My Husband Confessed His Love For My Sister While I'm 24 Weeks Pregnant r/Relationships

[@Sammvoy]

Pretty unfair for him to burden his pregnant wife with that confession then claim it means nothing….

[@teslagirl1]

Narcissistic men are like that.

[@kirstenornelas881]

If it did not mean anything he wouldn’t have felt compelled to say it out loud. 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@pamlew338]

+ Q

[@kirstenornelas881]

Op needs to get some serious counseling though because she holds what her parents did wrong against her sister who she believes is “perfect”. Her older sister is really most likely barely holding it together for her younger sister and op isn’t even realizing that while she thinks nothing affected her sister that her sister is just being extra strong around her to try to help her not that she was not affected by their childhood or isn’t deeply scarred by things. The younger sibling can see the older siblings efforts to try to keep them from further damage as negative when really they need to learn to place blame where it belongs. Op rather than putting the blame for being bad parents on her parents is placing blame and feeling jealousy towards the sister who has and continues to try to hold what’s left of her family together. So sad

[@Sammvoy]

@@kirstenornelas881 i don’t think she actually will blame the sister long-term. I think she’s very hurt and working through her emotions and displaying her insecurities to us. I too see she has a lot of misplaced anger and hate, in a way I understand op and I have been in similar situations, but op needs to build her confidence up for herself and her baby. I hope she is able to do so and overcome this with her sister by her side and find someone that truly loves “her” her husband might have been truthful about these being misplaced emotions without a mother but that’s no excuse. He should’ve worked through it alone and never told op like he did. I hope both sisters move forward.

[@FinnishLapphund]

1st story: I'm sorry for OP, but maybe even more sorry for OP's sister, because she's done so much for OP, and now, thanks to the idiot soon ex BIL, OP feels the need to distance herself from her sister.

[@robertx8020]

Yes She might not admit it but part of her BLAMES her sister!

[@jaycehoward2771]

She is pregnant and alone and feels like her world has ended so yeah I would probably not want to be around the sister for a while either. I mean imagine what this poor woman is going thru because of that massive POS.

[@robertx8020]

@@jaycehoward2771 I agree that she is in a terrible situation but that would be even more reason to not run to a unknown city w/o any means to support yourself and then going to deliver a baby , again w/o support! And the sister is 100% innocent and would be a great supporter for OP! OP seems on the verge of a huge depression Do yopu really think it is wise for her to run off?

[@jaycehoward2771]

@@robertx8020 no not at all. But she hadn't moved yet and just said she needed time away from the sister. I definitely agree it would be a mistake but I don't think it would be a bad thing for her to maybe take a little bit for herself. Imagine the grief on top of being pregnant. Plus add in the pure embarrassment I know she must be feeling she probably has no clue how to even function. I agree the sister is innocent and I think the OP knows that but again with everything she is going thru with all the emotions and being pregnant I understand her feeling that way. You have to understand that yes the sister did nothing but the OP is asking why I couldn't be more like her and why is she better than me and all these questions and feelings around the sister and not only that but looking at the very reason why your life is crumbling everyday even though she is not at fault but she is the reason her husband is leaving her. Just looking at the sister will be a massive trigger...

[@pippo17173]

Op is making a great mistake never telling her in the first place. Honestly this is gonna blow up once she finds out what is happening after long time of no contact.

[@sarahl88]

Story 1: It's so awful he ruined the relationship between two sisters knowing they had no other family and supported each other through a traumatic childhood. He must have been delusional to want to confess his feelings as if he had any chance with someone who was happily engaged and pregnant with someone else! Not that he apparently takes that kind of commitment seriously! He's really ruined OP's life, I hope she can recover and resolve things with her sister.

[@gostavoadolfos2023]

Add his classism, the other man isn't worthy of her bc he is a carpenter and she is a doctor!

[@LovelyCinccino]

Here’s another thing to consider: Once OP told her ex that she told her sister everything before he could go see her, he immediately cuts all ties, even giving up all parental rights to his unborn daughter. That shows that he only intended to raise his daughter because he believed he would still be able to have some connection to the sister as he could use the baby as an excuse to see her under the pretence of ‘seeing her auntie’. And I believe that his ‘goodbye’ was going to be him telling her that he loved her, hoping that she would come running into his arms since OP was out of the way. Once OP told him, he realized that her sister was NEVER going to get together with him, and saw no point in wasting anymore effort.

[@lademonessa3075]

Tell your sister and, yeah, your marriage is over. Being married to a man not in love with you but in love with your sister is a huge pot of trouble.

[@dream6562]

Plot twist: the sister ends up feeling the same

[@hugoumero9723]

@@dream6562 and ended up broken the marriage

[@Bijecarli]

@@dream6562 only it's gross and creepy as the sister does not feel the same way. Now he just looks pathetic. Broken marriage regardless.

[@dream6562]

@@hugoumero9723 nope the one who leaves is the one breaking the marriage

[@WobblesandBean]

And totally abandoned his own child, don't forget that.

[@dragonetafireball]

She thinks her sister is unaffected but her sister likely puts on a brave face as the parentified surrogate parent

[@kimberlyarrington5721]

Yep

[@disturbed0insane]

Younger siblings generally don't understand what the older one goes through. In this case, OP sounds self absorbed af.

[@DelRae]

@@disturbed0insane tbf if the older sister never fell onto OP for support so how could she know how much strain it is to do that for someone wholly.

[@AprilSunshine]

This exactly

[@sersastark]

This.

[@shannonbullock2202]

Story 2: OP is the coolest 14yr old alive. The "satanic baptism" of her aunt was both hysterical and brilliant!!

[@nooneofimportance2110]

Hail Satan😈! Now to convince the aunt that aliens are coming to take her off world👽. Maybe also tell auntie about the ghost that watches over her👻. The aunt seems like the kinda chick that would believe that🤣.

[@gabrielabatista6016]

For real. While I do believe in Christ (though, I'm not Christian), I simply hate churches because more often than not they're full of this "holier than thou" kind of assholes that think everyone has to be converted to Christianity to be "saved from hell". Hell nah man, let people be. And if I was the mom I'd be laughing hysterically on the ground, lol. If the aunt wants to undo it tell her to get rebaptised by a priest, hahaha.

[@godbacks09]

That was a great way to get back at the aunt!

[@Luziemagick]

lol..when he is older he will be a Keeper..awesome!!!

[@marymasavage8986]

I'd be in stitches from laughing too much! 😂

[@satansecretary665]

i dont think the OP in story 1 hates her sister, she hates herself for not being like her sister. her sister is this epic woman who OP can never be, she can never live up to her standards of living, and her husband basically told her "yes, your sister is better than you in every way. you will never be like her. even your own husband loves her more than you"

[@faeriefire78]

I completely agree. And this is shallow, but to add another layer to the "you're not enough" parfait, even OP's more conventional beauty didn't give her an advantage. To him she wasn't enough from inside to out. Her only attraction for him was her proximity to her sister. Incredibly sad story.

[@Callimo]

OP deserves someone who loves her fully and completely without comparing her to other people. I really wish she walked away from this marriage, but kids make it so complicated.

[@purplecrayonismine2585]

Yeah! Also, I'm not victim blaming the sister because obviously none of them grew up in a healthy environment so it's near impossible for them to know healthy coping mechanisms, but this is why it's important to accept help sometimes, accepting help IS also a form of love, op didn't feel equal to her sister because the sister probably bottled up all of her problems to seem perfect, I don't think she's perfect she probably struggled a lot but didn't feel like she could break in front of her sister and had to be strong strong for her, but now op is unable to empathize with her sister :( maybe the sister feels like now she should be able to ask op for help as she was begging her to stay, but OP has literally never been in a situation where she had to help her sister, so she just doesn't, she figures her sister will just solver everything like she always has when in reality both need each other right now

[@gcarr1089]

@@purplecrayonismine2585 I agree, it would be best if OP and sister had a talk, and sister tells her the truth, I'm sure there were many times her sister had resented OP but kept it hidden as she knew it wasn't OPs fault. There is no such thing as a perfect person we all have faults. I hope OP gets things settled before she moves it would be a shame for them to loose their close bond.

[@cjb2749]

@@purplecrayonismine2585 it's not to seem perfect, it's because she's trying to be a good mom to her sister. She always has. She's trying to be somebody for her sister to depend on, not trying to depend on her. Sucks that OP doesn't see that. Her coward of a husband should have just left without telling her about his feelings. Those girls are each other's only family, they're both about to have babies, and their relationship has been fractured by something that was neither of their faults. I feel so sad for them

[@rosebell5080]

In story one the husband leaving because the wife's sister got pregnant totally confirms all her greatest fears, and even proves that he lied to her about not being with her to be close to her sister and everything else he possibly denied

[@pippo17173]

Even before updates, that was basically the path this man is gonna go. Honestly the man is so pathedic that gets pissy over this shit that I have to wonder how the fuck did he even last this long even with his own problems.

[@jakemarie828]

Yeah and even before that, it was disgusting how he was leaning on her for emotional support to morn the loss of his (invented) affair partner. This guy's empathy chip was installed backwards.

[@pReCiOuStHePiMpCeSs]

OP better get child support from her husband. In some states since he abandoned the home she would automatically be awarded it. Hopefully she looks everything up!

[@lorifiedler13]

Yes, ring every 1/2 penny from him.

[@idkhithere6860]

no I think hes giving away his rights away as a father once the child is born. it means he has no right to see her or be involved in any kind of way (including child support.) OP will be fine on her own, she already said finding a job in another town won't be a problem to her raising her child on her own now.

[@bouldermimi1178]

@@idkhithere6860 A man cannot simply decide that he doesn’t want to be involved with his child and escape his responsibility to pay child support. He is on the hook to provide for the child financially at least for the next 18 years. The better his new job is, the more child support he will owe.

[@idkhithere6860]

@@bouldermimi1178 yes he can leave the responsibility if he signs away his right as a parent. that means he's no longer a parent to that child. I'm not saying OP shouldnt file for child support, but honestly, if i were in her shoes id want nothing to do with him and from what I read in OP's post, neither does she.

[@DisneyChar]

@@idkhithere6860 a judge and the mom have to sign off on the deal, even if the parents say terminate, a judge can still pull the "best interest of the child". Some countries are different but sounds like the US so he cant just self terminate.

[@Bijecarli]

It's baffling how one man can come and upend so many lives, just to separate himself from the mess he created so easily. And it's ever more terrifying that he was able to keep someone in the dark long enough to create another life. Now there is a wife with no husband, a woman with no sister, and child with no father. All of this because of one tragically broken man. I know no truly well adjusted person would treat people so terribly.

[@CyeOutsider]

Yep, just decided he doesn't want a wife and kid anymore, and walks off I to thr sunset with no care for ths mess he ledt behind. Worthless d bag.

[@Attyi]

Story 1 - OP's husband is the real loser. Imagine putting someone else and your child through hell so you can love your fantasies. He's a horrid human being to wreck OP, their child, and OP's relationship with her sister. OP really needs that therapy redditors always recommend. She needs it to get over her resentment of her sister. Her ex-husband is awful.

[@bridgetdebourgh5698]

I laughed out loud in story 2 when she threw water on her aunt 😂😂

[@nooneofimportance2110]

Hail Satan😈. Now she needs to convince her aunt that she can perform the Kahli Ma🫀(or however it's spelled).

[@cathybaldry7822]

It was a perfect comeback to her Aunt's BS.

[@lorifiedler13]

I was disappointed the aunt didn't melt. 😔

[@maureenheffernan5843]

Don’t let him ruin your relationship with your sister. You will need her more now then ever

[@dianasmith8248]

Story 1: OPs husband is a massive pos, instead of letting him get away with everything scott free she needs to go after the full amount of child support, and if it is better for her to move and get away then she needs to do that as well.

[@sablemoreno5095]

I want to toss my analysis in on OPs feelings about her sister. So in the past, she used to be a pillar and shield against the hurt and abuse of their parents, leading her to find a husband similar to her. BUT when the husband confessed his love for her, she started becoming (unwillingly) associated with more pain and trauma- the causing end this time. When the husband found out and left/asked for divorce, leaving her pregnant and alone, her sister no longer represented the shield that protected her, but now is the same as her parents, causing the harm to her while (seemingly) having the perfect life with nothing wrong while her world falls apart. She can't turn to her for help, because she can't comfort her while also being a representation of her marriage falling apart and her child now not having a father. [A better thing would be, her sister was a sword protecting her, but her husband turned that sword on her and now she only sees/can see the pain caused from it] Had it been someone else he'd been in love with, she wouldn't have a problem turning to her sister for help. But because they were so similar now that relationship (at least with that interaction) dynamic is tainted- from his feelings about the sister, having someone exactly like her cause such pain, and any underlying resentment for the sister (as someone said, if someone helps too much then they can be resented because it makes the person feel less than/weak/incompetent)

[@hannah27_99]

I'm crying again 😢

[@moonkitty5274]

I feel so bad for the sister, she’s not perfect, op just can’t see that she’s probably been hiding all of her negative sides from her in order to protect her, and it sounds like she was finally about to open up when she said she needed her both times. OP has every right to feel jealous and hurt with the situation but I hope she comes around eventually and sees her sister for all she is and makes the effort to mend their relationship.

[@PrincessLioness]

I’m feel bad for op’s older sister because it seems like she always had to put her feelings aside in order to protect op in adulthood. Now that she finally wants some support in return this happens. I hope this doesn’t stress her out during her pregnancy and that she’s able enjoy her wedding and honey moon.

[@sierralovat5498]

The husband is a selfish jerk. wow.

[@SteviiLove]

If you are married with kids and think staying together "for the sake of the kids", I can tell you my experience as the child of this dynamic. Don't delude yourself or your kids because it isn't okay to put that stress on a child. That is what you do when you do this. My parents always pulled the "we're only staying together for you kids" crap and as the youngest of 4, I felt like a timer although guess what? Mom and dad are still together, miserable but can no longer justify it by my existence. I can't tell you how many times my self and siblings would tell our parents that we'd rather them be happy separated than miserable together. The one thing I wish I would have said sooner was how unfair it was to us to live in that dynamic and feel responsible for their misery. I mean, if they are miserable together but have to stay together for our sake, are they not implying their misery is our fault? That's what is always felt like.

[@bridgetbenson6291]

I agree whole heartedly. I married my exhusband because I was pregnant and I thought it was "the right thing to do". Luckily I got smart and divorced him quick.

[@jenniferkay9789]

I always had to hear "If I had it to do over again, I wouldn't have kids!" That's a great thing to say to your own children!🤬 Even after a major stroke, that nearly killed her, shes still the same hateful, narcissistic bitch, she's always been, to me. My poor golden child brother has to deal with her affairs, and I know she's driving him nuts!

[@dream6562]

They did the best for you, while I agree it sucks, statistically speaking children in single parent house holds are in the worst place you can be, again statistically speaking

[@WobblesandBean]

ALL OF THIS. My parents hated each other, there was no love between them at all (which my mom admitted way later now that I'm 39). Trust me, kids know, and it screws them up for life.

[@WobblesandBean]

@@dream6562 You have no clue what you're talking about.

[@kbf9644]

Sister’s getting married. He doesn’t want to lose sister, his backup wife and his only connection to the sister’s life. He’d do anything to stay in this marriage now and none of the reasons are OP or their child. ETA after viewing more: WOOOOOOOOOOOOOW.

[@sekaitherborn3618]

That is so fucked up I didn't even think of that. I have difficulty imagining how low some people can go and how cruel and selfish they can be.

[@beccaf262]

What so fucked up is that he let this go on long enough for her to get pregnant… waited for it to get to the point of no return and only confessed because he was drunk. He would have happily never told OP she deserves better. He’s manipulative convincing her to move away from her only family.

[@staceyearle2817]

Story 1 ... finding out about her husband was just the icing on the f up cake ..she has a deep resentment for her sister for her just being her self ....I hope she gets the help she needs and stops blaming her sister

[@emanx222]

No, OP doesn't have resentment toward her sister for her just being herself, she has resentment toward her sister because of the front the sister had to put on to get by. OP couldn't see that past that front, the sister is also just trying to do her best to survive/live. Heck, I would say OP didn't start feeling any resentment until this whole husband nonsense happened. It poisoned her memories of her sister and turned them into sources of anger and hurt. You can tell this is the case because at the first part of the story, OP has nothing but adoration for the sister and actively wants to repay her but by the end, all the shit her husband did completely tainted and ruined the pure image she had of her sister

[@staceyearle2817]

@@emanx222 I don't mean she hates her sister I mean the resentment started when they choose how to heal ......i think the best thing is for her to leave for awhile and gets the help she needs .🙏🏾

[@jaq4608]

Baptizing Aunt: Holy crap baptizing crazy aunt as “the wife of Satan” was a legendary move! 😂😂😂😂😂

[@shanittathompson2039]

Story 2....OP DID A BOSS MOVE!!!! That shit was funny as hell. And I'm here for it.😅

[@DarkDesertRose]

I know OP was pregnant in the first one, but her hating her sister for being "perfect" is unfair. The girl basically raised you and protected you from your shitty parents. If you don't think she had a hard time, you're naive as fuck. Speaking from personal experience, you learn to mask your true feelings for the sake of looking strong to the people who you're trying to protect.

[@kristinewatson3702]

This just makes me so sad. He dumped her AND the baby and now she's angry at her sister? She doesn't have to lose her entire family. I hope she gets some therapy and can heal her relationship with her sister.

[@_Sage967_]

Story 1: it's unfortunate but OP's ex has poisoned the family well. OP has talked about always being jealous of her sister but that likely isnt the case. she probably just had a desire to do more for her sister than she had ever actually done to give back to her rock and saviour, completely ignoring anything she had already done/ given to the sister. she got with her husband, who was similar to her sister, in order to have someone she well and truly give everything to in the place of her sister and most importantly when her husband betrayed her it was like a mirror image of her sister also betraying her. she cant move past this because it's essentially like her sister saying she doesn't love OP and points out how amazing she herself is which OP has always known and agreed with. honestly, the ex was right, OP was torturing herself. she let the wound fester instead of treating it, she allowed him to stay instead of cutting him off. that hug at dinner should have been the last straw but instead OP wanted to stick it out and uproot their life. it was never going to work out because as later shown, any development in sister's life that reached him would always get a reaction. OP should've told her sister from the start

[@OpticalArxenal]

Inferiority complexes for a sibling you see as your saviour and strictly better than you is also poison in the well, and preceeds whatever the husband felt for the sister. He may also have suffered neglect, it was hinted at in the story. The timing was absolutely dreadful, but he also said it was a different kind of love. Love isn't strictly romantic, but can be just as deep. A close friend, someone you see as your brother/sister, is not romantic, but you'd still jump through hoops for them, right? Familial love. Edit; blanked the last update. OP still needs therapy for that complex though, it's not fun for her or people she associate with, nvm her child

[@sarahl88]

It's so sad because OP feels pressure that her sister was always better than her, less affected by their awful childhood etc when from the outside of that situation it sure looks like, as the older sister, she was just doing her best to be strong and hold it together for OP, never knowing she'd feel inferior for apparently not coping as well. Then the husband put a match to that powder keg. I hope the sisters can get counselling and rebuild their bond.

[@gostavoadolfos2023]

They got back together and cut off the sister and she abandoned her after she got miscarriage 😢 even when she begged for her sister support.

[@tinycrimester]

him: i love and will do anything for you and our baby also him: i want nothing to do with our baby i guess you can't trust a single word out of this guy's mouth. my bad, i thought he was one of the good ones at first.

[@shells500tutubo]

The visual of OP pouring water from a skull on her aunt's head is absofuckinlutely HILARIOUS! Really wish there had been cameras to record it.

[@BrokenDiety1]

It's strange how everyone is on OP for wanting to cut her sister out. Sister is like an affair child TBH. She's innocent of wrongdoing, but she's going to be a constant reminder of the worst thing to happen to OP. Sometimes people are toxic to each other regardless of intentions and the best thing you can do is remove yourself from the situation.

[@jasminerobertson4913]

That's not fair at all. She fucking raised her and that's how she repays her?? Op sounds kind of self absorbed.

[@BrokenDiety1]

@jasminerobertson4913 that's life.

[@helar2574]

Why people doesnt understand, that sister is catalyst for OP's problem? It's not sister's fault, but it's like as with other psych-traumas, if you sufffer from PTSD/panic attacks/ED/ etc you usually got triggers, in this case sadly sister IS a trigger. Look form OP PoV - sister has great life, good fiance etc, while OP'slife is crushing around her, and sister is not direct, but reason for it. Sorry, but even stable ppl could crumble, in OP's case. with shitty childhood, crap husband, abandoned daughter...yeah. OP need therapy and some distance to start heal. she need to be in control of her life and not again depend on sister

[@TheBlankInk]

Wow the firt story... OPs husband is a piece of shit. I mean to lead on your wife for all these years?And then when all is found out you ABANDON your child? What a sorry excuse of a man

[@meghanplayssims]

it's understandable she's jealous but she and her sister both need each other's support. she should start therapy

[@champslim]

Story one: Soo the husband is just going to peace out of his daughter life????!!!!

[@vanzy01]

He never cared for Op or the kid they were just a mean to the end. She need to get his parental rights removed so he doesn't try to come back and use the kid to get to the sister.

[@champslim]

@@vanzy01 God I didn't even think about that! And he only wanted to say goodbye the sister.... So creepy.

[@Wander85942]

I hope OP doesn’t take it out on the kid because of everything that went down prior to her birth. She hates her sister for being a caregiver because she never had that growing up. It’s not fair OP is now throwing that back in her face because her husband’s mask slipped. She’s distraught I get it but the person who was always there has been removed

[@poohbear4515]

He had no mom figure? Not a good excuse. He said he was in love with the sister for years. Did he marry OP just to be more closer with her? To hopefully get with her and dump OP? He’s a spineless, selfish, immature, insensitive, insecure asshole who not only ruined OP’s life, but the poor baby girl. I’m also the same, I have a very beautiful, well spoken, outgoing little sister who had everything I wanted growing up, and I still feel very jealous of her. Marriage, a child, a good husband who cares and helps her, beauty, friends, job, everything. So I understand how OP feels. OP, get therapy, now.

[@couchpotato1185]

I first thought first OP did something bad how everyone talked about her. But she is just depressed from what she is going through. You can't control how you feel. Feelings just are. You can only control how you act on them, and as far as I see OP never blamed her sister verbally but wants to avoid seeing her rn because while she knows rationally it's not her fault she feels upset. She needs space and it seems like that's what she will do.

[@WhiteTorn]

So the older sister sacrificed a lot to protect her younger sister, only to have her younger sister's fiance to be in love with her then the little sister feeling insecure and resented her for being a better person. I know a bunch of people who would kick their partners to the curb if they find out they're lusting over their siblings who took no part in making them lust for them, so chances are OP already held resentment towards her sister even before this all came down.

[@amandasunshine2]

The witch baptism is fucking gold 🤣

[@locusxe1411]

People need to understand there’s a limit to how much you should be projecting. Imagine your sister basically saying “I know this is all my husbands fault but I can’t help but want to get away from you for a bit.” That would be fine, but Op is basically saying,” I know this is none of you fault but I can’t help but hate you because of the actions my husband committed so I’m gonna cut you off and leave you so I can work through my unreasonable hatred.” And that last paragraph in her final update is terrible.

[@jakeking3859]

That's not why she hates her, though. I feel like she made it pretty clear that this was the proverbial 'straw that broke the camel's back'. I feel like everyone is misunderstanding her so much. There are times when, after a person has been forced to rely on someone, especially for so long, they start to form a resentment towards that person. It comes from feelings of inadequacy. Like an overprotective mother - eventually that child will wriggle free, wanting to prove that they can do it themselves. It's why we thrive under parents who allow us to do scary and potentially hurtful things. Allowing someone to fall is sometimes the best way to help them, but it seems like her sister is one of those people who can't understand that concept. I can also understand how her sister thinks 'it's not my fault, why is she mad at me, and I've done so much for her, and now that I'm pregnant and dealing with all these things, I need my family, and my family is her'...it doesn't mean she isn't being insensitive when she asks her sister, who is going through such a terrible time, which directly relates to her, to stay near her. It doesn't mean she isn't asking too much of an also pregnant woman who is going through such emotional turmoil.

[@vanzy01]

👍 jealousy is one hell of a drug.

[@locusxe1411]

@@jakeking3859 I’m not denying that the sister is being very selfish with her request to make Op stay back at all. I simply don’t like the fact that she seems to be taking more anger out on her sister than husband. But everything else you said I agree with

[@jakeking3859]

@@locusxe1411 Indeed, but her husband has blocked her. Where else is her anger supposed to go? Her pillow? Her super secret diary? She just needs space, and also probably some therapy.

[@locusxe1411]

@@jakeking3859 yep

[@itsjustmaddisen]

I’d be trolling tf out of the auntie. Randomly saying “hail Satan” and shit like that.

[@gfeltsking]

Defo mess with Bluetooth speakers too lol

[@thegem597]

Lol

[@NiMissNi]

Story 1: Good God OP, get some therapy. You're blaming your sister for something your husband did. And now, you're blaming for for giving you proper boundaries and saying the right things? And you think being alone is the best option? Girl, i get pregnancy hormones, but you need to get your shit together before you start directing that toxicity towards your child

[@locusxe1411]

That one comment saying Op is allowed to feel jealous and and insecure of her sister upset me. Like I get it but there’s a limit. Sister did nothing wrong. If I was Op I wouldn’t feel any hate towards the sister. It is completely the husbands fault. She has way too much hate for her sister

[@locusxe1411]

@@bunniisama that part was definitely selfish but for the last part I don’t blame her for not understanding. If I was in her position I’d think “So you’re mad at me because your ahole husband was in love with me while I was getting married?” That’s probably her thought process. Op has a right to feel the way she does but I don’t like the way she keeps liking about how much she hates her. She needs therapy

[@xelectrix]

@@bunniisama yeah, It would be different if OP's sister didn't want her to move because she was worried about OP being alone and wanting OP to stay so they could support her

[@82nesse]

@@bunniisama Op sister was always there for her basicaly raised her protected her she was a mother figure in her life up until this point now she is the evil witch who took away her husbands love for her. It's easy to blame her then accept that the men she still loves is in love with her sister, pretty sure Op would welcome back that asshole if he would ask, she wanted to leave her sister just to keep her husband away from her, not once she asked her sister how she feels everyting was always about her and her feelings now that the sister has a men and a baby on the way and OP husband turned out to be a sick idiot she blames her

[@robertx8020]

@@bunniisama I feel like this is another atempt for the sister to protect OP! By 'pretending' that she needs OP (which might be true but nothing OP says indicates that) she will prevent OP from running of to a strange city with no means to support herself when the baby is there (it could take time before she get's CS and you can't live from it) and OP won't be able to work in the first weeks after the delivery! I don't think OP's sister is selfish as EVERYTHING OP tells us screems the oposite!

[@anniebale4343]

God. Okay. I get being upset, I get projecting onto the sister and venting her frustrations. But the first OP is getting hissy and pissy at the wrong person, and just because it's understandable to a point, that does not absolve her of being rotten to her sibling! She calls her perfect and says that she hates the things she does. There is some very obvious catty jealousy going on, and at some point, it's going to blow up in her face. It's completely unfair on her sister, and I'm hoping she realizes that sooner than later. Otherwise, she's going to destroy her relationship.

[@ChrisAndCats]

I don't think so. The sister - unwittingly - is the physical representation of all that went wrong. She just needs some space for a bit while she comes to terms.

[@fufufuaru]

I feel bad for OP1 but freakin hell she keeps funneling her anger on her older sister.

[@cater06]

She pregnant, her husband, who confessed to being in love with his sister to the point of having drunken breakdowns after learning she's engaged and pregnant, decides to just get a divorce, and give up his rights to his child after begging to save their marriage. But because of everything going on with the sister he just can't and tried to meet her but no longer gives a damn about OP and their child. So yeah the OP is aware that she's projecting some of the blame on to her, but that is normal, she needs to deal with it as she sees fit and if that means she needs to be angry at her and have space and no contact then that's what she needs to do to heal.

[@A68061]

It’s annoying! Like ACCORDING TO YOU your sister has been there for you, a PILLIR of support, but because a guy knocks you up and bounces, the SISTER gets iced out and loses her only family. Women ALWAY blame and hate the other women, and AGAIN it’s annoying. Maybe she she be HALF as good as she claims her sister is and NOT be so hateful towards her? I wonder if her sister would throw there relationship away for her SO, at this point idk. Hopefully, she calms down and repairs things with her sister. She’ll need help with the baby, but it still SUCKS. No real loyalty except to the men in our lives. Rant over- I’ma chill out, lol 🙃

[@locusxe1411]

@@cater06 I personally would hope the sister cut off Op if something like that happened.

[@SteviiLove]

@@A68061 and how she just wished her sister needed her, yet when she says those exact words she's told to f off. OP needs help.

[@tifadreamers]

she's hurting and in pain and right now, her sister is the catalyst that ruined her marriage. it's wrong, but you can't really help what you feel, especially when she's pregnant. maybe with time and distance, and only once she's healed, their relationship will be back to normal. right now, I can see how it's impossible for her to do so cause I can imagine how hurtful it would be just to even look or think of her sister without remembering that her husband is more in love with said sister to even try to stay in the marriage

[@cycy1578]

I’ve never had such a strong reaction to a redit story. That man destroyed that family. Him leaving their lives completely is a blessing for OP. She will recover and five her child a good life..and that relationship with her sister can be restored. That love is REAL

[@G14-Classified]

Omg yesterday I was reading story 2 and when I got to where the kid “baptized” the aunt I spit out my drink and was laughing so hard, my roommate looked at me like I had 3 heads then asked if I was ok. 🤣

[@juanhaines7295]

Story 1Its sad that op doesn't mean to be angry at her sister her sister but feels that she ruined her marriage. I hope the sisters stay strong.

[@ladyfaeryj5108]

Story 2 made me laugh so hard I had tears in my eyes

[@25Erix]

Story 2: As a Christian myself...the aunt is a bit nuts. The only way for someone's name to be struck from the book of life is blasphemy of THEIR own volition. Every sin is forgivable except for that one. What the OP did wouldn't have scratched the aunt's chances with God at all. The aunt needs a reminder that God knows everything, including intent. If YOU have no intent of blasphemy, then what SOMEONE ELSE does in the name of such doesn't came back on you as far as God is concerned. Believe me, people like the aunt sometimes make me feel shame at times because we're not all that unhinged but the loud minority drown out the silent majority so our rep is constantly at the whim of the crazies.

[@manub.3847]

With regard to "baptism of children" it can also be added that almost every priest (Protestant Lutheran and Catholic, I have not yet experienced other baptisms) always specifically points out that "in the name of the Father and the Son Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit " baptized child was to make his own confession of faith at a later date. Parents promise at the moment of baptism that they will show their child the way with God and Jesus Christ.

[@nooneofimportance2110]

@@manub.3847 Good point. You have to actually bring them into the faith and commit to it. Granted in this particular case it's moot since it wasn't a real priest doing the baptism, just some dude the crazy aunt knew or hired.

[@ladyv5655]

My thought is that baptism on children or any person who didn't request it is meaningless if they don't accept it. And yes, since the aunt lied in order to get the boy baptized, the aunt should be kicked out of the church. The OP is a savage and they should just let Aunt think she's going to hell as a "Satanist" now.😀

[@JadedJada]

"I asked him if he has stayed with me all these years to be near her. He said I was being unfair to him because he loves me." Holy Evasive Maneuvers, Batman.

[@alexanderhenby1362]

Screw couples counciling these two need one on one and OP might need to call for a welfare check. Suddenly OPs husband doesnt want to be a father and is leaving her the house (sounds like he is drinking to excess pretty often too.) He's not in love with anyone, he's spiralling.

[@janlo53]

The best thing you can do for your sister (and giving back to her) is to NOT TELL your sister about your husbands confession because she would only blame herself and she deserves to be happy too. You seem to be handling this in a mature way and I’m sorry you have to go through this. This is totally on your husband. I wish you all the best. It is a difficult situation to be in.

[@halleyangel1706]

While I feel bad for OP. She's letting her own insecurities and jealousy affect her life. It's not her fault her husband is a asshole. But it is her fault How she chooses to treat her sister. Her sister didn't even do anything here just be nice. OP needs therapy and to grow up before she has that baby. Or else her issues are going to rub off on her daughter

[@vanzy01]

👍 if that a****** never dumped Op she would have continued to be with him. in a dead in the water marriage where resentment will build up. Op would most likely taking that resentment out on the sister instead of the husband who actually was the one who hurt her. And she will throw pity parties for herself without doing a God damn thing about her situation.

[@Iflie]

OP seems to be feeling inferior to her sister and taking it out on her. I hope she gets therapy and changes her mind because her sister is exactly who she needs and she can feel better helping her sister too now they are both going to have babies so close together. I fear the sister has spoiled her too much and she is not used to getting care versus giving it. Husband was obviously a douche, if your feelings are real you don't just ignore it so so long. And ditching his own child? He just wanted the comfort of a wife.

[@PrincessLioness]

Yeah, her sister definitely spoiled op too much, the relationship sounds very one sided.

[@Iflie]

@@PrincessLioness It's hard to break old patterns with siblings. At least the sister has a good fiance that will probably help her with the baby and the angry dependant sister may find out what it's like to stand on her own two feet.

[@lindah3803]

Story 2: I love OP. Water in the skull pot was truely appropriate. After all people are baptized with water. The skull representing Satan. Great visual. I feel sorry for her kid. She's going to have him all messed up. He can't even turn to grandma for help. Good thing he has OP and her family.

[@calmingvoice8646]

Shoutout to the guy who pointed out that the OP is allowed to be jealous of her sister.

[@LadyCeag840]

Story 1: I feel bad for both the OP and the OP's sister. It's neither of the sisters' fault that OP's future ex-husband is an emotionally-wreaking loser. He singlehandedly destroyed a marriage and a sibling bond in one day... Story 2: The aunt deserved it! Especially after hearing the update on how she got the baptism done!

[@videofan1010]

Story#1 is so sad. I'd be so sad.

[@kristinasmith996]

Idk why everyone is mad at OP about not wanting to be around her sister. Logically she KNOWS that her sister isn't at fault, but emotionally she needs time, it's hard to know that someone you have given yourself fully to, was only with you so he could imagine your sister instead.

[@kristinasmith996]

And besides all that OP clearly hates HERSELF for hating her sister. If you really look and READ this awful story. OP feels awful for not being emotionally available to help her sister. That F off in the last paragraph is her wishing that her sister would be mad at her in some way, and not accepting of what's happening. Yes OP needs therapy, but she also needs time.

[@PrincessLioness]

@@kristinasmith996 ​ Op can’t understand how her soster is so self-less, because she knows if the roles were reversed, she wouldn’t be as helpful. And we see that, when presented with the option to put her sister first for once, she couldn’t do it.

[@KJ-sp9jq]

S2: OP is my new hero. Good job!

[@evavocative6975]

Story 2... that is freaking hilarious.

[@agnesstrzykowska4300]

I just loved the story about baptising/ debaptising somebody 😀 I'm from a Christian family ( 2 generation back in the past), my grandparents made my parents to take me to a church to baptise me... 60 years later I still haven't got neither horns nor angel's wings 😉

[@MN-zh2vd]

2nd story is so perfect. He baptized his crazy aunt against her will as a punishment for her overreach with his brother. That's awesome. I love this kid. NEVER undo that juju, buddy. NEVER. 🤣🤣🤣❤

[@kristinewatson3702]

Story 2: LMAO OP found the perfect way to control a crazy religious auntie.

[@only1one1me]

Imagine willingly bearing the brunt of all the abuse for your sister, sleeping on the floor for your sister, and doing your very best for your sister…only for that sister to grow up and hate you for it. Like, yeah, I get it. OP is dealing with big feelings. She’s allowed to feel jealous-but at the same time, there’s a limit where you need to get therapy and manage those feelings so they don’t turn into actions. OP is about to isolate themselves in a strange city as a single mother with no support network.

[@emanx222]

It's so easy for everyone to mention therapy, heck, the poor girl tried with that POS ex and it failed..she needs TIME. So much has gone wrong so fast, therapy won't be some quick fix unless she's in the space to accept it Right now, everything reminds her of her fucked up life, especially her sister and sadly thats the fault of the husband. Prior to the husbands nonsense, she had nothing but adoration for the sis, her husband poisoned her memories and ruined everything completely. OP needs time to process all of this. Hopefully she'll get therapy eventually but rn, she just needs a support system she can rely on and sadly her sister isn't that person for now. I REALLY feel bad for the sis though

[@stargomez717]

It would be worse if she stayed for the sister though. Op doesn’t need reminders right now, she needs space. Even when she was being resentful I could tell she REALLY loves her sister. I think she knows if she wants to keep the relationship with her sister healthy and happy she needs to be away from her for awhile. There’s NOTHING wrong with that. I feel bad for everyone except the pos husband.

[@yandereskitty]

Anyone get super super uncomfortable with the amount of hate and bitterness she has towards the sister that did everything to love and protect her from their abusive family. Like..yea what your husband has done is down right deplorable but your sister is being punished for nothing at all . Op. Please get YOURSELF some serious help for your anger and resentment for her. She has did nothing. Unless you're not being honest about her. Your hate comes off as just unpleasant.

[@stargomez717]

No. I think op loves her sister deeply. It’s normal to feel what she’s feeling right now. She’s not punishing her sister, she’s taking the time and space she needs to heal and cope with what’s happening. It’s ok to feel resentful, it’s okay to be bitter. She hasn’t told her sister she hates her or blames her. It’s sounds more like she blames herself for not being more like her.

[@stevenmccart5455]

The anti baptism was awesome ! It's exactly something my own sisters or I would have done🤣🤣🤣

[@MariMotherofGoblins]

If the first op ever sees this, I hope you don't move. I think you and your sister will need eachother and your babies would thrive together. And I would guess secretly your sister is far from perfect. I would guess that was the mask she put on when she had to step into a parenting roll for you. I would guess she probably masks about more things than you realize which is why she is doing the I support you but please please don't go talk now.

[@lauracottom7425]

Op: I am sorry but don’t do this to YOU. Why would you alienate your sister(not her fault) when you love her and she is your best friend and only family. You should tell your sister. Final thought : Your sister protected you and loves you and has been there for you your whole life. Because your ex husband was an Ass you want to leave and deny your child a loving aunt and cousin.

[@coreymartin6486]

We can say Op's bad feelings towards her sister was because the husband loved her sister.....however, OP admits she was jealous of her sister for years(before she knew her husband's secret). Sounds like OP really does need to address her insecurities and jealousy, because it will remain even without this one particular situation.

[@silverstarmoon5802]

I fear op will hate and resent toward her own sister who are 100% innocent than her husband. Op, u better stop hated on ur sister and protect ur kid and ur sister away from ur obession husband of urs. And yes, those red flags are there and ur sister is more danger than anyone can imagine.

[@iisnotfivethree3837]

She’s jealous. She’s jealous of her sister and is trying to figure it out. She knows her sister isn’t at fault but still holds some resentment. I think her sister is understanding. She’s truly a victim and I hope she and her sister can have a good relationship. Her ex didn’t even ask about her baby. How cruel can this man be.

[@roshandmatabick6676]

Story 1. OP you nailed it. Your WH and sister seemed to be more compatible. But he was trapped, he should've spoken to both of you earlier. He knew you would dump him and he had no chance with op sister. He betrayed you and your daughter. Take him for everything he has. Rebuild your life and good things will happen

[@torukurebayashi1960]

The Sister doesn't want her to move away for her own sake, to a cheaper area and a good friend, because the sister needs her... I don't think she is as perfect and kind as OP thinks.

[@coolcutiekitti17]

wow, that first one is so heartbreaking. To learn that not only does your husband not really want you or your child, but then also feel like you can't lean on your sister (who has been your only other form of family) because she's the object of his affection must have just been so devastating. My heart goes out to her and I hope she finds comfort and joy in all her future relationships

[@cb9825]

So in the first part OP says the sister never needed help, and she didn't have the oppurtunity to repay her for her kindness. But in the end the sister literally ASKS for a bit of support from OP, and suddenly it is too much? Girl, your anger is so misdirected!

[@honeypot8524]

Divorce the P.O.S. and take him for everything he's worth because he will come crawling back once he snapps out of his "I love your sister" fog

[@britnicox3929]

OP needs to go to therapy because they have a lot of displaced (and some valid) anger and resentment towards their sister. And honestly I think it has something to do with the fact that the sister is refusing to acknowledge all of the trauma they went through for her own coping mechanism and therefore has not allowed OP to actually process everything they went through with kids, and somehow she’s translated that into the sister being noble and perfect. She’s put her sister on this perfect little pedestal and I guarantee you were sister is not is amazing as OP believes- no one is. Also that’s sister is not nearly as warm and loving and kind as she believes because the only thing the sister cares about right now is the fact that OP is leaving her when “she needs her the most” and has said absolutely *nothing* about how OP is ALSO pregnant but without a good partner or support system besides her sister. She is perfectly willing to guilt OP into staying in a hurtful environment for her own sake instead of letting her go somewhere that could be better. I hope OP turns that anger to the actual perpetrator here, her husband, and ruins him in court, and finds herself without the shadow of her sister looming over her

[@WobblesandBean]

OP 2: LOL you're my new hero! I love it 😂

[@dmaxcustom]

Poor sister. Seriously, she is guilty of nothing except being a good person.

[@problematicprincess6270]

Poor older sister it's not her fault maybe both sisters would benefit from family therapy:(

[@sandyo1063]

You don’t ever want to live with someone who is in love with someone else. Don’t ever be second best for life.

[@videofan1010]

I laughed at the second story. It wasn't nice. But the aunt is a nutcase.

[@reinventingmelissa2061]

Wow. Story 1 ended on a downer. I KNOW she's pregnant and hormonal, but she's blaming her sister for something she's unaware of and had no part in (or interest in). OP is going to need help after she gives birth. Cutting her sister out is a bad decision all around. The husband, however, can jump off a cliff.

[@macylouwho1187]

Huh. I have plants AND herbs. I did not know that alone automatically made me a witch. I thought my b-tchy cantankerous confrontational personality did that. You learn something new every day 😂

[@lorifiedler13]

Herbs in your garden!? Witch. You cook with them? Gasp. Quick! My smelling salts. Where is my fainting cou h and pearls?

[@macylouwho1187]

@@lorifiedler13 😂👍

[@Anime_._Fan]

The OP CLEARLY has some more growing up to do still before even trying to get into any relationships, jesus the orignal post and updates proves that, if there is a BIG obvious red flag right infront of you DON"T IGNORE IT and for gods sake don't keep quiet about it (the op not telling her sister all the while thinking "this is fine")!!

[@jestersreign7530]

As long as it seems it makes sense that she still has issues with her sister because of this. Her sister in fact is the catalyst whether she wanted to be or not. Not to mention it sounds like she's had pent up emotions about her sister for a long time now and this just made it all worse. I think there was a name for it but there's the situation where someone could be too helpful to the point where the person they're helping resents them because it makes them feel like they're worthless or less than. I've even seen it in person once even though they know logically they shouldn't be angry they can't help it because of how they feel about themselves. Now add the love of her life basically telling her he was really only in love with her sister and doesn't want anything to do with her or their child. And her sister having everything turned out great for her at the exact same time. Until she can fix how she feels about herself she won't be able to truly get over the hate for her sister.

[@vanzy01]

👍

[@jessicadias5014]

@@jestersreign7530 I see this as the Isabella/Mirabel complex. Younger sister sees older sister as being "perfect" while the older sister actually has crippling anxiety from expectations of others and a need to protect the family. Meanwhile the younger sister feels resentment towards being outshined and patronized. But in this case it seems as if everything the older sister did to be "better" was just put others before herself. Both of them need to go to therapy together but right now OP is acting like her sister actually cheated with her ex husband.

[@PrincessLioness]

@@jestersreign7530 I think that it’s actually guilt. Op can’t understand how her soster is so self-less, because she knows if the roles were reversed, she wouldn’t be as helpful. And we see that, when presented with the option to put her sister first for once, she couldn’t do it.

[@brandi5126]

S1: I doubt you can come back from this but marriage counseling would at least help you come to a clear decision. Hope by the end of this, baby and op are for the better. Op should talk to her sister about this too for support and to protect her sister from her husband as well. Op will also need to give her sister a reason to why she needs space for a while.

[@videofan1010]

How do you counsel your way out of loving someone else?

[@brandi5126]

@@videofan1010 Relax. That's why I said I hope it helps her come to a clear decision. Also why I said I doubt they can come back from this.

[@videofan1010]

@@brandi5126 I wasn't attacking you. It just feels weird that Reddit's first answer is always something therapeutic when sometimes things are just broken. Past the point of no return.

[@Loaves_of_Cat]

Op is acting alot like Hera right now. I hope that sheMs eventually able to get her emotions under control and realize she should be resenting her pos husband instead. And I call BS on ex hubby claiming he only wanted to say good bye to the sister. That’s a bigger load of bullcr*p than a ranch’s stockpile of cow manure.

[@brandi5126]

@@videofan1010 I said it after she said she was going to marriage counseling with him. Why are you asking me that question when she said she was going. I never told her to go and I am not reddit. I simply said that it would help her come to a clear decision.

[@muhname6052]

First Story: don't let him give you the house, take it from the weak boy

[@shellchenonceau6987]

The baptism issue: the aunt can have any church "undo" OP's ritual on her (if they all really have the powers they claim). 😅 Very amusing that it went this far.

[@rachelg.122]

I misread and thought it said he was in love with HIS sister… I was prepared for a much more dramatic story 😅

[@jessicawolfe5861]

He’s grieving the loss of a love because she’s marrying someone else. Wow. That’s not nothing. I wouldn’t trust anything he said.

[@agingophelia9812]

"Since his baptism doesn't have any real effect on my brother," um yeah OP it never does, no matter what the circumstances or how legit the celebrant.

[@rmhartman]

"why are you doing this to yourself?" no, it is you who is doing this to me.

[@tartlynerdy]

Story 1 - Him: I'll tell my pregnant wife I'm in love with her sister. How can that possibly go wrong on my end?? 🤦 So did he only marry op to get closer to her sister? How would he feel if op made a confession she was in love with his best friend? He'd be devastated. I don't have anything to add that I don't agree with in-between updates. I'm sad op is resentful of her sister 😞 but it's not that hard to understand. I'm not surprised this ended this way. 🙄 He went from willing to do anything to save the marriage right to deadbeat father that wants nothing to do with his daughter when his fantasy relationship with op's sister was over. I could forgive wanting out of the relationship but I can't forgive abandoning his child. I'm sad there was no reconciliation for the sisters. Story 2 - Honestly this sounds hilarious petty revenge. NTA. The aunt played a stupid game and she won a stupid prize.

[@torchjenkins6158]

The sister needs some serious therapy to deal with her jealousy over her sister. This situation was just the final straw

[@avencree]

Op in the first story has done what her ex has done and put her sister on a pedestal. “She’s just so perfect, of course everyone loves her, of course my husband would want her over me.” Sister is seen as perfect and without flaws, which is probably OP’s trauma response to their horrible upbringing. All of OP’s resentment is on the only person who has ever truly been in her corner, and she needs to go to therapy for her own sake so she can see that’s her sister didn’t protect her because “she’s perfect” but because she loved her, and that her shit ex husband “loving” her sister isn’t either of their faults. The guy was just garbage and I feel bad for sister as she lost OP because of some AH. I really do hope OP can reconnect with her sister

[@Jace_the_mace]

Story 1: Since I’ve already experienced this with my sister and husband I feel that the sister is being just as much of an a-hole as her husband. She doesn’t just resent her sister, she’s blaming her sister no matter how much she tries to convince herself she isn’t. My sister was the same way always jealous of my looks because growing up I got all the compliments and she barely got any. It’s not something that I understood was a bad thing until I became an adult but because of that she took the first opportunity to blame me after her husband sent me text messages about how hot and naughty I looked in shorts. This was around the time I was babysitting their kids after my sisters car accident. Now this wasn’t the first time he had hit on me that I usually ignored because having been sexually abused as kid it put me in shock. However, this time around I lost my crap because while my sister laid broken on a hospital bed for an accident he caused he used that as his opportunity to lay it on heavy. When my sister found out she took his side and told me I better learn to respect her perverted husband after I cursed him out. Even with the proof I sent her she didn’t care and blamed me. Now she’s been out of my life for nine years and I’m low contact with the family after they said there was nothing they could do since she wants to stay with him so they continued to invite him for holidays and treat him as before his pervert ass thought he could sleep with me. OP is going to regret staying if she does.

[@charliedelfino2102]

Story 1: why should OP choose to move away with a guy who can't remain emotionally faithful to her, over her sister who as always been there for her.

[@Ocean_Monae]

Story 1: I just couldn't be with him after that confession.

[@ladyoblivious]

That first story went downhill fast, like it had a slight bump upwards then came crashing down after the husband found out the sister was just getting married because of pregnancy. Understandable that op is incredibly bitter towards her sister, but it still feels absolutely displaced, especially that F off part at the end. Like ouch~

[@blair2743]

OP 2: NTA NTA NTA. That was hilarious 🤣

[@Undomaranel]

OP is so jealous smh. The older sister who raised her wants to protect her, and OP's getting mad at her for doing what she's always done...