"My Ex Didn't Tell Me She Was Trans!"

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[@marcusdib]

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[@Raisin.bread.crumbs]

We love it

[@joeyk5]

Like your curls it looks good

[@kingmarvolo]

I absolutely love it

[@WhitsEnding]

Cuuute!

[@SweeneyTodd1990]

Hair looks great!

[@zombiemom6701]

Tricking someone into having sex with you, no matter the circumstances is a form of rape.

[@joane24]

R* isn't "tricking into", it's *forcing to*. Two different things. But sure, tricking into is also very wrong.

[@LokasennaCole]

​@@joane24 I'd say it's something along the lines of a roofie. you are taking their abilityu to consent or not consent and therefore it is rape

[@joane24]

@@LokasennaCole I'd agree, also something like a roofie is definitely using force, the drug being the force to take away the person's faculties away to impose the will of the perpetrator on the other. Definitely. I first understood 'tricking into' more like a sneaky way to convince someone, which of course is also wrong and immoral, but I wouldn't say it's enough to consider it force/violence. But of course, it all depends how to understand/interpret it! Roofies is definitely r*.

[@theoddest1993]

@@joane24 They didn’t state that’s what r**e is, they said that is a form of it. Which it is. If your way of getting consent from someone is lying to them…then it’s not consensual because they didn’t know and could not give their full consent.

[@imays12]

@@joane24yes it is by law

[@AliciaTheTroonSlayer]

And then they have the nerve to play victim and scream about “ma trans violence”

[@TheLouHam]

Is violence the proper response to being fooled like that?

[@AliciaTheTroonSlayer]

@@TheLouHam I didn’t say that…Victims of SA and their reactions aren’t for me to critique. Coercion is not okay, men can be victims too. Not to mention that’s just a deflection and talking point, there’s no evidence of them being hurt.

[@jamesneese7663]

​@TheLouHam proper no. Likely yes. After all, a lot of trans can't keep their hands ro themselves despite becoming ladies, as past Marcus videos have shown

[@BigHomieSteveTheMetalHead]

​@@TheLouHam controversial opinion here, but yes it's justified. Doesn't make it right, but it's definitely justifiable.

[@hospitalsgivingpatientsdan8894]

@@TheLouHam well if lie to people you take your risk. Honesty is important

[@neonlights3739]

People have the right to know exactly who they’re getting into bed with

[@milliewoo337]

Exactly. Withholding information that, if one partner knew about it, would make them withdraw consent is SA. No gray area here

[@gilgameshofuruk4060]

"Know exactly _who_ " Wow, that would seriously scupper the romantic activities of half the socialites in my city. Oh, hang on, sorry, you said that about people "they get into bed with". That won't apply to our party people do it behind the bins at the back of KFC.

[@Rowri88]

"behind the bins at the back of KFC" jeez I'm glad I'm not American cuz who does that, let alone go to KFC lol@@gilgameshofuruk4060

[@namename9998]

@@milliewoo337 Youre right. Withholding that you pushed your brother when you were 5 yrs old could result in some people withdrawing consent which means a crime. No gray area here.

[@m_winewood]

More like *what* they’re getting into bed with. And that’s not a diss. The problem with the gender movement in the first place is that they see “who are you?” and “what are you?” as the same question for no reason and have popularized framing people as bigots for not seeing it that way. Which is both unfair and nonsensical.

[@Kimberley42]

Deceiving someone in this way should 100% be illegal.

[@Kathleen-vl5ws]

I agree I can't find a source because I read about it quite a while ago, but I'm sure of my memory: an HIV positive man went to prison in Europe (maybe the UK) for intentionally deceiving his partners about his HIV positive status and maliciously infecting them. I cannot for the life of me remember his name or exactly where in the UK, but he was Caucasian and targeted gay men on dating apps. Obviously, thats a different situation because a disease was involved and that makes the encounter arguably some kind of assault or reckless endangerment. There are other cases where people have basically been charged with rape by deception too, so there is a precedent for this being illegal

[@collyernicholasjohn]

In the UK, it is. There have been few prosecutions, but two that I know of have been of women pretending to be men. The victims were very young and sexually inexperienced girls.

[@namename9998]

@@collyernicholasjohn Its not illegal "In England and Wales, you may be found guilty of reckless HIV transmission if all of the below apply: You had sex with someone who didn’t know you had HIV. You knew you had HIV at that time. You understood how HIV is transmitted. You had sex without a condom. You transmitted HIV to that person. " If you dont transmit then its not a crime.

[@namename9998]

@@Kathleen-vl5ws Criminalizing infecting people with stds backfires because it enables people to not get tested. If you dont get tested then you will never know whether you have a disease therefore you cant be punished for something you didnt know about. Its why countries are repealing those laws. As for deception if you dont tell the person youre dating that you pushed your brother when you were 5 yrs old shouldnt you be guilty of deception.. Why do you get to get away with not sharing stuff like that. You might not think thats important info to share but other people would. If only there were a way... Wait. If something matters to you then its your responsibility to ask about it. If someone is dating you and they want kids but you dont and you dont disclose that you dont want kids they could sue you for deception because they were incapable of making informed decisions in the relationship even though they could have asked you whether you wanted kids. R by deception is only used in situations like when a doctor says that to save your life they need to do stuff with you. Its unreasonable for a patient to know every medical treatment available therefore the doctor is in a position of authority. There isnt precedent of having the wrong crhomosomes being illegal. No one forced you to do stuff with the person youre in a relationship with. If you consented and enjoyed doing stuff with the package you saw then its not r. You dont get to change your mind later otherwise every man can accuse every woman theyve ever done stuff with of the same thing you would accuse everyone else.

[@SexyBeautifulBabe]

@@Kathleen-vl5wshiv can kill you.. sleeping with a trans person isn’t life threatening 😂 y’all say anything

[@elenawilliams32]

"I wanted you to get to know the real me first" - Yes, a LIAR!🚩 Most people want a relationship based on honesty, integrity and trust.

[@graysky3009]

The real them is a dude, 😂

[@Schaemia]

Yup. So no sex until the other person knows the 'real' person = the fact they are Trans.

[@ginaweith9475]

That’s it in a nutshell. It requires vulnerability and risk of rejection. So take care of what you need to heal and accept about yourself before bringing someone into a relationship with you. Can you be truly open and honest, even if you fear rejection?

[@elenawilliams32]

@@ginaweith9475 Well said. No-one likes being rejected but I can't imagine being at the very beginning of a relationship where you're learning about each other and not disclosing something as important as being trans-gender! It doesn't matter how lovely you are as a person, lots of people just don't have that preference.

[@randomlibra]

When you take a person's choice away, you take away consent. When there is no consent, it is r*p*... and I stand by that.

[@Revert2017]

Trans or not trans- relationships based on one person lying about they are, is devastating to the other person. It leads to a years of distrust and self doubt.

[@SexyBeautifulBabe]

ANY relationship based off lies is devastating

[@sweethistortea]

That’s true. If your partner, trans or not, is hiding secrets from you than the entire relationship comes into question.

[@PeaceNotWar72]

Should be illegal & able to sue anyone who doesn’t disclose this information! That’s mental & emotional assault on another person!

[@SexyBeautifulBabe]

@@PeaceNotWar72 sue them for what? Most trans women are poor 🤣

[@TheSarahJane33]

@PeaceNotWar72 and physical. No one has a right to anyone else’s body, especially under false pretenses.

[@beareeves4923]

A note on puberty blockers. The blockers stop puberty. It is not temporary. The genitals stop developing. If the decision is made to have bottom surgery, there is likely going to be problems. Underdeveloped genitals will likely not have sufficient tissue for a successful reconstruction.

[@JustinVillemure]

You, actually know and understand what you're talking about. Too many on this issue do not. Keep it up!

[@lucky2516]

True and Jazz Jennings is a good example of that

[@JustinVillemure]

@@lucky2516 anyone who thinks puberty blockers LONG TERM are not harmful or reductive/destructive to a growing developing human body - are the problem. We go through development not just of the genitals but body mass, functions, nerves and brain - if you stunt that long term, the body won't jumpstart puberty again - it will have passed that biological period and we'll have not fully developed people in our society who will become more and more deranged with medicine hormones and improper ideology and lack of facts... We need to get back to helping ACTUAL GENDERY DYSPHORIC people POST puberty - mental and therapeutic first then if they CHOOSE hormones let them when they are fully functional adults.

[@Madinaash]

Also once the surgery is done. No orgasm for life.

[@sweetpie7919]

Oh I never thought of that

[@spector969]

I think deceiving someone in this way is evil and rapey, if you obtain consent via deception then is it really true consent... I don't think it is...

[@amandawilkinsontarot7096]

Yes

[@namename9998]

How were they being deceptive? If you dont share that your German grandparent participated in WW2 then youre being deceptive. Some people would be traumatized knowing they were in a relationship with people with ugly pasts. If something could traumatize you then its your job to ask about it. People arent psychic. It takes 2 to tango.

[@LokasennaCole]

@@amandawilkinsontarot7096 found the date rapist.

[@FatiFleur-jn7ky]

It is rape by deception. In some countries this is an actual law, in those countries you could press charges against the transgender individual.

[@planetoii]

@@amandawilkinsontarot7096 no, it's not

[@inwector]

You WILL know how a real kitty feels like when you explore a kitty that was formerly an eggplant. I did. It's extremely rigid and feels like you are in a box made by a carpenter. Do not recommend.

[@hilarycoyote]

😂

[@triggered577]

Oh. my. gawd.

[@Tannertheinjector]

I actually agree 😂😂😂 great comment. Hahah I do labia procedures and penis enhancements with fillers and this cracked me up. But you are so right. Totally two different things.

[@SureYoureRight]

Omg 😂😂😂

[@L3ttucePr3y]

He must have been a virgin beforehand

[@angeliccow]

in 2004 australia there was a show that aired called there is something about miriam... the something was that miriam was trans. It was one of the myriad of dating shows from that era and the schtick was that Miriam would not reveal that she was trans until the final episode after picking a winner. The 6 men went in blind kissing and fondling and in the hot tub with Miriam. At the end they sued for conspiracy to commit sexual assault and they got paid. Clearly it has an effect on the unknowing partner.

[@MalissiaCreates]

Yes I watched a doc about this years ago and the men were so embarrassed and ridiculed by others that it was detrimental to their well being. Full disclosure is the ONLY consent a person can give. Everything else should be liable.

[@jenniferbond7073]

I remember that show. Miriam was beautiful and passed 100%. The guys rightly so looked utterly disgusted when the big twist was revealed. It was a crappy thing to do to those guys.

[@9246Mike]

56 year old gay man here. I highly respect your content and your opinions. Thank you for keeping it real.

[@stevieboyXI]

I'm glad she said "She's one of those." That's the kind of attitude we should all have about people like that. Some will defend it which boggles my mind.

[@Nym146]

As far as I'm concerned, if you don't tell the other person that you're sleeping with that you are trans then it's r4p3.

[@viejolincanada]

Nobody has a problem with Trans people who live in reality.

[@ca678.4]

Transsexuals actually acknowledge reality. This all went downhill when the rest of this group pushed for the separation of gender and sex.

[@ca678.4]

Transsexuals actually acknowledge reality. This all went downhill when the rest of them pushed for the separation of gender and sex.

[@TheBaumcm]

Correction no one has an issue with people who live in reality.

[@viejolincanada]

@@TheBaumcm "no one has an issue with people who live in reality." During the 20th Century some crazy men believed they were Napoleon and would stand like him hiding his hand. In those days health care professionals never tried to "affirm" these men by buying them a Napoleon uniform and taking pictures of them hiding their hand. If that would have happened, those professionals would have been deemed crazy and they would have been sent to a psychiatric hospital

[@collyernicholasjohn]

Why do so many trans identifying men think: “If I don’t tell him I’m a man he might be violent”and not “if I don’t tell him I’m a man it’s me that’s violent”?

[@alex-qd6of]

Because it's not violence? It's messed up. Immoral, even. But it's no more violence, than words are.

[@collyernicholasjohn]

@@alex-qd6of yes, deception and betrayal, more than violence, but the point still stands

[@Ggrrllable]

​@@alex-qd6ofit's rape by deception.

[@nothinglikeburntvag]

@alex-qd6of It’s sex by false pretense, which is a form of sexual assault.

[@robertmarshall2502]

​@@nothinglikeburntvag In the UK a trans identifying male at the crown prosecution service says that it shouldn't be recognized as s assault. They talk about not being prosecuted for not disclosing their gender identity but when you actually look at what it means in practice it is 100% making a form of r--- legal because it's literally about protection from non-consensual penetrative sex by deception. The bizarre proposed amendment requires us to take into account all sorts of details about the offender, their gender identity and "performance" and barely mentions the victim except to see if they could reasonably know [that the person had a penis]. As with almost all "pro-trans" legal proposals they only seem to protect males. I really don't think ppl understand how dangerous a lot of this ideology is and how deep into our justice system it has gotten.

[@jjj4n4]

Am I crazy to think this is borderline coercion?

[@Anna-fw7lm]

If a m1nor say they're adults and end up with an adult, what it is? If an ab*sive ex change hinself so much, with the help of surgery, that 10 years later he can have sex again with his ex, how it's called? If a person with stds doesn't say anything and spread viruses, how it's sanctioned? To lie to have sex it's r*pe.

[@sweetiespoon5150]

It goes way beyond that. It's r4p3 by deception.

[@velvetinedrapes4359]

not at all. He said it was only three months but imagine she said it was a medical condition and they used condoms. 5 years down the line and he wants kids and then it all comes out then.

[@namename9998]

Yes you are crazy. How is it coercion? You see something then decide whether or not you want it. No one forced you to play with the item. Coercion is "do this or I will do this". Only phobics would have thoughts like these. These people wouldnt want to be in a relationship with a trans person regardless of knowing their transness.

[@trixmania]

​@velvetinedrapes4359 probably fake being infertile. Going off to appointments on own to hide it. Deception.

[@tassiodrigues]

Sex is the peak of intimacy with someone, between the two (or more) people involved. Your body is naked and your feelings are exposed. If you are with someone who lied about their gender, you might feel betrayed, used. Manipulated. This is NOT okay.

[@tablescissors]

I miss people thinking of sex this way.

[@terejosh13]

I feel sorry for those who feel that sex is peak intimacy between two people.

[@velvetinedrapes4359]

@@terejosh13 look in the mirror bro. You ain't it. You're in no place to feel sorry for others

[@Emzzz78]

@@terejosh13without sex it’s just a friendship. Sex IS peak intimacy.

[@terejosh13]

@velvetinedrapes4359 you're a troll with an AI picture. Please go away and play with the rest of the bots.

[@DitzySage]

The word traumatic is not too extreme, it would be incredibly traumatic for most straight men. It would be a violation akin to rape, in fact. It is rape by deception. There is an innate visceral aversion to intimacy between two men, for most straight men. It's not homophobia, it is an innate evolutionary psychology they can't control. When I hear trans people say "well if he didn't know at the time, then it didn't hurt him". Tell that to a woman that was passed out drunk and didn't know she had been raped until later. Not traumatic? Of course it is. Someone took advantage of her inability to consent and violated her person. Not disclosing your biological sex, when you know they think you are the opposite sex, is no different than plying them with alcohol and removing their ability to consent. The fact it isn't illegal already, is because the victims are typically straight men. They tend to be the last on the list of justice. Be it in custody rights, domestic abuse or rape, they are treated differently. The rage they feel is not homophobia or transphobia, it's the anger one feels when they've been intimately violated. No one would fault a woman for killing her rapist, but if a man lashes out, his rapist is the victim. When you deceive and violate someone, you are not the victim. Of course I don't condone violence unless it's self defense, but I certainly understand why some might lash out. You cannot do that to people, you must disclose it immediately.

[@rebekahdavis5935]

Grape by deception is exactly it. In some families this could get a man shunned by his whole family if they thought he slept with a man. SO wrong. Why is it all of the sudden ONLY important that we consider their feelings and safety ONLY. The left has lost their mind. They make as much sense as religious zealots at this point. SMH

[@kellysouter4381]

I heard of a marine that was fooled and when he found out, he removed himself to the next world. It's not ok to be untruthful.

[@Riley-kt5wr]

​​@@hamsapiensBoth genders can be equally cruel and bad. In this case, the original comment was in solidarity of this man who was taken advantage of. Could you let it be about him and not downplay it with something else? Why do people always do this, I wonder. "I'm sad" "Yeah? Well my parents and cousins and friends and teachers all died, so, how about that?" It's childish and disrespectful. Yes, us women go through perhaps a bit more anguish than men in life, but men are just as deserving of our empathy, sympathy and understanding. I was once done horrible things to by a man, my ex. And yet I can differentiate that this man who was VIOLATED is NOT my ex, or any other man who is horrible. Let's be kind.

[@Rowri88]

this is wrong as well, whats with this "what aboutisms" bullshit, grow up. I'm trans and I'm not American, and its common joke here that American trans women pull this shit all the time@@hamsapiens

[@namename9998]

Youre right just like youre right that its a crime when you dont disclose that your German great grandparent participated in WW2. A lot of people wouldnt want to be in relationships with people with pasts like that. If you dont tell them and they learn from someone else then theyll be traumatized. You cant pick and choose what is and isnt deception. It takes 2 to tango and everyone has the opportunity to ask "are you married", etc. If you arent going to ask about things that you could be traumatized about then thats your fault.

[@ginaweith9475]

This poor man. He did not deserve this. He deserved the information and deserved to make a choice. This is horrible.

[@catheirs]

Not disclosing is the ultimate snakey, narcissistic move. It’s honestly evil.

[@janice3691]

Totally unacceptable not to tell. It happened to me and I felt totally violated. Please tell as you have no idea what that can do to a person's psychology. Live in reality.

[@ca678.4]

If they don’t tell it should 100% give you free reign to bleat them!! Like people want to (and do) to men who 🍇unconsenting women. I’m so sorry that happened to you. Hopefully some day they receive their karma. (Reposted because yt refused to stop removing my comment)

[@colinwalker7204]

You mention the potential for violence, a Pakistani guy I worked with a while back had an experience in a bar/club where he 'thought' he was getting it on with an attractive girl, only to find out several hours later that there was an eggplant, he reacted extremely badly and beat this person to a pulp. Obviously he was at fault for reacting violently, and its sad this person was beaten, but if they had identified themselves as being trans before hand, he would've moved on and it would never have happened

[@Liv.Clarke]

People think they can erase the past - they can’t. A man has just as much of a right to informed consent as a woman. He very well may want kids, and it is not their responsibility to stay with someone who isn’t compatible with their long term goals in the name of upholding someone’s psychosocial identity. So much love for you Marcus, I’ve been following you for quite some time now - I admit life got in the way so I haven’t checked in as much but I love seeing you grow. ❤

[@namename9998]

Informed consent includes knowing that you pushed your brother when you were 5 yrs old. Trans people can have kids its called surrogacy and adoption. Cis people have fertility problems too. If having kids is the most important thing to you then you should bring it up on the first date not after months of dating. Its not their responsibility trying to read your mind.

[@Pidatha]

​@@namename9998 Pushing your brother doesn't have anything to so with sèx, F'ing a man pretending to be a woman definitely does. Imagine supporting Predators SO HARD, I'm losing brain cells reading your comments

[@Liv.Clarke]

@@namename9998 thank you for your reply - though I fear you’ve missed my point entirely. Informed consent in the context of sexual intimacy cannot be equated to the ficticious actions of an impressionable 5 year old learning right from wrong. I believe what you’re really referring to is the idea of an adult disclosing possible lapses of their moral judgement in their past - which of course I agree with. Surrogacy and adoption services are reserved for individuals who choose to go down that route. For the majority of couples - if infertility poses an issue, IVF would be first line (also worth noting, only 1 in 6 women struggle with fertility, and categorically infertile females is extremely rare). An infertile woman is a very complicated medical anomaly. She may have primary amenorrhea (absence of periods by age 16) - most likely caused by conditions suck as MRKH or CAIS (approximately affecting 0.02 of the female population). In any case, these are rare congenital conditions which serve as evidence that absence of periods in a females is medically concerning - aside from secondary amenorrhea which could cover anything from pregnancy/ menopause/ birth control/ a missed period. In other words - an infertile woman is not biologically akin to a formally fertile male who decided to invert his penis to create a neovagina. That’s correct - medically, a post-operative neovagina it is not a vagina because it is not a functioning organ, but rather an arrangement of phallic skin in order to appear phenotypically female. The microflora found will not be the same as a biological woman’s as the tissue is different. The implication is that legally, a researcher could not study a neovagina in order to draw conclusions on possible lacks of function in a natural vagina/ female reproductive system as they are in no way comparable. Also - most women won’t know they’re infertile unless they actively try for children. So the expectation is, unless otherwise stated, any unprotected sex leads to a possibility of conception. It’s not uncommon to hear of women who conceive while on birth control, or a woman who’s struggled to conceive in the past conceiving a rainbow baby (the term used by mothers for their children who arrive safely, when their previous babies were not viable). Conversely, doctors can say with 100% certainty that a post-opprative trans woman has a 0% chance of conceiving. Thus, females of reproductive age have a different approach to reproductive health, because their vagina is not an inconsequential “bonus hole”. I know, as a woman, that my vagina is my birth canal - functionally adept for birthing my future children (god willing). It’s not simply a hole to give a man pleasure. Also, “cis” is a silly descriptor when “biological women” is a far more accurate term for adult human females. The argument on the left is, “cis is the Latin term for the same side of” so then you attach it as a prefix to either: gender, or women, in this case. For reference, I have studied Latin in the past, so I know what I’m talking about. The first thing you learn with Latin is the alphabet, namely that “C” is pronounced “K” consistently with no deviation - unless you are partial to the ecclesiastical Latin pronunciation of “ch”: though this is only really used in the Vatican nowadays. If we break down the etymology, if you say “cisgender woman” you are essentially saying “on the same side of gender woman” … WHAT DOES THAT EVEN MEAN !!! (you ask?). Well, it doesn’t mean a whole lot… In order for that definition to apply you must first define gender, woman, and indeed what it means to be on the same side of gender as a woman. It also isn’t epistemologically correct… if transgender is defined as enacting a cognitive process which leads you to the conclusion that you are the opposite gender - then one can assume that cisgender means that an individual has deployed a similar cognitive process which lead them to the conclusion that their body parts and how they view themselves/ others/ the world around them are one in the same. I don’t subscribe to that belief, because I don’t read intrinsic value into the fact that the combination of my parents genes many years ago ended up in me being born female with a fully functioning reproductive system. I much prefer the definition of woman as “adult human female”, because I’m an adult, I’m a human, and I’m a female. The nuances of dating are complex at the best of times, and if you’re bringing up kids on a first date you’ll probably come off too strong. Love is a dance, and people are entitled to chose their partners based on who they are, not what they think they are. You can’t lie about the big stuff. Being trans is nothing to be ashamed about in the first place, why withhold that information? What is the benefit of deception? From a different angle, why would a trans woman even want to be with someone who takes a disliking to her identity? If a man didn’t want to date me because of who I am proud to be - I’d be glad that they pushed me away because they wouldn’t deserve me anyways. Isn’t finding honest, true, unapologetic love what every consenting adult deserves? You tell me.

[@WeirdSnakeGal]

You gotta appreciate Marcus picking up on the comment about trans people getting murdered for being trans and because they didn't disclose. While I'm sure it can happen and has happened in the past, it is not the norm. The whole transgender genocide narrative is toxic and plain false information. Another KZbinr did a video on this subject and exposed the real statistics.

[@Nailbunny2702]

Sophia Narwitz

[@TheLouHam]

People love throwing the word genocide around and it’s beginning to lose its meaning.

[@Floratic]

In reality a trans person is more likely to be deleted or assaulted by their S.O. then a stranger. And I'm talking about an S.O. who knows the truth.

[@mikoburns3938]

⁠@@TheLouHamredefining words seems to be a trend as well, or eliminating them….mother = birthing person, breastfeeding is chest feeding, a woman is well a woman! No longer is a woman an adult human female that produces large gametes. Menstruating person 🤦 extremely cult like behavior happening in the world of the woke. Cue transphobe and Trump affiliation accusations…..3,2,1…..

[@doesthisIookinfected]

I also feel like this rhetoric scares trans people from being honest from the get go because they think their date is gonna murder them.

[@lynnm6413]

Any trans person who doesn‘t disclose it has not gotten any consent from their partner, and there is a word for that… Prison is what that kind of action should result in.

[@canadafree2087]

A few years ago you may have rightly won a court case; now your chance is much less likely.

[@namename9998]

Not disclosing that you pushed your brother when you were 5 means the other person is incapable of giving consent. Be careful phobes. If you want full disclosure then be prepared to share the number of people you sucked, etc in court.

[@Pidatha]

​@@namename9998 You must be one of the Traps SA'ing men 🤮 one of these days you'll find a man that's gonna give you your just desserts

[@lynnm6413]

@@canadafree2087 which only shows how messed up this world has gotten

[@lynnm6413]

@@namename9998 your comparison is too dumb to even react to it, but I'm petty where it comes to stupidity, sometimes I just cannot help myself!

[@NinjaTenK]

He was r word 😢

[@priscillajimenez27]

Yup

[@rebekahdavis5935]

Yes, why can't we call it what it is. Another commenter pointed out the similarity to plying a woman with alcohol and taking advantage of her while she's passed out. This SHOULD be considered a CRIME!

[@sodbhdubs4031]

as someone who experienced sa, i don't feel comfortable using that word in that context because it diminishes the meaning of the word. i don't think it is right to contain information like that to someone, but nobody was forced into sleeping with one another.

[@NinjaTenK]

@rebekahdavis5935 well with the youtube ai we can't say the word

[@NinjaTenK]

@@rebekahdavis5935 it is considered a crime it's just most people don't know the complete definition of the word

[@joeyk5]

It’s not right to not disclose the fact they are trans.

[@Itsnotthatdeep88]

They are def going to have trust issues moving forward now. The fact that they said "well I wanted him to get to know me beforehand" always bugged me. Ok so you thought that after sleeping with them...lying to them by deception and then months or years later finally tell them that even through all of that he will just be ok with it? A lie is a lie and Marcus is right if you are comfortable being a Trans person then why not tell that person upfront about who you are. Apparently that person is not comfortable with themselves it's so clear if you feel the need to lie to people and then mask it with "Just get to know me" like YOU ARE TRANS...either people will like it, or curious about it or not like it a all...Trans is not a sweater that people need to "let grow on them" to determine if they like it or not. it's just wrong and that person needs to accept themselves AND accepting themselves includes acknowledging that you were born a man in this case.

[@blackharvest13]

Idk how they think they can have an honest relationship with somone by lying to them. How would the trans person feel if they knew the person they slept with didn't disclose that they had ann STD.

[@namename9998]

@@blackharvest13 "How would the trans person feel if they knew the person they slept with didn't disclose that they had ann STD." If they didnt disclose then why did you have sex with them. Really? Relationships involve 2+ people. If youre not participating in it then it shouldnt matter but if you are then how did you not know they had an std. Its as simple as "do you have any stds?" Its not right being judged on your past or mental disorders but hey. People are mean.

[@namename9998]

@americasmomloveeveryonenoe7517 Twins switching is completely different than a trans person not sharing that their chromosomes are different. It doesnt even have to be twins. It could be 2 friends who look nothing like. I understand your intent but it was a horrible comparison. The trans person is still the same person you went to movies with, cuddled with, etc. A twin or other person is a completely different person.

[@SunnieDIY]

​@@namename9998sexual consent based on a lie is rape. Period this includes trans people lying to gain sex. This includes twins switching. Sexual consent based on force is rape. Force isnt just physical but can also be manipulation or coercion. Lying to gain consent is also a way to manipulate someones consent. Its a violation period if is rape. Its evil.

[@nataliawitek6765]

Its not even about genitals for me... its about broken trust. And that is not how you start any meaningful relationship. I mean biology and future is important too, but with honesty you can achieve way more together.

[@VicCross]

Imagine if a non trans man or a woman was unable to have children, and they did not disclose this information prior to engaging in a relationship with someone, who may or may not want to have children. That would be considered unethical. Or had a degenerative illness, that was potentially fatal? People should be looking for partners who are not only willing to accept them for who they are, but also capable of looking past whatever challenges they may be facing. The ONLY way to ensure that in a partner is starting from a place of complete honesty.

[@jaijai5250]

There’s no such word as “non trans”. Some of us are simply comfortable with our bodies, regardless of imperfections.

[@TheBaumcm]

I learned from our pastor that people are deceitful about many things in relationships, he gave us this as reason for the questions he asks, but not always maliciously so. The problem is, depending on the size of the fib, and regardless of intention, it can have really vast implications, like the guy who had $25K in credit card debt and didn’t tell his fiancée. My husband and I treated our relationship a little like a business contract so our counseling took literally 15 mins but there is a reason that most couples need to start months in advance.

[@kathryndowsett6494]

I absolutely love you. I am the kind terf that believes that there are people who are genuinely trans. I have been at the receiving end of a tra's vitriol.I believe in the sanctity of female sports and spaces.I don't believe in the transing of children who are nowhere near adulthood. I would love the opportunity to talk with you sometime. You are a courageous person speaking out about your point of view even when you know the consequences within the trans community. God bless.

[@doeeyes2]

Do you follow Slightly Twisted. I was a trutrans believer too at one point.

[@kathryndowsett6494]

@doeeyes2 we met in Philly when Kelly-Jay was there. I love twisted but she's gotta make shorter content.

[@doeeyes2]

@@kathryndowsett6494 i know right? Her earlier video essays were amazing and i still reawatch and reference them... but her lives can get a bit too off topic. Shes funny as fuck tho. 🤣

[@baronghede2365]

This should be a crime to lie to your partner, Blessed Be.

[@NinjaTenK]

It is a crime that’s why it’s called r*pe

[@Toughmittens]

I think there’s a law protecting people that killed trans people for doing this. Kind of messed up.

[@chantz2400]

idk y the blessed be at the end made me laugh 🤭

[@markymark4756]

it's called rape.

[@aricahawkins9959]

🤨

[@4everseekingwisdom690]

I dated a post op girl for about a year and I'm sorry but that guy's either lying or he was a virgin before her and had no point of reference but there's no way you wouldn't know.

[@Sepdet9]

Thanks for saying that. I didn't think it was possible to completely "pass" when naked. How real do fake vaginas look? Does the surgery give you a clitoris?

[@weswolever7477]

The same thought occurred to me as well … admittedly I don’t know a lot about this subject

[@boosqueezy2418]

i wondered about that too. it can’t look real

[@4everseekingwisdom690]

@boosqueezy2418 very close but there's other differences

[@ca678.4]

Exactly. People need to stop lying. Then again, if that was the case, these people wouldn’t be so far off. I honestly feel like this shit is scripted due to his mannerisms.

[@TanyaRando]

I love the hair Marcus, I always wished my hair was curly and had so many perms when I was younger! I think it’s awful to not tell someone you’re trans before sleeping with them, or even getting emotionally serious with them. A relationship is VERY unlikely to survive something like that.

[@whenimmanicimgodly4228]

1:45 the thing is is that the SAFEST way to date as a trans woman is to tell them immediately when they ask you out or when on the first date "you know I was born a guy, right?" It makes the people who arent interested move on and if the date is still on then guess what?? That person doesn't care! By lying to guys for weeks to months to years at a time about it you're putting your own life at risk. I understand how these people feel uncomfortable, nervous, and scared when telling people this kind of stuff; but the best way to go about it and safest way is to be honest and upfront about it.

[@whenimmanicimgodly4228]

Lmao I should have just waited ro leave this comment because the lady said the exact same thing once I pressed play. Leaving the comment for others to see, but for real guys please be safe! Be honest! Be upfront!

[@whenimmanicimgodly4228]

@littlecatfeet9064 yea, definitely is! I'm bisexual and I have no problem dating trans women AT ALL, but I do have a problem with lies and deceit especially when its about something like this. If I found out someone I was seeing for 3-4 months was born a man and they felt the need to hide that from me...well, that relationship is DONE. Not cause theyre trans, but they're deceptive liars.

[@teefuhnini]

@whenimmanicimgodly4228 I totally agree with you! Being honest upfront gives everyone peace of mind as well as making sure no one feels like their time has been wasted.

[@namename9998]

If its r by deception then so is wearing makeup, not revealing how many people youve sucked, being raised a different religion, etc. If you want to play that card then make sure you share everything including that time you pushed your brother when you were 5 yrs old. And its only r by deception if they evaded answering every time you asked "are you trans". If you never asked then they neved deceived. You were just as guilty for deceiving them. They were under the impression that you either knew they were trans or had no problem being in a relationship with a trans person. Only phobic people would support criminalizing trans people for not revealing their chromosomes.

[@scotthix2297]

Thanks! Just spreading the joy buddy😎💋 Stella

[@marcusdib]

Thank you so much!!

[@ForeverMe543]

This needs to be classified as 🍇. Just like std. just like any other non consent of sexual activity.

[@marleycolombo2998]

I just wanted to stop by and say that I love your videos, your honesty and integrity is inspiring. ❤

[@Caleb17-ym6pq]

Not disclosing your 'transness' with the person you are having sex with is such sketchy and predatory behavior. There should be legal ramifications for behavior like this.

[@momof4kids735]

All relationships should begin with honesty, especially something as important as that. If people do not want to continue the relationship, then so be it. I see Marcus as a very attractive man, but I don’t think I am interested in female parts. I would want to know before though, so it’s MY choice to continue. ♥️

[@TheLouHam]

I fully agree with you, give the person you’re planning on giving your heart to a choice. Who knows, maybe they’ll be fine with it, because what they feel for you overwhelms the physical aspect part of the relationship.

[@Itsnotthatdeep88]

@@TheLouHam Yea he said in the video " I really had a strong connection to that person and I really liked them" Now this trans person has destroyed all of that on the ASSUMPTION that they thought the guy wouldn't like them.... ALL of THEM. If they really hit it off in the beginning the guy may have wanted to see how far it went knowing that the person was trans but since they lied about it now you can't be trusted... really sad

[@priscillajimenez27]

She's into men

[@momof4kids735]

@@TheLouHam EXACTLY ♥️

[@momof4kids735]

@@Itsnotthatdeep88 well said ♥️

[@corruptmindpalace]

im glad jules is a reasonable person ~ i also started watching her years ago cause she was adorable and she was very reasonable when she was transitioning too. im happy to see her still be great and thriving.

[@mentalalchemysubliminals]

Her own designer kitty closed up I think, She uses the backdoor exclusively now.

[@HailiePepper]

Oh my god??? I effing LOVE Julie Vu, she’s such an OG icon. She’s been around for so long. Love her so much.

[@cryptameria666]

4:30 respect in any relationship is key. If you lie about that, what else are they lying about

[@nicholasanderson7316]

Exactly. And honestly I don’t blame any of the straight men for getting upset with someone who is trans who does that. Obviously, don’t harm the person. They obviously didn’t care about the harm they were doing to him. It seems like the trans person didn’t care anything for being honest with the person they were sleeping with and making it all about them. Sure, she might have been scared, but there is definitely a high level of disrespect and selfishness there not taking into account how lying to that person would affect them. That’s just straight up gross. He is the victim not the trans person.

[@boosqueezy2418]

@@nicholasanderson7316ita

[@namename9998]

@@nicholasanderson7316 What harm was being done to the man? How is the trans person not being harmed. Its all well and good saying after youve broken up that you would have dated them had you known they were trans but really. Be honest. It was disrespectful and selfish that the guy never asked if his ex was trans or mentioned that they didnt want to be in a relationship with a trans person. Why assume the person youre in a relationship isnt trans. Would you assume theyre fertile, a vegan, etc. The trans person is the victim. It takes 2 to tango and both people were wrong but if you dont want to be in a relationship with a trans person youre the one who is responsible for finding out if the person youre dating is trans.

[@nicholasanderson7316]

@@namename9998 yeah no. The trans person is not the victim. The harm is mental. The fact that the trans person hid they were trans does matter, regardless of how you feel about it,

[@Pidatha]

​@@namename9998Because less than 1 percent of people are trans? It's not the World's responsibility to cater for you and think about you 24/7. It's People like you that make men put "super straight" in there profiles, and then you cry oppression

[@richardmarston1171]

egg plant to a kitty hahahahaa you bust me up

[@hellidontcare7355]

Deceitfulness in a relationship never ends well. It’s better to be honest with someone than to hide shit that’s just wrong on every level.

[@richhutchinson2934]

As a straight man, I would DEF be really pissed if they weren’t honest about that from the very beginning. It’s literally taking the freedom of choice away.

[@namename9998]

How is it literally taking your freedom of choice away. Did they hogtie and gag you without your consent. If so then thats already a crime. If you saw them naked and said "yes please" then no one violated your freedom.

[@Pidatha]

​@@NunyaBiz6801 That vile creature is literally going around the comments defending SA. Saying how its "phobic" to not date/ leave a person for their chromosomes

[@namename9998]

@@NunyaBiz6801 That literally didnt answer the question. Literally what stops any person from asking "are you trans?" If you never ask that then its your own fault.

[@nmelo3445]

@@namename9998so I don’t have to tell you if I have herpes because at the time of the sex, I didn’t have any flare ups and you didn’t ask. Same fucking concept. Stop trying to twist your delusions into reality. No amount of plastic surgery will undo what you really are.

[@SummersPsycheDelicates]

@@namename9998would be weird to ask everybody if they’re trans. Seems a lot easier for people to just not lie about it. Idky honesty is so much to ask from someone you’re going to be having sexual interaction with

[@bluemoon.456]

A good term to use is betrayed. Or betrayal of trust and disrespect to the guy.

[@thorpsewinglessons5913]

Bluemoon456 as a biological woman, I feel a trans person imitating us real women is wrong. They need proper medical care, no matter what they have done to their real gender, they are a male .Gods creation.

[@musicallydisneyamvs6731]

You sir, are the type of person to respect. You don’t demand it but you absolutely earned it. You’re honest & not ashamed nor have anything to hide.

[@xEvilNeverDiesx]

I can't imagine not being able to tell that you're dating let alone sleeping with a man. There are so many clues.

[@ignatius4005]

"I know how hard it is to accept yourself as a trans person, its so difficult to comprehend that no matter what you do, no matter how many surgeries you get, hormone pills you take; its 100% impossible to change your biological sex" This... oh my gosh, Ive been into such deep depression because deep down I know that no matter how much I mask it, is NEVER going to be enough. It is such a painful reality and the hardest to accept WITHIN YOURSELF if you are transsexual. I still dont, and sometimes I do, this has caused me to be so sexually dysfunctional. But one thing is clear: all people deserves to know with who they are going to share their bed at night. Despite Im pre T, I always been honest with this, even when it pains me the most.

[@DitzySage]

I hope you are able to find that inner peace you deserve. The problem isn't that you can never be the sex you feel you are, it's the fact that you feel you are not enough, just as you are. Finding that acceptance within yourself, is where that inner peace will come from. Not outward validations by others. You are enough just as you are.

[@scotthix2297]

As a Peer Counselor for people living with HIV, I always strongly encourage them to tell their status “the moment their Zipper starts to twitch”. It avoids so much, including the loss and self loathing that comes with rejection. I would recommend that course of action to anyone, trans or anyone else.

[@blah914]

a reminder to ppl that a failure to disclose infectious disease, should they get infected, is also a crime. lotta ppl dont know that...

[@kimmiewise1044]

​@@blah914 Not telling someone you are trans before sleeping with them should also be a crime. It's Grape by Coercion. And a couple of states affirm this by saying if a man finds out he was graped in this way he can be justified in retaliating against his trans Grapist. Though recently laws have been made trying to prevent this self defense. Basically, moral of the story, don't be an asshole and sexually violate people and get prepared for a beating if you even consider doing it.

[@blah914]

@@kimmiewise1044 I'm just hoping that men becoming aware of that this can happen to them will have them also reconsider what they see as "consent" in their interactions with women.

[@kimmiewise1044]

@@blah914 I think most men are aware but they are also aware of the border culture and legal protections for this group. For example, one of the cases where a jury found a male victim justified in self defense against a cross dressing Grapist actually was used by TRA's to say the Grapist was the victim and passed a law outlawing self defense if you know the assailant is part of a protected minority, specifically LGBT. I think most guys realize that if they do go to a room with a woman and things start getting sexual and he finds out she's really male and he reacts violently to that sexual violation, he will be on the hook for hate crimes and the person who violated him will never be given any consequences. That's the reality and why I think a lot of guys have started getting really homophobic and transphobic than they otherwise would be. Like calling Blaire a man and using he/him pronouns despite agreeing with her. Because they want to make sure these trans women NEVER feel comfortable around them to try to date them. It's like the teenage girls who are so scared of men that they become trans and actively try to be ugly so no man would even consider touching her without her consent. People cope with sexual assault and the potential for sexual violation in different ways. But since no one ever sides with the guys who do react in that way and actually place responsibility on the trans woman who violates these men, of course the victims aren't going to see these situations as what they are. Sexual violations. Instead these victims are told that they are bigots. That if they do hurt the person who sexually violates them it's a hate crime. Imagine if there was such a culture against women. If a man grabbed a hand full of your tits and you rightfully smacked the dog shit out of him to get him to let you go and maybe even punched him after for revenge. Most people would think the woman was in the right and that the dude has no basis to say that he was assaulted and battered after sexually violating a random woman. But if a trans woman or a gay cross dresser sucks a guys dick and then reveals he is also male and the guy hits them or even expresses that he felt uncomfortable or violated, he's the bad guy, he's the bigot, we need to press charges on him...THE VICTIM. It's so messed up and sadly most guys are forced to accept it or catch charges and drama...

[@namename9998]

@@blah914 Its not and those archaic laws are why many people never get tested because you cant get punished for giving someone something if you never knew you had it in the first place.

[@emilycarter2492]

The word is betrayal. Hiding a fact like that is a huge betrayal of trust and would cause irreparable damage to a person’s ability to trust others.

[@Exercise-01]

This is basically impossible,hands,arms,straigh hips etc... One thing is being in a dark club or a 2 second look in the street, but explore everything and you can't tell hum ??

[@truefranck]

Exactly. I feel like he knew. I mean u will know a different between female genitals and trans one.

[@AshleySpeaks4U]

"Oh, she's one of THOSE." 😬 That is a bit rough. Sad. 😢 I don't agree with the bottom surgeries either, because they ARE experimental, flawed, dangerous, and they require ongoing surgeries for life. Too much goes wrong.

[@charlesmclennan2173]

Marcus i appreciate the things you bring forth and to light and i respect your opinion as someone who knows better than me on this whole subject, i can agree let people be people and who you love or how is none on my business and i wish everyone a happy productive life,

[@user-ce5xz5rc2s]

That was so wrong and a crime.He did not consent

[@rongold7719]

Why are they having such a major conversation in a library?😊

[@Eanaj9]

Post op kitty doesn’t look like a real kitty like how didn’t you know???

[@serania1]

1- he drunk 2-he see so many pussy in his life that he dont make the dif 3- he didnt saw enought pussy in his life to know the dif 4- he was to horny to care about what he was fcking but in other hand how many pussy and how many neo-pussy have you see to know that they dont look the same (the result of a neo-pussy vary a lot dependent of the person and the surgeron who made it(the apearance of actual pussy vari a lot depending of the person)

[@ditzygypsy]

Marcus, thank you for explaining your situation. I don’t have extensive knowledge about a lot of this stuff, but I believe we all need to have as much knowledge and a better understanding so we can live amongst, and fully and healthily interact with, all people.

[@jessicamoore1366]

This don't just happen to men it happen lesbians as well, this same thing happened to my cousin when she was in college. A transgender girl/ woman Post-Op just didn't tell her. Gave her issues for years.

[@jenniferscott375]

Thank you for sharing your intimate thoughts about your own decisions on how far to transition. You are such a level headed person. ❤

[@Zarreth]

This story really needs to be seen by more. The "trans unalive" trend outside of self deletion and in fact all of the violence towards them is due to them not being honest and up front when they should be. Dating/intimacy requires that trust and no matter what, you should never do either with someone if you can't disclose the fact that you're trans to someone you want to do that with. It's compounded by the flippancy of this hookup culture where dating and sex is given away so easily with alot of people.

[@tkps]

Some may disagree but approaching a relationship that way is male way of thinking. This idea their need comes before being honest. Not putting a partner first etc. Even accounting for more self centred women today, on the whole they're biologically hard wired to be more empathetic. A transwoman I watch said she noticed how perceptions of her changed once her transition reached a point where people saw her as a woman. When she swore, how she acted, what she said etc If she behaved how she always had was sometimes looked at askance because people saw her as a woman acting I guess, like a man. 'Stereotypes' arise from biology. Some don't like that truth.

[@ca678.4]

⁠@@tkpsI mentioned this in another comment but YES. I agree. It is a “male” way of thinking. Hence why you only ever see this popping up from those who ARE. 🤣 literally can’t make this shit up! You worded this perfectly btw.

[@Kimster182]

Julie vu is one of the sane and respectable trans personalities online. She hasn’t had much presence lately but I always found her commentary valuable. Hope she’s doing well

[@johndoe-lm7ji]

That should be illegal, deceiving someone like that! I can’t imagine the hurt he felt.

[@nikoqaddadeh3238]

I wish there were more of you. You are so well spoken. Young folks really need to hear from you. What concerns me most are the autogynophiliacs who make it very difficult for those of you, who are truly trans.

[@boosqueezy2418]

if they lie about that, what else are they hiding? that’s my thing

[@namename9998]

Why is it your business knowing that their grandfather did things to them as a child. Why is having the wrong chromosomes wrong? If you like how they look naked then whats the problem.

[@Pidatha]

​@@namename9998 Because changing your parts doesn't make a male, a female. You can continue pretending that it does, but dont R*pe men by deception

[@ca678.4]

@@namename9998^^^^^^ trans person upset that people don’t appreciate being lied to so long as it affirms their identity WTF are you even yapping about?

[@SFUPodcast]

7:32 violated would be the word I’d use

[@priscillajimenez27]

Traumatic and violated

[@SFUPodcast]

@@priscillajimenez27 definitely traumatically violated

[@mountaindesert34788]

​@@SFUPodcast as an SA victim/survivor, here are some of my thoughts: "Victimized" "disrespected" "used" "De-valued." I really hope the person can realize the deceit doesn't mean they are worthless or unimportant. It means their ex was a selfish predator! TW for the rest of this as I discuss and reflect upon my own SA and other experiences, how it's affected me and how I'd imagine this person might feel. I can't speak for the guy, however my experiences were one SA where I said "no" but complied as a survival strategy (out of fear for even more trauma or harm.) And another time where I was doing stuff with a supposed friend, knew them for years. I said "no" to something and they kept asking. Luckily they nevee did anything else and gave up, however it still really stuck with me. I haven't sought out other partners in the 6 months since my friend did that because "if I can't trust my friend to respect me saying "no" right away then how can I trust anyone else?" I mean if someone says "no" to anything intimate, the other person is supposed to respect that immediately and not keep asking, right? I would worry that he may develop trust issues too. His trust was seriously violated by someone he thought he was close with and should have been able to trust. Not to mention possible harm to their self-esteem if they felt they weren't worthy enough to receive the truth before anything sexual happened. And the fact they'd been dating for a few months just adds to the deceit, IMO. My self-esteem issues stem from trauma before any of this happened with me, but after these things happened, I felt unimportant and like my wants didn't matter. Even more than I already felt like this. Comparing these efents to sexual encounters I had where my partner and I respected consent felt like night and day. It's basic respect and not feeling worthy of even basic respect really hurts. I have to remind myself tho it wasn't that I wasn't worthy enough, it's that they were both being selfish, valued their sexual desires above my saying "no" and the first guy was a damn rapist. And I'd want to tell the guy in the video that this deceit and violating their consent doesn't mean they're worthless or unimportant. It means their ex was selfish, predatory and a rapist. They valued getting a partner to fulfill their own loneliness/ sexual needs OVER their partner's feelings by not giving them all the info needed for true consent!

[@TheBeanHome]

Imagine guys trying to get married and looking forward to a family only to be lied to so far, or a woman hoping to have children and same horrible lie. there is infertility and then there is being sold a false reality.

[@persiamotorman]

In my opinion, if people aren't able to recognize that others have boundaries, it means that will probably manifest in other ways such as stealing from others, and of course, lying.

[@chrisreed3929]

To my way of thinking, the trans person committed a form of sexual assault, as they did not gain informed consent from the guy. Everyone has the right to choose, this guy was denied a choice.

[@shaundraevans7559]

The Asian woman is Julie Van Vu she has been on KZbin for a long time and really educated me on Trans people and Trans women. She has never been an in your face annoying purple haired leftoid. She was always beautiful,informative and understanding. Definitely on of the older Trans KZbinrs. She and Buck are who educated me so much on what it is to be trans from both perspectives.

[@sabias3932]

Did you see the part where she lied for years about how ✨amazing✨ her bottom surgery turned out? And then finally admitted to what a disaster it had been?

[@ca678.4]

@@sabias3932no response. Guess he wasn’t as beautiful as they thought.

[@52701970]

Awesome video Marcus. Thanks for posting.

[@ritz6982]

Violated is the word. She disregarded his sexual boundaries.

[@DestroyerMariko]

Also a lot of people date hoping to one day have biological kids. They might not even have a problem with all the issues mentioned, but not having the option to have children can be a total deal breaker, same as if a potential partner wasn't trans but said they were against having kids full stop. You don't go into a relationship lying about that sorta thing.

[@user-jy9mh8ku3n]

They want trans people to be accepted (fair), but that trans woman is acting as if no man can love her as a trans woman (false). Honesty sounds tough, but is such a better policy.

[@lauriegarant1574]

You are so level headed and have taught me so much! Thank you for being you!

[@salazar556]

I understand it can be a bit intimidating, but you need to be honest right off the bat. Not everyone is going to be attracted to you and that's just something you need to accept.

[@namename9998]

If you have sex with someone then it obviously wasnt that big of a problem.

[@Pidatha]

​@@namename9998 Yes, also tell that to the women who got coerced into Sèx when inebriated. You need to be on a watchlist

[@thunberbolttwo3953]

Any relationship based on a lie will fail.

[@SimplySheilaB]

Coming out of an almost 25 year marriage to a man who turned out to be a compulsive liar truth and trust is everything, once trust is gone everything is gone 😢

[@fatdaddyslyr]

You have given me such insight, I appreciate you waking me up. I have always supported others no matter what.

[@soljagirl22]

It’s like any lifer std, you’re required to tell end of story.

[@namename9998]

Actually your not required to tell people about stds. Google it

[@12345678963453]

In Czech republic, there is a BIG issue with bottom surgery (aspecialy if with trans woman)- by the law you can not change your documents (means birth certificate, ID, often even name) before you go under bottom surgery... in the case oc trans woman it means vagino plasty, and for trans guys hysterectomy. This is quite problematic, because it´s lead a lots of trans people to unnecessary surgeries, that can eventualy cost their life.

[@tablescissors]

I'd actually argue that the opposite is true; the surgeries make the definitions far more clear and thus limits the title of trans to those with a genuine mental condition versus sociopathic predators and fetishists using it as leverage in society.

[@namename9998]

@@tablescissors Agreed. If you have anxiety about looking like one thing but dont have anxiety because of monthly visits then how are you t instead of someone with body issues not boy girl issues. Im not saying that you need to have the bottom part cut off and made into a pseudo thing or that you need to have a part attached but at the very least if youre a girl changing to be a boy then why keep your uterus. As for deaths any medical procedure has risks. If you didnt want that risk then dont have any surgery top or bottom and just be a drag king or queen.

[@geometerfpv2804]

​@@tablescissorsI think the surgeries do far too much damage for that to be the gate. It would be better to allow people to experiment with something that can be undone.

[@sunmoonstars0369]

The trans community needs someone like you to put things into.perspective,.amazing work and Truth

[@debramclaren2610]

People need to be truthful to anyone so everyone know where they are.

[@5hud1nk]

i like the hair, I also think that beard looks good on you. Love your channel man, keep 'em coming :)

[@alessaross3559]

Can we just call it what it is? It's SA. 💯 nothing less.

[@dianewilkins4418]

Thank you for your posts!!! You shed light into a dark place 🙏🏼🌹

[@kittycat8222]

I’m so proud of you for not cutting your flesh for this. For your openness. For the education for help children who need this sorted out.

[@El_Ophelia]

Julie went through so much work to become trans. Good for her telling this man that the transwoman he slept with was duped. I love Julie!

[@beatricetinklepants]

Julie is great, I’ve been following her since before she got her surgery and learned from her that SRS doesn’t always work. The stuff she went through is terrible, but she always comes out on top!

[@beatricetinklepants]

@@virginiavallek1654 what? Julie is the girl in the video, not this guys ex girlfriend

[@El_Ophelia]

@@beatricetinklepants Yes! Julie is wonderful. I'd watch her and Davey.

[@TheLouHam]

What I don’t get is if being trans is fine, then why hide it? I would be perfectly be ok dating a trans person, as long as they’re honest with me from the beginning. Being a liar is more problematic than being trans.

[@elperrodelautumo7511]

Exactly. Someone with reasoning. Admit that and move on. Stay by the person or don’t. But don’t lie because you’re afraid of being objected. I’m sure there’s people into that type of person.

[@namename9998]

On the other hand I want to live my life as this. Admitting that I was that means that I will always live in the shadow of my past. Would you want your past being held against you. The only time being trans should matter is if you want kids. Obviously that wont be possible without surrogacy or adoption. If someone lies about why they cant get pregnant then thats a problem but cis people lie about getting pregnant too (not everyone wants to admit why they dont want to have kids, others manipulate birth control so pregnancy happens).

[@lumityviktuuristanartist4100]

​@namename9998 no bitch , you have to tell your partner you are trans cuz that's just basic human decency, a trans man isn't the same as a man , a trans woman isn't the same as a woman , straight people or even gay people are interested in the other biological gender , the ones born with the real thing , you are in a way violating them if you say nothing cuz they never consented to date a trans person, they think you are actually a biological female or male This isn't about you " if I tell them I'm gonna remember my past" that's a you problem, you should still be honest to your partner , relationships are build on trust

[@adriaofcourse]

@@namename9998I’ve read a lot of your comments defending the lie & it’s obvious that you would deceive a would-be lover too. I think you should re-watch the video & reflect on it. If you are trans it’s YOUR RESPONSIBILITY to disclose that to your partner. It’s not up to them to ask. Honestly is the only way to live. Why do they celebrate “pride” every year if they are lying & hiding who they are? Be proud! It takes a lot to transition & if you’re passable as the person this video is about, you have even more to be proud about! So don’t ruin it by lying! Based on many comments I’ve seen on Marcus’s channel & others, there are plenty of people who don’t care, but it seems many trans people want to date straight people, so that’s a problem.

[@nmelo3445]

⁠@@namename9998you need to accept who tf you are. Your biological sex is not your past! It will never leave you!! You cannot remove your chromosomes or bone structure. Go back to therapy and deal with your issues instead of involving innocent people who wouldn’t want to date you had you been honest. You’re not doing yourself or trans people any favors by spewing your delusions all over this comment section and trying to force acceptance.

[@WooWoo-co4jf]

When this happens my first thought I'd "what else are they lying about?"

[@luball416]

I have an abyss of gratitude for how you open up and how real you are❤ love hugs and blessings and happiness you deserve it❤❤❤

[@fluffdumpling8515]

Three comments I posted on this channel today have disappeared. Have I offended the YT gods? This has been happening for the last few days on other channels as well. I am p33d off.

[@ca678.4]

You have to get very creative when replying on KZbin now. You can’t say things straight up about these people or else it gets removed. However you can be racist though. Which is interesting. Copy every comment you make there’s like a 50/50 chance it might get removed. Edit and repost again.

[@fluffdumpling8515]

@@ca678.4 Than you for replying and your suggestions for future commenting. I am still surprised at how any of my comments disappeared on other channels too. I may be less frustrated if I simply refrain from making comments at all..

[@imageticsono]

Great point. Just a note on the murd3r thing, though: while it is obviously not the norm at all, and both you and I speak from countries where that is not the case, Latin America, for example, is where almost 75% of the annual ~300 k1illings of trans people occur. It is a reality in some dark corners of the globe

[@dondons38]

I truly applaud you for your honesty and realism.

[@kristibott2437]

Deception and disrespect. I feel really bad for this man, I don’t think saying it was traumatic is hysterical at all, I think you are probably spot on.

[@sarakleinhenn3652]

Thats grape...

[@doeeyes2]

Its called "stealthing" and could be a crime

[@namename9998]

Stealthing is "It happens when people agree to have sex with a condom and then someone either lies about putting a condom on or removes it without the other person's permission." Not revealing your chromosomes has no affect on your physical health. Stealthing could lead to pregnancy or diseases. Not the same thing. As for being a crime it should be a crime for women to wear makeup and get plastic surgery otherwise theyre no different than people who dont share that theyre trans.

[@doeeyes2]

@@namename9998 perhaps i didnt use it correctly as a verb but if you "stealth"or are a "stealth" then you are not informing your partner of your biological sex... its deceptive and removes the opportunity of consent.

[@namename9998]

@@doeeyes2 Thats not what stealithing is though. And how does it remove the opportunity of consent. The only way I can see that happening is if you meet someone and do the deed within seconds. Thats still a you problem because you chose to rush things instead of asking "do you have diseases" "do you have a condom" "are you trans"? It literally would take less than 5 minutes for anyone to ask those questions. If it matters to you then you need to be the person asking. It shouldnt be up to the other person. Would you only rely on the other person for birth control if you didnt want to get pregnant.

[@doeeyes2]

@@namename9998 No it actually should absouletly be up to the person thats had the sex change to let their partner know before having sex with them 🙄 hormones also can have an effect on your sex organs... or even if youre just a crossrresser, wtvr the situation... the onus is on you to tell ur partner. It seems really rapey to me to not do so and its called being "steath" or some people use the term "stealthing" (which is what my original comment is about)

[@Itzpapalotl.]

@@namename9998Truth should be known before the 1st date.

[@deedeemooreco.2304]

God bless you, Marcus. I come here to hear the truth and real-life experience from a darling trans man. For those of us who are older (70) and are really getting angry (pissed) at what is happening with the trans community. I’m so angry (pissed) and fed-up with trans people thinking they can command respect and acknowledgment from anyone and everyone.