTF.

[@Gingerblaze]

There is no common sense in any of this.

[@stellaomalleypsychotherapist]

It’s insane and appalling

[@ejd5261]

And a MALE child at that, when males need so much more testosterone to be healthy!

[@DorianPaige00]

I got jaundice while on spironolactone. I was 5'5" around 120 lbs and 36 years of age and a natal male. I got my castration after a year of real life test and it was none too soon. I really didn't need that much as sperm production ceased at 100mg.

[@Gingerblaze]

Really great to hear from Scarlet. Your guests willingness to face the reality of what has occurred under the current culture and medical protocols, and embrace and trust his own natural body, bodes well for his future.

[@dannabanana52]

Scarlett is very mature. Same age as my kid, with a very similar story just ftm. But the autism, the being different, the being a gay adolescent who is trying to fit in, very similar. I’m proud of you Scarlett and I know your mom is too.

[@barbaraconnolly9000]

My great nice insisted at 12 shecwas a boy, my nice just said we will see how it goes, but no you are not changing your name, we will keep talking about things, Now at 15, she is happier, learning to understand and her ASD, and enjoying being a girl. This was all triggered by being surrounded by the chatter that was going on and being trans was seen as cool. At that age she was just really confused, but they kept talking about it, but did not just go with it. My nice thought it might be what was going on at school and the influence of others and wanting to fit in.

[@singlalas]

What a beautiful intelligent and wonderful human Such a pleasure to listen Gives me hope in humanity! As does this channel Thankyou 🙏🏻

[@KristyHowes-f2e]

Thank you for sharing your story. It is very important. You are brave for shining a light on how much you were lied too, and then how difficult it been to get a serious medical issue looked at. I do hope that you find caring doctors to help you. They are out there.

[@FazRasheedify]

Fascinating and heart breaking conversation.

[@harrietbaker4484]

Scarlet, that was so informative your history! You are courageous and articulate beyond your years!

[@janealace]

What an amazing person. Thank you for sharing. He is so nice. Being through so much.

[@zoefranklin3009]

What an honest account of his experience... Such an incredibly brave act to just be totally upfront about it all. Wishing this beautiful person all the best and keep advocating for others!!

[@Berlinetta-h7p]

Thank-you Scarlet.

[@DonnaBrooks]

I wish I was an attorney & could start an organization to bring legal representation for every detransitioner & all the other people who have been harmed by this ideology against the medical establishment, the media, NGOs & non-profits. I'd sue the f**k out of anyone & everyone who harmed these kids, or who allowed women to be raped in prison, or who caused girls & women to be injured in sports competing against men, etc. I hope there is justice for Scarlet & Chloe & Ritchie & Keira & so many others AND for Kathleen Stock, Rachel Rooney, & so many others who were bullied out of jobs or careers by professional organizations or universities.

[@widerlenspod]

Be sure to stay on the lookout for our upcoming episodes with attorneys who are working on doing just what you said!

[@matthewthomasjames]

I’m totally baffled about how it was he became a ward of the state. So many single moms raise their children. Does anyone know how this happens?

[@LailaJohanna]

Thank you so much for having these conversations in such a sensitive and beautiful way. I really felt for Scarlet and I hope he finds his way, he seems like a really beautiful person who is needed in the world! And so much of what he said about online grooming resonated with me, even as a cis woman; I'm in my mid-30s now and sometimes I still feel like I'm trying to get rid of the really icky ideas about sex and my body I found in "conversations" I had online as a young teen and I can't imagine how bad it would have been if it had started even earlier. But thank you also for pointing out how weird it is when the theory of transsexuality is shaped by autogynophilic middle-aged men and how invasive and harmful those ideas are when applied to children.

[@sophie20015]

Your outlook is comforting, Scarlet. Acceptance is the only way to view the harm done to you, and wallowing in anger only serves to exasperate the inevitable pain. When those who may mean well tell me I'd be freed if I could just 'forgive' my adult brother for violently r*ping me when I was a teen, I say I have to accept it, I have no need to forgive a r*pist for my own sake. It was what it was, it adversely affected me obvioulsy and that deep pain raises its head from time to time (I also employ breathing exercises as Scarlet does), but it happened and here I am. Thank you all. I look forward to the follow up - and prevention discussions. No child should be told the price of happiness requires a life on drugs or a surgeon's scalpel.

[@balalaika852]

Absolutely. Forgiveness by definition means you've decided to interact with your rapist as if he hasn't done it. And that is just not a way to live. But lack of forgiveness is not the same as not accepting the past. You can accept and move on. All the best to you!

[@joane24]

​@@balalaika852 That's NOT what forgiveness is, at all. Forgiveness is deciding not to carry the burden on your shoulders that is carrying some else's (perpetrator's) fault. That's it. It's letting go of seeking revenge and of keeping that person caged in your heart. Because when you keep them caged, you're still carrying poison inside of you. Forgiving is letting your own heart free. That doesn't mean you have to interact with them as if nothing happened. If they beg you for forgiveness, you may _considered_ thatvas a reconciliation but you don't have to, at all. Forgiveness it's only about freeing your heart and freeing it from the poison inside, from carrying someone else's sins in your heart, from keeping them caged in the prison of your heart. But you're free to distance from themselves as much as you like.

[@Gingerblaze]

@@joane24 thank you for this comment. It seems, like so many words these days, the real definition for "forgiveness" has been co-opted and redefined to mean something else entirely. Very much points to why language manipulation is at the root of this and other confusion and why maintaining clear definitions is so important to understanding both common concepts, ourselves and one another.

[@sophie20015]

We as a society decided to imprison those who cause life-long harm to innocent children, we don't forgive them. The fact that children have been harmed thru no fault of their own is bothersome for anyone with a scintilla of compassion. Following your logic, we should just forgive the perps, and everyone can just let it go and live happily ever after - perp and victim alike. NO. The harm these surgeons who followed WPATH's SOC caused Scarlet and countless others is unforgiveable. Accept it.

[@youtube_username_]

Joane24’s definition of "forgiveness" is incorrect. It's doublespeak. Forgiveness doesn't mean all those things, forgiveness means allowing the wrongdoer back into one's life. All that other stuff about letting go is in fact better described as "acceptance", as balalaika correctly explained.

[@lilith3953]

As an autistic woman who had an eating disorder as a teenager, he sounds like an autistic kid with an eating disorder. It's a such a pity that he didn't get good quality help when he was a teenager. I was fortunate to find a wonderful child psychiatrist who had specialized in family therapy and eating disorders. This (Scarlet's story) is a complete s**t show or malpractice and medical misadventure.

[@DorianPaige00]

Scarlet didn't want secondary sex characteristics that were male. I was the same way but had to starve it out which actually is pretty effective since puberty blockers prevent the plates from sealing and one will end up tall. I later got castrated and take low dose estrogen as HRT with absolutely zero breast growth.

[@lilith3953]

@@DorianPaige00 the underlying unconscious desire of anorexia (well one of them) is to escape from adult sexuality and the development of the secondary sex characteristics. It's an escape from having an adult body and from adult sexuality, which is why a lot of psychodynamic psychotherapists see the underlying issues as the same (or very similar) and why so many people notice that the ROGD girls of today are the anorexics of my generation.

[@youtube_username_]

If I understood this correctly, there was a doctor who pushed harmful drugs onto Scarlet, threatened to separate the family if the mom didn't go along, wouldn't answer the patient's questions about the expected effects of the treatment, in fact punished Scarlet and his mom for asking questions. Furthermore this doctor made his child patient aware that the doctor has some sort of sexual or possibly asexual preferences (why??) and Scarlet to this day won't mention what that is. It sounds a bit like an adult over-sharing their sexuality with a child and asking them to keep a secret. I hope I'm misunderstanding this, because that would be piling on even more messed-up stuff on top of everything else Scarlet was subjected to. But on a happier note, Scarlet is intelligent and resilient and will move on from this. He and his mother managed to protect him from getting castrated, as those quacks were pushing for, and that is a major win. This case is so upsetting.

[@Joy2Life333]

I love your mom. I feel her pain. I feel the fear of going against the “Mama instincts” because someone “who knows more than you” tells you you’re being transphobic and I know the guilt of “why didn’t I listen to my instincts”. And she just has to forgive herself. I’m sure that you speaking out helps her healing.

[@dannabanana52]

I feel that so hard. It happened to me and it’s just not true. It’s natural to try to protect your kids.

[@colinjackson9664]

Every day should be Detransition Day.

[@DorianPaige00]

fascist

[@colinjackson9664]

@@DorianPaige00 Your one word reply speaks volumes about you and your ideology.

[@DorianPaige00]

@@colinjackson9664 Fascism has a root in religion and tradition and uses the state to eliminate the rights of minorities. Have you studied Giovanni Gentile? I've read Benito Mussolini's "The Fascist State." The modern use of the term means any power hungry corrupt official but that's not really the original definition. You having to look at my face in public for a split second may cause you to feel disgust as you may feel I'm obscene. You merely have to tolerate my existence while I have to put up with thousands of restrictions on medicine since the Dobbs decision. Many want the COVID vaccine gone and consider that fascist and like genetic engineering. The elimination of Tik Tok is fascist because it ends our citizens ability to use it based on conspiracy theories and loose ethnic associations. I suppose you think we are fascist because select members want to educate you on how they would like to be treated. We currently have policies in court where you can't refer to people by racial slurs. I suppose that is restricting your freedom but being asked NOT to call someone something is not compelled speech. Social media platforms can make their own rules and if the "n" word or misgendering are off limits then don't join.

[@John-tr5hn]

Scarlet is such a brave person! Her story really exemplifies how and why it's really impossible for any sort of preteen--no matter how precocious, intelligent, self-aware, or demanding--truly to be able to choose their entire life path at such a young age. It's truly scandalous that the medical professionals she dealt with early on were not much more deliberate and honest in their approach, both with transition overall and with her and her mother as the people affected. I have so much sympathy for what she has gone through.

[@DaVinci368]

I expect you mean well, but please stop referring to Scarlett as a “she”. In doing so you are resuming the horrific manipulative lies that caused Scarlett to become so egregiously confused and abused. Reality IS that Scarlett is a male. He was conceived a male and will be a male until his life comes to a close. Being compassionate towards him means speaking truth and reinforcing reality for him - not the bullshit that the demented cult of gender ideology pushes.

[@matthewthomasjames]

Love the idea that since transitioning isn’t an actual reality than nor can detransitioning can be. A simple concept but I never thought of it that way. Perhaps we should think of it as a return to reality rather than detransition.

[@John-tr5hn]

Another absolutely disastrous and truly dishonest thing that was done to Scarlet had to do with what she was told about dating. I think so many gender-affirming people, who usually have good intentions, make believe in their minds about how accepting straight men would be of transwomen. The truth is that the vast vast vast majority of straight men would never knowingly date a transwoman, especially if she hadn't had bottom surgery.

[@DorianPaige00]

And that's why trans and twink porn are number one genres. We don't have to date everybody; we just need to date the right one.

[@cassiopeiathetortoise115]

And surely none of the straight men who wants to have their own biological child with their partner would date trans women even if they had all available surgeries.

[@FronteirWolf]

Autistic special interests and do not need medicalised! If you notice a kid's interest is stopping the kid doing other stuff that the kid needs to be doing, then you intervene to help the kid have the balance that he or she needs, but you don't act preemptively on that. Just don't make a big deal out of special intrests, support the interest to a reasonable point, and let the kid enjoy it. That's the really cool part of autism. No need for a kid to feel pathologised over it.

[@lilith3953]

I agree. Autistic special interests rock!

[@gabbygutierrez1885]

How do you not have more subscribers?

[@widerlenspod]

We are often asked this question, and honestly we don't know! If anyone has any tips for us, please share, as we would love to get these conversations into the eyes and ears of more people.

[@carrieb.5896]

You're being shadow banned would be my guess. I'm just finding the channel and I've been swimming these waters for at least a year and a half now. Your content is top notch. So glad I found you all. ❤️

[@oliviajk12]

This is so thick and deep with malpractice…Is this young person filing a lawsuit yet?

[@DorianPaige00]

You are coming for the rest of us who are happy. That's your entire goal. Change prescribing practices so no one gets because you are tired of hear of transwomen using YOUR facilities.

[@Anti-Woke310]

@@DorianPaige00”Coming for the rest of us”. Are you for real? I’m glad you’re happy with your medical experience, but Scarlett did definitely not get the right medical treatment. None of those side effects are normal, and action should have been taken when the one was first noted. This isn’t about Trans healthcare in general. It’s about this particular case, and I agree with @oliviajk12 - this is malpractice.

[@DorianPaige00]

@@Anti-Woke310 In Texas, governor Abbott has stated that we need to eliminate the ability for adults to cross dress or take hormones from society. Highly influential vlogger, Michael Knowles, stated that LGBT clothing needs to get banned as well as transgenderism being eradicated. Elon Musk routinely highlights anti-transgender videos and uses his website as an institute against LGBT in revenge of his kid. Currently in several states, consensual sodomy is against the law but is unenforceable due to Lawrence V Texas. As Clarence Thomas was bringing the hammer down on Dobbs, he stated that not only gay marriage needs to reversed (Obergefell), but Lawrence and the recriminalization of homosexuality needs to get visited, in addition to married couples access to birth control under the Griswold decision. The Comstock Act which was never repealed can be used to arrest people for things deemed "obscene" with local interpretations held up on appeal. Donald Trump says if reelected, there will be severe restriction to hormonal access for patients of any age. 6,000 laws proposed in state houses across the country. This is what happened in the early years under the Nazi's.

[@Lollipop_Lexi]

@@DorianPaige00why is everything about you? This person had a bad experience, they are as entitled to speak on it as you are about yours. And as for our facilities, again, why should 50% of the population have their rights to safety, privacy and dignity trampled because you want to be in their spaces? If you want to be in a women’s space for your safety and dignity, you should understand why we need the same. There are unisex facilities everywhere-use them. If you really understood how it feels to be the opposite sex you wouldn’t dream of being in their spaces.

[@DorianPaige00]

@@Lollipop_Lexi We really don't know each other. I'm male and present as such (eunuch/adult boy) using male facilities but I've been castrated and use low dose estrogen to maintain my identity, skin, and bones. The only time I've ever used female facilities was to clean them when I was a porter at Target a decade ago. There a mess and haven't a clue why that's the new battleground. Sports teams should be free to choose who is on them and no transgender should strip down in multi use facilities. When applicable, trans should use single segregated stall. However I get the argument that when stalls are floor to ceiling and someone has a client, if they were to use to natal sex facility it may be a problem when they got out and the person's identity is now front and center instead of the business at hand. Clients are lost because of such situations. Before 2016, there used to be transgender folks who in the UK got gender recognition certificates and at that point used opposite sex facilities usually after a year or two of hormonal transitional. I warned transwomen of this because I'm an age-player and I know about opposition even when two males who are legal adults use gender medicine and present as a more youthful version of themself. Things like that don't play out well at best one is viewed at as not accepting their nature and at worst a pervert who needs to be accosted. I don't want to see the medicine banned. Initially it was my belief that pushing gay marriage and transgender rights to go into sex segregated spaces would make them more visible and the natural tendency of human nature is to shun things that would halt the reproduction of the species. It's an intuitive response. Furthermore everybody has become an experiment on reproductive care, gender medicine, vaccines, and SSRI's and what people think will ban these categories of drugs even though a majority of them are benefitting. If they were not, they would cease treatment. Detransitioners here in the US have been bankrolled to the tune of $250K/year and go from state to state getting the medicine banned citing how they were harmed. There is no opposition allowed to speak and bills are set forth and in several states where adult gender medicine is now illegal and a thing of the past. The next step is forced institutionalization and a lawsuit to pay for the stay. Shall we then debate about what to do about transgender and gay people if they become to costly to house? The Overton Window gets moved everyday and not that many need this medicine but it'll spill back over into birth control since abortion rights are all but gone in most areas. Jordan Peterson is already citing medical harm and the people and infrastructure and already making the same arguments against birth control that they did against gender affirming care. No it's not about me; it's about you. I'll be institutionalized, enslaved, or executed if conservatives gain power. The real prize worth fighting for is the women. They'll tell you which professions you may or may not enter and how many kids you will have. Good luck!

[@helenromanelli2544]

I felt great sadness hearing about Scarlet's ostracism from the beginning.

[@juliehathaway3898]

Scarlett is so well spoken. I wish I could get my son to watch h this.

[@youtube_username_]

Scarlet, thank you for sharing. I hope for the best for you (and I hope you have explored lawsuit options - you were subjected to medical malpractice).

[@maryannblair9784]

Another excellent interview. I agree, you just want to give this person a hug if that would comfort them in anyway for all they went through. So egregious that even their mother who was only trying to help was fooled by the “experts.” I hope for a better future for all of them.

[@jellyrcw12]

You have a great dynamic!!

[@souxcasa]

Do you remember when the narrative was "detransitioners don't exist" then it was "it's less than 1%" are they finally accepting thos is real? Will we finally accept the damage that has been done to these vulnerable young people?

[@cherylewers6322]

Will watch later. 🌱

[@PonyTrotsky]

S/he's so androgynous and beautiful and refined - exactly what millions of young people want to be. S/he could be a supermodel of either gender. You know you're living in a twisted society when a sensitive, unusual, truly original person like this is driven to see themselves as defective, and in need of medical correction.

[@kennethmichaels2969]

I think you’re all remarkable. Thank you for this episode. If you’re comfortable answering this Scarlet I was curious to understand more about you being a guardian of the state. Do you mean you a court appointed guardian but lived with your mom? Wasn’t sure if this was part of your parent’s custody agreement. No pressure to answer this but it seemed like you might have wanted to say more about it. I did see your first interview that you mentioned at the end and I appreciated hearing about you and your medical care back then. You’re brave, wise and kind.

[@Beserious795]

At least the person at Janet’s closet tried to protect Scarlett…. Sheesh. I know the mom had to have been so traumatized by all of this as well.

[@DaVinci368]

This poor young man is incredibly intelligent and brave. It is heartbreaking to hear what garbage and premeditated abuse he and his mother were subjected to. Scarlett is a living cautionary tale that illustrates just how demented, paraphilic and abusive gender ideology is. I wish him well as he moves forward and hope he finds a way to experience a fulfilling, happy life where he is loved and content, inspite of how today’s culture abused him.

[@weouryourthem]

I have been studying the newly diagnosed adult autism people, is it possible the psychologist are brainwashing people to think they're autistic when they're not... Google some newly diagnosed autistic adult videos or ableism or allistic... It's all very bizarre I feel so sorry for this person here, just getting started on the show looking forward to the rest of it..

[@Engrave.Danger]

I think it's suffering from the same Google/social media self-diagnosis issue.

[@weouryourthem]

@@Engrave.Danger definitely a lot of that 👍

[@Gingerblaze]

Both "Trans" and "detrans" are perspective frameworks. They describe (inaccurrately) both the mindset and medical interventions and the ceasing of them.

[@rettahbful]

You need to see a doctor about that lump!

[@kathartzell4856]

Yes and it's not lactation it's galactorrhea, not "natural" at all

[@helendancelot]

Isn't it normal to wonder about one's body and perceived flaws? I took worried about my nose and wanted it to be different

[@DorianPaige00]

No, it's different. Did you not want breasts? Did you want a cock, balls, and a hairy chest. I'm a eunuch like scarlet and neither of us wanted the harsh secondary sex characteristics of manhood. I starved my male puberty out and then got castrated and went on low dose estrogen. We didn't want to grow up physically. It's one of the rarer gender patients and we have to typically do I dance to get treated since we don't really tick the boxes. Most of us end up dead or in prison because without protein restriction or hormones we have to surrender our gift. It's the "male cherry." I only know a handful like this who were initially precocious and didn't like it and sought to alter their path. There's other implications and few talk about it.

[@christinadodd5780]

It seems these kids/young people have no sense of self. They feel so unworthy and unimportant that they dont even know what to think of themselves?? I was a teen in mid 90s but would i have been trans? I say no to that question now, but im 45. My 45 brain is not the same as my 14 yr old brain. I hated my body, felt like i was looking in on everyone, didnt feel real, felt worthless and felt like no one gave a crap about me. Didnt really have close friends. Im not autistic but have some traits. Now, im okay with my body, but i still dont feel like im not in the world, not real. I cant look in the mirror or at pics of myself. It took me 42 years to finally feel like im worthy and deserve love, too. Im doing better than i was. Anyway, i was emotionally neglected most of my childhood and teen years. I was physically neglected for several years when i wad 5,6,7. My parents were nice. My mom became a stay at home mom when I was 8. She was always there with me, but not emotionally. I did my own thing or hid in my room. They were never emotionally or physically abusive (my maternal grandmother was emotionally abusive to all her grandkids). They were teen parents and didn't know how to raise kids. I dont blame them, and they did the best they could. But i wonder if parents not emotionally being there for their kids might be one of these reasons? Not like the parents are purposely doing it. But all the time we're on our phones and getting distracted. Being ignored really hurts. It really bothers me when im talking to someone, and they're looking at their phone. I feel they're not engaged in the conversation. Also, kids not having as much independence and space. Not learning things out for themselves. What they should and shouldn't be doing. Im curious if those are some of the reasons. And of course it being a trend and online peer pressure saying how great they'll feel if they change. I had a ED and thought when i got skinny enough, I'd feel better. NOPE! It made me feel worse. But it makes me really wonder what's going through their minds. They need strong, supportive parents who'll be there for them, but also push them towards independence. I was terrified to do anything when i was a teen. My parents forced me to learn to drive and get a job, not for money, but for life experience. Im so glad they did because id probably still be at home terrified to do anything. Im still scared to try new things, but I'll push myself to do them.

[@DorianPaige00]

This one was more of a traditional eunuch who didn't want to grow up. We'll see how this one plays out. He's letting his gift go right through his hands. It'll be interesting if he wants it back. Most of these don't talk and either are dead or in jail. He hasn't yet dated so it doesn't look good for this one as I know exactly what he is dealing with. Never, ever, ever surrender your gift to nature. And never, ever go to people who go to legislators who will regulate hormones and transition for the rest of us. You just wanted to be skinny; we didn't want to grow up! NGU!

[@Shahrdad]

He probably would have just been a normal effeminate gay man who would have lived a happy life. These people took all these possibilities away from him. What happened to him is criminal.

[@mihaelatudor2417]

Admitting, by a long stretch of imagination, that nazzi doctors had the excuse of being frightened by Mengele, what is the excuse of these doctors ?? And why are they still allowed to practice ?? And not in jail ??

[@YamieDawnHeen-Orrestead]

More and more in medical and mental health are doing the same they'll make stuff up if need be to diagnose and medicate. It's called greed and they have power to get away with it. Especially anything mental health as they know who is more likely to be believed. Sad truth.

[@petmills2219]

Thank you so much for sharing this video. Brave young person!! It's such a shame you had to go through so much at such a tender age. The truth will shine through the darkness in Jesus Christ's Name Amen.

[@Gingerblaze]

It's notable how often we hear doctors describe "female sexuality and desire" as being less strong than "male sexuality and desire". It is heard quite often from males who have gone through genital sexual surgeries who really equate what they experience now sexually, after surgery, as being "just like what natal women experience". They do not realize how much this exposes their ignorance.

[@RaoYiLan]

Actual discussion begins at 8:20

[@robbertkoppenol4517]

Thank god gender in pronouns only exists in 3rd person.

[@danak2230]

I have watched so many podcasts/documentaries about trans kids that I keep thinking I'm inured to the horror, but every time I listen to a new transitioner, it shocks me.

[@judiheppner6981]

Scarlet’s claim they he was a partly a ward of the state because of dad leaving does not seem possible. I’ve never heard of a law like this anywhere. The state gets involved when there is neglect or abuse, not simply when one parent is not present.

[@helendancelot]

No wonder he was anxious...being excluded from films etc

[@lilnymphtress]

This is a classic case of transing the gay away.

[@GracefulDanny]

That was devastating to watch. I wish the best for Scarlet and I can’t believe what he and his mother were put through. Like Sasha, I just wanted to hug him by the end. No one can become their “authentic self” by having their puberty denied and natural hormones tinkered with. It’s even more enraging that this is being done to sensitive, vulnerable gender non conforming kids too. Deep down these “professionals” always thought there was something wrong with this man because he was a feminine, neurodivergent, “soft” kid. What is this if not gay conversion therapy in sheep’s clothing?

[@godschild2432]

The blame starts with the mother for affirming him

[@marwar819]

At this point, it has been well established, from "de-transistioners" themselves, that happy childhood for so-called 'trans' is an oxymoron.

[@DorianPaige00]

And what about the transitioners who benefit and stay on hormones for years like I have. We're just discounted and don't exist in your eyes.

[@lukebexnjesssmummy611]

​@@DorianPaige00 That's not true I belive there are genuine cases of gender dysphoria that benefit from transition, But do you have an opinion on this "social contagion " and online grooming of minors ???

[@DorianPaige00]

@@lukebexnjesssmummy611 I can't speak for online grooming as I don't talk to minors online or in life. I'm a homosexual hebephile who finds those youthful traits in adults and gender medicine is a component of that in my group (castration, low dose estrogen). After the election, I want to push that argument into the vernacular as it's given me an adult community to be a part of as it's better than living my life alone. I expect extreme pushback as only about 2% of men ever wanted to be women but 18% of men feel they've had too much masculinization and wish for younger days (prior Tanner stage). I've gotten an extension of youth and it doesn't sit well with many and I'm not an offender nor do I collect. Social contagion is a funny thing because if one didn't hear about it, one wouldn't know about it. In the days of Columbus, was sailing to the new world that century's version of social contagion? Were people convinced not to fight in their own country and flee at the begrudging of leaders? That's something to be explored as I'm sure their kings needed muscle to secure and expand the kingdom! There always will be a core faction and then others that feel it may be right for them. Couple that with insurance paying for everything since gender medicine can now be considered part of human rights and you are half way there. When there are all inclusive facilities that have every specialty and a floor delineated for each with only the option of counseling, there might be a few more people who would have gotten weeded out. Psychologists used to go over multi-personality disorder, trauma, and general psychotherapy for at least a 12 sessions. This isn't something one should be rushed into and regret/poor results can not be discounted. Informed consent is informed and WPATH at one point said that one should have at least a dozen sessions and I think a complication list and videos of regretters should be at the ready. In Australia, family court got involved in any case where there was a minor as they wanted to prevent a parent who wanted a boy instead of a girl from not looking at the child's best interest. Same could be said about the doctor as some only make money if you accept their service. My mother had a surgeon give us the benefits of a less invasive remedy which he recommended but she took the surgery because she wanted the cancer eradicated. I thought that was an enormous amount of ethics that the surgeon showed and I hope they do this for gender medicine but I'm not a bug the wall of every gender clinic. About 2.5 years ago, I became critical but after hearing Stella say that everyone who started needs to come off their hormonal regimen until late 20's, I gave up on Genspect. They gave Oli London and AGP the spotlight which further muddied the waters for transgenders. Erin Friday who is no friend of mine even said, it's a disgrace and disservice for males who have gender identity issues to be labeled as AGP meat beaters by gender criticals. It seems that if one can lie and embellish to get their way, they'll do it to put the argument permanently to bed and to ban the medicine. That's the spirit I get from Stella who fears she may have opted out of femaleness and been a secondary transitioner who did it more for social benefit instead of hatred of body. I had the visceral hatred of manhood but rather enjoyed boyhood. In my DNA, I was borderline precocious and that led into questioning but I knew the summer I was 12 I would curtail my height growth secretly with caloric and protein restriction as I didn't want manhood to be the end result. Two years later I heard of a suicide because of this exact issue and the answer was people come in all packages which would not work for me. When I walked into high school and saw the aggression from an older cohort, I knew I made the right call. With the then Gulf War looming, I knew they wanted to groom an active participant and that ability to make war through anger and muscle comes from the male puberty as that's why we never have peace for very long; it's baked in the puberty. I live near West Point and annual scholastic pilgrimages there had quite an effect on me but I'm glad I was exposed to it.

[@naruto432]

Anyways we csn reach out to the kid to be an inspiration for other kids? When these kids talk to others who are in the verge kf makjng same mistakes they can be saved.. he is just gentle hearted kid who can save many lives ❤

[@barbaraconnolly9000]

I looked at him at the start of the metting and thought, he was Gay, not trans. I hope he can just live a wholecand happy life.

[@BernieWhelan-l6r]

Im just wondering,is this the same kind of thing that happens when you enter AA, every one understands you until they don't, and then you don't belong?

[@liviam1497]

Jesus this is awful.... those "doctors" who hurt him should end up in prison....

[@juliebatchelor55]

My god! How can these so called doctors sleep at night. This is child abuse and would not have been out of place in nazi Germany. My heart bleeds for Scarlet and I hope he finds peace in his life

[@RosalindMartin-cw1nj]

Hope hope that he has developed talents and hobbies and pleasurable activities.

[@lynnm6413]

Animals don‘t ruminate over perceived body issues…this is a fundamental misunderstanding, calling a teenager ruminating about being ‚ugly‘ as animalistic. I‘d call that hormonal, and normal….animals live in the moment and are not judgmental

[@anneloving8405]

Animals don't have mirrors

[@lynnm6413]

@@anneloving8405 animals like my dog get scared of mirrors because they don‘t recognize themselves… I had to cover my wardrobe mirror for my rescue in the first month, and I have had to sew up a stallion that jumped the ‚other horse‘ in the mirror and cut up his whole face Let that sink in..-

[@upnorth2421]

They are free to choose their metafors. You can choose different ones.

[@lynnm6413]

@@upnorth2421 it isn‘t a metaphor calling something ‚animalistic‘ is a descriptor

[@upnorth2421]

@@lynnm6413 that is your interpretation. And we are animals after all, biological beings, primates.

[@irenalovesart4064]

The horror show of scarlets story! Her poor mother too!

[@Gingerblaze]

Who took Scarlet to the psychologists to begin with, and why? Was his mother threatened to have him taken away if she didn't affirm him as a girl?

[@irenalovesart4064]

@@Gingerblaze apparently yes bc she was ward of the state? Unclear but there seems to be those threats discussed

[@souxcasa]

You didn't draw those predators in they were looking for you, that's what predators do and they are very very good at it

[@aceee4386]

I hope Stella sees this. Maybe as a therapist you shouldn't exclaim "oh my God" as if, "oh the horror", to the actual person that's confiding in you. They need a stable, listening figure rather than someone who's reacting and squirming in their seat.

[@michaelhart1640]

One can't imagine a more perfect case of misinformed consent. Not only is the patient badly informed but the pleas for information by son and mother are not only resisted by the clinicians but disapproved by the clinicians as resistance and denial. This also seems to be a case of gender confusion, not so much a clear wish to transition which would have benefited from talk, which in the end may have led to Scarlet appreciating that getting used to being a gay man leads to a lot safer and happier life than messing up his pituitary. By the way shouldn't a standard piece of informed consent to medical transition be that it reduces the dating pool dramatically as Scarlet discovered too late? Scarlet has done a good job of making peace with his flawed gender journey. Acceptance is important, but, he might benefit from a dose of anger. Scarlet is courageous to "add his story to the conversation" and allow clowns like me to opine on it. Where are the equally courageous lawyers?

[@DorianPaige00]

Scarlet can't accept manhood. He doesn't want the secondary sex characteristics of a male. If he's attracted to secondary sex characteristics on a man who is not himself is the question. If the answer is no, that dating people has been diminished to an even smaller dating pool that what you could have surmised. His lack of mentioning dating and what men he is attracted to makes me think, he's in trouble. If he lets himself go past the point of no return, he'll have issues so bad and have no way to connect. This person isn't going to make it.

[@la-barlinsmile7997]

I am so depressed to listen o this poor kid

[@RosalindMartin-cw1nj]

Parents? Parents? None here?

[@waynemcauliffe-fv5yf]

I don`t believe in pronouns

[@Argeaux2]

There are no such things as “autism traits” Autism is different for every single autistic person, and nobody “looks autistic”.

[@kezzokav5905]

Autistic traits are definitely a thing, they come about from the deficits a person has to be diagnosed with autism in the first place. They're not a bad thing.

[@Woodman-Spare-that-tree]

What on earth is she wearing? A glittery grey sleeveless turtleneck jumper with a zebra-striped tank top. My god!

[@kezzokav5905]

Clothes. He's wearing clothes. Get over yourself.

[@Here_For_Now]

I don't understand what he said about being a ward of the state because he didn't have a father. Is that a thing??? I mean, talk about patriarchy on steroids if true....

[@joywyatt9136]

Why do the hosts spend so much time introducing the guests ?

[@kimsteinke713]

Why did they treat you like an outcast that was the problem right there?

[@mrlawilliamsukwarmachine4904]

Scarlet still has the woke ideology and terminology. He says ‘homophobia’ and ‘fragile masculinity’ were obstacles.

[@BernieWhelan-l6r]

Who is earning a fortune from these interviews?

[@BernieWhelan-l6r]

It's not the person being interviewed.

[@BernieWhelan-l6r]

Scarlett is caught between heaven and hell. Ask her to ask Jesus for forgiveness for what has happened to her.