My Girlfriend Keeps Making Excuses On Why I Can't Attend Her Excursions r/Relationships

[@joelheath2746]

You know GF's excuses were total bullshit, "If we have spent more time together this wouldn't have happened" didn't the cheater blow off plans for months? and she has the nerve to blame OP? Absolutely laughable.

[@whitneybennett4857]

I just love when a POS throws out the, "I never would've cheated if you'd been a better partner!" line. Well, genius, if that's such a big problem, then you either talk it out or break up, not give handouts behind their back.

[@toothless3835]

Yeah, Cheaters are always quick to blame the person they cheated on. Like, no. You could've broken off and THEN go with someone else. OR you know, talked like a effing adult.

[@One.DeSanctis.]

Cheaters who blame their significant other for "making [me] cheat," are the worst.

[@Aetheroth]

It's such a BS excuse. I was long-distance with my now-fiance for 2.5 years because of the pandemic. In that time, neither of us felt the need to see or sleep with, other people. And here is someone who can meet her partner at least once a week saying such rubbish.

[@user-wr3vt8uq4s]

Sometimes when beautiful women are still single at a certain age, there may be some, ahem, behavioral issues lurking beneath.

[@Russman67]

The daughter saying "You did it, again!" says it all. That daughter has seen some shit. This is how mom does relationships. 🤦‍♂️

[@Hajiyt]

And then after seeing this shit she didn't warn OP. I'll bet you she'll become cheater herself.

[@jjm152]

Well, there's a damn good chance that this is the reason why she only sees her dad on weekends, that's probably what the "again?" means.

[@ronhall5395]

Why do i think the daughter knew what her mother was doing?

[@Russman67]

@@ronhall5395 that's just crazy talk.

[@amoxcillicpsychosis2967]

@@Hajiyt How come the ex-husband didn't warn OP. I guess he'll become a cheater too.

[@emmathereb]

Oh man. The more that story continued, the more my heart broke. Then to hear ‘again’ come out of her daughter’s mouth… that just means her daughter likes OP and is resentful her mom keeps messing up relationships with good men.

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

I feel for the daughter. She had to deal with this immature mother for all these years.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

It's more like the daughter was ashamed or embarrassed. I have no doubt the daughter KNEW what they were going to find when they went to the apartment as that scenario has probably played out several times before. It's sad but has become very common these days as many women have no issues taking advantage of "Nice Guys" who will White Knight and Simp for them. I bet this has been going on since Day One and he is just now realizing it.

[@LunaMane]

And I agree with OP that his (thankfully)ex-girlfriend's behavior is why she herself has an ex-husband.

[@tankerstankermen]

@@thomasjoseph5876This validates my reason to never date, too much drama, single life is best life!

[@maggpiprime954]

Yeah. 💔

[@hothotheat3000]

A woman who makes excuses to not be around her BF is a woman who doesn’t want the relationship.

[@zarennaangel1198]

Same the other way around also can mean cheating

[@Saintboniface73]

@@zarennaangel1198 You 😅😅

[@weltonvillegal6258]

Yup. It’s a hint and a half for the partner’s behind.

[@wmdkitty]

Or maybe he's around all the time and she's feeling smothered.

[@akl2k7]

@@wmdkitty No, her words were "If we had spent more time together this wouldn't have happened". Besides, they live in different cities, so unless he was calling her all the time, he wasn't around all the time.

[@nyteshayde1197]

Story 1: She's a serial cheater. Nothing would have changed. Story 2: OMG, gross! Hell no they aren't the AH. As a guest, I'd be insulted. As a medical professional, I'm appalled. She could have killed someone!

[@immapotato1]

story 2: as a human being with common sense I nearly barfed

[@badkitty4922]

I've got to stop reading comments before I hear the stories. You've got me shocked and intrigued. 😅😘 ETA: Now that the stories are over, I agree with you completely. Wow. Eeewww.

[@lya9677]

Story 2 I guess that's what people with champagne taste on beer wages does Nasty!!

[@carlrood4457]

I love the "This wouldn't have happened if we spent more time together." after she'd been canceling their time together for months.

[@TheVanOvanShow]

😂

[@ronhall5395]

To be honest, I would have just Stop making plans with her. Just go do my own thing. I hate confrontation, but she is a bad liar. I would just tell her that your done. She knew what she was doing. She only cared enough to lie about it, but not enough b to stop cheating. This told him all he needed to know. She is the type to jump in bed with the first good looking guy who smiles at her. Serial cheater and not half as clever as she thinks she is.

[@bjtaylor-j9w]

Maybe he insisted on doing things she did not want to do, or going where she did not want to go. Had he respected her, LISTENED to her, TAKEN HER SERIOUSLY, and given her equal say in what they did, or where they went, she would not have felt the need to look elsewhere. None of you lot on here have the balls to be civil, and will just spew the usual abuse, ridicule, patronising, pathetic insults and sneers of 'crazy cat lady', 'Karen', 'misandrist', 'you have issues', you need therapy' and 'troll'. BORING!!!!!

[@jaymel4691]

The fact that she was so desperate to find out who told OP, and didn't even try to deny the actual cheating accusation, is extremely telling.

[@ronhall5395]

She,was probably suspecting her daughter of telling on her. How low can you get? I am sure OP gave her something she wanted to hang on to. I also feel she is always looking for the next stud to service her. She is,way to old for those games.

[@AryonaSamoto]

Story 1: OP dodged a grenade. That woman needs some serious help. Story 2: that's awful, not only is the mom cheap and disgusting to do this but she also stole it from OP and the homeless.

[@TheRockinDonkey]

Entitled and stupid is a hell of a combination

[@shellchenonceau6987]

Story 1: he misdiagnosed "misdirecting". He actually got gaslighted into thinking it was HIS fault & imagination. If he goes back to her he is a chump.

[@bigbearkat2010]

And people were telling him she was going to be pulling this shit and he STILL fell for it

[@okyep]

You dont know what these words mean. Not gas lighting, Darvo

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

​@@okyep it's literally gaslighting

[@okyep]

@SilverstreamPJ28 it's not tho? This is why you can't take the internet seriously. Use terms willy nilly they lose their meaning

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

@@okyep feel free to explain how it isn't gaslighting lol

[@jackiewepps4694]

Story 1: I feel so sorry for the daughter. I wonder how many times her mother has cheated on her partners. I wonder how many times the daughter has been in the dilemma "should I tell him or should I not?", and how many fights, conflicts and other bad situations she has been in that were never her fault.

[@neshura]

Either the daughter will come to think cheating is normal to cope with her moms behaviour or, and I think this is more likely, their relationship will break down because whenever mom brings in a new boyfriend it never lasts long.

[@MizTameRumors]

OP's wedding was EIGHT MONTHS ago, freezing food does preserve it forever. And this wasn't even fresh food, it was a buffet that sat our for hours at room temp

[@suzanneholmes8612]

Mother in the last story lied that she took the food to the soup kitchen, didn't pay for the food she took,didn't help the soup kitchen needy peopleand broke health rules. All so SHE could look good.

[@blandoatmeal1273]

I don't know how she could convince herself this would make her look good

[@RawkLobstah88]

@@blandoatmeal1273 "Look at all this food that I provided for this lovely wedding that I planned. Look at me, praise me." Anyone with half a brain would know that storing food in your freezer for 8 months makes that food bad. In the best case scenario, you have freezer burn making the food bland and dry, and in the worst, you get botulism. But this mom didn't care, just wanted to be cheap while having the appearance of opulence.

[@clauro6153]

soo many stories about events putting small cities in ER back in the day.

[@Russman67]

Story 2: Mom has never gone through a food prep course and it shows. 8 months between when it was cooked and prepared and then defrosted and served again.

[@Sakuraqueen]

Story 1: Poor OP!!! My heart broke for him!! Walk away and never look back!! Mark is right, I felt really sorry for the daughter! Especially, when she said "this again" it means mum is a piece of crap!!

[@ronhall5395]

This woman just can't resist any good looking man who shows Interest in her. I bet this is what happened with her ex. He walked in on her getting railed. Once she blew me off more than once I would have stopped contacting her. Just blow her off. Even when she was with him after the first blow off, she was not really there mentally. She just wanted to keep him around because he was such a great guy.

[@randomusername3873]

It's insane how cheaters have the nerve to cry when caught. That must be sociophatic Oh, as usual, they don't care about their own children, keeo saying "cheaters can be good parents"

[@Indi_Waffle_Girl]

It's probably because she was feeling sorry for herself, seeing all her bullshit catching up with her when OP and her kid walked in. Major props to the kid for calling her out. Gotta love how she was totally blaming OP too, with the whole "what are you doing here?! You aren't supposed to be here!!" bit. She deserves to feel upset - she's fucked up. Could be manipulation, could be just an "oh fuck look what I've done" moment, could be both.

[@Hajiyt]

@@Indi_Waffle_Girl The kid said "again" and because of that I feel certain that if the daughter walked in alone in there she wouldn't have told OP. So no she doesn't get props in my opinion she's a cheater enabler that only started screaming because OP was beneficial to her and she was going to lose that benefit.

[@VidGirl88]

Story 2: the mom didn't just serve people 8 month stored food but she also stole it from the soup kitchen it was supposed to be donated to! If anyone wasted food it's the mom.

[@ronhall5395]

Yeah, that was disgusting. My wife is cheap. She learned it from her Father. Even she would rather see the soup kitchen get the food rather than bring it all home. I actually tried to donate some party trays of sandwiches to a soup kitchen. They told me they could not accept it by law. You just never know where or how the donated food was handled.

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

Oh my god, that mom on the second post is _nasty._ She practically served people food from the trash and pretty much ruined her daughters wedding. It’s like watching an episode of Extreme Cheapskates, I’m seriously questioning if she’s alright in the head.

[@usneod9329]

Story 1: OPs girlfriend is delusional! She act like she is a victim of circumstances. She is a narcissist extraordinaire!

[@thomasjoseph5876]

She is just a 304, a user and an abuser. It is sadly becoming more common in this day and age for women to act like this. There is a reason she is single at 42.

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

​@@thomasjoseph5876 there's always one guy to twist things into misogyny 🤡

[@Cannibalsnacks]

Story 1 : If she's making plans and doesn't want you along consistantly - it might be cause you'ld run into her boyfriend

[@hugoumero9723]

well it turns out it was daughter boyfriend

[@lorianabanana6066]

I'll never understand cheating. Just break up!!!! Like you KNOW it's just a matter of time until everything blows up. Even if it ends and nobody finds out NOW, it's just hanging over you for the rest of your life.

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

​@@hugoumero9723 No it wasn't.

[@Cannibalsnacks]

@@hugoumero9723 the cheating doesn't matter - shes lying , evading, and blowing pff OP - If a girl said this about a BF - the vote would be run for the hills

[@Love2Banime]

@@lorianabanana6066 nah, to her, she is using OP as her second plan in case her ap/side pieces doesn't work out. I despice cheaters like this.

[@samssams666]

Story 1 I feel so horrible for the daughter, it sounds like she cares for OP as a father figure or maybe older brother figure.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

Probably not. I think she has seen this scenario play out several times before. She had no option but to go with the guy to the apartment and she KNEW what she was going to find. She just acted surprised but I bet the anger and embarrassment were real.

[@DepressedWendigo]

@@thomasjoseph5876 She probably didn't get too attached to OP cause she knew her mother was going to fuck it up again and get caught cheating yet again. It's sad that her own daughter just expects this from her everytime she gets in a relationship, not to mention daughter is probably not only angry at the fact that "mom" got caught cheating, but she was cheating with her own boyfriend. Hopefully she gets far away from her "mom" since now she knows that she doesn't have any morals against taking others spouses. What a 304

[@geckokid8265]

​@@DepressedWendigo she wasn't cheating with the daughter's boyfriend where did that come from? Her boyfriend went to his house and the daughter and OP went to her home to get her book

[@RadioOppy1]

“If we had spent more time together this wouldn’t of haven’t” ya, not like you were kicking him out of all your plans or anything.

[@meganjones2093]

Story 1 = LOVED when he finally got some words out after walking into the apartment when she was having sex he says “have the ice cream, I know you get hungry after sex” - Such an epic way to exit an awkward situation, so sorry he had to go through something like that but DAMN 🤯

[@messinalyle4030]

It would have been smooth as hell if he could have heard the noises and then just barged straight into the bedroom, carton of ice cream in hand, and said, "Hey, guys, how about some ice cream to cool off?" He probably wasn't mentally composed enough to react that quickly, though.

[@carolroberts4614]

What he said was fine! He did that really well. I'd probably have thought of something snappy six hours later!

[@rickraber1249]

And ya gotta wonder about the guy in the bed - what did he think of the whole episode?

[@ineedhealing2420]

Yeah, I think it was great because I can't see how the ex will ever eat ice cream without associating it with being caught cheating (again).

[@PlasticBluVentRabbit]

I’m sorry, did she really take food that was already sitting out, take it home, then freeze it for 8 MONTHS before trying to serve it to people again?! That’s… that’s Mr. Krabs level cheap, come on

[@KCohere33]

Yes. Yes she did. I can’t even imagine that she saved that much money. It’s only fifty guests. And having to eat leftovers at a wedding? Nonetheless that it’s eight months old.

[@Indi_Waffle_Girl]

I know! And then it's like, if her daughter hadn't been getting married, what was she going to do with all of that food? Save it until they get married two or three years later? Like...idk it's like some type of hoarding/prepping shit.

[@Indi_Waffle_Girl]

I'm also curious as to what kind of food we're talking about here. There are only so many things that will freeze well haha. Is she serving sandwiches? Desserts? Soup? I have no idea lmao

[@akl2k7]

Yeah, as soon as I saw how gross and dried up the food was, and learned its origin, I'd be like "On second thought, let's go to McDonalds. I know it's against wedding etiquette, but I'm not eating that!"

[@TheSwagger81]

I always find it interesting when someone gets cheated on and they say “and we were so good together”. No, you weren’t

[@rogerrabbit80]

"If we were so good, why'd you cheat?"

[@catherinecox573]

OP regrets leaving the ice cream behind but imo he did everything right. the ice cream line was so perfect? Like that's so funny to say and makes it obvious why he was there, and even more obvious he's a sweet BF bringing her surprise ice cream. I hope OP can heal and find someone who is better for him.

[@immortalsofar5314]

"Glued to a toilet with a garbage can between your legs" sums up a wedding I went to. I just managed to whisper to my GF to avoid the egg salad as I beat a hasty retreat!

[@JokesInBase13]

Story 2: The freezer doesn't stop pathogen growth in its tracks or even kill it off, it just slows it down. Eight months is WAYYYY past even the most lenient safety standards, especially since it was buffet food to begin with, and I assume Mom didn't thaw it in the fridge to keep it below 40F at all times. Like, I come from a "leave the pizza out all night and eat it for breakfast" "how long was that in the fridge? meh it's not fuzzy" family, so I've eaten some questionable things and not gotten sick, but I don't think I'd chance that.

[@NemFX]

Story one: Can we all just stop and address the part where the daughter said "AGAIN"

[@MarkNarrations]

You are amazing, that is all!

[@jakemarie828]

Thanks 😊 you too!

[@dillongage]

No, YOU are breathtaking! - Keanu Reeves 2019.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

You are too waffle king💜💜🤗🤗

[@technicaldifficulties368]

Hey Mark, hope your day is going well. And everyone in the comment section as well

[@somethingmarriott]

So are you ❤❤

[@eldeano9964]

Story 2: the mother sounded like a controlling narcissist before the buffet scandal. I wonder what narrative she spun to the family to get them onside?, seeing as sis was siding with op from the get go.

[@tallyp.7643]

I'm starting to wish I hadn't just eaten lunch before that story. Ooh, just picturing it is ridiculous. And how did nobody in the family notice that a whole wedding buffet was in the freezer for 8 months and start picking at it? Still, the fact that she did that was a tasteless move... more sad and tasteless than all those dishes likely were. She's giving me the vibes of the AITA mom whose own daughter got sick so often at home because they'd leave food in the car for days or on the counter constantly, never at the right temperature. The daughter's gastro issues stopped once she moved out and handled her own food. But the mom now wants her grandkids to come over and she can cook for them, and insists the daughter's issues were all in her head and that there's nothing wrong with her food. Mom said "hells no" & asked Reddit about it. The "ick" factor from the commenters was about like it is here.

[@eldeano9964]

@tallyp.7643 I remember that story. Also it's like the one where op had health/breathing issues up until they moved out, because of mould or something, and the parents knew because they went to a doctor but did nothing about it.

[@ZoeAlleyne]

Man, that wedding food story reminds me of the one where that girl found out that her mum was SO stingy that her whole childhood she had fed her off food.

[@ShinyElfriend]

Story 2: I would have collected all the food and thrown it away while my husband called every pizza place in town for takeout for the guests

[@paulagoeringer9466]

Grab the mic and announce it to everyone.

[@Jjudes9665]

…..And send the bill to the mother.😳

[@mortimerbrewster3671]

That would probably have been better food than is served at most weddings. The guests might have appreciated it more. Definitely would have appreciated it over food poisoning. I can't believe the first owner of the food was catching flack from anyone (other than mother) for giving a heads up to the guest at the potential of ending up in the ER.

[@sandrag3854]

Story 2: I imagine Mom was so proud of herself for thinking she brilliantly came up with a way to save money and give the impression they could provide second daughter with an equally lovely reception meal. I hope it finally occurs to her that it wasn't as brilliant as she thought it was and realizes the point: yes, saving money is great but don't let that supersede the wellness of others. If she thinks the backlash is terrible now - imagine the backlash if even one person got sick.

[@sabrinahinton1774]

Story 1) Stop making someone a priority who isn't doing the same in return. She gaslighting you and will keep you dangling, just incase it doesn't work. Find someone who value you and you don't have to find out what's going, but can talk like adults. Good luck I pray you find someone who loves you like you deserves. Be Blessed 💙💙

[@Love2Banime]

S1: she was acting strange and making it very obvious with the perfume. UPDATE: I knew it! She was bound to be caught. She tried too hard and then became hysterical with "wHy IS eVEryOnE AcCusSInG mE Of ChEatIng?!" What a piece of work. Also, the daughter knew this wasn't the first time she caught the mom, but never told OP; makes her an accomplice. S2: truly, the mom is not "saving money", she is about to get people sick from these "leftovers". Even if frozen, it loses texture and flavor over a period of time.

[@alderblanco2362]

Not gonna lie, this video is a very useful distraction today. I just sent my cat, Joey, to the big sleep after sixteen years and four days together. It's hard to want to do anything, but having this voice and these stories puts me back in a mindset to do some chores like I need to. Thanks, Mark.

[@Boundwithflame23]

🫂 Sorry for your loss. It’s tough losing a beloved pet.

[@dreamer9398]

The first story: The poor daughter…

[@hugoumero9723]

having an pathetic and immature mom

[@randomusername3873]

But people keep saying that cheaters care about their children...

[@thomasjoseph5876]

I don't think so. I think the daughter had a pretty good idea of what they would find when they went to the apartment. If anything, she might feel a bit ashamed or embarrassed but I also bet this same type of scenario has played out numerous times before.

[@Lestaticate]

Story 2: Good LORD, I can only imagine the mass crowd of wedding guests in an all-out brawl to go number 2 & 3 in the restroom. Not only what she did was embarrassing, cheap and tacky but also dangerous. OP’s mom must be a huge fan of “Jack’s Cooking” (I think he straight up dropped a 2-year old brisket into chili … for a CHURCH COOK-OFF.) OP was super sweet to consider donating wedding food to a shelter. It makes me sad hearing about so much food going to waste here.

[@khaleesireyna731]

I'd be RAGING at that part. The OP wanted to do something for others and her cheapskate mother just takes it upon herself to mess it all up.

[@tifadreamers]

Story 1: right before Mark ever mentioned it, I was already thinking about this...there was not ONE, no single apology coming out of that cheater. No remorse whatsoever, no acknowledgement that she was wrong. She only panicked because now she's lost the gold mine and the steady life she wished to keep while banging other people. It's definitely a pattern if the daughter even hinted this wasn't the first time

[@wolfsage5049]

Story 1: I know there’s no age limit on who can & can’t cheat, but at what point in your life do think “I’m too old to do this.” After getting caught red handed she blamed everyone else & didn’t even give an apology. smh 😒

[@owl7072]

Story 1: "Why are you in the house!" Because one lives there and the other actually gives a shit about her well-being Edit: "If you cared anything about us or our relationship you'd talk to me!" If _you_ cared anything about Op and your relationship, _you wouldn't have cheated._

[@khaleesireyna731]

I would be waaayy too tempted to respond to that text with "If YOU cared about our relationship, you wouldn't have canceled our plans for months to f*ck some other dude". That or just respond with 🤣 to every gaslighting attempt. Nothing makes a gaslighter look dumber than just responding with something that says "no one is buying this"

[@holyek7892]

OP should just brand her with the scarlet letter. What a horrible ending. I feel bad he left the ice cream. The second story is disgusting! What goes through their minds?

[@HaliaStone]

Yeah, I’d at least take the ice cream back. I’m not leaving my salted caramel behind for nothing.

[@kimberlyterasaki4843]

Uh…. Have you ever read the scarlet letter?

[@christinedaae1986]

Exactly what I was thinking. We don’t slutshame Hester Prynne over here. Her only crime was falling in love after having been forcibly married to an abusive creep and then left to sail across the world all alone.

[@AndreNDP]

@@HaliaStone Nah, you just hit up CVS, take 20 bucks, and grab one of every gelato.

[@lorrainemontagnon1537]

How is everyone doing? Me? This is my favorite time, coffee with Mark.

[@MarkNarrations]

No cheeky biscuits to go with that coffee?!

[@lorrainemontagnon1537]

@MarkNarrations no , made Hotcross buns. You know me live to bake. My son has ordered a Strawberry 🍓 Shortcake.

[@Zarathustra_infinite]

This is so British I don't how to feel

[@lorianabanana6066]

For me it's long walks or work if I can get away with it lol 🙃

[@paden1865able]

I'm just taking it easy today, I took a fall last night and hit my head, so a day of rest is in order. Hope you have a good one!

[@paulastiles5507]

Story #1: I know OP was in shock, but that line about the ice cream was still impressive. It got the point across with some dignity and no need for calling 911. Stay strong, OP. Let your ex stew. I do feel sorry for the daughter, though.

[@RaspberryHugs]

I'm glad he didn't keep the ice cream because now her favourite ice cream is going to be associated with this moment. She's going to remember it everytime she eats it and that makes me a little happy. Imagine never being able to eat your favourite frozen treat without the memory of something horrible you did surfacing.

[@madhatter3994]

Story 2. OMG! I have a sensitive stomach and I'm immune compromised. If someone like me was at that wedding and got sick from the food it could be deadly. If it were me and i got sick you can guarantee i would be going after the person responsible for at least my medical bills. WTF.

[@ashareecoombs5150]

The second story was horrifying

[@tessastory4976]

The wedding story: friend's wedding she did a pick your own toppings/sauce/dough type personal pizza cooked right in front of you. They had friends/family members who had dietary restrictions. There were pasta salads and green salad as well. We spend the weeks leading up to the wedding making what was essentially giant bibs out of beach towels (we made 205 of them!).They also did an ice cream/frozen yogurt/sherbet station with 3 different kinds of cake there. They had a small ice cream cake to cut. The moms with kids loved it, both sets of grandparents thought it was wonderful, and most of the guests appreciated the fact that everyone got something they enjoyed eating, made right in front of the so they knew exactly what was in it. There was a sister in law or cousin who thought it was tacky but I heard most of the family didn't enjoy her wedding because it was "stuffy, pretentious, over done, too formal, and the food sucked"

[@buildtherobots]

Story 2: Reminds me of a friend with aging parents who tried to serve leftovers (kept in the fridge, not even frozen) from Thanksgiving (late November) at Christmas a month later... I think I said something like "I'm glad you noticed before eating. People could have died." She has them in assisted living now.

[@chamab.6800]

Me: Listens to story one for 20 seconds. 🗣️🗣️🗣️SHE CHEATING!!

[@kristy1653]

“I know you get hungry after sex…so here’s some ice cream.” 💀💀

[@AndyyWithAY]

Too many people do this but to me it's just not the done thing. You don't cancel plans at the last minute that you already had established because you got a better offer. I'd say she's incredibly immature, but some people never grow up. OP let this go on way too long. It can happen once, but the second time they would've been dumped. My time is valuable and she's just not that into him

[@thomasjoseph5876]

She is into him when she needs someone to do something for her or pay for something. She is broken and he is trying to fix her but she doesn't want to be fixed. She is a 304 and there is a reason she is single at 42. She belongs to the streets. You NEVER get into a relationship with women like this.

[@boneymeroney2674]

I always pretend I'm having a morning coffee with many friends when I listen to these stories. ❤

[@OrioleBeagle]

I worked in an office with a Korean girl. When she got married her mother wouldn't allow her to invite her co-workers to her wedding. Thank God she couldn't invite us! Her family prepared Korean dishes with raw egg and two people died (her father-in-law and a bridesmaid) she and everyone else at the wedding were sick for weeks.

[@brandonportugal7578]

That is freaking wild! Did they end up getting sued?

[@mattl6300]

"You did it again," that was pretty much all he needed to know.

[@zozocecp]

For the last story I wonder if OP’s wedding was held at a banquet hall or someplace private because I’m surprised their Mom was even able to get ahold of those leftovers to begin with. I’ve worked banquet halls, and whenever somebody was trying to take bags of leftovers the owner/manager would rush out and make them stop. I don’t they can legally let people leave with leftovers for health reasons

[@leoniemarks4594]

The caterers at our wedding cleared the buffet away - and took the leftovers away with them! We were not best pleased: kosher food is NOT cheap, and my dad had invited family round to the family house the following day for lunch before everyone went home. So, my mum and I had to spend the morning after my own wedding preparing salads for lunch. My dad paid for that food, and expected to get the leftovers.

[@zozocecp]

@@leoniemarks4594 I mean, you just saw me say it was illegal for them to allow leftovers to be taken . I don’t blame the company for not giving you a possible opportunity to sue them because somebody got sick from buffet leftovers.

[@leoniemarks4594]

@@zozocecp Excuse me?! Since when is it illegal to remove food from an event? This was a hotel, we paid for external (kosher) caterers. This was also 32 years ago in the UK.

[@crem-crem4070]

Hey Mark! Am listening as I just got to the office, am in Canada and unfortunately we now need to wear masks because of forest fires!

[@MarkNarrations]

I been reading up on it today, sounds like a worrying time. Hope you stay safe friend!

[@thomasjoseph5876]

Ya, WTF is Trudeau doing up there. You are smoking the rest of North America out with your damn fires, tell that Hitler wannabe to put the damn fires out LOL.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

@@MarkNarrations Not just for them, they are smoking a large chunk of North America out. It has been like this since early spring. They like to blame it on "Climate Change" but this is just poor forest and timber management. i.e. not spending the money to remove overly thick and damaged/dead trees.

[@PuppyKatt]

I am in Manitoba, and we are back to masks (those who care, anyway) because of Sask. wild fires. Getting very difficult to breathe, and the air being thick with humidity does not help the breathing situation. Take care, crem

[@ambarmar8601]

I 💯 believe the daughter knew and saw the chance of having him find out without being the one to eat out her mom. Clue 1 the car parked in her spot and how she acted in regards to it. 2 she screamed out to her mom after a bit to get her mom’s attention. 3 when the daughter mentioned it happened again.

[@alyzu4755]

Story 1: Why do people do this? Why can't they just frikkin' break up instead of cheating, gaslighting, shifting blame, and generally being an AH?

[@khaleesireyna731]

Tbh, I get the vibe that the ex gf is more emotionally immature than her college age daughter. Emotionally immature adults have a trademark "never my fault" attitude about a lot of things that are VERY MUCH their fault.

[@Megunyan688]

As somebody currently throwing together a last minute wedding, if my mom brought out leftover food from another wedding that would make everyone sick I would scream out to everyone myself not to eat it and kick out my mother, make a whole scene and everything! I would be mortified! That’s so disgusting

[@rosaazure]

Story 2 - nobody will notice the old food until the majority of the guests wind up in the hospital with food poisoning.

[@waltdoherty540]

1st Story. "I wish I'd kept the ice cream." 😂 LOL.

[@AutumnForest862]

Story 2: Putting food in the freezer does NOT kill the pathogens in the food. Once you thaw it, they're still there and start growing again. Mom could easily have sent people to the hospital.

[@Cheycartoongirl8]

Hearing story 2, I'm getting Kitchen Nightmares vibes. Op goes full Gordon Ramsey, yelling and explaining to the mom and guests how this is a biohazard and could KILL people!

[@mztweety1374]

Oh honey always keep the ice cream.

[@badkitty4922]

For me, the next level up from my Spider Senses tingling is Captain Kirk telling the Bridge "Red Alert".

[@CatLoverX74]

I feel so bad for OP in story 1 😢 it wouldn’t have happened if we spent more time together?!! She constantly cancelled on him! What a horrible person. Feel bad for her daughter too her mom probably cheated on her dad as well. Story 2 wth?! That is completely unsafe! Mom should be glad OP stopped people eating the food they could’ve sued if they got food poisoning! What if there were people like elderly or weak immune systems? They could’ve gone to hospital or possibly worse. All because their mom was being cheap. Bride didn’t even want a big wedding to boot 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@jasonrustmann7535]

Someone here who has to go through food handling certification. Can confirm, those leftovers could have easily done some real harm, especially depending on what it was. Mother was insane.

[@standinthegsp6858]

Do not eat at your mom’s house, do not let her watch your children even if it’s in your home. We visit our paternal grandparents about twice a month. They lived an hour away. When they got old mom would tell us on the way up, “Remember, if grandma asks if you’re hungry, to tell her we’ve eaten.” Cutting mold off hard cheese is one thing... scraping mold out of strawberry jelly is entirely different. Usually one set of siblings would take grandparents out for lunch & another set would clean out their fridge. & (I think) replace the jelly they’d tossed lol.

[@jasminedavis3030]

My heart is breaking for OP in story 1. This is what cheaters don't realize they steal from their partners. They steal their sense of trust, of self-worth. It makes them feel unlovable. If you only want something casual then make it clear from the jump. Stop holding onto someone just because they provide emotional stability. It's not fair to them.

[@sandeesandwich2180]

S1: That guy hung in there way too long. Even if she hadn't been cheating, she did not make their relationship a priority and that alone would have been enough to end things. S2: For my daughter's quinceañera, we were told by the venue that we could not take cooked food home. State law did not permit it for food safety reasons, because of there being a limit to how long food can be out on a buffet.

[@rylashadow18]

S1) Cheating is the first thing that comes to mind. Being distance. Being invasive. A sudden change of plans. Having indirect eye contact. Lying about whose she with and where. "If you cared you wouldn't of cheated" Would be my only response. So glad OP got rid of this sorry excuse of a woman. Therapy, friends and healthy outlets for you OP. S2) What OP's mom did is potentially dangerous and had a huge liability attached to it that the sister would of had to foot the bill for if anyone ate that food. As someone who worked in the food industry I instantly felt disgusted at what I heard. Op saved her sister who knows how much in hospital bills. To the family members saying think of how she treated her mom make sure the get they axe along with her.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Gonna make some lemon bars for the first time

[@MarkNarrations]

Oooo they sound amazing, don't forget to send me a pic once done and a recpie :)

[@Lillireify]

Heyyyy, good luck! I tried making them once, used Claire Staffitz recipe from yt, they were delicious! I hope your turn out great too! 💜💜

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@Lillireify I was gonna use that recipe too lol

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@MarkNarrations will do

[@Lillireify]

​@@broken_queer_but_fighting8589 hahahahaha nice :D Please don't forget to lower the temperature between baking the base and the custard like I did 😂

[@SilverKingGary]

Story 2: NTA and WFT is wrong with OPs mom? This is degusting.

[@haleviyah9791]

Story 2: That is a huge food safety violation. I'm fairly new to deep freezing food and thawing them out for consumption within at least a week... but eight months frozen, on top of being left at room temperature for at least twelve hours? Hell no! You're not the asshole, you just happen to have a conscience and integrity unlike your cheapskate mother. If I saw anything like that at any family gathering I will personally throw the food out, I don't give a damn if I make someone clutch pearls.

[@joeschmo622]

_"OMG! What are you doing here?? You're not supposed to be here!! What are you doing here??"_ "Uhhh, I brought you ice-cream." This could potentially be comedy gold!

[@tephrafalls6321]

Pizza buffets are awesome! My cousin's baby shower was a pizza party. They booked a venue and used a food truck to make fresh pizza on the spot. Everyone loved it.

[@bellesmith8925]

As someone who lives in the US but spent time in the UK, Domino's is cheaper here than in the UK. Don't know why, but I was surprised by the price difference when I went to order pizza.

[@juanhaines7295]

Story 2 nta I heard this one. You saved everyone from getting food poisoning.

[@amandastout1948]

That's not shenanigans, that's malarkey!

[@iunabeam]

The caterers stole the food at my wedding..and we're caught putting the "used condiments" back into their original containers, and folks ended up with food poisoning.

[@BertrumArthur]

The left-overs at the wedding, could that be considered the traditional “something borrowed” part? LOL!

[@RRW359]

I'm not usually in favor of things like phone trackers but when the lies are this transparent I almost think it is a good idea just to get closure.

[@Tammohawk1]

OMG she did what? Food sat out on the buffet for hours, in the car and then the freezer for 8 months!! That's a nightmare!

[@allysonchen4286]

The fact that she said if we spent more time together knowing she was the one who was canceling all the dates

[@Pugiron]

if it wasn't already obvious from how easy it was to gaslight him, the easiest sign of a moron is "I didn't know how to react"

[@sej04]

Story 2: Holy cow!! Gift your mother some ServSafe classes (or equivalent for your region) so she can see for herself how dangerous what she did was.

[@skylargreen7156]

Hi everyone 👋 Just why be in a relationship if you know you are unable to commit to a serious relationship. Honestly, if I had been her daughter I would have humiliated her mother in front of all the neighbors. Poor OP 😔 Thanks Mark

[@CarrieDoway]

Story 2 reminded me of something years ago Sister in laws wedding...young, cheap, on a budget buffet....she'd used out of date or close to date food that had been frozen for a few months ...her brother (my now ex) our friends and I were laughing and whispering about it among ourselves when mother-in-law gets wind of what we where sniggering about and proclaims, slightly too loud and just as the music faded out, "Theres nothing wrong with the food, the pork pies and sausage rolls were in date!" Could've heard a pin drop but instead we heard pork pies dropping! Oooops🤣

[@builtontherockhomestead9390]

Wedding food story, I have known people who honestly believe it is ok to leave food out for hours. They just don't believe that food poisoning is real.

[@sailoriris4]

Last story: If I had a plate of that food, it be going straight in the garbage. I’m not risking it and I don’t mind leftovers.

[@NoOneCares2k]

In case anyone reading this doesn't know, food you put in a residential freezer not vacuum packed has a three month shelf life. Vacuum packing can double that. Food professionally prepared to be frozen can sometimes last up to a year if vacuum packed.

[@oliviarose5030]

OP’s ex’s comments sound so much like my dad. For twenty-five years post divorce, he would randomly tell us the divorce was my mother’s fault, because if she truly loved him, she would have forgiven the cheating. It wasn’t the first time he was caught, but him proving himself to be a repeat defender, she didn’t see the point in continuing to repair something he would just break again.

[@flarewolf]

I wanted to add to the point made about how it's dangerous for food to be out between 42 and 139 that most people don't think of is that the clock doesn't start over after taking it out of the freezer. For a very over simplified example: you can leave a dish out for an hour before it is unsafe to eat and you freeze it after 55 minutes you will only have 5 minutes before it's unsafe.

[@NicciFreeman]

I do have to say when your spidey sense are tingling make sure to check it out. Although at the same time make sure you know who your partner is too. I’m an introverted / extrovert. Meaning I’m good in social situations, but after a while I need to recharge my social battery, and on those days I don’t want to be around anyone. My ex-BF NEVER understood that. He swore I was cheating on him whenever I wanted to hermit out. He would show up at my house for the gotcha moment only to find me in a face mask, with a glass of wine and a book. This ended up happening so often that I finally got sick of it and bounced.

[@Dina-lc4bt]

Last story: 🤣🤣🤣 that sounds like my mom. My mother does not understand food safety AT ALL. When my son was younger she took food that he didn’t finish at lunch time and put it in her purse so that he could finish it later. I was like “NO.” She was mad that I “wasn’t going to make him finish his food.” I was astonished. How can someone not understand that taking cheese and lunch meat and letting it sit in your purse for hours in the summer heat then forcing someone to eat it is bad? That was the last time that I let her have any control over my son’s meals. It’s been 4 years and she still doesn’t get it. I feel sorry for the sister who didn’t realize that her mom was trying to make her guests sick.

[@stephjovi]

Story 1 when he said I gave them so much, I helped when they had a hard time. I knew it. He was the provider, the affair partner the fun. She didn`t give a f about op she just wanted his money :(

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hey can you take care of yourself? Just do one small thing that will make yourself happy. And if you feel like you can do more, please stretch, drink some water, and eat something. You matter so much. I send all the virtual love. 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@thedarkwench]

We have catering at work. Food left out for more than two hours is binned! Mum has joined the food poisioning express

[@amberleeannalee1999]

I met a young man yesterday at work. His accent was like Mark’s but so hard to understand. It took me a minute to slow down and understand what he wanted. I said “I love your accent “ he said “Cheers” with a smile. So great and I had to tell y’all. In America there are hundreds of thousands of different types of cigs maybe more than the UK? Idk. Blessed be ❤️