My Husband Died And I Found Out He Cheated | Secrets After The Funeral | Dr. Doug Weiss

[@BunnyTheChi]

This is exactly what happened with me. 3 days after his death I found out I did not know my husband at all. Thank you for posting this video.

[@DrDougWeiss]

You're welcome and I'm sorry that you have experienced this pain and betrayal. If you need to talk to a counselor, you can call us at 719-278-3708 and we can get you scheduled or you can get support by joining our Partners phone group and Facebook group that you can join. www.drdougweiss.com/partner-group/ facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa/ We also have a DVD on this topic called "Secrets After the Funeral" that you might find helpful: www.drdougweiss.com/product/secrets-after-the-funeral-dvd/

[@DrDougWeiss]

@@tracysnipes2144 I'm sorry to hear that you have faced this in your marriage. We do offer phone support groups that you can join or you can get connected with a partner betrayal trauma therapist. Call us at 719-278-3708 and we can help you get started.

[@jensbornagain]

The lies are worse then the affair. I have lost all faith in marriage. And I will never trust any one ever again.

[@whatevervlogs9663]

A similar thing happened to me . I still get confused about my emotions because it’s like I love someone who did me wrong and it’s frustrating because he doesn’t deserve how I feel. I can never get closure because he died.

[@insilence6156]

Yes you can! It’s all in the mindset! He did you a favor! Move on, it’s easier as a result of finding out about him, see what I mean? Leave the past behind! Be grateful he is gone I say, it helped me say ta ta and stop mourning someone who did not deserve me.

[@sophiec1506]

Thank you. My partner died suddenly and I found out almost immediately that he'd been lying to me and that he'd previously had an affair- God knows how long that had gone on. I'm so so SO angry- he's left me without the ability to ask the many many questions I have for him. I miss him so very much and the grief is stuck because of the anger and the questions for which there are no answers. You're so right in saying its like being hit by a truck. I loved him so and was his loyal lover and his best friend.

[@daniellebaros4656]

I am in the same boat. It was back in October but I just now looked thru his phone messages his fb messages and email. I kinda regret it. I think maybe ignorance is bliss, If I didnt find out I wouldn't be so angry

[@mrstonk77]

I feel you ladies. You feel like s fool for loving him so and being devoted

[@teresabernhardt807]

This happened to me. Spot on in the very first part, this behavior was already there before we married.

[@DrDougWeiss]

I'm sorry to hear that you have experienced this. If you need help in processing this, you can reach out to Heart To Heart Counseling Center at 719-278-3708 to get booked with a partner betrayal trauma therapist to help you find healing. You might also find the DVD "Secrets After the Funeral" helpful as it dives more into this topic. www.drdougweiss.com/product/secrets-after-the-funeral-download/

[@bethany7518]

Thank you so much for these words. Today i have been crying so much and in a total panic. It's been so difficult, my husband took his own life, i then found out about his infidelity. My hurt is terrible, i thought we had a marriage built on trust, its shattered everything i believed. Every memory i thought could pull me through is tarnished.

[@MzKiaS]

It feels worse when they take their own lives, and you find out all the crap that they put you thru was in vain. Women after women... Everything they lied to you about and believed..comes to light. I'm so mad all over again and vindicated at the same time😤

[@kitcatsmom]

This happened to me. He had cancer and hospice at home. I worked so hard to keep him home, little sleep, I was nurse, aid and custodian. His last text to his girlfriend was 6 days before he died. "I can't talk to many people around" I'm crushed, I gave him everything, I thought he loved me. 30 years of living a lie, I will go forward but it is so hard right now, I'm just devastated.

[@DrDougWeiss]

You are not alone. This has happened to many women. Your trauma is real. If you need to talk to a coach/counselor, call 719-278-3708. Also the DVD "Secrets After the Funeral" could be very helpful since I discuss this topic in it. www.drdougweiss.com/product/secrets-after-the-funeral-dvd/

[@kitcatsmom]

@@DrDougWeiss I did purchase your DVD when I first watched this. You have changed my life. The first 5 minutes captured my husband and our relationship to a T. I had already moved through some of the stages but to quickly. I need to go back and do it correctly to move on. You've saved me! I know God brought me to you, thank for being here to put me back together. I'm going to rock this next chapter in my life and if I need help yours is the number I'm going to call.

[@priscilladavies2270]

It took me 17 years after my husbands death to heal. Thanks to going through Healing Streams at my church. (Elim church NZL)I have forgiven him, and her for the cheating and the abuse I had been through in the 43 years of our( my marriage as I was alone in it) marriage. I’m so at peace now. Thank you my Jesus. 24/04/2021 from 🇳🇿

[@cristinag1210]

I felt totally betrayed… I couldn’t believe that he would do such a thing because he was the kindest person I ever met. There were times I blame myself, I must did some thing that lead him to do that. He’s gone to tell me why, he’s gone to defend himself…

[@Zilisliz]

Thank you so much for this video. Learning about the cheating after his passing has been very hard to deal with.

[@cynthiajohnson7978]

I had been with my partner for more than 6years and had no idea that he had married someone a year after we had been dating. I didn’t find out he was married until after he was killed. We didn’t live together we lived in 2hrs away from each other. There wasn’t anything that made me think he was cheating let alone married someone. I will never get closer as to why did he do that to me. I’m so angry

[@DrDougWeiss]

The pain, trauma, and anger that you have from this is normal and completely understandable. To be hit with both their death and such a massive betrayal in the relationship at the same time is overwhelming indeed, especially when there are no clear answers as to why he did this. I have a video called "Secrets After the Funeral" that covers this topic and provides which provides guidance on processing these kinds of painful secrets and how to start healing and moving forward.. While it is geared more towards married couples, a lot of the information in it would still apply to you. www.drdougweiss.com/product/secrets-after-the-funeral-download/ If you need additional support, you can contact our office at 719-278-3708, and you can book an appointment with a betrayal trauma therapist who can help you get through this.

[@arunshaml]

My husband suddenly died due to brain hamarage within 2 hrs .. after 4 days I got to know that he was having affairs with many other womens.. I am totally broken down.. didn't know why he done this to me.. we have 8 years daughter .. we had a lovely married life.. I never checked his phone ..he destroys 10 years of marriage .. I always loved him..

[@michelerabbetts8811]

I think it happened to me I miss my husband so badly he was 51 . He treated me like a princess I saw his phone when he died . It will be a yr he died this month . I’m left all by myself my parents and brother passed prior he was my everything

[@kimberleenichols4862]

I found the letter after. He was really good at what he did.

[@joycechisoni2205]

my husband died a week ago. he cheated through the 6years of our marriage, i left but after pleading and begging we got back together. in 2021 he had covid i was by his side( we had a 3months old baby by then) after covid 2022 jan he got ill i have been by his side we discovered he had cancer, died end july after burying him i had to go through his phone since we run a business together( during the time he was alive he wouldn’t let me touch his phone and in highsight i see why) i found that till 10 days before he died he was keeping a mistress and telling her how much fun they had. it broke me because i was there changed his diapers n he had the audacity to do this. i hate him and am so angry what’s worse he’s not here for me to show n vent this anger.

[@DrDougWeiss]

I would definitely get the DVD "Secrets After the Funeral" and consider doing counseling or a partner betrayal trauma 5 day intensive with neuromodulation. You can call us at 719-278-3708 to get started or have any of your questions answered about what we offer. www.drdougweiss.com/product/secrets-after-the-funeral-dvd/

[@matthewdecker2299]

Nothing to do with the importance of the video, but this "studio" set up is much better than the last one. Keep up the good work.

[@DrDougWeiss]

Thanks!

[@Gellybeanb1974]

Yes this happened to me* It is killing me* I didn't think he would ever & I believe it happened after 40 years. It is tearing me apart*

[@DrDougWeiss]

To get scheduled with a certified counselor or coach, call Heart to Heart Counseling Center at 719-278-3708. If you are dealing with this, we have a DVD called "Secrets After the Funeral" here: www.drdougweiss.com/product/secrets-after-the-funeral-dvd/

[@nomadbarka7407]

I met a girl ,we had a whirlwind romance,,but there was a guy. Before me that was married in a situation she had to let go of ...when we started,we were togearher 5 years and after she passed I found out ,he was always secretly there,don't ,,no definite proof they was seeing. But my gut tells me tes,yes, loved her ,,but I wanna gate her for leaving me feeling this way

[@Gellybeanb1974]

I'm completely broken but cant afford help* Thank you for the video

[@insilence6156]

Then read. Day trips. Be grateful his rotten self is gone and you do not have to worry about where he is and disease! He did not deserve you!

[@kalidickinson5545]

Hi I am one of them that did know anything about my partner for 17 year what he was behind my back I found out everything after his death from his phone I am destroyed i want to die 😭😭😭😭

[@DrDougWeiss]

I'm sorry that you have experienced this devastating partner betrayal trauma. Your pain is real. The DVD "Secrets After The Funeral" goes way more in depth on this topic and would be pretty helpful for you. If you need to, we have coaches and counselors available who can help you process the feelings of anger and grief that you are dealing with and help you move on toward healing. You can call us at 719-278-3708 to get started.

[@thelmabliss666]

Thanks for this video Dr. Weiss

[@DrDougWeiss]

You're welcome

[@maryanndennis9591]

I confronted the woman before he died. I asked her if she was in love with my husband, she told me he was too ugly, old and didn’t have enough money. What kind of person says those kind of things. I had her on speaker phone. He died a year later. I found naked pictures of her on his phone. I am having such a hard time. I really don’t want to go on without him.

[@DrDougWeiss]

You deserve a full life. First you grieve your losses, then build a new life. I recommend you see a local counselor for your healing process.

[@amyjohns1103]

​@DrDougWeiss What if she can't afford counseling? I know I need it but I have no insurance & I sure can't afford it!

[@sallyduplessis2264]

My husband committed suicide 7 weeks ago. We had been togetger for 35 years. I found out he had been having an affair for 10 years plus. She lives in another country and he had been sending her money from a secret account and left made her a beneficiary on a secret life policy. I've been hit by 100 hurricanes

[@DrDougWeiss]

I'm so sorry for your loss and the pain that you are experiencing. Your betrayal trauma from this is real. If you need to get with a counselor/coach or join one of our support groups, you can call us at 719-278-3708. We also have the DVD "Secrets After the Funeral" which would prove helpful: www.drdougweiss.com/product/secrets-after-the-funeral-dvd/

[@k.b.9716]

Very helpful advise! Thank you. 😊

[@DrDougWeiss]

You're welcome!

[@teresabernhardt807]

I like this encouragement.

[@sharadsaxena5469]

My husband died on 08/01/2022,after his funeral I found that he was in relationship with an ugly female and because of her he was keeping a physical distance from me.He was a bastard ,I hate him.He was a liar, he used to confess that he was very loyol to me but he was not. I hate him,more than the grief of his going now I am in pain.He was an alcoholic and he just kept me as a stuff in his home while having relationship with her.He was biased and mean to me. Hate hate for that cheater ,lier and alcoholic soul.

[@DrDougWeiss]

I'm sorry that you have experienced this. It might do well to get some support and healing for yourself through counseling or a support group.

[@ArpithNathanThomas]

While watching this video only one Name was roaming in my Mind but don't want to say it...🥺😕😟😞

[@amyjohns1103]

This happened to me. I have no insurance so i cant afford to go to counseling. Any suggestions?

[@DrDougWeiss]

We have a video download called "Secrets After the Funeral" that goes in-depth on this topic that would be helpful to watch: www.drdougweiss.com/product/secrets-after-the-funeral-download/ You could also find a friend, mentor, or a trustworthy and honest person to confide in and have them support you through the process with you or join a local community group for support.

[@jacquitully7585]

How can you get help from your organisation in Scotland?

[@DrDougWeiss]

We don't have any therapists in Scotland. There is one in England: aasat.org/find-therapist/ Aside from that, we have phone counseling available, support groups over the phone and on Facebook, plenty of resources in the form of DVDs and books, or you and your spouse could fly in for an intensive. You can call us at 719-278-3708 or email us at [e-mail] for more information www.drdougweiss.com/groups/ www.drdougweiss.com/facebook-groups/ www.drdougweiss.com/online-store/

[@annemariearmstrong6477]

Hello thank you for the video I would like to watch some more I need to heal my husband just OD'd on Sunday February 20th 2022 and found out he was having an affair he went to detox and met a new girl and I just opened up his journal and yeah they were having a fun time when I went to go look for my daughter a year and a half ago she had committed suicide and jumped in the river he was having an affair then too I've been with this man for 13 years and that's all he's done is cheat on me now he's dead and I can't even confront him how do I deal with that

[@DrDougWeiss]

You might want to get some counseling or even go to a trauma intensive with neuromodulation. We also have support available through our Partners phone group and Facebook group that you can join. www.drdougweiss.com/partner-group/ facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa/ I am working on a DVD on this topic which will be available in a month or so.