My GF Is A PICKY Eater, So I DUMPED Her! |

[@katarnett]

Story 1 the girlfriend sounds like she has Orthorexia. I’m a vegan and have run into a lot of people who use it as an excuse to mask their ED, and I think orthorexia is low key one that hides in plain sight because of the overlap with diet culture and wellness.

[@Crochet_by_mic]

Definitely, she needs professional help. This can't begood for her mental or physical health

[@jeanninedelwiche2996]

I came here to say it sounds like an eating disorder to me. This could be a real deal-breaker for a new relationship. I hope she finds support to explore this issue.

[@Crochet_by_mic]

​@@jeanninedelwiche2996 I agree, I think it is best for her to focus on healing. You must learn to love yourself before you can love anyone else

[@mosheontoast]

Orthorexia can be really dangerous too because there's whole swathes of Internet culture now promoting all sorts of extreme diets that are supposed to provide amazing benefits but are actually just terrible for you long term. But this does not sound like orthorexia, it sounds like anorexia! He even explicitly mentions that her preferences are for low calorie foods when she deviates outside of a very basic meal of steamed chicken and vegetables. When someone is really far into an ED they just stop eating certain foods entirely to cut out the calories and it sounds like she's just cut out foods until all she's left with is chicken veg and fruit. When you'd regularly rather skip a meal than eat a restaurant salad that's just the hugest red flag to me. I really hope she gets the support she needs

[@MisforMakeup]

@@Crochet_by_mic idk I got over my eating disorder with the love from my boyfriend/now husband. I certainly didn’t know how to love myself until he showed me I was worth love.

[@FeloniousAngel]

Story one is about an eating disorder called Orthorexia. The girl needs therapy. That is too restrictive and unless she has a laundry list of severe allergies, there is no health related reason to be so restrictive. It is about control.

[@FeloniousAngel]

I clearly got too excited to wait for the discussion after the story to post my comment 😂

[@Amycakes7]

​@@FeloniousAngelIt seems you weren't the only one! 😅

[@user-sl7ym1zq3n]

Story 1 girl definitely has an eating disorder. I had one and it was exactly like that Not OPs fault if he doesn’t want to deal with that, it’s exhausting and unfair to others

[@snaileriepimpson]

That first girl definitely has an ED and is hiding it. She needs to look into getting help.

[@partiallyhealedsunburn1881]

yep. when i had bulimia, i thought i was the one in control of my body because i was CHOOSING to expel food. nope!!! brain was sick!!!

[@malealray]

deffinetly sounds like an eating disorder to me, unless it’s for some kind of health reasons or if she’s on body building prep

[@SuperJust4girls]

Yep! Like I would deal with it if it was allergies or her having celiac but this just seems self destructive without doctor's advice

[@QueenOfTheZombieApocalypse]

Inept HR one reminds me of some of the stories I've heard from blind people being accused if faking by random strangers because "only yellow labs are guide dogs" 🤦. (Only this was so much worse because it was literally this person's job to know better)

[@availanila]

This, for blind people, happens even when dogs are not involved because almost everyone including some blind people don't know what *_blind_* means. It's very frustrating.

[@helslastangel]

Re Story #1: As someone with disordered eating who finds all kinds of creative ways to evade questioning/scrutiny from friends and family, I think the gf could possibly have an ED or some kind of relationship with eating that is more complex than just being picky. I honestly wouldn't blame OP for calling it quits on that, but if they wish to stay, they could try to create a comfortable environment for gf to open up and share more of her thoughts and reasoning when it comes to foods. I've had a friend and also a partner who did that for me (I often hid my compulsion to cut calories behind various health concerns & diet restrictions that I didn't care about as much as I made it seem). Hopefully OP can support their gf on this, if that's actually whats going on with her.

[@destanyd604]

There's this person on tiktok who shows her cat alerts her to a seizure and will stay with her during a seizure at home

[@vanessah7104]

Soul food? Cajun food? American food is more than burgers and pasta

[@faceofvision]

No red meat, no flour, no sugar, no potatoes, no spices, all that goes out of the windows for her. Not much left in these cuisines either.

[@ksingle8706]

Most of the time when they say American, minority food isnt included

[@laylaad]

wait until VP of Hr sees my chihuahua service dog

[@ksingle8706]

I have a rat terrior as a service animal. It took over almost 2 year to get her fully trained and its so expensive.

[@beachwitch89]

"Hi reddit! I know no one as-" "PREGNANT" 😂😂

[@kloe.404]

There are actually stories of cats saving their owners life like dogs do. The first one that comes to mind is a cat single handedly waking and half dragging her family out of the house during a carbon monoxide leak. They’re all very wholesome you should read a few if you come across them

[@fruttibasket]

It's so heartwarming to see how majestic Ringo grew up to be, I remember when she was just a tiny baby the first time we saw her in the podcast 🥺❤️🐈

[@xcreativecobrax]

The first “Rate This Date” story: Josh said he couldn’t understand why a girl would say yes to a date if she didn’t really want to go. I’ve done it a few times in my life, especially as a teen. I would feel bad turning guys down, especially if they were nice and I just wasn’t interested in them, because I didn’t want to hurt their feelings. I’ve also been told by guys I’ve turned down that I’m a bitch for rejecting them or have had friends/family tell me to just give someone a chance (“one date won’t harm you.”) When society conditions women to be submissive, always be nice, put the guy’s feelings above your own (especially since you don’t know if they will violently react), it’s really easy to get trapped in dates you don’t want to be in - doubly so if you are insecure and haven’t found the confidence to stand up for yourself

[@lina9535]

Yeah, not to mention those types of guys that get pissy with you if you say no because "you didn't give me a chance". Like we need to do that lol 😂 Or those that just keep pushing and pushing until you say yes.

[@persaunna]

85% roasted coffee beans. God I adore the love that you and your wife have for each other. She gets you. Goals. I aspire to have and be that kind of person.

[@diamcole]

S1: I think this is a pretty clear sign of incompatibility, it sucks to not be able to share something you deeply care about with someone. Makes sense OP is considering breaking up, not fair for either of them to feel restricted or like they're not getting their needs met. Sometimes it's better not to try and force things.

[@hayleysackos9758]

I have a 35lb service dog (also not for a physical disability) and you guys would be blown away about the ignorant stuff businesses, people and employers do/say. If I sued every person who did this I would be so rich. But here I am choosing the high road and gently educating people with literature from the ada and my dr and politely reminding them that the next person with a non visible disability might just sue them for every single thing they're worth

[@seshthecat]

The problem is most of the time suing someone still doesn't teach them anything. I think the way you are approaching it is much better and educational.

[@kaitlynmorgan4613]

@@seshthecat itd probably teach them to mind their business tho

[@saffron2294]

I appreciate your kindness, but I honestly think you should sue the next time this happens. Companies will continue to take advantage of people if they don't see consequences for their actions. Especially if their HR depts don't know the law!

[@raventolliver4316]

@@saffron2294 I have nothing against folks who decide to sue, and I applaud the people who have the bandwidth and resources to do so. At the same time, I’d like to point out that navigating life with a disability is often times exhausting, even for every day challenges. Throwing a lawsuit in the mix you don’t have to would just make some of us feel even more exhausted and dehumanized. Often times, the way we choose to fight our battles is to spare our mental energy and bandwidth. We need our energy for the accessibility challenges and discrimination we’re aware is coming, as well as the nonsense that’s going to hit us out of left field.

[@juliedesjardins5910]

Not Josh predicting hockey there 😂 I’m sorry dude, I was bummed too

[@RedditOnWiki]

🥲 Always next year 🙃

[@cb5902]

Happy birthday Jine and ✨SHAWNT✨

[@CircusoftheMoon]

I’m currently applying to a new job that would be a promotion from my current position. I’ve been nervous that I’m under qualified but that VP of HR made me feel better about myself. lmao

[@turtlescanfly7]

I already listened on patreon lol but Bridget you got this girl! Look forward to your swearing in ceremony when you get bar results!

[@bridgeth.9073]

Thanks so much ❤️ my purchase was to celebrate passing so I’m being sworn in come June!!! So excited!

[@llamaboss2051]

The service dog one I relate to a bit, I own a service dog for epilepsy as well and the thing is mine is a Chihuahua, people always like to tell me shes not a real service dog cause of her breed, but trust me she is. She's gotten all her training. She's trained to alert me if I'm gonna have an episode, she's trained to go get help if I need it. She's also trained to help me with my panic attacks to stop me if I hurt myself. I've only had 1 job where I felt so comfortable with having her with me my mangers/coworkers all understood my health issues and her stance. But I had another job who kept questioning me. Only worked there for 2weeks before quitting.

[@rebeccamcmanus4718]

I dunno guys, after 6:16 in LA, Meet the Grahams, _and_ Not Like Us, I kind of feel like maybe they're not friends

[@althealee9375]

Glad I have y’all’s videos to get me through my work day

[@bobbii]

Josh saying they (Canadians) don't have something comparable to football is wild. You LITERALLY HAVE HOCKEY lmaoooo ❤

[@96cel]

Story 1 I totally get where OP is coming from. My fiancee is a very picky eater and as a cajun Italian woman it did bother me that he would never eat any of my cooking. He is willing to try foods, but hates most things. We grocery shop and cook separately. It does bother me that traveling makes it hard if the restaurants don't have chicken tenders and bbq sauce. If I do want to cook something that is in a large quantity, I cook for my coworkers. They love when I cook for them so I'm thankful I'm not stuck with 10 servings of gumbo when I make it.

[@KelWolfenstein]

First girl sounds like my early ED symptoms.

[@Stefi.Kitsune]

I think the guys missed a lot in Story 1, this is a self imposed diet with that many restrictions that sounds like and ED and she needs help but if someone isn't willing to get help, dating wise, I think it is fair to walk away. As far as his question, I think it is possible to be incompatible because of food choices esp if someone has food as a part of how they live their life and enjoy life. If it means more than just sustenance then it will be difficult to go through life with someone who cant understand wanting to travel to a new place to try something yummy.

[@susannahall3914]

VP of HR: I have never heard of this, therefore it can't be true.

[@justlikethewizard]

My friend's dog loves me. They always say, "Aodhan! It's your best friend Merlin!" When I go over to visit and he gets so excited. Best feeling in the universe

[@Sleipnirseight]

46:18 uh oh, the cats are about to get crazy! Looking like a slap fest is about to take place

[@rcscott7031]

The online relationship reminds me of the brother in Napoleon Dynamite

[@jeaniebee3657]

i had a cat that chose me, he chose me for 17 years till he got cancer and we had to put him down 5 years ago. we still miss him and every time we have stuff delivered the boxes still have to sit for a while because lance used to love boxes lol just in case his spirit is hanging around and it gives us a time to remember him fondly the cat in my profile pic is not lance that is chip, that is his adopted son...he loved being a dad so thats why we got chip and we love chip too. lance was a flame point Siamese that was a neighborhood stray that scratched on my sliding glass door one day to be let in. and then he came in and climbed on my lap and gave me the best kitty hug i ever got lol i think the last people that lived in my apartment must have abandoned him there

[@eliciabonnie]

Okie I was ready to say YTA but damn... This is not a good diet, has she had blood work done recently? I'm kinda worried about her. Very interesting comments here, thanks. Absolutely an ED, I've done crazy things for control purposes on my food when I was younger, but never that extreme (and yeah I had ED and still get triggered at times). She needs help, sadly...

[@pearlycomplaints]

HR VP: This dog doesn’t look like the service dogs that I’ve seen and it performs a function that I’ve never heard of. Therefore since the dog contradicts my world view and that contradiction offends me, I’m going to do everything in my power to correct the “anomaly” regardless of how non-intrusive this dog is or the health risk that banning the dog presents to our employee. I will surely not experience any negative consequences because I’m always right and I know everything there is to know about a disabled person’s life journey, because my worldview and experiences are obviously the most accurate depiction of how the world as a whole operates.

[@getcreative4434]

I could totally see how that one girlfriend's cultural influence may have caused her to be obsessed with what she eats. My exchange sister from Thailand absolutely loved eating while she was staying with us because she always had to watch what she ate back home, her mom was constantly telling her she was fat. She did gain a lot of weight while she was with us but she was so much happier.

[@xxoldmagicxx]

I had to do a cleanse where I could only eat meat, vegetables, some fruit and water. I cried how does lady #1 live 😭😭

[@liabowden8526]

That poor girls diet sounds like mine.😭😭 My body decided 75% of all food is now poison. I can't even have just *any* veggies/fruit, only specific ones. Can't even have maple syrup anymore (it was my last bastion of sweetener aside from chopped up tangerines). I wish I could talk to this girl & tell her some of the work arounds I discovered, like tigernut flour (it's not a nut, it's a root). And plantains are a life saver. Kelp noodles are the only ones I can have. Idk if she's a no for ALL spices, as I can have any that are not nightshades or ground seeds (that leaves cinnamon, ginger, mace, wasabi powder, & turmeric & anything leafy). He keeps saying it's self imposed, but the fact that her diet sounds like mine... idk man, maybe she's just too embarassed to tell him she has Severe IBS. It is embarassing, esp after thst MFing Along Came Polly movie. I fucking love food too MFer, I just like not being doubled over in stabby stomach pain, crying on the kitchen floor a bit more than those forbidden foods. My breakfast is minced plantains, chopped tangerine, coconut milk, tigernut flour, baking soda, cinnamon, ginger & mace in a mug in the microwave for 2:30 min. That's the only breakfasty food I can have. And sure, travelling is hard, but I managed to make it work in Indonesia. 🤷‍♀️ Maybe I'm wrong and she's not lying not having about medical issues, but I'm very suspicious. I miss people food soooooo much.😭💔 Sometimes I say Fuck It and have a bite of a "medium forbidden" food. I'm only human.

[@StephieQueen]

My Husband and I went from LDR to marriage. 😅 We also were from different countries (hence why I am American but live in Canada now - I left everything behind for him). We were in an LDR for 3 years before we ever got to live together (we had been married a full year at that point) because we had to go through immigration. Luckily it worked out amazing and we have had such an incredibly happy marriage the past 15 years!

[@JeshikaDanna]

Funny thing: my uncle trained his cats to use the human toilet he had 8 of them! And i have two service cats and they can detect my seizures, when my sugars go low or high, or whenever i need them and ESAs do get certified and are becoming more accepted but i know where not to take my cats and they are trained on leashes as well so yeah cats can be awesome!!

[@wellthiswasfun]

I feel like the stories where someone is ill on the first date always end in marriage.

[@lina9535]

Meanwhile, a lot of Swedes hate thr coffee in America. They usually bring their own 😂

[@DapperMrAlex]

Where I live in the States, some restaurants have a "white" option for spice. It's exactly for who you think it'd be for. It's pretty hilarious.

[@siavashsie]

Listening to this while going to the market… Definitely had to pick up a Honeycrisp apple 😋

[@mythicpossumm]

As someone who has food sensory issues, ie. I literally couldnt eat steak till i found out i can get lean strip that has little to no fat. And still cant eat pork (bowels and texture/fat), And a lot of flavor of veggies. I feel like i have to agree with everyone who says she might have an eating disorder that needs professional help. I also had bulimia when i was in middle school cause of my ex abuser and it definitely led to much of my own diet restrictions. I also share that love of baking for partners like op and it would be a deal breaker for me as well no matter how much i care about that person.

[@lina9535]

I've seen Jack Russels be service dogs for epilepsy and diabetes. The size isn't really important.

[@ViktorErikFade]

I saw this had under 200 likes then i realized oh , this is a new episode wow Guess im up to date instead of casually watching these now

[@ishikawa_sachi]

The yen is indeed so cheap #help 😭😭😭

[@luciegraham-cumming677]

I have a small assistance dog 😅 that story is crazy

[@ZekeSeddens]

Bruh my highschool had 130 kids at the most

[@kaitlynmorgan4613]

white families also say "youre getting fat" or "youre too skinny," but i cant say which is more common,, id guess ppl in the usa dont have much of a problem with it but that we both experience it a LOT

[@Reverse_Cowgirl-cat]

My bf was just in Japan, and I regret not sending him a shopping list 😭

[@mosheontoast]

Sorry why are we not talking about how story 1 gf has a really terrible eating disorder?! She needs some support from OP :( Edit to add: this sounds like anorexia (perhaps as well as orthorexia). Regularly skipping meals rather than eat a restaurant salad is the biggest red flag to me.

[@IAmContemporary]

“We” are talking about the possibility of her having an ED, they literally mention orthorexia. I agree she needs some support, but it’s not OPs responsibility unless he wants to and she’s ready to accept that she might have an issue. EDs are also super destructive to everyone around the person afflicted and he’s not obligated to ‘save her’, especially if he’s already questioning their compatibility.

[@arduousPopsicle]

they did mention it

[@justspacedust2514]

Patreon video idea, we need a BBL drizzy Reddit on wiki drop 👀

[@JaranyapornMcFadden]

Yaya!Thai food shout out.😊 To be fair to whites there are Thais that order not spicy at all but complain it is too spicy b/c there is leftover from past dishes made.

[@shaymorcormick8743]

Story 1 fuck that noise that sounds like a world of hell

[@ziggy00752]

I heard tht cats sleep 18 hours a day

[@autumn557]

Sounds like she’s very thin and watches her calories to the single digit. As long as she’s healthy then I give her commitment props. What it sounds like is she DOES eat, it’s just extremely restrictive in restaurants because everything is heaped in butter or olive oil. You know to keep the “model” shape it’s literally a 1200 calorie a day diet and it’s rough. It also sounds like she’s not difficult when she’s gladly join and not eat, I do wonder if she can order steamed veggies though. I do that sometimes. Like I just realized how much calories are really in restaurant food and it’s insane to think about. As far as compromise, she IS comprising. By still joining and not ordering foods that’s a compromise instead of “no we can’t eat there because I can’t eat there” It sounds like she’s fully compromising, he’s the one that doesn’t like that she won’t give in and just give up her diet to share food with him. Also it’s expensive because those places probably use higher quality food which means less coverup ingredients like butter and junk like that.

[@KayDazzle90]

Idk if Dan Price is an AH in the office, but did beat his wife in 2015

[@MrDarthbono]

Worth noting Dan Price is a creep

[@choute76]

Belated Happy B’day💜

[@hcasual9624]

They hate each other, you guys are definitely not listening to Euphoria. Kendrick said I hate the way you talk, I hate the way you walk. The sneak dissing has been going on for years between the two

[@lina9535]

I agree that Eastern Asian culture, or I guess beliefs is the better word, around beauty standards are worse than Western. Sure both places want you to be slim, or look like a twig that'll snap at the lightest of breezes (looking at all the, most likely, anorexic French models that was the "goal" for girls when I grew up in the 90s. They were like the girl that youtube don't like being mentioned, but her first name starts with E and her last name starts with C). But I've never heard of any Western country doing that shoe thing, to get women to have small feet, which I want to say was popular in either China or Japan (I could be wrong, but it was an Asian country). Then we have Africa with those weird (sorry) neck rings to elongen your neck.

[@jmackultra]

Story 1 wouldn’t wanna date her either. Picky eater are annoying

[@nickwilliams2415]

How do these guys try and take the moral high ground, like ever, when they're gonna sit and talk about what is likely a 15 year old kid and his "blue balls" Weird af.

[@TexasKittycat]

The cats look so good in this episode, good job kitties.

[@SweetPea_G]

Josh, I feel like your big, floofy cat looks quite similar to my kitty. My kitty is a Siberian; and while still feisty at 11yo, she’s also a lover when she wants to be.😹🫶🏽✌🏽

[@IAmContemporary]

You can tell from the comments who actually listened to the entire segment about story 1. “Why is no one talking about her having an ED?” They literally mention orthorexia 🥲