My Girlfriend Tortured, Stabbed and Starved Me | This Morning

[@jackiemorris3938]

The last question you ever ask a victim is why didn't they leave. Do you know how convinced they've become that they deserve that treatment or that they did aomwthing to cause it? That shame keeps them silent so often. I'm so glad this man did get free and that he is safe now and either knows his own worth or is continuing to learn that as he heals.

[@tasticola]

Agreed. Bloody ambulance chasing TV presenters! 😢

[@DistilledVoice]

Can't expect nothing less from those fools.

[@Sindrijo]

If you've never experienced abuse first hand, know someone that has experienced it or let alone seen a documentary about the 'abuser process' you could be forgiven about being confused and ignorant about the subject because on face-value it just seems preposterous why someone wouldn't leave an abuser that is doing mental and/or physical harm.

[@Fu4-w5u]

Thank you for saying that 😢 you’re awesome

[@imaginaryfriend8260]

Just finished the video and they went as far as to ask how he feels about her. I don’t think they really thought about the fact they’re talking to someone who has trauma. This maybe in a private conversation could be supportive but on live television. I’d rather hear about how well he’s doing now coming out of all of her control.

[@sava898]

Abuse is abuse, no matter what form it comes in and who it happens to. Everyone needs to be able to feel safe and comfortable in their relationship(s). This is so sad to hear 😟. I hope Alex is doing better now.

[@jutjet4011]

Absolutely

[@Lilgirllover44]

Except hurting women is worse than hurting men because men are stronger and also women are more sensitive

[@paulpupo8799]

Alex I’m a sixty seven year old woman I’ve never suffered from spousal abuse I watched the documentary my heart breaks for you I pray for you and your children when Jordan gets out of prison only allow her to see the kids under supervision I worry that you are so broken that another woman will abuse you be strong and hopefully you can find a loving understanding and compassionate woman thank you for being so brave the world needs to understand that men can be abused mentally and physically

[@marcnoonan2187]

I wouldn’t allow her to see them until they turned 18. Yeah I know it’s cruel. But that’s how I would feel. I don’t think I would have been able to move on. But if I had kids I’d probably find away. Hopefully when released she gets a warning to stay away from Alex and his family or risk going back to prison.

[@eileencamacho2221]

Watching his story just broke my heart. This girl is evil! I don’t care if she’s a woman. She’s abusive and she’s right where she belongs.

[@simoneward4217]

She is pure evil but she is free. Not in jail.

[@eileencamacho2221]

@@simoneward4217 that sucks! What makes her and different from an abusive man. She should be in and for a long time too. Abuse is abuse

[@Lilgirllover44]

@@eileencamacho2221 hurting women is worse than hurting men

[@IrishKamikazeh]

Sadly feminists would say it's legal.

[@sandrafraser7015]

This is a stark reminder that domestic violence DOES NOT just happen to women. Men have to deal with it too but are even less likely to report it.

[@ggishere9398]

This shouldn’t happen at all to anyone and the time she lied about his grandfather dying must have been horrible for him.

[@simoneward4217]

She is pure evil.

[@je.suis.prisci]

This is sick!!! I am glad that she has been exposed for the monster she is.

[@mikamee5459]

Honestly these abusers are monsters. They come across as charming but are slowly breaking you down. My brother was so verbally abusive to me that he convinced me that i was worthless and a loser. Guess what? I did everything to win his approval. I tried to dress like him, listened to the same music etc. My heart goes out to this man. I hope he can heal and move on.

[@IseiNabuka]

Watching this and I'm going ' mate why couldn't you just left' then realized the reason why some people cannot leave a relationship just like that. Good to hear he came out of it in the end and got justice. Hope you are healing mate wherever you are right now.

[@emzodette]

People who abuse in this way are usually very intelligent and they use specific techniques to target and manipulate people into becoming very isolated. It’s easy to say what you would and wouldn’t do in a situation however until you’ve Experienced it you don’t understand what it’s like. He doesn’t need to man up he needs to be loved and protected. Just like a woman would. Abuse has no gender it can happen to anyone who falls prey to that situation. In fact alot of the reason why male victims don’t speak up is because they are judged and made to feel like they need to ‘man up’ this is what leads to them ending their own lives eventually. Let’s be open and educated when talking about this because again u don’t know how you would react until it directly affects you or someone you care about.

[@sacrilegiousboi978]

If my girlfriend straight up lied to me about a close family member dying and let me believe it for hours just to feel powerful and then belittle me for caring and reacting, I would leave her right there and then.

[@neonblack211]

He had kids with her, that was a huge part of it, they never brought that up in this video... he was scared for his kids safety and he didnt want to leave his kids

[@olig7979]

Fucking disgusting that she only served around 3 and a half years for this... She's a free women now

[@yunni3371]

I heard only 1 and a half years 😅

[@llillyywww]

No 14 years didn’t she

[@Hawnconservative83]

@@llillyywwwbut she only served 3 and a half years of her sentence before she got parole

[@ejpatterson8458]

As an adult with no capacity problems it was his choice to stay with her. Anyone who hurts another clearly doesn't love them and that should become obvious.

[@Taylaen]

​@@ejpatterson8458: it was his duty to protect his kids. That is why he stayed. Stop saying he volunteered for this abuse. This abuser admitted her harm. Her actions are repulsive.

[@lexilouwhoo]

my brother is currently going through something like this and idk what tf to do. Heartbreaking. I’m so glad he’s out of that.

[@anglonrx2754]

Police if its really that bad, my brother had the same with his gf and he tried to run away and things just escalated. Death threats, stalking etc.

[@helenknight2796]

I suggest to go get him and give him somewhere to stay while until he’s better and can get a new place. I had to run down the street and jump in my car while my ex chased me down the road. I stayed with a friend for about a week and he was messaging threats. I had to just keep asking him to leave the house I was renting. Eventually he left. I could have called the police to have him removed and I wish I had as it took about 3 months until he moved out. He never hit me but he threatened a lot and threw things towards me and would block the door so I couldn’t leave the house.

[@vikram8411]

This man has to be the gentlest man on earth. He's born of a different stock... Very rare to find such people

[@carlacastillo3110]

poor guy, abuse is abuse, and men and women, can be abused, and we have to understand it, that anyone can be abused, not only women, and that's the reality.

[@crempuii]

So many people question why he didnt defend himself,what people dont understand is manipulative psychopath people knows how to choose their victim,they choose the kind loving easy to control people and isolate them completely from everyone,then their full control is use to torture the victim more and more as time pass.

[@roxannebisaillon4799]

So happy to hear your away from her with your little ones..stay safe n good luck.

[@emmashuffle6457]

As an abuse survivor, abuse is abuse. Idc what your gender is. And what this man went through was nothing short of torture. Absolutely horrific. And he endured most of what he went through for the sake of his daughter and thinking him accepting this abuse was the only way to protect his child. And that breaks my heart. I’m happy he’s able to share his story and him and his daughter are able to move forward in life away from this horrible woman. We need to take abuse of men much more seriously.

[@andreajennings3242]

As horrible as I sound, I would never do this to anyone. I would just break up. This is insane behavior.

[@rosie6]

u don’t sound horrible at all❤

[@Rose_19911]

why would that sound horrible?

[@hidden1865]

That sounds so horrible

[@shin-oni4223]

The reason why he didn't say is because most won't be believed that thay were abuse by their wife or girlfriend, on top of that, woman will lie and say they're being abused and get away with it, another reason some men that got abused by women gets laughed at, by women, that what he was probably afraid of, not being believed, not given a chance to tell his side of the story

[@tromedl]

Or they even are ridiculed about it which is disgusting.

[@giftmhlanga1411]

I just came out of a long 7-year abusive relationship with my baby mumma.. thanks to the UK police and Social services. The gaslighting, narcissistic psychopathic behaviours.. you feel less and less of a man and Zero confidence. It's not easy to get out. The threats that if you do this i will destroy you.. even to this day, she believes she did nothing wrong and it was all my fault. Even after being arrested for domestic abuse by the police that she called to actually arrest me. Told me police will never believe that a big man like you will never believe that you are being abused by a small woman like me. The bruises.. you not alone mate and m glad you can talk about it now

[@cynthiagreene7833]

She will get out and do it to the next guy she liked it too much..That's one sick girl I am so happy he got out alive.

[@rosie6]

This is so sad 😢😢😢😢I hope he lives his best life. First love is always so hard man.

[@Tspinks0220]

You’re very strong, my guy. If she hit me with a hammer, after hitting me with a bottle in the past, ESPECIALLY WHILE ASLEEP; id be taking a ride to jail. She would have gotten her jaw all kinds of disfigured. Its 2023, dont swing unless you’re 100% ready to be swung on

[@liselautenbacher]

Alex, should you see this: Not only people who have lived through this, understand you - others do, too. And you are courageous. Many of us are happy that you are alive and are rooting for you!

[@benperniha1715]

I hope that you have a better life than what you had with that evil manipulative narcissist. You have my total respect. Ben perniha London

[@felistuskusikwenyu8010]

This is more about mind control more than it is about manning up or mascular.. Sometimes people get lured in slowly to what they assume is normal until it intensifies like this.. usually the abuse starts with disarming your power n they take control over everything… so sad tbh my prayers are with him… thankfully he is alive and doing well

[@MizrahiChick]

Every young man should see this and know what abuse is. This is what kids need to learn in school. Pronouns will not save us from abuse. Knowing about abuse is what saves us from abuse.

[@evbemma33]

"She is well spoken, polite, friendly, wellmeaning young lady" - thats why people around dont believe when you are looking for help being in the relationship with abuser, at home, or at work.

[@kassiato]

Sound like this woman is a psychopath...Alex, it is not your fault, look after yourself, you deserve to have a great, happy life! Thank you for sharing your experience, I am sure it will help a lot of people

[@Lilgirllover44]

It is actually his fault because he cheated and ran his mouth

[@vault7137]

My heart breaks for this guy! He seems so sweet. The ex-girlfriend is pure psychopath.

[@shanegrabner5949]

Scared embarrassed. I feel you.

[@annmariegraham9085]

When you’re in a relationship like that it is very hard to get out of it, you believe them and that you are in the wrong and that you deserve it. He went through torture, I feel for him and I’m so glad that he lived to tell his story, and I hope he does believe that he is worth it, some don’t even make it out alive. 💝

[@amandam3719]

Oh man. I am horrified. And they lived with her PARENTS??? And they didn’t do anything?

[@francoisthibeaux-brignoles8399]

No, they moved to a separate house, at some point.

[@Bellaclodya]

Had a class about this issue in the late 90’s.

[@jutjet4011]

Violence is terrible ,I can't stand her , I hope he's ok x

[@venomousbunny9875]

Being in an abusive relationship is like your the frog who's being slowly boiled alive.

[@RosarioTayoReed]

When my ex moved on with a guy called Tony & she rang his parents & told them that Tony had died in a car accident so his parents called the police to do a welfare check to then find him alive & well. why didn't the police act on this case of her narcissism this is wear the accountability lays because it a big failure of the police when a number of my EXs Exs have been abused by this woman. I dont even know id Debbie is her real name.

[@tanatswachamisa8893]

I feel sorry for that man for what he's gone through, I can't believe she would do such a horrible thing.

[@bitTorrenter]

I met someone (a man) who would say things and do things that made you feel were just twisted / abnormal and I wonder whether the relationship that he talked about being in changed him or that was his natural persona. Manipulative. Works in a prison ironically.

[@ujustgotpwned2008]

She's been freed from jail now, depressingly.

[@Lilgirllover44]

Hurting women is worse than hurting men

[@yxumi]

She may be a sociopath

[@irisfee4958]

May be?!?? She IS !!!

[@sacrilegiousboi978]

Sounds more like psychopathy than sociopathy. She was successful, clever, calculating, manipulative and lacked any kind of empathy or remorse. Sociopaths tend to by contrast have a weak conscience, often are irresponsible and reckless.

[@Lilgirllover44]

Hurting women is worse than hurting men

[@bo2720]

1:45 Our old Phil trying to get some tips

[@evbemma33]

....to be that susceptible to extreme abuse usually means one has experienced trauma early and ongoing. What has happend in his childhood..

[@evbemma33]

The psychological differences between those who are abuser and those who walk away the moment the red flag intrigues me. ?

[@cheddar89]

Stuff like this happens all the time but everybody doesn’t help and care for the male. What point I am trying to make is that if the roles were reversed then the female would be supported all the way but going back to the actual case the male would not get any respect.

[@irisenamorado]

True. They are around around us.

[@RichardABradley-ze9qn]

Why didn't he get out? It's not that mysterious -- they had a baby, extremely vulnerable, and obviously no shelters for a father+infant. If he just takes the baby & goes, it's kidnapping.

[@Doyamn]

people say the same thing about that w/ females. It's not as easy as just saying it. You're leaving your home, your kids, your clothes, your life. Often your job, sometimes you have to go into seclusion to stay away from the abuser. If people don't "get it" then #1 they should consider themselves lucky and #2 you WONT get it

[@orsolyaritter7292]

Poor, poor guy must have had an icredibly low self esteem which I can not figure out came from. Why? Why? Why? Why does someone underrate himself so much? He could have asked for help. He could have rscaped. ..... but he did not......I brlieve that he must have suffered other type of traumas as well early on in his life! I would like to know his full life story. Why did he become the victim of a monster? I feel so sorry for him and I am glad he survived. The fact that his torturer was released after 3 and a half years is outragous. Such a shame on the system......

[@Lilgirllover44]

Hurting women is worse than hurting men

[@USA-o5o]

@@Lilgirllover44it’s really the same

[@evbemma33]

I was thinking the same. There has to be reason in his home, in his childhood why he is so sensitive and with such a low self esteem. What about his parents? His mother? His father? His twin Brother? What trauma he was replying ..

[@TheFlyingEpergne]

why they editing out so much of his answers?

[@mariamali6020]

For all those people commenting such silly thing when ur in theses situations it’s more PSYCHOLOGICAL so please think before you speak Honestly we learn all this in school

[@Good_morning_darling]

В психологии это называется выученная беспомощность. Все это родом из его детства и каких то ранящих его событий. Иначе она бы не нашла к нему подхода. К этому всему она манипулировала деньгами, оставив его без собственного источника дохода. Она садистка, и нормальные отношения вряд ли когда то построит в будущем. В нем она почувствовала эту склонность к выученной беспомощности, как охотник чувствует свою жертву. Вопрос конечно к его семье, особенно к матери - как можно так безразлично относиться к своему сыну? Явно корни такого поведения от отношений с матерью.

[@francoisthibeaux-brignoles8399]

I had the same question. Maybe I misunderstood something, but it appears that the family, started scratching their head when he was already stuck and "tied down" figuratively.

[@oanamunteanu4744]

Doesnt matter if you are academic, CEO, president, has plenty money if someone abuse you, they are garbage People 🤨😒 I am happy he is safe and Move on with his Life 🥺☺️👌

[@imaginaryfriend8260]

Now imagine them questioning a woman. “There wasn’t anything you did to make him* do this?” “So you were just too scared to fight him*?”We gotta get over this mindset. When you’re in a relationship like this you’re a victim. You don’t ask a survivor of a murderer “you were too scared to try to get away?” “You didn’t do anything to cause it right?” Those questions are irrelevant uncomfortable and disrespectful unless you’re the law trying to find this person what does it change that this person may have said the wrong thing or didn’t leave at the right time? A normal person wouldn’t attack their partner. Ever. Let’s start treating THEM like the problem for once.

[@Lilgirllover44]

All of those new stories of men getting abused by their girlfriends or wives are fake news stories

[@michaelm7367]

As kids i was taught to stand up to bullys one qay or another, then it stops when u do, sorry but the guy let it continue

[@susuilu]

Maybe he is on the spectrum and was scared or suffered from anxiety before meeting her and she took advantage

[@sacrilegiousboi978]

@@susuiluI do feel like he may be slightly on the spectrum and/or have a mild learning disability. That along with him being kind hearted and somewhat passive/having low self esteem was the perfect victim for her.

[@jesuschrist736]

Why would he stay?It is his fault,too....

[@USA-o5o]

If a woman gets abused is it her fault to for staying

[@christiaanolivier6161]

As far as I know there were 2 children involved. That made it much much more complicated 😢😢😢

[@furiousdestroyer5022]

This makes me happy to be single right now.

[@robl5827]

I hate it when that happens

[@Lilgirllover44]

Ok something doesn’t add up, they say they were both 16 when they first met yet they were already in college, most people don’t start college until they’re at least 18

[@xeromoth9771]

I have to say…fair play to Alex for coming forward about this. The problem is obviously a lot of men are afraid of saying “I was the victim of this”. But I think his story says, if it can happen to me it can happen to anyone. Genuinely wish him all the best

[@Lauren-dx2hh]

Terrible, I'm not being nasty but he should of reported it the other police sooner and spoken up sooner . Not ringing the police and not speaking up is the abusers weapon

[@damienx0x]

Easy for you to say.

[@EmilyHopper-e3r]

This makes me sad as to know that he works at my school😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

[@mrsridders]

Horribly conducted interview. I hope this man gets to lead a wonderful life from now on and he's able to recover from everything he endured.

[@Lilgirllover44]

Hurting women is worse than hurting men

[@mrsridders]

@Lilgirllover44 hurting any human is the same. That statement is insane

[@davidforbes5237]

How he mek this gal do him like this smdh

[@regentofregrets644]

At least this doesn't cost a couple of quid cos he doesn't sell it to a gossip mag

[@levibee9451]

Philosophytube has a video called "Men. Abuse. Trauma." and it's very good.

[@victoryville1329]

No comments!!!! Crazy If the roles were reversed

[@kobzelfn9588]

The comments were recently enabled though…

[@vivi-lo5gl]

i saw this video before comments were ebabled and it was mostly women supporting him and men calling him a baby and telling him to man up and asking "why didnt he leave" 😐

[@kate46641221]

I saw his story before and it's terrible but there's just something off about him and the whole situation.

[@heresmytwocentsworth]

Hairdryer + bath.. omg why doing that in bath buzzzzzz

[@user-hv8bo4ie2v]

Yikes

[@hjrkclogs494]

I understand that he was lured into this but at the end of the day this man needed to realise that he needs to leave her and understand that he is a man who is physically stronger than this woman and tell her straight that if she did anything else he would react back, must’ve been hard for him but he should’ve put his foot down from the start

[@martindoyle8220]

Thank god you are obviously someone who didn't endure this or remotely close to this. My abuser is like a petite model,. To the outside world she's almost perfect. I have had plenty of ruks in my time and am more than capable of handling myself in that if you like normal situation but, this is completely different. To this day I am still afraid of my ex, that will never change. God love that guy, please open up and be more understanding 🙏

[@Mint-kj9kw]

​@@martindoyle8220 Out of curiosity, what did she do to you?

[@hello-gk5cz]

Please understand that so much manipulation would have happened. It's not as easy as that

[@lalosalamanca8574]

​@@hello-gk5cz you too you love pain and you secretly loved it. And you didn't want it anymore. Admit it

[@zeldabaker1331]

Hope she is in jail

[@cinematicsterling6897]

she was arrested and sentenced to seven years and six months in prison in 2018. she was released in 2022 and moved on to a new guy.

[@aieleven3332]

hammer? Ill storm out right away!

[@SG-kx8gk]

I would had been left her

[@rowanmatthias7909]

He would have done but the thing is he was so scared, so it's not that easy

[@nolongerhavetowork]

Does he have a new girlfriend?

[@Springheeledjim5]

He’s now a monk

[@nolongerhavetowork]

@@Springheeledjim5 oh.

[@Lilgirllover44]

He shouldn’t have a new girlfriend he should have a boyfriend in prison

[@dylanmurphy4342]

How the heck did a girl take control of him?

[@PeterHotton]

This has got to be impossible never heard of a woman abuse a man I'm shocked 😲 😂

[@KayyVEVO]

What a closed-minded life you lead then.

[@Lilgirllover44]

He’s just making accusations about his ex-wife, I don’t think she ever did any of that stuff to him

[@x-Phoenix_.A]

@@Lilgirllover44and, of course, if their genders were swapped you would be saying that he deserves the death penalty.

[@CamE2033]

Where's your backbone? The girls like 90lbs.

[@averagelizard2489]

She'd leave with the kids. From there, he doesn't have her, he's free. But wait a second... His kids are not, and I think you can guess what would happen to his kids.

[@lucashogan2912]

Beta male

[@georgericher3996]

Does it matter ?

[@Springheeledjim5]

Andrew Tate?

[@brittkamper713]

No excuse , but i am sure she must have been abused to .

[@ViperBOSS74]

Stop the BS! STOP excuses saying she may have been abused. You would not say that if the roles were reversed. She is a MONSTER and deserves no sympathy.

[@angel-ke9vs]

That makes it worse because lots of people have been abused the majority do not torture and almost kill others. Pay it forward is for good deeds. This girl chose to break him down and torture him. She must take accountability. He did nothing to her.

[@himantapathak3989]

You are of the same kind

[@Rose_19911]

you are a different breed

[@x-Phoenix_.A]

this is a whole new level of brainlessness

[@SkuIIheart]

Me and my future Bf

[@x-Phoenix_.A]

yikes.

[@NF5000-r5e]

Pfft, yeah, its called being in a relationship with a woman... I don't know why this is so shocking

[@iceangelx22]

Be gay then

[@PeterHotton]

O for God's sakes be a man and stand up to her you wose😂

[@aviation_ireland2937]

you disgust me in so many ways peter

[@PeterHotton]

@@aviation_ireland2937 sorry but that's the way I've been brought up

[@rosie6]

Bruh.

[@x-Phoenix_.A]

🤡

[@woowee4452]

What a little baby he is. Man up

[@strawberri_.swxrlzz]

tf do you mean "man up"

[@acerimmer9894]

typical stupid women reply no surprise there if this was other way around people would be losing there minds grow up your so very sad.

[@joshjones2679]

Wow really so u would let your gf or partner do that to u

[@mad5161]

He is a man more than you bud

[@woowee4452]

@Mad No real man lets a woman abuse him

[@jermaineishmael7225]

Wait, 'I had to wear my own clothes' sorry but this guy needs to man up simple as that, Andrew Tate would wipe the floor with him....

[@someones_daughter_]

Imagine bending over for the Taterhead, shows no integrity whatsoever

[@rowanmatthias7909]

If you had listened properly you would hear he said he was using his clothes as a quilt and pillow, he doesn't need to man up, he went through a traumatic experience at the hands of a controlling and abusive girlfriend, think before you type

[@invisibleman4827]

Tate would be in bits like anyone else. In fact, I doubt that Tate would've handled it a tenth as well as Skeel did.

[@x-Phoenix_.A]

“man up” 🤡🤡🤡

[@jimdevine6101]

Ever heard of self defence or physical restraint instead of being a punch bag.

[@USA-o5o]

He literally said she poured boiling water on her and was stabbed trying fighting back while your enemy is doing that