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[@viralee393]

You explained this so well. As a graphologist and an aspirant psychologist I was constantly observing your method/technique/style of print it all together and explaining👍

[@binoydn8756]

Am i share my body parts my gf

[@kirtyjaiswal]

What to do when your bf forces you for sex and starts blackmailing you for it?

[@warishsayeed277]

​@@kirtyjaiswalleave him he is not the right one

[@venkyreddy5772]

I really impressed with the way you explained the prob and solution.

[@mokshambaghela4902]

He did not explain any solution bruh

[@apurbahalder4369]

Tera bhi gf nhi derhi kya bro 🤣

[@MehakGulzar]

You perfectly explain the issue there is nothing left to speak up about just to stay together to understand the logic of togetherness...but i wanted to add that every women have fear to having sex because everyone have something precious in life and for women that her body that she keep and dont like to mess around (thats naturally made or build in her)but might be she have more fear of sex, pregnancy might she have horrible stories, there is just need to be gentle and humble and sensible and cautious,dont live in fantasy live in real world...

[@SunilKumar-pe1pp]

Ram Ram ji ❤❤

[@SunilKumar-pe1pp]

आपसे एकसहायता चाहिए थी

[@nainasingh4041]

Did he say...."22" 22 and not willing to have any sexual intimacy is....very much OK...and breaking ur years old rltnship over it will be extremely stupid!

[@MuhammadImran-ln4fz]

Hi 😗😙👄👄💋💋💏💏😍😍❤❤❤🌷🌷

[@masternobin]

no... probably she is getting banged by other guy

[@prajwalkalangutkar3081]

I this this problem is just the created by shivdhar as it is sounds.

[@bloomingcloud4830]

Not really old relationship doesn't mean it's a good one it depends on the individual who's in the relationship so NOT stupid

[@1RajatS]

No she is asexual the girl must be left for another asexual partner 😎😎😎

[@RakeshDebbarma86]

What if she got pregnant before her marriage and her boyfriend dump her??? There are many boys who cannot be trusted. Actually that boy was taken away by lust and not love.

[@igt2173]

Naive

[@Void_from_Abyss]

True

[@RakeshDebbarma86]

@@igt2173 Will you let your female family members have pre-marital sex then???

[@igt2173]

@@RakeshDebbarma86 if they are matured enough and can handle their own responsibility then off course yes its their life .... None is God out here.. And even if they do so...they will never tell u....if u make sex as a taboo in ur family... Give them sex education instead so that they doesn't get misleading information from friends environment and Internet... It completely depends on thst Individual the more wisdom the more matured...

[@bibhuduttapatra2259]

And there are many boys who are being doubted just because of some lustful boys

[@shwetaredkar734]

Its not only that girl , I am sure many girls will say the same thing. Even I told my ex the same thing and because of that he is an ex today. His idea of love was only to have sex and no further involvement to take it further to marriage. If this guy who is asking question is so much desperate to get physically intimate than marry her, give her secure feeling and have sex as much as possible. Who is stopping you to get married to your childhood best friend??

[@rationalsamrat3247]

Lol men view sex with their partner as love , hence rejecting sex is like rejecting him . She said she will be unwillingly do it after marriage! Does that sound healthy to you?

[@shwetaredkar734]

@@rationalsamrat3247 as far as I have heard and understood, she is rejecting it before marriage. She has clearly said everything which also includes sex after marriage. And whatever it is, if you see sex as love that too before committing and getting married than God save you. I don't find it a healthy relationship to continue even if the guy feels rejected. If the guy feel rejected it's his problem. it's not love it's lust. what if he dumps her after getting physically intimate and she is expecting his child and he is not ready to accept her??? If so much men love women on the basis of sex than marry the girl first than you can demonstrate your love(I mean sex according to your theory)day and night. the point is, as long as girlfriend is not accepting to have sex it's fine until your wife is not okay with it. Problem lies after marriage not before.

[@rationalsamrat3247]

@@shwetaredkar734 she said she will do it unwillingly do you realize that such words scare the guy's because it basically means everytime she has sex with him its basically he's raping her . Such vocabulary must not be used.

[@xyzaaa7716]

@@rationalsamrat3247 okay... So u r okay having a non-virgin wife!? If it so why u all blame women for losing before marriage? On one hand u want sleep with ur gf but want virgin wife!

[@shwetaredkar734]

@@xyzaaa7716 exactly..

[@ApoorvaGupta1910]

If the person is not interested in physical intimacy there is a possibility they are Asexual and 'NO' if she says that she will not be interested even after marriage...that just means she is not interested in sexual intimacy and there is nothing to read between the lines. Sexual intimacy is a personal choice and nothing is there to negotiate here.

[@lillygrace6378]

Kinda me Im not like not interested but I fear a lot like I feel its very painful

[@ankitalokhande7659]

Exactly

[@pubgfunzz8858]

he should move on...... she don't like him....... she will find someone like her and he will find someone like him....... there is no future for them..... and as he dont have friends she dont get any personal space .....

[@a.kstudio1949]

@@ankitalokhande7659 it's coz its first time o have have my gf which is now wife first she said same like she feels painful.but later she enjoyed after marriage

[@amritpransarmah9405]

Well, to be honest there is no future in a relationship when just a single partner is happy and people always miss out the point about intimacy that (yes, consent is a must) intimacy is not just a choice for entire life, it's a need for a human being and the human body at some point but everything takes time, so yes, we need to be patient about these issues specially in a country like India where our people have made 'sex' more of a social issue rather than a basic human need at some point of life.

[@shrishtipatwal6355]

I would say you just ask her directly why she doesn't want it. Being a girl i can understand the point she mentioned that she'll do it after marriage. It's may be bcoz girls do not want to lose their virginity before marriage. They only wanted to experience it with only one person they love. She might be thinking what if your relationship doesn't last very long, she had to do it again with another guy. And if this is the case plzzz respect her decision.

[@lostguy5004]

Sister can u help me , I am in depression right now ..that's why I want to know few things from a girls perspective..

[@harshtiwari1244]

Respect Husband decisions also . If Husband want it then give it . PLZZ respect Husband decisions . After marriage sex is a important part .

[@astrostudios6208]

My girl's reasons are religious.

[@bluenight-z4b]

@@harshtiwari1244 acha😅😆

[@jasonsamuel6601]

She could be a sexual or lesbian

[@Miniflower25]

This is Too much,, First of all... no need any discussion abut Sex bfr Marriage, , that's individual choice nd comfort if one patner is not ready for Sex bfr marriage then other must understand, , If He luv her,, whole heartedly... he won't leave her or force her for sex instead he njy s strong emotional relation nd will sure wait till she was comfortable...Luv is beyond sex more about Life Time connection, , luv , care , support...Feeling of true luv itself amazing even without physical connection...

[@manjulabm4178]

Extremely true fact

[@delusionsslayer7285]

If a man will say that if girl loves me then she will not leave me even I don't provide her food water and die in hunger and thirst for me. Will you agree? No girl owe love or respect if she is not cooperating. A man must move on. Because one sided compromising is always worst for relationship whether it's girl or boy. If you love someone that means you are not his/her slave tied to live with him/her even he/she is not doing his/her responsibilities for you. Love must be mutual not one sided like you explained that if he really loves her then he should never Force her to have sex with him and even never leave her😁😁😁😁😁 Why he must not leave her? Is he permanently tied to her even she is not cooperating? Everyone has right to move on from non cooperating partners to another if they are not getting valued and resiprocated by their partner. They should neither force nor pressurize their current partner rather move on and leave the bullshit self centered person. Everyone has right to get what they want in a relationship and no one can stop them from having it.

[@aadiyogini]

And yes he would have respected her for being the way she is ....bcoz vo aisa sochke khush hota ki ye wife material h meri beti ko bhi acchi sikh degi aur acchi maa banegi.....but ladke ghatiya aur selfish hote khudki girlfriend girlfriend aur khudki beti b beti agar uski beti pe baat aaye toh kaise hak se bolne lgta h matlab har chiz me khudko raja samjhta h.....akal naam ki chiz hoti kya ladko me uski probably khudki b koi sagi behen hosakti h agar uske saath koi shaadi k pahele krne ki soche toh b raja jaise dominate krne lagega .....aadmi bhot dogla hota h.

[@இறைவனின்அடிமை]

Exactly...❤️

[@Miniflower25]

@OYe ChAl oYEsry translate to english

[@kavithanayak3952]

Nothing wrong with the girl...probably she has grown up in traditional household where sex before marriage is not looked as normal....or she is not physically attracted to the boy but she is yearning for emotional intimacy......do not push for sex....

[@ConviverBook]

Get married to have intimacy or sex, As simple as it is... don't find anything traditional to it. Today's reflection are more attraction based then the love and hence prone towards sex more then the bond of relations. It's not that our ancestors are not like to relish but they are more prone to build a family hence selects to get married to move further in the relationship.

[@vishalraj6825]

Maybe that could be reason but she is saying she will do it unwillingly even after marriage suggest she is born asexual who have zero sexual desire biologically.

[@kavithanayak3952]

@@vishalraj6825 could be a possibility...... whatever is the case communication is the key.....still no one has the rights to push an unwilling person to have sex....jus let go and let GOD 🙏

[@vishalraj6825]

@@kavithanayak3952 exactly I agree no one has rights to push someone to have unwilling sex.But they should sort out with communcation either reason behind her statement is societal fear or she never had sexual desire at any point of her life.If she is asexual then they should end their relationship on a good note.Because if they come into relationship it is highly possible that he might cheat on her to fulfill his sexual needs and things will get worse then.It's just asexual and sexual person are not meant to be for each other.Imagine telling a sexual person be it men or women that you will not get to know about this feeling in your whole life.He will end up supressing his feeling that could lead to depression which worst thing in relationship.

[@vishalraj6825]

@@nancykumar6248 Yeah your comment seems logical.Maybe the guy is the one who overthinking here.And we also don't know about his girlfriend side of story.

[@mikeltochi3363]

This is a very serious issue more especially with the amount of broken marriages and toxic relationship in the world today which if a clear examination is taken on it will be traced to sexual incompatibility between the two parties. Although in some societies the act of sex before marriage is more like a taboo, however for the rest who are not forbidden from practicing sex before marriage it is a very big issue having either of the two persons in the relationship to have interest in sexual intimacy while the other person is not interested basically because some who don't want to practice it don't have a convincing reasons for why they don't wanna indulge in it and in most cases it makes the other person want to question the genuineness of the love . I have a case in my locality right now involving couple who dated for some months before getting married and it appeared that they never had sex while they were dating, now the issue is that the woman discovered that the man is impotent and in fact he has been impotent since birth and no one knows about it, not even his parents . So my take is that except two persons in a relationship agreed to a sex free relationship it is no need being in such relationship in order to avert a similar issue after marriage.

[@sanarashed4343]

I need your help . I’m 23 years old . Recently I completed my MSc now my mom wants me to get married and she selected a boy who is my second cousin . We got engaged and after 5 moths of our engagement he is forcing me to do all these things that I don’t want to do . He wants me to do whatever is right for him . And I cannot do whatever he says i want to live my life according to my personal opinions. Now I wanna break this relationship but my mom is getting sick day by day because of this relationship she wants me to get married at any cost with that man and she thinks no man will ever marry me if I reject him now .

[@gayathrikarmegam1840]

Dont put your life in hardship jus by looking the situations around you dear. Its your life be clear wit wat you want. Hoping you ll decide things for yourself. Be positive ❤

[@piyushmehra4563]

We just get one life. Remember that. Don't ruin it by marrying a wrong one. Some firm hard decisions need to be taken and you know them. Good luck

[@sanarashed4343]

piyush mehra but my mom 😭😭 I don’t know what to do this is making me crazy 😭😭 I wanna die

[@ZeHarrisFamily]

I'm so sorry you're struggling with this! I was unhappily married for a long time. I had to choose to be strong for me, and left an abusive man. Please know you are not alone, you're mom will indeed adjust if you chose to break this off. He is NOT the only man. You are worthy of real love❤❤

[@sanarashed4343]

Heather Harris 😭😭 they say no man will marry me if I left him 😭🥺 and he is saying u have to marry me or I’m gonna break this relationship 😭 he is just making this situation more difficult for me

[@bibhuduttapatra2259]

One more point .... Some girls even love just to time pass neither interested in sex nor marraige ..... And some just to show off by the number of boy friends they have 😂...... This is the 1st video I have commented on 🔛

[@Monster-kt7lb]

Well if u are not good looking basically then it happen

[@bhabhutiji1169]

@@Monster-kt7lb Lol I'm so ugly all girls ignore me, I'm invisible for them They don't even like talking to me. I'm going to be 20 and single and Virgin forever. I accepted the black pill

[@thegodOffire__]

@@Monster-kt7lb Fact❤️

[@shuvankardutta5694]

I am going through this similar problem, I belive that it will fixed soon❤️ I love her so much 💝 There is no reason in the world which can seperate us❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@sujatashetty4717]

It's better to ask each one for their patner about their likings .about biological .even it's about sex it's very important

[@studentboy5606]

Hello ji

[@aadiyogini]

You said *Millions of couples grow through this* ....first let me be clear before getting validity of being declared as couples they must marry then they can have everything........most girls want to have sex with only one men who is going to be father of her children....what if the guy leaves her after having sex n never marry her then she won't be able to forgive herself for her whole life.....n people break trust even after making promises.....in straight words I'm giving u the reason....will u guys will like if ur daughter having sex with a man who will never marry her....obviously we girls want it too but we want security we can't disrespect our womb bcoz its ultimately the home of our child how can we let multiple men touch it and disrespect our own child.....don't think I'm orthodox but its something to have it someone ur gonna spent rest of ur life but without getting marry if some man have it with some girl the girl won't have any right to raise the voice against the guy for the injustice he did to her bcoz the guy is not her husband n if she will say something everyone will blame her.....in hostel I saw many girls crying bcoz of this reason bcoz guys leave after having sex ....its easy for a guy to have sex with more than one girl in his life he easily can get move on but there are many girls out there who can't accept their body for their entire life if the guy she had sex with left her n will never be her husband n keep getting shock due to guilt each morning they wake up n they start to get panic attacks n shocks......I gave u the honest reason why girls deny ..straight to the point.....they never say that they won't have it obviously they too have feelings even more than a guy probably but want it to happen with only father of her own child......not every guy get ready to be her husband or father of her child.

[@prajwalkalangutkar3081]

Ya it's true if everyone in doing sex with one another there there is no value left in the society I an an guy but still believe in people shouldn't have sex and then tell the reason such as my family won't accept you , you are not that good caste , religion etc etc. If you can't marry you shouldn't distroy someone's life.

[@aadiyogini]

*Its not that your partner will know then it will ruin ur life it has nothing to do with future husband or partner but first its about ownself which we know about ownself...... its about the image and the stain u get over urself which u can't forget for whole life even if ur partner will never know the truth but the stains will still be there in ur heart which may hurt u many times....even if everyone say good things about u or respect but u loose ur self respect in ur own eyes internally.*

[@prajwalkalangutkar3081]

@@aadiyogini I don't know what you said please simplify it.

[@aadiyogini]

@@prajwalkalangutkar3081 Mere kahene ka matlab ye hai ki duniya yaa ladki ka partner kya sochega isse matlab nhi hai bhale us ladki ke life partner ko yaa duniya ko kbhi reality pata nhi chalti ki uske sath kya hua .....but vo khudke bare me jo sach jaanti h vo nhi badal sakta uske man pe laga daag koi nhi mita sakta .....idhar duniya ke yaa life partner ko pata chalne ki dar ki bat toh baad me aati h aur idhar dar kiq baat nhi balki khudpe lage daag ko accept naa kar paane ki dukh ki baat hai.

[@nandhinibalasubramanian211]

@@aadiyogini it's the exact point, I think everyday... God thnq for putting into words 😣

[@syedayasmeen6662]

When she feels safe around you and trust you completely...then she will do it ❤💯

[@igt2173]

Its not about trust its about priorities and interest even if. I love my Gf a lot I won't drink alcohol with her..even if I do that that would be reluctant

[@Srxeya]

@@igt2173 you didn't not understand what she ment but most of the women's can desire it if they feel safe and comfortable around the partner

[@amritpransarmah9405]

Well TBH, that's not the point, the point is the woman said to him that she will be intimate with him after marriage and that too unwillingly, so that statement doesn't make any sense to justify feeling safe, which wife wouldn't feel safe with her husband and do things unwillingly, think about, well the point is not about any one of our's perspective, it's just about taking the right step by the partners✌️

[@kuriouskid1285]

Might be true for you But not others

[@icysnow57cold64]

I have a question. How comfortable are most couples actually are with each other? I heard that most women do not like getting naked and changing their clothes right in front of their boyfriends or husbands, and most women do not like their boyfriends or husbands getting naked and changing their clothes right in front of them, and most women do not like to shower with their boyfriends or husbands, and most women do not like to sleep in the same bed as their boyfriends or husbands. And I heard that when a woman has sex with her boyfriend or husband, she is most likely very uncomfortable during the whole experience. Also, I heard a reason why many women are comfortable getting naked and changing their clothes right in front of their platonic female (and male) friends (and vice versa) is because they are comfortable being naked around them and they are comfortable with them being naked around them since they don't see them as anything sexual, it's also another reason why they have no problem sleeping in the same bed as them. And also, l heard that a woman getting naked and changing her clothes right in front of a man and sleeping in the same bed as him is a very friend-zoney thing for a woman to do to a man since that means she doesn't see him as anything romantic or sexual at all. I am a asexual male just to let everyone know. So I am not interested in stuff like dating and sex. So that's maybe why 3 of my platonic female friends felt comfortable getting naked and changing their clothes right in front of me and vice versa, because me and them don't see each other as anything romantic or sexual at all. So if those things are true (which I'm not sure), then that means that platonic love might be better than romantic love is, and that romantic relationships are not special.

[@indrajitbandyopadhyay788]

physical intimacy is a must for a relationship without sex in a relationship its like you are watching doordarshan channel in the era of netflix

[@norajeffry7368]

Its a must in a marraige. Not before! Lets keep it real u respect woman that keeos her legs closed way more then others who dont. Men love to have a taste of Virgin woman and they rarely get that. Its a special gift. Sex isnt everything its a bonus! Somthing is soo special when a womam gives her v card to her husband and he knows no man has touched her and she has honored her body and herself to the right man for marraige. Every man respects that soooo highly deep down and u cant say u dont! There are men and there are Boys in mens body. Even so u respect a woman more cause u know she isnt screwing every man she has been with she only slept with the one who married her. Isnt that highly respected? Thats somthkng u dont easily get rn.

[@umerabid6433]

So that's why rape happened

[@wanishabirahmad9268]

​@@norajeffry7368yes

[@ft.rishav]

@@norajeffry7368 Yeah but if u want to stay virgin till marriage, don't get in a relationship before marriage then. Coz physical intimacy is must in a relationship before or after marriage.

[@norajeffry7368]

@@ft.rishav u have to know a person before u jump into marraige u have to get to know them. If yall cabt control ursleves then thats on u! Allah never sald marraige then get to know eac other

[@AnaiahJireh]

Love is something beyond Physical relationship.she mentioned that she is okay with it after marriage.It means she want herself indulge in her career making or she is being driven by our culture,tradition of staying far from them till her marriage.. That's it!!He should be happy that she is being super loyal to him🔥👍 Everything seems perfectly fine in her as a girl it's my opinion.

[@rationalsamrat3247]

As a guy I disagree . Let me tell you how a man feels .he feels rejected he is scared that what if she never opens up to him sexually even after marriage. Also she didn't say she was okay with it ,she said she will do it unwillingly .wtf any guy would be scared after hearing those words. Also sh

[@AnaiahJireh]

@@rationalsamrat3247 he mentioned that she will be okay after marriage!!!!!And that's my opinion that's it!!!

[@Bloom99]

I think may be that girl has boyfriend and was just for fun😁

[@rationalsamrat3247]

@@AnaiahJireh she used the word unwillingly not okay .

[@Bell-wh4vm]

@@rationalsamrat3247 Women and Girls have no sexual desire or attraction towards men,,,, They just like the idea of being desired... They have no sexual feelings towards men,,, Most of the girls don't like sex at all... Some girls even get disgusted when they get in touch with a Man (I have seen Alot of these girls). If men understand these... There will be no problem regarding sexual intimacy.. There will be No frustration in a Relationship.

[@lalithabanala5013]

I loved the way you hv observed the problem in various angles.

[@carralumsden8853]

Shridhar 3:16. Amen Peace and Blissings

[@karveeranivasa9012]

Maybe the social background from which she comes makes her feel to wait till marriage. Sometimes a girl would want someone internally who is more settled or is smart in life socially, goals wise etc. Who knows.

[@keerthikayalakaturi738]

Its like my prblm too..😑😑 Did my boyfriend send this mail?

[@angela4835]

i dont know if i should suggest this..... but my thoughts on this broaden when i did more research.... it then felt normal to me.... you can try this too... but then if you dont like it then fine, its absolutely okay

[@tapankumarnayak7695]

😂😂

[@chetanshir007]

Untill today, I didn't know, so many people are like this, Being on the same side, I can understand you. But don't do it until and unless you feel it's right. And if they really love us enough, then they'll stay, coz a relationship is solely not based on physical needs. And if someone values only this thing then the future we hold with them is bleak, I feel🤔 For I know few friends, who did it and after their breakup, they were devastated. So it's not wrong if we are trying to save ourselves. A right man will understand. 😇 Don't worry too much. Stay blessed.😊😇

[@keerthikayalakaturi738]

@@chetanshir007 so sweet of your reply... 🤗🤗🤗 You are absolutely right..!

[@keerthikayalakaturi738]

@@angela4835 yeahh🤗👍

[@unnatikumari2475]

Why u said that sex relationship is ok...between girlfriend and boyfriend......condoms ka invention na hoaa hota na.....to itne saari ladkiyo ka pyar k naam pr istemal na ho rha hota....physical relationship before marriage...is making society a mess

[@varshamishra3340]

Agree

[@divyaml4904]

Agree ....for some people love is just equal to sexual relationship..

[@nancynanzz3196]

Agree boys are loving only for physical relationship

[@thesoulonquest]

Sahi bat!

[@thesoulonquest]

1 crore ki baat

[@shirulka]

I am really impressed by the way the problem is addressed with all pros and cons and possibilities and increasing ones thinking capability...good

[@Drsweetyagarwal7575]

I guess now a days relationship is all about intimacy and for those who are not really want to have it before marriage then they question her love and loyalty but it should not happen

[@kuriouskid1285]

I could be all about it but if someone is together for years then this logic fails.

[@manjulabm4178]

You are right shridhar. But it's only now a days all of you keep talking about physical relations before marriage. It's a western style. And all the more, even if we are into relations physically, who k owns the next stand....the general word by the male is..". I can get thousands more loving than you", some say "I need to try you out for one day".... all such sort.. it's disgusting....extremely disgusting

[@Miniflower25]

S..u r right it's all westren trend not real luv.. what is the need of Physical connection bfr marriage, ,LuV is first abut emotional attachement. .. I decided I won't allow my BF to touch,,even for kiss no,, Ofcourse ,, He can't force me😄 Bcz i am a strong Girl, I won't listen to others 😜 whatever I feel gud I will do that,, Self Respect is first priority.😊

[@urzascarlet9104]

I dont think there is anything wrong in having physical relations before marriage , because marriage are permanently, if one ends up with someone who is not on the same level as them it can be disastrous, can lead to marital rape or extra marital affairs. But then again it should be a person's personal choice and freedom.

[@urzascarlet9104]

@@Miniflower25 I apologise but I do not understand this mentality. Being physical doesn't bring down ur self respect, if it is done with concent . A human is a social being and needs physical touch , in form of hugs or sometimes more. Its nature , why is it called a taboo is something I dont get

[@Miniflower25]

@@urzascarlet9104OK Ntng is a Taboo,, It's all about our preference, , what ever u said is right,,It's Nature,, But anytype of rules/ Certain limits in society are constructed to make- Human life easy nd comfortable, , Again that depends on country,, In India we r born nd brought out in certain strong vaules nd cultural rules, , we r strongly connected with family parents ,, Whatever we do definitely reflects on family situations...So being in limits njy ing - Complete connections (even physical) only after marriage makes everything soft nd comfortable, , See we r Humans,, is there any urge of physical connections immediately, , Okay kiss or hug is okay, , I don't agree with sex bfr marriage,, we can control our senses that is Y.. Humans r called only animals who r self consciousness / self aware in animal kingdom, , If one breaks marriage just for sex compatability issues what type of Luv is it???? TRUE LUV GOES BEYOND PHYSICAL TOUCH,, so i prefer Friendship,,Emotional attachement bfr marriage, , physical attachment only after marriage, , That's all my opinion Madam,, I don't want to judge anyone that's individual wish,,their Right, , but I won't cross my limits...I am happy following this taboo 😜😄

[@Miniflower25]

@@urzascarlet9104 sorry if my Words r wrong, , I just commented my opinion i dont want to judge anyone,, 😊 it's ur life whatever u feel right u can go with it 😄individual freedom 😄

[@ZeHarrisFamily]

Wonderful, thoughtful advice. I know this will help many ❤

[@sonalkulkarni4484]

Whoever has written this question.. Let me tell you.. It's pretty clear that she does not have feelings for you.. She just likes you as a support and want to have you in her life but definitely don't have feelings.. She is just confused between liking and love.. N trust me if she starts feeling for someone else before or after marriage, you are gone.. So please don't be in hurry... I have gone through this .. If someone has not experienced love before can feel like this.. So it's not her fault .."she doesn't love you "

[@rationalsamrat3247]

@@nancykumar1933 🙏

[@zohebansari994]

If your gf saying no, plz respect her decision

[@aayushagrawal24]

The one who doesn't like to be physical will not like it after marriage too...It is just a way to push the things to a later point. She is asexual.

[@zohebansari994]

Bro why u think negative ask her why not?? .... My gf told me due to cultural things and now we are going to marry in December.....

[@Ayushk752]

@@zohebansari994 cultural things.. Sorry???

[@muraliseetharaman1908]

Please don't stay with a girlfriend or wife for a second if she is not interested in sex.

[@ashnapalsetia8644]

Also maybe she has some fears/ traumas of her past or vaginismus. Rather than feeling sad please help her out and be a good boyfriend just the way you're doing now and respecting her needs. Communicate with her regarding her fears if possible.

[@harshtiwari1244]

Communication is not a solution !! A good Girlfriend respecting his sexual needs . Give sexual satisfaction to your boyfriend !! Only communicate is not a solution . Respecting boyfriend sexual needs also . If girlfriend always say No for sex then no one can respecting that . Because sex is a Biologically Naturally to Basis needs we can't live without sex whole life . If GF need then we help her out but if GF is asexual then no one can help her out . Of GF not supporting to solve her fears and problem then BF have right to go outside for sex or break up . Girls not force boys to live Unsatisfied .

[@priyankugoswami4442]

First of all, Our culture doesn't permits sex before marriage and if a girl comes from a traditional family (which is the case with most of the Indian girls) she always have it in her mind that sex before marriage is a sin. Secondly Indian girls lacks sexual libido their sex drive is less as compared to their western counterparts it is the way they are born. So most of the girls does sex unwillingly even after marriage. Anyhow a boy should know to respect his girlfriend's feelings even if it means to suppress their own. That's called a real man afterall.

[@imperfectlyperfect3205]

Brother firstly be clear to your information that sex before marriage in our culture is a social taboo but not a cultural taboo. It means society has set this limitation..

[@joanhebert73]

We all need to remember that many many children experience sexual abuse/rape as a child. This is an ugly truth that is often ignored in assessing problems like this. Otherwise, excellent video.

[@anonymousaniie8361]

My partner used to emotionally blackmail me just because I refused to have any sort of physical relationship with him and guess what he's no longer my partner!

[@mercy6054]

He doesn't deserve you!!

[@anushkaa28]

@@KNIKHIL555 there is nothing like " should ". Its a person's personal choice if they wish to go into sexual relationships before marriage or after marriage. It doesn't make someone impure or pure. People who think that really need to broaden their mindset. And marriage doesn't ensure " forever" either. You can have sex after marriage and the guy can still divorce you.

[@anushkaa28]

@@KNIKHIL555 See man I don't wish to contradict you to the least. It isn't called being modern. Its CHOICE. I hope you have heard of that. And yeah if someone wishes to indulge in a sexual relation with their partner at the age of 20- 21 and then due to lets say some reason then end up not being together. Bcoz people can get seperated right. And then at the age of 28-29 they marry someone else. That doesn't make you IMPURE or bad. Sleeping with anyone and everyone makes YOU a street person. I really am sorry about your mindset. And rahi baat sanskaar ki. I am totally aware of my religion and customs and very much respect them. ( custom had sati as a proper thing back then doesn't mean we ought to follow it now). Custom/rules/society changes with the advent of time. And yeah I respect your choice. 🙌

[@bhavyagr2443]

@@KNIKHIL555 😂😂😂ekdm point ki baat khi bhai

[@bhavyagr2443]

@@KNIKHIL555 exactly

[@nv_thalia]

Wat if d girl had some experience of sexual abuse in childhood dat makes her feel dis way,dat shud also b looked into n if needed counselling for dat

[@aadiyogini]

Please be realistic about she is denying ur from India only..why ur acting???..that girl want to have it after marriage......don't talk like u don't the real reason .....and she don't need counseling right now but later after her bf will have with her without marrying then definitely she will need real counseling n many girls need but they die in pain cause people will judge her n never understand her pain.

[@nv_thalia]

@@aadiyogini hav some sense wen u talk,i said d point i made must also b luk into thats all n u r talking rubbish First understand wat d person is saying n den talk

[@aadiyogini]

@@nv_thalia that point which u made is only meant to be said if a married girl is behaving like that n not letting her husband touch her then there might be possibility that she went through some abuse in childhood but before considering the first point ur talking as if even she never went through abuse then it will be normal for the girl to have sex before marriage....the shock of getting childhood abuse nd having sex before marriage with guy who will probably never be ur husband is going to give same shock first understand that......u also know what I mean ur not from some other place right....so first u have some common sense while considering some point.....the point u made for an unmarried girl who is denying her lover that point was rubbish its not her husband thats why she is fearing.

[@tommyvercetti9322]

Hahahahah in india it's really to have sex to a girl but if you go to america or other country it's very essay way to have sex

[@FirstnameLastname-cl4op]

@@aadiyogini I have seen thousands of conservative girls but you seems like came from stone age

[@RitikRaj-sd6bd]

You delivered all the things very well and the last tips was best. I think if we should not force anyone to do anything for ous thn why should we force ourself to do not do what we love.. Equality

[@kuriouskid1285]

Kya baat boli hai bhai💛

[@imperfectlyperfect3205]

Exactly buddy

[@artmaniabyriyadas456]

At a time i heard it is very important to have a sexual bonding for a good relationship... so after having stayed together for 40-50 years or more or less than that later sex doesn't bother... right if you ask your elders... for me i have been in a relationship for 6 years... he never told me or forced me for sexual bonding... the bond which matters most is us.. if sexual Bonding is really important then at a time people used to love first then marry then had sex... right.. own you what you think what your choices are...

[@delusionsslayer7285]

The women like you take advantage of nice guys humble nature and patience by making them sexually emotionally and mentally starving by giving lame excuses like sex is not important not everyone is having sex elders living without sex for 40-50 years 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 totally a horseshit. If they are living without sex then is it necessary that I or any person is obliged to live their lifestyle? What if men say you feeding women is not important what matters is she is living with me and that's enough?????? No food no water no clothes only you got is shelter. Will you agree with that?

[@rationalsamrat3247]

If he never told you then, have you asked him what his desires are? . Once you are in a exclusive relationship then you two become the only outlet for sex with each other this means working to find a middle ground where you both satisfy each other. Sex might not be important to you but it might be important to him if he want's to do something kinky ask him what turns him on and try to give it to him ,if not then atleast find some other way to fulfill his desire . Women always do this they always think they don't have to put effort in bed .

[@prajwalkalangutkar3081]

@@delusionsslayer7285 😁😁😁😁😁😷 I will live without sex but not without food and water.👍👍

[@delusionsslayer7285]

@@prajwalkalangutkar3081 what if you have to? Like this girl saying sex is not important but enjoying husbands lifestyle and benefits by not following wife responsibilities by refraining him to live a monk life?

[@prajwalkalangutkar3081]

@@delusionsslayer7285 Then he is really became sadhu 😁😁😁😁😁 . It is healthy after marriage in any case Example: If I am a boy and I had sex with girl and we break-up after that the girl file fake rape against me . Result I am in trouble both morally and legally. If I am a girl and I had sex with bit we break up the girl will trouble because there is very hard to manage with fact that we are marring to non vrigin. Results : Not marring a partner with you are capable of .

[@ZeHarrisFamily]

Oh this breaks my heart, thank you for addressing this❤ watching from Oregon 🤗

[@MuhammadImran-ln4fz]

I love love u u u forever Really i like u am single 💑💑💑😍😍😍😍❤❤🌷

[@Void_from_Abyss]

@@MuhammadImran-ln4fz first learn English Kid 😂

[@karanpatel1346]

She is your gf but you are not her bf, she just likes your company dude. Find someone with the same equation because if everything else between you guys are so damn good then there is no scope of coming on same page with her. Don't opt for a miserable life. This is a serious problem.

[@HasminTH]

Hats off friend......understanding that things on the correct way.... God bless you dear

[@candelariasiom4763]

Leave her simply

[@Sy3127-g6z]

Suppose kl ko tumhara accident ho jaye ,pair tut jaye kon ayega tumhare sath relationship? Pyar krna sikho.

[@ashishkolteke4003]

Very good suggestion proud of you sir

[@gking8707]

Im single, but still im watching. I dont know why 😓

[@ManUsha2023-lc3tm]

Bro keep going with your activities and entertainment

[@riyarani5213]

I am the girl here.I am going through same problem.simply felt nice to hear you.😊

[@MuhammadImran-ln4fz]

I love u I like u am alone ❤❤❤😍😍😍🙋🌷

[@adarshsurendran7648]

But y 😒

[@rationalsamrat3247]

It just means you are not attracted to your partner. And you don't want to put In efforts because you think he is pathetic for asking

[@Military_combater]

@@MuhammadImran-ln4fz simp

[@Void_from_Abyss]

@@MuhammadImran-ln4fzfirst learn English child 😹

[@helpmereach1ksubsriberswit825]

There is no need to convince her if she doesn't want to do it just move on ... She would just use you as a companion and give nothing in return ... How would she felt if you only wanted sex and not give her any other stuff ... Be a Man

[@tarandeepbhatia556]

Loved the way you explained every point :)

[@MuhammadImran-ln4fz]

❤❤😍😍

[@sarbangide11a18]

What an explanation ❤️

[@Yatharthdubey6165]

Sir your communication is too good 💯❤️❤️ and also thanks for making such an amazing video on this crucial topic. 🙏👍👍

[@GhaniSahar]

Very interesting nd thought provoking, really learn a lot,,,stay jubilant nd blessed!!!

[@gokulswaminathan1337]

Excellent Topic All points beautifully covered,I would like to one point on my own,If u wish to break up break up in a healthy way Don't threaten or harass her that you will leave,Just say I do love you very much but Unfortunately I don't wish to lead a compromised life, Walk away and never look back and maintain No Contact Pls don't get tempted since it's your childhood friend high chances are it will come and bite you back in the ass

[@mokshambaghela4902]

Walking away is good but no contact is rubbish

[@archerx68]

First of all love isn't sex Sex isn't love...

[@zohebansari994]

Some sensible comment.... 3ex is part of love....not whole love

[@sujatakanumuri8165]

Superbly explained 👍🏻

[@krutikagawde3131]

This advice was so on point Liked the way u talk

[@tahirullah6801]

Thank you man. You are amazing

[@sel_r]

If girlfriend says no, it is absolutely fine as long as your wife does not say no.

[@prajwalkalangutkar3081]

Ya i always wanted to tell this fellow same.

[@gaurav6849]

😂😂😂

[@shutupidiott]

I've neither

[@Alien_From_Another_Universe]

Its fine my wife and girlfriend said no but my sister said yes so i guess its a win

[@shubhamgupta5187]

My wife and girlfriend both are agree on sex

[@SPJamir-dg5jh]

When I was in first love I would say my gf involved me in sex,, and now I was so confused why other girls don't give me a chance, so i search and came here to solve my problems and i understood by your clean and clear words. And yaa some commen inspiration me too. God bless you.

[@beezypa]

Very good explanation and respect for seeing it from both perspectives.

[@anonymousbutthetruth.135]

Very thoughtful answer.

[@siobhanrachel2969]

Excellent video 👏🏽

[@gagadonim3354]

You can't give somebody more of what they already don't appreciate. One should always put their needs ahead because otherwise you'll become bitter.

[@OliverJoshuaJacob]

Thanks for sharing this video. This video makes a lot of sense.

[@poonamsahani9028]

How should girls make boys understand sex is good after mrrg, I have h bf he keeps asking about physical relationship, but I have fear tht he can leave me after tht as I knw mote relationship in this world, he denies for mrrg right now but he keeps asking about physical bound n I keep saying no,,,, plz give me a solution about it

[@FirstnameLastname-cl4op]

What's wrong In having sex with multiple people before marriage ?

[@pankajpandey2408]

@@FirstnameLastname-cl4op teri bahan hai to bhej

[@nisreenaaaa]

just keep saying no if you don't want it if he truly loves you he wouldn't force you.

[@pankajpandey2408]

@@nisreenaaaa yes before marriage it is not good for health also

[@SatoruGojo-k7b]

Break up look every man is same look around world all girls do sex with their bf u are not doing because of culture but he is also men with sex need understand her feeling please break up and leave that poor guy

[@utsaparashar8587]

Much needed topic

[@ImperialMinecrafter]

Break up with her.

[@zohebansari994]

Shame

[@Sam2Scam]

😂😂😂 waaa pakka playboy 😂

[@newsenseofficial400]

I didn't ask this question but it completely fits in my situation...

[@nari00001]

Lol..its funny how men now a days are only driven by lust..now see my girlfriend and i had sex once before marriage after that she kept saying no..and never we got too much sex driven..i asked her whats wrong and after that i got the answer..she does support me but after having pre marital sex she felt she did a sin..she shouldn't have done it..and even i understand it I am a Bhakt of Lord Hanuman but still i did what i shouldnt have done..she is also saving me from commiting sin..i will wait for marriage..men driven by sex and who are completely dependent on sex can be called an animal..i asked myself if i loved her only for her body? Oh god i felt terrible and i am sure she felt it too..i love her and everyone is fine..and also she had a trauma in her past life too..and now when i see other girls using their bf only for sex..

[@nari00001]

Men driven and women driven

[@akhilu0]

Thank you so much 🥰 I'm also going through this from past 4 months thank you so much sir❤️

[@lakhi3583]

Hey there, your words are awesome!

[@Gmxworldislive]

Tnank you sir.

[@funnylogic3234]

U have opeaned my mind❤️❤️❤️

[@meenakshim4437]

Your advice for break up just because the girlfriend doesn't have sex before marriage is really confusing. Because in conservative Indian culture most of the girls will not have sex before marriage.

[@RahulDas-mb3xr]

My gf is same.....i m gonna break up now

[@deepika9338]

So well you have explained. I very agree with this talk.

[@MuhammadImran-ln4fz]

I love u am alone ❤❤😍😍

[@rajshriingle1595]

I really understand but guy is 22 years old.is he ready if worst thing happen in the intimacy.it is all girls have to undergo.you are with her from childhood then you have to understand her fears too.

[@imperfectlyperfect3205]

And a girl shouldn't understand his feelings when both of them are together since childhood?

[@ta5379]

Hats off to you Sridhar. Great job🙏

[@nishaindia7634]

I just love your voice and explanation I am a teacher I want to shadow of you so I can explain my student anyting very well good job

[@rakshithpdevadiga5678]

Thank you brother 😊

[@kalaivaniramakrishnan2974]

Can you please kindly address Intrusive Thoughts Obsessive Compulsive Disorder sometime ? Thank you .

[@souravraychaudhuri6600]

This video gave me clarity and also added to my confusion xD. But great content here!

[@ChristianCaliberNetwork]

He know.

[@btsarmy8040]

I wish your channel get that much love & support that you haven't imagined yet or will in your whole life you just cleared every out for me thanx a lot.... Really very helpful 🥺💜

[@udit410]

Sex is a part of relationship. Indian girls are very confused about relationship. They think sex is taboo. I have a girl who gave me sex despite she was having bf and my own gf never gave me. So its a point of how excited one is for sex .

[@NFS691]

So that girl and u cheated on ur partner

[@sahverse]

Actually the issue is that Girls want you to fulfil all their demands and wishes but when you expect her to do the same she teaches you ethics, morality and blah blah

[@myhousemusichd]

Thank you

[@sricharan4164]

Relationship is not strong without sex..

[@shilpashilu890]

Me female and my age is 32..not married. I am interested in marriage but not ok with sex. I really don't know why am i not interested in that. Thats the only reason me being single rather spoiling boy's life.

[@cit5723]

Ummmm she doesn't have to if she doesn't want to. Maybe you should just leave her alone.

[@turtlefairy]

They are probably asexual, or they might be lesbian/gay so ask them before you do it. Plus that's a choice. Sex isn't everything in a relationship

[@keerthivijay3335]

You said that guy walking away from this relationship if he feels that sex is essential and there is no point in staying in a relationship without sex is a valid decision. I don't think so. It's a very shallow thought. Being intimate is about letting go of your guard n truly being able to share your true self n emotions. Intimacy is not just sex. I think even if it's old school , having a relationship without sex before marriage is ideal. You'll know whether what you share with your partner is just lust or genuine feelings of trust, respect, care and loyalty .

[@poojakumaraguru8641]

5:24 "I would not recommend that either"

[@keerthivijay3335]

@@poojakumaraguru8641 my comment is with regard to 8.35 "if today you decide to break up because of this problem , that's also a valid decision "

[@rationalsamrat3247]

I agree,but when the girl says that I will do sex unwillingly after marriage it's very wrong. There is a very huge fear from men that what if she doesn't satisfy me after getting married.

[@keerthivijay3335]

@@rationalsamrat3247 just cause a girl puts off sex till marriage doesn't necessarily mean she is unwilling for it. It just means just buy ticket to watch the whole movie, trailer's done. Ticket is marriage. It's like she wants sex it as much he does. Maybe she just wants to be sure it's him. A girl surrenders when a guy truly commits. And marriage is true commitment. Plus how long will sex feel good? The excitement fades over time. But true feelings don't. So even being with that person makes you happy in that case.

[@rationalsamrat3247]

@@keerthivijay3335 yes you should buy a ticket before you watch movie. I agree with that but when she uses the word unwillingly it makes the guy feel like a rapist . Many girls use such terms because in their minds they think it makes them sanskari but in reality it ends up isolating the man . Now playboy's understand the game very well they know that the girl actually is excited and he doesn't take such words seriously. But a guy who is truly in love feels scared because he truly believes her words because he blindly trusts her . She should say I'm excited to have sex with you but I don't want to do it before marriage.

[@manalipawar8332]

Completely agree with your views and opinion

[@indiraUS]

I as a woman, feel like she might have developed some fear about sex and pregnancy, that needs to be sorted out first before even judging. So you need to take your girlfriend to a therapist If she is not opening up to you about that. May be some childhood trauma, because If she thinks she can't do it before marriage still fine but even after marriage she says like this then this is what you have to do, fix it before marriage and start a life then. Yes you have needs and this need you can't find out anyone else but your wife so..there is nothing respecting her decision and all here.

[@JE.7364_TYRWHSHSJS]

I would suggest the brother their to just leave and find someone else. It clearly seems like they both feel comfortable. Either the girl says that she is Asexual, then it would be fine but no physical affection? So no hugs, no kisses or no hand holdings? Brotherbyou deserve better. May you find someone more compatible and happiness.

[@aanchalmeethisibekhudi2469]

Keep up the good work dear.. it help a lot.. 👍

[@manjulabm4178]

It does help. Does the birds who lay eggs being told to have sex? It's just a liking, a naturallity. So no good work is done.

[@aanchalmeethisibekhudi2469]

@@manjulabm4178 dear what helps is that the video told us all that “what future holds that nobody knows” .. so what you pick up from the video and what pick up from the video it’s our individual choice..

[@sasapetroski981]

Leave her and find another girl

[@simran2417]

u dint consider the point that why does not the guy get married to her .....she might not trust this person enough to give herself before marriage

[@delusionsslayer7285]

Why he will marry the girl rather moving on if she is not reciprocating his need? It's straightforward Sign of narcissist self-centered controlling partner. Shame on such girls who doesn't have guts to tell a boy to move on and shame on such a boy who is still waiting for his non co-operating girlfriend to reciprocate by miracle. Who doesn't have the balls to move on by finding another girl in plenty of them in this world

[@simran2417]

@@delusionsslayer7285 dude the need of the girl is also genuine ......she does not trust him enough to give her body to him .......for it to happen ther needs to be an asurance for commitment ....which is marriage

[@rationalsamrat3247]

@@simran2417 if she doesn't trust him then she shouldn't be in a relationship. He is 22 too early for marriage. The truth is she isn't attracted to him because she would do other intimate things with him .there is no way in hell will she happily do it with him even after marriage because she is not attracted to him.

[@simran2417]

@@rationalsamrat3247 dude the question is not of attraction ...the question is of commitment ........people are not mad to truat anyone for their body without commitment .....she is saying until marriage she does not want to do .....so therz no question of attraction okay ......word of mouth is not reliable anywhere in the world so how can go with word of mouth for relationship.....and the guy is 22 so the girl is .....and if he wishes to fulfil physical desire he shud have the brains to be responsible also .....nothing cums for free in this world .....and dont try to make fool out girls that u dont understand my need ....what if his need suddenly changes 2morrow .......wouldnt the girl suffer emotionally ......if ur need is to be fulfilled u need to commit also ..........she is being smart not to fall in shitty trap and she doesnot trust him on physical intimacy not on love .....have some sense

[@rationalsamrat3247]

@@simran2417 I'm making sense .you are just taking moral high ground. Listen again she used the word unwillingly. It just proves that she isn't excited about it .do you think any guy wants to do it with a girl that clearly doesn't want to do it . She is smart to refuse it till marriage but using the words like she is unwilling jeapordises the entire relationship. Girls always have pressures to not act slutty but in maintaining that illusion they end up miscommunicating.

[@anjaligupta6180]

This was beautiful ❤️❤️

[@studentboy5606]

Hii gupta ji

[@rinkiyadav7259]

Thank you sir

[@keshashah8187]

I am in a 4 years of sexless marriage. My husband is not interested in sex from the beginning. But I never took it seriously, but now I am suffering mentally, emotionally and physically.

[@SKV156]

Ohh..ur baby??

[@keshashah8187]

@@SKV156 I don't have any child

[@SKV156]

@@keshashah8187 oh

[@ayushanand2020]

You should divorce him.... What's the prblm?

[@sriyammandal4233]

Sorry to introdude, but is your husband not interested only in sex or other other forms of intimacy or physicality also?